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OFF TOPIClidlredridinghood/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 08:06 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTlidlredridinghood/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 01:00 AM
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DISCUSSIONlidlredridinghood/r/RedPillWives05/09/17 08:06 PM
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ADVICElidlredridinghood/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 05:42 AM
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Have you been working on yourself? Working out? Raising your SMV? Drawing classier? Getting your life in gear? A year is a longtime, I've experienced getting guys I could t have dreamed about to catcall me after a years worth of personal work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 06:30 PM
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I had a similar reaction to implanon. I also think it needed up my pheromones, so selecting mates was all goofed up (who I was affected to changed when i went off). And, I didn't realize it, but it was lowering my sex drive, and I had less lubrication...
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 05:06 PM
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Agreeing here. No children, and cohabitation, much less marriage is off e table. But I love deferring to his decisions, taking his lead... And serving him. Making his life better is so satisfying, because I know he's for my back.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 05:01 PM
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It's so true. When I found a good captain, everything fell into place. It wasn't easy, but it made sense, and things have consistently improved sense then.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 04:57 PM
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Or self worth issues
/r/RedPillWives27/11/17 06:30 PM
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Texting is a great way to misunderstand each other. My captain is rp, and this was an understanding when we first got together. For a while I felt obscure about it, as I'm used to relationships where we texted a lot. But... Honestly? I'm more productive because we don't... And when I'm away, I'm actually away... So he can mid me. Keeps the magic alive.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 06:05 PM
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Shell be working before unemployment paperwork goes through... Even she qualified, they'd laugh at her.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/17 05:56 PM
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Agreeing about the therapist. The therapeutic relationship should also make it clear it's not available. But you're right, and looking in the wrong place. As longv term partners.... We're always competing with the possibility of new. So, make what you bring to the table, awesome enough, that he had no desire to go else where. One step at a time. Read the books, theyre useful. And figure out how to start existing in your body on a daily basis, in a way that helps your body to feel functionally be…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 03:11 PM
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Attempting to persuade! Seeing a write up contrasting the different tests works be fascinating and functionally useful.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 03:02 PM
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Yes... I'm always excited to share things with him, and look forward to spending time with him, in a non sexual space. I send him jokes and pictures if cute girls.... Like i would for a close friend. And... I've had to learn when to stfu,, and about what. He doesn't need to hear all the stuff in my head. Shit, I don't want to.... Why should he? Part of me learning to be a good first mate, has been journaling... Even if I'm feeling great... Because then I can be note present with him, I've alread…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 02:53 PM
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Attraction isn't voluntary. Its different than loving someone.... But i can love someone and never want to see them again. At least he's being honest. Figure out how to make your body feel good, through eating and exercise. Like, actually feel your body and experience the changes a meal or a walk make. I totally get using food as a crutch... I'm sill learning other coping skills. But intuitive eating is the only way I've found to help myself learn new habits. Choosing an arbitrary diet because I…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/17 02:35 PM
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Tldr... But starting out seemed solid. Also, men developed physical violence.... women developed emotional violence..we naturally balance each other
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 10:56 PM
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Uh... no. More like they congratulate me on finding a dynamic that works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/17 10:45 PM
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No... i see it applying to every aspect of my life. Ex: im more emotionally volatile than my bf. As such, we've agreed i take his view points on things generally, and let him decide the emotional context with relations to the outside world. In return, i follow him and show myself to be a good team member who watches his back. The result is, im more emotionally stable, and he has someone looking out for *our *- and thus his- best interests.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 07:59 PM
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Rp is a set of observations about humans, that can be applied to life in many ways.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:57 PM
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I did when i was bp... thought it was only fair. The relationships were never satisfactory, and i generally approached gender queer types... was better than not getting laid, but not what i wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 10:59 PM
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Yup. Im not a socialist anymore, but I certainly support my lgbt etc friends on their paths. I dont tell them im "red pill", because of stigma. But these friends watched me branch swing and held me through so many breakups. They view my decision to go into gender rolls as an adult decision, that's making me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 11:59 PM
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It's true. Its a fear they'll invest, and hell revert to beta behavior. Personally... I know my captain used to behave beta, and when he found rp, was relieved.... because he could act how he wanted to. Who knows how beta he wouldve been if not influenced by feminism for his formative years. But guess what? He explained to me the outline, and gave me an ultimatum of being owned, and getting my ass in gear. There's things i do, to earn being more than a plate. Both our needs are met... and we're …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 10:24 PM
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People don't want to see how the sausage is made. Whether it's that someone worked to become fit, that being fit requires different meal requirements, or that someone found a list of concepts to help make a pussy juicy. Because a god should be hatched, as is... not grown. Because they don't want to see a practical outline to fix their lives, and thus all the things they conpla about happen because they haven't taken ownership of thei lives. I learned this the hard way, as a chick. Ive lost 40 lb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/17 09:33 PM
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Men developed physical violence Women developed emotional violence
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 05:01 AM
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I used to wear tiedye skirts or jeans with peasant skirts. Now im going for simple, solid colors eith cuts thats show off my hip-to-waiste ratio, and my muscular back and legs. Also trying for a classic, timeless style.... because i dont want to phase things out in 5 years because they're dated.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 04:33 AM
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But women will say "if he values me, he'll protect me from other bad men."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/17 09:00 PM
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This is why rp makes so much sense to me. I branch swung, completely confused. When i was introduced to rp, all of a sudden it was like, "oh.... that makes sense. Um.... why didn't i see that before?"
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 02:29 PM
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To answer your question, have I considered prostitution. The answer is yes. I realized that every sexual interaction, had a component of prostitution to it. There's always an energy exchange, of some variety. You don't have sex with people- men or women- who don't bring value to your life. It's that simple. Even if it's only a warm bed, dinner and an orgasm, if a girl gives sex for it, its a transaction. True story: I was homeless for a while. Stayed in shelters or slept in the class rooms at un…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 11:13 PM
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Sounds like a plan. Finding anyone with a lifestyle like me in most factors is... unlikely. I decided to go the route which is most uncomfortable for me, which is joining a religious organisation that isn't pagan, but still an interpretation of how I view the world. Also structure, and systems in place for mentoring... we'll see how it goes.
/r/RedPillWives11/09/17 04:49 PM
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When im exercising, my love life and career go better. Id like to say my eating does to, but i haven't figured out the self care that is behind that self control yet. For the first 6 months of working out, i did it because i knew it would make my life better, and eventually id get endorphins. Being able to go to the gym if i have enough time is such a great mood regulation tool.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 10:20 PM
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This.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 09:27 PM
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As they would say in the manosohere.... go lift. It'll help you get out of what ever funk you're in. Itll help create new habits, eventually new lifestyle. Itll help you feel sexy. It shows you want him there. Endorphins are amazing. And... you'll lose weight. Go lift.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 09:24 PM
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Im wondering about Rp desires vs Bp conditioning. As in, rp makes sense with tingles, but op has cognitive dissonance when it comes to ltr about how much control etc? The thing for me, that makes this work, is the captain and first mate dynamic. Seriously. It takes crazy amounts of trust, which takes time and a guy who understands his role. But having a guy who leads the relationship, makes decisions i don't care about, and is willing to have my back? Life changer. Thing is, rp is a set of obser…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 03:02 PM
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You taught them to expect one thing from you, until further notice. They'll be confused until they are given notice. So, either tell them where you're at and try to explain you want to evolve new habits, or find new friends and introduce yourself as sweet and positive. Avoid the phrase red pill. Depending on how your friends approach self improvement, you could even ask for feedback and accountability. Honestly, this kindbof an arrangement is so valuable. Learning to be sweet and docile takes ti…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 08:56 PM
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Heels.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/17 06:22 PM
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Do it! Thinking of my emotions as an ecosystem has helped me so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/17 07:38 PM
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We both rely on each other. Honestly, i rely on him more than he does me.... for a while i fought that, but I've found i like it because it takes some pressure off me. Regardless, he holds "frame" for me. I chose to take his emotional biome in contexts and view of the world.... because over time i saw and experienced that his frame was more functional (more of what i want or need) and enjoyable to exist in. He stabalizes me in thus way.... something i desperately needed. In return, im a soft pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/17 03:05 PM
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I love being submissive. Ib always have been, but... When id get into Ds relationships they'd do to hell in a handbasket. I also felt like being inter dependent, which i confused for interdependent was unhealthy. Now.... i have an inter dependent ds relationship, and he rocks my world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/17 11:09 PM
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Absolutely. For years i thought adopting someone else's enotional biome was fundamentally weak. I finally met a captain who understands this dynamic, and has a better emotional biome than i do. Holy shit, life is kinder.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 05:37 PM
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Absolutely. My captain offers an emotional container for me... and I make sure his life is better because im in it. Feels very natural, and im so grateful to stop fighting what was intuitive for me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:40 PM
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A submissive woman being properly used, for her Master's pleasure is one of the best things in life. It is way better to be used as a fucktoy, and make him happy, and then cuddled.... than to be coddled and feeling like the session revolves around her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 02:53 PM
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Yes. For years i thought being codependent was automatically unhealthy. If it's functional and works for you, then its healthy. So, im submissive. In the bedroom and in life. I wanted, for years to follow it, but my feminist culture told me being dependent on my partner was bad. It led to 10 years of hating murdered for being submissive, and functionally branch swinging..... because i wanted to be healthy by bp standards.... it was a horrible idea for me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 02:43 PM
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And that's very real, and something you have to grapple with. However, mgtow men.... are choosing to say "fuck it, there's no way to play this game and win, for me. So I'm gong to do wtf i want, for my needs, neglecting the needs of the bitches. Because they don't care for my needs." A mgtow man really only keeps plates.... and might act like he's in a relationship, with no intention of staying, because it gives him access to consistant sex, and some softness. However, he would not prioritize th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 02:22 PM
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I dont think they're mgtow... if they're looking for a ltr, they're not checking out the way mgtow advocates. Bitter? Resentful? Gunshy? Sure...
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 06:06 AM
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Horny goat weed is great.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 08:02 AM
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I like that use of a conclusion a lot!
/r/RedPillWives26/08/17 07:51 AM
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No... but tbe assumption is its a desired characteristic in who she's looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 01:50 AM
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Ive been going through this process. Breathing, and pausing to reflect, after, is such a skill.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/17 01:55 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 11:19 PM
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Appreciating that this was posted.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/17 03:11 PM
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I think this is a great post. There might be some things not entirely in place, and maybe some words could be adjusted.... And maybe the tone is a little condescending if someone's looking for that. But you know what? He's right. I've been thinking a lot about this difference sense my Captain introduced me to it a few months ago.... and it was hard to accept. I do have "love" feelings... but there was some things my Captain told me to examine myself for when I said "I love you." One, a statement…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 03:03 PM
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I am RP, and my Captain is RP.... we talk about this type of stuff all the time. Men are physically violent, women are emotionally violent. Women's area of offense and territorial behavior, is social. We are competetive.... and live in starvation mindsets, unless we have a Captain to bring us into a better frame. So we're scared, and honestly never leave highschool social dynamics... Which can look like we hate each other, or are amicable. I'm a fan of being aware of the natural dynamics, and ma…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:56 PM
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I've only been working with this way of thinking for about 6 months; so I feel behind. When doing makeup that you want to highlight, and to look very classy, use a white base-layer. It helps to make the colors pop and blend better. If you have someone to go shopping with, do it. Keep in mind their understanding of fashion, and act accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:49 PM
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I did this to.... when someone tried to give me any tips as a teenager, I was already angry enough, I didn't want any of it. Time to learn it now?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:45 PM
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I've always been confused; how do you wear sunscreen and makeup at the same time? Doesn't it smear the makeup? or make it impossible to put on?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:44 PM
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This post is great and I'm glad it's being discussed. Understanding how these things fits together, really does make have a satisfactory relationship so much more practical....
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:37 PM
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This is a painful area of growth for me. All of my life, I've been taking the "fuck I don't care" attitude.... I've been loud, crass, outspoken and went the comfortable or lazyroute with my clothes and makeup. Guess what? I wasn't getting what I wanted. I didn't have any girlfriends I liked. I didn't have a partner that was worth being with, or a relationship that lasted. My career was crawling along (despite me working very hard every day) and I was still as broke as I was 5 years ago. Maybe 9 …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:34 PM
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Absolutely. Theres a level of feeling like you're a certain level class, and being able to communicate with your social context what way you want to be interested with in. These things few together... and get easier as we practice them
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:32 AM
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I only got into make up heavily 6 months ago... before i just did bare minimums, or skipped make up for most days. I totally agree about different styles, and make up signaling different statuses. However, after a certain point, I dont think most men care. They like the general appeal, enhancements, the way a look feels.... but i was talking to my Captain about starting to do contouring. He commented that hed enjoy the effects, but wouldn't like it better than what i normally did. I explained i …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 03:49 PM
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I was branch swinging for years, and completely confused. I started playing with my captain, who was much higher MV, and I decided to get in shape. Figure out how to be a girl. Learn game.... there he introduced me to RP... been a crazy ride, and I'm by far the happiest I've ever been.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/17 03:53 AM
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Seriously. Ive lost 40 lbs in the last year. I was posting openly about getting healthy and working out. Then an acquaintance i hardly know started bullying me, really hard. Sjw type.... all i can think is there's some kind of issue with me improving my life as grubby healthy while she gains weight.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 05:54 PM
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I used to identify as infj.... now im a enfj. Turns out, I just had social anxiety because I didn't know how to play the game. I didn't play the dating game as a rpw..... my captain now introduced me. I had spent 10 years branch swinging and being incredibly confused why my relationships never worked out. Of note, ive always been submissive; it was something I fundamentally needed and craved. Unfortunately, I kept trying to not be, because when I let myself be submissive, those breakups hurt far…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 05:36 PM
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This sounds like the idea "never stop courting". Keeping the things that you do for a "new partner" because they're shiny.... but is how you make a relationship worth being in. Nostalgia is powerful as a tool to re-create butterflies and "new relationship energy", even from a neuroscience viewpoint. Retracing the neurons that created your relationship, can cement the sensations and reasons why you're there.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/17 03:34 PM
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Hasn't been my experience. Women are cut throat and brutal with their assessments. I have been bullied and enotional harassed much more harshly by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/17 03:42 PM
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I love this post! I missed it when i was out of town. My man is a renegade. He sees the social context in such a way that he can move through the different statuses at will. Archetypes are such powerful tools. Understanding how we grew with these, helps us understand what we seek in life.
/r/RedPillWives09/08/17 05:05 AM
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Thanks for the reading! I do tarot as well as runes if you want a reading in return!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 02:29 AM
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The complication, is that I'm the one saying "no" to what she wants/ needs, because of personal reasons and discomforts. the situation is healing, and wil likely go the direction she wants. Then yesterday she threw a temper tantrum or shit test about the whole thing. I'm finding myself being really annoyed with her today... sigh... So reminding her that she is family, and I do want her here seems applicable. So your reading seems accurate, it's just a weird twist with how we normally think of ou…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 01:35 AM
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Wow! What a gift! Ok... How to proceed with my girlfriend and her issues of impatience or confusions? Thank you again!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 12:18 AM
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The guy went to ask MRP... im curious how that convo is going. I think he needed someone to say "yer not crazy, your concerns are valid", so he asked the chicks.... now hes asking the guys for action plan.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 06:15 PM
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Someone else mentioned him teaching me things. Its true... we go thrifting, and have completely redone my wardrobe. He taught me how to work out, and how ro adapt the routine to heal my injuries. He's teaching me how to move with social grace, so whenever we go out, whether it's with friends or a new venue, it's a play ground to observe and try out my new skills.... all while molding me into the woman he sees in me, and wants to be his partner. Now that I've lost weight, we're going to start doi…
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 02:40 PM
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Seriously! Letting my captain tech me about people and fashion has been a luge changer! I love having his perspective. Understanding how he moves through the world as my captain, so i can be the best first mate possible, is amazing.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 02:32 PM
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Sounds like a good life! Ive had the experience of weird things bringing us closer.... us working together, as a team. Trusting each other. Loving each other more, as we handle whatever festivals or traveling throws at us.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/17 02:29 PM
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So, your emotions are yours... I can understand why you have them. It sounds like your girl isn't listening to your concerns at all? Maybe you don't feel like she's making this decision with both of you in mind? Your concerns about there being prodigy out there make sense. Not sure what else to say, bro.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 11:31 PM
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Not gonna find dudes opinions here. Wrong forum.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 10:34 PM
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As someone who has been on both ends if this exchange, any jealousy present and visible is a huge redflag for a unicorn. Way too much drama for a bit of fun.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 10:11 PM
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I'll just add that... breasts with oil, should be used everywhere as a massage tool.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 03:44 AM
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Old goals: 1) give my captain some massage most days. 4/7 would be fine, 5 minutes at least each time - i was marginally successful with this. Two weeks i did, but then an event happened and forgot to pick the rhythm bask up. 2) deepen my connection with my girlfriend and continue to connect with other women. Either getting coffee, talking about makeup or fashion are all desirable on a weekly basis. - i was successful in this, and other women are becoming less intimidating. 3) I'm going to 2 lar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 02:48 PM
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What are your goals? They want you to live in, but will thru key you move or change furniture? Is the apartment as clean as toy want to live in, without helping them? Personally, i like keeping desperate spaces for polarity reasons... even if we spend every night together, we *choose * to.... and that masks a huge difference.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 02:57 PM
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I love this dynamic! The appreciation flows both ways, and everyone gets what we want and need. Can you expand on your lay sentence?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:25 PM
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Jesus, pick one? Being allowed to be submissive, and have it work. I love the captain/first mate dynamic. I talk about this to bp friends, and they often take the perspective. That being feminine is appropriate and wise.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:21 PM
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Look into body weight fitness! Also, pelvic floor massage may be really great for you....
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:18 PM
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I did bwf for 6 months, just to have the experience of doing physical things like planks. I lost 40 lbs that way. Then I got a membership at a geriatric gym... im on the young side there (28).... everyone else is just happy and supportive I'm there. Its kind if a slow paced gym, and everyone's chill. When i started going 2 months ago, i did simple things because i was anxious. Now, ive noticed my body calms down when i get there.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:16 PM
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I occasionally run and do yoga, I lift weights 2-6 times a week. I'm an endorphin junky.... training myself to get my fix in the gym! Its working; last time I was anxious I went to the gym, and felt great when I left.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:11 PM
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Sounds like you found someone that you respond to! So, do you want to keep him? Then do things he might like, and figure out what pleases him the most. Redpill is giving us a mindset so we can keep the caliber of partner we want. In our experiences, if we play by RPw guidelines, we keep a man interested in us, and not looking for another LTR, because he already has the best. In short, be the sweetest, kindest partner you can be. Wear the dresses that make you look amazing... be soft and elegant …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:04 PM
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My captain often responds "of course you do..." it comes across as warm and caring but affirmative thst hes a fest catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 02:43 PM
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Bp
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 02:41 PM
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Agreeing there needs to be a space for the sexes to talk. I'm thinking about starting a blog along those lines... but the moderation required makes me tired just thinking about it. I do occasionally post a reply in married rp... usually confirming that the OP is onto something, and my female perspective reflects it. and most often I get torn apart and mocked.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 05:37 AM
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He sounds like hes ok with what's going on. Maybe instead of paying the 200 back, try for 50 a month? Might be more practical... Honestly, do what you're doing and stop stressing about it... he seems ok with where things are. You have 4 months left... in the scheme of things, that's nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:12 PM
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Agreeing to take what you will, leave the rest. Basically, be the sexiest, most attractive person/ woman you can be. Be the best partner possible. Men and women want different things... take that into account when deciding how to treat a partner, or how to present yourself. If you build a relationship, do so with both of you in mind. Work as a team. One of you has to be the captain, the other bringing up the back and looking for things the captain misses.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 05:13 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 01:37 AM
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Seriously. I've started to think of the kitchen and the gym as "ive said it, now stfu up and do sunbathing productive". Seems to help my moods to.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 01:35 AM
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Basically, we have to make a man's life better with us than without. So... conive, create niches for ourselves and evolve an ability to see things he cant. Develop a type of emotional violence to balance his physical violence.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 11:58 PM
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I think its the danger that gives an edge. If in my scared of my captain in someway... theres no polarity.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 11:56 PM
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Sounds like a great dynamic. Enjoy it for what it is!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 02:52 AM
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You specifically asked if you're bring feminine enough. That's not a question for us. Do you feel feminine? Im assuming not as you're asking. So, lose the weight. Change your wardrobe. Proof you're where you want to be, is you feel great... and are getting flirted with byb the caliber of men you want.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 02:48 AM
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This is a sex educator answer....not fueled by Rp observations. Honestly, do you spend time touching yourself? If so, what do you like? If not, why not? Spending time with yourself first is great if you're shy, gives you space to come to terms with things. And... what do you like of your body? What don't you? Food for thought.... Edit: tyoo
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 12:37 AM
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Good luck on your journey. You'll five a captain who appreciates the work you've put in.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 08:20 PM
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Ive been experiencing this for the last year... my captain has been motivational and so incredibly supportive. Absolutely life changing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:50 PM
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Ive never been one to go for possible deniability. I spent my Cc riding days in a sex positive space, so it was never an issue I perceived. Social graces were never my strong suit though... Point is, if a guy is alpha enough to say (to me, perhaps privately) "I want to use you like the toy you are", well.... It seems more likely he's capable of it and that gets me hot
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 06:29 PM
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This kind of dread is what pushed me into a new lifestyle. I have lost 40 lbs and am building habits that are fitness based, learned how to cook differently and we've switched to intermittent fasting. Because i was scared shitless of having a partner that was sooo much hotter than i was. Motivation, wherever we find it, is invaluable. Im also the happiest and engaged with life I've ever been.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/17 03:50 PM
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Honestly? Be the first mate that makes it worth it to him. That kind of attention and support is what reduces the stress in situations like this, and gives him fuel to do the work.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 03:30 PM
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Basically, its saying "yup, I do my work and we're partners in this." Which is crazy attractive... cause we want to be in relationships that are a team, and we're not constantly pushing. Thing is, if you do it as a covert contact, expecting to get an extra gold star for your initiative, you'll build up resentment if she doesn't notice.... and she's still the dog trainer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 03:07 PM
3

Plausible deniability is great when required. Thing is, as a chick in the pick up context, i was constantly wondering "is he into me? Was that a joke? Does he just want to cuddle? And when someone says, straight up, what they want.... it says "game on, lets get dirty". My captain makes it clear enough he always wants me, so even when we joke and laugh, which is often, I know he's dead serious about wanting me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/17 02:59 PM
1

Strong frame and dialogue about mental shifts and perspectives. What's the next steps, and what are you still wanting?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 03:57 PM
1

Had a really connective time with my captain, built trusty and intimacy. Was able to make money at an event that's always been a black hole for money and emotions. Changing how I think about events...
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 06:23 PM
5

Coppied from last month 1) I just got a membership at a gym.... I'd like to go at least weekly. I want to do weighted squats every time I go, and enjoy the salt water hot tub. - I've been going 3-5 times a week. Enjoying tree tai chi class. I'm having to do kettle bar squats, vid trays fine. Hottub only happened once.... 2) make girlfriends in real life. This is terrifying for me, but I've gotten to a fitness level that other women are starting to respect me. Specific goal, have a conversation w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 04:46 PM
3

Chick here. I've been thinking about this for a while... 1) all men want sex, and often consider blowjobs a reward 2) all men want to fix and find a solution to the problem 3) all men enjoy the possibility of a home cooked meal. Combine with 1. 4) all men want to be told they're good at what they do, or there's good reasons why they've failed 5) all men want to be admired by pretty women 6) men are typically emotionally stable but socially incompetent when compared to a woman. Woman=bipolar, men…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 02:58 PM
1

Meeting things head on is for things you need a solution for.... with the dog, the solution is get forgetting she has an issue because it's already resolved.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 02:08 PM
1

Thank you! I know my pacer in this world...
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 02:02 PM
4

Seriously. I still binge, but it's on celery.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 01:06 AM
9

I've lost 35 lbs and gained a lot of muscle. I didn't have partners or friends who were fit, so I was chubby but thought I was ok. As I get fit, it's so obvious how people change their attitude towards me. They listen to my suggestions of exercise and stretching more (applicable to my job). Girls ask me for diet advice. Guys who never would've noticed me before compliment my hair or tattoos. I get more return clients with working less, and larger tips. I have phased out most of my clothes, and w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 08:29 PM
3

Totally. A captain who's in charge of his ship is truly am amazing mate.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 07:34 PM
2

I'm working out, a lot. Building muscle and losing fat fast. I'm testing tai chi, which teaches me how to move with grace. I am working on recognizing when I'm being a bitch.... this takes constant vigilance abd is exhausting. It's amazing what wardrobe does with class signaling. Would love to hear where you're going with that! Lots of gains, and my captain makes sure to praise me. It's being with it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 03:36 PM
3

When I stopped nitpicking, I saw my captain be able to sit up straighter and move with more direction. It says "I trust you with the small stuff", and he moved with more confidence. I completely agree about being cherished... he is so aware of my moods, it's amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 03:30 PM
1

I feel so supported and associated by my captain. When I did something bitchy he is so great about pointing it out and writing through it with me. Grateful for work I can take a week off of with no consequences other than less money.
/r/RedPillWives28/06/17 08:26 PM
2

Check out Jordan Peterson. Breathe in breathe out. You don't have to agree or disagree with everything, and you don't have to share your opinions with anyone. People can be really great friends, even if you're on opposite ends of the spectrum, as long as you both respect each other's autonomy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 08:22 PM
1

When I met my captain, I was borderline obese. I'm almost fit, with a lot of lifestyle changes.... I've lost 35 lbs, 20 to go. And it's true... he is mite attracted. We play harder and longer every time ss I get trim. He makes sure I know he values that he has a girl who's getting bitter every day. Talk about motivation!
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 02:33 AM
1

Yup... so glad to be done with school for this reason alone.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/17 02:26 AM
3

That's what the side bar is for...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 06:27 PM
1

Or the humor that your opinion of furniture she got at a garage sale reflects your feelings about everything she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 06:20 PM
1

Careful of needing her to be happy, to be happy yourself. OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 06:16 PM
2

The negative physical effects of alcohol are crazy. How many carbs. The effects on the liver and kidneys. Memory loss you don't recognize. Makes your skin age faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:26 PM
2

Wishing you health and balance. You're beautiful, and I hope I would be as loyal.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 04:12 PM
2

Delicious! I love these rituals... feels like it marks time and honors the different aspects of the connection we have.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 03:59 PM
2

You're good <3
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 11:34 PM
3

Frankly... I couldn't do what the OP did. I havent had the social experience to learn this, and it's diverging I'm trying to catch up on. I hear the complaints about how the post was written... and for me, having it laid out was useful.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 02:01 PM
3

We basically just eat meat and vegetables; at the beginning of our relationship he said he wanted all his desserts made from meat. So... it's a mound of his favorite meats. Blood sausage, homemade chicken liverwurst, lamb kidneys. I also added green olives, fresh tomatoes and saurkraut. Next time I'd like to add bacon or perscuito. I make it for him twice a year. Our birthday, and Fathers day. Edit: typos and spelling
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 09:26 PM
3

I made him his favorite cake (3 hour process and expensive) and made it clear I want to be here. We had a great night!
/r/RedPillWives18/06/17 05:26 PM
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Figure out what makes him happy.... and when you can, give it to him. This includes sexual things, and favorite foods etc. Be verbally appreciative. Praise the progress and work he's doing. When he does things you like, especially if they're for you, thank him. Continually. It's the small things that can just be forgotten, that add up.... and can be really damaging when forgotten.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 05:21 PM
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I've lost 35 lbs sense starting this. I'm learning to be less of a bitch. I'm getting to be a very good cook for his desired diet. SMV can change. You have a lot of control over it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 05:06 AM
1

I'm learning tai chi. It's a martial art, but not practical in a fight... I'm learning it mostly tob learn how to move smoothly. However, it does give me the tools to move fluidly and interact with the world with immediacy. I'm finding that though tai chi is not practical in a fight, I do have less stress as I interact with my environment.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 06:15 AM
1

Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 04:35 AM
1

Yup... I am American, but I have long term goals. Right now I'm comfortably treading water. When some things shift, my time will open up and I'll work a lot more. I find things go better when I'm not forcing them, when I let them happen when they went to. However, you have to be doing the things to get what you want. Ex: I'm working on longterm marketing for my small business, so when I want to kick it into high gear, I can.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 02:50 PM
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Agreeing there's things to unpack there. However, he's right that having that much muscle early in life makes building muscle later in life easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 02:20 AM
3

Agreeing here. He's not in a mental space to use logic or maintain frame. Just step away until he can do so.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 03:09 PM
1

Thanks for sharing your story ❤
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 01:48 AM
1

He doesn't sound like he has control of his life. Think of it this way... if got date him in a RP sense, you're adopting his view of the world... and you experience the world through his lense. I did this for years, with depressed partners. Thing is... I've gone to the same places with my new, realistic captain, and my depressed partners.... and it was a competly different experience. I'm honestly surprised how much of a difference it's masking in my experience of life.... even as I was the "hea…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:35 PM
2

This.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 06:55 PM
1

Check if you have a YMCA of a rec center. They're usually cheaper, have volunteer options to pay for a membership or a scholarship option.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 02:18 PM
3

Thanks! I've been doing body weight fitness, and sprinting, sense October. I was almost obese... I've lost 35 lbs! I'm still going to run and do bwf at home, if I don't go to the gym.... I mostly got the membership to meet other women who are taking care of their bodies. I don't know how to talk girl. It's getting easier... but still outside of my experience bubble.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 11:12 PM
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1) I just got a membership at a gym.... I'd like to go at least weekly. I want to do weighted squats every time I go, and enjoy the salt water hot tub. 2) make girlfriends in real life. This is terrifying for me, but I've gotten to a fitness level that other women are starting to respect me. Specific goal, have a conversation with a woman I don't know twice a week. 3) I really love worshipping my captain. Sulo, give him FBSM, footbath or wake him up sexually once a week.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 10:54 PM
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Honestly, this is something the women in her life should take care of. I think it's great how much you're trying, but you can't initiate her into womanhood. I'd suggest making a post in one of the RPW groups... they also have kids, which I don't. I grew up Christian fundamentalist (no ill blood to those who are Christian here, my parents were very extreme, giving context)... which I've realized recently, my family encouraged me to be a tomboy, because being feminine was seen as seductive, and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 10:27 PM
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Being a chick... I never had a rite of passage as a kid. Eventually did one with my spiritual community, but it felt hollow. I don't have kids, but I do meditation to teenagers.... and I've thought a lot about what a girl needs to feel like she's actually passing into the realm of adult world. Whore bleeding is important and symbiotic... it's nothing she did. It's not enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 03:36 PM
2

The RP advice you've gotten so far has been great. I'm going to give otherwise... at least look into it. A Chord Cutting ritual is extremely useful. It's thought of as a pagan practice, but even thinking of it as archetypes and helping your subconscious understand to let go. For years I carried around wounds like yours, and a lot of anger for lbw of the men. Eventually I did this ritual... now I'm friends with him again, and I've naff relationships that weren't over shadowed by him.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 10:02 PM
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Years ago, I had an ex who was honest.... and he said he broke up with me because I was boring. I took it hard at the time, but it spurred me to learn hobbies and read more. It seems to have made a difference... my captain now has much higher standards, but he adamantly days I'm an interesting person.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 05:52 PM
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1) I'm grateful to have time to rest and heal. 2) I'm grateful for a home to breathe and heal in. 3) I have such a compassionate and loving Captain. He amazes me every day.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 08:44 PM
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Sounds like you were right, not the best fit. Snooping really does damage this dynamic.... outta amazing how much trust is necessary for this to work. Congrats on making your best self. It really does make everything so much better.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/17 03:04 PM
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Ok. Aside from RP, you sound touch deprived. Go get a massage. Even a cheap reflexology massage at the mall will help. The hormones that are released from Human touch are invaluable and keep us sane. It'll help you to shift into a more positive mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 04:40 PM
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My issue here isnt the poly. More.... it doesn't sound like you're a good match in general? You have love for each other, but not in love? Is he into you? Having a man who's crazy in love with you is invaluable... it's amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 03:40 PM
1

Generally agreeing with the other women here. Unless you tell them, guys aren't ever going to ask for a number, so one or two either way doesn't matter. There's two main things to balance here. 1) having more experience, to understand how relationships work. How the captain/ first mate dynamic is built.... it's not an automatic thing, as it requires so much trust, and he has to accept the transaction. This process is slow, and experience trying new things will give you more perspective about how…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 03:28 PM
1

I think both is the key...
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 03:06 PM
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Let her do her thing. She doesn't want your help.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:39 PM
1

My captain holds frame for me constantly. My captain rocks my world sexually. I finally started getting endorphins off of working out, after 6 months. So glad.... doing it on faith was getting exhausting.
/r/RedPillWives22/05/17 02:58 PM
1

Female role.... I work in health care, have a private practice. It's growing slowly, I'm about to raise my prices for new clients. That is 10-15 hours a week. I have smoother small, 1 woman business making custom clothes. This is just starting, bud already I'm raising my rates to keep my hours low. That's anther 10-15 hours a week. I may get another hustle going, but currently my protested income for 2018 is 30k. I've talked to my captain a lot...he supports me working less, but enough to mainta…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 11:09 PM
1

Ironically, one of my petnames with my captain is "doormat", said with live and affection. And understanding that I'm no one else's doormat. So, a man calls me his doormat.... but it's s something I chose. I've cut ties with my feminist friends and teachers, who weren't holding up their end of the bargain. It was my BP friends who walked all over me. And yup, I'm a feminist. And a honey badger.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 03:07 PM
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I'm also liberal, and identify as a feminist... and a honey badger. Having someplace where all these things are ok, does make my life better.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:58 PM
1

I've received this. The humor is disarming and just high lights that I'm being silly... usually if he can get me to laugh, we're golden.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 03:59 AM
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My captain and I have been discussing getting a dog when my baby fever hits. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 04:15 AM
1

Yup... it's a pretty good life, really. Enjoy it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 01:59 AM
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Than explaining that in the OP would be applicable.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 03:18 PM
1

Yeah... it's not the type of thing to plan for, but was curious what else prone did experience in this way.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 02:41 PM
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Often I'm responsible for deciding logistics. My captain tells me what needs to happen, and I decide what order, time and swapping back and forth of cars. This works for us, because I know our city better... how traffic flows at what time. I have a significantly better grasp of time and space. I think about the finite details of what car will be best for a job. And lastly ... I care more about being on time than he does. Captain and first mate is about balance and delegating to each of our stren…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 01:28 AM
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1) I've been working out consistently sense October, but it's been an uphill emotional battle. I did it because my captain told me to, and intellectually I knew it would get easier, but I hated it every day. For whatever reason last week, I finally broke through a barrier and started getting endorphins. All of a sudden working out every day feels like a privilege and is so much easier emotionally. 2) I stopped in at a used store to get a crappy hoody for a construction gig I took. I also bought …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 01:07 AM
2

Money isn't everything. Are you happy? Do you feel wanted? Loved? Desired? Appreciated? Then they can fuck off. From reading the comments, it sounds like you've had a hard life. I have to, and am covered in red flags (high n number, other things not drug related), need a lot of attention to feel wanted, and a strong hand to keep me in line. Finding an alpha tat can balance all these things was hard... especially as I didn't understand them until I started farthing my captain and got into RP. "No…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 12:51 AM
2

Your analysis of how we interpret confidence is spot on. If I'm going to accept someone else's frame than mine, then they have to have better frame, continually, in all situations than I do. The easiest way to assess a guy's frame... is his personal perception of his SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 10:55 PM
1

If you have history that you playing up being Latina turns him on, go with that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 09:02 PM
2

Honestly, expecting him to not react to pornographic images is going against biology. Good luck... Honestly? In your shoes I'd do sexy things I know he likes, to show I want to be his girl.... and why he should stay here instead of getting strange. Ex: blow job, Lao dance, sexy massage 9 months, feeling very solid
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 08:55 PM
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Yup. If you're confident and able to maintain frame, cock size is a small piece of the equation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 05:55 PM
1

Happy to answer questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 05:51 PM
2

Transition from student to Adult life is hard. Find social, in person things. Online feels better than nothing (especially if you have social anxiety) but it doesn't stop the depression. Stay a new hobby. I've started going to yoga classes to meet people. I like yoga... but no motivation to pay someone outside of the social context. Do things that make you happy, offline and outside d work. Garden. Learn to sew. I've started hosting tea parties. It gets easier, once you create a habit or two. St…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:39 PM
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Sorry for the wall of text.... I'm also figuring out the formatting on Reddit. Still new around here. Context.... so I spent ages 17-27 riding the CC... going in and out of relationships 6-14 months. I also identified as polyamorous until I met my Captain, which made the pattern more palatable. I knew something was wrong though, and I was starting to get disheartened. I also spent all of that time being kinky, and getting in and out of Ds relationships.... every time I got out of one, I promised…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 03:05 PM
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Today's date day with my captain. I'll reply tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 05:17 PM
2

I've accepted I was kinky all my life... whenever I got into beta, vanilla relationships I'd tear them apart so quickly. I valued therm as humans, but there was no balance. My captain does own me... and I love our life. He's pushing me, encouraging me on new ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 03:26 PM
3

My captain and I hacer uses tis for months. It's great.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 03:19 PM
1

Agreeing. In another life, I'd have kids. But with climate change, etc.. no. Not happening.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 02:54 PM
2

I'm anti marriage for more reasons than my parents. Largely, I don't want to put myself in a position to ever be able to get alimony. I don't want to ever do that to someone I supposedly love.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 06:16 PM
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I love this article. This mirrors my experience. I grew up in a Christian house hold, and was at peace with being submissive. I left home, and the Christian dogma behind. For years, I floated around the bdsm or hippie scene, torn between being submissive, and the confusing messages I got about betting co- dependent or owning myself. Never went well, I was constantly battling myself and confused about what to do. Then I met my captain. He's very RP, led me towards these forums. I love being owned…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 02:54 PM
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I was relationship hopping, and knew things weren't working. I was pretty open to suggestion. It also helps that I'm relatively ok with the fact tray my main goal on life is making my partner happy... works well with RP and Ds.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 02:31 PM
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My captain saw that I was malleable and submissive. I was BP by habit and default. So he chose to invest in me, guiding me to RP, molding me into a woman he's proud to have. I'm the happiest I've ever been, and am intensely loyal to him because he chose to invest in me when I was fat. Something to consider.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:48 AM
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Things take time. They can be rock solid, but it takes time to show... they'll be reliable, continuously. I wouldn't be worried about his, if everything else is a green light, until you've been with him for a year or two. If you're unsure then, start asking why.... and it might be healing that needs to happen in you. Be careful about hampstering on this. I've done that... and ruined the relationship because I started hunting for things to be bad. Things might have been not ok, but hampstering me…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 10:02 PM
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Totally. When I go out, I'm made up, I look great add I'm happy to be there. I've lost 25 lbs... I used to go out more than I had energy for, because that's what my ex did. So it was sloppy and I was often cranky. This change makes my new captain (9 months) look great in their eyes, even if he's not prime BP material.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 06:44 PM
1

Your SMV is low right now. Fucking a guy over 30 is usually better... because of experience. Lean how girls work now... and then hunt at your prime in a decade.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 06:00 PM
1

It's a class thing. If someone has $, is not obese, and looking out for himself, friend zoning is less of an issue. Also if a guy is buying into feminist philosophy, and thinks the feminist equal agenda applies to him... instant friend zone. And the girls who say "someday a girl will be so lucky..." is having a lot of cognitive dissonance.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 05:58 PM
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I went to a party at a BP community on Friday. I got sucked in a little, but honestly all my long term friends were so happy to see me, and kept saying I look great and happy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 05:23 PM
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Well.... Not sure I should comment here. I am anti marriage, and my parents got married after 28 days because of vows like these. I have no idea what my parents sex life was like.... but my father was an alcoholic omega; my mom would've been better without him, even single. I was originally planning on waiting until marriage. Didn't happen, I chose a different path. I have specific enough kinks, and specific emotional needs that have been incredibly difficult to fit into a functional relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 05:18 PM
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Perspective, self care and setting expectations are all so important. What amazes me, is this stuff does transfer back to Bp culture... as I've worked to present better, am more feminine, chose a better partner... my BP community is happier than ever when I come around. At least now I feel like I have a set of rules to apply that are applicable.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 03:15 PM
1

I have the same question myself.... trying to have faith that as I present better and signal higher class, this will get better.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 04:54 PM
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So I'm in a similar situation... I know my partner has me, and I still freak out, even though he's acting very much within our boundaries. I've had some really shitty stuff go down in my last 2 LTRs. What I've found helps me.... is focusing on being the best RPW I can be. Working hard on the ways he suggests of me. Working on building our connection. The more I become his first mate, the more I can accept he's never going to compromise our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 02:20 PM
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I'm game!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 01:25 AM
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acts of service? take the extra time you have being less social, work on projects that have been back burner, you know he wants done. there does seem to be a greater context question here, but thats not what you asked.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:28 PM
1

Full body sensual massage. Think lots of oil. And diving your breasts and self all over him.... it's intense foreplay.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 02:12 PM
3

Take the job hunt seriously. Ask yourself everyday, what can I do to make it clear I want to be in this relationship with my captain? I'm not a SAH anything, but I'm often at one of our places when he gets there. When I have time/ energy, I set up a welcoming ceremony. I wash his feet. I give a short, flirty Bj, with no completion... and a long, slutty, FBSM that ends in hot steamy sex. That's what works for us. I try to do that ceremony weekly. I can tell he knows I appreciate him when I'm doin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:31 AM
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This sounds really hard, and disheartening. I hope you heal and find peace within yourself. I'm agreeing, not baggage.... life experience. You know exactly what this was like, ave how's this feels. Breathe. Access help. Feel all of it.... and grow.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:13 AM
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Build good habits now. Your body is growing... spending time becoming flexible, strong and body aware will set you up to be much healthier in life. The more muscle you develop now, the easier it will be to be fit and trim as you ave. I highly suggest body weight fitness. Learn how to cook. Seriously. So many girls these days pride themselves on not knowing how to cook. Learn how to cook meat, make soups, gravy and vegetable dishes. Healthy stuff. A girl who likes to cook for her man is much more…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 03:58 AM
2

The most compact advice I've ever been given, is be the woman worthy of the partner you want. Make up a dream list. What would they be like? What would they care about? How do you compliment him? And go practice doing those things. They're a skill, and you don't have to live that way allb the time... but knowing how to is valuable.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 03:41 AM
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It's been my experience in the last 9 months.... that as I take on new practices, I think of it as a game. Acting practice. Something I'm trying out for a month. Usually, by the end of the month, I've gotten used to it enough, I can start appreciating the natural affects. Then, I choose what I want to do from there. How much I want to invest in the new habbi't, in what way.... or try something else. It's just a game. Don't take yourself too seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 02:17 AM
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Whenever you're around people who don't truly understand you, and you have something to gain by thinking you're akin to them. So most places. But figure out how to be an aspectvof yourself... that moves in that world.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 06:03 AM
1

Totally. There's so many things that make him NOT RP... she may have these things in mind, but then it's on follow ground and will not give her what she's looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 09:06 PM
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My issue with suggesting melania as a RPW, is she has no captain. If she did, she might, but right now she had no space to be RP in. Have you seen how he treats her? How he leaves rooms without her? How he hardly notices she exists? He's not a captain. I doubt he asks her for advice. With Michelle, they moved as a unit and you can tell they communicate constantly and are in tune with each other, in a way that only loyalty and long-term intimacy and trust can develop.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:16 PM
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I've made this step, and I think it's why this relationship is working. I am a career woman... I have two small businesses, that I make progress on every week, and am building then around his schedule and lifestyle. He encourages me to work out, I'm fixing my diet... I've lost 30 lbs sense October. Making this relationship work is my priority... so if I start to cheat with my diet, or not working out, the relationship is extra incentive to maintain my better habits. This is a lot to build around…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:47 PM
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I hope this transition, however it passes, is as kind to you and your family as it can be. Giving her a supportive base, and emotional umbrella, is the kindest thing you can do for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 03:44 AM
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I have lots of events I go to... knowing when I'll bleed helps me know how to prepare; what toys, intoxicants bring or dates to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 01:50 AM
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I can only offer my personal context... I'm never going to live with my Captain. I also don't want children. But we both want the type of connection, trust and juiciness that comes from having trusted and loved each other for years. We make a great team; he decides where we're going, he does part of the work, and I clean up around the edges, making it look nice. I have a career- I'm aiming to make about 60K; which is topping out in my career... so I'll be able to put away some for retirement, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 04:56 PM
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I mean.... I like pixie cuts on girls. I think it looks cute. I never thought my long hair was flattering (didn't frame my face, no body etc) but my current partner looks at old photos and is adamant that it was. So... yeah. I can kind of make a mathematical guess, but I don't feel like I actually get it. I'm also loosing weight (30 lbs sense august) and am changing my fashion.... so my SMV is changing quickly; it's hard to gauge where I'm at vs where I was vs were I need to be....
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/17 04:25 PM
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The thing is... do we? The things I find attractive, in men and women, are different than what guys find attractive. That's the crux of the matter to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 08:47 PM
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I like fascinating womanhood as well. It's Christian mythos based, but you can skip those sections if you're not inclined towards it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 05:48 PM
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I've had trouble with having female friends forever.... and it could be ascribed to a miriad of things, back to childbirth. Personally, I'm finding some aspects of RPW to make it easier.... it explains why a lot of things are happening, and I feel like I'm interacting with a game I have the rules for, for the first time. Maybe it's because my city is so skewed (my friends' circle is heavily dominated by BP and androgynous type women) but I'm finding it easier to play the "let's build each other …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 07:28 PM
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Ah! I've been wondering after examples. I like the definition of "there being no good way to answer the riddle but pointing out it's a shitty riddle"... now to go find my own examples. Ah well....
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:29 AM
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I've been in her shoes so many times.... we just called it polyamory.That's a whole other ball of wax though... Agreeing, in a lot of ways, she's gonna have to figure this one out. You could try a really harsh, sit-down convo, when she's in-between relationships, and lay out how the power lies in this. Monk mode sounds like a good idea.... and while it's a touchy subject, eventually bringing up possiblities of why she's being plated, so she can work on them. Jesus, if I'd known that loosing 40 l…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 04:34 PM
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You're young... you have time. But getting emotionally invested in someone, and encouraging him to fall in love with you, knowing that you won't be with him forever? Yeah, I wouldn't suggest that. Been there, done that. It sucks. Might convenient, ego-stroking and cushy now.... but mostly what you'll learn is how to hurt someone and how to feel stuck. There's also an assumption here.... I'm RPW, my man is RP.... and we don't plan to get "married", as in having the state involved with our finance…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 04:20 PM
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Depends on what you want. :) My Captain doesn't want kids. Not gonna happen. So being a housewife, doesn't make sense. Also, I want the independence of the $, to be able to decide to stay, every day. I also had my career already set up when we met; it's just a matter of setting it into course with him in my life. I'll end up pulling in 30-50k a year. Right now, he's home more.... so he does more of the housecleaning work (it's also his space) while I get my "career" started. It feels like a bala…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 04:16 PM
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Appreciating this!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 12:17 AM
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yup.... definitely a overgeneralization. Just time to take matters into your own hands, and figure out a strategy for what you actually want on a long term basis.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 12:07 AM
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Hmmm. Maybe I'm not mature :) Maybe this is changing for me, slowly. I'm really enjoying this relationship I have with my Captain. There's huge aspects of my personality that I thought I needed to heal, that he just matches and makes a non-issue. So yeah.... I like to share about that, especially with friends who've held me through earlier breakups. But that's generally the positive stuff, I suppose. A few months ago, when my Captain and I were having a few issues, I was an emotional basket case…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/16 01:16 AM
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I move in a community that's friendly to BDSM, so Ds is an understood aspect. In that context, I find the C/Fm relationship to be welcomed with open arms.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/16 01:09 AM
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Maybe not the same chick, but I do think men re-create patterns, just like women do. My guess is men wouldn't go back, because men care more about sex, while women, biologically, are more geared towards longterm commitments.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 01:21 AM
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I get what you're saying about not being too worried about any one guy particular... And yet my Captain now, is simply of a different caliber. He's of higher class (emotionally, financially, physically and intellectually) than anyone else I've dated. I do wonder if we broke up..... I'm approaching my first wall. Maybe it would be a lot harder to attract the quality of man I'm getting used to. A little bit of a scary prospect... and I feel pretty vulnerable about it sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 01:19 AM
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the difference between the "girlfriend experience- GFE" and.... the other is a big one, and it's not about the specific activities. It's about a girl giving a fuck. wanting to be there, wanting to listen to him, to cuddle.... being content with that as her entire experience in that moment. It means getting off your phone. It means telling stories about your day.... later. It means making sure he feels listened, cared for and DESIRED. And guess what? If you give this to your Captain.... he'll giv…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:27 AM
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ooo that sounds great! thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/16 02:54 AM
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Continue to to work out 4+ times a week Do tree pose for 5+ minutes 3x a week Wear make-up most days Convert closet from hippie gear to sophisticated and elegant Sew something Do Tantra meditations weekly, solo Do dishes quickly Fix website Promote business- online and in-person write something weekly
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 05:05 PM
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My captain is certainly "above my league" (I'm working to raise my SMV) and my previous partners have all been equal or below my league, except for one, who I think I was a plate of. Gotta say, this relationship is working way better for me. Sometimes I feel insecure, that he can get any girl he wants (which is statistically true) but he really listens and gives a fuck that I'm feeling insecure. No one else has ever tried as much as this guy does.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 01:35 AM
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the whole "women can be annoying, and sometimes that should be reprimanded" is certainly eye-brow raising to me. he seems to be in a position of "yeah, i'm alpha, take what i give you" kind of attitude.... which isnt alpa. Do you like him? Seriously. As a person? Do you like him? Is he your friend? Is he your best friend? Do you trust him to have your best good in mind? If this one is anything but a solid "absolutely", then you cant give him your allegiance as your Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 06:43 PM
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Glad you're seeking advice here. You don't owe this guy anything. You don't need to be ashamed for being a virgin; it simply is, and where you are. TRP actually puts a low number counter on a pedestal (it's my one beef with TRP)... so aligning with this philosophy will probably do you well. And agreeing with the other comments, that going behind bars/ clubs every time, is not classy. He doesn't have his own space? Couldn't figure out somewhere nicer to go? No. You can catch better.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 12:52 AM
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I'm thankful to have an awesome Captain that's helping me prioritize where to focus. Life is pretty fucking awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 12:45 AM
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Have you read "5 love languages"? It sounds like your primary language is gifts, and his is touch and quality time (very simplified, but fits). It might be worth reading the book.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/16 12:42 AM
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Kudos for inquiring! The best advice I ever received (and only half followed until recently) was to become a partner worthy of the partner I want. You're young- building muscle right now, especially core, will set you up to be strong and healthy your entire life. Eat well; learn about nutrition, learn how your body works... your brain, and body, shine so much when you give it what it needs to function. Those two are building blocks, that you can't really retroactively create. The sooner you lear…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 08:45 PM
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Agreeing about skirts. I shop at Ross a lot (although I'm finding as I lose weight, it's less applicable) and Goodwill; you just have to know which one is still affordable, but gets the goods from the right population of people. Agreeing about forever 21; just have to try things on and see. H&M is in the same boat...
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 08:41 PM
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That you haven't met his friends, but have been dating a year certainly makes me wonder.... Theres been no birthday parties that allowed +1s, or anything? Also, someone pays for you to fly across country, and you only spend one night? Even on a two day weekend, you could leave Friday, return Sunday and have time to prioritize meeting people.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 06:06 PM
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Yes! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/16 01:46 AM
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I was in this category.... being told it was shallow, wasn't necessary to worry about after a certain point. 10 years of being an adult, and I'm finally deciding to take things into my own hands beyond my natural 7 status.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 04:42 PM
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Wait, what? You should know if you're a Chad instinctively? Being a Chad is a title.... a reflection of society to how you move. It's a function i society. Not something that is inherit in a male bodied entity. This is a huge fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/16 04:39 PM
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Thanks for the thought of the elders in nursing homes. I have always preferred older generations.... and at least of the last decade had only surrounded myself with blue pill women; feeling like finding who I'm looking for in the mainstream portion of my city is statistically unprobable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/16 04:15 PM
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Totally been here. A handful of times. Never goes anywhere good, unless you're in a movie. Which I'm assuming you're not... I had a private instructor for years, and had a huge, huge crush on him.... it got in the way of me performing well. Agreeing about setting boundaries; avoiding contact, simply not indulging the crush. It's entirely human- and incredibly female- to go after our superiors. Aligning ourselves with the strongest around, right? The other direction to go, is to put more intentio…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/16 12:20 AM
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Following!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 10:56 PM
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Yes. Thank you for posting this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 04:41 PM
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I'm used to being able to gush with my girlfriends about our relationships. It bonded me with them, and it gave an outlet for the "squee energy" from the relationship without annoying my guy. I understand the importance of keeping ourselves safe.... but social isolation is exactly the opposite of growth and personal acceptance.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 03:38 PM
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Honestly, not at this point.... I'm in the west coast, the hotbed of liberalism (which is still where I want to be). But everyone is either young blue pill, or is a casualty of having taken the blue pill... my longterm mentor is in that category. So, I'm on the hunt for new friends and new connections. I was anyway, but not with the feeling of isolation; before I was just bored.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 03:24 PM
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While I appreciate the sentiment to leave conversation for later peeps (I've certainly read the posts here in the last while) it's largely that I just want to talk about the whole thing... over coffee with another girl, gushing and squeeing. At this point, it's the political stuff that's being difficult to wrap my brain around... at least understanding why Trump got elected. All of my blue pill friends are panicking, and... I can't tell them why I'm not freaking out.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 03:21 PM
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Appreciating this post very much! My man is already concious of being alpha, and Captain in our relationship.... but this highlights ways for me to reflect to him that I understand this dance. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 06:23 AM
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Meditation is awesome! My thought is to get a hobby... fill your head with things that aren't him. I've been having this problem lately (and RP is a new hobby- I'm reading everything I can) and I've started sewing again, and am putting more energy into building my business. The distraction is useful! Also, it makes me more attractive, as I'm doing things with myself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 06:01 AM
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"What people find most attractive in a partner usually correlates with things that they cannot obtain themselves. Men and women work best together when they form a symbiotic partnership." This is brilliant. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 05:21 AM
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You have lots of time.... your prime time is in 15 years; not what you want to hear, I know. But you have a lot of time to practice, and prune yourself.... figuring out how to attract what you want, and then how to shape the relationship you want. It's worth doing. Just as the RPW is suggested to become worthy of the alpha she wants, the RPM.... has to shape himself into that alpha. You're lucky to be reading this stuff early in your game. OP: Thanks for this post! I'm on the opposite side of th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/16 05:06 AM
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