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Shouldn't you do what you want regardless of what anyone else says - including a woman, especially your woman?
/r/askTRP30/05/19 06:29 PM
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No need to fear pregnancy if you blow it in her ass Y'all missing out if you're not taking advantage of that
/r/askTRP30/05/19 05:04 PM
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I may be wrong, but it could be the kind of thing where if you treat every woman as if AWALT and are going to do X terrible thing, you can mitigate risk and behave in accordance to RP tenets instead of falling for BP tendencies that get you fucked over. More of a reminder to never fall back to oneitis and beta behavior than a 100% accurate description of every woman ever. Like the OP said, “all guns are loaded, always.” I remind myself of this every time the angry MTGOW types reduce females to n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 08:11 PM
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Bahaha +10 for the Grond reference, was not expecting that
/r/TheRedPill28/05/19 03:06 PM
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not really
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 05:15 AM
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Just friggin leave dude
/r/askTRP02/05/19 03:14 AM
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Bitches be trippin
/r/askTRP01/05/19 03:47 AM
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I personally think the way TRP frames relationships is a little lacking, and this is probably for the very specific reason that it's a riskier endeavor. I'd be willing to bet most guys here aren't ready to take it on in a responsible manner that will prevent it from ending terribly. Here's how I see it. Spinning plates/FWBs/etc is beneficial in a number of ways, for men that know the risks of involving women in their lives, aren't interested in settling down or monogamy, etc. LTRs, however, also…
/r/askTRP10/04/19 11:53 PM
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There are some good people over there with good advice. And then there are people over there who are gossipy bitches that will complain to moderators over anything and you'll find yourself suspended for being anything that the subreddit doesn't approve of...which is why I initially commented. RPW seriously looks down on females that aren't in committed relationships looking to get married, or trying to get in one. AKA, they will talk major shit on you for casually sleeping with anyone. They did …
/r/askTRP24/03/19 04:33 PM
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All I can say is, good luck posting this over in RPW.
/r/askTRP24/03/19 04:27 PM
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Yikes
/r/askTRP24/03/19 04:25 PM
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That's...why...I said we were exclusive. I said exactly what we were. Well, it's what we are, so I'm sorry you can't comprehend that it exists. You're proving my point lol. Should probably not burden yourself with tHe RiDiCuLoUsNeSs of some random person on the internet's relationship so much.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 03:23 AM
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People in this sub really get butthurt over anybody not clamoring for marriage. Wow. Y'all wildin
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 03:14 AM
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lol that's not what I said but okay
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 03:10 AM
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Because we aren't in a relationship we describe as boyfriend/girlfriend. It's basically an exclusive FWB deal that's a LTR (we've been doing this for about a year now). We just don't believe in titles. So technically, he doesn't have a reason to introduce me to his folks or bring me around his friends unless he genuinely wants to. Makes it more special and genuine in our views. And there have been other events I couldn't go to. Never a party, actually. For example: his father passed away over Ch…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 02:57 AM
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You're just proving my point with every additional comment you make, you do realize this, right? > I make OP saying repeatedly I am "just curious" > in comes the relationship justice warriors insisting I am uncomfortable, afraid to talk to my captain, and trusting randos over him Luckily for me (but unbeknownst to you as you have clearly not read other stuff I've posted), I'm not looking for marriage. If I was, drug use would absolutely be popping up as a red flag. As far as no invites, this is …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:33 AM
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I'll just ask him about it when I see him tomorrow. It just surprised me he didn't invite me, because he usually does (which surprises me still how much he includes me in his friends' and family's stuff). Just seeing what the general consensus is. Usually if he can't bring me he will tell me up front why not, so there may be another reason he just spaced on telling me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:26 AM
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Hasn't always been true. There was a post I deleted back a while ago here on RPW on this same issue. He was under the influence and when I tried to have a rational discussion with him about it, it blew up. I don't understand how drugs work so I'm not sure what way is best to do it but so far I've concluded it's best to just...not do it when he's under the influence. But this is not something he'll just up and say "ope, I'm done being high now!" so yeah, still figuring that out. See, even you're …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:15 AM
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I've touched on this in posts before. You ever try to talk to a guy that doesn't consider something a big deal, or anything at all for that matter, when you're also not emotionally invested in it but merely curious? It can end up being turned into a big deal, because they think just having brought it up means it has to be a big deal. So instead of making him think I've got a hamster running himself ragged over this issue, when merely I'm just curious, I figured I'd take due diligence and gather …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:09 AM
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Ask him what? "Are you going to be safe taking drugs?" Lmao he either is or he isn't. It'd be more of a, "hey dude what were you talking about?" to his buddy. Who knows. There could even be an inside joke in there and not an actual safety issue at all. I don't know these people and haven't lived the crazy lifestyle a lot of people have. I have no idea. No point having a big sit down over nothing. Since when do I trust his friend more than him? Lol I barely know the guy
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 01:01 AM
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Okay, gotcha. Didn't know if it did, or if it was supposed to. I've been told in other threads I make it too easy for him in other ways so that's where the thought came from (but that's mostly sexually, haha, and that is a language I know men are fluent in - or at least are supposed to be). I honestly just want him to be safe. He's told me stories. And I have zero ability to help him should anything get crazy, since I have no experience with this kind of thing. Next time I see his buddy I may as…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:57 AM
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Honestly, I feel you. I struggle with having needs but not being easy/immediately putting out/low standards in who I pick to do things with. It's tough to have high sexual drive but not being willing to give it up to anyone. I think the best piece of advice I can give you is probably the hardest; you'll find what you're looking for better when you're not looking, or at least not using one of these apps that everyone finds all the rage nowadays. It's just all too easy to make it sound like you're…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:18 AM
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Fuck yeah. All about it. Fun without being too serious. You can kinda get a gist of what she's into interest wise, and see if she's a good teammate.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 06:01 AM
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So there's two stages. Single me, versus not-looking me. (Since my guy and I are exclusive now, my behavior changes correspondingly to respect the relationship.) Single me - aka, the kind of behavior I show when I am not committed - is a lot more bubbly and outgoing. I make a special point to talk to everyone in the office, be friendly, etc. because work life is much easier when you're not constantly making enemies. Even people I don't like, I try to be friendly to so they don't think up reasons…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 08:33 PM
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Well thank you for getting back to me! I value your perspective. So...interestingly enough, we've already met each others' families to some degree. (My parents and two youngest siblings live in London, moved there years ago. Myself and two of my siblings still live here in the US; he's met both of my siblings, but also my mom, because she came and visited the states last year. In fact, I happened to meet his mom the same day my mom got into town and therefore met my mom. So we met each others' m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:23 AM
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Can confirm. Personally, I look for someone who can dish it and take it as well as I can. The LTRs that lasted the longest involved a lot of shit talking. Keeps things interesting and doesn't bore you with eternal flattery.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/19 02:23 PM
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You've got some growing up to do. I would absolutely pay my way on a vacation. I think this post highlights a need for evaluation of your relationship, and yourself in general, if the thought of paying for yourself really appalls you that much. You're 21, dude. Not 12. Time to become at least moderately self sustaining. Yikes.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 02:15 AM
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He didn't do anything wrong. You're overreacting and setting up unrealistic expectations for him. It's a meeting regarding an activity he takes seriously - and not just that, but is the captain of, and it's annually held. Both of these make it into a significant event that isn't just puttering around at the mall or hanging out at the bar. He will understandably be focused on other things than you. He is popular, plays an important role, and is expected to be socially adept during the event. As a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 01:27 AM
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Yikes...I would not want to be in your shoes. If he's that averse though, I don't think that's a good sign. If there's room to communicate and come to middle ground, that's great. If not, I wouldn't be surprised if it doesn't last. That's just my preliminary view on it, having had experience with a guy that would always be shoving me off if I tried to even cuddle with him...or it may just indicate there's other issues at play.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 01:07 AM
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Okay sweet, I'll see if I can describe this succinctly enough. He and I are both used to long term relationships (his single 7 year one, obviously, and my multiple ones that averaged 3 years) so it's safe to say that we are interested by the idea of a partner that sticks around for the long term. However, due to the fact that we see what people are like, have had enough experience, and have swallowed enough of the RP, we think it is rare to find a truly functional relationship with a person that…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 01:03 AM
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Well, it's perhaps that he goes ahead with full sexytime because he thinks my agreeableness might stop and I might get "upset" if he declines. Usually when he teases me he later obliges; he doesn't just leave me hanging and never addresses the sexual tension he has intentionally caused. So perhaps he worries that if he tells me "no" too often, I'll leave/get mad/something? I'm not really sure, because there's only one or two times he has teased me and then left me, so it's not his most frequent …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 12:45 AM
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Well that's okay. Most people I figure won't understand how it is since it's not really what I'd call a common arrangement. I was just remarking on how you said you were gonna not pay attention to it but still managed a little commentary on it. No biggie. If you want I can explain but it's not a huge deal unless you're interested. No point going on about it unless you'd like to read it, you know?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 01:03 AM
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all the wishy-washy, commitment-phobic level of investment I mean...how do you miss it lol
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 10:51 PM
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Good advice. I'll work on this!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 10:24 PM
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I could totally see this. I'm gonna talk to him later today and see how it goes, make my decision based on that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 10:20 PM
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AMEN! I am also of the belief that, no matter what the issue is, 95% of the issues can be solved just by talking them out. Thank you. He had to go to work, and when I brought it up this morning we only had a little bit of time while showering before he had to leave. Figured I'd get some perspective while I waited. This is the first time it's happened so of course I'm not thinking it's a lasting truth necessarily. We'll find out what he says here in an hour or so.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 10:12 PM
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> says "I'll focus on the sex part" > totally still slides in the disapproving commentary about some strangers life on the interwebs tho > lolokthen.jpg I am pretty sure I am almost scarily compatible with him sexually, though one's needs are probably prone to change at times, and I did not necessitate that sex goes down with a relationship over time. I merely revealed my limited experience in the few LTRs I've had and fear that it may repeat. I'm not sure you may be qualified to say that I'm co…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 10:06 PM
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This is a great comment. Thank you for being so thorough. Thank you for not judging my partner and I's dynamic, I honestly get shit on a lot for it here in RPW lol. It's okay. I appreciate you understanding. You're totally right. I can't assume everyone is the same. I have had to learn to detach my experiences with reality...to allow them a place, to learn from them, but to not assume they are the entirety. Honestly though, that really can't be it, because I was more emotionally available to thi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:55 PM
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You are way more right here than you know. He can often be emotionally invested in things I don't get involved with and "moody broody" describes the way he acts exactly, and I am a chronic overthinker and am prone to cut ties with people the moment I sense "something's not right." We are still getting to know each other (since we went into this with zero expectations, it surprised us both that we got along so well and seem to have more in common the more in depth we find ourselves) and so I thin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:43 PM
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I dunno about that. Time will tell though of course. It always does.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:08 PM
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Well he admitted it was true so I guess I was right. I just want to make sure everyone is comfortable. He's still getting used to being able to talk about anything with me. That's cool.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:07 PM
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I think we both have the same drive but he also enjoys teasing me. I love it too obviously but maybe he feels pressured into full sex because how much I give him the go ahead? Perhaps I should better communicate I'm okay with teasing and I certainly am not trying to pressure him into doing anything he's not comfortable with (even if it's just something he likes to do, but not as frequently).
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:06 PM
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I might need to do this. Good idea. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 09:05 PM
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That's comforting to hear. Thank you. I was worried I was going crazy. So just, keep on keepin' on and assume he'll let me know if it becomes a problem or something needs to change?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:26 PM
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Female privilege
/r/askTRP07/03/19 07:14 PM
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...no? It means your dude will always be attractive for you. Not periods of "ugh why am I with this guy." Pretty much every post I've seen here with women who aren't attracted to their dudes leave them because they aren't into them, oftentimes for more reasons than just physical. I've yet to see an example of someone working through it with Mr. No Tingles and end up staying and it working out as idyllic as they see it in their head. I never once said it's the man's responsibility to maintain sex…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:52 PM
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Soul mate might not be red pill, but the point still stands. If you don't feel attraction to or sexual stimulation from your partner, it is absolutely RP to say it's not going to work. Because it won't. Can't rationalize attraction. The guy should have you on sexual edge, always.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:26 PM
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Yup. Understandable. It's not easily digested knowledge. I like to be up front about my numbers too because I know they're not low (I'm in the 20s...yup, I went through the infamous CC phase too) but I also know they're what intimidate lots of guys. So I am honest and up front without seemingly excited to bring it up (because yikes). Balance. I have learned you can literally be too honest because most human beings aren't that truthful, so I have to weigh the truth against timing and other situat…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:14 PM
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Yeah well do you really think a lie will work out better for you in the end? This logic seriously confounds me. I'll say that you can just not bring it up until he asks. This isn't really the type of thing I would bring up immediately during the first date. But if things are getting serious and you sense he'd want to know, or if he asks you directly, just freaking tell him. If you don't or if you lie then you are not as ready for an adult relationship as you think.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:07 PM
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You tell the truth. Always. Lies bite you in the ass later. Are you really asking if you should build the foundation of this new relationship with a guy you want to "settle down with" on a lie? I don't feel good about my body count too but the last thing I'd ever do is pretend I'm anyone that I'm not. The right guy will get over it/look past it. The wrong ones will leave. It's doing your vetting for you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 04:02 PM
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Unless you play Dark Souls. No instant gratification there. Perfect "fuck you" analogy to real life.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/19 01:03 AM
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Ditto.
/r/askTRP04/03/19 07:02 PM
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I'm actually not a dude. Lol. That's how
/r/askTRP03/03/19 05:10 PM
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Actually, I have. News flash, there's tons of alcoholics at universities. Just because it's normalized doesn't mean it's not true.
/r/askTRP03/03/19 02:51 AM
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You're in denial. She's an alcoholic.
/r/askTRP03/03/19 12:00 AM
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Alcoholism seems like a very solvable problem to someone who isn't an alcoholic. Again, speaking from experience. If she asked for your help and didn't remember it afterwards...red flag. Knowing how to stop is literally the difference between an alcoholic and a casual drinker. It's not exclusively people who drink all the time. The fact she doesn't know how to respect her own limits to keep from getting sick/losing memory/etc says everything I would need to know to continue a LTR. Think of all t…
/r/askTRP02/03/19 11:56 PM
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It (or should I say she) looks dysfunctional as fuck. Also, I dated an alcoholic on and off for 2.5 years thinking I could help him. No. You can't. If it's this bad, it's out of your hands.
/r/askTRP02/03/19 11:49 PM
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Ew. Next
/r/askTRP02/03/19 11:44 PM
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Been there, done that. He's cheating. Next the fuck out of him. Literally the same thing happened with my first LTR and his most recent relationship prior to me. Turned out she wasn't the only one he cheated on me with during our 2.5 year relationship. He had several girls he was "faux-dating" (included girls he worked with, as well as some he met through the internet and probably never saw face to face) the whole time. Get this lying fuck outta here before he messes you up even more.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 08:59 PM
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Well, if the plate doesn't break, it's not "the wrong one." Not saying they're getting married or it's true love or whatever. Que sera sera.
/r/askTRP28/02/19 08:11 PM
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Universal idea: provide value to him. That's all you can do. If he decides he wants to move on to something else, he will, regardless of what you do. But the more value you bring to the table, the more you mitigate the probability of him finding something better versus realizing you bring more value than what he'd likely find himself starting over. Here are some examples of ways to keep a guy around, besides the obvious ones you mentioned (domestic skills, sexual experience, etc.) - Find a recip…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 07:57 PM
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The right one won't break. The wrong ones will. Boom, that's your vetting done for you.
/r/askTRP28/02/19 03:02 PM
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Pretty sure I've seen many gals talk about their SO being red pilled insofar as he acts on a lot of the core philosophies, but hasn't actually heard of/read about it. Basically using the term as synonymous for alpha. A distinction, however, is clearly of good use when using the phrase, since there's a big difference between guys who've read about it and those who just embody parts of the lifestyle. The most alpha dude alive can still learn a lot of things he wouldn't have known outside of TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/19 02:27 AM
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Yep. Completely platonic coworker relationship. Joked around often but had never spent time hanging out, met up outside of work, etc. I had just broken up with my (ex) boyfriend of ~2.5 years because he was a dumbass (long story) and I was done going back and forth with him. I have a very black and white mentality when it comes to relationships/people, so when I shut the door, I slam it, and don't look back. I had initially planned on bringing the now ex boyfriend on a work trip with me so he co…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 06:39 PM
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The age at which your uterus can produce them. TF kind of question is this? Other than that, just take yourself into account. If you find yourself lacking energy to do housework every day, kids are probably not your best option. If you find yourself impatient with your man because he uses a loud voice when you have chronic headaches, kids are probably not your best option. Things like this may indicate it's not a good time. Other than that though, there is no heavenly mandate that says humans ar…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/19 10:16 PM
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I gave you my suggestion: knock the lame shit off. If you are upset by the numeric value that represents the years a person has been alive on this earth in comparison to you, you've got bigger problems than I can help you with. If you're not focusing on what you need to do, everyone else be damned, then you're doing it wrong.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 08:28 PM
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This is not trauma. This is called victim mentality. Every human being alive operates on their own timeline. There is no universal standard that everyone adheres to in order to be successful. Knock this lame shit off.
/r/askTRP25/02/19 03:47 AM
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This is the reason women get a bad reputation. Wow.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 11:44 PM
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What you are dealing with right now is the death of your relationship. Staying at this point is not love or sacrifice. It's pointless. Too much pain has been caused. You're not doing anyone favors by staying and it is continuing to spiral downward into more of a shitshow. Be an adult and leave, you're not winning by lying to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 07:18 PM
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I'll second this advice a million times over.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 06:46 PM
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Anxiety affects periods, fear of pregnancy can literally delay it. The fact you pulled out, used a condom, and she took the plan B pill means there's slim chance she could possibly be pregs. Her hamster is running and she's probably using this to manipulate you. Don't freak until there is indefatigable proof that someone other than her can confirm.
/r/askTRP21/02/19 10:00 PM
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Extremely.
/r/askTRP21/02/19 09:58 PM
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DON'T DO IT. People get murdered this way. Just WHY. He'd have less regret fucking a sack of potatoes.
/r/askTRP21/02/19 07:49 PM
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Met through work. You can find masculine men in areas where masculine men are more likely to be...but that's not exclusively the masculine guys you'd wanna be dating. Example: the gym. Think about how many dudebros are there that are, sure, masculine, but annoying and idiotic. I imagine the masculine types of men that aren't total Chads are less flamboyant with it...the kind of guy that you have to be smart to recognize, because he's not going to be standing in a spotlight and soaking up all the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/19 07:15 PM
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I thought you said Chad's were your thing. Lol. Hamster gonna hamster. (I'm still not entirely sure what you're meaning when you say you're into Chads...are you just referring to RP guys? Because the terms are definitely not synonymous.)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:30 AM
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I mean...the parody is outside of the incel community. Clearly if I'm aware, and I'm no incel, it's a thing. Chad is a multiverse archetype. The name itself is a connotation of douche. Are you really not familiar?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:25 AM
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I mean...you do you booboo.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 06:20 AM
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Clearly it's because you go for Chads. Tsk tsk.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 05:42 AM
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HAHA...there's the alpha. You'll do alright, kid. You're gonna do just fine.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:34 AM
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Absolutely. You will see that a lot. Even people who have done their reading haven't internalized it yet. It hasn't "clicked" for them yet. That's okay. They're learning, as are we all. (Or most of us. There's probably RP gods in here that know all.) If you don't wanna read now, that's okay. You'll get there in time. Can't go through it all in one night. I literally only just started playing it with my guy the last couple months after thinking the game looked fucking stupid. (This is the same gu…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:30 AM
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Amen. Can confirm. RP works. After multiple long term (several year) relationships ended in chaos, I meet a RP guy and within a couple months I feel a submission I never once felt with any other human being, ever. And we're not even boyfriend/girlfriend or anything, just dating/FWB. Craziest thing. But it's awesome. 11/10 will keep doing.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 05:11 AM
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Nah it's no bigs, this is the first time someone's really sought out my advice and I like giving it. But don't just take my word for it either. I'm sure there's a shit ton of value to be gained by talking to people around here. Take it all with a pinch of salt, use what you see is helpful, and maybe test or ultimately ignore the rest as you need to. Opening yourself up to all kinds of viewpoints will help you form your own (another reason why I spend time here).
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:05 AM
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I should've known...hahaha. All this Lil rappers I know names to but nothing else about. You youngins. (I'm 26. Ancient I know...the wall's coming up on me soon, I can feel it.) Dude, how much of the sidebar have you read? It's ALL about improving essential facets of you as a person that will help you attain all kinds of goals. There is so much good reading here and the more you dig the more you find. (You ever play Minecraft? Certain parts of the game you keep finding all kinds of gucci, rare s…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 05:01 AM
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This guy's got it. (Coming from a girl who literally never thought of submitting to a man until I found a RP guy and wow, did it all of a sudden manifest naturally...I legitimately thought I was the most stubborn girl to plague humanity.)
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 04:51 AM
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You asked for my input, so here it is. So long as you put up where you've been talking, you'll be fine. Saying you're smart and capable is one thing; going out and doing it is another. Speaking from experience; talk doesn't necessitate action, and even if you're capable of something, diligence is the practice of doing it over and over, even when you don't want to. The best of us still struggle to keep on the grind sometimes. You're young. Very young. It's a very good thing you came across this s…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:42 AM
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Yeah, that's totally fine. You don't need to think of it as a hivemind where everyone here is the same person. There's a spectrum. One end has the super angry guys that, more often than not, are recently Red Pilled so they're still mad about everything - it's an inevitable side effect. Then there's the end that takes what they personally feel is useful and ignores/tolerates the rest as needed. You do you. I still believe there's someone out there you can find and spend the rest of your life with…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:36 AM
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Honestly...you're setting yourself up for failure. I speak from a realistic but still hopeful mindset. That may not be common around TRP, but you know, there's those types here too. The kinds that expect the worst - out of women, the world, people in general - and prepare for it so they don't have to be taken advantage of in ways most of us already have in the past...but then hope for something to come along to be the exception to the rule. I'm not even a guy but I find a ton of Red Pill integra…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:17 AM
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Ahh. I see what you mean about being halfsy on RP.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 04:02 AM
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I think he means is, red pill is about freedom to choose what you want (including how much you want), rather than having a quota to fill.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:52 AM
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This may be me personally, but I do tend to say this if I'm looking especially rough, but that's out of seriousness. It means, don't expect me to be looking all porn star on you tonight, but I'm here and I'm game if you are. Any compliments you'd give would seem double artificial at that point...unless she is indeed fishing. Either that or it's a wimpy cop out if she keeps fighting against seeing you or putting up excuses. Meh.
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:40 AM
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I'm almost wondering if you're being serious here. The obvious choice here is to just stop doing these shitty behaviors. Who cares if you apologize? You could say you're sorry until you're blue in the face, and if you don't actually change and stop doing what you apologized for in the first place, your apology means nothing. It means less than zero; you are eliminating trust because you're making it clear your apology means nothing. It tells him "hey, I think I can say I'm sorry and then move on…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:50 AM
8

If that's how you describe a Chad, you clearly haven't seen the memes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:36 AM
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Yeah, I find it usually much better to continue the jest with a guy. For many reasons. It shows you're not insecure about it and can joke about yourself in general, helps put him at ease with his insecurities, etc. And yes that is A&A. Whatever he says, he's going to think what he's going to think, so really no words can change that anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:01 AM
7

I second the "no go for Chads" philosophy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:44 PM
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My other response touches on this exactly. They're insecure and are aware of how women are. Whenever you want to get offended, just remind yourself of the dozens of examples that happen around you on a regular basis, and try to cut him some slack. It's rude and insensitive to just assume every human being is doing it, because they aren't all cheating all the time, but the odds aren't good either. If you're not going to cheat, what he says won't bother you. If you're going to cheat, nothing he sa…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:39 PM
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I migrated here from TRP, by the way. Was introduced to it last year by my current guy and I found RPW on my own.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:37 PM
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I am not better than you or anyone, but I am learning, and that's what I value most. It helps to have a good man. Toxic people teach you hard lessons, and ones that don't help you; like not wanting to ever trust anyone ever again. He's changed that for me. So I am able to learn far more under his hand. I'm blessed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:24 PM
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Yes. I also see monogamy as hugely important. Sacred even (based on my beliefs and faith). So when he first did it, I was offended. I told him I didn't think it was appropriate he let his insecurities out on me. Then I thought about it and decided I don't care. As in all things, actions > words. He doesn't treat me like he's insecure; for whatever reason it's just his go-to tease. Other than that he takes care of me as if I'm his responsibility (and I'm not) and doesn't poke into anything I do. …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:14 PM
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A. Fucking. Men. This post has given me the answer as to why all of my feeble female friends are anti-gun nuts but still preach on how dangerous it is to just exist as a female on any given day. Cognitive dissonance at its finest.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/19 08:45 PM
4

Yep. It was my first relationship too...that's why you're taking it so hard. You're used to having him around. You're used to being his. You think you're supposed to feel that way. And you think you can bargain your way into feeling attraction. If it isn't there, it isn't there; it may potentially be something else he does that you just don't realize is a turn off (romantically or sexually), or it could literally be nothing and you got into the relationship in the first place with no true attrac…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:14 PM
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This is how I felt with my very first long term relationship, he was my best friend in high school and just never felt that romantic or sexual to him. The story ends when I realize I'm not really in love with him like I thought I was after I heard of his plans to propose and I didn't see myself being his wife. You're not into him. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:55 PM
3

My guy totally shit tests me. It's pretty frequent too, several times a day, and usually about my "boyfriend" (implying he's the mistress...or is there a male term for it? Mister??) or how many guys I've seen since the last time I saw him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 04:15 PM
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Red Pill is wholly about acknowledging facts, however uncomfortable. For example: any girl you LTR or especially marry is going to cheat on you. A common view around here, and a big factor into why relationships are often warned against, or at least advised significant caution on before entering. Now is it true that every female, anywhere, in the history of man has and will cheat when in an "exclusive" relationship? Maybe not. But most will, and being prepared for the fallout and wanting to prot…
/r/askTRP19/02/19 04:08 PM
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Shut the fuck up Galadriel. Tolkien would be ashamed of your ignorant bullshit.
/r/askTRP19/02/19 07:10 AM
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Boom. Truth bomb. Love this, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 09:38 PM
8

Nah. She's not into you.
/r/askTRP18/02/19 06:29 PM
1

Is this really surprising, coming from the same artist who (along with Dicki Minaj) produced a song containing the lyric "ride dick bicycle"?
/r/askTRP18/02/19 02:01 AM
1

You ignoring her when you'd made plans is not the way to go about it. Being a flake doesn't make you superior or up your SMV or anything. If you don't want to spend time with someone, say so like an adult.
/r/askTRP14/02/19 04:32 PM
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You and I are totally in the same boat. Good to know we aren't the only ones out there! Yeah just to save headache and not have any risk of anything I tend to just block them, or tell them I'm not going to talk to them, or whatever. Easier that way. No halfsy "well maybe he's just being nice" sort of thing.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 01:49 AM
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Are you trying to drive your guy away? Because that's how you drive your guy away. If that advice isn't enough for you to just stop, it's indicative of a deeper truth you may not be admitting to outwardly. Actions > words. If you act like this while knowing the consequences, you're not really as dedicated to him as you think you are. Or, if you don't, then you care about him more than yourself. Simple as that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 10:47 PM
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Honestly I've had to come to terms with the fact that most, if not all, of the male friends in my life are beta orbiters. Maybe some of them aren't betas but just don't wanna try anything if the timing isn't right (but that may be a beta concept, as an alpha might not give a fuck about whether the girl is single or not, interested in dating/fucking around/etc at the moment, whatever). But I think that almosy any male I know who is in my circles is probably down for the opportunity should he find…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 05:11 PM
1

Sweet. Figured that's his plan!
/r/askTRP12/02/19 10:32 PM
1

Not if it makes them not approach. I'd think anyway
/r/askTRP12/02/19 10:26 PM
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Just think about all the actually strong and worthwhile men you could raise kids with instead of this guy. Next the dude and keep going. It's not too late. Improve your own life and focus on being a good mom. Don't be afraid to say no to toxic people or situations and uphold good standards for whoever you want to be the father of your children. The right guy will come along; you will just need to be able to recognize him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:48 PM
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That's fair. In my experience I don't think he has any trouble with it either; he's just picky, which is good, and he will only approach someone he feels is worth the time and effort to. Figured it was more of a "put me to work" sort of dynamic hahaha. He also plays music, and it's not like musicians hurt for followers (aka groupies). Thanks for commenting.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:45 PM
1

Hmm. I imagine it might create a bit of jealousy or something at first if they see us as a couple and exclusive but if I were to say we weren't (which would be the case if he's asking me to set him up) that would alleviate that fear I imagine. Makes sense, got it.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:30 PM
1

I'm not sure attractive/available girls will walk up to me just because I don't look totally ugly. Is this really a thing?
/r/askTRP12/02/19 06:25 PM
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If you do anything special, just be aware that's innately going to give her expectations for the relationship (whatever it ends up being). Just part of the whole Hallmark holiday BS.
/r/askTRP11/02/19 10:48 PM
2

But then said it was a mistake. Even if dudebro is on TRP, doesn't immediately classify him as a bad idea. Which is what I was saying
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:44 PM
1

Well, I'm not sure OP stated whether he does or does not, only described him as red pilled. But yes it's wise to be aware of the types that hang out in TRP. A lot of them are real angsty and bitter and that'd be like emotionally babysitting lol. Ain't about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:41 PM
1

Not all red pill guys are undateable. Better one that faces reality than someone happily comforted by false perceptions of reality.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:38 PM
2

Swing dancing is getting pretty popular in certain places. Depending on where you live, I recommend it. (Even as someone with no experience in dancing, trained or otherwise.) Your university may even have a swing dancing club that is putting something in for Valentine's day. That's how I found the club I went dancing with. It's great because its a very social activity rather than based on skill. You exchange partners a lot and the music is upbeat without being heavy, intense, or ultra slutty. So…
/r/askTRP11/02/19 08:36 PM
1

What's the point of worrying about it? Literally none. Expect the worst, hope for the best. All you can do is be prepared. Either he's going to leave or he won't. If he leaves, you won't waste more of your time on him. If he doesn't leave, then hooray. I don't get why people concern themselves with this. Also, your red pilled boyfriend could leave at any moment, even for no reason. It doesn't have to be some major life changing event that causes it. The more you are paranoid about it, the more l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:13 PM
2

Uh...I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Yes it will not be easy if he's traveling for work, at least not as easy as him working close, but what are you trying to get at? Either you're okay with it or you're not. Not sure what the question here is.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 08:11 PM
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Keyword; make. You can't make anyone do anything. If this is what's happening, all you can do is be supportive. That's literally all. No making him do anything. Focus on being a good girlfriend, stop trying to make him into a certain kind of person.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 07:43 PM
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I don't really care. I'm living my life for me and what I plan to do doesn't rely on being young and beautiful. But definitely do more physical things when you're younger. Go on hikes, run a triathlon (if you're into that), climb mountains, etc. If you do it often enough you may even end up being just as physical or decently enough when you're past "the wall." Spend some time enjoying being single while you have it. Focus on who you are without a boyfriend or whatever. Come to terms with who you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 04:55 AM
1

Well, it's going to make you appear more confident. People that are okay with this (aka people who truly have your best interests in mind) will appreciate it. People that want to take advantage of you and don't respect your ability to stand up for yourself will falter. They might even press you further - "but why not" after you've said "no." Athat point, you can choose whether you want to explain or not. But at least you are not defaulting to full explanations up front that no one asked for. Unf…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:49 AM
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Holy shit I identify with this so damn much... My current guy tells me all the time to talk less and move on. That I don't need to explain myself to him, and that I don't need to analyze everything all the time, and that only if it's truly important will it warrant more thorough discussion. Easier to move past unimportant "hiccups" that way. Working on it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:25 AM
2

I completely understand. I'm the same way. I've gone through situations where something somewhere on the not-so-great side of the scale happened, and I was given no explanation ever, so this is one of the biggest reasons I explain everything - I feel like it will help others cope. Even if it's not bad, I like to help people have all the facts they can. It's part of my unflinching dedication to being an honest person; I believe people deserve to know the truth. So here are some examples. (All hyp…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:23 AM
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Dude I have the problem of explaining everything I think, say, or do to SUCH AN EXTREME It may totally be a thing that you can overdo it. Here's what I've experienced: many people (especially guys, and ESPECIALLY guys I've dated long term) have gotten upset at me trying to mitigate conflict, find resolution, or plan something out. Often I will be cited as "not letting it go" and being tiresome. To someone who is hearing me articulate every single detail of my thought process, I could -totally- s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 01:08 AM
3

I wasn't either. Just had to force myself into it. The more you do it, the better you'll get. There's only so much "research" and planning you can do preemptively. Bite the damn bullet.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 05:36 PM
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You have to be bold enough to do something. By putting yourself into a situation you weren't prepared for, you learn how to think quickly, adapt, and make it work. Again, if you wait until you're ready to approach someone, you'll never learn how to improvise in social situations.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 05:34 PM
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She's self conscious? Has esteem issues? Wants you to make her feel better? Sounds crazy imo. Next.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 05:30 PM
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If you don't approach, you're just gonna find yourself back here asking on how to get the courage to do it next time. If you wait til youre ready, you'll never do it. You don't learn by sitting out the game. You have to get in, make mistakes, get dirty. Otherwise, expect nothing but failure.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 05:29 PM
2

Welcome to the military, where it's normal for the guy to propose a couple months in. Keep in mind the staggering divorce rates of service members and their spouses. Don't be fooled by his eagerness; it guarantees nothing. Just be aware of the statistics.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 01:23 AM
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Drop him, the fuck are you even doing? I feel like you asked this already knowing the answer.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 01:05 AM
4

Always been this way.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 01:01 AM
3

Just out of sheer curiosity and to spark up debate. It's highly recommended for men to utilize this technique with women (plate or otherwise) to keep her interest and reinforce a level of authority and power in the relationship. Are women supposed to do the same to maintain an idyllic dynamic between her and a man she's seeing? I ask because I wouldn't be surprised if a woman using this method would be seen as questionable in regards to her intentions, but the rule of mystery and intrigue is uni…
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