lifeinverde Archive

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34	Banned from a feminist subreddit for asking if someone had a source or a link... Pretty sure the real reason is because I'm in this subreddit. Reminder to keep your FDS account separate if you want to participate in discussion outside of this sub. You can, and will, be banned just for being here. They say they’re not socialized as men (and this is not a commentary at all on who they are now), but they certainly move through the world with male social behaviors. Females who transition to men move through the world with largely feminine social patterns. They do not dominate the space or conversation in the same way.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/03/22 05:14 PM
360	Banned from a feminist subreddit for asking if someone had a source or a link... Pretty sure the real reason is because I'm in this subreddit. Reminder to keep your FDS account separate if you want to participate in discussion outside of this sub. You can, and will, be banned just for being here. All of them. Any attempts for lesbians to set up new ones are immediately banned as hate. Go to the biggest lesbian subreddit (that’s not a porn one), and it’s all about knee high socks and head pats and “call me a good girl” and “girld*ck is amazing”. It’s fucking gross.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/03/22 05:12 PM
36	Why do so many men have bad breath? A friend of my girlfriend was telling her that his buddy asked him dead serious “How many sheets of toilet paper do you use to wipe?” And my girlfriend’s friend was really confused. Until it’s clean. You wipe until the toilet paper is coming away clean. Also bidets are amazing. 10/10.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/22 12:29 AM
53	As a psychologist, I think something we need to do is stop using men’s mental health as an excuse for their asshole/disrespectful behavior Exact same thoughts here. Also I totally get the impulse blurting things out part of ADHD. I really do. But do you know what I blurt out? Random stupid irrelevant facts that are only tangentially related to whatever I’m doing. Oh, I also blurt out to my girlfriend that she’s pretty/gorgeous/beautiful/etc to the point where it’s almost too much. Working on reining that in. If they’re negging you, they don’t care about you. Full stop. My impulse talking is never mean things. Because I don’t think …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 10:52 PM
7	What do you think of your partner having long weekends without you? I’m dating a woman, we’re in a committed, dedicated relationship, but it’s still relatively new. We both really enjoy travel, but my schedule currently doesn’t allow much of it. We’re planning a camping trip for the spring, and I always have an open invite to her other trips. But she usually travels pretty frequently to climb. These are typically with a friend or group of friends and can last any where from a couple days to a week, usually depending on the destination. Frequency is seasonal. I h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/01/22 08:41 PM
23	OP asked for advice and naturally everyone gaslit her into thinking she was at fault I can’t remember where I saw it, maybe an article or book? But it was a man who talked about how he realized he was bringing his bad days home and it was negatively impacting his family. There was a bush outside his front door, so every evening when he got home, he’d pause outside the door and mentally visualize himself hanging whatever “bad” had happened that day on the bush. Only once it was ‘hanging on the bush’ did he go inside. He had then trained himself that once it was on the bush, he di…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/21 03:37 PM
13	Whenever I'm feeling down about a broken friendship or someone not treating me the way I should be treated, I have a little talk with myself. I remind myself that yes, I am enough, and no, I will not sacrifice my own happiness or stability for someone else's. Choose yourself every time. My partner lost her mom a little over a year ago. Not during the holidays, but the holidays are of course a hard time. Last night was a terrible night for her. I dropped everything and drove an hour to see her when I got off work at 10p, just so she could be held and comforted. Expect better from our partners ladies. I recognize my partner for the witty, gorgeous, brilliant, and kind HVW she is, and I treat her appropriately. And she treats me the same. Again, if he wanted to he would. You deser…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/21 03:23 PM
84	Roe will likely be overturned. I’ve seen an interesting post theorizing that part of the reason that churches began pushing the “A fetus is a person” narrative is because birth rates to unwed, poor and often teenaged women/girls were dropping. Most private adoption agencies are owned by churches. Do you know how much money a newborn baby essentially sells for with those agencies? They didn’t have any babies to sell to wealthy white people anymore. And the Bible does mention abortion. Specifically it tells you how to perform o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/21 12:54 AM
2	Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men? Whoops, you’re right. That’s what I get for posting half asleep without double checking my spelling. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/21 12:33 AM
4	FDS opinion on casual sex with other women (as a wlw)? I am with many of the posters here in that I don’t do casual sex as a lesbian, however that is as much for personal reasons as societal ones. I know I get attached with sex and it puts me in a fog regarding the person I’m seeing. One abusive ex wife, followed by a “let’s-see-where-it-goes”, and I decided it’s up to me to identify the patterns and figure out how I can dodge those situations in the future. I do think the inherent power dynamics aren’t there, and most women are as invested in you g…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 03:06 PM
129	Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men? What did Watson and Crick discover in 1953 that led to them receiving the Nobel Prize? Rosalind Franklin’s notes Also HeLa cells. Henrietta Lacks had no idea she was contributing to science, and her stolen cancer cells changed how research on human cells could be done entirely. I believe her descendants finally got acknowledgment and some settlement. This one was also rampant racism.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 02:57 PM
63	I am a bisexual woman and I was just catfished by a man pretending to be a female on Bumble. Please stay safe. I agree with this. I’ve found that I get blocked pretty quickly once I start drawing firm boundaries as well. Men also can’t seem to resist making the conversation sexual in some capacity right away. Shut that down. “I don’t entertain sexual conversations with anyone I haven’t met in person.” The men almost always block instantly, which whatever, mission accomplished. I also find that they typically pose as bisexual women who are very stereotypically attractive to the male gaze. My luck has hone…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 02:32 PM
19	Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy. I’ve only ever seen it used in a sarcastic manner honestly. I wasn’t aware it was a legitimate thing that people were doing at all. The ones I’ve seen have all been along the lines of “Resisting that feminine urge to buy a kn*ife and un/alive any man who looks at me wrong.”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/21 04:01 AM
14	FDS Approved Fictional Book Recommendations Second Circe, it’s a really good book. And you really see the title character go from the ultimate pick-me to strong and independent woman who lifts other women up as well. Although post-level up, she does make a major ‘sacrifice’ for a man, however it’s very clear that this sacrifice is her honoring her own truth and the individual she wants to be. It’s arguably a major part of her level up in and of itself, but some might see it differently.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 11:47 PM
2	Exposure to pornography in childhood can lead to the worst of porn addiction. I don’t think this is happening on accident, either. Viagra was originally developed as a med to treat low pressure (by raising it), and the dick thing was just a highly profitable side effect. So yes, it does.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/11/21 11:50 PM
217	women - vet, vet, vet! because you don't want to be married and with children to a man that thinks like this! motherhood penalty & fatherhood bonus exist! inquire about their thoughts on the labour force and what they think are the sources of wage inequality! I worked with a pharmacist who was absolutely stunning, and madly in love with her husband who was a stay at home dad to their three kids. He provided exceptional childcare, he kept the house clean, he grocery shopped and did the bulk of the cooking (she really enjoyed cooking as a hobby, so she would cook sometimes), and he even found time to garden and preserve produce. He was well groomed and had the eldest child on time to school and all her extracurriculars every day. And when the youngest …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 01:15 PM
36	This is emotional manipulation and you should never, ever think your SO is necessary to make you feel complete. Any variation of this is bad. Please take it seriously, a man who idealizes you is easy to disappoint as he holds you to unreachable standards, and once disappointed, he is dangerous. I think “I don’t know what I’d do without you,” after decades of marriage is a totally different ballgame than your boyfriend of 6 months pulling the same shit. I’ve seen elderly women essentially die of a broken heart as well when they lose their partner. At some point after decades and decades of partnership and losing friends and family (because you’re elderly), the loss of a HV partner really is devastating. Some people really just don’t want to face life ‘alone’ after that long. My step gra…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/11/21 10:34 PM
14	Don't waste your time giving emotional support to a man who hasn't proved he wants something serious with you. I have a note in my phone with random things I jotted down about my girlfriend. Usually related to stuff like “she’s moving soon, and we had this random conversation about x, and this would be a thoughtful moving present that perfectly ties back to this random conversation.” Because I’m ADHD as all get out, and I will forget. Now the catch here is that my girlfriend has absolutely no idea that this note exists. And it’s not even a “facts about my girlfriend list.” It’s more a note of the clever,…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/11/21 06:38 PM
53	Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question?? They could try the tried-and-true strategy of, “Hey, I think this conversation is going well, can I take you out on a date?” Yes, use the word date. There’s no ambiguity there. If they got rid of the “let’s hang out,” there would be a lot fewer cases of she-wanted-friendship and I-wanted-sex. And it stays classy!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/10/21 10:46 PM
12	Don't stay for a guy that claims they don't know what they want Not the original biologist, but a genetics student who wants to be a doc. I’m presuming these kids already exist? I mean, they’d be at a higher risk, but a major genetic variation would be pretty obvious (I.e. trisomy). They’re probably at significantly higher risk of mental health struggles and alcoholism themselves. I do think that’s a battle that nurture can win though. Probably higher risk of ADHD/autism, which again, doesn’t have to be life ending based on extremity (which would likely alre…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/21 02:55 PM
9	Self-Care, decoupled from consumerism, as a strategy: discussion I also have ADHD and I think admiral particularly hit the nail on the head for me. I sit down with myself and really analyze what I want, separate from what society says is self care. I just impulse splurged on a fancy new leash for my dog and that scratched my self care itch better than any face mask or new shirt. I try to make a list of clothing items I might need, and the types of items I love when it comes to clothes. I live for sweater season and love my heavy sweaters. So they’re always on…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 06:29 PM
21	Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”? What they don’t understand is that women are also peer pressured into not being emotional. Sure, I can concede that it’s more socially acceptable for women to express ‘softer’ emotions, but even that has its limits. Women experience extreme peer pressure to never express (even justified) anger or irritation. The emotions that have us standing up for ourselves. In other spheres they talk about the manipulative “white woman’s tears”, but there’s an aspect of that thats so deeply tied to forcing an…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/21 05:58 PM
58	Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character? Phyllis from The Office. She’s played off as a joke in the office, but it’s clear from the glimpses we get of her personal life that she’s with a HV man who adores her and they are very happy. She has hobbies (she hand knits her Secret Santa gift). It’s clear the office is just a job, but her and Bob Vance are a very happy and adoring couple and clearly fulfilled.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/21 03:19 PM
40	Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character? I think most of the modern princesses do a pretty good job. Except Anna, but really she behaves in the way she does to give Elsa the lines she’s got. And eventually she does end up with the HV man and takes things slow. Her growth serves to teach kids a valuable lesson. Merida is all about how she doesn’t need a man and earning her right to be independent, while also being about the strength of love between mother and daughter specifically. Moana like another poster said. Rapunzel ends up with a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/21 03:17 PM
19	No words. Rest in beautiful peace, Agnes As I learned through much therapy: “Just because we understand how someone’s trauma led them to take the actions they did, it doesn’t excuse them treating us poorly.” This was because I would excuse my abusive ex’s actions because I understood how their trauma led them to be that person. But this can be generalized to the population in general. We all have our shit. You can’t put that shit on every person who crosses your path. You’re welcome to hold rage and anger towards the person who traumat…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/21 02:49 PM
1	This is so sad and scary. We are not safe anywhere. Not even our own homes 😔. None of my apartments have ever had a key locking mechanism from the inside. Generally a deadbolt set up. I think technically requiring a key to lock/unlock from the inside would be against fire code (if the key isn’t stored in the lock and a fire occurs, that’s a massive hinderance to evacuation).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/10/21 07:37 PM
7	we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡 See, I’m the opposite. I also work 3 overnights a week, so my evenings are my personal prime time. I favor coffee/café dates as a first date. My dates (women) almost universally pay without hesitation. But I also do a true breakfast café, not just coffee. Actually headed to relationship territory with a person I met on Hinge and this was our exact first date. And I think we’re both clearly demonstrating “if they wanted to they would.” Coffee just a great way for me to screen for “do I want to gi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/09/21 03:28 PM
8	🙄🙄 let’s idolize a couple that’s clearly miserable!!! I feel like most homosexual inclusive polyamorous/open relationships that I see are a bisexual individual who is in a committed long term relationship with a member of the opposite sex, and sees a same sex partner on the side. There are some exceptions to this, but this does seem to be the unfortunate standard.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/21 07:05 PM
81	Men are becoming aware of women's anti pornography stances and are using it to manipulate women. As a lesbian, I’ll have men try to pull me into this and I call them out every time. Usually they get super flustered and immediately put it away. I dumped a girl on an otherwise successful date because she didn’t call out a friend for this and then later tried to claim they just bro talked. I did call him out and told her how how inappropriate and disgusting it was.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/09/21 09:31 PM
32	Lessons from LV relationship Part 1: I learned why you should never tell a man about your trauma the hard way. Don't be me. I have an extremely abusive, narcissistic ex, and I remember having a conversation about them with someone where I said, “I’m finally in a place where I can recognize the trauma that leads someone to certain behaviors and trauma cycles, but also recognize that that doesn’t mean it’s okay for them to treat me badly or warrant me being a part of that cycle.” To which they replied, “what trauma did your ex have that impacted them?” And my final response was, “Their trauma is theirs to process and h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/09/21 03:06 AM
3	What's with the older men who are still raising adult babies? Parenting is a balancing act and way too many parents forget that you’re raising a future adult, not just a child. Even if you’re not abusive and emotionally available to your children, you’ve still failed if they don’t have the life skills to function as an adult by the time they’re 21 (I don’t really consider the first few years of college functioning as an adult, so we’ll give these kids a grace period). I had a boss who would leave work to go fill his 18 year old daughter’s gas tank because …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 01:05 AM
3	When your period pains slowly get worse and start happening outside your period, and people tell you it's all in your head... Not only the other suggestions, she really should be on spironolactone, not just birth control. Spiro is a diuretic and anti-androgen. It will target the testosterone and not just flood her system with estrogen/progesterone. It sounds like a pretty common case of polycystic ovarian syndrome. Elevated androgen levels, numerous cysts. If I had to guess, she’s had some weight gain, or has stubborn weight she can’t shake, especially around the midsection, acne issues, and unwanted dark hair, likely …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/09/21 12:56 AM
3	Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄 The partner who is bad with money always plays that it is the other party who is bad with money. My ex is doing everything she can to get out of paying the divorce settlement (well that, plus she simply can’t), and I cannot tell you how satisfying it was to be able to tell my lawyer “I don’t need that money, but I’m entitled to it and I will fight for it simply for the principle of the matter.” My ex loves to tell me how entitled I am. She’s right. I am entitled. This money was legally endowed t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/09/21 08:35 PM
6	Two shy introverts go on a date… Same here. I know FDS frowns upon activity dates as first dates, or involving alcohol, but I’m an introvert with pretty bad ADHD. Sitting dinner dates with other introverts just does not work for me. There are some axe throwing bars near me, or pool (even though I’m terrible). But the longer a dinner date with a stranger goes, the more awkward I get and the harder of a time I have making good eye contact. I know I’m not my best self. But I’m also a lesbian, so there’s less ‘danger’ to a first da…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/09/21 04:29 PM
61	For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racism I’m a lesbian, and this is essentially the reason I won’t date women who haven’t publicly dated women before. I’m sorry, but I can’t be the one your family scapegoats and blames forever. I don’t want to ever represent someone’s entire future as a queer woman again. It’s not my responsibility to change your family’s way of thinking. Even if they’re not racist/homophobic/whatever the case may be, life will be miserable if their family is and is an active part of their life.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/09/21 02:10 AM
19	20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮 Your assessment is fair for those particular games for sure. But that’s far from typical of all games, and I think especially for people who enjoy fantasy & sci-fi genres and such, the video game industry actually has a lot to offer where television fails us. There are some incredibly solid plots out there, even if they aren’t technically going to help us level up.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/09/21 08:41 PM
42	20 Things to Think About When Dating a Man Who Games 🎮 This is entirely dependent on the game being played, just as TV is dependent on the show being watched. I’ve learned things from games. Some games are grand strategy and require one to think in new ways and exercise the brain. Some games are creative outlets. Others integrate scientific concepts and let you explore such concepts in an alternate reality. Some games have social interactions where you have to evaluate your relationship with another character and how they interact with the world if …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/09/21 08:00 PM
27	True Crime Discussion It’s Crime Junkie. Some of their earlier episodes do focus on the killer more, but as they found their desired voice, it’s more victim based. It first gets said in Episode 14, which is one of the killer focused ones and actually was originally said about a gay man (which I did not remember). But from that point on, it gets brought up a lot. There’s an episode called BWBRSA: Operation Fireball that’s a good listen for anyone dating. And there’s a follow up episode too. The same producers released…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/09/21 04:21 PM
77	True Crime Discussion It is definitely validating for me. I steer towards the podcasts that tell the victims story. Nothing that glorifies a serial killer or mass murderer. I like that a podcast is giving a voice to someone we’ve lost, and generally they give you backstory on who this person was. They’re not just another body in a morgue, they’re 21 year old college student X who spent her weekends volunteering with special needs children and was studying to become a teacher. They were loved. Also, at least one of th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/09/21 03:08 PM
12	He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡 I’m with you on this one. Yes, if you think a significant other is cheating or you have cause to be suspicious, sure. I don’t necessarily think phones are this absolutely private entity that people think they are. But I also had an abusive ex who would steal my phone and search through it to thought police me (I.e. I was having a texting convo with a friend and mentioned that her daughter was emotionally immature and volatile and I was worried about the future possibility of bringing a baby into…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/21 05:16 PM
29	I Avoid Men Raised by Single Mothers This post is also getting dangerously close to the idea that any and all non traditional families are bad. The reality is that single mothers and LGBT families might need to provide their children with strong opposite sex role models to help teach them the lessons that our lived experiences don’t provide, but a non traditional family dynamic doesn’t inherently mean bad things in and of itself. It’s fine if this is a personal rule, but the reality is more nuanced than a hard take. Like you said: …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 04:57 PM
33	New moms get less sleep and it's linked to aging... what do you think? They only studied women, but where are the dads helping out? My coworker’s husband was going to take 3 weeks off (we don’t have good paternity leave here) when their baby was born, and she asked him not to because our other coworkers told her that he would just be in the way/useless any way. Could you imagine having a husband who wants to help out and be an active care role for his child, and denying him (and yourself) that because other women chose to reproduce with trash men? Ps. He was so helpful that she quickly changed her tune and he stayed home for…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 03:40 PM
41	This is what LVM do to women…they break and push them to the point of suicide. Can we help this woman? I never actually tried, I walked away instead, but I had a plan and the desire in a similar situation. It’s so hard to walk away, and walking away put me in probably 15k worth of debt (and I was fortunate that my parents helped me and I was able to live with them for two years while I completed a career program that would allow me to move up in the world and live independently, paying off debts, while going back to school or that number would be wayyyy higher). Not everyone has that support netw…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/08/21 12:14 PM
4	AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next day In my experience, as soon as a partner hits his level of degrading and pulling out the “you’re a child” insult, the only option is to walk away. Throw the whole relationship out. And then take the time to be totally alone and really learn for yourself what your failings are. Figure out how to overcome those. Find your solutions. I have ADHD and can be spacey as fuck, but I will never ever tolerate a heavy handed partner talking down to me again. I am not a child or a worthless human. I have live…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/08/21 01:59 PM
5	AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next day Yeah, this hurt the ADHDer who works full time and is back in school for me too. So many traumatic memories. The time I hit popcorn on the microwave, but it was really a pop tart. Losing stuff. The whole “time isn’t real” stuff. I can just feel her humiliation and deep sense of shame and failure. We know when we mess up, and this degree of reaction is devastating. But also I hope OP’s girlfriend figures out quick that she should never lay down or cook without phone timers. I’ve saved my ass so m…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/08/21 01:47 PM
34	Normalize breaking up because you’re unsatisfied; you don’t have to wait until everything’s burning Ugh, I’m in this situation now and it’s trash. Attractive, HV (so far), same long term goals in life as far as family and such, etc, and I’m just… meh towards it all. What’s holding me back is that I worry that I’m not actually that meh towards this person, it’s just that I’m still pretty new to the FDS lifestyle, and this is the first really consistent, HV person. Am I actually meh, or is it the lack of the breadcrumb high making me feel like it’s missing something?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/07/21 02:10 AM
176	Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of it To quote my brother in law: “I watched my wife carry and deliver three babies for me (vaginally). The least I can do is get a vasectomy.” This was after a friend asked him how he could even consider getting it done. He went on to add that even if he was one of the rare cases with major complications, it would still be nothing compared to what my sister went through. This should be the attitude all men take. Vasectomies don’t even take their testicles away, so it’s not like they’re losing any per…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 05:26 PM
142	Men on Reddit are Porn Sick Men: endlessly mock large labia and ‘loose vaginas’ Also men: look at how wide and gaping you are babe. Why does that offend you??? It’s a compliment!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/07/21 02:20 AM
5	To the women here who are childfree: how do you define “childfree”? I was going to reply to say this same thing. Language and labels mean nothing any more. As a lesbian, I personally experience this a lot, because many bisexual women use this label, but still chose to sleep with men, which dilutes the meaning. Labels have purposes, and just because you like the word doesn’t mean it’s free for you to use. Some words have meaning. Some gates are meant to be kept. And I’m sure that makes me ___phobic to plenty of people, but I shouldn’t have to explain that no, I’m…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 03:14 PM
8	In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮 I agree about the doctor example! It was more just an example in general that healthcare can be a surprisingly flexible field. I’m a rad tech while I finish undergrad and apply to med school, and the travel work is the same. 2 years of experience and then a reputable agency will take you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/07/21 12:24 AM
22	In this thread: Hundreds of LVM and Pickmeishas squealing to the high heavens that an elite 23 y/o woman at a top tier university will NEVER find a high paying, traveling job post graduation, and should shut up and be a compliant wife and mother to boring old scrote who trapped her in her youth. 🥴🤮 She wouldn’t even necessarily have to get a traveling position (I’m assuming that’s what you meant with the “after 2 years experience”), although that does make it even easier. Take a traveling contract for three months or whatever, save aggressively, then travel. Pick up another traveling gig when you need money again. One of our local docs pretty much takes 3 months off every year. She goes to Europe for 30-90 days and does whatever the hell she wants. She puts in some extra hours the month be…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/07/21 10:28 PM
7	Reminder: this is the bare minimum. I prefer to vacuum more often, but I have a medium sized long haired dog + two cats and I hate my space smelling like pets.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/07/21 06:01 PM
10	Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨ Anybody who makes us feel like death is the only option out and the absence of everything is a better option than endless unhappiness and suffering does not deserve our love. I’m sorry you’ve been there as well. No matter how much they beg us to stay or promise us they can change, we shouldn’t have to go nuclear to make a person who claims to love us finally claim to hear our suffering. If I have to issue an ultimatum or leave, it’s not sustainable and I’m out. I don’t do ultimatums anymore. Not…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/07/21 12:48 PM
9	Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨ I’ve done a lot of therapy since then to try to rewire some of those pathways, and I still have some low points, but I can always hold on to the fact that I know I’m a strong person who can get through the darkest points. I left and that was that. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/07/21 12:44 PM
17	Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨ I really want to see the statistics on how many women diagnosed or accused of borderline personality disorder are in a relationship with an undiagnosed bi polar (or untreated/unmedicated). Or narcissist. My ex’s favorite line to throw at me was that I had borderline personality disorder and it’s like NO. You are my only unstable relationship. You are the only person who can rapidly cycle from loved to hated and it’s because you cycle so extremely in your behaviors.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/07/21 05:17 PM
126	Gets particularly spicy when you have screenshots or other material to prove what he did✨ I journaled when it got really bad, so when I left and my ex really pulled out all the stops on the gaslighting bullshit, I had a direct record of my thoughts at the exact time frame they were happening. Quotes were noted and the response the elicited were recorded. Suddenly my ex’s, “That never happened, time has just warped your memory. You’re making things up.” etc, was insignificant. I have a dated journal entry from 8-5-17 referencing the fact that I was crying on the floor because you coer…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/07/21 05:09 PM
11	Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about dating Second wave feminism (the 1960’s) definitely helped women. It was second wave feminists who strived to make marital rape illegal. They created rape crisis centers and women’s shelters. They pioneered changes in family law. They also concerned themselves with workplace inequality and pay disparity and advocated for female only communities. The 1980’s was when feminism split off into two groups: the original second wavers who are mostly seen as radical feminists today, and the third wave feminists…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/06/21 07:02 PM
4	Pinky Strikes Again - if women came with instructions... It’s legos for adults! I love it so much. To be honest, I could just keep buying new pieces of flat packed furniture because I enjoy assembling it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/06/21 02:20 PM
25	3 ridiculous things guys I was dating did to make me immediately end things I went on a totally not FDS approved date (I was bored that day and it was something to do), but any way, she had a buddy with her. He showed us a nude the girl he had been seeing had sent him, and she only commented about how that wasn’t appropriate after I called him out on it. I told him, “whoa, that’s not cool and you shouldn’t be sharing pictures that someone sent to you like that with anyone else.” And then she jumped in and was like, “yeah, you probably shouldn’t do that.” Followed up wit…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/06/21 02:16 PM
34	She’s 19 and pregnant by a 28 y/o 🤡 The age gap strikes again! 🤢🤢🤢 I nannied for a woman who delivered her last (9ib unmedicated vaginal birth) at 38, and was bounced back within a month. The female body is meant to do this. Saw her in a bikini 3 months after delivering her third child and she looked amazing. Not that that’s an acceptable way to place value on a woman, but the “older women have a harder time bouncing back from birth” is clearly bs. I would argue it’s far more influenced on how sedentary or active the pregnant mother was before. Not saying you h…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/06/21 04:41 PM
16	If you ever needed another reason to hate Vice - FDS principles apply to WLW dating too; treating women the way men treat us just isn’t it. I had a friend of a friend ask me the other week if I had “analyzed why I couldn’t do hook up culture and why non-monogamy and one night stands hurt me emotionally.” Excuse me? I did a double take and just bluntly said, “Emotionally I am not wired that way, and we’re not having this conversation. I am not broken and I have nothing to ‘analyze’ about my emotional health.” As a lesbian, I’ve done a lot of first date sex in my life (unfortunately). But I realized a year ago that it was hurting me a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/06/21 04:27 PM
20	I have a temporary order hearing today! Those people are nasty. Because when I left my abusive situation, I struggled every day with feeling like my trauma and perception of my previous years were all false. Maybe I was severely mentally ill and she was right and she’d never done anything wrong at all. Just because I think it’s wrong to shove someone across the house and use your body to corner them while you scream at them, maybe my memory was warped, and maybe that’s an unreasonable thing to expect not to happen. A person messaging …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/06/21 08:46 PM
13	Think twice before entertaining a dusty. Marrying down can cost you 25k a year Haven’t you heard? That’s because the modern school system is designed to cater only to girls /s. This particular talking point of the Manosphere drives me batshit. I had undiagnosed ADHD all through school, and the only thing that got me through was the fact that I was smart. The modern school system (in the US) isn’t designed to cater to anyone’s development. It’s designed to babysit kids and let mom and dad work a full day. At least at my school, boys were still treated like the sun shone out…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/06/21 05:14 PM
15	bad trip We’ve basically tried that, but Reddit bans it for being a hate sub. Maybe FDS would allow the occasional LB strategy or story post? We could always connect on those posts.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/06/21 11:53 AM
2	Low value men act indignant when we want a guy who is both attractive and kind to us, because they think that attractive men are entitled to treat women poorly and get away with it. I’m not saying anyone has to open themselves to anything they’re sexually uncomfortable with. In fact, that’s something I’m pretty passionately against and vocal about. I really don’t think it matters why you don’t want to have sex with someone, if you don’t, you don’t and that’s your right. As a lesbian, I’ve more than faced my share of that brand of homophobia. I’m just stating that bisexual men lose a lot of potential partners by embracing their same sex attraction, which leads to far more of…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 12:12 AM
8	FDS Translates VICE - "Adult" Men with their Mattresses on the Floor … I studied bed frames in the style I liked, and then bought lumber and built a real wood frame with the look I liked. By hand, from scratch. Using my own plan that I drew up, drawing elements from the mid century modern meets Scandinavian modern style I like. It takes emotional fortitude to put together a flat packed bed frame from IKEA? I don’t know, I get that I love building things and actually find that crap fun, but I cannot fathom people who think it takes emotional fortitude. The only th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/06/21 07:29 PM
6	Low value men act indignant when we want a guy who is both attractive and kind to us, because they think that attractive men are entitled to treat women poorly and get away with it. Men generally face a lot more intense biphobia than women, I think. Yes, there are lesbians who won’t date bi women. I actually think the term biphobia is actually really fitting, because this does generally stem from a place of fear. Is she really into women as much as she is men? Is she going to feel like she’s missing something? Is she actually out already? Is she willing to face the societal judgment of a same sex relationship when an opposite sex relationship has the same potential for sati…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/06/21 03:56 PM
2	I have no words My mom fought one battle ever for my brother. He punched a bully in the face, breaking his nose and was suspended from school and prom. But the bully was prom king, so even though he had instigated the fight, and my brother had been outnumbered 5:1 (there was an entire class of witnesses supporting my brother’s side, plus a teacher), the school took no action against him. My mom went in and raised hell, and the school lifted the punishment against my brother. Our neighbor once came over to fight…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/06/21 03:36 PM
2	My perspective on FDS as a lesbian and former sex worker When I forced myself to have sex with a man in an attempt to force bisexuality back in the day, I told my roommate/best friend: “mechanically it works, I guess, but there was nothing more and I just feel kind of gross now.” That kind of summarizes it to me. I’m glad my first sexual experiences were with women and I was already out. Otherwise I very well might I have just done the whole “meh, women aren’t supposed to like sex like men do anyway, right?” Instead of forcing the coming out trauma wi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/06/21 10:31 PM
96	"bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they said I walked around on a broken ankle for 3 days, because yeah, it hurt (and I knew I broke it), but it only became unbearable after 5+ hours on my feet without sitting. I biked every day throughout my recovery (including an hour after I broke it). Hiked 22 miles in 2 days exactly 3 months after the break. It’s amazing the 85 year old women who will come into the emergency room with broken hips and not even flinch when you have to move them. It makes sense. Many aspects of pregnancy and childbirth i…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/05/21 01:20 AM
9	How can I figure out what I'm truly physically attracted to, since we've all been coerced into having no standards? I’m not straight, but I think I can maybe be of all the more use for it. Realizing I was into women was a slow process, and I was so blind to it (thanks rural, religious upbringing), that I was actually deeply attracted to a specific woman before I realized I was attracted only to women. For me, identifying what are attractive features to me based on photos and separate from reality alone was never going to happen. I totally get the “I don’t know what’s attractive to me” feelings. I lived it for…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/05/21 12:37 AM
4	Don’t change your last name for a man I would assume it’ll go the way of Mexico name tradition (I only know for sure this is the system in this particular Hispanic culture), but the parents each pass down one half of the hyphenated name, and those two halves are hyphenated. But this system is still patriarchal, because they generally do First Maternal Paternal, and it’s the paternal surname that gets passed to the next generation	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 09:16 PM
9	Being a single mom You know, I have my own complaints about my childhood, but I give my mom major props, because she has always made it clear that had my dad been even a bit like his brothers, she would’ve never had more kids with him. It was always abundantly clear that the number of children was my mom’s choice and under her control, and had my dad ever once ignored a diaper without jumping to change it himself, without prodding, that would’ve been it. No more babies. I’ll always respect that, because we knew, e…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/05/21 08:58 PM
1	Profile of a Pickme- Behaviors on the First Several Dates I’m gay so the dynamics are a bit different, but I generally always do the driving due to the fact that my area has nothing to offer for dates/is far more conservative and homophobic. The flip side is that I can’t remember the last time I paid for a first date. So I’d say the driving to them is also dependent on what the possible Pickme’s area has to offer. I wouldn’t consider it Pickme behavior in my situation, and I’ve definitely had women drive to me when I lived in a more pleasant area. But …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/05/21 06:04 PM
11	It’s 11:50pm, I’m trying to sleep but can hear my neighbor sobbing and her lvm partner probably gaslighting her Sometimes it can help still. I once called on my upstairs neighbors way back in the day. I had heard one thud that sounded like someone was thrown into something, but it was only once and I wasn’t really all that convinced that physical violence had happened. When the police did arrive, apparently they decided there had been no physical violence. However they did take the young woman home to her apartment, and whatever conversation the female officer had with her in that car worked, because she …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/05/21 12:51 PM
18	Why it’s okay to make small dick jokes 🍤 🤏🏻 Also as a TMI thing, there’s less “slippage” with extremely small inner labia. The loose skin of the labia reduces friction and spreads lubrication easier. As a lesbian, I like this. It makes things tend to feel wetter and more comfortable. But if you’re a dude obsessed with “tightness” (aka you like your partner to be dry and minimally aroused) because your dick is numb from you cranking it 8 times a day, you’re not going to like this at all.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/05/21 04:44 PM
81	Why it’s okay to make small dick jokes 🍤 🤏🏻 I don’t really watch porn, so I guess I can’t say with 100% certainty that I actually know what a roast beef vagina actually looks like, but I personally have larger inner labia. And as a lesbian, if there’s an aesthetic I prefer, I generally would prefer my partner has distinct labia. Utter disdain for inner labia means that that man wants to fuck a child. If he only wants a shaved pubic area with no visible inner labia, he’s fantasizing about fucking a child.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/05/21 12:40 PM
17	"Cishet" women are still oppressed. We are still women living under a patriarchal system. As lesbians, we have it hard in a totally different way.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/05/21 11:35 AM
10	The truth about all your guy friends. My only complaint about this post is that you’re vastly underestimating the number of men who will still orbit an attractive lesbian, hoping that someday they’ll be her exception.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/05/21 04:27 PM
6	“He has Bi Wife Energy” Just had a “bi wife energy” dude totally ruin a potential romantic thing by being an audacious, nosy scrote who tried to cause all sorts of issues. Mind you, he knows neither one of us. Jokes on him, we’re shaping up to be rad friends, and the vibe is solid, so I’m pretty happy with that. And because I’m not a gross asshole, I can actually set aside my “I am attracted to this woman” and focus on the fact that I adore our friend vibe. Cheers to new friends and the audacity of straight men (with b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 01:00 AM
2	P*rn Use Is So Similar To Alcohol Use/Alcohol Abuse Yes! It’s the touch starvation for me. And I do not like the super public relationships. But it makes me miss all the pleasant parts of having a partner, and it really glorifies the rushing aspect of woman + woman relationships. I’m okay with meeting someone, but I don’t want to force things, and I’m ready for someone who is on a similar page to me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/21 09:11 PM
5	P*rn Use Is So Similar To Alcohol Use/Alcohol Abuse It’s not even porn, but this is why I (as a lesbian) quit using tiktok. The culture of lesbian tiktok was making me feel incredibly lonely and I realized that at this point in my life, that loneliness was the only reason I felt like I was missing something. When I deleted the app and focused on me again, things got much better.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/05/21 05:04 PM
1	No HVW wants to be talked to like a porn star. The scrotes are realizing they’re c*ckblocking themselves! 💀 My rule is specific compliments. I once asked a girl “what exactly makes me wonderful?” (Because she’d just tell me I was wonderful excessively and nothing else). And she kind of just panicked on the spot and didn’t have an answer. Eventually she choked out the she liked that we wanted similar things in life. Great, but that doesn’t make me “wonderful.” Whereas the HVW I dated (and would totally reconnect with, should the stars align again someday) would, instead of an empty compliment, say, “I’…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 02:02 PM
6	Men are the reason the True Crime genre exists. My favorite true crime podcast has the motto, “Be weird. Be rude. Stay alive.” And I kind of like that. The girls running it specifically call out the fact that women are typically victimized and that their socialization often makes it so hard for them to protect themselves in dangerous situations. And they’ll tell their listeners, “No. if a sleazy dude is doing these things, be fucking rude. If he’s following you and you’re in a public place, make a scene. Trust your gut and be the weirdo who a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/05/21 03:16 AM
28	To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣 Hey, I’m a lesbian. Sex in general is easy to get if you’re a half decent human who invests in even a little self care and personal grooming. But I think that makes it worse for them? My dating pool is tiny as shit and I don’t have a personal rotation of bootycalls, but hey, even so I can still pretty well get laid within a few days if I want to. Don’t be an asshole and treat everyone shitty, make sure you’re vaguely presentable, and you would be astonished at the prospects. Turns out that women…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 02:50 AM
33	To those who refer to FDS members as “femcels/female incels”... 🤣 A poster on AgainstHateSubreddits made a comment to the effect of: “FDS users can’t talk shit about incels. They need to look up the definition and see that they are the incels.” And I just laughed. Like have we really come so far from what incels means??? Involuntary celibate. My celibacy (when it happens), is entirely voluntary.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/05/21 02:08 AM
7	Is anyone really surprised about this? He was a minor and “very, very sorry” and the family was buddy buddy with the cop who was supposed to investigate. He “got counseling” (aka talked to a church leader), and that was that. According to a higher comment, that cop is now in jail for child pornography. So yeah. Hard to go to jail when the people who should be holding you accountable agree with you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/05/21 06:41 PM
78	Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!! I’m a mid/late 20’s woman handling a full time job + prn hours at another job when I can grab them, + full time schooling (upper level hard sciences). Fuck this dude.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/04/21 07:55 PM
8	Tell me about the time you were the “dream girl” Frankly, being somebody’s dream girl is just a situation ripe for abuse and control. I am a lesbian, but I was the dream girl for two of my exes. I am attractive in the traditional manner that society defines. A symmetrical face with traditionally feminine/delicate features. I have dark, dark hair, and very light eyes. I’m ambitious and at least academically intelligent (okay end of my brags). Both were incredibly transparent about how I am exactly what they wanted. The first woman was really a …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/04/21 01:28 PM
24	Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape Porn I was banned wayyyy back in the day for saying that I view a dick like a really unattractive nose. I’m sure that nose is exactly someone else’s cup of tea, and I’ll even play along and say that the dick isn’t related to gender. I still don’t want to touch, see, or have anything to do with that dick. They groom young lesbians and play upon feeling of shame and exclusion to make them feel like bad people for not forcing attraction to people they’re not attracted to. It’s just rape culture dressed …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/21 01:51 PM
9	Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape Porn Heck, a certain website that is easily found had all of this documented with archived material since way back when this person first even attempted politics. It’s not like it was a boiling rumor mill. They had the “receipts”. I google people before I even go on a date with them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/21 01:45 PM
37	Reddit's Trying Really Hard Right Now to Pretend They Didn't Knowingly Hire A Known Pedophile Apologist and Use Them to Destroy Those Pesky Feminist Subreddits Who've Been IDing all the Rape Porn There is no place on Reddit to be a lesbian and talk about lesbian things thanks to that boyfriend. They were so upset that those subs existed, they got them all shut down. This is totally female behavior and socialization at work here.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/03/21 01:43 PM
3	It do be that way sometimes. It's such a weight off my back to NOT have to pay for a LVM's groceries, rent, or toys. I had a paint gelding as a teen, and ended up loathing the down and behind energy. He had plenty of issues, but he was so anti forward, his natural instinct was to rear. I will happily take all the buckers, but I don’t do rearing. I had an amazing Sunfrost bred colt that I raised who would’ve given me the world if I asked for it. So there are good ones out there. But never again will I own a horse so lazy that it would rather go up than give me some gas. But if I could go buy myself my dream hor…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/21 02:39 AM
5	Gentle reminder: Please go get that Pap smear you’ve been putting off. And a full std test while you’re at it In the US, many community health/outreach health centers offer free STI panels. It takes research, but they do exist. I believe planned parenthoods are also free/low cost.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/21 01:45 AM
3	It do be that way sometimes. It's such a weight off my back to NOT have to pay for a LVM's groceries, rent, or toys. I think it helps that he was really only a polo pony for a couple years and then had a whole year off to just be a horse before he was put to work. Jumping certainly took a lot of work, but it helps that he’s naturally very curious and forward. If he’d naturally been one to slow down or lag, it would’ve been more difficult. His energy is virtually always an up and out vs down and behind. Half of our ride is me reminding him that his focus is supposed to be on me, not everything up ahead. Big dif…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/21 01:34 AM
5	It do be that way sometimes. It's such a weight off my back to NOT have to pay for a LVM's groceries, rent, or toys. Haha he’s a coming 9 year bay thoroughbred who was specifically bred for polo and competed for 2 years. He’s my goofy baby and we have a great time. But training him to go slow and collect and use various leg cues has been a very long process. Leg means “go!” to him. But he’s brilliantly smart and also hilariously inconsistent. I can swing absolutely anything I want around him or anything can pass between his legs and he’s so incredibly chill. But traffic? He broke my ankle the first time a dumb…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/21 01:25 AM
13	Being a predator is relatable! I was legitimately uncool in high school. I read books and growing up as other in a very rural area, I’d say I had like 1, maybe 2 friends and we didn’t even attempt to maintain the friendship when we went off to our separate schools. I was bullied. I was depressed and sad and honestly begged to be sent to boarding school. I date women my own age or older (3 or less years older since my NVEx). I’m actually distinctly weirded out by dating women even a year younger than me. I just go ahead and ha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/03/21 01:00 AM
6	It do be that way sometimes. It's such a weight off my back to NOT have to pay for a LVM's groceries, rent, or toys. As a person with a former polo pony who I am training to be an eventer: I could never. Give me the crazy jumps, but I’ll hold off on the polo shenanigans. This is absolutely not valuable as FDS material, but I have polo ptsd at this point.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 11:36 PM
72	FDS Newbie here. Wanted to share this. My ex used to respond like this to the point where I ended up crying while he tried to debate with me. Men are murdered by strangers or assaulted more often, because when an asshole with a gun (or just an asshole) postures aggressively at a woman, more often than not she backs down or retreats or just does what is necessary to de-escalate shit. When the same happens to a dude, he says, “what’re you gonna do? Shoot me?” Like women aren’t responsible for men shooting men, because men are machismo idiots who taunt the man with a weapon.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 08:58 PM
3	Getting messaged by scrote lurkers? Gosh, you clearly haven’t kept up with the data. More queer women face domestic abuse and rape than any other group. You know, based on that one study that was never reproduced, that found bisexual and homosexual women faced higher rates of abuse. But also when you look at the one study, it specifically finds that most of this abuse was from men. Turns out men really like to correctively rape LGBT women. Also many LGBT women have better boundaries about what they consider abuse. So they self rep…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 08:46 PM
26	Today I removed a troll post designed to paint FDS as Anti-gay & called AHS out in the comments. Oddly, one of the AHS mods suddenly banned me from their profile. I have NEVER contacted this mod personally. Wonder how this mod 1) knew about this REMOVED post & 2) figured I was talking about them? 🤔 Also a gay woman who feels the same. FDS helped teach me how to set my boundaries and enforce them in ways therapy after leaving an abusive NVW never did. They certainly don’t make me feel unwelcome.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/03/21 12:19 PM
30	my ex has developed a new way to torment me, and it’s really effective I hope this is one of my posts that gets approved while I’m still waiting for flair (I need to make a dedicated FDS account as well), but I agree with this 100%. There are absolutely ways to bring this up in family court to structure it. Don’t make it about eliminating his ability to call, but just talk about how it’s damaging their sleep and causing distress & FOMO about what’s happening at one parent’s house while at the other. Parading the FaceTime around the house to show the kids everything…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/21 02:28 PM
2	SAFETY TIP: IF A MAN ASKS YOU FOR HELP Except he didn’t even really have that. I seen it reported that he approached many, many women on the beach the day he killed his first (two?) victims. He was less a smooth talker and more preyed upon women who were ingrained not to say no. Most women had red flags waving and refused to help him. He just kept trying. And that was how he got women. His success rate was like 5%, but he just wouldn’t quit and would just move on to the next woman. The fuck up police didn’t catch him, despite the fac…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/03/21 08:34 PM
1	You don’t owe toxic, manipulative, or abusive people closure when you decide to leave or an essay explaining why you left. My policy is this: if it takes me leaving for you to decide to participate or take the steps needed to become the partner I needed (and told you I needed) you to be, that’s it. There are no second chances. I refuse to participate in a relationship where I have to go nuclear every time I want you to do the dishes. First of all, I’m not your mom, it’s not my job to demand you do the bare minimum in your life. Second of all, it’s not sustainable, and it makes my life harder to disentangle my life f…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/03/21 12:06 PM
2	There's been an uptick of women defending SAHM on FDS. This is why we don't do that. Just lurking, but oddly enough as much younger person, this is exactly what I did after my divorce. Now preparing to apply to med school. Rad tech is an amazing career to jumpstart your life in after your ex tries to take everything. My ex took out 20k in personal loans to “pay her lawyer” and drained her retirement; and then tried to make me responsible for it all. Judge had none of it. Like you, I’ll never see the money she has been ordered to pay. (Just editing to add that I am a lesbian, inc…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/21 07:44 PM