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I'm your ice cream man, stop me when I'm passing by. See now, all my flavors are guaranteed to satisfy!
/r/seduction18/09/18 07:04 PM
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Set your boundaries with her, make it clear what you expect from her when other women are around. If she truly wants to be your friend, she should happily comply with something that will help you be successful. She might be wanting to keep you around as an orbiter, so if she gets mad or refuses to do what you've asked of her, it's probably better to break off communication at least for awhile because she's just using you for validation while not giving anything in return.
/r/seduction18/08/18 09:13 PM
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Huh, maybe I am a natural after all
/r/seduction12/08/18 01:05 AM
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The look of pure disgust is what hurts me. When they look at me like they would rather lick the dirt off a hobo's armpit than even be in my presence for 1 more second. Like how dare the likes of me speak to her, unprovoked? Then I just remember that disgust is a reflection of her, not me and I pity her. She's probably the type wondering where all the good men are. She's going to end up pregnant by some loser and married to a pathetic provider, living a miserable life... I remind myself that I do…
/r/seduction07/08/18 01:28 PM
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Thank goodness he didn't sleep with her! The situation is shitty but it will blow over eventually, unlike having a baby situation with a crazy situation!
/r/TheRedPill25/07/18 03:04 PM
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You have to decide if the chance of dating her is worth losing her as a friend because that is almost certainly what will happen. Either she likes you and you start dating (no longer friends) or she doesn't like you and is weirded out that you spent all this time together without being honest with her and the friendship is gone. If she's a great friend, accept the reality of the friendship and let go of those romantic feelings. Main lesson here, though, is to be honest from the beginning. Let he…
/r/seduction11/07/18 02:56 PM
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Agreed that it's much better to not objectify people before you even speak to them - especially in a work situation like your example, which is obviously inappropriate and unprofessional. I was envisioning a more flirty environment like a bar or a club and a positive/neutral response to getting checked out from the girl. In that scenario, I think my response is appropriate. If you're already caught, I don't see the value in playing it off or essentially lying about it. If you're going to blatant…
/r/seduction04/07/18 12:23 AM
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Never apologize and never verbalize negative emotions. Emotions are subjective, let her decide what she feels instead of suggesting she should feel negatively. I would probably be like, "You've got something right there..." As if she sat in something and when she asks what it is, say "a sweet ass". Might work, might not - I'm sure some girls would call me a pig for saying that, other girls would laugh about it. I don't mind offending the ones who don't like it because I'm looking for the ones wh…
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:38 AM
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Seriously, getting started at 17 is fantastic, but you mustn't give up. I didn't start until I was 30, you've got a 13-year head start on me! It takes 10,000 hours of practice to become a master at something, how many hours have you practiced seduction? You still have a long ways to go, but it's going to be worth it. Give yourself some credit, keep pushing your limits and keep taking action.
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:33 AM
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First of all, awesome job! You just did something 90% of guys would never dream of doing. Seriously, give yourself tons of credit even though you feel like it was awkward. If you stick at it, you will have many more awkward interactions. By sticking to it through the awkward interactions, you're learning valuable skills and giving yourself the opportunity for amazing interactions! Honestly, don't even worry what to say, it will come with practice. Do you have to think of things to say with your …
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:19 AM
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Take an improv class, they will teach you many exercises to think on your feet and stay out of your head
/r/seduction02/07/18 02:15 AM
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Talk to more women. Like a lot more. That's literally the only way to get better.
/r/seduction01/07/18 02:40 PM
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Agreed you should do what you want. I also don't think it's generally a problem hitting on people at work. A couple days ago, I waited for 20+ minutes at a rental car place, it was ridiculously hot in there - no joke over 90 degrees - and I was in a bad mood by the time it was my turn. I thought the girl serving me was cute though, so I joked I don't know how she works in this sauna, it's like a spa except you're probably not allowed to be naked, she laughed and said the AC is broken. She commen…
/r/seduction01/07/18 01:52 PM
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All you have to do is walk up with confidence, be super comfortable and take the focus from whatever else is happening - if not of the whole group, of at least a couple girls at a time. Better to be warmed up by the time you do this so you're at a higher energy than they are, but not entirely necessary. You should be prepared for shit tests, but pass one or two and you're in. My main rule is "don't think, don't try" - thinking will psych you out; trying takes energy and sets a bad frame. They sh…
/r/seduction14/06/18 07:33 AM
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As soon as you ask if you did it right, you're judging yourself. You took action, took a risk and pushed past your comfort zone. You're a fucking badass.
/r/seduction08/06/18 05:44 AM
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Thanks for the list by the way, I've been writing up affirmations like that too, so I will definitely steal some of these lol. I also like the different phrases for different situations, that's very similar to what I've been doing as well as defining like a 3-word mantra for each. For example, my mantra for approaching is "Relaxed, Excited, Fearless". Having a quick mantra like that can keep you focused without being too in your head.
/r/seduction07/06/18 01:49 PM
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I would try to reverse the negative language because your brain can't visualize negative language. For example, if I say, "Don't think of a pink elephant" - what's the first thing your mind visualized? Pink elephant, right? So, when you say, "I won't give away too much information too quickly about myself", what does your mind visualize? Giving away too much information too quickly. Reverse the negative language to say something like, "I will be withholding with my personal information in order …
/r/seduction07/06/18 01:19 PM
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One tip that has really helped me progress with approach anxiety is "Don't try". Instead of trying to think of something to say - making two mistakes, trying and thinking - just focus on being relaxed. I've been approaching by just walking up and not saying anything, but attempting eye contact and being clear that I'm here to talk to you. Sometimes they'll avoid eye contact and just turn and walk away - cool, they probably wouldn't have talked to me even if I had a funny line to use on them, but…
/r/seduction05/06/18 12:38 PM
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Just remember that most women LOVE men who can do this. You build instant attraction just by having the balls to take a risk like that. If you think about it, it isn't even really that much of a risk - what's the worst that could happen, they ignore you? Oh no, a stranger ignored you, how devestating!! But people saw it! Oh no, strangers you'll never see again are judging you, that's the worst!! Hell, some of them will be admiring your bravery and saying, "I wish I had the balls to do that." Eve…
/r/seduction05/06/18 12:25 PM
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Usually in situations like this, you need to do the counter-intuitive action. He's doing this for your reaction. His frame is that you're the butt of a joke and he's against you. If you buy in to this frame by getting defensive, attacking him back or upset about it, you are reactive to him, he wins and his behavior will continue. Therefore he has forced your hand in selecting a different frame, one where his jokes are the funniest thing you've ever heard and he is the most awesome person in the …
/r/seduction29/05/18 02:42 PM
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It also utilizes the power of suggestion. Do you ever hear a hypnotist ASK a subject of they would like to forget the number 4 or whatever ridiculous thing he's going to have them do? No, because he knows telling them what to do is more suggestive than asking, so they are more likely to follow that suggestion.
/r/seduction24/05/18 01:28 PM
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The inner voice is called your ego. It is a little voice that uses past experiences that allow you to express who "you" are. The thing about past experiences is that they are not indicative of the future. Just because you did something once doesn't mean you would do the exact same thing in the same situation. Therefore, past experiences are nothing. You could die at any moment, so future experiences are also nothing. The only thing that matters is the present moment and if you live in the presen…
/r/seduction21/05/18 03:29 AM
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Start approaching guys you wouldn't normally talk to and be bold by asking them on a date. If you've been on this sub long, you know lots of guys have trouble approaching attractive girls, so you'll meet a wider variety of guys if you do the approaching.
/r/seduction16/05/18 03:04 PM
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One girl this past weekend was giving me shit test after shit test after shit test, I eventually got sick of it and just said, "Ok, see ya!" and started walking away. Now, all of a sudden she wants me to stay and starts touching me and hugging me. Told her to come with me, but she said no, so I just left. Probably could've made something happen if I was a bit more persistent, but I can only play bullshit games for so long.
/r/seduction15/05/18 07:38 AM
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What is the optimum blinking frequency for maximum attraction? I need to know before I can ever try to make eye contact with a girl.
/r/seduction07/05/18 02:40 PM
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Not douchy to only invite one if that's what you want. It's douchy to invite both just to be polite, despite the fact that's not what you want.
/r/seduction06/05/18 06:16 PM
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Texting girls with boring conversations is the fast-lane to the friend zone. Get her to hang out again and otherwise only text her if you have something interesting to say.
/r/seduction05/05/18 04:31 PM
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Ignore her, she's playing with you.
/r/seduction05/05/18 04:27 PM
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Regardless of the reason, if the drink was truly a gift, there can be no expectation or stipulation about how the gift is used, so the gifter has no right to get angry IMO. If I was soliciting the gift in some way, sure, it would be a dick move to throw it away, but if it was unsolicited, I am under no obligation to oblige the expectation of the gifter, even more so if they're a total stranger.
/r/seduction01/05/18 07:25 PM
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Women will say they like it and it's a good way to start a conversation with them, but they're mistaken. Women don't know how to pick up women because they've never done it before, so you have to take their logic-based tips or recommendations with a grain of salt. Being approached at a bar when their guard is up is an emotional situation, so those logical answers go right out the window. If she feels good emotions about the guy, the drink will be accepted and it will come off as a good example o…
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:00 PM
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She'll see you as a high status guy because you go on so many dates, you can't even get the names straight. What could go wrong?
/r/seduction25/04/18 11:13 PM
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If "avoiding rejection" is your reason to not approach, you're doing it wrong. Rejection is your friend - embrace it! She might reject you for some legitimate reason, in which case, she's given you something about yourself to work on. If she rejects you in a really harsh, unwarranted way, she's showing you she's not the kind of girl you want to be with and helping you define what that is. If she doesn't reject you when you thought she would, you just got a bonus interaction you normally would ha…
/r/seduction12/03/18 11:01 PM
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Fuck that terminology. All "alpha" means is that you're a leader with a solid vision of where you're going in life. People want to follow you and want to be around you. You can't just pretend to be a leader, you have to actually go find your vision, start making it happen, communicate it effectively and find people who support that vision and want to help you bring it into reality.
/r/seduction01/03/18 04:37 PM
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Some girls don't like Asian guys, some girls do. Determine this ASAP and move on if there is too much resistance. No point pushing something on someone when they don't want it to begin with. That says nothing about you, by the way, so don't take offense; just move on to someone who is interested. Even if you convince them to go out with you, it's still an uphill battle with higher chance of flaking or a bad date. Fuck that, filter those girls out and move on.
/r/seduction27/02/18 02:13 AM
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The last thing you should be thinking about right now is the next relationship. You need to do some self analysis, find out where you think you should be right now in life, why you aren't there yet and what you can do to start working towards where you want to be. Then, formulate a plan, set goals and put your plan into action.
/r/seduction26/12/17 10:57 PM
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Don't put pressure on yourself because it's just a date. Dates happen all the time every day, it's not important and it's not special. Let loose and be yourself, don't pretend to be someone you're not just to make the other person like you. Make sure you do something you love right before the date so you're in a great mood. Try to be a little social beforehand so you're in a social mood, don't just crawl out of your cave where you've been hiding alone for 3 days straight to your date.
/r/seduction16/12/17 11:43 PM
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If you can hook her friends and get them to love you, they will actively encourage her to go out with you. Absolutely cannot ignore the friends, you have to seduce them just as much as her.
/r/seduction15/12/17 11:25 AM
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Just be sure it's really a gut feeling and not a hopeless desire based on your feelings for her.
/r/seduction09/12/17 12:23 PM
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If you're texting a girl all day, you're on the fast track to the friend zone. Stay a little mysterious, give her a chance to wonder about you. When you do text, it should be something entertaining and not requiring a response from her, so it's low pressure on her. Definitely don't text about boring shit, everything should make her laugh or give her something intriguing about you. Also't be afraid to let her have the last word (ie don't respond to every text).
/r/seduction09/12/17 12:17 PM
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Read the Goleman book Emotional Intelligence. There are tons of others, but that one is the go-to. Not a ton of practical advice, but he goes into scientific detail for everything he has to say, which I appreciated.
/r/seduction04/12/17 11:11 PM
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Look up HOT APE, do all those things. Just like guys can't make you hang out with them, you can't make him hang out with you either. Give more specific invites instead of generalities - "I'm going to ___ tomorrow at 8pm, you down?" or something. If he likes you, he'll say yes or offer a counter proposal. If you try it 2 or 3 times with no effort on his part, move on.
/r/seduction02/12/17 10:39 AM
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Sure, everyone's different, I was speaking more in terms of societal norms. The most attractive men are the ones who know what they want in life and take the lead in making it happen, not the ones who sit back and hope someone else does all the work for them.
/r/seduction17/11/17 03:33 PM
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It works infinitely better than not going for it, I know that much! There's nothing wrong with awkward, there will always be awkward moments when you're getting out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself. Call it out! "I know this might be a bit awkward since we're strangers now, but I'm awesome and you're awesome, so I'm sure we'll look back at this awkward moment some day and decide it was worth it to meet another person as awesome as I am!" Or something along those lines. In regards to…
/r/seduction17/11/17 09:21 AM
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"Rejection" might have been a shit test, which you failed. Women like to play hard to get and test you to see if you're persistent in achieving your goals or if you give up at the first sign of resistance. But, honestly, with the way you're talking, you're living in extreme scarcity, so you're almost guaranteed to fuck it up somehow. You just want it so bad, she's going to sense the desperation and neediness and you're fucked. You need to develop abundance and freedom from outcome by talking to …
/r/seduction17/11/17 09:15 AM
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If she had to initiate kissing, she was probably sending you signals for a long time and you failed to initiate anything, so she did it out of frustration. I guarantee it wasn't "out of nowhere," you're just oblivious to her signals. Like it or not, it's the man's responsibly to initiate physical intimacy, so I'd address that problem before worrying about kissing skills. The good news is, she must be pretty into you, especially if she's willing to see you again. Bad news is you've got a couple s…
/r/seduction17/11/17 09:09 AM
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Upward spiral and downward spiral. When things start going well for you, you feel more confident, self-assured and abundant which makes more women attracted to you and you get more success. When things aren't going so well, you start questioning yourself, getting stuck in your head, feeling scarcity and more outcome dependent. These behaviors repel women, which makes success harder and harder to achieve.
/r/seduction15/11/17 04:26 AM
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You have to gauge the situation and the person, canned lines don't necessarily work. Look up cold reading - it's a technique "psychics" use to make it seem like they know about someone when they're really just making educated guesses. You have to use your intuition based on observations. Some of my favorites are: Where she's from (I usually make it regional at first - West Coast, MidWest, Deep South, etc - and if she says yes, I'll make a more specific guess) What she does for work Any kind of r…
/r/seduction03/11/17 04:55 AM
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It's about showing that you don't take yourself seriously and you aren't afraid of being wrong or taking a chance. Definitely not saying not to ever ask questions. What do you think a girl would respond more to as an opener - "Hey, when's your birthday?" or "Hey, there's the birthday girl!!". Neither are necessarily good openers, but the assumption will maybe intrigue her or make her think you're mistaking her for someone else or something and if you say it with excitement, that emotion will spr…
/r/seduction03/11/17 02:52 AM
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Asking questions isn't very good advice. It makes better conversation to make assumptions about her and let her correct you if you're wrong. This leads to great conversation, her asking why you thought that, etc. If you're right, you come across as smart, intuitive and exciting, she's going to feel like you already know her and you have a great connection. Best of all, she doesn't feel like she's being interrogated by some guy she doesn't even know. Asking questions is ok, making assumptions is …
/r/seduction02/11/17 07:52 PM
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Doesn't matter what she said or if she flakes, you put yourself out there and took action, so you automatically win. If she flakes or isn't as interested as you think, that's a good thing - you can move on and meet someone who is as into you as you are her.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:49 PM
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Embrace the awkwardness, it's inevitable when you first meet someone new, so don't fight it. I also don't think hitting on girls is considered being unfaithful, there are so many benefits to approaching and talking to new people, I wouldn't stop just because I was married, I would just have different intent than when I'm single.
/r/seduction01/11/17 03:42 PM
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Might as well work on yourself while you work on your game. There are a lot of unspoken social rules and games you have to learn, not to mention getting used to rejection, holding a conversation, might as well do that while improving yourself. Improving yourself should be an ongoing thing, it's not like you will ever be "done", so it's hard to know when you should start learning game if you're waiting for yourself to be "good enough". You're good enough now, but keep improving yourself.
/r/seduction28/10/17 06:11 PM
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Keep doing it and not only will it get easier, but it gets addicting
/r/seduction25/10/17 03:08 PM
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Agreed, I only say that because he seemed to be asking how to attract her, in which case, this is his only chance - and slim at best.
/r/seduction24/10/17 09:21 PM
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As someone who is not traditionally physically attractive, I can tell you that is definitely not all that matters (to most girls anyway). It definitely helps, though - you have a leg up over most guys, use it to your advantage. From what you've said so far, it sounds like you're judging yourself based on the reactions of others, which is detrimental to your progress. How others react doesn't matter. Getting rejected 100 times in a row doesn't matter. You should analyze what you did without judge…
/r/seduction24/10/17 09:15 PM
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You gotta do what is right for you. I like direct because some girls don't like the false premise (if they notice it) when you really just wanted to talk to her. I'd rather not shoot myself in the foot on the opener by making her think I'm a liar or manipulative. I do avoid physical compliments at first, I'd rather give a unique compliment that she's never heard before. I think the canned, "Hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you" lines are overused and disingenuous, but they are als…
/r/seduction24/10/17 06:58 PM
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You are living in extreme scarcity, you need to develop an abundance mentality. I would recommend ghosting this girl. Stop texting her, stop complimenting her, when you see her, give her a friendly head nod like you would a stranger on the sidewalk. If she tries talking to you give her short, emotionless answers and say you have to go. Try to make sure she sees you go talk to a different girl (or even better - a group of girls) and with that girl show high energy and strong emotions. She's going…
/r/seduction24/10/17 03:31 PM
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I never said he was wrong
/r/seduction24/10/17 05:59 AM
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Not caring how other people view me and working on how I view myself I think has been the biggest change. I think "nice guys" are the exact opposite - they view themselves very low compared to other people, so their natural instinct is to put others on a "pedestal" and treat them differently than if they were equals. Then, other people treat them as lower value because of how they present themselves, which reinforces their preconceived notion of their own low value. I've learned to have a realis…
/r/seduction24/10/17 12:12 AM
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I've only been doing cold approach for maybe 5 months and most of my progress has been increasing confidence, increasing self-awareness, reading people and self-amusement. I definitely need to keep working on creating that natural sexual vibe (this time it just worked out, I'm not consistent enough with it), having strong intent, focus on logistics and just consistency overall. I also need to work on some superficial stuff like getting in better shape, dressing better and all that. I am definite…
/r/seduction23/10/17 11:39 PM
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I guess we'll never know
/r/seduction23/10/17 10:13 PM
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Hot Orgasm
/r/seduction23/10/17 10:09 PM
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Nothing will happen if you're uptight and putting so much pressure on yourself. Your goal for the party should be to have so much fun, it will be an epic night you will remember for the rest of your life. If you are the life of the party, making everyone laugh and experience great emotions, girls who are into you will present themselves. Start with some touching and escalate based on her reaction. Start with something innocent like a touch on the shoulder or arm, or "accidentally" brushing your …
/r/seduction22/10/17 10:57 PM
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I would've responded with, "What, you don't love me already?" or something, then use her reaction to figure out if she's interested.
/r/seduction22/10/17 10:43 PM
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Just trust in the fact that you're good with people and go say whatever comes to mind. Worst case, "Hey, what's up?". There will be awkward moments at first, just accept it and call it out - "So, I know this is super awkward and everything, but I've seen you around and you seem cool, so I wanted to meet you."
/r/seduction21/10/17 04:44 PM
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Get out of your comfort zone, go talk to her even if you feel like you have nothing to say or you're wasting her time. Worst case, she hates you and wants you to die - who cares, you got valuable experience out of it either way. Next time, you'll have something better to say.
/r/seduction21/10/17 04:20 PM
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Sounds like you did okay, but the thing you should work on is not letting them ignore you. When you sit there silently, you're giving up your frame to them and letting them take over - being submissive to them. You need to take over as soon as they walk up, ideally before they even say anything. Make them submit to you by putting the social pressure on them and see how they react instead of letting them do it to you. Whispering something funny to the girl is always good - shows that you two are …
/r/seduction20/10/17 03:58 PM
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I wish I had known this in high school... Missed out on some great girls because I was obsessed with someone who didn't reciprocate. My life would probably be much different if I had known then what I know now.
/r/seduction15/10/17 09:57 AM
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The key is not giving a fuck if she walks away or not. If she's attracted to you, she probably won't walk away, if she does, you can reengage.
/r/seduction13/10/17 06:00 PM
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I guess clarification should be on the word indicator - it's just a sign, you can't take any single indicator as truth. If you are seeing multiple indicators, then you can assume she isn't interested and you need to up your game to keep her interest. You can also use IODs on the girl, which will make her wonder why you're not interested in her and make her up her game to keep your interest.
/r/seduction13/10/17 08:35 AM
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Not making eye contact, answering with very short responses, body language and feet facing away from you. There's a million IODs, could be subtle facial cues, tapping her foot in impatience, holding her head in her hand like she's bored, the list goes on.
/r/seduction13/10/17 07:50 AM
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I like to tease fingernails - not that important to them and easy for them to change if they take the tease too seriously. Particularly if they have 1 nail a different color or different color on each hand or whatever. I usually just say, "So, what's up with the nails?". Also a good excuse to get ahold of her hand for a better look.
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:41 PM
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I like to pick the most mean-looking, intimidating, negative body language girl I can find. She obviously doesn't want to talk, so I know she's going to blow me off immediately and harshly. As I'm walking away afterwards, I feel like I have balls bigger than that one episode of South Park. No problem approaching after that.
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:02 PM
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Just be honest. Tell her you really want to get to know her, but you were uncomfortable in the environment and felt pressured being surrounded by each of your friend groups. Ask her on a 1-on-1 date for a new start
/r/seduction09/10/17 02:31 AM
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What's the point of talking to guys that you meet? Or girls you aren't attracted to? You go for their numbers every time too? Or you just refuse to talk to them at all because you aren't interested in fucking them? What's the point of these girls stopping and talking to you? The point is to be social, spread good energy and make people feel good without expecting anything in return. I feel like most guys go for the number for the validation that they did a good job or the girl liked them or if s…
/r/seduction05/10/17 08:11 PM
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If the only reason you talk to a girl is to get her number, you are completely missing the point. Especially during practice, like I said. You should only ask for the number if you have a particularly good interaction and you exceptionally enjoyed her company. You don't need a number for abundance mentality or social proof. If you don't go for the number, you showed the girl that you were outcome independent, you didn't have an agenda, you were just enjoying being social. If you go for the numbe…
/r/seduction05/10/17 06:26 PM
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Simple concepts, but effective. I would practice this without going for the numbers because they're basically guaranteed to flake after such a short interaction.
/r/seduction05/10/17 03:07 PM
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Go say something. "Hey, what are you girls up to today?" "Hey, I just wanted to tell you that you're an adorable couple." "Holy shit, it's hot/cold/rainy/weather attribute today." Walk up and make monkey noises, do something lol. Don't be so hard on yourself, but you should practice cold approaching and I recommend improv classes for coming up with new topics to talk about on the spot and improving your witty conversation.
/r/seduction05/10/17 05:55 AM
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Simple - don't tell them you don't have a car. If they ask if you drove, tell them you took an Uber tonight. If they specifically ask what kind of car you drive, put the pressure back on them with something like, "Why, are you just like really materialistic, you're going to judge me based on my car?". Be playful about it, not mean. Then, regardless of their answer, immediately change the topic. Or, make up something ridiculous like you drive a tricycle, but don't worry there's a step on the back…
/r/seduction05/10/17 05:20 AM
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Bro. If you can attract girls, the best way to make friends is to bring girls to them and introduce them. If other guys "hate" you, it's probably because they're jealous or intimidated, so bring them a peace offering of sorts. Meet random dudes at the places you go, just keep it brief but be sure to get and remember their names. Later on, find them again when you have some girls with you and introduce them by name to the girls ("This is my friend, xxx"). Become the matchmaker or the connector an…
/r/seduction03/10/17 04:57 AM
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Show high energy, be having fun on your own or with your friends, dance like an idiot, meet people and introduce them to people they don't know yet. When you do talk to her, be fun, social and relaxed. Talk to her about anything except school, majors, teachers, etc. Focus on making her have more fun because you're there.
/r/seduction02/10/17 01:23 AM
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Good job! Seriously, you saw something you wanted and instead of just sitting by waiting for it to happen, you went out and made it happen for yourself. That doesn't mean things will necessarily work out, but if you keep going for what you want, you're going to be just fine. I agree with the consensus to move on. Maybe he's gay or asexual, maybe super religious or old fashioned or who knows what else. It's not you, it's him.
/r/seduction01/10/17 02:23 AM
4

Stop fucking around and make it clear what you're looking for. You'll piss off a lot of girls who aren't into FWB, but you have to break some eggs to make an omelet. Make it clear that you're into hooking up and you don't want a relationship and then physically escalate on the girl to show you want to have sex with her. Fuck the nice guy bullshit, you're just manipulating people into liking you by being fake and filtering yourself to avoid offending someone. Girls like sex as much or more than g…
/r/seduction30/09/17 02:49 AM
9

I feel like I could share anything with you, for example, genetic information.
/r/seduction30/09/17 02:43 AM
8

People overthink approaching so fucking much. Walk up and say something - anything, literally whatever comes to mind. You're probably going to fuck up hard, but that's okay as long as you learn from it and keep trying. If you don't know how to start a conversation with someone you share a class with, life is going to be hard for you because that's about as easy as it gets. Start cold approaching people, once you get good at that, this will be fucking cake.
/r/seduction30/09/17 02:42 AM
1

She was just getting out of a relationship with a fairly abusive ex-boyfriend You might have been happy, but she wasn't. You made her feel good without forcing her to deal with her fundamental problems, instead she probably buried them which isn't healthy. I felt that if she left me I would be unable to find another girl as cute as her. Sounds like viewing her as an appealing object like a sports car or something. Also shows low-self esteem, lack of confidence and you felt like she was doing you…
/r/seduction28/09/17 07:23 PM
1

This is a good thing. Girls are all about emotions and that is precisely what texting lacks. You need to remove all doubt that you're interested when you see her in person.
/r/seduction28/09/17 02:28 PM
2

A relationship will always be a failure if both of you weren't happy in the first place. Whoever wrote this article has a fundamental misunderstanding of relationships.
/r/seduction28/09/17 12:14 AM
1

Tell him to enjoy his fleshlight, you want to find a real girl. Fucking a plastic pussy is way creepier than going out talking to girls. More than likely, he's just jealous and trying to take you down to his level. Don't let him do it. It's actually really good practice for social situations - when you're out talking to girls, dudes will see you and think they can swoop in, insult you, embarrass you and bring you down to their level. If they can't make a pretty girl laugh, why would they allow y…
/r/seduction28/09/17 12:12 AM
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Follow the rules of improv - SHOW, DON'T TELL. Make sure you stand or sit close to her and don't be afraid to touch her. If she "accidentally" brushes up against you, don't flinch or back away, show you're comfortable with her touch. Pull her close to you and hold her there, look at her face while she's close and if she looks at you while being so close, you're pretty safe to gently pull her in for a kiss.
/r/seduction28/09/17 12:07 AM
2

You go initiate again, ideally after going and having fun with a different girl while she's watching. If she's into you and sees the social proof/competition, she'll make it clear if she's into you or not. Make sure to kino, if she's ok with you escalating where you touch her, signs are good.
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:46 AM
3

Be careful with texting, don't say anything important over text because you lose the emotions, which will drive home the importance of what you have to say. Texting her how she's doing, what she had for lunch, good night, good morning, etc is a good way into the friend zone. Keep it brief, light and in moderation.
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:41 AM
6

I would start with something ridiculous like, "Ok, I need you to prepare yourself because I'm about to tell you a story that will literally make you laugh your fucking tits off.". Either that or some subtle innuendo, like if the other person mentions something that could be taken sexually, just give them a skeptical look and don't say anything. They should catch your implication. Once you get out that first sexual reference, it becomes easier. Obviously not appropriate for work, but should be go…
/r/seduction26/09/17 07:01 PM
0

Yes, it can be as simple as an implication. One that happened to me recently after I approached her and her friend and set the hook: Her: What's your name? [Holds out her hand for handshake] Me: Oh. We're shaking hands? [Shakes her hand, holding it for too long] Her: Well, I don't know you, so that's step 1. Me: Oh really? I'm more interested in step 2. She laughed and started blushing. I noticed she kept looking at my lips while I was holding her hand, so I pulled her in for a kiss right after …
/r/seduction25/09/17 02:24 AM
2

Don't need money to walk around and talk to people.
/r/seduction25/09/17 12:04 AM
1

I've been working on frame control and physical escalation. I noticed several times that I would have a girl's attention and she seemed to be attracted to me, but then some other guy would come in and "take the frame" while I just sat back enjoying myself, but not contributing anymore. It's like she would completely forget I existed, which I found fascinating. My first instinct was to blame looks, as the other guys are usually objectively more physically attractive than me. Second instinct was t…
/r/seduction25/09/17 12:01 AM
1

My guess is you internally give up because you assume that other guy is better than you and there's no way she would pick you over him. Giving up and losing interest is less painful than putting yourself out there and having her pick him. However, you are entirely ignoring the positive possibilities; maybe you put yourself out there, she picks you and you each are exactly what the other person was looking for. You could be having great sex with her regularly, doing things you never thought you w…
/r/seduction24/09/17 11:31 PM
1

Yes. If the friends think you're cool and she's single, they will usually help you get alone time with her. That's exactly what you want. Make sure to practice moving girls from groups when you aren't attracted to one of them, so you'll be confident and ready when you find someone you are attracted to.
/r/seduction24/09/17 11:07 PM
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Avoiding sex as a topic of conversation is a sure fire way to make a new friend and nothing more. Sex is a huge part of everyone's life, an attractive girl even more so, so if you can't have a relaxed, comfortable conversation about sex with her, good luck convincing her to actually do it with you.
/r/seduction24/09/17 10:37 PM
4

Stop caring what people think about you and go for what you want in life. Talk about things you're passionate about and try to break out of the everyday boring conversation by taking things less seriously. When she asks what your major is, the most boring thing you can possibly do is just tell her the answer. Either make up something ridiculous, make her guess what it is or at least tell her what your passions are that made you go for that major. Try to get past the normal boring "safe" conversa…
/r/seduction24/09/17 10:19 PM
15

When dudes come in on the offensive like this, trying to make you look bad, as usual, you should do the opposite of your initial instinct. Don't go on the offensive, don't get defensive. Instead, be the dude's biggest cheerleader. When he says you're creepy, laugh and say he's fucking hilarious (be genuine, not sarcastic). Tell the girls how awesome he is, tell him to hold his hand up to yours and say, holy shit ladies, look at those hands, you know this dude has a big dick. Put your arm around …
/r/seduction23/09/17 02:15 PM
3

Let's go to the mall today!
/r/seduction23/09/17 02:05 PM
1

What is your intent? Do you have a solid intent when you go talk to her? Is it to get her number, take her on an instant date, take her home or just have a friendly conversation? You need to internalize that intent and communicate that with your words and body language. You are probably failing to touch properly, keeping to just friendly touches and afraid to take a risk. Grab her hand and try to pull her somewhere, pick her up off the ground and spin around with her or just casually start brush…
/r/seduction21/09/17 03:29 PM
2

Nice, dude! It's good you didn't go for the number, shows them you didn't need anything from them and with brief interactions like this, they would think that was your "agenda" for talking to them and they'd probably flake anyway. Only go for the number in the exceptionally good interactions when you have more time to make your impression felt. Unless you're just showing yourself you can get numbers and don't really plan on seeing her again. Good not letting the negativity and sneers affect you,…
/r/seduction21/09/17 03:18 PM
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What a silly question. He could have walked up and made monkey noises as an opener and she still would have given her number because she likes him. It doesn't matter what you say, it matters how you say it. There are no magic words, walk up and say whatever comes to mind, even if it's, "I was hoping I would have something to say by the time I started talking to you, but no luck. Anyway, I'm..." You'll get better with practice, but gotta start somewhere.
/r/seduction20/09/17 06:13 AM
4

I like to ask after the fact if they remember what I said to initiate conversation and they almost never remember. Just say something!
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:02 PM
13

Yeah, just like the touch, if the relentless eye contact makes her uncomfortable, back it off a bit. The key for all these steps is to show her you know how to read social cues, make sure she's comfortable and feeling good emotions.
/r/seduction16/09/17 08:43 PM
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Look up HOT APE: Humor - make jokes, pick on her in a funny way, whisper something gossipy in her ear about someone you see Open body language - align your body so your feet and hips are facing her, don't cross your arms or hold a drink in front of you, keep your arms and legs open Touch - touch her, read her body language to see if she's comfortable with the touch and if she is, escalate to something more sexual. Start with a friendly touch on the shoulder, move to lower back, massage her neck …
/r/seduction16/09/17 05:52 PM
2

Seem to be some haters in here - don't listen to the negativity. If you had fun, you accomplished your goal and any dancing, make outs or attention were a bonus. Definitely better than sitting in your mom's basement criticising other people's decisions on Reddit on a Friday night. Don't let these pathetic losers bring you down.
/r/seduction16/09/17 05:49 PM
1

Disable your social media or allow a friend to change the password for a particular amount of time so you can't log in. Get out there and live your life instead of living vicariously through her. Talk to more women during your everyday life.
/r/seduction14/09/17 05:10 PM
3

Whenever you make eye contact with someone, you hold it until they break it. When talking to a girl, you hold it even if she does break it, so when she looks back at you, she'll see you're still fully focused on her. Can be creepy, that doesn't really matter as long as you learn from the experience. Once you start learning, you can calibrate her reactions and body language to tell if she's uncomfortable with your level of eye contact and back it off a bit. Most girls love strong eye contact, tho…
/r/seduction13/09/17 06:53 PM
1

Thanks for the detailed info, I think you're on point. I watch a lot of videos like the one you mentioned, so I'll add it to my list. I definitely have a problem getting close to girls on the dance floor. I'm generally uncomfortable being touched or initiating more than a friendly touch with strangers and I think dance floor grinding is creepy even if the girl is into it. I always regret not going for it, though, so I just need to man up and do it. I'm always dancing on my own and having a good …
/r/seduction13/09/17 04:36 AM
2

Abundance
/r/seduction10/09/17 03:11 AM
19

Tweed suit
/r/seduction10/09/17 03:04 AM
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Yes, agreed! I would like to add 2 comments. First, you shouldn't be asking for numbers of every girl you talk to, only ask if you particularly hit it off and want to see her again. A number is worthless if she isn't going to remember you. It seems like your motives might be more along the lines of getting validation from the girl liking you enough to get the number instead of legitimately wanting to see her again. If that's why you're doing it, I would recommend to stop asking for numbers altog…
/r/seduction04/09/17 05:30 PM
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Remember that it's a success regardless of what happens Monday! Good job, dude! It gets addicting if you keep doing it!
/r/seduction20/08/17 10:29 AM
5

I just counted today - in the past month I sent unique, thoughtful, witty messages to 98 different women on OKC. I received responses from 8 of them and went on 2 dates with 1 woman. My pictures are pretty decent and I think I've done a good job filling out a clever and interesting profile. I will say that I'm fairly attractive, but also considerably overweight. A response rate of less than 10% is ridiculously crazy, that would be like if you talked to 10 girls on the street and 9 of them didn't…
/r/seduction13/08/17 02:21 AM
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The biggest thing that helped me is noticing all the girls I see every day and how frequently I want to go say something, but don't. Once you start noticing how often that really happens, you can use it to put pressure on yourself like, "OK, you wanted to go say hi to the cute girl walking her dog, but chickened out. You wanted to flirt with the waitress who was smiling and making too much eye contact, but you didn't. Are you really going to let yourself fail AGAIN when all you need to do for su…
/r/seduction05/08/17 10:20 PM
5

Tap her on the shoulder while dancing and smiling and hold out your hand to show you want to dance with her. If she offers her hand, you're golden, if not, but she keeps facing you, just dance facing her and try to escalate later. If she doesn't offer her hand and turns away, move on.
/r/seduction04/08/17 02:57 PM
15

It's fine to want a girlfriend, but make sure you aren't sending signals that you NEED a girlfriend. You're going to be fine either way because your life is awesome.
/r/seduction27/07/17 04:09 AM
1

Start talking to more girls. The more you talk to, the more you realize there are tons of beautiful, awesome girls in the world, so don't get obsessed with just one. If she's attracted to you, she'll reach out and keep the relationship going - that's the woman's role as the emotional leader. When you try so hard to keep it going, you're assuming the feminine role, which women don't find attractive. Let her come to you and if she doesn't, she lost interest, so move on to the next one.
/r/seduction26/07/17 01:57 PM
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The Fappening, round 2!
/r/MensRights15/12/15 03:37 PM
4

I don't argue with insane people, sorry, it's pointless.
/r/MensRights15/12/15 12:43 AM
0

I think your tinfoil hat fell off, bro.
/r/MensRights14/12/15 10:52 PM
6

Steve Harvey is a piece of shit
/r/MensRights10/11/15 05:34 AM
1

men are four times more likely than women to commit suicide, even though women attempt it more. So, men are better at it. That's something else you gals oughta be working on. Well, if you wanna be truly equal you're gonna have to start taking your lives in greater numbers. George Carlin
/r/MensRights02/11/15 03:13 PM
6

Playing to her feminist followers, I see. Also alienating any men who may have been considering voting for her, so I hope this approach backfires. Bernie is just about the only candidate who truly believes in equality for all
/r/MensRights01/11/15 04:14 AM
5

We could go with femicunt instead, but doesn't have the same ring to it
/r/MensRights30/10/15 01:15 AM
1

She should be paid a similar rate for her screen time and hours on set. Downey should be paid more for being the star character and also for the star power he brings as well as having far more screen time. If this was a rom-com where she was the star character with more screen time, then, yes, I would agree she should be paid more.
/r/MensRights07/10/15 11:57 PM
3

End Humanity!! Lol, what a dumb cunt.
/r/MensRights07/10/15 11:48 PM
18

I bet his "victim" doesn't even feel guilty
/r/MensRights04/10/15 03:29 PM
34

Maybe this is a ploy to get more viewers because now I would like to see her be punched in the face...
/r/MensRights04/10/15 03:27 PM
9

The J.D.L. is not going to like this
/r/MensRights09/09/15 06:21 AM
1

Damn, that bitch is ugly and annoying
/r/MensRights04/09/15 04:29 PM
13

Ahh yes, the definition of "equality"
/r/MensRights04/09/15 04:15 PM
0

18% of people are retarded
/r/MensRights29/08/15 04:10 PM
51

This is going to lead to more false rape claims, not fewer.
/r/MensRights24/05/15 02:22 PM
2

WeForWe
/r/MensRights23/09/14 07:47 PM
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