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| 3 | Should he disclose the affair? | likestocuddleandmore | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 06:49 PM |
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| 7 | All of this back and forth is pointless, women will always have an extreme advantage ONLY because men are way hornier and therefore want and need women way more than women will ever want or need men. It all comes back to this very basic fact.Hard to feel compelled to CYV when you use a generally negative language… “women bitching”… “simps willing to drink land whale’s bath water”. You sound jaded, bitter and resigned. Nobody will change your mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | With male virginity rates near 30% in the USA for the 18-30 age range what impact will this have on societyWoW professional cuddlers? Sounds like a dream job | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.And why is that? Why don’t men want to learn about the female pleasure? Could it be porn where needs to women are never considered? If a man really spends time trying to get a girl off and succeeds eventually, he’s going to get so much energy back from his girl. This is why women have issues with low effort men - low effort dates = low effort sex= low effort potential partner. Why have men normalized low effort? It’s not getting them any closer to pussy or anything meaningful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 07:15 PM |
| 0 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.You don’t like women, I see. Since you think they are crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.I would very gently caution you against giving men a false notion that any woman can have violent orgasms from a slight use of a finger. I so wish it were the case but alas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 04:24 AM |
| 1 | I don't agree that getting relationships is quote on quote " The same difficulty" as both genders.Teeeheee « formula for pussy »… oh man your comment made my night😅😂🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.Never said they are. But women will frequently value adventure over stability. It’s just they confuse the expression of male dark sides as adventure. This is especially true for girls with at least one abusive parent. They grow up trauma-bonded to an abuser, they grow up loving someone who is abusive and unstable. They might watch girl movies and think they want a nice guy prince, but once with a nice guy, something feels off. She feels uncomfortable. Also, interestingly to touch up on your main… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.Yeah, spot on - most men want rampant casual sex and get upset because they think most women want the same thing but are withholding. Heh, nope. I heard about this whole « man worried about being aggressive » from my husband. He was brainwashed by the media how men should suppress all aggressive urges. This made our marriage fall apart ultimately. Because I needed him to take charge and he just could not. Wonderful kind man, but super vanilla. Do men really resent submissive women because that’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 01:54 AM |
| 2 | I don't agree that getting relationships is quote on quote " The same difficulty" as both genders.Lol. Mannnn… this is no fun. I was getting ready to respond and then I was like « wait, I already did. A month ago. »… Why are they doing this? If they changed their name, it’s not for karma points. Or is it just to trigger women into responding and it’s a sick narcissistic way of getting to feel relevant by getting attention? What can possibly be the reason? And also, MODs should filter out reposts somehow to maintain reputation/traffic to the sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 01:24 AM |
| – | What has influenced who you're attracted to, and has that changed over time? What made it change?I met a man who was in temperament and body type very similar to my grandfather. No weird childhood abuse story here. My grandpa was a super high strung skinny guy who would always bring grandma and me flowers. Would always cut up fruit and serve it to us, called me his princess. My father was never that nice. I am convinced a lot of what shapes our deep attraction comes from early childhood. Like, sure, we can find many people attractive but we really fall hard for those arch types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 11:46 PM |
| 2 | I don't agree that getting relationships is quote on quote " The same difficulty" as both genders.You made same post. Like a month ago. I recognize it because I responded to exact wording you are using. Are you a bot? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 11:23 PM |
| 10 | Women LOVE to throw out the classic “it’s not your ____ it’s because you’re a misogynistic asshole” yet misogynistic assholes are consistently the ones getting laid. This alone proves that women are unable to have an honest conversation about dating and discredits anything else they have to say.It’s hard to believe women talked like this in your presence. I am a woman who worked in women groups and this kind of talk is trash in the workplace. If you worked in strip club then maybe. I will say - yes, women love the dark side of men. I did hear numerous times at parties after lots of drinking girls talk about how they like a strong man « throw them against the wall », which is really a girl talk for being manhandled. I mean most girls want to be ravished by a man. But what girls don’t ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 11:09 PM |
| 3 | Why do men tend to have a more varied taste in the opposite sex?Mine is skinny too and I love it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Why do men tend to have a more varied taste in the opposite sex?Not true. Several of my gym rat girlfriends prefer dad bods over ripped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?I have never been in a sexless relationship but it does not feel like a need. Not in a sense like food, shelter, loving relationships. What about vibrators? Many girls are happy with vibes because it’s much easier and safer way to get off. I would say girls NEED to get off but they don’t need men for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Men are forced to approach in abundance if they want any shot at getting laid or an LTR, yet they are shamed for it by women who want to feel special creating a very frustrating situation for men.Honestly, I have enjoyed LTRs all my life and men supporting me. Never felt oppressed. Homemaking is still a skill you gotta get good at. And as a woman you do gotta stay good at fucking etc. Being a good slut for a person you love is not effortless. $40k/year is poverty level. Not sure where you live. Both my partners make close to $100k/year and we have low rent and it still does not feel like enough. I think women writing letters to serial killers are damaged and crazy and even bottom 10% of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Men are forced to approach in abundance if they want any shot at getting laid or an LTR, yet they are shamed for it by women who want to feel special creating a very frustrating situation for men.Very interesting reflection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Most relationships are a waste of everythingMhm… more of these immature why bother posts. Why bother living then? You’re going to die eventually 😱 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 06:06 AM |
| 8 | Men are forced to approach in abundance if they want any shot at getting laid or an LTR, yet they are shamed for it by women who want to feel special creating a very frustrating situation for men.I really wish more people would discuss how imaginary Chad really is. Any “Chad” still has to hustle. The myth that Chad gets pussy effortlessly needs to die already. It’s hurting men more than us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 05:58 AM |
| 1 | Men are forced to approach in abundance if they want any shot at getting laid or an LTR, yet they are shamed for it by women who want to feel special creating a very frustrating situation for men.Correct, if the men are ugly or poor, they should not bother women at a bar. They have nothing to offer. I say this not to sound hopeless but way too many dudes in this subreddit are moping victims who take on the “what’s the point anyway?” stance and take the easy road of low effort. Well, low effort gets you nothing in life in general. But being tenacious and ambitious is very sexy. You can never stop being bottom of the barrel by complaining about how girls don’t want to fuck losers. Duh… It’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/22 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?I feel your pain. It’s pain, resentment, detachment. There is a lot. I want to touch up on some of yours points in no particular order. I wish I knew how to use quotes like you do. I guess women are not better at everything. Media: There has been a wave of female protagonists in shows, movies. I believe this is not meant to put men down. Girls just have low self-esteem. Lower than men. This is a scientific fact that emerges from studies of how women vs. men apply for jobs (women tend to only app… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?You bring up lots of curious points. If we accept that there is a trend of men checking out of society and going their own way then I think human population will shrink and hopefully we could reverse the damage to our planet. Kinda a win, honestly. Humans are awful. I have followed the MGTOW subreddit religiously a while back. I was also subscribed to FDS. Overtime, I came to realize both communities were rabid in much the same way. Men can go their own a way and women can go their own way but r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 02:08 AM |
| 0 | What other socially acceptable ways to pickup women?And also the phrasing ugh… “acceptable ways to pick up women”. We are not cartons of milk. We don’t want to be picked up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?Listen, I am a woman and I also went to college and will now die with debt because I thought college was a must. I could feel super resentful but I am choosing to own my mistakes now. College debt is not a gender thing. I also love minimalism. Perhaps by necessity but I also like the minimalist aesthetic and the uncluttered mind it provides. Also not just a guy thing. I think people have different potentials and they start from different points in life. Some have more drive in life, some have le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?You are kind of operating with doom and gloom scenarios and setting the bar intentionally low because you are unsettled by the fear of failure and you cannot fail if you don’t try. By all means you can try to get sex “as often as I can get” but then aren’t hookups the unhealthy coping mechanism for dealing with uncomfortable feeling of loneliness? The language you use to describe sex reveals that you see sex as a commodity, much like porn or junk food or alcohol - something to use to soothe the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/22 07:20 PM |
| 1 | When discussing dating, women do not consider the average men as people so they compare themselves to the top 10% which is why they think dating is harder for them.This topic keeps coming up over and over here. Men wanting to be validated for how hard dating is for them. Because dating means different things. Men say « dating » and mean « casual hookups ». Women say dating and mean something hopefully long term, with intimacy. Many women, unlike men, find sex with a hookup not pleasurable, beyond psychological ego boost. Men can stick it in, cum and he is good as new. Woman needs to train a man how to give her pleasure. Dating is a different game for both … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 11:47 PM |
| 2 | How do guys pick which girls to go for if most girls kind of look the same?Um, the kind that are not jaded or cynical about women and are loyal themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 08:19 AM |
| 3 | How do guys pick which girls to go for if most girls kind of look the same?Not humble bragging. This is from male friends. Just friends. No chemistry. No potential romance or putting moves on me. I think it’s just a stereotype about men wanting to only spread the seed, the rotation of hotties etc. Many men want intimacy, want loyalty and exclusive relationships. Plenty of men won’t have sex on the first date and want to get more comfortable with the person. Men are not dumb or shallow, they can appreciate the difference in quality between sex with and without intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing - or neither - that women dominate college and already have a foothold in dominating the economy? And why?Women don’t have to deal with the brutal pecking order that men always have to fit in as part of their job. Women accomplish a lot more through collaboration rather than competition. Also, most women with good incomes, in leadership roles, dream of a 50-50 partnership with a man. Both strong, both making money, both sharing domestic burdens. It’s odd that there is this trend of men, witnessing the rise of women and bailing on high achievement and working hard. This creates issues with coupling. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:41 AM |
| 5 | How do guys pick which girls to go for if most girls kind of look the same?Funny how many male friends told me “Girls just want to hookup. I am tired of hookups. I want a relationship”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 02:23 AM |
| 2 | Why do women often hate men playing videogames?It does seem like a childish activity. A distraction from real life. Anecdotally, all the men in my life who play video games are sad lazy losers and those who don’t, have become a lot more successful in life are more grounded in reality. That being said, I went through my own Elder Scrolls/Fallout/Sims stage. I would characterize that period of my life as a lazy loser stage and I am genuinely sad about all the time I wasted on this silly stuff. The ignorance of youth is thinking you have all th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/22 12:11 PM |
| 2 | The frustrations of young men are reduced when governments legalize prostitutionWoman here. Sex work should be destigmatized. So many cases of women being fired from “legitimate” jobs when someone finds out she used to be a sex worker. Many sex workers not treated with respect. If it is to be legalized worldwide, it should advance interests of both men and women. But as many men pointed out here, it does not solve the problem of incels. Also, reading and listening to men describing their experiences with prostitutes, there is always sadness and embarrassment in their tone. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/22 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Whats some legit benefit to a man for dating a woman that is 35+I have asked men around me this question and they always say older women are calmer and more interesting, appreciative. As a 40year old woman, I can honestly say I cannot get even remotely attracted to someone younger than 30. Sure they might be cute, but they are adorably clueless. Usually limited range of life experiences. Which is understandable but not super attractive. But who am I to yuck somebody’s yum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | I think there is a fundamental lack of understanding when it comes to women understanding how bad difficult dating is for most men.Let’s unpack what you claim is basic men’s requirements: 1. « Not fat » - 42% of Americans are obese. 2. « Not crazy » - so no mental illness then. We live in the crazy world - around 3 million cases of clinical depression in US alone registered every year. And that’s not even mentioning adhd, bipolar, generalized anxiety disorder etc. 3. « Basic hygiene » - well, ok, that IS a pretty basic requirement and yet an astonishing amount of folks of both genders have never been taught to wash their pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/22 04:50 AM |
| 3 | The “Limp D-ck” male wall counter argumentThe only kind of woman that will stick around when her man starts getting weak erections is the kinda woman that did not care about sex in the first place. I left my mate for another man when sex went down the hill and I needed someone with a stronger drive. No regrets. And we were together for 20 years and pretty bonded. Poor advice for men to get hitched early so that when cannot perform she won’t leave. She absolutely will if she needs regular sex. People just want to be happy. Life is short. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | thoughts on Johnny Depp trialWell, she got diagnosed with Histrionic Personality Disorder recently. Similar to narcissism but not quite. Histrionics, unlike narcs, seek attention from anyone at any cost but they don’t necessarily believe they are the best people on earth like narcs do. They are more emotional, irrational. I’m a woman and I my take on this is physical violence is very common in relationships from both genders. Slaps, hits, bites, things being thrown. Stuff with varying degrees of damage and pain. What she di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/22 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Being kind of toxic and manipulative is the only way average men can get fair trades.It’s a very exploitative stance though. Just because you can does not mean you should. “Healthy sex life” at the cost of psychological and emotional damage to the partner you are getting that “healthy sex life” from is not something that should not be encouraged as a viable relationship strategy. Profit from the suffering of others is just wrong. This is like saying “stealing things from a store is a good strategy to get necessities for person who would not have means to buy them otherwise”, get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Would you date or marry a single mother or father?But i don’t see you calling out women here. And plenty of Moms here don’t want to date dads. It’s not everybody’s cup of tea. You can only give from the overflow. Maybe this guy has special needs kid which takes up ton of his time and résoudra and he feels like blending families would be very hard. Why assume hypocrisy. You don’t know his life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 06:25 AM |
| 2 | Would you date or marry a single mother or father?I have my own kid and SO has two kids from previous marriage. I love his kids very much, he loves mine and I think when you love a person, you love their kids. But my separated gfs with kids are very hesitant about even considering dating guys with kids from previous relationships. Their reason: “my own kid drives me crazy already so why would I need more of that plus more resources are spent on his kid instead of me and my kid.” I think people find that giving love, care, affection is a huge ef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Divorce attorney says that in 13 years of practice, the women who were her most difficult or litigious were the SAHMs.SO is in airline industry and according to his stories the whole industry is like a haven of sin and all sorts of shady things. So yeah, I believe it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 04:58 AM |
| 1 | (Q4M) How important is it to you that a partner shaves armpits, legs, etc.?I don’t consider sex to be an emotional support/labor. Lol. No, I very much enjoy it daily. But many women don’t so that is an added value to a man’s life. Do you read the PurplePill regularly? Men here constantly complain about not having a reliable access to sex. I mentioned in the list with other things, so I get your confusion. I assure you though, there is no need to be sad for me. I am a very lucky lady who has a lot of love and comfort in her life. You see, men in my life don’t hoist all … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 12:45 AM |
| 1 | (Q4M) How important is it to you that a partner shaves armpits, legs, etc.?Well, it seems you are basing your statements on your anecdotal experience. It’s ok. We all do that here. But I can honestly tell you that the amount of time and energy my kid needs keeps going up. When he was little, all we had to worry is making him learn his ABC’s, basic counting, intro to chores. Now that he is 9, everyday is the go go go of extracurriculars, driving him all over the state. Traveling around for pep rallies, competitions, contests … and everything takes money money money… The… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 09:00 PM |
| 3 | (Q4M) How important is it to you that a partner shaves armpits, legs, etc.?Do you have kids? Because it’s funny how you talk about « peak years of childcare ». Have you ever heard an expression « little kids = little problems, big kids = big problems »? Kids require a lot of time commitment up until the time they go off to college. They need help with school problems, bullying, relationship advice. Puberty is very difficult. You need to teach safety without being overbearing. They need a lot of attention because they don’t have self-regulation but, if left alone, lots … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 12:53 PM |
| 1 | If women find you funny, it usually DOESN'T mean they're attractedYeah, this always puzzles me. I think men think “oh, she is pretty, my dick will stay hard, I will have a good time.” Women don’t know if they will have a good time based on looks. And that’s even only if she is in the mood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousYeah, you have a good point. I have always had the fear of rejection though even during the years when I was working. But yes, the career women usually have handled the fear of rejection. But it’s still not an enviable life either way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 09:02 PM |
| 2 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousYou are something else fo sho. I cannot imagine a woman posting something like « yo, I am a degenerate junkie ». And you seem to almost flaunt it. You are a fascinating specimen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 08:20 PM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousFair point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 08:18 PM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousI am flattered by your notions, I really am. I teach under the table but I do not think I am very good. I mean I know my stuff very well, but I have seen genius educators and that is certainly not me. Also, you gotta be a born sales person to make money being a sales person. I tried I really did. If I could sell, I would have my own business selling the stockpiles of art I have made over the years. But you gotta be born with that entrepreneurial gene which I lack sadly. You know, when you are ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 07:21 PM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilarious100% on point 👏👏👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 11:56 AM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousOuch. This hurts to read. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 03:11 AM |
| 3 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousFair enough😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 03:10 AM |
| 2 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousTrue,if you are single at 35 working at restaurant and never had kids… that’s a lot of free time on your hands. But you know people have mental issues, autism… I dunno. Like, I would not automatically assume because what if this person had to drop out of college to take care of a bedridden parent. Or what if she were a homemaker, was never able to conceive and her husband left her for another woman. There could be so many feasible totally normal explanations. If I am forced to suddenly return to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 03:08 AM |
| 1 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilarious*if you are a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 02:17 AM |
| 2 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousWay too many assumptions. For example, I am 40 and live with two men. I have a graduate degree but I have been home for 10 years being homemaker and a mother, pursuing my personal hobbies at my leisure, being the place of love and warmth for people in my family. In my experience, men actually enjoy coming home to a happy wife, clean place, a wife who is excited to have daily sex, homemade meals etc. and I have never been asked to work. If by some stroke of misfortune I lost both of my significan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/22 02:11 AM |
| 6 | The idea that education/profession puts you in the "beta" category is hilariousBut what if she has Master’s degree and working at a restaurant? She can discuss Hegelian dialectic AND make you a sandwich. How’s this not a win? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Most women are only going to pursue guys they believe are above their league so most men should try to display themselves as higher.Not really because they seem too desperate if they are obsessed with their own physique and not much else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 08:43 PM |
| 1 | The average man is better off paying a hooker for sex once a month than trying to date in the modern worldWell overweight people can and do lose weight. People can get more emotionally pleasant overtime. Just because your friends have bunch of cheating stories, does not mean it would happen to you. Love can be magical like that and you never get ahead if you never take a chance on a person. My SO have used escorts. He said it was “meh” compared to sex in a loving relationship. First, you gotta be careful because of the legality id the whole thing. Then they always wanna drink/smoke pot. Gotta use co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Most women are only going to pursue guys they believe are above their league so most men should try to display themselves as higher.Women don’t shoot their shot. They decide if they will let a particular man shoot their shot with them. But looks are not everything. They might get you foot in the door but not necessary keep you in the building. Women are looking for men who are kind, generous, ambitious, would make a good dad, good in bed etc. To put all the eggs in one basket with prioritizing physical looks is short sighted. Obviously, a kind and generous fat dude who is into gaming and not much else would not easily attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 12:45 PM |
| 2 | If women find you funny, it usually DOESN'T mean they're attractedUsually, if I meet an average looking man and he cracks funny jokes, he will suddenly appear more attractive. Not like “let’s mate” but “let’s see each other more” kinda thing. People love to laugh. That being said most comedians on tv are not attractive at all. And the pretty boy comedians are usually not that funny. When women are looking for a mate, they want someone who can be serious. I also remember laughing at mediocre jokes cracked by attractive dudes. It is the nervousness and not wanti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Women. What percentage of men do you meet in your regular day to day basis that you are attracted to?I few times a year I think “ooh, this one has an interesting dress shirt on” or “this one smells really good”… And I do a double take. Many men kind of look the same… male fashion is about fitting in, conventions.For me to experience any kind of pull of attraction, the man has to stand out from the crowd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Getting a hobby to attract women is terrible advicePeople of both genders who stay curious about the world beyond themselves are naturally more interesting and attractive than the basic human drone, traveling from point A to point B and back Mon-Fri. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/22 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you want women to over-index on being objective or over-index on being comforting?Not sure how this works but OP said she was interested in ladies opinion as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Opposite-sex friendships: study shows males are significantly more sexually attracted to their female friends than the other way around but males are romantically attracted to their opposite-sex friends as much as femalesWell, aren’t the results indicative that women value sex less than men and men overestimate sexual attraction females have towards them because they project their own sexual attraction towards said female onto them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 06:31 AM |
| 1 | How important is playful intimacy in a relationship?It’s a struggle to imagine a solid relationship without this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Has there been any adverse affects to female sex positivity in your opinion?Sex positivity is about encouragement and promotion of healthy sexual behaviors. One would argue that promotion of casual hook up sex is not something that relates to sex positivity, because it’s not the healthiest option both physically or emotionally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 05:48 AM |
| 2 | Women can't value self confidence and expect men to be honest about their feelingsThis is anecdotal of course, but all the men I have ever been close to, even FWBs, have opened up to me and shared innermost secrets with me and yes, cried in my presence. I assumed it was a normal thing which actually deepened the bonds and closeness. I always felt men don’t have enough people to share their innermost feelings with and felt honored to be confided in, tried to support and help. I find vulnerability very sexy and I have seen this plenty of times - the fact that man cries or says … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 05:40 AM |
| 1 | CMV: It is nowadays Men, not Women, who are held to unrealistic body standardsMen still prefer fit women as mates. Women still judge themselves and other women based on looks. Hotter women still get more promotions at a work place than less attractive ones. Social media campaigns that sought to change people’s views about body positivity etc. cannot affect how we feel deep down about more attractive vs. less attractive people because attraction is non-negotiable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 05:10 AM |
| 2 | The whole “Chad” thing is extremely overblown, women consistently get with men less attractive than themI can confirm - women value vitality and intensity over purely physical characteristics. A pretty boy with gym body who seems self centered and boring is a lot less attractive than a man with average looks who is full of charisma, passion, “eat women with their eyes”, curious about women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Why do women have more choices/are not that interested in relationships?The most blatant examples of gaslighting would be these men saying nasty things to the women in question then some time later saying “no, never said this, you are lying”. This has happened countless times. I said that I know what bias is. I never said these women were biased. See, this would be an example of you gaslighting me - you asking me a question that is based on assertion that I did not in fact make. Funny thing, just last week a very close friend of mine started dating a guy after a lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Why do women have more choices/are not that interested in relationships?No, the women I mention I know very personally. They were legit with man babies and I have witnessed their men gaslighting them first hand. And no, they not the cheating types. Neurotic, maybe. But many women are neurotic to some extent. Yeah, I know how bias works and aware how people rationalize their actions. If you are firmly red pill, there is no evidence I can possibly come up with to show you that not all women are carousel riders. These women I am talking about have left men to be alone.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/22 04:03 PM |
| 6 | Is the Women are Wonderful effect becoming stronger? weaker?👏👏👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 09:22 PM |
| 0 | Why do women have more choices/are not that interested in relationships?Well, be as it may, it’s the reality of many women I have met in my life. When I ask them why are they single they say “men are too much work.” All these women have been burned by “man babies”. Some very attractive, some very average looking. When the relationship falls apart and these women realize that they are so much better on their own because it’s easier to keep a place clean, less laundry, less cooking. They can have their place how they want it and feel the freedom. I would argue most wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 09:14 PM |
| 9 | Why do women have more choices/are not that interested in relationships?The simple reason why women have less desire to mate than men is because mating for men is super easy. You just deposit sperm. For women it’s your body being destroyed by pregnancy for 9 months, then some more destruction and loads of pain from delivering a baby, breastfeeding, having to be responsible for a new life whether or not the sperm donor sticks around. There is a lot of logistics and it’s not exactly jolly good time. Women don’t get the same kind of glee from passing on their dna as me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have more choices/are not that interested in relationships?Lol, are you kidding? This is super common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 12:37 PM |
| 2 | Question for coupled people: Where did you meet your partner?Relatable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 04:06 AM |
| 2 | Question for coupled people: Where did you meet your partner?Reddit. I was 37, he was 36. Been 3.5 years and things keep getting better, love/passion getting stronger. He DM’ed me. We started chatting through Reddit. Decided to switch to regular texting. Then met up 1.5 months later. Had a sex marathon for our first date and… decided to divorce our respective spouses and get together and have not looked back since. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 03:34 AM |
| 1 | I think the vast majority of frustration and anger comes from.high expectations. We need to work on lowering that for general happinessIt’s not gold digging if it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement though. Western men don’t just through the immigration hoops and pay exorbitant fees to bring these traditional women to their country out of pure goodness of their hearts. No. They do it because these traditional women add value to their lives - looks, sex, keeping the home, helping w kids, additional income. Gold-digging is just when one person seeks to profit from another without reciprocity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 3 | I think the vast majority of frustration and anger comes from.high expectations. We need to work on lowering that for general happinessMy immigrant Mom stayed w my American step Dad and he treated her like garbage even though she is much more attractive than him, always made more money than him after coming to US, paid more joint bills, not to mention she did all the domestic stuff for him (cooking, cleaning). I have personally witness a lot of abuse between American men and their immigrant wives. Yes, constant threats of deportation, mocking women for not having perfect grasp of English, making fun of their native cultures etc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 07:44 PM |
| 2 | I think the vast majority of frustration and anger comes from.high expectations. We need to work on lowering that for general happinessNot all women have negative opinions on men using prostatites. Also, pretty sure hot guys use prostitutes too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Do most guys have to change who they are to be attractive to women?Fascinating. You say you don’t want to change yourself, you just want to be accepted. And yet you call yourself boring, lazy, unmotivated. How do you feel about accepting the same in a mate?Would you be ok with a lazy boring gf? Is putting on a mask easier even though you know it’s not your true self and you are being dishonest w yourself? I guess I can understand how we all want to be loved unconditionally with people accepting us as we are but there is a line. A good parent will always love th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 09:08 AM |
| 1 | Men often say “agreeableness” is a top trait they desire in a partner more so than women state that. Why is that?Oh absolutely. I feel really relaxed in my body when I am out with my man. Not so when out alone or with girlfriends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Do most guys have to change who they are to be attractive to women?Oh wow…. And this is like a common thing? Because I feel my ex did that. And people told me he was lazy but I thought « hey he is nice, he is a good man» He treated me actually really well, but yeah… no ambitions, no initiatives. We had a lot arguments over him not taking charge. Now I want to ask you honestly - do you want to change these things about yourself? Do you want to become less lazy and more ambitious or do you want to kind of just stay the same and put on this mask persona? What kind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 03:56 AM |
| 1 | What do you care for in your partner?Patience, romance, him always being in charge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Do most guys have to change who they are to be attractive to women?Ok, but are you a scary psycho? Point being if you want to kill puppies or rape babies, but can function without acting on those compulsions, yeah then you should def keep them to yourself. However, if your beliefs/urges are non conventional but ultimately not harmful like I dunno… a peeing fetish or pegging or CNC, you should def not hide that from potential partners because you never know - you might find your match. I am trying to understand what the heck a man would even need to hide from a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | What do you care for in your partner?Things I would need in a man to be happy with him forever (and luckily bf has it all): kindness, patience, perseverance, always being there in times of need, emotionally available and vulnerable, wild and genuine, being self-driven and charge-taking, basic attraction, lots of sex and romance, being open-minded and always having a growth mindset, being worldly - familiarity with other cultures, ability to feel things deeply and raw, comfortable income, knowledge of how to love and take care of wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 10:02 PM |
| 1 | You should pay for what you order when going on a first dateI’ve had a situation when a guy immediately changed his tune in how he talked to me when I refused to let him pay of my lunch. Like he was trying to act all impressive before and after that he realized he is just going to be used as a hookup and he got sad and distant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Men often say “agreeableness” is a top trait they desire in a partner more so than women state that. Why is that?The feeling of being protected is not being defended from a saber tooth tiger. A girl wants to feel under a wing, cozy, provided for. It’s that feeling that assures them that their man will stand by and endure during hard times (pregnancy, parenting, decrease in income). That he will not run away at first sign of trouble. A woman wants to feel she is with a guy who will fight overcharges on a bill and have them removed because she does not want to do it herself. If a woman does not feel protecte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 09:38 PM |
| 2 | What is simping? What do people think simping is?My SO insisted on going out and paying for a dinner on our first date. I thought this was unnecessary for a hookup that may or not have a followup but was like « ok ». In retrospect, I am happy he insisted on taking me out because now it’s like a special romantic memory of us meeting together for the first time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 09:10 PM |
| 1 | CMV - Women are more shallow than MenThat part where you talk about young hot guys existing to serve women as sex toys got me to chuckle. As if these men are hapless slaves, breaking their backs with servitude. As far as men’s roles as providers… I have never been with men who disdain this. Generally, men have an understanding that it is their duty to provide good living as heads of household and they take pride in it. At least that’s been my experience. Never have I ever had a man I needed to coerce into being a provider for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Surely it's a benefit to monogamy if you rarely find somebody attractive?40. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people?100% truth.👏👏👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 05:54 PM |
| 7 | Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people?Holy crap, what a strange notion. And you seem to postulate this bs with such air of authority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: what did you open up to her about?The trash took itself out, obvi. You don’t need such nonempathetic people in your life. Staying friends w someone like that would be retraumatizing at every point of contact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever had casual sex with someone who was "unattractive"?Yeah, there were a couple. In early teenage years. I was just curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 06:22 AM |
| 0 | Have you ever had casual sex with someone who was "unattractive"?Wow. So relatable. 🤜🤛 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 06:19 AM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI see your point clearly. But also, if you read dead bedroom sub, you can read about a lot of girls not getting sex. I just think men and women withhold sex for different reasons. Like, for example, women have lower libidos in general and they use sex as leverage because they don’t feel they need it to feel good. Also, some women have chronic conditions that make sex super painful. Men, I think, withhold because of weak erections, low testosterone (basically health issues), porn addiction, being… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Women: what are your best dating tips for men?Oh? And why is that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:50 PM |
| -1 | Women: what are your best dating tips for men?We met on Reddit, chatted for a month before meeting. No games, being vulnerable w each other. Kinda both discovering we would both liked to get laid.Rented Airbnb, went out to eat to a fancy place then just hours of sex. He brought me the most beautiful flowers too. Made him cum 7 times. We did everything, it was awesome 1st date. He was genuine and made me feel good. He was very kind, clean, extremely generous yet frugal,made good money so that made me want to pursue it beyond first date. I wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 06:13 AM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotYeah, but for like how many days in a row would he be floating on that cloud 9? There is such a thing as “hedonic habituation”. We get used to nice things. If you are only letting yourself eat cake once a month. It would be astonishingly good that once a month. But What if You had it every day. You would get sick of it. You would get sick of endless vacation, daily whatever pleasurable thing you like. You would think you would not get sick of it but you would. If it could make men consistently h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Your opinion of men who watch porn in relationship?Satiating informational thirst | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Your opinion of men who watch porn in relationship?Woman, does not matter how often he watches it as long as it’s not obsession. Does not matter what kind of porn as long as it does not involve non-consensual stuff, suffering and as long as it has nothing gross (poop). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:27 PM |
| 4 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotThank you. I would argue that looks fade to a great extent. We lose the currency of youth way before we lose sex drive, lust for life etc. One cannot chase the physical beauty forever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI do apologize if I seemed super pro-women. I stole my current partner from a sexless marriage. And his ex… holy hell. Super c**t. But I question the results of these studies. I even even question if a one year study could truly be called longitudinal. It’s not that long a span of time. Sex goes up and down, every year is different. My sex drive was always high after marriage and it went through the roof after pregnancy and my husband could no longer give me enough. I know this is anecdotal but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 10:34 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI really want to make it understood that for women, romance does not have to involve anything sexual. Have you ever read posts on dead bedroom where a guy is like “I took her on vacay, paid for everything, wine, fancy restaurants and gifts and she still has not spread her legs. I had to wank off in the shower.” ? Women feel the difference between being romanced (shown deepest love, admiration, worship without expecting anything back) vs. being groomed for fucking with expensive shit. Women give … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 09:38 PM |
| 2 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI dunno if I believe you. There used to be times when I would do it all for my man. I was so crazy for him I would do anything he asked and I was happy to give. I noticed that he started to take it for granted. He was happy but became very casual about it. Like « oh, you are a sub, you love serving. » And I pulled back. Now that I am more reserved, I sense he has more respect and he is more romantic with me. He tries harder to get what he wants and oh my word… man trying his hardest is the sexie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotNo, I gotcha. I could not survive without sex personally. That has not stopped me from accepting that there are happy couples out there where sex does not figure into their equation. People should do whatever makes them happy? Imagine society tells us if you don’t want sex with your partner, then you are not healthy, something wrong, this is not love. And then suddenly this perfectly happy low sex couple start questioning themselves. People should have the freedom to define their relationship ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 09:14 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotFunny thing, the dictionary definition of « romance » does not mention sex at all. To romance is to « try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts, or flattery » whereas seduction is «enticement of someone to sexual intercourse ». It’s possible you don’t understand the nuanced differences of these definitions. They exist nonetheless. I have received romantic and galant gestures from quite a few man, but they were not seducing me. They were just being nic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 07:03 PM |
| 4 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotI have seen plenty of couples be happy in this arrangement. You might call it friendship and maybe so. Does not mean there is no love. These people can be genuinely happy and accomplish a lot more alone or as a couple raising kids, building a home than a volatile couple who have hots for each other but destroy each other with jealousy etc. Sex is not necessary for happiness. I need it to be happy. But plenty of people don’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotUnfortunately sex+friendship does not equal romantic relationship. For a relation to be romantic it has to have romance. Romance does not mean sex. Romance is when a man woos a woman, tries to impress and dazzle her to show he values her above everything else. And in return, the woman gives all of herself to the man. It’s a powerful exchange of masculine and feminine energies. Without that, friendship+sex =FWB. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 4 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotSee, I parted ways with my previous partner. He had low libido, I had high. But this is not why I left. I could live with less sex. But he refused to date me, do romantic things. He thought those things were pointless. He was just aromantic. Not his fault. We were just a poor match. He would be happier with a nerdy gamer chick who is into random adventures. I want to be wined and dined, roses, gifts, get aways. I am a homebody who likes to cook and clean and be a mom. Luckily my new partner both… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 1 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotSo let me ask you this. Let’s say you fall in love with a girl and everything is peachy keen. But then something happens. She gets into a car accident, becomes paralyzed or disfigured in some way. Or she develops cancer and withers or simply ages from the stress of parenting. Your sex life also changes. You cannot have as much sex if at all. You can objectively see that this person have lost some of their beauty and are not as attractive anymore. Are you going to love them less or want to fuck t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 06:17 PM |
| 36 | The way some women here on PPD describes their S/O is so unflattering and insulting that if they read it they’d break up with them on the spotBut do you realize that there could be a very loving strong relationship between 2 people without the woman wanting to “suck the soul out of him”. Men overemphasize looks in long term relationships. Imagine you are with a girl who every time you see her says “Omg, stud, start unzipping those pants cos imma bout to suck the soul out of you”. And you hear that for a week, month. Then it looses its sparkle and meanwhile you notice this girl is crap with domestic stuff, she does not want to help out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Life is fundamentally unfair. We all start out with different stats. But if a group of guys and girls go out for a night of drinking and dancing and at the end the shortest guy gets drunk and curses all women out because they are too petty/shallow, that’s not going to win him any dates. Yeah, this happened. And I also heard short guys shitting on tall girls too. I would prefer to be shorter tbh. Always wanted to be petite but I’m built like a horse. But I prefer to think that our physical aspect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 01:30 PM |
| 0 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?I am relatively tall for a girl (5’10) and I have always gotten a weird vibe from shorter men. Like they come across more insecure and spiteful. So that’s really the turn off bit. Taller men seem to have less hang ups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 04:10 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: why do you want children knowing that science says that having kids makes women less happy?Kids are a lot of work and stress but also incredibly rewarding and fulfilling if you are actively engaged in parenting. My kids make me go Grrrr so often, but also I can smile just thinking of them. They bring a lot of joy. It’s fascinating to watch them grow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Women making the first moveMy gfs who are 8 in looks say whenever they approach men first, men ignore them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:25 AM |
| 10 | Surely it's a benefit to monogamy if you rarely find somebody attractive?This is 100% the truth. People crave love and connection more than having someone pretty by their side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 01:19 PM |
| 18 | Surely it's a benefit to monogamy if you rarely find somebody attractive?Yes, most men don’t evoke sexual urges. I have met maybe 5-6 my entire life. They had more than just good looks though. But my desire for men evolves inside relationship. The more the man invests in me=>the more attractive I find him =>the more he evokes sexual urges in me. Random hunks are just easy on the eyes. Like a vase in a museum. You might admire their physical beauty but not really feel like you wanna do anything with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 01:09 PM |
| – | Do you care about a guy's "number" if so what ranges are do you prefer?Does not matter how high the number as long as they were not ONS or hookups. If a man had tons of women but had relationships with all of them, I would assume he would be somewhat sagely about dealing with different types of shit from different women. I would also assume he knows more about how to pleasure women in bed better than somebody who had very few partners or were partnered w low libido folks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 08:51 AM |
| – | Would women really reject men on the basis of being intimidated?Too ripped = self-obsession. I want men obsessed with me, not themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 08:26 AM |
| – | I'm very new to all these pills but red pill seems very convincing. Can women in this sub refute the following claims ?What is a casual sex? Accidental ONS that happened a couple of times or hooking up with something regularly. Most people do not engage in casual sex with any sort of frequency. “Hottest” is subjective. In a room with a fat smart and funny guy vs. “hot jock” that seems cold with no sense of humor I would never go for the jock. Who cares solely about conventional attractiveness. False. The biggest loves of my life - I felt/feel lucky to be with them. No settling. I worry they settled for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/22 08:22 AM |
| 2 | Q4W How would you react to your SO losing a fight in a really pathetic way?Annoyance followed by empathy and trying to support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/22 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you believe that men have it harder?No, life is hard on both genders. Some challenges are the same, some different. Possibly. Men seem to suffer from loneliness more than women. No, people of both genders have value. Some people less, some more but it’s not gender-dependent. No, men are as relevant as ever, in spite of media nonsense and negative portrayals of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/22 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Being "hookup material" is better than being "boyfriend material"Wait, what? Your ex yelled at you for cumming at the wrong time? I am not meaning to sound disrespectful, just honestly confused. I am sorry about your divorce. My marriage did not work out as well. But can you imagine if girls had sex on first dates? Would you want to have sex with a woman who has sex with all her first dates. Vetting process is there for a reason. Plus sex is a super vulnerable thing to do and a woman needs to feel safe and like she is not likely to get murdered by this guy sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Being "hookup material" is better than being "boyfriend material"From a female perspective a hookup is not worthy a relationship, an arrangement where, assuming people have genuine feelings for each other, sex will not be something you would need to strategize about getting every time you wanted to have it. Sure, relationship has high potential risks but also high potential rewards. I cannot imagine that, no matter how shallow, a handsome dude would be fulfilled forever with just raising his N count endlessly without having any meaningful connections. Like, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 09:13 PM |
| 2 | When talking about divorce laws, the solution is often offered "marry a wife who earns the same or more"...but what about the mommy track? Can't force someone to work even if they agreed they would previously, and by taking the mommy track the woman will benefit financially in divorce.It’s such bullshit it makes my blood boil. The formulas and laws are terribly outdated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 07:48 PM |
| 2 | When talking about divorce laws, the solution is often offered "marry a wife who earns the same or more"...but what about the mommy track? Can't force someone to work even if they agreed they would previously, and by taking the mommy track the woman will benefit financially in divorce.Thank you for the additional information. I had to look up our state and it got an F. Weirdly, SO and his ex still have 50/50 both in decision making and time with their kids. But he does pay her through the nose so she has more money than he does. Primarily because she has no rent/mortgage and we have monthly rent + hefty child support and alimony payments. Pisses me off, to be honest with you, considering that we spent a fair amount of money feeding, clothing and entertaining the kids in half … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 07:45 PM |
| 1 | When talking about divorce laws, the solution is often offered "marry a wife who earns the same or more"...but what about the mommy track? Can't force someone to work even if they agreed they would previously, and by taking the mommy track the woman will benefit financially in divorce.Do you have a link to this “only 2 states” factoid because last I heard 50/50 is becoming the gold standard in custody hearings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 09:23 AM |
| 2 | When talking about divorce laws, the solution is often offered "marry a wife who earns the same or more"...but what about the mommy track? Can't force someone to work even if they agreed they would previously, and by taking the mommy track the woman will benefit financially in divorce.I do not think this is how it works. My SO’s ex chose the mommy track and said she has not worked since beginning of marriage. The court imputed minimum wage as if she worked minimum wage full time job for a year before they calculated child support and maintenance with their logic being - you are not disabled and you need to work because the father will not be covering the costs 100%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Being "hookup material" is better than being "boyfriend material"Hookup material = low prospects = low investment. I would think any person, regardless of gender, would prefer to be considered as someone worthy of serious commitment because it communicates a certain degree of respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 08:30 AM |
| 1 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?I can actually understand that. My husband could never cum from my bj’s. No matter how long or how hard. It really affected my ego and I questioned how much he liked me and my skill. Now with bf, it happens practically effortless. I mean, it’s quite an ego stroke, but it has nothing to do with me, my skill or my looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?Lol. Well, I am happy for your wife, really, I am. But is it helpful to say stuff like “the juice is not even worth the squeeze”? Especially in the context of long term committed relationship? Because women want pleasure too and many of us take a while to get there. If a man just gives up on trying because the “juice is not worth the squeeze”, then why would the woman want to pleasure the man? This is how dead bedrooms happen, I swear. One of the partners checks out of the bedroom because they n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?What you describe does not work on me. I don’t like my clit sucked. I need it licked with a flat wide tongue for a while. The licking has to intensify in speed and pressure as it progresses. Yeah, 45 minutes is about right. Some fingering might need to be added too if I am still struggling. It’s a lot of work and when everything is done right it’s earth-shatteringly good. I am glad you worked out a technique that works for most girls. It might be in how you do it. I can only wish that upon most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?Ok, you stumped me and I had to Google this. Apparently the average distance from vulva entrance to cervix is 3-4 inches when unaroused. It is further apart when the woman is aroused. The average length of male tongue is 3.3 inches. It is very obvious that one would not be able to place the entire length of the tongue inside the vagina because of the structure of the mouth, teeth. So I would say plausible but not bloody likely unless you happen to have record-long tongue and your gf has record s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 2 | There is NO difference whatsoever between sex and jerking off when it comes to brain chemistry.Nah. I can get myself off with hands or vibe pretty fast. When a man I love does it, the emotions and feelings are through the roof intense even if it takes much longer or more difficult to cum. Getting myself off leaves me feeling incomplete. I am thinking there is more to orgasms than just release of dopamine and brain circuitry that is activated by just mechanical stimulation regardless of the source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?Lol you licked cervix, what? I will just assume you were trying to be poetic as opposed to factual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?It took me over 10 years to train my husband. And boyf is in year 3 with some hit and miss progress. He really tries, bless his heart, and I am very grateful to him for that. I’m glad you find it easy. But it’s not the case for everyone. I find it so complicated I probably could not lick another girl to orgasm, even though we technically share the same anatomy. It’s a lot of work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Two studies on mate choice hypothesis of female orgasm. Thoughts?It takes a long time to train a man to do it right because every girl likes it differently so it’s a skill that needs to be tailored to every new partner. That’s a time investment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Why do we as a society continue to engage in hook up culture and the degeneracy that comes with it, when it leaves most people so empty inside?All casual sex I ever had I regretted. It felt somehow shameful to just do it with someone with no attachment or feels. You know it’s wrong by how it feels inside. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 10:36 PM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestThis is hilarious because I AM a woman and WAS also writing from female perspective. I mean, it’s fine that you don’t enjoy “dominant” or “hot” sex but you cannot say that this is an exclusively a male fantasy. Some of us females are submissive and like to get dominated in bed once in a while and we don’t do this to “get the man” or just putting up with it short term but rather prefer and seek out a man on a more dominant side. What I related to you was actually what happened to me. When we met,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 10:17 PM |
| 2 | [Q4W]Do you believe men can develop attraction for women over time?Hmmm… Finding men attractive does not mean I want to fuck them. There is gotta be some other connection - love feelings, attachment -for a woman’s mind to go into attractive ->fuckable. Having sex with a hot dude with no other connections feels very hollow. Plus, without emotional investment, men don’t even try to make sex good for a woman. So it trains a woman mind not to desire random hot dudes that are not invested in her. I would say female mechanism of attraction->arousal is a lot more calc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 04:48 PM |
| 2 | [Q4W]Do you believe men can develop attraction for women over time?I have bigger lady boners for men with money. If a man is well off my subjective perception of his attractiveness changes. Same goes with charisma, connections, good family, good hygiene, being an intellectual. Those affect sexual desire for me. It’s probably because I have seen conventionally attractive well hung men in bed be below average in bed and plenty of men on small side and 6-7/10 be amazing in bed. It teaches women to not relate solely on visual cues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 08:15 AM |
| 2 | [Q4W]Do you believe men can develop attraction for women over time?When we meet a man in person, we can pretty much tell within 5 minutes of chatting: hard pass, friend material, attractive short term potential fling or longterm prospects. Arguably, a man that checks off “potential long term prospects” box is the most attractive of the them. There are non-sex factors that make men very attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you think women should have sex with their SO if they aren't in the mood?I do this half the time. We started out with super high drives. His stayed high, mine kind of dropped to average but I like making him happy and just helping him feel more relaxed. It’s not some huge sacrifice when you love the person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | 'Too many muscles is unattractive' is a crockAnecdotally, I have heard from a couple of beefcakes that they had easier time getting dates/laid when they had a Dad bod and not so trim. I believe it, Dad bod is way less intimidating than a super muscular dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 03:43 AM |
| 2 | What are single/childless women past 40 really like? Are they really happy or not?In my experience, married childless people are the happiest. Children can be fulfilling but they ruin romance and put breaks on a lot of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Study on what 1,000 women feel about muscular men in terms of attraction.The guy in the pic is basically the ideal type. His arms are not huge. Everything proportional. Though we don’t see his legs… they might be toothpick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you have any realistic ideas on how to solve the rising male loneliness problem?Attractiveness is very subjective. Tall 10/10 street musician vs short 5/10 successful charismatic man who is good in bed - well, that’s a no brainer. This has happened to me many times and other girlfriends have told me similar stories and they go something like « This guy looked so blah, but he had a spark and so much passion about life that I felt instantly attracted. » I wonder if this happens to men. Super conventionally attractive but bland and not very smart girl vs. 7/10 girl but somebod… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/22 01:05 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestOh, there are plenty I am sure. But by far not as many as older single bitter men. Why do you think men statistically live longer in marriages than single old men and why do women live longer lives when they are single than when married? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestSwimmers have broad shoulders. Basically the overdone look is unattractive. If you hit the gym and watch what you eat and look like you just have a physical job, then that is attractive. But man have a tendency to create an unbalanced physique in the gym and most women find it a turn off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 06:46 PM |
| -2 | I feel like paternity tests should be done for every child at birth to prove who the father is or isn't.At first men say that women are solely responsible for costs associated with conception, then they complain about unequal sex market and how so many women these days are bailing on dating and hooking up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 04:39 PM |
| 5 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestMany non-selfish men are not great in bed. Let’s not conflate bad sex skills with selfishness. Most men’s vision of sex is what they have seen in porn and most porn has zero narrative about female pleasure. There are plenty of amazing men, great providers, romantic etc. that still, sadly, happen to be bad in sex because all their formative years taught them is that sex is about dick performance. It’s incredibly difficult to uncondition oneself from that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestRe: sex - you are not wrong in terms of one night stands or short flings. But this kind of romp you describing is just an emotional adventure for a woman. These romps have nothing to do with female pleasure. Once a woman gets her fill of those fleeting emotionally charged flings, she wants someone who will work hard towards her pleasure. She starts valuing that more. And this is where many men fall short. Because once they settle down, those “out of their league” guys want to keep having rough r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:15 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestT shape… ewww | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestYah and most of those gym dudes are top heavy with tiny legs, def not the swimmer bods she is talking about. Overpumped men are not attractive to most women. It screams a) I am obsessed with myself and b) I could break you like a twig. That gym bod also does not signal sexual endurance, which is what most women want from men in bed. Focus on strength vs. focus on endurance builds different type of bodies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 12:52 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestWise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestYou are not wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 12:39 AM |
| 2 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestNot anymore. Maybe 10 years ago. It has spread far and wide beyond the anglosphere now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 12:07 AM |
| 3 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestThey might be mediocre but they are generally happier alone than same level mediocre men happy being alone. I have never heard a woman mope about being single. Men - plenty of times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 12:03 AM |
| 4 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestRight, so he just does not understand the difference between paid, potentially interesting professional work vs. mindnumbingly unrewarding done for zero pay domestic work. No biggie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 11:56 PM |
| 9 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestMany women find domestic stuff boring. So if having a man means double the laundry, double the cooking… where is the payoff? Sex is not a payoff. Sex is work and most men are just not a great lay. So, if you cannot provide earth shattering sex, vacations or fine dining, why would a woman want you? I mean long term? Men seem to not get that women are fine being alone. Like, it’s not depressing. Call up gfs any time, read a book, make a painting, go for a walk, watch Netflix, travel, go shopping, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestBy the same token, a very average looking dude with lots of money and charisma would be incredibly attractive to many women. Because women are biologically programmed to nest and seek out mates that can provide lots of resources to their progeny. So, average/ugly face and small dick is not everything in the mating game. Innate qualities such as height, baldness and penis size do not correlate well with how much a woman finds a man attractive. His social status does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 10:43 PM |
| 1 | The rapid societal decline in sex and relationships is solely due to women's lack of interestI do not think women think of men or relationships in terms of “sex market”. It seems like an alien concept. Women generally are ok with less sex because they get burned early on on bad sex and they learn to lie in wait until something worthwhile comes along. Women would argue that having to bear children, nurse them and still generally being the weaker sex physically, hence getting harassed by men frequently, sort of balances out what you refer to as an imbalance in the “sex market”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Would you be in a relationship with a man that didn't want to get married?Nah. Marriage all the way. Better for taxes, better for medical coverage and many other perks and children protected in case of split. If I were interested in just sleeping around and having fun, yah, sure. The moment there are kids, pregnancies etc. there need to be failsafes so the guy cannot just leave when things get hard and has to stick around in good and bad times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?So what is interesting about your argument is that you say « black people are thugs » argument is different because these stereotypes had evolved through history of slavery and segregation. So, societal forces. You argue the AWALT is different because it relies on nature and biological factors. Interestingly, the biggest illustration of AWALT is hypergamy. Red pillers posit that hypergamy is intrinsic in women. Meanwhile, hypergamy just means preference for marriage to a mate of equal or higher … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?Alright, I’ll just ASSUME all black men have big dicks, all Russians are drunks, all French people are pretentious snobs and all Asians are Math wizzes. Ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:58 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?Are you reading your own writing? First you say « chillax ladies, it’s just a TENDENCY » then you say it’s shared by ALL. A tendency cannot be shared by all. How about this: « Abpalt describes a tendency that is shared by all black people, namely, petty theft. » Does not sound right, does it? Plenty of women never ask « what have you done for me lately? » and plenty of men do. Why ascribe shitty qualities to just one gender? What gave you the strange belief that every single woman has some behav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:52 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?To be fair, how many women have you heard about that went on a killing spree killing opposite gender because they are not getting laid? How many school schoolings were carried out by girls? Am I saying women are innocent little flowers? Hell no, but it’s hard to argue against the fact that men are a more violent gender because we have murder statistics, date rape statistics etc. Many women are scared of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:33 AM |
| -1 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?Feminicels? You do know that « incel » means « INvoluntary CELibate », right? Most chicks at FDS try to avoid dudes and never do they ever mope about not getting dick. Toxic, sure. Misandrists, yep. But also, just to point out, as somebody who reads MGTOW and FDS, MGTOW shit on ALL women and FDS shit on only low value males and trying to teach girls how to figure out if a dude is a high value or low value. FDS has posts about high value males doing amazing things for their women, praising these … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:24 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: What is your main disagreement with the Red Pill?It’s almost as if… successful men do not feel the need to hate on women because they have no issues with women. 🤔🤭 In all seriousness, the issue is that men have a lot more pressure to succeed in life than women and obviously far from everybody can be successful… I mean just look at the college graduation rates… and those who don’t make it (aka the majority) resent the women for being attracted to success. They spin a narrative about how women are the shallow gender, the gold diggers, as if it’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/22 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Looking for 6 feet, willing to settle for 5'11"As a woman, I have to ask... tf with the Patagonia vests obsession? She mentions it 3 times and they seem to carry like mystical level of significance to her. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/04/21 06:01 AM |
| 0 | Can't seem to create sexual attraction with ANY woman.Huh... so men are being advised to tease girls? As a girl, that would be a major turn off... like I just met you, why are you picking on me... is this person secretly abusive? My SO never teased me outside of bedroom and I love that about him. I can honestly say most girls would be really annoyed by strange men trying to tease them as part of the whole “get to know you” routine. | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMCall me a hopeless optimist but maybe we could stop before our civilization collapses. If I may be ever so brave to speak my opinion here but perhaps MGTOW needs rebranding to be more palatable to become mainstream? You see when I read r/MGTOW I empathize with men escaping abusive marriages, I get angry when I read all the metoo, false rape allegation shit... I feel excited when I see men posting pics of exotic places or neoindigenous living... pics of fancy dinners men cook for themselves and t… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/11/19 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMI’ve also seen good women go shitty. A guy marries a right off the boat red pill chick that just came to the States and in 2-3 years time she becomes Miss Bossy telling him what to do as opposed to nodding and doing what the guy says when she first came to US. I’m from another country... which is a lot more red pill than US and I’ve seen these women in my immigrant community... transforming from humble feminine ladies deferential to their men, into bossy entitled bitches... kinda blows my mind b… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 09/11/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMOh I know, there are so many shitty women out there. And you don’t want to get burnt, invest your money, time, heart. And besides you shouldn’t have to pick someone to live with just because society deems to be a benchmark of success. It’s really not. Just be happy with yourself. We are all alone in the end, anyway. But you know what I was thinking... I hope if a really nice girl crosses your path and she’d be one of those fantastic few that you would not write her right off. You could always ru… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 09/11/19 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMYou know I get it. I really do. You know what’s shitty? If woman decides to stay single people don’t question that as much as when a guy decides to stay single because he runs risk/benefit analysis and decides to opt-out. People are always like “omg is he a closet pedo? A serial killer?” Well, current trends show men are opting out of dating/commitments in huge numbers and I’m kind of hopeful things will hit a critical mass point where women will have to change the way they are, the way they tre… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 09/11/19 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMAnd that’s ok. A lot of good points are brought up there. And as my own experience showed me, there are not many platforms currently that do not censor male opinions, unless they are in line with radical feminism. I’m glad MGTOW exists. I hope it becomes mainstream. Talk about a wake up call for us, womenfolk. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 09/11/19 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Women Fantasising About Traditional Families -AKA WAATGMI’m a woman who reads r/MGTOW daily and agrees with most of the shit on there. I think men choosing to go their own way is perfectly fine, I respect it. If I were a guy, I would do it. In fact I think it’s what our modern society needs to oppose the wave of metoo, divorce rape... major entitlements ... about a month ago some of my comments got deleted on one subreddit and I got silenced for 2 days for daring to suggest that divorce is harder on the guys than women. Apparently, one is not allowed… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 07/11/19 12:10 PM |
| 3 | Stay classy ghetto womenThat’s the most disturbing part... The laughing emogis and lmao’s ... what in the actual hell... | /r/MGTOW | 16/09/19 05:58 AM |
| 2 | The Wall remains undefeated 😂Very powerful movies. All 3 of them. And the music... out of this world. | /r/MGTOW | 16/09/19 05:08 AM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Thank you for a kind response. I am also a child of divorce. I was extremely traumatized by it. My father was narcissistic and my step father is as well. I swore to myself I would never divorce my husband. That’s why I waited 13 years in marriage to have our son. I never thought this would happen. I never cheated before. We met on Reddit, he pm’ed asking for help with his wife. I was trying to save his marriage for a while... but he revealed more and more dark abusive things about her and just i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/19 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?I never said 100% custody. Never ever. 100% is sole custody. He needs to retain primary (which for all intents and purposes could be 51/49) to continue to provide healthcare for his kids. I did not think this was anything outlandish. Healthcare is expensive. Why should I feel bad for a woman who treated her husband like garbage and took him for a ride? I want to treat him better. He deserves a lot of love. People here act like love is something you can control...like you actually choose who you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/19 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Thank you for your opinion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Thank you | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Um... never said I wanted to take away her kids. Father needs to have primary custody (not sole, primary) for him to keep children on his health insurance. House... I don’t care for the house but he wants to keep his kids in his specific school district. His wife can not afford the mortgage. She has no income or assets. So what do you suggest? That he should pay child support, alimony and mortgage on a house he does not live in? What would he live on? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?I opened up my marriage of 20 years for this and everybody (my husband, my AP and I) agree that AP and I make a better fit. AP does not want me to file until he does, says he does not want me officially unattached for too long. My timetable? He asked me to move in right away with him. You seem to think I’m calling the shots... I am already a pretty decent Mom to my son... he loves me a lot. Life is a bit more complicated than the basic paradigm. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:44 PM |
| 0 | Should he disclose the affair?Lol... see what I mean about assumptions... I never said I was younger than her. I am 4 year older than her, actually. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:36 PM |
| 0 | Should he disclose the affair?This sounds like an argument to not disclose this info. If it’s likely to affect the case negatively. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:30 PM |
| -1 | Should he disclose the affair?Um... their father does not want to date me... he wants to marry me. Right away. He has a disability that requires adult assistance in the house. We love each other deeply. My kid loves him, calls him “second daddy” I met his kids via FT. I kinda NEED to slide into his life right away... he asked me to move in right away, asked me to be a “proper Mother to his kids”. He met my Mother, my husband. They love him. In fact, all my friends think he is awesome. I am in an email correspondence with his… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Lol... you assume so much about us it’s unbelievable. The “victim complex”? Huh? Claiming infidelity? You are projecting your values on me. Infidelity would never happen to me because I am a very open sex-positive person. If he wanted to fuck someone else, then this would be up for discussion, not automatic taboo... But you already decided I’m a horrible person just because a married man fell in love with me and I fell in love with him. Neither of us planned on it. We just fell in love. So what … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:14 PM |
| -1 | Should he disclose the affair?Thank you for the most non-judgemental response to my actual query. My AP has already grieved his marriage and is really looking to move on. He endured years of emotional and financial abuse from his narc spouse and tells me he need to be married to me asap. He has not left her before because he has a disability that makes living alone an intimidating prospect. I already have a son of my own and they get along really well, I met his kids via FaceTime. I am intimidated about going from 1 kid to 3… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Um... my AP is just like the man you describe - hardworking, amazing father and husband... married to a horrible abusive woman and you think I am selfish? Things are not black and white. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Should he disclose the affair?Why? Could you substantiate? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 09:44 PM |
| 0 | Should he disclose the affair?Lol... I did not ask for moral judgement but rather the legal advice. The marriage was over long before I entered the picture. I am saving him from a narcissistic abusive wive and a dead bedroom, they went through counseling, it did not work... so he needs to get out of it to make our relationship official. If you know anything about victims of narcissistic abuse, you would know that they are so broken and brainwashed, they rarely leave their abusers on their own... ... But thanks for the judgme… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/19 09:41 PM |
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