TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

lilaclemons Archive

View 0 posts and 62 comments by lilaclemons on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
11

I'm not as amazing as most of the women here, I was hard bluepill only a few years ago before my boyfriend redpilled me. I had a rough childhood so I learned poor communication habits, I am not one to keep my mouth shut but I am working on it. So unlike all these amazing self-disciplined people, I still need to talk stuff out and complain sometimes. Again, working on it. However, I talk to my best friend, a fellow RP woman and surrendered wife. We can vent and ramble on about the things our men …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 02:47 PM
2

Deep breath and relax all your facial muscles, close your eyes and take a moment. It'll reduce tension and the expression won't come off as harshly.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 07:17 PM
2

It took him a while but he finally figured it out haha. I help him with gifts for everyone else still, but I love the element of surprise so I figured it was a good compromise. I follow his sister on pinterest now so I've got it covered haha and his parents are very RP so they're easy to shop for. (he once bought them one of those big popcorn machines - like why)
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 07:13 PM
2

It's been so helpful for both of us. It allows me to still get "surprised" by his gifts, but it prevents him from buying something dumb. He's awful at gift giving and is upfront about it. He made his sister her own whiskey once with his face on the bottle for example. She only drinks girly drinks like rose and coolers so the bottle is still pretty full years later.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 06:47 PM
6

A great way to present yourself to others but still be very cozy for you. Very confidence enducing! Agreed! I never really understood why people joked about how much women loves shoes. Never understood the trill until I started changing my wardrobe and then BAM the difference a shoe can make is like day and night.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 10:14 PM
4

I think I read this post wrong, took it more as "advice please" but I think I addressed your questions regardless!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 09:17 PM
18

Hey! I actually have a fairly popular instagram account due to my style. So I like to think I have a good consistent wardrobe and aesthetic going. I'd say is minimal feminine cozy. :) I want to feel comfortable but at the same time I want to feel like I'm like some jaw-dropping lady. Cozy but energized is the mood I try and get. I only wear real gold jewellery, I have a necklace from my dad, a ring from my mom and a few other bits but I just rotate them. My boyfriend follows a pinterest board I …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 09:15 PM
1

And you won't do that, because snooping is a big nono. Take it as flattery then, try to move the emotion into a different category. Women are recognizing how amazing your man is, and he's chosen you. That reflects on you too! Focus on him and everytime she pops in your head, be like "ok sure, but I have him, and he likes when I...." fill in the rest and get yourself moving in that direction instead.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 04:08 PM
4

He's actively texting a woman who is clearly interested. At best, he likes the attention. At worst, you're not fulfilling enough for him and he's keeping her around for whatever purposes in case you don't work out. A respectable man would not be texting a woman who asks him to hook up. Period. His actions, however speak otherwise. I'm going to assume he ignored or brushed her off and then firmly decided on his relationship with you. He asked you to be FB official the same day a girl asked him to…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 03:29 PM
2

I've found facial piercings (snakebites, munro, eyebrow) will make it more difficult but the spacers/septum not really. I think most people can look past anything on your nose or ears but anything too far off from the norm seems to cause some controversy, especially while dating. My ears are 20mm, anything beyond my current size I would say would really narrow your dating demographic and while they still freak some people out majority are fine with it. Good men still approach me and my boyfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/17 03:11 PM
2

Yes meant to write Rachel!She reminds me of my neighour. I meant to write this but I think it got written over. I already follow Jun! His videos with his cats are adorable. I also love their cats, I think Negi (naurto?) and Haku (spirited away?). Rachel is my favourite though. She reminds me of my downstairs neighbour - a couple who own a ramen shop. I like when they do tour videos, like the Miyazaki video. They are really good at showcasing the great things about the country. I will check that …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:28 PM
2

Already excited just from the sub it's in haha I already follow Jun! Love her. She reminds me of my downstairs neighbour - a couple who own a ramen shop. The wife grew up in Japan in her dad's ramen shop, her husband was a culinary major here (Canada) and travel to Japan for real ramen. They met at her shop, he said he fell for her right away, kepy going back to her shop. Eventually she travelled to Germany, where he was. They met up and got ramen. Fell in love, then travelled the world tasting …
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:17 PM
2

Sure! I already follow a slew of expats living there but I can never get enough subs!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 08:07 PM
3

I love Japan and all I can learn from it. It's such a unique and diverse culture it's been #1 on my travel list since I was really young.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 07:45 PM
2

My dad is an amazing role model. Thanks to him I didn't end up as some kind of blue-pilled feminazi haha. He loves my boyfriend and that's got me feeling even better about our future.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:46 PM
3

think the actual quality of the tattoo is important as well. Not all tats are created equal. So so imporant. Even the tattoo community can agree on this. I spend a lot of time crafting my ink and canvas. My tattoos are all intended to be more feminine. I love getting compliments where people insist that mine is better than most tattoos, it's "classy and elegant" are words I often get thankfully. My tattoos are mostly botanical, many others with meaning. But placement, colour, size, artist qualit…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:43 PM
3

Thank you. I'm heavily inked but have a very low n-count and am in a happy monogamous relationship. Plus I'm very feminine, which I think is important in balancing out large tattoos. I think the kind of tattoos, however, can tell a lot about a person. Some girls I know are just as heavily inked, but based on the tattoos (octopus with a tentacle going up between her boobs) for example, makes it very obvious that girl is different than one like myself. That being said, any girl with tattoos who wa…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:14 PM
1

You know those old couples who go for daily strolls together? There's a reason for that. Just try to get out of your environment!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:10 PM
1

If social media wasn't a part of my income I'd be 100% into that! Good on ya! I always detox on weekends and when I go on vacation I remove it completely and no social media when I'm with my boyfriend. It's refreshing, but most importantly it's healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:08 PM
5

I can sense the feeling of disconnect on the horizon, but there's nothing I've been more excited to do since my dad told me I wouldn't be a "lilac" forever, to enjoy it while it lasts but not to let it steal the excitement of my new name.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:07 PM
2

SLIPPERS & HOUSECOATS! Bonus: I have a heated blanket and we get very snuggly under it
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 05:02 PM
1

I do this, except I post memes on our mirror every monday morning since I leave first. Makes him smile/laugh first thing in the morning even when I'm not there.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:56 PM
14

Men are better at handling the finances. The chapter where I had to let go of that control was terrifying for me. But low and behold, my cheap boyfriend not only took the job willingly, but he's wiser and more generous with his spending. It's like being financially stable comes natural to him and it just blew my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:52 PM
1

Bath bombs for the sister maybe? Give her an opportunity to relax if she has two young kids a nice bath would be welcomed if it was me.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:49 PM
2

Houseplants! I grow a lot of houseplants, I love finding a planter that suits the person I'm giving it to, and typically give them an easy care plant, pothos, bamboo, aloe or snake plants. I propagate my own but you could buy one.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 04:47 PM
3

Wow she's really coddling you! I'd just put my foot down with her on that one haha
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 10:01 PM
2

I agree with you, keep your nails long! You can have long nails and not get lots of dirt under them. It's just learning how to care for them properly! :) happy to help, have fun!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 09:14 PM
6

They're even expecting their first baby this July. Due date is on his birthday even! He wasn't expected to live past 20, but now doctors said he's good until his 80's likely. So it's a moment he never thought he'd see and they're the most beutiful family oh my god I'm going to call them right now and setup dinner haha. I mean, you're 18. I probably would have done all that too at 18. I'm also working on curbing my language, just more ladylike not to swear like a sailor haha. That's a really good…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 08:46 PM
3

Swap out brighter colours for darker ones, your jewllery, etc. The grunge look can be made feminine through colour and texture. Crush velvet fabrics, dark blues, etc. I personally love wearing band t's. But throw one on tucked into a cute skirt and tights can come across significantly more femme without downplaying the style type you genuinely love. Check out Olivia Emily on instagram. She knows how to make the dark grungy look come together to look nice and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 08:17 PM
14

Hey darling! Welcome to the sub. I have a wheelchair bound brother and I remember him struggling with women before. What my sister and I suggest to him is that he bcomes a bit more vocal about what he wants. Telling girls he thinks thier cute. He had to face some hard rejection from ignorant girls, but the others were lovely when they turned him down (always due to the chair). However, just by putting himself out there with people he did find one girl. He was actively trying to find a girlfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/17 08:04 PM
2

always so nice to hear of other RP women in Canada. The country needs more women like us. A Canadian women who speaks on feminism mostly is Janice Fiamengo. She has a youtube series thats interesting sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 09:02 PM
1

Daisy Cousens!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/17 09:02 PM
3

At that age you should just be able to use your words and have a conversation. "Okay. If I'm going to go off the pill I would like to discuss us each getting an STI screening and make this relationship exclusive, because for me this takes whatever our relationship is, to the next level and I think it's worth discussing." If he's going to be interested in commitment, he'll at the VERY LEAST entertain the conversation. If he won't even talk about it? Yeah, I agree with the others that you've becom…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/17 05:22 PM
2

Buy yourself some really nice underwear & a bra. Something that makes YOU feel sexy. It's a good start, feeling sexy under your clothes. I feel my sexiest in my undergarments. Then you can still wear those baggy things until you work up the courage to wear more figure flattering things. Bonus that your boyfriend would love them too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 04:17 PM
44

I approached my boyfriend, it weirds some of my RP friends out, but he's forever thankful I did, because he wasn't looking to meet anyone sex/commitment wise while he was in school. He likes to say "You prevented me from missing the best opportunity of my life" melts my heart. I think it's partially because I set my sights on him and locked on. Pretty much exactly this way, eye-contact, excuse to talk to him (we were in a college together and the prof told us to pick a partner "someone we've nev…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:52 PM
3

Yep, I think that is a fairly big factor. I'm a bubbly ray of sunshine to pretty much everyone I meet. It's extremely inviting so I get a lot more attention than say, my best friend who is just as beautiful, I'd say we're both fairly high in SMW but she has resting bitch face, so she gets approached far less.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 02:23 PM
4

What's wrong is their belief that living a different lifestyle somehow impedes your quality as a woman. They're not real feminists. The good kind of feminists respect all lifestyles women want to embrace.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 04:19 PM
6

Love looks a hell of a lot like taking advantage of a good man and forgoing your job as a wife/mother to be lazy/dumb
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 07:34 PM
3

I'm an office admin so leaving is not an option. I'll just try to apply "biting my tongue" to this as well haha
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 02:20 PM
3

I suggest referring to them as "learning experiences" over mistakes, unless of course some were mistakes. Don't taint your brain convincing yourself your past is somehow wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 03:50 PM
2

Just remember good behaviour is a two way street.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 03:49 PM
2

What would you advice for preventing the filling of silence with non-romantic partners? Co-workers, friends, strangers, etc? My boyfriend loves my silence filling chatter and so does my family. In a sense everyone in my life accepts/enjoys my rambling, they're a bunch o'enablers haha. I however, cannot stand when I do this with people who are not close to me. I really want to curb this behaviour. Like in front of my boyfriend's friends.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/17 03:41 PM
6

Try to assume they talk good too. Don't assume the worst of them, that's not good character on your part.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 07:12 PM
7

Yep. I agree, my boyfriend wanted a girl with a college education (we met in college) but now as we've been working, he's starting to really push for me to be done working. He said it was important while we were "growing" that we were both educated and driven in our own ways, but now that we're a team he's quickly learning he wants a SAHW. I think it's also possibly because, at least here, girls without an education or at the very least good job experience are typically not wife material. Poor R…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 04:28 PM
5

I've got call of duty ones myself haha, really loving not being the only redpilled nerdy wife out there
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 04:25 PM
5

I try to pair items so I'm loose on top and tight on bottom or tight on top and loose on bottom, so they're actually somewhat figure flattering. Now that you've typed this out I realize this is a huge part of my deciding my outfits. Trackpants get a tanktop to match but leggings get a loose tshirt.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 03:53 PM
2

Tights and tshirts. I like it because it's comfy, boyfriend likes it because I'm easily gropable in all areas. The happiest medium, plus the leggings don't feel like pajamas and I'm not afraid of getting a tshirt dirty so I can get all of my housework done and be available to my bf and it's also a quick change into something nice. I do however, always try to do my hair and makeup every morning whether I'm staying home or not. Keeps me in the zone. If I'm going out or seeing anyone that day I typ…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/17 03:47 PM
3

r/homemaking to answer any of your assorted questions
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 09:16 PM
4

for the "ssh don't tell your friends" part I suggest having one solid friend who operates her life redpill style too. My bestfriend is this, we can ramble and talk and get overly emotional about our silly issues and then we can talk it out, and give eachother advice on how to handle it. We're surrendered wives so it's really great to be able to bounce ideas of each other. Like when I'm upset and can't pin down a problem I'll bring it to her, she'll help me figure out a way to put the problem int…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 09:13 PM
12

Talking to my shrew-feminist friends is my favourite thing. It's like watching TV, because I'm so distanced from the hamstering and whatnot now. It's like a zoo exhibit but it definitely teaches me what not to do. And even if I don't learn anything, it makes me feel SO GOOD about my relationship and how I deal with it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 09:09 PM
1

feels key word That's not the problem. Her REASON might be that she feels ignored due to the lack of time and attention. So the PROBLEM is that they don't spend enough time together. The SOLUTION would fall on HIM to solve and would be that he adjusts his schedule and makes time for her.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/17 01:22 PM
19

"I want more time together" Bring him the problem, not your feelings, not your solution. The problem, in one sentence.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 08:16 PM
3

I also agree about the specifics, make sure it's in stock prior! Thankfully boyfriend only ever wants things off Amazon so far so it's been easy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 08:15 PM
3

The best gift from the heart is yep, just love.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 08:11 PM
2

You need to read the surrendered wife book too
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 05:58 PM
8

Yep, after many failed gift attempts on both ends, my boyfriend and I are very clear about what we want each other to get. I keep a bullet journal, so I keep my list of the things I want there. I let him go through the journal when he wants so he just goes to that page. He's far more specific, he'll likely only give me one firm idea. For example, I know he wants a specific camera lens and I will get that for him for our anniversary this weekend. I told him I wanted X, X, X or X and gave him exac…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 05:54 PM
4

Yeah it's tricky, because she is really dominating and whiney, but I think without Richard you can really see the important Captain-esque role he played in Emily's life.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 09:16 PM
6

I like Emily and Richard Glimore from Gilmore Girls. Even though Emily gives off the vibe she's the boss, you can always see that she steps behind her husband in all important matters. He's clearly captain but she gets her time to shine constantly.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 08:16 PM
5

Red & Kitty (aside from the drinking problems) are mine and my captian's relationship model haha
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 08:14 PM
2

Same here, female friend, bestfriend of over 20 years - apparently I talked about things "I know nothing about" when I just mentioned a fact that rubbed her the wrong way and followed by a right-leaning statement. (conversation about gender) It's made me so incredibly sad. I however, decided if they're going to judge me entirely on a political opinion I don't want to be friends with them to begin with. It's shallow minded. My friend is a die-hard bleeding liberal and even if he's reminded I'm co…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 07:33 PM
3

purple orchids Orchids are hard to care for plants, so unless you're got a really good green thumb, go fake. Other plants that would be good to start - pothos, snake plants, philodendrons, aloe are easy to start with.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:04 PM
3

This is entirely my place. All white base with some grey and black. Only things used as decor are plants (the planter is the great opportunity to show personality/colour). Kono-mari your current situation, live in the emptiness to figure out the things you actually want/need. My captain has been trying to convince me to paint the living room bright orange. That, I do not encourage. If you do go with colour, go by mood, not by what you think would be the best colours. "I want the room to be roman…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 06:53 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter