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lilycamilly/r/ExRedPill24/06/23 01:00 AM
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Yeah. A lot of people do shit I wouldn't do. They can live their lives how they want and I ain't gonna try and stop them, but yes, it's silly to me. That's why I don't do it. I'm a silly goose in my own ways but dating someone who ain't a feminist isn't one of them.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/24 01:04 PM
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You are SO young, dude. You're like, a fetus. You have so much time. I have friends, both men and women, who didn't have their first kisses/first relationships/first sexual experiences until they were in their 20's. Don't sweat anything. Keep being social, keep focusing on school and growing as a person, and the romance will follow.
/r/ExRedPill10/03/24 02:52 PM
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You're completely right. He takes the behavior of like 2% of women and acts like it's all of us. He needs to touch some serious grass.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 06:47 PM
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The "truths" to redpill can be easily found elsewhere in spaces that don't promote the objectification and abuse of women. Don't be one of those people who supports the Tates because "well, they tell guys to work out and working out is good" even though he is a rapist, sex trafficking criminal.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/24 12:36 PM
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YES. Holy shit. PLEASE DON'T DATE THIS MAN. RP content tells men to seek younger women because they are naive (no disrespect but coming here to ask this question instead of flagging it immediately proves this naivety, I was naive at that age too) and eager to please. He is hiding how he really feels about women so he can sleep with you.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/24 12:33 PM
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That's an awesome idea, I wish you luck, my friend! Therapy has gotten me through the darkest times of my life and out the other side a better person.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/24 12:28 PM
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I suppose mister loves company, but stop trying to drag people down with you. Seek therapy.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/24 12:03 AM
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You are too stupid and purposefully obtuse for me to waste any more time replying to you. Goodbye.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 10:45 PM
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Yes, because everyone has the time and money to take off work, potentially get child care for their existing children, drive through several states, pay for an abortion, pay for multiple nights at a hotel while they recover, and drive back. And obviously there's no issues speaking freely about your abortion, there are sure to be noooo repercussions, no need to be discreet! Also, you are NOT guaranteed the ability to travel to a different state. There are already nut jobs trying to limit that. Br…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 10:18 PM
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Redpill simply tells men to take advantage of young, naive women so they can mistreat them for their own pleasure before they get older and realize the games that are being played. Yes, people do that. Just because you CAN doesn't mean it's right. You're a piece of shit if you do that, end of discussion. Why did you pick the macho guy earlier over the sensitive guy first? Surely it couldn't be because you were just stupid. There had to be something he had that you thought was attractive. Why cou…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 10:07 PM
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And if it was the civil war, you'd tell a black person, "Slavery is only legal in the south, just move north." That was also a "state's rights issue". Just today I saw a video of a megachurch pastor saying, during his sermon, that too many women walk around wearing shorts, and that "if he's on the jury at your rape trial, I'd let the man free, because men are men". Open your fucking eyes and look at how common and pervasive the oppression of women is in the US. Just because we're not ordered to …
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 09:49 PM
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It's because when you're 18/19/20, you're stupid and inexperienced. I sure as hell was. This goes for all genders. Then you get a little older and gain some confidence and go "wait, why am I putting up with this?" and you wise up and pick better. Little kids want candy for dinner every night too, because they don't understand the consequences of what that means. RP mindset just tells men to be the "candy for dinner" equivalent of a boyfriend, AKA maybe exciting and indulgent for a moment but wil…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 09:19 PM
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Right to our full bodily autonomy ever since the overturning of roe v wade, to start, so we have fewer rights to control out bodies than a corpse. Pregnant women cannot have divorces finalized in Texas, Arkansas , Missouri, and Arizona. Not to mention the extrajudicial pervasive anti-woman attitude that is prevalent not just in the US, but globally. All the rights women have today were fought for and paid in our blood. My mom was 9 when women were given the right to have their own bank accounts.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 09:09 PM
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Now THAT is some cope if I've ever seen it, lol. Seek therapy.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 07:54 PM
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Well, I'm a young hot chick and I'm dating a young hot male feminist who plays Magic the Gathering 2 to 3 nights a week and I wouldn't change a thing. (He's been teaching me how to play and I won my first 4-person free-for-all match on Friday, go me!) When you see a girl with a good looking guy, you automatically assume he's rich? That he's super "masculine"? Stoic? Such an "alpha"? You have no idea who he is, he's a stranger to you. You are making assumptions about people even though you have N…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 07:38 PM
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Any source for that? And no, Tate and Fresh n Fit don't count as reliable sources. I've dated "macho" dudes, and I've dated "sensitive" dudes, I've dated all over that spectrum. You couldn't pay me, at my grown age, to put up with the shit I put up with the "macho" guys when I was young. Meanwhile, my boyfriend just finished reading all the Twilight books because I got him into them and he loves them, and he cries at cute dog videos online. I find him endlessly funny, handsome, charming, and ove…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 06:30 PM
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for a relationship with a dominant man, that openness and vulnerability is what makes the relationship possible and safe I think this is very well put. RP men like to talk about how "so many women have rape fantasies and want to act out rape with their male partners". There is truth to this, however these men think that the existence of these fantasies means that women WANT to be raped and that men SHOULD rape them. What they don't understand is that acting out a situation that WOULD be dangerou…
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 06:21 PM
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Exactly. So don't sit around spewing accusations about women that are painfully untrue to the majority of us. Yes, some women want a "rich macho alpha stoic chad". In my circles, we call those women "vapid idiots". As a feminist, I do not support women who choose to play into these arbitrary and toxic gender roles and standards. They can do what they please, but THEY, and YOU, better not speak for ME.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 06:15 PM
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My boyfriend is a hardcore feminist and part of the LGBT+ community and I love him to death. You are simply wrong. I would never, ever date a man who wasn't a feminist.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 05:33 PM
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Why aren't you a feminist? Do you not believe you are or equal value to men? Do you believe you deserve fewer rights than men? What do you think feminists fight for? Who, besides men, should be blamed for the harm caused to all of society that is perpetuated by patriarchy?
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 05:32 PM
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Well, I would find it silly. That's like saying "I support the LGBTQ+ community but don't you DARE call me an ally!" or "I believe in and worship Jesus Christ but don't you DARE call me a Christian!" or "yes I ride horses and herd cows for a living and wear chaps and wide brimmed hats and say 'howdy' but don't you DARE call me a cowboy!" The term "feminist" can get a bad rep in hyper-masculine spaces, but it's because they don't support what femininism supports. If you believe in what feminists …
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 05:30 PM
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I don't know a single woman personally who would say "I do not want my boyfriend/husband to be soft and vulnerable and emotionally open with me". I don't know what world you're living in but this idea that men have to be stoic and dominant with their girlfriends/wives is simply not the reality for most, yes MOST, women. There are SOME women who want that, yes. There are also people out there who like to be pooped on. Different strokes. Most women just want a partner to build a happy and healthy …
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 05:24 PM
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Literally how is that copium? It's 100% true. Sounds like you're the one coping with being unlovable.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 02:21 PM
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I would never date a man who couldn't (or wouldn't) call himself a feminist. I'm glad you're wising up, my dude
/r/ExRedPill27/02/24 02:20 PM
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Probably because RP is like, the antithesis to feminism. There are plenty of men who are neither RP nor feminist, but stupid people are bad at nuance.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/24 06:07 PM
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Your phrasing of "Couldn't GET one to commit" is a big issue here. You are assuming that the tall, handsome guy not committing to her is HER fault, and not HIS, and that's simply not how things work. I've been on both sides of this. I've been the girl who was DESPERATE for the guy she was dating to get serious about her. I thought, "maybe if I just be cool enough, if I satisfy him sexually enough, if I lower my standards for being treated well enough, he'll commit to me." None of these things wo…
/r/ExRedPill27/01/24 02:40 PM
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If you want kids and she doesn't, that could be a long-term compatibility issue that makes me think you should probably break it off. If you do want to keep seeing her, I'd just give it to her straight. "I like you a lot and I've really enjoyed going out with you. How are you feeling about things so far? I'm hoping things can progress into a real relationship if you're feeling the same :)" If you're really into her but feel like she may be losing interest, I'd say a fourth date is a great time t…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/24 06:57 PM
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Wow, this guy was a real pain to listen to. What a dingus.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 05:52 PM
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I'm pretty sure I'm interested in my boyfriend as a person, not just as his "world" of playing MTG and his dog. This is a bizarre take.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 12:06 PM
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Edgy. Seek therapy.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 01:38 PM
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Bro this is the dumbest response I've ever read. I never want kids, neither does my boyfriend, so what does genetic quality have to do with our relationship? He has autism and ADHD, I have (hereditary) depression and scoliosis. We still adore each other. I do think SOME level of attraction is necessary to fall in love with someone, but you do realize that EVERYONE is attracted to something different? And that attraction is FAR from the highest priority when it comes to building a long-lasting, s…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 04:05 PM
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Ideally, the love would outweigh the attraction lost. My partner and I took a flight to visit his family for a few days last week. I met his grandparents, who are both in their mid 70's. They've been together for like, over 50 years. His grandmother is quite ill from an autoimmune disease, she's been declining for the past 20 years or so. She can walk, but not far. She is tiny and very frail and skinny. She can barely use her hands. Grandpa is in overall pretty good health, when I first met them…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 02:48 PM
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I think that's a devastating thing overall. IMO, if you're married, I mean, that's what your vows are for. Like, if your wife of a decade gets in a car accident and her face gets busted up or if your husband gets really sick and gains some serious weight (or whatever scenario you can make up), and the only issue is you're no longer AS attracted to them, you're kind of a dick if you leave. These things usually also carry a lot of emotional difficulties and traumas too, and that strains a relation…
/r/ExRedPill15/01/24 02:05 PM
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No, that is not shallow to want to be physically attracted to your partner. What IS shallow is if you're only attracted to the extremes of unrealistic body standards. If you think a woman MUST be white, a size 2 with DD boobs, under 5'5", long hair of whatever your specific color preference, and naturally bodyhair-less, then that's pretty toxic. We all have our standards, but you need to be realistic. Most women do not look like pornstars. There's a big difference between "I want a girlfriend wh…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/24 06:15 PM
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If she's late 20s, then someone in their late 20s? Da fuk?
/r/ExRedPill13/01/24 01:10 PM
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Yes. Women are all unique individuals. So are men. Why is this so hard for people to understand????????
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 01:00 PM
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My boyfriend cries at cute dog videos online. I wouldn't have him any other way. There are TONS of women who find "alpha male"/andrew tate behavior to be abhorrent, myself included.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/24 01:00 PM
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There is no definition because it's a fake label idiots apply to themselves to justify them being a dick to women.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/24 02:43 PM
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What a well-considered, pointed response to my year old comment. I really can't compete with your facts and logic. Surely, I will never post again.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 01:37 PM
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Then face your fears and tell your girlfriend how you're feeling. You can either face your fears, or run from them. You'd be a damn fool if you just dumped your girlfriend without talking to her about this. You already said you DON'T believe that she'd refect your vulnerability, so do it! I know it's scary, vulnerability is scary and LIFE is scary. But to not try because of the fear of failure or rejection is how you waste your life in your comfort zone doing fuck-all and running from everything…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 01:13 PM
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Ask your parents. Don't be too proud. You don't have to tell them WHY you're going to therapy. Tell them you've been going through a hard time and would like to work on things with a therapist. The fact of the matter is that you've got to reprogram your brain to not make the connections they're making. Do you want to solve your issues, or just run away from them? Do you want to work on yourself, or wallow in self-pity?
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 09:41 PM
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Therapy, my friend. Talk to someone about these toxic patterns your brain is trapped in. And TALK TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Tell her you'd like to be more vulnerable with her but have anxieties around it and she what she says. Ask her, "do you find it to be a turn-off if you see a guy cry?" and if her answer is yes, you probably shouldn't be with her cuz that's a fucked up expectation, for you to never cry. If she's a decent person, she'll tell you she wants to love and support you and be emotionally …
/r/ExRedPill22/12/23 06:43 PM
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This is brutal. Have you TALKED to her about this? I'm going to be honest, from just what you've posted here, your wife at best is completely asexual/hates any physical affection or at worst just doesn't love you and is with you for some other reason (family expectations, money, "adults are supposed to be married" feelings, etc). I couldn't fathom not being allowed to even put a hand on my partner or kiss them. I'm sorry, but this is probably a divorce situation unless she makes BIG changes. But…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/23 01:59 PM
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Do you NEED to watch movies? Do you NEED to play video games? Do you NEED to order a pizza or eat ice cream for dessert? Do you NEED art on your walls and music playing in your house? No, you'll survive just fine without them. But what is life without them? You don't need them, but they add a lot of happiness when you have them. If being single is silence, a good relationship is a beautiful, catchy melody and a bad relationship is grating screaming. If you live around constant grating screaming …
/r/ExRedPill06/12/23 04:03 PM
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I'm also very self-reliant. I never NEED a partner. But I WANT to have a life partner, for the companionship and love and laughter. My boyfriend doesn't NEED me and I dint NEED him. But we WANT to be with each other because we make each other happy!
/r/ExRedPill06/12/23 11:37 AM
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1) Kindness/emotional intelligence/empathy. I feel like these are all pretty closely tied. No being a dick to the barista, knowing how to express your feelings accurately and with grace, just being kind to people in general. This includes not being a bigot of any kind. 2) Honesty. Pretty self-explanatory. If I can't trust you not to lie to me, I can't trust you period. 3) Reliability. Following through with the things you say you'll do and communicate clearly if you can't. 4) The ability to lear…
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 01:35 PM
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She's the fucking worst. Obvious case in internalized mysogyny and begging for male validation. Idiotic, vapid grifter.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 02:51 PM
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Absolutely not. You ever seen what happens when a "hot" woman celebrity gains a little bit of weight? Nobody gets unconditional love, and I think that's a good thing.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 12:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing!
/r/ExRedPill15/11/23 09:38 PM
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Who the hell are you talking to? Sure as hell aren't talking to me, because I don't do that shit. So jot that down. Some people are assholes, that includes men and women and everything in between. Some people are homophobes. It's not gender exclusive.
/r/ExRedPill14/11/23 01:13 PM
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My partner has autism and ADHD, and has a very good job that pays very well, a great group of friends, a wonderful dog, and a wonderful girlfriend (me lol). Never assume it's over for you before things have even began. There are ALWAYS things you can do to better yourself and gain confidence. I'd highly recommend seeing a therapist to work through these insecurity issues so that you can recognize and appreciate the wonderful things about yourself, I'm sure you have plenty, even if you can't see …
/r/ExRedPill13/11/23 11:50 AM
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I post on Instagram because I'm a painter and a Instagram is HUGE for getting eyes on your artwork and networking in my industry. I post the occasional pic of me for shits and giggles and so people know who's behind the account. I can understand if you're not comfortable with your partner posting like, boudoir photos or graphic content online, but caring that they just... Have an Instagram and post like, selfies/outfits/beach day pics or whatever the hell else? Grow the hell up. Who cares.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/23 09:59 PM
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They're ruining their entire audience's chances at forming healthy, stable relationships
/r/ExRedPill10/11/23 11:45 PM
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No, most women do not do that. There are some women that do and some men that do, and IMO it's psychotic. But generally, no.
/r/ExRedPill09/11/23 02:36 PM
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Well damn! Luckily for you, you've already got a lot of things that your "Typical Incel" don't have. If you've got stable employment, there aren't a whole lot of like, "concrete" things I'd tell you to do. Things like "masculine sex appeal" can be tricky to nail down, that's where so much RedPill nonsense comes in, they have a HORRIBLE idea of what masculinity means. To me (admittedly, not a man lol) masculinity means having integrity in your beliefs and morals, having the backs of your family a…
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 03:00 PM
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I'm glad to hear you're in therapy! That's a wonderful first step, please stick with it! My advice would be to expand your social circle, try some activities you've never done before and meet new people, and try to make genuine FRIENDS with some women with NO expectation of attraction/romance. Hang out with some women that you aren't attracted to and get used to talking to women as people, not some mysterious other species. Hell, hang out with some old ladies! Volunteer with some local services …
/r/ExRedPill08/11/23 02:21 PM
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I mean yeah, there are toxic people from every demographic. What are you trying to ask here?
/r/ExRedPill05/11/23 05:38 PM
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Dude. You are paranoid. First off, things like antidepressants aren't bad things. I've been on antidepressants for several years and they have drastically improved my quality of life, I honestly don't think I'd be alive today if it weren't for them. But even then, you never HAVE to take medication. If you see a therapist and they recommend medication/seeing a psychiatrist to prescribe them, you can tell them that's not what you want. Still just talking with a therapist through these experiences …
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 01:48 PM
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I read your other comment where you broke it down. If you're actually being honest about your life here, you've been through a lot of shit, really abnormal shit. It's warped your view of "normal". The things that have happened to you are NOT normal. With all respect, please seek support for your mental health. You've got a lot of biases and experiences to unpack and process.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 01:27 PM
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I'm literally begging you to go to therapy if you're not in it already.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 01:23 PM
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brother what the hell? You think you're gonna hang out with a woman and just suddenly start twerking? I'm a woman and I don't do any of the things you've listed as "Feminine habits", except for smiling. Of COURSE I smile, my life is good! I'm a happy person! I say this with full seriousness, you need therapy. The way you view women/femininity is NOT normal and NOT realistic.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 01:21 PM
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Dude, your chances of being ACTUALLY RAPED are higher than being falsely accused of rape. Also, afraid of adopting effeminate habits? ...What?
/r/ExRedPill02/11/23 01:18 PM
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The honest to god truth of the matter is that a bigger dick does NOT equal more pleasurable sex. Some of the worst lovers I've ever been with had the biggest dicks, and they acted like their dick was some magic cum-stick so they didn't have to actually try to please me (foreplay, oral, touching, etc). And sometimes they HURT me, going too deep/too rough and leaving me sore for days (which is not fun). The vast majority of women can't orgasm from penetration alone, they need some kind of clitoral…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/23 12:31 PM
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I'm sorry you've gone through such a shitty time, but I'm really glad to hear you've woken up to so much of the bullshit young men are fed on the internet these days. You are valuable, no matter how much time you spend at the gym or how much money you make or how many women you sleep with.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/23 01:37 PM
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Very well put, especially mentioning how toxic behavior attracts toxicity. The RedPill "mind games" are a bait that only catches people who are any or all of the following: A) deeply insecure, B) not good with healthy relationships themselves, and C) equally shitty in their behavior. If you're fishing for tuna, but you're only using catfish bait, don't be surprised when you only catch catfish. (I don't know much about fishing..... But my analogy still stands, lol)
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 12:47 PM
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That's fantastic advice! Talk to couples, talk to women who you're not at all attracted to, just talk to PEOPLE and get used to treating women like PEOPLE, not some illusive prize to be gotten.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 12:41 PM
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I'd argue every woman is a victim of them.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/23 10:50 PM
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I'm happy to hear you've done so much introspection on your upbringing and the damage religion has done to your views. It takes a long time to unlearn these things, but you've already begun the journey, you should be very proud of yourself! There's a reason sexually repressive societies have higher rates of sexual assault and domestic violence. Deny people the ability to express these very normal, deeply-seeded human desires and emotions and things get REALLY weird.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/23 01:34 PM
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God, SO true.
/r/ExRedPill16/09/23 01:21 PM
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Yes, you were brainwashed. Most norm people are just that, normal. Everyone is different, everyone wants something a little different out if a partner. Yes, the women RP describes do exist, but they are the VAST minority of women as a whole. Most women just want someone who treats them well who they can build a life together with.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/23 09:58 PM
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RP will tell you that emotions are irrational. This is not the case. Humans are emotional beings, that's our STRENGTH, to feel empathy for others and to work together. To downright dismiss all emotion is IRRATIONAL.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/23 11:27 AM
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Yeah, toxic plus toxic is a recipe for disaster.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/23 11:40 AM
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She is toxic. Absolutely. Women, just like men, can sometimes be terrible people. Not all women are terrible, and not all men are terrible, but there's no demographic that is impervious to being jusy fucking awful. RP mindset tells you all women are terrible, which is why you have to treat them in XYZ way. That's not the case. If someone is treating you terribly, that's THEIR problem, not yours. Drop them and find someone who treats you well.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/23 05:55 PM
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Dump him or end up a battered wife who can't leave because she'll be homeless.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/23 12:32 PM
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Well there is no one answer. There are multitudes of reasons. Why are you trying to narrow it down to one?
/r/ExRedPill27/08/23 10:32 PM
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If you're not sure, you haven't felt it. And like all things of worth, it's not easy to find. To me, the point of relationships is companionship. True companionship, where you understand each other even when the words aren't coming out right, when you believe in each other even when you're not at your best, where you truly want the best for each other and are willing to make sacrifices to lift up the other person. I know I'm being awfully poetic but this does indeed exist. True companionship, tr…
/r/ExRedPill27/08/23 05:36 PM
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"I don't think it is intimacy & connection either. Nothing wrong with these, and it's fun to read about in a romance fiction" There's a lot to unpack in this sentence. Have you HAD a relationship with a woman where you felt like you could be intimate and vulnerable? Truly?
/r/ExRedPill27/08/23 01:28 PM
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That is a very reasonable lifestyle to seek. I would argue most men want something similar, a wife and a family but not needing to be the sole provider and actually being able to spend time with his children and play a large part in raising them. RP men, as loud as they can be, are outliers. MOST people, no matter the gender, want a PARTNER. Someone they work with to make BOTH of your lives better and more stable. My parents both worked my entire life, they both raised myself and my older siblin…
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 06:09 PM
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And that's good advice!
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 05:56 PM
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oooohhh, I thought you were a man asking this. Girl, of COURSE you can hunt and homestead! I want to have an extensive garden myself someday when I own property. Most women, even those who WANT kids, don't subscribe to this "barefoot and pregnant" idea. Even if you're married and a house spouse, it's ALWAYS a good idea to be able to be self sufficient and to bring in some source of income for yourself in the event that your husband turns out to be abusive/unfaithful/can't provide enough for the …
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 05:55 PM
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What does you hunting have to do with what your partner does?
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 05:43 PM
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What the fuck? Of COURSE she's """allowed""" to be self sufficient. There's so much to unpack from this post that I don't even know where to start. Women are "allowed" to do everything that men are "allowed" to do. In a relationship, the two individuals feel out the dynamic that works best for THEM. Whether that's both working and bringing in income, one person staying home to run the household, whatever they like. There are no rules for relationships, all that matters is that both people feel h…
/r/ExRedPill26/08/23 05:15 PM
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Keep up the good work, my friend. I'm with you. I have zero tolerance for any kind of behavior like this.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/23 01:09 PM
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You're so right. If these RP idiots want virgin women who never show skin to the public so bad, they can go move to Saudi Arabia. Women can never do right in the eyes of these lunatics. They'll judge us no matter what we do. I gave up trying to impress men as a whole a looooooong time ago.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/23 12:53 PM
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I'm no fan of Logan Paul, he's a lying ass scammer for sure, but this Dillon Danis guy is a real piece of shit. He's attacking Nina simply to get at Logan, all to hype up this fight. Dragging this woman under the damn bus for doing literally NOTHING wrong. She's had boyfriends before Logan? She's, God forbid, taken PICTURES with other men??? Oh, the HORROR!!!!!!!!! Like, of COURSE she's had past relationships! She's a gorgeous model! She's extremely desirable! Why should she limit her options? T…
/r/ExRedPill25/08/23 12:50 PM
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You're super right. Yeah, there are slight differences between men and women brains, but we're not THAT different at all. We all want stability, happiness, friendship, love, to pursue our passions and to live our lives to the fullest. RP idiots act like we're completely different species
/r/ExRedPill20/08/23 04:23 PM
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Ya see, I think honesty RARELY needs to be brutal. You can be honest without being mean. If your kid is like, a heroin addict then yeah they need some tough love in the form of an intervention. But when your kid is a KID, an actual child, you don't need to be brutal to be honest. All children, even troublesome ones, deserve and benefit from earing their parents say "I love you and I appreciate you for XYZ reasons." Every little kid deserves to hear their parents tell them they're handsome/pretty…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/23 11:07 PM
11

Well yeah, like, parent your children, don't praise them for bad behaviors. But I absolutely think it's better to err on the side of loving, don't you? You can be realistic and still uplift your children. I agree, there needs to be a balance.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/23 10:56 PM
36

You're amazing and beautiful! There, now you've gotten a complement from a woman :) lol But in all seriousness, the fact your mom never complemented you is fucked up. A parent should always be telling their children how wonderful they are and building up your confidence. Although I'm sure it's really painful to feel like you're "missing out" on this kind of experience, the truth is that even IF women start complementing you, you won't feel that hurt truly heal until YOU start loving YOURSELF. Yo…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/23 06:53 PM
17

I was never red pilled (also I'm a woman) but I watched it and it just proved to me even more how much of an absolute slimeball Pearl is. She is so desperate for any male attention or validation she'll throw the entirety of womanhood under the bus. She's too ugly for these scumbags like the Tates or Fresh&Fit to even want her so she has to epitomize the "I'll do anything you want darling, I'm just a dumb female, you're the boss" stereotype. She's a vapid, hypocritical grifter and I have no idea …
/r/ExRedPill17/08/23 12:48 PM
19

I think you're totally right that RP men simply don't go out and see how the world really is. If you live in a small town and/or don't leave your house much, you have no real experience with what real world dating and relationships are like!
/r/ExRedPill16/08/23 11:59 AM
2

There's nothing illogical about calling out a double standard. You say f&f would still "check off all their boxes", idk about you but for me, actually having orgasms is a pretty big box that needs to be checked off. All these men like those losers on f&f think relationships are transactional because all they have to offer is their money. They're not good looking, they're personalities are dogshit, and they can't make women cum. So of COURSE the only women around them are going to be "gold digger…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/23 11:31 AM
1

Boy this thread is 2 months old, are you digging through old posts just so you can find every opportunity to suck F&F's dicks?
/r/ExRedPill14/08/23 12:34 PM
17

You are correct! Men AND women suffer because of the patriarchy.
/r/ExRedPill08/08/23 01:32 PM
1

Honestly, no. It's just one of the MANY facets of romantic relationships. The reason sexless men are an "issue" for society is that they use their sexlessness as an excuse to be misogynistic, violent pricks.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/23 02:56 PM
2

Oh man, that is so sad. If any of my female friends told me they got cosmetic surgery, say, a boob job or a nose job or lipo or fillers, solely so men will like her more, I'd feel the need to give her a big hug. I'm glad you feel more confident, but jeez dude. Sounds like you're looking for validation because you changed yourself significantly so others would like you, and you're angry that other people don't feel that same need. I had my ears pinned back for cosmetic reasons when I was young. L…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:49 PM
1

Well I mean, yeah, being in good shape is typically better for your dating changes than being in bad shape. But it's also true that some women don't like muscular men. No one's disagreeing with you. Both of these things can be tru at once. Being like, seriously overweight or underweight can hurt your chances when dating but it doesn't make dating impossible. People have different priorities. Some people don't prioritize being in great physical shape, and that's fine for them, that's their prerog…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:10 PM
1

Interesting, I wouldn't have guessed that. Sooooo what exactly are you trying to prove with your post then? Obviously, everyone is different. Everyone has different tastes. A lot of women like muscles on their men, but some don't. This isn't exactly a breakthrough observation.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:41 PM
3

When you said "women". If you've ever "not all men'd" a woman, you should know this.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:27 PM
6

Yeah, most of them do. Not all of them though. Just look at the Pete Davidson hype. Timothée Chalamet hype. Guys like all kinds of different women too.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 11:46 PM
14

Logically yes, but in practice no because RP-ers are dumdums. These suckers will really follow Andrew Tate to the ends of the earth despite the fact he's literally being charged with rape and sex trafficking, because "he has some good ideas". Those good ideas being... Going to the gym and earning lots of money is cool. Like, wow. Groundbreaking advice. They act like Tate/Jordan Peterson and the like are absolute geniuses for giving basic life advice such as "do exercise and clean your room", and…
/r/ExRedPill24/06/23 12:47 PM
2

It's just a wholesome story of a healthy relationship. AB + Lena Ayad, both you tubers/streamers/crew members of the H3 podcast. They're a great example of a relationship that RP-ers would tell you is impossible. Healthy trust, healthy gender dynamic, no toxic mind games or gender roles.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/23 12:31 PM
0

How overweight is too overweight for you? Because I can tell you from first-hand experience, being a little overweight (like, ~20 pounds or so) does not mean someone ISN'T taking care of themselves, and being a healthy weight doesn't mean they DO take good care of themselves. Particularly for women, it's common to carry a couple extra pounds around even when you're completely healthy and take good care of yourself. If you're writing off women because they have, like, a tiny bit of belly fat, the…
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 07:56 PM
1

Well the reason I'm asking is that your problems may stem from simply reaching too far above your own "league". You describe yourself as decent looking and say that you have a good job and good social life, which is all great, but if you're only reaching for the cream of the crop, you'll find yourself being constantly rejected. This isn't to say that, like, smoking-hot models won't ever like you, I'm sure there are some that would, but you need to be realistic with your options. I'm not saying y…
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 07:29 PM
6

Well, who do you find yourself attracted to? What traits do you find attractive? I'm talking both looks-wise and personality-wise. Can you describe the kind of partner/relationship you're looking for?
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 06:12 PM
4

Welllll can you tell me what kind of women you pursue? What's your type?
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 06:07 PM
9

Get out there socially, join a recreational sports team/start volunteering/take a class, and make some friends! Meet women and don't hit on them, just try and make some genuine friendships with them. Men and women aren't all that different, if you find yourself nervous to talk to women, just remember they're probably JUST like you in a lot of ways. Talk to them as you would talk to any other man. Making genuine female friendships can help a lot, and once you feel close enough to talk about your …
/r/ExRedPill22/06/23 02:03 PM
15

He wanted two different bangmaids. He just wants to SOUND like it's for a less gross reason than that.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/23 12:33 PM
3

You really nailed it. I'm happy you've learned how valuable being open with a partner is. Props to you!
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 01:31 PM
1

The back pain ain't worth it!!! 😂😂😂
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 11:28 PM
1

I'm sorry my friend, but I have to draw the line somewhere! I've gone on dates with a few men who were your height though. I figure most women wouldn't date a dude straight up 10 inches shorter than them, so I cut myself some slack for not going that low too often. But there are plenty of women who aren't 6'2" so I wouldn't stress too much.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 05:05 PM
3

It's rare I meet women my height or taller, but it happens!!! Tall girl supremacy!! Lol
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 05:02 PM
10

I'm a 6'2" woman and I haven't dated a guy taller than me since, like, freshman year of high school. My current partner is about 5'10" or 5'11". I've dated as short as 5'6". RP dudes, once again, are delusional.
/r/ExRedPill09/06/23 12:48 PM
6

I'm a 6'2" woman, and I haven't dated a guy taller than me in a LOOOOOOONG time. My current partner is just under 6 feet, most of my serious partners have been between 5'9" and 5'11". I've dated men as short as 5'6". The height thing ain't that big a deal, my friends.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 11:28 AM
3

It might take some conscious self-reprogramming. Whenever you catch yourself thinking these toxic things, recognize the toxicity of it, acknowledge it, and make the CHOICE to say to yourself "that's toxic thinking. What do I really think is going on here? What's a more realistic explanation?". After pursuing this for a while, you'll find yourself skipping over the toxic thought and your mind will head straight for the non-toxic, realistic thought. Examples from my own experience: seeing someone …
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 08:14 PM
6

I believe so. You KNOW their asses would be pressed if a woman went on a podcast and said "I don't make the guys I hook up with cum, I get my nut then kick them out". They'd be fuming lol
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 12:56 PM
5

I'm not the one out here claiming that most men can't orgasm. When you say dumb shit, don't be surprised if people call you dumb. The "women don't cum/it's hard to make women cum so I won't even try" attitude is delusional
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 04:12 PM
5

You're the one who tried to correct me (a woman) on how women's bodies work.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 04:05 PM
3

Sauce? You post too many dick pics to be this sexually illiterate
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 04:04 PM
6

It doesn't happen as often in hetero sex cuz men don't know wtf they're doing.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 04:04 PM
9

Oh you sweet summer child...... Most women DO orgasm, just not from vaginal penetration alone. Gotta have some clitoral stimulation. But men like fresh n fit (and probably you) get all their sex ed from porn so they think jackhammering so hard you could start a fire from the friction is how to make a woman orgasm. Thanks for your comment, I needed a laugh today
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 03:58 PM
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Two idiots saying idiotic shit. If they have somehow slept with that many women, they definitely did not provide orgasms. You end up with a bodycount like that because no one's coming back for seconds.
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 01:26 PM
4

Doesn't matter. If he's down to be a step-dad, then good for him, it's his problem, not yours. Just cuz you wouldn't do it doesn't mean people SHOULDN'T do it.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 06:29 PM
6

Have you ever heard of adoption? People raise kids who aren't biologically theirs all the time.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 06:28 PM
5

You're spot on with this
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 01:22 PM
6

I think what helps me find that trust the most is having the confidence to say if they hurt me, I know I can pick myself back up again. I'm fairly content when I'm single, and I'm not the type of person who feels like they NEED their partner. I do have a partner who I love very much, and if he were to cheat on me it would hurt a lot, but I know I don't need him to live my life and be happy. If he breaks my heart, he breaks my heart. It's been broken before, and every time, in time, it healed str…
/r/ExRedPill26/05/23 09:01 PM
7

You need to learn to trust. No, no one can ever know with 100% certainty what someone else has going on in their mind. That's true of everyone, not just people you're in a relationship with. You need to cultivate the capacity to accept that you'll never have 100% certainty that your partner is faithful to you. If she gives you no realistic reason to believe she's cheating (and things like "she talks to her male coworkers at work" or "she has some male friends" or "she didn't text me for 2 hours …
/r/ExRedPill26/05/23 04:50 PM
5

You're not wrong, but even after a few days of texting it's appropriate to say "hey, I really like talking to you, you're super cool, I'd love to take you out sometime soon if you're game". Wait too long, and THAT's what makes someone lose interest. Let them know you're not just texting them because you're bored, you actually want to get to know them and see if there's a connection.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/23 01:48 PM
1

Exactlyyyy. OP, don't force yourself to wait hours to respond to a text. Just text them back when you want to. Anyone who's turned off by a quick response has issues that you don't want to get involved in. Also, actually take one of these girls on a real date, OP! Doesn't need to be fancy, you can just grab a coffee and chat, or go to a fairly casual restaurant (not fast food obviously, but does NOT need to be boogie). Get to know them IRL. Texting will only take you so far.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/23 01:46 PM
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26f here. I've heard some not great things about BetterHelp, I would look for an in-person therapist in your area if you can afford it. Also, talk to a psychiatrist about starting antidepressants, they have absolutely saved my life. It might take a few tries before you find a brand that works for you long-term, but its worth it. Seeing your primary care physician is also a great idea to run through these things. The difficult truth is that when it comes to social anxiety, nothing helps as well a…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 05:28 PM
2

He's worried he won't be able to please a partner, I'm telling him his dick is perfectly fine and giving him tips on to ACTUALLY please a partner cuz we all know PIV penetration ain't all its cracked up to be. Ur username checks out bigtime.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/23 12:17 PM
8

Get good at box munchin' and you'll have no problems, my man. I've dated men all over the size spectrum, and average is best. Big enough to really feel it, not too big where it leaves you sore or you get your cervix bruised. But like u/lurdofthegraveyurd said, most women (myself included) can't climax from penetration alone. That's where the box munchin' comes in!
/r/ExRedPill04/05/23 12:39 PM
8

You blew it. I know it hurts, but you have to accept it, learn from it, and move on. She blocked you because she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. It's only been a month and no one can fix their personal problems that fast. If you DO want to try to hit her up, wait like, at LEAST 6 months. But, for the sake of your own happiness, I would love on from her completely. But now you know better! You know to not let these past insecurities get in your way, to be communicative and work WITH your par…
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 04:45 PM
9

So was I, I knew of like, one or two girls who were secually active at that age. In a school with like, 300 girls. Red pill has rotted your brain, dude.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/23 01:15 PM
4

I'd say a pretty standard GNO includes getting dinner and/or drinks, and just talking about anything and everything. Gossip, shit talk, what's going on in our lives, the works. Sometimes includes getting all dressed up and taking pictures of each other looking cute, sometimes includes going to bars and dancing. Ya know, fun girl stuff!
/r/ExRedPill08/04/23 01:25 PM
5

Nope. Everyone wants something a little different. There are absolutely outgoing women who prefer to have a more low-key partner, and there are shy women who want another shy individual to do more nights in and one-on-one activities.
/r/ExRedPill07/04/23 12:33 PM
6

30 and 17? Yes.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/23 12:16 PM
27

There are literally people who enjoy having someone take a hot shit in their mouth. There are people who like to have their balls stomped with high-heels. When it comes to love and sex, there's always SOMEBODY who's game.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 11:03 PM
6

I understand if someone who does have a college education would prefer to date someone who also has a college education. If education is important to you, it's probably an important thing to have with a partner, and you are more likely to have things/life experiences in common. But also, it can come from a shallow place for sure (i.e. "he needs to make a lot of money and degrees mean he's more likely to make a lotta money"). Some women are indeed shallow, just like some men are.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 11:02 PM
3

Therapy is delusion?
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 09:21 PM
2

Hasan definitely is, idk about Destiny. I've heard he's pretty transphobic
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 09:35 PM
17

Therapy therapy therapy, my friend. Your brain has wired itself to associate youth with value. It will take active work to rewire yourself so you no longer feel that way.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 05:54 PM
3

Oh hell yeah! Yes to both!
/r/ExRedPill18/03/23 08:43 PM
2

Not even a little bit. I'd argue it could make you MORE of a man, taking on the additional challenge and responsibility of being a positive role model in this child's life. It is a privilege to get to play a part in raising a good person. You're stepping up to a plate that not a ton of men have the balls to do.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 01:31 PM
10

Pearl is such a vapid, ignorant pick-me. I can't stand her. She just spews garbage for views and money.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 02:05 PM
2

Yeah, you should
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 01:45 PM
20

PLEASE save your money. You're absolutely wasting it on RP/PUA courses. The "knowledge" they're selling is almost entirely lies. You can find better dating advice for free almost anywhere else. Keep that money for when it's time to take a girl you like on a nice date.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 06:48 PM
3

You absolutely nailed every point!
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 02:32 PM
2

Oh believe me, young and hot aren't mutually exclusive!!
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 12:39 AM
1

Not the person you're replying to but I'm 26f and I absolutely think it's better to take things slow and do a healthy amount of growing up on your own before you settle down with a life partner. I've had several serious relationships in my life, through HS, college, and now in grad school (current SO and I have only been together for ~4 months so still pretty early in the grand scheme of things but it's going well!). I spent my first year and a half of grad school casually dating and just kinda …
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 02:51 PM
2

HELL no!!!! You have plenty of time. Some people don't find their life partners until they're in their 50's or 60's or even later. There is literally no time limit to finding love.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 02:42 PM
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To have a teammate in this game we call life, lol. A true companion, someone I feel safe and supported with, who can work with me to achieve our mutual life goals, who I can trust to have our best interests as a couple in mind. Life is better when you're in love!
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 04:42 PM
6

Good for you tbh, you'll be better off without him
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 06:21 PM
8

You told me earlier today that your sessions never exceeded two hours a day. Fudging the truth isn't going to get you the help you need.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/22 12:00 AM
3

Still not a permanent or accessible solution to these very real problems that most people have
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:25 PM
4

With all due respect, hell no lol As far as middle eastern countries go, Israel would be the only one I genuinely would love to visit, but I could never live there. I would love to live in one of the Nordic countries, they have wonderful standards of living and completely free healthcare. Unfortunately it is really difficult to move out of the USA/immigrate to another country, it costs a ton of money and the new country needs to actually WANT you there. So many dipshits here in the USA say "If y…
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:24 PM
1

I get it through the university where I'm doing my master's degree, the plan in total is a little over $3k a year but at least the school pays for 2/3 of that. So I pay about $1k a year. Even some of the cheapest federal healthcare plans are quite a bit more than that.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:14 PM
4

I'm a very frugal person and am content to live on pretty little. I'm currently in grad school and make about $20K a year, it's enough to get by but I have very few luxuries. Myself and most people I know are ok with it for a while in our youths, but I sure hope I don'y have to live this way forever. After a quick visit to that sub, I have a lotta respect for people who live like that and would like to do some of those things myself (things like having a vegetable garden, maybe some chickens, so…
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:12 PM
2

That is very true. You don't NEED employment to have insurance of course, but most people get their insurance thru employment. If you're some millionaire who has all the money they need, then yeah, who cares if you're employed or not? But obviously, that's not the case for almost everybody.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 05:04 PM
5

I mean, are they not heavily correlated? If you have like, a fat ass trust fund or get fat dividends from stocks and can still be financially stable while unemployed, then it's a non-issue. But most people aren't in that situation.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:46 PM
23

If you were taking a temporary break from employment for your education, and she found that unattractive for some reason, that's on her, not on you. I personally would not do what she did, but it mighta been one of those things where she was already unsure about the relationship and that was the best time/reasoning to end it. I don't think you did anything wrong, based on what we've talked about. Who knows what her deal was.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:32 PM
21

Well, if she said she wasn't attracted to you, then there you go. It didn't have anything to do with the gaming or the unemployment. She just wasn't into you enough to want to stay together. It happens, it's happened to me as well.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:19 PM
9

Then it's less of a pressing issue, of course. But still, if you seem to have a pattern of spontaneous unemployment, that's not a great feature for someone who wants to build a life with you in the future. Living together or not, if you're often getting fired or leaving jobs and your income is sporatic, that's not someone I'd want to be committed to.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 04:18 PM
15

You can still be a partner/companion while unemployed, but there's also a strong likelihood of becoming a financial burden. Also, if you're unemployed and your partner is not, but you're not picking up your slack by doing the majority of the household tasks... You're being a leach.
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 03:28 PM
34

If you want to be in a long-term relationship, you need to be reliable enough to help with your portion of the expenses that you and your partner have agreed upon. It's not about success, it's about knowing that you are capable of holding down a job, paying your share, and won't suddenly get fired or quit your job without discussing it with your partner first. If you decide you want/need to quit your job to go back to school, learn a trade, work on starting a company, etc. you need to discuss th…
/r/ExRedPill24/12/22 03:26 PM
3

Thanks homie! :)
/r/ExRedPill23/12/22 02:55 PM
6

God there's a lot to unpack here. Please don't try to date college girls. You're not fresh out of college, no matter how much you "feel" like it. Your mindset IS toxic.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/22 03:03 PM
4

Man, I'm just telling him to go have fun but play it safe, if she's visibly drunk and slurring/stumbling. Err on the side of caution but still go and live your life!! He may still have a great date with her, he just may not cum at the end lol it's not that big a deal
/r/ExRedPill29/11/22 12:36 AM
15

DON'T have sex with her if she's drunk, ONLY if you've discussed that she want's to get drunk and has sex when she's SOBER. Even if she's throwing herself at you, if she's too drunk to drive, she's too drunk to consent to sex. What may be a disappointing/anticlimactic evening for you if you don't have sex, will be a sign to her that she can trust you not to take advantage of her. Better safe than sorry. Be a gentleman. If you don't have much experience drinking, just pace yourself, stick to only…
/r/ExRedPill26/11/22 07:37 PM
1

Idk, I've sure hurt some men's feelings that way lol. Grow up and come talk to me after you're 25 and hopefully finally literate
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 07:13 PM
1

Oh, so you DON'T have a problem with girls who aren't virgins, you just have a problem with girls who just behave in a way you don't like. Believe it or not, having sex doesn't alter a woman's personality. I have a great relationship with both parents, grew up in a loving home, and have had several sexual partners. The world ain't that black and white, dude. If you don't want to date a girl with an extensive sexual history by a young age and who has a toxic personality, that is perfectly fine fo…
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 07:02 PM
3

Yeah, men and women are different. We ain't THAT different.
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 06:51 PM
1

Well, you obviously have a poor view of femininity so why are you mad when I act masculine? It's almost as though I'm a multifaceted person who has feminine and masculine traits. Soooo sorry I'm not going to be a polite little princess to some high schooler named "alphagigachadsigma" on fucking reddit like a good little lady. Your entire world view is based on double standards. women bad, men good, but if woman act like man that's bad, if woman has sex she's bad but if man has sex he's cool, men…
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 06:45 PM
1

When it comes to this one friend, I would reiterate that your girlfriend has chosen to be with YOU, not this other guy. She may love him as a friend and have a lot in common, but at the end of the day, she comes home to you. If you think that his behavior toward her is inappropriate, like if he flirts heavily with her or says things like "you'd be better with me" or has given you a reason to think he's trying to pursue her, talk to your girlfriend and express why his behavior makes you uncomfort…
/r/ExRedPill25/11/22 06:11 PM
2

You can never be %100 sure of your partner's loyalty. It's the ability to trust them anyway if they've never shown you DISLOYALTY that matters. If you have no reason NOT to trust them, trust them. You'll drive yourself crazy if you ruminate on the "what if's". If you are a religious person, you'll be familiar with the concept of faith. Don't have BLIND faith (like if you find text convos of cheating, etc.), obviously acknowledge it if you see something that is obviously not ok, but you need to b…
/r/ExRedPill25/11/22 04:06 PM
0

They don't seem to have a high opinion of each other, do they? OP thinks they're all as weird as he is.
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 03:46 PM
1

I would absolutely advise you start seeing a therapist if you are able, I'm a big proponent of therapy and a therapist can be a wonderful sounding board for these thoughts that bounce around your head like these. RP content/teachings has wired your brain in a certain way, and it will take time and effort to rewire yourself so that you don't jump to these conclusions. Instead of thinking, "Why is my girlfriend spending time with other men? She must not think I'm enough", you can think, "How cool …
/r/ExRedPill25/11/22 03:43 PM
3

Most men who frequent subreddits like this one care. Most men IRL really don't. Please talk to real people outside your woman-hating online echo chamber.
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 03:15 PM
0

Can't wait to see you say the same to your dad after I fuck and dump him lol
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 03:05 PM
1

What if I don't believe in God?
/r/AntiFeminists25/11/22 03:04 PM
-7

Imagine thinking a woman is unloveable because she may have had sex 1 (one) whole time before you lol. Believe me, no woman is angry they can't marry you, chief. Outside your reddit echo chambers or your church, most men don't care if a woman is a virgin or not. I'm begging you to touch grass.
/r/AntiFeminists24/11/22 07:52 PM
9

The internet is absolutely lying to you.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 03:50 PM
7

I'm in the same boat. It's not so much that a man needs to make X amount of money, it's that he needs to have his shit together enough to make a living for himself, and overall be a responsible enough person to hold a decent job and be financially smart and now blow all his money. And, for OP, to put it super simply, I don't know anyone (man, woman, or nb) who wouldn't prefer to be taken to a nice restaurant on a date as opposed to like, Taco Bell. In that way, having a decent amount of $ is abs…
/r/ExRedPill17/11/22 07:55 PM
15

Because it's just not true?
/r/ExRedPill07/11/22 09:13 PM
16

Having your own place is absolutely more attractive than living with parents, but also please don't uproot your whole life just for slightly better chances with dating! Do it for your own personal growth and independence. Moving to a new state by yourself is absolutely scary, I did it myself last year when I started grad school, but it's a wonderful learning experience and a great way to jumpstart life on your own. If you can swing it financially, I'd say go for it! Find a new gig, your own litt…
/r/ExRedPill05/11/22 05:33 PM
3

Break up with him, my friend.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 11:56 AM
6

Good for you for getting away from that asshole
/r/ExRedPill16/10/22 01:33 PM
6

2 of them were in HS, 2 of them were in undergrad, 1 of them was post undergrad. They were overall happy and healthy but that doesn't mean that they were "the one". They weren't without problems and incompatibilities. I've never been in what I would consider an unhealthy long-term relationship. That doesn't mean they were all perfect, especially the ones that ended due to things like long distance or big life changes. Not all breakups are because of people fucking each other over.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/22 10:22 PM
5

I did answer his question. He asked if men should stop trying to date women entirely, and I answered no. The reason women are often less happy in relationships is because, quite frankly, the bar for men being "good" partners is generally super SUPER low. Women who are in genuinely healthy and happy relationships can be and are just as happy if not happier than single women. We're expected to put up with a level of mediocrity from our male partners that we ourselves are not allowed to stoop to. I…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/22 09:32 PM
26

No lol. Just be a good partner and try to be a positive force in her life. If she's unhappy, she'll break up with YOU. Don't try to make that decision for her.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/22 01:33 PM
2

If you can't be yourself without being mean or rude, I don't know what to tell you bro.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 12:15 PM
15

If she's got a boyfriend but is telling you she's interested in you, ditch her. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 01:49 PM
4

Well, if she's calling you "my love", it sounds like she's interested in you. Are you interested in her? Because it'd be a shame to fumble this because you're not being flirtatious back and she stops trying. Besides that, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, per say.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 01:40 PM
19

You can be yourself and still be courteous. You can be honest without being brutal. What do you mean by being "sincere"?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/22 01:32 PM
29

I'm so glad you're seeing a therapist, but please dump your loser bf. He's trying to mold you into the kind of women RP-ers want; subservient and insecure. He's the one killing the relationship, not you.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 01:22 PM
8

You're so young, please don't waste any more time with him. You two are fundamentally incompatible.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/22 05:21 PM
8

You are SO YOUNG!!! Believe me, you have plenty of time to find a partner. In fact, I think it's really important for young people to spend a good amount of time single/not tied down so that they can learn who they really are as an individual. I'm 25F, in grad school, and living alone for the first time in my life. It's a smattering of things; lonely at times, but also very liberating, and has been helping me understand what I want out of life. As someone who has had several serious relationship…
/r/ExRedPill10/09/22 01:42 PM
2

Easy to overcome, have more to value about yourself than just your penis.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/22 12:46 PM
11

Hasan is great!
/r/ExRedPill05/09/22 01:03 AM
1

Girl????? No????????? Live your life for YOU!!!!!!!!!! I'm 25f, in grad school, single and with no kids and I don't plan on having any. I'm alive because of the things I want to experience and achieve. Our worth is based on sooooooooo much more than being an incubator. You only have one life, so live it well. PLEASE GO TO THERAPY
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 10:09 PM
7

Y'all have been dating for two weeks. You're not exclusive yet. Her still talking about her ex and their relationship isn't ideal, I get that. But IMO you'd be silly to throw this away now for that. TALK TO HER. Tell her that you're really into her and that you're hoping to go down the path towards a committed relationship with her, and that you can't stop her from seeing her ex but that it makes you uncomfortable and if she wants the same things as you with your relationship, you're requesting …
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 05:19 PM
19

Y'all have known each other for 2 weeks, it's very possible she'd like to have sex with you but doesn't know you well enough to feel comfortable. Talk to her. Ask her what's up with how she's feeling about you and what she wants. Is she a virgin or has she had sex before? You've stated both in your post. If she's flaky or you feel like she's lying to you, you can respectfully dip out. Don't be accusatory, but be genuine.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 01:34 PM
1

I was just clarifying my point on familial unconditional love
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 12:43 PM
3

See, I think that parents don't deserve unconditional love from their children necessarily. If you're a shitty and abusive parent, you don't deserve your kid's love. But I think that, to be a good parent, you need to offer unconditional love to your child. Like, I could kill someone and get thrown in jail for the rest of my life, and my parents would be devastated and angry and disappointed, but they'd still LOVE me. A parent should always care about and want what's best for their child, even if…
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 12:37 PM
6

Thanks, friend!
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 05:49 PM
66

It's some bullshit. Statistically, when a woman gets sick with a debilitating illness or becomes disabled, she's more likely to get left by her husband than not. Men dip out after their wives/girlfriends have their babies because "she's not fun anymore, she's a mom all the time" or because she doesn't lose the baby weight/her body has permanently changed. Men are more likely to cheat, more likely to be physically abusive, and more likely to not put effort into their romantic relationships. Obvio…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 05:34 PM
2

Yeah, absolutely.
/r/ExRedPill14/08/22 04:40 PM
3

Lmao FUCK no! I'm 25 and in grad school and I still feel like a little kid. Life's only over when you tell yourself it's over. Go live your life!!!!
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 11:27 PM
9

They're suuuuper insecure. They find validation in their value through being hot and desired by men. It's the "if he's spending money on me/having sex with me/keeping me around, I must have value" mindset. I feel so horrible for these women.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 12:57 PM
20

I'm gonna be real with you chief, most women aren't attracted to dumbness. There are people who will tolerate it or maybe find it endearing in a partner that has other things going for them (like being kind, caring, hard-working, social, etc.) Not being good at math doesn't make you dumb, but if you're unable to learn basic life skills and therefore are inept at things like cooking, cleaning, holding a decent job, and (most importantly) being EMOTIONALLY MATURE and being able to communicate with…
/r/ExRedPill05/08/22 12:37 PM
61

Good for you for leaving that prick, you'll be so much happier and feel so much lighter.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/22 12:32 PM
4

You're on a great path, keep it up my friend!
/r/ExRedPill28/07/22 11:23 PM
17

If you watch porn, I'd cut it cold turkey. Besides that, these things take time. Recognizing your thought patterns and trying to correct them as they're happening is a great thing! Maybe whenever this happens and you find yourself having sexual thoughts about a woman you're talking to, put those thoughts aside and think of a different, platonic but still nice scenario, like goofy-singing in the car on a road trip or building a bookshelf together or something. Anything to help your brain reprogra…
/r/ExRedPill28/07/22 10:22 PM
24

Please let him go. Any man who thinks that anything Andrew Taint says is a wackadoo. You'll thank yourself later, trust me
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 10:21 PM
1

Wise words, you're totally right
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 12:29 PM
2

Preach. It's good to have standards, but especially when it comes to the looks side of things, sometimes you gotta cut some slack. I prefer men with dark hair and dark eyes, but if I meet a great guy who's blonde, it's not like I won't date him! I'm a 6'2" woman, and I've dated men who were significantly shorter than me, like 5'8". Of course I'd prefer a man who's taller than me, but I know that's just not that easy to find at my height. Ya can't have it all, what matters most is the person IN t…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 07:24 PM
-1

Why are you swiping right on people who you aren't attracted to? Also, how overweight are we talking here, and how in-shape are you in comparison? NGL I have little sympathy for the "I'm so lonely and want to find love... but no fat chicks" thing. Admittedly, I'm a bit of a chubby chaser myself, so my opinion is biased. Morbidly obese is one thing, like 300+ pounds, but if you find yourself in connection with a pretty but chubby woman, I'd highly recommend you go with the flow and give her a sho…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/22 01:23 PM
9

Have you tried dating sites/apps? Striking up conversations with women you meet out and about? Do you have any female friends you can talk to for advice? Are there women in your life you're interested in, but just haven't had the courage to ask out? Ya gotta be proactive with this stuff. As much as we all wish people would approach us (I'm 25f and almost never get approached by men (despite what RP says, not all women are constantly swarmed by dudes lol)) you gotta take some initiative and pursu…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 05:54 PM
3

You said it perfectly. I agree that having a bodycount in the hundreds (let alone thousands... I don't even believe anyone who claims that) would be a big red flag for me. But if you're still in the double-digits, I consider that pretty damn normal. A lot of people (myself included) date around and have fun when they're young/in college or whatever. I've got over double the bodycount that BiWomanHealing here said was acceptable, as a mid-20's woman who's had several serious, loving, and healthy …
/r/ExRedPill20/07/22 02:03 PM
5

This is so well put. I'm 25F, and have been single for a little over a year after I ended my last relationship (2 years and lived together). Some people might say my standards are quite high, but IMO absolutely nothing I'm asking for is unrealistic. I want a partner who is responsible and independent (like I am-I don't need a man's money, I'm doing just fine with my own), knows how to take care of himself and his space (can cook for himself, has a fairly healthy diet, keeps his place clean), is …
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 01:53 PM
26

This is a horrible way of thinking. "Being toxic, manipulative, ignorant, and misogynistic is fine if it means you get what you want". Is murder fine if you get away with it? His behavior is destroying his relationship with his child(ren). That is not fine.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/22 12:05 PM
3

?????? where??? XD You're smoking crack bro
/r/ExRedPill12/07/22 01:27 PM
13

Enjoy dying alone!
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 10:40 PM
20

Um, no? Fuck out of here, dumbass.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 09:47 PM
6

Everyone is different, but IMO being vulnerable is an important part of emotional intimacy in a relationship. Being a constant sad-sack is not endearing, but being able to talk about the difficult things in each other's lives and comforting each other can create wonderful, strong bonds between partners.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 01:27 PM
8

This is not worse for men, you [redacted]. Women being less likely to hop on your dick =/= having the right to your own bodily autonomy stripped away, being forced to carry a pregnancy to term (no matter the medical, social, and financial cost to the pregnant person). This decision will literally kill women. The #1 cause of death for pregnant people (even BEFORE this decision) is homicide by their partner. More women will be killed because the men who impregnated them don't want to be fathers. A…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/22 11:33 PM
6

I'd say once you've been dating for a few months and have a real, committed relationship, you should tell her. Tell her straight-up what your ex did, and if/how it still affects you (trouble trusting, paranoia, etc.) and answer her questions if she has any. As a woman, I like to know what my partner's past relationships were like. Where he went wrong, where his ex went wrong, what he's learned from them, pet peeves to avoid, etc. There's nothing wrong with some good old-fashioned, emotionally ma…
/r/ExRedPill26/06/22 11:41 PM
11

I think we need more info here. What is she doing? All I can tell you now is if I were in your shoes, I'd sit her down and have a long and honest about her behavior/what's going on. If she can't communicate clearly and maturely with you, I wouldn't stay in the marriage.
/r/ExRedPill24/06/22 01:37 PM
11

Also, isn't he like 36? not 29?
/r/ExRedPill30/05/22 01:07 PM
8

They're not a different species, but they're a tiny, tiny fraction of women. Most women don't really care unless you're in the extreme on either side of the spectrum. Actual sexual skills matters WAY more than weener size
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 09:21 PM
8

She's bullshitting you. Just Google it, the average penis size is 5-5.5 inches. You're doing fine buddy.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 09:20 PM
1

Um, yeah, I know what I want NOW. Now that I'm a grown woman with a higher sense of self confidence and self worth. It's not that women can't choose for themselves, it's that most of us been trained from a young age to be passive and polite, so when a dude puts his hand around your throat during sex without asking, most of us resort to just letting it happen to not upset him. When society tells you your whole life that your worth is based on how nice you are to have sex with, you start to feel l…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 05:45 PM
4

How old are you? When I was young and stupid, I used to think that bigger dick = better sex. Now I'm older and have been with men ranging in size, and personally, I think a solid 6 inches is perfect for me. Going much bigger than like 7 can be painful, with the cervix pounding and feeling stretched out and stuff. EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT. Some people like huge dicks, some like them smaller and more comfortable. As long as you know how to please a woman with your mouth/fingers/toys, you'll be fin…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 05:40 PM
21

you've got a 7.5 inch penis and you're worried you're too small??? Man, looks like women aren't the only ones who have to worry about weird and arbitrary body standards. You're WELL above average, my man. If she's a size queen, she's a size queen. But your worth as a person and as a lover comes from a hell of a lot more than your penis size. The vast, and I mean VAST, majority of women will NOT think you're not big enough (in fact, you're more likely to run into women who think you're too big an…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 05:36 PM
4

Honestly, based. I was that girl in the past, doing things I didn't actually want to do because I thought it was expected of me or that men only wanted women who would do those things. Men have no idea how women have essentially been programed to put up with this stuff, and allow things to be done to them for the sake of being "desirable", "cool", "freaky", etc. The most desirable thing for me now is a man who is happy to take things slow and doesn't try anything without explicitly asking first,…
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 01:41 PM
2

You're very right. If McDonald's is your favorite restaurant, good for you! But if someone doesn't want to go to McDonald's for a first date, they're entitled to feel that way. Find another McDonald's fan!
/r/ExRedPill25/05/22 05:41 PM
3

Those are serious issues, but you can advocate for them without making it a competition w/ women's issues. Those problems are not caused by women anyway, if anything they're perpetuated by the people in power (aka men)
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 02:31 AM
4

Look at rape stats, relationship violence stats, income stats, what's going on now with roe v wade, gender discrepancies in positions of power like politicians and corporate CEOs, and literally all of western history (women literally being property of their husbands, unable to open bank accounts on their own or own property, not allowed educations, unable to divorce their husbands, kept from the workforce, expected to pump out babies, shaming single mothers, child marriages, I could go on...) Hi…
/r/ExRedPill23/05/22 01:14 AM
6

I don't even think of things in terms of "good enough" or not. Sometimes you, even when you're very good in many ways, is just not what someone wants. You can make the most incredible cup of coffee with artistically roasted beans and the most expensive equipment money can buy, organic cane sugar and milk from a local, organic, grass-fed cow, but if someone just doesn't like coffee, they're not even going to like the best coffee. If someone doesn't like what you're cookin', just let them leave yo…
/r/ExRedPill21/05/22 04:55 PM
1

I don't think it's "bad", persay, but maybe explore why you find the domination and humiliation of women turns you on. I find it hard to believe that it doesn't coincide with at least a subconscious level of misogyny, ie. the desire to "conquer" women or viewing them like sex toys to an extent.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/22 03:23 PM
14

exactly! I used to watch porn fairly regularly but I just can't do it anymore, I don't want to see a woman with mascara tears running down her face be brutalized by enormous dicks and aggressive positions. The choking and slapping, the look of pain on the actress's face... It really grosses me out now. I'd much rather watch two normal people be tender and passionate, with all the smiles and laughter and softness that makes sex IRL so wonderful.
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 02:18 PM
24

This is a great response. I think porn, in concept, is a perfectly fine thing, but the VAST majority of porn normalizes brutal, violent, humiliating sex and that treatment towards women.
/r/ExRedPill17/05/22 02:05 PM
3

Absolutely not. I have had several monogamous relationships and have not cheated on any of my partners. Cheating is scummy, no matter what gender you are. I do not personally know any women who have cheated on their boyfriends, but I do know men who have cheated on their girlfriends. I don't hang out with those men anymore.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/22 05:16 PM
29

Yes, stop watching them.
/r/ExRedPill28/04/22 01:25 PM
32

Just wait until they hear that attractive WOMEN can be depressed.
/r/ExRedPill08/04/22 01:14 PM
1

See, I just don't see it as as much of a gamble. If you're having safe sex, that is, and get tested regularly. I'd be more worried about my kid gambling or doing drugs than if they're having casual, but protected, sex.
/r/ExRedPill22/03/22 01:28 PM
3

Someone can have a lot of casual sex at one time in their life then later want to settle down and be committed. I would argue most people are like that to an extent; you're young and not worrying about finding a life partner and just having fun, then when you get a little older and you're kinda over that, you start taking relationships more seriously.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 04:52 PM
20

And there are several women who know YOU like that who aren't your girlfriend. You chose to be with her, not all those other women. It's the same for her; she chose YOU over casual hookups with other men. It's great that you recognize your own hypocrisy here, I think it's a good start to unpacking this. As other people have mentioned, I think you have an unhealthy relationship with sex, perhaps the classic "conqueror/conquered" mentally. You have conquered no one, and she has been conquered by n…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/22 04:43 PM
1

I'm here for you bro!
/r/ExRedPill16/03/22 01:45 PM
22

This is really well put!
/r/ExRedPill15/03/22 01:31 PM
2

W brother! Keep being your beautiful self :)
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 01:29 PM
9

How old are you? You also can't read everyone's mind. There very well may have been girls you went to school with who were attracted to you but also never expressed it to you. Yes, when you're not "stereotypically" attractive, your options start to become more limited. But there is always gonna be someone who's into you. Extremely morbidly obese people find love. Burn victims and amputees find love. If easy pussy is all you're looking for, you might not get it. If genuine human connection is wha…
/r/ExRedPill07/03/22 09:15 PM
9

It depends on the woman! Some women loooove feminine-looking men. Just look at how much the whole "femboy" trend has popped off on these last couple years! Men like Pete Davidson have skyrocketed to some of the highest heights of women's desire. There's ALWAYS someone who will be super attracted to you, no matter what your body type is. Also, I wouldn't even put blonde hair and blue eyes here, those traits are not exclusive to women. Just as many men have them as women do.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/22 06:43 PM
3

Weather you call it abuse or not, he's treating his wife like dogshit and she shouldn't have to put up with it. Calling his own wife "low value" and expecting her to obey his every whim is dogshit behavior. What else can you even call it?
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 06:31 PM
4

abuse =/= hardship, ya dingus
/r/ExRedPill06/03/22 02:07 PM
8

Divorce.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/22 02:21 PM
3

This was a great article. I'm a single woman who watched a lot of porn in my youth, and even I relate to this. The insecurity, the expectation of aggressive sex, etc. I recently watched a bit of porn after having seen almost none for the last few years and I REALLY related to this part: "Porn I used to enjoy now felt excessive, dehumanizing, and honestly, not very attractive. There were a few videos I saw where I couldn’t believe I used to watch stuff like that. I couldn’t help but notice how un…
/r/ExRedPill04/03/22 02:46 PM
20

I think they'd hate him because he's NOT an "alpha", just a sweet, genuine, and literally mentally challenged person, and he STILL got laid and they haven't.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/22 09:28 PM
1

You're correct, men typically are much stronger. It doesn't change the fact that I'm 6'2" and 200 pounds and few men can actually pick me up in
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 02:21 PM
29

They're a lot like single males over 35. Single, and over 35.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 10:10 PM
5

putting her on a pedestal sure as hell doesn't work. What does/can definitely work is treating her like a human being and being kind, respectful, and friendly.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 01:29 PM
22

this person only "proved" that RP can get you laid with a small batch of immature, inexperienced, and insecure women. RP tactics will never amount to a happy, healthy, loving relationship.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 01:24 PM
25

Exactly. Neg me and I just get up and leave. I'm a woman actively LOOKING for everything this man is telling other men not to do.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 01:23 PM
8

Lol, no. 300,000 out of the 300 million in the USA is not "most".
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 01:21 PM
9

As long as you're honest and doing your best, I wouldn't worry about it too much, but I understand why you would be. My advice would be just to be straight forward. It's not out of line to straight up say "I don't have a lot of experience dating so I'm sorry if I'm a little awkward/don't always say/do the right things". It's not ideal but most women would understand, I think. Confidence in yourself despite that, and in other areas of your life like your friendships, self-image, work/school, and …
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:24 PM
1

That's funny, I have definitely met guys like you. I think my problem there is that it doesn't make me feel very feminine, lol. I guess I like a man who makes me feel like a woman, in that corny sense
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 06:18 PM
4

25f here. Woman want all kinds of different things, it depends on the individual (wow, just like men!). I am certainly attracted to men, but no amount of physical attraction can make up for a dogshit personality or not having their shit together as a human (bad at keeping a job, slovenly, emotionally stunted, immature). Personally, I like dark hair and dark eyes, curly hair, a nice beard and body hair, and built like a brick shithouse (ya know, thiccer than a bowl of oatmeal). But of course I'll…
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:34 PM
22

^ this is so true. I'm 25f, and the older I get, the higher my standards get for being treated well. There was shit I put up with for months at 18/19 that I would end a first date over if I saw it today. Looks matter in that if I'm just plain unattracted to you physically, its true that personality can't really make up for that. But you don't need to be even CLOSE to perfect looking for me to still be totally into you.
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:22 PM
26

I'm on the opposite side of this fence. I'm 25f, 6'2", with a loud voice, big personality, and a raunchy sense of humor. In a lot of facets I am very feminine, I love makeup and fashion and cute things and wine coolers, yada yada. I can also be VERY butch at times - I don't always wear makeup and often dress fairly "athleisure", plus being super tall and having a loud/kinda low voice and my affinity for shit talking, lol. I've been described as brutish. I clean up good and I know how to tone it …
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 03:20 PM
1

Therapy can be a godsend. I would highly recommend it. It might take a couple tries to find a therapist that you feel fits with you well, so don't get discouraged! You deserve to feel good about yourself. I'm sorry that you've had to go through all of this.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/22 03:12 PM
14

My only advice is just to nip that behavior in the bud. Let him know that that shit does NOT fly every time he displays those behaviors. Tell him exactly what you said here about missing feeling vulnerable and that he's not acting like the man you chose to marry. Honestly, if I were in your boat, I would leave. Cheating is an absolute deal-breaker for me, and I would have been out of there in an instant if I found out my husband was banging prostitutes behind my back. You're a saint for staying …
/r/ExRedPill07/01/22 05:04 PM
2

No, you don't have to pay for her. But it's definitely good etiquette to pay if you're the one asking her out.
/r/ExRedPill04/12/21 08:28 PM
1

So you're looking for a sex and table tennis buddy, with no other strings attached? You might have a hard time with that one, my man. If you want to have a real relationship (which would probably be required if you'd like to travel abroad with them), you might have to put up with some texting. It' called forming a genuine human connection, and it can take weeks, months, maybe years to form one with another person. It takes effort. You WILL HAVE TO put in effort to get what you want. That's life.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 11:37 PM
1

....Did you really cold-message 40 women (even on LinkedIn????) just saying you want to go on a date with them? 40 women who you don't know IRL? Are you really surprised all of them blew you off? What world do you live in? You're a stranger to them, of COURSE they're all going to think you're a weirdo. Your behavior is weirdo behavior. Going to meet strangers like that is how women get murdered. No sane woman would respond well to this strategy. If you match with someone on tinder, chat with the…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/21 11:30 PM
13

Therapy therapy therapy. I'm not bullshitting you, it can help a lot.
/r/ExRedPill04/11/21 01:27 PM
13

Yeah, women see handsome men and think "wow he's hot, I'd bang him", but that doesn't mean that that's all there is to it. An attractive man becomes unfuckable if he has a rotten personality or utterly doesn't have his shit together. Also, it's unfortunately the case that in current society (at least in the US where I'm from), sex is seen as something that a man DOES TO a woman, or a woman LETS a man do it to her. Especially in the case of casual sex, it's usually the woman left unsatisfied. If …
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 09:07 PM
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Not necessarily a youtuber who make content about womanhood, but Jenna Marbles is an all-time favorite for me. She is unfortunately retired now but has an incredible backlog of videos and podcasts. She is an incredible woman who is extremely authentic and a great example of how women can be funny, smart, silly, and creative. Plus her relationship with her fiance is one to aspire toward.
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 11:55 AM
3

I wish I did lol. But no, the vast majority of women do not. Maybe super good looking women will get some of that, but generally, no.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/21 01:56 PM
3

Thank you so much for sharing this. I admire your strength
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 01:43 PM
3

Ooooo very interesting theory, thanks for sharing!
/r/ExRedPill24/09/21 10:08 PM
1

I would! Go ahead and DM me
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 11:15 PM
2

I absolutely would! I think absolutely everyone has something to benefit from even an occasional therapy session. There are therapists who are trained to tackle absolutely everything, so I wouldn't worry that you can't be helped by them. It might take a couple tries before you find one that you mesh well with, it's totally normal to have a few sessions with one and not really feel like they're picking up what you're putting down and it's perfectly ok to switch to a different one. Do give it a tr…
/r/ExRedPill23/09/21 11:47 AM
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If you think what I'm suggesting you do makes you perfect, you have a weird idea of perfection. You do not need to achieve perfection by any means, no one can, just try to better yourself. It sounds to me like you don't want to try at all, just wallow and coddle yourself. If you think simply having a car and an apartment and taking care of your physical/mental health to the best of your ability is unattainable and "perfection", then I don't know what to tell you dude. Perfectly normal, everyday …
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 04:48 PM
22

Ask yourself the question, "If I were a woman, would I date ME?" I'm a single woman getting back into dating after ending a long-term relationship. When I think about who I'd want to date (not necessarily what I want in a LIFE PARTNER, but a casual dating experience), the bare minimum is: someone who is fun to hang out with, our senses of humor match, has a job + car because of COURSE I don't want to have to pay for everything for him and shuttle him around, decently attractive (I'm not asking f…
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 02:33 PM
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Sounds like your GF just wants to have fun at the bars. I would suggest having an honest conversation about how you feel, but it sounds like you're not very invested in this relationship anyway. I find it ironic that you're so worried about what your GF is doing and if she's cheating when you're the one in love with someone else. None of this situation is healthy. I'd recommend staying single for a while and figuring your own shit out. Don't talk to your ex anymore. Let your current GF go be fre…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/21 01:48 PM
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If she does happen to cheat on you, that's all on her, not your fault. Cheating is a choice, no matter who it's with. Chris Hemsworth could be in that bar buying her drinks and if she cheats on you with him, that's STILL her being a bad person. If you trust her, just don't worry. Especially if she's never broken your trust. You can spend your whole life at home worrying that someone is going to snatch her away from you, or you can have some faith in her to make good choices.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 01:16 PM
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All of these things can take practice. If you're not very social, doing things like volunteering with a group, attending local events, joining online communities, all of these things can help you build conversational skills. And conversations with individuals get easier the more you know and talk to them. Ask plenty of questions, add personal anecdotes (but don't overshare), and even saying "I'm not great at conversation but I really enjoy talking with you" is not out of line. Also, remember wom…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 03:54 PM
5

How old are you? It's never too late to start turning your life in the right direction, but you have to do it for YOU, not for any potential mate. You don't have to be rich, or ripped, or a workaholic to find a partner. You just have to care enough to take care of yourself and be self-sufficient. I consider myself a pretty average woman in a lot of ways. I'm in grad school but I'm no genius, looks-wise I'm a little overweight but I think I wear it ok and I clean up well. I have my passions and g…
/r/ExRedPill01/09/21 01:57 PM
5

Not always, but when it comes to the surface, which it always eventually does, it's game over. I don't like any of it, even the stuff that isn't necessarily "redpill" all the time. Negging, trying to act "alpha", strict gender roles/toxic masculinity, the works. I don't think redpilled men would like me very much either. I'm fairly "masculine" for a woman (I'm 6'2", to start) and have strong opinions, I am very career-driven, I probably don't want kids, I'm a strong feminist and I hate the idea …
/r/ExRedPill31/08/21 10:22 PM
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If I was on a date with a man and he displays any redpill ideologies/strategies, I would simply run for the hills.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/21 11:56 AM
4

No Source: Am woman
/r/ExRedPill04/08/21 06:31 PM
7

If you want an woman with no knowledge or opinions you can buy a blowup doll on amazon for like $20
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:53 PM
18

She's a "pick me"
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 04:31 PM
3

I love Contrapoints! She's one of the most well-spoken youtubers I've seen in a long time.
/r/ExRedPill30/06/21 01:54 PM
14

There is no wall. You can be gorgeous at any age. I'm 24F, newly single, and about to start my master's degree, and I'm not scared in the slightest about what some trad-chad thinks about me and my age. There's literally nothing you can do to not age, so why even worry about it? Why marry a man who you fear will leave you in 5-10 years simply because you've gotten 5-10 years older? Guess what, HE'S gonna age too. Any man who thinks that women over 30 are inherently unfuckable, no matter what age …
/r/ExRedPill17/04/21 07:35 PM
2

That study (with a whopping sample size of 160!) does indicate that women prefer fit men over less fit men. I'm not arguing that that's not true; I'm arguing that the REASON for that might be different than what you're arguing. There are endless factors at play with every individual in terms of what they find attractive. In some cultures, fatness is attractive because it implies that the individual has wealth and can provide. The slender "e-boy" type is really in right now with a lot of women, t…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 09:29 PM
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If you don't want to be seen as a creep or sex offender, definitely don't yell at random women, for God's sake. Please do remember that you're a very young lad with a looooot of life left to live! If you recently lost an opportunity to travel to Russia, please don't think that's the only chance you'll get. Learning a new language is a difficult and noble passion, and I hope you find ways, whether its in school or on your own, to pursue it. The approval of women should not be your driving force f…
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 02:52 PM
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I'm a straight woman, and my opinion is that, simply put, being "fit" shows that that person knows how to take care of themselves. Being in good shape indicates that you know at least the basics about nutrition and fitness, and that you care about your health. The vast majority of women aren't into fit guys because of some primal need for protection, but simply because it shows that they know how to take good care of their bodies and have the dedication to actually do it. Also, there's a lot of …
/r/ExRedPill12/04/21 02:29 PM
2

Basically when you're dating multiple girls at once, keeping them all "going" at the same time. Pretty gross
/r/ExRedPill28/03/21 09:36 PM
3

Well put!
/r/ExRedPill25/03/21 01:16 PM
3

I hate the term "spinning plates"
/r/ExRedPill15/03/21 10:53 PM
10

this article makes me want to die. There are no mathematical formulas for real human relationships. Also, "alpha" and "beta" in the context of humans (and wolves) is a myth. Whatever objective truth is in this article is drowned out by the vast over-simplification of what makes relationships work. There are so many better articles and books about how to have healthy relationships that actually acknowledge our humanity and don't reduce people into equations.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/21 03:53 PM
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I just wouldn't worry about it. You can spend your whole life studying human nature and evolutionary psychology but that won't necessarily make you more successful in real life romantic relationships. Everyone is different, and people break the mold as often as they conform to it. Over-analyzing these things will lead you to the conclusion that love, relationships, and desirability are out of control for an individual, but real-life experience will tell you that's just not the case. You have so …
/r/ExRedPill13/03/21 03:49 PM
8

IMO, don't worry about "genes" when it comes to attractiveness. Whatever evolutionary benefit there was for humans to seek out partners that were "genetically superior" thousands of years ago has long been irrelevant for a long time thanks to the creation of civilizations and technology. Apart from looking out for conditions and illnesses that can be passed down from parent to child, I think worrying about the genetics of a partner is an antiquated and silly prospect. Beauty is in the eye of the…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/21 01:27 PM
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Bro shut up
/r/ExRedPill14/02/21 02:14 PM
2

In this situation, I'd say that the ball's in her court. If she's interested, she'll let you know. I think chatting with her when you see her at the gym is totally ok, just some casual chat and see if she's responsive. Just being friendly, but not pressuring her, is the right way to go IMO. But I wouldn't sit around waiting for her. You sound very down to earth and mature, pat yourself on the back for that.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/21 01:14 PM
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I'm kinda with you but a 20 year old dating a 17 year old is a predator, period
/r/ExRedPill05/02/21 08:53 PM
17

I clicked on the first video, got about 10 seconds in, read the first 2 comments, and noped out. I don't feel like being in a bad mood today lol. What sad people.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/21 02:50 PM
2

That's tea sis
/r/ExRedPill24/01/21 05:42 PM
2

You're not wrong, I do think couples in general should have fairly similar sex drives. If one partner wants it every day and the other wants it once a week, there can be compromise for a couple days a week. However, if the other partner wants it once a month? Once every couple months? No one's gonna be getting what they want. I think OP could use a mix of self-reflection and therapy as well as finding a partner that's on the same page as them, sexually.
/r/ExRedPill24/01/21 01:24 PM
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Love this, thanks for sharing! I have read bits and pieces of the book this is from and it was SUPER interesting and eye-opening
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 07:12 PM
1

That's a respectable goal. You'll get there, but it might take time. Meet people, go on dates, but don't push it further than you want it to go. When you find a girl who fits with you, it'll be worth it.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 06:01 PM
1

I totally get where you're coming from. It's hard to balance personal experience with outside information. I would actually argue that dating around in your youth is a good thing. It helps you understand what works/doesn't work for you in relationships and how to be a good partner. It sounds like you're a bit of an outlier for a dude in that you're not interested in slinging your dick around lol. Which is great! I think that's a very respectable thing, and there are lots of women who are in the …
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 05:30 PM
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I really like this post, very well thought out! You made a lot of good points (also shouts out to hasanabi who I would let pipe me up any day of the week). The only thing I would disagree with is that women are more entitled than ever. I don't think that's necessarily the case. I think women are more empowered than ever and no longer feel like they HAVE to have a husband/man in their life to be worth something. Because of this, I do think standards are higher. I mean, women couldn't legally divo…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 05:05 PM
7

My response, as a chick, to that is: Of course attention feels good. If you were on tinder and suddenly had several different good looking women trying to chat you up, wouldn't you also be flattered? Of course, there comes a time when that's just not that important to you anymore. But for a lot of women (myself included back in the day), it's an exciting novelty. I definitely was not super popular with boys back in high school, but I got to college and hopped on tinder and got that attention tha…
/r/ExRedPill17/01/21 04:48 PM
1

I believe it. It's a shame that having sex, even soooo young, is encouraged by your peers. The moral of this is, even if it's the status quo, that doesn't mean it's correct. To quote Dr Seuss, "Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind". But damn, virgin-shamed at 11... The idea of 11 year olds having sex is so gross and sad. Kids need to be kids.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/21 06:52 PM
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I guess you're right, but what I bet we could both agree on is that it's young, immature guys. Yeah, some guys in their 20's will say that stuff. They're ding dongs and shouldn't be taken seriously.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/21 06:47 PM
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IDK how old you are but kids are stupid in middle/high school. No grown adult would judge you for not being interested in casual sex. I would say don't overthink the label, I'm pretty sure the term "demisexual" was invented by some teen on tumblr forever ago. Sex is always better with someone you know and trust. There's nothing wrong with casual sex but it's not for everyone. Don't worry about what your friends think. If they can't fathom not wanting to bang strangers that's a them problem, not …
/r/ExRedPill14/01/21 03:29 PM
11

Some women do shit tests. They are not the kind of women you want to be with. If you feel like she's testing you, leave. The vast majority of women don't play those games.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 06:20 PM
9

I would say that the RP approach to dating can only work on the kind of women that RP'ers think ALL women are, aka shallow and insecure women. Unfortunately for those dudes (and fortunately for everyone else) people, including women, run on a spectrum of a lot of things. If your goal is to pick up women at a bar, sure, go ahead and try RP and PUA tactics, worst that can happen is you get a drink thrown in your face or kicked out. If you're looking for a life partner that you have a genuine conne…
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 03:56 PM
2

I'm just happy to see that you're pulling yourself out of it! Life is short and good company is the best part of it. You live and you learn. I wish you luck!
/r/ExRedPill23/11/20 10:47 PM
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Good on you for recognizing how nasty and toxic the RP mentality is. Your last sentence hit me really hard. I hate how RP-ers act like wanting love and companionship is "beta". I think they think that way because they believe that women aren't capable of genuine love, which is so fucking ridiculous. RP-think turns social interactions into an equation to be solved, which just isn't the way life works. They make sweeping assumptions about people, and prioritize things that they feel like they can …
/r/ExRedPill23/11/20 10:30 PM
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You're very right. I don't think redpillers even truly recognize women as humans. When I read about their "theories", it becomes so obvious that these dudes don't know the first thing about women, which is that we're PEOPLE. We're not puzzles needing to be solved, we're not computers that you need to hack, we're humans with individual personalities, likes, dislikes, and standards. Most of these dudes have never even had a female friend. If they did, they might begin to see our humanity.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/20 03:18 PM
1

Believe me, I'm familiar with the feeling of "I really like this person and I don't want to fuck it up!" The only thing you can really do is be yourself, take it slow, and enjoy the time you spend together. Remember your own worth and don't get frustrated if you feel like she's not quite as into you as you are into her; if all goes well, this will balance out over time. Never feel like you aren't good enough and that's why she doesn't want to get serious with you, cuz that's not true! She has he…
/r/ExRedPill07/11/20 09:02 PM
11

Communication is always key, I wouldn't be afraid to talk to her about her boundaries/wants/wishes. My advice would be just be real with her, this is a girl who you've known for a long time, which is great, and she knows you well enough as a person (I assume) to give you a little wiggle room on your behaviour. When it comes to things like texting and hanging out, don't overthink it. If you want to text her, text her. Send her a funny picture or a snapchat of what you're doing or something. If yo…
/r/ExRedPill07/11/20 08:26 PM
3

I'm a 23 year old woman and I have advice for you! As much as it's probably frustrating to hear, there's no secret tips or tricks to forming romantic relationships, especially if you want them to be genuine. I would honestly say to you, just be genuine. Don't try to take yourself or whoever you're interested in too seriously, try to keep a light heart and an open mind when it comes to dating. Any girl worth her salt can see through bullshit negging and arrogant attitudes a mile a way. Also, don'…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/20 04:02 AM
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No dude, just go see a therapist. Fast.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 10:07 PM
8

It's relevant because it provides shocking context. It doesn't take an obsession to peep at your post history. Don't write shit on the internet if you'd get hurt having it thrown back in your face. Also, your post about your long term relationship from a month ago might just be the saddest thing I've ever read. So you really think emotional attachment is beta? Does lifelong trust and companionship not sound possible to you? I feel bad for that chick, she must have very low self-esteem to date so…
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 09:59 PM
10

You're not using any logic. You're using your feelings, you've just Ben Shapiro'd yourself into thinking YOUR feelings come from a logical base, which they don't. If you really thought looks don't matter, why are you posting about how to fix your balding because you want to date 20 year old's? But no, you're an Enlightened RedPiller and therefore everything is women's fault, isn't it? Not even a liiiiiiittle bit your own?
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 09:46 PM
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Red pill failed you into thinking that posting stupid shit like this is a good way to spend your time. Go talk to some real people. Like, if you disagree with what everyone on this sub is talking about, why don't you literally do anything else? You're not going to convince people to see this stuff your way.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 09:36 PM
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bro, this is r/exredpill, not r/currentlydeepintheredpill. I see you on here all the time trying to start shit. Get a life, a real one. I pity your existence if you actually think life actually works this way.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 09:27 PM
2

I feel like some of this comes from the idea for women that youthfulness = beauty. This isn't so much the case for men, you hear folks swoon over your George Clooneys and your Liam Neesons who are "daddy hot", but the same love for older ladies doesn't seem as common outside of MILF porn unfortunately. For the men, they age into "silver foxes" and "sugar daddies", and the age almost enhances the sexiness. I do wish people could see the same in women instead of acting like any women with wrinkles…
/r/ExRedPill18/10/20 09:23 PM
6

Being in good shape is important, but I wouldn't act like it's the end-all-be-all of dating. Good looks will get you in the door, but a good personality is what seals the deal for most women. But getting in the door is a great start. And then you get chubby chasing girls like me haha
/r/ExRedPill23/09/20 03:35 AM
6

Thinking all feminists are man hating lesbians who want make men lesser humans is like thinking that all muslims are part of ISIS. Modern feminism is about making all genders equal, in its most simplest form. Feminism is a good thing. There are always going to be bad people in every social movement who want to co-opt the message for whatever their extremist ideals are. I personally think everyone, men, women, and everyone in between, should consider themselves a feminist. It's as simple as getti…
/r/ExRedPill22/09/20 11:10 PM
4

I'm a 23 year old woman, my partner is 25M and we've been together for about a year and a half and live together. I would definitely say he's pretty much exactly my type! I like guy who share my sense of humor, above all else. Being sweet and loving and communicative are a big deal for me, and as an inverse, being emotionally unavailable and aloof are complete dealbreakers. Been there, done that, no good. I value honesty, openness, and vulnerability. I don't believe in traditional gender roles, …
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 11:59 PM
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This person is super spot on. A person mistreated as a child by the people who are supposed to love them often grows up to associate that mistreatment=love. (this is why you never tell a little girl the boy in her class is bullying her 'because he likes you!')
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 10:20 PM
1

I'm interested to hear what your definition of "asshole" is. Is it a mean, malaceful person? Is it a stereotypical frat boy? Is it someone who treats their girlfriend poorly, or just the other people around him?
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 10:10 PM
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No woman is attracted to a man BECAUSE he treats her poorly. No woman is thinking "Omg Brett called me a dumb cunt today, I love that sooooo much." Any relationship where one member is a dick to the other is a shitty relationship, period. Strong relationships are based on good communication, similar senses of humor, similar moral standings, mutual understanding, and teamwork. Every relationship that is held together only by mutual physical attraction is doomed to fail.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 10:05 PM
1

I would agree to that to an extent. When it comes to dating apps, the first thing you see is someone's photo. If you don't find them attractive, well, there you go, swipe left. IRL meeting someone and having a good conversation can totally affect how attractive you find them. Back in my tinder days, a good bio went a loooooong way for me. A funny and descriptive bio makes a huge difference.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 09:57 PM
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I feel like this kind of behaviour is indicative of someone who has very little confidence in himself, so therefore feels the need to put others down to feel superior. It's easy to be so consumed with negativity and judgement when you feel so poorly about yourself. You can tell yourself, "I wish I wasn't the way I am, but at LEAST I'm not XYZ!" When it comes to feminism, definitely don't take that label as an insult. Yes, there are super radical feminists who legitimately hate men, but that's li…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 07:27 PM
5

Yeah, there's a lack of awareness on her part. I feel bad for her, but she shouldn't be all surprised that she's having trouble dating because of her past SW
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 06:33 PM
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It depends on the sex work. onlyfans is a lot different than stripping is a lot different than prostitution, but it's all under the umbrella of sex work. Also the reason someone goes into that field can vary a LOT, from that being their only option to make a living to needing the quick cash for an addiction, and there are many women who chose to do sex work because they actually like the work and like what it pays. It's not always a last resort. I think the big picture here is that you don't hav…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 06:08 PM
7

You're very right, I actually considered writing the same thing about pregnancy.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 07:38 PM
8

"Want to fuck?" does work for some women. And it also doesn't work for a lot of men. Women also aren't just like men with boobs, obviously. There are differences in "wiring", for lack of a better word, but the red pill wants you to believe that because there are differences then one must be superior to the other, which isn't the case.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 06:24 PM
1

I'd say there are no set levels. My #1 advice when it comes to dating is be open-minded, light-hearted, and respectful. If you meet someone who you feel comfortable with, treats you well and makes you laugh, that's the best thing you can find.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/20 02:36 PM
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