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Yeah. Toastmasters is a really good program. I was silent the first few meetings I went to, but I eventually did well enough to speak at the district contest. Plus you meet a lot of people that way, from different kinds of jobs and life situations. Perfect for learning how to not be nervous when you socialize.
/r/seduction20/12/12 08:56 PM
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do you know any good techniques to conquer this? Not really, other than exposure. Maybe someone else will have a suggestion. I gained a lot of confidence when I got a retail job for the first time, after my daughter was old enough for me to go back to work. Being a cashier, and then walking the floor and helping people was terrifying at first. But over time, I relaxed and began to be able to chat. The other thing that helped was when I got a job teaching high school. I had to interact with so ma…
/r/seduction20/12/12 04:58 PM
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When you talk to a stranger, they don't know anything except what you show them in that moment. You can be whoever you want to be, right then. Act like the person you want to be seen as. And know it doesn't matter, because they are a stranger and you will likely not see them again.
/r/seduction18/12/12 01:41 AM
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Have you ever tried speed dating? You get to talk for 5 minutes to a bunch of women, one at a time. If you go in there not thinking that you're going to score a date, but approach it as a chance to practice talking about yourself, you can make it a good experience. The more practice you get, the better you will be at it, and the more relaxed you'll feel. And eventually you won't feel fake, either.
/r/seduction18/12/12 01:39 AM
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Toastmasters is really good for helping you with public speaking: both prepared talks, as well as off-the-cuff speaking. It (and reading for Librivox) has done wonders for my self-confidence.
/r/seduction12/12/12 06:04 AM
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Reading for Librivox is great practice. Getting started is a bit of a learning curve, but it's not that hard. And then it only takes a few minutes to record yourself reading a poem, and when you listen to the recording as you decide to keep it or try again, or when you edit out flubs, you start getting a sensitivity for how clearly you are speaking. You also get a feel for rhythm and word choice.
/r/seduction12/12/12 05:10 AM
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Basically, they committed blasphemy, and offended lots of people, and now they have to spend 2 years in jail (and 2 of them have kids). This isn't about feminism, but about the government being in bed with the church. The Russian constitution officially affirms gender equality, but since the band was deliberately offending the church, their feminism is automatically seen as religious hatred (which is the excuse they need to have such a long sentence). Here's the video they made.
/r/MensRights17/08/12 04:18 PM
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Welcome to the Internet. It's hard to have true anonymity.
/r/MensRights12/04/12 03:18 PM
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And what about men with small children?
/r/MensRights10/10/10 04:36 AM
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They were going the wrong way. He was showing them the right path.
/r/MensRights10/10/10 04:33 AM
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Reminds me of that classic: Turn the phone off, lock the door and shut the curtains Make sure that the neighbors are without suspicion No one will know No one will know Nasty habits i must condone No one knows what I do when I'm all alone Nasty habits I'm so ashamed
/r/MensRights30/03/10 08:41 PM
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The Cat in the Hat Yeah, but he came back and helped clean up the mess. And the kids (and the fish) were responsible, if a bit at a loss on how to act. I also like the moral question at the end about whether you would tell your mom what happened while she was out. :) That said, yes, it's quite possible that Gaiman is more subtle than it would seem from the synopsis of the story. I actually ran across this book while searching for something else by Gaiman, and I do want to see if it's at my libra…
/r/MensRights24/02/10 10:14 PM
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From the synopsis: his dad (the silent guy behind the newspaper) When they finally track him down, he is still reading the newspaper! from the comments: this rather useless dad little sociopath of a son This time, sadly, the absurdity of the situation does not puncture the horror. It is not absurd enough, and it is too horrific. We do not think the boy is joking. Earlier in the tale, we actually saw the little sister bound and gagged by the older brother to prevent her ratting on him to Mom (a d…
/r/MensRights24/02/10 05:33 PM
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I linked to the Amazon page, which was very thorough in its description. For some reason my submission removed the link. Are only self submissions allowed in this subreddit? http://www.amazon.com/Day-Swapped-Dad-Two-Goldfish/dp/0060587032/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1266977882&sr=8-1
/r/MensRights24/02/10 02:18 AM
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My son was a high-energy baby. He loved building things with scraps, and was given a small saw when he was 2. He was given a cordless drill when he was 5. He loved taking things apart and "helping" me fix things. He also loved soft things like stuffed animals and furry blankets and sparkly things with glitter or tinsel. Still does, at age 12. I gave him some pens with sparkly ink for his birthday and he thought they were pretty neat. He likes drawing and coloring with markers, but mostly geometr…
/r/MensRights29/12/09 04:50 PM
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I would rephrase that, then, to be: that hitting/beating someone who is physically smaller, weaker, or more helpless than you is a crappy thing to do. My son's best friend is much less physically developed than he is, for instance. In 6th grade, kids are just people - the gender differences and the consciousness of size differences really isn't there yet. (At least for my son. He takes each person as an individual; I don't think he has really begun to generalize yet. He's a bit socially immature…
/r/MensRights21/12/09 03:20 AM
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I think you misunderstood my headline. The frowning face is in there because I an unhappy that the double standard exists. He got a stern warning that hitting is generally not ok, regardless. But he also needs to know that he may be punished more harshly (by the school, by his peers) if he hits a girl.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 10:23 PM
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Maybe learning now, at that young age, That was part of the point of having to explain this to him. I put a frowny face because I was unhappy that it was necessary to point out this screwy way of thinking. But, of course, it is necessary, for his own good. We agree (I think), even though you are extrapolating farther than I was discussing.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 10:21 PM
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going along with this you're teaching your son Well, it's tricky because there are multiple things going on. On the one hand, my son needs basic socialization and needs to learn to conform (I mentioned elsewhere on this page that he has particular challenges socially due to Asperger Syndrome). He also needs to learn that there are different expectations in different contexts. And then he needs to learn what we expect of him. And as he gets older he needs to learn to stand up for what is right. I…
/r/MensRights18/12/09 06:53 PM
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hitting ANYONE is wrong And both my kids are taught that, boy and girl. But my son needed to know that he was likely to be punished more severely (at school, or wherever, not by me) for hitting a girl than for hitting a boy. If he chooses to hit someone, he needs to understand the possible consequences.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:24 PM
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Beating someone is not the same as "hitting". It's not ok to beat anyone, period.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:23 PM
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The main lesson my son needs to learn right now, is how to get along at school. How to be flexible, how to moderate his behavior, how to have empathy, how to exercise self control, what the social rules are. He's mildly Aspie and this is his big area of challenge. I'm happy that he's not doing random inappropriate things every day like he did when he was in 4th grade. :) That said, I will talk to the teacher and make sure they know there was a history between this girl and my son. And I will kee…
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:18 PM
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I agree hitting is wrong (except in a few specific situations). He said he overheard her telling a friend that she was going to push him, he wanted to discourage her and prevent future behavior (she had bothered him before but stopped a month or so ago, so it was a pattern he didn't want to continue). So he waited until she approached him from behind and he stopped suddenly and thrust out his arm and she ran into it. He expected her to run into it, and be annoyed. He didn't expect her to cry. He…
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:11 PM
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It's not a big deal like that. It wasn't exactly bullying, and it's important for him to learn to be flexible and live within the system. It's not time to try and fight things.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:06 PM
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Yes, of course. Girls are just people. You show them consideration just like anyone else. Unfortunately, socially, this isn't true, so you have to be careful, if you want to avoid getting in trouble. My son told me that a boy nearby said "You hit a girl??", and he didn't understand why that boy thought it was a big deal until I explained the idea to him. I also told him that this attitude is rooted in the notion that girls are weak, helpless, need to be protected, and shouldn't do certain things…
/r/MensRights18/12/09 05:05 PM
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I am going to talk to the teacher about it to see if there are facts that either my son didn't understand, or misrepresented. It wasn't exactly a bullying situation, but I approve of my son trying to defend himself. He could have done it in a better fashion, though.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 04:56 PM
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Yes, that's the conversation we had. It was two parts: how to properly handle situations involving other people, and how to respond in such a way that you don't get yourself into worse trouble. He does need to be socialized to be able to survive in the school environment, since it will greatly affect his future.
/r/MensRights18/12/09 04:54 PM
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This really isn't a good argument. It's mostly unsubstantiated assertions with very little reasoning to support the notion that "women" as a class are like this. He doesn't address married women, old women, lesbian women, or women who couldn't care less about being manipulative. It sounds like the point of view of someone who has been deeply hurt and has little experience with people in general. Oh well. It was worth reading nonetheless, and was well-written (if you overlook the non-argument).
/r/MensRights16/12/09 08:02 AM
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That's what I would have done - said that it's likely kids will laugh, etc, but it's your choice. I warn my 9yo daughter about wearing clashing colors/patterns, and pants that are too short, but let her choose. I don't see it as a big deal, after all, it up to the kid to choose what's important to them. I've also taught my kids that "because you're a girl/boy" isn't a good reason to do/not do something.
/r/MensRights07/11/09 01:51 AM
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jobs defined as higher status like nursing and teaching Are these jobs actually "higher status" in the opinion of most people? Compared to what? Landscaping or housecleaning? Men also tended to be better paid than women because within each occupation, men were generally more senior. So then the "pay gap" isn't really, since they aren't comparing the same things. God, I wish people would report on statistics in a way that actually conveys real information.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 05:54 PM
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I know. Instincts and reflexes are very difficult to change. I don't know if they can be, fundamentally. Being self-aware is a good thing, though -- even if you can't change in the way you want to, you can mitigate some of the effects of your conditioning. It's a very human problem, and imo, one of the significant life-projects we engage in. It's so frustrating to me how common it is that people aren't even minimally self-aware of the ways they've been socialized.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 05:30 PM
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free will. This is a thorny philosophical problem. I think free will is an illusion - there are depths to our psyches that are impossible or near-impossible to reach, and so there must be large parts of who we are that are impossible or near-impossible to change. The best we can hope for is to be responsible enough to introspect, think carefully about the contradictions in our way of thinking and living, and work to change what we can for the better. I think you are I are talking about different…
/r/MensRights12/08/09 05:26 PM
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And this is the fundamental question for people concerned about equality - how much is biology, how much is culture? I tend to lean towards something like 90% culture, myself. And of that, you are in control of changing perhaps 30% with careful thought and practice. But, really, it's an open question.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 04:44 PM
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I would certainly hate to put such a delicate flower in charge of a nuclear submarine of course lol. No, I wouldn't have put my 19yo self in charge of a nuclear sub either. Ultimately that experience was good for me, since I wasn't actually hurt, and it told me that the class I was taking was in fact necessary. And it got me on the road to thinking about gender issues, too, in a more mature way.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 04:13 PM
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But doesn't that in itself tell you how deep your socialization has gone? You should be as likely to help another guy as a woman. In such a situation I hope you'll think about your reaction and perhaps lend help.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 03:31 PM
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Here's a question concerning the use of English: When telling a story involving three people of the same gender and one person is an uninvolved friend, one person is verbally assaulting, and one person is attempting to intervene and get the harasser to stop, is the word "rescuer" really inappropriate? Does "rescuer" contain connotations of heteronormativity in the same way that "cunt" as an insult contains connotations of sexism? What would be a better term, instead of using the ambiguous "he", …
/r/MensRights12/08/09 03:26 PM
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lonelycatlady replied to my anecdote with this (completely out of left field, and not at all relevant, imo, certainly not "the voice of reason"): my rescuer Thanks for reinforcing heteronormative stereotypes, you cunt.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 03:23 PM
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To disagree with anything you say is to be a troll? lonelycatlady wasn't disagreeing. She was making up crap, and making personal attacks. That fits one definition of being a troll There was no assumption that I deserved male help (or any help, for that matter) in my anecdote, and the word "rescuer" was purely descriptive, and a way of avoid saying "he", which in this case would have been ambiguous since there were three males involved, in various ways.
/r/MensRights12/08/09 03:19 PM
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I posted the anecdote that sparked the bruhaha. Lonelycatlady responded with something that attacked something that wasn't even in my story. It's a huge tangent. I used the term "my rescuer" as a way to differentiate between the three guys in the story. I can't just say "he" because there were three different males involved. That's all it was. And she accused me of somehow believing that I deserved male help. That was in no way in my story. She's reading things into it that aren't there. She's a…
/r/MensRights12/08/09 03:14 PM
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I have had to teach my daughter to not use her fingernails against her older brother. She scratches and also grabs in a claw/talon-like manner. I've told her it is never ok to use her nails like that unless she's seriously fighting someone for her safety. And yes, I've told my son it's not ok to hit other people (not that he's ever been prone to it - ever since he was little we drummed in to him to be gentle and careful around other creatures, including people, and especially little kids). I've …
/r/MensRights06/08/09 04:00 PM
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Maybe I wasn't clear. I don't buy the premise that we should care about biological outcomes.
/r/MensRights03/08/09 08:41 PM
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in the only two biologically meaningful measures of welfare – longevity and reproductive success – women are and have always been slightly better off than men. I'm not sure I buy this premise as significant. Doesn't quality of life matter? Personal satisfaction, sense of well-being, etc? I think most men and most women have had crappy lives throughout history. Men have held power, but most people have been powerless. Equality is a good thing to promote, and it helps men as much as women. What do…
/r/MensRights03/08/09 05:27 PM
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The headline is a bit misleading. It wasn't the kids' fault at the time.
/r/MensRights12/07/09 06:28 PM
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Spend time, time, time, with your kids. Play with blocks, read to them, take them outside to touch the trees and look at dandelions. As they get older, let them do things with you - when you fix a light switch, unscrew something, repair the toilet, let them participate according to their abilities. Teach by example all the things that you find enjoyable and invite them into your life. "Raising Cain" is a good book (so I've heard -- I haven't read it yet). Allow your boys to enjoy stickers, spark…
/r/MensRights08/07/09 05:50 PM
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As a parent, I talk to my kids about situations like this, and always reassure them that they can opt out. If I think it'll be a good experience, I'll try to convince them, but they always have the final say. I let my son avoid a performance by his music class in 4th grade. If an activity is required, I explain what it's for, why it's required, and this is a chance to learn/practice being adaptable and cooperative, and I also give some hints for coping. I also try to talk to the teacher ahead of…
/r/MensRights06/07/09 05:38 PM
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Thanks! I understand. Sometimes it hard to convey sarcasm (or non-sarcasm, as the case may be) in writing. The smiley face was supposed to be friendly. Oh well.
/r/MensRights03/07/09 05:18 PM
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What a way to completely misunderstand me. I appreciate the way the skit plays with the stereotypes and turns the whole equality thing on its head. I'm on your side. Chill.
/r/MensRights03/07/09 04:55 AM
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An interesting mix of gay (purple sparkles?!?) and macho and MRA... the cognitive dissonance is incredibly funny! :-)
/r/MensRights02/07/09 08:38 PM
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I support my family, but my husband makes most of the financial decisions. It's easier that way, especially since he naturally spends more than I do (I hate shopping and I'm not a gamer and I don't like gadgets), it helps him keep track of the state of our budget.
/r/MensRights26/06/09 07:25 PM
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The book Passionate Marriage makes the point that marriage is a crucible for forging more mature people ("differentiated" is the word the author uses). Being a crucible, it's very difficult, and of course lots of people fail. But marriage is probably the only time we ever have intense relationships which challenge us to really look at ourselves. I think this book is worth reading for anyone who wants to think more deeply about the question of marriage, or wants to improve their own, or is contem…
/r/MensRights18/06/09 05:11 PM
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I agree. I let my kids read classic children's literature such as Hardy Boys and Treasure Island. I point out differences in attitudes, like people used to think girls couldn't do things that boys could, or that people though that black people were more animal-like than white people, or that people didn't have any problem with hunting and killing indiscriminately, or religion used to be everywhere. As long as you regularly talk to your kids, and expose them to a wide diet of books, and tell them…
/r/MensRights15/06/09 06:22 PM
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Heather has Two Mommies One Dad, Two Dads Brown Dad Blue Dads King and King
/r/MensRights15/06/09 06:14 PM
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A really good book is Papa Get the Moon for Me. Good books are out there, but you have to really look for them. You're much more likely to find them at the library than at the bookstore.
/r/MensRights15/06/09 06:11 PM
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So lets have children's books with adorable spider children, who have to leave home as soon as they hatch and survive on their own... Or how about sea turtles? They are totally on their own while still in the egg. They get confused by lights on the beaches and go the wrong way and end up on roads instead of in the water. Sounds pretty cool to me!
/r/MensRights15/06/09 06:10 PM
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fatherhood can be "boring and demoralizing, This should probably say parenting, just ask any mother about her experience.
/r/MensRights11/06/09 11:22 PM
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I'm surprised this is still an issue. People should be considerate of each other. Take turns, split the bill in half, richest person pays, something. Talk about it ahead of time. I don't date, so I probably shouldn't comment, but the few times I've had someone pay for me (the company picks up the tab, etc), it feels awkward. I wouldn't want that feeling on a date.
/r/MensRights28/04/09 11:21 PM
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shouldn't her eye be bloodshot?
/r/MensRights28/04/09 09:42 PM
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First of all, these picture are incredibly dumb. What's the deal with a scantily clad, thin woman being able to fling husky men around? At least Xena looked tough. And denim? What does denim have to do with kickboxing? Second of all, who wants to see pictures of someone beating up someone else?
/r/MensRights28/04/09 09:41 PM
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And not even accurate, to boot.
/r/MensRights24/04/09 08:54 PM
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As a parent to an 11yo boy, I casually mention the possibility of being attracted to a girl or boy when he's older (whenever stuff like that comes up in conversation). I know he's getting the heteronormative message from the TV and movies we see (Star Trek, for example), and the books he reads, but he's aware that a small number of people don't follow that pattern, and that you don't know what path you'll take until you're older. He has heard us discuss gay marriage, too. I encourage him to do a…
/r/MensRights17/04/09 06:45 PM
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Wait, the clip was filmed by the woman?? Is she really that clueless?
/r/MensRights08/04/09 06:01 AM
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Maybe women should wear chastity belts, as rape protection, if they're going to be riding the subway at 2AM. How would a would-be rapist respond if he saw that his victim was unrapeable?
/r/MensRights06/04/09 10:13 PM
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Women are raised to believe that they shouldn't want sex. Men are raised without the knowledge of how to fan the sparks of desire that women have but ignore. It's a tragic circle... It appears that attitudes are slowly changing, so I suppose there is hope.
/r/MensRights02/04/09 05:21 PM
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My daughter's 2-3rd grade teacher... He bikes to work (imo an ungodly number of miles!). He takes the class out almost every day to jog/walk around the track for 10 minutes, rain or shine. He started a kids' triathalon to raise money for a children's charity. He's inspired my daughter to enjoy running, and she wants to be able run and ride her bike in the triathlon this year - it was one of her motivations to learn to ride a bike. Because of her interest, I've started running, too. We did a kid'…
/r/MensRights14/03/09 03:18 PM
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The notion that women should be able wear clothing that attracts attention I don't think this applies to breastfeeding in public. I wore t-shirts and lifted them from the bottom to give my baby access to my breast. I don't think that attracts undue attention. I'm pretty sure that many time I was nursing nobody near me even realized that's what was going on. In fact, I would claim that draping a blanket over your shoulder and baby attracts way more attention. the precursor to every romantic relat…
/r/MensRights05/03/09 08:32 PM
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I agree....
/r/MensRights05/03/09 08:26 PM
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What do you mean "looking"? Ogling and other forms of harassment shouldn't be protected. But if a man is looking with an "aw how sweet" expression on their face, I don't see why anyone would complain (or at least, complain in a legal sense). I certainly wouldn't, and I nursed two kids in public (not at the same time, that would've been too complicated to manage). On the other hand, I view nursing in the same category as other kinds of childcare that take place in public - the occasional diaper c…
/r/MensRights05/03/09 04:46 PM
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I totally agree. I don't think badly of construction jobs. My statement is equivalent to saying, "... instead of saying go to college/school and do what you love we should actively encourage people to be teachers", or whatever you want to fill in the blank with. The idea is that we are pushing people into fields they don't belong in. It's like saying "oooh, you're smart so you've got to be an engineer or a scientist" when the person is really suited to be a historian. I think it's silly to encou…
/r/MensRights02/03/09 07:16 AM
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It's certainly not because of the feminists... The men's stereotypes are the other side of the coin from the women's stereotypes. Feminists generally advocate for both sides, afaik, while targeting/focusing on the women's side.
/r/MensRights01/03/09 05:02 PM
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So, are you suggesting that instead if saying go to college or to vocational school and do what you love, we should be actively encouraging people to become construction workers?
/r/MensRights01/03/09 04:57 PM
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In my own case, I don't think I've ever been discriminated against for being female. When I worked retail, when I worked work-study, when I worked in software, when I was teaching... as far as I can tell, my pay was always commensurate with my experience, attitude, and skill. I've never had a problem with co-workers respecting me, either. Compared to other people my age, I probably earn less, but that's because I took some time off to be with my kids, and had a hard time finding a job during the…
/r/MensRights28/02/09 11:16 PM
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The breakdown, published by the Office for National Statistics, showed that women match men in the pay stakes from when they leave university until they reach 30 The sentence you quoted was the first one, which is usually a generalization. A little further down is this sentence, which seem to indicate that they are focusing on college graduates. Also they use the words "give up careers" which usually implies a middle-class cohort. I think it's fair to chalk this one up as another example of poor…
/r/MensRights28/02/09 11:00 PM
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"women who remain single" are probably a self-selected group that cannot be compared to "men" in any real meaningful sense. Women who choose to remain single probably do not have blue-collar jobs at the same rate, for instance. The article also wasn't clear if the stats only accounted for people who had gone to college. That's another self-selected group. Stats that apply to that group cannot be extrapolated to the population as a whole. So what I get out of this article is that if women want to…
/r/MensRights28/02/09 05:31 PM
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The diary thing is a classic passive way of confessing to something. Teenagers do that too. She's clearly emotionally immature. The red flag is that she would go so long being unhappy without trying to talk about it and solve the problem. If that's the way she is, then that's the way she is. Their marriage entered a happier phase, but almost certainly she began to feel unhappy and didn't talk about it. She has no scruples, she's proved that. So there's no reason to trust her until she's proven h…
/r/MensRights07/02/09 05:24 PM
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I totally agree it's not all the man's fault. And I totally understand the deep anger and resentment that men (especially on this kind of forum) express towards women. We each (in our particular ways) perpetuate the problem, but expect the other party to take the first step towards healing. It doesn't have to be antagonistic. We heal together. We grow together - one person's growth spurs the other person's growth and back and forth. When I argue with my husband, I frequently find myself having t…
/r/MensRights02/02/09 05:20 PM
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I agree. She should count herself fortunate that she has a man willing be a partner in the work of raising the kids.
/r/MensRights01/02/09 11:39 PM
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My friend Paul, for example, took advantage of his girlfriend going away to make a few changes This is a problem. You don't make significant changes in the routine or parenting approach while the other person is away. You talk about it and agree. No wonder: "Then she came back from the break, went straight back to breastfeeding the baby and all my hard work was for nothing." And then he dismissively says emotional attachment to her child got in the way I think they have some talking to do if he'…
/r/MensRights01/02/09 11:37 PM
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Grr... bad use of statistics, and I even read the article hoping for an explanation. How many divorcing couples have that kind of disparity? Those two statistics are completely incomparable!
/r/MensRights27/01/09 05:43 PM
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I'm sure any man could say similar things about his wife. The point is that since divorce is a choice, so is marriage. People don't have to feel trapped in a marriage, which is a Good Thing. If we stay, we stay because we decide to, not because our ankles and wrists have been locked into societal expectations. If, after various efforts, we finally leave, we have the confidence to be the leavers and not the left.
/r/MensRights14/01/09 12:18 AM
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For me, mostly asocial, and very introverted, it's draining to be around him a lot. Not because he's particularly difficult, but that's the way I am - social things are draining. I'm around the kids a lot, and that's draining too, but in a different way. Sex is social, and so that's draining, but again in a different way. In order to expend that energy, I have to have it in the first place. One thing I've found that works for me, is to be in the same room, together but not interacting. He's doin…
/r/MensRights04/01/09 09:04 PM
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Very few people out there worth the time of day....
/r/MensRights04/01/09 03:13 AM
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So men want women to think of sex as an unpleasant chore? Somehow I think that's counterproductive. The thing is (at least for me and my relationship), sex is not just a body thing, it's also an emotional thing. I am happy to let myself be used; I can be a human fleshlight (which is the equivalent thing to going to work or cleaning the gutters when you don't feel like it - there's no soul in what you're doing, it's just action, just physical). But, then, the sex isn't that good for him and he's …
/r/MensRights04/01/09 03:10 AM
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Not a big deal. She's obviously referring to personal experience, and saying "if I were you I would have treated me better". It's actually a good teaching moment, if you catch your son listening to it. To talk about why the narrator feels that way, and what that means about how we treat each other. It's no different than all those songs dissing women because the songwriter got treated badly in a relationship. It's not generic - it's very personal. And people who can't tell the difference have de…
/r/MensRights04/01/09 02:39 AM
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That interviewer sucked. I didn't watch the video, but I read the attached transcript. What's up with asking him what attracted him to Kim? And after he made it clear he didn't want to talk about it!
/r/MensRights27/12/08 06:20 PM
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I have one of those boys, and the school (fortunately) is making an effort to accommodate him. Being public school however, there is only so much they can do. So we continue lessons (and other opportunities) at home: electronics, music, advanced math, etc. Ultimately, it's still our responsibility as parents.
/r/MensRights27/12/08 05:14 PM
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"The only way that I can describe that is that I felt that I was a peer of theirs," LaFave confessed. She was 23. It seems perfectly reasonable to me, that at 23 she still felt like a teen (or conversely, felt that the teens were not kids, but semi-adult like herself). If she is not quite aware of her feelings, and on guard against them, then I can see how she would have fallen for a student. I don't think it has anything to do with her being female - I can totally understand a male in her posit…
/r/MensRights20/12/08 07:44 PM
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I hope the author is not seriously suggesting that such a woman really is a pervert, but instead that it is only by society's definitions she is.
/r/MensRights16/12/08 08:37 PM
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wtf? A girl gets s secret admirer and she's so scared she calls the police to tell him to leave her alone? Still, like Romeo, he dared to hope she would reciprocate his interest in her. Otherwise he would not have left her Shakespeare's words... The young woman was frightened. She consulted her father, who consulted a friend of his, a small-town chief of police. The latter advised contacting the Virginia Tech campus police ...There is no evidence that Cho’s overtures toward the girl in residence…
/r/MensRights14/12/08 07:28 AM
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Sample bias... don't you think that in general people who go to hairdressers and chat about stuff are going to be pretty shallow? At least, these stories only confirm my bias, and remind me why I don't generally like female culture.
/r/MensRights14/11/08 05:34 PM
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Donation is already a PITA (from what I've read elsewhere on reddit, it's not as easy as walking into a clinic and jerking off into a cup), I'm not sure it's a good idea to eliminate the right to privacy. Many people get curious about their biological parents, and I don't think a random guy would really appreciate it, if 20 years down the line when he's forgotten about being a donor, a stranger shows up and claims to be their son and wants to get to know them. What if the guy didn't tell his cur…
/r/MensRights29/10/08 03:56 PM
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Kids should not be allowed to know the identity of the sperm donor, but salient medical and racial facts should be ok. There's no way to identify someone with that information, and it's important for someone to know their genetic history. This information is important for knowing about medical risk factors.
/r/MensRights28/10/08 04:51 AM
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Over the last few years Sandra DeFeo, an executive director at the Humane Society of New York, said she had seen an increase in the number of single, straight men who are adopting cats. So does that mean the Humane Society asks what your orientation is on their adoptions forms??
/r/MensRights23/10/08 10:17 PM
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And of course, all of this is middle-class, "polite" people. Not the immigrants, the blacks, the poor, etc. You're right, it would be interesting to know just how widespread the practice of this sort of thing was.
/r/MensRights23/10/08 09:30 PM
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Isn't the the time period that had piano and table legs covered for politeness' sake (so the sight wouldn't arouse the men, or some such nonsense)? And these people thought women were evil?? How demeaning for the men, to be thought so weak and helpless!
/r/MensRights23/10/08 04:29 PM
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Good for him! (And the child!)
/r/MensRights07/10/08 06:56 PM
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At the very least, a man should have the right to waive paternity. It boggles my mind that a woman can rape a man, conceive a child, and the man has to pay child support.
/r/MensRights07/10/08 06:54 PM
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Hmmm... maybe I'm doing it wrong. I've got cobwebs on my ceilings, and I clean the bathroom maybe once a month or so, and the shower curtain maybe once a year. I mow the yard occasionally (it goes dormant in the summer), prune the bushes, tend the compost pile, and clean the gutters. I do the laundry in one marathon day (Sunday, when electricity is cheap), and take the cars to get oil changed, etc maybe twice a year. I make some kind of dinner for the kids and myself most days. My kids vacuum th…
/r/MensRights01/10/08 03:24 AM
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Hey! I clean the gutters!
/r/MensRights30/09/08 12:16 AM
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"If there is ever to be a healing of the rift between men and women, men must treat women as equals, and equals do not need to be protected." This is simple, yet profound in its consequences.
/r/MensRights30/09/08 12:15 AM
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In my house, decisions and /or responsibilities are determined by three main factors: 1) Who cares the most about something; 2) personality differences and preferences; 3) schedule differences. Do I care whether we watch X-files or Heroes? no, so he decides. Does he care when the laundry gets done? no, so I do it. He handles the money and does the dishes (I hate doing dishes). I take care of the yard (he hates yardwork), and make sure the kids have clothes that fit them. He goes out sometimes an…
/r/MensRights26/09/08 06:18 PM
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Assuming the basic premise of the article is true, then as a mother, how do I allow my son to grow to be independent of women? The article assumes the mother is always at home, which I am not, since I'm the wage earner of the family. It is true though that I am the "rock", because I'm emotionally stable, and I tend to look at misbehavior and problems in general more calmly and dispassionately than my husband. I am also more involved with my kids' emotional lives than he is. [And yes, I routinely…
/r/MensRights26/09/08 05:40 PM
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pn6, did you read this book? If so, what did you think of it?
/r/MensRights03/09/08 05:44 PM
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Are you saying that what I wrote is a "Feminazi rant"? If so, I just can't see how you could think that, and it would be good for you to elaborate.
/r/MensRights26/08/08 04:40 PM
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I didn't mean to imply that scary=Goosebumps. I've given my kids classics like Edgar Allen Poe, and Dracula to read. When they are old enough I'll give them the Picture of Dorian Gray, Sleepy Hollow, and Grendel. What I object to are the "junk food" books. Visit the kids' section of a library and you'll know what I mean - they are the books that are written for kids who don't like to read. It's like putting sugary syrup on your broccoli because you never learned to like veggies. Science fiction …
/r/MensRights26/08/08 04:32 PM
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OK, so I realize that I'm not the audience this writer was writing for, but, whoa - count the stereotypes in this article! I don't allow kids' ghost stories/witches/etc (like Goosebumps) books in the house because they're the literary equivalent of junk food. And I tell my kids that. They can read them in the library or at school, but they can only check out decent books. A decent book will introduce novel experiences, historical times and customs, interesting ideas, or have good use of language…
/r/MensRights26/08/08 03:48 AM
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Wow that's scary. I once had some neighbors call the police on us when my husband and I were having a loud argument. I guess the neighbors were concerned because we had two small kids at the time*. By the time the cops arrived, we had stopped yelling and were talking more-or-less quietly, trying to reconcile. One cop took me aside separately, asked me what was going on, let me explain, and I assured him that there was no abuse and that we were only yelling and the kids were fine. The other cop t…
/r/MensRights07/08/08 04:56 PM
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The thing is, I read the men's rights stuff and I can see the legitimacy of their pain and anger. If I felt the court system was biased against me and wanted to take my kids away, I'd be really mad too. If I felt my husband married me just so he could stay home with the kids and do nothing, I'd be pretty jaded on the whole marriage thing too. Women can be manipulative. Women can be callous. I feel very sad when I think of the enormous amount of pain there is out there. On the other side of the c…
/r/MensRights01/08/08 01:32 AM
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Interesting. Some are truly hateful, and others are generalizations which may make sense under certain circumstances. (Example: “We can’t destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.” ) Are these representative of feminist thought-leaders, or just rantings of various women? I recognize Dworkin's name, but that's about it. Things I've read that made sense (though you have to understand their context) - "Vindication of the Rights of Women", "Feminine Mystique", "Female E…
/r/MensRights31/07/08 05:25 PM
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Wow. I must be really sheltered, or I'm not reading the right feminists. Or maybe this list is exaggerated to make the point clear? Do people really treat other people like this? How sad.
/r/MensRights30/07/08 06:49 PM
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This brings to mind "Weird Science".
/r/MensRights25/07/08 06:50 PM
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Go ahead and stare, but don't yell at me about it. Don't announce it for the whole world to hear, and thereby make every other man in the area look at me, too. And for heaven's sake, don't expect me to appreciate the fact that you're looking at my tits! For all you know, I'm gay, or my man is sexier than you, or I just got raped.
/r/MensRights22/07/08 06:09 PM
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At least you try. You understand that your actions might cause discomfort to the people around you. That makes you a decent person in my book. :)
/r/MensRights22/07/08 06:07 PM
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As Bloodlustt pointed out, I specifically said "minor things like someone saying hi is not a big deal." Also, "ogling isn't a problem" - I don't care if someone looks. What I care about is the intrusion into my space, mental or physical. If I'm sitting at a cafe, or in a bar, not particularly involved in anything, I have no reason to complain if someone talks to me. It's irritating, though, so I tend to look busy and occupied when out in public, as a nonverbal signal that I don't want social int…
/r/MensRights22/07/08 06:03 PM
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In general, people forcing me to be social are annoying. Granted, I'm more antisocial than most, and there's no way that a random person on the street would know that :) Minor things like someone saying hi is not a big deal, but if I'm not looking for attention (defined below), then I feel that it's inappropriate for someone to force me to pay attention to them. Of course it depends on the degree - someone wanting me to sign a petition is more annoying than someone asking for directions. Someone…
/r/MensRights21/07/08 07:38 PM
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I thought the philosophical points brought up near the end are very interesting. It's something I've thought about myself on occasion, wrt the abortion and euthanasia debate.
/r/MensRights17/07/08 07:10 PM
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Yes, de facto, but it seems the author is arguing for a formalized "head" status for men. I agree the courts are unfair and biased. But it seems that formalizing men being in charge regardless of circumstances is just as bad. Are we not interested in equality and fairness for everyone? I'm not defending the feminist position, or the status quo. I'm really arguing against the philosophical point the author (I think) is making.
/r/MensRights16/07/08 10:06 PM
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I was responding to what was written in the introduction. Does he cite statistics later in the book?
/r/MensRights16/07/08 09:57 PM
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"Most illegitimate births occur to females who themselves grew up in female-headed families." "What we must do is make the father the head of the family." It's just the introduction, so maybe he justifies this attitude elsewhere, but why the assumption that there is (and must be) a "head"? It seems to me that there's a fundamental problem with this assumption. Why not partners? Why not be egalitarian, according to each partner's abilities, skills, and talents? If you want to claim that single-pa…
/r/MensRights16/07/08 08:59 PM
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One of the activities mentioned is cuddling. I think that might skew the interpretation of the headline at least. "The majority reported being seduced by "guilt-tripping" or intoxication." Doesn't this mean that university students (and teenagers) should be taught some social skills - how to resist social pressure and so forth? Not to mention the dangers of being intoxicated - not the drunk driving stuff everyone gets, but seriously emphasize how drinking impairs your judgment and safety.
/r/MensRights16/07/08 05:09 PM
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Ack! All the cutesy turns of phrases made it impossible for me to figure out what the author was saying. I'm not going to work that hard to figure out the argument supporting a dubious premise.
/r/MensRights03/07/08 09:54 PM
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"But real equality comes from making your own choices, not just following the well-trodden path towards careerism, simply because it has been signposted by society as the only path to success. Liberation must always be about being yourself, not simply a clone." Isn't this flat-out obvious?? Do people really need someone say this to them?
/r/MensRights02/07/08 10:51 PM
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Isn't this just... gross caricature?? At best, this isn't "American" women, but overprivileged, affluent, intellectually empty American women -- who for some reason have men who put up with them being this way.
/r/MensRights02/07/08 05:17 PM
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Feminism, in practice, has so many facets. You can't just say men's rights are part of "feminism" - you have to understand the flavors of feminism that are out there. Some feminists are anti-men, some feminists are pro-BDSM, some feminists are anti-motherhood, etc, etc. Also it depends on what generation you're talking about - old-school feminists are concerned about different things than younger feminists. And, of course, some of these feminists are louder than others, which skews the perceptio…
/r/MensRights02/07/08 04:50 PM
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How awful! Why in the world would anyone encourage or even allow their kid to wear such a thing?
/r/MensRights01/07/08 11:13 PM
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It's like saying it's ok to not have a little finger, because you can still grasp, etc. But having a little finger give you a greater "dimension" of ability to interact with things, makes it easier to play piano or guitar, making it more satisfying to pet your cat, making you more competent at throwing a ball, and so forth. What if circumcision makes sex less emotionally intense, or less psychologically satisfying? Not that being circumcised means that you can't get off in 2 minutes, but that ma…
/r/MensRights23/06/08 06:01 PM
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I'm the person who supports my family. I've been married for 13 years, and we're still working out the dynamics of what it means for him to be home.
/r/MensRights09/06/08 10:43 PM
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Of course, it does being quite early. I would posit that part of "growing up" is going through a process of sifting through the stuff that you've been infused with and deciding what to keep and what to throw out. You never finish breaking out of the cage.
/r/MensRights09/06/08 10:41 PM
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"challenging he idea that men are simple" Who really believes that??
/r/MensRights01/05/08 08:53 PM
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Good for them! Feminism should be about equality. In this case, everyone wins. “It has taken society a long time to catch on that females should not be used as sexual bait to draw men into a business.” "they focus on couples by using ambiguous wording such as: “Half off for the better half” – referring to either sex."
/r/MensRights29/04/08 09:18 PM
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This is why I don't tend to identify myself as a feminist... The term connotes a stupid kind of activism. (Which is also why I don't identify myself as an atheist either!) I'm sure reasonable people can agree that equality for everyone is something to strive for. Maybe I should go read some Elizabeth Cady Stanton...
/r/MensRights25/03/08 05:27 PM
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