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lionsarebigkittens/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/21 12:56 PM
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I was using autist mostly as a synonym for clueless, then... they don’t even realize their affliction Holy crap! All the obvious social awkwardness, stupidity and bullshit I've been through and it took this post for me to get it. Bahahahaha! Can it be cured? The only valid answer I can see is going for it. (fun info: I was writing this reply for over two hours. Bahahah. Not doing overly well with the self-curing yet)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/21 12:32 AM
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Thanks, I've added medium term goals, writing them helps, indeed. My weekly ones stay the same but I've made them clearer, as you've suggested. Plus adding one I'd forgotten about and reordering them. They are from my MAP and overlap a lot with the list from the link: job, strength (food), dress, social.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 12:42 AM
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OYS 14 Stats: 35y, 5'8", 141 lbs, 10.6% bf-navy, never married, no kids. Read: MRP sidebar up to RP sidebar. Lifts: five weeks into 5x5 program (lb): SQ 121, BP 82, Row 104, OHP 77, DL 1x5 154. Social: Talked to a few random people, had a random dance class in the park with mostly grandmas. Still feel the need to talk to people only with a "valid reason". Work: I've done little. Goals for medium term: £50k job, 170 lbs weight, social proficiency (ability to chat up anyone and enjoy it), paint ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 10:26 PM
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Edited for brevity, less time wasted. Added exact weights, some goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 11:57 PM
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OYS #13 Stats: 35y, 5'8", 138lbs, never married, no kids. Read: MRP sidebar up to RP sidebar. Lifts: four weeks into 5x5 program (lbs): SQ 104, BP 77, Row 99, OHP 71, DLx5 143. Hygiene/style: From long hair to buzz cut, much better. Social: Talked to one random person (minor progress), was completely autistic with another. Spiritual: Doing more short meditation in the garden, feels good, to do more of it. Goals: Fix sleep: Stop coffee even in the morning, take vitamins daily, get cold in the eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 07:46 AM
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OYS #12 Stats: 35y, 5'8", 139, never married, no kids. Basics: (/10): Living/fun 3, social 4, leading 4, hygiene 7, style 7, family 7, diet 7, training 8, discipline 7. Read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRMYO, MAP, Pook, now RP sidebar. Physical: Three weeks into 5x5, every other day, feeling the weight already. To switch to three days a week in a couple of weeks. A comment of SorcererKing's on addiction being evasion of reality made me dig into figuring out my delusions. One was that I …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 06:02 PM
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I was giving examples of things that can't possibly be too much work for anyone. If you can move your hand, you can give a spanking. It's fine to not want to bother with any of this, but claiming that basic BDSM stuff is "too much work" seems like a bullshit excuse. Again, I'm talking about very small things, I agree that "the lifestyle" seems like way too much work.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 07:56 PM
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My long-term mission is to make a positive impact on the world and set my children on a path so that they are able to do the same thing You can get a job as a nurse in an elderly home and wash the asses of people with dementia. Or instead, you can match your skills with your interests, do whatever makes you feel alive and sparks your curiosity, and maybe, people will benefit from you living your life. From what I've read, parents have little impact on what children are going to do long term. Lov…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 04:53 PM
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It seemed like a lot of work. Too much work. I skimmed through the first movie, and it still looks like too much work. I'm a fan of intent-based leadership, not that sort of micro-control. I haven't watched the movie. However, it seems strange to me when people say that BDSM is too much work. It can be. But tying a blindfold on her takes a few seconds, after which you just do your usual stuff. Same with a suit tie to tie a hand or two to the bed frame. A collar doesn't necessarily mean whatever …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 03:56 PM
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So... Addictive behavior is an evasion of reality - a delusion. An active decision to be delusional instead of improving my reality. I hate being delusional. Keeping this in mind should help me, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 06:47 PM
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How about oscillating? Mostly internal, where everything is under my control, until at some point an addict in me takes control (now external), I do shit that I'll later regret, the addict is satisfied, and I get control again? Or is that external all the way, where the addict just lets me do what you want most of the time? Is the addict in me just an excuse to meet my own deep chemical/biological desires (which are ok in themselves) in the eaziest, quickest, laziest way possible? Is addiction j…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 01:26 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 35y, 5'8", 139, fit, never married, no kids. Basics: (/10): Living/fun 3, social 2, leading 1, hygiene 7, style 7, family 7, diet 7, training 8, discipline 7. Read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRMYO, MAP, Pook, now RP sidebar. Physical: Two weeks into 5x5. The physical exercise feels way too little - 5x5 every other day. It should start feeling right soon, as the weights start getting heavy. In general, I'm doing what I really want without trying to aim too high. Before I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 09:03 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 35y, 5'8", 139, fit, never married, no kids. Basics: (/10): Living/fun 2, social 1, leading 1, hygiene 7, style 6, family 6, diet 7, training 7, discipline 6. Books read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRMYO, MAP, Pook. Physical: One week into 5x5. Joining a 24/7 gym was good, it can't possibly close before I've gone for a session. I faced that I have a lot less ability in some areas than I imagined, which makes it easier to address deficiencies. No stressing about time to sl…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:12 PM
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One day they will.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/21 04:22 PM
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OYS #9: Stats: 35y, 5'8", 143, fit, never married, no kids. Basics: (/10): Social 1, leading 5, hygiene 6, family 6, diet 7, training 4, discipline 4. Books read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRMYO. MAP half-way. Physical: Push ups - plateauing. Game/sex, social: Nothing. Family: We're ok. Mission: Frame (awareness, energy, direction, congruency, genuine communication). Living on my own terms, enjoying code, art and sex, and continuously progressing, even if slowly. Daily: A: What is the …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 08:53 PM
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Ok, fair enough. Actually, I do the same ego shield shit for applying for work instead, so I can use the general advice. Thanks for the post.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/21 12:29 AM
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I agree on the idea., seems all great up to "walkaway". Why do that in the given example, you wanted to fuck that then and there, right? Also, to me humor seems great (even lousy humor), as long as it comes alongside taking her, rather than instead of it. Stare, "Hey, have you tried the new Chanel number garden sweat?", approach, "Come on, have a sniff", get a how-disgusting remark, "The spray-on isn't that great, but the infusion stick is magic, you'll love it", turn her around ignoring giggly …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 10:48 PM
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But sometimes boys hide feelings. Mostly when they fear the listener's judgement, anger, ridicule, temper, or just inability to listen.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 11:23 AM
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I assume you've had second opinion on your heart issues? It's makes good money to do operations. My father got unnecessary stents and only learned about it from the check-up doctors later.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 11:16 AM
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Don't know what the foot care thing is about, but for my feet which don't smell in some shoes and smell terribly in some trainers - with coppers socks there's no smell even in the trainers. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Kodal-Copper-Infused-Athletic-Womens/dp/B07JPZJK9M/
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 11:07 AM
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It's plain unpleasant to stay out of the water naked after a bath - you've warmed up, if you're going out it means that the water has probably just cooled, the air cools you, too. It's probably not too far off from trying to fuck in snow. You should think of the logistics when doing similar stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 10:58 AM
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I’ve even been lying about going to the office for work after dinner Lying in order to hide makes you feel like a spineless moron. You have decided to go meet people and chat about stuff, if anyone has an issue with that, it's their problem. Fully understand macros / diet by next week Laughable statement, you want to be better than most dietitians in a week. "Have a practical diet by next week" makes much more sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 10:14 AM
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OYS #8: Stats: 35y, 5'8", ~147, fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 1, leading 4, hygiene 6, family 4, diet 8, training 7, discipline 1 ("work"). Books read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRMYO; MAP half-way General: I found the comments of my OYS7 on the livestream very helpful: "Whine, whine, whine... not worth our time". Very good description of "making realizations" without taking much action, similar to threekindsoflucky's comment on the same. The MAP seems great with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 11:30 PM
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I've seen results from this in my efforts to draw and in investments, but I somehow fail to implement that for technical skills. Actually, not somehow, I've stopped/given up in desperation numerous times (in drawing as well, but skills there seem to stay). Similarly in dating. Still, back to it, with different goals now, to try to ensure I'll stick with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/21 03:03 PM
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Reminder to myself: no self-bashing, no hiding. I finished the resume and I was fairly happy with how it turned out. It pointed out my weakest areas and I started working on those... in a somewhat scatterbrained manner. I sent one application and went back to using it's "bad content" as a rejection buffer. I feel I work "nominally" - I do things but there's little progress or results. I put in effort, but less than my maximum. I'm efficient but ineffective. I work on one thing and keep thinking …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/21 02:57 PM
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It did. Excuse of the day for the lack of related action: I made all this up (wrong English...) only thought of this as I was writing it. Now I'll stop with the misguided ego-preservation efforts. Thanks, you're very right.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 11:16 AM
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OYS #7: I lost everything again. Not really. I rediscovered that I've never had anything, again."You do you" (from HOA's post) - I've borrowed you-s from all over the place which seemed cool or inspirational and dropped them every time. What I have is lots of rationalizations. It's good to be able to see many of them now. I start typing a sentence, and often I delete/rewrite it, as it's a rationalization. I've never managed to muster any interest in anything that feels substantial for longer tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 10:47 AM
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OYS #6: Stats: 35y, 5'8", ~138 (no scale), fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 6, leading 6, hygiene 7, family 7, diet 7, training 7, discipline 7. No porn/masturbation in November. Books read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG, TPF; TTGTW partly General: I liked a comment from HeckleandChide with a very good description of discipline: a label for past actions. Feels right. Unrelated, I like playing catch-up. "I stayed so late tonight and managed to do all the stuff I wanted!" means pretty muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/20 09:50 AM
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...but it’s boring. Vanilla, lazy, passionless, routine… boooooooring... Words that have helped me with this, good to always keep in mind: Only boring people get bored.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/20 08:37 AM
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Gyms are closed, my current position doesn't allow a home gym (which is a different problem), I'm seeing fairly good results from push-ups and kettlebells, my strength and my size grow slowly but steadily. I can easily push myself to my current limits with this. Probably sub-optimal, but it seems reasonable to me, so long as it's working. Am I missing something?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:34 PM
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or convince yourself you don't need to succeed I'll keep that in mind for if/when the whole thing seems pointless.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 05:50 PM
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Do you mean why I failed to do them every day, or why I even bother doing them? Or something else? I missed them both times on training off days. I think because it seemed like 100x wouldn't do much, so it didn't seem important enough at any one moment to drop whatever I was doing for several minutes for them (50, 3-4 minutes break, 50). I was constantly catching up on other things to do. "Bad organization" (one excuse) and "it isn't that important" (the other excuse). Both are as fake as they s…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 05:41 PM
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OYS #5: Stats: 35y, 5'8", fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 5, leading 4, hygiene 8, family 7, diet 7, training 7, discipline 6. No porn/masturbation in November. Books read: NMMNG, Primer, WISNIFG partly General: A few times I wasn't effective during the day and started with important tasks so late that I went to bed way too late, and sometimes didn't even finish them all (e.g. training). Doing a cool shower in the morning daily, useful as a habit. The problem of avoiding uncomfo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 10:28 AM
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I saw it as me using a tool that I thought would be effective. If I were to fail, it wouldn't really matter if a mod would be bothered to grant my request, the fear of publicly failing would be the driving force. But "No one else cares" lit a light bulb. I should look for and use tools that fully rely on me, not at all on others. And a nasty tag, or fear of others laughing at my failure, is not such a tool, as I could easily just ignore it or hide from the subreddit, as I did before. I'd still a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 10:48 PM
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I absolutely agree it's dumb. Unfortunately, that's where I'm at right now - yes, I need somebody to hold my hand, for this one thing, this one time. If I didn't need help, I wouldn't be here. As for why I'm not applying - I'm 99.9% sure that I can't possibly get positive response if I apply today, and I believe in a short amount of time (by Monday) I can do what is needed to improve my chances of positive response significantly. So... I haven't been applying because I haven't done that work I t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 10:55 AM
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OYS #4: Do not self-bash, do not hide. Stats: 35y, 5'8", fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 4, leading 4, hygiene 6, family 5, diet 7, training 8, discipline ~0/7. No porn/masturbation in November. Books read: NMMNG, Primer, 3/4 WISNIFG General: After the last OYS I failed to live up to my expectations and hid. Jacked off a lot, porn as well. Stopped a couple of days before November. I've been more involved with stuff I need for a job, but it's been largely inefficient, ineffective…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 10:55 PM
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OYS #3: Stats: 35y, 5'8", fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 8, leading 7, hygiene 7, family 6, diet 7, training 7, discipline 4. No porn/masturbation Read: NMMNG, partly Primer General: I was about to write that I've messed up my sleep again and how it's "difficult". Blagh. Ridiculous. Excuses come so easy. I sucked this week (work, still) and this initially made me worry about the post. Then I realized how stupid that worry was. Still the seeking of external validation. As if oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 08:30 PM
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Thanks for this, it affected my perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 10:14 PM
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Thank you for pointing that out, I wasn't. I've just literally added that description to my profile. I was keeping the door open for short term as well. Lame, dancing around the fact. Actually, what I'm looking for right now is more general contact with women, or "practice", if you want. I hope for a great match for a family, but I don't expect it, and I wouldn't go for long term with anything less. Not sure if I'm wasting my time this way. I'm most likely wasting some of theirs but I can live w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 08:54 AM
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Thank you. I generally agree about targets. I do need some small wins to reduce the self-hate, but should aim for realistic, not easy. As for the dating, I don't want to avoid it. My fragile ego will need to handle it. I don't want to avoid women to the point where I'm scared to even swipe on an app, like I've done with the job search.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 09:36 PM
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For the masturbation bullshit - I agree. It was a convenient rationalization with minor benefit I could have achieved in other ways/could have gone without. "The books says it's fine, so it must be fine." For the app, I let my humor loose (me funny) in the first message, second message, etc. If her humor doesn't match mine, she leaves, I've saved myself time. I suggest a meeting at around 4-5 messages. I think I have the goal you describe, though I don't care about moving off the app "Better"...…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 06:14 PM
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OYS #2: Stats: 35y, 5'8", fit, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 6, leading 5, hygiene 7, family 4, diet 7, training 8, discipline 5. No porn, no videogames – ok; masturbation – once ("healthy" as below, not sure if bullshit) General Did a lot of things I've been avoiding for weeks/months, but still avoiding other things. Finished NMMNG and worked on addressing "toxic shame" and inadequacy beliefs. I'm working on having a frame where it's good to be openly sexual, trying to address sha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 09:37 AM
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I hate to see myself as fragile, but the fragile ego sounds very right. As do the other points. I started reading NMMNG and it explains some things. Strange how a couple of days ago I struggled to go for a jog a whole day. Also, I avoided replying to this for fear of "getting it wrong". I wonder how I got to this point. Things are improving the last few days, though. Thank you for the comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 11:18 AM
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Fair, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 11:01 AM
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OYS #1: Stats: 35y, 5'8", fit but not muscular, never married, no kids Basics (/10): Social 3, leading 2, hygiene 6, family 4, diet 7, training 7, discipline 2. No porn, no fap - ok (about 10 days) General Every time I've tried to do something I've overwhelmed myself and eventually lost interest. Right now I'm worse than ever. Got up, made a to-do list and 9 hours later I'm on 2 of 16. I get distracted all the time and want to do 10 things at the same time. The thing what I most lack and need is…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/20 06:56 PM
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