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Success Storiesliquid-icee/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 01:36 PM
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My ex told me to leave her alone and she “just wanted to move on” (with her AP she was cheating on me with) over a year later they’re married and “happy”. However that doesn’t stop her from stalking my socials, bad mouthing me on facebook, showing up at my work randomly, being on dating apps and OF. Safe to say I “won”. I’m glad she’s gone and want no part of that nonsense. My life is much better in practically every way without her toxic ass in it. We have no kids or any legal ties whatsoever. …
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 05:15 PM
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You’re gonna be lonely, its sucks, but it’s something we’ve gone through. I’d say count your blessings. I was thrown out of our apartment and had to move back in with family and I still feel blessed that I have a loving family that’s had my back, even before they fully realized what a psycho my ex was. Some dudes have literally nobody to fall back on and end up on the streets. Consider yourself lucky brother.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 02:45 AM
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You’ll hear a lot of voices telling you to not do it again. I’m not one of those. BUT DUDE,seriously? The ink is barely dry on your divorce papers. I was married a similar amount of time and finalized a year ago,that is way too soon in my opinion. I’ve dated a few girls, but marriage, hell no, not right now. Good luck finding a single person on here to encourage you to do that.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 09:29 PM
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I was blind at the time because I genuinely loved her, but then I remember i used to sit in my car before going inside after work. I honestly think I was just building up to just packing up my things while she wasn’t home one day and taking off but she beat me to the punch.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 11:22 AM
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When it first happened I would’ve done anything to reconcile. Now absolutely not I am so fucking glad that psycho cheating bitch is gone. After reading your post, I just want to say you’re a dumbass. You fell for one of the classic comeback wife blunders and the only person I feel bad for is your now ex-girlfriend. No way to sugarcoat it you fucked up buddy and your wife will probably leave again given her history that you described.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 04:00 PM
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Exactly dude, I’ve dated a bit. Anything that didn’t feel right for me I ended. I met some nice girls but none I actually really liked or felt connected to before my current gf. Don’t settle for the first one that just says yes because you’re lonely. And just because you made it through hell doesn’t mean everyone is your ex-wife and don’t be afraid to love again when the right one comes along. You deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 11:22 AM
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About 3 months til the new routine to stick 6 months to start enjoying life again and be happy she was gone. 1 year to just not give a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 10:03 PM
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Trust me, I spent years throwing myself in front of the her bad decisions to protect her, it only fucked me up more and as soon as I was out of the picture she went right back to her bad decision making, uninhibited by me and now much worse obv. I couldn’t save her, but I could save myself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:48 PM
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Everyone goes through it. Expect the feeling to be mutual for your STBX. Honestly it is mostly about her arrogance thinking she was the best thing that ever happened to me, which is so crazy to think she had that attitude when she threw me out.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:46 PM
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I completely agree, I do hope she gets whatever it is she needs to fix her life. Maybe it’s some kind of wake up call, idk to be honest, but that really was just an add in, I am very satisfied with my life regardless of how she is doing.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:44 PM
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While not 13 years long, I had a similar experience with her kid too, really sucked, spent a lot of time together just to be told I could never see them again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 08:40 PM
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Mine hates me but kept my name on social media for a year after we separated when she married her AP. It was weird.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 05:10 AM
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All my standards went up! I will NOT put up with crazy anymore, or any type of drama and baggage. What was most interesting is when the rose-tinted glasses came off I realized just how average at best my ex was. All she had going for her is that she was skinny, other than that she nothing special, the kind of woman you pass by on the street and not take a second look at. That was the point I felt I was coming back to my old self and having self respect again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 05:08 AM
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Nope, wasn’t worth it. They’re good people but I know whose side they would ultimately take and it wasn’t my place to stir the pot in an innocent family that has no reason to ever interact with me again.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 05:06 AM
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I don’t know what she’s thinking or care I want nothing to do with her. I’ve lost 60lbs, got promoted, just finished my second semester of college, have a new girlfriend and I don’t even want to gloat, i just plain don’t care.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 03:15 PM
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Mine cheated, moved in with her AP, got engaged and married within a year, we finalized in the spring. Yet she on occasion still shows up at my work, to chat with people she used to know, glance over at my area, last time was a week ago. I work an hour away from where she lives now….
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 05:36 AM
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Do we have the same ex wife?
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 05:32 AM
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This is gonna sound ridiculous, but the first thing I bought myself was a new pair of work boots for my job. I spent years wearing crappy uncomfortable cheap shoes, re-glueing the soles of my old ones to save our family money. Not anymore, it’s about me now, for once. New clothes that aren’t effed up and actually fit, a new car I can now afford to replace my rust bucket etc. it’s a nice life, I’m not gonna lie.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 05:01 AM
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My ex straight up forgot our date of marriage. She muttered her words, guessed and was off by a several days. Glad to see how little it mattered to her. The look on the judge’s face when I immediately spoke up and said the correct date was absolutely PRICELESS. I think he knew exactly what I was thinking at that moment.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 09:38 PM
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Why did you tell her in the first place? Did you not know that might get a reaction out of her? Was this an a honest mistake or did you want her to get her a little irritated or jealous? Either way you should never tell your ex what’s going on in your life, unless it’s about the kids. Don’t give her anything to use against you, it’s none of her business. It’s not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 06:31 PM
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I wouldn’t even reply. What an insult. I work with my exs AP and it’s fine now, we can talk about work stuff if we have to. But her asking for you to shake his hand and accept the situation. The audacity, unbelievable. Thankfully mine hates my guts, we don’t have kids, and I haven’t seen her since court but I would never entertain the idea of “being friends” and just pretending the like the past didn’t happen to make her happy if the situation came to it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 04:18 AM
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She can regret it all she wants, she’s a grown adult and she fucked up. That’s nobody’s fault but her own. It’s best if you just finish up the divorce, all other legal requirements, block and never speak to her again and it sounds like you’re on the right track. No shame but just stop checking her social media. It’s no good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 04:28 AM
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And the whole sub let out “NO!” Sounds like she wants to weasel her way back into the benefits and lifestyle you provided. She doesn’t just want to be FWB, obviously she doesn’t love you if she’s engaged to someone else and tried to accuse you of serious crimes and take your home. New guy isn’t meeting her expectations so you’re the backup. Don’t let her have her cake and eat it too. You’ve already stated you don’t need her, would you really want to bring those problems back in your life just fo…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 08:57 PM
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This is my second TG after the divorce, first was just a few weeks after court so I wasn’t doing the greatest. This one was much better, I’m doing much better than I was a year ago on all levels and I’m grateful to be surrounded by family that actually cares about me.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 03:39 AM
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I miss the family thanksgivings with the ex in-laws. They were good people. Not worth being back in that “marriage” but they liked me.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 11:39 PM
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I waited like half a year, she was a nice girl but a walking red flag just like my ex and I REALLY was not ready so I ended it after a few months. A year later I just started dating again, it hasn’t been a high priority, I’m just taking it as it goes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 04:14 AM
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Facts, after the shitstorm died down, the better I did and the less I got upset about her slander and shenanigans, the more she got angry and spiraled out of control . Because how dare I move on and improve my life. She’s supposed to living it up in paradise and I’m supposed to crash out permanently. I can only imagine how mentally straining the paradox of the fantasy land she made up in her head vs the cold hard reality must be.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 04:04 AM
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Just blessed she’s not my problem anymore and it’s all long behind me.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 03:49 AM
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The week before we separated when after a fight she left and then told me she was 45 minutes away (“coincidentally” in the same town her “friend” lived) and lied straight to my face saying she was alone. 3 months after we finalized they were married.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 10:47 PM
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Ex monkeybranched, made me out to be an abusive monster because I was struggling with alcohol. I love her kid, I spent everyday with him for years, took them both on vacations,hiking, cooking, really tried to raise him right, teach him manners and responsibility, etc. Always made an effort to play with him even when I was exhausted from work. Family is everything to me. The few times I saw him after we separated he was so excited to see me, ran right into my arms screaming my name. That was the …
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 05:40 AM
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I just plain don’t care. 1 year post divorce, I’m a lot younger than you but I don’t even have my own place I had to move back in with family. It’s far from ideal but that’s what I had to do and I’m grateful that I have loving family that had my back since day 1. If a woman can’t understand that it’s not a result of laziness or frivolous spending but unfortunate circumstances that led you to this financial situation you don’t want to be with her anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 10:52 PM
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You’re romanticizing, everybody does it, it’s okay but you gotta take off the rose tinted glasses. I can’t relate, within a year of our short marriage sex was rationed, slowly but surely that I didn’t realize how less and less we were having it and how she treated it more and more like a chore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 01:57 PM
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She wants out, that’s her choice. She’s a middle aged grown adult, that’s her problem not yours. She’s not your friend or teammate anymore. Let her figure it out, just don’t be unnecessarily cruel about it. You won’t feel good about yourself and it will probably bite you in the ass in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:12 AM
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Our first Christmas i spent a few hundred on her( I was broke so that was a lot at the time ) and I spent a good chunk of time picking gifts she’d enjoy. I got a pair of pj pants two sizes too big, a shirt that was a size too small and a knockoff smart watch from temu.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:08 AM
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Mine only apologized when I stuck to my guns and wouldn’t let up, not because she was actually sorry but because she wanted to be let off the hook.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:04 AM
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You need to move out and get divorced before you start seriously dating man. At the very least your ex should’ve had no knowledge of this new girl. NEVER TRUST YOUR STBX!!! Especially when infidelity was involved, come on man. Sounds like you dragged the new girl into your shitstorm and that was a huge mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 02:53 AM
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I was still pretty naive. I wish I had recognized sooner that she was monkeybranching. I was being cheated on and replaced, discarded like a piece of trash after she got everything she think she could out of me. She truly did not give a fuck about me, I could’ve died right then and she would’ve been happy that she wouldn’t have to get divorced and could immediately marry the “true love of her life” AP. Had I known what I do now I never would’ve begged or cried to her in the following weeks think…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 12:34 PM
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Narcissist has unfortunately become the pop psychology version of calling someone you disagree politically a nazi. Very few people are actual narcissists and even fewer would consider that they’re actually narcissists. If your intent is to protect your children and maintain your relationship with them I personally wouldn’t consider that narcissistic.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 04:06 PM
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Don’t ignore the red flags, she’s not gonna change for you or just because you’re married. I knew what kind of person she was, the long list of exs, the drug use, the constant bad decisions that she took zero accountability for. I got the “you’re the first guy to treat me right” speech. I was uneasy about it but chose to ignore everything because I liked the attention and sex. It was my own damn fault and I shouldn’t have been so surprised when things were rocky that she wanted out and another g…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 10:00 PM
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Like a baby I’d imagine. If nothing is your fault and you have no accountability, then in her mind what is there to feel guilty about and lose sleep over ? Must be nice, wish I could say the same.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 04:00 PM
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It’s crazy, absolutely mind boggling, isn’t it. I remember the sweet girl that would tell me that she’d love me for all eternity. Fast forward a few years and now I’m apparently an abuser, a narcissist etc. I’m not a perfect man but I’m certain I did not deserve the crazy slander campaign that my ex put out against me. To this day her narrative hasn’t changed. As far as she is concerned she was a great spouse, I was the only one with problems and I’m basically the devil, despite the fact that sh…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 11:02 AM
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Bite the bullet my friend. Start planning your exit strategy. She probably planning hers if she’s been saying it for 6 months. Lawyer up, document everything. Don’t be caught with your pants down. It’s not easy but you need to accept that your marriage is over. It was hard for me to accept that my ex didn’t see me as being on her team anymore. At that point I was now her OPPONENT!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 09:15 PM
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I WORK WITH THE GUY. 🤣 I see him basically every day. They moved in together almost immediately, got engaged/married less than a year after we separated. Not to go into an ego trip but he’s nothing special, very unattractive, not rich, much older, and I suspect he’ll cheat on her as soon as she stops putting out. I hated his guts for a while, but am a mature adult with bills so I’ve been able to keep professional, except for a few snide comments when it first happened. I honestly feel bad for hi…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:23 PM
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Think about how awful it was for you to be the betrayed. My exs AP is a lowlife, I bet deep down he knows it and I think he deserves a cheater like her. Would you want to be a part of the equation for some poor guy who’s never done anything to you. Obviously if a woman is willing to cheat she’ll find someone else to do it, but let that be some other guy willing to compromise his morality. Don’t do it, you won’t feel good about yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 12:18 AM
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Because I can realize in the aftermath I married a psycho. It took awhile to remember all the fucked up stuff I put up with but thinking back all the signs were there and I actively chose to ignore them because I was enjoying the lovebombing, sex, attention. I’m bitter because she fucked me by cheating and leaving but I take my own accountability, and realize it’s my own damn fault. I knew what kind of person she was. I think most 2nd marriages fail because people marry the first person to give …
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 03:36 PM
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The “standard advice” while not fun and exciting is the truth. It’s not easy to commit to changing your entire life but it’s worth it. I’m over a year out and while still not 100% my life is way better than it was when I was married. However my ex also definitely did not glow up so your experience with is obviously different.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 12:37 PM
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Keep the joking spirit alive man! I love it! Better days will come.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 01:32 PM
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I was extremely lucky, only married a few years, no kids so my ex just took half our meager savings, no fights, about money at least. Financially I’m in a much better position than I was while married. I’ve traveled a lot around the country (Florida,the American Southwest, the Adirondacks etc.) but I always do so on the cheap. Just me and my bro it’s nice. When it comes to moving on, it was good closure for myself. I used to take my ex places a lot, was in the middle of planning a surprise vacat…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 01:26 PM
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I wasn’t always the best husband. I do have regrets. In the end she cheated and ran off with her AP. I was obviously devastated and pissed, but she’s also a mentally unstable individual that had a rough life (divorced parents, SA, single motherhood, homelessness etc.) before me and that’s completely different from how I grew up. I don’t want anything bad to happen to her and I hope she gets the help she desperately needs and learns from her past mistakes. Sometimes you just can’t turn off the sw…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 07:01 PM
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