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I totally agree...as a woman. I find myself arguing with my husband just so something isn't my fault. I'm on the defensive so easily and needlessly. I don't know about other women but it's something I have to be careful about doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 12:47 AM
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I kind of feel like if I was going the way I was going, I would maybe some day feel like Lucy. Once our son was born I realized that I would always resent my husband for how much I did and how little he did. Then I realized that I was being an idiot. My husband works hard for us at work. I get to stay home. I get to be barefoot and pregnant and that was my freaking dream. And here I am depressed because I have to cook and clean? What I WANTED to do? So now I embrace it. Now I try to do the best …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 08:23 PM
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Yes I am too! So worth it in the end. No worries, you assumed mostly right. She loves him but isn't really in love with him. I have tried to help her see this but she is comfortable with the situation. I just don't think it's fair to either of them!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/17 07:51 PM
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All of my grandparents had traditional female roles, and none of them had any abuse or craziness. They were happy, submissive wives. Same with my husband's family. Although his maternal grandparents got divorced, and his mother said it was because her own mother was so extremely stubborn she couldn't blame her dad for leaving. Submission doesn't give a person so much power that he becomes evil.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:22 AM
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We pray together most nights before bed. I love it because in sharing our prayers out loud and praying for one another, it allows for some really deep emotional intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:15 AM
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My husband and I waited for everything too. We waited until I was 22 and graduating college. We dated for five years long distance. Our only regret is that we didn't get married sooner! Edit. And I will also say my mom is living with her boyfriend now. It's weird because they probably shouldn't get married but it's too complicated to break up and so they are probably just going to keep dating until my mom breaks up with him or decides to settle and marry. Which is sad because she is a widow and …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 04:03 AM
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Have you read Dr. Laura's The Propee Care and Feeding of Husbands? I would recommend it. You are so focused on what your husband can do for you that you aren't thinking of what you can do for him. If you act submissive, he will become dominant. But you can't expect that overnight after so many years or being a shrew. Focus on changing yourself before expecting anything of him.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 03:46 AM
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It's the red pill wives subreddit. It seems similar to this but with a focus on marriage and long term relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/17 03:38 AM
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me too! I'm five feet! I can only wear a knee length skirt with heels.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 09:29 PM
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Yes, thank you for this! I have a difficult time with my appearance because I am very petite and have a hard time looking my age. I want to dress feminine, but I have to be VERY careful of how I pair things, because something too feminine without a sophisticated balance could easily make me look like a child. That said, I also have to wear juniors clothing or the smallest size carried by a store (and many don't even carry my size in the first place), so it's difficult to find clothes that are ap…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 09:27 PM
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Hi! I am here from RPWi. I am a RPW because even though my husband and I love each other very much, something wasn't working right. I started applying the theory to myself and in three days my marriage felt like it was new. I'm 26, a SAHM, and a former high school teacher.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/17 07:18 PM
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I have often wondered about how women in the workforce has lowered wages. That's very interesting! It would actually be better for society if fewer women worked, wouldn't it? Men would have higher wages and women would be able to stay home and care for children. I think society should definitely encourage women to have more children. Our birth rate is so low right now. I personally think that more children makes for happier, well-adjusted families. Of course there are exceptions to this, but fro…
/r/RedPillWives29/03/17 01:25 AM
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My husband has a major interview coming up this weekend. He is leaving the military and entering the civilian workforce. He has never had an interview before, though he is working with a great headhunting company that is preparing him well. He is understandably nervous. I am asking for advice for some ways that I can help build him up over the next week so that he is feeling extra confident. Any ideas?
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 12:46 AM
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This was me! I was raised on hamburger helper, instant mashed potatoes, and canned green beans. But you know what's awesome? The internet! Tonight we had fresh green beans (cooked with sautéed onions, butter, lemon juice, salt and pepper), we had fresh mashed potatoes with parsley, and baked chicken wth tomatoes and mozzarella cheese over a sour cream and dill sauce. It was delicious! It's taken a few years and lots of internet teaching but I can safely say I've become a pretty decent cook... an…
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 12:38 AM
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I was attacked on another sub for talking about being a SAHM. My argument was that I stay busy and find plenty to do to improve my home and raise my kid. The woman was basically saying that on her days off she does my job, including all the chores after her kids are in bed. Our society just doesn't value or understand what a SAHM does. They believe my job is to do laundry, seeep the floors, and cook dinner. And of course that's part of it, but my main job is to RAISE my child. And just like you …
/r/RedPillWives24/03/17 02:05 AM
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This is what I was going to say. Four months is nothing. I think you are overthinking things because you have put all this pressure on this relationship. If your end goal is marriage and you have already decided he is the one, but you don't have a ring on your finger (I.e. No commitment yet), you will constantly be questioning whether he feels the same way. I think you need to take a step back and recognize that you are still in the early stages of a relationship. You need to change your perspec…
/r/RedPillWives23/03/17 08:35 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 05:10 PM
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What movie is it? My formatting is weird so I can't see the first section in the post.
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 04:59 PM
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Thank you! Can't wait to start doing this.
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 04:57 PM
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lol that is awesome! And I have I say... maybe we are the same person. My husband and I affectionately call each other "goober" ;)
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 04:51 PM
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Great suggestion! Do you put the broth in the freezer and thaw it for specific meals or do you keep it in the fridge and use it throughout the week?
/r/RedPillWives19/03/17 03:36 AM
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Ahh that makes sense. Thanks, glad I asked!
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 03:49 PM
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Great idea! Do you keep a portable wardrobe thing (the name is escaping me) in your laundry room to hang the clothes on as you pull them out of the dryer?
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 12:02 PM
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Great advice!
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 12:00 PM
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LOVE that idea for the shower. Totally going to do that.
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 11:59 AM
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love it!
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 11:59 AM
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Great idea on the microfiber towels! I sometimes use towels but it grosses me out to throw them in the regular laundry. Am I just being weird? Do you wash them separately?
/r/RedPillWives18/03/17 11:59 AM
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There are definitely ways to look cute without spending a ton of money. You don't need fancy creams or makeup. I use honey to wash my face and coconut oil as lotion and makeup remover. Putting on some powder foundation, blush, lip gloss and mascara will help you feel pretty. No need for a lot of makeup or anything fancy. Drink lots of water, eat healthy, stay active (even going on long walks each day), and you will look and feel quite pretty! You can buy clothes secondhand (I love thredup.com fo…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 12:30 AM
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Hey! I'm scatterbrained too. There's nothing wrong with being scatterbrained so long as you know how to stay organized. Lists are my bff Too! I make a list every morning of what to do, otherwise I'll get distracted. :)
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 12:23 AM
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Yes! We cosleep too. It took us far too log to discovertbis but turning on a show and putting our son in a high chair with some graham crackers has saved us!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/17 12:22 AM
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A deadbeat father? Has he left his family? Does he have a mistress on the side? Does he leave for days on end to get drunk and come crawling back beat up days later? Does he spend their money on drugs? This man is far from deadbeat. No one is perfect. If my husband were exasperated with me and told internet strangers about my worst traits (which he would never do because he's a good man), he could make me look pretty awful. Please don't advise a woman to leave her loving husband and children's f…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 01:10 AM
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I will second what HappyWifeLifeX says below. I sympathize with your situation, I really do. It sounds difficult. RP wives can offer advice on marriage, but we can only offer advice on what YOU can do. We can't change your husband and you can't change him either. I have learned that the hard way in my own marriage. when it feels like things are crashing down around me, I have to remember all the positive things that I love about my husband. It's impossible to survive if I forget. I realize that …
/r/RedPillWives14/03/17 01:04 AM
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On point
/r/RedPillWives12/03/17 02:36 AM
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Love the bagel idea! I can't wait to do this once we live in a house :)
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:45 AM
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Welcome home! :) I wanted to chime in and say there are many resources out there to educate yourself on the teachings of the church. Reading the catechism, or watching/listening to EWTN, Catholic Anwers, The Journey Home, Call to Communion, for radio and TV, and even reading the lives of the saints (or watching documentaries on the saints). There are wonderful theologians that are easy to read (Scott Hahn, Michael Kelly come to mind). There are lots of Facebook groups full of faithful Catholic w…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:41 AM
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Anglicans are jokingly called Catholic-Lite but they are most assuredly not actually Catholic! They are not in communion with Rome and though their Liturgy sort of resembles the mass, they are still far from it! Just FYI :)
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 03:33 AM
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I think this is fair. This is not an ultimatum, since I know you were worried about that. This is a set of goals to work toward, and a way for him to prove himself before you take action yourself. (An ultimatum would be the threat to leave him) I would also add that he seek counseling. Perhaps you seek it together. If you can't afford a counselor, seek out a pastor or someone who will counsel you for free. It sounds like you have a lot of things you need to discuss with one another.
/r/RedPillWives11/03/17 01:33 AM
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I totally get that. I would probably feel the same way. But you also have to ask yourself what all these chores are worth. If those 10-12 hours you spend on the lawn each week were taken care of by a lawn crew for $100 a month (totally guessing on the price), would you be freed to have some meaningful time with your husband? And how much is that quality time worth? Just a few things to consider.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 01:06 AM
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I am thankful to join in on a trip with my mom and aunts near where I live. I am thankful to my husband for carrying the burden of providing for or family and finding a new job. I am thankful for my son,who is so sweet and learning so much every day! And bonus question. My Mascara because it's the one thing I always try to put on to make myself feel put together when I don't feel like wearing makeup.
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 12:16 AM
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I agree. The outrage is because Emma Watson is pretty, so she "sold out." But if someone who isn't traditionally feminine does it, it's "brave."
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 12:05 AM
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Can you hire a lawn company to keep up the lawn? Or a neigborhood teenager?
/r/RedPillWives08/03/17 12:00 AM
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I agree with you. I often felt isolated because I did not partake in these things before I was married, but I don't regret it one big. I wonder what kind of baggage I'd be carrying to my family had I lived differently, or even if I'd be married to my husband today! I do think it's sad that many young women feel like they must do these things because they are surrounded by it, but then it just makes them miserable.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 03:21 AM
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DH is in a stressful place in life. 80-90 hour work week, career change coming, and on top of that is in the process of being diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder that would explain a lot of symptoms, including fatigue and anxiety. Anyway considering all this sometimes his fuse is so short! How do I deal with this as a properly red pilled wife?
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 01:47 AM
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I had crazy pain too. Please pm me if you would like suggestions!
/r/RedPillWives06/03/17 01:42 AM
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Yeah I can totally understand what you are saying. It sounds like you did what any of us what have done about it when it first came up, and now he probably just feels guilty and doesn't want to discuss it anymore. If he also thinks porn is wrong and ideally would want to stop, maybe you can send him the link to r/nofap and just say, "I came across this community and thought it might help if you are interested. I just want you to know that I love you and support you no matter what and I don't wan…
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 01:22 PM
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It's true, but to be fair that can happen to a wife while her husband is deployed.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 01:02 PM
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It's a value thing too. My husband and I both view porn as immoral, so I would say something if I was in your position. But more like trying to understand "why are you doing this?" And asking how I can help, if I need to more available, what's going on under the surface. Porn can be a real addiction so it's not something that I would ignore but that's just me. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:34 AM
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That's not true! We all don't think exactly the same. Edit. I mean to say, I hope you stay! We all have varying opinions on this subject matter.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:07 AM
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Actually a lot of people stay in the military because of the security it provides, especially for medical care. I know many myself. It's one of the major perks to military life, having a housing allowance and paying so little for health care. I'm sad and scared to leave it.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:06 AM
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Women who have careers in the military can't be discriminated against for pregnancy just like they can't in the civilian world. I understand the point you are making about the benefits for single moms, but single fathers have these same benefits as well as married soldiers.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 02:04 AM
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I'm willing to bet that it's less intentional than we would think. I mean women on these vessels are surrounded by lonely men and some of them are suddenly extremely attractive to hordes of men for the first time in their lives. My husband has described this phenomenon to me in places he has served with few women. I am sure these ships have places and codes for how to hook up. Lots of sex means that the chances for getting pregnant go up. That's what's I'd think at least.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 01:58 AM
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There are rules for this! She should have had an approved person to care for her child in the books. My husband had a woman he worked with was out processed because her action plan person (her grandma) fell ill and she didn't have anyone else to care for her child. Whatever that woman on Facebook was doing was not okay and if her leadership found out, she would have been discharged! Crazy.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/17 01:51 AM
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I just checked out this website and I love it! However it keeps sending me to these annoying ads and won't let me go back. Is this happening because I'm on my phone?
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 02:35 AM
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Concise and well put!
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:49 AM
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I love this thread! Thanks for asking. Can't wait to see what everyone recommends. :) The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura is the book that first changed my perspective on relationships last year. It's been exciting to find this community of like minded women!
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:43 AM
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Are you me? Because everything that you are saying sounds really familiar. 😛
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:37 AM
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My husband is about to switch careers so I'm making an effort to really listen to all his thoughts and concerns and not try to "solve" the problem, just support him and be there for him. I know that seems obvious but it took me a while to realize this is what he needs most. Oh also I've totally changed my attitude about whah I expect from him when he comes home. I stopped caring about how he spends his time and started focusing on how to "serve" him. We are much happier this way and I find that …
/r/RedPillWives04/03/17 01:34 AM
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My husband worried like this too when I was pregnant. He didn't know all the "facts" so he didn't tell me what to eat or anything. But if I went anywhere without him, he'd tell me how worried he was and to be safe on the road. I think a few times he asked me not to go somewhere. What's the big deal? He cares about his wife and child.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 06:02 AM
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My husband worried like this too when I was pregnant. He didn't know all the "facts" so he didn't tell me what to eat or anything. But if I went anywhere without him, he'd tell me how worried he was and to be safe on the road. I think a few times he asked me not to go somewhere. What's the big deal? He cares about his wife and child.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 06:02 AM
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Wake up at 7:30. (Husband leaves before 5am) Nurse baby. Get up, make bed, get dressed, change the baby, start laundry, open blinds, clean bathroom (quick with windex on sink, mirror, toilet), make breakfast, feed child and eat/drink coffee, start roomba while baby is in the high chair, let the dogs out (I have to take them outside on a leash), clean dishes (no dishwasher), sweep floors (we live in 250 sq feet so i have to stay on top of cleaning), check my calendar/lists Usually we go somewhere…
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 05:49 AM
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Jeans with boots and a cute top. I'm often chasing after my toddler inside and out.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/17 05:37 AM
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I wanted to go into medicine but decided against it because I knew I wanted to start a family young. Though I still wasted my education getting a degree in something I don't want to use. 😛
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:17 AM
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For my husband who brought me home a few little things I needed today:) For my husband who is bearing the weight of a career change. For a friend who offered to babysit this weekend. This Friday night I will be taking care of my sweet husband who is having a procedure done and will have to go under anasthesia for his first time.
/r/RedPillWives02/03/17 05:02 AM
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I've been on both sides of the coin before having kids. I much preferred staying home to working. When I worked, I was teaching and pregnant and had a very rough schedule. I would come home and do nothing but rest and grade and lesson plan. The house was a mess. Dinner was never planned. We spent a lot more eating out. It was chaotic. When I stayed home, it was pretty much the exact opposite. There are so many benefits to being a SAHW. Don't let the outside pressure make you feel discontent in c…
/r/RedPillWives28/02/17 02:52 AM
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Hi! I'm new. I just found this last week and it's already been helping my marriage. Very excited! Nice to meet everyone :)
/r/RedPillWives28/02/17 02:45 AM
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I love all of this. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives28/02/17 12:18 AM
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Yes, how do you organize your day? Cleaning/chores, etc? I wouldn't be opppsed to hearing how you meal plan too. :) I have some of my own systems in place but I love hearing what other people do...often, it's better than my own!
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 06:14 PM
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I'm reading all this as you can see months later and I totally would like to hear about your systems. Just anything at all!
/r/RedPillWives27/02/17 04:24 AM
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What about changing your last name to your middle name? Or even having two middle names. Jessica Lyle Jones or Jessica Nicole Lyle Jones. I thought I'd miss my last name. I really don't. I love having my husband's name. My maiden name will always be a part of me, even if it's not the name I sign.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 03:51 AM
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I loved Hatchet as a kid! The sequel is good too. Similar books are Where the Red Fern Grows, Old Yeller, and a little bit more mature but Ender's Game is one I enjoyed immensely at age 13 or 14. The Red Badge of Courage is a great boy's book. Huckleberry Finn is a classic too.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 03:48 AM
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That will be wonderful! I found that keeping up the house was so difficult. If will be nice for you to have lots of help with housework during that state. We had just moved before my son's birth, so we didn't have friends or family nearby. It makes a big difference!
/r/RedPillWives26/02/17 03:44 AM
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I think you hit a key point. I have definitely found that when he is consumed with something, we are all much happier if I find something to do for myself! I know sometimes that's easier said than done with a child to care for, but I think it's something for me to remember. I love all the massage suggestions! I offered one to him today and he loved it.
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 03:07 AM
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Thank you for that perspective!!
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 03:04 AM
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Thank you! I appreciate the advice. I am trying to work on being more available for intimacy. Sometimes I think I resent the fact that our little alone time is used for sex but I think that is a bad attitude. I should embrace it!
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 03:03 AM
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That's very sweet.
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 03:01 AM
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Caring for another human being 24/7 is full of wonder and hard work! If you are breastfeeding, be prepared to feel touched out and chained to the couch or bed for 12 weeks. It can take baby an hour to nurse, and they nurse every two hours. Go easy on yourself. I didn't realize how much recovery your body needs from birth, so be prepared that you might not get back to everything right away. Just listen to your body and take it easy and bond with your baby. It's not about bouncing back but about g…
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 02:49 AM
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You voiced what I was thinking, as I lie here with a sick baby who won't let me leave him to go be with my husband.. I think it's a priority thing, a frame of mind, because realistically life means that with very young children, you are spending a majority of your time caring for them. That is just the nature of motherhood being 24/7. And I don't think my husband would ever want me to not meet my child's needs before his own needs. But there is a difference between meeting their needs and going …
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 02:40 AM
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That's interesting! I'd imagine you would see a lot of young women choosing to marry younger if there was ever a draft.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:31 PM
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That's a great idea to take him a hot lunch. I can't believe I hadn't thought of that. His office even has a special room for families to spend time with their soldier. Thanks for the recommendations! That's a good point. We live in a unique area that is rural but has some people in the immediate surrounding area and a little playground. Though we don't usually see others, we do go on walks each day, and that reminds me that I should ask a neighbor to come along with me because she also has a ba…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:05 AM
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That's a very good point about seeing other people during the day. I do socialize with others thankfully. I have been making a point to do so because I realized that I was so much needier when I didn't do that. And I now lead two different organizations so I'm quite busy and that helps a lot. We have only lived here since last summer, but I have finally made a few friends that I feel comfortable with in the last couple months, and that makes such a big difference. My husband is about to enter in…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 05:57 AM
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Good ideas, thank you! Now to work on getting my baby to sleep better so I can actually have one on one time with him...
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 05:25 AM
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Thanks! Yes I'm a SAHM. He's in the military so the hours are unavoidable...He is in a leadership position and it is just something he has to do. He has been in this job since last summer but he's about to transition out so there is all the stress of finding a civilian job. Though I can't imagine he will be working like this in the civilian world. So I guess there is a light at the end of the tunnel. :) I think you are right that I should offer to do more for him like massages. Making him tea an…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 02:32 AM
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Thank you! I like the phone game idea. I don't know if he plays games but I will ask :) I will say that I've tried those things. He reads a lot of political things and I will read them too so we can talk about it (but it often makes him angry so it's hard to make those conversations fun lol, so I don't feel like that "quality time" is satisfied if that makes sense). We love hiking and we used to do that all the time, but his job is so rough now that he honestly just doesn't want to do anything a…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 01:48 AM
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Thank you for that enlightening comment!
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:58 PM
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You are right. There are some women serving now in combat arms roles, but the majority of women entering the military choose the soft skills MOSs.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:57 PM
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Things have recently changed in the military. My husband was just briefed a week or so ago on transgender soldiers. The presenter literally said that even if the person has male anatomy, they still go to the women's shower.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:56 PM
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Right but there has to be some clause for women with children to be able to stay home. I suppose it could be that either the husband OR wife has to go when there are children at home, but I could imagine that would cause issues.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:52 PM
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Grateful that my husband was selected for a recruiting company Grateful for a bike trailer so I can go on bike rides with my son! Grateful for running water (we currently don't have hot water so it's made me thankful for how fortunate I am to even have running water to begin with)
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 03:54 AM
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Oh my gosh I love this comment, thank you. I'm just discovered this subreddit and I think I'm staying.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 02:09 AM
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I'm here from TD too
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 02:08 AM
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Is Dr. Laura someone this sub looks up to? I just stumbled across here today and I love Dr. Laura!
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 02:07 AM
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Hey I use NFP and am breastfeeding. Let me know if you have questions!
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:50 AM
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As a former teacher now housewife, it's hard. I LOVE staying home but I also have ambitions that I want to pursue (from home) as my son gets older. There is definitely an identity crisis that happens when you get absolutely no encouragement that you are doing a good job day in and day out like you do in a job (well, sort of with teaching). But I've never even considered going back to work. First of all, I would never make enough money as a teacher to justify the stress and childcare. Second of a…
/r/RedPillWives23/02/17 01:44 AM
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