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I know you misogynists think you are right. Women have always known this since we learned what the word meant. Why bother trying to have a conversation with one? They just schreik and whine and play the victim. You all aren’t worth the food it takes to keep you alive let alone effort in a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 10:44 PM
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Yep. I spent my 20s with the idea that I’d have kids when I could provide for them what my parents provided for me. I eventually had to decide if I wasn’t having kids or if I’d provide mine a middle class life, which is honestly fine and nothing to be ashamed of. Times are not what they were. And Myself and my partner both work for Big Corps and have “good career” type degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:34 PM
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And somehow you believe that attacking whatever you imagine I look like supports this. Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:55 PM
1

Not any more. The baby face didn’t age that well
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:41 PM
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Leonardo Dicaprio is such a bizarre example and he comes up all the time. Without his money and status he’d be very very average. I say this as a Reddit-old lady who thought he was the hottest ever, 25 years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:10 AM
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They believe it’s somehow a good sign that instead of no one want them for their potential / looks / personality, they now can get someone who wants them for all the money they will apparently have by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:08 AM
1

And yet I’m not on the internet whining about how no one wants me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:05 AM
2

Yep there are children, he had one previously and we have one together. What initially drew me to him was that we were in similar places in life, we have (and had) a lot in common, we had great sexual chemistry and enjoyed time together and went out and did a lot of things beyond bars / restaurants which was appealing. He’s active and energetic and fun to be around. And of course he’s attractive. Now we’ve build a family dynamic I know I’d have a hard time finding in some guy who saw himself as …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:03 PM
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As I said your essays and long analysis of me is cute. I don’t need to defend myself against a made up story about me though. That’s not good use of my energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:56 PM
1

Lol we have delusional high standard yet still no need to lower enough them to date you, and aren’t the ones whining about that non stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:54 PM
1

Lol if not taking on someone else’s financial stupidity makes me a gold digger in your eyes, that’s perfect because I want no part in your life anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:52 PM
1

exactly, they want a checklist of ridiculous things like eye size or jaw angle or whatever that has no actual bearing and shut down the things that are actual dealbreakers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:51 PM
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If you are looking for a relationship with me at least this is a factor. Why would I take on someone else’s debt? Ability to manage one’s life is a factor in attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:50 PM
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Most women have better sexual experiences on their own than with strangers, plus there is the risk. Though I don’t honestly see how men don’t consider casual sex insanely high risk as well. You don’t find a whole lot of women raving about an excellent one night stand experience. (And if you do it’s because it was such an outlier)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:22 PM
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Attraction isn’t just the way someone’s face and body looks. I disagree that men take more care of their appearance, at least from what I’ve seen. People in general are fatter, less socially skilled, have more debt and socialize less. They are less attractive as a whole. Online dating has made attractive people more visible though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:19 PM
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You can vet for whatever you want, like anyone can. Your psych 101 based analysis of me is very cute, I remember the days of thinking I was deep and analytical, too. But hey, if you are one that’s posting this kind of thing without being a hypocrite about it, good on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:15 PM
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Yep it’s either an incompatibility or a nonissue, so there is only downside to lying or hiding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:13 PM
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Oh wow so childless women are causing international conflict now. Lol that’s a new leap. The desperation is just thick in threads like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:15 PM
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So this whole thing is red pill logic where the theory would be that a woman making 100k wouldn’t be open to dating someone who makes 100k since apparently we will only date men who make more money. So I’m not sure how he would date down to date her is she apparently wouldn’t date him anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:13 PM
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Do you believe that paying for tinder premium guarantees you sex? I’ve got bad news for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:06 PM
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They had to force them or they supported that? Let me guess, it’s both things depending on what you want the narritive to be in that particular sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:57 PM
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Lol you keep telling yourself that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:55 PM
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I see no evidence of this, just a lot of wishful thinking from people who are upset they need to offer more than a pay check to be desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 12:55 PM
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Do they care about dick size? I thought they had a theory that women hate sex
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:37 AM
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Credit score, car make model and year, education level, number of nights out in the past month ummmmm do you rent or own?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 03:36 AM
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Ya my partner is like this too, I’d say he’s got a stronger parental urge than I do, if we were to somehow measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:06 PM
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Ya you get into the zone of interference with life responsibilities and other relationships at that point and it’s a whole other category.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:04 PM
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Hahahahahhaha wow. You really did drink the kool aid. I feel bad for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:01 PM
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It breaks their narrative. If women are well known to be happy when childless and single at 30 their plan of finding and baby trapping them by 25 is far less likely to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:33 PM
8

Well this is a new revenge fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:30 PM
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Ya there is a lot of “women will get their comeuppance for not fucking me” talk. It’s incredibly pathetic to anyone looking at it from the outside. Women not needing men in the same ways (financially, for physical protection) is only societal collapse if you think society is still some kind of men-on-top power structure, which it hasn’t been for a long time now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:28 PM
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Ya they really serve as a nicely compiled list of red flags to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:15 PM
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Everyone outside of those subs seems to already agrees they mirror one and other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:14 PM
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Sounds like you’ve got shitty girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 02:50 AM
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Please please please lead with not being able to handle a woman with a sexual past. Save us your preachy hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 09:31 PM
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This is like saying that men are awful friends to one and other because they only have friendships based on bro talk at the gym and causal work talk over beer. Or maybe, I don’t actually overhear most conversations men have with one and other, and I shouldn’t pass judgement based on what they say in front of a group? Which seems more likely for both genders?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:30 PM
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Exactly, women aren’t going to give one and other tough love in front of an audience. Wtf, who would do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:28 PM
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Why would we “not like hearing” that we are in control of who and how many people we fuck? Obviously we are. What we are also in control of is vetting for and avoiding men who are going to be fixated on what that number is. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:51 PM
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Ya this isn’t hard to do. Especially since apparently we’ve been already avoiding them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:49 PM
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Charisma is a massive factor. I’ve had so many guy friends of my previous partners who I did NOT get how they managed to land the women they did until I saw them out in a pickup environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:31 PM
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I went long stretches when I was married. It’s awful. It was easily the worst part of a pretty bad marriage. Do not recommend at all. So safe to say I am not letting that happen again. If he’s not going to work on it, that’s a very clear message that our relationship isn’t worth it to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 12:27 PM
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I’m not sure what any of this is supposed to say, but no I’m not American
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:57 PM
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Worry about yourself and not them, it’s a not a difficult concept
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:42 PM
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Yep, there you go. Confirmed as the shitty and shady type of client. So ya, I’d have a major issue with this in a partner (or friend, or acquaintance).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:39 PM
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You might want to look into what parental and spousal support responsibilities you could end up with regardless of martial status. Where I am there is no effective difference where either are concerned if you were legally married or just common law
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:36 PM
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Nope, Canadian
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:50 AM
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The travel comment makes me think sex tourism is Thailand which is pretty shady and shitty. Paying for an escort that had the choice to get into sex work is not something I have an issue with. I think you can make good choices and bad choices when paying for sex and the way you do it makes a big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 03:47 AM
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Ya, this is it. The young hot girl isn’t giving up her early 20s for a 2br in the far suburbs and an all inclusive vacation once a year unless she’s very low on other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:19 AM
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Well maybe you can read, but you didn’t read what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:14 AM
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I’m not in the US but ya, it’s not that rare. The 6 pack is far more rare lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:11 AM
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Oil and gas and I’m always around fitness people because of my personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 12:09 AM
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If you can’t read I supposed you might think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:52 PM
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Many. But I don’t live in a place or work in an industry where 6 figures is that rare. If you go the 6 inches route for that third 6, I have far less information haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:50 PM
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The cost of the kid should be shared between both parents. Not put on one. That’s my point. So if I lived in a place that you had to pay for doctors, that expense should be shared.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:43 PM
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Probably. I speak as a person with more girlfriends than guy friends
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:12 PM
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I don’t know what you are getting at
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:11 PM
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Fair or not, I instinctively relate low counts with conservatism, religion or just being a prude, which is a no to me. I prefer someone who’s been freer with sex though I don’t know or care about exact counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:06 AM
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Yes to point 3, this idea that hookups are only ever hookups that gets parroted here isn’t accurate to most peoples experiences. I am having a hard time coming up with a girlfriend who I know well enough to know her history who hasn’t had a relationship come from something causal / hookup like. I certainly have
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 05:34 AM
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You didn’t say much beyond parroting the old “sluts can only be men” line. You care about and value sex as a meaningful big deal and you have sex in a way that reflects that, or you don’t. If you have different expectations of your partner you are a hypocrite and not worth any additional thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:55 PM
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Probably not for being intimidated, but if he’s got a curated attention / validation seeking persona, which posting a bunch of photos like you’ve mentioned implies, he’s probably tiring, tedious, and not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:50 PM
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The average women with any amount of security in who she is doesn’t see much upside to attention from someone who just goes after anything with a pulse. It starts to look more and more pathetic as you get older. And yes it’s very obvious. You learn to not engage and those men move on to someone who gives them their validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:47 PM
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Honestly talk to some women about relationships and you’ll see very quickly they 100% need this advice. L
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:43 PM
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Lol the responses are unsurprising from the people who follow each. I don’t think they are necessarily ugly, that part probably doesn’t likely have much uniformity across the groups. They just have a lot of other issues that make them unappealing and they have found something to blame and obsess over. Their standards are for sure too high and they are delusional as to what their actual value is. Being able to lie to get someone to sleep with them isn’t “high value” it just makes you a snake. Sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:41 PM
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Unsurprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:38 PM
1

My take is anyone who has a fixation on who or how many their partner has had sex with has issues. Best avoided.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:16 PM
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Neither. Men who want people younger than me just leave me alone and that’s great, and men who ask how many people I’ve slept with are just exposing that have issues with sex that I’m not going to be interested in exposing my life to and save me the trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:14 PM
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I think context is important. If she is using sex as a tactic, she’s got issues and you would be better off walking away. If your first date is just coffee and a walk and you take her not dragging you by the hair up to her place for sex as a sign she’s not into you, you are probably pretty out to lunch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:11 PM
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This is the way that makes sense. I don’t think anyone should have to pay for their kid at their own house and at the other parents house. Child support makes sense for absentee parents who don’t contribute otherwise or are typical “Disneyland dads” who just do every other weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:03 PM
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1- in ways, like in dating, yes. Having tried to date women, I’m very glad I’m not exclusively interested in dating women because ya, men trying to date women have it harder. Having been on both sides of it I guess why, but i agree that it’s tedious especially if you have standards. As a whole I don’t think so I think there are gender related struggles neither will really fully relate to. 2- no I think I’d still have to work to be happy, successful and have relationships For 3- not at all. I thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:41 AM
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Requirements: taller than me (I’m 5’8) bigger than me (I’m by no means overweight but I’m fit so someone screwy feels really small to me) good teeth and an attractive face - to me - which varies a lot. Preferences: generally I’ve not dated or been attracted to that many blonde or red haired men, so I guess dark hair is a preference. And darker skin, generally though it’s not like I’ve never dated white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:32 AM
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Ya this is an age 16-20 thing as far as I’ve ever seen. Since about then, no one has ever asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:58 AM
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Starting a relationship with lying is a bad idea, and why start a relationship with someone who is going to care about something like that if I don’t? We aren’t aligned if that’s the case
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:57 AM
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He has. I don’t care. Context matters but I won’t go into why I find it ok in this case
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:54 AM
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The post separation issues are decided based on the behaviour prior to separating. I doubt you’ll find a whole lot of examples of people giving up all their power in their lives and acting helpless to someone else’s whims who ends up happy about it. Take control of your own life instead of complaining that your wife took some “mommy track.” It’s not likely that your contribution to this was just a helpless bystander.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:58 PM
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You are still financially responsible for your children even if you don’t marry their mother. At least in any western country. Actually where I live there is no effective difference when spousal support comes into the conversation but I don’t have the impression the US is like that. Be careful who you have kids with, not so much who you marry, is the best advice I’ve heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:37 PM
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And every online coach of every type is just targeting whoever will pay them for whatever they state they provide. They are almost all complete charlatans.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:22 PM
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I think there are a lot of factors and that may be one of them. Growing up with financial means, or struggling, having a good relationship with either or both parents, being taught to be able to expressing feelings and emotions and valuing family and education and friendships over attention from men are all just pieces of a persons over all adult set of priorities and values that I don’t think you can look at as having a single cause / source.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:20 PM
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This is the answer, My most valuable lesson over the last 10 years is that if someone is violating your boundaries, be it dumping the entirety of parenting on your plate or the entirety of the financial responsibility, you are not going to make anyone happy my eroding your boundaries to match this. You can only leave that relationship if that’s the way your relationship has turned.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:11 PM
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That would be a nightmare. Not a chance I’d consider it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 11:30 AM
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I am really curious what psychological disorder is causing the bizarre fixation on hair and dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:29 AM
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I love this plan for you. Really.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:01 AM
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For sure. I don’t have a type really, I haven’t dated two men you would think look at all similar, and generally I’ve not had a lot of draw to the person at first. That being said though, my current partner My is my one exception to waiting while the spark grew in time, we had great initial chemistry, and I was super super drawn to him right away, though it took much longer to build an emotional bond and relationship. So I don’t know if that was what was missing from my other relationships, mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 04:27 AM
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People like this just want women punished for sex. They don’t even try to hide it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:54 AM
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I’ve known a couple of women to knowingly get into this situation and I’m not sure they completely realized how hard it would be when they decided to do it. They were really young at the time. One in particular did have amazing family support though, which makes a difference. I’ve got a very close friend who’s childrens father died when they were young, so circumstances like that can happen. Agreements don’t always work out, people lie or change or change their minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:52 AM
3

This isn’t an issue unless you are extremely small. I think it more when you are larger you actually need to engage in and be good at foreplay. Most men are not as big as what men seem to think of large as. Like you don’t need to be too far outside average to be too large for me for a lot of positions. Based on what friends say this is pretty usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:47 AM
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I haven’t used it enough to say. I did come across men looking for relationships but I’m older, I was in my mid 30s looking for men my age when I was last on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:09 PM
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Haha yea… a person over 40 who lives in a dorm compared with career women who decided to travel and pursue their interests doesn’t quite have the same happiness level. It’s not the lack of kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:08 PM
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Same position here but we met on bumble. Tick all those boxes, so I guess so? We weren’t looking for love when we met though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:05 PM
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The person you are referring to is in debt and has no friends, it sounds like not having had children is one piece of a much larger picture. Someone who has spent their adult life making choices that led them to a longish list of things to be unhappy about probably wouldn’t be happier with kids. I’m close enough to that age that I have friends who both decided not to have kids and had it decided for them after trying for 10+ years and not being able to. The ones who made the conscious choice did…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:00 PM
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It’s more a “life stage” gap than age that I find predatory. I had a friend ages ago who dated younger women, he was in his 30s, still clubbing, working a sales job, kinda a bro…. Dating someone 10 years younger pretty much meant she was at a similar maturity level. It’s pretty different from the older rich guy who pursues the 20 year old who doesn’t have a lot of options in life, leads her on, wastes her time and then dumps her for the next 20 year old. And ya, women who pursue women they can w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:11 PM
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I don’t think most people really have a good idea what “fit” looks like. They go straight to oiled up bodybuilders on stage and think it’s too much. The professional body builder doesn’t even look like that on a daily basis….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:04 PM
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Ya the source is pretty key. There will be an assumption of having this part of life in common which is very appealing beyond physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:03 PM
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Lol so I’m basically guy 2, and my partner is basically guy 3. I’m happy he has fun when we go out but I’m equally happy there is no expectation for me to keep up. I don’t think we would have ever met if we’d first come across one and other in a club or party scene. So I guess guy 2? I’m very happy to stick with my group of friends and am going to have the most fun with people who want to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:55 PM
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A man who doesn’t want to commit and wants to sleep around and is honest about it isn’t generally referred to as a player, at least in my life experience. I mean look at the word itself, it implies he’s playing games and being manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:25 PM
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Shitty situation. I was married to someone who didn’t want to have sex with me, and used sex as a manipulation tactic. I can’t only recommend leaving that relationship, there is no good and no happiness there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:49 PM
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They are whatever the people in them define them as
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:25 AM
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They should. I have no idea how so many women put up with the relationship dynamics they do. Misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:28 PM
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Because asking how it’s “fair” that other men are meeting and marrying women you don’t deem attractive enough is completely asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:06 PM
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So pursue 22 year olds if that’s what you consider “fair”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:40 PM
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I know a short guy with a girlfriend, therefore everything said about women having height preferences is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:41 PM
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I don’t want someone having “obligation” sex with me, so I don’t really know why anyone would want that… I do think lack of sex / lack of wanting sex can be a marker of a bigger issue that the couple should address. Trading sex for other things or whatever seems like a toxic path for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 07:44 PM
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They just want all of the outcomes with none of the input. It’s much easier to whine on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:23 PM
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Not lonely men, I always only make fun of men who whine and whine and do nothing to help themselves. Same thing with paternity tests, no one is stopping you from getting one. Get it! Daddy government doesn’t need to make it mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:22 PM
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Over exposure to the filtered, photoshopped influencers someone that age has been bombarded with for their whole adult life. What’s probably the outcome is that getting surgeries is probably going to age her and make her features not go together any more and she will be another person who only looks good in properly staged photos… at which points save yourself the trouble and just edit your photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:13 PM
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It can really depend on muscle mass. My perspective is very skewed because I’m around gym culture a lot but to me someone that tall in the 130s usually looks fine in clothes but is skinny-fat, where 10-15lbs more muscle on them looks good. 185 seems high for that height though, you can’t put THAT much muscle on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:10 PM
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Ya, I think so. There are plenty of men who can recognize a woman as attractive and not want to fuck or date her. Friends can happen. So of course a relationship could develop out of that at a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:06 PM
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Lol ya I guess. It’s based on the age of the child in my life who we are having to start those conversations with hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:01 PM
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I think there are a few considerations here. She pretty obviously has suspicion the result of the test would reveal this guys not the father. If she’s treating him like a bank account and doing what she can to cut him out of the kids life anyway, ya it makes sense to contest paternity and sever the financial obligation if that’s all the relationship he’s getting. Or is this guy the father of the kid, not just financially, but actually involved and raising the kid? If his plan if just sudden aban…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:59 PM
1

I can’t believe it took this much scrolling to get to a comment that mentioned that there is actually another, separate, human being in the picture here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:51 PM
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Get a test on your kid. No one is stopping you from doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:41 PM
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Or… you can be a logical human being with self awareness and realize you have control over if you stare at someone or not. Most of us learned this concept when we were 4 and first made a comment about a person with a disability to our parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:32 PM
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I am aware that’s what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:23 PM
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Yep, that’s why they are still here crying about it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 04:00 PM
3

I think it’s best not to sleep with friends, then this isn’t an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:55 AM
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My partner got sick of people thinking his job was some kind of signal and he started telling people who asked that he’s a janitor lol It’s a location thing that people ohhh ahhh over his career though. We do similar work, oil and gas related. I like that he’s in this world, but not because I think it makes his value higher. It’s because he’s very intelligent which makes for far better conversations and we have lots in common in our worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:45 PM
3

Ugh after being married to a sales job guy and being around all his sales job friends for way to long I can only warn against this profession in its entirety.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:42 PM
18

Ya… if RP bros leave the house more often they might find a whole lot of outliers. Enough that you might realize the whole RP thing is completely asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:39 PM
9

I have only had one partner who is unashamedly bisexual /bisituational. I’m pretty much bisituational also, but less so than him if there’s a scale haha I do find there is a lot of hypocrisy around this from everyone. I don’t relate to making a big deal about who my partner had sex with before me, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:36 PM
1

No…. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 10:28 PM
34

I have sex with people Im attracted to. It is based on my own criteria, feeling a connection, liking them as a person, ect. Not a checklist of bro traits or whatever some people here seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:40 PM
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None that I’ve come across. I’ve seen men who want a women that is doing all the “traditional” house and kids stuff but who is also working and bringing in half the income. Those relationships seem absolutely awful and don’t often last.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:38 PM
2

I hope you get the help you need. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 03:12 PM
3

it’s really fucked up to rob your child of their childhood / youth experience like that. Poor kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:03 PM
2

Lol my kid is being raised in 2022 not whatever year you wish it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:02 PM
4

Since it’s pretty much your only birth control option, it makes a lot of sense to me. If you freeze your sperm first you’ve still got the option to have kids later, as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:53 AM
1

Lol I Think 4 would kill me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 02:13 AM
1

I mean, for myself, I did want kids but not in the typical way and dynamic people generally have to deal with. I didn’t have a kid until I found a person on the same page as me about lack of gender roles in our household. I also need to go to work in my male dominated profession in my male dominated industry so there are things that are going to piss me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:19 AM
1

I doubt that applies to me, I’m in my late 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:03 PM
1

Shes a doctor with a specialty. No idea the demographic of her particular field. Lol of course men go “oh women so she’s a nurse”. Kinda perfect given the context. I pretty specifically explained why there is a wage gap in her world, exact doctor and specialist type to exact doctor and specialist type.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:15 PM
14

My (female) friend who is a medical specialist was telling me how this also leads to a gender based wage gap in her world. Less respect -> more time with each patient or whoever because they question her more and she has to do more to back her knowledge up -> less patients -> less money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:03 AM
1

If I could cum by giving someone else head like some guys are able to I think my relationship would only improve. Also easier orgasims is an easy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 09:03 PM
3

That’s interesting, based on myself and friend group relationships often come out of a more casual thing, be it long term hookup or seeing each other for ages and then realizing you both have feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:24 PM
10

With regard to your first section, it’s so wild how much society has become completely hard wired to assume the dad is always the problem. I believed the same until my current relationship. I’m with someone who has been fighting for his daughters entire life to be in it beyond just sending money. Without the means and knowledge to put up this fight he wouldn’t be able to see her. There is this idea they can put “work together” in a court order and that will be enough. It is really really not whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 04:42 PM
6

“All women” do not. I’m sure I know myself better than you do but thanks It sounds like you should just be single but are free to date whatever gender you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:32 PM
1

No I have the far opposite to this. My partner also doesn’t have a foot fetish though and I’ve never encountered a man who has brought up anything foot related with me in that context so I’m not sure it’s as common as you might be thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:30 PM
5

Don’t date the person who is hypocritical like that. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:29 PM
9

Right… so this happened regularly and somehow with a completely different group of people each time? You’ve got to hire a casting director at some point just to get the variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:41 PM
14

I’m old and remember online dating before it was on apps. I also remember how easy it was to pick up someone at a club or bar. Casual sex with strangers it’s new. I think the same kinds of people are still doing the same things. Apps make it easier to lie about it if you want to though. I’d expect Covid has made that difference though. More people hooking up by app than night club because …no night clubs
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:32 PM
49

Yea when you make two different statements that state two different things, people who disagree with the first statement may agree with the second one
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:29 PM
11

What. You claim to know someone with a body count only achievable by having sex with a different person every day for 5 years straight? Even spread out over 20 years that’s a complete scheduling nightmare. I’m thinking either her or you didn’t do the math on this claim lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:09 PM
2

No, my partner and I have discussed in generalities but not actual numbers because it doesn’t matter to us. I know there are women out there who want to be each other’s firsts but I’m not from a conservative or religious area so I don’t personally know any. I haven’t ever encountered the dynamic you are referring to. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 05:05 PM
1

Leo’s plastic surgery has resulted in the opposite of aging him “well.” For a massively rich and well connected celebrity he’s not a great example. Also hilarious, bringing a rich famous celebrity up as an example in response to a comment on the average man
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:35 PM
2

What kind of person would “not be responsible” if their family was out in the street? Man or women who just looks at their partner as if that’s a problem for someone else to solve is massively incompetent as a human being. If you think like that you don’t deserve a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:32 PM
23

I have the same expectations for both, financially support the family, do 1/2 the housework and child care, emotionally help and support your partner. I don’t think anyone has a duty to have sex, but I do think of you don’t want or like sex you have a duty to be up front about this and find someone on the same page as you about to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 04:26 PM
1

Haha wow, a PPD dude accusing me of not being slutty. That’s a first. I’m honoured.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:58 PM
0

Acting like those men don’t exist is either lying about what you’ve seen, or being purposefully ignorant of it. Either way, doesn’t make it not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 01:45 AM
1

Coming in and “rescuing” some much younger girl who has no real options in life, making a bunch of false promises, waiting until she’s too old by the “rich old dude who only wants a play thing not a partner” dynamic and then ending things after she wastes a bunch of time. The whole set up and lying is what I’m referring to. You’ve got to be seriously naïveté or purposefully ignorant to think this doesn’t happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 01:44 AM
1

It’s a question of power differential. Selling sex and being groomed by someone who is using her is obviously not the same thing. A relationship with an age gap where there isn’t a power differential is not something the vast majority of people are talking about when they say those relationships can be predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:21 PM
6

As a 30 something woman, all I can say is GROSS. Teenage boys look and act like children. Predictors of any gender should be punished legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:18 PM
5

A lot of men conflate “big dicks” with being good in bed. In my experience there is more of a negative correlation than a positive one. Skilled / enjoys sex is a must have through.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:13 PM
3

This is the same for me. I can and do make my own money. I have no intention of relying on anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:12 PM
4

Ya my partner told me many women will ask for Facebook connections on a first date, she wants to know if you have a girlfriend or are otherwise full of shit in some way. Particularly when he met someone on an app
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:07 PM
1

I feel no need to talk to, know anything about, or even follow any ex of mine on social media. If they are happy, good for them. If they aren’t, oh well. I have no reason to see any of my exes, but if I were to run into one the main feeling is indifference, not dread or fear. I think “scorched earth” type endings, lingering feelings, staying angry, ect mean you aren’t over the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:02 PM
2

This response makes no sense, anyway but I didn’t say I don’t make the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:07 AM
9

You arent going to be able to have casual sex with people who don’t want causal sex without manipulating them / lying about your intentions. If you are that kind of person, you already likely do that and know the answer to your own question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:26 PM
6

If he doesn’t want me, I’m not going to be turned on by and want him. I have had “obligatory” sex with someone who didn’t want it and it’s awful. No thanks. Mutual attraction, mutual desire, turning one and other on, that’s the attraction. Thinking someone is attractive and actually wanting them are not the same to me. I can’t relate at all to “wanting” some male celebrity, no matter how attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:21 PM
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Some probably do. Lots don’t. Way more people are getting married after years together and usually after living together. It’s kinda hard to hide your true self in those circumstances. I think the after kids changes occur due to unresolved frustrations and people changing in a lot of ways, growing apart, not communicating, ect (both people in the relationship) due to major life changes though. Not in some malicious “hiding her true self” front that she put up for a decade, somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:12 PM
4

It’s hilarious that men think the average men ages well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:05 PM
13

I mean, that’s your algorithm though. If I didn’t come to this sub I wouldn’t really have any way of knowing TRP even existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:02 PM
13

Especially your last point. It’s far better to be single than in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you and just plays games and manipulates. That isn’t going to change, we are allowed to have jobs now. We don’t NEED a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 10:01 PM
1

I don’t even know who’s list of attractive traits that is supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:32 PM
1

Where I’ve lived, it’s because they benefit immensely from it. At work, in their personal lives, in their families. I’m guessing married people tend to be more conservative because they were raised to value marriage more, raised more likely to be religious, and all that. Not that marriage made them more conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:42 PM
1

I think it’s the other way around. Most women seem to have a wide variety of attractions and “types” and don’t just want a guy based on a list of physical characteristics. Despite the idea here that there is some magic looks based thing that makes a guy fuckable or datable or not, most women seem far more interested in non physical characteristics. This type of post always gets responded to with “facts” about how women only want to fuck hot guys with perfect bone structure, but anyone who leaves…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:37 PM
1

Im in a long term relationship with someone who fits that description. It is probably the most ideal situation I’ve been in relationship wise, we balance one and other, we have the traits of “both” genders and it’s really great and solid. 10/10 highly recommend if you are an “atypical” for your own gender. My partner for sure has a ton of trauma from being a man in the family courts system but in our family we balance really well. There is no pill type ideology here. We are just equals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:08 PM
1

Because they all are basically the same
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:51 PM
1

There are so many posts here that come from people who think a working mom damages children lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:50 AM
2

Ya all of this. The stay at home mom of school age kids also seems the have kind of a lonely, boring existence from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:49 AM
1

Situation 1. I wouldn’t put myself into a situation like situation 2 (and we all know which gender would stay at home) and absolutely never put myself into that situation where the household income was only 80k. Though where I live raising 3 kids on 80k is…. Very poor. Like probably the worst of all worlds because you probably get no low income subsidies, or any help but it’s not at all a comfortable amount for a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 02:45 AM
2

Yep. I am well aware lol, I’m not really that straight. A lot of women are frustrating to deal with sexually in a lot of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 03:58 PM
1

I don’t think it’s necessarily bad, but I feel no need to be around or know things about someone I used to be in love with. If it was more casual, it makes sense to stay friends, particularly if you were friends before.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 01:11 AM
2

No. The problem is most sex is mediocre and boring. Finding someone you want to make that connection unreal with and putting the effort into it is a 2 way street, I don’t think it’s blanket-statement “women” making or breaking this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:43 PM
1

No, I don’t need to spend my time / mental energy on the shitty people in this world. They exist. We all know. I’m medium carful in my life, I take the normal precautions around strangers and in places I’m mostly alone. honestly if someone wants to murder me, I doubt being paranoid about it will help a whole lot. Watching You did make me set all my social media privacies far more aggressively though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:37 PM
1

I wouldn’t conflate gender roles with ability to manage rejection, myself. That’s not at all what I was saying. If men want to stop pursuing women, they should do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:32 PM
2

Ya, sorry you had to go through that path. The big thing I did take out of my childhood was NEVER put your financial security in anyones hands but your own. I see it as so dangerous to stop working at 20something, it’s awful advice for anyone without a rich family backing them in case of emergency.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:19 PM
1

Nope. I wouldn’t attract a redpiller anyway, thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:09 PM
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Lots of women really really suck at handling rejection. This is something to work on for sure, particularly sexual rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:00 PM
6

Bingo. Trap her financially and then treat her like your servant because she’s got no other options until she can’t take it any more. Then log on to some circle jerk and shriek about child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:24 PM
1

Sex tourists are pretty rarely bringing their targets home, anyway. I’m prodding those questions because the answers are 100% obvious and everyone who’s ever left North America is familiar with this exact dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:18 PM
1

Ah gotcha. I didn’t interpret the whole plan as just for sex tourism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 09:15 PM
1

Right… but if you aren’t going to provide financially, how long are they sticking around? And is your potential target going to be anything to help financially support the future family? And what were her prospects for life prior to finding a relatively rich man? If it looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck…. It might be a desperate woman from an impoverished area who sees someone to finance her out of that situation. Unless you have some idea that the average guy who can’t even get laid in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 08:53 PM
4

I always wonder this also. Maybe they don’t want someone who’s just after their bank account? Maybe they’ve realized they need bring something to the table overseas also?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 06:58 PM
1

I’m female. 96 masculine 103 feminine That was lower right feminine but very close to the middle of the block.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 06:20 PM
1

I guess. If I’m not meeting his sexual needs that’s a great thing to communicate with me. You are asking how an inanimate object is different from another human?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 06:09 PM
4

Ya the majority of men with their balding head, computer posture, spare tire and coffee stained teeth is not the “fine wine” he’s like to believe he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:00 AM
2

At 2; really? In my experience it’s become far more important and far better over the years. Unless you are talking about being elderly or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 04:58 AM
1

Reading this thread, I am thinking I may not even know what a pump and dump is… I thought it was a guy lying and misleading someone into believing they want a relationship and then using that person just for sex? In that case, I wouldn’t care if the sex was good or bad, he’s a garbage person who doesn’t deserve any additional thought. If it was just a casual fling and the sex was good, I’d be kinda sad if he didn’t want to do it again. Good, casual sex isn’t that easy to come by.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 04:56 AM
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If he suddenly didn’t want to have sex with me, only the dolll, that would be an issue. Otherwise I don’t care. I’m not under the impression that he doesn’t masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 04:49 AM
1

Yes. Not because they changed though, because getting to know them built attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:50 PM
4

Ya, men swiping on men also do the swipe right on 98% of photos thing. Big news. It sounds more like the issue here is that you have the wrong impression about what your “league” is. If no one you consider within it is attracted to you I think I’ve got some bad news for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:19 AM
2

Yes. I isolated and cried and sulked and then when I realized how much I was undermining mysef and letting his behaviour harm me more, I went to therapy and did the work on myself to never believe I deserved to be in a relationship like that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:11 AM
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Ya the photo is probably the most honest part of the profile, and it’s likely edited and at a deceptive angle. Im not sure what’s surprising in learning that picking someone out of a catalog based on their looks is not a great set up for a successful relationship. It’s possible but I wouldn’t assume it to be in any way likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:10 PM
5

If you go into every interaction believing all that, you aren’t looking for love. I guess my take on this is that it isn’t women or relationships or love that cause “looking for love” to be futile, it’s that trp seems very self fulfilling. You’ve disqualified yourself from finding an equal partner who wants to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:18 PM
1

Spend quality time with me, lots of enjoyable sex, lots of affection. A big one I think people refer to is there needs to be give and take in the emotional dumping components (everyone does this from time to time, but it needs to be sparing). This goes for anyone, if someone “needs” to constantly emotionally dump on their partner their partner is likely not going to feel their needs are met and not going to want to be in that relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:11 PM
1

I prefer a guy that’s taller than me, but I’ve dated men who said they were around “5’10” which as a women who’s 5”8 I know will put us at about the same height lol. I prefer non white men, but I’ve dated pale blondes. I’m more attracted to attitude and personality than any particular look type. The must haves are more lifestyle, ambition, future plans, and personality. I wouldn’t date a non professional again, I wouldn’t date someone uneducated again. We aren’t aligned. I want an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:05 PM
2

Yes. If it’s on purpose. It’s a symptom, not the whole problem. I should have left my marriage when he started denying me sex, it was absolutely a power play out of disrespect and things only went downhill from there. For health stuff, if he’s just let himself go and is doing nothing about it, that’s a big issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:50 PM
13

My brother was bringing his dirty laundry to my mom for years. If someone brought their dirty clothes to my place I’d go straight to “this guy is looking for a mommy” and be done with that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:46 PM
8

Because being married to the wrong person is miserable. Magnitudes worse than just buying a good vibrator and hanging out with friends more often. And despite the sentiment here that women are completely undesirable post 30, it’s reallly not hard to find someone to have sex with if that’s what you want. I’m guessing this question is often asked of post divorce or post ltr failure when the magnitude of the change is huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:43 PM
5

Um yea, welcome to every woman’s base knowledge about what the world expects of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 09:26 PM
2

Ah,yes. The age old story of leveraging daddy’s money to pick up chicks. Most likely that Polygamy worked in the olden days because women were property with no options. What is this bizarro world where you see wealthy men that are claiming to have grown up in slums, though? That’s hilarious considering the way those from places with slums make it abundantly clear (or over state) what social class they are from.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 08:27 PM
1

It depends on age for sure. I look back at being 16 and dating a 21 year old and I have NO idea why a grown man in university who could go to the bar and lived with his friends would want to date a girl in high school. That same age gap is meaningless once the younger person hits 25. Same thing for the 40 year old dating the 19 year old. What do you possibly have in common with someone at such a different life stage? Whatever the 40 year old was up to for the last 20 years… don’t you think she w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 04:36 AM
1

Yeah that’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:22 AM
1

Hahahha oh please.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:21 AM
-4

I don’t think expressing discontent is too much. I think being a whiny victim is tedious and aggravating. What are you doing about your discontent? Something proactive and useful? Good. You’re not a whiny victim. Whining and complaining and blaming other people? I don’t have a lot of compassion or patience for you, you’d be far better off talking to a therapist than looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:10 PM
2

I’m older but I haven’t talked to someone about numbers since I was in my early 20s, so I don’t really know if it’s my age or if people just no longer discuss this. But I also wouldn’t really be in that discussion beyond generalities anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 08:04 PM
2

Showing emotions =/= squalking and whining about how women cause all your problems and should fix them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:17 PM
4

I don’t know that women outright say it in the way you’ve stated, but lots of women do care about a potential partners past. Think about how many women get insecure about the partners exes. I am a person who doesn’t care, my count isn’t small and my partners is a few times mine. Whatever. But I can see that lots of people do care, and that’s fine for them, as long as they aren’t being hypocrites by expecting to hold their partner to a standard they don’t think they should be held to (which is wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 07:16 PM
-2

One thing is certainly clear, men are whiny self created victims that want women to clean up their lives and love to cry about it online when we have no interest in doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 06:00 PM
3

I want and expect my man to do everything that I do. Parent our children, clean the house, do the grocery shopping, go to work and earn an income. A housewife to me does all those things herself except the go to work part, much less sharing of domestic work. I imagine a guy who had a stay at home mom for a wife would probably still consider himself to be involved with his kids, but often these are the men I’ve heard referring to parenting their own children as “babysitting”. I can’t respect that…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:54 PM
3

I have no idea. Communicating what I want sexually is a very different thing than dealing with a useless man who expects his partner to take his moms place in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:45 PM
4

I didn’t realize they were owned by the same company. That makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:39 PM
1

Hahaha it could be, I’m not sure the price elsewhere but $40 a month forever vs $500 every 5-10 years is a big difference in payment. I liked the hormonal one, but previous to that I was on the pill for close to 15 years. It took me ages to get one because I was scared to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:38 PM
2

I have often wondered this, I feel like many women hear it’s painful to insert (and it is) and they think it’s not worth it when a pill doesn’t hurt at all, but for that bit of pain once every 5 years, you have the most reliable birth control available and if you can do the hormonal version, basically no period. I’m pretty much an iud evangelist lol They are also expensive up front, so that may be a barrier a lot of times
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:26 PM
1

Really? The doctor who put mine in said it was more difficult than usual and I got unlucky and the pain was still like maybe 2 seconds long. Completely worth no period for years and never having to remember to take a pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:22 PM
1

I think the only people calling a guy sneaking around and lying to sleep with multiple women “high value” is the red pill circle jerk. Men that are high value by a metric that women would use aren’t doing this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:15 PM
1

Yep, it means there is no incentive whatsoever to put up with a man who thinks working his 9-5 makes him special enough to deserve a housewife that also brings the same income as him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:52 PM
4

This is basically my relationship. My partner and I have no intention of getting married. Been there. We file taxes together, have a kid together, live together, make all our life decisions together. It’s more of a “marriage” than I was in when I went through the song and dance of a a party and gifts and wearing a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:44 PM
7

Ya the assumption that these apps are there to get anyone dates is the problem with trying to analyze them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 04:26 PM
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I went to school with a lot of people like this, and I’ve always found it bizarre to brag about what your parents bought you as though you earned it. Like, as a adult. I’d be embarrassed if my parents were still supporting me, not bragging about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:35 AM
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Depends on the tattoo but as a general rule, I think they can look good. I have tattoos but you wouldn’t see them in my normal clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:18 AM
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No. What on earth would make sexual skills related to parenting? What an insane question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:44 PM
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In a hypothetical world that I expected a man to do that, he isn’t being a useless man child…. He’s contributing income and I’m not. I’d never be in that situation so to me the expectation of me being a housewife for someone is repulsive and I wouldn’t be sexually attracted to someone who treated me that way. Some women want that, I’m aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:43 PM
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I don’t see why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 08:13 PM
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And we are back to my original point, pick a partner that equally contributes or don’t whine that your partner doesn’t equally contributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:57 PM
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If you both contributed then at the end of the relationships she isn’t “taking” your wealth. You are splitting your mutually accumulated wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:55 PM
1

So get a dna test? You are obviously concerned about it, go do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:53 PM
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Why marry someone who doesn’t have and contribute to these things also? If you pick a shitty, non contributing partner, don’t whine that you have a shitty non contributing partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:52 PM
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This is what’s so hilarious about this incessant whining about women being gold diggers and men losing their wealth. These outlier millionaires paying out big money to their exes have ppd dudes thinking they are about to get ordered to pay $10,000 a month child support on their $40,000 annual income. That’s not how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:50 PM
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Not just in online dating, and this is not new. Photo editing is the only new element here, and I guess if there is a write up. But people have been misrepresenting themselves, what they offer, what they are looking for, what they plan for their future, what they want in the interaction, ect, in various ways for as long as I’ve been aware of dating. It’s not a “women do this” thing, people have been noticing this and talking about it since long before online dating ever existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:44 PM
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What’s your source for the 3-10%?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:27 PM
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Right so you are going to a place where people are actively searching for this and sharing it. If you don’t do this, magically it will no longer be a problem for you. Preferences in dating, I guess, but weight seems the easiest to avoid, really. Just don’t engage in the first place, you know if someone’s weight is going to be an issue for you when you first see them. You can be not attracted to someone, stop engaging with them, and move on with your life without drama about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:26 PM
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Ya I agree. My friends who wanted this were forthright that they did not want to have sex outside an exclusive relationship. It doesn’t seem to have been a given for around 15 years now, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:16 PM
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So? That seems like a them problem. As I said to someone else, this kind of thing is coming up in your life because you are seeking it out. I’ve never come across it just neutrally, only on Reddit. It’s not hard to just not be am asshole to someone, and to be polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:04 PM
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If you see this it’s because you are looking for it. That type of “promotion” has literally never come up in my life or on my social media. I’ve heard of Tess holiday because of Reddit but that’s the extent of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:00 PM
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Ok. Whatever reason he wanted it, is fine. I have nothing to hide so that’s fine. Or you want some kind of government regulation for paternal proof to be mandated? I don’t think the government needs to be included in my home or sex lode any more than it is, so nah. This is a relationship level issue, IF it’s an issue. Which as someone pointed out elsewhere in this thread very likely only looks like an issue due to the situations people are in when they get these tests, known cheating or very goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 06:58 PM
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If my partner wants this, I don’t mind. Go ahead. I’d prefer if he has some doubt that he address it. He’s been through an absolutely shit show in his past and I understand that this can have major long lasting mental effects, and I wouldn’t want him to have questions and not talk to me about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:32 PM
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I am not referring to “loading the dishwasher wrong” when I say someone being a useless man child is a turn off to the level of being a deal breaker. I’m referring to the original premise in this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:28 PM
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Body shaming sucks, whatever the reason. Body positivity is supposed to be just about not being an asshole to people because of the way they look. Worrying about what Tess Holiday is up to seems like a waste of mental energy, it’s very very obvious there are men and women that are into and turned on by fat people. Who cares? Live your own life. Who is making you pursue Tess Holiday or even look at these photos?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:17 PM
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Haha “denying” sex. More like being sexually repulsed by the person in your house turning out to be a useless man child that expects you to take care of him. The relationship is dead at that point, time to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:09 PM
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Haha yes, totally. A man child who expects me to do all the parenting including of him would be sexually repulsive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:07 PM
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I think the woman giving that advice is living a very sad life and I pity her. Hopefully she hits up some counselling and realizes she deserves better for herself and begins to work towards that. She and other women do not need to accept any of that as truth aside from the one about providing some value to their partner which is given for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:19 PM
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We both need to be equal contributors in all ways. I don’t mean the dollar amount needs to be equal (I make a lot more money than he does, I don’t think that will be forever as we have very similar careers, but for now thats the case). The contribution to life is more important to me, as in child care, household work, the way we spend weekends, ect. That being said he does end up doing more “blue” jobs than me and I’ll make up the extra on some of the “pink” ones. I have no clue how to do work o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 04:13 PM
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This is an old stereotype I’ve heard a ton from older people and I’ve heard from the divorced single moms this sub is so mad about. When having a husband around is more work than just being single, a lot of women don’t tend to stick that relationship out in my experience. I don’t have the patience to deal with a useless man, myself, so I don’t get why anyone would stay if that was the dynamic. I’m sure lots of women do and just be the mommy to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:30 PM
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My marriage ended with me on the supposedly womens side of that quote. Reflecting back on the financial, emotional and sexual manipulation that occurred throughout that relationship still hurts and still has effects on me even today when I’ve really and truly moved on. He was by all outside definitions a kind, good person with a good career and education from a nice family to everyone who met him, but the relationship with me was a whole other story. The cheating is the least of it, to be honest…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 04:09 PM
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I didn’t say anything about fuck boys
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 03:10 PM
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I didn’t name any women expect respond to the rose McGowan comment
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 04:34 PM
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Ok no one is making you date someone who looks like her. There are pretty obviously people attracted to women that look that, or there wouldn’t be couples with overweight people absolutely everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 04:33 PM
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Ok and there are many stories of men who never pay a dime and are $50,000 in arrears by the time the kid is a teenager and don’t even call on Christmas. Focusing on the outliers is not helpful. Also I wish men knew they could legally push back if they were shoved below the poverty line. Most places they are not legally allowed to do that, and family maintenance of whatever it’s called where the person is will work with them. I’m very close to someone going through exactly this. There is a massiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 04:31 PM
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Yep. On par with going to my dad to “ask permission”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 06:15 AM
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Yes I think so, if you are not on the same page you shouldn’t waste one and others time. I think a random proposal is kind of ridiculous but I’m not at all old fashioned. Why wouldn’t people talk about their future and what they want prior to “will you marry me”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 06:11 AM
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I’m aware. But if you consider the averages not the outliers (because really, making even low six figures is not that common, talking about rappers and other millionaires as though they are the norm is kind of silly) baby trapping someone… I’m sure it happens but the people who do it are pretty stupid. No one is living on a payout of $400 a month in child support, which is around what a guy making 50k a year pays where I live. But anyway the thing I responded to was about people who don’t want k…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 06:06 AM
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The claims in this thread that there are never married, childless, high value men in their 40s is wild…. I feel like you should be listing your location if you find this common. I don’t think I’ve ever seen one and I’m in a place that people marry and have kids late (mid 30s generally).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:50 AM
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Yep, the risk profile for birth defects hits the increase later with men, but once it hits is also a big jump
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:45 AM
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I worked with someone who met his wife in SE Asia and she moved here. He was borderline embarrassed about it because of all the assumptions people make about men doing this and never failed to mention that they met at work as colleagues working for the same company lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:38 AM
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I mean replace parental alienation with being abandoned to be the sole caregiver and provider for a child, and you’ve probably nailed why women don’t want to do it, alls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:25 AM
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Lol I think you just described why I find him so hot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:18 AM
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Jennifer Lawrence is average? 😳 Lol I’m clearly old since I don’t know who half the people here are, though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:18 AM
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Is Rose McGowan considered average? I’ve always thought she was extremely hot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:16 AM
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Charisma x10000 makes her so much hotter. People don’t really consider that when they ask for a flat 1-10 rating
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 05:16 AM
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Yep. Confidence is generally called arrogance in women unless it’s downplayed and caveated and apologized for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 04:07 PM
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Yep, I’d never trust anyone with my birth control. I can’t fathom how men do this so easily. I really only feel sorry for the outcome kid, who never asked for any of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:17 AM
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Ya this is starting to seem like the generalized code name for someone just being a selfish asshole. Personally disorders are not really that common
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 09:15 PM
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Ya the major difference being that with women in this lifestyle there tends to eventually be an “oops I forgot to take my birth control” resulting in a life long nightmare for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 09:06 PM
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Lol oh you don’t like someone making wild generalizations about you based on no information? Weird. It’s unsurprising you’re a hypocrite as well, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:40 PM
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Your preconceptions and assumptions are why you are bitter and unhappy. Work on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 07:16 PM
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Oh cute, you think I don’t have those things? Sure. Or I want an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 05:02 PM
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Men shouldn’t comment on politics, women or dating. They are too hysterical. The proof is in this forum. Im sure it’s just their hormones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:56 PM
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I was childless through most of my 30s. I never felt regretful, especially of young people. I didn’t not want kids young, I didn’t have the resources for kids, I wasn’t in the right relationship. I also wanted to travel, go out, be selfish and had I not done that I’d be less happy with my life now I think. Im glad I eventually did become a mom though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:15 PM
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What is this supposed to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:11 PM
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No wonder these communities result in so many bitter, unsuccessful men. Met actual human beings if you want to know things about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:11 PM
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Do people not go out in public or know any people in this world? Average people have always had and will have in the future, normal lives with average looking wives and average looking kids. Looking at the very visible subset of Instagram models and only fans stars is screwing up the view of what actual human beings look like and do with their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:35 AM
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And so many want women to see this as our issue / problem to resolve for them. I’m sure it’s hard not to have close friends to fill in when you don’t have a relationship. That doesn’t mean somehow a women should be provided.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 12:30 AM
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Exactly, no one differentiating between the two is disputing if penis in vagina is still penis in vagina when it’s a different person. Acting like all sex us the same probably just means the person has only experienced one type of dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 10:37 PM
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I would assume a woman who is looking for a man who makes a lot of money wants him to provide her with a nice lifestyle. I kind of think men who spend a bunch of money on women are stupid though. They almost always whine later about how the expectation is now that they spend a lot of money. Ya…. The expectation YOU set is that you spend a lot of money. Don’t set that expectation if you don’t want it to be the expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 10:23 PM
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That’s not “womens” problem though is the point. And anyone who commits rape to solve their lack of intimacy is going to be found certifiably insane if they think that’s going to solve it for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 10:15 PM
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Ya, it definitely extends beyond romantic ones as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 05:26 AM
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I was listing my own criteria, but I guess some people mainly consider fat or not if they live in a place where that’s not the norm I’d take slightly overweight but meets all the other criteria though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 11:27 PM
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I am with someone who makes less money than me. I pretty much always have been, in all my relationships, actually. I wouldn’t date someone with no ambition or career, but I just happen to earn more income right now. I doubt this is forever. We actually have very similar careers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:15 PM
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A lifetime of having legitimate conversations and issues dismissed as “hormonal” will get you there. It helps to look objectively at the issue being raised, if she’s suddenly reached breaking point on something that’s not hormones, you’ve been dismissing her for long enough that she’s had enough. If it’s textbook abuse as you’ve stated, leave the relationship. That’s not a hormonal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:10 PM
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Stay in a healthy weight range, not over skinny or over fat. Wear clothing that fits, isn’t ratty, and looks put together. Smell good. Keep your hair styled Have ambition and a career, don’t whine about it endlessly and if you don’t like it do something about it. Acting “trapped” work wise is tedious to listen to, and really indicates lack of self motivated drive to do things for yourself. A plan for the future, some kind of ambition, enjoying the way you spend what works out to a 1/3 of your li…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 04:48 PM
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The power dynamic and the ways the interaction works out would mean it would still happen. There is a big difference between sex with someone that’s mutually pleasureful and sex that’s “all for me” which I would think is still something men who pay for it want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 03:56 PM
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Ya this risk tolerance of being completely reliant on someone else is miles from what I could ever accept. I can’t imagine the stress of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 06:29 PM
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I can only speak for myself, but everything I’m into that could be described as a fetish was introduced by someone. I don’t have anything that came out of nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 06:21 PM
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It’s made me wonder if I read lips more than I realized.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:16 AM
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Ya, Reddit skews young, antisocial and male from everything I’ve seen. I doubt the majority of the people talking about it could manage anything along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 03:15 AM
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As far as I could tell, the expensive party and the ring were the only difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:56 PM
1

What kind of tattoos? I don’t have a tramp stamp, am I disqualified?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:56 PM
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I was interacting with someone the other day and her talking was completely indistinguishable from what Kenny from Southpark sounded like. (Dated reference, I’m aware. I’m old.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:54 PM
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I’m not American but close enough. This literally never comes up in normal life / conversation. It’s the ppd fixation of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:52 PM
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Ok. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 09:13 PM
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I think finances are different in every relationship, I wouldn’t be able to answer that as a whole. I know the concept doesn’t fit the RP brainwashing but you live in a pretty tiny world to believe that the most common relationship model in this day and age is man=provider woman=dependent babymaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:17 PM
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Yep. Cat owners at least seem able to go to a pub without bringing their pet (or talking about it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:13 PM
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If you mean poly in the sense of what people refer to with modern poly relationships, I doubt you’d find much adherence to gender roles with regard to the provider/dependent role. At least in the people I’ve talked to, it’s always been on pretty equal ground It benefits the people in the relationship because that’s the relationship model they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 08:04 PM
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It’s the same people mostly but in person you can get some sense of chemistry and actually see what they look like (it’s not just women “strategically” representing themselves on the apps).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:07 PM
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Thanks, I was never that sick, really. I mostly hate the moralizing over getting this or not. And honestly if my household got it, there isn’t much you can do to avoid it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:40 PM
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Ya, the question was with regard to medical history, which I read as the person having something to decide to disclose or not. Unknowns are absolutely a known risk you’d have to accept to participate in any kind of casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:30 PM
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I can not understand how someone’s risk threshold could be that high. It sounds fake over all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:27 PM
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Cheating is a different thing, but with regard to non monogamy of whatever type/definition: Always. I’m vaccinated against HPV and that and HSV is an accepted risk but that doesn’t mean you don’t at least make attempts to avoid it… swingers / open people talk about this way more than the average population. Also hey regular std tests regardless. It’s cheating if you lie, I wouldn’t call medical history sharing part of that. Not sharing medical history like having an STI Or something is very seri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:24 PM
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Im double vaccinated, don’t go many places, etc. got Covid from Nowhere. Also I was the clear patient 0 in my friend group. Others have it now. Yay! Everything is stupid, is my conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 08:19 PM
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He does and I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 07:50 PM
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I don’t know of any examples of this type of relationship model that aren’t religious, and generally the reason seems to have been some kind of manipulation by a leader, so ya, I don’t think in the sense of the FLDS communities model of marriage you’ll find anything but harm. If you meant polyamory, and it’s a consensual dynamic and everyone is happy, it seems unlikely to cause harm. Particularly to someone not in the relationship. Some people aren’t monogamous. If you are, don’t get involved wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 07:46 PM
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Casual sex is generally not good or fulfilling Men get attached more easily than I realized. Friends are REALLY important and sharing things with those friends is vital to your mental health and happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:41 PM
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And you feel this is somehow less pathetic than cruising the local strip in a mid life crisis car?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:38 PM
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The only people who seem to make the stay at home model work are the very wealthy, who outsource all their childcare and cleaning anyway. Stay at home moms seem absolutely miserable to me. I’ve never met one who didn’t caveat everything about their life with “but it’s worth it” “but it’s so rewarding”. I don’t know who would ever willingly sign up for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:16 PM
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Anyone who’s ever been a 22 year old woman knows the appeal of the newly single 40 something guy pulling up in his corvette and trying to talk smooth, like he’s being impressive. Definitely give all men the opportunity to be that guy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 03:40 PM
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The revenge fantasy is crushed by actual experience. That’s why it stays online
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 09:41 PM
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I’ve paid for tinder while swiping on women. It helped to find the men who swiped on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 08:40 PM
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I have no such puritanical hopes and I’m in absolutely no way conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 08:36 PM
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Lol right, if the alternative is being grilled on my sexual history and called whatever else for being (insert “too old” age) then ya, please go. I have the right attitude I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 06:22 PM
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Most women don’t agree with that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 02:52 AM
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There is nothing about me that’s conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 02:51 AM
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Don’t have a partner who doesn’t return that. Date someone who meets your standards. Can’t get that person? Be better and attract that person or choose not to be with a person you just resent for not being who you want. What’s hard about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 02:51 AM
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Lol I’m a conservative? Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 01:05 AM
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With all the posts men make here crying about not having the level of coddling and handholding they think they deserve (for what, they never clarify), I’m actually understanding why so many of you seem to want a mommy-wife. Also fyi whining about not “getting sex” probably means your desperation is completely palpable in real life, and that’s only going to make it harder for you to “get” sex in the future. Trying being a functional human being with positive attributes people are attracted to. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:47 PM
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Exactly. There are sufficient tangible things to worry about, getting spun up that some strangers fitspo account has too many butt pics is a waste of energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:38 PM
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Woooow you have no idea so I’m not even going to dignify any of this with a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:30 PM
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It doesn’t benefit me or my family to worry about what strangers do for validation. People are always going to do unhealthy and not productive things, why drain my own resources of any kind concerning myself with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:42 PM
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I’m not in the US but where I am there isn’t much effective difference between being married or not. Ita having children with someone that makes the difference. I’ve known men who took on adult dependents and ended up completely fucked over by family court without the piece of paper. I personally took on an adult dependent but escaped having to pay him out on that level (don’t get me wrong, I paid but not on an ongoing basis) because we didn’t have kids, even though we were married. My advice to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:17 PM
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You think the woman with her masters in law that speaks 6 languages wants to deal with the 32 year old who’s chasing 22 year olds? She didn’t get that far in life thinking that a guy who wants to take on an adult dependent and then another one when she gets too old and another one after that is a good catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:45 PM
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Women have been doing this since social media has existed. Getting worked up and bothered about it is energy I have no interest in spending, though I do have a fleeting wish they would do something to value themselves beyond their looks. I hope I’m raising my daughter to find her value in places other than internet points.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:39 PM
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Same. I love men. I have not patience or compassion for misogynists and whiny victim men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:32 PM
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I get this. You have to wonder what every man thinks and wants to say but doesn’t due to lack of this kind of anonymity
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:26 PM
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Lol I entered my partners information and my age when we met. 2.8%. Lucky me I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:18 PM
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Autocorrect kinda scrambled what you wrote but I think you are assuming I’m referring to guys who don’t have real sexual experience? I’m not… I’m only talking about men I’ve have sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:06 PM
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I have no idea, never lived in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:39 PM
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Some women are taking photos and posting videos and trying to be influencers. Some are just wearing what they want and what looks good on them (in their opinion) because they like looking good. This is kind of like asking why all guys grunt and make noise when they lift. First off, they don’t. And those that do, ya some are making a scene because they want attention, but the vast majority and just doing their own thing and don’t care / notice if you look at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 11:57 PM
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When you sleep with a few guys who learned how to have sex from porn, you very quickly see a theme 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 11:38 PM
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Hahahha oh gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 08:30 PM
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Me too. My industry and career is very very male dominated but it tends to also be a lot of young people. Younger people as I’ve seen them coming in have been more and more likely to completely consider me for my work/ position and not consider gender. The old conservatives that are still around leak out their biases and preconceptions over time, generally. None of it is ever “go to HR” type stuff but it’s very clear what they are saying / doing in their communications and decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:31 PM
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Spot on. Taking on the role of primary earner generally means one more way he’s a dependent. I feel fortunate in my relationship in that my guy is absolutely an equal, even where I earn more, due to taking on so much of the rest of the work in our lives. It’s a total sum, not just a money thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:22 PM
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Ya I get that, but they then argue that porn is like real life sex. If women you want to have sex with are telling you that jackhammering her isn’t going to make her spontaneously squirt and that trying to put your dick into her ass with no foreplay is not good sex to her, it’s probably worth considering she might know better than pornbhub what it is she’s into.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:18 PM
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Lowers inhibitions which can be necessary for being open like that with a stranger. Also lowers inhibitions to make it easier to ask for what you want and communicate with said stranger and actually make sure experience is positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:03 PM
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There are a lot of men like that, unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:51 PM
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A lot of this commentary seems to come from an obsession with anal sex, which is a bizarre fixation, but whatever is important is important I guess. I will say I’ve been blamed for “not liking” anal sex by an ex who it turned out was just bad at it. There are ways it’s good and many many ways it’s really fucking awful. If you have never experienced the good it’s hard to imagine it could be good or anything but painful and bad. Outside of that, porn sex is for visuals. This is super obvious. If y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 05:48 PM
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Ohhh actually ya I couldn’t do that. Or watch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:31 AM
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None are dealbreakers and the ones I’m not willing to partake in can have alternatives and workarounds. Exploring is fun. You don’t need to set up an anonymous gloryhole in your back yard just because that’s his fetish, there can be workarounds and role playing and other ways. Be creative.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:30 AM
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Ya, why not? Everyone has fetishes, it’s fun to explore them if you can do it in a safe and consensual way
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:25 AM
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I work hard in a good career to provide for myself and my family. If he’s not willing or able to do that then we don’t have aligned values. I’m not trying to take on adult dependents at this stage in my life, why would I give my money and hard work away to someone for free? And before wah wah wah men do it, I don’t know why you do. Just…. Don’t. Find yourself an equal and stop whining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 12:20 AM
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I think if you spend a lot of time worry about this you should seek psychological help.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:04 PM
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I’m muscular with low body fat so it registers as unfamiliar to many men on a woman, which I get. It’s just funny to me because I’m also pretty tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:02 PM
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Hard disagree. Sex isn’t important if your sex life is satisfying but if you are in a relationship with issues there, it’s a very big deal and a very big part of it. To me sexual chemistry and consistency in sex is a major consideration in relationships after experiencing the lack of it. To others being with someone who wants to have sex with them every day might be a dealbreaker. Being compatible is super important there. In general I think it’s a human connection and affection thing that a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:47 AM
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Ya. Taller than the the global average for men. But they see low body fat and go “tiny” which is dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 05:13 AM
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An ex of mine got it electively done as an adult so at the very least some men seem all good with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:47 AM
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I’m not American but ya, most women prefer circumcised men. I don’t know that I agree it’s mostly women doing this though, it’s likely a two parents decision? And go suck an uncircumcised penis is… not an insult I’ve ever heard or heard of. I’m pretty sure no one says this, insults are usually a little shorter and more concise. “Go suck donkey balls” or similar. I’m not really changing any views though, I agree it’s not right at all. I don’t really care/ prefer myself and if it’s true that men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:45 AM
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I work in a job where these is some hurry up and wait so I’ve got time to surf around. Also, I’m quarantined now so more time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:39 AM
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Men are so ridiculous about what women look like at what height/muscle levels. I’ve been called “tiny” at 5’8” and 150lbs by men who think all women should be 120lbs and don’t understand height affects this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:18 AM
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But I don’t care if you get laid or not. Or if you have a partner or not. This is the thing the writers of these kinds of posts seem not to understand. Sorry, it’s not 700 years ago now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 03:32 AM
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Men choose their partner in the current world as much as women do. So I guess you mean women shouldn’t be allowed to reject men? I thought we were supposed to get better and not become single moms though?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:48 PM
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You can anyway! Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:46 PM
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You are aware that if you lose your job and can’t pay your mortgage they don’t let you keep the house, right? Same situation of homelessness occurs. Or are you saying no one who doesn’t own their house outright should have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:05 PM
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The whiny men didn’t like the side effects of it. Basically the same ones women think are worth being in control of our own fertility. They developed it. https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/11/03/500549503/male-birth-control-study-killed-after-men-complain-about-side-effects
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:53 AM
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Sure. Whining. Nothing to do with demand and a massive market for it. https://www.globenewswire.com/news-release/2019/12/19/1962675/0/en/Contraceptive-Pills-Market-to-reach-USD-20-55-Billion-by-2026-Rising-Demand-for-Birth-control-Pills-from-Urban-Areas-to-Fuel-Growth-Fortune-Business-Insights.html
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:03 AM
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Hahahahaha ya more unwanted children will totally lead to less bitter men who are pissed off they have to pay child support. This might be the dumbest child support argument I’ve heard yet. Men why aren’t you demanding birth control options? I’ll never understand this. You know if you could prevent from having a kid you didn’t want you wouldn’t have to pay for it? But you just happily let someone else be in control of your fertility. It’s so bizarre to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:06 AM
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Men date women that they then take on as dependents and then act like victims over it. Stop doing that and then you’ll have less to cry about at the point of divorce. Or go on and pursue a 22 year old with no career to mommy you and your kids and enjoy the outcome of the relationship breakdown.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:09 PM
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The men who like to argue they have more self control and morals than a pack of wild dogs might take issue with this argument. If it comes down to “fuck ugly dudes or get raped” we should just nuke the planet, it’s too far gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:56 PM
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Everyone is so broke in their 20s because cost of living is so far out of touch with wages now that it feels insanely irresponsible to have a kid. I live in a city where it’s getting to be pretty normal to have kids over 40, according to my doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:42 PM
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You don’t know women who have anal sex with strangers in public places? Weird. This obsession with one night stand anal sex is one of the wilder takes this sub has.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:41 AM
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I’m aware. I’m just talking about vetting friendships. One way relationships aren’t relationships worth keeping
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:11 AM
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Then don’t be friends with those women. Women are able to figure out which men think being friends means we will fuck them and then proceed with that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:02 AM
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If you hate women, leave them alone. We don’t need that shit. Get a pocket pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:00 AM
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Ya, I get that. Then whine about women that don’t want them and act like it’s women who are manipulative with an agenda
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 11:59 PM
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Exactly, this attempt to make women victims when they are looking for casual sex is wild considering all the other narratives around women, sex and men that are not the OP of any given rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:29 AM
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If you don’t want female friends then don’t have female friends. I’m not sure what’s so hard about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:23 AM
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Ya I have always thought the women who were the “younger model” that some dude picked up post divorce were a special type of naïve if they didn’t think they were getting traded off eventually, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 11:07 PM
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Find someone with the same kink and have some fun with it. Birth control and role play are good times.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:27 PM
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Sorry hun, the only people you impress are the other dirt bags. Everyone else sees exactly what’s happening and pities you and your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:59 PM
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Lol this is not a man of quality by any definition
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:26 PM
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She’s into dirtbags and wanted the challenge is the answer to the question. Whatever she said was part of that game. Or she’s delusional enough to think you’d leave your wife and be a good husband to her, but hopefully for her sake she’s not that dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:40 PM
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No idea. Women seem a bit better at it but everyone seems to play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:22 PM
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No. Bitter people can’t love until they work on themselves. Either gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:21 PM
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She’s into dirt bags and wanted the challenge?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:19 PM
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Anyone falling apart in their late 20s / early 30s is going to look like an absolutely dumpster by 40. When I was in my 20s I wouldn’t date someone who looked middle aged, even if he was only a few years older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:17 PM
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This stereotype has always been so gross to me. I don’t think I ever dated anyone more than a couple years older than me, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:15 PM
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My kid doing that would be such glaring evidence of my failure as a parent, wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:13 PM
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What! This has never happened to me, that’s so awkward and uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:11 PM
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Webutrin helped me a lot without affecting my sex drive. It’s got other side effects, but might be worth looking at as an alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:10 PM
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I agree with your take but not because people don’t play that game. They do for sure, but why play it back? It’s tedious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:09 PM
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This sub is from such a different demographic than myself that it constantly surprises me. Everyone I can think of who has a post secondary education (male and female) had their kids after 30 with a similarity aged partner. The outliers are the lower middle class people and those who stayed back in my small town (even many of them waited though). This single income family is basically impossible in most cities I’ve lived in, unless major family help/ financing is part of the equation or the coup…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:19 AM
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This is me as well. I was broke, had barely made any headway in my career, and not emotionally ready for kids in my 20s. It would have been a disaster. There is a lot to be said for the lessening of stress that having the money to raise your kids brings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:11 AM
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Both subs are full of people that just seem entirely made out of red flags and I do not know how any of them end up in relationships. They seem to bring nothing but bitterness and hate for the people they supposedly want to date. A TRP guy wouldn’t want to date me for a variety of reasons and I’m very happy not to be a possible target of one any more. This post wall thing (haha) absolutely has its up sides
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 04:07 AM
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Ya the unsafe casual sex part I do not get, it’s not hard to take some precautions
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:59 AM
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I don’t care what anyone else does at all. I can’t imagine why it affects me. If someone would like to tell me what I did or do is wrong, I don’t care but we aren’t likely going to be friends. Acquaintances if it’s for some reason necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:58 AM
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I’ve only seen it in different departments but I assume I don’t know of all cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:14 AM
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Ya I’m not over familiar with the actual sizing of the clothes but I’ve known plus size models and they definitely wore much smaller than 12.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 05:48 AM
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IT for and oil and gas major.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:14 PM
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Haha we do have hair in weird places, we just remove it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:13 PM
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It’s not really socially acceptable for women to work on their looks to the extent they do, either. I’ve heard from male friends over and over how awful “Botox” (they always have meant fillers but say Botox) big eyelashes, and obvious plastic surgery look. I think this photo based aesthetic that gets women followers online doesn’t quite translate to real life. A lot of it looks really weird and not remotely attractive in person. The socially acceptable seems to be more like a good skin care rout…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 10:12 PM
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I’m from a small town (thought not as small as yours) and most that stayed back there are married and settled down. Anyone who moved to cities has settled later for sure. I think the ask her father thing is completely individual, definitely make sure before you do it because for lots of us that’s a hard hard no and I’d actually consider it extremely disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:51 PM
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Those are explainable through the era/time period of the art if you look into it. It’s been like 20 years since I took art history but it was talked about in that class, it’s not hard to look up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:45 PM
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Every large corporation I’ve worked for has either asked on hire or had an HR process to disclose these kinds of things also. I’ve never known a couple within the same group/division, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:43 PM
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This world is depressing. I can see this happening for sure. There is also the mentality some get that they can’t break up because they can’t afford to live separately which seems kind of similar, and is probably more common. I have only met like 1 person who lived in public housing but she attracted the lowest user men you can think of. Mental health issues abound, for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:42 PM
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Ya even the very new/young have a good grasp on not dating someone they work with. It’s very widely seen as a bad bad proceed with extreme caution and probably talk to HR / try to get transferred type of situation, not a default place to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:33 PM
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I work in a very male dominated field and I am having a hard time recalling more than 2 single and over 30 men from my last 3 jobs. We are all a bunch of nerds in my industry, also. For sure fit your description of not chads, whatever the opposite is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:29 PM
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Ya this whining and blaming and hate hard on is probably a good first place to look. Hate single mothers? How about not abandoning your children, then? Don’t like divorce? Get to know someone beyond how many people they’ve fucked before deeming them wife material. Mad about child support/ spousal? Find an actually equal partner you are on agreed to terms about this stuff with. There is nothing less attractive than constantly acting like a hateful, angry victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:25 PM
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Mine too, I was the oldest one and my parents were in their 30s which was old back when I was born. I wish now I’d actually asked for their advice haha. But we were who we were.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:18 PM
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I think there are quite a few in this sub claiming to reject women over how many men they’ve had sex with. Actual answer: they find someone compatible and similar in looks/ priorities and settle down from what I’ve seen. They seem to have met people either early on in university, or through a paid for match making type dating site, not tinder or something. Occasionally they seem to meet at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:08 AM
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Ridiculous and nonsensical. Made me a dependent. Hard pass on both. I’m good without.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:04 AM
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Ya what you are referring to for womens stereotypical turn ons doesn’t do it for me either. I think most people are not naturally able to intuitively know how to turn their partner on, men or women. In my experience that’s why one night stands are generally not great or worth it, it takes time and communication and learning each other first. I don’t think this is a gender thing, though with men it can be easier to push the right buttons without much instruction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 03:47 AM
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Ya she is pretty widely shit on for being a pretty extreme version of plus size. The plus size industry is around like size 8 or 10 (I guess maybe 30-32 Jean size?) or something that wouldn’t really register against most populations in North America these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 03:43 AM
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I don’t have the impression that the target audience of men on only fans or Instagram is women. These are all standards set by men. I think the rise of plus size / fat fetishing or whatever we call it is probably due to the fattening of the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 03:40 AM
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What’s funny about that is based on interviews I’ve seen they basically do “teen” from 18 to early 30s or so at which point they make the direct jump to milf.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:15 PM
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I mean that’s not bad advice at all. But stick to the ones that actually have this instead of armchair diagnosing people through their webcam
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:10 PM
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Wow, lucky lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:08 PM
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Wait, enormous rubber Q tips? Is this some fetish I’ve somehow managed not to know about? Also, no. Personality disorders are not as common as people that throw them around seem to think. These things have actual diagnosis criteria and words have meanings.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 06:06 PM
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Exactly, this. Those who can’t be monogamous are much better off not trying to be. Those who are can be with one and other. Happiness for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:58 AM
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Once you’ve come out as any of the letters in LGBTQ admitting you want to fuck people you aren’t married to doesn’t seem like such a big thing to state.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:55 AM
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Haha since you apparently read nothing I wrote I won’t be making any effort to respond. Enjoy lecturing women and crying about it on the internet though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:43 AM
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We women have these conversations with other women and men who are able to have a 2 way conversation, is what I’m saying. If you aren’t having them, sorry to say it might be a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 01:08 AM
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Thanks :) I appreciate the empathy, it does suck. His kid is great luckily, but she’s not nor will she ever be my kid and as a step parent you always know that. He wouldn’t abandon her (or our kid, either) no matter what, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 01:06 AM
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And in thinking so many people are spending their time worrying about other peoples relationship dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:07 AM
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This is a very logical take. Being concerned about what other people who you don’t even want to date / know / interact with are up to is such a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:03 AM
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It’s absolutely hilarious this this post ended in a request for others to articulate. Is slut a social class? What are the others? What in the actual fuck is this post on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:00 AM
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My parters ex is trying to do this to him. It’s shitty and affects our life for sure. I can see why people (men and women) would avoid this whole situation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:55 PM
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You are welcome to keep lecturing the women you interact, calling it a conversation and then whining on Reddit about having no one want to talk to you, of course. Im not seeing a whole lot of women on Reddit whining about having no one to talk to. We talk to each other and the men who can actually hold a 2 way conversation without issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 11:39 PM
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Ya this sums it up well. Being able to talk to someone is pretty key
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 10:14 PM
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Yeah, I personally am not going to handhold a socially awkward dude through a conversation. He already doesn’t hold my interest if he can’t carry a conversation, so why would I bother? I can just have a conversation with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 10:09 PM
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Malicious intent or just being bad at human interaction, at this stage for me people who suck at conversation aren’t worth battling. If someone is interrupting me, talking over me, or at very best just waiting for me to stop talking so they can talk more (which is generally how the people I’m referring to “communicate”) I’m not interested in that interaction. Life is too short. There are plenty of different people out there that are capable of a 2 way conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 10:07 PM
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Exactly, being smart doesn’t mean being good at conversation. And understanding a topic doesn’t mean being able to partake in an engaging conversation about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:19 PM
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It probably depends. There are men who think talking about intellectual topics means talking at someone and giving them a speech about what they think about some topic, which is tedious and you’ll probably get “ok sure” at best. As well if you yourself don’t value intelligence in someone you probably aren’t engaging with intelligent people. So that will impact the conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 03:12 PM
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Haha couldn’t be more true. The six figures number is a pretty outdated marker, really. It probably means some level of comfort but by no means is it wealthy in most cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 02:31 PM
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I work in the corporate world so there isn’t a real divide like you describe, but that sounds just embarrassing for everyone involved. There are relationships in all work places but I’ve never seen obvious hookups or anything like that. It’s professional. I would guess male doctors do have an advantage in dating though. It’s been the “good catch” stereotype for decades
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 02:27 PM
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If it was a threat I guess it would be a threat to porn in general, which seems to be a pretty thriving industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 02:13 PM
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And then what, they go to HR with screen shots of Joan in accounting’s 10 year old only fans with the hope it gets her fired? This is just revenge fantasy dreaming. The few people that some version of this actually happens to get publicized because it’s rare, not because it’s the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 02:11 PM
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Yes. I wanted kids and a man being an engaged, equal parent was as important to me as how he was as a partner to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:58 PM
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Do you actually think this is what corporations are spending their IT budgets on?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:53 PM
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Outside of someone recognizable and famous, I doubt anyone would even find out an employee did this, let alone care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 01:50 PM
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I can’t see it being about anything else. Make the person uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:26 PM
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Ya I am not trying to make any statements on the genders of sexual abusers, the question was about experiences and it was not once a woman yelling out a car window at young me so that’s why I said men. If you want to really make yourself sick with new information, I found out through a podcast about “covert” incest and sexually predatory behaviour. It’s incredibly fucked it and it’s horrifying what some people in positions of power do to kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 11:26 PM
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This plus the way men who use someone for sex actually have sex…. They don’t make it anything warranting a repeat performance for their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:49 PM
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No one touched me but I was being cat called at 12 or so. And they were absolutely not confusing me with an adult, I looked my age or younger at that point. I don’t actually think men who do this are pedophiles or something, as I don’t think based on the numbers that this many men are molesting kids, but they have massive mental health issues they should address. It’s not about attraction when you do that to a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:46 PM
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So caveat I’m very career oriented and the primary earner in my house. And my partner is a professional, we actually have sort of similar careers. This place is seemingly full of men who want to both be the primary earner and want their wives to stay home and pop out babies, but also don’t want to support them and think even child support is “stealing” from them. If you think like this you are a massive hypocrite and likely financially abusive. I do not have negative feelings on stay at home mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 07:18 PM
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I guess they probably always thought they were boring but wanted someone family oriented and that seemed good long term. I get the appeal, though it doesn’t work for me. My first boyfriend was the sweet, soft and family oriented type. In many many ways I wish I was attracted to men like that. Im kinda aggressive, sexually free and outgoing and type A / career oriented though so they aren’t generally interested in me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 07:02 PM
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Lol ya I’m aware, very very aware
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 07:00 PM
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For the first point I dont equate being muscular with being a bad boy at all, I am competitive in a barbell sport and I spent a huge amount of time with gym goers. But ya, being muscular is attractive. Men also seem completely ok with being able to see my abs. So far no “ewwww muscles on a girl” reactions. The other things, ya I definitely read some really fucked up erotica. Purely for the fantasy. It’s escapism and not related to who I want to date in any way. But it’s nice to be in a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:00 AM
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Yeah this place can feel like it’s full of people who have only read about humans but never actually met one before. People arent just broad stereotypes that fit perfectly into little boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:32 AM
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The proportion isn’t big enough that I’ve ever come across a man who has stated this preference before in my life. I don’t have any really religious people in my life though, and I’ve always lived in cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:26 AM
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Exactly. As an aside I’d love to see the overlap in men whining about being the primary earner in relationships and men who claim there is no such things as the wage gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:19 AM
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I’ve never understood why women do this. Assuming 2 kids you are looking at probably 6 years of daycare costs, then just after school care which is negligible in comparison. If you are low income enough that this eats up your entire salary you are probably very new in your career, and therefore are going to have a very very hard time getting back in after those 6 years off. So you give up your entire future earring potential to save daycare costs for a few years and then do what, exactly, once t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 08:17 AM
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Hahahahhaha no I did not in any way imply or state sex is done to women. At all. If we consider birth control the sole responsibility of women, we should have a back out plan if it fails. Your statement that reproductive choice has nothing to do with birth control is very telling. I have no idea why men just trust someone else with their fertility. The idea of doing that is insane to me. I would never. Women who do nothing to provide for their own children are absolutely deadbeats. No argument t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:56 PM
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Lol I get it entirely. You want the option to abandon a child you put 50% of the genetic material into. Plenty of men do this. I bet you also want to be able to opt not to be called a deadbeat for it and I bet you also trash talk the single moms that come out of the exact situation you’d like to create more of. Here is the advice women have been reviving on just this topic for as long as history goes back: keep your clothes on if you don’t want the possible outcome of a child occurring. Or accep…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:35 PM
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Gay and bisexual men have a very different story about all the “straight” men and their actual orientation and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:22 PM
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Right. Then keep putting your fertility in someone else’s control and complaining about it, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:18 PM
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I have absolutely no idea why men aren’t demanding birth control options. That’s the obvious way to manage that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 05:58 AM
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This is the overlooked piece of this. I know very very very few dual income households (both also educated so roughly similar Serling potential) aside from lower middle class and very wealthy people, who in my experience, do tend more toward this model.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:00 PM
2

I feel great. We are a gender bendy couple who doesn’t conform to gender roles at all. This is ideal for me as I’ve dated the guy who thought he was an alpha male enough times to be very over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:58 PM
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Ya this is a teenager to early 20s thing. No one who’s an adult has ever asked me and I don’t ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:55 PM
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Yep. Confirmed big ho now happily partnered (to another big ho) with a little baby in a very happy home.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:53 PM
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Those men are hypocrites anyway. I’m not sure why any woman who values sex as a for marriage thing would want a man who slept around and therefore doesn’t share the same values as her, so if he’s getting this virgin to marry he’s likely both a hypocrite and a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:52 PM
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Make my theory your reality and don’t take on an adult dependent. Men have kids with someone and then whine about it like they didn’t know they made more money than the woman they decided to have kids with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:39 PM
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Dunno, actually. But I have no friends or acquaintances where they aren’t in a shared parenting situation with around 50/50 or 60/40 time between parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:39 PM
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Not really true, at least where I live. It’s paid by the higher earning parent to the lower earning one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:35 PM
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Child support isn’t a gender thing. Gender isn’t even on the calculation. Find someone who is an equal partner or don’t have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:35 PM
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I wouldn’t really date an obese or really an overweight guy so I guess I’d say that being a healthy weight makes a person attractive at all, where as being overweight isn’t attractive to me. I like muscle, but it’s not a “must”. I’m a gym rat I guess but as long as he wants to go do some sort of stuff with me, exercise wise, I’m happy. My hobbies don’t need to be his.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:48 PM
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I have no idea why any man would agree to an adult dependent unless they had children with them. Even then…. I don’t see the appeal but I kind of get it. If some guy was unemployed and thought he was going to live in my house while I worked and supported him, he’d be there for maybe a matter of days (assuming we were together before his unemployment) and then he better be doing something to resolve this problem before his EI ran out (dunno what EI is called in the US or if use language more peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:09 PM
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I don’t care but I’m not into it and don’t have any interest in watching it with him. I do like erotica, but he’s much more visual visual so it doesn’t quite do it for him. We differ in this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 04:04 PM
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Same. Also don’t come to me all turned on as though I was watching it with you. I was doing something else, probably not something sexy. I need a little warm up
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:59 PM
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Yes totally. He always looks at me like I’m kinda nuts but his sweat is a huge turn on to me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:29 PM
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I completely experienced this with my partner. It drove the initial attraction in a completely animal way. I don’t notice it much any more, I guess I got used to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 03:28 PM
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