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Yeah, I can see that. I think a lot of people rush to comfort a girl from a young age and often continue as they become older but that's not really the case for boys past a certain age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/17 01:21 AM
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From my own anecdata (watching my mom take care of a lot of small children), children breaking down and throwing fits is often due to parenting styles. It's amazing to watch, actually. Many of the kids she'd watch would become brats when the parents arrived, but perfectly well-behaved just minutes before. When it becomes blubbering or screaming or whatever, she'd reason with them (unless they actually got hurt), usually saying something like, "I cant help you if you don't tell me what's wrong. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/17 12:52 AM
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Yeah, my teeth are delightfully low maintenance. I do brush and floss daily, but I often fall asleep without brushing. I see the dentist maybe once every two years and there's never anything wrong with them besides the six months of braces, and having to wear a retainer a couple nights a week. My professor told me about his grandmother who grew up in Italy, and apparently she hadn't even owned a toothbrush until she was a teenager but she had never gotten a cavity in her life. Good and bad teeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/17 08:47 AM
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No one ever said it was an instant change, or that it was flawless. Hell, when is the solution to most complicated things ever so easy? But I definitely agree that it can be done, even if it's through dumb luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/17 09:23 AM
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I mean, I basically only wear sports bras, and yeah they're pretty comfortable. I own maybe to conventional bras for outfits that require it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/17 04:44 AM
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There's always a possibility of making yourself attractive. Devote your time to getting a good job so you can afford plastic surgery, afford a personal trainer if you need it, but I do believe that anyone can make themselves attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/17 12:57 PM
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The only thing that really bothers me when the halo effect is brought up is that it's only mentioned in regards to looks, but the halo effect as a phenomenon refers to any good traits making others thinking other traits are good as well. So, good personality => they're better looking, and perhaps smarter. They're demonstrably smart => they've got a better personality, and hey they look better too. Once a person identifies one good trait, that is the halo effect, it doesn't only apply to good loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/17 12:55 PM
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I mean, according to this, it is true. Apparently, more beautiful parents are more likely to have daughters than sons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/17 11:28 AM
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This basically. I genuinely am sympathetic to some 'manosphere' problems, and don't write off every terrible story about a woman who wronged them. Because women can be shitty. But giving everyone the benefit of a doubt, I think that regardless of race or sex or whatever, we all more or less even out in terribleness and shouldn't be given too much harsh judgment based on a trait that for the most part, we don't have much control over. That being said, most people don't afford others that same ben…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 02:30 PM
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Fuckin' love Lee Pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/17 02:35 AM
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Ben Platt (one of the guys from Pitch Perfect) seems pretty average.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/16 08:35 AM
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I agree if that's important to both partners, and this is something I would discuss with my partner before getting married. I certainly plan on staying in good shape as long as I can, so I want someone else that will do that as well. I can see some people who both let themselves go together and are perfectly fine with that, and see that as just something that happens in life but I personally am not going to accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/16 08:12 AM
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Oh wow, I think I may be a gamine as well. I think everyone I know prefers me with shoulder length hair to when it was much longer, and I got a surprising amount of compliments when it was cut to my chin. Thanks for the link.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/16 08:20 AM
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Ah jeez, I love me a good man bun.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/16 08:15 AM
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Well, from the video he seems highly insecure, hard to get to know, hard to talk to, and not fun or interesting. Being good looking and muscular doesn't make your other problems magically disappear.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 12:04 AM
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It's not that big of a deal to me, honestly. This is because in most circumstances if I'm going to become friends with someone it's going to be one on one first, and I could easily not even realize that they don't have many or any friends. And if I'm interacting with them enough to want to be their friend then I've already seen some merit in them. And on the other hand I've met awkward or annoying people with many friends, which is good for them, but it doesn't mean that I want to become their f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 08:54 PM
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If you want to meet more people you have to go and meet more people. I'm introverted as all hell, but I know what I need to do if I want people to get to know me; I have to be available for people to get to know me. No, I will never go to a club or bar to flirt or make friends, but I can't exactly hole myself away in my room either. Probably better advice for those further on the introvert scale wouldn't be to simply go out more but to learn how to invite people who are more acquaintances to thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 08:49 AM
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I agree on some level, but foreign language acquisition is more quickly achieved at a fluent level when there is less focus on rigid memorization and more focus on conversation practice and just straight up immersion. You discover what mistakes you're making in more memorable ways and get more exposure to a native speaker's tendencies and rhythm. If I were to alter your metaphor, I'd say language learning would start with learning the basic rules of grammar, vocab, and phonetics, and with a gras…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/16 02:30 AM
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I agree with the premise that you should not expect someone to remain that thin forever, but for myself I must say as someone who's 5'5 and 110 lbs that I'm pretty healthy. I'm trying to gain primarily muscle weight right now, but that doesn't mean my current weight is a health concern. If I were getting closer to 100 lbs on the other hand, that would definitely be pushing it. For some people at 110 and 5'5" it may be a concern, but not a rule in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 05:44 PM
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It's not perfect, but it definitely has helped me. I actually just went off a few weeks ago, and my acne's worse than it's been in a while so that's basically confirmed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/16 08:19 AM
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I'm on the pill solely to help treat my acne, though not gonna lie was pretty terrified before taking it because BC can severely worsen acne in some girls' cases. Also, the side effects aren't all bad; apparently in teenage athletes it can really help prevent injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 04:43 AM
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Yeah, basically. Intelligence is definitely important, but it's not going to magically make them physically attractive or have a personality that I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/16 04:35 AM
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I've had two very distinct occurrences where I initially found a guy cute, and was interested in them but after talking with them all interest was gone. It's not the case for everyone, but I'm not interested in someone who can't hold an intelligent conversation with me. I'm not saying smarts are all that make a person attractive, but it is definitely a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/16 09:26 PM
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Fuck, I wished I was that pretty. I agree on a lot of that except for aegyo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/16 07:12 AM
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I've been the "girl in a boys' club" several times and I feel like every time I was a regular member of the group? I was never very close with most of these groups, but that's just me, I take a while in getting used to people and this is true in female-dominated groups as well. Comic book club was the only one where I felt like the guys were trying not to scare me off (to be fair, I think I was their fifth member and they didn't want to scare anyone off but I was "new territory"). The setting I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/16 07:53 AM
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Generally, yes. Example, me and my friends hanging out and one of them points a guy, "shit, he's cute" will be about as likely to be said as "he's hot." But yeah, what lollygagyo said, context is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/16 08:46 AM
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When in gay spaces at college the girls didn't seem too shy to flirt with each other. Online though, I think I've received two messages from girls. I was the one to ask my ex-girlfriend out and that was fine with me. I prefer doing the approaching now that I have a better idea of what I'm doing, haha, though I do agree with you. Girls really need to step up more and actually approach (guys or other girls), and they aren't given much of an incentive to since guys message and approach so much alre…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/16 07:48 AM
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Those are women with similar features, but they are definitely different women. The second has smaller eyes, a straighter smile, straighter nose, and more olive-tan skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 09:15 AM
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I used to not get what it meant to identify as genderfluid either--but then I got super stoned and ended up seeing my reflection with a flashing light in the background. With each change in light I saw a different person ('cause you know, lighting and angles and whatnot) and to me it looked like my face was flashing between male and female (or masculine and feminine). I was one in one instant and another the very next. I imagine it's simply a portion of your identity that's in flux, similar to h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/16 09:07 AM
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As I said, if they're happy and have self-worth outside of the relationship. Are they happy doing these things? I think it's normal for everyone to feel guilty about not living up to your own expectations sometimes but if that's really all that's getting you through your relationship then that sounds pretty shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/16 09:44 PM
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Yeah, I think your understanding of codependency is a bit off. By definition it means dependent on someone or something to an unhealthy degree. It was a term originally to describe an alcoholic's relationship with alcohol. If both partners are doing these things willingly, they have a sense of self-worth outside of that person, and are happy with each other then their relationship would be an interdependent relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/16 08:42 AM
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1) I'm not sure, probably just tell them to get a cheaper car next time. In my opinion, that's a waste of money. It sounds like they're pretty rich, and probably not a concern of theirs, though. 2) No.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 05:30 AM
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You do have a point that the average dude does sports, around 65% of high school boys apparently. I was friends with a nerdy crowd in high school but I became friends with them mainly through team sports. There were musical theatre kids in sports, band kids, nerdier IB kids (that generally went into STEM fields after high school), and the more "average" ones as well that seemed to goof around most of the time. Now that I think of it, I just think everyone (guys and girls) should get involved wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 12:42 AM
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Internet. That's where my brother met his girlfriend of over four years, them both being quiet people. Shy people don't really congregate anywhere except for the internet, and maaaybe at meet-ups for nerdy interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/16 03:41 AM
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Yeah, this was something that took me way too long to internalize. Being extremely introverted, I often didn't see the point in most opportunities to to socialize, and eventually ended up with very few friends. Being introverted doesn't mean you have to put on a character for relationships, it means you have to put more effort into actually socializing than you would normally prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/16 01:54 AM
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Gathered traits from this post, to see a general consensus. Alpha traits: * Mentally strong * Indomitable * Winner * Fearless * Brave * Gets laid * Dating a hotter chick in the absence of fame and wealth * Social acumen * Confidence through the roof * Genetic superiority * Gifted in numerous ways * Intelligent * Strong * Intimidating if he feels like it * Healthy * Cool * Stylish * Has the ability to be the innate leader of most groups they are in * Commands the respect of women and envy from me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/16 04:50 AM
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Is that all you got from my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/16 05:17 AM
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Views on dating, marriage, and family structures are very traditional in Japan, and not many would want to face the stigma of being abnormal. So, it goes like this: traditional family is a working husband, housewife (who may also work but is expected to do almost all of the housework), and one or two children. For the husband to earn enough to support the family they'd need one of those stressful jobs, which the herbivore men have backed out of. Dating is seen as something to eventually lead to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/16 03:29 AM
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The comments were talking about the concept of herbivore men, but not why they're opting out of marriage and kids. Simply to say that they are beta and need to change to fix the population problem is unhelpful. They are declining from the competitive working culture because they realize it's shitty and they don't want to work themselves to death. And a few of your linked articles says that the arduous working hours are draining, and mental health issues and stress are a notable problem. They are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/16 12:45 AM
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For your first example it did sound like you were being honest, and the guy sounded like a smug asshole. You said that you couldn't detect whether or not she was annoyed by him, but she probably was. If your negative opinions are yours, and you're happy starting more conflict then I don't see how this isn't "being yourself." High conflict people do tend to be more interesting, but I wouldn't advise someone to go ahead and be a raging asshole. I will give you that most dating advice does not tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/16 12:55 AM
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Judging by how he approached me, I'd say he still needs to work on his social habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/16 10:16 PM
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You don't have to free of mistakes, or be satisfied with your abilities to be confident. Confidence is rolling with the punches, especially when you make mistakes or say something stupid. I can be pretty awkward, but since I don't make a big deal of stupid things I say or do and often laugh at it, people generally enjoy being around me. Putting yourself out there is great, but what makes someone appear confident is putting yourself out there and not falling apart when you inevitably mess up. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/16 10:13 PM
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Yes, I definitely agree that good SAHMs work hard. My mom worked very hard, less so now that we're all older but still at it. I also remember a study about how women are responsible for the majority of unpaid work, aka cooking, cleaning and other chores, and never get to fully "recharge" since they rarely have time where they aren't expected to do anything. Compared to a spouse who works a 9-5 job, while the work is difficult and stressful, when they get home or are off work they are for the mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/16 01:41 AM
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Oh, well that's pretty straightforward, then. There's not as much social stuff going on because people are gone for the summer. What's your friend situation like?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/16 06:59 PM
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Introspection. What's different in your life between now and May? Is this your first dry spell? Where have you usually met girls you've had sex with in the past? And although I agree that online dating sucks, maybe try okcupid instead. A male friend told me that he had trouble on okcupid but it was much worse on tinder. He did say it was possible to find girls looking to hookup on okcupid but part of his problem was that he was in an open relationship and they didn't believe him. Take a picture …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/16 10:52 AM
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You're implying that there should be fear in your partner cheating on you. What? No. Just because there's a relatively higher chance of it happening that doesn't mean being literally too afraid to be in a relationship is a healthy way to go through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 05:10 PM
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Yeah, that sounds pretty unhealthy. There is always a chance your partner may be someone who cheats, but to lose trust in half the population is also gaining a whole lot of fear. I spoke to a friend yesterday about her social anxiety and she said that making eye contact with strangers freaked her out because there was a chance that they could attack her, when I remind her that this chance is very small it doesn't really make a difference to her. What mattered was that there was a chance and that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 07:21 AM
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I don't think there's innovation lacking, just that with more variety in the field there would be more perspectives bringing different ideas and ways of doing things. I'm not sure what you mean by artificially increasing, though. Hiring women in these fields just because they're women is obviously silly, they would still need to be qualified and all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 06:09 AM
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Yes, if they're going to move to another profession there'd have to less from a few others. And hopefully there'd also be more men moving into the arts and nursing and so on. We don't need equal representation all around, but I do think some of the more diverse fields should be the STEM ones because of the potential for innovation. That and politics. I don't really care if there's more men in construction and more women in cosmetology, I think it should be presented as more of an option to eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 04:39 AM
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But they're not being used specifically for attention here, they're used as terms that TRP uses for us to debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 01:22 AM
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Why is okay for them to speak barbarically but not us?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/16 01:00 AM
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Was hoping to get red but got distracted and the button died before I could do it. So, I am gray just like here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/16 06:13 PM
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Orrrr this is the place for being dicks to people you don't agree with. (AKA the internet.) Whether you're a person joking and being a shit, or a person blowing their top and calling people cucks, most people here are not being generous in their arguments nor actually "questioning what they believe."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/16 09:20 PM
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Oh yeah, blue is supposedly everything else but in terms of PPD it seems to mean something a bit more specific. I was referring more to that. And as for the red pill, I think it's important to try to understand people who seem confusing or 'other'. Many of them have these views of the world stemming from a place of hurt, perhaps confusion, and while I don't like much of RP rhetoric I don't feel comfortable dismissing them completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/16 07:30 AM
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I haven't hung around TBP much, but I would probably say it's another echo chamber to read through but not remain in. The world is too weird and complicated for your only options to be red or blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/16 10:02 PM
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Result: Tall people > Short people That's it? Not even a bit of an elaboration? Did you have a hypothesis? Why have people guess their ages? Any sort of thoughts on the results?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/16 11:21 PM
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Above average? Nicely groomed, but pudgy looking face. 6. Age: 23 Average. Nice hair, though. 5. Age: 20 Pretty nice, something weird about his expression or something, though. 6.5. Age: 25 So unhappy. :( 4. Age: 21 Probably my favorite, though he looks rather young. 7.5. Age: 18? Cute but not my type. Looks kind. 6. Age: 22 (It's surprisingly hard to give number ratings.)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/16 04:23 AM
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It was originally written as Twilight fanfiction, so probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/16 11:05 AM
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I'd also like to point out that a lot of women deal with this sort of shit already, you just phrased it slightly differently and called it "polite". It reads like another failed tindr or okcupid message. The hypothetical attractive woman in your scenario would get invitations like this all the time, and you would be no different compared to the rest of them. You'd just be another annoyance in her life when she just wanted to pick up some groceries. At least with online dating sites she knows wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/16 10:56 AM
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??? I'm not sure if I've actually ever held a conversation with an "alpha" guy. There seem to be many different definitions. I can think of maybe one guy, and he seemed alright. He thought I might've been a lesbian but that seemed more ignorant than rude. There was one sort of popular boy in middle school that teased/bullied me but I don't know if he would count as alpha. In terms of attractiveness, I haven't seen much of a difference between ugly, average, and attractive guys and niceness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 09:27 AM
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Not too often, but I don't go out often, I'm not really "sexy," and I appear underage to most people so those are a few factors. A few notable times was a guy who approached me at Starbucks saying that he I was beautiful and that he was in love with me. That was weird. He was foreign (I have no clue where (Turkey? Italy? Ukraine?)), and I sort of figured it was partially due to that. Another guy at the library approached me saying he didn't have friends in the area, I immediately said I wasn't i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 08:55 AM
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Significantly weaker than me, I guess that depends on how much "significantly" counts for; I could date someone who couldn't do a single push-up but I would strongly encourage them to work out more. I wouldn't want to date any person if there was a significant gap in intelligence. A bit smarter or a bit stupider, but I would prefer us to be on a similar playing field. Perhaps if they were agreeable, patient, and had creative interests. (Nothing's worse than someone who's stupid and argues with y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 08:27 AM
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So relax. Have fun. Enjoy life and stop stressing. This is pretty standard advice but any person with insecurities should try to take this approach more. Worrying and stressing about whatever you're insecure about isn't going to help you. Take the Tyrion Lannister approach, and don't let other people shame you for being who you are. Easier said than done, but it's a start.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/16 08:54 AM
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Basically these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 07:09 AM
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If it is the case that women get higher standards the older they get, I think it's because as time goes on they became more confident in themselves and happy or at least content without guy drama so if there is going to be a guy he better improve her life, not make it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 06:52 AM
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When people put "if you're under 6' don't bother" on their dating profiles, don't take it as face value, it doesn't mean much. I definitely know someone who is very serious about only dating tall guys, and since she has a line like that in her profile, she gets messages from guys criticizing her for it. She thinks guys who don't post their height on their profile are trying to "trick" her into going on a date with them. Me and a friend have tried to tell her that she is being pretty superficial,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/16 07:36 AM
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This goes along with my experience. Adding the fact that I'm also bisexual to the mix makes being friends with people hard sometimes. I've rejected a few guys that were friends, but it didn't stop us from continuing to be friends even if there were a few more awkward moments.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/16 07:09 AM
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In the M2M song it's just about a girl who doesn't want the relationship to move too fast. It sounds like the guy wants things to be more sexual than she's ready for yet, and saying that he's in love with her and generally moving too fast for her. I'd say it translates to "i don't know why you claim you love me when we basically just met, i'm also not ready to have sex with you yet, slow down dude."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/16 12:22 AM
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Every Disney romcom? The only one I can think of is Beauty and the Beast, and he literally transforms into a hot guy at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/16 12:04 AM
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How far away are your cities? Laziness and anxiety could have caused her to want to back out but became too embarrassed/anxious to say so. Not that it's a good excuse for basically standing you up. For confirmation in the future I suggest calling instead of texting.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 06:23 AM
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Sure, that would make sense if attractive guys were a normal sight then there would be only so much you could do. When you say swagger do you mean an increase in confidence? I'm certainly not going to argue that confidence isn't going to help anyone. (I admit, I'm a bit confused why your wife would find problems with you, I mean, she married you.) Out of curiosity, where do you live and what sort of things did you do to improve your appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 05:47 AM
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I see a bunch of people who criticize other feminists, but they often make the mistake of calling them not "true" feminists, like saying that the Westboro Baptist Church isn't made of true Christians. Well, they're Christians alright, just shitty ones. In response to saying it's more than some of its members: I think there's a self-righteous sort of stage that generally younger women (eh, teenage to early twenties) go through that's comparable to the "anger phase" of being introduced to the red …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 09:00 AM
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You can identify with a belief system (feminism) while still condemning the actions of some of its members. Just like someone can be a Christian and dislike some types of Christians.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 07:51 AM
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Really? I don't know many guys who put effort into their appearance, but the ones who do don't have much trouble attracting attention. I suppose you could argue that these more stylish guys also display more confidence and charisma, but they also just look much better than if they went with the minimum jeans and t-shirt, plain hair style, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 12:21 AM
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If men in general would put as much effort into their appearance as women the distribution would be better, but as it stands now most just aren't good looking. Thiiiiiiis.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:31 AM
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This calls for a change in flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/16 04:05 AM
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No to all of them. Well, that was an easy survey.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 09:54 AM
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Ah, a romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 07:32 AM
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I find it pretty simple. Everyone has their own personal minimum standard of physical attractiveness they would go for in a partner. Minimum standard does not mean they're attracted to them, but as long as that bar is met personality, chemistry, or whatever else can bump the person up in their mind to make them attractive. Basically a halo effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 04:28 AM
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If you prefer cardio, then have at it. Everyone should include cardio in their work out schedule, just 'cause it's important health-wise. There's a million reasons why someone is having a harder time with weight compared to someone else, but I've been skinny my whole life with little effort so I can't say all that much on the subject. (I also love cardio workouts, mainly running, but I can say for certain there have been many points in my life were I lifted weight and did little to no cardio and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 11:18 PM
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My point with Bruno Mars wasn't only that he is attractive, but also that it's more than likely that he didn't think of himself as soiled or unattractive before he became famous. Did he think of himself as the equivalent of an incel at your age? I doubt it. And no, I do many of these things because some are the right thing to do, others are goals I've set out for myself to do and others to give me a sense of value. That's good, I hope you find happiness. I know in forums like this it can come of…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 08:29 AM
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Sure, he did other things too, but that doesn't change my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 08:24 AM
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I would really recommend therapy. Girls can be terrible about height, but that's no reason to call yourself unattractive. Would you call Bruno Mars a rotten fruit? He is only an inch taller than you and certainly hot (hot damn). Is your reason for trying to be attractive and interesting solely to gain the attention of women? Doing things just for others' approval is a depressing way to go through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 05:27 AM
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I sort of agree with this. I know it's unpopular to suggest cosmetic surgery, but if someone's serious about becoming "hot" then why not have it as an option? This guy wasn't going to be as hot as the after pic no matter how much he worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 03:10 AM
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Maybe you always had good facial structure and the lower body fat gave your jaw and cheeks the definition you didn't have before. You see it all the time on /r/progresspics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 02:54 AM
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I personally saw this as gender neutral as well. I didn't know any girls who wanted to sit down and do pointless work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/16 02:43 AM
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I mean in the sense that she didn't know that he was dangerous and then choose to be alone with him (found out after the fact), or perhaps she was taken advantage of while drunk and not able to make the best/coherent decisions, or coerced (stuck in an abusive relationship).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/16 12:35 AM
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I usually hear women say they're afraid of saying no when it's at a bar or perhaps party or something, and they're afraid he'll blow up if she refuses his advances. Ideally, women do try to stay away from violent partners, and in the case you're talking about where they're alone with them, this is a worst case scenario and likely not something she chose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/16 02:17 AM
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So, if this were switched...and a girl said she was sexually assaulted... you think it would be okay to say "was he hot"? There's a difference between being completely insensitive and being at a loss for how to comfort someone. I've definitely been at a loss before, usually I'll just be a bit awkward, probably be quiet, but I'll do the basic things: say in some terms "that sucks", ask if there's anything I can do (if it's relevant), and not fucking make a joke about it. "I'm sorry you went throu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/16 06:18 AM
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It's depressing to read many of TRP posts and comments, how vehemently many of them seem to believe in its ideology, but I don't take that with me throughout the day. It's sad because they do have some legitimate conversation points, and could potentially be a healthy male community. And in that same vein I mainly feel bad for a lot of the RP because somewhere along the line they decided that putting up defensive walls and drawing enemy lines were the only logical conclusion; carrying around ang…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/16 02:43 AM
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I don't understand why you both are speculating when I'm right here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/16 04:50 AM
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I understand what you're saying but I'm not strictly interested in a long term relationship. I'm just not all that interested in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/16 04:34 AM
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If we were laughing and having a good time then no. I haven't had many dates in total, but I did have a good one that was similar to what you describe the only difference being that that date was with a girl. Another date the guy made things more physical (basically just holding hands) and that was fine but he was also someone I had known for quite a while. To be honest I am not really concerned about having sex, and I want to be comfortable with the person first before anything else. I know a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/16 03:30 AM
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I wouldn't think much of it? If at all? Perhaps I would be relieved because it would show he's not overly concerned with sexual advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/16 02:45 AM
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I think what RP has a hard time grasping is the fact that TBP is not a collective and does not claim to any standard of beliefs other than "TRP sucks". Their entire sidebar is non-subtle satire, and none of their posts are pertaining to a belief system.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 09:30 PM
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and the femininity matter or often even exist? I think you might have typoed somehow, I'm not quite sure what you're saying. BP denies that women are unequivocally attracted to masculinity (aka the more masculine the voice the better, when that's not strictly true), which is an important difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 09:13 PM
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As others have replied in this thread, none have actually denied that women find masculine voices attractive. Not many have replied, sure, but that's honestly probably because this topic is not very interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 09:02 PM
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Yes. Could you please answer my question?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 10:47 AM
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Are you under the impression that BP rejects that women are generally attracted to masculine traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 10:32 AM
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(BP leaning) A voice says a lot about a person. Deeper voices indicating large size and higher voices indicating smaller size. Waist to shoulder ratio, testosterone levels, etc. Doing a few google searches apparently people also prefer voices that sound more similar to them, and women find deep voices more attractive as long as they don't sound threatening. A more interesting question would be why people find accents so attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 07:25 AM
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See, when I call myself a feminist I am referring to the former. Equality for men and women; who would hate that? But whoops, everyone else is thinking of something different. (Added to my to-read list.)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 05:52 AM
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It may appear as libido, but some asexuals do masturbate. The libido may be normal but they don't want to do anything with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 05:32 AM
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How is it dangerous? I've always just seen it as the way time affects society and politics. There will always be a left that is even too radical for most liberals and a right that is too radical for most conservatives. If the standards of what was liberal and what was conservative stayed the same then we'd be living in a version of politics and society that was virtually frozen in time. Of course it's helpful, it's bringing people together. If one allows racist attitudes to persist then they wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 08:15 AM
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I mean, it makes sense. After slavery was abolished it wouldn't be helpful in anyway if anti-slavery people were sympathetic to angry former slave-owners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 06:20 AM
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Not getting married is the majority in Iceland and they're doing fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 05:16 AM
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I don't know how common it is but I find short, shy whatever men to be cute. There's actually a guy at work that I have a bit of a crush on right now like that---the problem with shy dudes is that they're less likely to make the first move and women are also not so likely to make the first move. (I do think girls should be more encouraged to ask guys out more.)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/16 02:49 AM
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So much this. He learned from a mistake, and I don't put my value on the price of jewelry, so who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/16 02:34 AM
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I would add a few other things to the list, as a consideration many (most?) women have before casual sex is the likeliness of them getting assaulted/raped. Casual sex can be dangerous so women are more likely to want to have a relationship before sex is involved. To add to your list, I also think men should try to work together to increase safety, communication, and respect so that the culture of casual hook ups is no longer so threatening to women. (A few other things come to mind as well, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/16 09:37 AM
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As someone who was a girl in her teens/early twenties not too long ago, I know I would've been in the "uncomfortable" category. If I encountered anyone with an obvious physical disability or difference I didn't want to be rude and stare so instead I'd overcompensate and obviously avoid eye contact. I did realize this was just about as rude if not ruder, thank god.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/16 01:03 AM
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This, basically. I stayed friends with three of the guys that have asked me out and still keep in contact with two of them. The one I don't really talk to anymore is sort of a jerk but I still wonder what he's up to, how he's doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/16 06:02 AM
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I only follow two, and they're pretty low key: http://www.kissmywonderwoman.com/ (movie/tv reviews) https://fitandfeminist.com/ (fitness blog, mainly long distance running)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/16 05:16 AM
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