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No. Listen. You learn by failing. What you're trying to do now is to -avoid the problem- by taking the easy route. And as others pointed out, you won't get better with girls. Fail, and fail spectacularly. That way you'll grow.
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:02 PM
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If you have to ask this question, there's a chance that you won't be able to. But you should definitely work on yourself. Assertiveness is not something that's easy to learn, but it's something that comes automatically when you got your life in order according to your other needs and desires. But since we're a loving family here and I'd wager my left buttcheek on the fact that there's a girl involved; just say it. It doesn't matter what happens. It's not the end of the world if she's not recipro…
/r/seduction25/03/18 05:22 PM
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But then there are those few people now and then that actually read, try to apply what you're saying and becomes better in the process. Do it for them. I for one appreciate the advice you and many others are giving, but I still get what you're saying. Much great content does fall on deaf ears.
/r/seduction27/12/17 07:03 PM
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The point where you have to stick with or abandon your boundaries always comes and that's usually where the relationships end for me. I guess it's wasted time in a way, and I should probably be clearer from the beginning. I agree with you, anyway. Also read your other reply, but looks like it's gone now. Thanks for clarifying!
/r/seduction26/12/17 02:45 PM
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I agree, but what I mean is you want to feel wanted by your SO. If you are questioned why you aren’t the least bit jealous and you answer ”you’re free to have sex with anyone, but if you’re unfaithful then we’re done” might resonate in a way more in tune with you’re simply not caring instead of showing love and affection. I’ve just had a rough time explaining this to girls I’ve dated in the past. Maybe it’s insecurities on their end or I’m just clumsy, but the relationships usually have taken a …
/r/seduction23/12/17 01:11 PM
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I’m curious, how do you let her know your stance on this? Not saying all girls are the same but many I’ve dated have wanted a little bit of jealousy. I might choose the wrong partners though.
/r/seduction23/12/17 07:53 AM
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Why does it even matter. If she responds then she responds, if not then fuck it. She's probably not that interested which begs the question - why would you want to be with her.
/r/seduction28/04/16 03:26 AM
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You'll simply have to get to know yourself better. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. If you want to hug her, hug her. If you want to kiss her, kiss her. But most importantly, embrace rejection. Once you can realize and accept that rejection from someone doesn't even remotely change who you are, and solely reflects on the other person rather than yourself, then you are golden. To continue with what you originally wrote. You don't need an exit plan, simply don't start something you don't wa…
/r/seduction21/10/14 08:11 AM
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I was the same way earlier. Try treating it like a phobia, naturally you need to step out of your comfort zone to experience change. It's all about breaking and forming new habits. Not saying you should jump into a relationship, but take miniature steps towards it. Personally I've found a massive (really) increase in success with women after I just forced myself to go for what I wanted. They respond very well with it.
/r/seduction20/10/14 09:44 PM
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1) Yes. But you see, you adopting an abundance mentality is attractive. Girls notices these kinds of things and it will make her lean towards you more if you find the fine line between playing (actually, being) harder to get and completely ignoring her. I admit, I may be a bit in my head right now. I was out with a bunch of guy friends last night and towards the end we left the place we were at to go to another place where one of the guys was supposed to meet up with a girl. Once we all got ther…
/r/seduction31/05/14 01:42 PM
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I don't know the background about how close you are, so this may sound a bit harsh; 1) Don't cancel shit for a girl that easily, or in this situation leave your friends. 2) Don't let a girl interrupt your beautysleep (and don't turn into a jellyfish if you let her). I'd even guess you'd be more attractive in her eyes should you have just said fuck it and gone back to bed. Naturally, you also shouldn't have let her control you by suggesting to call you back. I feel you're so being put in second p…
/r/seduction31/05/14 12:57 PM
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I'd like to suggest No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover as, while it's a book about not falling for the Nice Guy syndrome, it's actually indirectly related to seduction and getting results with girls. Highly recommended!
/r/seduction31/05/14 10:58 AM
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This. I used to think I was a bit fat. Hell, I even had quite the stomach. Never, ever, ever did a woman complain about this. Women, unlike men, are attracted to your confidence, your life and how you carry yourself rather then how you look. Not saying looks doesn't matter, because it does, but it's far far from the top.
/r/seduction11/04/14 10:23 PM
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That was your cue, buddy. If you think women are out of your league, then that means you are valuing yourself lower than you value them. This is not good. This is never good. I suggest you work on yourself. I can recommend reading Models by Mark Manson - or most of the articles from his blog.
/r/seduction11/04/14 10:21 PM
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I don't know why the other guy down there was downvoted, there was truth to what he was saying. You didn't give much background about specific examples, but the main reason you get put in the friend position is because you simply were escalating too slowly with her. You need to express a sexual mindset and she needs to notice it. You do this by touching her, seeking and maintaining eye contact and and push/pull teasing. Really, as other guys were saying. Start from second one. If you are interes…
/r/seduction11/04/14 10:15 PM
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Probably not. You should stop worrying and just act out of confidence. The fact that you are a bit unsure here on seddit, about rather stupid things like flaking and shit tests, might reflect on you in real life as well. If it looks as if she had a good time, why suspect otherwise? It's a dark road that will only cause you trouble in the long run, buddy. Most women actually do give you legit reasons and the ones that don't most likely won't meet up with you either way. If a girl wants to meet yo…
/r/seduction11/04/14 10:06 PM
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You've passed the brink of over-analyzing now buddy. There are just too many possible reasons why she didn't respond. So many that it is ultimately impossible to predict the reason. If you still try to figure it out then you will get defensive like some of the other clowns around this subreddit (no offense, yah lost souls) and start pestering her about flaking. Play it cool. Wait for her response. In the end, you don't need her. You need water and air. Not this girl. I realize this might come of…
/r/seduction08/04/14 07:14 AM
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The problem I see with this is what you initiated the post with. The opinion of what people are looking for is subjective in its entirety. I suppose for an app that simply gives information on whats open and closed and specific types of music could be handy. But how would you get this information? Would you start from scratch and wait until you get rates and recommendations? To simplify it - it seems like you need people to make it successful, and people won't use it before it's successful as th…
/r/seduction08/04/14 06:39 AM
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You know, we've all been there. It's like jumping on a bicycle for the first time, very few actually succeed while most of us end up in a brick wall. Butthurt. I posted in your other thread you created, but I'll give you some tips here as well. I usually analyze what I do and go through the interaction in my head. I notice these things, maybe I just pick out one thing, that I feel needs improvement and I focus on improving that aspect in the next interaction with the next girl. This is how you l…
/r/seduction08/04/14 06:06 AM
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Shit son. I woke up to reading this after what I posted yesterday before going to bed. I'm proud of you! What they are saying, which they are unable to put into words because defining attraction is extremely difficult and even more so for girls, is simply the fact of not being needy. The specific things they mention have one thing in common, and that is how you take care of your life. If you read between the lines they are saying they want you to be interesting - really genuinely interesting and…
/r/seduction08/04/14 05:55 AM
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Two things you should read and/or listen to. These two books changed my life and my whole freelancing (and personal) life builds on the second one. Models by Mark Manson 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey You have the power to initiate change, just have to step forward and utilize it buddy!
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:45 PM
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"Hi, my name is fivefifty5. I thought you were cute and would like to know you. What's your name?" You'll be even more badass if her friends are around. Either way, don't walk out and then in again. That's just pathetic. Stand up, walk there, and let her know you find her interesting. Ideally when you're both on the way out. People just don't do this shit so you'll instantly differentiate yourself from the rest.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:36 PM
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How would you deal with discussions you have with your friends? When a friend says something you don't agree with, how do you react and respond? When it comes to girls, add a fun and sarcastic tone to it but overall react the same way. Stay true to your values and be playful, that's really all there is to it.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:23 PM
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Requesting status report! Wait. Strange girls?
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:21 PM
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No. If you are going for a question rather than just to man up and go for the kiss, then ditch the idea of asking and say something like "You so want to kiss me right now" whilst looking into her eyes. If she looks away, go for it. Confidence, brohim, confidence.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:16 PM
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This. There's really nothing else you can do. If she doesn't appreciate it then walk away knowing there are other fish in the sea. Also I like the grandma line below, maybe you could use something like that to open up a not-so-serious-discussion. Don't end up too clingy and needy though, know when to walk away.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:13 PM
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Ditch all routines and canned shit. Personally, I talk with people because I am genuinely interested in what they have to say. Strive for this mindset, and rejections won't even matter anymore. Add sexual tension to the interactions, and you'll get major progress. People have recommended Models by Mark Manson here and in other threads. I second this opinion. It'll change your view on this for the better. Audiobook available on Audible should you want to listen to it instead.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:08 PM
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If what you say is true - then just say it. It takes enormous balls, but you'd be surprised how many girls that actually are open to it. Most would even find the fact that you're upfront with it attractive. If she says no, well, then you know. No big deal really. Walk away tall and remain friends. I do think she'd appreciate the fact that you find her physically attractive, however, no matter what her response is. If you're unable to do that, then I suggest kino kino kino and lots of kino. You h…
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:58 PM
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Once you start hiding things, and it doesn't really matter what it is, you're dishonest with yourself and it will more often than not come back and bite you in the ass one way or another. Sidenote: I used to hide the fact that I played mmorpgs and I guess it was because I was ashamed. Today my priorities are a bit different, but before I left that world I felt so much better once I actually accepted it. My girlfriend at that time even encouraged me even though she had no interest in it. Interest…
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:47 PM
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Proud of you buddy. You're way ahead of many people :)
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:35 PM
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Mark Manson wrote a topic on this, you can find it here: http://markmanson.net/std-guide I'd say, however, just be honest and say it. In situations like this I couldn't care less if she says no. No glovin', no lovin'.
/r/seduction02/04/14 06:41 AM
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More often than not there is always something opinion or situational based she says, and you could use that and move forward in the conversation. The key is, apart from eye contact and possibly kino, to listen to her and ask questions based on what she says. This doesn't always apply though. I've been with a few girls where conversation just is impossible. It's not on you to keep the conversation going, however. This is very good buddy, take a look: http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
/r/seduction02/04/14 06:36 AM
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If you live life to satisfy everyone around you all day every day no matter what, then you will eventually be forced to give up on your own values and opinions sooner or later as you will meet someone who doesn't agree with you. And doing this means you put yourself in second place of importance in life and you will feel bad about it because you aren't true to yourself. This was a breaking point for me. Once I realized this, my life took a turn for the better. Why would I want to be around someo…
/r/seduction02/04/14 06:28 AM
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I think you should just go for it. If you've managed to establish a connection before and you've talked a bit, you'll appear most attractive if you just do it. I know it's difficult, but a man that second guesses himself is, in a way, needy and not attractive at all. Worst thing that could happen is rejection, and that only means there's someone better for you elsewhere. No reason to be stuck with someone who doesn't appreciate you, right?
/r/seduction31/03/14 07:16 AM
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There's a chance she already expects you to ask her out. Go for it!
/r/seduction31/03/14 07:03 AM
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"Oh come on, how does this even relate to sedu.... HOLY SHIT." I'm not a man.
/r/seduction31/03/14 06:55 AM
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Haha, touché. Maybe you should expand it to help users with rejections on reddit as well. We may be on to something here. You have to understand though. Not being able to man up and feel the need to go defensive stance against a girl that flakes or rejects you will never be perceived as anything other than needy. Being able to let people go is so attractive. Out of curiosity however, are people intended to actually write anything to the one that rejects or is it only a way for you to cope with t…
/r/seduction30/03/14 11:24 PM
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This is such a bad idea.
/r/seduction30/03/14 07:04 AM
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You're way before many many others, bro. When you are confident with yourself then it will never matter how old or young you are when you start this journey. I've "dated" on occasion since I was young so our situations may not be the same. I'm around your age now and what got me to the point I am at today was reading Models by Mark Manson, and a book called 7 habits of highly effective people. I realized that if I wanted to see change, and to how people treated me, I had to put my down foot and …
/r/seduction30/03/14 07:01 AM
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While I don't believe there are any rules per se, you have to analyze why this would bother you. I heard someone say sometimes that as soon as you want to text someone because of an outside stimulus, eg. she's not responding, then that's a good indication you shouldn't, and that you put way too much thought into this person. In the end, even if you'd see this as an rejection down the line, would you want to be with someone like this? I'm not saying let her to just yet, but do other things. Meet …
/r/seduction30/03/14 06:37 AM
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This. As said already, it is a little bit difficult to know without being there but generally speaking women more often than not expect you to make the move. That's how we express our interest, we open up ourselves to be vulnerable this way. If she'd reject you, apologize and show her it's not a big deal. When if comes to your opinion, you're not there only to cuddle, right? You wanted to have sex with her? I've even been so extremely occupied with my own thoughts that this one time a girl actua…
/r/seduction30/03/14 06:18 AM
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I think I'm mainly expressing my values in life on my Tinder. Then again, I suppose I'm not really interested in meeting people who I don't think I can connect with on an emotional level. I liked the humor in what @kbonecapone said, however. If you haven't already, you should ask yourself what kind of girls you'd like to attract. I reckon you'd be much happier once you got that down.
/r/seduction29/03/14 09:13 PM
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This kind of reminds me of a quote from a book I told to read by my boss. “Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose” In essence no matter what life throws at you, if you choose the reactive path and respond to whatever it may be in a negative way, then you really only have yourself to blame for not being true to yourself. Theres always a choice, make the most of it. Quote is from "7 habits of highly effective people" by Stephen R. Covey. I highly recommend read…
/r/seduction29/03/14 09:00 PM
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