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I'm boring. If you want to stay, stay. If you want something else, leave. That's that. There's no middle ground. It's not about my self worth in regards to the relationship, or some imaginary scale of worthiness, it's about my self worth in my OWN eyes. Becoming someone else's available option number 2 sounds way more terrible than staying alone. I like myself way too much to do this to myself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 06:19 PM
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As a eastern european myself, I'll say it how it is - the macho culture comes with its minuses. Especially in slavic cultures, so many men become aggressive and involved in drugs / dangerous behavior, that the cons outweigh the pros. I am married to a russian man and I have it "easy", because he is Liberal in contrast to his culture. It takes a strong woman to have a relationship with a strong man. Don't believe anyone who says otherwise. From time to time you have to show your teeth so they res…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 08:26 PM
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As a mom of two, no person is ready for a child, and most aren't ready even when the baby is born. I sure wasn't. Only now, when my oldest is 2,5 years old, I'm slowly becoming a mom. Maybe I have super high standards. But anyways, such a drastic change requires a lot of time to get used to.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 08:07 PM
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I really like Jordan Page.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/19 07:29 PM
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I mean, how difficult is it to ask your girlfriend to take your nude picture with her phone, if it's a peer pressure thing to do and your kid will tread over mountains just to comply? Teenagers are extremely smart and witty. It's best to have a ton of important discussions about these problems. With my boys in going to be straightforward - we're going to get them several books on physical and moral implications of sex, on contraception, and even a simple book about ways of being a good partner i…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 07:08 PM
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We don't really have a specific threshold, but I guess I'd discuss purchasing whatever is around 5% of the overall income mark, discuss anything from 2,5-5% and freely buy whatever is under that mark. I'm super frugal and a minimalist, so I don't usually buy a lot, but when I do, husband trusts me as I'm a homemaker and he appreciates my work. And, by being mindful of the finances, I show that I respect his work, too!
/r/RedPillWives12/03/19 06:26 PM
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I'm not sure what you're trying to say? You have to love what you have, but you also must work on making it better. And the best way to start, is by being mindful of your surroundings, and start learning about taking care of them. It's not as simple as it seems.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:56 AM
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I am a sahm and about to have our second child. Husband manages the finances and pays the bills, because I literally don't have time to open the laptop during the day. As he often times has breaks at work when there are less projects to do, he gets that done. We always discuss big purchases or plan our financial goals, so to say, but he also sends me money for groceries and random things. For example, I bought plants today, some medicine and clothes, and I don't really need to be accountable abo…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/19 07:20 PM
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I was a very tomboyish girl for the first 15 years of my life, partly because I felt like my dad wanted to have a son, and was teaching us everything he'd teach his sons to do, if he had them. So it was difficult to go through puberty and accepting my differences. Honestly, sort yourself out and don't think about rpw or whatever now. Spend time to learn about yourself. What do you like? What makes you happy? What doesn't make you happy? Find your hobbies and stop trying to put yourself in a box.…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 07:14 PM
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As a European, it's also a byproduct of the lacking American maternity leave. I get goosebumps thinking about going back to work at 8 weeks post partum. It seems inhumane to the parents and the child, and especially for the woman who has been through so much physically and emotionally. Let's not even talk about lack of sleep and having to be in your top shape for doing your work well. It's insane. I'm a sahm for 3 years now and about to have a second baby. I'll be honest, some days I'd rather ha…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 09:26 PM
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Honestly, it's the most upvoted comment of all. Are you trying to feel antagonised? If so, you'll always see someone who disagrees. Who cares about them? Most of the people support your opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 07:40 AM
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I've LIVED in Russia. The issues of the economic growth are based in corruption, systemic theft and well executed propaganda to keep everyone from throwing down the regime. It's such a western thinking from your side, that "competent people" get a chance to choose what they do or don't wish to support. Russia has a system that destroys small businesses, has an extreme pay inequality and the only thing that keeps it together is the fact, that propaganda works. So whatever you were trying to prove…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 04:45 PM
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I don't work. He's the sole provider. I'm a sahm of a toddler and 35 weeks pregnant with our second. I don't hire outside help. Only with handy work, as we don't want him to spend his free time doing stuff around the house, when family is a bigger priority. Have I considered hiring someone for my chores? Yes, why not. Especially with more difficult stuff (washing the windows). Division of labor gets decided based on what's happening. Currently I'm 35 weeks pregnant with chronic pain, and dealing…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 03:03 PM
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In your 20s, a six year difference is quite large. Him being 27 and telling you all these things, when you are 21, seems like a manipulation tactic. Honestly, I can't imagine why you should accept this behaviour. You can't change people, but you shouldn't let them step all over you, either. And what's the rush with marriage at 21? Why not give the relationship a bit more time, so you can be sure he's the right person and with the right attitude, and has your best interests in mind?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 03:58 PM
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I believe you can't change other people, honestly. If rpw is a manipulation tactic to get your man to behave the way you want, it's not really cool (and I don't think you were doing this) . And it's not gonna work. You can't make a bird into a tractor. If you do it to be the best possible version of yourself - and for Yourself, first of all - then it's great. I mean, most of the ideas from RPW are basic human values. I am currently studying a lot of Buddhism and I see these things even there. Be…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 06:00 AM
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Quite honestly, I feel like this can't be just a bedroom issue. Because it's not a technical problem, it's an attitude problem. When someone is basically masturbating into you (unless stuff like free use is your kink) and not giving back, it's just plain old being selfish. And I haven't yet seen relationships where selfishness has been present in just one life area. This always seeps into other situations and choices. Regarding the technical side, it's understandable that having an orgasm is a h…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/19 05:23 PM
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It can seem confusing, obviously, because there are no red lines in most relationships regarding chores, kids, etc. There are other defined borders within relationships, but mostly day to day doings are divided, by taking into the account the situation. Like, if I had a broken leg, just because I'm the housewife, would that mean I still should be vacuuming? I sure hope not. If my husband would need to take sick time that would lessen our income, I wouldn't nag him about that. In various situatio…
/r/RedPillWives23/12/18 08:42 PM
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My approach is kindness. I am a SAHM, hugely pregnant and with a toddler. We both do our best, just to get through this. Having to young kids is not the time to start pointing out faults or things that the other must've done or should've telepathically known to do. I do my best to take care of the home, dealing with clothes, buying stuff for kids, organizing events, birthdays, etc, cooking. But he would easily do all of that as well, if I'd be feeling unwell. And being on a modified bedrest, I f…
/r/RedPillWives23/12/18 08:59 AM
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I mean, this dude would rather starve to death if someone wrote "feminism" over his damn fridge. It's just stupid shite. Knowing how to care for yourself and others equals gender indoctrination? Get a grip.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 12:14 PM
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I can answer you straight from a feminist handbook, by saying fuck off.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 04:37 AM
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I agree with no ARGUING, but having conflicts in front of kids is actually a valuable lesson. Just don't forget to make up in front of the kids, as well, and keeping it civil during your disagreement.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 07:24 PM
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Well, I'll definitely put a huge importance to sexual education. We're planning on having the talk early, giving both of our kids several books on the matter of sexuality, not just in terms of not getting pregnant, but in being a considerate partner. It should be enjoyable for both. No matter if they choose a woman or a man as their partner, I want them to have a good and safe start in their life. And regarding dating, mostly I think it will be my husband's part. As he is absolutely a great husb…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 04:58 PM
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I'm about to have our second boy. Honestly, I'm not concerned with teaching my boys to be men. What I'm concerned with is raising them to self sufficient and kind people. We do all the housework together. My two year old already knows how to make pancakes. He is able to put laundry in the washer, and put it in the dryer afterwards. Basically, everything I do, he does. Both of us, me and my husband, are emotionally always there for him. No teaching not to cry or fuss. Emotions happen, better lear…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 04:33 PM
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I don't know, guys. Imho, marriage and long term relationship requires you both to be sexually compatible. The reason I married my husband, is because no matter what, there is that biological want to have him. Just because he is a good friend or a good partner, it's not enough. We've been together for 9 years now and through thick and thin, two pregnancies, kids, etc. But I still want him and he still wants me. Yes, after our first child it was difficult to get back into the swing of things, as …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 04:54 PM
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I really love a simple marinated chicken, veg and rice. Put chicken filets in mayo, with Paprika, garlic and onions. Add bell pepper, cut into slices. Let it either marinate for a whole night, if you feel like it, or just put it in a crock pot. Fry it first, then just slow cook for a bit. In the meantime, get rice ready. Suppppper tasty and easy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 08:53 PM
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I have pcos AND endometriosis. Sorry, but it's not an excuse to not follow a diet. On the contrary. A healthy diet will improve your life. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 12:42 PM
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Thank you! I'll read the resources.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:45 AM
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If she gives you any advice, it is advice to help you become like her. This is a real gem. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:44 AM
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That's a fair point. I'll have to do my best. I'm just not a very conflict happy person. I absolutely hate arguing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:42 AM
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Thank you. I also believe it comes from good intentions, but it doesn't make it less stressful. We've been through A LOT and now is not the time to add to stress. ​ I spoke to my husband and he said, that he doesn't want to have this discussion with my mother right now (he's preparing a surprise gender reveal for our immediate family today or tomorrow morning, once everyone will arrive - we just went to have a sonogram done, and the Dr told only my husband the gender, so it's going to be a surpr…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:41 AM
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Sadly it's not that. She's been through menopause in her 40s and is on constant medication for her hormonal levels. She has those checked on a regular basis. I guess it's just her opinion that she knows what's best.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:36 AM
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Thank you for your advice. I'm planning on having a bit less contact with my mom, because frankly, I'm very upset. She even started criticizing my husband on his ability of keeping a home (as in, doing repairs, etc). That was really nasty to hear, because it's bullshit. I don't care about dumb crap like sink filters when our top priority is to just have some peace, have a good time.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:35 AM
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Apparently setting boundaries is the correct way. I hope it helps. I told my husband, once again, that I have his back and honestly, if I have to choose between having a good relationship with my husband and my kids, or with my mom, I'll better choose my husband. My mom will have to accept that I'm not allowing this bullshit to just slide. She's always talking about how women are better nurturers, etc, but honestly, that's crap. People parent differently. That's all..
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:32 AM
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My mom.. I guess, her ability to empathize with others is sometimes used against other people, when she feels she's in the right. Honestly, it may sound crazy, but all of this situation has made me feel a lot more sympathetic towards men who have to deal with women like that. It's frustrating. I feel gaslighted to the point of being totally confused.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/18 09:29 AM
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I wish we could just solve this like adults. But she really doesn't see how she's been too much. As she put it "I'm not criticizing or giving advice, I'm just SAYING". I don't get it.
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 09:14 AM
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That's the thing. I'm totally on my husbands' side. I explicitly told him that. " my husband is amazing and any advice you may have for or about him is frankly unwanted and disrespectful, especially being a guest under his roof. " that's a great way to put it. I'll keep it in my mind. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 09:13 AM
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Well, it feels physically easier, because she handled my son all Tuesday, but other than that I feel mentally exhausted and honestly, the last thing I need in this situation is feeling emotionally down. I need to keep my spirits up, because I have 4 more months of dealing with pain everyday and I must be able to stand well through this time. I'm concerned with possible PPD and hardcore baby blues after birth, because these past months with almost losing our baby due to a medical emergency and ot…
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 09:11 AM
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I'm a bit afraid of having such a critical stance and asking her to leave. I hope that after this situation she'll be more aware of her language, but if not, I'll have to talk again, and even more bluntly.
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 09:08 AM
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I think you all need to take a break from each other and only see each other in small amounts. I don't have my MIL over anymore and we just see each other in public for lunch and stuff just because she won't be polite or nice unless there's other people around. At the very least, she shouldn't be invited to come stay and help out if this is how she considers helping. That's what I've decided to do. We need some alone time as a family, as difficult as it may sound in this situation. Just me, husb…
/r/RedPillWives19/10/18 09:07 AM
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I'll do it, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:56 PM
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Yeah. I guess they do. But my mom was such an angel for all these years, I never saw this side of hers. She leaves on Saturday afternoon. Hopefully it will be alright. But I don't even know how to deal with this in the future. I was hoping she'd visit for two weeks after the baby will be born, now I'm not so sure anymore..
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:20 PM
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Sounds just like my mom. My parents also have a traditional marriage, been married 32 years now. But this nagging thing is pretty crazy. I don't know how my dad deals with it on a regular basis. Especially since it's 95% unimportant, tiny things. I hate having arguments or discussions about tiny, crappy things like that. But my mom is a champion of this. "Ohhhh noooooes, you stepped in too far into the foyer with your shoes on, oh nooooeesss", etc. Who cares. Give them a broom or swipe it up. Ap…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 01:18 PM
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This is a great point. On my part, i try to thank him for his input as much as I can. Sadly my pain issue is not as obvious as a broken leg so it takes a lot of explaining to him. He does his best, but he is frustrated. Now I'm just letting him lead in everything regarding the toddler and don't criticize him about anything, and try to keep my mouth shut, unless things get dangerous. But he's careful and a good dad, so I trust him to do the right things, even though they are not the things I pers…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 10:42 AM
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Checking out that chart was interesting. Honestly, living in eastern Europe, anything below 8 would be considered not good at all. There are just, objectively, so many beautiful women here with symmetrical faces, and they have to compete so hard for quality men, that they have to do above and beyond in keeping their looks. I've always thought how strange it was, that in movies, etc, American girls would just walk around in their pyjamas at school or wear sports shoes. Up until now, that would be…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 07:21 PM
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Same here. I see no reason why socialist ideas and rpw can't exist in the same place. Feminism the way it has grown is a thing of one's liking, but everyone will agree to the dictionary definition, IMHO. Me and my husband, we live in Northern Europe and leftist/rpw ideas don't really clash for us. But you do you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 05:30 AM
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Here are plenty of very young people who are throwing around phrases like "overpopulation" that have no real basis in data or being edgelords. ​ Go ask on childfree, wether or not you should have kids! ​ For me, I'm a mom of a toddler and expecting our final baby - I wanted kids because I like children a lot. Also, I enjoy caring for someone. Also, it is so extremely normal to want children. That's like, the most natural thing to want. Doesn't mean it's for everyone, but that's how nature works.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 05:25 AM
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Grew up in a great family. They're married for 32 years now, they fight, but that's nothing strange. Only once we were older we saw some of the arguments, but they always kept us out of problems. It was a great way of learning couples communication, too! That's just to say, that IMHO, no fighting in parents marriage isn't central. It's how it happens. In our case, it wasn't destructive, they always searched for common ground and that's why they are still together and really love each other. For …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 06:13 PM
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You shouldn't feel bad about the fact that you postponed your education to help your family. It's actually admirable. Where are you going to meet the family? If they visit your living space, do your best to have it clean, fresh smelling. Bake something for them, cook a meal, arrange fresh flowers. Give them a little gift (I went to meet husbands parents in their house, I bought them a verrrryyy good box of sweets). Dress modestly, don't be rude, don't talk about religion, politics or money unles…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:31 AM
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I'm saying exactly what he told me. He hates to be seen as a grandpa of his own child. He said he is afraid he can't deal with the toddler and in the future it will be even worse. Different people have different views. It's very typical to see the grass greener on the other side and then be upset that it actually wasn't. Edit: also, the guy now has very bad relationships with his older kids from the first marriage, because they hate their dad for leaving their mom for a fling at work he got preg…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 07:03 AM
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Well, you're laughing about it, but the guy is serious. He says there is a huge age gap and they don't share common interests, she doesn't know what he's talking about when sharing their experiences and he is always feeling like a grandpa. He said one of the worst things is being called a grandpa when spending time with his two year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 05:57 AM
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A coworker of mine had a baby at 50. His wife was 30. He basically lives for the moments he gets to go on work trips. He is tired, he wants to just have alone time doing his own stuff. But the kiddo is a toddler. And his wife is already pressing for another one. It's pretty bad. He's been openly talking about how having a partner of your own age is so much better and has been going back to his ex wives place a lot. Yeah, he had an affair at work, she got pregnant and he left his first wife. Typi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 03:28 PM
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Our wedding cost us 900 euros altogether. Biggest expenses were rings (200), dress (300 - sadly had limited choices because I was very pregnant and that was one thing we wanted me to have) and photographer (150). Other expenses were a suit (200), cake we ordered (saying it was for a family gathering), food (we made dinner ourselves) and a bouquet, and a bit of decor I did. Honestly, getting married while pregnant gave us a perfect reason to have a tiny backyard wedding with only closest family. …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 05:01 PM
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Man, that is a super grim outlook! You can always know the truth, but therapy would give you mechanisms of how to deal with it, so you can still have an enjoyable life! Don't throw it out of the window. I think many people would be better off if they'd go to therapy instead of proudly marinating in their own misery. Myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 12:04 PM
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No fucking way, women actually have places to be and things to do, like, real people?? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:20 AM
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You do understand, that life doesn't revolve around relationships and sex only, do you? Like, there is a time and place to chat up people, but mostly when someone is going somewhere they are busy. Like, going to the doctors, to work, she is on a hurry. And once you start a discussion most guys will not let you go at all. You are stuck for half an hour, smiling and saying no thanks, but he just doesn't get it. No is a no. I mean, you can write about women being whores for not choosing a nice guy,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:19 AM
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Is it possible, that's its mental issues that are the main cause of this? I mean, anxiety disorder can cause huge problems even for the most attractive people in dating. Depression even more so. I myself have been deemed too much and too strange because of my issues. And whenever someone hit on me, even good looking guys, what made me most concerned was when they weren't balanced people. And honestly, mental issues to me are a red flag. Most people can sense something is wrong. My ex was bpd and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:09 AM
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As you are super into the nature's law, women have a ton higher risk whenever choosing a mate. Obviously they should be the ones doing the choosing. You're not risking your life and several years to have a baby of a low value man. Honestly, you risk nothing when asking someone out, except a bit of your self esteem, maybe. If you think that 50 years of birth control is going to change the way our subconscious works, yah, no. Obviously, this is not black and white. Many people do things differentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 04:42 PM
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Reading this discussion makes me think here are very few people who actually understand the dynamic. Being submissive is not a one sided deal. It doesn't mean that the woman's submissiveness in bed is one dimensional. Also, what equality are we trying to achieve, anyway? In the world of sexuality it isn't the brain and logic that is ruling, but some more biological drive. We want what we want. With a consensual partner, go for it. Bedroom is not the place for equality policing. If you think your…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 07:49 PM
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Is it not confident to trust in yourself, your partner and your rules? Isn't it confident, when a woman knows what she wants and negotiates that in her relationship? Nowadays it is extremely against the grain to be like "you know guys, I love to be manhandled". It's frowned upon. Just check out all the sobby posts about "oh no, I'm a feminist, but I feel submissive :(". It's like we have to have even our bedrooms equal for equality's sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/18 07:40 PM
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Thanks for the read!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 04:20 AM
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Obviously, this guy is a really tough alpha cookie, but I'd take his "it's just a fact, stop being so pregnant and triggered" attitude with a grain of salt. He *actually * told me how I was super triggered and hormonal, before deleting his comment. Honestly, that's his level of maturity. Listen to what your husband says, not what a random dude on the internet thinks. It's not helpful. All you look for is someone giving ground to what fears you, not what actually is connected with your husband's …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 06:00 PM
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Listen, if a man says he can't do it, that's fine. Not everyone is born able to handle these situations and views. But on the other hand, the whole way you write about birth is off-putting. Your boner isn't the most important thing in the world, mister. A woman is going through an insane situation in her life, through huge pain and you could as well be smart enough and not speak about how birth seems disgusting to you. I hope you kept this away from her. It's just what a sensitive partner would …
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 10:21 AM
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Had a difficult pregnancy and had to heal a long time post partum. Sleep deprivation is the worst. What helped was time and making intimacy a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/18 08:33 PM
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Am eastern European. We are definitely different from western women, but it depends. Baltics are way more progressive than Ukraine, Russia or Belarus et al. Most of the mail order brides come from the least developed parts of Eastern Europe, and it has a lot to do with travel and work restrictions. as the women from Baltics can simply fly to live in other European union countries and work, study and marry there. So basically even though they may marry a foreigner, they will have their life toget…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 07:03 PM
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I worked in the gender equality field and was awestruck at how many double standards exist. No one seemed to care about them, anyway. When I wrote about boys and girls education scores in my country, where every single subject is better for girls, and I honestly explained the statistics in our policy documents, I was told to have a more female approach to that, that I put way more attention on boys. When I wrote about male suicide, that is already several times higher than women's even in childh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/18 08:13 PM
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Yeah, she is liberal. It's just that her relationship dynamic is D/s in the bedroom.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/18 09:27 AM
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Thank you for your advice! I guess now it is time to practice patience, which has always been my weakness.. Regarding the deflated comment, English is not my first language - I meant it in the sense that he mostly looks tired, worn out and unhappy. He said it has nothing to do with me or our family, but himself. I am concerned about that statement, because he is being a great dad and husband. He is very self critical.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 12:33 PM
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I could say so. We liked each other since we were 5 :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 06:15 AM
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Funny to read the comments from someone living in the eastern Europe. Russians will do whatever it takes and will try to find an advantage point, just look at blm and how it grew from a tiny movement. It has nothing to do about Hillary, it's just an overall strategy that Russia uses now. They don't have the means to win economically or in warfare, so they put their resources in their troll plants, and watch how the social pattern disentigrates from afar. Sometimes it seems like you, Americans, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 05:18 AM
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Met when 18, living together at 20, married at 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/18 05:09 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 07:04 PM
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I suggest Fun Cheap or Free channel - though religious (Mormons), Jordan and her husband do strive for the "divide and conquer" attitude and they have a traditional marriage. I found them to be very useful in learning about productivity, budgeting and frugality - they have six kids and came out of a large debt, and now they are sharing what they learned.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/18 10:29 AM
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Essentially, he is just a pick up artist who happens to be married. Whatever the hell he wants (open relationship?) he doesnt even acknowledge in a straightforward manner, just manipulating, gaslighting her. Its ridiculous and an asshole move towards a wife of 12 years and mother of your children. Focus on yourself, OP. If he cheats, to hell with him. Your primary objective is to take care of your kids now. Ask for your mom to visit to help with kids, maybe.?
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 05:46 AM
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Listen. This is textbook gaslighting. This is not a humane approach towards someone you love. Couples counselling is a chance. Protect yourself and your children.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/18 05:43 AM
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Hi! I'm LittleShroom, 26, from Northern europe. Married two years, together 8 years, with a 1,5 yo kid. I am a SAHM and my husband is the provider of the family. I used to work for the government, in gender equality issues. I know, right? Still, i managed to do very well in bringing up male issues, bit the feminist environment was a bit much. As i definitely am not a feminist. I love planning, budgeting, frugal living, minimalism and art - i have a Million hobbies, such as watercolors, sewing, s…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 02:23 PM
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Where did you get your copy? Living abroad i have no idea where to get it. I found the Surrendered wife in pdf format, but not this book. I really loved Laura's book on marriage, though!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 11:56 AM
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To me, it took until kiddo started sttn. Until then i was a wreck, but i tried to still have dinner on the table and somewhat clean house. Right now, at 18 months, i feel like we are almost back to normal, except to - with a little person!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 10:16 AM
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Great advice from everyone here. I would say - dont forget to just have fun. And just be positive :) Big hug from Northern europe, as a fellow bulimia sufferer! It gets better!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 03:59 AM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 03:54 AM
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Therapy. Dude, i have seen guys who look ten times worse than you, but because they have self confidence and they are working on their dreams, not trying to catch pussy, they DO catch it. You have huge self esteem issues. Lose weight, hit the gym and change your attitude. You whine all the time, even though you should be proud of yourself for losing so much weight since february! All that negativity is aannoying. Your dislike of women also is annoying. Every woman is either a whore or too ugly f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 06:44 PM
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Before becoming sahm i was working for the government, with welfare issues, specifically - gender equality. I know, I know. But i am poud to be the reason why we now have specific policies tackling male suicide and education results. Still, it was hard for a non feminist in there!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 11:31 AM
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Honestly, if you want to star in a debate team, go for it. Youve got what it takes. Still, your skills of explaining why exactly you should not get what you want (marriage and children) wont help your feeling of lack that will eventually happen. Explain as much as you want, deep inside you will feel unfulfilled anyway. So i am out of this debate - you have obviously made your choice, now go and have it with all its reprecussions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 12:26 PM
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Do not have a child is my suggestion. Your relationship is a zero sum game. Your partner thinks that it is either his way or the highway, and the woman either has allllllll the power or none. A Madonna/whore complex of sorts. You keep thinking about how to burden him less, but have you thought about how will you keep yourself and your child safe? Lets imagine. Your control Freak of a partner, whom you have signed away the rights, becomes abusive - emotionally, physically, what not - to your chil…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 04:14 AM
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Lets keep it civil. You posed many questions. Can you put them all in a concise one?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:56 PM
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Obviously I have hit your painful spot with my questions. You said you gave up education. By giving up education you give up opportunities to improve your financial situation. By not being protected financially with marriage, you are putting your life in financial risk of what will happen if you break up. I am not an expert in legal matters in the US, I am from the Northern Europe, but all I am talking about is very straightforward and simple. Do you have a safety net? Do you have a retirement p…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 06:03 PM
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Where is your husband from, if it is not a secret? Anyway - just as others said, keep doing what works for you! I am currently a SAHM and it makes so many people's eyes roll, it is ridiculous. Sometimes it really seems that a) they think we are lazy because we are not CEO's b) they are simply jealous. Ps. I absolutely love the Fun Cheap or Free youtube channel, she is just amazing in terms of frugality and budgeting. If you are interested in becoming even a better dollar stretcher, check her out…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:30 PM
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You make your own decisions. It is obvious you value that man over everything else, your dreams, your aspirations. I am not sure if it is a healthy approach, but it is one you have taken. Still. Your partner has done everything to save him from being troubled by your existence in any way. How are you protected in this partnership? Who are you on the lease? How are your finances doing? This man seems like he has a luggage already packed to leave you at any moment. Relationships require compromise…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 05:26 PM
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O-oooh! Ciao from Northern Europe! If possible, can the cards tell me if I will get pregnant soon with my second? We've started trying two months ago!
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/18 06:13 PM
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I am that awful wife that does leave some chores to husband. Even though i am a SAHM, we have a small child. I do 90% of household chores, the 10% are occasional dishwashing husband does or groceries maybe several times per month, or if i have started my period (thanks, endometriosis!). But parenting, once he is home, goes 50/50. I wouldnt agree to me doing everything at home if we both worked full time. How are you supposed to get energy for sex if you act as a work horse all day and then a Mai…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/18 09:13 AM
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Well, American women can learn a lot from us in terms if what you mentioned. But the thing that Eastern European women should adopt is a better sense of pride, not focusing on just getting a man, no matter what he is like, just for the sake of not remaining lonely. It is difficult due to the fact that there are so many more women than men and this disparity will remain for a while. As controversial as it sounds, Eastern European women should get a bit more feminist, yup i said it. Because we rea…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 04:25 AM
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Yeah. That is definitely not the dynamic rpw is about, thats just bullshit strategy for men to have an easier life.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 05:40 AM
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Absolutely! Just get the best out, leave the rest!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:57 AM
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I am part Russian. Take it with a grain of salt. Even the relationships in the post Russia mostly have ultra typical dynamics, they are terribly unequal most of the time and i am not saying it lightly. Men expect you to do every thing while they sit on their asses and drink. Women control everything in the home. They often times dont include thenselves in parenting and arent much interested in being good providers. Women are the rocks of the family because so many men Die young because of alcoho…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/18 04:08 AM
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Yes. Me, being SAHM, is a lot different than if i was working full time and had to deal with all the household chores. Maybe i am not rpw enough, but such a deal is terrible. That wouldnt me a captain/first mate dynamic, but more like a captain/slave one. Imho, if both are working, the household chores have to be divided, unless one is working part time or so.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 06:59 PM
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After we had our baby, i accidentally stumbled upon this comic. Having your first child is a lot and dealing with everything felt like it was all on my shoulders, because most of the day i was the one with the colicky baby. We hadnt managed our roles at all. I wanted to be a superwoman, in the end, i became bitter, a bad, naggy wife and i hated myself. It was awful. I tried to manage everything on my own, because i thought i would be a better wife then. Nope. Who cares i am a strong, independent…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 06:54 PM
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Also, nothing worse than having chipped polish. Better to have no polish on at all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 05:03 AM
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Loved this. Thank you for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 04:28 AM
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Hey. Just wanted to say, it will be okay. With two small children and all that stress, i cant imagine. I remember i broke down crying in the shop because my husband told me to "move faster to the cashier" and another time he blew up because he thought i called him a jerk. I absolutely didnt. It sounds insane, but this is what babies and small children, work stress and huge life changes do to you. Sometimes it all is just too much. You two will be okay!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 04:12 AM
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To the author of the post - big hug to you. I read your comment to my reply, and honestly, this rings so much with my life. Baby who doesnt sleep and breastfeeds, arguments, buying a house.. I read and immediately i have to say - jeez, there is so much going on in your Lives! So much. Issues at work regarding raise, new mortgage on house, a small baby, breastfeeding. I do understand that it is frustrating that men are often blunt and straightforward, not trying to be gentle like us. What concern…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 04:06 AM
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There is quite a lot to unpack there, isnt it? First and foremost, a basic question - do you both want to salvage your relationship? Have you had an honest conversation on your dead bedroom situation and communication issues? Arguing and nagging and bad communication is often a cursed wheel, where it also just builds up until it is difficult to get over even simple little cranky moments. Several of your examples, if they happened in a better atmosphere, wouldnt be that bad. Often times i act a b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 10:15 AM
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Then you have no choice, yes. Your mental state is more important than trying to find common Language with them. Big hug!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 09:29 AM
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It is like telling your husband you read the Laura Doyle book and now are a surrendered wife. It is counter productive. Do these things and live your life.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 09:17 AM
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There is no reason why you cannot be a liberal and rpw. I am a great example, living in the "socialist" Northern europe, too. I would advise you regarding every thing you watch and read - remember, that nuance is everything. And read, a ton, from various sources. The truth is somewhere in the middle, usually. And if you practice being a friendly, tolerant and level-headed person, you can still be friends with people of every ideology. It is healthy to be asked tricky questions on our life perspe…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 09:10 AM
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Big big hug to you from over the Atlantic! I always give him a quirky wink and say "your loss, baby!" when he decides not to eat my dinner. Well, so be it, then :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 07:13 PM
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Wow, you guys. I am so happy i posted here, because you all wrote such supportive and well-thought advice. I was actually thinking i would get a lot of tough love, but apparently my troubles are very common and i absolutely loved reading your own stories, especially from other sahm's, because they all are so relatable. My husband is really the best man i have ever met and is just a great dad, too. And i Dont want my negativity to make our relationship worse. I wanted to do a little update on how…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 10:43 AM
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I could have written this post myself. Honestly, i do not accomodate his taste. I really cannot cook all day. My kiddo is picky, i eat basically everything and my husband is super picky. I just buy what he will eat and offer sometimes what i have cooked for me and the kiddo. He could live off chicken and potatoes for years. I aprreciate that he tries to improve his diet, though, and not be naggy about his limitations. He comes from a family that doesnt even know what hummus is. Like, seriously. …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 10:13 AM
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Thanks! Big hugs from over the Atlantic! Lots of love!
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 10:46 AM
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Self improvement, respect for your partner and regular maintenance of your relationship. Honestly, doesnt matter what your viewpoint is, how blue, red or black pilled you are. These things are great to have and do. They are universal to have a good life and a good relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:57 PM
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Yeah.. I Also wanted to add to this discussion. My husband works full time and i am a sahm with a toddler. I do my best to make all the chores, but it is an unrealistic expectation (with small children, tgere is slways tons to do!) that makes me sad. And a miserable wife is way worse than some chores that havent been done. I prioritize. First priority is to serve dinner for everyone. Second is to clean up and make sure the floors and surfaces are clear. When the toddler is easier, i do other thi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 10:35 AM
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Reading this, i cant stop but think that there is something you dont know, maybe? Has he been increasingly stressed out? Maybe he is really super tired from work, and, as the vacation is approaching, even more so and thats why he suddenly backtracked? Sometimes we all backtrack on our decisions and, if so far you both have had a great time on these date Nights and he has been supportive and excited about them, i guess it all really comes down to just bad communication on his part. When men get t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 09:38 AM
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I have been very good about stfu and overall "let it be, dont rush in to help" attitude. I actually started feeling like some guru at one point until today i made a huge step back and started doing the "i am just trying to help" thing regarding how to schedule Bank and mortgage questions. I am really pissed at myself and i apologized to him about being disrespectful, but i still happened... It all is stupid because i seriously have zero understanding of how everything works and i have been pampe…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 01:53 PM
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Great point!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 11:17 AM
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Honestly, someone telling me that i should be sumsissive to him would sound like a red flag. You want to submit to someone because your trust him and he has proven himself to you in a way that you just know - you can put decisions in his hands and he will do his best in a way that is best for you. Not because he says he is the ultra captain and now you shall be forever submissive to his ultra captainness. You Risk being taken advantage of, to say the least!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 09:27 AM
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I am not sure if it works, because most couples dont expect the SAHM + breadwinner husband model to last longer than about 10 years, once kids are more independent. Women are off to work and the issue of household chores then remains. I believe that the best way is to share the workload. Our model goes very simply - i am a SAHM and i do my best to take care of the household during work hours (clean, plan, buy, schedule kids stuff). Once husband is home, we split the chores. He watches baby, give…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/18 09:31 AM
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This is not what RP is about. Please take care of yourself and leave. You are experiencing abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 08:03 PM
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If you feel bad being blonde, your discomfort will show. Unless you want to do something radical like shaving your hair off entirely, i would say go with the sense of style you have and what you like. Also, in your situation, the health of your hair. I know many people say stuff like "try to dress / style yourself in a way that your husband likes" and i do somewhat agree. My husband has unusual amounts of hatred towards overalls for women, but i had no idea when i bought them. I decided not to w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 06:17 PM
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Id say visit a gyno. And regarding your feelings, you are not a trash bag, stop looking at yourself that way. Mistakes happen. You are only 23. Go into nun mode, think, evaluate, possibly visit a therpist, because the situation with your mom sounds horrible. As a mom myself, reading all that made me want to hug you. You will be alright. Understanding your mistakes is the first step and its already made. You can do this!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 05:59 PM
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Honestly, just hearing that carrying a gun is the manly thing to do, it makes me cringe. If you are looking to have a husband who is a real captain, dont go looking for stereotypical macho males. Anyone who thinks that carrying a gun is how you defend your family and any male who carries a gun is by definition a husband material - come on. Rookie mistake. Any man who has a mind of his own is a husband material. If he only has a gun because "thats what a man has to do", well, sounds like a phony.…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 05:32 PM
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Im from Eastern Europe too and its not true. It depends in the country and its laws. Getting a gun is difficult in here. There is no such mentality that a man has to have a gun.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 06:18 PM
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For starters, i am all for legalizing prostitution. Regarding the so called "swedish model" - their main point is to protect sex workers from gerting into the "i prostitute because i dont have education / come from a bad background / am homeless"- "i get jailed for prostitution" - "now i can only prostitute, because no one will hire me, i lack education and am still homeless". Its basically a neverending cycle that is hard to beat. Prostitution isnt just high pay high value escort. Those are few…
/r/MensRights31/03/18 06:19 PM
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I gave up my surname for his and didn't even think about it. It's a sign of respect, in my opinion. I love him and respect him enough to carry his name.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 08:23 PM
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Oh wow, a fellow poli-sci student! There are quite many of us out there, I guess !
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 08:21 PM
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As a couple we both are liberal as hell and both basically live the rp lifestyle. He does it unknowingly, but he's Russian and they are very traditional in how they set up their families. I'm fine with it. I'm 26 and a SAHM. We met in high school and I snatched him, because I felt like he has a lot of potential and he has air of authority. It made me feel safe. To be honest, my first reaction was that I found him extremely attractive. His whole being made me want to submit to him and it was very…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 08:20 PM
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I like the idea! Great for setting the right mindset!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 12:43 PM
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From a mens rights active woman - Honestly, arguing the "what about" point of view is okay. Those are valid questions. Everyone should be taken into account. In this case, the dictionary feminists should be happy about such centres for fathers, because we all need some help in the crazy journey of parenting. And gender specific help is great - mothers and fathers have many issues that are common, but also a lot of them are specifically for one or another. The issue is when anything male-oriented…
/r/MensRights14/03/18 11:34 AM
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In my country we do have a Mens day. But its Basically army day, and sadly doesnt measure with womens day. No discussion about issues or appreciation whatsoever.
/r/MensRights08/03/18 11:34 AM
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If it was up to him, I'd probably be always covered up or in a burka.. Even though we're definitely not muslim. Not like I'm showing off a lot, he just finds modest dress and long, flowy styles to be more intriguing. So I try to incorporate that, but mostly I do my strange/eccentric/artsy thing. He likes what I do and so I just keep on being myself. It goes both ways. He was a bit shy of wanting to grow out his hair, but I was very supportive. And damn, does he look absolutely handsome right now…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 07:36 PM
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Do you even love her and care about her?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 12:08 PM
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Oh yeah. I agree with the comfort part. I'm a firm believer that you can dress comfortably and still look great. Sometimes overdoing shows a hint of desperation to find a partner, to be honest. I'm talking cleavage out, short skirts, tight clothing, heels and lots of makeup. Men look at these women, but they don't choose to date or marry them. Being well groomed, in a good shape and in clothing that actually show off YOU and your personality, not just parts of you, is more important.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 12:13 PM
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