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Omg the dms are so....special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:56 PM
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Thank you so very much for your very kind words. They truly mean a lot and I have screen shot them to remember. I do struggle with giving myself grace but I know I'll get better at it. Educating or at least showing by awful example is super important since we have been raised to believe in the fairy tale. We have to change that. Bcse our daughters and nieces and sisters and friends are who suffers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:04 PM
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Also you guys are the best. Thank you for letting me get that out in a safe space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 01:53 PM
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It has (he and his bullshit) have ruined my life. I make 6 figures on top of bonuses, I am very educated and have a pretty impressive resume and education- that I paid for myself without student loans. I am currently in school again to get my MBA. I am not normally stupid but I was with this guy. I clawed myself up the ladder and put myself through school while working and caring for my child while he played in his dumb little bands and martial arts "career" and worked pointless dead end jobs- a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 01:36 PM
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I definitely understand what you're saying. This sub and that marriage from hell have really taught me alot and deprogrammed me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:23 PM
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Thank you. He truly ruined my entire pregnancy for me and then abandoned me during some very serious complications and then again during the newborn and colic phases. He truly sucks. And now I am stuck parallel parenting with him and trying to catch up in my career while he disney dads. I wish he would drop dead. And that hatred is my fault bcse I allowed it all to happen bcse loooove 🙄 BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL WHO YOU HAVE CHILDREN WITH AND WHOM YOU INVEST YOUR TIME IN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 07:53 PM
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Yep it sure is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:06 PM
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It is that bad. I had a very difficult pregnancy and on top of that my child sat head down constantly putting pressure on my cervix. It was painful and I legit felt like she would push her way out at anytime. (So obviously nothing was going inside of me and I didn't feel sexual AT ALL bcse I was alone and unsupported) My ex h had picked up a 2nd job as a bouncer at a strip club and told me repeatedly how lucky I was that he didnt hook up with any employees there. I remember telling him omg go ah…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:58 PM
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Also. Save save save save. My credit tanked from struggling to get on my feet on one income. It was hard. But I did it and I'm fixing my credit. It would've been really nice to have a "nest egg"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:27 PM
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I would like to add that In order to get my lvm to move out I had to stop grocery shopping (I only left the house to pick up or go eat with our daughter never bringing anything home), changed the wifi password, stop cleaning, and stop doing laundry. I was also willing to call the utilities and have them temporarily turned off. I cancelled his car insurance, his health insurance, his toll tag and his phone. It was brutal bcse he left 2 days later and then I really knew why he was with me. But it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:26 PM
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Yeah he even denied the data on brain chemicals increasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:54 PM
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Yes you can once you realize the behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:08 PM
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I somehow got roped into a debate about how porn and sex addiction are not real with my pornsick ex. He now wants to be a psychiatrist and since hes back in school thinks hes an expert on everything. (Also interesting is that his gf and ex gf are both therapists. How do they not see the real him?) It IS real. Theres proven data. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:08 PM
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If I can center on NOW and show myself that I’m safe, it stops (or greatly reduces) the obsessing of the Trauma Bond. I love you guys and this community. Thank you for that sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:04 PM
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oh my gosh. THIS IS THE EXPLANATION I HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR. thank you so much. if i could cry i would. Would you please tell me exactly what to google to research this more? and thank you thank you thank you thank you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:55 PM
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this is so interesting. I deeply struggle with this while trying to co parent with my childs father. He is VERY VERY tricky, smooth, and manipulative. It's getting easier but I know I still have an issue "missing" him when hes not around. (when he is around my body reacts in a flightflightflight response) and wanting his attention and spending way too much time questioning why his new gf is with him and doesnt see whats going on. He mentioned on Halloween she was at his house doing his meal prep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 06:17 PM
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Probably!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:57 PM
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My ex used to Google "how to become a Male porn star" often. He also messaged a cam girl once and was going to pay to join her only fans and then pay another fee in order to be her partner for a film. I only found this out bcse it turned out it of course was a scam and they sent me screenshots bcse they thought I was still his wife. Good times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:29 PM
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My recently ex husband is a severe porn addict and a testosterone abuser -one of the ones that follows the exact projected path of the porn having to become more violent, include younger girls, increases in depravity and then adding in men. Before our divorce i snooped and saw his most watched porn is a MMF double penetration with the F tied up behind a freaking dumpster. Disgusting. They actually punch her too. In his journal i saw he wrote he was more interested in MMF hook ups. He had always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:34 PM
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I had this happen too. I went on one date with a guy and had been feeling cruddy. Woke up the next day with the worst sore throat I've ever had to the point where I could not swallow my own spit and legit could not keep my eyes open I was so fatigued. He freaked out that I wasn't responding to him and then when i told him i was sleeping and so sick he was like let me come to your house and take care of you (we had only been on one date) and started accusing me of blowing him off. It pissed me of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:55 PM
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I am recently divorced from a lvm porn sick dude. It was a really really bad situation. I now flat out ask how much porn they watch usually at dinner on the first date. They've all been honest about it - almost proud. And theyll tell you what kind of porn if you ask. One dude I really enjoyed chatting with straight up told me he has to the have the phone playing porn next to his partner while they are having sex. I was like cool that doesnt work for me at all. The guy i am currently seeing told …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:03 PM
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this is so annoying. I live pretty far out and dont even want any guy to know where I actually live or even an area close. I usually state two areas over for a point of reference. I legit want to protect my space from male energy. I had one that lives on the opposite side of town from me say, "it doesn't matter that we are far. I am happy to meet you closer to or on your side of town. I will start researching some restaurants, send the menus over, and see where you feel comfortable (covid) and w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:15 PM
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I could not post underneath but this responded well to me not just running over at his beck and call. English is his 4th language..it does appear hes failing here but I promise he straightened up. He set up a real date for next week with reservations and later apologized and said he didnt realize what he was making himself sound like until he spoke with a friend at the drinks he was headed to. FDS works. I also have vetted him SO hard and he didnt flinch at all at my million questions including …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:06 PM
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I just want to update that this douchebag ended up ghosting me and then told a mutual friend i was "really aggressive." If they want to they will. They know what theyre doing. Theyre not too busy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:57 AM
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As per Mary Jane Paul in Being Mary Jane, always vibe one out before a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:09 PM
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Yep i realize that now. Im pretty sure he mustve started talking to this other girl at some point or was talking to her the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:41 PM
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Im thinking so or at least someone he was keeping things "casual" with. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:21 PM
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I feel this post. I am so touch deprived in quarantine I am literally aching for a hug. But you know whats worse? The hurt from an LVM being an LVM and fuckboying up your energy, time and heart. I am sorry though and I am totally there with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:12 PM
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I just saw an ad for an app like this last night on IG. I wish i would have saved it but it did have bad reviews because it cost money to access a lot of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:11 PM
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ok sorry obviously i needed to get that out. But I meant to just post I hate this and it's bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:52 PM
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I feel this. Most recent guy was so attentive and sweet and even said "am I being annoying texting you all day every day?" and then BAM! suddenly he was too busy to even send one fucking emoji or anything and would leave me on read for a day or 2. I know now he was skating me and breadcrumbing and i seriously hate him for it. I would keep trying to work around his so busy schedule and hed say thank you and then blow me off again. I also know he was purposely not ending things correctly and polit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:52 PM
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I dont think so...i mean maybe that explains the abnormal amount of walk dates lately. But there are restaurants open, and its still totally possible to do a picnic or ice cream or take out in a park. I mean the walk to me is less than doing a "take me out for a water" date previously posted. Super low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:36 PM
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thats where theyre comfortable. I have to pull myself out of it all the time. it's a new discipline
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:38 PM
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thank you so much. That helps. I just feel embarassed I guess and also shocked that he treated me like a regular guy ( i know i know) . I wanted to move on so I text to please call me or let me know if I was missing the message that he no longer wanted to talk with me ( I know - but he had so many excuses that sounded legit and i fell for them bcse I was giving passes because of the friendship) and he text back hours later to schedule a call but never called. He watched all my social media for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 08:48 PM
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what is it with the walks? gees
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:03 PM
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ended things with guy who was always "too busy" to reply to my texts and constantly bread crumbed me. I am so bummed about it and cannot snap out of it. I keep stopping myself from removing the block and texting him to "please call me so we dont leave things like this." ** edited to add he's an old friend from highschool that i have a ton of mutual friends with. Otherwise i wouldnt even entertain contacting again. This caused me to give him so many passes thinking noooo he's not like that, he do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:56 PM
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god what is it with the walks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:44 PM
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Labor pains are actually very Similar but almost less painful because its purposeful pain if that makes sense. You know it will stop and its happening to get your baby here. My awful periodd totally prepared me for 9 hours of natural labor. I was like ok this is what it feels like? Cool. Ive got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:59 PM
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I have issues with knowing when someone is not putting in effort and when theyre honestly bad texters. A guy ive seen a few times is wonderful face to face but works a job where he cannot be on the phone, works 14 hour days sometimes, doesn't always call or text when he does finally get home...and is the middle of a huge career change negotiation. He does text and call me and make plans when he is able to. But i have seen where he has texts from me that should prob have a response and he doesnt …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:51 PM
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that is exactly the phrase i was looking for "sexually passive". The checking in to see if its ok and a man being ok with JUST making out feels so weird to me. It makes me really sad that i forgot that there can be some innocence and respect and trust in sexual relationships. Just gonna keep moving forward though and try to fix my reaction to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:55 PM
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I hate it too. Its so aggressive and cave man and such a turn off. The guys ive been dating since do not touch me like this at all and i have had times where im like he must not be into me hes not sexually aggressive with me at all. And then i go omg omg NO youre still messed up. I genuinely prefer to not be touched like that but i have a lot of de-programming work to do still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:59 AM
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Another one here. It was already shut down from lack of intimacy - no affection unless he was walking by me and super aggressively grabbed a boob or butt cheek which he fully expected would turn me on so hot right then i'd want to drop what i was doing and fuck him on the floor- but things got even weirder (hard to believe) when he literally used my body to masturbate and after I said "sex with you feels weird, it feels like you're not connecting with me and you're somewhere else" and he told me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:11 PM
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Omg changing the wifi password is genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:52 PM
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I recently got my very LVM to move out by stopping all grocery shopping and chores. I told him to not touch anything of mine and i stopped chatting with him. My house got disgusting. I removed laundry items he tried to sneak in with mine. My floor probably couldve sprouted legs. I got so petty I hid food in the closets. I cut of all access to every part of me. It took a lot of my energy to be so hateful but guess what? He had an apartment in FIVE DAYS. FIVE. ​ I am sorry for you and for the cat.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:28 PM
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** an update: he has now replied - 2 days later- and says he was helping a depressed friend and got so frustrated he turned his phone off. However, I know he was posting on social media through his phone. He apologized and said "i told you i wouldn't ghost you" but there was nothing for me to reply to. So I didnt reply. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:26 PM
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thank you. I will from now on. I know this isn't supposed to have anything to do with me but it really bums me out. And thinking it all over I do now see some things I was glossing over big time. thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:25 PM
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What I thought was a HVM and was hanging out with about once a week or so has started I think ghosting me? On our last date (Tuesday) he asked me to send him my availability when i knew it for the rest of the week. I did yesterday morning and have not heard back and I am super disappointed. I really liked him but I guess I chose wrong.....again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:30 PM
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