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That isnt a shit test.
/r/seduction28/05/15 05:15 PM
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You walk away and look for someone else who does like you.
/r/seduction28/05/15 05:15 PM
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If there is already attraction why do something different with her?
/r/seduction27/05/15 04:19 PM
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Awesome, you were embarrassed. It means you are stepping outside yourself. Every PUA has had those feelings. The are preferable to regret because you can get stuck in regret. If you move through embarrassment eventually you get competent with girls
/r/seduction27/05/15 03:03 PM
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Why are you going after girls that are virgins instead of the ones that elude sexuality? I think thats the reason for your pattern. When you see two girls, one is wearing a jeans and a t shirt and the other has a "fuck me dress" which one doe you hit on? When I started to hit on more sexual girls, I felt like I was swinging out of my league and inexperienced girls were safe. But that was just me
/r/seduction27/05/15 02:48 PM
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Sounds like a rough experience but a positive one. I had to pay a grand once for a lesson because a "friend" robbed me when he heard I had cash hidden in my room. It sucked, but I needed to learn to draw firmer boundaries with people in order to keep the shitty ones out of my life. That was an expensive lesson. You paid $190 for several lessons. One, don't put yourself in a position to be taken advantage by a person unless you know them well enough to trust them. Just because she has tits doesn'…
/r/seduction27/05/15 02:43 PM
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The fact that this is the top post just shows how far this subreddit has fallen.
/r/seduction25/05/15 02:04 AM
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You are correct but seriously this could be said in one sentence: they don't put the work in because they don't believe they can actually do it. I am only saying this because you did the obvious buzz feed top w/e reasons that got me to read.
/r/seduction17/05/15 01:57 AM
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I can start a conversation but always eject too early. I know most of it is my own mental blocks about not wanting a conversation to stale, but how do you get a hook in a conversation to switch from random guy talking about the venue to guy she is having a conversation with.
/r/seduction07/04/15 12:56 AM
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That's a good place to start, but be careful not to become dependent on it in order to approach.
/r/seduction02/04/15 04:19 PM
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..... body language is cultural and some of it universal. The fact that they are talking about celebs does not matter
/r/seduction29/03/15 03:20 PM
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Youtube the secrets of body language. Not sure if it's still up but it broke down body language of famous people. It isn't 100 percent applicable but it will point you in the right direction to look.
/r/seduction28/03/15 07:30 PM
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If your defining your loser status by whether you kiss a girl, you are still defining yourself by what someone else thinks of you. Same thing if you think sleeping with 100 women won't make you a loser. Remember Will Farrels character from wedding crashers? He slept with plenty of when but he was still a loser.
/r/seduction28/03/15 07:25 PM
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I wish I could up vote you twice
/r/seduction18/03/15 09:51 PM
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What's time bridging?
/r/seduction18/03/15 09:20 PM
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Can you expand on the hook a little bit? Is it just interest or is there more than that?
/r/seduction16/03/15 04:20 PM
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Seriously, read the stuff on the side. You are asking a question that has been asked a 100 times
/r/seduction12/03/15 04:51 AM
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R/fpua would be better
/r/seduction12/03/15 04:44 AM
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This has been addressed many times, search for the answer or read the side bar
/r/seduction11/03/15 07:24 PM
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Therapy can be a big help for this
/r/seduction11/03/15 04:32 PM
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Bro look at seal, he is scared the fuck up. Like legit scars. And he is married to Hedi Klum, a model hotter than this insecure woman.
/r/seduction11/03/15 02:27 AM
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Talk to everyone, they all want to meet people. Just introduce yourself. Literally just say, "hey, I'm u/livinghonestly. I don't think we've met". I've used it 40 times this semester already. Worse case, the person is awkward and can't hold a conversation, and I talk to someone else next class. Talk to the guys, talk to the old people, talk to the chicks. This gives you social credit, because when you walk in you can 10 people to talk to about their weekend or that concert they were planning to …
/r/seduction10/03/15 02:26 AM
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I see. It just seems that it could lower your own value, but that may be just in how I view age.
/r/seduction09/03/15 02:56 AM
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I think she may be asking for you to stop fucking her so gently and take control.
/r/seduction09/03/15 02:16 AM
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Ask. Getting her to answer is much more complex
/r/seduction09/03/15 12:11 AM
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Why does it work better to say I'm too old for you, than you're too young for me? The latter sounds like she then has to qualify herself to you.
/r/seduction08/03/15 09:16 PM
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You don't go down the list and ask each one, dumbass. It's about how how falling in love is about an increase of intimacy, which the questions create.
/r/seduction08/03/15 09:11 PM
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One aspect I think you missed is because of her age she is speeding up the process and looking to find a guy fast. You're game wasn't strong but even if it was stronger, she is going in looking for something specific. Another way to improve your dates is the bring the girl to multiple venues, which builds a stronger sense of familiarity because people measure familiarity by shared events more than tome (Mark Manson discusses it in his book). And the walks between give you a chance to escalate
/r/seduction08/03/15 03:01 PM
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Don't be the guy that brings 5 guys to the party then complains about how it's a sausage fest. Find some quality content and post the links if you are upset with the stuff that gets posted
/r/seduction08/03/15 04:23 AM
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Exactly, you want to find something to associate it with. You can also break it down by syllable, like I met a girl who's name is pronounced like you -dessa. She was impressed I didn't butcher it next time I saw her.
/r/seduction08/03/15 02:32 AM
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Therapy can be a good tool for helping inner game, especially for depression. A good therapist can make a world of difference
/r/seduction07/03/15 02:17 PM
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This guy also may have no ability to carry a conversation. The problem may be on his end.
/r/seduction06/03/15 01:02 AM
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Awesome you know where you stand, step 1 down. Now for step 2 and do something about it!
/r/seduction06/03/15 12:58 AM
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Exactly. Why wait a few years though?
/r/seduction05/03/15 11:33 PM
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No worries. You still put your self out there, that's a success. Seduction is about developing a skill so you don't worry about the outcome with one girl.
/r/seduction05/03/15 11:02 PM
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Be your self (which is the most overused advice that actually says nothing). But don't be afraid to be creepy, if you hit on girls there will be some times that you say the wrong thing or its interpreted incorrectly and you'll come across creepy. Don't let that hold you back. My main advice is to end the conversation before it gets dull, don't try to have day long conversations. Treat it like a text conversation and the side bar has a lot of better advice on how to text than I can give.
/r/seduction04/03/15 05:14 PM
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Course not. I want to see how it works out also
/r/seduction04/03/15 01:36 PM
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I suggest you not over think it so much. Let it ride and see how it turns out. Be ok with fucking up because by taking shots some will miss. Mark manson uses an analogy of how he knew how to use a vcr because unlike his parents he had played around with it, messed out and learned how the vcr works. The goal is growth and learning, which will happen.
/r/seduction04/03/15 02:49 AM
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This is your journey bud, but when you're young it's easier. Everyone in class is looking for cool people to hang out with. Which is easier, to talk to a girl in your class and talk about school or approach a girl that's 25 shopping. Pussy ing out is part of the process, the next step is to not pussy out and talk, then developed solid game
/r/seduction04/03/15 02:00 AM
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Taking the shot. Best case, you get the girl. Worst case, you learn a lesson about how not to go about it. Either way, your a mile in front of most guys.
/r/seduction04/03/15 01:35 AM
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It can be, but know these draw backs. It's much more solid to go up to her before class and introduce your self and start a real conversation. Shows more value and is more of the thing a cool older guy would do compared to a young boy her age.
/r/seduction04/03/15 01:09 AM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/e7ffa/dont_friend_girls_youre_interested_in/ I suggest going to the greatest hits of this subreddit for advice first
/r/seduction04/03/15 12:23 AM
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Read the posts on the side, bunch of good information written by better men than myself about it
/r/seduction03/03/15 10:39 PM
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If he has mentored people his whole life, that means he was mentoring at 16, which sounds to an outside like a red flag for an egomaniac
/r/seduction03/03/15 10:38 PM
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If you use the phrase "how do you stay happy and alpha" you don't understand what being alpha ever truly was about.
/r/seduction28/02/15 07:48 PM
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This doesn't belong here
/r/seduction28/02/15 07:47 PM
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You need to also add your own experiences. If it's just you listening and asking questions then it becomes an interview. A conversation is a balance between the two.
/r/seduction26/02/15 07:24 PM
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This is correct but can be misleading to an AFC. By attraction you don't mean if I was 5 inches taller or wore better clothes, you also mean behavior and making an emotional connection with a girl. A hot girl gets approached by hot guys all day and flakes on most of them, how is your interaction with her different and stands out enough for her to want to see you again is what will get her to see you again
/r/seduction26/02/15 02:46 AM
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Congrats. You'll see though getting the number isn't as hard as getting her interested enough to answer and meet again. Big step man, you should reward yourself for challenging yourself and meeting it.
/r/seduction26/02/15 01:26 AM
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Of course, but you are fishing in a smaller pond
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:49 PM
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You always want to be direct but that means honest. "I think you're cute and wanted to see if you were interesting also." There isn't a one size fits all or one formula. If you talk to a woman for a minute and she is in a rush and you ask for a number, you may get it and may see her again but you haven't laid the proper groundwork to prevent flaking and most times won't get any further than just getting a number
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:46 PM
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You want to get to know her before you get the number so that she has to show her value also. Just because she is hot doesn't mean she has earned a spot in your phone. You are going about it the right way.
/r/seduction25/02/15 04:08 AM
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It's either natural and she is doing subconsciously because she likes you, like how friend natural walk in step. Or she is aware of what she is doing and either experimenting or doing it to get you to like her
/r/seduction25/02/15 03:12 AM
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This man is the only mother fucker on this thread that knows what he is doing. Everyone above us brother are insecure manipulators trying to put on a face for a girl to like because they don't like themselves. I'll get down voted to oblivion with you. OP you shouldn't go out of your way to hid anything or brag about anything. Girls like honesty and it will bring into your life girls that like you for you. Once again, fuck the idiot circle Jerk above us
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:29 AM
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If we can't get rid of those fuckers, I for one will continue down voting them.
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:02 AM
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That or it may be she got back with the boyfriend. We can't control everything or know the reason why. It's a shame but there are plenty of other women to hit on
/r/seduction25/02/15 12:00 AM
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Being introverted and being quiet are two different things. Being introverted means you don't like a lot of simulation like loud music or crowds, but prefer more quiet environment. If you're quiet either you are inhibited and stopping yourself from saying what comes to mind or you haven't practiced sharing your thoughts. It's a skill to keep a conversation going and it can be learned. It's a balance of asking questions and sharing your own experiences and thoughts (and most importantly for conne…
/r/seduction24/02/15 02:50 AM
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There is nothing wrong with you. The main cause is probably the fact that Internet dating is saturated with options for girls. Seriously, a cute girl gets dozens of messages daily. Not a reason to give up on online dating, but it's a common factor between the two. If you approached a girl in a dance class and got a first date you probably won't see the same flaking
/r/seduction24/02/15 01:22 AM
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It's all in how it's presented. I'm a psych major and it makes for interesting conversation and is a topic im knowledgeable about. I don't use the word kino escalation but explain the power of touch in intimacy. And how uncomfortable the couple across the room is with it
/r/seduction23/02/15 09:06 PM
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Simple, if you want to be safe and never come across creepy, don't hit on girls. No matter your style some girls will find you creepy, if they have a boyfriend, aren't interested, or having a bad day. So just be safe and don't hit on them. Girls can be scary and what other people think is what really matters. Sarcasm over, just embrace that it will happen from time to time, same thing with not being smooth. It's the admission price to play the game
/r/seduction23/02/15 03:10 PM
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Replace won't for can't and it's more accurate.
/r/seduction23/02/15 02:32 PM
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The key part was being yourself. Fuck his style on getting women, yours is different. The only way for his point to have any validity is if you have trouble with social signals. In which case you should study some of them
/r/seduction23/02/15 01:16 PM
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The opener sets the stage for the interaction, but your frame (how you interact) is much much important. If you go up and tell a girl she is beautiful and then treat her like a bro you are still failing. Go up to a woman and say something about the class but interact with her like you'll blow her mind if you fuck her, then you've got it.
/r/seduction22/02/15 07:58 PM
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Yes, guided meditation give you a sense of peace. In the zen tradition, my favorite, they see it as just another artificial thought. It lasts for a few hours and you feel good. But it fades. Mindful meditation is about experiencing. They want to experience all life has to offer, pain, hurt, euphoria. Everything. It has more of an application towards self improvement because you become aware of how your mind works. For example, every time I see a hot woman, I've noticed I get a feeling of insecur…
/r/seduction20/02/15 04:00 PM
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I prefer mindful meditation. The goal is to increase awareness and insight. To do it sit in a chair with your feet planted and your back against the chair, sitting. Put your hands on your thighs and pick a point in front of you. Focus on the point and count your breathes, every inhale is one. When you loss count or reach ten just start again. Let your mind go and observe your thoughts, watch them pass like clouds in the sky and try not to engage them. When you do, gently bring yourself back to t…
/r/seduction20/02/15 01:31 AM
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Someone buy this man gold. OP here is the hard truth, you are trying to whine to protect yourself from rejection. Some people get anxious so they don't have to face rejection, your brain is instead making you feel hopeless. You haven't read any material, read models my mark mansion, get a haircut by a gay man, get clothes that fit. Then go out there and expect to get rejected, its part of the process and isnt failure. You are twenty, no one is going to coddle you anymore. 20 is young as fuck sti…
/r/seduction17/02/15 04:24 AM
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I have the same hesitation that holds me back, but bottom line is after 5 good minutes of conversation neither of you are going to remember how witty the first thing out of your mouth is, the rest of the 5 minutes will matter much more
/r/seduction17/02/15 04:16 AM
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The main thing is to have fun with her and share experiences. Mark manson talks about taking her three places during a date so there it feels like you are sharing more experiences. A good one would be to have her meet you at your place, walk to the grocery store and cook dinner with her. But many women won't be comfortable coming to your place for a first date, so you need to build a lot of comfort without losing attraction and escalating. But bigger than that is enriching your life. There is wa…
/r/seduction17/02/15 04:14 AM
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Stop overfucking thinking it. Escalate. If you do so then you'll see the points to trouble shoot. Just escalate.
/r/seduction16/02/15 02:22 AM
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The same advice for what you are facing is the same advice for someone who has fear of approaching, slow exposure. I am going to guess and say that you aren't able to kino escalate, or state to a girl your intentions or desires. If so, that is a good start. Work up from saying to a girl, I think you're cute, to touching her arm/ holding her hand. DiCarlo Escalation ladder will walk you through it, each step will hopefully bring a small manageable level of anxiety that you can conquer. By doing s…
/r/seduction16/02/15 02:17 AM
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I believe you are saying the girl you are interested in are physically talking to guys when you want to approach, if so... Break the ice with the guys. The girl is expecting a man to hit on her to approach her. Your frame is you see a group, and want to have a conversation. If you do it right and engage one guy then the group (don't go out of your way to engage her) her conversation will be interrupted and end. This will make her uncomfortable and she will try to reengage herself, or you wait a …
/r/seduction16/02/15 02:05 AM
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This is a better question for r/askseddit
/r/seduction14/02/15 03:44 PM
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That your busy and you'll make it up to them
/r/seduction13/02/15 01:31 AM
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It's a lot of the same stuff, like getting your own internal validation instead of from others. It's also about knowing what you believe in and stand for and no compromise for someone else's sake. For me, I practice on my good friends and family because I felt no pressure. It taught me how to lead a conversation and have a conversation
/r/seduction13/02/15 01:27 AM
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Numbers do mean something. Getting a number means you put yourself out there and took a shot, a big step. Getting a response reflects the kind of connection you made her feel and your strength of game
/r/seduction13/02/15 01:24 AM
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Wisdom comes in many forms. I am surprised, I expected the post to get shredded by over compensating betas
/r/seduction12/02/15 09:01 PM
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You should read my other post. You can't control the fact that you've become socially inept, but you can control how much work and resilience you have toward becoming social. You can't control if a girl will want to hook up with you but you can improve how you interact to give yourself a better shot. Just being here is a first step most people don't make, just keep working and put the work it. It will be hard, but either put the work in or decide not to and stop complaining
/r/seduction12/02/15 08:47 PM
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That is not the point of the sub. Game is capitalizing on girls that are into you and turning neutral girls into you. You can't make everyone to like you, and the more fake you become to do so the less girls that like genuine men will like you.
/r/seduction12/02/15 05:05 PM
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Figure out what you want and read the posts on the side is a good start
/r/seduction12/02/15 05:02 PM
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Women don't know what they want. I disagree with your mothers advice
/r/seduction11/02/15 01:13 AM
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Easy, YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HER STILL. OK you know what books she likes and a vague idea of her sense of humor. Everything else you are pedestalizing her with is on your head. You are assuming your mom will like her, that she won't get fat and stop taking care of herself after getting into a relationship, that she isn't a cunt when she gets her period, that she isn't extremely jealous, that she would never slash your tires. You take her off the pedestal by recognizing how much of her you still …
/r/seduction10/02/15 04:56 PM
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If you are afraid of being weird or a dick, you are majorly limiting yourself. You are limited yourself by not knowing if a girl is into you or letting a girl know you are into her. You are limited yourself because instead of finding a girl you can be yourself with, you are finding girls that you have to censor yourself around. Telling a girl you think is cute that she is cute isn't weird, it's honest. Keeping it hidden is a lie in order to keep you safe from rejection.
/r/seduction10/02/15 04:39 PM
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