llffmm Archive

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1	Question: Has anybody used pupil dilation as a tool to create attraction? Throwaway is right, dilation indicates attraction. Think about "bambi" eyes a girl gets when she is really into you: The pupils are dilated, the muscles around the eyes relaxed. Conversely, pupil constriction and squinting indicates discomfort or disapproval. More generally, pupil dilation is a part of our startle response. When something in our environment startles us, dilated pupils allow is to take in more information (of a lesser quality). This is schematically what happens when a girl is fu…	/r/seduction	26/05/13 04:35 PM
1	How can I improve my accent (non-english native) ? No problem. Also, quick tip: If you get the feeling that the conversation is sort of spinning out of control due to language issues, just slow down your speech. Seriously, slow it down almost to a crawl (keep eye contact, smile etc.) Speaking slower almost always gets better results. Also, it calms you down and makes you focus less on the meaning of the sentence and more on the vibe. You can do this whenever you need to 'reset' from nervousness, embarrasment or surprise.	/r/seduction	15/05/13 12:11 AM
2	How can I improve my accent (non-english native) ? In clubs, body language/eye contact/kino will be your primary means of expression anyway. Practice those. For more conversational interactions, just own your accent. Be comfortable. If she calls you out on errors, just tease her with her cultural insensitivity or some shit. It's absolutely not a problem, and if she feels it is, then it is her problem. This goes for anything about you (unless you are a child rapist or something like that).	/r/seduction	13/05/13 08:11 PM
1	Questions about inner game Your inner game seems pretty tight. Would you mind posting descriptions/transcripts of a couple of recent, typical interactions? Maybe someone can spot an interesting pattern. Just don't quit. You may have to try a little harder than some other people, but you're clearly making progress in your life every day, and so few guys can say this about themselves.	/r/seduction	01/05/13 07:14 PM
1	Help with female body language. It's an IOI. They probably like you (including, perhaps, your boss). People touch themselves/their clothing when they want to draw attention to their body or when they are thinking about being touched there be someone else (you!) When women feel weirded out be cleavage-staring they will usually do one or more of: · Show awkwardness in face or posture · Follow the gaze (i.e. to their own breasts) · Cover their cleavage with clothing · Slouch or turn to obstruct view etc. Good, persistent eye cont…	/r/seduction	18/04/13 12:42 AM
1	Note passing conversation at library. Please review and tell me what I did wrong or right. No problem. Don't try to be a bad guy. In fact, don't try to "be" anyone, just be comfortable in the moment and enjoy yourself. Women are not (necessarily) attracted to douchebags, they are attracted to men who are confident, aligned and not afraid. If you get caught up in trying to be a specific kind of person, any girl will call your bluff and read you as trying to hard or insecure. Building attraction is very important (it's sorta the key), but don't focus on words, human attraction is genera…	/r/seduction	14/03/13 09:09 PM
2	Note passing conversation at library. Please review and tell me what I did wrong or right. You were quite focused on (and applauding of) her personal history and traits (i.e. "I love hearing about people who have an interest in educating children"). You probably came off as interesting but also somewhat of a "nice guy", who seemed more interested in keeping the conversation flowing through relatively safe talk than to just express himself and whatever he cared about. She was shy, though, which can help in those cases. Overall a good job, especially in the beginning, and she certainly …	/r/seduction	12/03/13 03:25 PM
1	I'm a funny guy, but I find myself getting stuck in, "funny mode" when talking to girls. Anyone else have this problem, or advice? Tell your jokes, just tell them slowly, with good tonality, and unflinching eye contact. Tell them because they are funny, not because you want the laugh. The core issue is, as you stated yourself, insecurity/lack of comfort. I used to be the funny uncle too, and I found that simply by improving my communication habits I would get good results, which in turn gave me confidence. If you don't have it, act as if you do, and you'll get it.	/r/seduction	10/03/13 10:58 AM