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CMVlola2555/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:30 PM
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No I’m aware that they might also just want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:02 PM
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“Wears his hat backwards” do we live in a cartoon or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 12:02 AM
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Yeah I kinda agree, that’s why I think we should normalise dating IRL again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:46 PM
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At the moment? There isn’t a anyone I know who is worth it. There are some guys I know who I think are kinda cute, but I have no idea if the feeling is mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 03:11 PM
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My native language isn’t English so sorry for not always expressing myself clearly. This is basically my issue with online dating and the reason why I think dating people you know in real life is superior. Because you already know if you have chemistry or not. When it comes to online dating. How many dates am I supposed to go on in order to know if we have chemistry or not? If the first date is terrible awkward, you are probably not going to go on a second date. And even if you’re willing to go …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:45 PM
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Yeah I get that the point of online dating is to actually go on dates in real life. When I say “online dating” I mean going on dates with someone you met through tinder (or other online dating apps). If I as a woman want to get a romantic relationship, ofcourse I want someone with who I have chemistry with. Which is extremely difficult to know when you meet someone through an app. What you are saying is completely besides the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:49 PM
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What has this to do with anything? Are you even talking about online dating or IRL dating? When you go on a date with someone you met through tinder it’s extremely difficult to know if you will have chemistry or not with the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:05 PM
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Im sorry but men like you don’t really seem to like women (based on your post) so I’m not sure why your even interested in dating women. Or why I’m supposed feel bad for you for not being able to date women. The idea that women put no effort in dating is also absurd. I would hope when you go on dates with someone it’s a mutually effort thing. And don’t women flirt? That’s already showing interest in the men they like no?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:28 AM
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40% seems like a lot. If that is true you might be right. Personally it didn’t work for me, that’s why I doubt that it worked for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:22 AM
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You are right, some people might not have that much opportunity to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:20 AM
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Yeah it’s definitely not controversial anymore to meet through dating apps. I do think it’s different if you already know each other prior. In my experience it didn’t work for me and a doubt it works for many people. But yes for some people it might work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:13 AM
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Look at the replies I’m getting “online dating works for women and for chads”. So there are people who are saying that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:11 AM
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If I’m looking for a romantic relationship on dating apps, and I find one, than it worked for me. I’ve Im using dating apps to hook up, and I find someone to hook up with, it worked for me. It obviously depends on your intentions, but my post is about people looking for romantic relationship. And I doubt that works with online dating. It has nothing to do with “good men” or “good women”. The problem is that it almost completely random person you are going on a date with. The guys I went on dates…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:10 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:06 AM
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Do you even like women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:05 AM
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Can I say something. In my experience a lot of men want to pay for the date. I’ve offered to pay (especially second and third dates), but they keep insisting on paying for them. I’ve personally never heard anyone say that in real life but I’ve seen it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:03 AM
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Having chemistry is important yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 10:48 AM
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“Work” is in they will eventually get a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:55 AM
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No going on dates with almost completely random people for the small chance it might be a good date is extremely exhausting. And isn’t really worth trying. Like I said before, bad dates make me feel terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:54 AM
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The problem is that terrible dates have an over negative affect on my mood. So I’m not interested in dating someone almost completely random in the extremely small chance that things might work out. Like I said, when you got to know someone in real life, there is already a lot of pre-selection. You already of some kind of relationship as building block and you are dating to see if you can get that relationship to the next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:29 AM
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My experience has really been: maybe one good, some okay, most were terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:24 AM
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That’s true. But texting someone isn’t the same as having a conversation with a person. I guess maybe phone calls/ video chats might be a nice replacement. Still think it’s superior to get to know someone in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:23 AM
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So going on one terrible date is having someone? If I go on one date, that doesn’t actually lead to a relationship, how is online dating working for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:13 AM
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Yes if you got to know the person first. Someone who you have some kind of platonic relationship first before you date them. Obviously this wouldn’t necessarily be true if you approached random person at a bar or something. My most important criteria would be vibing with the other person. There are different kinds of men (both when it comes to there physical appearance as well as there personality, that I could see myself with), it’s just important that we clique. That I actually enjoy spending …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:54 PM
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So just going on a date, means you’ve got a chad? That’s seems to be a very low bar for “having” someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:44 PM
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How is fewer of a bad thing worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:31 PM
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You are right. At least part of it could definitely be more of a “me-issue” than an issue that everyone has. Even though I still stand with the general idea of my post. Personally I don’t think online dating will ever work for me. I’ve tried it to many times and I failed, better to give up on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:19 PM
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No I can find handsome men on dating apps (even though I have a hard time telling if those men will be attractive or not). It’s more so the dates themselves aren’t good. A lot of them also just want sex tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:16 PM
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Yeah you go on a date, but the selection is almost completely random so it’s set you up for failure. Compared if you get to know someone in real life, there is already a lot of pre selection. Increasing the changes that the date is actually going to go somewhere. And I’ve already said this before somewhere, but bad dates negatively affect my overal mood. So I prefer no date, than a bad date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:04 PM
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No tell me, where in my post did I claim that a know what’s it like being a man? I just talked about my experience as a woman. And who are you to say that what I experience wasn’t terrible and didn’t work for me? Again, there is literally no empathy coming from you. And why am I being irrational?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 11:00 PM
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Im sorry, but do you think replying “privilege whining” when someone telling their experience, is empathetic? And did I ever assumed to know what it’s like being a man? All I’m saying it’s not all easy peasy for women either. And that dating IRL is superior compared to online dating for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:50 PM
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Are you under the impression that being fucked = a relationship. And if not, how exactly are do dating apps work for women who are interested in a romantic relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:46 PM
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So in what way do dating app work for women. Because being “pumped and dumped” doesn’t sound like it works for women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:43 PM
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I know you are not going to believe but I’m skinny. And can I say an other thing that you might not believe, but I do indeed get approached by attractive men in real life as well. Which I think is the superior way to date someone anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:41 PM
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It has nothing to do with making up your mind. If you go on a date with someone you already know in real life, there is already a lot of pre selection. You already know that you both find each other attractive and that there is some kinda spark between you to. Neither one of those things is truly true when you date someone from tinder. I know what I want. But I can’t know that based on someone’s tinder profile or short chat you have. That’s the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:39 PM
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But sending message doesn’t mean a date. On going on a date doesn’t mean an actual relationship. How many men send message to all women, without having to interest to in an actual conversation? Like is said, I’ve tried online dating, where is my chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:35 PM
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Again men telling what’s it like to be a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:30 PM
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Why should there be defined roles? Imagine being a woman that is deeply miserable being married to a man she can never divorce, why would any of the other things you mention even matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:28 PM
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I’m aware of general red pill ideology. According to you, online dating works only for women and chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:26 PM
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No I don’t think that at all. It’s you guys that are saying that online dating always works for women because they can easily date a chad. I think the whole “chad” theory is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:23 PM
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How many men should you date before you find “the one”. It’s exhausting to constantly date with different people, especially if the dates don’t go well. I’m aware that men have a difficult time getting dates. My point is that it’s not easy peasy for women either like a lot of men here like the say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:21 PM
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So you only care for women because of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:17 PM
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That is definitely true and I’m not that much of a fan of that either. My issue with online dating is that it’s extremely popular and gets pushed onto people. I think your also overvaluing sex for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:30 PM
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No I don’t think that at all. And I think this whole “chad” speak is ridiculous. I’m just wondering where my chad is. Because according to the men here all women can make a profile on tinder and in no time find a chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:26 PM
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Yes 50% of the population should be enslaved so that we could have “culture”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:23 PM
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Thanks for your honesty. I’m just don’t get why men like you, who don’t really seem to like women all that much, still want to date them. Also aren’t you admitting that dating apps don’t work for women? I mean they are just being used by chad for sex and do not get the relationship they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:21 PM
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What does my profile have to do with it? Yes you can exchange some information about yourself. But that exactly doesn’t mean that you will like each other or have a spark between you two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:18 PM
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It “worked” because people weren’t actually allowed to legally divorce or at least it wasn’t socially acceptable to do so. Plus the woman was probably almost completely dependent on the man. So she couldn’t just leave even if she wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:09 PM
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I never said it was a chads problem. But to believe what you believe, you have to assume that the majority of women are kinda stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:07 PM
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My point still stands. Online dating is to random to ever work. Whether you got a lot of matches or not, that’s irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:05 PM
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So even with online dating, not all women are guaranteed a chad. Seems like it doesn’t work for all women after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:03 PM
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I don’t actually mean “the one” as in there is just one person that could work for you. More as in finding a person who is suitable for you to be in a serious relationship with. My point is that when you get to know someone in real life, there is already a lot of pre selection going on before you eventually go on a date. You are already know that both of you will find each other attractive and you have some kind of spark between you two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:02 PM
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Do you think women are stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:53 PM
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Yes there are definitely downfalls with dating a coworker. Like when you break up but you still have to work together. I might be in a unique situation because where I work, people kinda come and go so it’s less of an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:52 PM
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That’s kinda the whole point. Yes I could go on more dates with this person. But how many dates am I supposed to go on before I know this person is “the one”. It’s not just a huge waste of time if it eventually doesn’t work out,m. But, like I also mentioned in other replies, terrible dates have a negative affect on my overal mood. So I don’t want to go on multiple dates with someone I didn’t enjoy going on a date with the first time. Yes am I aware that women have an easier time getting a date. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:50 PM
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My issue is the selection is almost completely random. When you go on a date with someone you meet in real life, there is already a lot of pre selection going on. You already know for sure that you both find each other attractive and you know you already have some kind of spark. Neither on or those you truly know when you date someone from tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:42 PM
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Yes this could alone applied to dating strangers. That’s one of the reasons why I’m not a fan of cold approaches or even dating someone you met at a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:37 PM
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Yes I agree that as a woman you will have a lot of choice. The problem is how do you know what to choose. Like I said in my post, going on a date with someone you met from tinder is almost completely random. You don’t know if you have a spark, you don’t know if you really find each other attractive, etc. It’s literally just based on a few picture and a short chat. Btw I tried online dating, both tinder and bumble and I’ve got a terrible experience with both.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:36 PM
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So women are just being fucked by chads right? How is that an actual relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:32 PM
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I’ve tried online dating, where is my chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:30 PM
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I think approaching complete stranger (with maybe the exception bars and parties) is completely unnecessary and unlikely to work. But getting to know the people around you, your classmates, coworkers, neighbours, etc is overal a good idea. Not even for dating but to cure overal loneliness. But potentially there will also be someone you connect with and can take that relationship to the next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:30 PM
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Yeah I get that. But how many people need you go on a date with before you meet “the one”. My problem (and this might be a me-problem) is that terrible dates have an negative affects on my overal mood. So I’m not interested on dates with several different men so eventually I might one that I actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:26 PM
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What I mean be pressure is more that you either date or you don’t date. There isn’t this middle ground like when you get to know someone in real life. Btw there is pressure on women to? Will he find me attractive, will he find me interesting, etc. And when it comes to online dating, men don’t necessarily have to initiate the date either. I have a much better experience when I got the know the dude in real life vs with online dating. And it really doesn’t work for women either. I love it when men…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:23 PM
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Do you think that it’s that common for women to date men just for free meals?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:54 PM
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You framed it as a question. My point is that ideally porn should also become illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 10:00 AM
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Are men, by providing those service risking STDs, pregnancy, rape, a life time of trauma, social stigma, etc? If the answer is no, than its not comparable with prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:37 AM
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The same logic could also be applied to strippers and porn stars, what’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:31 AM
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Prostitution being illegal and a social taboo definitely decreased the demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:29 AM
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In what world is casual sex and prostitution the same thing, especially from the view point of a woman. Casual sex = having sex with a man I find attracting Prostitution = forced to have sex with men I don’t find attractive because otherwise I don’t have an income.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:25 AM
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Like many people commented, being nice is literally the bare minimum for being a good person. That has nothing to do with dating. I have no idea who has given you that advice, but don’t you have eyes yourself? Can’t you observe from society what women find attractive or not. Also there is something like trail and error. Btw isn’t getting good grades at least a path way to becoming successful later? What exactly would’ve been different if men would have been told the truth? Idk how old you are bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:48 PM
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I agree with the other commentator. I think she’s asking if men would be okay with a woman who doesn’t shave her legs and armpits and what not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 10:28 PM
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