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Not always! My FIL divorced my complete bitch of a MIL and she didn’t get a cent of his pension. My MIL was also stupid enough to divorce him a year before she would have gotten tricare for life when all he wanted to do is work on their relationship. Now she’s in her 50s and doesn’t have health insurance and is dating a “musician” 🙄. FIL met a very nice widowed woman who we adore. We do not speak to my MIL.
/r/MGTOW29/01/20 10:02 PM
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Building on this, your RMV gets your foot in the door, your SMV gets him interested in you, and your RMV again carries you through your relationship even as your SMV fades. If you've chosen your captain carefully he will have what we call "wife goggles" even though your SMV is decreased. .....done some impressive things that I used to think set me apart from other people. And I'm proud of having done those things. No one is saying your accomplishments don't matter; they just aren't the most impo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 04:59 PM
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I think a better way to phrase this is your accomplishments help your relationship market value, but not your sexual market value. Your sexual market value will always be your looks, how old you are and whether you act feminine and submissive towards your captain. Your relationship market value would be your accomplishments, whether you are a good wife/mother, and whether you build your captain up. My captain loves that I'm intelligent and super into science like he is. I'm working on my doctora…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 01:14 PM
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I agree with you. My family went through the same thing with both my grandmothers. My paternal grandmother had Alzheimers and it was very difficult for my mom to take care of her full time like she need with 3 young children (one who is autistic)in the house. My parents cared for her until they had to admit she needed specialized care and put her into a wonderful nursing home/hospice. My mom visited her almost daily, even when she didn't recognize her as her daughter in law. Such a wonderful hom…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 05:00 PM
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Energy bars sound perfect! Bake a bunch of those and say something sweet that you know will speak to him but isn't too heavy. The only thing I would watch out for is sounding clingy? I guess is the way to put it. You guys haven't been dating for long and I know you have agreed to not see other people, but it doesn't seem like you are "official" just yet. He likes fishing, camping, tennis, animals, chill music Ha! He sounds like my captain. Maybe get a usb stick and fill it with music he likes an…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:39 AM
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Search for military and missionary boards/blogs. They have perfected sending any and every type of care package especially on how to ship food. What kind of foods does he like? It doesn't have to be sweets all the time. I once found a great deal on wasabi peas and sent a few cans. What kind of hobbies does he have?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:18 AM
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I second this. Themed trips for the other person are great!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 11:53 PM
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Care packages!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 11:48 PM
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Honestly, this sounds totally outside the scope of RPW, but here are my thoughts. As a pharmacy student and someone who just lost their grandmother to recurrent breast cancer in March, I'll address your 3 reasons. Health Side You haven't stated what type of cancer you had so I'm just guessing, but since you are young enough to still be thinking about children, it could have been more genetic based than environmental factors, which in turn could make your children more predisposed. I'm not sure w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 01:50 AM
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Interesting. I'm not sure of my average class age but we do have mostly women. I think a factor is we are in the deep south, where relationships still tend to be traditional
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 09:13 PM
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Really? That's like the complete opposite of my pharm school. I would say at least 60-70% of my classmates are either married, engaged, or in long term relationships and talking about getting engaged. OP please leave him. That is not appropriate Captain behavior and you should not put up with it. I find it completely hypocritical that he would talk about how awful being cheated on is and then turn around and cheat. He put himself in that situation and chose poorly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 08:53 PM
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This RPW piece of advice has definitely been the most useful for me. When my SO and I partially lived together I was almost never in the mood and would reject him a lot because I was so stressed out from school. It definitely took a toll on our relationship. I just wasn't interested in sex and didn't see the point. Part of the problem was me just getting all in my head and putting a mental block up which caused me to not take care of my man. I will always remember the night I really put this adv…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 04:16 AM
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Think about becoming a pharmacist, like I am, IF you would like to be as much in the home as possible. You will still have a doctorate and be able to help people but it is much shorter/less intense schooling so you won't have to completely put your life on hold and depending on which area you go into the hours may be flexible enough so you can still be somewhat of a housewife. If you would need to move for your husband's job it would be easier for you to relocate. You mentioned you wanted to wor…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 09:27 PM
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So it seems other military RPW think it is nothing to worry about
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/14 08:52 PM
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He left for boot camp September 2nd. I went to his graduation and he did seem super muted
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/14 08:51 PM
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but i also can't say that he doesn't seem committed to you based on the information you've given us. are you sure you're not leaving out any important details? What makes you say that?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/14 09:52 AM
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This is such a great post. I definitely have trouble with the communication part and am totally guilty of texting/calling him too much
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 05:09 PM
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Look into birth control. It literally saved my relationship with my boyfriend and my parents. I refer to those days as my bitch days because I was so horrible.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 12:12 AM
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They're a family. A dysfunctional one, but a family none the less. I've seen a lot of this. Luckily both of our fathers were also in the navy so we aren't entirely unfamiliar with the process, just with the spouse side
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 11:48 PM
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Great advice. I'll mention it slightly in my next letter. Any other tips for military spouse in general?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 11:38 PM
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Thanks for your perspective! What would be the best way to ask for a decision on something while still respecting the fact that socialization is going to be hard on him? There are a few questions I need his answer on about his cat that I feel are best in person, which is why I didn't mention it in my letters to him. I'm familiar with his A school process and definitely looking forward to when he is done. Luckily (if I remember correctly), he should be done around the same time I'm done with my f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 11:27 PM
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Thanks for this post! I've been meaning to ask anyone if they had any military insight. Your post definitely touched on some of the things I've been thinking like what it will be like when my bf comes back and the fact that I will need to get use to him leading once again since I've been making most of the decisions while he's been away. I do think we have a leg up on maintaining our relationship because we've had to do long distance before. So random question, my bf graduates from Navy boot cam…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 10:50 PM
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Did you not read? She said it's swelling from a medical procedure
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/14 11:26 AM
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Even though you've made this change in your relationship life is not going to be perfect. I think you are overthinking this (because you sound like me and I definitely did at first). You've been in this relationship for what 5 years? Consistent progress will come as long as you keep working on it. Focus on the good things you are succeeding at and not so much the bad. Even after becoming a RPW and your SO a captain, you guys are still human. Your relationship will not be perfect. You and he will…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 08:33 PM
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Your story sounds so much like mine. My bf and I have been together since high school (6 years) and I was just like you. Actually growing up together makes for a very interesting relationship. Very driven, took over the relationship and tried to control him. I was a horrible nag and yelled at him whenever I was stressed. Don't give up, I think your relationship can be saved. It will take a while but I think your SO can become a captain. Start following all the advice you find here and slowly sta…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 11:55 AM
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Darn writing with no emotion. I guess I don't understand the selfishness part? I thought acknowledging we don't have much time to have a baby and trying to do that was what we encouraged
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 10:10 PM
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I already have the right person. And we've talked about having a kid. So I'm not understand the sarcasm from you for this question
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 09:46 PM
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I ask because I've been debating between 26 to 28.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 08:50 PM
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If you only wanted one child, would you say 27 would have been a fine age?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 08:44 PM
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I really think (like a lot Red Pill things) this depends on the couple and their situation. Personally, P and I have no trouble sleeping together if we go to bed at the same time. However, during undergrad, I worked 3rd shift from 10pm to 7am and got home around 8am. I was usually still a little wired from work and sometimes couldn't fall asleep right away and would start doing other (sometimes loud) things. This drove P crazy because he is a very light sleeper. I started hanging out in a differ…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/14 01:34 AM
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If you can't take a deep breath while wearing your corset you are wearing it way too tightly
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/14 05:41 AM
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I second this. Lucy is a great resource! I watched a lot of her videos before I started my training
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/14 07:55 PM
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Eep random is definitely worse than every month. At least I could kind of predict when things were going to happen. But I totally get the raging over stupid things. My mom could say hi and ask me to take out the trash. A totally normal thing that any other time I wouldn't think twice about doing it. But that one week it would make super emotional and set me off. Thank god for understanding SOs!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 03:59 PM
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I see we frequent the same subs. I had the same reaction to each of these stories. They can't ever be happy about anything o.O I can't believe the hate for the vanity. For all their talk about how independent they are I would like to see them make something on that level.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 03:44 PM
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Actually that name was inspired the advice from you guys to be more pleasant and feminine! Without going into too much detail, I've suffered from a hormonal condition since I was around 14. It peaked and got really bad at age 16, the same time I started dating P, and I turned into a real fucking bitch every single month. Most of it was my condition, but I did let my emotions get the better of me and it was very hard to control. I'm kind of thankful P had not heard of TRP because they would have …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 03:27 PM
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It's all good! But yes he loves building things and is quite good at it. Since my student loans are absolutely ridiculous (the price of going into a medical field bleh) to save money he decided to repurpose old furniture for the apartment. Oh and did I mention he's building us a bed instead of buying one? One of the hottest/manliest things he's ever done. We will definitely be testing it out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 02:20 PM
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That's understandable. It's hard to convey every little thing through a text post and I had no idea how you guys would interpret things. I just wanted some input to make sure I was on the right track because we haven't dealt with this situation before. I'm glad I could make things more clear!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 02:11 PM
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And Saturday will be our relaxing couple day. I am definitely thinking of him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 02:04 PM
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When I say hang stuff up I don't just mean hang stuff up. He will be building things, moving furniture that I have no hope of ever moving by myself and things like that. Plus he's already said he wanted to do it. He feels like it is the traditional thing he should do and would be doing anyway over time if he wasn't leaving.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 02:02 PM
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I already did! He's very excited about it and has been trying to guess what we will be doing. Of course it is stuff he said he wanted to do but he still hasn't figured it out yet
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 01:57 PM
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On the other hand, if you just pop lists out of thin air and turn him into your pack mule, things probably won't last very long. Yes others have pointed this out but if you read my edit you will be this is not the case because he has already agreed to it. The whole list thing just threw me for a loop because other had said to never do it, but they really meant don't just hand him a list without talking about it. Also, if it were me, I would really really not appreciate the "surprise Saturday tha…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 01:27 PM
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He will be leaving for our hometown for boot camp that Sunday and we will be long distance for at least 3 months. This is the only reason why I was so worried about it getting done. Otherwise we could have taken our time
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/14 01:17 PM
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I had read earlier lists are bad and you shouldn't ever give one to your SO. But as other members have pointed out, this is a different kind of list and okay
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/14 01:21 PM
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Lol that's fine I should have been more clear! Both you and /u/F9R agree that it is okay and this is a different type of list. Thank you to you both!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:52 PM
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I've clarified my post a bit, sorry if it was a bit confusing. So when you advise avoiding a honey do list, it's don't just hand him a list of stuff to do without talking about it first and disregarding him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:48 PM
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Please see my edit. I only suggested the list because he prefers things written down, I just wasn't sure if it was an okay different kind of to do list.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:44 PM
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Oh, if he's already agreed to it, I'd say go for it. Men love nothing more than concise information. Yes I've edited my post to include that hopefully that makes it a bit more clear for everyone. He does prefer all his information written down. I just wanted confirmation that this kind of a list was okay. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:41 PM
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Maybe I should have put this in my post, we've already talked about this and he has agreed to do stuff around my apartment already. I am asking if it is okay to put it in list form so he knows exactly what to do and where to hang/put things.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:33 PM
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I won't be able to actually ask him because I will be in school all day. He already has agreed to do stuff in the apartment, the list would just be the specific things such as please hang the mirror on this wall
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:24 PM
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Well on the list I would say please hang mirror on this wall or please hang the pink curtains in the bedroom and the blue in the living room; that sort of thing. There is a list because I will be out of the apartment all day at school and unable to tell him what needs to be done because, you know, class. And I will definitely be doing more than him once he is gone. As I said I don't expect him to unpack any of my stuff or organize any of it. Just the traditionally manly stuff. The list is only t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/14 09:21 PM
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