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It’s a bit of a paradox to be attracted to women in revealing outfits but being turned off by the act of dressing in revealing outfits
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 12:11 AM
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Kinda think I look good recently but wonder if I should really go all in (man)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 11:40 PM
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Ig it’s normal but it’s weird how many women who I don’t match well with that I find attractive. Maybe it’s cause social media really rewards certain types
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:11 PM
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Well like I put effort into being attractive/fit but I don’t care that much if other people especially online think I’m attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:59 AM
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Seeing some women I know post so many pictures of themselves online illustrates to me how different people can be. It’s particularly interesting to see how much people value physical appearance/theirs while I don’t as much
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:57 AM
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🤷‍♂️. Compare for example men and women’s social media profiles for 3 minutes and you can see the pattern
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:22 PM
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Sometimes it’s like women are programmed to display their physical attractiveness. Do you think men have a similar equivalent, if so what is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 07:45 PM
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I never see guys thirst trap as much or with as much success as women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:44 PM
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What’s the male equivalent of thirst trapping
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:51 PM
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I really struggle with differentiating platonic vs romantic love. Any advice for telling which is which? Also I personally don’t have much rizz or friendship rizz (not saying that’s a bad thing)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 01:51 AM
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I just realized someone’s voice affects greatly affects how attractive I find them…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:34 AM
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Do you have a height preference? I’m a guy but I prefer taller than average women (I’m like 5ft10 and I find women like 5ft7-6ft2 to be my ideal height)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 04:53 PM
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Although sometimes it’s hard for me to tell what’s the line between them doing their job vs flirting showing some interest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:20 PM
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Yeah good point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:17 PM
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What if you then see the same woman again but when they’re not working.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:00 PM
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You see a cute woman but they’re working what do you do
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:53 PM
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How would you guys rank college majors/careers by prestige
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 02:52 PM
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Yeah that’s an option idk about special treatment though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:05 AM
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In what setting should I ask someone out in and how, there’s someone I’m interested in going out with that I see somewhat frequently but she always seem busy and idk her relationship status
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:14 AM
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I’ve interacted with celebrities and may do so more often in the future so I’d hate to date someone who thought being famous meant much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:31 AM
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How attracted are women to popularity in general? Personally to me it seems like women are more impressed by celebrities but by how much(?) and which type of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 11:22 AM
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Well 30-40 hrs of free time
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:23 PM
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I have ~40hrs of free time per week I can spend on anything when you remove my prior commitments. Money I’m willing to spend I’m not sure what’s normal, and also don’t want to heavily invest either my time or money if I don’t think it’ll work out long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:19 PM
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What’s a reasonable amount of time and money to spend with someone you’re dating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:47 PM
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It goes both ways for quiet guys and talkative girls not liking each other. Social awkwardness being punished in guys but not girls sucks but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:02 PM
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Anonymously on the internet doesn’t count
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:53 PM
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Movies definitely have an impact
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:35 PM
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I wonder if I’m just wrong for not attention seeking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:17 PM
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I’m definitely an npc but whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 05:56 AM
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Very, I couldn’t stand dating someone who doesn’t live a smart lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:19 AM
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Good friends keep it to themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:26 PM
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The optimal situation is a friend of a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:07 PM
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I think everybody should be trying to be more social irl
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:04 PM
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Age? Also the difference between 5 and 6 is small
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:43 PM
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What would be the equivalent for a woman to do
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:16 PM
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Very insane
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:16 PM
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Some basic social skills are needed like not making people feel bad/uncomfortable. Just being shy is fine
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:30 PM
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I guess it’ll change as I get older but in the spaces I frequent it always feels like women are leagues above men on the social ladder, just because they’re women. I wonder if it’s just a me thing or if this is the reality of the modern world and the social media age.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 08:17 PM
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What’s the other half?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:27 PM
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Because they tend to have status
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 03:46 PM
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Couldn’t tell if it was romantic or not but 2 classmates have asked me for my number
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:30 PM
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It’s just not realistic for most men to only use dating apps and expect to succeed
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 01:39 PM
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Good thread for discussing the differences in male and female socialization, both have their good and bad points
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:35 PM
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Overcorrection on purity culture of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:00 AM
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As a man I would enjoy no strings attached sex with the majority of attractive women, that’s just how men’s sexuality works
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:44 AM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:34 AM
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Correct
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:01 AM
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It’s great advice but it isn’t easy for a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:23 PM
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Women are excellent at black box testing, men are better at white box testing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 04:11 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:13 PM
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If you’re single it’s fine but weirder the closer you are to them, in a relationship it’s wrong to do it to anyone you could realistically cheat/interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:34 PM
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Eat less and don’t just workout your abs
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:23 PM
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Research says men prefer women 3 inches shorter them, women prefer men 8 inches taller than them and the average man/woman couple height gap is 5 inches https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886913000020
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:21 PM
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Even worse if you’re aiming for internships or have a part time job
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:32 PM
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Most university programs have egregious gender ratios, most stem programs are massive time and energy sinks AND you’re not getting payed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:30 PM
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Good attention > too much attention > no attention
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:33 PM
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Hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:28 PM
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I’m ok with like 99% of people seeing me as an NPC but like there’s 1% where I don’t want them to
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:16 PM
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I wonder if the women I meet think/talk about me or if I’m an NPC
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 04:50 PM
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“My friends are Ed, Edd n Eddy”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:54 PM
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Be more social
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:43 PM
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Not that much for a woman like HER
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:17 AM
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Popularity is a lot closer to a zero sum game than the stuff men compete on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:50 PM
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Double digit by 18 is crazy, 95% is unmarriable, the 5% who are marriable is those that only did so because of their environment and who had a change in environment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:18 AM
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I wonder what I’m at
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:15 PM
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This is a topic I find super interesting. It seems deliberate and yet if the goal is to make the characters more realistic they’ve failed at that, but rather than presenting the ideal from men’s pov they present it from women’s. Most of the time “ugly” characters are confident,strong and tall
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 02:13 PM
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I’m decent at it but I clearly don’t enjoy socializing in nearly as much situations as others do 🤷‍♂️.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 03:02 AM
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A lot of time when men complain about women’s easy access to sex, they don’t acknowledge quality of sex as a factor
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:11 AM
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Why are some people comfortable showing skin while others aren’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:20 PM
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I think straight women especially don’t like bi men because the sex card is a lot weaker on them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:33 PM
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Social proof is king
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:13 PM
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Watched the Barbie movie, pretty good, although I feel like it was made to be most relatable to 30-40 year old women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:56 PM
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Husband’s money is so much more conditional than your own money
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:05 PM
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They always appeal to the largest demographic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:04 PM
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Real
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:26 PM
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She’s still good looking and she has some health conditions
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:09 PM
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Diet
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:33 PM
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some personality traits are universally attractive: such as a certain amount of confidence & social skills some personality traits are more rewarded than others in the dating market (at least in terms of quantity): Such as being open to risk taking behaviour, enjoying activities the gender you’re attracted to do, flirting and other attention seeking behaviour. some personality traits are attractive to people who are compatible to you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:50 PM
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Women hate insecure men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:14 AM
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⁠Seems psychotic to me to sleep with so many women. Like why? ⁠That date hookup rate is suspicious. I bet he either goes for women greatly below his league or is just lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:31 PM
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Not every women is the same, the ones saying women can detect misogyny possibly aren’t the same ones getting into these situations. For the most part it’s not really accepting it so much as it is just not detecting it or thinking that’s what they deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:24 PM
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Predatory men are good at targeting vulnerable women and there’s a bunch of psychological and practical reasons for people to stay in toxic relationships. A small minority of toxic men act good in the beginning and then become toxic as the relationship goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:57 PM
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100, lost a lot of points from questions about experience and extroversion
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 03:46 PM
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Raw looks 6/10
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 08:46 PM
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Bad settling is going for someone you’re not attracted to for what the relationship can do for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:43 PM
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In reality like go with like. These men probably also have a decent body count and they have a strong preference to date someone at their level of fame,money,looks
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 12:28 AM
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I’d give her an 8, I don’t think she has particularly blessed features
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:02 PM
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No, typically it’s better money wise to have 2 partners that work and the dynamics of a stay home partner isn’t healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:42 PM
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Abusive and I wonder what went wrong for her to think that he’s the best she can do and that she needs to be in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:15 PM
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Pretty much, but it does work
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:30 PM
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Celebrities are weird, you can’t really extract much from them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:47 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 08:47 PM
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Celebrities are weird
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 09:37 PM
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Can’t believe that jealousy subs exist lmaoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:51 AM
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Age is a big factor in thus
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:02 AM
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Trashy to attack someone’s partner. If my partner was deceitful about her past, then I found out, maybe I’d break up. In this case it’s really not a surprise that Nina’s been with a lot of guys, she’s publicly been with a decent amount of popular celebs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:27 PM
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The self respect leaving my body when I see an attractive woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:52 AM
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There’s also that some people love the honeymoon phase
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:12 AM
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I cringe when I see women describe tall as an attractive trait. But I don’t really understand why.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:31 AM
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Everybody wilds out a bit online cause there’s no repercussions
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:40 AM
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7.5
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:28 AM
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Fired
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:01 AM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:54 PM
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No what would be?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 11:15 AM
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Looks are probably the most important thing when it comes to attraction. But the better looking you are the less difference it makes to be better looking than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 04:32 PM
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Most important thing although there are diminishing returns
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:40 PM
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romantic literature ignores the problems the real world relationships would have they go for the biggest audiences instead of hitting every niche fantasy portrays ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:35 AM
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Fantasies are just that, fantasies
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:01 AM
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Women get lower sex drive the longer relationships go on, it’s observed in lesbians too. Other than that - one or both partners becoming less attractive - life stresses - bad initiating processes for sex. Like the initiator should respect nos, the rejector should reject softly and it should never always be on one person to initiate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 10:33 PM
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Only women who are nice themselves see niceness as an attractive trait, and even then it still ranks lower in importance than stuff like looks, status and confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:39 PM
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Not such a surprise, people who lose weight quickly tend to not do it in a sustainable way
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 03:26 PM
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Need money to live independently, comfortably and have a safety net in case of emergency Friends and hobbies I guess is up to personal choice but I can be happy without a good partner while I can’t be happy without those. If you use your partner to get all your social, emotional and entertainment needs you’re placing too much burden on them and you’re screwed if you break up or anyone falls out of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:55 PM
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Money, friends, hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:18 PM
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N count doesn’t correlate heavily with sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 11:42 AM
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And yet women still report worse mental health 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:24 AM
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Fine 🫡, I feel bad for infertile women who wanted kids
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:25 PM
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Do you want to date the type of women that will reject you because you say you’re 5ft7?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 03:54 PM
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How men do relative to other men isn’t important. Women care about how they do relative to her. You can see this in action by observing the dating choices of educated women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:23 PM
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Just no just world fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:38 PM
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Interesting idea
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:27 PM
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Pretty useless stat then since most women don’t have regular casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:01 AM
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According to people who believe in the 80/20 rule, why are more than 20% of women ever in relationships? Also people over-exaggerate how hard and beneficial it is to be a top 20% men. Technically a decent amount of people I see at the gym or university are top 20%, but they aren’t dramatically advantaged since they’re also aiming for women who are roughly equal to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:37 PM
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Desperate for physical intimacy and to be sexually validated
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:26 PM
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I go to the gym The rest I don’t want to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 08:47 PM
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Both absolute and relative to themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:47 PM
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4
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:30 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:29 PM
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Trick question, all of them except maybe 4
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 09:54 PM
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Signals good health
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:59 AM
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don’t put up with behaviour you don’t want to, if you feel like you must then make some unreasonable demands of your own
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:53 PM
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The boost in attractiveness from makeup isn’t that big, what’s crazy is that it allows people to be attractive when they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:17 AM
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This is kind of just an online thing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:44 PM
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It does seem like social people are more physically attractive. I think it’s that there’s more incentive to be physically attractive when you’re around other people and the gender you’re attracted to. Sucks for attractive people with more solitary hobbies 😪
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:41 PM
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Negging
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:10 PM
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Only facts
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:03 PM
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Don’t see much outright disagreement but a lot of people aren’t acknowledging the gender ratio
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:56 PM
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How is this an unpopular opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:50 PM
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Warrior
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 11:08 PM
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The information gained isn’t very useful but women are very interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:44 PM
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There’s not much direct competition? Compared to say sports or video games which boys spend a lot of time and effort on. Teachers in general do a great job with what they’re working with. And it might not be worth changing the system since it works for girls
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:52 PM
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It’s not by intentional design that the school system is easier for girls but it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:35 PM
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It’s more so how the material is presented and evaluated on that men struggle with. A school system designed for boys would be more game like and maybe have more competition between students
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 07:30 PM
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Fine, sex and first dates aren’t the most important thing in the world and for what I want (a quality relationship) it’s not substantially harder for men to obtain than women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:07 PM
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School system just so happens to be designed in a way that allows women to succeed more than men. It rewards obedience which women have an easier time with. Also there’s more careers easier for men that don’t require college education.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:54 PM
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Yes and that’s not a bad thing, chasing sex and only sex is not goof
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 01:32 AM
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The dose makes the poison and difference between female and male sexualities
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:50 PM
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Even if you think sex is the end all be all why should you think that holds for casual sex? You typically get more and better sex within a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:42 PM
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1.Looks 2.Status 3.Compatibility 4.Resources But you can get a failing grade in any of them, which will make a woman not want to date you. Looks increase status Status tends to increase resources Resources can increase status and looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 01:59 PM
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I think women are more social but where they get ground on men is by doing things with pre existing friends. Like going to a concert, the mall or the gym with friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 12:30 PM
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Either ugly or unapproachable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 12:02 PM
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Just a difference in how female and male sexualities work
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:33 AM
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There’s a lot of them (beauty).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:24 AM
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8 inches taller
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:46 AM
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What’s important is to have attainable measurable goals. It’s fine to be motivated by wanting a romantic or sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:47 PM
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Sex? Yes. Romance? No. Although it’s possible that men choose to be friends with women they find attractive to a greater extent than women do
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:09 PM
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The line is subjective but in general clothes that accentuate body parts considered attractive and wearing them for that purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:56 AM
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Massive invasion of personal space and disrespectful
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:17 PM
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Yeah, 3 main takeaways - some women flirt easily and a lot - opposites can attract - a decent amount of people hide parts of who they are if it doesn’t conform to expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 11:16 PM
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Yes and yes. Although a lot of people would find it much more difficult to stay hard/wet and orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:21 PM
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Is it only insecurity to not like women who post thirst traps? Or does it make for a lower quality relationship? or is it fine but a thing that may cause incompatibility for some? I kinda think the lens of social media makes posting thirst traps too rewarding so it might just be something guys have to accept 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:13 PM
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This is true but status matters for “SMV” and you can convert money into status
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:44 PM
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Yeah at least for lower and middle class. There’s far less women marrying and staying in marriages because they have to for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:26 PM
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Women’s standards dramatically and rightfully increased from getting more rights and no fault divorce and the normalization of such things. In recent times women’s standards are artificially inflated due to the more asocial nature of modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 07:22 PM
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Quite easily, only like 10% in the world are 6ft or taller and most women care more about other things than height
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 05:28 PM
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I wonder what it’s like to be a man in female dominated spaces. I know in the reverse women get swarmed with attention
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 04:53 PM
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Women online make a lot more sense when you realize they’re just venting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:08 AM
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The optimal is friends of friends. But ask out your friends if you think it’s worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 10:11 PM
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The women in these cases have such inflated egos
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 10:50 PM
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Banger
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:04 AM
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Why do women find men in relationships more attractive then? Why aren’t women receptive to cold approaches?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:11 PM
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Women are more likely to vent, men are more likely to complain face to face
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:23 AM
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Goku
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:37 PM
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Women want to be liked by others more than men do or they’re liked by others more and want to maintain that social clout.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:37 PM
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Tbh it’s ok to have issues with how she dressed but calling her out on Twitter instead of discussing it privately is trash behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:23 AM
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It’s not messed up it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:55 PM
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wow this is my life partner
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:02 AM
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Focus on meeting and getting to know people/guys in a more relaxed social setting. And analyze what she wants in a partner vs what factors the guys she’s met offline have had that made her approach or reciprocate approaches
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 11:35 PM
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Chad doesn’t exist. No man appeals to every woman. The closest thing is fuckboys who sell a different version of themselves depending on the woman. Edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 11:21 PM
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It’s weird how despite the advantages modern western society gives to women, they’re more likely to have mental illnesses. I assume it’s cause of biology + social media + men being more easily satiated by things like games and sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:55 AM
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More in common with the 30 y.o and the power dynamic is much healthier and likely to stay consistent long term
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:05 AM
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Feeling safe ≈ social proof/Preselection. Some level of it is essentially a necessity, like the majority of women will not start a relationship with the majority of men if they’re complete strangers. It might be the biggest factor for initial attraction but I don’t think it holds up long term
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:56 PM
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Men, more physical activity
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:36 AM
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Attractive and is “just like me fr”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:45 PM
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Yeah, they look a bit wrinkled
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:28 AM
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Iron out the clothes and trim the beard and yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:25 AM
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The decline is greatly exaggerated, physically it’s a very slow decline and up to individual lifestyle choices. But for women with a preference for older men I would say there is a point where men older than them have enough wealth to have substantially more options. Mid 30s probably? Also there is the biological clock for women who want to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:28 PM
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You just gotta shave the beard and you’ll be doing fine looks wise! I expected you to look worse based off your comments
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 10:12 PM
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Free time and more freedom with choices
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 09:02 PM
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LTRs aren’t for everyone. Taylor specifically just seems like bad luck she didn’t marry the guy she was dating for 6 years
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:05 AM
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Cold approaching doesn’t work, you’re not hot and you’re bad at socializing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:16 AM
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A lot more compromise on gender norms
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:58 AM
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Not really? Not many ways to do it that doesn’t lower your position on the social hierarchy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:23 PM
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Sex definitely isn’t a need but imo physical intimacy is and in a lot of places it’s only deemed acceptable for men to get that through women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:12 PM
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4 pack vs 6 pack vs 8 pack is up to genetics
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 03:12 AM
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You can tell by looking at shoulders traps and a certain size threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:46 AM
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I wonder to what extent it’s right to treat the gender you’re attracted to differently. Like befriending women only because you want to potentially sleep with them or their friends. It seems grimy to me but if it works and you’re operating within social norms ?🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:09 PM
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I think so, for like the top 5% who are always wearing makeup and spend hundreds on beauty a month. Idk if it’s that being pretty greatly increases your social circle or only people who are very social put so much into appearance. Also in general women are more social than men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:58 AM
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It means women are/were more willing to get married with people who don’t do chores compared to say broke/ugly/short.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 10:18 AM
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Women complaining about their husbands not doing enough chores is an example of survivorship bias
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:25 AM
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Lower standards
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:48 AM
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Very good perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:32 PM
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Do most men on here really not care about how much money a woman makes? I see how for sex it doesn’t matter but in a relationship? Too much less than you and she could only be with you for your money, too much more and what’s point of the effort you’ve put in your career.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:08 PM
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Might be my favourite comment
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:03 PM
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Correct
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:52 PM
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I don’t doubt it’s true that women present themselves as more attractive than men. But women care less about looks than men. Would most men see more success if they put more into looks instead of status and career? Is what I want to know
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:39 PM
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Not trendy, women have always been attracted to fit men. But since society is more egalitarian it takes more to be attractive/ to get women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:24 PM
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😭 .The swipe rate isn’t so bad if tinder matches people randomly. It can be explained by stuff like wanting kids vs not wanting kids, LTR vs hookups, attraction and personality compatibility. It’s in the conversations that things are going wrong, (which is better offline since if you know each other somewhat you get benefit of the doubt) still I wonder what she’s doing in these convos.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 03:29 PM
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Does dick size matter? Lesbians report better sex than straight women and they don’t have dicks, also a lot of women can’t even orgasm from PIV sex
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 01:50 AM
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Making dating your #1 priority has a terrible ROI unless you’re already rich, attractive and social
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 01:31 AM
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Some people will luck out but in this era a lot of people need to make an active effort to be around members of the opposite regularly. Also a lot of people have misconceptions about what is attractive and have been temporarily hindered by factors outside of their control
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:45 PM
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I wonder how much women’s standards/attraction are absolute vs relative to themselves vs relative to the market. Like to a woman with an undergraduate degree is a man with a phd more attractive/impressive than to a woman with a graduate degree? If so that’s kinda sad for successful women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:23 PM
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That’s genuinely a possibility but if so where are women’s standards coming from and what biases in societies are preventing men from becoming more desirable to women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 07:23 PM
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Always surprises me to see the women on Reddit say they don’t have better dating options than men, when Reddit swings young and young women have substantially more options than young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:26 PM
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? A lot of men want casual sex but it’s not an issue if they don’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 11:06 PM
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I’ll never see it as an issue that most men cannot get consistent casual sex since most women do not enjoy consistent casual sex. And really think about how humanity wouldn’t have survived if the majority of women throughout history enjoyed casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:58 PM
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Sometimes I forget I don’t even want a relationship rn it’s just the biological urge to have sex and start a family
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 10:43 PM
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Your first impression is always gonna be a bit worse since people won’t know if you’re a first generation immigrant or not but your ethnicity isn’t considered unattractive for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 09:15 PM
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Negativity bias, if they’re uglier they’re more likely to get posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 10:01 PM
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They’re approaching your dog so I’d consider it closer to cold approach than warm approach
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:40 PM
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Not a surprise, I imagine the same holds for women. Takeaway should be to get some exercise in and up your protein. But getting the recommended protein without protein powder is surprisingly hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:35 PM
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1/500 * attractiveness(out of 10) * social skills (out of 10)… cold approaching isn’t worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 09:27 PM
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No but it’s not a turn off to them either
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:10 PM
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Looking at current trends the average dating life isn’t all that to so I’ll say successful dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:10 PM
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Casual sex has been on the decline, the majority of sex happens within relationships. I’d guess around 10% of men can get casual sex consistently, for those who can the limiter is how much they want it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:33 PM
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If you’re in the top 20% it’s fine so long as you do it in a place where they don’t feel trapped and you back off if rejected. If you’re in the bottom 80% it’s only worth doing if you have prior rapport with her or her friends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 09:53 PM
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The actual biggest problem with dating is the lack of reasonably mixed gender spaces appropriate for making friends and romantic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:16 PM
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Naturally meet more women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:02 AM
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Do you guys think women find introversion unattractive or it’s just a case of it lowering your options?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:22 PM
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For sex with attractive women, yes why not be easy? For relationships, no. I don’t really care if female friends or acquaintances think they could have sex with me if they wanted, it’s just a matter of biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:05 AM
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Women care about social proof so cold approaching them doesn’t work. Men are expected to make the first move Men are evaluated on status and career: (Bc of this young women have it much easier than young men and the state of the economy has a greater effect on men’s dating prospects)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:05 PM
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One of the issues with dating is that because women take a passive approach, there isn’t a positive feedback loop for men to do things that make them more attractive or “to put themselves out there”. No matter the effort you put it’s not unusual for the difference to only manifest in women’s thoughts. Because of this I think it’s imperative to focus on things you like instead of purely what’s optimal. This might look like doing more cardio than weightlifting, dressing in your style instead of fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 04:07 PM
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Video games >>>>>> sex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 04:13 PM
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Why does that matter in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 06:51 PM
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Practically I don’t think that’s a big problem since we can learn by observing actions and other’s experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:57 PM
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These are the types of posts that keep me here 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:46 PM
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Cold approaches don’t work and doing them closes more doors than it opens
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:53 AM
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If you cold approach your chances are literally less than 0
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:10 AM
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I care about intelligence, having a dead end job with no plans to progress isn’t smart… I don’t want money to be a big factor in our relationship so I’d like it if she made enough to live by herself comfortably for herself doesn’t matter past that. Working in STEM and not too much with people would be a big bonus. I wouldn’t mind a career woman if she either has passion for what she does or has specific money goals for specific reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 05:25 PM
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Dating apps are slightly viable for women but still only like 20% of relationships start from there and they have low success rates so you need to put yourself out there IRL. Also are you looking for practicing religious men or just religious or anything as long as they’re supportive? The first one is a big restriction in this day and age.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:25 PM
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I won’t make ANY efforts but if it happens naturally because of frequenting the same places(school,work or hobbies) yes. I rarely hang out 1 on 1 with friends so I wouldn’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 10:00 PM
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Where are you meeting these men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:00 PM
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Using male attention is too risky, I’d still study for a good career and wouldn’t directly abuse my looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:58 PM
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The “issue” with young men is how they’re socialized. Women are treated as having innate value but men aren’t. Which wasn’t inherently bad, in the past, it forced young men to do things which would both improve their social clout and wealth. But now?- Accelerated by the pandemic there are not enough social avenues for men to go from being treated like nothing to people (and it’s frequently disconnected from career success). It’s insane to expect every men to come out ok. Young men seem obsessed …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 07:03 PM
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Idk why you’re discounting how much women like higher incomes Still men’s SMV has the potential to increase with age: Money allows you to take better care of your health and fitness, in addition to letting you stay properly groomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 05:38 PM
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I think it’s unfair to demand they change from what they wore before you were together
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:48 PM
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Most amount of casual sex? Maybe. Successful LTR? No
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:41 PM
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Entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:59 AM
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Nice no, idealizes me yes. It’d just be wasting our time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:59 AM
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Actually I think it’s that women see sex as inherently degrading by default
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:03 PM
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This is true and messed up, the importance of platonic friendships/social circles needs to be taught to kids
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:14 AM
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Yeah I’d let them be my friend lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:44 PM
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Guys make a lot of decisions on the idea that “it’ll get them laid” so seeing the decisions they took and were told to take not pan out is upsetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:13 PM
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Don’t be friends with women you want a relationship with, ask them out while you’re acquaintances, if you don’t have enough rapport to ask them out well it sucks but that’s just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:38 PM
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Be more attractive (simple but maybe not easy depending on your starting point): work out, have some skincare routine, haircut, have a fashion sense ie copy good looking people. Be a lot more social: - do hobbies that you like the most and hobbies on the edge of what you like that have women - go to one off events with close friends
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:16 PM
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They don’t but being similar to someone is a HUGE plus, for example you probably wouldn’t see much success with lawyers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:50 PM
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It doesn’t if they’re attractive. Also what success rate are you expecting? Wouldn’t even a 5% success rate be good
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:31 PM
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I don’t think they can, it’s just how female sexuality works. But as a society we need to become more social so average people have a shot
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:11 PM
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Not social enough…(in my defence my hobbies are male dominated) not enough money (student)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:39 PM
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Personality
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 03:09 PM
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If her field is like mine yes otherwise no
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 04:00 PM
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It’d be better if women approached, since they’re the rate limiting factor when it comes to attraction but they won’t cause of biology and confidence being seen as attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 03:46 PM
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Men’s sexuality is demonized but if men didn’t take an active approach in dating there would be so much less dating happening. As the world becomes more antisocial it can be unreasonably hard for some people who would make fine dating partners to date if they don’t do some level of cold approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:09 PM
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Speak for yourself 🤧, I think for most men most height variance doesn’t change attraction but people like to conform to social norms
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:41 PM
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I wouldn’t say your standards are too high but I’d say you’re not looking at the right places for 1/50 rate. You should do activities/surround yourself with like minded people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 05:40 PM
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Yep 100%, I wonder what guys like that should do to increase the amount of potential single women they meet
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 02:15 AM
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Top men have it much much better than top women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 11:35 PM
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Not really? Or well women have a worse understanding of gender and dating dynamics because they don’t have to have a good relationship/life and they’re wired to want “high quality” relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 11:11 PM
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“A guy you know” is a biased demographic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:49 PM
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What can I say, I like complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:01 PM
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I wonder why, maybe they’re more fulfilled due to other aspects of a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 11:54 PM
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I’m still in uni but no shot it’s harder later if you’re in male dominated classes and hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:07 PM
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Imo the big issue with dating now is that everyone’s more anti social so it’s harder to meet in general, even compared to 2000s less relationships are formed. The 2nd is that women are over selecting for certain traits that don’t correlate with being a good partner/person today.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:24 PM
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I don’t like most men either but my hobbies are male dominated so there’s a lot more guys I like non sexually/romantically than women. -I do see women as equals but different -I do expect to do roughly the same amount of housework but if my partner has drastically higher standards of cleanliness she’ll need to do more
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:27 PM
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Not the original commenter but I’d say women are already redpill, it just looks different. The red pill is just explaining people’s relationship actions through the lens of evolutionary psychology. Most women already know what men want because of how much men’s sexuality is shown through media (possibly only cause beauty/fashion industry can make money through it). But what women want isn’t shown as much, instead boys are told an idealistic tale that weakly reflects modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:35 PM
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I really do think most of the discrepancy is caused by younger women being more in demand than younger men. The other thing is that there’s more women who could get laid if they wanted to( due to women having larger social circles and men being dtf a lot) so they don’t complain as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:09 PM
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Always, it’s usually a big negative
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:25 AM
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Yes, the friendzone/fuckzone happens when people misinterpret attraction for friendship. It happens a decent amount due to the differences in men and women’s sexuality
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:45 AM
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You think so? In my experience women want friendship more than men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 01:34 AM
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Advice wise red pill is kinda spot on, it’s their reasoning/ideology that suck since red pill attributes women’s actions to malice and acts like dating is rigged against men. That said one advice I don’t see enough: meet more women and don’t view every interaction with women as potential romance
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:17 PM
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For women being ugly and mean, for men being ugly broke and lacking confidence. But IRL the real reason lots of people are single is because they’re not social enough
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:58 PM
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So fake… 100 years ago women didn’t even have the same rights as men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:31 PM
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Very good points, I think that it’s harder for young men and older women to find relationships. But I think point 1 underestimates the effects personality and upbringing has on one’s lifestyle. A lot of men can do their childhood completely content with their amount of friends/hobbies/career prospects/physique and then as an adult want a relationship and just be out of luck (temporarily at least).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:18 PM
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Judging a man by how he treats unattractive women is fine but be careful not to expect them to treat them like a woman would.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:43 PM
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Go out more/meet more men and talk with people who interest you. Big 🚩 is when they’re only pretending to be interested in you apart for for your body. It’s really hard for women to know if a man they don’t know is lying or not so this is where having friends opinions is good. Best way to know independently is to talk to the men about stuff like hobbies,family,movies, etc and extrapolate from that what they really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:19 PM
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On an individual level, all we can do is encourage people to be more social. Politically: cost of living should be reduced so people don’t have to choose between work/education and a social life. And public places like libraries and YMCA should get subsidized by the government, basically the barrier of entry to social activities need to be reduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:18 PM
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I’ve wondered this, in today’s society isn’t the only thing women can only get from a partner, sex/deeper physical intimacy? And since the average Adam craves sex a lot more than the average woman, the average woman is more in demand than the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:45 PM
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🤷‍♂️, if you observe people/relationships you see that arrogant behaviour gets over rewarded
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 02:51 PM
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