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lone_rutabaga/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 10:05 PM
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Find out if any local churches have healthy divorce ministry. They’ll be more plugged in with local ideas.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 08:52 PM
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Just start a conversation man. Don’t push or rush. The details you provided are certainly promising but she needs to maintain agency. Tell her everything you said here and that you are just asking for the chance to show her you are better and earn her back then do everything in your power to make things right if she gives you that chance.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 12:06 PM
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You can pursue a collaborative divorce while also protecting yourself financially. I would close any credit cards or things where she can spend on things without being held in check. I would move my direct deposit into a bank account she does not have access to and think about how to move forward with the current bills. Are you handling it from your new account, still putting some in the old one? Who handles the finances currently? How do you handle this intermediary time? This would be differen…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 04:59 PM
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Might be worth trying. Just suggesting something different from the sports games.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:51 AM
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Maybe you should do 3 months of ps plus and try some things you haven’t before. Have you tried last of us?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:35 AM
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Unlike most of the guys in here, I was not ready to say leave or let her leave. Yes she’s being controlling and ofer reacting but it’s possible to work through that with help. Now that I see you saying she hits you and has given you a black eye, you need to let her go. Odds are she is just using divorce as a means of manipulation and control. She’s hit you before. I’d setup a camera and goad her into doing it again in view of the camera. (I’m not a lawyer.)
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:17 AM
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I have from other similar boards. Mostly trash sitting for romance scam marks. Trust the process.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 12:27 AM
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It’s possible to get online therapy. I’m seeing someone through teladoc and paying $20 per visit. They don’t offer couples counseling but my therapist offer to do it anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 01:04 PM
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I think his comment was a narrow minded interpretation of you being willing to let your kids go or he was trying to verbally slap you to wake you up. Either way, he’s an asshole but there is a point to, there your kids. If you want to see them fight for them. If you don’t then don’t complain she’s taking them to Norway. She turned your life to shit, why are you going to sacrifice and make it easy on her?
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 09:36 PM
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I hope you aren’t trying to go at it alone. Hang in there. Your past doesn’t define your future.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 12:09 AM
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I’ve got 2tb of iCloud storage and a spot where I’ve dumped things. We have separate accounts in iCloud and on computers and I’ve not shared passwords to local accounts or iCloud. I feel pretty safe but I could easily dump the stuff to an external hd and leave it in my desk at work. I may start doing that today just to be safe. I think you’ve convinced me to invest kind a recorder.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 05:02 PM
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I looked it up. It’s equitable distribution.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:56 PM
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I actually started nmmng last week and put the voice recording complication on my Apple Watch so I could record quickly and discretely but I may get a physics device too. I’m not sticking my head in the sand. We have cameras in the house and I’ve already pulled the video from when she threatened to call the police on me just in case I need them. Thanks for the thoughts.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:53 PM
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I’ve thought about it but not followed through because I have money fears. I have no way of paying someone without her knowing because I gave her access to everything 3 months ago to try and smooth things over. I’ve given her no idea that I’m seriously considering pulling the plug.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:28 PM
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Just so we’re clear, it was never gambling. It was just buying. It could have been anything and everything and it was all pretty much out in the open, only the spending was hidden by my lies and her naïveté. I am more than willing to be penalized by the courts financially. I just want to be able to have enough to have a place that is more than a 1 bedroom with a roommate and is close enough to their school that they don’t have to get up at 5 am to get ready and I want 50/50 custody. I would even…
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:24 PM
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Thanks. I’m seeing a therapist who has helped me to an understanding on this being addiction and we have started working a 12 step program. I also went and met with a local faith based recovery group, so I’m working on me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 04:17 PM
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Actually, I’m looking again and sorting by new and I still don’t see it. Based on time I would expect it to be near the top. Should I just delete and repost?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:31 PM
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I can see your comment. Before sending my message I did logout and look and never saw it. I guess it is what it is. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:28 PM
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This is a good explanation. I think the rub is, she’s sending money out to her mom for the next car, building equity in that car (in as much as a car can build equity) with no return for him since it’s not a marital asset. With that said, if the new car is just going to be a negative asset too, then don’t worry about it becoming a marital asset. Thats her problem unless you are concerned she is going to overpay money to her mom in order to hide money. Considering she did it without talking and t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 09:18 PM
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Good luck. Hoping I have similar clarity in a year’s time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 04:18 PM
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I have a wife that had an emotional affair. She said she never stopped loving me and I forgave her. We had been together around 10 years and had no kids. That was around 10 years ago. I regret not leaving almost every day. Our marriage sucked then but we were in denial. It sucks worse now but now we have kids to consider. I can’t say you should definitely leave. I can think of some ways things could have gone better had we done things right 10 years ago. The easy thing is to cut your losses. If …
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 11:40 PM
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That would make it harder for her to deny it and I assume (though I’m clueless about law), leave you in a place where you are better off legally. I’m not convinced it’s worth it but if you must, it seems like a better option.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 02:20 PM
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If she’s trying to get another man, that trim is remotely good,and he HAPPENS to see it, she’ll just say it’s an ex that’s pissed and wants to hurt her, ignore it, then throw it at him as a distraction. The man will almost definitely ignore the site. If you do it and your ex decides to get litigious, you are in for a headache. Even if you are in the right you have legal fees and court dates. Even if you win and get her to pay your legal fees, is it really worth it? At the end of it all this plan…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 12:04 PM
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