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CMVlonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:38 AM
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Question For Womenlonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:11 PM
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CMVlonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:15 PM
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NYE Purge Post!lonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:54 PM
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CMVlonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:13 AM
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NYE Purge Post!lonelinessmademecave/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:34 AM
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I am forever extolling the confidence pill. But I admit not all brands of confidence are attractive. Quentin Tarantino is supremely (and evidently) very confident. But that brand of confident energy isn't attractive. Intuitively I understand the difference, but I'm having trouble articulating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 05:16 PM
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. That's a deliberate choice with considered trade offs. My comment was more of a directionless grousing inspired by the patrons of the various personal finance and wealth management communities I lurk in. These are people who go to extreme lengths to build wealth through scrimping and saving and collecting credit card rewards and leveraging assets and whatnot. And that's fine, but at that point it's probably just easier to climb the corporate latter, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 08:37 PM
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Don't have advice. I feel like I annoy my therapist lol. I'm very organized. I keep notes. I go in with a structured chart of "what went well" and "what roadblocks I encountered" and list what my goals are this coming month and the alterations to our discussed strategies that I will implement in order achieve those goals. I can tell he resents the sheer glee I take in talking about myself. Literally suggested to me last week that we go every other month instead of monthly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:59 PM
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Let me know how the making an entirely new group of friends thing goes as an adult. While I can understand the underlying sentiment, the changing your number thing feels super dramatic. Like you want to draw attention to the fact that you're cutting them off lol. I'm sure I'm wrong, but it reads like the "plea for help" of social distancing (in the original sense of the term). You could just stop talking to them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:09 PM
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I can kind of get it. I'm on the younger end of the millennial spectrum, but the bulk of our generation were entering the job market in the wake of the financial meltdown. I can see how those relentless headlines of "OMG millenials aren't getting married and buying houses" would irritate someone with a mountain of debt and zero immediate job prospects. This was before reasonable people had developed their clickbait filter, too. Nowadays we see headlines like that and immediately know it's dising…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 05:04 PM
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I knew a guy who didn't have some particular problems with getting dates, but all girls were dumping him after just a few Lol that could be me. I'm weird in a substantially different way from your friend (never done a sexist rant - at least not on reddit I guess), but still very much weird in my own way. The thing is, I know better. But I can't seem to help it. I guess it's a pathological need to impose my weirdo sense of humor on everyone around me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 04:53 PM
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I've always been prejudiced against him because he's a "DO" as opposed to an "MD." That means he went to an osteopathic school, which is basically just inferior med school for people that couldn't get into a real one. Horribly snooty I know. But when it comes to medicine I think we're allowed some leeway in our snootiness. And I don't really consider DOs 100% authentic doctors.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 04:27 PM
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I feel like personal "financial strategy" is a bit of a crutch. Sure, living below your means and avoiding debt is a good way to otherwise get ahead. And catastrophic financial habits will leave you broke regardless of your income. But at a certain point you're leaving so much on money on the table. If it's taking you 4 years to save 20k, the energy spent micromanaging your personal finances would be better spent targeting a higher income. I can respect making the most of what you have. But if m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 04:10 PM
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Lol exactly. Which is why I would think it would be pretty unique to heterosexual dynamics. Like male thirst enables women to be picky and encourages men to be less picky, and thus "women are hypergamous." I can't imagine how it works out when sex drives are leveled.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 01:57 AM
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This is just how sexual selectivity for guys works. Most guys don't realize it. Yes we're thirsty for nearly every girl out there, but we tend to only pick up signs and/or summon the courage to make a move with the girls that really move us. Like, yeah, some guys might not realize how much attention they're getting in general, but nearly every guy will pick up attention they're getting from someone they genuinely dig. Like in that case it's more likely that the guy actually will imagine signs th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 01:47 AM
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simply don't notice Exactly. They genuinely don't notice, because they're not paying attention to the girls in question. Trust me lol when a guy really likes a girl, he'll interpret anything as a sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 01:39 AM
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lol that's just a dude's subconscious way of telling those women that he's not into them. If a guy really likes a girl, he'll be looking for signs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 01:33 AM
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Just nudes will suffice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/20 01:31 AM
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The Red Pill hasn’t existed for some time. It’s used in this sub as this amorphous catch all for whatever specific person is emotionally feeling at the time RE sexual strategy and gender politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 08:54 PM
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There’s always this tension. Should I change? vs Is this person incompatible with who I truly am? I think you just need to pick the changes that would improve your life and discard the ones that don’t, and hold out for the person who is compatible with the person you’d like to be, not necessarily the person you are currently. I tend to be in a state where I jump through these 1-2 month flings. I’m usually never the one that ends it and it ends when the girl gets to know me lol. But it doesn’t bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 08:48 PM
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My new favorite trend is neurotic shut in whiney men on Reddit characterizing themselves as the strong silent type. Who wants to tell them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 08:33 PM
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Have a meaningless award, kind stranger tips hat pets heckin cute doggo 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 08:31 PM
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I'll make a reply. You're welcome for the cheap dopamine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 06:42 PM
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Lmfao imagine thinking a dead common phrase belongs to RP. Delete this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 05:21 PM
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Getting ratiod means a discerning reply got more likes than the original tweet, boomer
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 05:45 AM
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Your 9’s are 10’s, your 8’s are 9’s and your 7’s are 6’s. You missed the real 7, which is well groomed and facially attractive but not full figured. 8 is very pretty. 9 is very hot. 10 is both. Straight up beautiful. Trust me on this. I’ve been judging women for how they look my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 04:41 AM
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I feel like you’re missing a step between 7 and 8. By the way IMO the comical sanctity of the 10 in any rating system is the biggest stupid cowardly low life tendency I see on Reddit. 10’s exist. Archetypal beauties. Rare, sure. Attractive enough that their beauty is a defining feature of their lives, yes. But 10’s exist and you encounter them and the 10 absolutely has a place in a rating system that goes from 1-10. Otherwise it’s 1-9 a rating system. The 10 doesn’t exist just to elevate the 9. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 02:00 AM
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Lol and with 17k likes is the reply “so you're just walking into dinner parties saying ‘to me, getting ghosted is the same as getting raped’?”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 08:21 PM
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I liked the first season. Totally lost interest by the second season.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 07:23 PM
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It sound like you're experiencing the beginning stages of gender dysphoria. I recommend exploring this further with a therapist and, when you're comfortable, start looking at what next steps will like for you. There are options, now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 07:13 PM
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It’s the last 7-10 pounds that are hard. When you’re significantly overweight it’s much easier. When I was 60 pounds overweight, it took me almost as much time to lose the last 10 as it took to lose the first 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 07:24 PM
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It’s official. Twitter has overtaken Reddit as my primary online bullshit stomping ground. Am I ascending to normiedom?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 06:05 PM
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lol me too. Unfortunately 4x games are like the kings of games with obtuse learning curves. But it’s worth it!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 11:33 PM
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Total War: WarHammer games. Both of them. I was immensely obsessed with them for a few months. They are just tremendously fun and addicting. And I only played the campaigns. There’s a little bit of a learning curve, but it has a great and very newbie friendly community, so it’s easy to get started.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 11:30 PM
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lol I don't know what I'm saying at all. Just stringing words together, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 08:13 PM
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Okay but in my defense I was being silly. Like the idea of a fat person - and I genuinely was fat - losing weight and suddenly advocating for the shaming of fat people seemed, on the face of it, patently ridiculous. Sheesh. I didn’t realize there was a legit use case for that mentality lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:11 PM
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I've been poor and I've been rich in my life. It's way easier to get laid when you're poor tbh. Like as long as you're not DEAD broke, you'll still get to chill with poor girls. And the thing about poor girls is that they ARE SO LOOSE. Now I live in a city where all the young single women make like 150k+. It's a nightmare lol because their standards are so freaking high. They don't give a fuuuuuuck about how much money you make really. Don't get me wrong. They won't date poor people. But being e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 02:48 PM
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I always thought she looked like Bob Dylan. She also has the dopest chest tattoo that I've yet seen on a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 02:37 PM
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Voted for Biden. Lifelong Dem. of the neoliberal sort. I was also being facetious, bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:36 AM
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Yasss
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:32 AM
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While you’re no doubt correct, this is really about bringing other people down to raise our self esteem. It’s important. And who cares what the fatties think amirite?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:50 AM
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We need to normalize fat shaming. I hear you. I once was a vocal opponent of fat shaming in any form or fashion. But then I lost the weight. But we need to also normalize scrawny shaming for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:34 AM
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I think you realize what’s going on. I’m not trying to make you look dumb. Just trying to have a dialogue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:09 PM
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You can stamp your feet and if it makes you feel better, go for it. Women do not have to cater their lives to your personal preferences. The flips side is that you don’t have to either. If you want to hold out for a woman that shares your values, nobody will stop you nor should they.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:06 PM
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It is an opinion. It’s how you feel. I shared how I feel and you feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:04 PM
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Well it might be unacceptable to you. You can’t speak for other people. But you can speak for yourself and you can believe and feel how you want. Here’s the thing. If you feel one way it’s very easy to believe at first that other people must feel the same way. And if they say they don’t, they are just “kidding themselves.” But it’s just wrong. Because you learn that other people are capable of feeling differently. And you learn that you can only expect to speak for how you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:00 PM
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It’s the girls decision. My personal opinion of what she “deserves” has no bearing on her life. Nor do their opinion on what I “deserve” matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:58 PM
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Would you be open to the possibility that people aren’t kidding themselves? And that maybe they just think differently? I’m a guy and I don’t at all think this view is at all commonplace among any other guy I’ve met But where does that convo get us? Nowhere. That’s why we should worry about ourselves and not other people’s personal preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:56 PM
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The difference is that society is indifferent to personal preference. Whether you like it or not. We have a universal preference to not die in the middle of the road. Your wanting virgin women is very much a personal preference. And to expect that your personal preference should also be a social dictate enshrined into law is ridiculous. You have a set of values and that’s fine. You cannot expect everyone to share those same values. And it turns out most people don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:50 PM
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Man people can choose to pursue what they want in life. You can only speak for yourself. No unfairness is at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:38 PM
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People can decide to marry or not. It’s not unfair to men or women. You don’t get to decide whether people can choose one or the other. It’s not relevant to you. You can have your preferences and that’s fine. But they are very much personal preferences. And nobody is required to cater to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:36 PM
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Yeah man. You’re allowed to care about a partners sexual past. I’m not saying otherwise. I just don’t get why you think that people who don’t care to adjust their behavior to better fit your ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:26 PM
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Why is it not fair? I don’t get where fairness comes into play at all. Whether a guy or girl is anxious about someone else’s sexual history appears to me to be resoundingly their own problem. I wouldn’t think you would expect people to cater their lives to your personal values. Like I find the virgin stipulation to be ridiculous, but it’s your business and your preference, and it wouldn’t be fair of me to say you can’t feel that way. But if it so happens that you have trouble meeting people that…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:23 PM
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Huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:12 PM
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its disrespectful of them not to wait for their long term partner I don’t want to diss you for believing this, but it’s a very antiquated belief. Are you religious by chance? How old are you, if I may ask? I’m not trying to set you up or diss you. I’m just curious. it’s not fair to me This is where you lost me, brother. You have a set of values that most people just don’t share. Why would not being able to impose those values on others, who don’t feel the same way, be unfair to you? Again, not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:08 PM
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Virgin women aren’t some hot commodity for anyone that isn’t possessive and/or insecure. Imagine clamoring for a girl that’s bad at sex, will fall in love immediately, and probably prudish & dry af. I think I see the appeal if you are also a virgin. But otherwise I don’t get it. And after a certain age, you’re not going to find any neurotypical adult virgins tbh. Not that they aren’t out there, just that they’re exceedingly rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 04:56 PM
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You know, I’ve been reading about narcissistic personality disorder. The overlap with incel behavior leads me to believe that many incels are dead ringers for clinical narcissists. In a way it’s good that many of them can’t get laid. Imagine the havoc they’d cause if they were good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 04:37 PM
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I disagree. Maybe in a photo you saw. But tbh I can’t really defend this or explain it. For some reason she just is exactly my thing. I’m not happy about it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 08:52 PM
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This is why polling has been fucked. At some point in order to actually address the problem we need to re-enfranchise the flyover blue collar peasants. On one hand by doing so we would restore a functional democracy and stave off extremism and gridlock. On the other hand flyover blue collar peasants are gross as fuck. It’s a quandary and there are no obvious solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 07:43 PM
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Lol I do. And I don’t personally care for nerdy girls. But let me tell you that lifting won’t really help you with them. Being in shape, yes. Obviously. But being jacked would be to your detriment. Their dream man is a gay anime cat boy after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 07:32 PM
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Pre-Covid you would go to board game night. But competition for the nerd girls was fiercer than the competition for normie girls. I’m talking 5:1 gender ratios at best. All the girls were slobbered after by nerdy engineers who all thought they found the one girl in their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 07:06 PM
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Imagine thinking women want to walk away from sex with their clitoral hoods intact. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 07:02 PM
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Unfortunately I can no longer watch Schitt’s Creek. I’m irrationally attracted to the actress that plays Alexis. Every time she has a scene in her jogging pants I just want to pinch her clit and break her cervix. It legit hurts my enjoyment of the show. I couldn’t tell you what it is. She isn’t beautiful. She’s old. She just happens to be exactly my type lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/20 05:10 PM
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I think posts should have a 400 word limit. I've never read a post here that couldn't easily be rewritten in 400 words or less. Let's inspire concise writing and cut down on the amount of random drivel in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 05:09 PM
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OMG is this what women consider hard work? Anything that requires a step or two between showing up and getting money deposited in her bank account?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 04:53 PM
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As is the case with everything, it is up to you, really. The concepts of free will or determinism don't even apply to the universe. None of our ideas really do. IMO free will is just a framework to talk about life as we experience it, strictly from our perspective. You have choices every day. Whether you were always going to make those choices is irrelevant to you. You still make those choices. You can decide not to be fat. I agree that it’s really easy to be fat, and grow up fat. If you lived y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/20 04:18 PM
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Bruh have you seen the interviews with him and his husband together? Pete is definitely the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 09:31 PM
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Because it's not the actual problem. Most people who don't have girlfriends aren't anywhere nearly as fucked up about it as the incels are. The problem is that incels have the emotional coping skills of a toddler. Not necessarily their fault, esp when anxiety and OCD come into play, but that's the actual problem. But as always incels fail to comprehend that maybe just maybe everyone else might have a point and re-examine their perspective. Instead they just double down on their convenient world …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 05:39 PM
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Lol a lot of the advice given to incels is 80% correct. Incels are just incapable of understanding it because they have a mindset that allows for them to throw temper tantrums about being unfuckable. The truth is incels need to figure it out for themselves by growing the fuck up. I’m confident most do tbh. And then they’ll look back and realize the shit people were telling them was correct for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:05 PM
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For a while my pettiest revenge against someone breaking up with me was to react outwardly shockingly well. Like my response is usually along the lines of a “ya dude it’s all good.” In my mind they are devastated by how little I care. But then I realized, wait: I’m literally just making the break up incredibly easy for them. Worst revenge ever. The next time someone breaks up with me I’m going to try hyperventilating on the floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 02:57 PM
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I voted for Pete Buttigieg in the primary. It was important to me we have a president that sucks cock and fucks other men in their assholes. But alas he dropped out after I mailed in my ballot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 07:45 AM
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I’m gonna be honest. I forgot what I was on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 07:10 AM
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And you’re probably not even right about them. Whenever anyone says anything about all of the people I know It tends to be projection. I would know. I project all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 05:00 AM
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Given that it’s an fb linked mobile game of scrabble. You’re prob playing exclusively against senile boomers. If you think you have it bad, imagine what the female nurses have to put up with when the bedpans get changed. But good for you. It’s good to keep the mind engaged. Wards off dementia.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:56 AM
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It’s comments like these that make online conversation drift into total and utter nonsense. The average 21 yr old is not jaded at all lmao. It’s just not even slightly true. What happens on Reddit - and I’m guilty of it too - is someone feels some kind of way, makes a massive completely incorrect statement because it’s fun and cathartic, and the resulting conversation based on that irrational and emotionally charged and untrue premise is necessarily utter and complete drivel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:22 AM
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Did you upload a profile pic for mobile scrabble?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:13 AM
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Imagine wanting to have sex with your wife 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 06:03 PM
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Lol sure. I mean I don’t really care, but this sub is mostly a catch all for vague gender/sex politics that would be banned elsewhere. Not the intended purpose, but we just so happen to clamp down when we get to tranny talk? 🙄 It’s fine. I don’t care. JUST SAYING
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 07:14 PM
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I mean this is PPD. The standards for decency are delightfully liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 04:19 PM
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My mother had a publication called The Feminization of Male Slaves Now that is some interesting baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:52 PM
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Yo. Do you need like... medication? Otherwise you need to elaborate, w/o stepping into "unfocused crazy" territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:45 PM
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what are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:35 PM
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Lol I posted a couple of extraneous posts about Trans people because I’m bored and because I know that those topics generally make people squirm. However the mods deleted them so quickly, for reasons that don’t make entirely too much sense. Lol I genuinely think the mod team is bigoted. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I can’t post a “would you date a Trans man” thread, but I’ve seen 5 million “would you date an ugly man” or “how low would you settle” threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:05 PM
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Wholly unrelated but I have a question about vaginas. What does white discharge mean? Is it normal or a sign of disease? All I know is, if I see it, my tongue ain’t going anywhere near it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 06:14 AM
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I read this comment in Ben Shapiro’s voice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 05:01 AM
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I’m putting you down for “never seen porn” and “dry ass pussy”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:39 AM
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It will be just like your pornos Unpack this. Cuz it sounds like you’ve never seen porn in your dry ass life. Also, uh, it’s modern women that are fighting tooth and nail to be treated like men...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 03:26 AM
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Dang. I was really hoping you’d be down. Idk what to do with all of these paddles & butt plugs now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 02:14 AM
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I for one am glad you got that barely related tangent off your chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 03:56 PM
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At any age a super low bf% isn't flattering on a women. It usually isn't an issue, since women tend to build less muscle and burn less fat. Guys start to gross once they fall under 10%. For girls it starts to get dicey under 20%.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:38 PM
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Yo same. I still always do an inaugural hard butt slap to test the waters. If it's met with anything other than unbridled enthusiasm, the butt slapping stops there. 4/5 times the response is a variation on "Ouch. What the FUCK," so thankfully I'm not swimming through murky waters there. And I get it. I've been on the receiving end of a lot of a lot of biting. IDK why so many girls find chewing on me sexy. Shit hurts. But I can't even see the phrase "corporal punishment" without getting a half ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:24 PM
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How do we feel about spanking? Yay or nay? It's my biggest kink. I have met only one girl that vibed with me on that. But she also explicitly identified as a sub. Maybe other girls would have been into it too. I just have ZERO idea how to even broach the subject. I'm happy to just keep it to myself. I can be sexually fulfilled w/ more straightforward sexual shit. When it comes to spanking, I'm not talking about some hard butt swats during sex. I'm talking about full on role play with implements.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 01:48 PM
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lol she liked you and thought you were the shit and wanted to gas you up. but hey, congrats I guess, the rest weren't as into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 01:28 PM
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Ya most adults figure out that the energy/time to reward ratio isn't worth it, once the novelty wears off. Committed relationships v. efficient tbh. Probably a huge part of their appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 12:54 PM
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I’m in my late 20’s and I have noticed a generational divide brewing between zoomer and millennial women on the Terf issue. JK Rowling was the line in the sand. Just try separating white women of my generation from their Harry Potter. They would rather picket for gender essentialism than let anyone tell them that hogwarts isn’t real.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 04:01 AM
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I think there’s a difference between happening to be exclusive w/ someone and an expectation of exclusivity. Committed to monogamy? You got a boyfriend/girlfriend. Because you don’t make those commitments to friends. The inverse is also true. In an open mairrage? Congrats you live with your FWB & your subversion of the word “”marriage”” offends reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 09:25 AM
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Lmao if you’re exclusive with an FWB you’re in a relationship full stop. Like congrats, you have a boyfriend/girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 09:08 AM
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I pop in and out of this sub every few months, and I swear to god I’ve read this post before. I mean it’s all samey, to an extent, but it’s so weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 06:29 PM
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I feel like I usually can tell now. But it takes a lot trial and error. If you’re expecting a guy who has never been flirted with to really understand the difference between flirting and someone being nice, you’re literally asking for the impossible. Which you’d know with a little social EQ. Lmao women always boast about their social intelligence, but I really do wonder sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 06:26 PM
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Lol the women who view “sex” as losing are trying to hit so above their bracket they get fuck zoned by dudes clearly out of their league. Hey ladies, guys commit all of the time. If you’re having issue with this, it’s probably because you’re not punching in your zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 06:07 PM
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Collagen is a protein that aids skin strength and health. Some people claim the supplements prevent wrinkles and can help tighten loose skin. It’s not proven to help with loose skin at all, and idk if it actually helps, but I just took it in case it did do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:21 AM
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I get the best conversion rate and the best matches on bumble. I just get way less matches. I also low key like not having to make the opening move. Ya most girls just “hey” but I don’t have to spend a minute working out a good opening like I do on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 03:30 PM
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That’s more about fat distribution. Different people carry weight differently. Obviously it’s healthy and totally normal for women to carry a higher percentage of body fat, but chunky arms are almost always a sign someone is overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 02:36 AM
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If you want to know if she’s fat, look at the arms. Women can’t cheat this with angles.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 06:53 PM
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Right on. I got you fam. an adult male whose hobby is being entertained by virtual toys designed by other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 02:06 PM
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Bruh I’m just trying to imagine. My picture was accurate af.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 02:00 PM
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FUCK. This is awkward. It’s okay I understand. I just want u to be happy ❤️❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:37 PM
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Weird. Cuz I’m p sure I just fell in love with you a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:31 PM
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Wait bruh so the world has to choose between raising girls with normalized expectations of what healthy relationships look like OR a healthy output of Moana/Tamatoa slash fic? The sacrifices we must make j to forge a brave new world for our children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:24 PM
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While you’re no doubt correct, let’s not pretend that even if this new gen of girls is brought up strictly on Moana, we wouldn’t then see fan fiction crop up of Moana trapped on an island with Tamatoa the evil crab god, wherein she uses love to ✨mend him✨
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:13 PM
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P sure women find Stockholm syndrome hot af. Oh no. I’m being held captive by this moody and powerful and rich and super hot royal chimera with a tragic backstory and a giant private library. Oh whatever will I do? 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:02 PM
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The thing about corona is that you’re super contagious. Which works in your favor tbh. Hospitalize pussy ass betas just by breathing in their direction Plus society tells her she can’t see come over and see u. Like look at it from her perspective. Ya ur super contagious but you won’t infect her, cuz u love her. Sure you have covid but she can change that in you wit her love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 12:21 PM
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Imagine being in your 30s and playing video games. Picture this: an adult male whose hobby is being entertained by virtual toys designed by other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 12:07 PM
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I’ve discovered the new game and it works. Bros, just be depressed. You’ll naturally not give a shit on dates, which keeps her guessing. You’ll naturally come across as wearied and rugged. 5 o’clock shadows. Stylish bed head. It’s kinda like when you get a cold and your voice sounds all rugged and masculine. Well depression is the cold for your mental game. Plus, the sleepless nights will give you those ✨bags✨
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 11:21 AM
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That's because at least half of them are exercises in creative writing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 08:10 PM
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I wish I could be more into asian girls, because asian girls are the only girls that consistently pursue me. Honestly, it feels like asian girls are into basically anyone other than asian men. Ditto for Indian chicks with Indian dudes. What's up with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 08:03 PM
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You just gotta use the right quote dude. Here’s a pro level cormac-McCarthy-pilled opener: Hey girl Listen to me When your dreams are of some world that never was or some world that never will be, and you're happy again, then you'll have given up. Do you understand? And you can't give up, I won't let you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 06:23 PM
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I stole u/TheLotusLover’s tinder strategy of spamming quotes from Blood Meridian and it totally worked. I’m getting like a 60% response rate. Wtf? Now I’m totally Cormac-McCarthy-pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 11:24 PM
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What’s the secret, u/selective-autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 11:50 PM
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lmao I have been rejected by so many women this summer. a troubling pattern has arisen. We talk on the app, I get the number. :) Chat via text/snap. Schedule a facetime :) Facetime. Flirt. Decide to meet at a park or a restaurantoutdoor dining. :) Meet up. Goes kinda weird, then good, then kinda weird. :/ "Hey I had so much fun!..." :) Ghosted and/or "Hey, I had so much fun too. But..." >:( 8 times & counting :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 11:03 PM
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Oh lol I know The Smiths. Mostly from the OG incel movie "500 Days of Summer"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:43 PM
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Hot take: Incels are going to be cool be in a few years. They're going to be whatever is the modern day equivalent of "hot topic-ified." Everyone and their hip mother will want to be an incel. Real incels are going to bemoan the "commercialization" of incel culture. New incel music will arise. Radiohead-lite bands will abound. It will, thankfully, pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 03:28 PM
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my life has been going pretty well, and work has picked up, so I haven't been hanging out here. This sub is reaching levels of black pill I wouldn't think possible. Where black pill ideas were once scoffed at are now filled with a lot of, "Okay, so the black pill exists but why the fuck did you loser men think your lives had any value in the first place??????" I get the point of these posts. It would be therapeutic for low value women and low value men alike. The men get to pretend they're some …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 05:44 PM
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It depends on where you live. A "good job" might not be enough, but it is a baseline for consideration. Kind of like getting goods isn't enough to get into a good college, but without them your resume is thrown into the trash. The ""easiest"" way IMO to gain status is to find a sub culture and seem "dominant" in it. Women only like men they perceive to be "better" than her, and more importantly better than other men. The thing is that "better" is subjective. You have to be "better" in regard to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 10:33 PM
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So things have been going really well with that girl I met the other day. I’m hoping things continue to go well. We’ve got our third date in a week and a half coming up tomorrow. Also I got wasted with that tinder girl the other night; the one who was a foot taller than me and wanted to be just friends. Well we slept together lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 05:31 PM
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Why are the politics obsessed - like the ones that follow the minutiae of national political reporting - almost always off-putting losers IRL? I guess it's just another form of escapism. If anything it's even more annoying, since you can obsessively indulge and maintain some sort of guise that you're doing something important, as opposed to just escaping into some unchallenging, self-satisfying, masturbatory cerebral rabbit hole, which is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 11:00 PM
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It’s definitely gonna get quarantined if it gets too much bigger. Shame cuz I actually think the mods here have done a model job for the most part. As long as it doesn’t devolve into an unchallenged echo chamber. Mods do a clever thing to combat this by changing most post formats to CMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 08:10 AM
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Oh dear. You sound like one of my scum fuck neighbors. It’s like they’re rooting for me to go back to back to smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 07:05 AM
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They banned delivery to SF addresses too
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 02:23 AM
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God fucking damn it. SF stopped selling e-cigarettes of any kind. All of the stores seem out and won't restock. What the fuck?? Regular cigarettes are still sold here; it makes no sense to me. I hate this fucking city so fucking much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 12:22 AM
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Breath of the Wild is so cool. It's essentially an unstructured sandbox. You can do anything. The topography is really freaking cool & alien, and the means of traversal are so much fun. I've been having fun just exploring. And all of the game systems just work together so cohesively. IDK. It's been a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 06:25 PM
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Finally cementing my newfound Reddit dwelling loserhood by playing video games. For whatever reason video games never held my attention before, but now I’m finding myself playing this game called “Breath of the Wild” and having a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:57 PM
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Gonna do this museum night thing. They serve drinks and stuff after hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/20 04:54 PM
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Okay. I just met the most amazing girl at a professional event. She’s cute, she loves the same weird bad movies that I love. We ended up hanging out for an hour or so. I don’t know where this confidence came from, but I just asked her out. And she said yes!! I’m feeling too positive; I need u/geyges to mercilessly bring me down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 04:14 AM
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The random do-nothing girls who end up with doctors or the like never realize they are dating the desperate losers of the bunch. It's like when you're hanging out with an older kid and think he's cool, until you look back and realize that kid was a fucking loser with no friends his own age. The high achieving men with options tend to opt for the high achieving women in their peer group.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 11:40 PM
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Where does this attitude come from, I wonder? Why chide men for having any sense of internal value or self esteem? I see this a lot. “The problem is that a lot of the men assume their lives and personhood have value, instead of just accepting the obvious fact that they’re fucking losers’” “Oh, your interests extend beyond the most petty and superficial bullshit to ever occupy a human mind? That explains a lot actually”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 05:51 PM
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Either way, it’s just false. The effect that nutrition has on height is rather negligible in almost all cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 08:14 PM
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This grinds my gears so much. Nutrition makes up for like half an inch, and that's severe lack of nutrition. It's bad enough that I guess I'm ugly because I'm short, but I hate that it gets twisted around to somehow be my fault that I'm short, cuz it's an outright lie. Short guys are not malnourished. They lost the genetic roll of the dice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 06:59 PM
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I’d like to get a dog. Unfortunately I can’t in my current circumstances. My apt won’t allow pets, and I’m gone for 12-14hrs a day during the work week. Someday though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 09:12 PM
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Man I’m just so sick of feeling lonely and rejected and worthless. I feel like I’m rotting away. I’m upset. I’m also upset that I’m so upset. Am I really this lame? Am I really this weak? Why can’t be happy with just who I am, regardless of the sheer amount of rejection I face. Why the constant self-pity? That’s one issue that I have with the “you should be happy with yourself” crew. I’d take that to heart more if it came from people who were as alone as I am. They’re out there, I’m sure, but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 08:11 AM
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lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:53 PM
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So I've got another tinder date. Completely set up by her. Her first message, totally unprompted, (and slightly paraphrased here) "hey cutie, always wanted to meet a XXXX grad before. In the city for the weekend." Got her number, but we'll see how I could fuck this one up. Might be getting catfished or robbed. Who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:26 PM
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Calling yourself "blue pill" is hilarious. TRP is a Matrix reference. The red pill is "harsh reality" and "the blue pill" is the illusion. Calling yourself "blue pilled" is buying into the premise that everything you believe is wrong. The "blue pill" needs a better name. How about "normal"?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:16 PM
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I think your average woman feels pressured to do more upkeep than your average guy. Whether that pressure comes from men or just other women, IDK. But girls are vastly tougher on immutable attributes. So by default I can't ever take women seriously when they bitch about this. Imagine being too short to be attractive to 99% of the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:10 PM
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I feel like the fuss women make about the Dinkles is almost entirely performative.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:29 PM
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Looksmatch week has me thinking. How does height dock your point total? I assume you exponentially decrease for every inch under 5’10. Let’s be generous and say I would be an 8 if I were 6’. Then I’d be a 7 at 5’10? What would I then be at my real height at 5’8? A 4/5?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 06:54 AM
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Get a new job. Either apply internally or move companies. If you're not feeling challenged or excited, you could be stagnating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 02:47 AM
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:-)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:41 PM
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I rarely fuck anyone ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 10:18 PM
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This is something that I struggle with. I can't tell how ugly I am. I'm like 5'8, but I'm in shape and, I think, otherwise goodlooking. Who exactly is my looksmatch? What kind of women should I be going for?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 08:11 PM
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Lol I just want to like a woman and have her like me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:55 PM
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I've quit so many times, I'm something of an expert :P Haven't smoked in a couple years. I'm a full time juul-er now. I'm not happy about it but I haven't successfully quit that for more than a few months. Let me know if you find something that works. I feel like I badly want to quit, but I'm always finding excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:53 PM
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She shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 02:39 AM
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lol i'd probably just kill myself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:35 AM
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I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:28 AM
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Is it possible to resent your situation without resenting women? I'd argue it is. It's nobody's fault. But you can still be upset at the state of things. I don't hate women for passing me up cuz I'm short or whatever. I just hate myself and my situation and my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:23 AM
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And I'm saying there isn't a valid answer to that question, because I think you took the wrong message from the posts bitching about it. I don't think men think they are sexually attractive and women just made a mistake. It's obviously not for them to decide whether they themselves are sexually attractive or not. They just want limit their pursuits to the kind of relationships/encounters that come from sexual attraction. But it's obviously not for guys to decide whether they are sexually attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:18 AM
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I think guys, such as myself, just wish they could be desired. And not just used for god fucking knows what. This is obviously a fantasy. Since women don't desire me or I guess not even most men. It's fine. But why is it so awful for guys to wish otherwise? Or surprising when guys are upset when they find out they aren't - and in some cases, will never be - desirable? Why should men be overjoyed that some woman who isn't even attracted to him will saddle up with him just to use his him? Beta buc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 01:10 AM
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Right. But why would you care either way? Outside of ""emotionalism""
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:54 AM
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I mean long term homelessness is an actual tragedy. Its a state that inflicts life long trauma upon those experience it. I can't believe you're using that to score some kind of point. What kind of person are you?!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:40 AM
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I just don't get how the math is going to add up for them. If women genuinely believe that the average woman deserves better than the average man, then there's gonna be a lot of single women lmao. And maybe that's fine. But it's weird to do the whole "Ha, you're more miserable than I am" thing. It smells like projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:29 AM
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Well this was a mean-spirited post. Hope it made ya' feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 12:19 AM
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SF in general sucks for dudes Yeuuup. Moving here was the start of my dating woes. I was never a Chad, but I never thought I'd see the day where I struggle like I do now lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:06 PM
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I feel like you'd have to explicitly communicate that you need to wait at that point. Cuz that ain't normal, at least in my area/age bracket. Most guys would take it as a sign of disinterest. But I feel like the right guy would wait if he knew otherwise. Maybe just desperate guys? I would be willing to wait, but I'm also super desperate lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:43 PM
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You're buying real estate out here? Damn. That's enviable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:37 PM
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lol the bay area transforms people into the exact type of nutcase who would post here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 10:26 PM
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Yep yep. I live in SF.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:29 PM
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Past weekend I jammed with a sludge "band" during an informal tryout. I was on bass which I never even play, but they need a bassist, so... They said they'd call me 😳 This is almost as bad as dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:51 PM
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The key is stress. Stress is a super useful tool. Make yourself really stressed out, work yourself up in a state where you feel like a total failure until you do X. Think things like if "I can't do X I'm a fucking useless loser, and I'm going to punish myself by doing Y." Make sure to keep these thoughts on a loop. You'll get it together eventually. The secret to success is viewing stress as a challenge and not a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:28 PM
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That guys sounds familiar. He sounds like me!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:26 PM
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IDK what kind of adult in this day & age waits 3 months?? Normal guys would just assume that 1) she isn't actually interested in him and 2) she's using him for free food on dates and shit. Lmao the 3 month rule just selects for desperate guys, and filters just about everyone else out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:25 PM
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It's basically the only thing a guy can attempt in order to become more physically attractive to women. No, it's not a silver bullet. But it's at least something we can control. I can't make myself taller, but I can at least lift. The mantra-like stuff comes from the sense that it gives guys a sense of agency in an otherwise hopeless situation. It's about more than working out. It's about trying to feel in control of your life & happiness. As is the case with most things, it's also vastly harder…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 06:22 PM
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These comments in general are a bit defensive. Me? I’m all for it. I expect my burgeoning alcoholism and spiraling manic depression to reel in the ladies any day now. It’s all apart of sexual strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:26 PM
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What can I say? I disagree. I think the number of men that feel the same way would surprise you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 08:35 PM
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Nope. We want to be desired by a women. Paying for sex would just make me feel so much shittier tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 08:29 PM
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I used to go to equinox back when I lived right next to one. Kinda pricey but the amenities were worth it and it wasn't as crowded when avoiding peak hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 04:19 AM
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I think women don't go around complimenting men because guys would mistake that as a sign of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 02:15 AM
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If it's a one off, it's fine. If it's every single time, you start to get angry at yourself and your predicament. Directing that anger at women is obviously a mistake. It's just a sad shitty situation for many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:47 AM
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I think guys more commonly guys are just understandably frustrated at their situation. No sane person wants to force anyone to fuck someone they weren't attracted to. But it's really crushing when you're apparently unattractive to any women that you could possibly be attracted to. It makes you feel like a failure and a loser. Is it women's fault? No. It's no one's fault. It just really fucking sucks. And that's all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:41 AM
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I don't really get where hypocrisy comes into play at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:18 AM
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Sure. I don't really view a relationship with someone I wasn't attracted to as an option. I don't know how anyone could? But just to clarify, it's not like I have crazy high standards. I find a majority of physically fit women in my age bracket to be physically attractive. But, no, I would not be interested in trying to have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. For all I know, I wouldn't even be physically capable of it. And I obviously wouldn't pursue a relationship with someone I was active…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:15 AM
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miles better. TBH most dudes would find that ideal lmao. I'm not one of them, I don't think. But as opposed to nothing at all? I'd take that option in a second.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 01:04 AM
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I mean, like OP points out, I get that attraction isn't negotiable. I don't really think about it in terms of "standards." I just know when I like someone. And I know that chronic rejection from these people makes me feel bad. I'm not asking women to fuck people they don't find attractive. I know I'd be incapable of that. But I know that a lot of women don't seem to have an issue finding people they're attracted to that are willing to fuck them. Whereas guys like me do. And it fucks most of us u…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:50 AM
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I'm not talking about someone you find beautiful that you see walking down the street. We all see those people. And we don't get hurt, because we don't approach, and we know it's unreasonable to believe that person would find us attractive. I'm talking about literally every person you've liked enough to attempt to pursue, including people you've grown to like over time, not reciprocating your feelings. If that's applicable to you, and you're unbothered by that, then I think you're an extraordina…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:37 AM
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I get it. Which is why I don't blame women for not finding me attractive. I think that's pointless. But it still makes me feel like shit and, after a while, it starts to etch away at my self-worth. Do women know what it feels like to be chronically rejected by every person you find attractive? Maybe some do, but I have a feeling a vast majority don't. I'm not accusing women of anything. I don't blame them at all. But after a while I have to start taking a look at myself and wonder why I'm so unw…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/20 12:13 AM
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That actually makes a lot of sense to me. I think that's the one thing I never picked up on in the "insecurity vs confidence" discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:59 PM
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I hear ya. You're right, it's not a smoking gun. It hasn't been for me. But I think people encourage lifting the way they do not because they actually believe it, but because it can help, and it's something productive you can do that gives you a feeling of agency. I think I'm in the camp of false hope > no hope. Which is not to say I think it's false hope per se, but it's not exactly the answer. I think it's uncontroversial to state that you're more generally attractive after lifting for a few y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:58 PM
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Honestly, you have to take geographic region into account. I always thought the height thing was a meme - I did just fine back home and in NYC - until I moved to SF. Sure, my observations might seem unrecognizable to someone that lives elsewhere and vice verse, but I'm not pulling it out of my ass. I actively don't want any of this to be true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:46 PM
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i also feel like people can sniff it out easily and it hurts your chances I'm kind of skeptical about this. On one hand, it makes intuitive sense. Why wouldn't insecurity and lack of self-esteem, both of which are kinda unattractive un-masculine traits, manifest itself in a detectable way? But I've come to the belief that a lot of people feel insecure and inadequate and just hide it very well. I kind of think women may be even worse at detecting it, because some women seem to genuinely believe t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:35 PM
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I feel like this sub would be banned or at least quarantined if it were any more popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:26 PM
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lol yeah, metal and jazz won't exactly bring in the ladies. Hopefully I'll find an indie band that's open to interesting musical expression (and not just corny atmospheric elements). i feel like staying close and social with friends who have girls in their lives has to help. I could see how this would be true in theory. But sometimes I wonder if going out with them just makes me look worse in comparison. I'm not incredibly short, but I'm shorter than average, and I think I probably look even sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:41 PM
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Yeah, the bay area sucks. My friends seem to be doing okay though, which makes it doubly frustrating for me. My favorite genres to play are metal & jazz. I'm not really good enough for most jazz bands though, but I've done it before. But I'm open to any genre. I've played in bands before. Whether it's fun or fruitful really depends on the other players and their process. The genre doesn't matter so much. I can bring my own thing to other genres.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 09:16 PM
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I know this is probably not a thing, but I'm going to try to join a band to get laid. Conventional means aren't working, and I've been playing a lot lately just by myself. Might as well try to do something social with it, cuz it's otherwise a giant waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:46 PM
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I appreciate it. I really don't want to believe that I can't somehow have what my friends have. I'm sure I have no choice, but I think it's good for me to just continue to try to improve things and believe that it'll get better in the near future.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:38 PM
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I appreciate what you're saying. I truly do. However, I can't accept that my situation is futile. That will drive me crazy. I have to believe that there is something that is in my power to change to make this situation better. I really, really don't want to miss out on dating/fucking around in my 20's. Because to be honest, I'm starting to wonder what this is all for. I realize I might not have a choice. But I just need to believe that I can make it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:24 PM
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IDK if people realize that "lifting" is what makes guys look normal and healthy in most cases. It doesn't necessarily make you buff unless you're a dedicated hobbyist bodybuilder, and even then you won't look like the roided out examples you provided. Funnily enough the body that belongs to the """skinny guys""" you mentioned can only be achieved by working out. That's what most guys who lift look like. Guys don't come prepackaged with musculature. I really don't understand why you're shitting o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 08:16 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:52 PM
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IDK if you've ever had the experience of being on each side, but the "sex" guy has better relationships. Some women seem to find "sexual attraction" in relationships as negotiable. I've been in a relationship where my girlfriend at the time truly did seem to "desire" to me and it was miles better than the other """relationships""" I've been in. All of the issues that I just thought were normal just didn't arise in the former relationship. I didn't feel like I was the only one putting any sort of…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:24 PM
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IDK. I feel like a lot of women are stricter about looks than guys, when they judge solely on looks. It makes sense, since guys generally are thirstier for girls than vice verse, but just thought I'd point out that the standards on OLD aren't equivocal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:17 PM
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I don't think words like "fairness" can really be applied here. I certainly don't blame women for fucking people they find really hot. I don't blame them for not finding me hot. But it's extremely irritating when I hear women scoffing at guys for ever expressing their frustration, when women categorically do not face the same issues that a massive plurality of men face. Most women won't really know the self-esteem crushing frustration of never being good enough. I work out almost every day. I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:11 PM
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As soon as all that business is dropped, it's actually extremely easy for a man to get laid. This really doesn't apply to me, although I wish it were true. I've been really trying to put myself out there for the past few months, and have just gotten my self-esteem crushed. I haven't found it "shockingly easy" to get laid at all. I really don't get these kind of posts tbh. I don't see why people are so enraged when a guy has struggles and expresses frustration with those struggles. When people re…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 07:00 PM
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idk if I'm "desperately pining" over her. But hanging out with her does bring up my own sense of inadequacy. Cuz this is a person I would've been willing to date who doesn't want to date me. I'm not in love with her or anything. It's just annoying because we otherwise connect very well. But that's kind of what it's like to be a short guy. You have these relationships with women that would likely have evolved into something more in normal circumstances, but it doesn't because the attraction just …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 01:24 AM
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Cuz she's cool and into the same weird shit I am into and I need friends in my city lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 09:47 PM
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Yep, I live in SF. Lived in Palo Alto, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 08:29 PM
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As online dating becomes more commonplace, fewer girls remain amenable to being approached in person. If you're disconnected from a social circle that has access to single girls in your age group you're totally screwed. "Online dating" is becoming the new normal. Sure, you should work on building up a social circle, but depending on the city where you live, that could take years. What are you gonna do? Not try at all and wallow in your own misery in the meantime?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 08:26 PM
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Maybe I'm fighting the inevitable, but best case scenario I get over it and have a friend that's willing to watch 3hr dour depressing movies/plays with me. Those people are hard to come by.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 07:55 PM
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I'd put middle class for a single person in the SF/Bay Area between 100 - 300. Ditto for Manhattan. You really need to be making 150 or greater to really feel comfortable and still put a respectable chunk of change away each month. Under 100 you're going to have to restrict yourself to avoid living month-month. Granted, I have always defined middle class as "comfortable." The literal median income for a single person in SF is I think 100k, or close to it. But I don't think 100k is that comfortab…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 07:26 PM
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Oh sure, you will. You'll have a portfolio that's worth millions. But you won't exactly be what I would call rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 07:22 PM
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I'd say that's what differentiates UMC from outright rich people actually. Basically to be "upper middle class" in a major city like SF or NYC, you need two successful people bringing in dual income. Be that executive, quant, managing director, front office trader at a BB, white shoe lawyer, specialized surgeon, CRE broker, distinguished professional with a book deal, winner of the start up lottery -etc - there's lots of ways to get this income from salary or options. But what distinguishes the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 06:55 PM
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That’s what got me started on the binge. I remember seeing it as a very little kid, but it all flew clean over my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 06:34 PM
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Lol I’m trying to rise above it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 06:31 PM
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I don’t think that’s fair at all. I know that she’s not into me and I accept that. We otherwise get along really well and share a lot in common, so I’m trying make friendship work without any ulterior motives. Granted I might be doing a shit job at it, but that’s the intention, and I think that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 06:13 PM
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I’d say in the SF Bay Area 600k household income just barely puts you there, if they have other significant assets. That being said I’ve always thought of UMC as the families that send all of their kids to elite private schools and UGs. Often those families are bringing in over a million, or very close to it, a year,
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 05:32 PM
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So I went to see the new Malick film with this girl. I had previously gone on a date with her, but she wasn’t into it. She said she wanted to be friends, and seemed actually genuine about it, and I need friends so I went for it. But holy shit did I feel like a loser. She went out of her way to clarify that this wasn’t a date (I didn’t think it was) like every thirty minutes. And I sat there listening to her talk about all the “hot guys” at her work. I like her, we get along and I could use an ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 05:20 PM
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Has anyone seen the show “Home Movies” I recently discovered it and have been binging it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 05:34 PM
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You know I do go outside. I have friends. I have volunteered and been involved in positive things. Worked for an NGO for a while. I just have fixated on this. It’s my personality type. And it’s eating away at me. Lmao I hate being short so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 04:06 PM
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I’m short and reading these threads genuinely make me suicidal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 06:48 AM
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The reality is that people broadly behave similarly under similar conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 01:05 AM
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I disagree. limited options -> desperation -> attachment -> falling in love easier Sure, there's individual variation, but broadly speaking, people tend to trend behaviorally one way given a similar set of conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 12:37 AM
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I only half agree. It's significantly easier to "fall in love" if you even subconsciously feel like your options are limited. And there is an easy gender divide per range of available options for your average man and woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:47 PM
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No more than prostitution or any other elaborate forms of masturbation. The thing that crushes guy isn't the purely the drive to have sex. Cuz that can be alleviated. The drive for validation and company and the desire to feel "wanted" are what gets to guys in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:44 PM
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Lol working out won't make you any taller. Unless you're maxed out, you can usually up yourself by a few points to some sub groups. But genetics determine the upper bound of attractiveness. And Chad isn't short.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 09:09 PM
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Coke can temporarily fry your dopamine receptors. A coke hangover is mostly a brief depressive episode. I do it maybe once or twice a year, if that, and I’d get them sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 02:47 AM
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I was hanging out with a couple last night, and I might have been reading this wrong, but I’m pretty sure they wanted to have a threesome. I ain’t into that shit, so I just retreated to the guest room. I had no idea they were so freaky tho. Ain’t gonna do coke with them again anytime soon, that’s for sure. I also just feel like garbage today from the coke hangover.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 08:06 PM
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I really want to try yoga. But I ain’t flexible, so I’ve been doing progression stretching exercises at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 07:58 PM
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Well, then I guess I don't give a shit about the distinction then. Because it doesn't feel "real" to me. Just fuzzy brain noise, drawing meaningless distinctions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 09:18 PM
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I would never look into him out of fear of getting mercilessly made fun of by my friends if they ever found out. But I do think his success speaks to something. There's a huge, drastically under-served, market for positive male empowerment in today's society. That's why the Joe Rogan's and Jordan Peterson's of the world have made such an impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:15 PM
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I don't really get why being pragmatic instead of principled is inherently more beta in your view. My objective is to get laid. Doing this helps me achieve that goal. That's all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 05:13 PM
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If I’m in polite company, yes, otherwise no. I tend to express myself pretty freely, for the most part. I don’t cater to women’s delusions per how a man “”should”” be,
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:00 PM
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I mean I don’t need them to want to be my girlfriend. That’s not what I’m after.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:44 PM
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If he didn’t murder his entire family, he better at least have a ficus.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 03:06 AM
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oh fuck right off with your weird character judgment. No, I don't consider constantly chasing after women to be a judicious use of my time or effort when I'm perfectly happy fucking the same one or two women for a handful of months until it stops for whatever reason. That kind of effort wouldn't tangibly make my life any better, and I'd be getting laid substantially less, cuz of the constant turnover.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:41 AM
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Who wants to fuck a chick more than once? This guy right here does. It's a lot of effort for me to constantly seek out new chicks that are down to fuck my weird 5'8 self. When you have a recurring thing, you're relieved of much of that effort. It's such a lighter cognitive load. Might even make a friend in the process too, which is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:22 AM
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I literally don't care about distinction. I don't care what my place looks like at all. I do like getting laid when I get the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:12 AM
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I was on an 18 inch air mattress (with sheets!) for basically all of my early twenties. I actually owned a mattress - this 10 inch queen-sized innerspring/foam hybrid thing - but it was a bed in a box type thing, and I waited for a year or so to unbox it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 02:10 AM
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lol I had this cheap mattress and I wrapped it in this king sized sheet that I would wash like once a month. Showered every day, wore freshly laundered clothes every, brushed/flossed all that jazz. I'd clean, but wouldn't deep clean almost ever, if that makes any sense. Like the bathroom would have to get visibly gross before it would occur to me to get out the bleach and thoroughly clean. I don't spend a lot of time at my apt, since I do active stuff on the weekends, and I work long (but not al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:58 AM
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lol Chad can do whatever the fuck he wants. I'd probably be chad-lite if I weren't 5'8, but I have to work within the parameters I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:46 AM
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That's why I think guys should get something easy. Like a ficus or a cactus. Just one, unless it's their thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:36 AM
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Thank you for your genuinely thoughtful answer! That actually explains a lot and makes a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:27 AM
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Did you... Did you... I wanna ask you out to spit out. But I realize you typed this out, so you're doing it for dramatic effect. Did I what? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:23 AM
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I meant bimonthly, not biweekly. My place was mostly tidy, and clean-ish, but I wouldn't do the bathroom as often as I should; ditto with sweeping and mopping.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 01:16 AM
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I guess I'm trying to figure out what's the exact link between lack of furnishings and vaginas drying up. Is it the actual lack of furniture, or what the lack of furniture represents? And what does it actually represent, and how did we get from "A" to "B" so to speak?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:55 AM
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If I saw he had nothing but a mattress on the floor I'd walk out and never contact him again. Why is that though? Out of sheer curiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:47 AM
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lolol a lot of guys just get by with the shit they need. They don't feel a great need to clutter their place up with anything other than the bare essentials. That being said, you don't do it for you, you do it for your guests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:43 AM
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I can see that. But then again, there are a lot of guys who wouldn't have much furniture at all "if they were being true to themselves." Furnishing & minimal decorating is more for the benefit of your guests. That being said, I found I liked my ficus quite a bit after getting it, even though the initial decision to get one was calculated. Ditto for basically everything I've done to impress women, from working out, to buying a couch.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:42 AM
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Yeah, I think you more eloquently summed up what I was trying to say with my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 12:22 AM
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Sorry. Forgot to add the required "/s/s/ss/s/s//s/s/s/ss/s//s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ssssssss." There should be an optional bot to flair these posts. It's an accessibility thing, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:49 PM
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I noticed that my mom tended to try to instill the masculine stuff in me more than my dad. My dad is wonderful, but he's not traditionally masculine in any sense. He's more of a creative/artist type, and he's admirable in the sense that he rebuffs social roles to live his own sort of life. But I'm grateful for my mom pushing some of that stuff onto me. Her ideas about what "makes a man" are pretty regressive, but I've found the world much easier to navigate by virtue of not being a pussy. I woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:46 PM
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I'm saying women's natural love of douchebags and sadists and thugs prevents them from fully accessing everything Toy Story has to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:40 PM
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OK, I thought I was making an obvious joke, but it's reddit, so obvious jokes are lost unless followed with "/s/s/ss/s/s//s/s/s/ss/s//s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ssssssss" But the idea of your SO slapping me, verbally or otherwise, sounds pretty hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:39 PM
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If you bought a leather jacket and you don't look like a hot dude or a biker. Instead you look like a guy who thought he would look cool in a leather jacket. Okay this hits close to home. But I'm not trying to make a statement or anything. I think leather jackets look cool and I think it looks dope on me. I was always the canvas jacket guy, which fit me to an extent, but I'm digging the leather jacket phase. Get a lot of compliments on it - probably cuz it obviously doesn't fit in with the rest …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:36 PM
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Don't ask me why, but I rewatched "Toy Story" the other day. The film is an absolute classic. It was legitimately funny/clever, and the storytelling was so efficient, so deft and moving, it kind of floored me all over again. Sid was such an effective villain, a sadistic little piece of shit, that it dawned on me: how many women had Sid from Toy Story as their first first crush?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 07:24 PM
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lol short guys really don't want to believe it. myself included. so we do this to ourselves over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 02:22 AM
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I'm in SF too, and I miss NYC greatly. Give it a look! Granted, I have rose-tinted glasses, but I'd love to move back someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:46 PM
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Agreed. I'm 5'8. I do okay, but height has been a limiting factor. I don't think I'll ever feel really good about it tbh. I would not wish for any future son of mine to have to go through any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:43 PM
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Locked in a trip to Japan for this summer. Just bought my tickets. I’m so excited!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 04:33 PM
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The fact you keep repeating AI when I’m talking mainly about AGI shows your dishonesty in debating as well. Lolol cuz I’m talking about what’s actually feasible in the near future. AGI isn’t a real field until we can replicate consciousness, which will not be done until we understand consciousness. But keep parroting your beliefs. What we can currently do is highly dependent on type of data we’d like to process and the dimension of data that we’d like to process, and the type of problem you’re g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:16 PM
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And I think you’re absolutely full of shit. I literally work in ML. I think the general public is largely uninformed per what AI means and what AI can and will do for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:40 PM
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All I can say is that history has proven you wrong time and time again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:41 AM
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The biggest issue for me is that the phenomenon of women going out to meet guys has basically almost disappeared for women in my age bracket (early-mid 20s).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 05:17 PM
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Pink pill is just black pill confirmed by (weird fat) women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 02:36 AM
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Idk I’m pretty young, but I’m sort of an old man in a young person’s body so idk if that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 02:26 AM
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I honestly disagree. In the past decade, we responded to the changing nature of jobs in the US with a huge STEM push that seems to be working in the right direction. I think there’s an argument to be made that the huge push for equality for women in the workplace has some economic underpinnings. And while I’m fairly left leaning, I have to admit the economy is doing very well despite the crisis in ‘08 which is solely why Trump has more than a fat chance of winning re-election. It’s a push and pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 04:11 AM
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I had a tough time buying JGL in that movie. I have a tough tough time buying that JGL isn't gay in most contexts. Maybe 'cuz I first saw him as a gay hooker in a much better movie called "Mysterious Skin." Are feminists right that porn is degrading and a proxy for revenge based violence against women? Maybe sometimes? Although I swear feminists sometimes pretend that quite a few women don't share those same fetishes. Or are men watching porn not seeing pain on the women’s faces but seeing pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:50 AM
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I sort of disagree. I think automation will have the same impact that it always had. A large group of people are displaced, but new jobs arise that eventually overtake it. Granted, they are overtaken usually by different people from the people who were displaced, and it takes a generation or two. But automation - even this new brand of automation - can't kill a functioning economy, cuz a functioning economy requires consumers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:59 AM
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lol I don't think the solution is going to come from lawmakers. At least not directly. You won't make guys more fuckable with legislation. I do think there will be pushes from society to encourage guys to re-engage. I think there will be education initiatives to stop guys from dropping out of school/underperform academically/skipping higher ed altogether. I think society is going to start throwing shade at the idea that women are entitled to a man that makes more than her in this current climate…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:56 AM
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I think there's gonna be a effort to salvage that 18-35 yr old demo. Unfortunately, dude's who feel like they won't ever get any tend to drop out of society. Women will pick up some of this slack, but not enough to avoid hurting all of our bottom lines. Once the economic threat is established, society is going to make a tangible effort to re-engage these guys. IDK what that'll look like, but I do think it will happen in some shape or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:45 AM
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lolol i'm a little shocked you didn't grasp it from context OLD = "online dating"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:39 AM
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Not a bad idea; girls are way less discerning w/r/t prospective partners in person. The issue is that as OLD becomes way more widespread, the windows wherein it's actually appropriate to approach girls IRL - including escalating w/ girls you already know - become a lot more narrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:36 AM
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Incels have a great sense of humor. So do most desperate, hopeless people. Gallows humor is a real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:31 AM
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Call me an optimist but I think a lot of guys' dating woes - and just guy related issues, in general - will start getting addressed in a semi-productive way (not with pure mirth). I think the rather extreme and increasingly widespread pessimism guys have with modern dating is already starting to penetrate mainstream culture a bit. I think western society will try to address this. IE garbage accusatory platitudes that pass as dating advice for men will be replaced with garbage well-intentioned pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 02:27 AM
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oh no it is not. in areas where prostitution isn't legalized, the "vetting" process - which usually is sending a pic of your ID, linking to your linkedin, etc - is nearly standard practice. there are those that don't bother with this, sure. And bear in mind, they do this for extremely valid safety related reasons. That's fair. However, it's a bad idea to volunteer your information in any illegal transaction, cuz blackmailing/doxxing does happen more frequently than you'd expect. They even have l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:33 PM
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LOL MGTOW is just the snippy male equivalent to the women saying "she's over men" during an extended interval of singledom. Only the reddit tier ""men"" confuse this with some sort of social movement and actually believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:28 PM
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I did for a couple years. Granted we were young. But I was a grad student and she was a trader at a BB. LOL I still ended up paying for a lot of stuff. After I bitched about it, she picked up the slack a little, but not like I did when the roles were reversed. And then she broke up with me and is dating a dude that is either worth several millions or is at least several millions in debt. I've seen it work before, though. Ironically there's a disproportionate amount of broke artist type guys that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:24 PM
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Honestly, if this pisses you off, just be mad at men. Men assign women this ridiculous value. But TBH, in my own workplaces, I have seen how women are devalued - sometimes fairly and sometimes unfairly - in any aspect that isn't absolutely trivial. I've also seen so many women in my lives devalue themselves on the basis of them being women. I'm not a feminist at all. I think a good chunk feminist rhetoric is tribalistic nonsense at best. I'm just saying there are two sides to every coin if you l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:13 PM
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lol there's also been an uptick in blackpilled fds girls here to """confirm""" blackpill theories. I've run out of energy to get my hackles up about it, even just for the sake of entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:09 PM
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This is what I've been saying. There's no such thing as an objective point average. It's all just relative to your peers. I've lived in wildly different environments, where the general attractiveness of guys and girls varied wildly respective to each environment. The result was the same. Girls like the same fixed top percentage of dudes. I feel like a "chad" when visiting my hometown. When I fly back to my city where most guys - I kid you not - are single, in shape, well paid, and vastly outnumb…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 11:06 PM
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I think so. Although I'm hoping I can get it working, because it'll be a hassle to box it up again and ship it. My plan is to find the MAC address for the TV's wifi, spoof it on my laptop and set up the hotspot on my laptop. That should theoretically work. As for the HDMI outputs, I'm hoping the stupid nintendo thing is just broken. I haven't actually touched it since I bought it, and I'm hoping the dock just got busted in transit. So I'll see if it works with different cords/inputs. With Disney…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:59 PM
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IDK I think it's kind of weird for a guy in his mid 20's to date someone in undergrad. Logically I don't think there's really anything all too wrong with it, but for some reason the thought prompts an "ick" response. That being said, idk why this always falls on the men. I'm in my mid 20's and it feels like a lot of girls my age are dating guys in their late 20's/early 30's almost exclusively. I would actually prefer dating girls in my age range, and yet it seems I have the best luck with girls …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:51 PM
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Well I bought a 55 inch Samsung smart tv - first tv I would have owned in ages - and nothing works with it. It can’t read the hdmi input for the stupid Nintendo switch thing. Disney plus outright doesn’t work on it. The internet in my room is too shabby anyhow, but I can’t even hook it up to an xfinity hotspot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:35 PM
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Women like the men that excel in the thing they care about. Smart women tend to go for even smarter guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 08:31 PM
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Great purge guys. Some of y’all cracked me up. Best shit I’ve seen in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 05:32 PM
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Honestly, women who have never truly been alone in their entire lives who chide men for feeling lonely should be banned on site. How fucking dare you pretend like loneliness isn’t a basic human emotion. How fucking dare you tell these men that they shouldn’t strive to find an intimate relationship like most humans are literally compelled to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:48 PM
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Tbqh u probably won’t, even if you don’t see a hooker. But to each their own. I don’t think I would in your shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 05:01 AM
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Tbf I always assumed that the robotic familiar for most women would be a roomba,
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:58 AM
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The fun part of sex is doing it with someone that actually wants to have sex with you. If I’m being totally honest, the physical sensation is kind of inferior to masturbating. Besides, a lot of women actually kind of suck at sex. And having sex with a woman that literally has sex for money, and of whom is only fucking you ‘cuz u pay her an obscene hourly rate, sounds truly miserable. U just need to up your masturbation/porn game. What you’re craving is intimacy, and a hooker ain’t gonna give you…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:51 AM
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Don’t do it. Most hookers require you to verify your real identity in a process known as “screening”, and they could potentially blackmail you with that info. Also seeing a hooker is basically an expensive and elaborate form of masturbation. Just buy a flesh light or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:40 AM
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Jewish women tend to have a relatively lax standard for masculinity. I should know. My only LTRs have been with Jewish women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:26 AM
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Yeah but no actual science is done to give that language a scientific foundation. It’s one of the least rigorous disciplines I’ve come across in my fucking life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:11 AM
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I can’t stand this. Evo psych is literally just psych with unaccounted evo motivations attributed in the conclusions 99% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:05 AM
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Women literally crave abusive men and criminals. It’s like their favorite thing. That’s why it’s so hard to leave a guy that routinely rapes & sodomizes you with house cactuses, but it’s super easy to immediately leave a guy who briefly expresses sadness when he has to put his dog of 17 yrs down.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:02 AM
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Are we talking Pixel 3 or Galaxy Note 10?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:37 AM
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Oh god fucking damn it. I forgot about redditors. Let me retroactively make this a bit more clear: /s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ss/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ss/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ss/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/ss/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/s/…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:06 AM
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I'm actually super sorry to report that Mr. 5'8'' is currently in jail. He's charged with briefly holding eye contact with a woman only four inches shorter than him. He's still awaiting trial, but I must say: things aren't looking good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 03:02 AM
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That's a shame. The sixth line is killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:33 AM
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Agreed. But being a criminal of any type would help.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:56 PM
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This is true for the most part, but I've met a few girls who would be outright wife-beating child-fucking drug-dealing drug-addict scumbag thieving con artist murderers if they were men, and thus would be quite attractive to other women, provided they were to be 6' or taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:54 PM
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I recently did "Killing Commendatore" by Murakami and "Lincoln in the Bardo" by Saunders. I liked 'em both, but they are both examples of the contemporary clever sad sack shit that I eat up. If you wanna do a classic, do "Master & Margarita"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:43 PM
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Fantastic
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:51 PM
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Yeah. I dont ask them too. I have an apt cleaner so my place is rarely that bad. I think it’s more of a gesture/impulse. Idk. I appreciate it but it’s wholly unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 02:34 PM
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It's a joke. And a pretty good one at that, if I dare flatter myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 10:28 PM
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IDK, it's a fun analogy but it sort of breaks down when you look at it. OLD for girls brings validation + self-esteem boost. Guys value those things too, but IDK what kind of guy would get any of those from a strip club. TBH strip clubs work on a very simple level. Guys like seeing naked women. A few of those guys would literally pay money to see that. Thus you get businesses fashioned around it. I'm not sure what the equivalent of a strip club would be for girls. Maybe an open house at an upsca…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 08:09 PM
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lol I believe it. Although tbf film scores have a whole other agenda in mind. Few stand alone. I like the ones with fun leitmotifs like LOTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 07:45 PM
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My favorites aren't probably the best place to start with, cuz those are the ones I grew to like over time. Here are some good, quite well known, ones to start with that use a full orchestra: "Swan Lake" by Tchaikovsky "Symphony No. 9" by Beethoven "Planets" by Holst "The Four Seasons" by Vivaldi "Peer Gynt" by Grieg "Symphony No. 40" by Mozart "Orchestral Suite No. 3" by Bach "New World Symphony" by Dvorak "Metamorphosen" by Strauss (This isn't a full orchestra but it's breathtaking IMO) "Symph…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 07:37 PM
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lol let's hear it. what's specifically wrong with the frozen soundtracks? As far as "Frozen" goes, I'm only kind of familiar with "let it go" and that's just thru cultural osmosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:38 PM
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Honestly, some of that mood high is probably just the high that comes with maintaining discipline. I get the same high when I stick to a diet, or self-enforce an hour of technical reading time each day. The ability to follow through on any self-imposed regimen gives us a high cuz it gives us a new found sense of self-control and agency. It wears off once that regimen becomes truly habitual. Honestly, masturbation seems to me to be just a tool to regulate sex drive. If you're at a time in your li…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:00 PM
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It's kind of a shame though, cuz I think there are a lot of people who would like classical music, and even become passionate about it, if they knew how to listen to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:51 PM
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Classical music requires active listening in order to be enjoyed. You have to follow the melody of the leading sections as you would listen to the lyrics of a song. You can't just let it wash over you, because the music isn't written to be enjoyed that way. By following the melody with close attention, you're taken on an expressive journey. You start off with a main theme in a certain key, and that theme is then perverted or answered in different keys, and more and more tension is introduced unt…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:40 PM
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I honestly find listening to classical music and jazz and some select other genres of music to be an entirely different activity than listening to popular music. If I were to listen to popular music the way I listen to classical music, I wouldn't really like most of it, and vice verse. I think most people, understandably, just try to listen to classical music the way they listen to popular music, and thus have a bad time with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:19 PM
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This worked better than it had any right to. It left me confused and probably horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:07 PM
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Classical music might be more popular if the recordings were actually mixed, and practically mixed at that. Yeah, most classical music has a ridiculous dynamic range, and that's wonderful, but you know, like, most people listen with headphones right? The idea is that they just preserve the dynamics of the live performance. But unless you have a nice speaker set fixed in a room deliberately built with acoustics in mind, either half the piece is going to be inaudible, or the other half is going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:00 PM
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The idea is that "Chads" have more leverage than the average guy. Chad is more desired and has more options and more leeway with his behavior and therefore has less incentive to not fuck his girl over. Does this play out IRL? Kind of, sort of? Whether parents instill a sense of moral character in their children obviously doesn't hang on their children's attractiveness. And moral character defines how we would treat people in a vacuum. But incentives are incentives, and people often behave accord…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:45 PM
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Tell him you don’t want to fuck him, but let him know you’d like to pick his brain. He’ll say no, but who would willingly agree to that? You’re not friends. He’s on this app trying to meet someone to fuck. Not looking for someone to interview him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 04:30 PM
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Considering the way the term “social” is used today, and has been used for a while, I think it’s time to retire “societal” as an adjective. It’s been supplanted by something that’s less awkward to pronounce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 03:17 PM
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Haruki Murakami = Based and red pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 02:27 PM
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Oh god. You sound like someone who thinks “evo psych” is a real science.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 07:47 AM
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You can still have an equal relationship and go through our species’ courtship rituals. I don’t think guys should be paying for a woman’s monthly bills or any of that ridiculous shit. But a trivial dinner bill? On a first date? Do you honestly believe that’s anything more than a gesture? Cuz that’s what it is. Yeah, I think guys get the raw end of the deal in the courtship ritual. That’s why I really need women to shut the fuck up about it. But you’re not going to change it, meager as the gestur…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 05:10 AM
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if you don’t have any natural urge to protect/provide for your woman, you’re probably gay. Or - more accurately - at least veering toward the middle on the Kinsey scale. Literally nothing wrong with that, but I seriously don’t get wanting to be doted on like a girlfriend. And I guarantee you that wanting to split the bill on one of your first few dates is almost always a sign from the woman that she doesn’t want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:44 AM
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Ya if a girl insists on splitting on the first date, she’s not that into you. Always pay on the first few dates. It’s a simple and effective strategy. Girls like feeling doted on/provided for. There’s literally nothing wrong with that. But guys need to stop paying for shit they have no right paying for - shit the girl has no right getting for free - once they enter a relationship. At that point the guy is just being an atm/doormat and the girl is just being an actual literal whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:35 AM
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I listen to vespers when working out sometimes. It makes me feel like god himself lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:29 AM
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I’m sure this has been said, but these “garbage” attributes manifest themselves in different ways among men and women. Also, you’d be surprised. When it comes to stuff like sex and dating, these unfortunate behaviors are often fairly ubiquitous. The “nice” girls and guys you’re thinking of would surprise you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 01:23 AM
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Bullshit. There isn’t an epidemic of loser men. Men who decide not to cater their lives to women’s preferences aren’t losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 12:02 AM
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I enjoyed the comeback.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 07:12 PM
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I agree I’m being ridiculous lol. Was in a weird place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 07:05 PM
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Don’t I know it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 06:02 PM
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I’m currently putting 5-6k a month away in my portfolio on base alone. So can’t move yet. I’ve been looking at offers in NYC tho. And I hear ya. It’s more of an anxiety thing than a totally rational thing. Like, yes, being my height in my particular city puts me at a far more severe disadvantage than it would elsewhere. But the panic responses I’ve been getting just aren’t rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 03:19 PM
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Lol I do okay. But I live in a competitive area. You would not do “great” where I live due to your height, unless you lowered your standards. This is because the guys outnumber the girls, the girls skew taller - most women I’m interested in that I see skew 5’7-5’9 - and being well paid and in shape is the norm, rather than the exception. It’s difficult for guys to stand out with everything going for them, so things like height can be a death knell. But it’s more of an anxiety thing than a totall…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 02:55 PM
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Well it’s a serious detriment where I live. But I agree that my response is dramatic/irrational. It’s pure anxiety that found an effective target. Most of the time I couldn’t care less. Just these weird moments from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:18 AM
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5’8
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:08 AM
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Well I’m freaking out about my height again. Like straight up panicking. Spent a good hour researching depressing stats. This happens from time to time. It will pass. I just wish there was some magic bullet to fix this fucking height thing. Maybe fix the occasional random panic attacks about things I can’t control too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 04:07 AM
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Oh please. What is this ridiculous strawman? This is the kind of subversion that I'm talking about. Instead of just admitting that he's short and less attractive than he otherwise would be, you literally compare him to a mass shooter. That's so nasty. I'm not talking about a mentally deranged incel. I'm talking about your average short man who doesn't understand that he's unattractive because he's short. Because women lie about this aaaalllll the tiiiiiime. I'm just saying that being short makes…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:48 PM
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How festive of them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 11:32 PM
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Who are these hot guys pumping and dumping fat chicks??? I'm not a hot guy, apparently, but even I've never once been inclined to fuck a fat chick.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:42 PM
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As time has gone by, I've lost patience with very shy and/or highly intro women. Those women are more likely to starfish in bed. Less likely to directly communicate about issues that bother her. Less likely to be interested in going out and doing fun stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:40 PM
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we could create a platform for connecting your online dating profiles to Strava. Holy shit. The cretins in the bay area would fucking eat this up. You're onto something YUGE.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:08 PM
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I fully agree with you OP. I was 40 pounds overweight and wore ill-fitting walmart clothes when I transferred to a very wealthy undergrad, and the girls there literally didn't talk to me. If they had to talk to me, they would be as brusque as possible. A few years later, I was in excellent shape, had nice well fitting clothes, and women started flirting with me. I think, though, that sometimes women flirt just to test the waters, and they're undecided if they want you to make a move. If you do m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 10:05 PM
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He sure is not entitled to a woman, but he's allowed to be confused when the vast majority of women are clearly not attracted to him, despite hearing from women that his height is "not the issue." Instead they dishonestly blame his character, which is a very nasty, nasty thing to do. And, yes, he's going to feel bad about being unattractive. He shouldn't feel entitled, but he's going to feel bad. Nobody wants to be unwanted. Saying "height is not an issue" is like saying "attractiveness is not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 08:34 PM
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The difference is that most women find most guys "not good looking." Guys are empirically more lax with what qualifies to them as "attractive." Hence the massive disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 08:16 PM
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Agreed. I can tell how much a prospective date is into me by how far she's willing to travel to meet. She'll take an uber to the bar by my apt? She's into it. She wants me to stick to the single most convenient location for her? 50% chance I'll be ghosted. I don't even go to those anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 08:09 PM
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Lol like the 5'6 guy isn't going to have a hell of a time compared to his taller peers. I guess most 5'6 men have awful personalities. Women like tall guys. Yes, there's a lot of fatalistic BS out there about this from men, and I disagree with that too. But a lot of women will tell you to your face that "height is a non issue" when every study done empirically proves the contrary. I don't mean to pick on just women. I'm sure guys spin yards of BS when talking to women. It just doesn't matter as …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:55 PM
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If you're an average guy, it really does seem like women just aren't attracted to an overwhelming majority of guys. It literally seems futile. Also degrading, after a while, when you see the disparity of effort you would have to put in and still likely end up flat, in comparison to the effort you'd receive in return. But, also, to be clear, a majority of men aren't "giving up on women." A lot of men just have - pretty justifiable, if not entirely rational - sour grapes. Cuz the dating experience…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:49 PM
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Most people dont want someone with a napoleon complex. lololol and an overwhelming majority of women don't want a guy who is 5'3, regardless. I'm sorry, but the idea that women are attracted to anything other than "Good Personality and Good Hygiene" (not that they don't like these things) is oddly taboo almost everywhere, besides some corners such as these.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:40 PM
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They do. And they just get amplified BS. See any thread on r/askwomen. The consensus is that the 5’3 guy with a micropenis has problems solely due to his nasty insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:31 PM
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Right but they were lied to by individual women, not the collective known as “women.” Although when a man is the audience, the collective known as “women” spins quite a tale. See any mainstream dating advice directed at men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:25 PM
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I kinda figured out by middle school. So did most guys. But the guys who actually believed the bullshit were “lied” to. As to why they didn’t see through it, idk. Online forums tend to attract a certain breed of dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:22 PM
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Fully disagree, actually. Women aren't ever honest about what actually attracts them. Neither are men, truthfully. If you listen to a lot of men, you'd think the best thing you could do is stop wearing makeup and start initiating every advance (like that won't actually get you "fuckzoned"). People aren't honest about what what attracts them to other people, because people aren't good at being honest about themselves. It's actually a proven fact that we're better at analyzing other people's behav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:10 PM
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I know it can be hard sometimes, but it's generally good career advice to suck it up and pretend that the sun shines out of everyone's asses and that nothing would please you more than to make small talk with them. I'm kinda the same way sometimes. I like socializing generally, but when I'm hopped up on aderall and have been working on difficult problems all day, the last thing I want to do is put on "the act." But "the act" is generally worth it. Cuz it gives you time to build rapport with peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I can see how that would be annoying and disrespectul. I'm sorry it's more common than I what I would have assumed. But I'm talking more about the rhetoric you hear, quite commonly, about supposedly undateable men being "losers." I hear this stuff IRL from actual women that I otherwise respect. When they bitch that they can't find the right guy, they tend to also bitch about how other men are deficient, with a good helping of "why can't men be better?" Now I can get behind not being attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:58 PM
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I think all women should try this before writing all of our male bitching off as hysteria. Good luuuuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:47 PM
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lmao at "hypermajiggles"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:42 PM
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They're lied to by FUCKING WOMEN. Women generally hide the fact that the 7' sociopathic drug dealer/murderer is actually super hot. But the 5'4 balding grocer who lives with his sick mom needs to "work on his personality." I know I'm being hyperbolic, but unattractive guys are gaslit all the time. And the go-to insult women sling at men rests on a man’s "inability to get other women." Now that being said, actual normal guys with basic powers of observation would have figured this all out by midd…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:36 PM
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I appreciate the suggestion, but I’m hoping to run and wank simultaneously. Actually, there’s a catchier name than “run and wank.” “Jog n’ Jerk.” The new male self improvement program. Add it to the lore.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:22 PM
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Girl orbiters are a thing sorta. I have a circle of girls from my hometown that constantly show up in my DMs and like/comment on all of my social media shit. They even found my secret twitter. Thought that would scare them off, but nope: they just retweet all my inflammatory shit,
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:19 PM
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Dangerous. I’d probably crack my skull like Sheryl Sandberg’s husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:05 PM
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Two things that have improved my life: running and masturbating. Separately, mind you. I have contemplated ways to combine them into one activity that is a) not illegal and b) not dangerous, and drew a blank.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 04:06 PM
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Well then I’m glad you’re not one of the many women who think most men are unattractive creepy losers by default, regardless of level of interaction. Cuz I somehow doubt most men behave as you described. It would be fine if the “creepy” judgment came after the display of obviously creepy behavior. My issue is the judgment by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:57 PM
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This shit pisses me off to no end. I’ve written several screeds about this here and there, while screaming at people on PPD, The absolute arrogance women must have to believe that every man they didn’t let into their lives is a subhuman entitled loser stupid rapist. It’s fucking maddening. Because when a woman is not attracted to a dude, which is fine, it always comes with this weird haughty value judgment on his character and worth as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 03:40 PM
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Maybe it’ll be used for medical purposes. I wouldn’t know, but it might be a convenient way of getting a good look down there w/o taking a trip to the gyno.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 11:13 PM
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The purpose of its invention is literally that specific headline.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:55 PM
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Thnx. Do you really I think I could get away without using them for a first go? That's awesome news if so. I have new balance sneakers with as hoping they'd be fine, for at least a first go.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:40 PM
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Not rn. I’m “”working””
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:25 PM
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Congrats! & I’m basically just a fancy data engineer for big tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:17 PM
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I feel like your art is somewhat wasted here. In the 20’s you would have had a book of witticisms. Quotes of yours would then be used today for snarky tinder profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 09:13 PM
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In our 1:1 standup, the boss of my boss ""surprised"" me with my Xmas bonus. I know I'm bragging, and I know this is not a good look, but it looks like I'm officially going to be able to pay off the rest of my student debt. I grew up as dirt poor white trash in the middle of nowhere. Like kraft mac and cheese w/ ramen for dinner kind of poor. I'm just so happy right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 07:08 PM
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It’s actually not hereditary in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 05:17 PM
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I don’t actually believe you. No doubt it’s true for some nerdy girls, but there are quite a few that actively avoid “”alpha”” type guys. I ran quite a few academic clubs in my day, and I’d see it play it out. As is true with most sub cultures, nerdy girls typically like the alpha of their in group, who would scream “beta” to just about everyone else. I’ve seen typical normal “chad’s” strike out hard with nerdy girls time and time again.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:34 PM
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Every now and again we get a PPD lurker who announces that he/she has solved the contentious debates, and gives us all a good finger wagging. Another month of lurking and they’ll be here, shrilly calling middle aged gym rats incels and married women whores. It’s the magic of this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:20 PM
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It’s like this hair product thing. Idk they used it on me at the place I last got my hair cut and it looked pretty good IMO. The one they used on me didn’t make your hair greasy or slick looking, which is a look I despise. The hair clay shit just made your hair stay in one place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 04:08 PM
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I think I’m gonna try to put that clay shit in my hair. I’ve never put any junk in my hair before, but guess it’s worth a try. On another note, gonna try out a rock climbing gym this Sat. Should be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:46 PM
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Poor phrasing on my part. Honestly IDK where I was going with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 11:47 PM
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I'm skeptical of any woman that wants one type of dude her whole life, and later settles for some entirely different type of dude that happens to be stable and "happens" to make a lot more money than she does. I think that woman just isn't physically attracted to her husband. What she's attracted to didn't change. Instead, she de-prioritized "physical attraction" in her list of criteria for a mate. I honestly think those marriages aren't really beneficial to the dude in question. Same with the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:33 PM
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I don't think it's a bad thing. I do think a lot of cat of owners would be dog owners instead if dogs were lower maintenance. And I do think getting a cat because one doesn't have the time/energy for a dog is a poor reason to bring an animal into your life. But I like cats just fine. And I know plenty, probably the majority, of cat owners, just get cats because they like cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:19 PM
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pls sleep. we're learning a lot about the benefits of sleep. it seems like it's pretty instrumental in warding off dementia.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:52 PM
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this is my only reddit account. PPD is the only sub that interests me. I think I hate reddit as a whole. I do need to scrub this account at some point. Not because I care about any y'all's judgment, but just just to get rid of identifying information. Enough little details here and there and doxxing becomes a possibility somewhere in the crosshatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:51 PM
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I've become exhausted with the news cycle. I hate Trump as much as the next guy, but the senate won't expel Trump from office, so I have trouble caring following the minutiae of the impeachment proceedings, as much as I endorse them. Unrelated, but I support the Monica Lewinsky redemption arc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:46 PM
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I don't hate cats, but I do think a big part of their appeal is their low maintenance. I think often people who gets cats are people who want a pet, but don't want all the responsibility that would come with other animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:40 PM
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most men suck Ironically women who believe this have been shielded from reality at the hands of men. It's a shame. That's why we see women with such incredible, not too mention incredibly undeserved, egos. It reminds me of the people who never tried a thing, and assume they're just one step away from mastering said thing. Flagrant display of undeserved confidence is the most surefire way to reveal general stupidity. Since inability and unwillingness to accurately assess your surroundings and sel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:37 PM
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Yeah, it was fun. We went out clubbing and then went back to my apartment. She was cute & cool. Paid like hell for it going into work on Tuesday with maybe two and half hours and sleep, but was worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:32 PM
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This is a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:30 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:22 PM
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Please rephrase in a comprehensible manner so I can respond
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 03:08 PM
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I'm kinda into it. I think it more has more to do with the intentionality behind a lady dressing sexy for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 10:00 PM
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I need to pick my battles more judiciously. I just find it difficult to focus at work with the holidays looming.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 09:55 PM
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A lot of those apps front load your exposure on the apps, increasing the likelhihood you get matches when you first start being active, or fire up the app in a new area. That being said, if you go tryhard with the pics you can up your match rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 08:16 PM
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lol like what the hell? IME if sex doesn't happen on first date, there's a 50% chance that the girl doesn't even want a second one. Not all girls, obviously, and context matters. But jeez.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 08:12 PM
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I love this question. But I don't think we necessarily have a "true nature," really. I think who we are is highly malleable. I think people are largely the same and our differences are overrated. I just think "who we are" is highly subjective to environment/conditioning/mood, and that's why we see so much variability among people. Not because our essential selves are all that different. All things being equal, I think most people would act identically to one another. People act very differently …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:58 PM
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I agree that it's a shame. And looks like they've done a bang up job on you, boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:09 PM
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Lol sorry to offend your constructed reality. Now I feel bad. Since most men take it as their duty to shield women from reality. So let me make up to you: "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good." "Men bad. Women Good."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:06 PM
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Are you questioning whether the arc of human history was worth it? I mean, I dunno. Hilarious thought though. Men arent better so you can’t say that. Apparently we can say whatever we want. But if you want your dose of "Men bad. Women good" there are better venues. Enjoy your self-esteem boost, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 07:00 PM
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lololol Men are just more impactful. I won't deny that sexism has played a historic role in this. But you can look at all the positive or negative things that have truly changed the world, and they were done by men. I refuse to say that men are "better" because of this, but can't you see why your line of thinking is so stupid?? Women are just as good and evil as men. They tend to just make less of an impact. I refuse to speculate why. But there ya go. Even if you think of the worst woman you’ve …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:48 PM
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Men are more variable, and thus often worse, but more frequently exceptional. Women trend mediocre - cluster in the middle of the bell curve. There are exceptions, but I'm just speaking statistically. The difference is that men are taught that they are worthless and women are taught that their vaginas gives them inherent worth. That's why we have so many mediocre women believing that they are somehow inherently superior to half of the population. Which is fine, but it is ludicrously offensive to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:42 PM
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It's a shame that we live in a world that coddles some women to the point of delusion. Fortunately there are very capable and very intelligent women out there. I work with them. That's why it's always so surprising when one of... these kinds... come out of the woodwork, spouting delusional nonsense. I forget that these kinds of women exist. Maybe I live in a bubble? Where women actually contribute value to society with skills they've acquired through hard work and passion? Because every now and …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:30 PM
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Lololol Imagine believing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:19 PM
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Men are just as inherently valuable as women. How fucking ludicrous is it that men have to defend their worth? This line of rhetoric is always so selfish. What do I get from you? What value do you give to me? I wish for anyone, man or woman, that thinks along those transactional lines a very shitty relationship for the rest of their lives. I don't really have to wish. Y'all gonna do that to yo'selves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:14 PM
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Well, got laid last night. Rando tinder girl visiting the city. I'm so freaking tired, but it was worth it. My thirst has been abated for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 06:09 PM
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I was in an LTR a few years ago in my very early 20's. Didn't start out whipped at all, but as the relationship went south I think I became more that way. It was subconscious, but I guess I was just trying to keep her. Ironically that strategy just managed to drive her further way. I knew this intellectually, but that knowledge didn't really stop my behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:22 PM
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I'm sure it's an issue, but I just don't get it?? I was never that into video games, but I grew up on the internet. I still preferred going out and doing social things whenever I had that option. Wouldn't kids growing up be the same, for the most part? We had shut ins pre-internet. I think the issue with technology is just that you can't meet strangers as easily. Everybody just defaults to their phone. I would imagine people were chattier back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 07:14 PM
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CMV is a better format for most of these posts. You had your piece. Let the debate begin. People who disagree with the disagreements will respond in your stead. And in that debate, something more valuable will emerge than would ever happen with a circlejerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 02:31 PM
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I think that it’s going to change the discourse in the democratic primaries for the better. An American-centric take. But I am, after all, American,
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:34 PM
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Oof. I’ve been dreading my whoosh moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:08 PM
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Lololol what? Who is this guy? Never been employed? Bad personality? And worst of all, 5’2??? But constantly being hit on? Lmfao. I need to meet this man, if he exists at all. Whatever he’s got going on, I want in on. I can’t even imagine a billionaire with those traits doing all that well with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 08:46 AM
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Well I guess marriage is possibly back on the menu for me. For some reason I’ve heard horror stories about lawyers throwing them out the window. But then again, I’ve only heard one side of those stories, so who knows what they tried to get away with in those prenups. Hopefully, of course, whoever I marry will have a similar financial/career situation to me, which I’m guessing is the best insurance against divorce rape. And if her career trajectory hits a speedbump because she took time off for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:48 AM
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Are prenups effective in these situations? I’ve heard conflicting things about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:39 AM
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Well my ongoing sad sack tinder saga continues. I have three new tinder dates lined up. Will see how they comically go awry. I need to delete this fucking app. I’m going to this cute event thing with some friends and there’s a girl with whom I really hit it off, and genuinely really like, I think, that will be going. I just can’t even tell if she’s into me or not. My intuition tells me yes, but my intuition always tells me yes. I feel like I’m in high school all over again. I’ll try to field as …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 03:27 AM
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Pop culture tattoos are gross and tacky and so are the people that get them. I don’t mind a well done, artful tattoo, but I generally am not interested in girls with prominent tattoos at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:24 PM
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Getting friend zoned is by definition “emasculating.” It means you are not a real man of worth in her eyes. Sure, it’s healthier to contort reality into something more pleasant so we can all get along to go along, but let’s be real here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:21 PM
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Haha that’s true. I do have a friend group that I’m still in touch with from my home town, but we’ve scattered all across the country, so we haven’t all been in the same place since I transferred undergrads. But it’s workable. You can make friends as an adult, but you’re probably not going to form that same kind of “friend group” that are common in college and HS.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:28 PM
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I guess the grass is always greener. I’m grateful for the friends I’ve made, and the work opportunities I have had, but right about now I could use a tight friend group full of people I’ve known for years. It honestly sounds super nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:23 PM
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This disconnect is starting to make sense. Literally nobody I have ever met has this going on. Even when college buddies that end up in the same city they drift apart. These goddamn wholesome midwesterners thinking they’re normal...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:09 PM
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I don’t think it’s the woman’s fault. But it’s poor form to be ungrateful, especially when you might not know what a guy’s situation is actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:10 AM
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It is one sided, tho. It’s still overwhelmingly normal for guys to pay for the dates, the Uber’s, the tickets to shows, pretty much everything. It’s totally inappropriate, but that’s what’s normal. And the costs aren’t trivial for a lot of younger guys at all. I’ve been fortunate, so I personally don’t mind, but I would hope that girls learn to be more considerate about this, especially when the guy is spending money he obviously doesn’t have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:04 AM
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Okay, but like guys are still expected to pay on dates. And continue to pay for things they really shouldn’t be paying for. I’ve seen broke guys back in college skip dinners to pay for dates. I’m thinking of people like them when I dip into my frothing rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:02 AM
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Got it out of my system with that comment lol. Tone deaf post though, OP. It’s stuff you’re getting for free. And in the dating phase, these costs aren’t trivial, especially when you’re younger. It’s a little upsetting to see those efforts minimized from the recipients of said gifts. I do think some women get so accustomed to it, they forget that guys actually have to make sacrifices to pay for your free shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:00 AM
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Yeah. It’s an asocial artless overpriced hellscape full of the absolute worst people. Every other day I meet someone of whom I’m convinced is the worst person I’ll ever meet. Every other day I’m surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 03:26 AM
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Yeah I have 0 interest in that. I may be a loser, but I’m a prideful loser,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:29 AM
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I’m a strong 5’8 lol. I don’t doubt she has no issue finding guys. I believe her when said she wasn’t interested in me, but wanted to be friends. It’s just fucking weird to me that I’m down for that. I guess I’m growing. Not literally, of course, because that would make life too easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:21 AM
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I reached out to that 6’2 giant tinder lady who genuinely wanted to be “friends.” And I guess we’re gonna go see a play together. I feel like I’m metaphorically castrating myself, but, at this point, fuck it. I could use a new friend. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:17 AM
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Nah you’re both just midwestern AF
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:12 AM
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I think mutual long term commitment is quite literally predicated on the willingness of both parties to commit. It would seem like men are more often the bottleneck, but IME it goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 10:24 PM
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I'd be curious if it's getting less and less common though. That would make a bit more sense to me, but perhaps the particular universities I attended had something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 09:53 PM
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She was responding to the comment decrying marriage as a bad idea. The thread got derailed, but it made sense in context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:47 PM
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That was the goal! I ended up just getting drunk and texting my ex, assuring her that I “still loved her.” So close enough. Haha but thank you for the supportive the comment. These comments cheered me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:34 PM
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I actually agree with you. This was hypothetically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:12 PM
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Okay, correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t proposals work like the following: the couple talks about marriage and decide together that they want to get married. The actual proposal bit is a surprise, sort of, that the guy usually plans. But while the circumstances of the proposal might be a surprise, the fact that he proposed at all isn’t. So I guess it doesn’t matter who does the proposing. The decision to get married is a joint one. I guess it’s up to how traditional the couple is. I wouldn’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:09 PM
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I guess I was fantasizing about something more romantic. And, of course, equally unlikely. Let me rephrase the question: in which country will I find the most beautiful and friendly women that I can lust over, and then furiously masturbate to alone in my hotel room?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 07:19 PM
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I would guess it’s because my situation is actually a lot more common for adults than you realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 07:08 PM
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I’m planning my vacation for the summer. Question: which relatively safe and beautiful county am I most likely to get laid in (not with a prostitute) 🤮 I will be a solo traveler. I’m interested in Italy, Japan, and France, but open to suggestions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 07:01 PM
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Sure, but you can’t really get up in arms about guys not doing some script that isn’t applicable to them. Formal dating isn’t “weird” it’s a necessity for guys and girls who are in my position if they want to find a relationship at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:42 PM
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I don’t know if it’s really common at all. I’m sure it happens more often than I’m aware of, but it’s not something I’ve come across very often. Maybe it’s the schools I went to, but after graduation people kind of disappeared into their work cliques, and moved to wherever they got the best offers or where they thought they could best meet their career goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:34 PM
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I mean I’ve also lived in Manhattan and it was pretty similar to what I’ve experienced in SF. Maybe they’re outliers? But, at any rate, what you’re describing just isn’t normal or applicable for the people in my life circle. And almost nobody I know paired off with someone they met in undergrad or grad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:14 PM
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I mean how common is it for huge friend groups to move together to a city after college? That sounds lovely, but those groups are usually impossible for outsiders to penetrate since they are so tightly formed. I went to grad school nearby, but pretty much everyone dispersed across the country afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 06:09 PM
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Honestly you guys sound kind of like the weirdos. Where I live, that script just doesn’t play out past college. Formal dating is a thing, and it’s the common experience for most people who live in cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:59 PM
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I think the friend -> relationship thing is becoming kind of rare. I’m in my mid 20s and live in SF and most of the couples I met weren’t didn’t meet within their friend group. Hell, most people don’t really have dedicated friend groups here, outside of work colleagues. And doing anything with a woman from work is a big “No.” I think formal dating is very much a thing in big cities, and has been for a very long time (since big cities were a thing). The gradually forming a relationship with someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:36 PM
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Well I’ve never seen it. ghosting, sure. But getting ghosted right as I walk inside the place we were meeting, esp when we were talking just 45 minutes beforehand, is a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 04:37 PM
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Yep. I was so surprised too. We were texting and snap chatting consistently. It’s just incredibly immature. Thank you though. I know that’s not normal behavior. Haha it was just so rude, it took off me guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 05:12 AM
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Well tinder date never happened. She blocked my number right as I came to meet her lmfao. I really shouldn’t be dating at all considering where my self-esteem is at. I’m gonna go get wasted by myself at the bar
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 03:17 AM
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Lolol I was just given a hard pass by this giant lady I met on tinder the other day. I'm like 5'8/5'9 and she was like 6'2. I was all for it. She wasn't down tho. I need to remove the pic I have with both of my 5'3 friends. I never gave it a second thought, but just realized it gives the impression I'm much taller than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:07 AM
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plenty of them are ugly. But they're at least clean lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:02 AM
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Okay that makes sense. I live in an urban city in CA, so I guess the trends are a bit different. On the work uniforms: yeah those get pretty filthy. I worked in fast food in HS and a bit of college, and I'd wear my work uniform for days straight. The smell of the terrible greasy shit we were cooking must have overpowered our collective stench, tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:53 PM
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Whereabout have you noticed this? I'll grant you most dudes have dirtier places. My place wasn't great until I started getting a house cleaner for my apt. But the re-wearing clothes and not brushing properly thing is foreign to me. The dudes in my area don't seem to do that. How on earth could they show up to work smelling like poop and piss? I feel like they'd get a complaint from HR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:38 PM
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PPD comes thru with that 👌👌👌dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 11:21 PM
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I don't think it's gendered. I think it only seems that way from our respective perspectives. Some people don't have the deep seated yearning that other people have, be it man or woman. I do think a lot women today have an easier time being single than men. That's because they're afforded a lot of things that dudes only tend to get through relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:41 PM
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It’s so European it hurts. But I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:42 PM
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That’s a good one. Although if she doesn’t mind hypothetical bleedy dicks, and I end up trying to fuck her anyways, she will see that I clearly don’t and never have trimmed or shaved my pubic hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 02:11 PM
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Well, I have another tinder date tomorrow. I genuinely hope she’s not expecting me to fuck her. I’m so depressed, probably couldn’t even get it up. We’ll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:23 AM
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I know inc*l content is generally not allowed... but can I get in a quick “RIP” for my curry-cels?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 07:14 AM
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This fucking killed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:35 AM
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Well I better start shaving my back then lol. Somehow never realized I should be doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:08 AM
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I knew women shaved their legs, and arms sometimes. Stuff like back hair surprises me. I’ve lived with girls, and have never heard that one before. But I hear ya. I’m gonna try shaving my back.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 04:02 AM
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I mean, how would I know any better? Also women don’t get hairy like men do. But I’ll concede that there’s a lot of things about women I don’t know/understand that might be obvious to you. But is it really preferred that men shave their body hair? I somehow have never picked up on this, if that’s the case. I’m pretty hairy, and assumed that was fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:53 AM
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lol it still seems ridiculous to me. But I'm gonna give it a shot. Thanks for the link.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:50 AM
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I think you've convinced me. IDK how I'm gonna explain the women's products to anyone that spends the night, but I'm sure there are products that look gender neutral. Also might browse online, too. TBH I'm a little frustrated with the way the shampoo/conditioner hybrid thing makes my hair look. I can't explain it, but it just looks off. I have short hair, but the best it ever looked was when I used my ex GF's products.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:23 AM
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That's really fair. I haven't thought about it from that angle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:12 AM
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I hear ya. But that's a very specific demographic of people. And if I recall from my high school days, the anime girls had poor hygiene too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:11 AM
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Shaving irritates my skin too. Fortunately I've switched to this very close trimmer thing that gives me a stubbled look, which I prefer anyhow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:09 AM
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lmao that's so bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 01:01 AM
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In my case it's fairly sparse, but consistent. I guess I could try a trimmer. I doubt I can really reach every area or see what I'm doing though. Is body hair really an issue? I've never bothered shaving any of my body hair, besides the back of my neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:37 AM
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They don't really have to be, but they are marketed that way. There's a men's aisle and a women's aisle. I guess I could shop in the women's aisle but I'd be worried about getting something with an obnoxious scent.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:17 AM
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I hear ya. On a slightly unrelated note, I've never trimmed my fingernails, and still they've never grown long. Idk how this happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:11 AM
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I mean I doubt they would say anything negative about my hair to my face either way. But who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:47 PM
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I use those words interchangeably Now the complaints about hygiene are starting to make a little more sense. Practicing (good) hygiene involves practices that relate strictly to cleanliness. Grooming, as it's commonly used, just includes practices for presentational purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:44 PM
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IDK but a lot of girls IRL have given me shit for it when they used my shower.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:36 PM
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Literally, how do you shave back hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:35 PM
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To be fair, you're talking about general grooming habits that are distinct from hygiene. Are you saying men should get a skincare routine? It's blowing my mind a little that women would even want a dude who fussed about his skin in the way women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:33 PM
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A lot of men just have shittier hair products available. I can't even find conditioner that isn't one of those shampoo/conditioner hybrids in Target anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:22 PM
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Well, as you said, back hair isn't related to hygiene, but maybe a lot of women, when complaining about lack of hygiene in men, are conflating "hygiene" with just general grooming practices? Also WTF are we supposed to do about back hair? Men are hairy. Maybe you just aren't attracted to men? (Or, to be fair, aren't attracted to men that are hairy).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:21 PM
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I think that can happen, and might have happened in some cases. But I'm certain in other cases, it went down as described.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 11:17 PM
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I don't think I'd care. My problem isn't with plastic surgery, but with the types of people that tend to do it. If I was dating the kind of girls that I usually date, and later on found out she had plastic surgery, I'd be hugely surprised that she got plastic surgery, but wouldn't have an issue with it. Because presumably she doesn't otherwise strike me as vain or crazy, which are the type of women I've successfully avoided for most of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:50 PM
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I'll speak for myself, but I hate the idea of "pumping and dumping" anyone. When I want to have NSA sex, it's with women who presumably want the same thing. The idea of hurting someone's feelings, or making somone feel used, profoundly turns me off. That being said, I've run into scenarios where a woman hides her intentions, seems apparently down to have NSA sex. Later on, when she asks me to commit and I don't want to, I end up being the bad guy. Just for not feeling the same way. I didn't deli…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:44 PM
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I mean, I think it's an issue mostly women, not men. I remember that flood of """feminist""" articles bemoaning lack of """eligible""" men as women start to out earn, and receive more education than, their male counterparts. I'm not discounting your experience. I'm sure there are plenty of men that would rather be the breadwinner. But I think the larger common phenomenon is clearly the inverse. I don't think guys get tripped up about status, for better or worse, in the same way woman do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:36 PM
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TBH do obese women really have an easy time dating? I can't imagine they would have too many options to choose from. It's a genuine question. I wouldn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:30 PM
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nail, meet head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:44 PM
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I'm pretty active. Run every day, and lift weights three times a week. I do agree with what you said though. I'm the same way, in that ordinarily I feel pretty anxious/down/sluggish on the days I don't get any physical activity in. But something else I think is going on. It'll pass, I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:42 PM
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There’s something definitely going wrong with me. I’ll try to be proactive about it. I have little glimpses where I feel fine, like my old self again, and everything seems so manageable. And then I sink back into whatever this is, and just feel total apathy and this weird sense of dread. The dread I feel is vague. Its source dissolves from view every time I try to examine it. I don’t want to just bitch and moan without taking proactive steps to solve my situation. Fortunately, I love to bitch an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 07:07 AM
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And if people didn't harbor unfair prejudices against individuals, and tried to be a little inclusive despite their biases, maybe those spaces would benefit for it. Because it sucks that I've been blocked out of activities that I used to be really passionate about, because of people who hold the same attitudes that you do. And I resent the assumption that I had nothing of positive value to contribute to those spaces, just because of what I do for work - which is also something I'm passionate abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 10:04 PM
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Well now I know that you're not talking about me, because I don't play video games. Neither do any of my cohorts really? TBH my colleagues don't really resemble those stereotypes. If I had to stereotype them, I'd call them kombucha drinking yuppies who are into outdoorsy/extreme sports stuff to an excessive, almost annoying, degree. I guess none of us are software engineers - we're more data/math guys - so maybe that has its own stereotypes. I'm sensitive because there's a prejudice against guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:56 PM
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I'm saying absolutely nothing about YOU Really? Because I'm a guy who works in tech. And you're talking about guys who work in tech. So, if you're not talking about me, who exactly are you talking about when you talk about tech guys? It's almost as if generalizations are lazy - albeit useful - shortcuts that break down when you resolve to talk to about actual individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:41 PM
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Okay, you're right. I'm a boring asshole. So is everyone I went to school with and work with, many of whom I have counted as my friends. Well, I didn't set out in life to become a boring asshole. Whatever should I, and, I'm guessing, most other males in the tech sector, do to not be a boring asshole, in your estimation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:33 PM
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Or maybe you can re-examine your baseless assumptions. Yeah, listening to people who don't fit in your little "bubble" is "unbearable." Whatever. And yeah. When you say offensive things, people will be offended. That's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:28 PM
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nah, I just have an issue with unfounded arrogance. It's a lot easier to assume superiority. It's harder to find value in people different from yourself, because it offends the reservoir of assumed superiority that people build for themselves to protect their self-esteem. I love the arts - so do literally all of my friends, something that might surprise you because it offends your reservoir of superiority that you've built for yourself - and I've always been intimidated by people who excelled in…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:22 PM
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There is a malicious assumption that most guys in tech don't have worthwhile personalities, or don't lead rich interior lives that have value. There's an assumption that their work is inconsequential, and doesn't require creativity. Many people assume these men don't have interests or goals beyond crass materialism. They make judgments about what kind of men they must be, and project an aura of self-involvement upon them. And it's just not true, for the most part. The most interesting/awesome pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 09:07 PM
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You both must be really amazing people to somehow consider yourselves better, or somehow more interesting, than the entire male population in a sector. Tell me, what makes you guys so interesting and attractive and superior to most men in tech?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:39 PM
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Oh there's plenty of malice involved. That's the part I take issue with. Not that techies en masse make girls dry up, which can't be helped, and isn't worth complaining about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:29 PM
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Eh, I think it's naive to say that it's just limited to a judgment on their attractiveness as whole - which I obviously don't have a problem with, although as someone who works in tech, I'm always a little hurt that I'm lumped in with a group of people who are judged to be boring and unattractive - I hear a lot of malicious judgment about who men in tech are as people. IDK where that shit comes from, but it's a much more common attitude than you're asserting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:27 PM
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Perhaps, but I wouldn't later rant to my friends about how all elementary school teachers are boring losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 08:13 PM
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In actuality, sure. But I doubt that line of thinking bears any resemblance to the experience that occurs in their head. I want to to know how they justify passing judgment on people that generally work hard, have ambitions and are occasionally decent at realizing them. Like techies don’t give them the tingles. Fair enough. But the value judgment that goes along with that is annoying. Unjustified self-confidence is a pet peeve of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:50 PM
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Oh I understand. I just want to hear the justification. I live in SF, and you wouldn't - well, you would - believe how many women bash on guys in techs, even those that work within the sector. There's some truth to the tech bro stereotype. There are a quite a few that are generally boring, and uninterested in the arts or anything outside of their sphere. Funnily enough, so many tech bros detest their boring counterparts - the boring marina girls, and lust after girls that don't want anything to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:34 PM
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What’s exactly wrong with guys in tech? EDIT: unlike the bountiful tech bros, you’ll actually face competition for finance guys, and they tend to only date the New England rose types, that went to the same schools they did. They pump and dump everyone else. Also, I have a small handful of friends who are traders/IBs at Goldman, and they’re just as dweeby as the tech guys. And they dress the same now that the BBs have retired the formal dress code. However they are much, much less abashed about t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:17 PM
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Yeah I agree. the dremel is a good investment. It’s broadly applicable enough, that you’ll get good use out of it for the years to come. What kinda stuff do you plan on making?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:11 AM
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Not a bad idea. Although I’m the type to get really hyped up about an idea, invest in a lot of equipment, and then immediately move on. But good luck with your projects, incel faggot. If you link pics of what you make on the mega thread, I’ll take a look at ‘em.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:04 AM
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I had hobbies. But let them fall by the wayside. I guess I like to read a lot. But I don’t know if that counts. I used to play music and do stand up, but I don’t do any of that stuff anymore. And I don’t think I want to. So I guess no current hobbies, outside of reading, which might not even count as a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:56 AM
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I don’t think so, incel faggot. I think I’m just too unmotivated to go home.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:26 AM
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I think I’m depressed. I hang out at my office until well after 9, sometimes later. I’m not doing anything productive, really. Just intermittently working, and a lot of unrelated reading/goofing off. IDK. I moved apartments. New district. Thought it would be a fresh start. It’s been a month. Haven’t even unpacked. Still sleeping on my 30 dollar air mattress. Canceled my solo ski trip in Vail. I’m in my mid twenties and I live like a 50 year old divorcee. I just am not motivated to get it togethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 05:40 AM
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Your point about the feds is really fair. But abroad there are human rights groups and intelligence agencies that have rightly and accurately identified several transcontinental criminal enterprises that are unfortunately very real and are also very responsible for some of the most voluminous and heinous human trafficking offenses seen in Europe. But I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that the data is messy. I’m curious too if a solution can be found. Commonsensically you’d think legalization woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 03:12 AM
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I’m on your side. I’m a sucker for platonic friends slowly falling love
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:44 AM
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That’s a really fair question. In truth, our awareness of human trafficking is literally confined to what we can find and see. However, this data that found the correlation was sourced from various intelligence agencies and human rights groups, who track not just the volume of crime victims but the traffic patterns of victims and the criminal organizations who routed them. One of the reasons why these findings were so persuasive, IIRC - I’m in no way an expert - was that it was assumed that lega…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:28 AM
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Oh don’t get me wrong, I understand the necessity of screening. I’m just personally surprised there are enough guys willing to do it. I know I wouldn’t. But I’m glad you found a way to make it for ya. I’m torn about legalization, however. On one hand, it makes sense in an ideal world. However, having worked with an agency that combatted human sex trafficking (not the feds don’t worry lol), I’m wary about it. There’s a lot of evidence out there that suggests a correlation between legalized sex wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 02:10 AM
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Well, good luck...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:46 AM
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Do people really do the screening? That's the thing I'm most incredulous about when talking about sex work. Don't get me wrong, I understand you need to take precautions; I've seen enough true crime to know just how wildly dangerous it can be. But I just can't imagine any rational dudes actually consenting to giving away their personal information in an exchange that is 1) quite illegal and, more importantly, 2) very sensitive and probably personally damning
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:44 AM
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Philly has the most favorable gender ratio for guys of any city in the country. NYC ain't that far behind. Come to SF and see how easy it is...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:36 AM
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TBH I think he's obviously way out of her league and she's saving face in the most outrageous way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 01:33 AM
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Threads like these are a reminder of just how unproductive the time I spend on here is. God, you guys can be such fucking losers sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 06:12 PM
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Lololol imagine believing this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:36 AM
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About time PPD start addressing the real issues...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 02:26 AM
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I don’t really think so. I’ve never struggled with feeling confident most of the time. But perhaps a little column a, a little column b? 1.5 inches seems small, and it is, really. But when we’re talking about height differentials between men and women, we are talking about a matter of inches. When a lot of girls in my area are in the 5’6-5’9 range, and they all additionally where heels of some sort, 1.5 inches for a 5’8 guy makes a non-negligible difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 10:13 PM
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Not that I’ve noticed. I still run every day (not wearing the lifts obviously). There was someone who claimed to be an expert in the field on the automod who had dire warnings abt them, but Idk. some women wear two inch, or more, heels every day, and they seem more uncomfortable/detrimental than the lifts, which are padded and have shock support, with a bit of an arc, and they haven’t been dissuaded. My feet don’t appear worse for wear. Its not like I wear them 24/7, or every time I go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 05:08 PM
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Lolol I’m plenty confident with myself. I wear lifts because they work. If wearing socks and sandals somehow made it easier to get laid, I’d go and do that. God forbid I try to make my life a little bit easier. Seems like women are more tripped about height than I ever was, reading into it more than I ever have.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 04:40 AM
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It’s a first impression thing. People notice height, but aren’t actively conscious of it outside of the extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 04:30 AM
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I don’t know if we’re thinking about the same thing. I can’t even tell, and I wear the things. I’ll concede that maybe there will be the rare person who is attuned to these things and can notice, but what does it matter, really? Most people don’t seem to be able to. I’ve only noticed positive things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:57 AM
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Lol what? Superficial appearances reel people in. After that, other things start to matter more. Nobody is going to be sold on me because of 1.5 inches, even if it helped draw her eye. But good for you, having the whole package, I guess. Not all of us are so lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:40 AM
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Lolol I don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks a man “should do.” I literally just want to get laid more often by beautiful women. Lifts helped with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:36 AM
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Lmfao. Right on the nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:33 AM
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Mods changed this to CMV. I meant it more as a note/psa. But I welcome all dissenting input. That’s more interesting. I just might not be swayed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:30 AM
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Meh, I live in an area drowning in single rich dudes. I’m well payed for my field, but it hasn’t made a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 02:18 AM
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I'm 5 foot 10 and I never considered myself in the realm of short at all Yeah. And you're fucking taller than me. And, no, I don't consider myself all that short. But apparently some women did. And, yeah, I've noticed it substantially easier to get hook ups when wearing them. I'm sure my area has something do with that, since a majority of the girls are 5'6/5'7 and all wear heels of some sort or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:44 AM
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Well, first off I'm not slipping 3 inches into a shoe. I'm putting 1.5 inches into my nice semi-formal boots. Also secondly, yeah, maybe some people are super attuned and can notice from a mile away. I personally couldn't tell, and I wear the fucking things. And I actually wear them in my day to day life, and I highly doubt anyone has noticed that I'd care not to. TBH I've only noticed positive things. So, yeah. Short guys should absolutely wear lifts. Most people won't notice. And I couldn't ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:42 AM
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idk how you'd think you'd find out. they're a lot more common than you realize. Esp in the legal and finance worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:28 AM
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No, I am. I'm just saying in photos of myself, I can't notice. And sure, maybe some people can tell IRL. It seems like an overwhelming majority of people can't, really. Again, wouldn't do it if it didn't seem to work. But it does, so I'm gonna keep doing using them, and I'm gonna encourage my fellow short peeps to follow in my lift trodden footsteps
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:24 AM
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I think it's more subtle than you're giving them credit for. I honestly can't really even notice them in photos. But maybe some people can? TBH that doesn't matter to me. I wouldn't do it if it didn't seem to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:19 AM
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Doubt it. I guess the only thing you can do is try it for yourself and see if you notice anything different. I'm guessing results will vary depending on your area.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/19 12:18 AM
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I haven't gotten laid more since I lived in NYC since I started wearing them. But believe what you will lol. I can't convince you, either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:50 PM
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eh, i've been wearing them for a while, and I doubt anyone's noticed. It's a lot lower risk than you'd suspect. And tbh I really couldn't give a shit if someone found out and thought it was ""weird."" Because I think that response is wrongheaded, irrational, and stupid. I have my point of view and I'm confident in my point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:47 PM
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Well, tell that to the girls I've fucked since I started wearing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:39 PM
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it screams insecurity. Yeah, all guys are insecure about something. It's apart of being human. It seems a lot of women would just much rather their man never express or acknowledge it, so they could project their personal ideal of "masculinity" onto their dude, and disregard his humanity in the process. women are very forgiving of men's looks Eh, there's research out there that begs to differ. It's just not the same "looks" that guys respond to in women. Besides, the only thing that have really …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:16 PM
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I lift three days a week. And I agree, all guys should do that as well if they want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:09 PM
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Eh, I'd argue that lifts make me look more masculine, cuz they give me added height, and they don't really affect the way I walk, cuz the inserts don't really operate like "high heels". I'm guessing your real issue is a guy who cares enough about his appearance to go to lengths like these. I'd agree, if girls also didn't care about a dude's appearance. But apparently they do. Like a lot. So why is it wrong that I try to improve? I work out and try to wear clothes that fit well and look okay. Do …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 11:05 PM
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Why is it """ridiculous"""?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:50 PM
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Sounds real rational. But you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:47 PM
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Yeah. I’m not gonna leave a job that I love or the city where I have made a life for myself just to get laid more often. Lifts are low cost and low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:45 PM
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Believe what you will. It’s made a tangible difference for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:41 PM
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Wearing heels isn't solving your insecurities I’m not trying to solve my insecurities. I’m trying to get laid more often. Lifts helped achieve that, among other things. I'm not the bad guy for disliking artificially altering your appearance to deceive people. Lmfao. You must hate women who wear makeup, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:40 PM
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Yeah, if you were rocking 3 inches, you've gone from enhancing your appearance to straight up altering it. I guess the distinction is a fuzzy sliding scale. Per the lifts being hidden: Eh, I don't know. They are all things that improve your appearance. Tapered clothes accentuate positive things about your body. Fat dudes grow beards to hide their double chins. I just see them all as "appearance enhancing."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:25 PM
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insecurity about being short is a bigger problem than being short. lololol also i guarantee you that some people have realized that you are wearing elevator shoes Haven't worn elevator shoes. But even if people have noticed the lifts (which I greatly doubt), I just don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:19 PM
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lol go for it. i do think after a point, extra height gives you diminishing returns.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 10:17 PM
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Personally I would think less of a mate I knew he wore lifts and I would imagine my girlfriend thinking less of me if I wore them. Sure. But only because we're programmed to hate men who try to "elevate" themselves, or take action on an insecurity in anyway. It's irrational and we can do better than that. And yeah, if you go bald, you can just accept it gracefully. But if a dude goes bald in his early twenties, would you really think less of him if he got a hair transplant? And if, so, is that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:54 PM
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I mean, what's the point really? If you just happened to be two inches taller, would that really then count as a more meaningful positive trait than lifts? Superficial attraction helps draw people in. It won't seal the deal. If anybody is invested in a long term relationship, it won't be predicated on 1.5 inches. If you're having nagging thoughts, I'd recommend just shifting your perspective. I really just can't see lifts as any different as getting a good haircut or buying clothes that make you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:50 PM
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Sure, if any of that shit mattered as much as height, or if they were as low effort/subtle as lifts. Besides, you can't naturally improve height, but you can work out. If I could make myself taller by working out, I would prefer that option, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:33 PM
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Idk if it would be so bad for LTRs. Just don't mention the lifts. In the unlikely event she asks about it, just say that you like the extra height. If you treat it as normal, then she likely will too. Besides after a certain point, you could probably just ditch the lifts. I know women are shallow, but I doubt very many women would break up with you after investing in a long term relationship over an extra inch and a half. By that point it shouldn't matter as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 09:28 PM
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this is a wonderful comment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 05:29 PM
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No, but I can kinda tell. We otherwise got along really well, and had a really fun time. It could be something else, but I'm guessing the fact that she was a good four-five inches taller than me was the killer. She looked visibly disappointed when I walked into the wine bar we were meeting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 07:44 PM
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Yeah, I was sort of hoping we'd hit it off - and we did, but not to the effect for which I was hoping. Oh well. Can't win them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 07:29 PM
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It very well could have had nothing to do with me. That's actually most likely. But she was so frantic about it. Even my uber driver made a joke about it after she hopped out. Oh well, I need to just let this go.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 07:27 PM
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I do think a lot of us are screwed. I never hang here when I'm super happy with my life. That being said, I've grown to like all y'all. You're all kinda fucked in the same way I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 07:22 PM
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Well the freakishly tall tinder date wasn’t into me. She sincerely wants to be friends, though. Feeling very down about my 5’8/5’9 ass right about now. Short men should be be gassed to death in their sleep. It’s a mercy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 07:29 AM
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LMFAOOOOOO u should delete this OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 12:24 AM
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Nah, my post was reminding men that any one woman who says that “most men are ugly” and “most men are losers” are fucking delusional. It’s sad. Because validation from women is so coveted by men - so core to their sense of confidence/self-esteem, and so many women delight in attacking them, and dragging them down. But this convo’s going in circles. I get your point. I just can’t give a shit right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 10:13 PM
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Oh women can advocate for themselves just fine. It’s like the main thing they’re good at lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 10:06 PM
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You know what? I think I’m going to use my passion to try to make men feel better about themselves, because a lot of women, and just society in general, seem intent on tearing them down. It’s not right. And I won’t stand for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 10:04 PM
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I didn’t say that you said that. I said that a lot of women do that, and maybe you personally don’t. That’s literally what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:58 PM
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Lmao why is any of that something to be proud of? Im fairly selective for a guy, but I’ve never made a value judgment about the girls that I’m not interested in. And you might claim to be the exception when it’s convenient - and maybe you are, but my post was referring to the VERY COMMON phenomenon whereby women claim most men “ugly” and “losers” as a way of propping themselves by proxy of the men they let fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:50 PM
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Lolol I promise you, though, that your standards have nothing to do with your value as a person. It’s unlikely that that you’re superior to the overwhelming majority of men. It is much more likely, however, that men superior to you - that’s who women like, right? Guys superior to themselves - might highly value you as a fuckable body. And as rude as that sounds, I really don’t mean it that way. And I get it. We all want the best for ourselves. I don’t begrudge you that. What I do begrudge is con…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:39 PM
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Lmao my username is unrelated to myself. I’ve had a charmed life. Not without struggles, but I’m more successful than I ever thought I would be, professionally, academically, and personally, especially considering where I came from. So as much as you’d like to insinuate that I’m a loser, I’m really not at all by any common metric. Newsflash: men who don’t agree with you aren’t losers by default. Men aren’t losers by default AT ALL. I just resent how many women put down men in general, and how me…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:23 PM
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Oh, I do just fine. But I love that you played the “you must be some ugly dude who can’t get women” card. It’s really telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:14 PM
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One woman given a raise while 7 men lose their livelihoods teehee. wOMen ARe BeTtEr Sounds about right lmao Oh, studies. I have studies too. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0160289616302975 https://scholar.harvard.edu/files/bolotnyy/files/be_gendergap.pdf https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886906000420 But feel free too ignore them cuz “Men bad. Women good.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:58 PM
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Thnx geyges
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:47 PM
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I mean, split every hair if you will. It would be a pity to put in that effort, tho. Everything I spew on this sub is just a valve for the manic energy I get when the adderall kicks in on an empty stomach. These aren’t well formed or considered thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:42 PM
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Lol yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:37 PM
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I’m not “red pilled,” but I’m not “blue pilled” either. Here’s what the red pill gets right, even though, as with all online “pill” ideologies, it’s a collaboration of mentally deficient shut ins who failed to articulate it: Women like masculine dudes. Get in touch with your masculine side and be more broadly appealing to women. Also, you’re probably going to be fine. Chances are you will meet someone that will make all of this online “pill” crap seem incredibly silly, which it is. The guys who …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:22 PM
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UM the average person is “Red Pilled” already. Most people intuitively understood that women liked men who were masculine and higher on the relative social ladder of other men. Only you fucking weirdos needed to be taught what most guys naturally understood by middle school. I’m curious why did you guys fail to pick it up? What unites this weirdo subculture of profoundly clueless dudes?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:03 PM
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You don’t get to choose what’s healthy. Your consciousness is just an interpreter for the limbic system. It’s healthy for men to have sex. Because we were designed to need it in order to maintain mental stability. A man not getting any is eventually less functional, less sociable than his counterpart.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:00 PM
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You know what? If a woman finds an overwhelming amount of men unattractive maybe she’s just not that attracted to men. What the fuck is up with this bullshit lately? “Most men are ugly.” “Most men are losers.” “Most men are small dicked assholes with awful personalities.” The absolute arrogance of the women who make these claims. And you fucking pussies just lap it up, nodding along, pitching in the occasional “well, I agree but not me, right?” How fucking egotistical does a woman have to be to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 04:56 PM
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Kate spade purse. I looked up the dimensions. Totally creepy, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 05:37 AM
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Doctor still wins out in the long run. How else can you make 250k a year in the middle of nowhere? That being said, it prob sucks to start that late
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 04:13 AM
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Idk, anecdotal evidence tells me this isn’t quite true. I’m sure you’re broadly correct, but specifically per your example, I’ve seen evidence to the contrary FWIW
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 03:47 AM
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Nah, I was recently showered. IDK.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 01:57 AM
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The other day I hopped in an uber pool, and the girl sitting next to me hopped right out and demanded she sit up front. What the fuck was that?? I had my headphones in, and looked fine. For some reason this is bothering me. On another note, I was able to calculate that my upcoming tinder date is a good almost half foot taller than me. I'm not even that short. I double checked my math. Either she was fucking around with 2:3 scale miniatures, or she's like 6'2. There's always something.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 01:52 AM
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good argument there, bud
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 01:10 AM
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I didn't - and don't - wanna settle down. I think that's the crux of it. Also, I was fairly transient. Transferred undergrads. Stayed in the city for a while, and then moved across the country for grad school, and then moved again to another city. In addition, in undergrad, I didn't give a fuck about relationships. I don't think most people did? We were all obsessed with our future professional and academic careers. It sort of eclipsed everything else. I don't think I knew anybody that married s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 11:05 PM
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I've lived in a city (city 1) wherein the gender ratio was skewed in favor of dudes, and another (city 2) wherein the gender ratio was skewed in favor of women. It made a world of difference, in both OLD and IRL. In city 1 women were a lot thirstier, a lot more available, and my tinder blew the fuck up. In city 2 it kind of sucks. I can still make it work, but everything about myself has improved vastly over where I was in city 1, and I'm still not doing anywhere near as well as I was in city 1.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 11:01 PM
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Nah, this premise is highly flawed. Women tend to find their perception of the top guys in a room attractive, regardless of the baseline. If you raise the baseline, you won't make anymore guys more attractive to women. I feel like I'm """chad""" when visiting flyover shitholes or cities with gender ratios skewed in our favor, but am sharply taken back to my reality when I go back home where most guys are rich and fit, and were educated at top universities. I don't get to be a special snowflake a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:01 PM
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I generally think women are pretty good at dating, and just self advocacy in general. Now I don't actually think spending all of your efforts toward self-advocacy is a particularly noble trait, but I do think women almost do guys a favor by assessing whether a dude would be a good match. Most dudes would try to make anything work, even if the girl was clearly wrong for him. That being said too many women focus on the negatives of prospective partners - and just men in general - rather than posit…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 09:48 PM
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This speaks to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 05:56 AM
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PPD is slowly blue pilling me. I came here to talk shit, preferably about women, but the absolute state of men on this sub has me considering alternatives. I want to make a post about this, but I haven’t quite put my finger on the best way to express exactly what I’m observing. Hopefully I figure it out before the holidays end as after which I won’t get to waste as much time on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 09:41 PM
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Well then I’m sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 07:37 PM
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Address her, not me. Don’t use catty backhanded bitch tactics to shit talk the femcel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 06:58 PM
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I mean, I disagree with the red pill, I think. There’s the common sense stuff, which I’m glad they are learning from somewhere if they can’t figure it out on their own accord like most people do. But most of it feels like nonsense. It feels like they’re just trying to emulate frat bros from secondhand observation. the basics - get in touch with your masculine side, be in shape, and literally approach more - are the things that work. Literally everything else feels like wrongheaded extrapolation …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 03:05 PM
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Idk anymore. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from this sub it’s that the TRP folks are a little... simple? I’m not sure how to put it yet. I’ll open a thread when I do. But as readily as I believe that a lot of women aren’t into them, I am just as ready to believe that they wouldn’t be able to recognize an IOI if it hit them in the face. Remember, these are guys who were shocked to find out that women like masculine men. They were shocked to find out that the heteronormative sexual dynamic is …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 02:46 PM
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Social anxiety has caused your selectivity to reach zero. Remember, selectivity is defined by your actions, not your feelings. If you’re a heterosexual male and you’re not initiating, you are not “selecting” anything. Apprehension is the check most men have that allows them to discern. If you can’t overcome this apprehension for a girl you like, you will have failed at the initial step of the human mating ritual, and thus you will be “too weak” to mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 01:36 PM
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Lol imagine tolerating loads of casual solipsistic misogyny on this sub, but getting “horrified” by stupid girls dishing it back in their own stupid way. You’re like a female nice guy. Nice girl? Like I’m a guy, but I’ll stick up for my ugly delusional and retarded MGTOW/Incel bros. Or at least try to explain where they’re coming from to women on this sub from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:18 PM
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Perfect analogy. I know this isn’t productive, but bravo. Nuggets like this redeem this whole shitshow of a sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:09 PM
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The ambiguity is on purpose. She’s trying to make it easy for you to man up and pursue her. Heteronormative women don’t make the first “explicit” move: That’s not how normal heterosexual relationships work. Every species has mating rituals. This is ours. Take it as it is or start taking cock up your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:58 AM
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Are you on the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:53 AM
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I think that’s totally fair. A certain number can just get gross for anybody. Also makes me think they’re using sex to seek shallow validation/meaning in a life which is lacking. Which, again, just isn’t attractive. Not gross-disease-ridden-genitals levels of unattractive, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:50 AM
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Um, divorce. Also it would be incredibly difficult for me to believe my hypothetical spouse if she were to insist that she hadn’t cheated on me earlier. But just bringing it up would signal the end of our marriage regardless. I don’t care what other consenting adults do, obviously, but I don’t believe an open relationship even remotely qualifies as a real relationship. I can’t even fathom it. Not to mention I would be absolutely heartbroken that my hypothetical wife could even consider it, even …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:37 AM
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You have to understand, that for guys, they reject girls by not pursuing them. So rejection looks a little different from the model you’re thinking of. And it happens all of the time, by every dude, including - in fact, most especially - the incels, Guys are physically attracted to pretty much anything, due to our relatively ridiculous sex drive. We subconsciously are discerning tho, even if most guys lack the intellectual capacity to be self aware about this fact. And that discernment manifests…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:14 AM
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lmao!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 11:49 PM
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No but you can isolate cause and effect with simple physical traits. You can literally isolate genes in many of these cases. A lot of evo biology can be substantiated with at least some rigor. With behavior, you can't, because we can't explain all of the factors that influence behavior. I was not an evo psych or psych major, so grain of salt and all that, but it seems to me that a lot of evo psych is just psych but with rather unsubstantiated evo motivations attributed in the conclusions. At lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:55 PM
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Oh sure, but in effect it reads as parody cuz it’s all reactionary, whether sincerely felt or not. I’m not arguing that the women of FDS aren’t losers. But they are a perfect mirror to the TRP folks. It’s fun to see them deal with cognitive dissonance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 05:45 PM
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I love FDS just because I love seeing these TRP dorks get their panties in a bunch when some of that ridiculous shit is directed at them. As a parody it’s flawless. Not gonna lie mod, I’m a little disappointed you’re banning those posts. It’s for the better, I presume.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 05:24 PM
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People who internalize information they’re not ready to accept will come around to it eventually. Maybe not in all cases. But if people hear something that makes sense to them, their brain will accept it, even if their ego won’t let them admit it to themselves right away. Even if they dig their heels in, over time they’ll be more likely to come around than otherwise. But, to be clear, I’m mostly joking about my power of articulation. I just want to also be clear that I was under the impression t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 04:18 PM
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Well thank god they have someone like me who is really good at articulating it :P
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 04:12 PM
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I would have agreed, but apparently it is, after looking at this struggle session of a thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:59 PM
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And then whine about how picky girls and they’d be happy fucking any girl who isn’t a land whale, without even considering their own role in their own outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:35 AM
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Oh they certainly do. We get a thread on the topic what feels like every other day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:31 AM
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There is a misconception. Guys genuinely believe that women they are attracted to are somehow in their personal running. So many guys feel chronically rejected when they implicitly reject almost every girl they meet, regardless of whether they are attracted or not. It regresses discussions on the matter, because their conception of their own selectivity is just plain wrong. If you’re a guy, not making a move is making a rejection. Women select from what is offered, guys make the offers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:22 AM
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Physical traits and simple structures can be empirically tested for. It’s evo psych where things get messy, because we don’t fully understand the brain or how it influences behavior at a granular level. So the tools of measurement are nonexistent. We can empirically measure and confirm that animals get floppy ears after generations of domestication. When it comes to matters of behavior, it becomes trickier, because we don’t know what to isolate for. Huge swathes of human and animal consciousness…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:18 AM
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It doesn’t matter to me what incels do or do not do. I just wanted to nip a common misconception in the bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:12 AM
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Plenty of guys figure it out. I did. If you’re an adult, you need to be self reliant, or else adulthood will be a fucking slog.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:08 AM
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Again. It’s not a hard science if it can’t be scientifically verified. Informed speculation fits the bill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:06 AM
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Sure, but if they are not happy with their existing strategies, they should re-evaluate. If they “””can’t””” meet and initiate with girls IRL, their first priority should be situating themselves so they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 07:04 AM
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I don’t qualify approach. It doesn’t have to be (and probably shouldn’t be) a cold approach. The implication is that guys should initiate with more girls, ie up their “selection rate,” if they’re not happy with what they’re getting. Or they should spend more time seeking the specific girls who apparently do pass their existing criteria. Also they should determine their battlefield appropriately. IE while meeting IRL is higher risk, there is potential for higher reward, because risk is lower for …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:57 AM
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That guys are actually pretty selective in their selection process. If that surprises them, or if that feels incongruent, they should re-examine their habits. Also, women should also re-evaluate. Just because guys seem attracted to her, if she’s not getting asked out by guys she likes, she should re-evaluate her strategy, because guys can be attracted and still pass her up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:49 AM
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Right but the whole point of my post is that it’s not useful to define male selectivity in terms of base attraction, because that is but one criterion in the actual selection process.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:25 AM
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Sure, but he didn’t, because he made an assumption which informed his selection process.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:20 AM
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Still a criterion for selection. She’s too hot to approach, so a lot of guys won’t select for her (for which she’s probably really grateful)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:12 AM
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Evo psych isn’t well respected because it’s difficult, and often impossible, to scientifically verify. A lot of it’s just speculation. There’s no doubt that evolutionary pressures have shaped who we are, but determining what evolutionary pressures determined which psychological traits is just literal guess work. This is changing as software has allowed to new methods of scientific investigation, but evo psych won’t become a real science until neuro has developed further. I don’t want anyone walk…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 06:10 AM
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Sure I am. So are you. So please feel free to offer an alternative definition and I will cheerfully and precisely explain to you why mine is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 05:02 AM
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I’m defining male selectivity. Female selectivity is inherently different. It’s not “every guy she’s attracted physically attracted to” it’s every guy whose advances she reciprocates, whether they overlap or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 04:30 AM
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Um, did you ignore my post? I risk asking out girls all of the time. But only a fraction of the girls I’m attracted to move me to ask them out. And there is a risk, I’m afraid, whether that pleases you or not. Women do feel uncomfortable getting hit on when that’s not what they’re there for. Having organized many clubs before, this is what I’ve learned from 1) feedback from female attendees and 2) working with other club organizers, half of which are women. It doesn’t mean you should never do it…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 04:00 AM
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It is. Passive attraction isn’t selection. It isn’t anything, really, unless it manifests in reality. Just brain noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:48 AM
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Nah it’s perfectly logical. Whether you’re desirable or not is irrelevant because you’re not approaching anyone. That’s a selection rate of 0%. The hottest women in the world could have a crush on you and it wouldn’t matter because only desperate women ask guys out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 03:28 AM
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Lol that’s fair. But yeah, clothing/general presentation was a huge one for me. I invested in some nice clothes, made sure they fit, started just paying attention to how I looked in general. That made the biggest difference for me. Weightlifting might have helped, and I still do it cuz I enjoy it, but the clothing/style thing was pretty dramatic. Make sure whatever you go with is pretty high quality and masculine. If price is an issue, then you can kinda fake it by just tailoring cheaper clothes…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 02:43 AM
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Idk if you’re interested in my advice, but I found stepping up my clothes/haircut just general presentation worked better than weight lifting for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 02:24 AM
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Right. So you know women and men value different physical attributes, right? The women who looks like you isn’t your looksmatch. Your match is the girl who is as attractive to men as you are to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 02:12 AM
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This isn’t really true. Like at all. Idk if you’ve organized/participated in clubs before, but one of the keys to getting more female participation is creating an environment where they feel they aren’t being hit on. If they’re constantly being hit on by dudes they aren’t into, which is likely most of them, they’ll stop coming. Which happens a lot, unfortunately, cuz dudes be treating them like single mixers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 02:05 AM
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if you find it difficult to get sex from your “looksmatch” those women aren’t your looksmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 01:44 AM
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Somewhat irrelevant. Although your feelings of being undesirable has ironically made your criteria of selectivity so strict you literally placed yourself out of the market. Ideally it would have had the opposite effect, but humans are rarely rational
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 01:15 AM
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Okay so you would be defined as a highly selective individual then. If you don’t approach as a male you’re literally not in the market, so, ironically, despite finding 30-40% of women attractive, you currently select for 0% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 01:10 AM
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I’m talking about any form of approach, be it cold or with someone you’ve known for years. Level of familiarity could be a factor in selection for approach
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:57 AM
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Exactly. I’m arguing that “selectivity” for men and women is defined by who they literally select for, not by their internal feelings of attraction. While circumstances force you to be more selective, there’s still a criteria of selection that differentiates the women you do approach vs the ones you don’t. It doesn’t have to be positive or negative, but there is one. Maybe you only select for girls that you have a prior history with. Prior history becomes a factor of selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:56 AM
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I hear ya, but if you read my post what I’m saying is that male selection shouldn’t be defined by the number of women you find “doable” it should be defined by the number of women in the subset of “doable women” that you’d actually make a move on IRL. There’s some differentiating factor, and it doesn’t have to be positive, between that subset and the broader group.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:50 AM
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But I’m sure you do make a move on some of these women. Whatever differentiates them from the others, be it positive or negative, is the basis for your selection criteria
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:45 AM
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Ya, but I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about the subset of those girls that you’d feel compelled to make a move on IRL. I’d argue that that number is probably much lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:39 AM
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Yeah I’d agree. I don’t think a tangible fallout is very likely, but I’d be worried about making the dynamics weird/coming off as creepy. For instance, there’s a girl in my book club that I find really attractive, and I think it’s probable that she likes me, but I’m not going to bother because I don’t want to potentially discourage her, or anyone, from coming to book club out of fear of getting hit on. I’m sure if I liked her more, I’d take the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:33 AM
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I would agree, but I’m not talking so much about commitment, but willingness to act on attraction. Obviously the bar is much lower for dudes, since the bar for attraction is lower, but most guys generally don’t make a non-ambiguous move, that escalates beyond flirting, on just every women they find attractive. It’s a small subset, and that’s who they’re “selecting” for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 12:13 AM
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I think there are some people that are more “in tune” with themselves than others. There are people that don’t have really defined tastes + beliefs and just follow other people. I think you’re absolutely right that the ability to get in touch with yourself is a privilege. I think, though, that a lot of people rob themselves of that privilege. I’ve met some people who have been chronically busy their entire lives and still have a developed sense of self. I think that comes from willful self refle…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:42 PM
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I don’t really buy this premise. Some of the funniest people I have met are women. I think a lot of dudes just don’t share in that kind of humor. I also think men feel pressure to try to be funny around girls, and I think girls feel pressure to laugh at the guys jokes, that I think we end up with a lot of dudes who incorrectly assume they are funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:35 PM
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Pretty women are considered valuable just for being pretty. If she’s not pretty, she can still be valuable for other things, but you can’t be valued for being pretty if you’re not actually pretty. Women don’t understand that the inherent value they are given by society - value not afforded to men - is shallow and conditional. But guys get on just fine without it, more or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:29 PM
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I’m going to say neither. If anything, BP, as stupid as I think it is. I’m basing this off of my friend with autism, so apologies if what I’m going to say is offensive, but I think the rigid “rule” based dogma of RP would be too appealing, and I know my friend would have taken it way too literally. I think you’d run the risk of internalizing the information and be flustered when people don’t behave as RP would predict. I think most RP adherents read between the lines, and take it on a sliding sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:23 PM
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As many stated it can ruin the dynamic of a group. Girls can ruin guys friendship. Suddenly everybody is just competing for the girl’s attention. Also, there is a phenomenon that happened when I was younger, where girls would join a group just to socialize/or because they liked some dude, and their interest in the actual hobby was shallow. I don’t see this as an adult. I didn’t see this in college either, really. But some girls really did like the easy attention from unsocialized nerds more than…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:00 PM
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Yes. I have plenty. There can be romantic tension, which comes naturally over time if you’re equally attractive people. But we can maintain friendship when one of us is in a relationship or not. On occasions things have happened, and we take it further but our history as friends is deeper than whatever romantic thing we flirted with, so the friendship sustains. I’d say about half my friends are women. I get along with women really well, I think. My physical attraction plays no role in whom I’m f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 10:48 PM
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Women who believe this are just unable to empathize with or read men. You would be surprised how many women fail to recognize that men lead emotional lives just as rich as theirs. It’s utter solipsistic bullshit. Women do tend prioritize things that guys don’t and vice versa. And then they get mad each other for not sharing their priorities. It’s a boring topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 10:34 PM
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Shouldn't you be submitting to literary journals?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 10:44 PM
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Lol this is called the "halo" effect. Positive affirmation from people we are attracted to makes us feel good. Positive affirmation from people we aren't attracted to, if we don't already have a relationship with them, makes us feel neutral. I personally have noticed that the nicest people I've met are never the best looking people. This might be a coincidence, but my standing theory is that they have developed a sense of compassion that isn't transactional. It's genuine. And properly socialized…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 10:39 PM
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If you like a girl you will, at some point, have to take a risk and go for it. I've seen situations - and indeed have been in such situations - where both the girl and the guy like each other and nothing comes of it. It's a risk, because you're actually risking something. You're risking getting rejected and ruining the terms of your current relationship. Yeah, the burden falls on us guys. It would be fine if women weren't so fucking awful about it; i.e. shitting on dudes for making a move at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 10:31 PM
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Psychedelics don’t give you some great insight; on any meaningful insight whatsoever. You just divorce yourself from ego - a useful cognitive cool for socialization and rational thinking. Any “””epiphany””” you might have on psychedelics is best thrown immediately in the trash. Otherwise you run the risk of divorcing yourself from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 05:11 PM
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Lmao all this to justify why you shouldn’t have to fuck fat women but it’s absolutely not right that women don’t want to date slobs. The absolute state of men. I’m starting to understand a lot what women bitch about. I’ll restate this again. We get to intellectually curate a lot in our lives. But we don’t get to decide who we are attracted to. That’s why women can intellectually understand that the short guy is a great guy, but still not want to fuck him. Or why you wouldn’t want to fuck my over…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 03:00 AM
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I’m saying what we find attractive in one another is not a decision our active consciousness gets to make. Hence the derision afforded to the body positivity movement. We get to intellectually curate a lot of things in life, but we don’t get to redefine the actors that influence our behavior outside of the realm of active consciousness. If you want to read more about this, I recommend you start with “Thinking, fast and slow” by Daniel Kahneman
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 02:21 AM
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We're talkng about things I value vs things other people value. What I value is more valuable. Get a grip, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 02:09 AM
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I'm not saying that at all. I'm saying that women don't like slobs for the EXACT same reason you don't like fat women. The feeling of disgust. The evolutionary pressures that yielded these feelings don't have anything to do with our conscious decision making. It's a hardwired, or otherwise conditioned, emotional response.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 02:08 AM
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I don't think socioeconomic status has any more to do with women's conscious reaction to "clothing" anymore than I think men's conscious reaction to weight has anything to do with "health." I think it has everything to do with the feeling of disgust. If one trait has a more vital evolutionary pressures than the other, that that will naturally sort itself over the generations. Until then, we like what we like. And if you think women should start overcoming their programming, then it's only fair y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 02:05 AM
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Cuz all of your posts right now are spinning a story wherein the standards of attractiveness you hold for other people are "more rational" or "more correct," than the standard of attractiveness that might be applied to you. There's an obvious conflict of interest that is clouding your ability to logically evaluate the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:51 AM
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Lol and how things "ought" to be just happen to be best suited for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:42 AM
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disgust is disgust is disgust. If you want to qualify the respective degrees of disgust than that changes the whole premise of your argument, does it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:36 AM
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Here's the thing. They are rationalizations because what you feel when I propose you hook up with the fat girl is the feeling of disgust. The same feeling women would get when considering the prospect of hooking up with a slob. The rationalization is the story your brain spins to explain this feeling. It doesn't have anything to do with reality. Now, these feeling of disgust might come from evolutionary/cultural pressures, and those pressures might have to do with things like "status" and "healt…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 01:27 AM
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lol first off it's "straw man" and I'm not sure you know what it means. I forgive you, because it's something redditors like to trot out when they don't want to respond to an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 12:19 AM
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I would argue that the things women care about aren't as valid as the things I care about. I'm sure women can come up with as many reasons for why clothing reflects character as you could with weight. It doesn't matter. It's all rationalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 12:10 AM
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Um yeah... The whole premise of my post was that good clothing boosts the attractiveness of men in the eyes of women and not vice versa. So the equivalent would be some equally arbitrary standard that men value in women that in no way indicates the respective character of said women. It sounds like you're holding women to a double standard, bro. Rationalize that however you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 12:07 AM
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In that case your match is some girl who doesn't feel the need to conform to beauty standards, because she only wants guys who value her for who she is, not her physical attractiveness. I knew an awesome girl from grad school with a rather butch haircut who referred to her extra 20 pounds as a "jerk filter." Sounds like you guys would be a good fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 11:58 PM
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I was never that into it until I went to grad school at a fancy university full of rich kids. I realized quickly that I looked completely out of place, but it took an embarrassing amount of time to put my finger on why that was.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 10:13 PM
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higher selectivity is actually an indicator of lower sex drive. They're negatively correlated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 09:42 PM
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To whom? 19 year olds in your home town? In both NYC and SF the “chads” were dressed in straight up formal wear while the “betas” were dressed in their ill fitting nerd chic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 08:27 PM
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The average guy looks so shitty because superficial - in the literal sense; I’m not making a value judgment - presentation is less important to them. It’s important to women, hence they dress better. If we accept this premise, than the reason why guys benefit more from dress than women is because women value dress more, and are more likely to notice it. If I’m wrong, then I’d love to know why. I’m more curious to know what benefit women receive from paying attention to how they dress. Because it…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 08:24 PM
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Oh fuck off. I'm not a TRPer in any sense of the word. Haven't even visited the sub. I don't think girls are dumb, but I think both guys and girls have biases that cloud their judgment. I'm just casually sharing notes. Personally as a guy, I know most guys flat out don't notice half the shit that girls do with their wardrobe. They differentiate between "looks nice" and "doesn't look nice," and half of that has to do with how pretty they find them. There's a reason why so many dudes prefer their …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:43 PM
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Funny you mention that. I've become a lot more responsive to how women dress, and I thought that was just a personal quirk, but I can see how that applies elsewhere. Like the hot girl at the gym is hot regardless, but there's something about a pretty girl with one of those feminine blazer jackets thingy's that I go nuts over. That being said, I've seen well dressed women who I otherwise wouldn't be attracted to and I'm still not attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 07:03 PM
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I'll concede there. You can make do with what you got and look pretty good in the process. But at the end of the day, visibly quality clothing sends a message that your thift store finds won't. And "trendy" is a bit of a crutch. The best looks for adult men are pretty timeless, and the influence of modernity is a bit more subtle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:59 PM
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I just don't think you're right about that. A lot of unconventional looking people can be made to look good with the right clothes. That's why we call them "unconventional" instead of "ugly." I realize defeatism is more comforting and cognitively easier, but I just don't think it's rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:55 PM
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Eh, expensive clothing also sends a status thing, I think. But clothes that go well together and fit look so much better than they otherwise would. Someone mentioned in another how tailoring clothes at Target makes the clothes look not only better, but more "expensive," and I think I concur.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:52 PM
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Depends on the differential in attractiveness. If you're a weak chinned 5'5 overweight balding guy, Neiman Marcus won't make chad, but you'll still look a whole hell of a lot better to women than you otherwise would.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:50 PM
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Nah, it improves how you look drastically, and degree to which it improves actually goes up exponentially the more unattractive you are. So if you're unattractive but still have good income, it's more important that you pay attention to dress cuz it's one of the few tools in your toolbox that you actually have control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:47 PM
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There are people who just look good regardless of what they're wearing. They'd become more attractive if they were wearing good clothes, however. So an attractive dude in shit clothes won't be able to compete in his "league" as much as the equally attractive dude who dresses well. For other guys, it's make or break.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:44 PM
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That’s a good observation. Speaking for myself, I do appreciate a handsomely dressed women. I assumed myself an outlier in that regard, but it’s quite possible I’m giving myself too much credit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:33 PM
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That’s fair. But that’s essentially just the J Crew and Banana Republic catalog - or was. Which is a totally good starting place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/19 06:28 PM
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I just got the one that amazon recommended. These ones I think https://www.amazon.com/3-Layer-Insoles-Height-Increase-Cushion/dp/8963293157?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 09:00 PM
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Idk, I'm not the tallest dude, but otherwise goodlooking I think. Ultimately the meme that taller girls don't care as much doesn't seem to be true. I've hooked up with mostly short girls. My two serious ltr's were with girls an inch or so from my height though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 08:59 PM
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I do about 1.5. Get the adjustable ones off amazon so you can play around it. The ones I own have a steady incline so it won't affect your gait like women's shoes do, but they definitely do affect your walk. I'd argue that I have slightly better posture with them, although they take a little while to get used to. You definitely don't want your butt sticking out, which will make you give you an effeminate gait. I would imagine, past a certain threshold, the height differential will call attention…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 06:35 PM
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I’ll agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:47 PM
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Well you do you. I just can’t fathom being willing to do such an invasive surgery for something purely cosmetic. I think it’s more likely that you’re more handsome than you give yourself credit, and you have a negative self image. Maybe I’m totally off base. But what specifically do you want to get done? Out of curiosity
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:46 PM
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Makes total sense. Out of curiosity; do you have any advice for dudes that don’t too well on OLD. I’m doing okay, but it took consciously basically contriving pics for Tinder in addition to just accumulating enough good pics. But idk if there’s something out there we’re likely to miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:44 PM
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I disagree with almost all of your points, but since I prefer not to give women any credit on this sub - even when it’s due, cuz I’m here to bitch and moan, not concede ground - I’ll agree that “emotional labor” is bullshit. It’s the peak of the delusional female self aggrandizement to frame your neuroticism as “””labor”””. it’s not something you’re doing for me. It’s something you’re doing to yourself because it’s fun for you in a sick demented way. But yeah, there are tons of guys who get real…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 05:03 AM
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Oh I’m sure that’s true. I just have a hard time getting worked up about it. Like, it would be awesome to be so hot that any strange women I meet would be thrilled to have impulsive sex with me. But I guess I don’t care that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:40 AM
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Oh goddammit. I was just making a flippant comment. I hate how I always have tip toe around isolated nerds with mental illness. I know you’re making a facetious comment, but it is rarely a good idea to get plastic surgery. That’s an incredibly invasive procedure and rarely looks good and is wholly unessesary and just kind of sad. I don’t know what you look like, but if you’re really striking out across the board, there’s almost definitely something you can do that’s not ridiculous. Because unles…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:28 AM
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Is this true? My brother was looking into architecture and what scared him off was the pay. He was telling me that the career outlook for architects even at top firms don’t make very much money at all anymore. Lol I suppose I could look it up; I’m just surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 01:41 AM
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Honestly, I think a majority of the girls of Tinder just want the self-esteem boost. See how many conventional "hot guys" would swipe on them and get a free dopamine boost in the process. I think there's a huge number of girls on OLD that just don't take it seriously as a way to meet guys. So in a way they aren't in the market at all. Just clogging up space (which works just well for the dating apps' bottom line). Like, I'm sure she'll do agree to go on a date if some super hot guy that looks li…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 12:33 AM
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I kind of disagree. If you're in a place where online dating is the norm, it definitely hurts your options. Simply more women are less desperate and less likely to force themselves to go out just to get laid. That being said it's been my experience that girls 100% prefer meeting guys in social situations than online. Their standards are generally much lower in real life. Also girls who are shy definitely take OLD much more seriously than girls who are outgoing. It's been more of a boon for them.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:40 PM
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This just isn't that true for our height. Like if you're 5'5 or even a light 5'6 in a tall area, I totally buy it. But I'm like a half inch taller than OP and I don't really run into issues. I'm by far the shortest of my buddies - they're all 6' - 6'4 and I don't feel like I'm missing out in comparison, really, when we go out, even though I look comically short standing next to them. It's a drawback, sure, but it doesn't have to be crippling, if you're otherwise good looking. Also, I recommend e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:26 PM
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I thought architects earn like 40k on average. Even the top architecture firms start you somewhere around there. No doubt there are very successful architects, but I think it's rather rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 11:18 PM
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That’s all fine and well, except society isn’t progressed by “men,” it’s progressed by exceptional men. Women aren’t exceptional. They cluster in the middle of the bell curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 05:41 PM
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adversarial in a strategic sense, which can turn emotional as well, but doesn't have too. You both have individual needs that need to be filled by that each other and in some ways dating reduces individuals to their gender roles in some essence. It doesn't mean that connecting as individuals isn't important.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 03:34 AM
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Eh I think you’re taking it too seriously. It’s a cope, and that’s all it is. Dating puts the genders in a somewhat adversarial position. You both want something from the other person, and sometimes we resent what we want from one another. It’s natural for some guys to vent. There’s a whole shit ton of venting against men in mass media. Let those guys have their little corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/19 06:19 PM
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I should say ejaculation of any sort, but it’s more likely you’re ejaculate four times every single from masturbation than just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:57 PM
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It is proven that T levels spike 7 days after abstinence form masturbation. However there’s no link yet found to masturbation and long term hormonal impact, although tbh it’s not a well studied area, at least from what I can tell. There’s also a link between excessive masturbation and increased estrogen, but it’s, again, not well studied. That’s why I mentioned chronic masturbation. It takes an ongoing sustained effort lol Edit I’m talking more about ejaculation, whether it be sex or masturbatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:00 PM
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I’ll concede that point. When I was a teenager I could masturbate for an entire afternoon and still be thirsty as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:49 PM
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Lol I’d kill for that. I’m in my mid twenties and my sex drive is super inconsistent. Exercise + lifting weights has helped considerably, but I notice if I masturbate chronically, I just don’t feel that sexually motivated after a while. Like unless a girl is incredibly hot, I just won’t have the drive to flirt. Idk if it’s my age or the ADHD medication. While it’s cool that you have such a high sex drive, there’s also the physical reality that chronic masturbation has hormonal side effects. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:32 PM
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What. this is discounting the effects of chronic masturbation - like 3,4 times a day. That will sap pretty much all of your sexual drive. By not masturbating your sex drive, quite honestly, skyrockets. That’s just how our bodies literally work. Sure, there’s a lot of woo associated with nofap, but it’s probably very necessary to have a high sex drive for that crowd to muster the attraction to the likely shit tier women that would let those guys fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:14 PM
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Well I will say you have made a great case for male fragility lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 05:10 AM
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I feel like you’re bad at banter. If you can’t reply to snark with something witty, you’re better off not responding. Otherwise people will think you’re a little off. A little bit of social intelligence goes a long way. Just my two cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 04:47 AM
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To be fair, I think most women (grudgingly) agreed with me. A few just pointed out that men are violent when triggered. The thing is truly violent men 1) are incredibly rare relative to the general population of men and 2) statistically prove more of a threat to other men. I won’t pretend it’s not a valid issue, but it irks me when all men are lumped together as violent psychopaths. It’s becoming a lazy tactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 05:59 PM
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I’m going to push back on the “women aren’t good at banter” thing. That might be generally true, but in my experience the people who were the best/wittiest/biting in their banter were women. Women are really good at subtle/cerebral digs, and when you can find one that make these comments without being mean spirited (rare), and one that can take as well as they give (doubly rare), she will fucking floor you with quality bantz. Guys are pretty bland in comparison. The best (and meanest) purge week…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 05:53 PM
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I’m just tired of guys being constantly put down and asked to self-reflect on their apparently inherent shiftiness without any introspection offered in return. Sure this sub probably swings hard the other way, but in my every day life, I feel like men are constantly put down. Just because men aren’t taught to advocate for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 05:50 PM
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Honestly, I just feel like my post resonated with you more than you would have liked it to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 03:57 PM
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Ok. You good guy. Him bad guy. Got it. Actually I’m sorry for being a jerk myself. I’m genuinely glad you found a nice guy, and you guys can tease each other in fun. I just have trouble with the way people - men and women alike - pass harsh judgment on their ex partners without reflecting on their own behavior. But I can concede that sometimes there are unequivocally shitty partners, and I’m sorry you had one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 07:23 AM
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How could any woman possibly have any fault of her own. If anything, it’s probably the shitty “””abusive””” men who make women this way. Lmao. It takes an incredibly fragile ego to rationalize that everything else is at fault while taking no accountability for your own actions. It’s a self defense mechanism for the weak and the prideful.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 07:09 AM
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If he responded with the intention of being harsh, he almost definitely took your comments the same way. He was probably insecure about the braces, and you failed to empathize with him. Or he thought he was just teasing. I don’t get why you automatically assume the narrative “I was just teasing, he was being a jerk” is automatically true. It might be, but we’re biased to believe things that make us feel better about ourselves. With that in mind, we should be extra skeptical about things we’d lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 07:03 AM
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Sure. But one of the great things about humans is that we analyze and create meaning from the best evidence we have. Science is the formalization of procuring information and building abstractions with that data so we can 1) learn something true about the world and 2) interpret that truth in a way that would be intelligible to humans. So don’t discount discussion, informal observation and analysis etc, because that’s what seeds formal scientific research. Take it with a grain of salt. Don’t just…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 04:45 AM
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Or he’s a creative writer. I know this sub would suck, and no discussion would ensue, if we didn’t give people the benefit of the doubt. But this is pushing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 04:29 AM
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Oh shoot. I should clarify. I’m not sexist. At the very least I think women could be just as emotionally resilient and accountable as men. Some are. That’s why it’s so gross to me that our society has produced so many women with unchecked egos and an inability to cope with setback and come out stronger for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 04:05 AM
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Have you ever considered that your experience is slanted by being attracted to or dating women of a certain type, and that type kinda sucks? Pretty women? Thought I covered that in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 03:48 AM
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Sorry. I’ll ease up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 03:31 AM
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I would say that I’m talking about commonly observed behaviors you see in everyday life. Sure there is a very small minority of men that are very violent, which is unfortunate - especially for men, since they are much more likely to be the victim of violence than women. And sure, there are some women that are open to the possibility that maybe, just maybe, they could be in the wrong and try to improve in the face of adversity. Both are irrelevant to this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 02:50 AM
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Oh that’s funny. I’ve noticed the mannerisms of male dancers were different, but never put my finger on it. I just assumed they were gay, but you explanation makes sense. I wasn’t a dancer myself, but my ex was a very serious dancer, and I’d help out with the sets and ushering and stuff, so I have a bit of insight into that world.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 02:31 AM
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I forgot that I’m on reddit where criticizing any woman === deranged psychopath. Hey, dipshit. Women will actually respect you more if you don’t treat them like babies. Reddit’s brand of white knighting is fucking creepy. And the women who enable it are fucking losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 02:16 AM
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I will amend my thesis to say that women who were successful in very competitive arenas, like ballet or collegiate sports, are given the same conditioning that guys are normally given in their every day lives. It makes sense that the roles are reversed in this instance. Lol guy ballerinas (I forget whatever they’re supposed to be called) have it so easy unless they’re at the tippy top. I’ve seen the most mediocre dancers start touring in high school just because so many companies are desperate f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 02:10 AM
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Talking about ballet, I presume?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 01:54 AM
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Women are much more conscientious than men, but also much more average in just about everything else. That’s why the bottom rungs and top rungs of just about everything are nearly exclusively populated by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 12:48 AM
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Your statement that women don’t pursue men, or are in any way passive in their dating experience. From my experience, women engage men very differently when they are attracted. They make their feelings pretty obvious, and open the door for escalation. They will contrive ways to spend time with the guy and escalate the conversation to a flirty/intimate dialog. This has a shocking success rate. At clubs/parties, even dating app chats - anywhere there is an implicit sexual context - I regular see g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 12:21 AM
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Women pursue men all of the time, from what I’ve seen. I think things balance out a bit as you get older, but your stance is ludicrous from my perspective, as a dude in his mid twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 10:55 PM
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Lmao. Why even post this? You have zero idea about how guys live. You probably don’t even register the existence of about 80% of guys you see everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:23 AM
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I met a boomer that openly talked about Reddit once. It felt unnatural and pathetic. I can't imagine the state of boomers who use reddit. I'd be so embarrassed if I was still on here at their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:28 AM
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You seem gross. I bet you're gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:23 AM
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From https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=895442 : https://i.imgur.com/P2kY3dy.png Authors' comments: The relationship between the looks rating of the member who posted a profile and the number of first-contact e-mails received is shown in Figure 5.2. Outcomes are strongly increasing in measured looks. In fact, the looks ratings variable has the strongest impact on outcomes among all variables used in the Poisson regression analysis. Men and women in the lowest decile receive only…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 11:59 PM
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News flash: Our biological impulses aren't fair to one another, nor are they always rational. Nature relies on simple logic that was more relevant way back when than it is now. Sure, we overcome these impulses now and then, but nothing about attraction is fair. Sorry. Also, to explain a bit about how biological impulses work. We have sex because it's fun. But it's only fun because our bodies evolved to manipulate our behavior to find it fun, because that's what leads to offspring. Technology can…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 11:46 PM
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I mean I get it; they view women they aren’t attracted to as sexual non-entities. Using their bodies for self-gratification is less pleasant than masturbation at that point. I’d rather stay a virgin than fuck someone I wasn’t attracted to if I were in their shoes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 04:11 PM
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Nope. It’s a biological drive to ensure healthy offspring. After a certain threshold, the older a woman the more likely his offspring will have birth defects. All of our base instincts about sex have to due with procreation, including our actual sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 01:20 PM
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Lol then trp is teaching these men what I assume most men learn after their first relationship. But you raise a valid point. I just don’t see this as much anymore in my real life, from what I can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 02:16 AM
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You’re probably right, but I think guys age out of this behavior much faster than women, if they ever do. Of course I’m painting with a dangerously broad brush, but this is my perception
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 01:35 AM
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Ah dang. I was hoping you'd respect my wish not to be educated in your loser shut-in vernacular. My fault for hanging here, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:33 PM
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Thankfully I still don't know what the fuck that means. Please don't educate me; every day I stray further from the light.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:26 PM
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Disagree. You could learn more from guys who don’t use terms like “spin plates” because they aren’t familiar with the lame-ass shut in lingo used by everyone here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:12 PM
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They might not be able to guess correctly based upon a photo, especially since women tend to select photos in which they look the best, ie kind lighting, etc, which obscure any of the subtle indicators of age. But I guarantee you that guys in person will not be as receptive to a 35 year old IRL as they would have been when she was 25. It's true, healthy people age better nowadays - no disputing that - and guys of course can be - and have been - attracted to post 30 women despite her age. But guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:55 PM
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Guys are often surprised by the disparity between what makes a guy "attractive" in their eyes and what women find attractive in men. That's because they haven't experienced female attraction. Well, the same works vice versa. Women often just don't see why a women looks less attractive to a guy when she's 30 than she was when she was 24. That's because females and males experience attraction differently. In her view, she is more attractive at 30 than 24, and she's not wrong until she extends that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:45 PM
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lol yes. Looks are the lowest quality source of self esteem a person could drudge up. Hell, a majority of people I've greatly respected and even envied in life weren't conventionally good looking. Only people with little talent and intellect and drive obsess over this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:34 PM
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Or there are some women with identities and aspirations and abilities and drive that doesn't have anything to do with getting fucked. Fortunately, in my bubble, it appears to be most of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:30 PM
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Cuz the only reason why they come here is for a self-esteem boost, since you pussies worship the ground they walk on. Claiming their life is made if they are 5/10+. That fantasy must be of comfort to the mentally ill, so you attract mentally ill girls seeking a self-esteem boost to this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:28 PM
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Not an incel, but I find often (not always - just something I've noticed) girls make up a fantasy personality/persona for a guy they find attractive, and their happiness in the ensuing relationship depends on how well that guy in reality conforms to her fantasy version of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:26 PM
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I think women don't know what women look like in their 30's onward. They can look absolutely fine in just about every other way, but they won't have the glowing, youthful look they had in their 20's which is 90% of what made them attractive to men in the first place. Basically all humans get rougher skin and subtle facial wrinkles once they enter their 30's. Unfortunately for women, that's hugely detrimental to their attractiveness. I just think it's tough for women to see it, because they don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 10:21 PM
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That’s going to wild greatly depending on your social circle. NYC attracts a wide variety of people, whereas the SF/Bay Area typically attracts the same kind of people. Also “pretentious” girls from high backgrounds that only date those with similar backgrounds have a tougher go of it, simply because their pool is smaller, and some (not all) of those guys don’t have those same hang ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 01:13 AM
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I have lived in both areas. Obviously I can only speak to my experience, but I would hit above my “weight class” in NYC, whereas I struggled in SF, despite just about every aspect of myself, from appearance to social circle to income, having improved somewhat drastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 12:57 AM
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It really depends on where you live. Like a whole heck of a lot. The dating scene and its norms in the SF Bay Area is nothing like how it is in NYC and probably neither of them resemble what it’s like in, say, Georgia or whatever. Let alone other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 11:08 PM
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Honestly entitled has come to mean “disappointed that your desire wasn’t fulfilled.” There are definitely guys who truly feel entitled, but the vast majority of the time the term is used, it’s to chastise a guy for feeling sad that his feelings weren’t reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:36 PM
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It’s greatly exaggerated by reddit basement dwellers, but the attractive 20 something year old women that I know have relatively richer, more interesting lives than their counterparts. A huge part of that component has to do with the fact that women seem to be more motivated to seek a balanced life, which includes social activities, than guys. I’ve also noticed a lot of NEET type girls that use dates w/ young professionals as an in to activities/socialization. Which is fine. Also, they have a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:31 PM
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Honestly the stigma about promiscuity is extremely strong but it flies clean over most guys' heads. The same way women aren't aware of any of the very-real-but-never-explicitly-stated biases that men face which spark like 90% of the discussion on "manosphere" related internet spaces. People pay attention to do different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 07:35 PM
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Typo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/18 05:41 PM
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Male. I think mine are for the most part pretty standard, although I might care more about education and career more than most. The only interesting one I have is tattoos. The reason as to why I feel so strongly about this is a mystery to me. I was once involved with a girl who I discovered had a discrete and tasteful tattoo above her ankle and for whatever reason it was a huge turn off for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 08:38 PM
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I think I'm starting to realize that people generally just end up with those who have same the financial and status as themselves. The caveat is that an adult guy at least needs at least some sort of income stream to start dating. As said elsewhere, you do have to stand out to her somehow. For guys, you can't just exist or be neutral. If you coast, you'll have to wait until you come across some girl that projects qualities that excite her onto you. I imagine the likelihood of that happening is p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 08:16 PM
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I clearly should have said "a lot" instead of "most." I'll admit that I can very well just be flat out wrong, but a couple of things: 1) I think there's an issue with reliance on polls in the social sciences in general. I totally get that there isn't exactly a better methodology available and I'm sympathetic with many social scientist's contentions with problems that can't be investigated with rigorous methodology. It doesn't mean that such problems shouldn't be contended with, nor does it mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 08:04 PM
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I'm guessing most girls wouldnt find Tom Segura physically attractive. No doubt if he was concerned with looking attractive, he'd present himself differently. I don't balding matters that much past a certain age. Every single guy loses hair to some degree. A lot of older guys with "full" heads of hair actually have some recession, but people just don't really notice. But I think balding matters less much in the same way that looks in general matter less as you get older. People know themselves w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:41 PM
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Not denying thing that this is a thing, but I think this happens less often than you think. Most girls who engage in casual sex are interested in the same terms that the guys are. Those same girls won't casually sleep with a guy they're actually interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:26 PM
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People who are genuinely terrified of either of those things happening probably don't have much experience with life in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:21 PM
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I often feel as though it's a good thing women consider practicalities like that when seeking a partner. I mean, someone has to, right? Although that being said, I've noticed that guys, at least in my area, consistently only date those in the same socioeconomic strata with similar who have equivalent academic pedigree to themselves. People don't discuss it, but at some level this must be a conscious choice, because it's their datings pools are actually more narrow than their social bubbles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:20 PM
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1) It's not a binary. You can have a serious relationship and still pursue your career as vigorously as you otherwise would. So many people - in fact pretty much all people - in extremely demanding career paths - doctors, lawyers, postdocs, etc - have serious relationships and families. Once you start having an actual family, often sacrifices are made. If you think you don't have time, you're probably not optimizing your schedule. Surprisingly some top tier jobs outside of giant SV tech companie…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 07:13 PM
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It wouldn't, really. Sure there is useful advice out there that generally, but not always, help some guys successfully entice girls for casual sex encounters. They spell out dynamics that most guys naturally discovered in their IRL experience with women, which is useful for the guys who didn't garner any experience in that department when they're younger. The biggest thing that I think a lot of these men don't realize is that the idea that women aren't attracted to men in the same way that men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 07:01 PM
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TRP just repackages bog standard PUA dogma in nerdier terms. TRP isn't an impactful actor IRL because 1) it's a tiny niche and 2) there's zero cohesion/organization and 3) most of its stances have a warped/detached perspective on the real world. There's so much fantasy involved in TRP that it's not compatible with the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 06:48 PM
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This is just a thing that people in general do. It's just whining atop whining. Also men are just as guilty as women in this regard, but whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 06:42 PM
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Pls guys. Go outside. I know the “go outside” thing is trite at this point and I don’t meant to sound condescending if this is a genuine question. But holy moly. People IRL will pleasantly surprise you a lot more than any reddit conjured construction of a person will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 05:31 PM
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Isn’t nutrition and healthy eating a liberal talking point though? Wouldn’t that be embraced by editorially liberal outlets like HuffPo? Aren’t most fat people in America in rural conservative states? I’m too lazy to look this up. I just remember a huge healthy school food political waffle tossed around a few years ago. I really don’t thing we have to worry about regressive dietary campaigns in the name of body positivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 03:24 PM
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I mean does anyone seriously argue that it’s healthy to be fat? If they do they’re obviously wrong. But I highly doubt that you could find many fat people that wouldn’t rather they were at a healthy weight. If people cared this passionately about shaming people for sake of their wellbeing, there would have been a “long distance commuter hate” sub since overall time spent traveling in a car will statistically shorten your expected lifespan more than most things. I honestly think it’s weird to cru…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 02:06 PM
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Sorry if I sounded like a dick. But I think that's a separate discussion entirely from what you were implying with your post tbh. He's suggesting that people of different social strata's are isolating from one another have different perceptions of trustworthiness. People of lower social strata, including historically disenfranchised, have reported themselves as less trusting than their counterparts. As economic inequality has widened, he's alleging a decline in reported trust is due to the corre…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 01:06 PM
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This is a very reasonable response. But I think I side with OP in how annoying the disingenous "it's about health" justification is trotted out whenever people bring up their issues about fat people. There will be people taking base pleasure in putting down others for as long as people enjoy designating themsleves as "superior" to others. Like anyone should feel free to trot out their opinion. But I just don't like the intellectual dishonesty. It makes me trust people less.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 12:33 PM
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You wouldn't call me a "Chad," but the people who would most closely fit that archetype would not be on this sub. I think there will be a mini-renaissance in sociology and psychology when they discover the phenomenon unique to the internet wherein communities are structured around compounding negative stimulus. It's not a revelation to acknowledge that people get a rush from feeling outraged. I might be a revelation to study communities that exist to escalate mental struggles into something rese…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 12:26 PM
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Please go outside and interact with real people. If you're already doing that - which I guess I could believe - please pay attention to the way people interact. Frankly the dynamics that RP seems to get all of their information only feels faintly true to a very narrow band of scenarios: high school and SAE frat parties. From what I've observed in literally every other scenario: If you're happy with yourself and proud of your accomplishments and confident in your grasp of the world, you will natu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:45 AM
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I think most posts on r/relationships are exercises in creative writing. I just assume a post is fake if it acutely presses every inane button that's more touchy to reddit than reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:38 AM
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This is sort of dumb. If you extend your logic, society values people that are percieved to be of value. If you're a father, your welfare will be considered more precious than it would be if you were single. Life insurance incorporates how many loved ones will miss you and by how much when literally assessing your "value". This is probably never moral, but it seems a lot less revelatory when you put it in these terms. Women get lighter sentences than men for the same probably because society is …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 11:35 AM
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I think the phenomenon is just interesting to most people across the political spectrum. As was mentioned, it's a useful political pawn for both sides, which helps. The discussions sparked by transgenderism I think are just interesting to people, which encourages coverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 08:06 AM
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It's become so normalized. In some ways I think it's considered more acceptable to ghost in an online/quick hook-up situation than to do anything more confrontational. I think it's fine to block someone from all avenues of contact after you have broken up, but breaking up with someone that you had an actual realtionship with by way of ghosting is obviously not ok. I don't think that's controversial. I also doubt it's super common. After a certain point in a relationship, you actually do have an …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 07:59 AM
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I think this was somewhat relevant in middle school. There would be a click of girls that would single out a "weird" kid - and I was one of them - and deliberately make him feel uncomfortable. In retrospect, it was a lot more tame than anything guys at that age would do, but the intent wasn't kind. I didn't notice anything of that sort in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 07:05 AM
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Although I personally don't understand your outlook on your life, as it does not mesh with my own, I'm always glad to hear a fellow human is fulfilled in life. I think everybody has their own goals and values, and if you're reaching those goals and abiding by those values and not hurting anyone along the way, I think that's awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 05:14 AM
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TBH, I don't use reddit very often unless I'm going on one of my digital benders, but I'm just assuming you're trolling. Frankly, at risk of sounding horribly condescending myself, I simply think we have incompatible definitions of "success" if you believe that you can success coast upon such silly attributes. The demands placed on my peer group are enormous. Every single cohort of mine works day in, day out, and suffers through extreme prolonged bouts of stress. They do this because they are in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 04:05 AM
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lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 03:11 AM
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Lol i know a ton of tall and otherwise conventionally attractive guys at my school. I doubt anyone of them would have described their success as handed to them. They worked just as hard as everyone else did to get where they are. I dont think the prospect of bettering our romantic/sexual lives factored in at all per what drove any of us to pursue our passions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 01:18 AM
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Got em. Thnx RP
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 12:12 AM
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what if i told you i once opened for an obscure voice actor of a serialized cartoon show
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 12:06 AM
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Meh i like em
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 11:59 PM
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Should he spend a year getting to know each one just to land in failure? Where would that leave him? I think you are extending my concern to an unwarranted extreme. If that is something I'm insinuating on my end, than it is a failure of communication on my part. I don't think having an informed idea of general patterns in female attraction necessarily means you are depersonalizing every woman you attempt to seduce. Only if you do not acknowledge her personhood - the fact that she is an individua…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 10:10 PM
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No. I would be depersonalizing the waiter if I met up him in a social situation, assumed he was a lost-creative-type/socialist/chain-smoker due to that being a general impression I had of waiters, and launched into an attack on Freidrich Engels before he uttered a word. Of course that is not quite a perfect corralary to the depersonalization to which I was referring. It is mostly about acknowledging individual humanity. A waiter-diner relationship is an actual transactional relationship. But it …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 08:54 PM
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What you just said, if you boil it down, is this: Applying strategy that would net more success is "depersonalizing" and therefore should be avoided. I don't think I would speak so strongly one away or the other. I think there is value in learning how female attraction generally works, especially since for archaic reasons it is very hard to get honest direct information on such from mainstream cultural resources. However I do think it would be worth it to decouple that knowledfe from interperson…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 08:01 PM
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The idea that they cannot be loved is a fantasy. It's a tactic designed to escalate the consequences of a setback to a hopeless extreme in an attempt to rationalize the proportion of their despair. It makes sense why this occurs, since men suffering from rejection, loneliness, and isolation do not elicit sympathy from society writ large. They feel the need to escalate because they are not being heard. However Incels are derided because they employ a tactic that is usually employed by young child…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 07:29 PM
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Sure. I am less uncomfortable with the fact that humans behave in statistically predictable so much as I am uncomfortable with strategizing interpersonal interaction per those macro trends. I responded more fully to this point in another comment of which I will now quote: I think that is well stated. On one hand I have internalized a cultural norm whereby any attempt to introspect upon sexual strategy is somehow an affront to my masculinity. On the other hand, organizing indiduals into blocks is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 06:03 PM
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I heard the same as you. However when I was more slim, I was hit on more by guys than girls. I got quite a bit more female attention after bulking up. Although I have a naturally wide torso and short legs, so I probably never looked proportional. In addition, the only two guys my height that seemed to get a wide variety of attention from the opposite sex were on the stocky side. There is no doubt that this preference varies on an individual basis, but I do think that it is quite possible that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 05:03 PM
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I think that is well stated. On one hand I have internalized a cultural norm whereby any attempt to introspect upon sexual strategy is somehow an affront to my masculinity. On the other hand, organizing indiduals into blocks is useful for any sort of macro analysis on large populations. Deploying a strategy based upon such analysis on a micro person to person scale feels clinical. It feels as though you run the risk of depersonalizing a single party in what is supposed to be an interpersonal int…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 04:36 PM
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My feeling that way has a lot more to do with me than anything else. I think for whatever reason I was socialized to believe being preoccupied with things like sexual dynamics and biological imperative per my ongoing lived experiences to be odd. And yet here I am, so if this is odd, than I am also odd. No offence was intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 04:06 PM
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Not a bad idea
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 03:44 PM
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