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Pun intended?
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 01:55 AM
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yes !! life is better much better now !!! I am way less stressed nowadays and much more happy
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 01:12 PM
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Many a times you will hear stories in the market that you told someone in confidence of confidentiality :) So if you want true confidentiality, use reddit and not any real person to vent :)
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 11:47 PM
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Hardest part was to understand, that it's YOUR crisis, no one else generally gives a shit on how you are faring, not friends not your workplace. They have their own lives to live, and rightfully so. So I started to enjoy my time alone, with my motorcycle, my treks and adventures. Tried bumble a few times and get ghosted by the matches. But I am not begging for attention, love or external validation. And that's much more a fulfilling realization that you are not dependent and are truly "single" n…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 03:14 PM
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Don't stress out on this man, wound is fresh and so is the feeling for revenge. With time it will go away, or not. Don't bother too much about it. If it gives you pleasure, then that's the hurt talking. We always reset back to our true nature after sometime. So let it be, stop overthinking. With time you will be able to see beyond her and her suffering, and then automatically you will stop getting such negative pleasures. You are in a low beam area so focussing on the ground, once you hit the sm…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 12:07 PM
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The "I love you" is litterly only in that time frame. Haha !! This was hilarious !! 🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 12:00 PM
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Were you attracted before marriage? Has she put on weight? If not attracted what were the reasons you got married, were you indebted by her due to something? Ayways if it is weight etc, that can be handled, but if you are totally averse o loving her, then you have done a tremendous wrong to her. But anyways staying in this marriage with that sort of thought process would not be good. So talk to her explain, and whatever she asks for alimony, you have to try to meet it. Even then it might not be …
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 04:25 PM
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runners always regret later, my ex-wife was one. But anyways, what are the events that made you change your view is unknown to all of us. But if you having a mood change after marriage, you need to identify the root cause, before that you shouldn't even have brought this up with your wife. It's like going to classroom without homework. You have directly brought up pros on cons of staying vs leaving, but that it for later, first analyze "why", else you don't even know what you are running from an…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 03:17 AM
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practice here : https://cellardoorgames.com/our-games/dont-shit-your-pants/
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 11:05 AM
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Thanks a lot !! didn't know I would be celebrating a day when I was down and I created this account !! But celebrating the help I had from this forum !!
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 11:02 AM
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something is smelling fishy here, you are in an explosive scenario. Ask the other person to close their nose while you fan away the damage to dilute it's corrosive fumes. It will sensitize her without making you "sound" as a person without being concerned of the other in the room.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 01:47 PM
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Maybe a threesome discussion would have made a difference :)
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:45 AM
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hmm this is the same with me, I was never her confidante, She will not open up to me and be honest on what she said. I asked her that give me some peaceful time so that I can reskill and upgrade and hunt for a better paying job so that we can make a better living condition, she said yes and just after 2-3 days started fighting. I gave up trying for the upskill after a month of that. Shows clearly she was not in my team or our team whatever way you put it. And this was years before we filed. I to…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 04:43 AM
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mine said ... "you are doing good". I just sent how one should do then? bad? And then there were none :)
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/25 12:28 AM
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son is mandatory and first priority, this manipulative woman is not. She pretended what she is not in the beginning to get an entry, now shedding off that snake skin. Boot her out before you get involved more.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 04:08 AM
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don't be selfish dude. you cheated her once why again you want to break her second time?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 11:53 PM
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Only think of yourself and your son, rest all should be a motion blur to you. Remain cordially distant from all interactions. Give opinions only when related to effects on your son. No opinions, no chit chats on other topics. She should be a co-parent, all the other feelings you are having is because it is fresh and she has already moved on but you are not. This is the most tumultuous times, so keep simple objectives and keep to it. Next time around wear sunglasses and chew gum. Keeps a shield f…
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 05:41 AM
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"don't come to me, you have ur family and friends" - and oft repeated sentence when I would try to tell her about my stress or upset. I only tried to tell her and not any family or friends, even now I don't discuss - but the major stressor my x - she's gone now and I am in my notice period in office as I will be taking sabbatical. 2 major stressors gone , my mental health taking and uptick
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 02:47 AM
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go or not go it's all upto you and not on reddit advice ... however get ur current partner in confidence even if you do. when you decide either way last word to meet or not is upto ur ex and not anyone else. if she doesn't want to then know that beforehand you drop in. people when passing on may hold on to old regrets and in a way might even blame you, you don't want such a memory in such cases.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 08:47 AM
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This is a very common scenario my ex also had tried to get in touch since shit got finalized. In court her gripe was no one is giving emotional support. I just nodded, internally I was thinking that I told her the same fucking words when she was trampling my heart, I told all who are instigating you will vanish the day they see you divorced, you will just be another story in their chit chats. And exactly the same happened, even with me ... however since I don't heed to what others instigate my d…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/25 09:57 AM
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on a similar boat, ignoring friends are like adding salt to the wound. Not that I am asking them to hand hold me, but the fuck if you won't ask me from time to time how I am doing? Expecting stuff from others has been painful, so I keep myself to my hobbies. It used to feel so disrespectful that I always used to call them up, so when I realized they will easily walk by me taking me for a tree if I don't ping them, I stopped. Now that means a lot of them have gone away from my radar but I have ga…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 05:15 AM
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I believe you need to take the court orders seriously and try your best not to miss out on them, even when fighting the court orders you need to show your best effort. It doesn't pay for you to get jailed and thus loose any prospect of jobs by ur ex. Make her understand and try to work out a better deal which can be consisent. Best of luck in figuring this out. Ask the court to be lenient as in no way can you manage without a car etc living 2.5 hrs away from the court.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 03:49 PM
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you have messed up big time ... when you haven't sorted up your first ones payments and financial stuff you got into making babies with another !! what if there also you get liable for the second family, don't think I am being pessimistic, this is being aware of worst case scenarios.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 02:32 AM
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valentines is for love - she said she doesnt love you anymore. Get her something for friendship day instead, saying "Thanks for friend-zoning me, I am actually doing great !!"
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 09:01 PM
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Abusers will show fake remorse if it suits them, or go extremely cold and behave as if you deserved it. I am also a victim, due to an exponential difference in strength none of her actions caused me any major harm physically, but mentally it was a real shock to see someone whom you hold so dear and love and can never ever think of putting your hands on in a wrong way, turn up and attack you like that. And this behavior doesn't stop. What she is threatening you of is a typical threat I too receiv…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 08:46 AM
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Yup man, I remember mine got upset and sad when the last episode of friends had come, for me I had watched it end to end for the third time, she got really sad and I had to cheer her up. When I moved out from my last apartment on the last day when I gave the keys to the owner in the empty apartment this whole scene came to my mind, even though she had moved out almost a year earlier I was moving out from a house first time without her in tow and the last scene of friends and how she was upset wa…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 01:37 AM
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I played it safe to avoid property splitting at time of divorce which is another added headache. In the back of my mind the fear of divorce was always there, because she used to keep threatening divorce. So even though I wanted a home of my own and a pet dog too, I prevented myself from making that investment and so going on life in a rental. Buying a house for the remaining 15-20 years? yes I want to but it's a money that I don't want to lock in loans and EMIs. Maybe after 2-3 years will find s…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 02:55 AM
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stories like these are the beacon here !! Glad for your turn around in life :D
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 01:20 PM
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STBXW - there is no F for friend there in that acronym. Forget friendship. Just be there for your kids at max so be "friendly" but not friend. People get cold feet due to FOMO, did she come back when you wanted? cold feet based decisions are mostly flimsy unless there is any self realization. At the maximum I would ask you two to go for couples counselling and let the beans spill out there.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 10:05 AM
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yes, people give gas to get the ex's ballon up and once its up they loose interest and leave, then they "have their shit, and eat it too" scenario. Mine said that hers were not supportive post divorce. Many of my acquaintances who used to say leave this marriage for years, don't bother to call and ask how am I doing, so I am glad i didn't divorce just on their advice but on my own personal realisation so I am in a better place.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 04:00 AM
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:D
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 03:52 AM
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That's a SOP for many women who want you under their thumb I have realised. Isolate and conquer.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 02:05 AM
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hahaha :) succubus - I get now where that name for the demon came from
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 02:03 AM
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I remember shifting my house and in my mind it was like a battlefield. boxes and clothes capturing my beds and every floor section. First day I made a room by pushing all these unpacked stuff in one half of the bed. That room was my base of operations ... packing and storing stuff in proper place. Moved room to room like this and captured every inch of my new apartment. Took one week, fight was brutal, but I was trained hard by the meanest girl :)
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 12:27 PM
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That's the spirit bro !! There is always something new and exciting to experience in life, Divorce was one bad chapter, but that doesn't maketh the book !! And life is a journey of self improvement, and make sure at the end of it, you have a heck of a story complete with comedy, fun, adventure, grief and the most important hope !!
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 07:05 PM
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As I am listening to old songs of love I heard in childhood while typing this, standing on that opposite bank of marriage called divorce, all those younger innocent days still bring a smile to me. No matter what life threw at all of us here, I hope you all too smile to some memories when you were standing alone and dreamt of a happy life and love, no matter the history, it maybe too late for many of us to find love or being able to take the risk again. But no one can take us those moments of lif…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 03:59 PM
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I don't have the full background on what circumstances she filed. And how much time between she filed and asked you for a second chance. Yes you maybe hurt on getting blindsided by her filing but in case regret is genuine then maybe you should see if you were also happy before she filed, if you were not then go ahead and don't budge. But if you have some doubts then rethink internally and only if you want then give her second chance. I had similar situation, was being carpet bombed by divorce th…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 02:22 PM
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As long as I make her remember that it's just friendship that's ever going to cum ( :P ) out of me I am being honest to her, in due course she will I hope realize and treat me just as a friend which will be good for both of us. This one is a good friend though. The other one was like a storm !! Got called names even when the storm was receding, my only reply was "now where did I hear this before !! Oh yeah right .... I remember :D ... you two are so similar !!!"
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 07:03 AM
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exactly same happened with me. 2 women approached and one just lashed out at me when I rejected her advances the other is a friend and I remind her everytime she outpours I can't date or consider her more than friend ever I have made her clear. Too much effort I feel to have a relationship right now. specially since I am planning a sabbatical I want it to be filled with adventures, treks, skiing and motorcycling around :)
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 01:39 AM
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exactly ... more we age we realize all this hate and anger for someone who has already left is waste of MY time. Also just to spate them if we do something is again a sign of not letting it go and you want to make them realize their mistake. all the while we forget, they are heroes/heroines of their own story - however fucked up it feels in our mind.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 02:21 AM
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"there is always something to be upset about for her" - this statement tells a lot, reminds me of the joke where a dude goes to doc complaining it hurts whenever I touch anywhere in my body - is ur finger broken? she doesn't hate your schedule, she basically is trying to control what and how you do things. this is a red flag as she's in that zone of mind that you aren't good enuf now. since she always knew ur work shifts, why get upset now. if that was so critical shouldn't have married. Sit her…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 02:07 AM
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Just believe me you will get over it. It's nothing that others here haven't done, maybe takes a few months or a year, but you will get out of these feelings. Same things I have been through, abuses, gaslighting etc but I still loved her and then it moved to caring for her and now I am just amicable during the court meetings (a few paperwork stuff is left else everything is done for). This is the best for me personally I don't have soft feeling and neither anger towards her anymore. This will be …
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 03:58 AM
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Even if you can't take videos of each other, I will obviously advice you to wear some sort of concealed camera. Let her claim DV and you challenge these in court (without the hidden camera details being divulged and don't even mention that you have camera evidence). However don't reveal at the first false accusation that you have video evidence, instead let her play the card 3-5 times. You may want to take advice from a non local lawyer in your state regarding this approach. After 3-5 false accu…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 01:35 PM
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and yes she CHEATED
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 02:25 AM
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well if you are making little progresses about getting over her then that's good enough. if you Can self asses that way then take your own sweet time that's fine. But what's not fine for you at least is to get urself unsettled whenever you meet.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 02:24 AM
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marriage is a costly business !! for men
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 02:37 AM
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Mine was generously fair, wanted to have her life smoothened for coming few years but not lifelong blank cheque. Mainly because I still cared for her and I have no regrets about that. Money comes and goes but regret stays :D A reason why I didn't buy a house because there were fights from very early in my marriage and she showed all the signs of being instable and ready to bring up the divorce topic every now and then. I dodged a bullet there.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 05:23 AM
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Don't make yourself a monument of the X's memories, make more memories instead. And there is not end point of anything you just keep walking the path you are given. It maybe muddy but that's your path and no one else would do it for you. Been through all the feelings you are getting but looking back now I see is that it was good for me. At this point I don't have those friends who knew calling me up after my divorce to meet up or just talk - all are busy in their lives so I let them be. I instea…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 03:47 PM
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Exactly the case with me, one of my colleague I had shared this info with thought he is doing service to me by defending my absence (My hearing was in another state, so had to take leaves). And now that the management has hints I didn't get any raise/promotion or anything even though I was praised last cycle on my work !!! Go figure !!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 08:16 AM
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Exactly, the management got to know my current status when my colleague got pushed to divulge the info (I had shared with him earlier on when he had shared some personal stuff), he felt he needed to "defend" my absence for a few days attending my hearings. And now that "personal issue" is been quoted during my appraisals and performance reviews. Forgetting everything that I did for the company even when down on my knees I did achieve all my work allotment. And to add to that fact the management …
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 08:13 AM
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I now believe if there is love there is no need to fight. all this shit of first making life difficult and then fight to fix it is bullshit. Work on the buildings foundation as it is being build, after making a leaning tower of pisa I don't have that much in me left to fucking tilt it back !!
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 06:01 AM
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Nuts !! say you fell sick.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 02:32 AM
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in a way the divorcing person is like a guided missile, they latch onto an idea and barrel down towards it. In no way can you distract them from what they want. if you try to focus on showing them your good qualities, they are not interested in that. Better deploy your chaff and bail out. Why they did this and that you will never understand, and don't try to either. I have developed this understanding for better or for worse is that dont try to understand any reasoning, just let them make their …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:25 PM
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if the OP and you are same, then be careful from which account you are posting :D better not get caught posting in reddit, you are in a WAR :D
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/24 03:36 AM
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if the abuse is recurring setup hidden cameras over a long period, preferably with audio. I dunno how much legal that evidence would be, but getting ur ass beaten by a parasite might be a bit in your favor. however make sure the abuse don't cripple you or she doesn't use life threatening maiming methods. Been through this abuse myself ... even though being of solid build it hurts emotionally more than physically. I can hand down a guys ass a severe beating but my hands were tied as never felt ev…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 01:31 PM
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haha !! this cracked me up. drinking beer watching football girl left with the sofa and tv in most cases. and the dude is cooling his ass on the hard floor paying alimony :)
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 01:10 AM
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damn boy !! that sitting in the car before heading home sounds so familiar with me. it was like WW1 trench warfare, before you are hyped up and run onto the incoming lead, when the sarge blows the whistle !!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 11:38 AM
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Kudos in your realising that this is a sinking ship and ultimately you will be fine. This is a good start. Think with a calm mind and once a decision has been taken stick to it. You will get cold feet on the way but don't budge. I too had cold feet but I stuck to my decision as the decision was taken when my mind was calm and so it was a decision that I don't regret. It's sad for the kids but remember it's not your fault that your STBX started and affair. Best of luck to you brother
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 05:35 AM
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I realised that you need to be extremely selfish now and keep yourself on top of your list and then help others. being selfless has bitten me on my butt with my x, friends and even family. Getting backstabbed and no backup is no fun. What I realised is that I was thinking for everyone else when they were doing the same for themselves, and then when I thought they will empathise, no one was fucking near 1000 yards of me. The only stuff that worked those times was riding my motorcycle and keeping …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 02:53 AM
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don't do self-checkout ever. divert your mind to non romantic pursuits. Like doing something which you think you are incapable of. doing. Do some ice climbing or skiing or something like that, if you are outdoorsy. If you like indoorsy stuff maybe fine arts/ musical instrument. Basically change the game that is hurting you for sometime. You will come back with more confidence and a lot of stories to tell !!
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 02:26 PM
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fight for child custody and divorce. staying will mess up both yours and kids future.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:18 AM
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hey !! it got better isn't it? the bitch getting her share of the guy she cheated with. Rejoice that you are not in her field of fire anymore :)
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:10 AM
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that part is the devil, don't listen to it. while you are standing at the gates of hell turn around and fly
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 02:16 PM
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there is no problem in trying out and seeing if there can be reunion. but be ready that it may go towards divorce, so don't put yourself in a emotionally precarious situation where you see this as an opportunity to woo her anew. see this as her opportunity to weigh her pros and cons and see if she is making a mistake. if she decides it's good for her then you can't change her mind even if you stand on one leg for a whole day. just prepare yourself mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 02:10 PM
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This is true, they say what they mean and mean what they say !! Trust their judgement and restart your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 10:23 AM
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are the disagreements starting only after pregnancy? If so then take your time and don't give up just like this. First try to work it out properly before divorce and stuff. 3 months is too little a time to rule out postpartum depression. Give time to your wife and be patient. Life is not a fast food but a slow cooked meal, rush it and have a raw dinner !!! With limited info on details of discontent this is the best advice i can give.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 04:36 AM
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same bro !!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 04:04 PM
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next time she threatens divorce, tell her you too agree. see how the chameleon changes color. best argument against threat is to volunteer for the "punishment" she is threatening you with.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 04:03 PM
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from your inputs here seems like you want to jump to the dating pool. even though I would advice against but you seem to be pretty decided on that. in that case go ahead for the divorce and no trial separation. according to me you should take the trial separation and contemplate why you want to divorce and find out what you should be aware of in your next relation. else high chance that you will regret this move.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 01:21 AM
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congrats dude !! I will soon sail the same boat ... feeling to tell them loads is a common feeling, but you did great not to say anything. I hope I too behave strong on the sock day. 99% I will ...
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 06:18 PM
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what is the reason? if it's ok for you to share
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 03:12 PM
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make it a mutual decision if you can. open a communication with her on how you are feeling and maybe go through counselling. no need of coming out clean if things are going positive and your feelings of moving away changes. some truths ruin whatever can be salvaged and it may affect ur kids opinion about you and question their trust in you all this time. some shit we take to the grave, this is one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 03:06 PM
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Emotions to reconnect with a person who is cheating is and always will be a weakness in my books. Yes you can be sad about the loss but never reconnect and open up urself to more abuse later.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:00 AM
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I really think you should read before you comment: "During my drunkenness she cheated with an ex. I don’t necessarily blame her as I was not a functioning man for several years at the end." Moreover writing poetry or not is not weak, the reconnecting with the ex and letting her creep into his life is what I am warning about. This is really BS and allowing for more abuse to let happen in future. Anyways it's finally upto OP to take any advice of leave it :D Cheers anyways !!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 07:58 AM
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one word "cheated" !! you would have a better time with a punching bag in a gym. Don't bullshit yourself with weak emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:30 AM
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exactly ... in my case I don't own a house as everytime we would dream of the same and lookout for a nice suburb place, the lid will fly off within a week and threats of divorce will come heavy and thick. I used to shit my pants and drop the plan. Happened 4-5 times in roughly 10 years of being together when I ditched this plan altogether and became content with my status. As of today I don't have to worry about one more thing :) luck saved me
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 01:53 AM
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no teef :)
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 01:55 AM
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First have kids, then get divorced, fight for custody and then bitch about it that you got custody? Well think before you do something. Never wish for something that once granted would make you shit bricks !! They are not pets, they are your responsibilities. Having kids is a lot of responsibility, divorced or not. You should have started with a cute little puppy first :D then graduate to kids once you get used to care for them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 04:50 AM
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She may be a good woman till you are in her hit list. Don't budge on the prenup. If you are important enough for her, then she will accept a fair prenup if drafted without ill intentions.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:30 PM
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Yes kept threatening from beginning and I would try to be her emotional gatekeeper, but it never helped. After repeatedly running away from home she finally decided (till recently, when she had cold feet) to divorce. In due time I started to accept the fact and now think that if she had to change I had given her enough time and patience to be back.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 11:38 AM
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New place to live ... yes you can do it. New family, hmm you would need to think about that, as it will bring additional responsibilities. Also the person with whom you grow old it takes time to get used to them and their eccentricities and at 40s there is not too much of that time. Whatever you do don't feel rushed to fit into some norm. I too wanted a family and miss that experience to have kids and a wife and without that I don't feel it useful to be in a high stress job. Since we are all wal…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 02:04 AM
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Welcome to the club ! All those who are happy now including me were just as clueless as you regarding "what next?" In due course we learnt whatever gonna happen we will deal with it when the time comes. Many of us didnt want our life to be about this sub-reddit, but here we are !! Band of brothers just getting by each day bit by bit. I still feel jealous of people with their partners around, but have learnt to accept my truth and move on. You can't control people but you can decide not to loose …
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 07:16 PM
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Great !! you are realising it !!
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 02:30 PM
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One more thing I keep learning everytime anew, if someone says to leave them alone or get lost. Believe in their judgement. I have tried to more than once reached out to people who are literally ghosting me and got another ghosting done on me :) it is a self-respect killer. Don't do what I have fallen prey to multiple times thinking this time it's different. It is never different, someone asks you to leave them alone, trust them and just make yourself scarce. You don't need to be happy about it,…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 02:29 PM
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What I mean is that the ship has sailed, and she has chosen someone new. And maybe opened up to him about you too? Do you want to forever get compared to that guy who was there after you? Stay away from reconciliation as of now. Maybe it's the existing hurt from the incomplete healing. But in due time it will get better. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 03:39 PM
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Don't use the same tissue paper twice !! - advice works well both inside the restroom and after divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 03:36 PM
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I get it, when we go to the court dates she comments that I look great and fit. I somedays feel that I should drop the ball and ask her to come back, she hints the same but never apologizes for her actions. Then I steel myself with the years of neglect and abuse I suffered in her hands and after getting home I congratulate myself on not buckling. The thing is once we are separated we see the better moods of the X-people, that is mainly because they have thrown us under a bus. Never make the mist…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 01:34 PM
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hahaha !! only a titanium model please :D
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 07:17 AM
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Only tip of wisdom: Stick to being dad to your kids, their mom is just a hurdle to bypass. Her being happy or not is not your business anymore. She cheated on you remember that. Just appear to be friendly but internally don't give a shit about it. Reach for pickup punctually, flash that friendly smile, get hold of your kids and rush off to your own life. Your ex needs to have her own set f friends to bitch about the person she cheated on you with.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:03 PM
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Haha, good that you picked the lock, must have bolstered your belief that you did right by getting out from her clutches !! Congrats on a great decision. I bet you were self congratulating yourself when the meltdown started :D
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:59 PM
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After divorce she and you are separate, why go for the divorce if you are sleeping together and playing family. This won't end well either for you or for her. Go and make some space between both of you. Figure out why you divorced then figure out if you want to remarry her again. All this relationship talk should have happened before filing for divorce, you guys are doing the opposite way. Stay apart and decide for yourself if you want to get married again? This Ex-Wife-With-Benefits is the firs…
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 04:54 PM
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What is this? Your living condition is totally a tinder box. GTFO or kick her out. What are you even thinking? Do the right thing before she gets some idea and kick her out. Don't be lazy on this regards or you will regret dearly later. And what is this looking at her phone and shit? Honor the divorce and act like a divorced person. Do this yesterday !!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 02:55 PM
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are these women's brains get manufactured in some shady place in china? why do they all feel like a cheap copy and easy to break down :)
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 05:41 AM
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I would never !! She is a dragon who breathed fire on my marriage while it was there, insulted me with false words and never apologised (the same strain of gene my wife acquired). However the FIL was a bit better but he never stood up for me or let me know he supported me except after we filed he asked me if I can reconsider - Well you should have took a stance for me and let me know instead of being passive when all injustice I was going through. I don't have any ill will for any one in their f…
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 11:24 AM
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Marriage is like a job where once the employee quits she earns the money instead when she is in the job. I wish real companies were also like this, I too leave a job when it becomes toxic, stressful and undervalues me why am I not given alimony by the company ;)
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 01:14 AM
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12 year old brat !! sums up my stbxw. she tries to talk as if we are friends in court and when back not a single apology. I know she is in two minds but I am trying to stand firm. she initiated the divorce I never wanted it. now I am glad she did as it helped me go out from years of abuse and stress.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 01:23 AM
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dude go in for some team sports soccer/rugby, you will not regret when you just blow out your opponent to the sky ... depression shall fear you when you charge like a rhino. and if you are not built like an ox you will get the spirit to hit the gym and bend iron !! depression will get depressed once you get your iron peel away your palm skin
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 03:16 AM
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what is this shit !! you gonna cause more new sub-redditors here than we can handle boi :)
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 03:11 AM
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this is very true, people tend to shun the one in trouble because our topic maybe a mood killer for their fun day out. I don't resent them, but try to make a habit of reciprocal contact, call them once and then let them call you the next time. Once when I was trying to reach out for help I used to call every week now its barely once a month if someone asks about me, otherwise I keep myself busy with my stuff and going for a day of riding on my motorcycle.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:20 PM
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the money in the world...because then it would just become hers. haha !! the bitter truth my boy !!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:03 AM
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same with me. the was my fil is treated around the house by her mom and her is pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 02:01 AM
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This is a gem. In our time no one was discussing npd, bpd, manipulation tactics. In our circles the uncle's who were suffering due to the manipulative aunts were mocked instead of being sympathised. If one has kids now is is best to teach them the signs of these behaviours !!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 01:58 AM
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