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"Some people would say that having a hobby or activity will keep you busy. But hobbies and activities are not women where they could get you fixated or emotionally attached." True in a sense. I think the idea is more what those things do for your self-worth and ability to foster an abundance mentality. If you have a fun exciting life, yes on a very basic level it is something that will keep you busy and possibly distract you. And you point out the flaw there - that an interpersonal relationship …
/r/seduction19/12/24 04:09 PM
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Aka they can tell you are fake and needy and trying too hard and are communicating to you that behavior is gross and it’s painful to be around. Just stop. 🛑
/r/seduction28/06/24 10:05 PM
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You’re not being yourself. You’re trying to be a character around these girls. Being yourself is not stream of consciousness rambles hoping to be a cool guy or someone they like. Being yourself is getting clear on what you want and owning the responsibility to bring that into existence. And knowing you will always be doing those two things for the rest of your life. Getting clearer about what you want (which at base reduction is often experiences like being loved, feeling calm and grounded, feel…
/r/seduction28/06/24 10:01 PM
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Why would you get into a spending battle with millionaires? Why are you targeting girls who want be with millionaires (with whom you can’t compete)?
/r/seduction25/06/24 10:10 PM
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The caveat is lots of emotional unstable females, like attachment or daddy issues, can get really “pulled” towards over-emotionality. So don’t due it because it pushes good ones away and attracts the rotten ones.
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:45 PM
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If she already knows you to be strong, capable, and stable, then emotional vulnerability can deepen attraction as it makes you more human/relatable. She already knows you can and do handle it. Doses of being real can deepen that. If she doesn’t know you, emotional vulnerability makes you look weak and unable to handle things, so it kills attraction. Sometimes it’s expressed as the container metaphor. Masculine energy leads and sets the boundaries and shape of the container in which her feminine …
/r/seduction19/06/24 11:42 PM
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Focus on create value, not "finding out where the cool kids are and hanging out there with hopes it rubs off on you" Creating value is sometimes like a ladder. You go up one rung at a time. But you aren't at zero, you have skills and qualities. Start working with what you have available. You might also be realizing your initial premise is perhaps unreasonable: tldr: Im trying to make moves in my life and 10x my success. I want to be around guys operating at an extremely high level that will pull…
/r/seduction31/05/24 10:29 PM
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Instead of trying to hang with "them," figure out why they would hang with you. You have to create value (aka build it and they will come). Its not about physical proximity. -Be funny, fun and engaging guy with social connections and parties. -Be the guy who the solutions they need professionally. -Get good at a skill they aspire to have (like golf or fitness)
/r/seduction31/05/24 08:58 PM
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I don’t date these men There you go, that's the frame. I think I intimidate men and they can’t handle the attention that I receive. They assume I’m sleeping around because I have the opportunity and that’s too much Could be. Sounds like someone who: has secure attachment style, does not easily get jealous, and is someone who is not intimidated by your looks are three characteristics you want in a partner. Now you just have to figure out the best ways to determine if a potential partner has those…
/r/seduction31/05/24 07:39 PM
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Why is it exclusive or binary? It is more than hot or not. A man can want a beautiful woman who is ALSO mature and intelligent and respectful and, etc. That a man might value looks does not mean that is all he values. Do you limit yourself to wanting men with just one characteristic? Its okay to like the way you look. But its not sufficient. Maybe think about it like you want a man who appreciates your beauty AND ALSO appreciates your sense of humor, your warmth, your maturity, your compassion, …
/r/seduction31/05/24 06:33 PM
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Selection Bias If your self-identity is tied up in being beautiful you will attract men who value beauty. If your are trying to seduce men who are looking for beauty, your are setting yourself up for men who want physical relationships, which is most commonly short-term relationships. If most commonly men are trying to control you, maybe you are attracting and not rejecting controlling men. If your self-identity rejects seeing yourself as just beautiful, and is instead also invested in things li…
/r/seduction31/05/24 05:42 PM
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There are multiple types of smiles. What type of smile are you using? Start there Your frame is also wrong. You are not trying to get them to do anything. Your self worth is not determined by their interest. By definition, even highly attractive men are not universally adored. And a lot of those women you don’t want in your life anyway. Worry about being the best version of you, not the version that provokes a desired response from most women.
/r/seduction29/05/24 04:07 PM
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Smile with your mouth closed. Not like a forced smile for a picture. An affiliative smile. Think warm, happy, light, grateful, blessed, fortunate, etc and let that resonate. Enjoy yourself move. I tend to have my lips closed and the smile is the upper pull of the lips/turn up at the edge of the lips/and some dimples and maybe some eye smize . This is sometimes called the affiliative smile. It’s compassionate and warm The key as a big dude is this affiliative smile also signals nonthreatening. As…
/r/seduction28/05/24 06:49 PM
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It’s why you have girl friends. Wing women pre-qualify. Another is opening the whole group and engaging them all, having they vie for your attention. Another is not pushing with the first women you open, knowing if she sees you talking to other women you have a better chance Another is simply not always being available for dates, directly or indirectly letting them know you have other options.
/r/seduction25/05/24 03:13 PM
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Walk around with a big warm smile ready. Like meditate or work out but get in a positive, light, fun , mood. Radiate warmth, fun and confidence When you make eye contact, keep it and warmly smile. When they hold the gaze and smile back, go talk to them.
/r/seduction25/05/24 04:06 AM
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How can you separate the two?
/r/seduction24/05/24 08:39 PM
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You get to choose what you want to do. Losers is the wrong frame There’s no right or wrong, there’s just you and figuring out: What you like/want How to get more of that in you life Same as everybody else. Real simple. You can distract yourself and worry about judging others “losers,” or you can focus on your task. But avoiding it won’t make it better or easier.
/r/seduction24/05/24 07:13 PM
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Charismatic - adjective 1. exercising a compelling charm which inspires devotion in others. "a charismatic leader" —— Living a life you love is what people mean by “be yourself.” Do what you love, and you will be happy and positive and successful and people will be drawn to you. Charisma and confidence are by-products of accomplishing what you want aka living a life you love, that are not goals in and of themselves. Understand that personal empowerment, aka the ability to take stock of your life…
/r/seduction24/05/24 06:59 PM
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You have to become the thing they are attracted to. Obviously. This is not brain science. It’s not the lines, it’s who and how they say it.
/r/seduction24/05/24 06:16 PM
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It’s not useless, it’s painfully obvious. You have to build an amazing “self.” That’s the point. Don’t be sus. Be charismatic and fun and handsome living a great life you love and chicks will flock Pretty simple what to do. The how is often the challenging part
/r/seduction24/05/24 06:15 PM
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If they think you are weird you won’t be attractive. Staring is weird, it makes people feel self-conscious and for women objectified. The first rule is be attractive. The second rule is do not be unattractive. Staring def violates the second rule.
/r/seduction20/05/24 01:53 AM
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I would smile as soon as you make eye contact and look for a smile or blush Eye staring contests are for 10 years and wanna be alphas Staring at a girl is creepy. Staring at propel in public is creepy Smile ASAP bro -> project warm, fun and happy energy
/r/seduction20/05/24 01:51 AM
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Dominant is not controlling. It’s the carrot 🥕 not the stick. Think taking the lead. You are having fun and inviting her to join. If she doesn’t want to follow, don’t lose frame and simp for her. Keep leading. It doesn’t have to be aggressive. Basically all "decision points" between you and a woman should come down to "this is my choice, if she says no, I have other options." Examples: The weather will be stellar I’m going hiking, you should join. There’s a great exhibit at the museum I am seein…
/r/seduction19/05/24 11:35 PM
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No doubt people get triggered that’s what the third sentence says. It’s a natural human defense mechanism resisting change. A great place to start to change is to simple be honest without yourself about what is.
/r/seduction29/04/24 11:59 AM
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Anything can be understood wrong when the reader projects their stuff. He didn’t write that, it’s something you projected. People are hardwired to resist change, and one way this happens is the mind demonizes the putative “changed-self” to justify staying the same.
/r/seduction29/04/24 11:45 AM
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Sorry if this comes off rough. Tough love warning: I was making her laugh, making custom memes, cracking jokes, and flirting in between. I told her I go to a cafe every Tuesday after work and she should join me. .... [...] She said I was too good for her and when I asked her what she meant, she responded vaguely that I'm understanding and very matured for my age. (I'm 26) I get that a lot from women I've been with as I had a many responsibilities since childhood. I grew up faster than most peopl…
/r/seduction27/04/24 12:56 PM
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In the most loving way, Stop focusing on her This is about *YOU* Your frame should not be "trying to figure out what she wants you to do and doing that." Stop making it about her. Basically, I just gotta.... Focus on building an awesome life you love and if people want to come along for the ride you gotta make sure they are worthy and adding value
/r/seduction26/04/24 07:35 PM
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I’m lost at this point. I’m really tired of meeting gold diggers and want to build wealth with someone rather than be a charity over and over. Apps aren’t my strong point as I’m facially ugly and no surgery has been able to fix that. Why are you worried about meeting a class of people, who, based on your self description, would want nothing to do with you, other than to use you for you money like all the other ones? Tough love here. Adopting the frame of a gold digger is just doing what all thes…
/r/seduction25/04/24 02:34 PM
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women are drawn heavily to nostalgia. For real, we all are. Look at commercials, they pimp nostalgia hard to sell.
/r/seduction24/04/24 05:01 PM
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I have read that really attractive women don't care about compliments on their beauty. The speaker matters (See the first rule - be attractive) It does nothing for them, A lot of attractive women are very self-conscious of their beauty and very caught up in it. They live off it. That validation is not what attracts them, but many crave it as their identify is caught up in being hot. Which is why not doing that can be so effective at polarizing and attracting them, its unexpected/atypical (strong…
/r/seduction24/04/24 05:00 PM
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Right, I’m just saying kino works because it often heightens or exacerbates their emotional state, which is hopefully arousal/excitement. If she is in the nervous/guarded state, kino is likely gonna build more of the same. Instead of kino, introduce physical movement to try to change the dynamic. Let’s go to a new place, let’s go for a walk, let’s go sit in the bar.
/r/seduction24/04/24 02:59 PM
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Build rapport and emotionally connect/excite her. Be fun and flirty. Make her laugh or blush. Build attraction before you start touching her.
/r/seduction24/04/24 04:25 AM
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Maybe start with instead of getting girls, maybe think about becoming the type of guy all the girls would want. There is no end game, nothing to get, no destination. Just falling love with the process of becoming the best version of yourself. On a deeper level, maybe explore *what* it is that "getting girls will give you" - confidence, feeling loved, status, connection, joy, love, etc. Keep asking that, in an iterative process? *What* do I really want - *what* are the feeling you want to experie…
/r/seduction23/04/24 04:28 PM
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I think you should grow a beard because you want to. Getting girls is a secondary result. If you are doing stuff to get girls, you are doing it wrong.
/r/seduction23/04/24 02:23 PM
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Often when people advise things like "feel the feels," or "sit with your emotions," or do somatic work or mind-body work or metta loving-kindness meditations, a lot of what they are getting at is this psychological concept that you have to get in touch with, accept/own and ideally learn to love "what is" before you can change "what is." What we resist persists
/r/seduction21/04/24 04:56 PM
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"THE CURIOUS PARADOX IS THAT WHEN I ACCEPT MYSELF JUST AS I AM, THEN I CHANGE." CARL ROGERS When you are harshly self-critical, your brain experiences that the same as an immediate threat in your environment. When there’s a threat, your nervous system locks down and reinforces everything you’ve done up until this point to survive, including the thing you’re criticizing yourself about. Your neural synapses, where information gets exchanged in your brain, literally lock up disallowing you to consi…
/r/seduction21/04/24 04:51 PM
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me too
/r/seduction09/04/24 02:20 PM
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Who cares if she calls is the way. You practiced directly asking for what you want. Well done. Keep doing it. It’s like meditation or any other skill - it will suck and you will hate it some days but it’s through adherence that the magic happens. So now do it 2000 more times.
/r/seduction01/04/24 10:20 PM
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Thick skin is a social skill. Reading books and taking tests is more a solo skill. Sure good grades can correlate with better income. Social skills correlate with better socializing AND better income.
/r/seduction24/03/24 12:57 PM
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Get in shape and eat right. Meditate and do therapy/journaling/structured growth processes Start your own business. Be your own boss and be successful. Even more so if your career involves networking/speaking/travel for social value. Nothing drops them like other high value people repping/shinning on you. Then get a hobby or two. Again build a social circle around that hobby. Be the master of your domain. Own your kingdom, every last bit.
/r/seduction08/03/24 06:39 AM
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I agree with a lot of that, its more this phrase from OP that gets to the heart of it: “Essentially, if there is any incongruence in her current and past behavior, that is her way of indirectly communicating that she is no longer interested in you” The above strikes me as a mindset looking for any incongruence. I don’t see it as good for confidence and outlook to be looking for any indication she is not into you, however indirect it might be. Obviously context matters. Obviously different if you…
/r/seduction26/02/24 02:03 PM
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But that’s not what the OP wrote. OP is worried about any perceived incongruence, and using that to jump to the conclusion she is not interested. He believes women don’t directly communicate so you should constantly be on the lookout for signs she’s not into it. It’s a beta boy mindset. Don’t chase is not the same thing as roll her as soon as you perceive any incongruence in her actions/responses/energy, regardless of context like how well or how long you have known her or what may be ongoing in…
/r/seduction24/02/24 11:28 PM
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“Woman almost never communicate directly with men they are romantically interested in.” ?? Is that missing a negative somewhere? That couldn’t be more wrong as phrased. —- Agreed you shouldn’t chase. And a reason why is she will often come after it if she wants it. —- The “if she is ever incongruent” and not double texting stuff, while contextual, is ridiculously bad advice. Abhorrent advice. Seduction is in large part about developing EQ and social awareness (in addition to inner game/confidenc…
/r/seduction24/02/24 11:16 PM
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Are you conflating confidence with masculinity? Someone who is powerfully masculine may be attractive because of their confidence. But you can maintain other frames and still be confident. —— If you mean it in the binary masculine/feminine polar energy construct, you develop the masculine through clarity of purpose and directional pursuit of your purpose. Which starts with truly connecting to yourself through your feelings.
/r/seduction19/05/23 02:12 PM
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MMT just describes how banking works in the post-Nixon shock dollar reserve currency system. MMT is not agnostic because it (or it’s adherents/advocates) assumes that system won’t fail. The prescription is fairly explicit based on its assumptions.
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