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What you're referring to is if a woman is so incredibly offended that she reports you to security and demands you are thrown out. That's a bit of a stretch. I'm not a fan of the grindy approach but it's pretty common esp in top-40 or hip-hop clubs (upscale edm too), at least in Vegas/LA/NYC/Boston. Any woman in any proper nightclub in any major city knows how to decline if she feels someone dancing from behind. Question: what kind of nightclub did you work at where grinding is so shocking?
/r/seduction07/05/13 06:20 AM
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Perhaps the focus on 'faking it' is the problem. "Fake it till you make it" is great in some situations and a vast oversimplification in others. Sometimes we need REAL, ACTUAL, INTERNAL work -- not just 'faking'. Sometimes we need to explore ourselves and figure out the root causes of our problems with confidence, self-worth, unhappiness, lack of motivation, etc. It's great that you've been putting in work and effort into improving yourself, but maybe it's time to go deeper. A lot of people have…
/r/seduction26/03/13 06:20 PM
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I've been working out religiously for 3 years... Probably a typo.
/r/seduction26/03/13 06:16 PM
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I can't say if this will help you, but it certainly helped me. Check out What to Say When You Talk to Yourself. The world is a much better place now.
/r/seduction25/03/13 06:26 AM
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Quit drinking/smoking a year ago (alcoholism was really messing me up) Read a really powerful book on self-talk (Amazon link) started working out again started reading Dappered and /r/mfa and trying to dress well every goddamn day started hanging out with new crowds instead of the same ol' buddies grabbed a hobby (photography) and worked hard at it I'd highly recommend that self-talk book though. It helped me find internal happiness for the first time in my life.
/r/seduction28/12/12 09:58 PM
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People often break off from their larger group/clique to get a fresh drink from the bar. They are: alone momentarily bored stationary Perfect.
/r/seduction13/05/12 12:18 AM
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(probably the census)
/r/seduction06/03/12 05:27 AM
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Ask yourself: are you 'not a fan of [it]' merely because you're not good at it yet? People do it because it's fun. They're having fun. If you're not good at it yet, a bit of practice can open your life to a common and extremely effective method of having fun. But of course you don't have to, there are plenty of other things to do!
/r/seduction03/10/11 01:31 AM
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Depending on whether the girl I'm with is the type that likes intervention: I walk up, acknowledge my girl ("Hey cutie") acknowledge the guy ("... who's your friend?") introduce myself with a handshake ("Yo, I'm lookslikespeed, what's your name? ... Nice to meet you.") then neutralize him ("See, we met the one guy in here that has good taste in women!") The woman feels flattered, I control the frame of the situation and the guy doesn't lose face. If he's a cool-seeming guy I might even get my gi…
/r/seduction03/10/11 01:22 AM
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Its disrespectful if the girl is obviously with her boyfriend. No one said "obviously with her boyfriend" except you though, right? If you talk to/hit on a girl for more than a minute or two, her boyfriend will probably show himself, and that's the logical context of theCHAMPdotcom's comment. She was alone at first, now she's not. No judgmental "douchebag" assumptions needed.
/r/seduction03/10/11 01:10 AM
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Assuming "chin in" is the opposite of "chin out", or as a chiropractor would call it, "Forward Head Posture". Makes sense. Raising your chin up still keeps your neck in line, so go for it.
/r/seduction08/07/11 07:57 AM
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Yeah, that sounds pretty shitty. Idiotic, 'roided up Bros trying to push people around is definitely a problem especially in college towns or at certain parties. Disarming or turning the tables on these idiots takes practice, but we end up being and looking like the bigger man for it.
/r/seduction04/07/11 05:16 AM
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We're all fine-tuning ourselves, our vibes, our frames and our interactions with others. Can you give an example of the reaction/behavior shift and why it's disturbing?
/r/seduction04/07/11 02:42 AM
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Time constraints are logistical problems, and need to be worked around. You can come back when there's no line, or simply tell her you'd love to talk to her on her break.
/r/seduction04/07/11 02:01 AM
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Genius.
/r/seduction04/07/11 01:51 AM
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Women on a college campus have their shields up, and this is somehow the fault of the community? Are you looking for a scapegoat? It certainly sounds like it.
/r/seduction04/07/11 01:50 AM
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The same reason some will look at the floor and refuse any eye contact. Defense. Catch em at a street corner or cross walk.
/r/seduction11/11/10 06:08 AM
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In case you only hang around people that share your habits: You smell terrible. Quit smoking. Scent is 1 of 5 senses a woman has..!
/r/seduction11/11/10 06:05 AM
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I firmly agree with the writing and signing thing. However, just the other day I saw a TED talk related to making your goals public. In a nutshell, the studies showed that we get a small psychological boost when we tell other people about our goals (specifically our progress), and that reward mechanism makes us feel more accomplished than we should. Since we got SOME satisfaction out of it already, we're more likely to quit. Weird, huh?
/r/seduction13/10/10 10:25 PM
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Liked the research. Liked the insight. Disliked the conclusions.
/r/seduction13/10/10 10:11 PM
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TIL: Haters gon' hate. Anyone else going to contribute some effective texts they use, or just talk shit..? "I just saw a music video that totally reminded me of you..." "Quick -- do you own a <completely random object>..?" "Either you're on Somestreet Blvd, or you have an evil twin stalking me right now..." Truth be told, starting a txt interaction isn't one of my strong points. Thanks for the tips!
/r/seduction12/10/10 05:10 PM
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Start quickly with kino -- both direct or indirect. The point is, it has to be 'normal' for you to touch her, be close with her, and interact with her personal space throughout the evening... Some ideas where kino might happen (edit: lots of these say 'give a compliment', but they should be balanced off with teasing/jokes as needed): If she has a ring on, you get to hold her hand to admire it. Same with a necklace. After you give her a hug at the start of the date, you can gently hold both of he…
/r/seduction09/09/10 11:40 PM
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I setup a reminder (via a phone app named Habit Streak) to get me to initiate contact with at least 1 new woman a day. If it's getting late and I haven't hit my quota in-person, I go OkCupid. Once you contact a few, it becomes pretty easy. Select 1-2 women, immerse yourself in their profile (picking up all the unwritten, implied personality traits and values), and initiate contact. Get her to feel something, and she'll respond. Unless you have a shitty pic ;-)
/r/seduction01/09/10 06:36 AM
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I am trying to find them, believe me! Clues, man... Clues!
/r/seduction07/08/10 06:28 AM
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I'll do what politicians do: "answer the question I wish you asked". Q: "What's a good website to buy several types of jewelry cheap, so I can find out which style suits me?" Well damn, Fauster, that's a great fucking question you penned there. I asked a similar question on this thread, and the best answer was to go to a site called Solis. Head to a local H&M as well, they have really cheap and modern/stylish accessories, most less than $8 each -- necklaces, armbands, bracelets, sunglasses, etc.…
/r/seduction05/08/10 10:48 PM
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LA is a great place man. If you can, try to live close by some of the more populated areas. Santa Monica, Hollywood, Silverlake/Echo Park, West Hollywood (near the Beverly Center, not the overly gay part), Miracle Mile, or Downtown are your best spots for social 'living'. The people will generally be younger, good looking, well-off but not stuck up, healthy (read: not fat) and generally pleasant (in a city kind of way). Most people in the city are in their own little worlds -- they aren't necess…
/r/seduction05/08/10 10:22 PM
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Easy opener for any group: "So how do you guys know <bday guy's name>..?" Think for a minute or two how you would answer this in a funny way. Also, "do you know most of the ppl here? <bday guy> has a pretty diverse group of friends..!" be genuinely interested in who they are, what they do, and their relationship with him... you'll be the MAN.
/r/seduction24/07/10 06:23 PM
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Dammit man, this is fantastic. Perfect way to interrupt the chattering ladies.
/r/seduction16/07/10 06:51 PM
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A bunch of guys on a PUA forum decided to take a 30 day challenge, and I joined in. Got to 25-26 days, and it was amazing. More energy, more drive, more confidence... and more women! A few days ago I read an article about negative effects of fapping, and was reminded of my earlier month-of-success. I started again -- day 4 ;-)
/r/seduction15/07/10 10:47 PM
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Stop masturbating. Work out more. Do something competitive. ^ all 3 of those will help you increase you testosterone/drive, ESPECIALLY the no-wanking one.
/r/seduction15/07/10 09:40 PM
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You do your thing, I'll do mine.
/r/seduction14/07/10 06:56 PM
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I like this. It turns it into an exploration of the room, the social situation as a whole, instead of ("potentially scary") one-by-one approaches/interactions. You're like Dora the Explorer.
/r/seduction14/07/10 10:20 AM
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I get the female bartender. Works damn near all the time. Women don't flirt/banter with female bartenders as much, and they don't tip her better just because she's wearing a low cut top. Guys are priorities (for them).
/r/seduction14/07/10 10:13 AM
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He included a trailing period in the link. This one works.
/r/seduction10/06/10 07:04 PM
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If she's with a guy, and I can't get any clues from their body language, I size up the guy. If he looks like a chump/pushover/weakling, ignore him and open the girl. Focus only on the girl, and only on your goals. Otherwise, open the guy. Use whatever friendly social opener you want - "Hey, you guys look interesting, I wanted to introduce myself." Keep looking for body language clues. In the presence of a new guy: * He might make a protective gesture like holding her hand * She might make an IOI…
/r/seduction10/06/10 12:52 AM
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..buy her jewelry but you don't have to fuss with all the complications of stuff like sex Nice try, Gold-Digger's Society of America.
/r/seduction08/06/10 04:08 PM
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What you actually described is subtly different than 'an ultimatum'. In the middle parts of your post, you just described "making a move", or "making your intentions known", which is encouraged. "Don't just sit around wishing -- take action! Go for the flirt, the date, the kino, the kiss! If you get rejected, at least you know where the relationship is, right?" I don't think anyone would disagree with my previous statement. There's a subtle difference that makes the phrase 'ultimatum' so weak an…
/r/seduction08/06/10 03:10 AM
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As a recovering nice guy, please buy/torrent the hell out of a product called "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It'll knock you on your ass with a brutally honest analysis of why 'nice guys' get oneitis, get frustrated, get hurt, get introverted, get passed over, etc. Trust.
/r/seduction08/06/10 02:57 AM
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I agree. You've fallen into the trap, just like all of her other "male friends". They'd all love to hit that as well (or wanted to in the past), why do you think they're so friendly? She THRIVES off this attention, and never actually has to give up the goods. Female friends are too much of a challenge for her -- they don't shower her with attention/affection out of sexual desire, so in comparison to guy friends they are annoyingly difficult to co-exist with and/or manipulate. One of my MAIN QUAL…
/r/seduction08/06/10 02:53 AM
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Just out of curiosity, what city are you in?
/r/seduction08/06/10 01:49 AM
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That's my "chapstick & keys" pocket. Condoms go in the wallet.
/r/seduction02/06/10 06:07 AM
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--> Approach <-- Remember, you are/were good at this -- it's still in you..! I went through a confidence slump after having a weird semi-dry spell. I re-read David Deida's "Way of the Superior Man" and it got me charged up to take what's mine ;)
/r/seduction19/05/10 07:11 PM
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Any excuse to touch. Any. There are 2 types of kino but I don't know what they're called exactly. One is intentional, the other is indirect. For example, intentional would be touching her arm when you're delivering a punchline or making fun of her. Indirect would be like brushing up against her or standing in a position that allows your body to touch. Both should be balanced, and started immediately. You can't talk for like an hour without touching, then suddenly leap in...
/r/seduction15/05/10 04:43 AM
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We're all looking for our angle, the thing that makes us stand out from the crowd, right? You just found yours. Interracial stuff shouldn't be too much of a problem with whites/latinos, at least in a decent sized city. I'm curious, what city are you in?
/r/seduction09/05/10 03:08 PM
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Yeah, that is a better analogy. My original idea, better explained: we are raised (by society, parents, peers) as if we are on different teams -- women are constantly having to 'defend themselves' against the hordes of unsuitable suitors who want to take their sweet sweet innocence, vs men are constantly polling for interest from damn near anyone. As we get older, we take a grain of salt with the lessons of our childhood. This should transform to something more mutually satisfactory -- we are on…
/r/seduction04/05/10 02:43 AM
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You know, I'm really enjoying this whole thread because of you and intjpua. Where are you from? me: LA
/r/seduction04/05/10 01:40 AM
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I'm hit or miss with this. Sometimes I could care less, other times (especially in quiet coffeeshops) I freeze up thinking about what some grandma will think about my conversation. *adds item to 'sticking points' list*
/r/seduction04/05/10 01:34 AM
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I'm pretty sure you just convinced me to cancel my okcupid account.
/r/seduction04/05/10 01:32 AM
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You are a champion sir. Very well said. Also, though advice from women can bring an interesting perspective, or some previously unknown insight, I realize that men and women been playing for different teams our entire lives. They are the defense. We are the offense.
/r/seduction04/05/10 01:29 AM
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Good show. This is really practical stuff, and ballsy. Mi gusta.
/r/seduction04/05/10 01:21 AM
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situational awareness. Upvote.
/r/seduction03/05/10 08:44 AM
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I'd say talk to him as a peer. Normally men have to lead the conversation - now you get to. Normally a PUA will set the frame with unexpected, sexual or challenging conversation topics - now you get to. A PUA might segway into sexual topics and make assertions about the other person: "I bet underneath this little good girl vibe you get wild when no one's looking... You probably aren't even wearing underwear huh? Prove it." etc etc. Challenging, (lightly) sexualize, qualify We're egotistical enou…
/r/seduction27/04/10 11:14 PM
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You say your 'attempts have been going wrong'. Sounds like you have been approaching. Only. Sounds like you aren't talking to the tons of people you might encounter every day, outside of pickup - cashiers, employees, people in line, etc. Every new conversation is a mini adventure, and it gets quite addicting to talk to people. When you talk to everyone, then your 'attempts' won't be 'going wrong' -- it'll just be one conversation out of dozens for the day.
/r/seduction25/04/10 01:20 AM
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I'm about 3/4 of the way through 'The 48 Laws of Power' by the same author. Well researched, well thought out, and well written. If 'The Art of Seduction' is anything like it, I'd highly recommend it.
/r/seduction23/04/10 11:05 PM
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For the sake of discussion/argument, I'd counter that it depends on the context. If a close close friend is miserable because of their fucked up views of women, I think that it's my responsibility to try to help them as a friend -- the same way I'd try to encourage/motivate them if they has some other problem (relationship, family, job, etc). I can't "fix" them, per se, but we are invariably influenced by our peers, and I intend on being a positive influence wherever possible. (I fucking wish so…
/r/seduction15/04/10 08:45 AM
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The guys that come and bring a "friend" who's "really interested in learning pickup and changing their lives" are about to get a lesson. Those friends never learn because they aren't hungry enough. Those friends are bitter enough, and lonely enough, but they aren't willing to get off their ass enough to actually do even the most basic things. They won't even attempt anything because they "know better". QTF. This is frustrating me right now - I have 1-2 friends that are virgins at 27-28, doing we…
/r/seduction15/04/10 08:37 AM
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read through forums, and survey the advice being given out. Some is good. MOST IS NOT. ..but you'll get familiar with the common challenges faced by others, and some of the stages you'll have to progress through in your journey. You'll also get an idea of the Gurus out there that write quality stuff, and recommendations for new material to buy (or ahem acquire). Here are a couple of forums: http://www.theattractionforums.com/ http://www.fastseduction.com/
/r/seduction15/04/10 08:25 AM
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Sounds like the perfect recipe for you to Get Fuckin Goin. Seriously though, the good thing about being a minority in a country is that there are similar people that will AUTOMAGICALLY want to become friends just because you're going through the same situation, and you can exchange tips. Friends, networking, social life, a reason to start a conversation with anyone, etc!
/r/seduction15/04/10 08:21 AM
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No More Mr. Nice Guy. It showed me how my overly-chivalrous (I almost spelled that 'chivalristic') ideas and sappy nice guy thinking were actually Dishonest to the other person Damaging, and creating a pool of anger and resentment within It blew my fucking mind, and I'm a better man for reading it. Edit: linkified
/r/seduction14/04/10 05:26 AM
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(Background: I'm playing devil's advocate because I'm pretty BAD at online game... I only do in-person, mostly nighttime approaches, but I see a few friends of mine with an AMAZINGLY EFFICIENT system of chatting up broads online in their spare moments, then getting steady streams of dates.)
/r/seduction14/04/10 05:21 AM
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You could claim that with nearly any 'niche' scene. SEDDIT: There is no such thing as Daytime game. Go to a bar! SEDDIT: There is no such thing as Phone/Txt game. Go to a bar! SEDDIT: There is no such thing as WoW game. Go to a bar! (ok, maybe that one) If a location contains women, than there be game in them thar hills. Every woman I know is on Facebook. ...and if you had time to make this post on Reddit, you had time to message something witty to an online HB9 ;)
/r/seduction14/04/10 05:18 AM
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Funny how women don't feel bad about the years of reading 'female PUA' material - Cosmo, Teen, Lucky, etc magazines. They learn tips and tricks to dress for guys, tease guys, talk to guys, get guys, keep guys, fuck guys, keep guys from cheating, but if a guy packages the same thing it's creepy. Indeed - Haters gon' hate
/r/seduction14/04/10 12:49 AM
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for several months now. What kind of results are you seeing, both in-field and internally? If you've been an AFC your entire life, there is quite a bit of growth that comes with 'studying PUA skills' - financial, social, sexual, lifestyle. If you haven't built up the social part, why not stay in the game a bit longer? I don't have anything against LTR's of course, but they might slow you down at this stage in your development IMHO.
/r/seduction12/04/10 06:40 PM
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I saw this in some product: DIGITAL CAMERAS = CLOSENESS There. You have a phone. Take a picture of something funny (or get something from the internet that you can claim you took), and while talking just start laughing, like "omg something totally reminded me of this funny picture, you've gotta see this..!" and sit next to her. For both people to see the phone/camera, you have to be touching, pretty much. Once the picture viewing is done, stay where you're at.
/r/seduction14/03/10 04:40 AM
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You sound a bit bitter -- have you been flaked on recently? ;) Here's the thing: these guys want to be with a woman on <insert day of the week>. They know that women flake, A LOT. So in order to make sure that they achieve their stated goal, they schedule 2 dates. If they have to cancel one of them (not "stood up", i.e. made a date and just never showed, no call, no txt, etc) with an excuse, no one gets hurt.
/r/seduction14/03/10 04:35 AM
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