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This. Don’t broadcast your family matters to the public.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 06:01 PM
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What state are you in? You might find someone on here who has been thru something similar.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 10:25 PM
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Good for you OP. Sounds like you have no desire to bring up the old wounds. My ex broke up with her boyfriend and he asked me for coffee. I went out of pure morbid curiousity. I “won” in the end with full custody and no child support (if you want to call it a win). My kids have almost nothing to do with her. She burned him BAD. Broke up with the dude over the phone while she was boarding a plane for the Christmas holidays with another guy (her BF was under the impression they were spending the h…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:02 PM
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I’m remarried now. But I can say when I dated casually, the second a red flag popped up that reminded me of my ex I bolted. I wasn’t going thru that again. I’m so thankful I did. The woman I ended up marrying was worth waiting for.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 12:42 PM
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I tried dating women without children. They all wanted their own kids. I was not having anymore kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 10:13 PM
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Go find a youth sports league and offer to help assistant coach. You can absolutely change your schedule if you get your kids on different schedule (or take them with you! My kids LOVED it) I guarantee the head coach will take ANY help he can get. Divorced Pro tip - when and if you’re ready to date, you may find a divorced mom or two at the ballpark/gym/field. I met my current wife that way (I was coaching her kid).
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 07:55 PM
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Scary bro. Sorry you’re having to deal with that on top of everything else!
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 09:35 PM
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I came out knowing that I needed to change things about myself if I ever truly wanted to be happy in another relationship. It’s never just one parties fault. 13 years later (all in therapy) I’m remarried to my best friend in the world.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 06:11 PM
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It’s easy to do when someone pays attention to you. It happened to me. Met a gorgeous blonde who was successful, took care of herself, and a lot of fun to be with. It was clear we weren’t meant to be even though she desperately wanted to be together.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 10:34 PM
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I can feel your pain man. I was there once. Cheaters will cheat. Selfish people will be selfish. Honest people will be honest. Try to learn to trust people again. Get someone to talk to. There’s still some good people out there from both sexes.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 12:13 AM
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I learned that you will have friends come in and out of your life situationally. That very few people are true friends thru thick and thin. I learned the same thru family. If you want to marry someone, make sure they’re loyal as hell. Make sure they’re on your team and have your back.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 09:38 AM
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I had an ex that tried to smear me left and right. A friend gave me some advice. He said go everywhere with your head high and force conversations with people if they try to avoid you. Make them uncomfortable instead. Tell them “feel free to ask me if you have any questions”. I did just that. Now, I’m socially accepted and she’s the pariah (once folks saw the truth).
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 10:53 PM
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Her attorney is doing what they do. Trying to throw crap against a wall to see what sticks. They know damn well they’re not entitled to it. But you’re going to have to get an attorney and they will hash it out. Guess who wins in the end? The attorney’s.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 01:50 AM
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You will get thru it man! I promise.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 03:41 PM
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You got this man. I was there once! Start one day at a time. Do NOT hit the bars when you’re alone. Find something to fill your extra time. I volunteered to coach a youth football team. It was one of the best and most rewarding things I did.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 03:40 PM
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Divorced in 2014 at age 40. I’m 51 now. I had $150 left in my IRA. I now have $220k in it alone. In 12 years I went from pretty damn broke, to a millionaire several times over. My wife is smoking hot and loved by many in our community. It starts with self reflection and life changes. For me that was therapy, reading A LOT, mental health, physical fitness. But the big change for me in my life was finding a woman that made my life complete. She’s my person. Bro, there’s endless opportunity out the…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 07:50 PM
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I was accused of infidelity by my ex and also emotional abuse (neither true). She said I was an absentee dad (even though I was at every event, coached football/basketball/baseball/soccer, volunteered for every board post, took them to and from school when she would “allow” it). She initiated the divorce. My reputation was destroyed in my neighborhood. Mentally I was at an all time low. I was dead broke. Barely saw my kids. Couch surfing trying to save money to get a place. A friend told me to w…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 05:45 PM
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I’m sorry man. Like, really sucks for you and your family. I hope you can talk to someone like a therapist to work through this regardless of what you end up doing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 09:57 PM
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1) She changed her Facebook profile to an old family photo(the included me in it) once she found out I was dating someone (even though we were divorced). 2) She also emailed my GF (now wife) to tell her she was not comfortable with her meeting my kids. We had been dating for over a year and I had been divorced for several years. She did this and did not tag me in the email.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 09:35 PM
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I started online dating and had a bunch of fun dates and hookups. I dated one woman for a few months that I met online, but she wasn’t the one. I met my wife organically and then before I even asked her out, I canceled all apps. I just knew if we dated we would get married. Three years later we did. We have been married seven years now.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 10:43 PM
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I think a lot of people who were heading for divorce pre covid put it on hiatus when the lockdown hit.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 12:48 AM
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Great post. Couldn’t agree more. Just check in. That’s a LOT in most cases.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 12:25 AM
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Because poor people make bad financial decisions. Which is why they remain poor. I have a worker who got his power cut off the same week he showed off his new arm sleeve tattoo.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:34 PM
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Sent you DM.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 04:00 PM
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Talk to yet another attorney and see what he says. I’ve heard they don’t like changes in the middle, but I would double check. What state are you?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 03:56 PM
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I was separated for almost four years. By the time we went to court she sent discovery and I had to list any and all women (I had dated three in three years) I had been with including phone numbers and names (as well as all bank accounts and credit card statements). She subpoenaed one to show up at court trying to see if I had spent community property funds on her (I hadn’t and she knew I was just separated). We only made it to opening statements before the judge told both attorneys to go into h…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 12:08 AM
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Very much this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 01:21 AM
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Narcissistic people don’t recognize it in themselves and they certainly don’t ask for help! I did the same thing you’re doing. I allowed my ex to convince me I was the problem and I was the narcissist. Go talk to someone. You sound beaten down by all this and I promise you that she is playing mind games with your head.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 01:07 AM
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This. It will be WAY harder in two households, not easier. This divorce is going to be awful on the kids if the two adults can’t get on the same page.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 03:31 AM
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Therapy saved my life. I’m a better husband (remarried), dad, friend, etc. I have more patience and I’m more tolerant of others. I’m able to help my kids navigate growing up from tips I learned in therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 06:44 PM
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Travis county is more liberal and apt to give dad more favorable and fair rulings than other counties
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 07:10 AM
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What county in texas? It makes a huge difference.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 06:05 AM
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I didn’t say anything about marriage or staying married. He needs to be a part of this kids life and not in a different country.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 12:00 AM
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Your happiness is not worth more than that child’s. It’s time to grow up and be an adult. Go raise your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 02:15 PM
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You come second to his kids. Which is the way it should be. He’s not ready. He may never be ready with you. I would suggest talking to him.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 04:13 AM
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This is spot on. “I want to be great co-parents” is code for I want you to pay for everything.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 05:22 AM
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Go for 50-50 no support either way. Y’all split medical expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 03:42 AM
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I would at least setup a meeting and meet the guy. Maybe google him as well. If she’s going to blatantly violate the decree you either need to enforce it or have it changed (if you agree). I would kindly ask your ex if y’all can all meet up as a courtesy and you will do the same if the time ever comes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 08:22 PM
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My wife would never celebrate her birthday without me there and vice versa
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 02:21 PM
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Yes. They will ask for cc statements. I had to declare names and phone numbers of anyone I hooked up with during my separation. I think they wanted to see if I was spending community property on dates (I wasn’t). I did date some while we were going thru divorce but that took almost three years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 01:32 AM
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my ex told everyone I had an affair and then told everyone in my neighborhood that my (now) wife and I had affairs that broke up our marriages. None of it was true. I didn’t even know her when we were married. My ex knew it was all lies. The irony is she spent all her time telling people I was as a horrible human and parent. She finally had to go to rehab, got fired, lost custody, and my kids want nothing to do with her. The truth will come out in time. It just sucks for now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 03:11 AM
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That’s true. I had some luck as well. Bought a house and remodeled/flipped it. Took that money and put it into another house that skyrocketed in value. I also grew my company exponentially. I started stocking away monthly in SepIRA, also investing monthly in market using dollar cost averaging, annually maxed out hsa account, etc. I kept my expenses very controlled.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 12:46 AM
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There is hope. When I divorced at 40 I had a negative net worth. At 50 I’m now well into 7 figure net worth. Key is to get a plan. It’s going to hurt but you can always find a place to cut expenses if you give up some things. I went without any tv apps, gave up my gym membership for planet fitness, did cheap meal planning, gave up drinking, etc. I gave up name brand foods for generic and off brands. You need a financial plan on how to build back your finances and cash reserves. You need a strict…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 06:09 PM
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If it tells you anything, it took me almost a year to get all the way to a court date. She’s got no case and she has no time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 08:24 PM
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He would’ve responded to your attorney with at least “let me check with my client” in my experience at least.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 08:23 PM
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She’s bluffing you. My ex has done this several times and I have taken her back to court twice before. My bet, she didn’t “retain” an attorney. She only hired them to file. They’re not responding because they’re not her attorney in the matter. You responding to her petition means she’s going to have to spend a ton of money to get any results and she knows it’s untrue. I’d do nothing if they don’t respond (which they won’t). It will get dismissed eventually and your kid will turn 18. She has no c…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 08:03 PM
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Cheers man. Sorry for your journey so far. Enjoy the time with your kids it will be gone before you know it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 05:30 PM
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You’re not ready to date. Get into support group or therapy
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 06:02 PM
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I volunteered to coach youth sports while going thru my divorce. Best decision I ever made as I met my future wife that way two years later.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 01:14 AM
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I think you’re in the extreme extreme minority. Why in the world do they need to be deleted? Are you running out of space on your phone?
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:21 AM
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Even if she’s not cheating, she doesn’t want to be with you and only you. If you can handle this John guy being in her life, give it a go. My guess is you can’t so you shouldn’t. And never in the history of ever have I deleted a text unless I wanted to hide something. You need to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 11:19 PM
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I did and it was a colossal mistake. It was grossly unfair to the women I dated. Get divorced first, work on yourself, then date slowly.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 06:07 PM
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Do you have kids? If so, hurting her career will hurt your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 04:30 AM
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Yikes. I don’t think I see much of your side. When he’s around you, his phone is on DND and you think that’s weird. At 1AM you call him (who calls anyone at 1am?) and he has it on DND and you think THAT’S weird. You even say he’s gaslighting you. You filed for divorce. He said he didn’t want that. From the mininal info, it looks like you filed hoping he would come running back and he hasn’t. Now, you’ve cutoff any ways of him contacting his kid (which looks like retaliation). That’s about as gas…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 07:16 PM
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In Texas, you can check the county they live in. It’s public info and most counties are online for free searching. I’m not sure what state you’re in, but you might try that route.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 02:42 PM
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Homes already broken if you’re relationship is so bad you’re at this point. Im remarried and divorcing her was best decision of my life. I’m remarried now to my best friend in the world and we have a connection unlike any my ex and I ever had. I’m a better father being divorced from their mother. It sucks at first but kids are resilient. Talk to them, be honest. Make sure they’re heard and make sure that you get them some therapy. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 09:23 PM
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Nope. I didn’t ask for it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/24 04:35 AM
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Paid $1650/month from 2014 until December 2023. Now I have full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 11:56 PM
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Don’t bad mouth the other parent. Ever. Only introduce them to someone it is very very serious with.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 01:19 PM
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Good luck. Trust your gut.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 01:56 AM
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I dated a single mom (I have two kids also). Married her and I now have the best friend I could ever ask for and the best step mom I could have for my kids. However….. I doubt I could have ever done that with her having 100% custody. It would have been very very hard. It’s already tough co-mingling families if it gets serious. Also, we were able to do so much more when neither had their kids. If you’re not feeling the vibe, I’d call it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 08:59 PM
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Hey Peter! Check out channel 9!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 01:30 AM
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I tell you what I’d do man. Two chicks at the same time…..
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 12:20 AM
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Wiped out in 2014. I got lucky with some investments and going all in with market after Covid hit so I’ve recovered and then some. I can’t believe I had to put my divorce attorney on a credit card.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 08:46 PM
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It happens to the best of us. It’s like a golf shot, once it’s in your head you get the shanks. My guess, you’re dealing with a shit ton of anxiety from your divorce and it’s in your head. It happened to me as well. My suggestion. Talk to the girl your with and tell her what’s going on. Go slow and do other things. Get some toys to help. Don’t depend on penetration to be considered sex. Focus on her needs and her body. I think you will find yourself coming around. ALSO, don’t rush to penetration…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 01:37 AM
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I had awful first marriage. My second changed my life for the better. I’ve been married 6 years now. She’s my best friend in the world and I miss her every second we are apart. There is hope, guys.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 11:59 PM
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My advice. Take your time. Talk to him and ask him to be honest about what he thinks the future holds and how he feels about you. Tell him you don’t feel like he’s giving it your all.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 06:29 PM
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Have you ever been divorced yourself? It makes you second guess everything you thought you knew about a person AND your relationship. It makes you not trust people. Makes you cynical. It sounds like he’s being extra cautious with moving forward with you, and he’s not being 100% committed to the relationship. That’s just my take.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 11:54 PM
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I hate to say it doesn’t sound like he’s very committed to being 100% all in with you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 11:18 PM
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I just wanted sex post divorce. It wasn’t until I got that out of my system that I wanted to “date”.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 10:56 PM
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Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 05:00 AM
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I was hurt. She used the kids. My ex uses her kids also. Now, the kids are older and see through the BS. Having a big family (6 of us) is better than I could’ve ever imagined. Expensive! But better!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 10:48 PM
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I said I would NEVER get married again. Then I met my future wife. Now I have someone to grow old with. I’m not as scorned as I once was and I made a great decision marrying this woman. Here’s what I did: I bought a house before we were married with the plan for us to all move in. I put the down payment down ($150k) and included that in our prenup. I then added her to the deed of the house after we were married. The house has appreciated about $1m dollars since then and I consider that “half her…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 10:46 PM
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My ex reposted some photos of our family after we divorced and I started dating. Women are absolutely nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:30 PM
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Don’t let her hide assets in her attorney retainers.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:59 AM
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You’re choosing a woman over your child. How can you even begin to rationalize that? Move your ass to Georgia or wherever your kid is. That is the ONLY choice to make. Jesus man, what the hell is wrong with you. Your GF may WANT you, but that child NEEDS you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 04:47 AM
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If she’s not working you may have to pay more in spousal support. Call an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 03:27 AM
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The women of my neighborhood are about as cultish as you can find. “Group think” is off the charts. Funny how they believed my ex and her lies now that she’s been to rehab and lost custody.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 09:37 PM
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I don’t think narcissists stick with therapy very long. You discussing this with your therapist is way more self aware than any narcissist I’ve known.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 05:18 AM
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