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How-To High Valuelottienina/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:26 PM
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FDS HUMORlottienina/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:04 PM
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The crazy part is that he can’t even actually insult her for her education, intellect or career, so he has to make shit up! He sounds so jealous of her, he knows she’s better than him in all aspects of life. And when she breaks up with him those same coworkers and friends that he was trying so hard to impress by putting her down, is going to be all up in her dm’s trying to shoot their shot with her🤦🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 06:15 AM
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100% agree. I’ve been with my husband for 9 years (married 6), and I’m still vetting him, although much more lax since he’s consistently proven he’s a HV male. I feel like you really can’t possibly even begin to know someone until at least a year in to dating. We were engaged after 1 year but waited until 3 years to get married. Right After marriage you also have to keep seriously vetting because that’s when a lot of men like to switch up😒 I honestly feel like after every serious milestone thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:06 PM
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Just want to say, your response was GOLDEN! That’s SUCH a good response to the “what is your type” question. It’s specific and vague at the same time, and literally gives nothing away to the man to glob onto and try to formulate his answer based on yours. It makes him have to answer his own question lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 12:59 AM
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I agree with all of this. This reminds me of one time me and this guy went to see a movie for a first date, and when we got to the movie theater to pay for tickets, he said he forgot his wallet so I’d have to get the date this time! He had picked out the movie too! So I asked the cashier for one ticket to a different movie I wanted to see, then told my date “I mean since u gotta go all the way home to get your wallet, you’re gonna end up missing most of the movie anyway, so I might as well see w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:34 PM
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My father was a HVM (sadly he passed away a few years ago), and I’ve been with my husband who’s also a HVM for 8 years now. We met late 20’s. My one sister has been with hers for 9 years. Unfortunately my younger sister married a LVM. 4 out of 5 of my uncles are what I would consider HVM. I was lucky to have a lot of strong male role models in my life growing up, but also even stronger HV women role models. I’m my opinion, it seems SO much harder to find a HVM in the younger generation, just bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:22 PM
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100% agree to everything you just said. Also I realized those type of men don’t even seem to understand the difference between wealthy and financially secure. They think every woman who wants a financially secure man, wants a super wealthy man, so that makes the woman a gold digger. Nothing wrong with wanting a super wealthy man (go Salma Hayek), but most women just want a man who’s secure. A man who wants to split everything in half down to the last penny… that’s not financially secure. Last th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:00 PM
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Wow😳😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:17 PM
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4 years in an open relationship... WTF?!?! 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:18 PM
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😂😂But I do agree with this timeline, it’s what I did. Engaged after 1 year WITH a ring, then married 2 years after that (so 3 year timeline). To me, the serious engagement at 1 year shows the man’s intent is real and aligned with yours, the 2nd year is straight up continued vetting (because you still don’t KNOW the man), if all seems good THEN start to plan the wedding at the end of the 2nd year, keeping up the vetting of course, and marriage at the end of the 3rd year if he hasn’t shown his ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:04 PM
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Me too.. me and my sister had so many slinky games.. had a whole slinky Olympics going on at one point 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:25 PM
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Yes, Thank you! I totally agree. I hate when men say they can’t form emotional attachments without sex. Like sooo... I guess they have no friends, no parents, no coworkers they like?!? No pets? Lol. They absolutely can, they’re just trying to dress up the fact they want tons of sex with random women with the least amount of effort🤦🏾‍♀️ He’s “trying” to set it up so the woman feels like she has to try to win this “prize”. I hope he doesn’t get any good advice (let’s be honest, he’s asking for way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:15 PM
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Good luck! And even if you don’t get this one, don’t let it deter you from applying for the same type of job and to keep trying to level up☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:49 PM
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I definitely agree. He should also be providing ALL the groceries / ingredients when you DO cook at a mans house. I can’t stand when a woman bring groceries to a mans house then cooks them for him. At that point you’re a personal chef🤦🏾‍♀️ If he’s at your house sometimes, it’s okay to cook for him. If he’s over ALL the time, then he needs to be bringing over at least 75% of the groceries and STILL cooking at least half the time, since men eat more. Some men are such food vultures, they’ll litera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:44 PM
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Emotional vampires😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:00 PM
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I have to say I’m CRYING at “unliving” him😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:22 AM
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I had the same thought commenting already about this, but didn’t think we was allowed to use the M word. But yup.... he just wouldn’t exist.. If someone did that to me, I’d take the time in a prison or a hospital, instead of having that person do the same to someone else. It would be WORTH it to me 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:32 PM
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This is just so sad to me.... that poor woman. I just can’t imagine WHY any human would torment another person like he did. It’s just so sick and mean and depraved. I have a phobia of something and I would NEVER wish that on my own worst enemy... and to think he caused her that mental anguish... “as a joke”. I also find it so sad that she was like “am I over reacting?!?” 🥺 Such conditioning that we as women go through😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:12 PM
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I saw your original post and wanted to message you so bad telling you about FDS, and to just not listen to all the people literally shaming YOU because you weren’t into his “kink”. It’s so weird to me that people aren’t allowed nowadays to acknowledge that some kinks are simply gross, without being shamed for it. So glad you stuck to your guns and drew a hard line and noped out of that. This probably sounds judgmental, but I feel like these extreme kinks just end up being the tip of the iceberg …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:01 PM
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I know it’s hard, but you just gotta let it go. I love this sub because I feel like better late than never- it’s so nice to see so many women opening their eyes about men and taking control of their own life. I was pretty much raised FDS before it was even a thing, just was raised with a lot of the same values by a strong family network of HV women and men, and I STILL fell for the BS with a man twice smh. Luckily both were under 4 months things, and never got abusive per se ( the second guy tri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:31 AM
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Yes!!! Loved that. Also loved a more recent one where the lady met the guy for breakfast I think, and he was on his phone the whole time. She just “went to the bathroom” on him, left, and blocked. Didn’t even waste her time with the texts that was gonna come after when he realized she left. Queen energy 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:25 PM
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Yass I loved the FDS Queen who dumped her bf! She was like nah😏 and then kept it moving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:22 PM
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I feel like waiting for sex is really key. It weeds out the men that are only looking for a quick hookup. Most men will tell you absolutely anything you want to hear to get into your pants, but fortunately, that sort usually has no patience and can’t last past 3 dates, 4 tops. I also think when a HV man likes you, they WANT to get to know YOU. Sex is just something to look forward to in their peripheral vision, but they don’t mind waiting, because they’re so interested and fascinated by the woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:05 PM
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Online (OkCupid) in a big city, but it was 8 years ago, before online dating became complete trash, and hookup culture hadn’t taken full swing yet. I had a feeling he might be the one from the first date, because he bought me two dinners😂 He gave me a choice of 2 restaurants and I said you pick, so he took me to both. One we had dinner at and the second had dessert, plus he bought me a meal to take home. This was way before FDS values had a name, but I was raised pretty much FDS, so that was a h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:01 PM
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He seems like a grade A creep, I’m horrified! I’m sorry your family is like that, they’re reactions are so entrenched in patriarchy it’s also horrifying. I hate that girls/women are taught to “be nice, don’t hurt his poor feelings”, when he’s obviously stressing you out and being super creepy and inappropriate. How can they not think that him letting himself into y’all’s house is not a big deal?!?! Also he was totally trying to triangulate you/ make you feel like you had to compete with his “fwb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:07 PM
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I met my HV husband on okay Cupid. This was like 8-9 years ago though, before dating turned completely into this trash hookup culture it’s become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:03 PM
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PREACH! I agree 100%. I get we all make mistakes, but at a certain point, choosing to be willfully ignorant is just... I don’t know, but I can’t feel sorry for it. She’s 28, he’s 32, and he doesn’t even brush his teeth, but she needs help deciding what to do?!!?! It also seems like they’ve only been together less than a year smh, she says he had a bunch of red flags BEFORE they were engaged, and she’s still wondering if she can change him? This a whole pickmeisha hall of fame post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:15 AM
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I had to do the exact same thing on words with friends! Pretty much any game now I use a male name. I don’t even have a picture of myself, just a picture that says happy spring/ summer/ fall/ winter depending on the season, I was literally getting messages just based on my name. It’s so disgusting but not surprising that women can’t even play games in peace without men hitting on them. It blows my mind that men think THAT’S an appropriate forum to hit on women. It just really shows no self aware…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:18 AM
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I’m curious though... do you know, or have ever actually heard of, in the news or etc, a man that went his own way? Like literally just said eff it and left women alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:05 AM
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My grandma is 80, and she has NO clue about the “movement” of “MGTOW”. But like 2 years ago she said “what’s this thing about men talking about men don’t need women and they’re going out on their own? Why do they keep talking about it ... just GO! I never heard a bunch of men talk about women so much, as these men who talk about how women don’t matter to them” lol. Still cracks me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:03 AM
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Actually if we talking about stuff... what about a Tik Tok free Tuesday?👀😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:49 AM
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I love all memes too, but I can see the logic in it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:48 AM
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Good for you Ms lady! That’s a decision you won’t ever regret- it’s hard enough taking care of our own damn selves as people in this world. I got my own laundry to do... don’t need to be doing anyone else’s lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:33 PM
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My first thought was “ohhh.. he must be everybody man”....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:21 AM
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I actually think that’s a very valid and good point to bring up- should you be engaged after a year? I think a man should propose after 1 year of solid dating, it shows a strong commitment to the future, and I think it’s fine to accept a proposal after 1 year, as long as the actions and the ring back up the proposal. But I’m also of the mind that expensive engagement rings mean something... it’s an investment the man is showing in y’all’s shared future. I think it also depends on your age and ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:20 AM
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Your ring is beautiful.... I love emerald cut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:13 PM
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That’s so nit-picky... 😩 it’s a typed up card lmao. The flower shop is the ones who type them up. There probably was a 110 character count limit, hence they left out the period at the end too. It’s good to be critical, but also gotta know when, and what, to chill out on sometimes 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:12 PM
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Yes, TOTALLY agree. Unrelated but in the same vein of why you should NEVER let a date come to your house- My sister sent me a news article yesterday about a lady who met a man on a dating app, and let him come to her house for the first date. He killed her and her dad 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:04 PM
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Definitely a red flag. The fact he wouldn’t tell you his age is super shady- to me that makes it seem like he’s actively seeking out younger woman for nefarious reasons. Not telling you is the same as lying and is manipulative already. Like is he thinking “she might have a problem with my age, but once she likes me it won’t matter to her so I won’t tell her right away. I’ll trick her!”. A first date and he’s already trying to manipulate you... run girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:37 AM
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This should be a thread on its own about HVM behavior. Love it! It shows that even if a man starts from the “bottom”, that’s no excuse for LVM behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:50 AM
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The fact she called him a “scary creep” says it all. Good for her for getting out while she’s still young, although it makes me sick and so mad she wasted her CHILDHOOD with this MAN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:50 PM
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This made me Lol and zoom in on the picture 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:35 PM
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My husband has my phone and laptop password and I have his, and we have fingerprints for each other saved, but since we each have our own devices there’s really no need to ever use the other persons, and we have no desire to snoop on each other. I prob go on his phone and computer like 6 times a year. He NEVER goes on my computer even though he could, but occasionally, like 2 times a year he might use my phone for something. I’ve got a bunch of his passwords for different things and he has some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:01 PM
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I just want to say, you don’t owe anyone a damn thing! So don’t feel bad about not reaching out to the other women. Your whole situation got me HEATED and I don’t even know you, I gotta calm down, like if I knew the people in the situation I would prob go beat they asses 🥵. You sound like you have that strength it takes in the long run to carry on, though. That resilience women have in their core. Just worry about how to keep yourself sane and functional♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 11:48 PM
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Oh no problem. My husband is Russian, so Thanksgiving literally means nothing to him😩 It means a bunch to me (huge Black family with southern roots).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:42 PM
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I read that too and was horrified!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:19 PM
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I never make Thanksgiving dinner. I have a huge, close knit family, so we always go to my grandmothers house for Thanksgiving, ever since I was born. it’s usually a whole big family affair with a ton of people. To make it easier on my grandma since she’s really old, me and my husband host the Christmas party and do all of the work. The point of ordering dinner was so there was NO work to be done, no organizing anything. The company was fresh direct, it was $189 for a dinner for 6-8, it came with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:16 PM
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All these comments making me feel bad so I’ll try to explain about the icing lol. It’s what happens when you put the store icing on, but the cake is to hot and the icing melts, then you panic and try to put more icing on, and it gets all patchy and cake just stuck to the spoon, so you panic MORE and next thing you know... the whole cake got holes in it🤷🏾‍♀️🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:15 PM
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Ever realize how these men looking for “younger” women never put their own age?🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:05 PM
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He had me from the video where they’re in the pool or ocean, and he fixes her wig, like “let me get this, I got you babe”. Such a small thing but so nice lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:02 AM
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The rhinestones falling off had me in tears, not gonna lie lol. Did he use Elmers on paper for this ring... she’s not even worth Krazy glue?!? When I was dating my husband and we talked marriage 6 months in, I told him I expected nothing short of a ring that cost 7k. That ring is a promise to me, and an investment in saying our marriage will work, that he truly believes that I’m the one he wants to go on the journey with. 9 months in he asked me to pick out ring styles I like and email them to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:54 AM
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House in West Philly suburbs, a triplex in the “hood” of North Philly lol. The triplex cost more than my house 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:02 PM
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Based on his expenses he’s a LVM... He’s spending so much on “wants” not needs, and not even tangible wants. I get being poor, but this is how you stay poor. On the other hand, her expenses do seem super high though. Her rent is higher than both my mortgages 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:48 PM
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