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Golden handcuffs beg to differ… maybe not literally starving, though, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:24 AM
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Most Americans do not even make half of $175K lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:22 AM
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What the hell lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:17 AM
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Sure, for the Census. But no one is socially referring to a 34 year old as a “young adult.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:23 PM
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35 is not a young adult. The infantilization is craaaazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:49 PM
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yeah i know it’s not cool and underdog liberal rebel of me, but in reality, unless you’re truly dealing with a MAGA Cult follower… the answer is just be human, treat them with dignity & respect, and connect and communicate. most ppl are open to learning and hearing your POV if you’re genuinely seeking to understand and hear each other, not trying to shame them or treat them like they’re stupid. most people aren’t awful hateful terrible ppl trying to harm you or others. they genuinely don’t have …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:43 PM
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Yeah, sure, no one is 100% open with everyone, even best friends or spouses etc. But I also do a lot of psychedelics with my friends soooo like, we have a LOT more transparency with each other than most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:29 PM
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Okay, and? What’s it like up on your high horse? lol. Do you think that’s going to bridge the gap? The MAGAts are lost, but there’s millions of Red voters that just didn’t know or care enough, that you’re grouping with the MAGAts. You know the result is that those people get more radicalized, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:27 PM
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Looks like a big chunk of Illinois (blue) and Oregon (blue) voters sat out if you look at the turnout. Enough to shift popular vote but never enough to shift the states to red. Not to mention protest votes (or protest non-votes). I’m not blaming Black men? I’m saying, if Michelle Obama came out to convince anyone, it was going to be (generally) women or (specifically) black women or black men. She wasn’t endorsing Harris with the hopes that white men would listen to her…..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:22 PM
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Yeah, I’m very confident they’d say it if they felt that way. They’re my friends (and family and spouse). You don’t know them; I do. We absolutely talk about things like that, even if it makes us look ‘bad.’ For example… most of my friends — like me & my spouse — are bisexual. Several have expressed they feel a little guilty that they have the option of “being straight” if things got bad enough. No one put them on the pyre for it. I don’t know what your relationship with your friends or spouse i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:19 PM
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If you think the difference between a low-info Red voter is the same as the difference between the KKK and the Proud Boys, you’re grossly misinformed and kinda dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:00 PM
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Lmao. If you wanna play stupid, then okay, we don’t have to chat. You know exactly what everyone means though. A Red voter and Trump Supporter™️ are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:39 PM
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So was it directed at the Black men or not? You aren’t seriously saying Michelle Obama coming out was to compel white men to vote Democrat, are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:38 PM
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Do you like, talk to women much? Because I do talk to men, and none of the liberal men I’m around are feeling persecuted by this at all. The only men I know that have a big persecution complex are the conservative ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:36 PM
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There’s actually a very vast grey area in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:32 PM
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Oy vey. It’s so hard to take y’all seriously when you say this kind of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:30 PM
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Yeah umm. No shit dude. It’s better for everyone if their partner and potential partners are notoriously loyal. Cheating is a human problem, not a “women bad” problem. Be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 10:53 PM
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Yeah, pretty much, that’s the crux of the issue. It’s really frustrating. The bright side is: it’s changing, and the rate of boys cut at birth is about 50:50 nationwide and dropping.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 06:57 PM
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Single men have less sex than cohabitating and married men. So what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:21 PM
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You think you can quantify love with things like “confidence he won’t break my heart” or “virgin with a big dick” (lmao)??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:20 PM
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You’re not very good at reading data. This actually means that even when men suspected they weren’t the dad they were STILL the dad 74% of the time. Which actually begs the conclusion that when men do think they are the dad, the rate is even higher that they are the dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:18 PM
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That’s awfully nice for you that any data is moot because “women bad and lie” lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:16 PM
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Um, literally yes, obviously women love their husband more than random hookups? What even is this question? Do men love their wives more than random hookups?? Lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:13 AM
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I mean, that is also what it is in the US. There seems to be a larger portion looking for hook ups in some areas maybe? But it’s not like there’s NO ONE that wants something serious or longer term or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:50 PM
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It’s a bad argument? Lol. The entire OP is “this problem is because women bad!!!” and I very clearly said: “Yeah sometimes women play a role but men mainly drive this problem.” and you said “WELL MY MOMMY played the main role.” ??? Okay so yep, we agree, women bad sometimes. Just like my original comment acknowledged women have a role but men are the decision-makers, and men are the ones activism needs to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 08:00 PM
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So why do the procedure then? If it makes no difference medically, no difference with proper hygiene, and no difference in pleasure? You’re also kind of being obtuse. Removing a huge portion of the penis (a dynamic organ) to make it unable to move (so it’s static), dry it out, and leave scar tissue on the most sensitive area …. obviously that will lower the capacity for pleasure. It doesn’t mean it removes it entirely, or makes it to a level that is distressingly low (especially if you never com…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:55 PM
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Every single time I meet a mom of young sons and this has come up, it’s the father that wanted it. The mother either didn’t care or did care but the father pushed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:46 PM
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Not sure what you’re even talking about at this point. I agree what happened in the past is bad, and I agree no one should mutilate babies now. In fact, when I had the chance to mutilate my own, I didn’t do it. I also wouldn’t mutilate any daughters. I think mutilating children is bad. You brought up your mommy… a statistical outlier… what was the point if not to say “women bad, too, sometimes!!!” ??
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:44 PM
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You can’t really compare it though. If you are cut as a baby or child, you do not know what you would feel like otherwise. Unless it is gruesomely botched (which some are), you will just accept that you are functioning fine. It will feel as good as it can feel. You will never know how different it would feel if you hadn’t been cut as an infant. If you are cut as a teen or adult, it’s almost always because you’re having a medical problem that requires intervention. So your baseline is already “no…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:37 PM
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It is no longer routinely recommended in the U.S. and the numbers of babies born today are more 50/50 nationwide on if they are cut or not. The biggest predictor of if a boy will be cut is if his father is cut — dads are the driving force in the decision-making around it. But it is actually not a routinely recommended procedure anymore and hasn’t been since 2012. It takes awhile for the social/cultural beliefs around it to fade away, however, the tides are turning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:34 PM
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Except that prior to 2012, it was publicly stated there were benefits. And prior to around 2000-ish, it was known (in the medical community) that maybe the benefits were overstated but it was still beneficial (so only if someone deep-dived and understood how to read medical research would they be able to get the full picture we have today on how negligible the benefits are). If you were born before 2012, this isn’t surprising whatsoever. Thats why most American boys born before then are cut… Mis…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:28 PM
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I agree with you on an interpersonal level. That is why this was something I personally made clear my stance on to my now-husband before marrying. I would not have gotten married without my partner agreeing. It wasn’t something I would be able to ever do to my sons, and I would never be able to be with a man who was educated on the topic but still chose it because of his ego. However, we can sit here and circle-jerk about how we’re sooo much more clever and well-prepared and better educated and …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:16 PM
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No, nurses do not perform circumcision. Doctors do, generally a urologist (90% of them are male). It isn’t moms and dads equally. I have already explained plenty why. You can hound moms about it, but dads dominate the decision-making with this particular thing. This choice doesn’t exist in a vacuum. You’re blaming pregnant or <1 week postpartum women (when a woman is most physically, emotionally, spiritually vulnerable and at risk btw) for not throwing a bomb in their relationship and defying th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:02 PM
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How old are you, and are you in the US? Because it was routinely recommended between 1960 and 2012 and parents were told (what is now known to be) misleading information about the benefits. So your mother almost certainly believed it was healthier, cleaner, and even medically necessary for you to get it done if you were born between 1960-2012, unless she would’ve independently educated herself on the topic. I would only find your story surprising if you were born after 2012 or aren’t American. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 06:53 PM
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Yeah it’s really horrible. They basically don’t want to feel like their own dick is “wrong” so they subject their sons to being mutilated. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 06:48 PM
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Yeah, I actually thought about it more, and I’m even more angry he had the audacity to blame women for this when it’s mainly dads making the individual decision, and mainly male doctors performing the surgery, and mainly male politicians doing nothing on the legal end, and mainly male religious leaders perpetuating faith-based mutilation, and literally men and boys themselves perpetuate the false idea that intact genitals are somehow worse, less clean, etc. than cut genitals. Then to be relative…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 06:42 PM
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Thanks! I completely agree with you. You have to be sensitive to the fact that the main perpetrators are victims themselves, but either don’t know that or don’t believe it. It’s a really complex issue. I grew up in Europe, so that’s where I first became sexually active, but then moved to the U.S. at 19 for school. I knew about circumcision generally, but it was sure a shock the first time I hooked up with an American guy. I was appalled when it clicked that THAT’S what circumcision was. But to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 05:46 PM
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Yeah this one really grinds my gears as a mother that did not cut my sons in a very red state. This post shows OP has absolutely no real life experience understanding this problem. It’s the dads driving the decision. If the dad is cut, he has to decide to break the cycle. The mom can try but it’s the dads that are really the ones perpetuating state-sanctioned genital mutilation, as a way to cope with being mutilated themselves. I mean, most moms of cut boys have called me “lucky” that my husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:03 PM
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a) So are you around babies, or not? The answer’s clear to me, as someone that spends time around babies and postpartum women literally everyday, that you do not do this. Or you would have more of a bone to pick with the dads than the moms, because the dads are the ones driving the decision to cut the baby boys. Like this is a pretty common topic with postpartum moms of newborn baby boys… you would know this if you were around babies much… b) You’ve heard this, but then directed your post at wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:53 PM
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Feels like you aren’t around many babies. I say this because — as a mother of (intact, obviously) young sons — it is literally almost always the father that decides whether any boy gets cut. And they nearly ALWAYS choose to have the baby boy match them. It’s appalling. The moms will say, “Well, I don’t have a penis, it’s not my choice.” which is also not great, don’t get me wrong, but this image you have of fresh postpartum moms of newborn baby boys projecting their sex preferences on this tiny …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:47 PM
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You don’t have to do everything together just bc you’re married or have kids though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:07 PM
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So when were you drafted?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:36 PM
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Lol way to not take any accountability. My point is that, for example, I have a husband that I have no reason whatsoever to think he would’ve voted against my best interests, because I am confident I know the type of person he is. I would never withhold sex as a tool against him. His behavior and everything he says aligns with my values, and I see him demonstrate his care and consideration of me and my experience as a woman. So there’s no incentive for me to stop having sex, as a tool against hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:40 PM
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Here’s the thing. In mutually respectful, loving relationships, no one is going to feel the need to be celibate as a political move. If your wife feels the need to do that to get a message across to you (and other men?) then clearly there’s something deeper going on interpersonally. Why would I stop having sex with my husband that’s demonstrating in his actions and words that he values me as an equal? What would this accomplish? Let’s think it through for a moment. The only reason I would do tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:55 PM
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Yeah, I mean, if your wife won’t fuck YOU because other men voted for Trump, your interpersonal skills clearly suck dick and you deserve whatever she decides. Like if your WIFE doesn’t trust you support her bodily autonomy, then you can go cry about it. It’s ur own bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:53 PM
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Yeah, men never get bamboozled by convicted criminals! I mean, can you imagine if a convicted felon somehow convinced a bunch of pansy men that they should vote him into the presidency ??
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:18 PM
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Cry baby cry lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:16 PM
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Girl, 3 years is a LONG time to take to realize someone literally doesn’t like you. You’re so passive here, like it’s someone else’s fault. “A man moves in with me when I’m 20” — no, you chose to move in with a man without vetting him very well, apparently even for the most basic things like if he even likes you. My point isn’t to attack you personally btw. The point is — how is your inability to read red flags a reflection of men as a whole?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 09:07 PM
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Re children — Yes, society throughout all of time and history have prioritized children. Not necessarily creating more of them as you seem to think I’ve said. But prioritizing the children that are there. (Though of course what this looks like varies throughout culture and time.) Re agreeing to be in society — No offense but this is kinda dense of you. You agreed to it implicitly by being born a human being living in the 21st century. Sorry you didn’t get to be born in a state of nature and shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:18 PM
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It’s just… like…. you can’t tell? By interacting? It’s pretty obvious when someone is tolerating large parts of you vs. genuinely in love with you. The difference is like night and day when you’re paying attention. So how much attention could you have paid to what was literally happening in front of you? You only believe something or not based on a man literally saying it? 99% of people aren’t such fantastic actors that they can go years masking such intense disinterest or dislike. Maybe I could…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 07:10 PM
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Hmm. I half-disagree. It’s true that a single mother isn’t entitled to anything, on a personal level. When you get pregnant, especially by choice, you are opting in to that responsibility yourself. But it’s also true that the government of a functioning nation has a duty to its citizens, including families and especially children. And the citizens in a society all agree they owe X to the government in exchange for being governed. Some of X includes taxes, that fund social programs, for children …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:21 PM
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You’re being disingenuous counting that as men giving up bodily autonomy, though. It’s active in the sense of being a legally active process but it is not active, as in “being used.” So sure, in theory, men 18-26 years old COULD be compelled into service. But they aren’t currently, and realistically in this timeline won’t ever again be either, and haven’t been for 50+ years. What autonomy was given up for you, hm?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:14 PM
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right like.. also… quality of life for the kid has to come into play here?? it would be a supremely bad choice as a parent to choose to bring a child into the world knowing that’s your financial limitation from the get go….
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:10 PM
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No one is entitled to having a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:07 PM
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The U.S. draft hasn’t been used in over 50 years and will never reasonably be used ever again. No one online complaining about this has ever been or will ever be drafted. The US military is entirely voluntary and we have a huge reserves force. The incentive to voluntarily join are so good — and the social climate around compelled service is so in favor of the civilian — and warfare is so different now vs. 50 years ago… that you will never be drafted. On top of that, most avg American men wouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:54 PM
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Yes but you do understand that men have a path to personhood in your example here, whereas even the strongest, wealthiest, most famous woman will not be given equivalent personhood despite jumping through the same (and more) hoops, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:51 PM
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Umm. Literally yes you do exist. Your existence doesn’t depend on an outside source validating it first. You simply are. You know, “I think, therefore I am.” and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:50 PM
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I live in a very big city. When I go in public by myself, men hit on me (even when I have my toddlers with me!), but when I go in public with my husband, they don’t even look at me. Just him. They do the normal dude head nod thing and seldom, if ever, make eye contact with me. Because they respect me as an extension of him, but not as a person myself. Sometimes older men (like 50-60+) will acknowledge us both, especially older white men or in nicer neighborhoods, but in a (for lack of a better t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:38 PM
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No offense but how didn’t you notice your bf didn’t even like you for years? In MULTIPLE long-term relationships?! That also means you weren’t paying that much attention to the relationship quality. Takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:27 PM
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(Also bi woman.) Ime, men will apologize when confronted. They will apologize for literally anything when confronted. Women (both romantically and platonically) are much more likely to spontaneous apologize. Men were easier to plan dates with in the earliest stages — they definitely initiate more — but women are easier to maintain a relationship with because they do equal work once the relationship is established. Of course it depends on the individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:14 PM
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You clearly aren’t following the advice of people educated in the field. All meaningful evidence shows hitting children isn’t best practice, or even a good practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:00 PM
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Who said I was winning a battle over men? Or that I even wanted to? Not wanting to be forced into a marriage with someone I barely (if at all) got to choose sounds horrible to me. I am thankful I had the ability and freedom to choose my spouse. It ended up working out for me very well, and I gladly serve my husband because he deserves it. In an alternate world without my freedom, I don’t know that I would’ve been with a man that deserved it. It sounds like you agree — it is good that women are f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:59 PM
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I’ve never been in that situation, so idk, but I would assume it’s a polite rejection. What traits does such a guy have? Depends on the two people in the discussion. In general I think if a woman says this to a male friend then she isn’t attracted to him for whatever reason, but she can see there’s no inherent flaw he has that needs improving (like it’s not his hygiene or he’s always making weird jokes etc. where she could say “Hey, you’re nice and all but the weird jokes you’re always making ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:53 PM
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Hmm. I don’t resent them. Because of my foremother- and fathers’ work to liberate me, I was able to choose my path rather than be enslaved. The freedom to choose means I love the life I have — I wasn’t boxed into a corner and forced into serving an unworthy man. What a gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:25 PM
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You aren’t understanding. They wouldn’t love you at all. They would love/tolerate the role you’re playing. You will never feel their love, you will never feel accepted. It will all be an act. It will all be fake. This is not a strategy to secure being loved. It may be a strategy to have a man do some nice or loving things for you, but it is not the path to being loved or cherished or even liked in any meaningful way. I’m gonna guess you didn’t get the love you needed as a child if you’re seeking…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 04:19 PM
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Not a feminist or a liberal lmfao. The answer is never to perform it. All meaningful research shows this. Again, not a liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:17 PM
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Hitting children is abuse. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:13 PM
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Your younger sister or brother?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:13 PM
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But they wouldn’t love you. They’d love (or tolerate) the mask you’re wearing, only based on how well you can keep the mask on. It’s not very fulfilling.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 03:10 PM
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Yes, the question indeed is actually “would you rather be a slave or be free?” and now you can see why women fought for liberation, hm?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:40 PM
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You don’t think lower ranking soldiers submit to their superiors? Hmm…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:39 PM
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Ah, yes, SAHM so you could just abuse your kids if need be. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:22 PM
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All of them said “modern woman” immediately hahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:20 PM
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Do you have siblings?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:19 PM
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I’m not joking, I genuinely did not believe anyone thought like this. What do you think you’d even get from such a surface level relationship??
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 05:39 AM
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You’re just describing normal human attraction. Thats how it is for women too. This is the reason the whole “she REALLY wants a chad, but she settled for billy beta, wah wah” stuff is so stupid. Everything you just described applies to women looking at men, too. The better the personality, the easier it is to overlook if he’s got a weird feature or whatever. Almost… like… men and women…. aren’t so different……???
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:52 PM
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Yeah it’s your height holding you back entirely. I guess you’re SOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:47 PM
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Almost like they’re reacting defensively to being treated poorly by men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:43 PM
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Also on the physical side of it — married sex goes hard as fuck if you marry the right person !
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:59 AM
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what advice?😭 That life isn’t fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:46 PM
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Men even run shirtless outside in public. Not sure why you say that rarely happens — it’s extremely common around me in the summer. What is the soft-core porn attire you’re referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:12 PM
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Living under a patriarchy doesn’t imply their male peers are better off than them. Not sure you really understand what you seem to be upset about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:10 PM
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Men literally will workout in just shorts and no shirt, nipples out and all. I think you can handle a woman in leggings and a fitted tank top.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 06:58 PM
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Anyone with casual internet access consistently enough they are arguing on Reddit is living better than 99.99% of all human beings that have ever lived on earth. Humans today live like kings and queens compared to the vast majority of all humans. Running water? Filmed theatre on demand? Grocery stores? Modern medicine? Fire departments, roads, buildings, beds? So I guess no one should ever complain about anything since we all have it so good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 06:32 PM
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Okay? Doing those steps wasn’t a guarantee. You read a book to pass the driver’s test, but you also had to drive. And if you are great at theory but you suck at driving, they won’t give you a license. Why are you being so obtuse about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 06:26 PM
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Because it involves another person. You can only control for so much. There’s no cheat code. But sure, there’s stuff that helps, if your goal is to get a gf. Life’s not fair, though, so it doesn’t guarantee anything. Just like following all the steps to start a business doesn’t mean your business will be successful, or getting a degree is not a guarantee of a job in your field.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 06:01 PM
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Who said life’s equal or fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 05:55 PM
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This sub skews overly autistic for the men especially, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:26 PM
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Why? Expat means you live in another country and aren’t immigrating…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:25 PM
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Who said he approached her?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:24 PM
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But he knows one girl and her sister who it worked on, so by his estimation, this is the best way
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:09 PM
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If your self improvement yielded 0 results then you literally didn’t do anything meaningful lol. The goal of self improvement is, you know, yourself being improved. Not dating and sex. Dating/sex may result from self improvement but they aren’t the markers of success of self improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:07 AM
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yeah your numbers definitely check out — look at the military’s squad vs platoon vs battalion sizes, and how there’s new layers of leadership at each level specifically to avoid the chaos. (doesn’t always work. lots of redundancy and inefficiency in the military. but you can see the attempt at structure, and for the most part, it works well enough.) but you can’t really personally lead more than 5-10 people, and after that, you need a new structure to the dynamic. 12 wives, plus their children. …
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 03:27 AM
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Cheers, thx for sharing! It’s always nice to know despite the doom and gloom, there are people in love and enjoying each other. My husband & I feel the same. The sex has gotten better and better. Even through having kids, which I hear kills a lot of bedrooms. Did not do that to ours whatsoever. I loved having sex with him when we first started, but that pales in comparison to now — truly all sex I’ve ever had pales in comparison to the connection and chemistry after almost a decade together. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 05:06 PM
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I mean, grey divorce & remarriage is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:34 PM
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Yeah, I thought becoming a mom would alleviate some of it but NOPE. I love when I go places where men don’t pay attention to me though, so I think I’ll like the wall tbh. I prefer going out in public with my husband because he’s big and burly and men never look at me disrespectfully. Of course the dark side of that is because that they respect me more as an extension of a male… but the bright side is they aren’t fuckin looking at me, glaring at my tits, talking to me, or giving thinly-veiled ”co…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:33 PM
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Yeah it’s hilarious watching them talk about how ugly and lonely and horrible these hypothetical women seeking partners must be who would also totally reject them BUT ONLY because these hypothetical women have such IMPOSSIBLE standards! Like damn bro, even in your daydreams you’re getting shot down by ugs?😭
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:32 AM
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Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:28 AM
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no idea. i’m only conceding some people surely are delusional. the dating market fluctuates so much by location and age. but even if we say half are delusional (which is me being generous to your points)… do you GENUINELY believe all 30 of time (or even half of them) will be so delusional that they — despite being single and eager to date, and in your hypothetical, all exactly average women — wouldn’t be willing to even chat with a 5+ man who is otherwise sociable, polite, clean, friendly, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:17 PM
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If you were >5, you’d be able to get with <5. Will some of them be delusional? Yep. Most won’t be, though, and if you literally can’t get with anyone above a 3 (or whatever y’all are talking about), you’re a <4. Of course humans aren’t that simple, 0-10 is just a simple way to discuss it. If you really cared about your chances, you would understand men get an edge in person. Any woman on earth understands the experience of showing a guy she’s into’s Instagram to her friends, and prefacing it wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:49 PM
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LOL yes actually, when women on FDS were calling for male infanticide, I was actively arguing and reporting. I am very concerned with male plights as I’m raising 3 boys. There are actual problems males face. But… IRL no one is calling for death to all males. If I encounter someone in the wild calling for the death of anyone, I would leave the premises because I’m a 110 lb woman. Do you often encounter women threatening murder IRL? Is this just online? IRL men are actually raping and murdering wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:42 PM
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why?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:34 PM
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if you can’t get with a 5 AT AN EVENT for singles to connect then you’re a 5 or below yourself and shooting out of your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:33 PM
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ooooh so that’s the truth then isn’t it? men are shooting outside their league lol. you say these single women are unattractive anyway…. so these men, then, aren’t single against their will. there just shooting for top tier when they’re average or below. thanks for clearing that up — i agree, many men also have delusional standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:32 PM
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Rejecting a man is violence? Hmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:31 PM
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why lol? because that arbitrary distinction makes your whole argument? it doesn’t matter if the man could realistically get with his first option or not. he was still forced to choose the 2nd option, and he will still lust after the 1st option. it’s not like he just stops even considering hotter women LOL. men do the opposite, actually, and intentionally masturbate and fantasize about women that are different to their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:48 PM
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I mean, point 1 and 3 are the same thing so you actually only made 3 points. Not 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:14 AM
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so the average women are also these men’s 2nd choice. if they could get with hotter women for relationship (or sex) they would…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:03 AM
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I’m saying some men alive right now, today believe that women should be property. Not speaking on historically at all actually lol, go ahead and re-read.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:34 PM
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But KNOWING there ARE dangerous men, and women have valid reasons to be wary in public or around strangers or men they don’t know well… you actually CAN make women feel safer. What do you mean? Easy example -- I live in a big city. If I’m out at night alone (rarely, if ever) then men very frequently see me and quickly cross to the other side of the road. They do that because they know some men are a threat and they’re signaling they’re not a threat and they’re minding their own business. They in…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:34 PM
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So do you want women to shut up about it, and let the creep get away with it or do worse to women, just so you don’t have to feel uncomfortable (despite the fact that your discomfort is from you over-identifying with being a man, not anything tangible in real life harming you (or harassing or raping or murdering you, like some men do to women)? Like what’s the alternative? Do you seriously need every statement to have a qualifier (“not all men”??) to understand that not everything is about YOU p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:28 PM
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and??? there are actually groups of men who enslave and breed women or believe women should legitimately be chattel property, seen not heard, no right to vote, etc. Yep, extremists exist in all groups. You’re comparing a satirical hashtag’s impact with extremist groups calling for genocide. It is a bit much, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:21 PM
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why can’t men challenge it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:14 PM
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Umm. The context of this is why do FATHERS warn their DAUGHTERS about other men….
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 08:11 PM
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I wouldn’t call 50+ partners a year remotely the average casual sex experience, no, but most young adults in cities and college towns are serial monogamists who rack up bodies in-between relationships… by having casual sex….. No idea why you’re implying most ppl think “casual sex” = “new partner every week”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:08 PM
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what makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:16 PM
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Do you actually believe this or are you exaggerating to be dramatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:02 AM
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A lot of takes on here make sense when you realize most people don’t live in make cities and/or didn’t go to a proper university campus. Casual sex is alive and well in cities and college towns for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:00 AM
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Have you ever lived in a major city? Casual sex is very common in NYC, LA, Chicago etc. lol. It would be more unusual to learn someone has never had casual sex in young adulthood than what you’re describing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:59 AM
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I have kids — with a man who laughed at your comment with me because that take is sooo insecure and cringey. Legit like a woman hysterically demanding her bf’s phone because she had a dream he cheated on her. And women are the emotional sex?? Oy vey. “Other men have been cheated on so now you MUST prove you didn’t cheat!” How cucked can you get?? You’re literally throwing a grenade into your otherwise happy relationship because some OTHER dudes you don’t even know got cheated on and hypothetical…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:10 AM
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Expecting someone else (especially your otherwise faithful wife and your unborn baby) to undergo an unnecessary medical procedure (that’s not without risks or cost btw) to assuage your insecurities when you have literally no other reason to think you’ve been cheated on is sooo soft, are you joking?? lol. If your baby is born and clearly isn’t yours, yeah, sure, go get a test done. Seems like mom would be expecting it by then, hmm? Otherwise it’s like your wife having a dream you cheated so now s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:50 AM
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I can’t believe you’re literally claiming CICO while also explaining why a calorie ≠ a calorie and implying CICO is oversimplified (which it is) lol. Yeah so we agree, medication impacts metabolism. The OG comment also said PCOS and supplemental hormones may make it take longer. Not that it’s impossible. Thanks for clearing that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:58 PM
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Oh well, you know, I don’t discriminate. I also have fun sex with attractive and trustworthy men!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:58 AM
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Eh, I’ve had plenty of sex with attractive, untrustworthy men. Not a mistake, just good fun. I just wouldn’t date one!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:29 PM
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I said: “Statistically more men are very overweight” Your source: “The percentage of men who are overweight (34.1%) is higher than the percentage of women who are overweight (27.5%).” Also note: this doesn’t tell us the dispersion. Are these men or women slightly overweight? Very overweight? It’s all counted the same. Hence why I mentioned women are more likely to be “lower” overweight compared to men being “more/very” overweight. “Overweight” is all one category, unlike obesity which is split i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:45 PM
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The patriarchy is alive and well, and competitive men use it to their advantage (intentionally or unknowingly) all the time. The fact that you personally haven’t noticed how you’ve benefitted or ever intentionally been able to use it to your advantage is irrelevant to what is true about the systems we live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:18 PM
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Oh fun, are you gonna keep going til you find something that supports what you’re saying? The CDC stats state exactly what I just said. Men are more likely (even if by a smaller margin) to be overweight and obese. I did not say anything about morbid obesity. Again, you’re just sharing stats that support my point…… And even funnier, even if we pretend the stats are the same (they aren’t. men are more overweight and obese, but women are only slightly less, so they’re effectively the same)…. you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:12 PM
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I also agree most guys are kind and well meaning. I disagree they don’t get a chance because of their looks (though looks are a limiting factor for anyone.) Working out and being fit certainly helps on an individual level. But if every man is fit, then all men fall about the same spot they would’ve fall before. Some men would skyrocket from their previous position (especially some very obese men) but you see what I mean right? If every man is fit then fitness no longer plays a role in choosing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:27 PM
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I’ll play. I disagree but I do think if every man went and got shredded overnight somehow and women stayed the same, the dynamics of dating/sex would change, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:20 PM
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I really can’t be bothered to argue with anyone that thinks the present day exists in a vacuum.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:19 PM
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Um, yes, as per YOUR LINK: Overweight men: 34.1% Overweight women: 27.5% Obese men: 43% Obese women: 41.9% You’re welcome for reading your own link for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:16 PM
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Men like that are like “well I’ve never personally felt like I benefitted for being male! therefore the patriarchy must not exist.” My dumbass (white) dad thinks white privilege isn’t real because he grew up in a trailer park. Some people just aren’t capable of or willing to understand. Someone who genuinely says “the patriarchy is a myth” is just not knowledgeable enough to discuss the topic further with, especially if they think “patriarchy” doesn’t harm men. Like… clearly they don’t know anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:30 PM
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Oh so it’s not a myth, it’s just outdated. Yes we agree. The patriarchy is an outdated system that should be changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:25 PM
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Ah yes, the fake patriarchy in America, a county that has had 45/45 male Presidents and 48/49 male VPs. It’s not even possible to discuss something with someone who is being so disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:25 PM
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Exactly. It makes sense a bit more women would be slightly overweight. It makes NO sense men are more overweight AND obese. They literally have the biological advantage to not gain weight AND to lose it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:17 PM
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Is this a real suggestion? You really believe it’s physical fitness that is the main barrier?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:16 PM
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Statistically more men are very overweight and even more men are obese than woman. More women are slightly overweight in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:15 PM
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Birth rates go down as education goes up, especially female education. Look at any country’s birth rates before and after women were allowed a higher level of education.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:14 PM
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“the best arrangement” let me stop you right there lmao. you do not know what everyone wants or likes or how they’d thrive. point blank.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:10 PM
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Ah yes that’s why Adderall and Ozempic historically leaves people the same weight they were before they took it, yeah? Medication has no impact on metabolism or appetite or anything like that! Case closed everyone. Pack it up and go home. Medication doesn’t impact the body in any way besides the specific goal of the person taking the meds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:27 PM
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no literally. nothing says you do not know enough to debate here like that type of a statement. What the hell haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:29 AM
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Stays home with me & our children. Pretty sure I made that explicitly clear! If you’re asking what field he worked in, I won’t be specific with his (as I mentioned, quite niche) sub-field, but broadly, he worked in finance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:01 PM
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Almost like I did it on purpose because I am younger than her and acknowledging that or something. Hmmm. The girlies that get it get it, and clearly y’all aren’t those girlies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 10:23 PM
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Yes we did lmao. We aren’t even 28! My husband turns 28 before the end of the year, if that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:55 PM
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Well, let’s be clear: is it sooo easy and un-exceptional that anyone could do it and it’s meaningless, OR is it something so burdensome that women are opting out entirely since men “helping” isn’t cutting it? Hmm. First “no one under 28 could do that” and now it’s “that’s not technically a sabbatical.” Hey, have you considered that you could just stop trying to argue a strawman you’ve made of my lived experience that I know way more about than you? Lol. We do not currently do anything with socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:51 PM
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Ah, gotcha, so you’ve just decided I’m a liar because you’ve never personally seen what I’m describing LOL. Productive and fair conversation for sure. Hey, have you heard of social media? Have you heard of people making money off of it ever? Hmm. Anyway, just saying, maybe you don’t know everything. Maybe you have some blind spots in your mindset and framework. Just something to consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:17 PM
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Yeah girlie pop, like I said, you have a warped as fuck view. It’s fine, you clearly do not want to believe young men can be interested in fatherhood for some reason. But you’re wrong lol. My husband (and I) made all of the money we needed to make this our reality between ages 19-25… we didn’t grow up wealthy and coast. He is more extreme in terms of involvement (and indeed, I have never met a more genuinely, enthusiastically devoted father and husband.) But there’s a wiiiiiide range between “de…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 08:19 PM
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Being involved with the court system is very clearly coloring your view. “Very involved” as in — in my family’s case — my husband taking a 3 year sabbatical from work (which includes the work going into preparing that, which I’m sure you (at 28) can imagine was not a passive or easy feat) to be home full time after the birth of our first baby, while I am also home full time. It’s great. We are younger than you. We are also around other (Zoomer) men who have done similar (not his colleagues, so t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:42 PM
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Nah I have 2 kids and one otw and I love motherhood, I even love giving birth, breastfeeding (though pregnancy is meh). I also worked with families pretty intimately prior to having kids so I have seen a lot of family dynamics up close and personal. Truthfully the reason so many women complain so much is because they have partners who are half-assing it and also because both parents did not do REMOTELY enough work on themselves before becoming parents. Most people have a much rosier idea of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:39 PM
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Are you a millennial? I see this as a common Millennial complaint. Do you really believe Millennial (+/-) men are that bad? (You called this the “typical father” so do you mean men currently raising kids, or all fathers ~in your lifetime? (So then are you talking about Gen X parenting trends?)) I’m a married Zoomer with kids and the Zoomer dads I know are all very involved, but whenever I meet a Millennial couple then the dad’s usually wayyy checked out, and may or may not be physically present.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:17 PM
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Lmao. I’m worked up, how? And this is so funny, your take is that hot women are all secure? Again, proves you do not know any hot women because that’s an insane thing you would only think if you’d never spoken to any. Like I said, you literally clearly do not know any hot women. Let alone any hot YOUNG women. ☠️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:30 PM
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”No man that isn’t a weirdo living in his mom’s basement would register for Reddit!!1!! I am very intelligent!!1” Dude grow the fuck up. Lmfao yep, if I don’t fit your projection of how you think hot women behave, I must be ugly. What am I to do here, bud? You want a pic? 😌 Get real. To me, it sounds like you don’t know any hot women because you VERY obviously do not know what our lived experience is like. Not to mention I’m a Zoomer. And btw, I got on Reddit because I had a son, there are tons …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:19 PM
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Hmm. I see what you mean but I simply disagree about the “strong independent women” in higher SES. I grew up UMC (in the suburbs) and now as an adult live very solidly MMC (in one of the biggest cities in the country, so more UMC if we move to the suburbs). I’m mostly around UMC in the city because my husband is the youngest in his company at his tier, so his career-peers are all ~10 years older than us. I see this type of attitude allll the time with my peers (other stay at home moms) where the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:56 PM
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I support the mother-baby dyad. THAT is how we change the world. By supporting mothers. You think the community should’ve ignored a toddler with a brain tumor, his postpartum mom and newborn baby brother… because the dad is kind of pervy (what is mom gonna do? leave him at that time, with a dying toddler and a newborn baby? seriously?)??? You think the mom being annoying and having some internalized misogyny means they deserved to be ignored in what is arguably the most difficult time ANYONE can…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 04:26 PM
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What’s your experience in working class communities, since that’s not where you’re from? Why would you assume you know the intimate relationship details of a community you aren’t a part of? I’m not being snarky, I’m genuinely asking what’s leading you to think that. IMO, this isn’t a class issue because this happens at all SES. It’s a personal belief that interdependence is bad. “I don’t need no man” & “I’m a strong independent woman” are both serving the same function: protect the woman from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:07 PM
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To be clear, my message above wasn’t actually for you, it was for the person I replied to saying it’s fake to be nice to someone you hate. No it’s not. This wasn’t a comment on what you or your friend should’ve done in situation 1. (Although I really question why you believe that someone having money or support means they don’t need anymore support during a traumatic situation, though I guess it depends on what kind of situation we are talking about.) To you, I would say, situation 1 — you weren…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 01:50 PM
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Just have to say: 1 is just stupid, logistically. More dishes, more time the kitchen is blocked off for food prep, separate groceries, and it’s worse for the KIDS — who should regularly eat meals as a family, no tech, both parents present. You know, some people see acts of service as a form of love, and moreover, many couples mutually exchange acts of service between each other. Because love and devotion can be demonstrated through intentional interdependence — you know, the kind human beings ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:05 AM
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a year & a half ago, i spent almost $500 at costco to fill the fridge & pantry of a family where the husband, i actually find loathsome… and the wife, i found her annoying and cringey, and i had trouble feeling bad for her for her husband being such a dense and uncouth man because she chose him. being around them (our kids knew each other) was paaainful and i would avoid it as much as socially acceptable in our circumstances. the husband made crass sexual comments, including really weird comment…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 05:44 AM
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thank god you posted the link because as soon as he said that comment, i was ready to school his ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:13 AM
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the halo only excuses some behavior, not all. even an exceptionally gorgeous person can only be so dazzling without any effort at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:07 AM
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I don’t think women are unaware that wholesomeness is attractive to men. It’s pretty obvious that men like innocence, wholesomeness, child-like (not childish) behavior, naïvety etc. You know, like that Paramore song. “Well, there’s a million other girls who do it just like you / Looking as innocent as possible to get to who / They want and what they want, it’s easy if you do it right / Well I refuse, I refuse, I refuse.” Or the ‘dumb fox’ dating strategy move.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 04:23 AM
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That’s very different from how I live. I am not religious and was raised pretty anti-organized religion. I don’t really relate, in the sense that I do not feel it is inappropriate for me or my spouse to be around the opposite sex… especially our friends. To put this as politely as I can think of phrasing it, I am very intentional with my actions, and that includes choosing my friends and my husband wisely. I would never have reservations about any of them being alone together. I trust my friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:54 PM
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Well I feel like there’s a few things going on here. Men and women alike are mostly decent enough people and will pad negative feedback most of the time. So women do this sometimes by truthfully acknowledging confidence is attractive, and then saying that would help less attractive men. In some ways it is an empty platitude, although it’s pretty much obvious that if you are unattractive and insecure, that’s less attractive than if you’re are unattractive and secure. That is not debatable. HOWEVE…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:36 PM
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ah, I see. Are you married? What’s supposed to happen before anyone’s married, with such a rule?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:05 PM
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Any man or woman can have any dealbreakers they personally want, even if said dealbreakers feel “unfair” to those excluded. So a man can absolutely say that is a limit for him. But what is it you would be making such an arbitrary and general dealbreaker for? What is it you’re worried about with such a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:03 PM
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Are you religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:54 PM
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I’m not sure any of them are concerning in and of themself but 1 and 6 (the extremes) would make me want to know more before proceeding. For example, a quieter guy into Magic the Gathering, fishing, Crossfit, and experimental rock who works in tech may naturally end up with less female friends, because his social opportunities in his hobbies are mainly men. I don’t consider that a red flag. But on the flip side, a guy that explicitly has beliefs women aren’t worthy of friendship (like thinking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:48 PM
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okay? and some men have scoliosis. what’s that got to do with the commenter you’re replying to? she vets for men that she’s emotionally connecting with
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:37 PM
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So then you’re saying women get into situationships with men they don’t know well. Not that salacious of a take, dude. Especially considering that like I just said, every equation with a straight woman doing that, a straight man is also doing it with her and barely knows her. It’s a 1:1 ratio!! So how is it the women are doing something ‘bad’ but the men aren’t?? Your take is literally just woman bad lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:17 PM
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Lmao. You do realize for every woman that gets with a man she barely knows/has nothing in common with… there’s a MAN IN THE EQUATION that DID THE SAME effing THING and got with a woman he barely knows/has nothing in common with, RIGHT? Like you so get that, don’t you??? Why do the women count as bad in that equation, but not the men doing the exact same thing, as the women’s counterpart in the poor relationship?! ELI5.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:01 PM
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Okay, well for one, you are either young &/or obviously live somewhere suburban or rural if you think “chadlites” aren’t marrying lmao. Maybe the big fish in the small pond won’t marry as easily, but high quality, successful, attractive men absolutely get married after having casual sex and being serial monogamists in their 20-30s (but many marry even in their late 20-early 30s). But come on — which is it? Are women intentionally marrying sub-Chads as a protective mechanism so he can’t leave her…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 05:59 PM
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Then be miserable about it. Like I care. Lol. Women approach, yall complain they approach “the wrong way”. It is seriously baffling. Men want to fuck and date other men, they just want them to be physically a female. It’s reaaaaallly weird. At least you are honest tho
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 05:24 PM
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You’re just saying women prioritize looks less than other things. Yep. Everyone knows this. That is not “intentionally choosing an uglier/fatter guy.” It is assessing how much you value each characteristic and deciding you’re okay with more wiggle room in one area. Which is reasonable and realistic. Esp since MOST women, like most men, are overweight. So duh. If you genuinely think a woman is going to have (1) a guy that is a perfect match for her and classically attractive and (2) a guy that is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 05:23 PM
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Then go date men!!! women as a whole aren’t going to change to approach aggressively just to suit the whiniest guys. Bc here is the thing — we don’t have to :) Hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 05:21 PM
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lol wait also if a woman picked you while you were fat, you still have no reason to not get fit. She isn’t chaining you to the floor. Just. Go. To. The. Gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:11 PM
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Let me get this right. You think women are INTENTIONALLY choosing less desirable men ON PURPOSE as a tactic to protect themselves from the men cheating or leaving them? Delusional, dude. Really flies in the face of the whole 80/20 thing, or women being shallow or wanting Chads, huh? Let me assure you that women aren’t choosing ugly or fat men over more attractive and fit men because they are building some safety net into the dynamic. Women are choosing men that are about as attractive and fit as…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:03 PM
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Oh okay so your point is women like dad bods and choose men who have them, and this is somehow women being manipulative? Lol what on earth??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 02:20 PM
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“I made sure you have a dad bod” LMFAOOO. Only a man would say something so pussy. Man, I try so hard to stay purple, but these red pillers are right, yall need some tough love and accountability. No woman made you fat. Oh my god hahaha. If anything, men give women “mom bods” because they impregnate women with the babies that change women’s bodies. (And I’m joking here btw. Your body is your responsibility.) How, EXACTLY, is it a woman’s fault you’re fat? Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:44 PM
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Yeah my standards for casual sex are a lower bar to close than my standards for relationships, let alone marriage or children! Men are the same way, too, they just don’t like it being pointed out about them I guess. But they’d easily fuck a WAY bigger portion of women than they’d date or marry. Be serious lol. Easy example — I wouldn’t date or marry someone with wildly different politics than me but I might fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:40 PM
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LMAO of course the everyday regular dude doesn’t need to hone in on his ability to read women — because women will just make it obvious when they’re interested. Like I just fuckin said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:33 PM
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once again, a man failing to understand how women approach ≠ women not approaching. do you want women to try to pick you up like you’re a woman and they’re a man? then just say that. yall want women to hit on you like men hit on women. it’s weird. that’s not how women operate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:32 PM
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More or less than 1 mil in the city? You saying “it’s the same” “hardly a big deal” blah blah blah. You’re not in the city lmao. If there’s a hot woman in a bar with a guy who lives 3 blocks walking or a guy who says “it’s 30 min driving in ideal conditions” sobering up bc he has to drive home… who do you think she’ll wanna go home with?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:39 AM
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Yeahhh and if I don’t say it, then people (men) have felt the need to “call me out” for how I must be attractive and therefore I’m delusional and “don’t get it” lol. I am literally acknowledging my privilege in being attractive and saying it plays a role… is that NOT what y’all want? Honesty & transparency from women? If you read that as me bragging about being attractive then you should probs log off because you’re taking it way too personally that I disclosed I know my POV is distorted by that…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:30 AM
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No you don’t LOL. What?? I’m talking about actual urban areas where the city would be (I’ll be generous) like 1mil+ in the city or 2mil+ in city and surrounding metro area (area plays a role in this, though). Places with functioning public transit that is significantly in use. You know. ACTUAL cities and metro areas. Just because something is the most populated area near you doesn’t mean you live in/near an actual urban area, population density- or age distribution-wise. And even in places like …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:23 AM
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lol well listen. they can choose their option (no birth control, no barrier) and you can either fuck them like that, or choose from your own personal birth control options like the most common one (condoms). it’s really that simple. men have to use condoms in a way women don’t because women are the ones assuming the responsibility after the fact if things end in a pregnancy. to pretend otherwise is disingenuous. especially with casual sex, my god.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 10:20 PM
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no fr. raw sex goes so hard when you aren’t worrying about STDs or pregnancy. no idea how women have raw sex casually even on hormonal birth control
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 10:05 PM
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Okay, I feel like what’s actually happening is that people who aren’t fully developed, whole, healthy self-esteemed people are dating each other, and people who ARE fully developed, whole, healthy self esteem’s etc. are dating each other as well. So then you have hurt people hurting each other and projecting it onto the entire sex they date instead of understanding that our interpersonal relationships are reflections of ourselves. Because a man choosing to date a stranger because of “no alternat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:48 PM
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In general, women signal for men to approach. Then the man is “supposed to” approach. But the FIRST thing that happens is the woman initiates the sequence of events. It’s like a company pre-approving you before you apply for a card with them. You might be approved either way but your chances are significantly better if you were pre-approved. When a man is particularly desirable or the woman is particularly bold, the woman will just approach (this doesn’t mean she behaves like a man.) When a woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:40 PM
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Lol of course. You say “women date men they barely know” but “men don’t do that” despite the fact that every relationship where a woman dates a stranger man, that same stranger man is dating a stranger woman! But somehow this is a “woman problem” and not an “unhealed individuals” problem. Okayyyy. Yep. You sound really genuine and open minded.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:03 PM
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You’re literally exclusively referring to women who have some kind of damage though. You aren’t referring to “all women” because women who do have a strong sense of self are not randomly jumping into relationships with people they barely know. What’s not clear about that? Healthy, whole people do not date strangers. They take responsibility for their projections. Period. So yeah, if you wanna say “damaged women are dumb for making damaged choices when dating” then we agree ?? (I guess. I wouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 02:13 PM
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I’ve come onto — directly, not just signaling — every single man I ended up dating. My husband has been EXCLUSIVELY approached by women, he has never had to pursue a woman first. And yeah, he lives in a different reality than most people, I’m not pretending he doesn’t, he’s a very classically handsome and attractive man. (Cringe warning?) But I am an attractive woman and while I’ve had no shortage of male attention, I have never dated a man that pursued me first. The thing is… assuming you don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 02:09 PM
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“Men project a lot less on women” is an odd thing to say when there’s a whole complex about how men project motherhood onto modest women and sexual depravity on women showing skin. Lol. Let’s be honest here, maybe?? Not to mention… listen… for every woman who starts dating a man she barely knows, there’s a man that started dating a woman he barely knows. How can the man she barely knows, be someone who knows her?? How can she not know him, but somehow he doesn’t count as a man not knowing the wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:53 PM
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THANK YOU. Women virtually ALWAYS signal or approach first if interested. I think it’s so interesting so many men miss that. You have it exactly right. This is silly, but a perfect example is the scene from Lion King where Nala meets Simba. Nala leads. You have to watch because it’s subtle but Nala leads the entire interaction by signaling to Simba when he is “supposed to” make moves. Everywhere she goes, he steps a few steps behind but he does it bolder, until it’s “time” for him to lead. Bc th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:45 PM
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men and women alike do that. it’s called projection? you can’t project your ideal mate onto someone you actually know well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:36 PM
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Most of these completely normal, well-intentioned guys almost certainly do not live in a densely populated area. Everyone struggles more when they live in more suburban or rural areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 01:41 PM
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you don’t really seem to understand how abusive dynamics work in action
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 06:41 AM
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Real as fuck. what else is there to be said
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:49 AM
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this… is not the argument you seem to think it is??
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:45 AM
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expressing it to whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:20 AM
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maybe if their parents are dual military they should take them and try out super serums like in Captain America or The Boys. like Soldier2 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:32 AM
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yeah that makes sense. Much more well known amongst zoomers (and i’d imagine millennials with older gen Alpha kids would be more likely to know.) How’d you come across “the pills” concept if not socially?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:57 PM
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This is so bitchmade of you LMFAO. Sorry bud, but no, I don’t feel bad at all for you having to sign up for a sweepstakes you’ll never be drawn for. Idk why you’re struggling soo hard to understand this but we have a 100% voluntary military and have for over 50 years. You do not understand how warfare or the draft works. (Clearly.) There are 500K active duty soldiers. There are another 175K reservists. Plus Nat Guard. Plus every other branch. Do you have any concept of modern warfare? (Clearly n…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:45 AM
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Why does any bureaucratic dead-end exist?? Because our government is inefficient as fuck. There is zero significant pressure on any legislator right now to invest the time, energy, and resources into essentially just changing the rules behind the scenes, with zero tangible benefit to anyone. Because again, the draft hasn’t happened in 50+ years. So it’s not like anyone is being elected on a platform to end selective service, when it’s an obsolete thing anyway. In 1973 (when our military became 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:36 AM
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How is NO DRAFT FOR ANYONE not equality? Lmao. Do you want reparations for your extra paperwork?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:27 AM
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Have you been drafted? No. Have you served? I have. So I’d love to hear how terribly you’ve suffered for some extra paperwork, for a draft that hasn’t been utilized in over 50 years, and will never realistically ever be used again. Please. Because it’s usually a lot of yapping from men that haven’t served voluntarily, and certainly haven’t served involuntarily, when I see this whole “women should have to sign up for selective service!!” shit. Adding women to the selective service registration is…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:39 AM
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they sound dumb as fuck. there’s almost 500k active duty soldiers, another 175k reserve soldiers, and we will basically never need to run through that to reach the point of a draft anyway, and if we did, in this globalized, industrialized, technologically advanced day and age (compared to when the concept of a draft was first implemented) means that it would be a gigantic financial sink with very little pay off because most of those drafted would simply find reasons to be excluded (since you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 02:31 AM
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family members typically. grandparents, aunts/uncles. sometimes family friends. if a soldier/dual couple doesn’t have a parenting plan they would be separated from the military. the government is not trying to make veteran’s children (even temporarily) into wards of the state for deployment that the gov’t now has to pay for and take care of… when they could just… not do that… and deploy a soldier who isn’t having a personal hot mess of a life/family situation. this is why the draft convo is kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:45 AM
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yeah bro, I’m familiar, as I’m literally a woman in the army. so again: have you served? every soldier has to have basic combat training (maybe you’ve heard of it? basic training?) which includes combat prep like small unit tactics, land navigation, first aid, etc lmfao. and yes, every solider must be PHYSICALLY ready for combat unless otherwise on a profile… say you draft every eligible female and male. you won’t even be able to train 80%+ of females from the get go. It would be a financial suc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:21 AM
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serving in the military in the U.S. is literally voluntary at this point lmfao. no one has been drafted in over 50 years. the odds of a draft ever realistically happening again is so so slim. every fucking man on here bitching about signing up for the draft will likely NEVER remotely serve IN ANY capacity but they love to complain like the extra check mark on their paperwork was such a burden and oppressing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:06 AM
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Dual military couples create parenting plans in case both deploy. why would the government draft mom & dad just to make kid/s a ward of the state the gov’t now has to fund and care for?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:03 AM
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Lol. Have you served? The military isn’t like the police department where you can get fat and weak just because you work at a desk. Every soldier has to be combat ready regardless… all soldiers are soldiers FIRST. Less women qualify by default. Drafting them would be retarded. Drafting MEN is retarded but at least biological reality means most men can be physically trained up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 01:01 AM
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how old(ish) are you? bc it would be more unusual for someone around my age (mid 20s Gen Z) to not know about it in a dating context to be honest. i wouldn’t say most people REALLY know it, but they know of it at least (if not a little bit about it)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:58 AM
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Idk what’s not clicking. If all other things are equal (including being fat or thin), women are GENERALLY putting a significant more amount of effort into their looks than men. So what is the point of you complaining about women being fat? If you’re a fat man, STFU and work on yourself first. (And I feel the same about fat women who are complaining men are too fat.) If you’re a thin man, and unable to get with the general fitness equivalent in women to you, then you’re evidently not attractive i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:57 PM
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I didn’t miss the point lol. Weight is equal (more or less) between men & women (not lb for lb, but BMIs generally are about the same % wise of the population, except males are more likely to be excessively fat than women and women are more likely to be excessively thin — both are unhealthy in diff ways). Women still do significantly more in terms of effort in other areas, even when they are fat women. Fat men do not do the same effort in other areas. Fatter women may be putting in LESS overall …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:49 PM
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Why does it matter what’s fair? Only delusional ppl are concerned with this. Do you live in delusion or the real world?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:45 PM
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Okay? Most men in the U.S. are also fat. I hate when yall say this. Just because YOU aren’t fat doesn’t mean most men are also not fat. I’m a woman that’s never been overweight, but that doesn’t mean I am not aware most women AND men in the U.S. are fat. I’m not sitting here complaining “men are sooo fat” because 1. I just don’t date fat people at all, point blank, so Idc about the fat men not in my dating pool?? and 2. Women are also fat in the US. The fat ppl can be with each other. Problem so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:44 PM
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Like what is it you want women to do? Do you want them to swipe more on guys they aren’t into? It STILL won’t be remotely even because there’s way more men on apps. And even if women did do that, it’s just a match. You still have to actually capture each other’s attention in messages enough to plan a date… and then the date would still need to go well… So yeah I get it sucks but what is an actual tangible solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 10:14 PM
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Aw I loved when I have visited Budapest (twice now), and indeed, on the note of sex, I did hook up with a guy there when I was visiting over Christmas 2014. First time I was with an intact guy actually! Went home to my American friends — I was still in HS at the time — and it was like I had traversed new planes of womanhood. They were rapt in awe as I told them how so-not-different intact cocks are. Anyway, I’m sympathetic, too — to a point. But this post is silly. He literally asked what makes …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:32 AM
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right because it’s like.. what are you sorry about? i got to sleep around, have some fun & so did my man. and now we are happily married, having lots of sex together and it’s still super fun lmao. it’s not even like i have to walk around all ashamed about it or something hahah. he literally doesn’t care. so how do i live with myself?? ummm it’s pretty fucking easy bro. i love my husband and he loves me and we have really great sex lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:16 AM
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you said it!!! casually promiscuous women are having sex with casually promiscuous men. i’m sure there are some promiscuous men who care but any man espousing something like that would’ve given me the ick real quick. all my slutty friends married men who were about as promiscuous as them. it’s a values thing. sex is FUN. when you find sex fun instead of significant and serious, you have a lot more fun and pleasure. you can do that with your spouse or with random ppl. (i personally prefer a fuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:54 AM
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If it’s happening everywhere and so often, you should have plenty of examples ready then, I’m sure?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:21 AM
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Have you considered: going outside? Logging off? You do know Reddit isn’t representative of real life, right? Roughly 36.4 million U.S. Reddit users vs. roughly 333.3 million U.S. population. Who cares if there are echo chambers of politics on here…? There are echo chambers of keto-friendly crock pot meals that freeze and reheat easy peasy lemon squeezy on Pinterest, but you don’t see anyone spend all day over there and then be validated while crying, “All anyone talks about is keto-crock pot me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:20 AM
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Lol. Let me try again. My point is: of course you (an old) are hearing about all way more than you used to (when you were young) because old people (your peers) are talking about it WAY MORE than they used to (in the past, when you and your peers were the young people). It feels like it is more common relative to your past experiences, because you got older. More of the people around you are now discussing politics. But whether people discuss it or not, our values inform a lot of our political v…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:21 AM
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well yes, no, kind of? i mean, women don’t look at my husband and ask me what my secret is for getting my husband to have a beard, or pierce his ears, or something physical like that lol. but obviously i had my own personal physical preferences when i was dating. personally i valued behavior/values/traits more than physical looks, and really did date very intentionally, and perhaps that’s why i have a much more satisfying marriage than most people i meet seem to, and why so many women want to kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:14 AM
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Lmao. Yeah bud, young ppl aren’t interested in politics, old ppl are. Look at voter turn outs. All you’re saying is: “when I was young, no one cared about politics… now that I’m old, everyone care!” like yeah dude. This is a well observed phenomenon. Every election cycle. The young ppl don’t pay attention or vote, the old ppl do. You just happen to be old now. Bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:46 AM
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Political views — even if you’re not very political — are very intimately linked to personal experience, outlook, traits, values, etc… pretending that isn’t important for compatibility in dating is really interesting. What is it you are looking for compatibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:12 PM
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It’s also annoying if you end up with a man that’s actually noticeably, overtly a “good catch” too, because then other women with their “ain’t shit” men do this weird thing where they essentially think your man must also have been terrible but you trained him really well… and then they want to know the cheat code too… and when you can’t give them the cheat code (because it was simply being pickier pre-marriage) then they think YOU’RE the problem, like you’re gatekeeping this knowledge lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:09 PM
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You’ve never heard of “general you”? Idc about YOU personally. English doesn’t have a differentiation between general/personal you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:58 PM
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lol my point is that it’s you. whatever you are, you are insecure in your choices. how does anyone’s opinion of your motherhood (other than maybe your partner’s) actually impact you tangibly day to day?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 02:39 AM
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it’s not really the society we live in tho. i have lived in the deep south and a huge liberal metropolitan city in the north since having my kids, and i didn’t feel judged at all. because i don’t feel insecure in my choice. what other people think of me is mind of my business and i literally don’t care if other ppl agree with me being a mother or not… why would i lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 01:30 AM
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what are you referring to? criticism coming from who/where?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:45 AM
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i’ve always been baffled by this. why do ppl care so much what other ppl think about their lives? they don’t have to live your life. you do. so why do you care if people think having a nanny means X about you or SAHMs are Y or whatever…. if it’s meant for you, you know it’s meant for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 12:43 AM
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who is “they”? you know you can just turn your computer off, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:13 PM
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Are you serious? You are linking Reddit Ask Men posts and referencing “an article you can’t remember but you think it definitely said X in support of your argument”… I gave you UN, CDC, Census, and Pew Research data, and I even generously said when the data is weak. I recognize my comment was a bit disorganized but I very clearly explained multiple times that: 97% = global estimate by the UN of ppl who marry in their lifetime 90% = U.S. estimate by the Census and CDC of ppl who marry in their li…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:27 PM
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why would I visit Texas?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:49 PM
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Yep, some women and men are hypocritical in their preferences. Such is life. What’s that got to do with anyone else? You can’t force them to change their preferences, even if they’re hypocritical. And if they want to yap about their hypocritical preferences, what’s that got to do with any of us either? If something bothers you, you have two choices: change it or accept it. If you can’t or won’t change it, you must accept it (or be miserable. Now you can see where so many get stuck, denying reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:32 PM
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I have no issues with men or women expressing their genuine desires or them commenting on their genuine dealbreakers in a partner. A man saying he doesn’t like redheads and would never date someone with tattoos because he thinks they are trashy, doesn’t impact me because there’s another man around the corner obsessed with tattooed redheads. Like my husband. It’s easy to get caught in black & white thinking. In reality, neither men nor women are a monolith. Anything potential partners I would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:17 PM
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Again I apologize for the comment mix up — I have a teething 1 year old and haven’t been sleeping and was discussing custody on another thread. My bad. I did say 97% which is what I recalled off the dome, that is a global number. Here’s more data: In the U.S., the probability of an adult getting married at some point during their lifetime is still nearly 90 percent (PRB data as of 2009) Despite popular belief, the number of married couples has increased since 1960 and the number of divorces actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:40 PM
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😭 I am in two threads, another one I talked about the rate of men not seeking primary custody (94%). This one was about most people marrying (97%). OOPS. Brb with the correct stats hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:11 PM
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the comment you’re responding to is literally talking about how “some women want to dictate men’s preferences.” Like okay? who cares. grow up. plenty of men think some of my traits are undesirable. i don’t care. i’m not trying to appeal to all men. i’m trying to appeal to one man. and it turns out, women don’t want to appeal to men that don’t fit their preferences… any more than men want to be with women that aren’t their preference. shocker. i know. if you’re talking about something deeper than…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:05 AM
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Dude, random women online saying “if men have X preference, it just means they’re insecure!” is not harming you. please be serious. how can you be cyber bullied by someone passively discussing their own thoughts on a preference that you might have or you might not have? it isn’t personal. it’s just THEIR preference or their thoughts. their thoughts aren’t your business dude. literally close the app and walk away. You do NOT have to care what everyone thinks about every little thing. it’s clearly…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:57 AM
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sticks and stones may break your bones but words can never hurt you 🙏🏼 hope this helps
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:46 AM
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PART 2/2 Now, I will concede a little and say that — although it is true that when fathers seek custody (even when accused of abuse (and even when the allegation is credited as true)), fathers are awarded custody the majority of the time — I would imagine SOME of what is going on is that if the parents believe court will favor mom, they try to save money by avoiding court and just choose mom as the primary caregiver anyway. Especially if mom genuinely would try to keep dad from the kids. This is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:49 AM
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Yeah I gotchu. Quick reply, noting I did overestimate but knew it was a stupid high %: Different ranges on how often men get custody when they seek it, but the estimates are 70% up to 94%. (Johns Hopkins Macksey Journal, 2022) Stats on this are kind of convoluted because it’s a state matter and different states record their data in diff ways. In particular, a couple of states have RECENT default 50/50 custody, and one state (TN) has recently had single father homes suppress single mother homes. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:48 AM
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Okay so we agree, you should branch out of your echo chambers if you really find yourself believing most ppl believe things like “when women don’t tell, it’s common sense… when men don’t tell, it’s creepy manipulation/criminal” etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:04 AM
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Do you have many/any gay friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:25 PM
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Around PPD? Or in the real world?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:20 PM
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I agree. And if you network to get a job you wouldn’t have gotten on merit, you are also cheating. It only counts if you do it PURELY on merit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:18 PM
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Or different women have different standards for the same thing, just like different men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:48 AM
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Plsss. You said GASTON!! 😭
/r/ExRedPill29/07/24 02:44 AM
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True. But it is also true that when men seek custody, it is awarded a stupid amount of time. Something like 96%. Unfortunately most of the time, men do not seek custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:29 AM
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Yeah and while we’re at it, anyone who networks is a pussy!! If you didn’t pillage and burn the headquarters to take it over and secure your job, are you even a real man??
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:24 AM
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Doing anything with intention will make it more satisfactory. The problem with dating is that most people do it with reckless abandon and zero consciousness. They just run off their programming and barely even know what they’re seeking from dating or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:19 AM
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The way you describe “man must keep his mask on or else it’s game over” blah blah… What you’re actually describing is that you do not have a fully developed sense of self. Growing up, you weren’t allowed to authentically express yourself in some specific ways (these are unique to your family, though some are more common than others). As a small child, you learned the rules well enough that you started to pretend to be one way around your caregivers to keep the peace. This is that “mask” you’re r…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:48 AM
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No. It’s true most crime (especially violent &/or sex crime) is committed by males (against both males & females) which is awful. But there are plenty of abusive females… they just happen to make up less of the (already small) total population of abusers/predators/etc. than the males. And on the flip side, men tend to display more classically “good” traits like altruism, generosity, etc. when studied (as far as things like that can be/have been studied.) So yeah, on average, you’re going to hear…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:25 AM
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Oy vey. I hope you find peace with whatever led you to that conclusion. Cheers, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:26 AM
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All of those disorders are more common with males and more severely presenting more often in males. I was summarizing very large amounts of info. I did not say they were specifically caused by the Y chromosome. You misunderstood. Because males only get ONE X and ONE Y, if their X is faulty in some way, then their Y cannot make up the difference. Because females get TWO Xs, if either X has a flaw, the other X can potentially “fill in the gap” so the flaw is not expressed or is expressed less seve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:52 PM
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Or maybe the actual truth is that there are women and men of all socioeconomic status and race and heights and weights and astrological signs and what the fuck else ever that are promiscuous or not, unfaithful or loyal, cruel or kind, dishonest or honest. Did you ever consider that? Perhaps women or men are not a monolith, but that there is a range of behaviors across the spectrum of humanity, and anything you are saying applies to some men as well, and doesn’t apply to all women? Hmmm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:35 PM
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Mortality rates increased from 2021 to 2022 among male infants (5.83 infant deaths per 1,000 live births to 6.06). The increase in the rate for females (trom 5.02 to 5.12) was not significant. CDC The disparity has narrowed since the 1970s but males have always been slightly more likely to die at every age range. Look through the data you shared, something I find very interesting biologically (??) is that this seems like essentially there is a surplus of males at birth in anticipation of these d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:18 PM
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Also I say all this as an autistic & ADHD woman. You think that is appealing to men? You think men are nice to me about those things? You think they can’t tell? You think they respect me? Of course not lol. A woman told you you’re great EXCEPT one part of your body is slightly too small. Multiple men have told me that MY ENTIRE PERSONALITY AND BRAIN are disqualifying off the bat for any legitimate interaction with them, but they’re willing to use me as a human fleshlight. Ooo so validating! The …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:52 PM
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Man this isn’t even fun anymore. This made me sad for real. Smh. But no, I don’t think you’re lying. However, you are misrepresenting what happened because your feelings are hurt. (But to be fair, I would also feel like you feel if it happened 3 times.) These situations aren’t actually about your dick size. So I really do hope you read this and try to understand that. Before you reply, I really do want you to read and think about what I’m saying and try for a minute to believe me. (Because after…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:45 PM
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Well for one, I don’t think all men are liars. I thought YOU specifically might be lying, and you happen to be a man. Let’s not get carried away there. Second… point of clarification before I actually reply (which obviously you don’t have to answer)…. but… have you had other sexual experiences besides these?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:05 AM
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Yikes. You’re right man. Skip the sidebar. You should look into something a little… more neutral. Maybe stoicism. Maybe inner child work. You seem like you have got a LOT going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:54 AM
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Yes they do. For all ages, the death rate was at 1,090.8 per 100,000 of the population for males, and 965.1 per 100,000 of the population for women. Thats right now. But this has always been a thing. It will always BE a thing. It is a thing across species. This is separate from any lifestyle impacts that cause death disparity between the sexes, although there is still a lifestyle-impacted death disparity by quite a large margin. Males live riskier lives, do less preventative care, see drs less, …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:41 AM
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Men die at a higher rate in every age range. Even as fetuses, males are miscarried more often than females. Females in virtually all species are heartier than males, more likely to survive diseases, tend to have less severe presentations of disorders, generally survive longer without food, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:37 PM
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I love reading this sub now & again as an attractive woman because it’s like, these ppl live in a totally different reality lol. It’s fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:32 PM
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Who denies it? Who on earth has ever denied that being attractive means dating is easier for you???
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:30 PM
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Nearly every time the Pew data comes up, I point this out. It’s mid-late 20s women dating and marrying early-mid 30s men. That’s most of the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:26 PM
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Not really. Males die at every age (even as a fetus) more than females. It’s called the Female Protective Factor — females of all species tend to be much heartier. So our birth rates are skewed slightly male, about 105:100 males:females. Some of those males will die in childhood or teens or young adulthood before partnering up. It very likely evens out. Most people (something like 97%+) end up married or significantly partnered in their life time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:23 PM
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Dude, just answer the question. You’re yapping a whole lot. If your story is real, and you legitimately believe this is a common issue, how many women told you this, unprompted? This should be easy! Come on. It’s not like it happened so often you lost count. Once is a fluke. Twice is bad luck. Three is when I’d start thinking it was me and not them. If you can legitimately tell me how many women this happened with unprompted with full honesty, then I’ll write you the juiciest apology and I’ll go…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:17 PM
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I mean, that’s sad, but he killed himself because he was mentally ill and in his illness, chose to do that. Mentally healthy and stable people don’t end their lives. You’re crediting a woman with that? Because, what, she threatened him? Ah yes, that’s right. Our only option when someone threatens us with lies is to literally commit suicide. Be serious dude. You really give women a lot of power for someone who is supposedly so into TRP…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:07 PM
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So then, answer the question. How many women did this happen unprompted with?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:05 PM
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How old are you? What you’re saying is such a childlike outlook. It’s like you have done the reading but haven’t embodied it. You can’t be embodied in your power AND blame or resent others. It isn’t society or the blue pill or women or teachers or your mommy. It is you. It’s always you. It’s always your mind, your energy, your presence (or lack thereof). It is always YOUR choice to stay stagnant (until you decide otherwise, like when some men seek TRP.) To say men arrive at TRP because of… anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 08:34 PM
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It’s like on an airplane. They say to put your mask on first before helping others, because if you just worry about everyone else, you will pass out or die and now you’re a liability and can’t help anyone anyway. Women do it a lot in motherhood and work, men do it a lot in work and relationships. (Both men & women do it in all spheres of life to varying degrees of they’re operating out of lack.) In reality, when you focus primarily on your whole self, your inner world, your somatic experience, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:19 PM
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Nope, unfortunately, you missed the point. A lot of men (& women) ARE selfish (you just say too many ppl focus on their pointless career — is that not selfishness?) but they’re not self-focused. If you are purely selfish, you engage with the world with entitlement. It is still neediness. “I want I want I want, I deserve, I need, I’m owed…” etc. whiny little baby is so needy needy needy. Narcissism is still needy as fuck. It still requires other people to validate you and your importance and grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:48 PM
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You clearly didn’t comprehend the words I wrote. I can’t believe I’m about to have to give you a little TRP 101 when you literally have a RP flair. Have you read your own sidebar? Obviously not. I will tell you that I have. So notice that no where did I say this is cognizant or conscious at all. I believe these men believe they are doing the “right” thing. But there is not a “right” thing to do… that’s the entire point. The universe has no fixed agenda, where you’re rewarded for getting things r…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 05:41 AM
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Well, for one, I have. But more than that, point two: joking or not, the comment is saying the same thing: “your statement is disproportionate to the situation, and clearly you are projecting, because only someone hurting and projecting could be saying what you just said in all seriousness” … this is said legitimately (including when trying to be snarky or insult someone) but it is indeed sometimes used jokingly or lightheartedly. It doesn’t matter if you think every time someone says “Who hurt …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 04:57 AM
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Oh, except I didn’t say it was pointless. I asked you to clarify your point… because your previous clarification makes the OP seem inauthentic if you believe both sides do this. You just said both sides pick and choose what’s logical based on diff talking points, yes? But apparently it’s only an issue when your opponent does it, not your ally? The entire complaint in your OP fits into that category of people on one side just saying whatever fits their narrative. Which you just said both sides do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:59 AM
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That’s an interesting way to deflect from the fact that your point was moot. Why are you posting a pointless post? I didn’t expect your post to be pointless, and in fact, I engaged with it. Then you clarified that your beliefs actually don’t align with your post... hence why I am asking — what is the point of your post if you don’t even believe what you stated in the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:44 AM
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Ahhh. Gotcha. Yeah I haven’t heard women explicitly say that ever but personally if I’d met a perfect man who looked a lot like my brother then I wouldn’t have been able to get beyond that. I once went on a couple dates with a nice guy with the same (unisex) name as my twin sister, and while he was otherwise attractive and our chemistry was definitely workable, I personally was uncomfortable even thinking of using my sister’s name in a romantic or sexual context. Maybe it’s bc we are twins, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:40 AM
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okay so you agree that this isn’t a thing women do, or BPers do… it’s something humans in general tend to do in arguments. So what’s the point of your post then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 03:31 AM
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I’ve heard “who hurt you?” which I have always taken to basically mean “you are obviously projecting, and your pain is too closely linked to this topic for you to see how much you are projecting” … sometimes in a snarky way, sure. But you really believe that this is people “weaponizing” a man being cheated on…? Because men also say this to women who they think sound bitter/resentful. And men with men, women with women too. Because it isn’t about cheating. It’s about obvious projection. The other…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:23 AM
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No, most men are RP’d because they realize they were projecting their colossal neediness onto women who then rejected them, and TRP language and framework makes them see that in a way they identify with because male socialization prefers “tough love.” Nothing in TRP is unique to TRP, it just wraps it in that “tough love” packaging that most men are generally more comfortable with. The answer to any dating problem is self-improvement because you either genuinely do need to improve to be realistic…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 02:06 AM
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This doesn’t even mention cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:47 AM
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Listen. It’s so obvious that what you are saying happened, didn’t happen. Maybe one woman said that to you! Sure! But anyone who has had any amount of casual sex knows that there is ZERO chance you had a significant string of women back to back tell you completely randomly, unprompted, and unrelated to each other that you have a small cock. That did NOT happen, bro. That has never happened anywhere on god’s green earth. That’s why I’m saying, it’s obviously either a kink thing or it’s a self-har…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:41 AM
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Never ever heard a woman want to fuck a guy for looking like her brother. Never heard a woman or girl say anything like that. The actual likelihood you’ve heard this from women more than once from some random freak is next to nil. We both know you’re being dishonest pretending that’s a common sentiment. I have heard men talk about wanting to fuck their actual sisters, though. Like a weird amount. Their moms too but more often their sisters, step sisters, step moms, and female cousins. Which adds…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:32 AM
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Thanks! This is definitely in my wheelhouse, as my professional background is in child development, elementary education, and social research. Everything I mentioned is researched backed, as well as anything gender related can be. It’s also just very obvious if you are around families with young children, especially in their homes/seeing more authentic, intimate interactions (which I am, all the time, and have been for over a decade.) More than that though, I have a personal interest as I’m also…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:53 PM
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Ahh you’re just under 5”. And so, everything I just said still applies! I believe you believe your dick is small. I don’t get why you think that means anything to the rest of us. Some women like huge dicks. Some men like huge tits. So what? Most ppl are average across the board. And most ppl do just fine. Your story is just so implausible. You are exaggerating something or leaving details out. I’m sure someone once made a shot at you and called your dick small. I just simply don’t believe this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:11 PM
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Or perhaps it isn’t about her dad? Lol. Not every kink stems from daddy issues. Some of them are literally random. My ex found a specific color to be automatically sexual because he had a weird fleeting horny moment as a child that got imprinted forever in his brain. That’s actually how most kinks arise. Do y’all genuinely believe a woman’s preferences always stem back to her dad? What a weak argument. How convienent that it’s always right — “she likes bald men because her dad was bald! oh he wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:01 PM
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Ahh so irrational women are just running their programming. Not men though, right? I guess men are totally conscious and wholly intentional, reasonable, and rational. But then… if that’s true, why would a conscious, intentional, reasonable, rational man date such immature and irrational creatures like women? That sounds very irrational. I personally wouldn’t go seeking out someone I believe was crazy or irrational to date, regardless of if they were male or female. Why would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:55 PM
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Whoosh. The point is that if you truly believe that about women, why are you attempting to date them? That is irrational.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:52 PM
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If you’re dating and trying to build relationship and a life and potentially intermingling finances and having children with someone you don’t think can be a rational actor, are you all that rational yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:53 AM
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the dirty delete!! he knew he was cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:42 AM
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I mean. You sound soooo silly rn because this was LITERALLY a plot point in the Barbie movie with Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. Like this was Ken (Ryan Gosling)’s whole arch — being happy as himself, not as Barbie’s BF or vying for her attention, but just as himself. That’s what the “I am Kenough.” memes/t-shirts were about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:41 AM
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ahh. I see. I misunderstood. I thought you meant you watch porn for the inspiration on what to do in real life. I see why someone would use it as a supplement source of sexual fulfillment when they can’t have or don’t want it in real life. Sometimes just because a kink isn’t sexy to you IRL, only in fantasy anyway. Or libido mismatch or just kink incompatibility etc. I just don’t think porn is actually applicable to real life, good, passionate, mutually enjoyable sex. You can’t see a porn scene …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:32 AM
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Oh totally — proper sex ed is the actual answer, and building a relationship with your child that’s actually mutually respectful, open dialogue, non-judgmental, etc. I just mean, in theory, the answer is monitoring internet use (I guess). Or maybe making all porn only accessible via proving you are 18+ (I believe TX? just tried to this or is trying to do this) but you can imagine why there is uproar about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:38 AM
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Have you considered just having sex as a playful form of engagement and intimacy and pleasure with your partner and just… doing what feels good for you both in the moment? Why would you need porn for inspo other than missionary in the dark…? That feels so scripted and inorganic, when we could just… do what feels good in our bodies in the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:36 AM
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Do you genuinely believe if every woman agreed to not produce anymore sexual content, men would simply stop watching it and overusing it? Please be serious. They literally use AI and VR to simulate porn even more realistically with AI actresses, and are actively trying to advance that tech.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:26 AM
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So I actually think about this sometimes as a parent. My spouse and I have talked about it (our kids are toddlers) and kinda concluded that it comes down to the fact that parents need to monitor their kids internet use, and be able to be and stay more technically competent than their kids. Even then, most adults around my age that I have ever talked to about this kind of thing were first introduced to porn via other kids at school/sleepovers. So even if you as a parent do your due diligence, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:24 AM
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Yeah you can really just… FEEL when someone watches a lot of porn? In every sense of the word. Physically, sexually, engagement, connection, vibes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:22 AM
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yeah it’s when you watch enough porn you have brain rot from it. like when you see teenagers who only speak in TikTok references because they’re chronically online. except with porn. pornsick men (and women i guess) are just so obviously REALLY wrapped up in their porn/porn use, sometimes to the extent that their dicks stop working or they jerk off to porn just to watch it but not orgasm or they start being weird and cagey and secretive about it or doing illegal or immoral things. or those guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:17 AM
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Wait you’re actually arguing that porn is a realistic depiction for men of what is “actually out there” and what their options are? What?? In what ways??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:12 AM
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no, I see why you would guess that but actually she has a pretty messed up mom (alcoholic, recently sober for the longest time in like 40 years) but her dad’s really quite normal. a relatively successful professor, divorced the alcoholic mom to protect the kids when they were pretty young, and was otherwise stable for them when mom spun out. and interestingly, on the note of her affinity for bald men, her dad — for a 60-some year old man — has gorgeous hair!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:09 AM
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My best friend is obsessed with bald men. Like literally obsessed. We are late 20s now and it’s more normal for her to be dating men who are actually already bald! but it was hilarious in college as our friends really have always been mystified by it. I certainly have met attractive bald men, but to be specifically attracted TO bald men? A bit wild. But a prematurely balding man’s dream! She’s also one of my hottest friends. (Unfortunately the crazy x hot thing definitely applies to some degree …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:47 AM
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yeah i’m a woman, have had a lot of sex (like a lot)… and obviously statistically most guys are under 6 iches. there was only 1 guy I have ever felt like he was actually TOO small (obviously I didn’t say anything to him about it.) and 1 other guy that was kinda borderline (tbh wouldn’t know the length but the issue was he wasn’t girthy either) but really had his head & hand game down so it evened out enough. Anyway all that to say, I genuinely can’t imagine how a man with a 6” dick could be cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:32 AM
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Yeah I was gonna say… obviously the answer is 4. Maybe 6 if you’re also very introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:25 AM
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Well, it’s a good thing I covered that when I said that preferential treatments shifts from boys to girls around kindergarten….. The things you just mentioned (bullying, education) are quite obviously after kindergarten. This is what you are talking about with boys being overlooked in the education system btw… you are literally just saying my point in different words. From birth (or rather, from sex discovery), boys are HEAVILY preferred & favored, globally, throughout all of history pretty much…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 11:14 PM
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I imagine people who say this must be speaking from their own sense of lack of worth as a young boy, because infant & toddler boys are heavily favored by parents, caregivers, and strangers. People think girls are cute! Girls are totally valued for their beauty immediately (if they are cute, or assumed to become more attractive with age). Don’t get me wrong. But interaction wise, reaction wise, how they speak to them/about them, expectations are more realistic, etc. for little boys vs. girls beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:38 PM
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Well also ‘wife goggles’ are definitely a thing (and ‘husband goggles’ too, really) if you’re in an otherwise happy and healthy relationship as you age together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:28 PM
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How so? Personally if I got pregnant when I didn’t want a child, I’d abort. But I don’t believe in forcing other women to keep or abort. So my advice to men, including my sons, brothers, etc. would be: because you cannot choose if a woman aborts or keeps, use a condom (even if she says she’s on birth control) or abstain, as that is the only way as a man to control the outcome — simply don’t get a woman pregnant in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:29 PM
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Yes to all of that. Plus the fact that if consent can be bought and rape is just theft, every woman has a price. Every rape can be compensated. It’s just lost revenue, whether you were going to sell it or not. It’s just awful.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 09:36 PM
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Exactly. If sex work is work then rape is just theft. A certain amount of theft is expected in any work place. Being raped a certain % of times would just be an acceptable and expected loss of product. Gross.
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 07:00 PM
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Hey bud I feel like you honestly missed the fact that them saying “Good, it filters out LVM” is actually the same thing as ‘privately shaming men for doing this.’ Like… they aren’t actually being nice publicly saying “AI gfs filter out losers” ?? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 12:43 AM
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It doesn’t really matter though?? Why would you be surprised someone goes for their most attractive option? People disproportionately want nice things even if there are plenty of okay or bad things. Idk why this is surprising to anyone more than 5 years old… And the number of dudes on here that seem surprised to “learn this hard truth” is just laughable. Like fucking duh? If you had a ton of options, you like to think you’d (for some reason??) be fair and not go for the top. But you wouldn’t. Yo…
/r/AllPillDebate16/08/23 12:45 AM
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I mean, yeah, on a swipe dating app with a small profile mainly based on photos, attractive ppl have an easier time. Y’all always say this like it is revolutionary hahah.
/r/AllPillDebate15/08/23 05:07 PM
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there’s also just a larger portion of straight men to date than bi men, bi or gay women, so statistically bi women are more likely to date/marry straight men than anyone else
/r/AllPillDebate26/07/23 02:22 AM
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At this point, I just lurk.
/r/AllPillDebate24/07/23 03:50 AM
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You think it’s shallow to not want to date a person who has an interest (like fishing) that you personally have zero interest in, and may even specifically have a disinterest in? Jesus fuck. Then what ARE women allowed to say no for? Not for height, looks, income, lack of sexual attraction, because that’s shallow and impolite! Not for interest-mismatch, because that’s shallow and harsh! So what ARE women allowed to say no over?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:32 PM
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How is it intellectually dishonest? We all KNOW more men are on these apps. Like this is common knowledge for anyone who has used one or talked to anyone about them or simply been online in the last 10 years since these apps became popular and the media’s reported (many times) on how they are all virtual sausage fests.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:26 PM
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Then you can’t expect financial abortions to become a thing. That’s just unreal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 04:12 PM
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Better in what way? The OP seems to suggest women believe this betters them sexually/romantically, which I don’t agree women seem to think. The only way education does this is by putting you in circles with higher educated men… so like… it does increase your chances with educated men…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:19 PM
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Right but… Where are these women who are saying this? This feels like a complete strawman. I’ve never ever heard a woman talking about how merely having a degree makes her hotter…??? But yes, it’s pretty obvious being intelligent, educated, charismatic, well traveled, etc. make you more attractive, particularly to people who are also those things… The only thing I can think that is remotely related to this idea, maybe… are jokes about “getting your MRS degree.” And those are 1. jokes; 2. kind of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:42 AM
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Feels like you’re taking “the degree” to be the attractive thing when in reality it is that educated and worldly people find education and worldly experience more attractive... no one is like “Wow that piece of paper on the wall saying you have a PhD is sooo sexy 😍🥵🤤” whether they’re a man or woman… but finding someone sexy because they are intelligent, dedicated, passionate, driven, etc. are all very real things…….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:30 AM
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I don’t even think “a lot of women” is accurate — what woman have you ever met who said, “I’m going to go to grad school so men will find me hotter!”? Because that’s never been something I’ve ever heard hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:28 AM
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I have to assume you’re male (and do not use makeup) to think that foundation does this without being quite obvious for 95% of women. Foundation on top of textured skin generally looks awful irl. Especially on top of any active acne or marks. In photos it definitely evens things out… but the jig is up the moment you see it irl. Dark spots, sure! Correcting skin tone is hit or miss, and you’ll more more than foundation to do so which makes a lot of women look cake-y. Any of these types of posts b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:27 AM
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I’m not even sure what you’re trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:24 AM
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Ah yes, this must be why there are droves of men who get a surrogate and then have a rotation of nannies raising their kid. Oh wait. That doesn’t happen much. And btw, as someone who has been a nanny for almost a decade and is now a parent, having childcare while you work is outsourcing childcare while you work — it’s not outsourcing parenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 12:01 PM
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You sound emotionally constipated and she sounds like a piece of work. Sorry about your dad tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:59 AM
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Gotcha. That’s what I thought you meant. Thanks for the clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:58 AM
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Every time I read these kinds do comments, I have to wonder what tf kind of company y’all keep.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:58 AM
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Also: most women rely on multiple avenues of emotional support — including seeing a professional — whereas a lot of men will ONLY rely on their partner. (Obligatory NAM and NAW.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:13 AM
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You’re saying women won’t like it if you cry when your dad dies? Or that that’s the only time it’s acceptable to vulnerably cry?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:10 AM
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Yeah the rules are also diff across diff subs so whenever I see someone hinting at a “bad” word, I just assume they’re avoiding a possible auto-ban based on their experience across Reddit, and not actually 12 years old (though admittedly it does make a lot of posts read like a 12 y/o wrote it when you see “I want to do s-word with this s*xy woman I met” hahah)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:46 AM
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Idk, men have always had womb envy. I mean, they were literally so jealous of women that they made up God (creator of life… literally a female thing…) being a man lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 03:15 AM
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Generally I would agree but a lot of people self-censor on Reddit for things like sex/bad words/suicide/etc. because they think it won’t get posted if they use the actual word. That doesn’t happen in this sub but a lot of ppl don’t know that until they read around/post.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 06:13 PM
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95% of the problems in relationship advice subs can be solved by literally just fucking talking to their partner instead of crowdsourcing ideas on what their partner MIGHT be thinking from strangers on Reddit dot com
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:48 AM
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Oh okay so we’re just discussing the women you happen to know? You do know there are 4 billion women on earth right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:43 AM
1

Okay but if he’s straight then of course he doesn’t find men as attractive as women… and he isn’t able to reasonably and objectively assess male attractiveness…
/r/ExRedPill19/05/23 10:07 AM
2

What you’re saying doesn’t make sense. If faking worked for hot men, there would be no “he changed.” My entire point is that no one means “be yourself” to mean you are perfect as you are and someone will love you exactly like that. “Be yourself” simply means be genuine. That’s it. If you’re fake, you may attract people to your FAKE self. And you’ll have to keep faking which will make you unhappy long term, or stop faking and disappoint them and they’ll leave. You can avoid that by simply BEING Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:48 AM
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Agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:58 AM
1

LMAO. Let me break it further down since you’re struggling so much. When someone says “be yourself”, they do not mean “don’t change anything about yourself. Someone will love you exactly as you are. Your dream partner will fall into your lap with ease. You are perfect exactly as you are.” They mean “don’t fake it to get with someone because you will never be happy pretending all the time.” Improve YOUR GENUINE SELF. Don’t contort yourself into someone you’re not and never will be to try to get w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 12:45 AM
2

There are double the amount because a significant portion of MtF (vs FtM) are doing it for fetish reasons…… which is very Male of them. Way less females trans for fetish reasons (though I’m sure some do.) Of course some MtF are just genuinely dealing with gender dysphoria and choose to transition as a way to live with that. But the fetishization of femaleness is a hugely prevalent thing in the MtF community but not the FtM community…
/r/AllPillDebate16/05/23 10:41 PM
1

So his anecdote refutes my anecdote? Guess it’s a net zero then… People have always and will always date, fall in love, find ways to have sex, marry, etc. because it’s human nature. The WW baby boom was not because people were worried about dying and just didn’t have date??? It was because men were at war and came back. They literally were not in the US to reproduce. It’s not like they were so stressed out they didn’t date or fuck. There’s a small baby boom after literally any deployment in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 10:35 PM
3

Ummm. Considering I am the child of war refugees from a religious genocide, I can confidently say that people did indeed date, marry, fuck, have kids, even in times of high conflict……
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 10:26 PM
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The way y’all can’t comprehend that “just be yourself” doesn’t mean “if you’re exactly as you are right now, your dream woman will fall into your lap with no effort” and actually means “when you pretend to be different than who you really are just to be accepted/get a gf/impress women/etc., you’re robbing yourself of the opportunity to meet someone you’re truly compatible with, and you will not find true love or happiness being fake for someone else” is wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 10:24 PM
2

There’s literally nothing wrong with her advice. Working on your body to be fit and attractive without being jacked is what most women want. Most women aren’t chasing after dudes with huge gigantic veiny muscles… so if you’re trying to get mega jacked just to fuck, it’s a waste of time… you’d be better off getting decently in shape which takes less effort and is much more maintainable… How is that bad advice? Lmfao. Y’all pretend women “don’t know what they want” and “give bad dating advice” and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 10:21 PM
2

Right, it must be those damn women downvoting you. Gynocentrism strikes again.
/r/ExRedPill09/05/23 07:43 PM
2

Whatever you say my guy. there’s a reason your gYnOcEnTriSm iS rEaL comment got downvoted and it’s not because you’re sooo right and we’re all sooo dumb.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/23 11:11 PM
2

Riiiiight. Sounds like you need a little more TRP detox.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 02:53 PM
3

No one here is “fighting against men’s reproductive rights” but it’s extremely telling that you insisted on playing devil’s advocate when it came to women’s reproductive rights. That’s the disgusting part of your comment. And don’t think none of us saw your dumb little list in your other comment about all the ways the world is just soooo gynocentric. But I guess that’s just you being the devil’s advocate too?
/r/ExRedPill07/05/23 12:11 PM
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Yeah, saying “ED isn’t men’s choice” is a disgusting way to show support for birth control and abortion. Again, as if every single reason women need birth control or an abortion are a result of their choices???
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 03:40 PM
3

You realize I said that because YOU said “ED isn’t a choice” as if somehow reproductive conditions, ovulating, pregnancy, miscarriage, sepsis, birth complication, etc etc. are somehow women’s choice right? Do you think women choose to ovulate? Do you think women choose to have reproductive conditions that are debilitating (that can be helped with birth control)? Do you think women choose to have missed miscarriages where the fetus rots inside them? Ectopic pregnancies? Birth complications? Place…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 03:39 PM
3

Got it, so you just think women should be unduly forced to put up with things out of their control but completely natural (ovulating) but men are exempt when it comes to things like their penis naturally ceasing to work with age. Despite the fact that women can die from pregnancy — and oh btw, women need birth control for things other than controlling for birth, like a variety of painful, awful reproductive conditions 100% out of their control — but men!!! (the poor poor men!!!) might not be abl…
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 03:26 PM
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If women have to accept their body ovulating as the good lord intended and aren’t allowed to avoid it, then men should have to accept their dick not getting hard just the same. Sorry not sorry.
/r/ExRedPill06/05/23 11:39 AM
2

Ok. Again, whatever you say! You’re the smart and wise one here. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:06 AM
2

Oh honey. Okay. Whatever you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:41 AM
0

The only virgin I’ve been with was when I was a virgin. I wouldn’t fuck a virgin now at my age. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:41 AM
1

That I don’t think life is hard? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 10:37 PM
0

Not true at all. I’ve been sexually incompatible with experienced men. It’s just a matter of everything lining up — figuratively and literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 10:13 PM
2

Or it’s so easy I’m winning without even having to try. But no, in reality, your worldview is just really sad. Sorry bro. Not everything is a power struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:38 PM
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The OP’s take. Not yours.
/r/AllPillDebate28/04/23 04:32 PM
1

I’d have had a lot more sex if I had sex with EVERY man I thought was attractive. What a brain dead take.
/r/AllPillDebate28/04/23 04:30 PM
1

Your entire life is a power struggle? Jesus christ lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 04:18 PM
2

Ahh yes, the classic “if they don’t agree with me, they’re ugly/stupid” lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 04:17 PM
1

By this logic, most men would act right for most women. And yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 04:14 PM
1

Serious question. Do y’all even like women? who are you around that this is your actual POV?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 04:11 PM
1

Nothing says you’re very “smart and wise” like having to announce it. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 04:06 PM
1

If you’re 22, you are the maiden?? I’m not sure what would be unfortunate about that. We transition from maiden to mother by maturing (often through actual motherhood, but not necessarily) and that’s not something virtually any woman has done by 22. But I digress — what have you tried to do to embrace your femininity?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 04:05 PM
1

You’re so uneducated on this topic that this mismatched discussion isn’t rly worth my time lol. Thx for the laugh tho. Have a good night!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:32 PM
1

I didn’t even read all this because you’re obviously not remotely experienced in anything you’re babbling about. Colors make us feel certain things? True! Red is historically seen as powerful and blue as calming, which is why until the 1940s, boys wore pink and girls wore blue. Wild how that shifted but I guess nature must have just randomly flip flopped somehow. Or… idk, perhaps you’re full of shit and have no idea what you’re talking about. Girls won’t make truck noises? Boys won’t replicate h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 09:17 PM
1

If you actually can’t comprehend that there’s a social construct of “gender” and gender socialization includes things like “girls wear pink. boys wear blue. girls like dolls. boys like trucks. women play volleyball. men play football.” that are not based in ANYTHING aside from gender socialization which is not immutable etc. vs. the concept of sex and secondary sex characteristics which are real, biological, and observable … then you’re really out of your depth for this conversation. I understan…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 06:47 PM
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Gender is literally made up bro. Sex is real and observable. But gender is literally socialized and varies across time and culture. There’s nothing innate about gender. Who came up with this so-called feminist propaganda? Why would anyone be incentivized to spread it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:24 PM
1

Yeah. I mean, it feels innate because sex socialization begins in utero…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:20 PM
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Love a big fat ego 😍 If “feminist propaganda” had no truth, it wouldn’t have caught on, would it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:16 PM
3

This is such a brain dead fucking take LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:08 PM
1

Same exact experience for me. The men who made less than me / had less going on education or career-wise were soooo weird about it. It was all their own insecurity. The men who made equal / more or had equal / more opportunities going on were always much more respectful and supportive of me and my choices / life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:04 PM
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Please LOL. Hot men choose uglier women because they’re (generally) easier. Not because they prefer uglier women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:28 AM
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Didn’t read as snarky. My bad for thinking you’re being genuine? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:41 PM
3

I’m sure it’s easy to say when you’re (I assume) not in the position of being a 5 man able to consistently fuck 10 women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:39 PM
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If a 5 man had access to regularly fuck 10 women, he would not regularly bother with a 5. Bffr.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:39 PM
3

Wow, sooo groundbreaking… man compares sex to money. At least you didn’t compare it to food or air like so many do 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:11 PM
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If a 5 man could get with a 10 woman, he would in a heartbeat. Wym projection? That would only work if the 5 man could get with a 10 woman but CHOSE 5 women intentionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 06:10 PM
2

Why would sexual freedom ever mean anyone fucks someone they don’t want to? 🤷🏽‍♀️ Common male L.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:48 PM
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Lol. Well at least you’re honest about why it bothers you. You said the part soo many men refuse to admit: the hard part isn’t that she’s having sex, but that she isn’t having it with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:04 PM
2

You’re disgusting, and the fact that you think that proved my point wrong is laughable. No, I wouldn’t blame the children — I’d blame the pedophiles. Almost… like… the person that WANTS the sex… is driving the demand. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:11 PM
2

Okay, soooo, some women are literally born post-wall by this logic because they’d never attract “men with options” in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:59 AM
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Not really lol. Even so-called “post wall” women are getting loads more attention than most men and could have casual sex in a snap. Hence the OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:56 AM
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Why is the goal to “let everyone explore their sexuality freely and successful and let them have options”? This is not a realistic goal at all. And it inherently means some people would be made to have sex with people they aren’t at all interested in. There is no real version of life where this is possible — even in a hypothetical where “everyone is attractive” (which is obviously impossible) because just because 2 people are attractive doesn’t mean they automatically want to or are willing to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:05 PM
2

No, he is just assuming them being near him meant they were so hot and horny for him, they were trying to telepathically solicit his attention so he’d ask them out I guess. Wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:59 PM
1

We only need to make men tall and good looking if 1. the goal must be to ensure most men end up in a relationship (is that the goal? I’m not so sure.) and 2. if that’s actually the problem in the first place (is that actually the problem? Again, I’m not so sure. Considering most men actually do not die virgins or even die unmarried, AND most men aren’t particularly tall and many men aren’t good looking, how could this be true?)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:28 AM
2

Agree with this. Men that can easily sleep around aren’t threatened by a high n-count woman because they’re confident in their value and skills. Men that can’t sleep around are the loudest about body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:14 AM
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Sigh. So what if that’s all it is? (It isn’t. But let’s pretend.) If all women want is a tall, handsome man, and you’re neither tall nor handsome, what is it you think “making women understand” this preference will do, hm? Suddenly, they’ll go, “Oh my! You’re right! I’ll just stop preferring that right now!” and go for the short, ugly guy? Or is it a weird shame thing? You just want to feel smug and satisfied because you’ve “made women understand” their shallow pathetic preferences, that maybe c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:37 AM
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“The one that got away” but remixed so women bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:51 AM
1

Newborns definitely prefer mom to dad, and dad to anyone else. They are born knowing mom’s movements, voice, smell. It doesn’t take long for infants to form a bond with mom and dad (and any other adults they are regularly around.) As they get older, babies and toddlers generally just prefer their primary caregiver (which is typically mom but doesn’t have to be.) Toddlers also go through developmentally normal phases of parental preference where they aggressively prefer one parent for a while, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:32 AM
1

Nvm, misread your title as “Woman here” saying you’re a woman asking this question, not “women here.” I was saying your post history is very clearly male.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:56 PM
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Reading post history, there’s a 0% chance this is really a “woman here” lmfaooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:54 PM
1

1000% this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:37 PM
1

And what about alll the women who don’t have such a disgust for bi men? 🙄 Almost like these preferences are socialized and not innate Wild!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:34 PM
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If it were an instinct, virtually all men would feel this way. Given that they don’t — and there are entire cultures where promiscuity is not only accepted but encouraged — it’s VERY clear that this particular ick is socialized… NOT instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:30 PM
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Do better then lol. It’s not that difficult of a concept to grasp. You can bitch and moan all day about women’s preferences being unfair, but everyone is entitled to not date those they don’t want to for whatever reasons. Either you rise to compete or you don’t get picked. Pretty simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 11:27 PM
1

Who is talking about being so busy they never have down time? You have said “men haven’t evolved for music” and “women expecting men to have (job, hobbies, family, friends) is too much” etc etc. yet you say you have these things. Do you not see the issue …?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 04:54 PM
1

Again, if you genuinely believe that what people are talking about with ‘asking for consent’ is literally outright saying, “Do you think I could have sex with you?” then idk how to help you lol. Like that is such a wild misrepresentation of the conversation around enthusiastic or even verbal consent, I have to hope you’re exaggerating for the internet lulz.
/r/AllPillDebate19/03/23 03:44 AM
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The fact that you think that is how you think women want you to ask for consent is wild.
/r/AllPillDebate19/03/23 01:12 AM
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Babes for all you know your shoe was untied and she was going to let you know 💀 The fact that you assume a woman approaching your general vicinity means she MUST not only want to fuck you but is also specifically expecting you to initiate a conversation so she can fuck you is wildly, hilariously egotistical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:08 AM
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You didn’t even talk to them so you literally have no idea why they were approaching you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:53 AM
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And yet it’s the men who are apparently sooo lonely and sexless…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:50 AM
9

Can’t make an argument without resorting to vague personal attacks. love it! If I’m passing out roses on the boardwalk and no one wants a rose, guess what! I’ll start with just as many roses as I came with. Shocking, I know. Almost like… these interactions… take two people… to happen……
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:33 AM
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Are the women forcing the men?! 😭 Like, bffr. It doesn’t matter how many or few women are putting out if men aren’t frothing at the mouth for the chance for a crumb of pussy…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:23 AM
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You do realize it takes 2 to tango, right? If men weren’t sluts then we wouldn’t have hook up culture either……
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:32 PM
14

Oh okay so usually we see “women are too picky! They only have sex with top 1% mega giga big dick daddy Chaddy!!!” but now it’s “women spread for every dude that buys them a beer.” Hard to keep up with these takes tbh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:14 PM
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Lol literally YES. If no one did heroin, do you think there’d be many heroin dealers? I wonder… in non-legal states, why is it that there are sooo many weed dealers, but not as many, idk, LSD dealers? Almost like there’s way more demand for weed so it’s a more lucrative option to sell that over lucy…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:12 PM
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I see the narrative on here soo often that men don’t want slutty women, men don’t want to wife women who slept around, etc. but that has… not remotely been my experience or what I’ve seen with my peers. And I admit, I went to university in a big U.S. city, so I’m sure that plays a role, but virtually everyone I know now (mid-late 20s) who is in an LTR or married, both the man and woman slept around and casually dated others through college and… literally no one cares. Like… that’s just what peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:08 PM
3

I mean, I literally did indeed meet my perfect man, and I was varying levels of compatible with the men I met and dated before my spouse, but nothing like I am with him. So the wait paid off well for me. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Can’t knock other women (or men) for feeling similarly. I wish everyone could experience a love and chemistry as potent and deep as what I feel with my spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 10:56 PM
2

Have you ever considered you should have a full life simply to have a full life, and not to “be chosen”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 07:06 PM
3

No no, KayRay, don’t you see? Only women and hot men are capable of… walking in the woods! It’s too much of an expectation for the rest of men to… walk around in the woods! Be realistic! Men? Walking? In the woods?!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:41 PM
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The fact that you think men aren’t “evolved to be funny or play music” when the majority of comedians and musicians (and every aspect related to producing these things) are, in fact, men is absolutely WILD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:40 PM
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You’re saying these things are somehow impossible for men, yet… also women do all these things now?? And women had less time to adjust to having full lives than men did (who have always had the option of having full lives.) Women can somehow have careers and keep their homes and have flourishing friendships and hobbies and interests. They can become confident and go hiking while still working full time and having a dog and seeing their family once a week and their girlfriends a couple times a we…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 04:38 PM
1

Actually it’s fine to break up with anyone at anytime for any reason — even dumb reasons, like “I don’t like the way he chews. I don’t like the type of shoes she wears.” — because no one is obligated to date anyone for any amount of time for any reason. Pretty simple…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 12:35 PM
2

Agree with this for sure. Sorry for the confusion! All the other replies to my comment were agreeing that I’m delusional basically. The main thing the calculator used to say my husband is soo rare is his height. But height is my least strict parameter. He’s 6’3… if I met him exactly but he was 5’9, I would still be just as in love lol. I’m 5’1. Like I love him, of course, but the qualities I’d think would be rarer to find are things like his humor and insight and our chemistry, not his income or…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:52 PM
4

You do realize there are ways to mitigate that, right? Like spousal retirement accounts are a thing… investments… continuing education so you re-enter the workforce making more… etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:49 PM
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“Are you actually adults?” Yes, and my husband makes a helluva lot more than $59K. 🤭 Sorry some ppl have more money than you?? I guess you assumed other people are too dumb to make a basic budget for their own lives?? If someone started trying to have a SAHP and realized they couldn’t afford it, you think they’d just do it anyway and starve? Bffr. Not to mention, you didn’t factor in childcare costs at all. For some families, the loss of one spouse’s income is actually less than the cost of chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:47 PM
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Ahhh, I misread your comment. I thought you were a man and your reply was facetiously quoting me. Like I said I’m not worried about finding a man similar to my husband’s stats if we broke up because, well, essentially your comment. He works with other tall men. Etc. He’s rare but not that rare. and you were saying sarcastically, “Oh I’m not worried because my husband works with a tall man.” as if that was the summation of my statement. That’s my bad!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:43 PM
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You mean your comment saying that I’m pretending I’m 100% likely to find someone fitting my husband’s stat range because he works with other tall men? Yes. I did. Your joke seems to show you don’t actually understand social circles, which is why I’m very confident I would be just fine if we broke up. Not because he happens to have a tall coworker??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:38 PM
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😂😂😂 I really hope you’re trolling. If not, this is fucking hilarious. You really commented on a post NOT generalizing men to chastise me for “generalizing men” because YOU are generalizing women as all generalizing men?? This cannot be real. Do you ever stop and think, “Maybe I should do something better with my time.”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:26 PM
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Ah you see, it’s because all the married top 1% men have a wife and 12 gfs. Does that clear it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:22 PM
1

Nothing’s ever 100%. But given 3/4 of the men I’ve dated fit the majority of the criteria, I think I’m good 😏 My husband’s also 6’3 but I’m not pressed about height. I’m 5’1 on a good day. If a man is 5’9 (avg height in the US) and fits all the rest of the stats in the same range, I wouldn’t be fussed. A 5’9 man is still significantly taller than me. So no, I’m not worried he’s sooo rare I’ll never find anyone remotely like his general stats if we broke up. I’d be much more upset to lose his hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:21 PM
1

I used the ranges around his stats, not his specific stats, thanks tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:18 PM
1

Oh no, I realize it. He’s rare, sure, but no, he’s not 100% rare LOL. 2 of my exes fit the majority of the same criteria, and plenty of my friends fit most of it too. The main thing (I think) that’s making the calculator say he doesn’t exist is his income at his age, as well as his height — so sure, if we broke up, it would be much harder to find someone his age making that much that’s exactly his height, but he’s not so wealthy there’s no one 5 years older or an in he or two shorter is making t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:18 PM
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Considering when I just say thanks and ignore them, many men continue to attempt to solicit my attention, yes, I do believe they think compliments obligate women to engage with them. Women do not do this. They say their compliment, I say thanks, and that’s the end of the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 12:03 AM
5

Oh so most men are walking around complimenting women just to make them feel good? Lol. Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 10:12 PM
0

Yeah that makes sense. Somehow my husband’s general range of stats exist in 0.00% of men, and I’m 5/5 delusional for these standards… despite me personally knowing other men that also fit the criteria. I get that stats aren’t capturing every individual, but like… come on lol. I even increased the age range and unticked “married” and “not obese” (thinking maybe that was the issue (that he’s too young and there aren’t many single men fitting his criteria, or perhaps it’s because male BMI is more f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:58 PM
4

You being attracted to me has nothing to do with me. I know I’m attractive. I don’t need or want random men stepping into my life to simply tell me that they find me attractive (which always comes with the expectation I should be grateful they told me this and find me attractive.) I love when women tell me I’m pretty. They do it without any strings attached. They’re just genuinely complimenting me. If more men did that, I wouldn’t mind at all. But they don’t. They tell me I’m attractive so that …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:34 PM
2

Yeah, I know that’s technically true, but what’s interesting is I never see the fitness instructors talking about this. It’s always someone who is actually just unhealthy and overweight talking about BMI being flawed. And to be clear, BMI is flawed. It’s just weight and height and sex. It doesn’t account for fat vs. muscle. But again, you don’t hear Dwayne the Rock Johnson going on and on about how “technically I’m obese but BMI is flawed!” — it’s always the chunky person who is definitely not s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:30 PM
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No, it’s the same action (stealing) in different contexts. But I’ll level it for you more: are these situations equal? A wealthy college student steals a loaf of bread from Walmart on a dare. A starving homeless child steals a loaf of bread from Walmart because he’s starving.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:27 PM
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I put in my partner (general range around his stats) and it said 0.0000% of men meet this criteria and I’m 5/5 delusional and don’t belong on this earth 🙃 Starting to see why I never relate to anything posted on here…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:19 PM
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I just realized you put only up to age 24. The default was higher, which is where I left it. Talking about weight — men are also just as overweight/obese sooo it makes sense that fitting that criteria is more difficult for either sex. p
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:01 PM
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Context matters. Actions aren’t universally equal. I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Stealing is wrong — but everyone agrees a starving child stealing a loaf of bread during a hurricane is not the same as a wealthy man stealing money from poor people’s bank accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:48 PM
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Yes! Such a good point. “They are stunned when women don’t actually care if they think we’re pretty.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:45 PM
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Agree with this! So many guys on here project that women would drop trou on sight if “Chad” walked in and started chatting them up but in reality I don’t find it flattering when a man clearly is approaching me purely from finding me attractive. Cool. He has eyes. That means nothing to me. I know I’m attractive, I also have eyes. So thanks I guess? Unless I’m intentionally at a place where I want to be approached (the bar, a party, a social, etc.) then it’s not flattering that you’re comfortable …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:44 PM
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So because I dated a man with glasses once, I am now obligated to give all men with glasses who hit on me a chance? Um… You have no idea you’re “exactly the same” as the ex with glasses. What an egotistical take to assume you know why she chose that man, other than “we both wear glasses/share whatever qualities” etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:40 PM
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The question is for men. Men, why do you think women should give men that hit on them a chance regardless of attraction/etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:38 PM
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It’s the “not married” that’s getting you… Half of those women are already married. Which makes sense…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:34 PM
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Funny, I specifically clarified some men, and yet you came in here telling me what I’m trying to do. Seems more like YOU think all women think the same. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:05 PM
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I’m an elder zoomer and I do not know a single one of my friends or peers who is still a virgin. I’m generally around 22-27 year olds (and some older, but pretty sure zoomer cut off is 27.) I’m sure those in relationships are having more sex than those who are single, though I’m not sure that’s any different from any other generation…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:25 AM
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I simply don’t care because it’s never been remotely an issue for me. If you can’t keep a desirable man then maybe you’re not that desirable of a woman, and vise versa lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:37 AM
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“Most short men I know are single.” Cool anecdote bro. But the data shows most men end up married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:14 AM
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That’s not how that math actually works IRL. High value qualities often overlap. For example, taller men disproportionally make 6 figures vs. shorter men. So if you narrow your dating pool to only include taller than avg men, you’re more likely to run into a man making 6 figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:13 AM
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I love these bunk arguments. “Men like this are a unicorn.” Y’all wish so bad that tall, hot, successful men were punishing slutty women by never dating them. But they simply aren’t. And in fact, many are even marrying them!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 01:12 AM
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some dads-to-be … some dads of a newborn
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 07:13 PM
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I’d find it extremely bizarre but that because we both have individual investments that aren’t hidden, and have openly discussed that part of the function of such investments is so neither of us would be financially hindered from leaving if that was the right choice for us. Given neither of us would want to financially trap the other into staying together, this isn’t something we find offensive. We have no issues, neither of us WANT to leave, but we also both respect each other’s autonomy and wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 03:01 AM
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If you only like the other sex for sex then you don’t really like them. You like how they make your pee pee feel. The men (and women) I like are people I like entirely, as whole people. It has nothing to do with sexual gratification. So saying “men like women more” when you really mean “men like women more sexually” is dishonest. Men don’t like women as people more, generally speaking. Many men don’t respect women, don’t love women, wouldn’t have women around as friends, etc. unless they thought…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 09:05 PM
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I like some men… I love some men. I don’t like men, though, no. I greatly prefer the company of women in general over men in general. (Though I prefer the company of my specific friends (male or female) over randoms of either sex, of course.) Men don’t really like women, though. I’m not sure where that’s coming from. Many men openly admit that the only use they see in women is sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:59 PM
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So having a higher sex drive is what makes someone better than someone else…? Umm…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:57 PM
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I literally refuse to play anything with a mic at this point. I’ll watch my husband play but it’s just not worth it as a woman ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:29 PM
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My SIL is a maternity nurse and some dads-to-be will literally bring their game system and headset to the hospital while their wives labor. I also see on Reddit parent groups every so often some dad of a newborn (<4 months) talking about how he can’t believe his bitch wife won’t let him game non stop still lmfao. It’s bad out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:27 PM
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I’m gen Z. Anime is an ick to most women I know. Video games are not. Video games are relatively mainstream. Excessive video gaming is unattractive, not because of the gaming itself (and indeed, I know some “pro” (?) gamers who make money doing so who are not remotely penalized by women for it), but because anything excessive is pretty unattractive, and usually someone who is excessively and obsessively gaming has other issues going on that makes them unattractive. For example, I know plenty of …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:25 PM
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Laughing over here at 5’1 married to my 6’3 husband with our 99th% sons who dwarf their peers. My FIL is 6’3 and MIL is 5’, their sons are 6’3 and 6’2, daughter is 5’9. But yeeeeah. You’re doomed to have “manlet” sons if you don’t marry a 5’8 woman. It’s not as if height is extremely heritable or anything……
/r/AllPillDebate08/03/23 11:36 AM
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Alimony is only awarded in 10% of divorces, and only for an average of 3 years when it is awarded (almost exclusively for much older couples divorcing (grey divorce) or couples where the wife was a stay at home mother for 5+ years). Divorced women also fare significantly worse after divorce than men. So what is soOoOo risky about that?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 10:52 AM
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You do realize PCOS can develop with age, right…? Sorry, I know that’s probably hard to understand for someone who is just “into fertility as a hobby” (???) and who doesn’t understand the difference between infertility and sterility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:53 PM
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“As a hobby” Oh got it. That’s why you’re so loud and so wrong LMFAO.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:31 PM
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Wrong again. The #1 cause of female factor infertility is PCOS. And of infertility cases, 1/3 are MALE factor infertility, 1/3 are female factor, and 1/3 are either both or unexplained. You are literally non-stop talking out of your ass on this whole thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:31 PM
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Oh my f’cking god. Based on what? Your personal observation in a field where people struggling with fertility are disproportionately represented? 20% of women are not sterile at 35. No data backs you up at all. If you’re referencing the data from the 1900s that showed age at last conception, that does not represent sterility, that would only begin to represent infertility. A 40 year old in 1900 having regular sex is obviously less likely to conceive within 1-2 years than a 20 year old (and oh bt…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:28 PM
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Yep, have a toddler and another on the way. We’re 25/26. We made 6 figures together pre-babies, basically always lived off one income though, only had $15K of student loans total which we paid of quick, we saved heavy, invested heavy, and now my spouse makes 180% of our previous combined income pre-babies working less hours, plus we have passive income now as well. We are both home most of the day most of the year, minus a few weeks each season. We live in a LCOL area but work remote in a HCOL a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:30 AM
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Also bisexual and I agree. Women and men are equally maladjusted in different ways. But meeting a truly maladjusted man is scarier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 02:21 PM
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Oh so you just choose crazy women. Maybe you should pick better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 02:19 PM
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For real, why is he rewarding all these bad women with attention and sex? 😏 Why do men go after all the bad girls so us nice girls never get the chance?! He needs to choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 02:16 PM
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My point is that pretty much all those women knew your game was just talking to everyone you could... Which definitely increased your rejection rate, which means you HAD to play the numbers game to override that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:54 PM
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Do… do you genuinely think women didn’t see you hitting up every other woman at the bar…?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:20 AM
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Most people still meet IRL. More people meet OLD than before, but the majority are still meeting IRL in “warm” situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:19 AM
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They’re old, they’re not gonna get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:15 AM
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Um, no, he does meth. Thx tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 11:55 AM
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So you admit that there’s not anything unique to fathers! 😂 There we go. Was that so hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 10:27 PM
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No, nothing you’ve said has any substance. “Fathers provide protection, provisioning” OKAY, SO LITERALLY HOW? You are saying broad terms with no concrete examples, at all. That is why what you’re saying is meaningless — not because fathers have no role in parenting. WHAT does it look like for a father to “provide protection, provisioning”? HOW is that different from a mother doing so? And HOW is that more labor intensive than early infancy and young childhood? And yes, two parent homes do better…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:25 PM
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Yes… because women who have been abused do not have an upbringing that allows them to see non-abusive dynamics as healthy, exciting, etc. without a LOT of work on themselves. There’s a reason people will chronically get into bad relationships, and it’s not because they want to be abused, it’s because they literally can’t separate abuse from love without work, therapy, time. Why would you go after abused women? That’s a very strange demographic to approach…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 12:17 PM
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Um, it literally isn’t just physical. I’m not sure what’s confusing about this? No physical attraction means the relationship was dead on arrival. How would you develop a spark with someone you aren’t at all physically attracted to? You’re saying if you went on a blind date with a woman who you met up with and she was just god awful ugly head to toe, completely not your type, her clothing/hair/etc. style is one you specifically don’t like, she doesn’t meet one (1) single physical trait you like …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:56 AM
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Except it isn’t purely physical? If you don’t find someone attractive, you aren’t going to have the emotional connection as easily or at all potentially, depending on how little you find them attractive. Finding someone attractive doesn’t exist in a vacuum unrelated to everything else… “No chemistry/spark” is 1. true and 2. polite. Sometimes there’s no chemistry because — despite having physical attraction — you don’t find that person interesting, sexually appealing, funny, etc. but sometimes it…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:21 AM
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I’m confused. How is “not finding him attractive” much different from “no chemistry”? There’s obviously no chemistry if you don’t find yourself attracted to someone……
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 02:03 AM
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Ridiculous. Everyone on planet earth knows infants are labor intensive. This is even reflected in childcare laws — infant rooms have a much lower caregiver:infant ratio than say, pre-schools which have a much lower ratio than high schools. There’s no one that thinks infants are less labor intensive than 10 year olds (save for maybe an extreme outlier situation with special needs, etc. which is an outlier.) You are being purposefully obtuse because you don’t have any actual argument besides “No n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:48 AM
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Wild assumptions out of you. As I mentioned, my husband and I both stay home everyday, and he is a very essential part of our son’s upbringing. MOST families do not have a dynamic like ours because most can’t afford to. I have no doubt individual fathers can be great — my own father was incredible and I know some very dedicated and involved fathers. But there’s nothing unique to the father’s role that the mother can’t provide and vise versa (other than pregnancy, birth, lactation) that means mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 01:32 PM
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Except women do know the ratio. The ratio is well known to have way more men than women in literally all dating apps. And you clearly know this info, so why are you pretending somehow you don’t know it when you log onto an app? Feels like you want it to be someone else’s fault you went to a sausage fest but didn’t stand out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:59 PM
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You do realize it’s a surgery of both mothers AND fathers, right? And still, no further answer on what exactly it is that fathers do disproportionately in the non-infancy years?? Besides a vague and unverified “discipline”? Which btw, I haven’t seen you source either. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:56 PM
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You don’t see it as distrustful or controlling? Ok, so then if your wife wanted you to take an STD test, out of the blue, despite you having taken one that was 100% clean prior to you having sex at the beginning of your relationship, and she said, “Don’t worry, I’m not accusing you of anything. If you didn’t cheat, why are you worried? I’m just double checking that you don’t have any STDs. After all, I know that I don’t have any, but how can I know you don’t without this test? I’m just supposed …
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 11:29 PM
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Or maybe men need to be realistic about what OLD actually entails. The competition online is much more cutthroat for men because the ratio is waaaay more men to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:26 PM
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As a currently lactating woman who has been breastfeeding for the last 18 months (and breastfeeding while pregnant for the last 5 months), I haven’t be immobilized at any point, except perhaps literally during birth. You think lactating women are immobile?? Have you never heard of… holding a baby and walking?? What are you talking about??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:44 PM
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I’m confused… are you a tall man saying this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:42 PM
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I mean, it’s not personal to me — my husband’s home every day and a very enthusiastic, equal, and present parent. That’s how I know other men are full of shit. It’s just literally hilarious you said the work gets inverted. Okay so how? Because men… “become the bad guy”? Actually, there’s no evidence to suggest fathers discipline more than mothers. Most mothers and fathers report pretty equal levels of expectations around who should discipline. (X) And some evidence actually suggests the opposite…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:41 PM
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It’s really not that difficult to understand the majority of people in 2023 are not in your situation and you are an outlier. Saying “some outliers exist” doesn’t change the fact that the vast majority of couples in 2023 are not remotely living on a farm. Like come on now…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:20 PM
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It gets inverted over time? So that must mean fathers are the ones doing middle school pick up and drop offs, parent-teacher conferences, homework checks, packing lunches, managing school projects, holiday shopping, managing handmedowns, signing the kids up for camps and sports, keeping track of admin forms for schools, doing drs and dentist appointments, sports physicals, point-of-contact for the school if the kids are sick/in trouble/etc., haircuts, supervising on field trips, etc etc etc., ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:19 PM
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When y’all say this shit do you just think no tall muscular men want to split things 50/50? Like… why do you think you being short but willing to do half the childcare for your own child is somehow a win, when tall men will do the same, and also not be short… like….
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:14 PM
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So you live on a farm, which you know most people do not in 2023, and somehow that means all men should get out of sharing domestic responsibilities on their non-farms…?? Like??? Sure if you live on a farm, you have other chores and shit to worry about. But since most people aren’t farmers……. I don’t think you being an exception does much here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:12 PM
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Women are immobile after pregnancy? Huh??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:07 PM
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I know no single adults who genuinely have no reason they’re single except 1, but he’s had a slew of very toxic relationships, which means there’s obviously something going on behind the scenes I’m not privy to ask I’ve never dated him. (And I’m not about to ask what’s going on.) One toxic ex, okay, bad luck. Two? Hmmm. But 3+? Okay something’s going on with YOU too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 01:33 PM
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Probs because most americans are fat. If you’re ugly and fat, you’re ugly whether you’re fat or not. If you’re attractive but fat, you’d be attractive if you lost weight, so you’re obviously more attractive while fat than the ugly fat people. So it’s entirely possible they’re really saying “I’m a 7 (among fat people)” and just not counting the thin people. I mean, if I’m ugly but thin, am I automatically a 7+? No. I’d still have an ugly face. (I believe there’s a term buther-face, yes?) I def kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 01:31 PM
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Ok, like I said, good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 01:17 PM
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Bet, whatever you say, man. You’re clearly the expert.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:54 PM
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Ok 🙄 whatever you say dude. That’s why there’s an entire saying “If he wanted to, he would” about men making an effort right? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:52 PM
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How warped your thinking is is actually quite sad. Wish you the best but I won’t be arguing with someone like you. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:51 PM
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You cannot be this dumb. I refuse to believe you are this dumb. If the question only has a yes or no answer, and someone’s ACTUAL REAL LIFE SITUATION is not fully yes or fully no, THEY WILL ANSWER CLOSEST TO THEIR SITUATION. “Do you have a dog? Yes or No” Ellie owns a dog she bought with her own money that is hers and her spouse’s, and they equally care for the dog, so she says YES. Tom’s spouse bought a dog but he doesn’t consider it his per se because his spouse does all the care and if he liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:36 PM
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Lol if you think that the situation I just described with my ex dumping that he strangled a cat (for fun? out of curiosity? he really couldn’t say) is somehow appropriate, you’re delusional and disgusting. That’s not something you “open up about” to your gf or friends. That’s something you 1. should never have done, and 2. if you did and now need to unpack it, go to fucking therapy. His take on the situation is that I “punished him for opening up as a man.” As if I would’ve clapped and cheered f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:40 PM
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Sigh. No. Effort is great. Do you think women think men who work out are gross because “you’re not naturally fit, effort is gross”? Be so fr right now. “Be yourself” means “be authentic.” Be your authentic self, as best as you can. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:13 PM
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It really isn’t that hard to comprehend but apparently you’re REALLY struggling. Here it is one more time: Because some people may consider themselves to be in between “single” and “in a committed relationship”, they may answer whatever is closest to what they consider themselves to be. For some, this may be single even though they’re “kind of not single” and for others this may be “in a committed relationship” even though they’re “kind of single.” They are answering whichever concrete answer FE…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:11 PM
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Bruh nothing you are saying is at odds with what I just said….????? If you were asked in an interview: “Are you single?” and you can freely answer, you might say, “Not really, but maybe kinda? I have a fling with this woman. We have been casually dating for 3 months. Not sure if it will get more serious or not but it’s kinda looking that way, but she’s going abroad for 2 months, so we are just feeling things out until she’s back.” etc. while she might answer, “Technically yes, kind of no. I’m ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:47 AM
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No, not faking it (though yes, I’m sure some are) — a lot of “not 100% exclusively opposite sex attracted” women are identifying as “same sex attracted” (bisexual) even if they are only very slightly same sex attracted (or even just simply bicurious) because there’s (pretty much) no downside for (most) women to state their preferences this way. In contrast, it benefits men socially to ID as “opposite sex attracted” until if/when they are so same sex attracted they can no longer reasonably fail t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:26 AM
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if a woman is casually seeing someone and considers herself “not single” then she may very well answer “not single” for a survey, in comparison to a man casually seeing someone but considering himself “still single” and then answering “single” on the same type of survey Maybe you skipped this part??? Let me be more clear, since you’re having trouble: specifically why someone may be defining themselves as “not single” in a survey is not documented by a multi-choice answer. This is one issue with …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:38 AM
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I’m not sure what your point is? I didn’t mention involuntary sexless women at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:21 AM
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No one said it’s going to be perfectly 50/50. But sexual attraction is pretty innate and only semi-socialized (as evident by conversion therapy not working, for example…) so the odds of suddenly a bunch of women in a new generation being same sex attracted but men not doing the same points to the social aspects of sexuality, not something innate. It is more social acceptable for women to be same sex attracted. So if a woman is even a little bit same sex attracted — even if she will never date an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:19 AM
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Yeah, I’d buy that for sure. I’m a Zoomer and I got married young with zero social, familial, religious, biological, etc. pressure to do so. We did it because we wanted to. I always find it interesting (and a bit sad) when I meet Millennial, Gen X, or Boomer couples who don’t even seem to like each other. Or all those early pandemic lockdown posts from people who were on the brink of divorce or murder-suicide because they — god forbid — had to be around their spouse and only their spouse for a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:08 AM
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Why are you saying this like I disagreed…? I literally said women are defining “not single” differently than men are… like……
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:53 PM
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Right 😂 Women think the same thing men do, maybe not as aggressively sexual as some men do, but like, I see someone hot and I think, “He’s hot,” I’m not looking at a successful guy going, “🥵 God I bet he can pay the bills soooo good.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 11:11 PM
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Lmao. Great talk. This sub is so fucking boring nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:13 PM
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I don’t care about “women’s image” either. You saying “women do XYZ” isn’t going to make my husband leave me or my father disown me or whatever lmfao. Again, when I log off Reddit.com, none of this impacts me at all. I don’t know the types of women y’all describe on here (or the men, either) because I don’t hang out with losers. Like I can’t stress enough that if I didn’t read it on PPD, I wouldn’t even know there are (allegedly) swaths of sad sexless single men in their 20s. I’m in my mid-20s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 09:09 PM
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Yes to this — and also this is what people mean when they say “be yourself”, which I feel like a lot of people (men) here misunderstand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:40 PM
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Well, for 1, I’m older than my husband, so I’m not really out here with a stake in the debate. And 2, the average age difference being a couple years and most of those being older men means that most of those couples in the late 20s/early 30s would look like less single women in their 20s vs. single men in their 20s… I’m not sure what’s confusing you about this? A 29 y/o woman dating a 32 y/o man is 1 less single 20-29 y/o woman… but not 1 less single 20-29 y/o man…… I also don’t care about sing…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 08:28 PM
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From the Gallup data itself, not the article: “Women (6.0%) are much more likely than men (2.0%) to say they are bisexual. Men are more likely to identify as gay (2.5%) than as bisexual, while women are much more likely to identify as bisexual than as lesbian (1.9%).” And do note that Gallup's pre-2020 polling did not measure how many Americans identified with each LGBT category separately. So this difference in bi women is based on data ONLY from 2020 and 2021… And finally, the Pew info is MUCH…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 07:28 PM
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Being trans or non-binary ≠ being same sex attracted…??? That’s what you are missing here. Gender identity and sexual orientation are different things, and they both can fall under the umbrella term of “being queer.” That doesn’t mean someone who is a non-binary male but exclusively opposite sex attracted is homosexual… they are heterosexual. Gen Z is more likely to ID as something else pertaining to gender, as per your article you just sent, but only very slightly more likely to ID as something…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 06:52 PM
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Do you have data on that? Because Pew’s 2013 LGBT data shows what I said (which would’ve been done mainly on Gen X and Millennials): 19% lesbians and 29% bi women vs. 36% gays and 11% bi men… so that’s 48% of LGBT being females (lesbians or bi) vs. 47% LGBT being males (gay or bi). (The remaining 5% are T individuals.) Source Gen A is under 13 years old so it’s too soon to say. So what’s the data on Gen Z? Pew reported in 2018 that about 48% of Gen Z vs. 47% of Millennials (vs. 33% of Gen X) say…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 06:07 PM
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I could see this. It’s possible these women are calling themselves “not single” not necessarily “in a committed monogamous partnership”. IME most of my female friends won’t have a rotation of men at the same time, they’re more likely to have a fling with one guy until it ends, then find a new guy, even if they jump around a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:39 PM
1

I hear this on here a lot and I find it wild. I believe it happens (some women really do seem to have skewed perceptions on what qualifies as “dating” (some men do too but I hear way more men talk about women doing this type of thing)) but like, for my female friends and I, what you just described would be something we would all refer to as a “fling” or maybe “96tillinfinity and I had a thing for a while” but NONE of us would say, based on what you just described, “96 and I used to date.” or “96…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:37 PM
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Plus there’s less bi men but more gay men, and more bi women but less gay women. So the number of same sex attracted males vs. females actually aren’t that different, they just identify differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:27 PM
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The late 20s women dating early 30s men account for a lot of this. It doesn’t happen at any other age range besides the 20-29 and 30-39 ranges because that 29/30 split is actually at a point when most people couple up anyway. It would probably make more sense to split the data 18-25, 25-35, 35-45, etc. to get a better sense of this. A 28 y/o woman dating a 30 y/o man isn’t really “women dating older men” but it does skew the data a bit. Women 26-29 can date men 30-33ish without it being a signif…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:25 PM
1

Okay, so then riddle me this: why don’t more men use condoms in hookups? They’re widely available for free, easy to use, and they protect against not only pregnancy but also STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:06 PM
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Right, that’s why I broke up with him following this experience, and why I’ve never dated anyone else remotely like him, because I love psychos. 🥰 You got me!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:29 PM
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No, I have other experiences similar to that, that one was just the most blatantly disgusting one. I also have plenty of experiences with men appropriately opening up, and I sympathize with the general idea that men struggle with this because of male socialization discouraging normal vulnerability. I have 2 sons, I very much plan to raise them to understand appropriate and healthy vulnerability (and I’d do the same if I had daughters, but I don’t). Their father is a fantastic example of a man wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:27 PM
-1

No no, usually I am very facetious but I just read it the opposite way. 😂 I think you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:24 PM
2

Ah, yes, I think you’re right. That makes a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:11 AM
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My ex was very emotionally unavailable, and after plenty of conversations about it, he one day “opened up” by telling me about how as a young teen he strangled one of his mom’s cats but let go before she passed out, and that’s why she’s always afraid and skittish around him. He actually THANKED me after expressing this horrific and awful story, saying it felt good to get it off his chest and know I didn’t see him as a monster. (I, of course, fawn response’d hard as fuck, because ummm, what the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:58 AM
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Um. Why would it be okay to scream at someone under the age of 12?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:53 AM
1

The actual content of the law does though…… so sure if you wanna argue about “all women shouldn’t just get 5 extra free paid days off” then I agree??? But that isn’t what’s happening, as the OP of course did not state. And yes, everyone should have unlimited time off as long as they meet the requirements of their job tbh. That’s how my spouse’s job works, and they’ve had literally 1 employee of THOUSANDS actually abuse that enough to be fired since implementing it a few years ago. Most people wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:08 PM
1

How is period leave for documented disability-level periods discriminatory, when all women wouldn’t fall into this group, yet somehow you believe pumping or pregnancy protections aren’t discriminatory, because — wait for it — all women don’t fall into this category??? Lol. You DO know most women do not have debilitating periods, right? And that this is not a blanket 5 day leave allotted to all menstruating women no questions asked, but just adding “disability-level periods” to the list of things…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:01 PM
1

As a currently lactating woman, yes, I very much know the consequences of being denied pumping time…… this is why this was written into the PUMP Act which won’t take effect until April 2023…… because lactating women were being denied or delayed pump time, or put to work while pumping, or told to pump in a bathroom…… do you think they wrote that because no lactating woman has ever faced any issues with having reasonable time to pump? Um… My point, btw, is not that legally protected pump time is d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 07:57 PM
1

That’s exactly what it is lol. I found it very telling when I read the entirety of the OKC data and learned that it says the opposite of what these nasty men try to claim it does. I’m reaching my limit here too tbh. I’m happily married and found the topics interesting but the debate’s become so disingenuous, it’s hard to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:49 PM
1

Nope. Pump breaks are only unpaid if the lactating employee is 100% relieved of duty for 100% of the break, and lactating employees are allowed to pump as needed at their discretion. If a break is interrupted with any work — a question, an email, anything — then the employee is now legally eligible for pay for that break. No such equivalent breaks exist for males. Lactating employees are also still required to have all of their otherwise legally mandated breaks in addition to (not in place of) p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:47 PM
1

Well you’ve clearly never been a pumping mother LOL. You do realize that the PUMP Act was written this way because lactating women were being denied breaks to pump, and even when they were given breaks to pump, they were not being paid but still being expected to work, right? And now the onus is on the employer to not have the employee work at all during a pump break. This means not even so much as answering an email or a question. If a pump break is interrupted with any work, that is now a paid…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:44 PM
0

Lol don’t say this — the men on here who post about the 80/20 rule HATE when you mention the rest of the data which shows that women messaged equally despite rating less equally, while men rated equally and still 90% of men’s messages went to just the top 10% of women. 🌝
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:34 PM
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Actually, no, the women still messaged the men pretty equally, they just ranked 80% of them as less than average attractiveness. In contrast, men ranked the women pretty equally, but 90% of men’s messages the top 10% of women. So in fact, it shows that despite finding less men on dating apps attractive, women were still willing to give them a chance. Men, on the other hand, were only willing to message the bottom 90% of women 10% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:32 PM
1

Riiiiight… I’m gonna… tap out here. You keep trolling though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:22 PM
1

Omfg. Literally read section 18D (c) right under that which clearly states that “Break time provided under subsection (a)(1) shall be considered hours worked if the employee is not completely relieved from duty during the entirety of such break.” which means that while by default a fully relieved break is unpaid, MOST PUMP BREAKS won’t fall into this category, unless an employee is 100% relieved of duty for the ENTIRE pump break, of which a lactating woman will have 2+ pump breaks 20+ min MINIMU…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:20 PM
1

My point is that even when you have jack shit with your current partner, a lot of people are unwilling to jump ship. Some are, certainly. But many aren’t. So to pretend that most people in a healthy, happy, mutually loving, thriving relationship will suddenly jump ship because someone taller or thinner or whatever walks by is just absurd. People who are more or less happy and satisfied don’t leave for no reason. Even people who aren’t happy and satisfied don’t leave when they probably should.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:15 PM
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I’m not sure what you mean by that because that’s insanely vague. If you work at a place where all employees are required to do X to accrue leave, and only males have ever done that for whatever non-discriminatory reason, then that makes sense. Otherwise, there’s no way it’s legal for a company in the US to say males are the only ones who qualify for leave... like……
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:12 PM
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Nooooope. Maybe read the PUMP Act. Pump time is paid unless the employee is 100% relieved from duty while pumping (which most pumping mothers will tell you, they rarely are, considering they need to pump MINIMUM 2x during a workday but most often 3+x for 20+ minutes.) This does not apply to non-lactating employee’s legally mandated breaks, and lactating mothers are still entitled to their other legally mandated breaks on top of pump breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:09 PM
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Okay, so show me one (1) single case of a lactating male being given paid pumping breaks every 4 hours or less, with access to a private room free from intrusion that is not a bathroom. 😊 And if (since) you can’t, explain to me how pumping laws aren’t discriminatory to men, but somehow laws that allow the small minority of menstruating women with disability-level debilitating pain from their periods once a month or so to take paid sick leave under a doctor’s supervision are somehow discriminator…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:06 PM
1

Pumping is legally protected (as of very recently) in virtually all (but not all) workplaces in the US. There’s no requirement for a specific lactation station — just a room that’s private, free from intrusion, and is not a bathroom. So while a workplace that has a dedicated nice and calm lactation station may also have a rest room for other employees, even the most employee-friendly workplaces have no such legal requirement to allow a rest every 4 hours OR AS NEEDED, to pay employees during the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:59 PM
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Yep, this exactly. No one (okay, not NO ONE, but almost no one) leaves a perfectly good, happy, satisfying relationship just because someone taller, bigger breasted, better hair, nicer car, etc. walks by. If you leave so easily, you weren’t actually satisfied in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:17 PM
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People keep hanging on, even when their current relationship sucks, until a certain point. Sunk-cost fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:15 PM
0

Show me exactly where this law says all menstruating women get 5 paid days a month off for periods, no questions asked? Oh wait, you can’t, because that’s not what the law says! It is saying that debilitating periods are something that women are now eligible to take leave for (in addition to plenty of other things in Spain that men and women quality for) but it must be documented and medically supervised.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:03 PM
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THEY DO. If you actually read more than this (poorly written OP) about it, all this does is include debilitating periods as something you can have a doctor legally write you leave accommodations for. It adds periods to the list. It doesn’t say, “All menstruating women get 5 free paid days off, no questions asked!”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:00 PM
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The fact that you think some pain meds would help with endo proves your ignorance on the subject. While it is not a common ailment, I have seen women who have it literally vomit and pass out from the pain. Any pain meds they would need to take would have to be so strong that they wouldn’t be functional at work anyway. And btw your OP misrepresents the period leave. It isn’t 5 free days off to every menstruating woman. All it does is include extremely debilitating periods as part of what can clas…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:58 AM
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I literally BEG y’all to join the military 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:54 AM
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What job are you working that you don’t accrue any sick leave, but the women do? Get a new job or sue, because that’s illegal. Unless you’re over living in Spain I guess, but btw, the leave requires a doctor specifically stating you’re unable to work because of debilitating periods. You know, like any other disability leave situation where you don’t just call in and say, “Btw I’m in debilitating pain, I’ll be gone X days, just trust me!” If you have a legitimate disability (which menstruating ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:50 AM
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You’re just talking about America having abysmal leave. A woman chronically in pain the US gets no such leave either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:37 AM
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I guess pumping laws for lactating women are discriminatory then, right? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:35 AM
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If you have to pay for sex, you’re buying consent, it isn’t enthusiastic or genuine, even if she’s really good at faking it. You ever been with someone enthusiastically consenting, someone desiring all parts of you, someone in tune with you, someone opening to you, someone craving you??? You can’t buy that type of sex. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:21 AM
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Oh! Moving the goalpost, are we? 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:18 AM
1

I understand why men don’t physically like the feeling of condoms. That doesn’t negate the fact that it’s irresponsible as fuck for a man to have casual sex regularly without a condom, and just hope for the best… and condoms are the only protection we have against most STDs (and pregnancy) so what makes anyone think men will suddenly go on birth control which will almost certainly have side effects to prevent pregnancy (not STDs!) when they already don’t care to prevent pregnancy very hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:28 AM
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ALL love is conditional, except perhaps (most) parents’ love for their children. Very straight forward: if your wife cheats, you would likely leave asap. Shocker. Your love and affection are given on the condition your spouse is faithful. If your wife decides to never have sex again, you would likely leave asap. If your wife became a hardcore drug addict and refused all help… if your wife said during sex she requires you to literally shit on her or she can’t (and won’t) have sex anymore… if your…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:58 AM
1

Saying “To be with me you must do XYZ” is literally not saying “You OWE me a relationship” though… what??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:47 AM
2

No true scotsman, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:44 AM
1

I mean, we don’t know what she is doing in her spare time. She could very well be finding someone better, or seeing other clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:39 AM
1

No, he’s getting (statistically) more frequent sex. Not higher quality sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:38 AM
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Because consent can’t be given like that beforehand??? Like??? What??? You could a document and then as the sex starts or part way through revoke consent…. any person that thinks they have a document to back up you actually did consent is rapey as fuck. They could LITERALLY just rape you, like tie you up and rape you, and then just be like, “No, see, I didn’t tie them up and rape them. We had consensual sex, as per our contract right here.” If you feel like you need a sex contract to not be accu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:53 AM
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Agree with this. I know my exes are exes for a reason… I have no doubt that at some point my husband loved and desired his exes… but we have been together so long now, it has no bearing at all on my feelings towards him. Retroactive jealousy is very bizarre to me. Idc what he did before he knew me… he literally didn’t know me??? Maybe he could do something now that would make me jealous, but I haven’t had that experience with him yet and we’ve been together over half a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:34 AM
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Yeah honestly nothing compares to sex with someone you’re deeply in love with and extremely in tune with. I always heard how married sex is boring but, uh, married sex is the best thing ever in mine (& my spouse’s) opinion. So much more open, free, and connected.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:31 AM
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I’ve seen it both ways. Insecure low n count women (and men), secure high n count women (and men), and vise versa. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I just think it’s absolutely wild the OP is trying to claim that he’s (she’s?) never met anyone with a low n count who also has low self esteem…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:51 PM
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Umm. Cool anecdotes but like, “only high n count women have low self-esteem” is pretty easily disproven considering most women do not have high n counts but plenty of women have low self-esteem… Same for men. You ever hear some of the shit inc*ls say about themselves…? I have no doubt some women with low self-esteem end up with high n counts but like… what a leap lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:52 PM
1

Not sure what the fuck you’re talking about. In the US, the CDC reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25 to 29 and goes as low as 0.3 percent for virgins ages 40 to 44. So there are 2% more male virgins ages 20-24 than there are female virgins. Virgins after 25 of either sex are virtually unheard of, as over 95% of both males and females 25+ have had sex. A 2% differenc…
/r/AllPillDebate20/02/23 02:49 PM
1

So what else could you possibly mean by saying women’s bad experiences with men are their own doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:48 AM
1

No problem. I just did. You said women’s bad experiences with men are women’s own doing. So… exactly what I just said: women’s bad experiences with men are because women bad, and men’s bad experiences with women are also because women bad. Shocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:30 AM
1

Ah yes. Women’s bad experiences with men are because women bad, and men’s bad experiences with women are also because women bad. Thanks for clearing things up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:00 AM
1

Yeah umm my husband has 15” of height and typically about 100 lbs. of weight (much of it muscle) on me. If someone is able to overpower him, they could probably kill me with 1 hand, even if I had a bat??? Maybe if I had a gun I could make a difference but… a bat??? Fr???
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:16 AM
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Yeah, I will say more men were inclined to either bring up a condom themselves or accept when I offered, but a good chunk of men pull some kind of line. So I’m skeptical they wouldn’t use “I’m on the pill!” as a line too. Though my perception is probably skewed as I’m mainly talking about men I met in college, and more casual sex happens there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:33 AM
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To be clear, I don’t think all or even most men would lie about it necessarily. But certainly young men or abusive men would. I mean, I’ve literally been getting hot and heavy with multiple men (not at once lol. separate, unrelated occasions.) and when I mention a condom, they claim to be allergic to latex! But no matter, I will literally offer them a latex free condom, and then they have a different issue suddenly! “I can’t stay hard with a condom.” “Babe, don’t worry, I just got tested and I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:19 AM
2

Sus. There’s no info on why it was cut? I remember seeing something about male birth control being shut down because the side effects were deemed too unpleasant (which was laughable as a woman who suffers greatly on hormonal birth controls.) but maybe that was a different kind. If they can make a reasonable male birth control, I’m all for it. I mean, my husband would try it, as we very much don’t want anymore babies at the moment (2 babies 20 months apart will do that to you... We want more but …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:11 AM
2

Men already risk raw sex and procreation with random women… You genuinely can’t imagine some men lying and saying that they’re on the male pill to further try convincing a woman to let them fuck raw……?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:00 AM
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Guys literally already lie about using a condom (stealth rape) or “I have a latex allergy” or “it hurts to wear condoms” or “I can’t get erect with a condom” blah blah even when offered one directly then and there… they also lie to bed women all the fucking time. Women don’t lie to bed men (they simply don’t have to.) So you really believe men won’t try using this as an excuse to 1. fuck raw and 2. bed a woman who is resisting? Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:54 PM
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IF there’s no hormonal component, I agree, but even so, condoms aren’t hormonal and many men simply avoid trying to wear them as much as possible, despite them also protecting against STDs. And copper IUDs for women are non-hormonal but have other side effects, so even a non-hormonal male birth control may have unpleasant side effects. It’s actually quite difficult to have an extremely effective birth control that’s non-hormonal and/or doesn’t have unpleasant side effects. Condoms do both, and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:53 PM
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Yeah, most men wouldn’t take it anyway. They already disproportionately take on much less risk from sex, when condoms are widely freely available and also protect from STDs and many men simply don’t use them or want to use them. You think men will suddenly take a pill which will almost certainly have at least some side effects like hormonal birth control does for women (bloating, weight gain, cramps, mood issues, reduced sex drive, difficulty orgasming, etc.) when they won’t even wear a condom? …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:45 PM
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This is a hilariously bad take given the fact that men rose up to say “NOT ALL MEN!” when women talked about their negative experiences with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 07:30 PM
1

Yet again I will point out that you only said this about me not knowing my one ex did not cheat, NOT about me knowing my other ex did cheat, despite me explicitly mentioning I later found out (as in, clearly I did not see him cheat). So your goal is plainly obvious that you aren’t just “being the devil’s advocate” but specifically assuming that I can’t possibly know these men well enough to know one didn’t cheat and one did. Thanks, super helpful, I guess from now on I’ll preface every comment w…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 07:28 PM
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Because you felt the need to point out something almost everyone is aware of?? “You don’t know your ex didn’t cheat.” Yup, and I don’t KNOW my husband hasn’t. I don’t KNOW my low n count ex DID cheat. It’s not some revelation that people aren’t all-knowing. Again, I’m not going to go into why I believe this wholeheartedly, but I would literally bet a million dollars that my high n count ex did not cheat. And notice you didn’t point out I don’t KNOW my low n count ex cheated. Just that I don’t KN…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 01:00 PM
1

Idk, maybe your extremely condescending and egotistical belief that somehow I am not aware that I’m not literally omnipresent??
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 02:40 AM
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Riiight. Well thanks, bud. So glad you reminded me I’m not omnipresent and all knowing. For a second I actually thought I was LITERALLY god, thank goodness for your totally non-condescending and non-egotistical comment bringing me back down to earth……….
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 01:33 AM
1

You think somehow I’m not aware I’m not omnipresent and all knowing…? Lmfao
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 01:18 AM
1

Then what was the point of your comment? I don’t KNOW my low n count ex cheated, technically. I didn’t SEE him do it. So then I guess we will never really know!
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 12:53 PM
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You sense wrong. You’re just being pedantic to prove a point about someone you, again, do not know. You can say exactly the same thing about anyone anywhere. Your dad doesn’t know your mom never cheated, even if they were high school sweethearts. You don’t know your ex never cheated on you, even if you’re 99.9% sure. Blah blah blah. It’s a dumb point that you have no reason to make except propping you this narrative that people with high body counts are automatically cheaters, again, about someo…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 11:41 AM
1

Yes yes, and I can’t possibly know my husband never cheated, he can’t know I never did, we never know ANYONE hasn’t cheated, blah blah blah. I’ve know that particular ex for over a decade, we know each other very very very well, and I fully believe with all my heart and soul he did not cheat on me — though I won’t justify why I believe that so strongly to you, a random person who is nitpicking a narrative about my life and my ex — aka someone you do not know and will never meet — to prove some i…
/r/ExRedPill18/02/23 11:28 AM
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I have had a lot of sex. No one has asked me since I was 15 (and clearly a virgin)…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:13 AM
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It means exactly what you think it means LOL. Bc pretty much every other guy I’ve been with has clearly had a moderate/high body count (and similar attitudes towards sex as me) and none of them have ever cared at all (and I also have a high body count). I’m sure there are low body count/virgins who care for moral/religious reasons and aren’t hypocrites about it, and I’m sure there are some high body count men who genuinely do (hypocritically) care, but by & large it’s just low body count men who…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:11 AM
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Yeah I’m 26 and literally no one has asked me my body count since the first person I ever had sex with (and it was pretty clear we were both virgins, as we were 15/16). I’ve lived on multiple continents since then, multiple countries, big cities, and suburbs, liberal and conservative areas, and traveled extensively... And somehow body count still hasn’t come up… Seems like something about you/the people you’re dating is causing this to be a frequent thing you encounter lol. Not an age thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:05 AM
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I’ve had sex with a LOT of people and I can still tell you all of their first and last names… like… what is it you imagine? Everyone with a high body count is just blindly fucking everyone they come across?? Lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:55 AM
0

How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:54 AM
1

I’ve said this a hundred times now but the ONLY time it EVER came up in my life was with my literal high school boyfriend who I first had sex with (and I was his first). Like that’s it. And we were 15/16 freaking years old. It has literally never ever came up since then. Not even with the next boyfriend I had! This just isn’t a normal topic anyone brings up. Screening for promiscuous behavior? Sure. Asking about history with dating in general? Yep. Discussing topics like casual sex, cheating, mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:52 AM
1

They’re very clearly fake. You can go use ChatGPT yourself. It tells (bad) jokes about men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:52 PM
1

My ex who lost his virginity to me cheated because he felt like he missed out on exploring his options. My ex with a body count in the triple digits was very faithful and loyal through and through. We broke up for other reasons (moving continents, starting a grad program). Generally when people have a very high body count, it’s not the amount of sex that causes the issues — it’s the behavior that led to the high body count. So someone who is using sex to fill a void, self-harm, seek validation, …
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 12:51 AM
1

Only if they’re around frequently… and if they’re that terrible, why would she be around them much? I have awful grandparents and I saw them maybe once a year growing up. Some I wouldn’t see for years at a time. I definitely don’t have any of their traits, except whatever my parents would’ve picked up from them in their youth… and generally those were their better qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 12:04 AM
1

Okay well then don’t get hung up on “high end model” — I was more so describing his body (sharp, angular) with it anyway, and he’s English so “get the london look” meme came to mind since he very much has the gap tooth. I would specifically describe him as unique, but not attractive. To be blunt, I am a very traditionally attractive woman, and all of my friends, my sisters, a few coworkers, my parent, and even his own mom were surprised I was “taking a chance” on him because of the mismatch. I e…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 12:05 AM
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No, I said the closest thing I can describe is him looking like a high end fashion model, and I specifically said he is unique looking. You’ve never seen ugly high end fashion models? The point is that he is very angular and unique looking, would be good at displaying clothes. He is not attractive. No one on planet earth would call him conventionally attractive, and he would not reasonably be able to model, I just meant he has that type of frame and specifically memorable look. Jack Skellington-…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 11:35 PM
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You owe me $10 😭😭😭 He is hands down the ugliest one and anyone with eyeballs would agree. I’m not being a hater (he has plenty of things to hate on that aren’t his looks) but he is very clearly the ugliest by far. It isn’t even a contest. He was maybe a 3-4. The other guys are easily 7-10. And why would you even assume that? Lmao. Isn’t the whole thing on here that woman are soo shallow? You think I can’t tell when a guy is hot? One of my other 3 exes is a shitty guy, cheated on me, now literall…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 09:04 PM
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Yes, other people would be able to tell. The 3/4 have classic features that people generally find attractive, even though they are varying degrees of attractive. If you met these 3 men you would probably be able to say different traits that fit my “type” of man pretty quickly even though they look different and have different personalities and are even different races. For example, they all have some kind of facial hair, they are all very comfortable being funny (even though they have different …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:17 PM
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Ok? I wasn’t speaking on Valentine’s day. I was speaking broadly about the fact that most of Reddit comes with a U.S. POV, regardless of topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:01 PM
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I think this is the truth. Of the men I’ve dated, I found 3/4 attractive, all around. Their face, body, demeanor, attire, personality, voice, etc. was attractive to me. 1/4 was good looking enough but wasn’t the type of guy I would normally be interested in, if I was looking at a line up of random men to rank (for some reason). But that did not = having 0 attraction or desire for him. I still found parts of him attractive and I had desire for him, it just wasn’t the same as the other 3/4 men. Ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:59 PM
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My spouse and I do, only because it’s the anniversary of us getting together (on accident, and it’s a running joke between us now. We had a “will we won’t we?” thing going on for a month, and happened to hook up the night of Feb 13th and spend the night together… woke up in the morning oblivious to it being Vday, until we walked to get coffee and were bombarded by street vendors selling roses, cupid signs, hearts on our coffee cups, etc.) but we don’t do anything we wouldn’t have done had we got…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:48 PM
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A LOT of Reddit is U.S.-centric, not just takes on here, and it is glaringly obvious. Even many posts about other countries will be from a U.S.-perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:42 PM
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Her body and his body. Overall, one-third of infertility cases are caused by male reproductive issues, one-third by female reproductive issues, and one-third by both male and female. So male factor infertility is the issue or part of the issue in 30-60% of cases.
/r/RedPillWives15/02/23 03:45 AM
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Probably because 20% of men (in the US) is still almost 33 million men… so it’s not like it’s rare to know men above 6’0.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/23 11:30 PM
1

A lot of women tend to not respect men who make less than them? How does this = those women cheating 3x LESS than the men then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:39 PM
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Based on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:38 PM
2

Outliers??? 38% of American women outearn their husbands. That’s not an outlier — an outlier would be, say, <10%. I’d even say we could call 25% an outlier situation, just to be generous. But 38%?! That’s 2/5ths of women…. how is that an outlier?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:37 PM
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Right, it’s both “so easy” women should just do it and not complaint but some how also “not so easy” that men can just do it. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:26 PM
0

Empathy absolutely can be taught… what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:42 PM
2

??? The right thing is very straightforward: express your interest without putting all of your feelings on your friend, who may or may not reciprocate. If any of these men (well, most of them) had simply said, “Hey, you know, I’ve always had a bit of a crush on you and I’d love to take you out. What do you think?” I would’ve said yes to a date, to all but about 2. But none of them did this! Not one!!! All of them said various forms of “I’m in love with you.” which is simply not true or possible …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:41 AM
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But if you actually are putting yourself first, wouldn’t you want the best outcome most likely to succeed? Which would literally almost always be waiting for signs of mutual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:03 PM
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I’ve never — and I mean NEVER — had a long term guy friend just casually mention he think I’m cute, wants to go on a a date, he’s into me, let’s see where this goes, have I ever thought of him this way? etc. Every damn time, it’s been this huge production of “I’m in love with you!” “You’re my perfect girl” “We belong together” blah blah. Like what the fuck? It’s sooooo cringey and off putting. Whenever this has happened, all I hear is how they’re in love with this projection of me, this idea the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:49 PM
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Yep this is it. I absolutely would and have set my single friends up (not like, on a blind date, but invited them both to the same event/party and intentionally engaged them in a conversation before drifting away so they could hit it off if there’s mutual attraction) but there are certainly some men I know (and a couple women) who are good people and good friends but I wouldn’t risk setting them up with anyone. For example, one of my (male) friends literally vomited once when my (admittedly very…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:27 PM
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Ah I see. I still feel it’s polite. You aren’t saying the full truth (“You’re too thin/fat.”) because that’s rude; you’re saying it in the most socially acceptable way (“I’m flattered but not interested.”) to be polite. It’s also factual, but it’s more factual to say, “Your weight is the reason.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:15 PM
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I feel like that isn’t incompatible with what the OP said though… that is a normal way to reject someone imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 11:51 PM
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Yes… because people have preferences, that doesn’t mean that is a dealbreaker. You might like a woman with big breasts but if you met a woman who is perfect in every way for you except she’s got small boobs, you’re probably not going to dump her over that… A woman may ideally like tall men but if she met a man who is otherwise a great match for her, except he’s just average height, she’s not refusing to even consider talking to him… like that’s just not what happens irl at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:29 PM
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What do you mean by this? Someone asks you out but you don’t like their, say, weight. So instead of politely saying, “I’m flattered but not interested.” you say, “I’m flattered but your weight is too high/low, and that’s a dealbreaker so I’m not interested.” ???
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 06:22 PM
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The point was to use a condom AND pullout to be “doubly sure”. Not just pullout…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:08 PM
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Women in the West absolutely can be submissive. You are forced to be subordinate. That is NOT submission by choice, so it’s honestly meaningless. You would be harmed or ostracized or even killed for disobeying so your choice to obey means nothing but you value your own life and comfort, compared to the Western women who truly submit to their husbands out of 100% freedom and choice. I guess you wouldn’t understand that. I’ll keep your children and you in my thoughts.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 12:51 PM
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😂 No, it just sounds like you haven’t dated much or you dated a loooong time ago. Or you’re dating extremely unusually shallow women. I’m 26, and all of my relationships have been pretty equal until my marriage, which is only financially unequal because — at his desire — I am a stay at home mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:59 PM
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Smh I should deprive my man of bjs so I have an easy vday gift. Instead I’ve been out here painting one of our wedding pics and it’s taken me ages.🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:57 PM
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Anyone who says this, all I can think is you’re either 50 or 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:56 PM
1

Ooof. Those comments are rough. “The baby is the gift” as if the mom didn’t build and birth the whole baby herself!!! Tbh from a lot of mom groups I’m in, I actually do believe a lot of these men don’t even like their wives 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 01:42 AM
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By men on here, or irl? I’d avoid any man with that type of attitude lol. My man worshipped the ground I walked on when I got pregnant with his baby and took care of me so well through pregnancy and postpartum… not because I’m some entitled bitch who demanded it but because that’s the type of person he is and he’s genuinely grateful for the sacrifices I am making for our family that he literally can’t do and can never fully understand. Most men can’t even take over paying the bills while their w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:49 AM
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Yeah, we didn’t need a car with the first baby but this one makes a lot more sense to upgrade anyway. We have a Subaru which is fine with 1 baby and stroller, but 2 babies + double baby gear is not really gonna work anymore! My husband’s main way he shows love is actually acts of service, which meant a lot more postpartum as he made all these really nutrient-sense foods that were supportive for healing and breastfeeding… but the jewelry was very beautiful and special and lasts forever (a ring wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 12:45 AM
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My first baby, my husband got me jewelry for a push present. This second baby, he’s getting me a Telluride. 😛 I love the jewelry buuuut a mom car (but make it sexy) is definitely more on par with 18 months of pregnancy for both babies, 15 hours of unmedicated labor (+ what however long baby 2 takes), and 17 (and counting) months of breastfeeding. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Reproduction will never be 50/50 but many men don’t even try to make up the difference — and I don’t mean with expensive gifts, though, sure that…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:57 PM
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Not sure what you mean by this?? My husband took over 100% of the housework after I gave birth to our son. I was literally recovering from childbirth and breastfeeding… newborn babies breastfeed most of their waking hours….. like…….. why wouldn’t he take that over? What was he going to do, watch me breastfeed 12x a day?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 11:50 PM
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What are you talking about? Where did I say all women should serve….?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 09:24 PM
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How can you say that women reject 80-90% of men OLD or irl if you have no data to back it up, and the one study that does show something like this (which doesn’t say they reject 80% of men, but that they rank 80% of men in OLD as “below average” even though they still message the men in a much more equally distributed way) you say you don’t believe? And btw, OLD is different than irl dating because you only have looks and a couple of bio lines to judge on. Irl it’s much easier to have a whole pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:04 PM
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Absolutely. And they never believe “yes, some women can be bad, men some can be bad, and also some women and men can be healthy, good individuals” even though they’ll be the first to say “It’s not ALL MEN!” if women criticize men they’ve met.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 01:10 PM
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Okay well frankly I don’t care about your anecdotal experience about what you think women think, as I am a woman and know what at least myself and the women around me think and how we talk about men. So your speculation on what women think means nothing. If you have some legitimate evidence other than “source: trust me bro” then I’m all ears. Saying “I don’t believe the study that shows what I’m saying, I just believe it completely unrelated to the study, just trust me.” is not evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 01:07 PM
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They literally said women find “80-90% of men unattractive” … that’s coming from the OKC study where women rated 80% of men as below average, unless there’s another source you’d like to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:50 PM
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As I just said in my other comment to you, either you believe it or you don’t. You can’t say you believe the parts that say “women bad” but not anything on the men’s side. I agree, it’s not a good study. I mentioned it because the commenter I replied to said 80/20, which is largely brought into PPD from that OKC study.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:49 PM
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😂 Either you believe the study or you don’t. Can’t have it both ways, bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:48 PM
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So then where’s the evidence, aside from the OKC study that is widely cited on here?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:48 PM
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Oh okay, so we can all agree that this study is bunk? Can everyone shut up about the 80/20 shit then?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 12:37 AM
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Okay, so where’s the data that says anything different? The OKC data shows women rated most men (80ish%) as less than average, which is what you just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:36 PM
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Sure, except — while women rate men on dating apps less generously than men rate women, women message men more equally distributed than men message woman (men disproportionately message the women they rated most attractive.) Which actually shows exactly the opposite of what you’re saying. (X)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:25 PM
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Bro idek you and there’s a whole lotta projection going on here. I didn’t even see your og comment til after this. 😭 To elaborate, if you have ever seen the sub r/nothowgirlswork, you will see extreme examples of what I’m talking about. There was a post earlier where a man described this “mind blowing” sex he had recently had, where he alleges he ‘popped his dick through a woman’s cervix giving her a mind shattering orgasm so good her eyes rolled back into her head.’ Anyone who has actually had …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:42 PM
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Yep 100%. It isn’t about them lacking value for not pulling women — I know some virgin men or men who can’t get laid, and I don’t think less of them for that. There’s also some posters on here who are virgin/low n men/incels who are just fine. There’s a certain… energy some of these dudes carry that tells you everything you need to know about why they’re in the situation they’re in. They’re not gonna get it. It’s like when a guy who gets laid starts talking about female pleasure/orgasms in a spe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:02 PM
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Women with larger breasts are actually more likely to struggle with breastfeeding because breast size has very little to do with milk capacity (which is made on demand, anyway), and is much more about breast tissue — and more breast tissue can actually impede baby from latching as easily. This doesn’t mean larger-breasted women can’t breastfeed, but they do face more latch difficulties on average than smaller-breasted women. Essentially the point is that the idea of large milk capacity being nec…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/23 10:43 AM
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Yep, or take concepts we already have and flip it so it’s just “women bad.” “The one that got away…” (experience men or women can have) vs. “alpha widowed” (the exact same thing but allegedly ONLY women experience it because women bad.) Men actually cheat a bit more, but don’t worry, TRP will tell you all about “monkey branching” because women bad, and tell you have eVoLuTiOnARiLy men are supposed to “spread their seed”
/r/ExRedPill04/02/23 10:38 AM
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Love this. 😂 They always forget to add that this is exactly how evolutionary science works, too. It’s completely speculative.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/23 10:36 AM
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Pretty much this. TRP has some vague generalizations that are true enough (for example, most people are dating or married to people who are close enough in looks to them. Attractive and confident men with their finances in order do have an easier time with dating or casual sex.) but then they get into a lot of pseudo scientific BS to back it up — as well as their other more intensely TRP points. So there’s this false sense of “this makes sense” as you start looking at it with these more basic tr…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/23 10:35 AM
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It isn’t a lie, it’s just that most men who are 6s aren’t actually willing to settle for going after <3s regularly. And that’s what they have to do to get casual sex most of the time. Most people can date +/-1 pretty easily. Most women can pretty easily have casual sex +5 even, but most men can only have casual sex if they go -3 or more. You’re right that porn and media has rotted people’s brains, so these dudes who are very average don’t wanna settle for very below average women in order to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 10:00 AM
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Yes, many women will have casual sex at some point in their life but at any given time, there are more men looking than the current number of women wanting casual sex. So the odds are always in women’s favor when looking for casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:54 AM
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Yes, it’s easier for women to get casual sex IF they want it… that’s not contradicting the OP. As a woman, you walk into the club/get on the app, and you’re 1 of 5 other women in a room/app full of 100 men. The odds are literally in your favor… Do you think the 5 women should equally distribute sex among the 100 men…? For what purpose? “Being fair”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:53 AM
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If you actually believe YT videos of guys in Lambos “stealing” men’s gfs are real, you’re delusional lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:51 AM
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It’s not practical for most men to get extremely consistent casual sex. Most genuinely average guys will have casual sex… All these types of posts really make me wonder if most ppl on PPD went to college. Casual sex is extremely easy to get in college compared to any other time frame/place, even if you’re uglier. (Though probably not if you’re extremely below average.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:48 AM
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So… your point is “Yes PH has CP but so do other places!!!” ??? Thanks for proving my point — that deepfake CP will proliferate the internet even with anti CP laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:36 AM
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Right, and if I stab you, it’s not the knife killing you, it’s your blood loss… We can split hairs on the semantics but the point is that deepfakes (or the fallout from them) can and will cause irreparable damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:35 AM
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It’s actually not a sin in her religion… 🥴
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:10 AM
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Get a real feel for him? You do realize that child rapists are successful at grooming and abusing children because they groom entire families, right? Like, do you think pedophiles are all open about their disgusting perversions, and talk about when they’re triggered and wanting to rape a child?? Or do you think, maybe, perhaps, that they gain access to children to abuse by convincing the adults who are meant to protect those children that they are actually a safe adult?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:03 AM
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You really don’t even have to stop when it’s hot and heavy. You can literally get ongoing consent while it’s getting hot and heavy. “Do you like this? Is this alright? Can I touch you here?” etc. are all phrases that get consent — but the key is you should also very very very much be paying attention to body language and tone while asking this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 12:26 AM
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You already posted about this and got rightfully told this is fucking insane and your duty is to protect your young daughters FIRST AND FOREMOST. Submission is for men who are leaders. Your husband is endangering your daughters by trying to railroad you into letting a child rapist build a relationship with them. Some things are genuinely unforgivable. Raping a child is one of those things. You are welcome to support your husband in having a relationship with his (child rapist) brother. You’re ev…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:20 PM
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Female. No. Definitely not. I like masturbating but I LOVE sex with my husband. I love having sexual tension, leaning into sexual energy, just enjoying pleasure with him. It wouldn’t be worth it for a million. Maybe a billion, but it would still be such a sacrifice. I love all kinds of intimacy but sexual intimacy is something so specific and special, I really can’t imagine giving it up for the next 50+ years. Some things are worth more than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:06 PM
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Yeah absolutely true for sex. I have seen many hot babes fuck absolute losers because they were simply hot and it didn’t matter if the guy had a job or potential or whatever. I would still say it’s a bit later for men that 21-25, though. Maybe 23-28 ? Most of the guys I know who were really hot at 21 got hotter by 25 because they filled out, had broader shoulders, their faces matured just a bit, some had better facial hair by then, better personal style, etc. Relationships are diff though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:32 PM
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Well further up OP said that the only thing most women are good for is sex. Soo… at least it doesn’t seem to be a thing for this specific dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 03:03 AM
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unfortunately most women don’t have much to offer except sex Like, serious question, do y’all even like the women you date? Lmao. This is so out of touch. Why are you even dating women you feel like this about? If I had a man that could only offer me sex, or money, or whatever one (1) thing, I simply would not be with him. I wouldn’t even wanna be friends with him. Like why tf would you even entertain that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 02:58 AM
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You should at least be matching based on genuine mutual interest in looks… not because you’ve decided to spam swipe right on people you wouldn’t actually fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 02:14 AM
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Ah yes, the golden standard of data… likes on a Tweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:39 AM
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Notice how I didn’t say height has no impact?? Just that it is not as if women only look at height and then drool over a guy. If you read the comment I was responding to, the guy was literally saying he’s tall and a virgin, and that’s my point… women see height as a bonus, not a selling point by itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:29 AM
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100% this, wish I could upvote twice. If someone wants a home, they’ll buy from what’s available. If someone wants a relationship, they’ll seek that within what’s available. Likewise, if someone isn’t rushed to buy, they will simply wait and take their time, and if someone isn’t fussed about being married, they won’t rush and date a ton, but wait for the right person to happen across their path. Sometimes people settle (just a bit or significantly) in either scenario. Sometimes people never sett…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:00 AM
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You’re probs being too hard on yourself tbh — most people underestimate their attractiveness, and there’s lots of small things you could do to max on your features IF you’re interested in doing so. Finding the right clothing and hair style definitely makes a big difference. Not sure if you have ever watched Queer Eye but just seeing the difference a good fitting outfit and new hair/beard style does to man is incredible, without even changing his personality/game/features. The good news is: if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:56 AM
4

Do you… do you think arousal is voluntary for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:28 AM
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Yeah dude I’m sorry you’re struggling and I have to agree idk what this bullshit is with men on here (esp short men) thinking height is everything… I had a 6’ guy tell me the other day that 5’4 women have rejected him citing he isn’t tall enough for them. Which is just absolutely made up unless he’s only going after women who are 5’10 OR he’s being politely rejected. Maybe some women sort only by height, but the vast majority of women are filtering by other stuff with height being an added bonus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:28 AM
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Do you think all deepfakes are instantly recognizable…? Or that the tech won’t get increasingly impressive at fabricating reality? Do you think everyone understands deepfake technology? It’s not about being fired because someone made a deepfake of you. It’s about being fired because your Boomer boss doesn’t know what a deepfake is, and even if you can prove it’s a deepfake, it still takes time to prove it, and even once you’ve proven it to your boss or HR or whomever, that doesn’t un-fuck your r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 12:18 AM
1

Oof. You think porn is a way to learn how to make a woman cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:53 PM
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Seriously 💀 The way men talk about sex on here is so bizarre. I’ve never been with a partner that didn’t enthusiastically love making me orgasm. Like, if you’re just “using a woman’s body to cum” then what’s the point? 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:51 PM
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That doesn’t matter if you lose your job, your spouse leaves you, your parents see it, fake porn of your child circulates and you’re now having to legally defend that you didn’t actually sexually abuse your kid and it’s just fake, etc. Even if you prove it’s deepfake, how do you undo that level of damage?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:27 PM
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Doesn’t matter if the harm is already done. You might lose your job, then prove the porn of you is deepfake, so you get your job back. But do you un-damage your reputation? Do you genuinely think everyone will believe it was just a deepfake? What happens when deepfakes circulate of a politician, and they lose an election? Maybe it’s later determined it was a deepfake, but that doesn’t rewind time and make the election happen again fairly. Maybe someone makes deepfake porn of your kid, that’s pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:25 PM
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I’m not sure how you can say this so confidently about deepfakes when literal CP is on Pornhub…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 10:18 PM
1

Ah, yes. That must be it. Anyone who disagrees with you is simply so dumb, they can’t see how much smarter you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:26 PM
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Yes… because the women can afford to leave... what’s not clicking?
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 06:30 AM
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No literally. The takes on here that all women just hate all men is so out of touch. Most women just don’t trust random men they don’t know, but almost all women have loved ones who are men…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:55 AM
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Um, yes…… there a good and bad men and women… Where did she say anything otherwise? Saying “some men are bad and some are bad” ≠ saying “and all women are good”…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:53 AM
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Don’t worry, the inc*ls invade women’s spaces as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:52 AM
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Pretty simple: playing mind games with the explicit intention of sowing doubt, insecurity, and dread in your partner is emotionally abusive. If your wife got together with her girlfriends and all decided on a neat little 12 step plan to make you and their husbands worry they were cheating, leaving, etc., instead of just, idk, talking to you about what’s going on with her and you, how do you suppose you would feel?
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 04:28 AM
2

Except… you are defending them. Quite literally. She did not say “all men” and you took the statement about literal pedophiles to be about all men and JUMPED to defend them. Why? I don’t feel the need to defend women who are abusers or cheaters etc. despite being female as well…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:10 PM
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Well, gender socialization literally begins in utero. And parents — even well meaning, progressive, gender neutral parents who are trying to be conscious of their bias — are observed subtly treating their infants differently from birth. They talk to boys less, they hover over girls more, they use more feeling vs. action words with girls and more action vs. feeling words with boys, etc etc. Gender socialization becomes clear quite early on, too, somewhere in late infancy. There was a study done w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:32 AM
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there’s a lot of freaks not all men Babes she didn’t say all men 🤔 Consider why you felt identified with these creeps and felt the need to defend pedophiles when she very clearly did not say “all men” or even “men” but “a lot of freaks”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 06:16 AM
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Whatever is your style and is nice in that style. For some men, that will be street style with things like matching tracksuits and rare sneakers. For others, it would be nice pants and a flowy shirt French tucked. And still others it might be skinny jeans and tattoos and band tees and a flannel. No one that can’t see you/doesn’t know you can help you, but literally every category of style has low/middle/high tiers to it — and I’m not talking about price point (although often they correspond). Go…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:41 AM
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No literally lol. This is literally TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:32 AM
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Nah, not really, they probably have an advantage a bit later on when other men lose their hair, because someone who has been bald(ing) for a while is more likely to be confident about it than someone newly bald(ing). Or if a young bald(ing) man really owns it, then they’re only taking a little bit of a hit (as yes, most women prefer non-bald(ing) men). The issue is a young bald(ing) guy is more likely to be weird and insecure about it while young because it’s unusual/unexpected. A bald(ing) man …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:19 AM
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Plenty of people say “the one that got away” for someone they never got the chance to date. Like their best friend they never made a move on, situations like that. Both alpha widow and TOTGA are just describing the same range of experiences of being so wrapped up in the idea of someone that you’re missing out on other people actually in front of you for the idea of someone you lost or never had…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:15 AM
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Yep. It’s absolutely just “the one that got away” rebranded to make it a female-specific issue. Interestingly while I have definitely seen this with a few women, I’ve seen it with way more men. Most often it seems to be the person messed up in some way (they cheated, they weren’t ready for a relationship, they were too distant, they met them too young, etc.) and then regret it or wish they’d met later when they were older or more healed or less busy etc. This has always been a thing for some peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:24 PM
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Nah, it largely depends on how attractive they are in the first place and how much (or little) confidence they have about it. A 30 y/o who is bald is much more common than a 20 y/o who is bald, so assuming they’re equally attractive in the face, the 30 y/o will probably do better because it isn’t as jarring and unusual. Every balding or bald guy I’ve met in their 20s just looks saaaad because they know they’re balding early, and they’re generally MUCH more insecure about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 09:39 PM
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Yes and…? Why do you think we are disagreeing?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 05:45 PM
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Never said anything else. Men & women both have a place in the problem. That doesn’t mean that the problem doesn’t exist, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:25 PM
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I had been vaguely aware of the concept of TRP for quite a long time. I came across PPD at some point and ended up actually reading TRP for context (which btw, I think should be required before posting, as an aside). Stuck around PPD to discuss. I really like sociology so it’s pretty fascinating in a “people watching” kind of way. I also have two young sons so it is important to me to hear all kinds of perspectives — my husband doesn’t relate in any way to a lot of the extreme TRP or blackpill o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:47 PM
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Aw, name calling. Cool! Actually, I asked him for clarity from the get go that he was unwilling to give. So the “debate” never got off the ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:19 PM
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My parents have been together some-35 years and are very much in love, can’t keep their hands to themselves, and would absolutely describe their relationship as full of happiness. They (a bit grossly, as their kid, if I’m being honest) very much lust after each other. Even more so since they’ve been empty nesters. Virtually everyone’s life is more monotonous when they’re middle aged… Why does that matter? Life is mostly monotonous with bits of spark and excitement. Most of life is boring, everyd…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:27 AM
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Bro the phrasing could just as easily be “let’s close to orgasm gap by having men orgasm less” but I think it’s pretty clear why that8/‘t the outcome any of us want?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:23 AM
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Again, you’re just saying “men orgasm more but maybe it’s just supposed to be that way.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:17 AM
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😂 You are literally just saying “yes men orgasm more but it’s supposed to be that way.” Convenient, isn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:10 AM
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See, you are just saying “men are supposed to orgasm more often than women.” which is a ridiculous take. Height is not controllable and automatically happens to be disturbed the way it is distributed; having an orgasm is controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:52 AM
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Except the men and women are having sex with each other. So… per het sexual encounter, men orgasm more frequently than women do. We aren’t wondering who or what we are talking about. We are comparing the people engaged in the sexual encounters together. And you know this, you’re just being deliberately obtuse despite having already confirmed you do indeed understand that het women have less orgasms during sexual encounters than het men do (in those same sexual encounters.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:51 AM
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Right, and either way you slice it, men have more orgasms than women, women orgasm less than men, so there is an orgasm gap between men and women…….
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:44 AM
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Ah so you do know there’s an orgasm gap, you’re just apparently working under the assumption it’s supposed to be like that. Got it…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:37 AM
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narrrr this is so fucking funny💀
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 12:32 AM
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So you believe women orgasm as frequently as men do in het sex…? Across the board…?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 11:28 PM
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Yeah ummm sorry but 170 undergrads don’t really have much experience with long term relationships OR high sexual communication skills so I’m much more inclined to believe the 10K+ study that says relationship/sexual satisfaction plays a massive role in sexual interest. I’ve been screaming this on this sub and anywhere else it’s relevant but women (and men) are highly motivated by things that feel good. And orgasms feel really good. If a woman is having orgasmic and pleasurable sex, she’s going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 11:26 PM
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Bro I met you 10 min ago, I’m not taking homework from you, especially considering your first article did not show what you claimed. A height difference preference from women for 8” means avg height US women being 5’3 want men 5’11. Not “men 6’3 or taller!!!1!!!1” And considering 5’3 is AVERAGE female height, that means 50% of women are shorter than that and an 8” height difference would be a man <5’10. Avg US male height is 5’9. AND THESE ARE PREFERENCES, not how people actually mate. No one is…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:38 PM
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That is NOT how natural selection works 💀 It is not something you can observe in a couple generations, there is no agenda, mutations are random, and would have to have an evolutionary advantage for a niche. Much much much more likely it’s modern influence from media and culture, NOT evolution, which you clearly do not understand. Also, your study doesn’t show what you think it does. 1. It’s a student sample, so that isn’t showing how people actually partner up. and 2. The optimal height differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:23 PM
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Not a feminist, absolutely lean red pill, I just am not a fucking idiot and know only 15% of men are above 6’ and somehow magically more than 15% of men are in relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:15 PM
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Ohhh gotcha so now you’re saying that at 6’, women are not just telling you that they don’t like short men, they’re actually including you in the category of short men? 💀 I’m gonna press X to doubt. Unless you’re dating some who are 5’10, no women are telling you you’re too short at 6’. Cute manufactured outrage tho! Have you considered not making shit up and just being upset about actual things that are really happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 03:33 PM
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Why’s that? Because I don’t think men who haven’t served get to claim some kind of special attention for serving, which they did not do?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 03:31 PM
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Yep, the tallest men in my bio family are about 5’7 and all of them have done just fine…… they simply date/marry short women, except my uncle who is about 5’7 and married my 5’11 aunt. & of course women tell you they like tall men; you’re tall??? do you think a woman is going to tell a tall man “short men really do it for me”? I bet if you’re brunette you don’t often have women say, “you know, really I prefer blondes”…… I love a good beard but I obviously didn’t point that out to my ex who didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 04:25 AM
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Married Red Pill. You know, the less misogynist of TRP men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:38 PM
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Okay, and?? Why would the top 20% of women care about the bottom 10th-80th percentile, when they can simply be with the top 20% of men? And as if the top 20% of men give a fuck about the bottom 90% of women…??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:59 AM
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what are you even trying to say here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:57 AM
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And, what, MRP talking about how to take your wife and “build your slut” is… chivalrous??? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:53 AM
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It’s not though. You may be able to look better in photos than you do irl, but you’re still going to look more or less like you. It’s going to be very obvious within a few min of videochatting or on a date if you completely changed your photos or catfished. When chatting, you can simply bold faced lie and I have no way to know 99% of the time. “Oh I’m an only child.” but you have 3 siblings. “I work at X.” when you do not, in fact, work there, or even in that field. “I went to (University.)” whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah, I’m a Zoomer, I had a couple friends who dated guys 5+ years older briefly while in college, but it was rare and literally none of them stayed with these men. Most of the (Zoomer) married couples I know are actually within a year of age from each other. I’m 4 months older than my husband, though I guess 4 months is pretty negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:40 PM
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You can only lie so much with a photo. Unless you’re literally posting pics of someone else, the pic is you. It will be easily verifiable on video chat alone, let alone on a date, if you actually look like your photos. With chatting, you can say anything you want???
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:03 PM
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Most (US) women are not single. 30% of women (of all ages) are single. 32% of women ages 18-29 are single. 27% of women ages 30-49 are single. 63% of single women 18-29 are looking to date vs. 37% not looking to date. 61% of single women 30-49 are looking to date vs. 39% not looking to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:42 AM
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No, they’re just not in my friend group and I don’t hang out with many strangers… when my friends bring along people I don’t know, they’re generally either couples or women/men who are otherwise normal, like the rest of us. When I was in college and high school and was around more random people, I definitely saw more men who struggled with dating/sex. But it’s no big secret why… they were below avg appearance-wise or socially. Avg ppl don’t struggle as hard as every other dude on PPD likes to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 07:20 PM
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Or you could learn to read. Both men I know that struggle don’t struggle with getting laid or relationships. One dates women who do drugs, like him, which leads to… less than desirable women he’s picking. The other idk what goes on but considering 3/3 of his last LTRs were very toxic, it’s either him picking wrong or him doing something wrong. 1 toxic relationship? Could be a fluke, bad luck. 3 in a row? Yeah you need to work on something. I’d say the same to any woman who had 3 toxic exes in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:35 PM
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No, they do not struggle with getting in relationships, they struggle with maintaining a long term relationship. One of them even dates long term but is seldom happy for long. I can’t say exactly why he struggles with LTRs — he doesn’t struggle with sex when he is single. But he’s just not had good luck with his last 3 LTRs, all have been pretty toxic early on and stayed that way til they broke up. So yes, I assume it is something about him picking women that have these bad qualities OR somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:14 PM
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I genuinely don’t know any men who meet the criteria you said (or more) and want a relationship but can’t get one. I know a couple guys like that who have had a few bad relationships but since I have never dated them, I kinda assume that’s something happening in their romantic life I’m not privy to (like they are picking these women they aren’t compatible with, or they are doing something I wouldn’t see that is causing issues with their partners, etc.) / one parties a lot, and that’s def a huge …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:06 PM
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Ah, right, you’re one of those. Well good talk, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:35 PM
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What could women stop doing that could instantly end our civilization? You… you can’t be serious. Oh, idk, maybe gestate and birth every single human that has ever lived ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 11:31 PM
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So what are any others that actually matter? Saying something that the majority of men will never do is not really much of a responsibility. It’s a hypothetical possible responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:33 PM
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Feminists aren’t arguing for women to be included because 1. they largely advocate for the draft to not be a thing at all, and 2. no man has been drafted since 1973. Soooo what’s your point? The US is an entirely voluntary service and has been for 50 fucking years. We don’t need selective service in the US because the voluntary rate is high enough. The scale of crisis that we would have to be at for there to be another draft is so incredibly high that it is ridiculous to even talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:37 PM
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If you’re ugly, then yes, improving your personality, EQ, etc. is quite literally all you can do to be appealing to women who are in the same looks threshold as you. Ugly men can’t compete against pretty men for pretty women. If you’re a pretty man, and you find yourself striking out, then yes, all you can do is work on your personality, etc. So where is this advice going wrong…? Or are you looking for actionable advice on how, as an ugly person, you can somehow magically become appealing to pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:21 PM
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It doesn’t really need to be stated because it’s quite obvious to anyone who has ever dated... People mostly date people they find physically attractive… this cannot be the first time you are hearing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:16 PM
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You misunderstand. The point I am making is that this is a learned trait. What we call masculine vs. feminine is cultural and social. Some cultures consider makeup to be masculine, for example. Historically pink was a strong and masculine color and blue was soft and feminine. In some cultures, men wear skirts. In some cultures, men have sex with men and it is considered manly to do so. At a lower level, cooking is considered feminine and most family cooking is done by women, yet at a professiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:15 PM
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I’ve identified your problem. Have you considered something cooler or cuter? Perhaps a peacock or a snow leopard?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:02 PM
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There’s nowhere in the OP she mentioned looks not mattering. Everyone knows looks matter, or at least that being attracted to each other matters. (I certainly know men and women I personally consider ugly who are in relationships or married to people who seemingly find them attractive. (Typically I wouldn’t find either of the partners attractive.)) The entire post is about how simply being employed is not enough, like it (more or less) was at one point. It reads to me like there’s an implied [As…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:01 PM
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I assume you’ve served then, of course? Because I — a woman — have served in my military. So you better have your money where your mouth is if you’re complaining about this. You do realize in most countries most men don’t serve, right…? Or are males just going to keep riding the coattails of their forefathers who fought in war, without actually doing so themselves? I’m not familiar with Ukraine’s military but in the US only 1% of the population serves in the military. So while more men serve, MO…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:52 PM
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Stoicism isn’t an inherently masculine way of being, as evidenced by the fact men have to learn and practice it, and the fact that women are equally as capable of doing so. Sorry but it’s just your belief that men should be stoic. It isn’t an inherent feature of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:45 PM
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No, they aren’t based on “childish” whims. For all you know, she spent the last 20 years dreaming and preparing to move to Paris, he just didn’t take her seriously and thought it was a pipe dream, until she actually went to do it. Maybe they debated having kids and one of them finally said, “I don’t want to have them after all.” and the other cut their losses. How is that childish? People make informed and thoughtful decisions to change careers all the time. Maybe the pandemic crashes one of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:44 PM
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Just because there’s a 1st filter of attraction doesn’t mean there’s not a 2nd filter of personality, EQ, etc. ?? Do you really need that spelled out for you…? Men and women alike vet for attraction first. Obviously. After that, they get to know the person and vet for other qualities. Just bc those qualities differ generally b/w men and women, and from person to person, doesn’t mean anything. People like to be attracted to their partners. Do you think women should stop vetting for attraction…? B…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:13 AM
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Every goddamn day I see this kind of comment about men “don’t want fatties” etc. on here and it’s like… (American) men are just as fat as the women!!! Obesity is an epidemic in the US, most of Europe, even most of South America. Like??? It’s not as if the obesity epidemic is solely females and these poor skinny men have to settle. The men are just as fat!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:01 AM
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So post the actual stats that show this. That women swipe on guys around 30 and men swipe on women around 23. One 29 year old guy’s anecdotal experience is not data supporting your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:53 AM
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Yeah, that’s why I don’t get what the point of this is. There’s no secret magic giveaway. It’s pretty easy to figure it out by just… asking…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:06 AM
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“talking about killing men or aborting males” LOL you do know that men actually commit femicide and force their wives to selectively abort female fetus (or just kill off the female infants at birth), right? Like idk, maybe you heard something about the whole gender imbalance in China???
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:03 AM
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these qualities are not appreciated by women until they want to “settle down” and that a lot of good men have been partnered by then. So… who exactly are these men partnering with then, if not women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:24 AM
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Maybe your spirit is just kind of lame then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:21 AM
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Go on then. What are these masculine ways men emote, compared to the feminine ways women emote?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:19 AM
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Okay and in my experience, women who say this are aware enough to be meeting the same standards themselves. Guess it’s a wash. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:17 AM
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Women won’t budge an inch on taking up the responsibilities that come with their new rights. Responsibilities like what, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:13 AM
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Yes… everyone does this. Men also don’t date and marry women they find ugly. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:11 AM
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Why do you say this isn’t true? She didn’t say all men are like this, just that men have always left her when she’s gotten sick.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 01:47 AM
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I’m asking in good faith. Genuinely, what behavior is it you think would indicate that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 12:21 AM
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People end serious relationship because of different directions all the time… Maybe he decided to join the military and didn’t want to be a military wife. Maybe he expected them to have children asap and she didn’t want kids, or maybe the reverse is true. (Wanting/not wanting kids is a huge deal breaker.) Maybe she wanted to quit her job and become an artist in Paris and he didn’t want to move to Paris, learn French, uproot his job, support a struggling artist while she found her footing. Maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 12:18 AM
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Bro, even if your statement is “women get desensitized to oxytocin” it is WRONG. That does not remotely happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:24 AM
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NOTHING you said is remotely accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:39 AM
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I got married at the end of 2020. And the majority of my peers and friends are not married, many are single. Do you think when ppl get married they live under a rock? Like my husband locked me in a closet and none of my single friends share anything about their lives with me? The last big change to dating was OLD… OLD changing slightly (you mentioned Tinder being different) is not really relevant. Tinder when it was first made vs. Tinder today is virtually the same. It works the same, it does th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:46 AM
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Sure, new things happen that change the dating market every so often. These things do not happen year to year. And these things do not change people’s underlying behavior, which is the crux of TRP btw, since it’s, you know, built on the idea of evolution which happens over hundreds and hundreds of years and many generations, NOT year to year.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:30 AM
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Lol I know, that’s the POINT. You realize how ridiculous it sounds for a terper to say “dating changes year to year”??? 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:43 PM
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So what, you’re a blue piller? Bc you do realize that your belief dating changes so much year to year invalidates literally everything about TRP’s “evolution” arguments, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:31 PM
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Happy cake day!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:12 PM
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The point is that weight isn’t the only thing that factors into attraction, and in the US (and most European countries, and many S American countries) most women are overweight, but so are most men. So if a thin dude is competing for a small amount of thing women, he has to actually be able to compete. Simply “not being overweight” quite literally isn’t enough… as I said, an ugly thin person may still be overall seen as much less attractive than a hot person who happens to be fatter, male or fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:50 PM
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Sigh. Most (US) women are overweight… so are most (US) men. So yes, it’s hypocritical to say, as a fat man, you won’t date fat women. I mean, you’re welcome to your preferences, as is everyone else, but stating your preferences open them up to criticism. Don’t want or can’t handle that criticism? Simply don’t state your preference. No one is asking you (or anyone) anyway. And I would bet a million dollars no one has ever 1. asked OP “do you find fat women attractive?” irl, and then 2. when he sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 01:49 PM
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I’m gonna be honest. The most blatantly confident (with women) man I know is a gigantic stoner who barely made it out of high school, joined the army then dropped out as soon as possible (to get back to smoking weed, his one true love), has worked in and out of various fast food joints most of his adult life, joined college twice and dropped out twice, now lives in a state where it’s legal to grow weed (his one true goal in life), and he is about 5’7 on a good day. He simply believes he deserves…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:21 PM
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Being the only woman in a house of men/boys means the thermostat is constantly lower than I’d ever put it at… except when I’m pregnant (your basal body temp rises and stays up while pregnant because your body is doing more work through pregnancy), then I’m on par with them. Unfortunately for my temperature situation, I’m currently pregnant with another boy. So once he’s out, I’m right back to being perpetually a couple degrees too cold!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:17 PM
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I agree most people are in comfort relationships, but I think it’s like (roughly): 1/3 are comfortable AND attracted/have lust for each other. Note: this attraction/lust may ebb and flow, but it’s always there, and can be rekindled in a difficult phase of life. 1/3 are comfortable and used to have lust but it fizzled. They’re still happy enough and comfortable enough OR they’re not that happy but the risk of leaving a comfortable relationship is higher than the reward to them. (Sometimes because…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:13 PM
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Hard agree. I am very comfortable and in love with my husband, our relationship is very stable and predictable, but we are still very much attracted to each other in all ways. You see comfortable couples who hate each other and don’t have attraction for each other all the time, certainly. (I’d even say I see a good portion of relationships like this, maybe 1/3?) As someone very much comfortable and ALSO attracted to my partner, it’s hard to explain, but when we meet another couple that truly lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:09 PM
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And many of the women here were married in the last couple of years and are very much still around dating culture… why are you assuming all of them married almost 20 years ago?? Most commenters are under 30, even the married ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:03 AM
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I notice in the South/Midwest US, the men at a base level could be equally attractive but they have no sense of style at all, compared to the women they’re with who are equally base level attractive, so even without a lot of makeup etc., the men just look… very country and rural? compared to the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:01 AM
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Your comment makes it sound like the avg man is fit and the avg woman is obese. But it’s not so — avg men and avg women (in the US) are both overweight. So… you can use this both ways. Not to mention that regardless of weight (on a small scale), people’s actual attractiveness differs. So there are uglier and hotter fat and thin people. A beautiful woman who is a little overweight may be less attractive than a beautiful women who is not overweight, but she would still be more attractive than an u…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:59 AM
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Statistically “usually the guy is tall” is just… not true. Unless you mean “taller than the woman,” of course, or unless you’re quite short? (See edit) The avg male height in CA is 1.78m / 5ft 10in. The avg female height in CA is 1.65m / 5ft 5in. That height difference is noticeable, sure, but no one would look at a couple of these heights and think the guy is very tall compared to her… Can’t find the % of men taller than 1.82m / 6 ft. in CA but… in the US, avg male height is 1.75m / 5ft 9in and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:52 AM
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Agree with this, I’m 26, and I’ve lived all over the world. Currently in midwest US, mid sized (red) city but just recently moved from NE US, major (blue) city. Grew up mainly in Germany and Spain but have also lived in Brazil, Puerto Rico, Scotland, and several other US states (mainly eastern US, not just east coast but I’ve never lived on the western half of the US.) It’s more pronounced the more rural you go in the US in my experience. In bigger cities, couples are more likely to be equally m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:42 AM
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Oh, look, you’ve gone from saying there are ‘no women on here who respect men’ like this commenter saying to ‘well those women shouldn’t even comment here anyway!’ Lmao. Of course. Typical. Do you think married women were… born married? Perhaps they… idk… had to date to get married?? Hmm…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:40 AM
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Ohhh you’re the woman that believes women can’t feel sex LMAO. You should indeed see a doctor. That is abnormal. You saying “I’m just telling the truth!” as if you’re nOt LiKe OtHeR giRLs is actually just… sad. No woman says that penetration is the best sensation of sex. In fact, there’s a TON of memes, content, etc. of women saying: “THE CLIT! GO FOR THE CLIT!” “Men can never find the clit” blah blah. Women that are size-queens are stimulating the clit internally (some ppl call this “the g spot…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:31 AM
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Do you legitimately believe women are asexual…..?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:25 AM
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Wtf are you talking about? There are mainly married women in this sub, who openly talk about loving their husbands and having equal relationships with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 09:51 AM
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She would be gone 6 weeks. That’s at best missing 1 cycle, at worst 2. She’s not trying postpone for years. This is a difference of ~4 weeks in a due date, assuming she conceives on the first try. That’s hardly valuing the trip more than their children. People postpone TTC for 6 weeks for much more minor things, like preferring a spring baby over a winter baby, or wanting to finish a home renovation project, or closing a big deal at work.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 07:17 PM
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Don’t worry bro, I wasn’t even CONSIDERING apologizing 💀 Again, if ANYTHING you were saying was true, mothers wouldn’t be able to bond with their babies, breastfeed their babies, give birth without c-section, etc. and would love each child less and less because they’d be “desensitized” to the oxytocin… and yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 07:06 PM
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Right? It’s one of those things that doesn’t make any sense when you think about it for more than 5 seconds. And every “study” that backs it up is funded by religious abstinence only groups and/or religious pro-life groups… definitely NO conflicts of interest there!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:40 PM
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There are lots of studies that show having lots of sex ruins your oxytocin production, making birth, breastfeeding, bonding with your baby, bonding with animals, partners, etc. difficult to impossible? Hmmm. Press (X) to doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:45 PM
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I didn’t say all men are dumb dumb idiots. There are plenty of dumb dumb idiot women too, bud. You think all men or women are smart? They aren’t, and it’s not hateful to acknowledge that, especially when a dumb dumb idiot starts saying dumb dumb idiot stuff sooo loud and proud.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:38 PM
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Aww, you must be one of those dumb dumb idiot men I mentioned. Didn’t mean to upset you, bud!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:59 AM
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As to oxytocin, that is the reason modern Western women can't stably pair bond to men. Her n count is so high that oxytocin induced bonding is long gone by the time she lies and repeats her marriage "vows" for the first time. I love when dumb dumb idiot men say this kind of shit on here. It is painfully obvious you have no idea what you’re talking about. So loud and yet so wrong. If this were true — that lots of sex impairs your ability to pair bond because “oxytocin bonding is long gone” — wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 03:50 AM
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LMFAO. “Men posting underage sex abuse material is fine, it’s not on FB!!!! WOMEN are posting public dating info on FB!!!! Fucking MONSTERS!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:58 PM
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Yeah, young women are still living at home well into their 20s too. It’s because the economy is in the toilet and living is extremely expensive compared to 20, 40, 60 years ago. Not going to college isn’t dropping out of society. If you have a job or someone else has a job supporting you, if you have to buy things, if you have to ever interact with anyone, you are still very much in society. Until droves of men go live off the grid in the woods or desert, they’re still in society, I’m so sorry t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:57 PM
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Men aren’t going to drop out of society LMFAO.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 02:12 AM
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This is so fucking out of this world wrong that I can’t even begin to comprehend that you idiots actually believe this. You do know men by and large don’t even get punished for non-consensually sharing nude photos and videos (sometimes even TAKEN without consent) online? 😂 Literal underage child sexual abuse material of 14 year old girls will be uploaded and reuploaded to PornHub and NOTHING is done. But sure, sure. I’m sure that THIS is where the law will draw the line! When men post screenshot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 12:38 AM
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You’re missing the point. The point isn’t “men dumb, women smart.” I think it’s dumb as hell women fake orgasms. But the reality is: they often do. And of course every man on earth thinks he’s one of the men that a woman has never faked an orgasm with. I mean, you’re just sooo perceptive. You know exactly what a fake orgasm looks like. No woman could fool YOU. It must be all those other men they’re faking it for, right? That’s why, as I mentioned, if you ask any of your buddies, all of them have…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 11:26 PM
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Man doesn’t believe women can convincingly fake orgasms. I’m sooo shocked. 🥱 I know, I know. You don’t wanna believe there’s some way women could trick you with this, because you don’t wanna think you may not be able to tell if an orgasm is fake, and that just might mean that you haven’t actually made all these diff women orgasm. Somehow every man thinks he’s made almost every partner cum… and yet every woman says most men don’t make her cum, and thus we have an orgasm gap. So who do you think i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 09:01 PM
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No, you’d be paying 50% for a child that isn’t yours if married and unknowingly raising a baby that isn’t yours. Which no, isn’t fair. And no one is saying it is. Just that it isn’t any worse than a man cheating and fathering a child outside of the marriage. In most divorced or never married couples, the custodial parent (which is MUCH more often the mother, as agreed upon outside of court by the mother and father in 94% of cases) pays 70% while the non-custodial parent (most often fathers) pays…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:54 PM
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Almost like there are both shallow men and shallow women. And the point was that saying “keep that energy for women!” is ridiculous when, well, that energy is very much brought and brought down HARD on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:27 PM
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Even if men have a housewife, alimony is most commonly awarded just 1 year for every 3 years the wife was dependent. So unless this guy is old and had a lifelong SAHW, he’s MAYBE looking at 1-2 years of alimony, MAYBE. Most often, alimony isn’t awarded at all, even if the wife stayed home, assuming she doesn’t have some compelling reason she cannot work immediately post-divorce (injury, newborn baby, etc.) It’s just a flashy scare tactic men tell each other. “I know a guy who knows a guy who los…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:48 PM
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Seriously. Esp a woman they’re just having sex with for the first time, who they have no context for her usual orgasm. It is not hard AT ALL to convincingly fake an orgasm as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:43 PM
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I am so sorry to be the one to tell you this but no, you can’t reliably tell when a woman you don’t know is faking an orgasm. Maybe you can reliably tell with a woman you regularly have sex with. But a woman you’re having sex with for the first time? Nope. Not a chance in hell. And (unfortunately) many women do indeed fake orgasms during hookups for a variety of reasons. Wanting to hurry things along, feeling insecure it’s taking them awhile to cum, feeling pressure to perform good sex, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:42 PM
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No literally. 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:39 PM
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While I understand this may sound theoretically plausible, and some women definitely do keep babies regardless of the circumstances of their conception, most abortions are performed on married women, and most abortions are performed so discreetly that it would not raise much suspicion, particularly for a woman who was able to hide an affair just a few weeks prior. Pew Research Center says most abortions are done by taking a pill. You can literally mail order abortion pills. It’s very discreet. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:36 PM
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No, they aren’t. I’m sorry, seems like you may be thinking of 50 years ago when alimony was common? It is now awarded in less than 10% of divorces, and on avg in those cases, it’s awarded for about 1 year for every 3 years of marriage where one spouse was dependent on the other spouse. This may matter if you’re currently 65 and divorcing, but it doesn’t matter if you’re 30 and divorcing. If you recall from my previous comment, over 50% of SAHPs (men AND women) only stay home 0-2 years. Which mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:26 PM
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Ultimately, the overall economic quality of a man's life, based on earnings and amount spent on living expenses, increases after his divorce. He continues to earn more but bears fewer family expenses. The overall economic quality of a woman's life, post-divorce, decreases. According to a study published by the U.S. Government Accountability Office, women's household income fell by an average of 41% following a divorce, while men's household income fell by only 23%. (X) Considering more men make …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:55 PM
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I’m not backtracking, you just don’t understand a common phrase apparently. 😂😂 And you think it matters if your dick is big in this scenario? Cumming to other men fucking actual women is pathetic and beta, whether you have a 2 in. dick or a 10 in. one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:46 PM
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75% of US families are dual income, most often men are the breadwinner, split about 60/40. Of the 25% of families that have a SAHP, about 16% of them are fathers, meaning that the mother is the SOLE income, and only about 20% of homes have exclusively a male breadwinner with a SAHM. Over 50% of SAHPs stay home just 0-2 years. (Note: this includes SAHMs and SAHDs.) 40% of women are the breadwinners of the family vs. 60% of men. The gap in income between married couples is <$30K (either in the mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:42 PM
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Right and unless the husband intends to never see his affair child, the wife is very much going to be around and likely involved in the care of this child some of the time. This is her children’s sibling. The husband’s time and money is now split another way because he chose to cheat. Her children will grow up and come to learn their dad stepped out on their mom. Or they’ll get divorced and she bears the financial burden of divorce and single motherhood now, because he stepped out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:30 PM
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It’s awful either way, but at least a cheating wife has full control over the outcome of her actions (at least in half of the world). A cheating husband is just, what, hoping and praying the mistress doesn’t get knocked up, or if she does, she’ll abort it? Really irresponsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:28 PM
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This argument is so stupid. If the man knocks a mistress up and is then paying child support, then YES, the wife is also suffering the loss of that money and time from her own family with the husband. She may very well have to be around the affair child when husband has custody. Her kids will grow up knowing dad couldn’t keep his dick in his pants. The family is fucked because of his actions. They very well may get divorced, meaning an additional financial burden on the mother, and divorced moth…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:26 PM
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Your wealthy friends families are… somehow exacting some kind of meaningful punishment against random women who don’t give their sons the time when asked on demand? Seems like a colossal waste of time and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:19 PM
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So it’s catastrophic for the boys but somehow it’s the women that will suffer? Yeah, this sure seems like a real and legitimate threat. What’s the mechanism this works by then? Boys are taught they’re de facto predators so they’ll… grow up and become predators just to show all us women whose the boss?? Lmfao. Go touch grass fr. This is not a legitimate issue irl. Like seriously, you sound chronically online if you TRULY believe schools are indoctrinate young boys to believe these things. Most pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:12 PM
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If that info is hypothetically accessible to ANYONE then it isn’t private info. It’s public. Guarantee when you upload to the site, in the terms & agreements, you’ve signed away the right to this info being protected in any way. So by your logic, if I’m on Tinder and I come across my sister’s bf trying to cheat, I can’t screenshot it and share because I’ve just doxxed him? Lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:10 PM
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Not to mention it’s not like women really support other women. 😂 Women as a whole are marginally less misogynistic than men as a whole. Men on this forum even say “women are the biggest slut shamers” and while I disagree from my own experience, it is absolutely true plenty of women slut shame, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:08 PM
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Lol. Keep that energy for men then too babes! If you post something online, it’s online. If you post something on a dating forum that is literally accessible by ANYONE, you have given up the expectation of privacy. Your mom, boss, ex gf, neighbor, professor, your fucking grandma can all hypothetically see the photos and info you’ve decided to PUBLICLY post.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:06 PM
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I didn’t mean physically small penis. I said “sad little dick.” You might see a homeless hungry German Shepherd in the rain and go, “Oh, poor little dog.” Doesn’t mean the dog is physically small. But this is a semantic argument because… no one cares how big or small your dick is. It’s pathetic and beta either way. Maybe more so if you have a big dick, actually. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:04 PM
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For social media, yes. For groups + marketplace, it is very much used by Gen Z, Millennials, & Gen X.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:01 PM
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Groups + marketplace basically but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:01 PM
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Wait, you… you think you sitting alone in the cold, blue glow of your laptop screen while you squeeze your sad little dick watching other men fuck actual women is… “lining up the whores and showing them their place”? 😂😂😂 Oh yeah! You sure owned those sluts when you came all over your own stomach!! That’ll show them!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:00 PM
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🥱 So trite and boring. If you state your preferences, anyone can criticize them. Welcome to a free country (or the free internet, I guess)! If you can’t handle criticism of your preferences, here’s a tip: simply keep them to yourself. Wow! What a concept!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:58 PM
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This is so fucking ridiculous, it’s actually funny. There is NO school curriculum teaching what this commenter is asserting. Just like there’s no school curriculum teaching girls “your only worth is your fertility and beauty!” even though that may a message leftover in society. Claiming schools and colleges are teaching this stuff is hilarious false. If you want mens and boys issues to be taken seriously, maybe start with actual problems and stop trying to manufacture rage. Because what’s the ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:56 PM
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How do you figure? If I PUBLICLY post something, it’s not very PRIVATE to be doxxed, is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:52 PM
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Men already very much do that. And no, I wouldn’t be comfortable with it, but that isn’t what I said, is it? I said it isn’t DOXXING. Which it isn’t. A dating profile is public. Anything on it, I PUT ON IT, knowingly, out on the internet, where anyone can see it. A hot guy, a weirdo who wants to jerk off to my pics, a petty guy who wants to post it to make fun of me, even my own dad could come across my profile. Dating profiles aren’t private. Sharing them isn’t doxxing someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:51 PM
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I don’t make a point of classifying the levels of beta it is, but yeah, sure, I guess it’s less beta to watch a woman than it is to watch a man fuck a woman. It’s still jerking off to pixels of a woman rather than… fucking a woman? Nothing’s wrong with a little porn btw. That’s not my point. My point is men that have a real live woman they have sex with less than they jerk off to watching digital content of women they’ll never meet or touch, let alone fuck, is pathetic. And a looooot of men have…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:49 PM
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I agree, I love hearing women (or men!) talk about this because so many people believe it’s inevitable attraction dies in LTRs. It’s so normalized, it’s sad. I don’t relate at all, I’ve only grown more attracted to my man through the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:47 PM
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Yeepppp or the disgusting side of non-consensual swapping of their literal WIVES nudes. It’s disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:45 PM
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Yep. It’s not doxxing if it’s public. I don’t agree with the premise of the concept, but… it’s literally not doxxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:45 PM
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Yes exactly this! I literally couldn’t “use” sex as some kind of bargaining chip against my husband, and he couldn’t use it against me, because it’s something we both do and enjoy TOGETHER. It would work about as well as bargaining a delicious dinner we would both be eating, or weaponizing a riveting movie we both want to see. Doesn’t really work when both parties enthusiastically want to enjoy the thing! If you’re in a relationship where one party can use sex in this way… there’s already someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:43 PM
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Oi, thanks for playing, but NONE of those are curriculum that teaches the things asserted in the comment above. Nice try though! Individual teachers having the appearance of gender bias or a random staff member blundering a single talk about gender is not, in fact, “boys being taught in schools that they are de factor monsters and predators, and being told to act like girls, being told to stop competing so girls can have a chance” etc etc. Yes, individual teachers blunder all the time. I had a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:38 PM
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My point was that the scenario of “man asks woman time. woman ignored man. woman is punished by everyone around her for ignoring man and they all coddle the man.” doesn’t happen. Not that women don’t ignore random men talking to them in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:37 PM
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Then they’re being emotionally abusive. Are some parents abusive? Yep. Some fathers call their young daughters “whores” for having committed the atrocious crime of being born with a vagina. Some parents raise their daughters to be domestic slaves. It’s ridiculous to pretend this is the majority of parents, doing these things to daughters or sons. The VAST majority of mothers and fathers are not telling their sons “you are a de facto monster and predator! you need to be like a woman! you cannot b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:36 PM
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Honestly less beta than choking your dick while watching other men fuck actual women. But… having to pay for sex is still extremely beta, sorry bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:57 AM
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It’s not doxxing if it’s a public profile with info you willingly posted….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:52 AM
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They don’t lol. They’re all mainly younger women, early - mid 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:52 AM
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How do you know it’s wrong if you’ve never read it? 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:50 AM
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Creepy? I don’t think of it as creepy in and of itself. Unless he’s commenting being a creep on their pics or only following insta thots. (At that point it’s just porny.) Kind of pathetic and beta? Yeah for sure. I think that about porn too. A man watching porn now and again doesn’t bother me at all. It’s a fantasy, almost everyone indulges sometimes. It’s quick and gets the job done. A man that watches a lot of porn or needs porn to masturbate? Hilariously, ridiculously beta. If you’re choking …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:06 AM
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Yeah it was a joke my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:55 AM
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If you take that personally then that’s a you problem. What random women hypothetically think of you is literally none of your business and doesn’t impact you in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:55 AM
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Yup, and reality is: you can have any preference you want for sex or dating, but once you share those preferences, they’re fair game for criticism. The good thing is no one knows your preferences unless you decide to tell them. So if you have an issue with ppl criticizing your “whorephobia”, then idk, maybe stop randomly announcing your preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:40 AM
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That’s not cosmetic, just because it has a cosmetic benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:37 AM
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The point is: most straight women are biphobic so it’s okay most men are whorephobic? What a dumb fucking take. Here’s an idea, one that’s actually true irl, when you stop being chronically online: everyone, male or female, is entitled to their own personal preferences when dating or having sex. These preferences can even be ones that exclude certain sexualities, sexes, races, religions, and whatever the fuck else. No one is entitled to have sex with anyone else. No one is entitled to know your …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:35 AM
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STOP not a trash hotdog LMFAO 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:28 AM
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Most sex, men are dominating and leading the sexual experience? 😭😂 I’m glad I’ve never fucked you. You sound boring. Apparently most men want to be dominated too. And women’s 8th most common fantasy was being dominated, not their 1st. Men and women’s sexual fantasies don’t differ that much. And most straight men are also homophobic and biphobic. So what’s the point? Yes, straight people are homophobic. This isn’t news.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:03 AM
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Pls stop using the word dominated 😭😭 Is this how you talk about women as well? Or just men having sex with men? Your own homophobia is showing. I have no idea what % of straight women would or wouldn’t be ok with this. I’m not a straight woman. I don’t care at all if my man HAD SEX WITH 10 men before we had sex, so long as he was safe and it was consensual, and he’s STD free, just like idc if he had sex with 10 women before me, so long as it was safe and consensual and he’s STD free. A homophobi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:47 AM
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Yeah, because 50 men is a lot of men either way, and that touches on the “low self-esteem or low impulse control” thing. “Us men” “ask men” … please dear god stop acting like all men agree with you. I know plenty of men who don’t care one bit about women’s n-count, usually high n-count men themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:45 AM
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Yes, some straight women are biphobic and homophobic. Just like many straight men are biphobic and homophobic. You’re going to find that most of the women on PPD don’t really care, many are bisexual and/or date bisexual men, and that the straight women (or men) who are biphobic and homophobic aren’t foaming at the mouth to expose themselves so they probs won’t answer. And to answer your question: I do not give a fuck if my man was “dominated by 10 men” before we got together. It makes our relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:22 AM
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I wouldn’t expect most men would look past a woman being a former prostitute either. Being willingly and enthusiastically promiscuous is different than being a prostitute. One means you like having sex and maybe have poor impulse control, the other means you were down bad, probably into drugs or in an extremely desperate financial situation, and compromised your own sexual consent for money to men who weren’t necessarily clean or safe. I don’t have a moral judgement for men or women who prostitu…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:20 AM
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“Single men don’t need society to be functional to survive”? LMFAO. Sure, maybe historically, but in 20 fucking 23, most of these fatties with no life skills wouldn’t last a week in a state of nature, let alone thrive. 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:01 AM
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You assume correctly! Just like only a very naïve and immature man would believe that playing games of any kind is a smart way to get Mrs. Right!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:57 AM
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Maybe give the book a read instead of speculating. Men absolutely do love bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:57 AM
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So you admit it? Manipulative tactics work on LV people? 😏 Almost like… that’s what we’ve been saying… about TRP… I love all TRP reading, too. Everything written applies to both men and women. Not ALL men or women. But a subset of men and a subset of women. Almost like… shitty people are shitty regardless of sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:55 AM
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Yeah idk man, I didn’t see this when I was teaching in elementary schools or when I was attending a very liberal university in a very liberal major US city. Maybe it’s in the high school curriculum?!😂 Like… bro go outside and touch some grass. Is there anyone irl who is telling you these things? Do you have a swarm of people who come at you when you apply for a competitive position screaming, “YOU FUCKING MAN!!! HOW DARE YOU TAKE AWAY THIS OPPORTUNITY FROM A FEMALE?!” When you talk to a woman, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:46 AM
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Guess you missed the part where I said: “it’s not the goo goo eyes, it’s the underlying love and lust that leads to the goo goo eyes.” ?? You’ve never met an older couple still madly in love? Damn. That’s depressing and I don’t relate. I have 2 sets of grandparents who have been together since their early 20s, both very much obviously and openly in love, and parents who have been together since they were 15 — still very much making goo goo eyes at each other after some-35 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:32 AM
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Gotcha. So it’s not the parents… it’s the teachers and professors. How old are you? Were you taught this in school or in college? When? Who taught it? In class? Were there assemblies where they announced this? You had professors tell you to “be more like a woman”? You had professors tell you are a “de facto monster and predator”? They told you to “be less competitive”? How did they teach this? They said these things directly? Or was it something more subtle, and if so, what exactly? Kinda seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:24 AM
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r/whenwomenrefuse Yeah dude! You’re totally right! There’s never ANY consequence when a woman is rude to a random man!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:04 AM
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Mother of sons here. Is this what you think women are raising their sons to believe? Lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:02 AM
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These men aren’t asking bc they’re hoping to fuck you, for one… Most women are plenty nice to pleasant women who ask them something random out in public like, “Cute coat! Can I ask where that’s from?” etc. because the intent is very obviously not sexual or malicious. A random man asking me any question when I’m out and about doesn’t get the benefit of the doubt because historically, men asking me “innocent” questions like what’s the time, where’s XYZ building, etc. aren’t actually wondering thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:58 AM
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Right😂😂 Like a man asks me the time, I ignore him, and all the ppl standing by (who oh btw, also haven’t volunteered what time it is??) do what? They start clapping? Cheering for me? They deck the guy in the face? They hand me crisp $20s? Like… what even is this scenario?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:57 AM
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Who cares? That seems like a perfectly reasonable consequence. If a random guy asks me the time and I (rudely?) ignore him, then I don’t care if the ppl around me think me rude and ignore me should I need to know the time shortly thereafter. Lol. This scenario is so dumb because never does this ever happen!! And if all these ppl are standing by to judge the woman, why don’t they just say the time themselves since they feel so badly for this poor, unfortunate soul who is being SOOOO RUDELY IGNORE…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:55 AM
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Sure, this is a great consequence that is equal to the level of rude behavior. I’m all for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:53 AM
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Nah not just men. I’m a woman and I absolutely agree. Idk why these couple of women are trying to argue underlying lust and love isn’t a huge part of what keeps a relationship going… it’s what makes it worth the difficult parts, it’s what motivates you to get through a fight, or a dry spell, or whatever. That underlying friendship and desire for each other. Without that, why would you be motivated to keep going?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:29 AM
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Eh. I disagree. It’s not the goo goo eyes themselves that make the marriage work. It’s the underlying love and lust for each other that lead to the endless goo goo eyes that make it work better long term. If you genuinely desire each other and have a solid friendship underneath the other stuff, you’ll be just fine. I’m not just speculating either. Dr. John Gottman, who to my knowledge is the only person to quantify what leads to divorce and can predict divorce in newlywed couples with something …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:27 AM
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Agree tbh. It’s a joke (I think) but like, it’s true. I am insanely obsessed with my husband… same him for me. We have never remotely had a dead bedroom. The only time we haven’t had sex for more than a couple days max was 1. when he lived out of state for a summer internship when we were in college. and 2. directly postpartum, we waited 5 weeks to have PIV sex, but did plenty of other stuff while I healed… because I find him incredibly sexy, irresistible, and I always want him even when I liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:23 AM
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Um, where are all the posts from women on PPD who hate sex…?? I’ve never seen this. I see way more high sex drive and horny women on here than other places…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:18 AM
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Most (~94%) custody cases are decided outside of court and this means they are agreed upon by both parents. When men go for 50/50 custody it is almost always granted, unless the child is an infant or a breastfeeding child under 2 (at which point 50/50 would begin). “Losing your children” is not a real thing that happens to men who go for 50/50 custody of non-breastfeeding children, unless there are other circumstances that mean he wouldn’t be fit for 50/50 custody. (Some circumstances would incl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:12 AM
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Gosh, sounds a lot like the reverse of a certain men’s sub that was quarantined not too long ago…..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 12:18 AM
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Kind of misleading to imply FDS users are here the most if the 4 other main overlapping subs are mens subs tho lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 12:17 AM
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Yeah they told me I’m anti feminist for not sex-selectively aborting my sons and “birthing my oppressors” a while back lmfao. A few commenters agreed with my points and said the woman advocating for sex selective abortion was unhinged, but just about as many commenters agreed with her. And the upvotes/downvotes just yo-yoed for a while. I think they landed on her being around -1 to 1 ish and me being at 2 to 3 ish but the fact that it took soo long to settle there shows that there was not an ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 12:15 AM
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I’ve had a lot of casual sex mostly with men and some with women, lots of FWB mainly men but more women than the causal sex, 4 male partners, 2 female partners. I have never been rejected. I’m not saying I’m sooo hot that no one would ever reject me, but… hasn’t happened to date. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m also not shooting my shot if there’s no vibe between us, which is why I think so many men get rejected so often. Sure, men would be rejected more anyway, but like, you’re not likely to be rejected if there’s o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:25 PM
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I’ve never dated a man who had any issue with toys. In fact, 3/4 of them brought toys up. With my husband, it came up organically when we moved to a new apartment that had a “love” store under the train station nearest to us. But I’ve never dated a man that had a raging insecurity about their penis or sexual ability. Even the guy I dated that had only had 1 sexual partner before me. But… my vetting for sex (and relationships — I am also one of those women who sees “hookup material” as a step bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:33 PM
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Sorry, does that bother you? Men have never told me no. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:09 PM
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I feel like there’s a sub for everything 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:03 AM
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My waist before I just got pregnant was about 25”. Smaller before my first kid, but I got pregnant again when he was 12 months. I know I see the stat that most americans are overweight (and I do believe it) and maybe it’s because I live in a major city but I don’t see THAT many more fat people than I do avg or thin? It seems pretty equally distributed, maybe a little more avg and fat but not by much. But… I’m also 5’ so… I recognize I’m not gonna be that big either way. Avg US woman’s height is …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:34 AM
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r/abrathatfits !
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:28 AM
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Maybe! I just don’t see the point in living life without experiencing everything it has to offer… or holding my husband back from that either. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:52 AM
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I literally don’t even care if my husband has sex with an actual flesh & blood woman. I promise you a silicone toy is not a threat to me. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:17 AM
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I very much enjoy my husband’s body, I get off to his body, from his body, all part of him… AND we sometimes use toys. Because we like having sex and making each other feel good. He uses toys just as much as I do. I don’t cry about him liking to use a butt plug sometimes or liking the vibrating cock ring because the vibration feels good for him too. If you can ONLY get off to a toy, you have a sensation problem and LESS toys are the answer. Using toys as a complement in sex doesn’t mean anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:16 AM
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Sex is fun either way. Idc if anyone else doesn’t use toys but to me and my man… life is too short AND too long to not enjoy pleasure to the fullest extent 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:39 AM
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“To clarify, there is nothing wrong with using sex toys.” Umm isn’t this you, an hour ago? Lolol. I’m sorry if sex toys make you feel insecure. This isn’t a man vs. woman thing; it’s a “I like toys” vs. “I don’t like toys” thing. It’s fine if you don’t want to use toys. No one is gonna hold you down and force you to use a vibrator on a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:37 AM
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Same experience for me and my husband. They’re just tools we sometimes use, together or alone. We both use them, we both enjoy them. Sometimes we use other non-toy sex things, like handcuffs or lingerie or whatever else. I really don’t get the hang up. Plus men buy just as many sex toys as women do. Sooo I really think this is less of a man vs. woman thing and more of a “sex toys are ok with me vs. sex toys aren’t ok with me” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:27 AM
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LOL @ “the correct take.” Not everyone has your sexual hang ups, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:24 AM
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Right like… the orgasm and sex are the experience, not the literal method of getting there? If my husband makes me cum with a toy, I’m not sitting there like “Wow I love that vibrator!😍” I’m sitting there happy and pleased we just had sex and got each other off…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:23 AM
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Men buy just as many sex toys as women do. And no, I don’t see why a man would be insecure about… pleasuring a woman?? Do you think it doesn’t count because it isn’t your body doing it?? Does it not count if you use your mouth? Your hands? Is mutual masturbation where it stops “counting”? Does it “not count” if a man uses anything for anal play? Does it “not count” if you have to use lube? What about if you use condoms? Pleasure is pleasure. If my man’s participating in pleasuring me, idgaf how …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:20 AM
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If sex isn’t that important to you, then yes, it’s easy for it to slip through the cracks. Same with any other thing. Exercise, cooking, cleaning, whatever. Did I say it should be a high priority for everyone?? Nope. Totally fine if you move sex down on your list. Many new parents move things like golfing or gaming or mani-pedis or exercise or reading or whatever else down the list. Many new parents move sex down. I understand why sex isn’t important for a lot of new parents, young or old. That …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:42 AM
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I see that a lot on the “rate me/am I ugly” type subs. Like I get it’s not really cool to be like “yeah man, you’re fugly.” but like, an ugly man (or woman) will post and the majority of the comments are like “No, you’re not fugly!” “Your smile is so warm.” “A haircut would suit you but you’re pretty!” etc. which may be true but… that’s not helpful advice. Though I guess maybe people who post in those types of subs are looking for validation, not advice and the commenters may be ugly themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:35 AM
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Wait….. y’all’s moms didn’t tell you you sucked growing up……?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:32 AM
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While I agree rejection (esp continuous rejection) takes a toll, I don’t think these are comparable situations. This woman was so stressed and upset because she needs a place to live. The pressure of being homeless is much more immediate and threatening than the pressure of continuing to be single. There’s an end date where you cannot live where you’re living anymore. It’s a much more urgent situation. Same for job rejection if you need a job. If you’re casually searching, sure, a rejection hurt…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:29 PM
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No, your entire OP was about men relying on individual women more, and women relying on the collective of men more. NOT about gender expectations with childcare or attire. Taxes are not set up to benefit women more. Families with children benefit more, for the children’s sake regardless of if they have two parents, a single mom, a single dad, a grandparent, etc. raising them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:26 PM
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No, no. I said: what specific tax benefits do single women (NOT pregnant women) qualify for that single men do not based on sex? Pregnant women aren’t benefitting for being female. They are benefitting because of the unborn child involved. Do you believe governments should let their underaged and most vulnerable citizens suffer and starve? No first world country does this. Not even the US which is far from having a good social safety net. Single fathers qualify for the same things single mothers…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:18 PM
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What specific tax benefits do single women qualify for that single men do not based on sex only? FAMILIES benefit from taxes and social programs more than singles. Yes. Obviously. Because children are literally unable to care for themselves and it behooves the government to not let their underage citizens starve. If more men had sole custody, they’d benefit more from taxes. Men do not go for sole, or even equal, custody in the vast majority of cases (some 94% of custody is decided between the pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:51 PM
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It’s misogyny. Just like FDS is full of misandry. There’s women on FDS that legitimately advocate for male-sex selective abortion because “men have been committing femicide for centuries” and “women shouldn’t birth their oppressors.” Would you believe it if I said, “Oh that’s just ladies locker room talk! Don’t take it at face value. They don’t REALLY hate men! You just have to be female to understand the nuances!” 🙄 Yes, it is true, they may not actually hate all men. That doesn’t make that gar…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:43 PM
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Not TRP as a concept itself, but the community around TRP. I mean, there’s literally a well known “rage stage” that almost all of TRP men go through and many get stuck in. It gets extremely gross, toxic, and misogynist. TRP community even acknowledges this! Much like FDS women go through the same type of “rage stage” towards men. Which is why I said TRP : FDS basically (with some differences, of course.)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:40 PM
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Because the women that these types of manipulative techniques work on are already women who are more insecure, more likely to be manipulated, more likely to have casual sex, etc. So the women that fit that category are also more likely to: have low impulse control, have high n-count, have low self-esteem, etc. which are all things that essentially end up fulfilling the negative side of AWALT that RP men hate about women. Like, yes dude, if you’re seeking out women for casual sex, they’re going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:38 PM
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Many couples only have one child, but that aside, due to how cheating works out biologically there have been cases where husbands have found out that multiple children he raised weren't genetically related to him. Avg number of kids is 1.94 (as of 2022) which means most families have more than 1 child. Census says around 25% of families in the US have just 1 kid (but that includes families that may go on to have another kid, after the Census collection, not families who only have 1 child in thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:30 AM
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You say this as if women don’t.. also.. pay taxes?? And as if lower income men are paying the most taxes… but they aren’t. The top 50% of earners pay something like 97% of all federal income tax. The bottom 50% of earners — male and female — pay the remaining 3%. Of course, more of the 50% of top earners are male than female, but you’ve specifically mentioned lower income jobs in multiple comments, mentioned fast food workers in the OP, etc. The gender gap is also only somewhere between 3-8%, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:47 AM
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What… what are you talking about? “Every man you want wouldn’t want you”? That doesn’t resonate with me, like… at all. I have never been rejected in my life. I’ve never even worried about being rejected. Are you just speaking generally? Like, men have high standards that women can’t meet? Because isn’t the loud and vocal opinion on PPD and TRP that women have way too high of standards and this is why there’s so many lonely sexless men?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:01 AM
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I find this idea that men WANT this lifestyle of “spreading their seed” to be so interesting because the vast majority of men I’ve known, while they may have enjoyed casual sex or theoretically would love sleeping around (esp while young), also very much have the end goal of commitment and children. And they’re very much invested in their children succeeding, which means investing in them and only them. Not spreading their seed far and wide. Like, most men still seek marriage even if they may wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:16 AM
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Most of TRP isn’t preaching about long term. And much of RPW weeds out men that do any of TRP tactics for short term gratification, even if the same men eventually want commitment from HVM. If a man was following TRP with the goal of commitment from the get-go, he probs wouldn’t be a man RPW would rule out. I agree with the general idea both RPW and TRP have (as well as FDS) about becoming HV to get HV. The difference is that RPW (and FDS) mainly seek commitment as their main (or only) goal. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:14 AM
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Driving is def a boy job.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:05 AM
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Not the source being anime 😭😭😭 Bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:32 AM
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Ah, I wasn’t saying TRP men should seek out FDSers. In fact, a woman following FDS fully wouldn’t be a good target for a TRP man. I just think that what TRP does for men (demonizes women, encourages self-centeredness, encourages self-improvement and looksmaxxing, says AWALT so no point in dating, keep a rotating of women (plates) for sex) is similar to what FDS does for women (demonizes men, encourages self-centeredness, encourages self-improvement and looksmaxxing, says AMALT so don’t bother wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:25 AM
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Agree. TRP is actually quite vile. RPW sub says “it’s not bad, they just have diff goals” but I disagree lol. Just like FDS goes from “female focused” (which is fine) to “male hating” (not fine), TRP is male focused and female hating… and much much more aggressive about it than even FDS gets. If TRP was my only intro to red pill stuff (which it is for most people), I’d think it was dumb as fuck and a misogynistic hate group (which it often veers into). RPW really could work for men too, it’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:16 AM
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Yes, I’m familiar with the subs. It doesn’t seem like you are? RPWoman sub is pretty vocal about NOT seeking out RPM because their goals are fundamentally incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:11 AM
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Mm gotcha. To be clear I’m a lurker, not really a believer. I have seen posts about this idea, something like “My man is HV so shouldn’t he sleep around?” and it’s largely met with a resounding, “No, and HV doesn’t = high quality.” There’s a loooot of trad and christian posters on RPW though, which skews it a bit. Reading the actual RPW wiki info is a different picture than a lot of the posts. It doesn’t seem to be “blindly follow your man” but “respect your man as the captain.” For example, in …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:04 AM
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There are plenty of BPers who are in traditional marriages. I think the (common) misunderstanding that even a lot of the posters on RPW have is that RPW = trad. Trad def fits into RPW but RPW isn’t inherently traditional. Edit: This thread has some of that type of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:45 PM
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Ehh kinda, but MRP is mostly men who got married and then got redpilled usually because they’re unhappy in their marriage. RPWomen is both single and married women who are redpilled on purpose because they use those strategies positively in their goal for marriage/in their marriage. I do see some of that in MRP but it’s a lot more bitter married men mad they didn’t discover TRP pre-marriage but mostly unwilling to get divorced (usually because they have kids.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:40 PM
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Ah. Gotcha. I don’t really think it’s absurd? If you believe men and women are fundamentally different sexually, and they have fundamentally different sexual strategies, and that men’s biological imperative is to spread his seed, and women’s biological imperative is to lock down the highest value mate to make the highest value children and secure resources for those children … then those strategies aren’t compatible. A man spreading his seed is not best for the women’s strategy (as a single woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:36 PM
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That’s why I don’t really like hearing TRP nonsense. Yes, some women are awful. So are some men. (Same reason I don’t love FDS nonsense.) I actually don’t mind RPW sub. I didn’t realize that red pill ideas could be taken in the most charitable way but RPW makes way more sense and resonates a ton more than any bile I’ve ever heard from 99% of TRP. You get what you give. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:29 PM
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What about it? The philosophy? (I agree. Evolutionary science is speculative at best.) But I mean, it makes perfect sense to me that if you believe the underlying framework, you can take it in any direction. Most of RP men take it in the least charitable way possible (use it to mistrust all women, after all, AWALT.) and then use manipulation to essentially self-fulfill the prophecy since they’re selecting for insecure and often high n-count women with these tactics. But most of RP women use the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:26 PM
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I really feel like if you’re gonna mention a sub here you should be required to read their basic info. RPW and TRP are very different. FDS is much more akin to TRP than RPW in terms of strategy/purpose (although FDS still seeks commitment, it does so selfishly and while bashing men.) And honestly I’d liken make blue pill dating “philosophy” more to RPW goals, but TBP isn’t a “real thing” so that’s not really true. Tbh I don’t know of a RPW equivalent for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:20 PM
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They just use the same framework. They just use it for different goals. It’s like asking how one can use money for drugs or charity. The money is the framework. Different people use it for different things. Men tend to use it to maximize sexual success. Women tend to use it to maximize commitment success.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:13 PM
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Or a man who is “naturally red pilled” which is what I see a lot on the RPW sub. I can’t imagine most of the RPW dating a RPM tbh. The goals really are just so different. RPM take all of these “biological/evolutionary truths” in the least charitable way so they kind of shoot themselves in the foot… they absolutely attract the type of women who will screw them over/cheat/monkey branch/etc. bc they’re unknowingly selecting for those traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:08 PM
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TRP is a self fulfilling prophecy for men. I actually don’t mind the RPW sub. Some of it is a bit too trad for my tastes but the non-trad RPW stuff is decent. Lots about communication, managing yourself, you can only control you and not anyone else, etc. No manipulation or gross misandry, unlike TRP which is all about manipulation and misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:04 PM
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RPM usually have the goal of sex. RPW have the goal of commitment. That makes them incompatible as partners by default. But I do agree RPM who want commitment would do well to find a RPW. There is MarriedRedPill (which is for men) but typically the posters there are married and then become redpilled. So it functions differently than RPW does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:03 PM
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RPW specifically state they do not want TRP men. It’s literally in their main sidebar info. And repeated often in the sub. There’s a whole thing about how RPW goals are much different from TRP goals, they just work off the same (speculative) evolutionary science ideas. RPMen want to maximize sex, RPWomen want to maximize commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:58 PM
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Horny for sex… or treason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:32 PM
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That hasn’t been my experience and I don’t have any female friends who have ever expressed much of what you’re saying. Most of my friends are the type of have casual sex. A handful have had things fizzle out when they didn’t want them to, but none were hung up on it for long. We talk openly about sex and hook ups. Surely this would’ve come up frequently if so many women have this problem, yes? Where did you get this idea from? Do you have a lot of slutty female friends who have told you this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:00 PM
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Those statements don’t contradict. Notice the “just.” So do you have any actual commentary or?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:59 PM
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I don’t think it shouldn’t! I’m automatically weary of anyone that looks intimidating — but I kind of have to be as a 5’0 petite woman on a good day. I’m just saying, that’s a pretty common thing I’ve noticed with big n tough looking men of that specific type.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 05:59 PM
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That’s really their issue though, isn’t it? I wouldn’t continue doing something that isn’t fun, unless I guess I hated myself. When women say, “Men are bad at sex!” all I hear is: “I won’t or don’t know how to take accountability for my sexual pleasure. I don’t know how to communicate my sexual needs. I’m passive in bed (and not in a sexy, submissive way). I don’t know how to vet partners. I don’t have the self-esteem to end relationships/sexual situations that I’m not enjoying.” This isn’t just…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 05:44 PM
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Didn’t even read any other comments. This is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 05:28 PM
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Same. I had some duds for hook ups, sure, but I’m sure plenty of men have brought a hot woman home that ended up not being a good lay, or they sobered up and realized she was ugly, etc etc. But the majority of my hookups were fun, sexy, and we both got off. I repeat hooked up with almost every man I was with. The chase is fun. Flirting is fun. Sex is fun. Orgasms are fun. I’m not sure why these dudes think it’s soo different for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 02:42 PM
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Took me a second to get this because I‘d describe my husband as all of those things. It did make me chuckle though. I have some hoe-ier friends who definitely take the “multiple men” approach for these kinds of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 02:40 PM
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That wasn’t my experience with having a hoe phase. I guess I didn’t have a hoe phase in that sense, like it wasn’t a separate time period in my life? And most of my girlfriends didn’t have some specific phase of being a hoe. Sometimes after a break up, I’d know a women to go off the rails for a little and hook up with a bunch of guys, but most of my friends who had casually sex would be sleeping around, usually with one guy for a short period of time, having fun. Then eventually the allure fizzl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 02:34 PM
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Not Cookie💀
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:13 AM
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In my experience, most men who I have met who are heavily tattooed and have long-ass biker beards are indeed big teddy bears. The most menacing man I know that looks like that is a huuuge sweetheart. Seeing him with his 2 year old daughter just melts my heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:12 AM
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Yeah, the number of young men balding is alarming. I guess when I was like, a teenager, I didn’t realize male balding starts in their 20s, but god, I’m only 25 and I see sooo many men my age (even some younger!) who are clearly beginning to bald or have been balding for a few years. Something like 25% of men start balding at fucking age 21. And that’s not like it’s just ugly guys, that’s 25% of all men. And considering the majority of men don’t do any kind of skincare, haircare, etc… and most US…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 11:09 PM
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Key here is that it doesn’t say they’re from a low income country specifically. I have a friend from FL who married a woman from Canada and another friend from NY who married a man from Austria… these couples would be in these stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:59 PM
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I didn’t read all the comments, there’s 165. I agree if a woman is acting LL in a relationship but not for a hook up then that’s something like Madonna-Whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:33 PM
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Personally, my husband does more than enough and is a great husband and father. So your “you hate men!!!1!!” shit is dumb and wrong. You think 100% of the childcare 24/7 + all of the domestic work is = to 9 hours of work? Hahahahahaha. But sure, I’m the one who “hates” the other sex. The only way you can say men and women were doing equal work in the 50s would be if you don’t value domestic work. The thing is, if you outsource all your domestic work, it costs a fucking lot. A nanny JUST for work…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:59 PM
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Nah it’s not really that. I know plenty of women (and men) who slept around until they ended up meeting (and possibly hooking up with) someone that they wanted to pursue to date. In fact, most of my now-married friends (including myself) met their spouse through casual hookups in college. That is — a hookup that evolved into more. They were all theoretically open to either a hookup or eventually a relationship if they met the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:37 PM
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BBLs have the highest fatality rate. Also: you’re moving the goalpost. You said to keep the same energy with women — that energy is very much thrown at women, for every. single. possible. flaw. Men get shit for one (1) thing: height.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:31 PM
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Thank you, this is literally such a good summary of what this advice is supposed to mean. No one is saying, “Become a recluse! Never interact with women! Don’t improve anything about yourself! And your perfect dream woman will just come magically find you nonetheless!” It means: “Don’t center your life and goals and happiness around having a relationship.” (Good advice for men and women alike. I have known plenty of women who couldn’t stand to be alone, so they jumped from poorly fit relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:26 PM
4

LMFAOOO. You mean, like, perhaps if 92% of ALL plastic surgery procedures were done on women?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:04 PM
2

But mEn aRe thE mOrE ViSuAL sEx!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:31 AM
3

Yeah dude it was a hypothetical to drive the point home. Saying “men do more now than they did 50 years ago! And this still isn’t good enough for women!” isn’t some kind of concrete evidence… men weren’t doing enough before. So saying “But… but… they do more now!” quite literally isn’t good enough. That’s the whole point. Men certainly (on average) make more than women; but not nearly enough more to argue “but men earn the money, so women should do more domestic work!” And why do men make more t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:55 AM
2

Right, because “doing better than nothing” doesn’t mean “doing enough”??? If the dude who has my job before me gets fired because he had 1% productivity at work, and I start the new job and do 20%, is it enough for me to say, “Hey hey hey don’t fire me! The guy before me had 1% productivity! I’m doing 20x more than he was! You should be grateful!” ???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 02:25 AM
2

Doing more than men 50 years ago doesn’t mean “doing enough.” My grandfather bragged about never having changed a diaper… they had 6 kids. My grandmother just laughed along about it. It’s not a high bar to “do better than men 50 years ago.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:32 AM
2

This is my thought as well. If I wouldn’t have casual sex with a man, I’m definitely not dating him. The bar is much higher for relationships imo. I want to be attracted to you AND compatible with you, but for casual sex, sure, I’d probably fuck a hot guy who was dumb or a jerk or something (within reason. Some huge asshole wouldn’t make the cut even if he was super hot.)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:22 AM
0

Ah, so yes. 15 sounds about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:02 AM
-1

I am very much red leaning vs. blue leaning. A confident ugly man (who is not BLINDLY confident, which isn’t so much confidence as it is a lack of awareness!) is still ridiculously more attractive than an insecure ugly man. Same goes for hot men too. An insecure hot man is much much less attractive than a confident hot man. You think things were that different in the 90s? Lol. How old are you? 15?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:58 PM
-1

LMFAO, okay, so you disagree? Then define or give an example of confidence. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:35 PM
-1

No. Y’all always say this shit. But actually, it’s because you’re defining “confidence” here as “blind confidence.” An ugly weirdo who has blind confidence and approaches women totally out of his league clearly has little self- or social-awareness. So he comes off as creepy. He obviously isn’t reading the situation. Which yes, feels creepy. An ugly weirdo who is simply sure of himself and true to who he is — you know, actually confident in himself and not some false idea of who he WISHES he was …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:33 PM
1

I definitely have easy pregnancies compared to most women, but my kid is a very average needs kid. So I get it if pregnancy exhausts you or if you both have very demanding jobs or a high needs kid… But I’m not really sure how it’s “casually mentioning I’m better than you”…? If you have involved grandparents on the weekends and you have sex then, that’s already 2x a week… you really feel like 2x + a quickie during the week is somehow significantly out of reach most of the time? Also, if you don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 10:43 PM
5

Ahh gotcha. I see your point now. Yeah she is definitely not more feminine for knowing TRP concepts. She caters to a male audience which is like, fine I guess, but it’s kind of odd that she almost portrays herself as “helping women” if that makes sense? I’d watch her content if she came from a RPW lens but she’s just a woman saying TRP stuff. It works for her — she’s making a lot of money off these male viewers — but it has the energy of a titty Twitch streamer to me. Like, she’s not that good a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:32 PM
1

I have a very average baby who was EBF and I’m still breastfeeding him as a toddler while I’m also pregnant. I have extensive infant experience so I’m well aware of high vs. low needs babies. Sure, if I had a very high needs baby then our sex life would wane. But MOST families have average babies (hence the term: average). But having an equal and enthusiastic partner means I’m not overburdened by the house/kid stuff. My husband takes a very active and intentional role in our home and family. He …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 06:30 PM
7

Knowing TRP doesn’t give you feminine vibes, but for someone who preaches all about “what men want” with such an “I’m soooo much better than you other women for knowing this!”, you’d think she would, you know, use the info to her benefit, like you see on RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 04:07 PM
1

I eat 3x a day every single day and food still tastes good… lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:59 PM
1

Not really…? If you find your partner attractive and you’re both getting support from each other with the baby (so one parent (usually mom) isn’t totally burnt out at the end of the day), it’s pretty easy to have sex 3-4x a week……
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:58 PM
-3

Nah, confidence itself is attractive. You can be ugly but still have confidence, or be hot and be insecure. Insecurity is always unattractive compared to confidence. This hot guy in my high school was sooo (high school) confident at school, invited me over, and as soon as things turned maybe sexual, he was sooo nervous and weird that his hotness didn’t make up for it and I didn’t end up hooking up with him. I’ve know many men uglier than him who I was way more inclined to fuck when it came down …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:50 PM
2

I mean, dude, I’m not here to try to convince you. It’s your skin. Take care of it or don’t. I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 05:47 AM
13

I paused at the same sentence. If they didn’t get laid for centuries then they definitely aren’t ancestors 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 04:43 AM
6

This is why most men age sooo hard lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:17 AM
4

Are these women asking you for advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:39 AM
7

Lol. Why are random women’s life plans any concern to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:50 AM
1

Ah yes, way to read this in the least charitable way possible. You sound delightful. People are not obligated to stay, but it’s common decency to explain why you’re leaving to the person you are leaving. The reason I was defending the statement “I wasn’t happy” is because the commenter was referring to 3 different relationships ending. Obviously explaining the nuances that led to the end of 3 different relationships takes a lot more time than just saying “I wasn’t happy in those relationship.” w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 10:12 PM
3

Bro you’re being so annoying. The commenter didn’t lie by omission — she didn’t owe you an explanation as to why those relationships didn’t work out. She said broadly she wasn’t happy because she was speaking to THREE diff relationships. Obviously if you’re breaking up with someone, you should tell them more than just “I’m not happy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:37 PM
2

How? It’s not a lie if it’s true. If I’m unhappy my partner is cheating, then saying “I’m not happy with this relationship, it’s over.” is not a lie….???
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:53 AM
2

Shocker, women break up with you because they don’t want to be your forever almost gf… yes, yes, this proves it, women are just awful! Did you think they’d be happy with zero commitment long term….? Like what??? lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:40 AM
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Okay, but I mean, people aren’t obligated to be in a relationship they don’t want to be in just because you think their reasons for leaving are dumb. You don’t even have to know why you want to end things, you can simply just end things. Life is too short and too long to stay unhappy just because other people might judge you for making choices for your own life. You’re the only one who has to live your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 05:26 AM
1

I love this sub lol. I love a good debate, I love the sociological aspects to it, and I even love the shitposts. (Well. Not the super low quality ones. But the dumb takes that I disagree with or the insane takes (like that weird (alleged) woman with the constant questions about her man’s 6” dick being too small; or that dude who legit seemed to believe women cannot orgasm; among many other really bad (but well developed) takes.)) There really aren’t any other places that I’ve found like this tbh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:51 AM
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Sure, I’d maybe agree if you were the guy she was breaking up with. But when someone is talking about their own relationships to other people (especially a random person on reddit?) then saying “I wasn’t happy” is a pretty reasonable thing to say rather than digging into all the dirty details. I wasn’t happy with my ex who cheated on me a bunch. I wasn’t happy with my ex who had anger issues and blew up throwing shit and slamming doors and punching a hole in the wall during minor disagreements. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:56 AM
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Did you expect her to list out everything that went down with each of these 3 relationships? “Wasn’t happy” is a vague term on purpose because why tf would she write her relationship history down for a 5 second reddit comment lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:41 AM
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I do find it interesting she is and has been single. If she’s such a catch and knows TRP soo well, why hasn’t it brought her any success?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 06:59 PM
5

Ohhh yeah, coming out as a … Republican … would definitely end my marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:21 AM
1

The point is most men cannot realistically have a side chick. Though I imagine more try that before they try asking for an open relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:26 AM
1

Many men may want to do this, but most men aren’t actually that good at cheating. So even if they try it, they get caught sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:07 AM
2

I say this often when this topic comes up — there are definitely men (and women) who want the benefit of both a relationship and casual sex with others. I mean, browse through r/swingers for a minute and you’ll see plenty of married couples who choose to fuck other people and stay married, while prioritizing the marriage if shit gets rough with being open.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:05 AM
1

This makes sense to me. Men may want open relationships more, but the fewer women who want one are more likely to be with a (male) partner who says yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:04 AM
2

As a woman, when a man is clearly nervous and trying super hard not to be, especially when it is pointed out that he seems nervous, I would 110% prefer he just break the tension by saying he’s a little nervous. Like, obviously you pretending not to be nervous isn’t working. Consider trying to lean into the fact that you’re feeling a bit out of your element and do so in a flattering way — “Yes, sorry, pretty girls like you make me a bit nervous!” or something like that. You clearly aren’t fooling…
/r/ExRedPill11/01/23 02:41 AM
1

Hmm how do you figure? Men and women are both fat, it’s easier for men to lose weight and harder for men to gain it in the first place. If women were lazier by default, there’d be significantly more fat women than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 03:45 PM
1

No, I’m not gonna get into it because I don’t argue with pornsick randos on Reddit. I literally don’t care if you rot your brain and break your dick — I’m not dating or fucking you so your porn habits are inconsequential to me, and it would be a waste of time to argue since I guaran-fucking-tee you aren’t asking in good faith — it would be like talking to a wall. No point, so no thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 03:43 PM
1

My point is pretty clear: men are lazier.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:59 PM
1

I’m almost 26, married with a toddler and another baby otw and we still have sex daily. A lot of ppl say it slows down with kids but uh, that hasn’t been the case over here. We barely made it to the 6 weeks you’re supposed to abstain after birth (actually only made it 5.5 weeks… and definitely did other non-PIV things while we abstained.) I see a lot of comments saying with daily sex, you run into a quantity vs. quality thing, but… we have about 4-5 hours together after the toddler goes to bed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:51 AM
1

Well they say first marriage is for money, second for love, so I don’t see how that’s an issue per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:28 AM
1

25ish, 5’10ish but slouches so he looks a few inches shorter, maybe a 2/10, kinda scrawny. Makes great money (but only as of the last year or so) doing something in engineering. Really socially awkward, wouldn’t be surprised to learn he is autistic. Has very red pill (maybe black pill actually? Idk the difference) ideas and talks about them unironically. Can’t even socialize with me, his friend’s wife who is clearly not a sexual or romantic option. Like at all. He is actually kind of rude and cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:52 AM
6

This doesn’t make any sense. Your employers and peers do not know you are on any medication (or not). They don’t tattoo your forehead when they give you an antidepressant script so everyone can know and judge you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:35 AM
3

Female protective factor (having 2 Xs that can “cover” for each other when there’s an error) is part of the reason women have lower rates of many disorders and diseases, including autism (and maaany others). However, female protective factor also means often when a woman does have autism (or adhd, or tourettes, etc) that it is less severe and more likely to be missed. So it’s not just that women aren’t as likely to have it, they’re also less likely to have it severely enough to be noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:34 AM
1

I just said they’re gross?? Lol. I’d never fuck am obese or even fat woman. I’m extremely petite and do not find fat men or women attractive in any way. It’s just a fact that it’s easier for men to lose weight, and harder for them to gain, than it is for women. Which means fat men are even lazier than fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:05 PM
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Make learning about each other’s bodies fun and sexy. No one knows everything about sex, and even so-called “good in bed” people aren’t good with everybody because half of good sex is learning about and enjoying your specific partner. If my ex loved his balls touched and came on the spot from it, and I try it with my new bf because I think it’s this “magic bullet” in bed, but my new bf hates his balls being touched… do you think my new bf will call me a sex goddess?? No, he’ll probably squeal an…
/r/ExRedPill08/01/23 12:12 AM
1

It’s easier for men to not only not gain weight in the first place, but also easier for men to lose weight. Women’s biology make both gaining weight easier to do and harder to lose on account of us being able to have babies. Fat men or women are gross and I would never date either as a bi woman, but fat men — it’s like, it takes minimal effort to lose weight, so they have no excuse. Just don’t be a gluttonous lazy fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:59 PM
1

Dead bedrooms don’t happen overnight, save for some tragic injury. What a ridiculous take.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:10 PM
2

Some experienced men do prey on inexperienced girls/women for sex, including pretending they want a relationship. Experienced women don’t do the same to boys/men (because why would they? Women aren’t even generally having good sex with experienced men let alone inexperienced men) BUT I could see a scenario where an experienced woman preys on a naïve enough inexperienced man for money. Although this is a fictional media example, in the show White Lotus, a young and pretty Italian prostitute cons …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 05:59 PM
2

It doesn’t mean “not talking about anything non-sexual.” That’s the point I — and many others in this thread — have been making. Even PUAs play the game and chat women up. Being good at chatting women up certainly helps create a sexual context faster, but basically no one can just skip over creating the context. Maybe some super hot and well known celebrities could walk up to a woman and ask her to fuck and she’d be down — maybe. But your average guy (even your average hot guy)? No. Not even the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 05:49 PM
1

I didn’t say it in this comment but a few of my others I prefaced with “assuming this is real and isn’t your weird fetish” because it does very much read like a fetish post.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:08 PM
6

Fat women and fat men both look unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:41 PM
2

Agree with this. I’m 25 but I look at 20 year olds and they look like girls/boys, not women/men. Both in looks and body language — they just carry themselves so young. I can only imagine it will get more pronounced as I reach 30. Seeing late 20/early 30s women (who are otherwise healthy and well kept), you see a clearly mature adult who still looks youthful, has typically found their style, and carries themselves with much more confidence. I’d say the same is true for men, for the same reasons, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:39 PM
1

I have kids. You wanna know how I made sure I wouldn’t be in that situation? I didn’t have kids with someone I wasn’t sexually compatible with, because why would I do that to myself?! I love my husband so much, that just 2 days after giving birth to his 9 lbs. baby unmedicated, I wanted to fuck my husband (obviously I did not — I’m horny, not stupid! But can’t say we made it to 6 weeks without sex, or that there wasn’t a lot of non-PIV that happened during that time either.) While pregnant I wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 11:04 AM
5

Yeah what you’re describing basically doesn’t exist. I’m not saying it’s never happened but like, even if you hire a sex worker, most people have some non sexual conversation. It’s part of being human. The closest thing to what you’re looking for would be hiring a sex worker and disclosing beforehand that this is the scenario you’re paying her to play. Normal people — regardless of how hot they are or how much sexual energy the exude — have some non-sexual conversation leading up to sex, ESPECIA…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 10:54 AM
2

I’m usually a fan of your takes — this one is spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:24 AM
5

Where is TRP saying “do XYZ and women will not even talk to you, they’ll immediately give you bedroom eyes and pin you down to ride your cock”? I’m a Certified Slut™️ with a high libido and even with the absolute hottest, sexiest men I’ve been with, that is no where near how it went down. This seems like a weird fantasy of yours that isn’t rooted in anyone’s reality. Maybe some mega celebrity heartthrobs could manage that, maybe, but even so, most people (men and women) like a little back and fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:14 AM
2

Love this. This is how I would describe my husband too. He’s just very likable and personable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:04 AM
1

Who cares? Take some fucking responsibility for your own choices. If I was that unhappy with my sex life or relationship, I don’t give a fuck if other people might judge me for leaving?? They don’t have to live my life — I do. Not to mention you literally don’t have to tell anyone that’s why you are leaving your partner. What is it with the idea that you have advertise your preferences for others to judge? Leave your partner for sexual incompatibility and saying, “We just weren’t compatible.” is…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:19 AM
1

Not gonna get into on PPD because a lot of y’all on here are pornsick as hell, but sure, live your truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:17 AM
2

Well congrats, you just met one. And you probably know many women who agree. Length after ~5” doesn’t matter at all to me (or realistically most women). Girth matters a lot more. Wanting a long dick is mainly a man thing. The avg vaginal canal is only about as long as the avg dick (4-6”) and once you go any bigger, all you’re doing is hitting the cervix which is neutral at best and painful at worst. I’d take a 4” girthy cock over an 8” avg or skinny one any day. Most men have a 4-6” dick. Most w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:15 AM
1

You’re forgetting the most important variable: not all men, HV or not, want the same thing you apparently do. And I did not say all HV men are the same, like you apparently believe. I say this as someone married to a HV man by all the typical measures here — 6+ ft, 6+ in, 6 figures, classically handsome, educated, fit, well traveled, has rarely pursued a woman, is regularly approached before and after marriage by women (and I could go on and on but I won’t. I’m sure you get the picture.) He want…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:49 PM
8

And yet most people aren’t in greek life…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:39 PM
6

Hmm why not? You sound insecure. Just advocate for your needs. Obviously this is something critically important to you because you obsessively post about it. And btw, if you’re considering non-monogamy, get your own house in order first. IIRC your partner has a 6” cock that’s apparently soo tiny for you and you haven’t even been together a year. Not a good foundation for non-monogamy. I feel bad for your partner (assuming he’s real and this isn’t your weird fetish post) because he would likely b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:30 PM
1

Again, I am not saying everyone woman on HBC will have a lower sex drive, but yes, more women on HBC report lowered sex drive than higher or unchanged sex drives. I am also not saying that being off HBC is right for everyone — plenty of women use HBC for reasons that have nothing to do with libido or pregnancy protection, and no one size is right for all. I’m glad you have something that works for you. I have a textbook cycle. 28-29 days long, ovulate day 13-15, very rarely have an anovulatory c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:27 PM
4

Wouldn’t surprise me glancing through her (?) post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:18 PM
1

You… you do realize that providing (1) ingredient isn’t literally making the the baby right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:18 PM
1

I’m not judging the strategy’s morality, I’m just saying it isn’t a very good strategy because it can take months to years per woman. That’s a lot of time to invest and waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:32 PM
1

No problem. To your “ride the NRE train” point: I do think it’s easier for Chads to do that, so they may have more luck finding a HL woman, but they also have to sort through more LL women. And riding out the NRE can take some significant time (months to years, even.) So I don’t think that’s a very viable strategy unless you’re willing to waste years and get close to a person just to know you’re ready and willing to dump them soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:07 PM
2

Yeah probably. You could fill a book (many books, actually) with the issues caused by porn. I’m sure that’s one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:03 PM
1

I’m not sure what you’re trying to say here?? Why would a HV man get in a relationship if he can have sex anytime? Is that the question? Because many HV men eventually want a wife and children, a family home, and the social and career benefits of being married with children. Fathers make more than their childless male and female peers, and mothers make the least. It’s often beneficial to a HV man’s career and image to have a wife and children — not to mention it’s a natural desire to procreate f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:01 PM
3

Women tell men to vet worse? Umm…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:57 PM
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I don’t care if people spice up their sex lives. This woman was posting obsessively for MONTHS about how she was disappointed in her partner’s size, and tried every possible angle other than just talking to him about her wants. She’s now on this non-monogamy angle. It’s cringey to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:57 PM
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Because you’re a weirdo who has posted a TON about this from every possible angle you can, other than just talking to your partner like a normal person. It’s obsessive and cringey. And calling everyone who mildly disagrees with you “insecure” is hilarious projection. I just told you my partner and I practice non-monogamy, which is something that actually takes a LOT of security and communication skills you clearly lack. But sure babes, go tell your man you want to open the relationship because h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:56 PM
3

When I’m not pregnant, my husband and I do engage in a type of non-monogamy so I agree, mainly, with your post. (Although the fact that you want non-monogamy simply because you’re obsessed with your partner’s dick size is… something else, to say the least.) My point was that regardless of if monogamy or some other type of relationship has been around longer, the CURRENT default is monogamy, which is evident in your language “non-monogamy.” It doesn’t matter if 99% of human history, everyone fuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:54 PM
2

No, I don’t think that’s a fair summary actually. Even “Stacy” level women are mainly on HBC — and HBC doesn’t work any differently on a woman just because she’s dating a hot guy. “Chad” can more easily replace a LL partner in a way a more avg or below avg man can’t, sure, but I don’t think Chad has an advantage in finding one in the first place, other than the fact that it’s a numbers game (he dates more women, but he’s still just hoping the one he gets with has a HL). Libido is complicated, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:50 PM
1

You do know that every single man that has EVER existed was built by a woman, right? 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:00 AM
3

And yet many male teacher do just fine, particularly marrying in their peer group of teachers…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:29 AM
3

Yes to all of this. Especially point #3. And yet terpers act like women are the ones who want men to read their mind… as these dudes do friendship things and then are gasp! shocked that women consider them a friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:38 AM
3

No literally! The concept implies women are forcing these men to be their friends. Which they aren’t. No one is holding a gun to these dudes head and making them be friends with women they want more from but either refuse to state that or stick around after stating that and then secretly resenting the woman, hoping she’ll change her mind if he’s just a nice enough guy, a good enough friend. It’s pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:36 AM
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Just informing y’all this is that weirdo who kept posting about how to ask her man to wear a cock sleeve because he was sooo perfect in every way but she wasn’t satisfied by his size a couple months ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:26 AM
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