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Lots of guy friends isn't the issue. Not having a close group of good female friends who are as attractive and cool as she is - huge damn red flag.
/r/seduction06/06/10 08:44 AM
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So I used to be in this exact position. There's good news and bad news: Good news: the path forward is simple, straight-forward, and the rewards come quickly, and they scale. Bad news: the path forward is 3,000 approaches. You lack: social skills (from what you say). The way to get those is to just go out over and over again and talk to lots of people.
/r/seduction06/06/10 08:40 AM
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The gun flex thing was a classic shit test. Deal with it how you always deal with shit-tests. Your sex in the toilets DHV? Wrong on so many damn levels. You're not showing preselection there, you're CLAIMING it. Crucial damn difference. If the girls are playing along with you, don't feel you need to jump straight in to DHV DHV DHV. Feel free to have a normal damn conversation too :-) Routine stacks ... yes, but you're thinking about them wrong. When I used to be a computer geek, I had loads of i…
/r/seduction06/06/10 08:37 AM
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All ages, but tend to cluster around 30. I've had students from 18 to 63... We run workshops everywhere not just the US.
/r/seduction31/05/10 06:45 AM
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There are two ways to do this (and you need to hit both): a) Improve your 'outer' social / conversation skills. By far the best way of doing this is talking to lots and lots and lots of new people. This skill is invaluable, and well worth developing outside of game. That's why we teach "cold approach". If you're too pussy to do that, find other ways to meet lots of new people: salsa; join a club; speed dating b) Improve you. Start doing more interesting stuff in your life. Start to clear up your…
/r/seduction26/05/10 01:39 AM
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We tend to advertise them via our mailing lists. If you go to www.lovesystems.com, sign up for our newsletter, the Love Systems Insider. It's about 80% useful (and free) dating advice, and about 20% geo-targetted shout-outs for events happening where you live. Another idea: Keychain seems to organize most of them, and you can follow his excellent blog here: http://www.adventuresofkeychain.com/
/r/seduction26/05/10 01:35 AM
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I learned to pick up in the UK. American girls are easier to game, especially in the UK. Funny you posted that link - I would have sent it to you otherwise! Of the two guys who wrote it (who are also both Love Systems instructors, and close personal friends who I've had a chance to watch game over and over again), 5.0 mostly stays away from routines - he has little gimmicks that spike the energy just as well, and fit his personality really well. Mr M uses DHV stories and cold reads frequently an…
/r/seduction26/05/10 12:10 AM
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Learn to touch everyone in a social way first. It will take practice!
/r/seduction25/05/10 12:29 AM
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Improv group, absolutely. Debate team, in my humble opinion, will improve all the wrong skills (for picking up women). Logical and factual conversations have little place in picking up women, where the creativity and letting go and feeling the moment that improv hopefully will will be awesome. Learning isolation? Practice it :-) BTW, where do you live? If it's a biggish city, or it's in the UK see if you can't get the junior instructors near where you live to come and do a mini-conference. These…
/r/seduction25/05/10 12:28 AM
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I love conversations about me, and if I've been having a lot of them, girls who refuse to talk about me bore the hell out of me :-) This sounds like an escalation issue. It's also context dependant. You're not going to get a party girl in a hgh stimulation environment to have a deep and meaningful with you. These deeper questions - they're a matter of escalation! Get the girl isolated, get her sat down, and ramp up to them. Have a search for "The Question Game", which was my ROUTINE OF POWER whe…
/r/seduction25/05/10 12:25 AM
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Ha! So I did a talk on this at the last Superconference, and almost had a fucking breakdown trying to accurately and concisely explain what a frame is in 20 minutes :-) This from the "King of Frame Control". A 'frame' is the meaning we project on to the events and situations around us. Imagine a little little kid is walking along with their parent, and falls over, bumps his head. What does he do first? He looks at his parent, because he's not sure of the frame. If the parent says "Oh poor baby, …
/r/seduction25/05/10 12:22 AM
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This is an entirely achieveable goal :-)
/r/seduction25/05/10 12:14 AM
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Sounds like he likes you, but doesn't really have time for you. This sounds like who he is, rather than a behaviour. He's not going to change. Check out: http://www.amazon.com/Passion-Trap-Where-Relationship-Going/dp/1587361086/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1240545428&sr=8-1 And feel free to ask a specific question when you're less stoned ;-)
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:45 PM
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Perhaps you enjoy conversations that make you feel intelligent?
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:04 PM
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Believe!
/r/seduction24/05/10 12:10 PM
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I think most people ask this question because they want to know what 'good' looks like. Here are several profiles of instructors I know: Has three or four girls he's fucking regularly; sleeps with a new girl every fortnight or so - this is mostly because he doesn't go out regularly any more - he's happy with the girls he has Has no idea how many girls he's slept with, but is adding news girls more than once a week, and has been for a few years (when he's not been in relationships). Get's laid ab…
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:52 AM
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Totally grab a copy of David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating"
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:45 AM
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Save your pennies and get bottle service and take some friends and fill your table with girls you've met. Easiest way to get laid ever. Get to venues early, and scout out the casinos that the clubs are in for places you can bounce a girl: ie: restaurants. I'd highly recommend going out at a club in the casino you stay in. Nothing so easy as saying to a girl "Hey, let's go get loaded in my room before heading somewhere else" and then not actually leaving the room...
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:44 AM
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How did you become a coach, and if your story is somewhat different/original, how do most people become coaches? Meet and befriend an instructor, and show promise. Almost all our instructor crop are former students. Also, how likely am I to be chosen for an internship position if I'm considerably younger than most (if not all) of the candidates and have absolutely no work experience? Apply and impress :-) If you're over 18, and seem enthusiastic, that's a good start.
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:41 AM
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A dating coach will teach you how to meet and attract women. There are lots and lots and lots of companies that offer courses - of which the one I work for is the most expensive (Love Systems). Industry rates go from $900 - $3,000 for a three day weekend course, and one-on-one instruction can be found from $50 - $200 an hour. Choose a coach who will go out 'in field' with you and actually talk to girls in front of you. Make sure the company has a refund policy and ask for precise details - if a …
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:41 AM
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Obviously I recommend ours (Love Systems) :-) In terms of other companies ... I am willing to recommend individual instructors, even though in some cases the company has a literal stable of shitty instructors - the following are not endorsements of pickup companies, because some of the following companies are terrible - but the instructors mentioned I will get behind... Adam Lyons at PUA Training is a personal friend, and has great game. A workshp with TylerDurden, Ozzie/Ox, or Tim from Real Soc…
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:40 AM
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Go and start conversations with 100 girls. After the first twenty (and only then) grab a reputable ebook (Magic Bullets / Double Your Dating / Whatever Juggler's current product is called, anything by The Approach). Read it, and then try out what you tried on the next 80.
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:40 AM
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Tell me about a woman that you were NOT successful at seducing. How was she able to fend you off. I assume that there has to be at least one legit strike out for you. Well I must have opened 5-6,000 sets at least, so there are quite a few strike-outs ;-) I imagine you're really asking about a recent one tho, since I got good at this... I've also had a monogamous g/f for a few years now, so to find a recent example means a set I winged, tried to get the girl really in to me, and failed... I 'fail…
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:40 AM
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What exactly do you mean by locking in? I've heard about this when reading MM and Magic Bullets, but still not 100% sure what it means. Also, how do you go about locking in and isolating? In cases when I've isolated it's always been kind of accidental, as in me and the girl drifted away from her group. I need to be able to do this more deliberately. This is a hard one to explain not in person, but: locking in is where you put yourself in to a physically comfortable position that makes you part o…
/r/seduction24/05/10 04:39 AM
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You wanna be Rocky, not the dude from Silence of The Lambs :-) You've turned adversity in to something awesome, and not a reason to skin chicks alive...
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:03 AM
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Ask me a question!
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:02 AM
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hahaha!
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:02 AM
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No no, the idea is: "People think they've found someone special all the time, and they're usually wrong. They're mistaking a lack of lonliness and some good feelings from sex and hugging as the one. I know I've done that before. I want to find 'the one' by dating someone, and over time, realizing I don't want to be with someone else". You're expressly saying "You could be the one ... but I want to know it's real before I make that call"
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:01 AM
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Yes, agree. But don't use this as an excuse for not opening :-) Whenever you think you've found a winning formula in learning pickup, there's some kind of God-damn trap to fall in to. Seriously! ;-) Concentrate on having fun, but don't let that stop you pushing your boundaries. Having a good wing to call you on your shit is important.
/r/seduction24/05/10 03:00 AM
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zactly
/r/seduction24/05/10 02:59 AM
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You're doing it wrong, son :-) My demeanor is calm and genuine, what some might call cool, but not what you would think of as stereotypically "cool." I don't act aloof or bored like a poser thinks a "cool" guy is supposed to act; instead I engage the girl in conversation and treat her like a normal person. I act as though I am comfortable with myself, because I am. http://www.tuckermax.com/archives/entries/date/breaking_down_the_game.phtml
/r/seduction24/05/10 02:59 AM
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You would be amazed how much more sex you'll get by doing nothing other than staying in set. Shit takes time to build. If a girl is talking to you, and investing in what you're saying, she's in to you.
/r/seduction24/05/10 02:57 AM
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How to get over a one-itus: Stop jerking off about her. Now. It does all the wrong things. Realize that it's REALLY NOT ABOUT HER. It was about your emotional addiction to her. Sounds like you're still adding to it by playing in to it. Boundaries: if you're still in contact with her, cut that shit off. If you're still entertaining ANY idea of getting back with her, cut that shit off. Like really 100% cut off ANY CONTACT you still have with this girl. ALL. Refuse to get drawn in to ANY conversati…
/r/seduction24/05/10 02:56 AM
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Sorry, missed the main question here: open three sets for every drink you want, most importantly the first one. You'll find opening sets and having fun and spending time in the venue also gets you in to state just as well as alcohol.
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:46 PM
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Sounds awesome, good thinking :-)
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:44 PM
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Love Systems' ebook.
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:43 PM
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As scary as women who pretend their tits are perkier than they are through wonderbras, and who pretend they're prettier than they are with makeup? Sky is fucking falling bro, so make sure you're indoors ;-)
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:41 PM
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What did you expect? I work for Love Systems :-) I also think it's an awesome resource. If you were asking for something else (specific advice on something), feel free to rephrase the question and I'll give it a shot!
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:32 PM
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You shouldn't. Vaginas are scary. Stay in.
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:28 PM
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That movie will never come out, also
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:27 PM
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Unsure I can find it. Here are the notes I taught from last time I gave my AA talk: [ ] Approach Anxiety and how to get good [ ] Basis of Approach Anxiety 2,000 [ ] What Approach Anxiety Really is [ ] Simple truth: If you don't practice what we teach, you the benefits you'll get will be severely diminished [ ] Disheartening - guys with so much potential, don't always follow through [ ] If you're not putting yourself out there regularly, you're not going to get much better [ ] This talk is about …
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:27 PM
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Magic Bullets
/r/seduction23/05/10 03:24 PM
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Be cool, and flatter them.
/r/seduction23/05/10 02:18 PM
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That's all in your head. You can make her feel great by being a source of good emotions (that doesn't mean being super nice to her).
/r/seduction23/05/10 02:17 PM
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Depends what you're doing with your free time... Any barrier with the being unemployed and meeting women is largely in your head.
/r/seduction23/05/10 01:55 PM
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Here's how game is learned: a) You learn a bit of routines and shit and those help you punch above your weight. Girls who are slightly hotter than the ones you'd get otherwise. That'll up your self-esteem, and then you'll naturally feel able to pick up hotter girls. And on and on. b) Everything is logistics. A girl who only sort of likes you will fuck you if you get the logistics right. A girl who's totally in you won't sleep with you if you fuck up the logistics (ie: try and extract her by sayi…
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:56 PM
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I have an article about this kicking around somewhere but I can find it. Basic summary: Don't do it. Instead tell your buddies: "I've decided I want to learn how to pick up chicks. I'll buy you a shot for every chick you make me talk to". Tell this to female friends too - they'll be supportive. No mention of "pickup lines I learned on the internet" or any of that shit. Just "I'm going to keep talking to girls until I meet a g/f". People will be drawn by the prospect of seeing you get blown out. …
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:52 PM
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So get back in to the groove by finding stuff that brings you in to contact iwth women without you needing to actively approach. That's what Salsa classes were made for, and speed-dating too. Take up a new hobby. You've pointed out the problem yourself - you've got no life ;-) No need to go all-out, especially if you're resisting the idea. Small chunk it and just get out there, even if you're not approaching. You'll find parts of the 'magical creature' coming back, and much of game is tapping in…
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:49 PM
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www.theattractionforums.com
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:47 PM
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Women care about how you make them feel. Spending money on them makes them feel good! But you can too. When I was in a similar situation to you, I tried to fill my life with rich and powerful mentors - this was a good thing to do from a business perspective, and it was a turn-on for chicks for us both to be treated by them. Also: college students. Your lack of a real job gives you the freedom to hang out with them (by keeping unconventional hours) - also the girls there are used to hanging out w…
/r/seduction23/05/10 12:47 PM
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Fort Knox was a bit overkill ;-) I just mean I don't accept requests from community guys, basically, or people I don't know ... and I'm not available in search. I think it works well for grounding you. A chick befriends me on FB and she can see photos of my awesome life, and she can see how I'm the center of an awesome social circle. These are good things. Makes a great way to 'close' friends of friends too - just send them an friend request. I don't want to be the "you have to be Mr Popular" gu…
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:27 AM
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Someone else's idea again, but: "For every hot woman you meet, there's a guy who's bored of fucking her"
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:24 AM
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Not the ones I work with :-) But sure, I've heard of this. You know the great thing about a bootcamp is you get to see several different instructors at it, and you see a whole range of different styles. Some guys are flashy on the open, and sure it impresses students. But if you see someone good, here's what you'll notice, regardless of the open: they isolate the girl and lock in asap. Most (but by no means all) of the LS guys are pretty "under the radar". It gives me a raging fucking hardon to …
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:07 AM
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The girl not blowing them out ;-) Seriously: I ask students this question all the time: "If you'd gone and made a great impression, how would she have acted?". They tend to say "uh, well, uh, she'd have smiled, and she'd have played along in the conversation, and she'd have asked me a couple of questions and ... oh shit, she did all that!". They have this idea in the head that they can deliver their line and the chick will be like "Your question about little dogs was fascinating. Would you mind …
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:03 AM
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Favourite subreddit? I spend quite a bit of time on r/fitness, and I'm a huge fan of r/programming because I'm more of a geek than any of you will ever be :-D Not sure what you mean by non-LS lairs - we don't have any lairs we directly support. I was very active in the LSS for a long time. It was good for finding wings, but there was a great deal of shitty advice on there. People think they're some kind of fucking genius when they get this epiphany of "Hey, if I focus on just having a good time,…
/r/seduction23/05/10 09:00 AM
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Sounds like you're worried you're going to stop progressing by settling? Here is the perfect situation for your PUA growth: date several girls, be sleeping with several girls, and look to up the quality. One day you'll meet a girl who makes you want to stop dating the others and boom, you've found yourself a wife ;-) It's ok to have fuck-buddies. Man up and express that boundary to girls. Hell: tell them "it's so easy for people to fall in to relationships they're unhappy with. I want to be seei…
/r/seduction23/05/10 08:52 AM
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It'll take you a short while to refind the momentum, but it's not like you're suddenly going to lose all skill, by any means. Get your exams done, and mentally prepare yourself for all the post-finals easy pussy.
/r/seduction23/05/10 08:48 AM
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Slap yourself out of it :-) There's a saying, which is along the lines of "perfect design comes out of constraints". You have a constraint in terms of your diet - now get creative on how to turn that in to a plus. You've got a great reason to invite girls back to yours on a first date instead of going out for food with them - this is a plus. There will be many more. Get thinking.
/r/seduction23/05/10 08:47 AM
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Yes. And then I've been amazed at how well they did, and how happy they were with the progress :-) Had a few guys who physically shook when talking to girls, but the hardest things to deal with are the guy who negatively reframes EVERYTHING, and the guy who has an unattractive accent and can't make themselves understood. Negative guy seriously saps your energy as an instructor, and although they often have decent success, they quickly manage to turn that in to huge disaster in their head. It's w…
/r/seduction23/05/10 08:46 AM
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I'll work on it; thanks for the advice. As for working sets, I often frequent parties where I know hardly anybody. Would you recommend chatting with the guys first to establish some grounding before moving on the the ladies? Yes. And who knows, you might also meet some cool guys! :-) This is also a great way to go out alone. Go out, hang by the bar, get chatting to some cool guys, and then insta-wing them and start bringing girls in to the group. Also, why do PUAs often use false names? It start…
/r/seduction23/05/10 08:40 AM
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That's what items B and C were about :-) The problems you have here are a combination of: you're not getting her interested enough (improve attraction); you're not handling logistics properly (lock-in and isolate. If you're not locking in, and isolating you are fucking yourself in every set. So easy to do, and such good return on investment). The logistics aspect is the closest to a magical solution here. The longer-term solution is improve your attraction game! What you're describing here is mo…
/r/seduction23/05/10 06:34 AM
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a) Become the guy she talked to for 10 minutes earlier in the day ;-) I was on a tropical island pretty recently that had this really fucked social dynamic going on. In the evening, the girls would be all in bikinis and dancing and shit, and had huge value. They were getting hit on all the time. It was basically impossible to cold-approach with value. Solution? We day-game short-setted the fuck out of the whole island so we were warm approaching in the evening. Boom, success. b) Learn to isolate…
/r/seduction23/05/10 06:20 AM
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You're making this something far too big in your mind! Tell girls, but frame it as the reason you've started cooking and eating healthy food the whole time. Get all excited about how much better you feel eating food you've prepared for yourself. Say you've learned some amazing recipes, and you feel full of energy for eating much cleaner (and obviously you need to learn to cook, but I'm guessing you need to do that anyway)... If it's on, make a joke out of it. Say "this is normally where I'd invi…
/r/seduction23/05/10 06:15 AM
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Don't make a decision until you're banging some other chicks. If you're doing that, but really, you want back with your ex, get back with your ex. But get banging some other chicks first - it'll make you more honest with yourself
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:55 AM
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Supply and demand. If you've got time but no money, there are usually a bunch of opportunities for working as an intern (have a look in the "Official Announcements" section of the LS forum). Also: it's worth it :-) Most of the credible companies offer a rock-solid refund guarantee but only get asked for one in the rarest of cases (in 4 years, with something like 800 students, I didn't get asked for a single one).
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:49 AM
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You've created an abstract problem here, and you're hoping you can just step in to a perfect solution. That's not conducive to getting better ;-) Pick one specific cool thing you want to tell people about. Next time you're out, try and work it in to every set. How does it go? If it falls flat, or they girl acts like you're bragging, try doing it differently until you get it right. You will fuck up some of the time. Rinse, repeat.
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:34 AM
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Dude, I'll always text that night, but I don't like your text at all one little bit. Far too nice guy. That said, if she'd been pretty in to you, you'd probably have gotten a response anyway. I'll try and throw in call-back humour: "Hey, hope that creepy guy didn't steal any more of your drinks xx" or whatever, but "Hope you get home ok" is dull!
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:31 AM
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She's got a boyfriend, but she's down to fuck.
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:01 AM
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OK, you're both off a little bit :-) Comfort is TRULY NECESSARY for high-class women. Sure, it's possible to get laid without it. I've met girls in night clubs and been having sex with them in my hotel within 20 minutes, but let's not beat around the bush here: these are not the type of high quality girls you want in your life ;-) If you wanna tag some bitch who's horny, sure, drop comfort and go all RSD. If you want to start a meaningful relationship (even for one night) with a high quality gir…
/r/seduction23/05/10 05:00 AM
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This is largely right, but there are a few subtleties missing! :-) Transition (A1/A2): If you look at many canned openers, it doesn't seem natural to go to these straight to attraction material. At some point during her response to your opener you 'spontaneously' change the topic of the conversation (the bigger the change the better, IMO). Now you are in a proper conversation with the girl / her group, and she's not thinking "When will this guy leave me alone?" This is mostly right. But you need…
/r/seduction23/05/10 04:56 AM
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Some books: Psychocybernetics by Maxwell Maltz Iron John by Rober Bly The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle All helped me muchly. I'd also like to take a moment to pimp LoveSystems CD #25, the alpha male one, which Braddock, Mr M and I did a while ago, because it's fucking AWESOME, and because the three of us put most of our best inner game ideas in to it.
/r/seduction16/05/10 01:28 PM
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I'm Asian, so kinoing is not something that comes easily to me. I find this hilarious, as I did a bootcamp trip with an (exceptionally talented) Asian instructor before he got good who was trying to learn kino, and kept weird touching me ;-) The answer is: practice practice practice. Re your elevator question: chill the fuck out. It's an elevator. If you want to make a move on her, get her alone and add alcohol and escalate. Trying to think about escalating in the elevator is missing a bigger pi…
/r/seduction15/05/10 05:21 AM
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Hey buddy! I've spent a /lot/ of time with most of the Internet Pickup Heros (from Mystery to Sinn to Braddock & MrM), so I can give you some firmer figures ;-) If you're using a ratio of "nights trying to get laid" vs "nights gotten laid", most instructors who are worth learning from hit 60-80%. But this is entirely dependent on a whole bunch of factors... What are they willing to fuck? Willingness to fuck a 7, a holiday location, and persistance, and something has to go wrong not to get laid. …
/r/seduction15/05/10 05:11 AM
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On the phone: "What are you doing?" It's what you'd ask a friend - assume rapport.
/r/seduction15/05/10 04:56 AM
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