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Yes these are all things I wouldn’t know unless someone specifically told me or I went through it myself! That’s my hope in posting here. I find a lot of the posts about red flags to be helpful but still vague when they’re not applied like I tried to apply specifically here in talking about those exact situations and phrasing. I think it would be helpful if FDS went more in that direction instead of vagueness about red flags. I hope you hung up on that guy and blocked him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:21 PM
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You are right! Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:18 PM
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I am really happy to be doing this work now and even though I have a lot of learning to do still I hope that other women can read these more realistic posts about what they can actually expect from some interactions. You and I are on the same path of healing and setting boundaries and having high standards! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:17 PM
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Again... I’m learning... and sharing realistic experiences... and making mistakes... and being honest and learning again... thanks...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:15 PM
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Thank you! I need to dig deeper into the FDS reading list and so I’ll try to get back into that one. I don’t think it helped the audio book voice was a deep male voice and so therefore especially disturbing to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:04 AM
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I started listening to the audio book and it just freaked me out but thanks for the info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:23 AM
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Yes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:26 PM
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Thank you for the detailed response! I agree with your last point and I also have doubts about how long it will take these men to get out on their own. I live on my own because I’m ambitious and good with finances, and I want that same energy back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:34 PM
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Super valid points. I’m definitely bored and trying to build up a roster myself since I’m currently dating someone who I like a LOT (but there’s no promise of exclusivity yet) so I like that there are these men who are making the date with me- but they live at home. I definitely wouldn’t “settle” for them unless they were well off. It’s also hard because I live in a rural area and there aren’t many good jobs to pay the bills and rents on the rise- (California) so I’m wondering if maybe this is j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:38 AM
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Hi, I’m wondering how other ladies in their early to mid 20s feel about dating men who live with their families? It seems like nearly every guy who is very charming and I have mutual interests with lives at home (more common now with COVID). In fact, all the men who live at home state it’s due to covid and they came back from traveling or school due to COVID. Should I consider even dating a man who lives at home? I personally don’t live at home so I know this would likely result in him wanting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:04 AM
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I love this! I wish it had more likes. I recognize every one of these in a guy I’ve been dating non exclusively and am so happy to see it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:05 AM
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Yes! He would neg me a lot- several times a week. “You sure do like X thing don’t you?” “WOW you’ve been busy I see” “yes I get it you’ve said it before” when I’m talking about my interests hobbies and passions. He would drink quite a lot and would regularly be angry hungover then talk about how he’s got to “take a break” for a week from drinking, but he would rarely get drunk with me even though I enjoy drinking with people I love if it made us more affectionate, loose/loving (basically having …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:27 PM
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Yes- I began watching Asha Christina toward the beginning of the journey when I was focused on dating and men. Then I found Breeny Lee and I LOVE her for things relating to confidence and standards/not letting past trauma affect you. Dr. Michelle is another good one that covers a lot of topics but mostly on the physical and mental level up/elegance. Linda Sandrine and “level up journey” are other good channels for elegance and self care. I do also watch SheRaSeven1 but the videos are very long u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:45 PM
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That’s so sweet to hear and put a genuine smile on my face. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:39 PM
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Your comment made me remember to call my old therapist and set up an appointment! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:07 PM
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I’ve been dating a guy who treats me so well and I’m so thankful for it- but mostly because I’ve been going through my own level up since dumping an LVM a few months ago. These are some things I’ve been doing. Deleted reddit and IG for a few weeks (no scroll!), got three books and read them all simultaneously so I don’t get bored, started beading/making jewelry, got into aromatherapy, started dressing “nice” every day (even though I work from home!), affirmations daily- I have a list I keep tape…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:53 PM
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My birthday is tomorrow- and the guy I’m dating knows I’ll be with family and be unavailable. So today he picked me up with a gift for me and told me this is gift #1 and he’ll have gift #2 when he sees me again after my birthday or late in the day tomorrow. He got me a nice pair of binoculars, and showed up with my favorite breakfast to go. Since he works during the day- we went to a nearby large park for two hours this morning and ate and did bird watching together after next to a beautiful cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:55 PM
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This was great to read. It sounds like you are doing so well for yourself! Congratulations to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:13 PM
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I have seen so many green flags in a guy I’ve been dating recently. We’re childhood friends. It’s been about a month or more of him courting me. Texts me every day, visits me some mornings before I work with my favorite coffee and breakfast, takes me out to lunch on his days off and always pays, brings my favorite beer over to watch my favorite show with me. My favorite show just became his- and he references it all the time with me. Followed the meme pages I like and sends me his favorites. Ado…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:06 PM
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Yes! That’s her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:21 PM
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It’s amazing! I love this book so far. I’m about 50 pages in and there’s already so much I’m identifying with and dismantling. Watch a review on YouTube if you’re curious before getting it! It’s like 40 years old but so many women still love this book and it’s all so relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:43 PM
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Having been in long term relationships with both men and women i really agree with you. I’m still open to the idea that a man could love me very deeply, almost equally, but my standards have changed tremendously along with my expectations that any man is capable of that if he just goes to therapy or works on himself. They will do that, nurture themselves, change for themselves, and still be selfish enough to leave you out of their healing process. (Actually a blessing- time to leave). Further, r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:28 PM
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Great! I found it while thrifting yesterday sitting on the edge of the books, staring at me. Had no idea it would be FDS content but after reading it for like ten mins at the store I was hooked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:54 PM
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Lovely journey you’ve been on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:21 PM
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I posted last week I think about a guy I’ve been dating recently. We’re family friends, and have spent time together our whole lives. It’s been... really amazing. I have only told one friend about our connection. I was really losing faith in men as a whole- and was strongly considering only being with women (I’m queer). This dude though- every time we spend time together, he does everything right. Calls me in the morning and asks me what coffee I want. He showed up with my favorite food to cook …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:27 PM
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My ex fits that second one so well. I have been thinking to myself a lot about dating highly educated men and how... selfish and narcissistic they tend to be. Coddled by their parents (who paid for the education usually), and always seem to think they desire another intellectual woman but are actually not ready to understand that this woman is an equal, not the submissive and battered woman they really want. They want to control, argue, and belittle an intellectual woman for disagreeing with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:16 PM
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Wow I just went through such a very similar experience. I’m so happy we both chose option 2 even when it felt wrong and scary and unreal at first. We made an investment in our selves and it’ll never stop giving back! Congratulations on your new happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:58 PM
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Recently started dating a guy who’s a long term family friend- our parents grew up together so I’ve known him my whole life. He’s always been a really (really really) considerate and charming guy. He’s also extremely hygienic about his appearance physically and in his lifestyle, and is very attractive. He’s younger than me by 2 years, so I just never considered it given the immaturity factor. We’re in our 20’s. In the last two weeks- he’s taken me out to eat and told me beforehand he’d be paying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:07 PM
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Lmao yes, like my closure is never speaking to you again asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:21 PM
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Yeah took way too long for me to finally end things. He claimed to always like/love(?) me for my own intelligence, willpower, etc. but really he just liked someone to vent to, ignore, and overpower 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:27 PM
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Yep... this, and there’s about 6?7? Other paragraphs just like this one. Wants to make himself feel better sooooo bad. I am not a child and am not falling for his BS :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:28 PM
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Yep.. he is projecting so hard thinking I need to contact him for closure. And the way that dudes turn into fucking Shakespeare when they gotta prove a point too. Hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:13 PM
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Here’s an actual part of it (get ready for a good laugh) I understand you may be resentful towards me in certain ways. Some of them I am more sympathetic towards than others. If you would like to make a specific inquiry about something that can't escape your mind with respect to those feelings, I do welcome your questions. You may either respond to this email, or call me if you really do prefer a live conversation. However, please be aware that if you choose to call, I may not be able to answer …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:37 PM
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Thank you! So far I’ve been really good, I know there may come a point where I might be reminiscing and upset or crying but, I did an “emotional doorslam” on him a while back and I think that has prevented me from getting really sad. It’s just been hard to focus at work, but overall I just went out yesterday morning and bought beer, nail polish, hair dye, rum, and some snacks. My housemate and I drank and talked all night and had a blast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:14 PM
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