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1	What's my appeal and can I change it? "But... they are all older woman"... I could not guess that in a million years. Anyway you are attractive.. for an older women. If you want to go younger you have to head out - bars, concerts, coffee bars etc. you can find younger women everywhere there. App has a slider with an age restriction and most of the 20's girls would probably put something like 20 - 30 range there, not 20 - 40 (some might). Real life has no age filter and you can meet and chat with whoever you want.	/r/seduction	04/03/26 01:23 AM
1	For guys with 6 pack abs, have they helped you in seduction? I have a 6-pack for the last 15 years. It helped me only slightly only in 2 instances and I did not date any of those girls: First when I was very young, it was hot outside, we were playing I think volleyball or something and I threw away my t-shirt. I could see a girl friend of mine to stare at me and later realised she liked me but definitely not because of 6-pack. Also I never dated her, I was stupid, young and she was a ball of mess anyway. Second time was just last year - went clubbing with…	/r/seduction	11/02/26 04:34 AM
2	How to get laid ASAP if you have no standards? That's why hookers exist. And if you have no money head to a nearby bar and hit on older overweight women. Every night at every bar there are a few desperate and overlooked enough women to let you hit if you have no standards and are drunk enough.	/r/seduction	21/01/26 10:14 PM
2	How to pass this shit-test? I would probably fool around stating that she obviously seem to like techno and that I would take her to a techno concert as the first date. Something along those lines. Basicly not giving a shit.	/r/seduction	18/11/25 02:18 AM
11	When she says " I just want to be alone" I know, but I am speaking from experience. Seen those excuses 10+ times at least and 2x on myself when I was younger. It was always a new guy. Not literally cheating (yet) but eyeballing someone new who stroke her interest.	/r/seduction	03/11/25 12:07 AM
18	When she says " I just want to be alone" She is seeing someone else and feeling guilty she would cheat. This way she will not cheat if anything happens between her and the new object of her interest and at the same time she can keep you as a backup if it does not work out with the new guy. Women are never alone (unless you leave her and she really loved you - which is not your situation here). Run as hell. She is for the streets. Everytime a girl says that she needs space, needs to be alone, needs to "explore" her whatever, needs a hea…	/r/seduction	02/11/25 11:41 PM
2	Do you feel guilty for approaching college girls when you’re older? Checked your post history before you hid it. You are 31yr old woman from UK who complains on tinder reddit groups about not having enough matches compared to a year or two ago. I gave you a chance to say something meaningful yet you decided to lie, attack, assume, complain and curse. I wonder why you are single and on dating apps for 2 years. Do you really think your opinion has any value now? Not that it had much of a value beforehand anyway..	/r/seduction	28/10/25 05:06 PM
2	Do you feel guilty for approaching college girls when you’re older? No I wouldn't date 13 year old or whatever. Also age of consent in my country is 15 years old but that does not mean I am attracted to 15 year olds lol or that I would want to date them. But there is no law stopping me from doing so. Sorry but 19yr old woman is an adult, she can vote, drive a car, take a loan, build a property, get married etc. Let me guess - you are 30+ bitter woman attacking anyone dating women younger because they are out-competing you in a dating market. Women around 30 in m…	/r/seduction	28/10/25 02:58 PM
1	Do you feel guilty for approaching college girls when you’re older? Maybe I will? Too soon to tell. We are dating for like past 2 months.	/r/seduction	28/10/25 01:23 PM
11	Do you feel guilty for approaching college girls when you’re older? I am 31 and I date college girls, so what. Even now I date 19F.. It is not like they are my primary focus but if a girl this age bracket shows interest in me I am not against it (why would I lol, I am still a man). Yes I do get shit-tested a lot because of my age by either them, their friends, or even their family but I just shrug it off and when they meet me they are like fine whatever and they even like me. I honestly do not care. I do not force anyone into anything. A lot of girls just apprec…	/r/seduction	28/10/25 03:37 AM
2	How can I stop being goody shoes. It always depends how you say things. Sure I am not native in english so it might sound a bit rough but even those rude comments would stir some hefty emotions. They did even in you since you left the comment ;) Also I literally joked about how we spiked the drink (we were like 4 men there) with two girls like a half a year ago and they still drank it.. Because they knew we are joking because it always depends how you say things. We just met those girls and spoke to them for like 15 minutes max …	/r/seduction	23/10/25 11:41 AM
1	No-Gos when you make fun of her in a flirty way? You could be rude sometime and get away with it. Some girls even like that because whole world lies at their feet their whole life if they are pretty enough so now you are different. But there is very thin line between being flirty mean / rude and being straight asshole. And noone like assholes.	/r/seduction	22/10/25 05:24 PM
5	How can I stop being goody shoes. Easy, if you are stuck in a safe territory keep in mind and practice following: Mock them eg: be a little bit mean but not in a bad way, there is a thin line between being an asshole and being playfully mean. Assume things about them constantly Playfully assume and overexaggerate things like: Their preference in men (say things like: "You look like a type who enjoys men who drink, beat them, don't work etc." - and she follows either by disagreeing / starting an argument [playful!] or agreeing be…	/r/seduction	22/10/25 03:11 AM
1	My Roster The more you can time-wise handle, the better odds of success (whatever that means for you) you will have. I could handle max 5 girls in my roster consistently where I can meet and text them but even at that point some would get upset for not texting back quick enough (or at all for a few days), or seeing you somewhere out with some other chick without you noticing etc. So it is up to you. I heard stories that after a while you can keep 10+ girls in your roster because you will optimise better -…	/r/seduction	19/10/25 02:25 AM
1	How do people get into situations to hookup and how do they escalate? Man this is golden. This should be etched into the teachings of all men for all the eternity. Literally one of the best pieces of advice I have ever read. Thank you very much!	/r/seduction	22/08/25 12:16 AM
3	What makes someone go from attractive to just a friend before anything even starts? I do not know how the interaction went but by teasing you state your intention - that you do not want to be just a friend (or that you are contemplating a possibility of being more). If you never state your intention you might be seen as someone just friendly and girl will loose interest and put you into the friend category. Also being overly agreeable might put you into the same category. List goes on but basicly do not hide yourself, be yourself, do not agree with the girl just so you make her…	/r/seduction	17/07/25 11:13 PM
6	What makes someone go from attractive to just a friend before anything even starts? You are too safe and predictable brother. Even to the point that girl will realise (unconsciously) that it would be better to keep you around than to loose you - thus downgrading you to a friend which benefits her better than dating you. There is also no future possibility of loosing you when you are just a friend. Or better yet, you are too "nice guy". You need to create more tension and be more unpredictable, tease, keep them guessing who you are, keep secrets for yourself, create mystery, nev…	/r/seduction	17/07/25 10:49 PM
5	How did you learn to flirt without feeling weird or awkward? Practice makes perfect. Nothing else. You will feel weird or awkward from time to time but you will get better. After some time you will stop failing basic shit-tests all women give you or fail very few because they tend to repeat. To speed up the process you can hang out with a girl who storms you with shit tests in every other sentence or try night game. I am sure you have someone in mind already. This would train you quicker but it also harder to hang out with such a girl and keeping her inte…	/r/seduction	25/04/25 08:01 AM
2	Improving on game Yes I did. Had 50/50 interest and while I think I have now good friend in her she is expecting (and even verbally convincing me) to have a relationship with her long term. It crushes me a bit because I grew rather fond of her but apart from physical attraction I do not feel like I would like to date her long term. So it is a good practice but at some point you have to decide. Also it is way easier to pull the girl you do not like that much since you are just yourself and not clingy on the outcom…	/r/seduction	24/03/25 01:55 PM
1	Is it fine if I always swiftly develop feelings for a new girl after a rejection? Props to you. Some people never get over the girl who rejected them even though they never even dated. Most get fixated into their own fantasy what could have been. If you can move as fast good for you. Also girls do not mind that approach. Except the one who rejected you haha. She might get jealous but that's on her.	/r/seduction	21/03/25 02:48 PM
6	Pretty girls tend to avoid me, and I struggle with how to approach them—how do I build confidence to keep trying? You approach pretty girl the same as any other girl. Do not treat her like special at all and aside from occasional flirt so she gets the hint you basicly speak to her as your peer / equal. Nothing to overthink there really. From my experience what really gets those girls is disagreeing with their opinions, making fun of them (even things they put effort into) and generally being a bit of an asshole. It works because they are used to the fact that whole world lays at their feet just because they…	/r/seduction	10/03/25 06:25 AM
2	Which option should I chose to get maximum results with girls I have a sports car (kind of). It attracts teenagers and young adults but basicly only dudes. They take pictures next to it / of it. While sometimes I am with a girl further from the car she can see it draws attention but apart from funny laughs about that for girls any car is just 4 wheels and a steering wheel. They do not care and they do not distinguish cars at all. Unless you want to have some super-famous car like Porsche or Lambo or something similar. But those cars would attract the kind …	/r/seduction	26/02/25 12:42 AM
112	I invited a woman back to my apartment and I did not escalate Yeah you screwed that up but no worries. Happens to everyone. Basicly you should have escalated way before meeting her, even through text. Touching before going to your place, trying to ingnite that spark, kissing her before even going to your place etc. She basically needed to be hooked way before going to your place. Once you are at your place and there is no spark nothing is going to happen. She will not magically start to undress and any attempts already at your place might seem to be needy …	/r/seduction	20/02/25 01:48 PM
5	Asking out a cashier? I did that a year and a half ago. She was not even giving me some super strong signals, just general kindness and a nice look. I asked her when her shift ends. Girls are not stupid they know exactly where are you going with that words. If she does not like you she will hesitate to tell you and she will be giving you imprecise answers like "sometime in the night but I am not sure yet" or a really wide range of hours because she will be afraid of your reaction and whether you won't be waiting for …	/r/seduction	08/02/25 05:01 AM
2	Seducing Single Mothers Yeah dangerous territory. But if you wish then what always works on single mums is just basicly speaking about kids and appreciating kids in general. Meaning things like "they learn so fast", "it is the best feeling when they are happy" etc. and ofc appreciating her as a mum and what she does for the little kid, how you think single mums have it hard and unfair from the state and goverment and blah blah. She basicly seeks 3 things: Appreciating her kid and kids in general because she thinks her …	/r/seduction	04/02/25 02:13 AM
12	will baldness make me unattractive to women? To be fair yes it does. I had way more success with women when I had a head full of hair. BUT I was also way younger and had way better access to new women - being on an university, working low-pay job but with a collective of people constantly changing etc. What helps massively is not giving a fuck. Women can sense whether you are self-conscious about that. You need to make peace with balding in the first place. When you do, they generally do not give a flying fuck. Your personality sells more.…	/r/seduction	26/01/25 09:26 PM
2	For guys who got a vasectomy, how has it affected your game? I heard it is reversible. Not sure whether it is true or not though. After all they are not removing balls entirely, just cutting and sealing the tubes.	/r/seduction	25/01/25 03:57 AM
1	How beginners with approach anxiety can start cold-approaching women reducing the risk of a bad reaction No. Not sure if girls are different in your country but in mine that would not work very well. I am not saying it would not work at all, it probably would on maybe half the girls but there are better ways not to get hurt if that is what you are after. I personally do not care about rejections anymore, they are just part of the process. Wording implying low self-esteem like "I don't mean to interrupt" (meaning you are interrupting and you know that) while high confidence men simply take what they…	/r/seduction	20/01/25 09:05 PM
6	girl at a wedding Yeah you needed to seize the opportunity here and there. Now it has passed. Sometimes girls will be attracted to you provided some context you went just right into. There is nothing much you can do now about it but you needed to escalate more on the spot. Being friendly, chatty, flirty with her etc. and leading her to whatever was in your mind. Weddings are where people celebrate and might be a bit tipsy which might have helped you. Being a bit touchy might have helped you when opportunity comes…	/r/seduction	15/10/24 05:23 PM
14	Your opinion on open relationships? Not saying it is bad but I knew quite a few people who had open relationship and it is a trend now. Most of them started being closed and opened their relationship after a few years together. Only one of all those relationships survived (so far). The rest either got back together and regretted and soon after split up or it was one party having "more fun" than the other - usually women are benefiting from such relationships more because of how easy is for them to get laid down. The one relationsh…	/r/seduction	03/10/24 08:12 AM
8	How to make my GF more Horny? This is like waking on a thin ice so I do not recommend that behavior but you can see many men does that in their long-term relationships. Most of the society will call that abusive-manipulative relationship. If her friends ever find out you will be a big gossip theme. Basicly you put her down verbally so she does not think about herself much. She will see herself inferior or even childish besides you. Why is this bad apart from logically how manipulative it is towards other person is the fact t…	/r/seduction	23/09/24 07:26 AM
26	How to make my GF more Horny? As someone who had 12y relationship this is quite common. Desire and horniness comes in waves. Sometimes it is there for a few weeks or months and sometimes you barely touch each other. If it is like that it is okay. Each and every long-term relationship ends like that because you basicly know each-other just way too well. But if you struggle with sexual desire for a long time then I have a few fixes for you. Quick and short-term fix is building a sexual tension during the day. Touch her during …	/r/seduction	23/09/24 04:33 AM
0	How do you deal with "things" in your life not going so well? Do you just side-step topics that you know are going to be a downer, or just go on lock-down until you are feeling in higher spirits? Stop comparing yourself to others. Truth be told everyone has their own problems and everyone's life is shit in their own eyes. They just do not spek about it. They fluff things up, they say how happy they are and what a great job they have but in reality we all crave higher pay, better hours, higher social pedestal and such. And yeah, noone I know is "exactly where they want to be in their life". Everyone is heading somewhere. Some ascend, some descend but that does not mean you give up on what…	/r/seduction	20/09/24 11:53 PM
-4	I always fail this shit test All of them should work in theory. But I think girls are testing you whether you do this regularly or not with other girls. Deep down they want something serious and not to be another plaything or at least know it is something special even for you. So I would try laughing it off and say something like "Of course I am just playing, I do this everytime I meet a new person randomly" (implying that it is stupid to even ask that question). But my approach to this might be wrong as well.	/r/seduction	15/09/24 04:52 AM
1	Mouth Piece Try to read non-verbal communication from a person you are talking to. People are like open books and you can read in them even if they do not say a word. Does she face you when you talk to her or is she leaning with her feet towards exit? Does she cross her arms or legs? Is she checking your lips frequently when you speak? There is a lot of non-verbal information which is a result of your verbal game and you basicly get better by simply doing it. You might read people better if you speak to the…	/r/seduction	15/09/24 03:34 AM
62	Big city's are SO much easier than small towns. Why is this? You came from harder enviroment to an easier enviroment. In smaller cities you need to draw the best from what's left out there and can not be too picky either or you are left empty handed. There are only a few bars in smaller cities and possibilites are limited. So you basicly upped your game a lot in your smaller city and then came to an easier enviroment for you. In Big cities there is a huge anonymous factor. In smaller cities all eyes are on you and everybody knows everybody or at least hav…	/r/seduction	05/09/24 05:16 AM
1	second date - Horror Movie You will probably need to be a bit pushy and try to escalate on the next date. I can not really judge this girl by a few words you wrote there but some girls want to be "pursued" in a sense that they don't want to be perceived as being cheap so they say "no" a few times and mean "yes". I know all the good people out there will tell you that "no" is a "no" from a girl but not always. You should try to start with light touches here and there, hugs and eventually going for a kiss if the opportunity…	/r/seduction	31/08/24 06:26 AM
49	The eye-contact game.. Thats a game but only from women's point of view. Maintaining eye contact and constantly checking you out + making themselves available (dancing next to you, going to a bar and ordering next to you etc.) is what girls do when they want you to approach them. They never or very rarely approach men directly. If you like her and she keeps giving you glimpses do not look away or at least not immediately. Try to maintain "some" eye contact. Some girls will even stare at you and test your nerves and ho…	/r/seduction	31/08/24 01:45 AM
3	Is it worth it to break up, date around and experience more? No just that quality women are hard to come by once you hit 30. Younger girls (18 - 25) are hard to meet because the good ones never or very rarely go to parties or anywhere. They prefer to stay at home, read, play games or whatever they are doing and they also aren't on dating apps because it is mostly frown upon nowdays (tinder = sex app basicly so if someone finds them there out of their friends they'll make an image about them and might tell their friends so they are afraid). They meet peopl…	/r/seduction	31/08/24 01:19 AM
4	Is it worth it to break up, date around and experience more? I was in a similar situation and I broke up. I had 12-year old relationship with pretty nice and caring woman and I am also 30 (so from 18 - 30, basicly my whole adulthood so far). We broke up exactly because she did not want kids after all those years so there was no upside and no progress in a relationship whatsoever. I did not have FOMO about other women like you do though. I am single for the past 1 year so far. I was going to parties and meeting people outside. I was not trying to find a ne…	/r/seduction	30/08/24 03:50 PM
0	Is it okay to do day game at a college campus if I don't go there? (I'm 20) Depends. When I went to uni and was a student I never felt off by someone who hung out with our group and was not going to the same uni. Never questioned it even. Not sure about girls though. But to make it less weird you could: Our Uni had a canteen which had better prices for students but also offered meals for outsiders. Prices were still very much affordable and a lot of people went there for a lunch. Not sure about other Unis but hanging there and speaking to people in queue or sitting next…	/r/seduction	30/08/24 06:18 AM
4	How to deal with a bad reputation You can do a lot of things to improve your reputation. Not sure what exactly you did except from being loud but: Volunteering and non-beneficial work always works. People tend to see people who volunteer and help others as more caring and the word will fly and reach even the ones who despise you Helping your friends and always try to be the one offering the help. Someone wants to move the furniture? Offer your helping hand. It cost nothing besides your time and it builds your reputation greatly.…	/r/seduction	29/08/24 03:58 AM
4	Long game at the club Some girls would give you the contact just because they are polite but at the same time they immediately know they will not reply. This is nothing wrong with you. But to mitigate this you could: Try to set up an indirect date before asking for a contact and use that as an excuse for asking for a contact. Meaning your goal should be to find something you both like doing (idk tennis for example) and tell her something along the lines like you are going to play a tennis with your friends in a near …	/r/seduction	28/08/24 12:10 AM
5	Advise about breaking the touch barrier Yes that works. You can also examine her rings and bracelets. Every girl has some on her hand. You can basicly ask for her to show them to you and use that as an excuse for touch. It always works.	/r/seduction	27/08/24 02:26 AM
3	Does a very attractive and outstanding Asian guy make a differnece? Not sure about other countries but where I live (eastern europe) k-pop is getting more and more popular and mainly younger girls crave asian dudes or someone with asian features. BUT you still need to be "white asian". K-pop like basicly. Racism is very real here so being non-white is frown upon and sadly girls care about what their friends think about them.	/r/seduction	27/08/24 12:18 AM
8	How much of dating is really a choice? Yes. I would not even read a book about dating written by a woman. I have nothing against their ways of thinking but their perspective is simply skewed and most female friends would tell you to "wait for a right person" and "everything will come at you at a right time" and bs like that. Yes, it works - if you are a woman and gets 100 messages a day from a thirsty man and even after your prime time you can still pull somewhat decent (but desperate and clueless) men who would accept basicly anythi…	/r/seduction	26/08/24 03:58 AM
10	Best way to meet a quality wingman? I did by just meeting an old friend who was just recently single and trying to go out solo as well. But be wary of some people. A LOT of guys are going out to the same clubs for years and are well-known for their behaviour and by hitting on basicly every girl possible or are too desperate and girls can smell that from miles away. If you happen to be included into their "group" you will fall into the same category in girl's eyes. But this is something hard to avoid especially in a small city.	/r/seduction	02/08/24 01:54 AM
2	Do you change your approach based on the age of the woman? There is a saying that below 25 you need to talk about Star Wars and above 25 about your house, family and ambitions. Take that as you will haha	/r/seduction	01/08/24 01:00 AM
1	How important what you say when you approach a girl? Oh it definitely does matter. But even if you say something stupid you can come out as fine / okay-ish. One evening I was approached by a girl (30+ blonde) with a pickup line: "Do you like cats? Because I do". I thought it was super funny so we spoke a bit but we did not click so I let her go. Later the same evening I thought of using the same pickup line but to some other girl. So I went to the table with 2 girls and asked the one of them "Do you like cats? Because I do". Both of them looked at…	/r/seduction	25/07/24 11:23 PM
1	It's okay for a man to cry? Well she is ex now so in a sense yes but we were together for 12 years and split up because of completely different problem. But she needed to have a masculine man for all those 12 years that's true. I knew showing weakness would be frown upon but I did not mind and still wouldn't even in new relationship.	/r/seduction	23/07/24 03:42 AM
6	It's okay for a man to cry? My father always told me that as a man you can cry in front of a women only in 2 situations: When your dog dies When your family member dies In every other situation crying would portray you weak in women's eyes and also could be used against you later in life. Yes, he was (and still is) a tough guy and yes I only saw him cry on my grandfather funeral. I agree with him. Do not listen to women saying that "it is okay to cry as a man". It is not and it will be used against you. (probably not direc…	/r/seduction	22/07/24 07:55 PM