lucidday Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Ladies, when having sex with a guy for the first time, is there an ideal size that you're hoping for when you take off his pants? It can be used by anyone. It's basically like "handcuffing" or "locking someone down". It's used in a less derogatory way than "ball and chain" though. Tbh, I don't hear it used much offline though. I wouldn't have known what it was without the "Big boys" SNL skit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 03:24 PM
1	Ladies, when having sex with a guy for the first time, is there an ideal size that you're hoping for when you take off his pants? When you cuff someone, it's slang for entering into a serious, typically exclusive relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/26 04:53 AM
3	Women do not like sex (not as men understand sex) This! My husband has only gotten better with age and I desire him just as much or more than ever. It helps that he's still heavily invested in my satisfaction and still finds me attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/25 11:16 PM
–	Locking a man down in your 20s is the worst advice I wouldn't encourage anyone to rush into partnering up in their 20s, but I wouldn't discourage it if you meet someone you're super compatible with. I met my husband when I was 19 and we've grown so much together. He never tried to control me or prevent me from having fun experiences of youth. He's a major catch though and I would have regretted it if I dumped him just to play the field while young. On the flip side, I know people who tried to force a long-term relationship from something they st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 02:50 PM
4	I don’t think a women needs a expensive wedding ring even for $500 The issue with this is a $20 ring isn't going to last. It's going to wear and start leaving green/black marks on her finger and possibly cause irritation and an eventual allergic reaction with long-term wear. I say this as someone who picked out my rings with my husband. We set a modest budget and spent way under it when we found something of quality that we loved for a lesser price. I think the "spend x number of pay cheques" thing is capitalistic bs. But if you intend to spend your life with s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/25 02:13 AM
1	Going dutch on dates is the best way to weed out women with a parasitic mentality. I think this is a fine strategy as long as you aren't weird about it. Several years ago, I had a guy push to buy me something on a date and then later in the night push for me to buy him something. He asked for it and then did a weird pause while scanning my face. I said sure as I had no problem with it. But the interaction felt forced and like a test. I instantly lost any attraction I had been feeling because the interaction felt disingenuous. All previous and future dates I always push to go D…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/25 09:40 PM
2	Introverted men are boring to most women (even introverted women) Others have been quite social, but just needed a lot of time to recharge after and those are introverts I get along with. This is my experience as well. I am this kind of introvert as is my husband. He isn't going to try and dissuade me from spending time with friends and has friends of his own. But our usual preference is to have a quiet evening at home, playing video games or tabletop games together. Introverts, like extroverts, can be fascinating or boring AF.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 04:02 PM
6	Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in men He didn't say he wasn't financially stable or emotionally/mentally independent. He said his wife makes more money than him. Your statement jumps to massive assumptions. He could make 100K and she might be making 120K; he might be making 70K and she's making 75K. We know absolutely nothing about their individual financial situations other than she makes more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 03:11 PM
7	Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in men Just because his partner makes more, doesn't mean he's burdening her. If he brings enough to the table to make her life easier or not harder than if she were alone, then he isn't a burden. If he's contributing equally at home, they are a partnership and he shouldn't be degraded for making less.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 03:07 PM
2	Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to. Tbh, your situation sounds a lot more promising if you're meeting people with shared interests. There is obviously enough attraction for them to go on one or more dates with you, but sometimes there isn't going to be a spark. I think great conversations are a critical part of attraction, but you're right that they are only a part of it. Some of it is biochemical; studies have shown women prefer the scent of men with MHC genes that are most different to their own. Essentially, regardless of statu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 10:07 PM
3	Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to. Very true. When I was a teen, I had a sense of moral superiority and decided "I'm not going to be shallow. Sure, I'll date the 'nice guy' I'm not attracted to." I quickly realized my lack of desire wasn't just a lack of physical attraction, but a sense of incompatibility from our first conversation. We had no shared interests, vastly different intelligence levels (I spent three hours trying to teach him basic 3 + x = 7, there x = 4; he never got it), different values, etc. He also turned out to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 06:05 PM
5	Do you think it's ok for men to be with women they're not attracted to because they can't do better? I agree, but with the caveat that there is some subjectivity to attractiveness. A lot of people shoot themselves in the foot by just assuming someone isn't going to like them, then ascribing shitty personalities to them to feel better. If you find someone attractive, feel free to shoot your shot, but respectfully leave them alone if they shoot you down. Don't try claiming an entire gender is a certain way because you're only chasing Instagram models.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/25 06:08 PM
2	What can a man expect for paying for a date? Perhaps it is a localized norm where you live? In my experience, most women I know will volunteer to go 50/50 on a first date. Otherwise, you're more likely to end up with a guy demanding something from you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 05:33 PM
3	What can a man expect for paying for a date? I went 50/50 on my first date with my now husband. Plenty of women do. Social norms differ from place to place. Many women choose to pay to keep it more casual when getting to know someone to remove expectations because you never know when a new guy is going to expect something for dinner. Volunteering to pay vs not is more of an indication of past experiences and/or values and beliefs. I've seen many folks say traditional women expect men to pay and I think that's pretty accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 05:09 PM
4	What can a man expect for paying for a date? I think it's reasonable not to talk to/see someone again if you feel like they were rude. It's okay to not vibe with someone. We owe others dignity on a date, but you don't owe anyone seeing them again if you didn't like them. Dates are to get to know someone and see if you're compatible; if you don't feel compatible, tell them and move on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 05:03 PM
2	Ladies, In an AI Utopia with UBI, What Kind of Guy Would You Chase? Yeah, physical attraction plays a part in most people's selection of a romantic partner. This isn't earth shattering. It just isn't the only or most important thing to most women. I've had a range of attractiveness in my potential partners and have actively decided against the "most attractive" (as per a lot of men's standards online) when they demonstrate undesirable social skills and lack in kindness. I've also dated people I wasn't initially physically attracted to because their stellar perso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 06:06 PM
1	Ladies, In an AI Utopia with UBI, What Kind of Guy Would You Chase? In my experience, there are guy "friends" that you treat exactly as all other friends, but they turn out to be emotionally invested and get their feelings hurt when it isn't returned. There are also "orbiters" that you are friendly to because you're taught to be polite and you don't want to provoke him; but it gives a sense that he's waiting for a weakness to exploit. Those first situations are genuinely heartbreaking for women too because we don't only lose a friend, we discover they were never…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/25 05:54 PM