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Those examples are ridiculously benign. Of course there are plenty of girls who wouldn't mind that at all. Of all the things you could have used for your example you chose some extremely harmless and silly ones lol The only thing my male friends do with each other that I do not want to be involved in is physical roughhousing (like sack tapping each other). To be fair, about half the guys don't want to be involved with that either so its not even a strictly gendered thing. Luckily that's all died…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 04:51 PM
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How do homelessness, suicide rate, and death rate prove anything about whether or not higher paying jobs are harder? I think I see where you were going with that but there are SO many confounding variables your point is meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 05:07 PM
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Your wiki quotes don't really contradict my point. If people don't recognize the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder then it is very likely that they wouldn't seek treatment specifically for it. That quote potentially further supports my point. Additionally, just because psychotherapy is the typical treatment for narcissistic personality disorder doesn't mean it's effective. Effective treatments are emerging and the field is constantly evolving. When I was in school NPD was still consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:38 AM
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treatment is available, but narcissists are resistant to it I'd be interested to read your source on this. I imagine many people with NPD would be resistant to treatment due to not recognizing the need for treatment, sure. But I think its much more likely that wherever you read that, it was referred to the disorder being treatment resistant. Most personality disorders are treatment resistant (the disorder, not the person). Personality, defined psychologically, is the set of enduring behavioral a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:05 AM
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of course a narcissist doesn't want to 'prevent' their own disorder.. it's matter of choice. People with narcissistic personality disorder are often terribly miserable and fragile people. Given the choice I think many would choose to be "cured". Unfortunately, most of the cluster B disorders do not have reliable treatments. Additionally, because these disorders develop as a result of environmental and genetic factors, usually fully emerging as diagnosable in adolescence or early adulthood, the t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:00 AM
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After experiencing abuse a person may still become a normal person. If they put in the effort and choose not to be a piece of shit, that is. Children in an environment that predisposes them to personality disorders usually are not provided with the knowledge, skills, and support to avoid developing the disorder. As a disorder is developed, it can be extremely difficult to self-identify problems developing and act to prevent them. Also, there are factors that can 'unlock' someone's inner narcissi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 09:44 PM
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That's not really how personality disorders work, they usually develop early as a result of childhood environment/trauma and genetics
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 09:26 PM
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NPD definitely is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 08:46 PM
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Maybe but I think a lot of statistics and research on mobile gaming is a bit older and doesn’t account for the changes we’ve seen over time. Lots of “real games”, if that’s what you want to call them, are available on mobile. Not to mention the whole argument about what counts as a “real game”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 11:57 PM
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Yeah honestly ANYONE new to gaming should be introduced to the fun side first. You need to build motivation and interest before giving them a bunch of work. I’m surprised you mentioned the time a 40k game takes before mentioning the exorbitant price tag lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 11:11 PM
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Ewww forknife lol my dads been out of gaming for so long, I wonder if he’d like playing civ like that... maybe I’ll copy you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 09:09 PM
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I think it’s getting harder and harder to call it “mobile games” for that reason. There are so many games that aren’t candy crush now. Hell you can play CIV on your phone lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 09:05 PM
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So then it’s not really “mobile games” then is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 08:58 PM
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To add a different perspective, I think exposure plays a big part. The girls I’ve known that didn’t play video games had just never really played them. I grew up watching my dad play SNES and was interested early. Watching my male gamer friends (who also have years of experience) introduce gaming to girls can be cringe, whether it’s tabletop games or video games. A lot of assumptions are made and a lot of guys start with the minutia that makes someone good at the game and it takes so long to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 08:56 PM
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Do LoL and TfT count?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 08:42 PM
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But if you admit that, isn't it time you mature and increase the amount of potential men who could make you 'feel' safe and take more pertinent aspects into account, such as their personality? Well as I said before, that feeling is a very small part of why I would choose a guy. I definitely agree that other aspects should be taken into account! It would be like if I told you I feel women with big breasts are more capable of feeding my offspring successfully and narrowing my pool of women to thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 11:40 PM
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Yea, but if you acknowledge the feeling, you already know where it might stem from and thus wont have the same effect because the feeling is in your own thoughts, an illusion, not real etc, just something you enjoy. It's all just an illusion, there isn't a man alive who could actually protect me from all, or even most of, the various ways I could die or get hurt. To be fair, I'm the type of person who feels safe with my feet covered by the blanket and nervous when my feet are out so maybe I'm no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 07:40 PM
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I mean for me personally it’s less about a mans ability to fight someone and more about enjoying the feeling. If the feelings there not much else matters to me because I don’t actually want my husband to be fighting dudes. Also that’s like 2% of why I would choose a guy, so I wouldn’t say that’s what I’m basing my decision on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 08:39 AM
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Well if you asked me "Do you like tall guys?" at the very start I probably would have answered that way. But instead I was responding to: I'll never understand why women feel the need to dance around the subject to make what they're saying seem logical and make them feel good. Just say "you like tall men" was that so hard? I was just giving my perspective to see if it was helpful for you to understand why women talk like that. Because the height isn't always the important part, for some it's jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 08:13 PM
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Okay then, I like tall guys and short guys (and I guess the in-between too). Is that good? Do you not like rich guys? Generally I have not liked the ones I've met. But I knew rich guys mostly as a teen and with maturity I'm sure some ended up decent enough. I just kinda used that as an example though, not something personally applicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 07:44 PM
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I’m not going to lie for you. Most of the guys I’ve been with haven’t been tall and I married a guy that isn’t tall. Would you tell me to “just say you like rich guys” if I said I dated a guy with money and he made me feel taken care of but I also dated a guy who didn’t have so much but worked hard and I felt taken care of because I know he’d always do whatever it took to make ends meet. It’s the same thing, multiple ways to spark the same feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 06:04 PM
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Personal opinion, because at least for me the feeling is more important than the height. I’ve been with a big tall but shy and quiet guy that made me feel that way standing near me and I’ve been with a shorter guy that made me feel that way when he commanded the room and held power verbally. Some women may be attracted to it as a physical feature I’m sure. But for some it really is about the feeling the height gives and not about the look of being tall. If you achieve that feeling some other way…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 05:52 PM
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I guess I just don't see it. Seems pretty typical for one person to like everything you described above depending on what they're doing and the mood they're in, and what does that say? I think I'd be a lot more on board if you said choosing to listen to a certain song can reflect on someone's current state of mind? Idk. I just don't see a meaningful connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:40 PM
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Does that hold true for music you like in a different language? I love songs in foreign languages that are catchy but I don't understand a word they say. I'm also into a pretty broad variety of genres. I feel like someone judging me by my music preferences would conclude my personality is just a confusing mishmash.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 05:23 AM
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Well looking at averages over the course of time, it's definitely been a problem (at least based on the data I've seen). It is worse now than almost ever, as I said. In my own personal search for housing, the cost of many places has doubled or tripled in the last 10-20 years, which has CERTAINLY not been the case for wages. Averages are just averages, some places will have seen massive increases in home values (such as my area) and some places will be more stagnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 03:25 AM
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The inflation hasnt kept up with incomes has been a problem since the early 70s, my entire lifetime. Definitely, I looked it up before I said anything to confirm and it's been increasing for a long time. Though it is higher now than (almost) ever before. I just bring up that point because I hear entitlement about owning a home as something very commonly criticized. I also think we have very different interactions with millenials. I don't claim to know them all so I'm sure your experience is just…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 01:18 AM
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How do we tell the difference between 1. millenials feeling entitled to own a home and 2. millenials feeling frustrated that the cost of a home has increased at 4x the rate of income increases and wanting that to change? And that isn't rhetorical, I think its a difficult distinction to make when it comes to generalizations. I genuinely am interested in what pushes your perception one way or the other. They also have to find away to move passed it and function in society. Don't you think moving p…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 10:51 PM
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Maybe that's why things have gotten worse instead of better? I wonder
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 10:31 PM
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If I had to generalize millennials (based on my experience with them) it would be a generation that was lied to and is bitter about it. The perception of entitlement I think comes from a lot of millenials being raised with the promise that "if you do xyz, you'll earn abc". you can adult up and steer your own course, or you can sit back and blame an unfair world I would say millenials are arguably doing both. I think it's silly to NOT blame the unfair world. If every generation accepts the proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/20 10:30 PM
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I just pulled those from the top comment. Both lists had gender neutral terms and I think it's just kinda pointless to highlight them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 08:42 PM
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funny how words like "creep" or "pasty" are not gender specific at all but become problems when someone uses it towards a man ..?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 07:44 PM
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I would disagree strongly. Autism exists on a spectrum and I work with individuals all across that spectrum. If it was based on higher gender conformity in girls I think you would see inequality in high functioning cases and equality in low functioning cases. However, this is not the case. Of the low functioning kids I see on the spectrums, only a small percentage is female. In these cases gender conformity cannot account for the differences because that isn’t something that these kids could und…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 11:58 PM
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A hair cut/shave and nice, well fitting clothes do absolute wonders. Quicker, easier, and more noticeable than the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 04:12 PM
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“Relieve himself of something that his body is urging him to do” I think a big thing you’re missing is that low quality sex doesn’t fulfill that urge or offer relief.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 05:15 AM
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No, it’s not a form at all. A big portion just want long hair for the wedding hairstyle but don’t want long hair. Some also dye it and then want to get rid of the damage. I started growing my hair the moment I got engaged and had the ends brightened a bit. After the wedding my hair is ruined from being long and dyed. It would look much better if I chopped all the fucked up inches and started over with the nice stuff closer to the top. I just haven’t yet for reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 08:30 PM
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Just looked up that Jeff Seid guy, what a lumpy individual!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 04:27 AM
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Thats one step, but a lot of things can happen to the breadwinner that wouldn’t result in a big payout for dependents. I think it does come down to preference for how prepared you want to be and what you want to plan for vs. leave up to fate. In the past I’ve experienced extreme aggression due to untreated medical issues and it’s left me feeling like even the best person can turn into someone you might need to leave no matter how much you trust and love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 08:50 PM
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Someone who doesn’t think about their financial well-being and survival long term is definitely not someone who shares my priorities. So we probably just have differing personal preferences about what a person values then. I want someone with financial security pretty high on their list, I can see how others might not value that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 08:18 PM
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And being stuck with no way out is telling them you’ve chosen to stay? “If you love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours. If not, it was never meant to be.” I’d rather be with someone choosing to stay with me despite having the means to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 08:10 PM
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But if she’s fully dependent on you and has no option to leave then you’ll never know if she wants you or is just stuck. Allowing yourself to get stuck with someone could be a sign of commitment, or it could be bad judgement. So really proves nothing about dedication either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 07:19 PM
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Please read the last post, “I do not [think men should pay for kids that aren’t theirs]. And I don’t disagree [that a test at birth is a decent idea]”. Brackets added to help you understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 05:36 AM
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I do not. And I don’t disagree. I just don’t get why you’re talking like this is some vengeful thing “making it the mothers burden” like there’s a subtle cackle and a “look how the tables have turned” behind that comment. The other post birth care isn’t “the mothers burden”, why would this be? Maybe that wasn’t intentional on your part but your word choice is odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 05:32 AM
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I don’t really understand what your point is here. I’ll reiterate mine: you originally suggested paternity tests be normalized then asked if they should be the mother’s burden. I guess what I was saying is, which are you actually suggesting? Also to your point about economic laws, I think safety is just as important as financial security, would you agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 05:24 AM
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I think your original suggestion sounded more like making it a standard procedure to test which doesn’t really put the burden on anyone so it’s kinda unfair to fire back with that comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 05:14 AM
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Why though?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/19 10:24 AM
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Did you mean to say androgynous there or masculine? I personally think androgynous men can be very attractive but I’m surprised to see it described as a cultural norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 03:11 AM
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I get what you’re saying sorta. But IMO premeditated = shitty. If at the end of a date either person isn’t into it then yeah totally say something at the end. Planning a date that you KNOW is going to end in rejection is just uncomfortable. I have less of a problem with meeting for coffee to end things though. Probably cause the rejected person can excuse themselves more easily and the rejector can get to the point without wasting too much of the other persons time. And maybe it’s also cause I o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 04:08 PM
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I meant it’s shitty to go on a date just for the food. And I guess maybe it’s sweet in a certain context, like a super casual thing when neither person is invested maybe? But in my head I’m imagining one of two options: you’re told at the start and pretty upset about it but have to keep it together and have an enjoyable meal OR you spend a whole meal thinking things are going well and you’re flirting and whatnot just to be told at the end he wasn’t into it this whole time. Idk, I wouldn’t be a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 03:50 PM
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And that’s not a shitty thing to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 03:47 PM
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Aren’t most thigh gaps just created by posing and posture though? Especially in combination with athletic legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 01:46 AM
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all those women are fat.. When a girl gets fat she completely loses her hour glass curve I would agree with the second part if you didn't say all the original pictures posted were of fat not chubby women. Second picture, girl on the left, definitely still has an hour glass shape. Having that figure has a lot to do genetics, its absolutely not just amount of fat. I have a friend who weighs very little but her weight goes entirely to her belly and her hips are thin. I definitely weigh more than he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 08:29 PM
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Most calculations I've done have me eating less than 1200 (very sedentary lifestyle unfortunately) but its usually recommended that you don't go lower than 1200 to ensure adequate nutrition.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 08:46 AM
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I think the fact that she did that means she was not your dream girl... unless getting strung along was part of your dream. Eh okay nvm I read the OP a little better and they mention divorce rape, which I assume is not part of their dream girl lol I feel like it would be a more interesting discussion if the dream girl wouldn't fuck you over. Like would you go beta blue pill if you found an ACTUALLY perfect girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 05:04 AM
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You’re right, but I think I would fear that I was a charity case or a project. I assumed it would be worse for men with the stereotype of caregiver women wanting to fix broken men. I’m sure confidence helps though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 11:36 PM
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I think stuff like that is compartmentalized. I’m SUPER sympathetic about my fiancé’s medical shit that he’s dealing with right now. But that’s not what I’m thinking about when we have sex. I’m not sympathetic 100% of the time cause we got other shit going on. So I can be sympathetic and attracted to him because I’m not being actively sympathetic when we’re naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:15 PM
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Obviously sympathy is not enough. That’s all you had to say. The point of OP is that if women were sympathetic they would date these men. But if sympathy is not enough then you can’t use “not dating” as evidence for a lack of sympathy. That’s all. Now that you mention it I have dated someone technically homeless lmao. He always had someone else’s couch to crash on though so it never really felt like he was actually homeless. Lucky for me too cause I certainly didn’t have the funds to support som…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:12 PM
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The key word here is all. I understand not wanting to date someone if you don’t have sympathy for them but I can’t imagine sympathy being the main criteria. I have a lot of sympathy for homeless people but I couldn’t date someone in that situation. There are too many other factors. Sympathy isn’t a big enough factor to really matter unless it’s lacking. I have sympathy for virgins who don’t want to be virgins and I’ve actually dated a few, but certainly not cause of my sympathy. And finding out …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 11:56 AM
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Maybe like marries like but it’s more that women want to marry men with similar material status and men want to marry women with similar looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 05:23 PM
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Hmm okay I kinda see what you mean as far as physical danger vs people danger. I would guess that the difference is more about expected dangers vs unexpected dangers though. I have no evidence but I think the dangers women perceive would extend to all things that are expected to be dangerous (fire, strangers, train tracks, cars, sharp objects). Men might be less perceptive of expected dangers (or just less concerned about them on a constant basis) but maybe better at perceiving unexpected danger…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 10:48 PM
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I wouldn't say are bad at detecting literal danger, but perhaps not as focused on. ​ I guess I just don't see how someone who is hyper-vigilant of perceived danger to the point of interpreting harmless situations as dangerous would not be focused on danger when it is at the point of having no room for interpretation. I would agree that someone like that would be less likely to even be in situations of "literal danger" though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 09:53 PM
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I don't think seeing literal danger is a problem in either sex. But if a situation is not open to interpretation, its already too late to avoid the danger. If the danger is already "reality based and concrete" without "room for interpretation" you don't really have a choice. Do you think detection of literal danger is something women are bad at, despite being good at perceiving potential dangers? That being said, you didn't answer the question really. Do you think there is a cause and effect the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:52 PM
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NiceGuy =/= guy who doesn't get sex. Not getting laid is often the cause of shitty behaviors in "NiceGuys" and the cause of sadness in nice guys, but not getting sex is not what defines a "NiceGuy".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 04:52 AM
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Soooo a “NiceGuy” (the ones that get made fun of it called manipulative) are NOT nice guys. It is a facade, actually nice people don’t do a 180 into being assholes when they don’t get what they want. Nice people also aren’t ONLY nice to get into someone’s pants. If a guy is actually nice, then they aren’t a “NiceGuy”. Being frustrated does not mean you’re a “NiceGuy”. Taking out your frustrations on others cause they won’t give you sex means you’re not a nice guy but you ARE a “NiceGuy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 06:58 AM
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Tits are useless...? Are you talking about male nipples or did you forget about breastfeeding?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 11:42 AM
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Conformity and in group bias =/= collectivism. I think the results of the studies you posted might be related to collectivism and might shed some light on why women are generally more collectivists (if they actually are). But I don’t think your studies prove that women tend toward collectivism more than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 07:21 AM
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I think maybe you’re really lucky genetically or you take extremely good care of your hair. Look at all those little old ladies (and men) with practically see-through hair. I think you’re definitely an exception, not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 10:11 PM
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Maybe my information is outdated then, back when I went to school DBT wasn't really a "treatment for BPD" but more of a last ditch effort to do something that kinda helped some people with the disorder. Additionally, back then there was the problem that many therapists wouldn't take BPD cases as they were considered too much of a lost cause and too difficult to treat. I'm glad things have gotten better! I remember being so disturbed about that last part when my professor spoke about it, knowing …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:23 PM
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Unfortunately BPD doesn’t really respond to medication or therapy in many, if not most, cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 11:56 AM
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If you don’t view a fetus as a human it makes more sense. Lots of people see them as bundles of cells that don’t exist as a person. Like a dermoid cyst can have hair, teeth, skin and all sorts of other human features and it grows from an egg like a baby. No one would bond with that and no one is weird about it being removed and killed. I think for many people there is a point in time when the lump of cells becomes a baby in their mind and bonding can begin. For many it is the moment of conceptio…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:40 PM
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What was the propaganda? I didn’t really pay much attention I guess lol I was more caught up in all the witchy stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 10:32 PM
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I dated a really awesome chubby guy for a long time. People would often ask why I was with him and his friends would ask how he got a girl like me. Honestly it never made me think to break up with him ever. It just made me really angry. I would tell them that I found him attractive and thought he was awesome and that was enough for me so it should be enough for them. The same person usually wouldn’t mention it more than once after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:34 AM
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Idk, I’ve been privy to a lot of male judgement. I think I hear more about it than the males in our group though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:30 AM
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As a former college girl, I knew exactly zero girls in college who dated or slept with anyone not college aged. The girl with the fancy older guy was a freshmen dating a senior... that was the extent of it. But hey that’s just one college and my experience. I totally get your point, but I think women outside of college are much more likely to be interested in the stability of an older man. I would even guess that college age women who are not actually in college are a lot more interested in that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 07:52 AM
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If you were in this situation and she asked you if you guys had a serious future together, would you tell her you weren’t going to marry her or just kinda be like “I don’t really know”? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 09:26 AM
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I’m a pretty friendly person in general. When I was younger guys tended to get the wrong idea. It hasn’t made me less friendly but now I tend to try to and distance myself fairly quickly if I’m talking to a guy. I prefer to just disengage rather than being cold, bitchy, or straight up saying I’m not interested (cause I hate to assume the other person is into me and it’s an awkward thing to do either way). Like if I end up talking to a guy one on one at a party I’ll just try and turn it into a gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/18 03:25 AM
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Lol if you say so. Either way, I’m glad you’ve come around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 09:47 PM
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Perspective or semantics, either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 08:55 PM
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“have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of.” Semantics. My point was hitting on someone at work is not illegal but isn’t “fine”, do you actually disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 08:54 PM
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No it’s the word respect, you’re using semantics to avoid the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 08:12 PM
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It was implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 08:05 PM
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So people should have to earn not getting hit on by their bosses?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 07:01 PM
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I don’t think it’s illegal to abuse your power and put someone’s livelihood at stake for sex but it’s still really shitty. And it’s not just a woman thing either. Treating someone with respect at work is treating them like an adult, not a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 04:46 PM
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https://youtu.be/nMdKz6Hd3_4
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/18 08:19 PM
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I don’t know if it’s really settling but I desperately wish my fiancé didn’t have health problems. I haven’t settled for him per say but I have had to settle for the moderate impact his health has on both of us and for the fact that he might not be around as long as a healthy individual. But anyone can get sick, develop a new medical problem, or die suddenly. So really it’s not the worst thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 12:33 AM
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Yeah definitely. Cause you’re right it is super platonic. Both of us are like that with other people here and there and it’s totally a non sexual thing. My SO is just my best friend so it happens a lot with us during nonsexy times. I do think it’s attractive in the sense that I’d prefer to be in an LTR with someone who has that quality. But that has little bearing in a ONS situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 09:41 PM
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Yeah it’s definitely not sexy in the sense that it doesn’t get me in the mood. But I do LOVE being goofy and playful with my SO. We just do dumb shit and giggle together all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 09:35 PM
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That might be what it’s supposed to mean but a lot of the time it comes off more like the explanation above. I can’t think of a time I’ve heard it used the way you’re saying it’s meant to be. But I know that keeping TRP terminology well defined throughout the whole community is impossible and you’re probably right about it’s original/proper usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 07:14 PM
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Are you sure it’s not assertiveness and confidence? These studies I assume you were taking about must have defined aggressiveness and narcissism. Were they talking about physics aggression towards other men? Aggression to towards women? Narcissistic personality disorder? People who looked in the mirror more? Without knowing how the terms were defined, the studies could have easily been talking about assertiveness and confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/18 07:01 PM
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On a date. I think OP worded things very ambiguously and that’s why the responses are odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 03:08 PM
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I mean if I’m attracted to a guy and I’ve known him for a week and he asks me out and I say yes, I don’t think it’s that crazy. Dating isn’t really “starting a relationship” IMO. But physical attraction is enough for me to agree to date and get to know someone to see if I liked them. It’s never happened before, I’ve always gotten to know a guy very well first then started dating. But I wouldn’t have been opposed if I was single the times I was asked out by a guy I had met recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/18 05:24 AM
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There is absolutely such a thing as too big. I know this from experience. I believe there is such a thing as too small, I would be pretty bummed if penetration were not possible due to small size. However, I've never experienced this myself. I've said size doesn't matter before and meant it, truly. But that's because I wasn't really thinking about giant monster penises or micropenises that can't penetrate. Maybe I'll get called out for that, for "lying", but it felt accurate enough for general c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/18 07:20 AM
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Maybe you could explain then if you don’t mind? I guess it has been awhile since I’ve been in school if genetics works differently now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 07:12 PM
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Genetic changes in women will only occur if stronger women have more babies than weaker women and the babies of stronger women go on to have more babies than the babies of weaker women. Training will do nothing on a genetic level unless men select for strong women. And they can’t just be strong women because they’ve trained, men need to be selecting naturally strong women with a genetic predisposition to being muscular with good bone density and all the other stuff that makes men, generally, str…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 09:46 AM
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I agree that’s what they were referring to but I do think it’s an important distinction to make in these discussions. I see a lot of guys saying girls immediately want fuk with hot dudes and girls saying they don’t then guys saying well actions not words tho. I think a lot of it boils down to that distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 10:20 AM
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Definitely. Personally I’d rather have a loveless life than a loveless marriage though!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/18 01:39 AM
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I can’t speak for everyone but I’ve never experienced instant sexual attraction to anyone in the sense that I’ve never met a person and wanted to have sex with them. My body language probably tells a different story though because I’ve met people and was interested in seeing if I was attracted to them. I’ve never actually had sex with any of those people though. Everyone I’ve been with started as a platonic friend (from my perspective).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 09:23 PM
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Exactly, people are less willing to marry for convenience! So I’m sure you’d agree that there are less loveless marriages then, percentage wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 08:56 PM
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So do you think the percentages of marriages that are not for love is about the same as it has always been? I’d bet some of the decline in marriage is due to people not wanting to marry someone because it’s the thing to do or because they need to financially/for children (and potentially not marrying at all).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/18 06:08 AM
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Fighting and sports seems more like a competitive thing. If picking up women is anything like that, competitive women definitely experience something similar with those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/18 10:53 AM
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And other studies show that there is a loss of sensation so it’s still a concern of mine. I imagine it’s exceptionally difficult to definitively prove either way since pleasure is so subjective. My anecdotal experience definitely supports a loss of sensation but I know that means very little. I think having other measures like increased education and increased availability of testing and less stigma associated with it are far better alternatives. I get that there is potential value to circumcisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 10:47 PM
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I’m curious how the negatives could be compared by legislation? The main one that makes me sad of is loss of sensation or sensitivity and I don’t think legislation would help there. I also think the ability to use condoms without a medical procedure is a much better alternative but I understand your point. I meant medically irrelevant, especially for ear piercing. But I see that you value some of the medical benefits despite available alternatives so that one is more of an opinion. I stand by sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 09:41 PM
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Sorry I wasn’t talking about infibulation, I was asking about the other things I listed. Permanent, unnecessary, physical changes to a child’s body may very well end up acting against them. Male circumcision absolutely has many huge drawbacks that act against the child’s best interest. I’m not as educated about the effects of female circumcision so I can’t speak to that. How many medically unnecessary and irrelevant, permanent, physical alterations are made to children’s bodies? Certainly many d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 08:48 PM
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But all of those other things are female circumcision? I do disagree that the problem is just because people don’t make a distinction. Any permanent cosmetic procedure performed on a very young child without their consent is wrong in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 07:35 PM
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Or removal of be inner labia or removal of both the inner and outer labia or removal of the clitoral hood, right? In some places, it seems like sewing up the vagina or removal of the clitoris are part of normal female circumcision. What you call female circumcision and what you call female genitalia mutilation seems to be based on what is considered socially and morally acceptable. I still think it just varies by country. Then again due to language barriers I can’t really check into that but fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 09:10 AM
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It doesn’t seem like that’s the case. I was trying to google to figure out the exact distinction between the two but it seems like the terms are used interchangeably and their meaning just changes from country to country.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/18 08:44 AM
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I’m not really sure I agree, I might be misunderstanding you though. I think people are almost equally likely to have low self esteem due to environmental issues as they are to have low self esteem due to a natural predisposition. I do think low self esteem is a problem that should be worked on, I don’t think it’s necessarily a gendered issue though. However, agreeableness and not standing up for yourself are a bit gendered (and kinda related to self esteem in a way) and I would agree that those…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/18 09:38 AM
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That might be generally true but that is absolutely not everyone’s experience. Like maybe people talk about “women” as a whole like that, but individual women aren’t necessarily on the receiving end of all that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/18 06:41 AM
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As many other commenters have mentioned there’s a different between vulnerability and dependence. I think a lot of the distinction boils down to mental health, not necessarily in a super clinical sense but more that it’s important for men to express and process emotions in a healthy way. Being vulnerable and experiencing emotions in a healthy way displays mental stability and mental health. Bottling up and avoiding processing emotions is a red flag just like being incapable of handling ones emot…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/18 06:13 AM
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Honestly I couldn’t tell you how long that should take, I’m not directly in education. But a few guesses would be, maybe your kiddos placement is too low? Some of my low functioning kids would take a lifetime to learn that list. Another guess would be that maybe they have to pace themselves a certain way, if “most kids” aren’t capable of learning HS level algebra till a certain age, they have to make everything below that last a certain amount of time. So why rush through it when the next concep…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 05:01 AM
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In a classroom they don’t have the resources to teach one on one usually. Your child might qualify for a 1:1 aide but that’s not standard and aides usually help more with maladaptive behaviors and guidance for completing assignments, not with teaching. In group learning settings progress is a lot slower, especially for kiddos who REALLY should have a 1:1 aide but don’t. Those kiddos end up taking away from other students too by requiring more from the teacher. This is actually a really big probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 04:25 AM
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Good, parents like you are so important. I hope if enough people take a stand like that teaching will eventually be made a more attractive career for competent people who will actually do a good job. Home school is tough though, I hope the transition goes well for you guys!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/18 03:03 AM
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At least it’s better than the old normal, I hope it gets a bit more simple in the future though. Sped parents have more than fucking enough to deal with as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 07:42 PM
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Ah sorry, I misunderstood. I thought you meant it was unrelated to the reading conversation. I do hope that process goes well, how fucking awful. I would definitely recommend finding someone for sped. It's way too complicated to go at it alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 06:59 PM
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As much as it sucks, good. I'd hope most people don't have to go that far but anyone with an IEP should have a really good relationship with their lawyer or advocate and utilize them liberally. Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 06:49 PM
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Well that is just exceptionally bad. The education system isn’t great but I’ve never ever come across anything when close to that bad. Honestly, that’s when I would give up on the district and get a new one (if I had the means). Also if you can report that, please do. Lastly, do you have a lawyer or an advocate and did you tell them about this? I’m not an expert and it’s case dependent but it’s 100% worth mentioning. You really have to bully schools when it comes to an IEP, nobody wants to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 04:28 PM
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Exactly this. Awkwardness and a horrible guilty feeling as soon as I know I have to reject him. When I’m in a relationship, I dread having to turn down guys cause of the overwhelming guilt. At the same time, I feel just as guilty being passive and possibly leading a guy on (it’s easier than outright rejection though since I don’t have to actually do anything). Catch 22
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 08:03 AM
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Never exposed but obviously you value it. I can tell you part of the problem is that teaching is undervalued so it would be awesome if more people cared like you. Not enough people want to go into teaching so standards are being lowered just to fill classrooms. Which is obviously a shame but they can’t magically pay them more but less requirements is very attractive. No easy solution to this unfortunately. I can’t speak to the content being chosen but I do know there are people out there trying …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 04:59 PM
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If anything it sounds like you value education a lot. Based on your frustration it seems like a good teaching education seems like something you would definitely value. BUT all the ones you’ve seen have been bad. Accurate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 04:12 PM
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The market dictates how much money the company makes, not how much it chooses to pay its employees. The market can dictate a maximum a company can afford to pay, but it has nothing to do with the minimum. Generally, companies would tend toward paying as close to the minimum as possible. Aggressive and assertive employees effectively raise the minimum required pay whereas submissive and agreeable employees take the minimum or close to it without making a fuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 05:37 AM
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Do you really believe education related masters degrees are useless and don't actually mean anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 05:03 AM
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My dream has always been to make enough money to justify not giving up my career when I have kids. My fiance and I are basically racing each other to promotions to see who has to clean the house and cook dinners hahah. So some women do see it as a sacrifice!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 04:49 AM
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I've also heard some theories that if a job is in a female dominated field the wage is not as high as if it were a male dominated field. When I've heard this brought up the cause was assumed to be the difference in assertiveness, empathy, etc. in the populations who work in female dominated vs male dominated fields. The thought is that men don't choose higher paying fields while women choose lower paying ones, they both tend to choose the jobs they're drawn too. But the types of fields women cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/18 04:40 AM
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Cured in the normal sense (as in his autism is gone forever with no further action required on his part) or cured as in treated?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/18 03:16 AM
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He healed his autism? Well sure then
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 08:45 AM
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I try to be really open minded so if there’s evidence that contradicts what’s generally accepted as truth, it’s still worth exploring. Also, many widespread beliefs started with just a few people believing them! If you’ve got a solid basis you can eventually win people over. To be honest though I’d rather read the videos sources than listen to some person talk. Long videos, especially technical or scientific videos are tough for me, I’m not great with auditory learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 08:26 AM
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Can I ask why it’s pointless? I’m super curious cause I’m in a related but the current standpoint I see is just basically “we don’t know” we is of course pretty frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 07:37 AM
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Heavy metal toxins and gut problems are actually the sources for autism I'd love to hear more about this if you have information....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/18 07:18 AM
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I think it’s pretty established based on the amount of people who are introverted and who were never shy, but sure :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 02:19 AM
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Yeah the semantics can get silly, the important part is that it’s correlation not causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/18 01:08 AM
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But not all men are larger or more muscular. Naturally just means that if left up to nature, this is how it would be. Basically innate , unlearned, and unaltered qualities. So we definitely don’t agree 100% on that definition. I’d bet that a significant portion of introverts are naturally shy, but not that being an introvert means you are naturally shy. Sounds like that is what you‘re saying too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 06:18 PM
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There might be a correlation between introversion and shyness, but being an introvert does not mean you are "naturally shy". Not all introverts must overcome shyness, some introverts have never been and will never be shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/18 05:56 AM
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Not in my opinion, I wouldn’t turn a guy down for being too tall but I’d prefer someone less than a foot taller than me. Same with muscles, too muscular is a HUGE turn off for me. I find it somewhat repulsive (but the right personality could balance it out). Wealth is also a tough one, more wealth is obviously great but I would hate the lifestyle and/or personality that it often comes with. Someone super down to earth without any fame or ridiculous lifestyle sounds great. But fame or the “rich l…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/18 04:19 AM
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What biological problems do you have that food isn’t enjoyable? Food is one of the first reinforcers that humans come into contact with and is a powerful agent of behavior change. Humans are (usually) hardwired to enjoy food. You mention illnesses so I wonder if one of them causes you not to enjoy food? Do you have trouble maintaining your weight ? Is food aversive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/18 11:12 AM
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Well I’d rather not get into the debate of whether or not a person is ruined by lots of sex because I think that’s more of a case by case thing. I have no issues with people having certain expectations though and yours seem reasonable. I just didn’t think it was fair to say that someone is just making excuses to be a whore/cheat when they say they’re worried about missing out or if they are curious. I don’t doubt some people use it as an excuse, but I do think it’s a valid concern to have for so…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 10:29 PM
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I fully believe that they are exceptions. I’m sure my perspective is skewed for having experienced an exception! Even so, I would be wary. I’m not an advocate of sleeping around willy nilly (thought by all means, it’s your life and if you want it go for it) but personally I just wouldn’t marry a person without at least testing the waters sexually. I also think it’s important to look at how important sex is to you. For me it’s very important but for someone who doesn’t value sex as much it might …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 09:55 PM
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I definitely understand your argument better. And I do agree with you that most issues can be sorted out without sleeping with others. But IMO there are some things you just can’t talk through or work out but that you also can’t really know until you try. For example, painful sex. I know this is a ridiculous example but I was with someone whose penis was just flat out too big. There are absolutely ways to work around that but it means compromise. I personally would not want to be in a marriage w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 09:41 PM
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I completely understand that and you have the right to believe what you want. If a man balked at my low n count I would reject him right back! That is not my point. Why is it a “flimsy excuse” to be worried about your sexual fulfillment for the rest of your life? I get that you think not being a virgin is bad, fine. But I’m interested in why you think if a woman says she was worried about missing out that she is just making excuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 07:54 PM
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My n count is still fairly low but I’ve been with a few people and I definitely think my long term happiness would have been hurt had I not satisfied some of that “curiosity”. Can I ask why you think it’s a flimsy excuse to want to experience good sex? How are virgins not possibly “missing out”? If I had stayed with my first partner, I would have undeniably been missing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/17 07:06 PM
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Absolutely, most biological urges work pretty well in the “natural environment”. But in this time, for most of us, those urges are destructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/17 07:15 PM
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Not OP but biological urges to stuff our face with sugar all day, definitely destructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/17 11:52 PM
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Generally I think anyone who can achieve significantly above average or who has honed a unique talent is deserving of admiration. If you really only value the truly exceptional than I can understand not admiring many people. I just think a lot of talents, skills, and traits are valuable and deserve admiration. I still think it’s really odd to say a person has earned your deference though. Like I’m sure they aren’t perfect and they make mistakes and you probably have better ideas here and there. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 09:33 PM
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I agree with you for the most part but I don’t think admiration needs to be so rare. Admiration for me comes from the ability to appreciate the talents of others. I’ve found it rare that a person doesn’t have at least one quality worth admiration. As far as deference goes, is there really anyone you defer to? I think it’s odd to do so in a general sense. The only time I really defer to anyone else is if I’m lacking in knowledge or experience in a certain area. So it’s more of a situation by situ…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 09:17 PM
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I don’t really think it’s necessary to tell me I don’t understand these things. You did not make it clear that your definition of respect wasn’t actually your definition of respect. I do appreciate you explaining it though, thank you. I do think respect falls under the blanket of common decency (along with the things you mentioned). Personally, I don’t think you should need to earn respect but it is something that is easy to lose and difficult to get back. I try and respect people until they giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 08:25 PM
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Oh, misunderstood that “k”. So yeah I’m curious, where do we disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 07:30 PM
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Glad we’re on the same page :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 07:28 PM
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The hang up is that you did not define respect that way. You equated it to not being abused, not being treated like shit, and getting laid here and there. I think by and large women absolutely want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 07:21 PM
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So you’re saying women want the same thing as men, but if you call it respect they disagree because they think respect is something different?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 06:55 PM
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Women don’t really want to “not be abused, not treated like shit, and to get fucked at decent intervals”? I personally want that and I think most people would.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/17 06:51 PM
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If people are aware of my gender in video games I've often had biased responses. Ranging from extra nice to patronizing to downright hateful. None of the reactions are fun to deal with in any way, it's a relief when people have zero reaction and just don't care. I've had some similar issues at my LGS but in real life it's definitely less intense most of the time (in my experience).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/17 08:10 AM
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Pic 2 of the first one is attractive. Don't really like the other two pics though. Definitely transgendered. Used to have a huge crush on bill, so yes. Now he kinda reads a little too young for me in those pictures. Current pictures of him though, yupyup. I'm not really a fan of the last one but I'm usually not as attracted to most Asian men unless they check the right boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/17 03:27 PM
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Yeah so it evens out just after 25. Still don't see what's wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/17 01:32 AM
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How does this make it a nope?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/17 02:16 PM
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This might be completely and totally off base here but I've been involved with 3 (sort of 4) virgins and have found an interesting correlation. I almost never found out about 3 of them and didn't know until months or years of being with them. Almost no one other than myself knew about them. They were all fine enough individuals. Now, the one that I knew was a virgin was absolutely not fine. Had I been in short term relationships with all of them my perception and experience with virgins would ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/17 05:14 AM
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I don't know what to tell you that just isn't true. If I was offered a very expensive pink diamond or a cheaper white sapphire piece, I would prefer the sapphire. It's not about de beers or diamonds, I just like clear stones.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 06:26 PM
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Or they just like the way they look.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 05:35 PM
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Ah I see. Well then yes, to you a moissanite would be a simulated diamond. I think it's a very odd classification but I understand where you're coming from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 05:28 PM
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When you see them side by side you can definitely tell. Otherwise, it depends on how much you know. So I'm guessing that's a yes then, you do consider sapphires to be simulated diamonds?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 05:21 PM
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Well, do you think that white sapphires are simulated diamonds? Personally, I like clear stones. I don't really care what kind of stone it is, I just like clear ones. I lean toward moissanite, not because it could pass for a diamond (which isn't really true) but because it's up there on the mohs scale and it's inexpensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 05:14 PM
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I don't really see how that is what you took away from my comment. I was explaining that moissanite is not a simulated diamond. I also didn't say that diamonds have resale value. I also have never bought gemstones so it's impossible that I've done it wrong. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 04:57 PM
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That definitely makes sense. Everyone has a different relationship with their family and it's hard to make blanket statements. Seems like you're doing the best thing for yourself and your SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 04:46 PM
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Yeah I'm guessing it varies a lot by family. I'm very close with my parents and they are the best people I know. I value their opinion a lot and trust that they have my best interest at heart. If they had a problem with my bf it would be a huge red flag for me and I would genuinely want to understand why before deciding I knew better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 04:31 PM
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I wouldn't. Lab diamonds lose their value immediately, no one wants them once their bought. Which is totally fine for an engagement ring! Who would want to sell that :) But moissanite is its own gem and holds some value. It also has a pretty distinct sparkle (fire) compared to a diamond. It would be like calling a white sapphire a simulated diamond.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 04:29 PM
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Lots of people are on the moissanite train now. Most of my married/engaged friends didn't get diamond either. Personally I'm hoping for moissanite as well. It's not as rare as you might think!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 02:42 PM
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I've wanted a moissanite since I learned of their existence. Recently started ring shopping though and unfortunately the designs I like that have moissanite tend to have HUGE gems. I guess cause they're cheaper they just bring on the bling. We're starting to consider diamond just because they make more diamond rings with smaller gems. It's either that or go custom, still have to see how expensive custom would be. You still might think that reasoning is moronic but I thought it might be a point o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 02:39 PM
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Personally I want my bf to ask. It's not because I need permission, it's because I want them to approve and to be excited. I want them to say yes enthusiastically OR discuss their concerns with my bf so he can work on them. I really respect my parents (he would be talking to them both) and if they have concerns I know they would be valid and I want him to hear them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 02:36 PM
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Come on, were the women who fought for voting rights weak because they didn't just deal with the unfair bullshit of not being able to vote? Or were they strong because they fought for their rights? One of those sounds correct to me, I'd like to know what you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/17 02:28 PM
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"No matter what" I guess my dream of having a househusband isn't real and I'm actually demanding a breadwinner. Thanks for enlightening me on my wants and desires!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/17 12:17 PM
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Yeah well that's anecdotes for you! But really, I know TRP believes that men and women are biologically different and think differently, so it's not ridiculous to suggest that the genders could have different approaches to problem solving right? I mean I'd argue it was for different reasons, but that's not the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 01:27 PM
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You don't think your gender and race can change how you experience the world? Those factors can certainly give you a different perspective and thought process. Completely anecdotal but when I'm problem solving with my male friends they tend to rapid fire ideas and think quickly and out loud with unfinished, unpolished, or short sighted ideas. Definitely a valid strategy and this can often lead to good solutions. I tend to offer ideas later in the discussion that are fully fleshed out and solid. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 01:07 PM
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Absolutely do not do anything elaborate! That works better in committed relationships (even then, have caution, I had a guy get me a present for ever weekiversary which was pretty odd). I agree with other posters, "hey I heard it's your birthday, let me take you on a coffee date". Perfect. Or something similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/17 01:09 PM
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I think it's a common misconception that makeup is just for "feminine decorating". And also probably why the suggestion is triggering for people like you. I think the reason is that it's not advertised how often men wear makeup or the other ways makeup can be used. There's this perception that it's just women and just for looking pretty. I'm sure it's because that's what most people see.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 11:56 AM
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She is probably wearing normal everyday makeup. There is absolutely makeup that is extremely resistant to water or water proof. There is also makeup that is extremely thick and paint like. In fact there's face paint, which is makeup that is almost exactly like that. Makeup meant for use in theater, special effects, etc. is much closer to camo face paint.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 10:52 AM
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I meant for wearing frequently as in every day and long term as in for years on end. I can't imagine camo paint is formulated well for that considering its not meant to be worn that way and if it is the person wearing it probably doesn't care too much about the effect it will have on their skin. The fact that "you're not using shit that can simply be wiped off" is exactly what I was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 10:50 AM
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Honest answer? Cause he was being snarky about my suggestion that some very alpha, masculine men frequently wear makeup. But if he WAS being serious, I would assume it's because as we discussed camo can be used as makeup and makeup can be used as camo. Camo face paint is very similar to makeup it's just in usually less desirable colors and (presumably) isn't formulated as well for frequent long term wear. Admittedly some makeup isn't either so it's not too different in that respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 10:33 AM
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I never called it makeup, I just said: yeah okay other person, I can see why you'd call it makeup but I'm talking about traditional makeup. So far we've ended up agreeing on everything. If you want I can guess why that guy brought up camo?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 08:30 AM
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Just ignoring all the examples? It is clearly very commonly called camo. If you were looking to buy those products, what search terms would you use? EDIT: lol at the CoD comment! Why would CoD players call it makeup! Hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 06:40 AM
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No it's not. Is a sniper rifle just a rifle till you snipe with it? Is a hunting knife just a knife till you hunt with it. Is a sleeping bag just a bag till you sleep in it? Is a rocking chair just a chair till you rock in it? For that matter, if I use a sleeping bag just to get warm and never sleep in it, is it a warming bag now? Would it be wrong to call it a sleeping bag? Come on. It's a name. It's called camo.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 06:26 AM
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Okay fine not hunters then, one of the links I sent was military, not hunting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 06:03 AM
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I know this wasn't directed at me. But personally I feel a bit threatened by cat callers. So responding in a hostile way would make me feel more vulnerable. I try to not encourage it by trying to completely ignore it usually and just getting out of there if I can. EDIT: any time I've ignored someone in a close off situation, I've been cornered by them so that doesn't really work there though. One time that even led to a knife being pulled on me. Luckily I had friends to help me out in those situ…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 10:06 PM
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Give up? After the links I just showed you? The hunting industry says camo face paint and camo makeup exist. It's gone from opinion to fact. By the way, your credibility is really hurt when you act like you know your stuff but still can't spell the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 09:28 PM
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Society actually is natural in many senses. Monogamy is not completely natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:16 PM
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The sluttiest friend I had was a girl I knew in my college dorm who went after guys for sport. She never slept with them, aside from a very select few. But she gave and received oral. She would literally pick a target and get herself an in then go for it. She had me play wing girl a few times so I've seen it, wouldn't have believed it otherwise. All of my close friends are around 10 or less with 90% of partners being from committed relationships. Personally, I never did the cc thing. I have 3 pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:12 PM
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I just think you're a bit confused about what I'm saying, but that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 07:47 AM
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I feel like this is enough to both prove camo face paint and make-up. You're straight up lying by saying there is no camo face paint OR you just don't know what products are available to hunters. Camo Makeup, sold by Cabelas. Literally called makeup, sold by one of the largest hunting outfitters in the US. Camo Face Paint. Camo Face Paint. A Camo Compac. Described as makeup in the description. Another Camo Face Paint. More Camo Face Paint. Makeup. Makeup. Makeup. Makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 06:12 AM
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Doesn't really have anything to do with your point actually :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 02:43 AM
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Or demonstrating an assumption on your part, sorry for abbreviating I mean camo face paint when I said camo. I thought you would understand the abbreviation. I'm typing on a phone so it was just easier for me. You're right though, if I had said camo face paint can be makeup I guess we wouldn't have needed to have this convo. Lesson learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 01:46 AM
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"If you use it as make-up, it's make-up; if you use it as camoflouge, it's camoflouge." DING DING DING I'm so glad you agree with me. And that has been my point this entire time. Glad you caught up! And you're not that stupid, it's fine. I can see how it would be confusing since, as I said, camo wouldn't normally be makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:46 AM
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You realize you can use camouflage paint on your face as makeup right? I understand that isn't its purpose but you realize that it's possible to use it as makeup right? Do I need to explain to you how many different products can be used as makeup? Ever heard of kohl? Berries? Flowers? Paint? All things used as makeup. Christ, so fragile.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:41 AM
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Which was basically my fucking point. But if a man put on dark camo around his eyes to make them pop and to look a little grungesexy or whatever, I can see how that other person could refer to it as makeup. I wouldn't make that argument, but if that person wants to then I think it's valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:30 AM
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I don't think of it as makeup but there's a big difference between that and saying definitively it's 100% not makeup and it's never used as makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:25 AM
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My words were that I wouldn't call camo makeup. I don't know what your problem is with me. Btw I read an article that literally recommended Halloween makeup as a cheaper alternative to camo. Makeup can be used for camo and camo can be used for makeup. Why is that an issue for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 12:21 AM
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Good thing I wasn't referring to men I find attractive!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 08:30 PM
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Please focus on the fact that I'm talking about masculine men :) I appreciate your comment about feminine men but they are irrelevant for the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 08:21 PM
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Well if it's not his opinion, what is it? Lol Actually, camo products look very similar to makeup and you could absolutely use them to look pretty. I'm starting to wonder if you've actually used camo to kill people... if you had you must know it could be used as makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 08:20 PM
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If you have a problem with that persons opinion, take it up with them. I think it's a little ridiculous that you're getting on my case for not arguing with someone. By the way, if someone borrowed your manly man face sniper paint and used it to look pretty, is your manly man face sniper paint transformed into girly girl face beautifying makeup? Cause it sounds like you define makeup by why a product is used, not what it actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 01:09 PM
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Makes sense. It's why so many people try so hard to give the illusion that they don't put effort into their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 12:42 PM
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Ah so it's not about how it looks, you just kinda like the don't give a crap attitude? That's understandable definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 12:37 PM
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I'm not the one who suggested that camouflage is makeup and I repeatedly stated that was not my standpoint but that I could see why that person called it makeup. Did you even read my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 12:35 PM
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I am serious. It's not what I think of when someone says makeup. But I can see how someone could argue that it is in fact makeup. It depends on how you define makeup. The first thing that pops up is "cosmetics such as lipstick or powder applied to the face, used to enhance or alter the appearance". Does the product you use to kill men alter the appearance of your skin? Makeup isn't always beautifying, special effects makeup to make people look like monsters, look injured, or look sick is still m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 11:34 AM
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"Which would be consistent with women liking less than fully masculine guys in this generation. Fashion. Comes and goes." Those people are irrelevant because I'm talking about masculine men...?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 09:26 AM
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Sorry I lost you, what do you mean by this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 06:37 AM
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I was specifically talking about masculine men though :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 05:07 AM
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I guess you could lump that in with makeup certainly. But I was talking about face makeup to enhance attractiveness, not to hide in the woods lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 05:06 AM
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Not really. I think cologne is in a separate category. Men used to wear makeup, men wear makeup now. I guess I just don't see it as feminine and certainly many, many women find guys who wear makeup very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 03:40 AM
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Currently, some of the most "alpha" masculine men wear makeup. So why would a feminized society make this make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 03:31 AM
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Why do you consider makeup to be a feminine thing though? Some of the most "alpha" masculine men wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 03:29 AM
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Makeup isn't inherently feminine. I can almost guarantee every hot celebrity that you've seen in TV and movies has had makeup on. Makeup covers blemishes and helps make a person more attractive. I guess perhaps it makes sense if you're also opposed to men being fashionable, grooming their hair and beards, and maintaining an attractive physique.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 03:27 AM
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My point was being short isn't the end and there are girls who don't care so don't give up. Or you know what, I guess fuck it then and give up. Sorry for being positive and honest. It worked out for my bf and plenty of other short guys. But you're too smart for that, it's just blue pill bullshit. Every success story is made up and being short means no girl will ever be with you. Is that what you'd rather hear?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 05:50 PM
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I still think its fair to say its not a good idea to suggest rape in that context :p But I'm glad you agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:18 AM
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I said you suggested it in my first comment. I was talking about myself not arguing for rape despite enjoying the role of devils advocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 05:36 AM
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I definitely like to play devils advocate but the argument has to have some merit, even if flawed. There isn't much merit in arguing for rape. Or were you unclear about what it means to be a devils advocate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 05:28 AM
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Suggesting rape is probably not a great idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 05:21 AM
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Don't give up, my 5'6" boyfriend didn't start dating till he was a little older than you :) gotta find the right girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 03:50 AM
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Maybe awhile ago, but now many of them are 40% ads, 50% bullshit, and 10% decent content. It does depend though, I had a cooking mag for awhile that wasn't so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/17 11:50 AM
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That's why I always include it EDIT: I mean I personally don't see it as a real sexual encounter but people have different opinions. It's like if you lick a dick once do you call that a blowjob? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 11:23 PM
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Everything about it was off and we kinda called it off, but the dick went in so I gotta mention it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 11:18 PM
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You can read them you just have to understand what you're looking at. Magazines are meant to be a form of entertainment, usually not education. I thought most people understood that and wouldn't take them too seriously. It's like reality tv shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 10:25 PM
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And that is how you learn whose advice to avoid lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 10:21 PM
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I think it works, based on the definition, even without the "to hear".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 09:51 PM
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The guy in your video is exceptionally attractive. Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 09:49 PM
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4 (maybe 5) including my current SO The maybe 5 is a disappointing, awkward encounter that I'm not sure should count. Edit: I'm 26 and female. Also 3 of my count were LTRs (3-4 year relationships). 1 was what I thought would be an LTR but things didn't go well (6 months or so). And the last of course was my one awkward thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 09:40 PM
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Ugh god women actually take dating advice from magazines? I thought everyone knew how BS that stuff is x.x
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 09:22 PM
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Sorry, that was unnecessary of me, I was mostly being snarky about the awkward and incorrect(?) way you worded it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/17 10:22 AM
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Bunch of cry babies anymore What does this even mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/17 09:50 AM
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Don't just trust doctors blindly because they're doctors. Definitely. The big one that gets me is the doctors that hand out drugs all willy nilly in high doses with no warnings or advice for when the prescription ends. I was given hydrocodone as a teen and took only the recommended dose for a small time and even that was like man this is nice as hell, I want more! Then we look down on people for being addicted to drugs handed to them by a professional that they trusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 09:52 PM
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You're good, it's not my speciality so it's interesting. That makes a lot of sense and I imagine the 70% is probably out of those who are active participants in their therapy. It is sad to just toss pills at people but I'm sure it's frustrating. May be easier for some people to be zombies than struggle and fail with therapy? Although everyone should get a chance with a provider that believes in their case. Zombifying someone should be a last resort ><
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 10:37 AM
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Well that certainly sounds promising. When I was in school they taught BPD as the disorder that therapists would avoid because of low improvement rates, 70% doesn't sound bad at all though. I know a decent amount about BPD (I mean it's rusty, it's been a few years...) but I was just saying like depression, it makes it hard to seek help. Like what you said in the first part of your comment :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 10:16 AM
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I was actually under the impression that dbt wasn't extremely effective with bpt, glad to know it's better than I thought :) I think it's like depression though, it's hard to get help when you're all stuck in it. Need a little support for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 09:58 AM
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That does sound typical however the extent to which it eventually is displayed varies from person to person. Getting the person with BPD help and learning how to react to it appropriately also significantly change how much crazy you have to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 08:38 AM
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Go to /r/GirlsMirin and don't sort by top posts of all time. There you will find an expected number of average-looking men getting mired.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 05:12 AM
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BPD isn't always quite that scary. It gets a really bad rep but its not always so outwardly crazy. Often times those things are just thoughts and feelings but don't manifest into actions. It is still tough but it comes down to severity and what type of emotional support you're comfortable providing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 04:59 AM
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I'll bite. Google scholar, scientific journals F/26/5 (4.5? lol) Depends on your goals IMO. Are you ambitious and independent, with big plans and goals? Male. Are you sweet and caring, with the desire to stay at home with a house full of adorable babies? Female. Stereotypical stupid examples, I know, but in real life it just depends on how you are and what you want. I think ease of sex is pretty dependent on personal standards. If you're willing to lower your standards, you can get easy sex. How…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 04:42 AM
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Your past does matter. The examples you give are all bad things (or things we are presuming the new partner sees as negative, I wouldn't generalize bisexual orgies as "bad"). i can certainly understand how poor decisions in your past can come back to bite you and make trust hard. But none of those examples really make sense in the context of something the new partner wants. They are all things the new partner doesn't want. He would be angry about the deception whether it matters to her or not, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:36 AM
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Trust and confidence, that's it. This wouldn't be an issue if the topic was almost anything other than sex. It's only an issue with sex because it causes insecurity. That is not the woman's fault. Replace anal with idk playing her bfs favorite sport with an ex but not him and see what you think. Would you believe her if she said it's cause it's too tiring now or would you freak out cause she must have loved him more and cared more about him having fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/17 10:40 PM
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It seems clear that the lack of attraction is the problem. But people seem to be convinced that willingness to do certain things directly correlates to attraction (if a woman has done those things in the past). Not wanting to do something doesn't automatically mean lack of attraction, as you seem to be suggesting still? I know it's a crazy thought but maybe women actually have real and genuine likes and dislikes that can change over time and it has nothing to do with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/17 12:47 PM
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Idk how my relationship fits into all this then because I have very little power over my sex life and my bf is certainly not all alpha crazy. Where is all my power and control? Lol Preferences can change, mine did. Hell my preferences about sex change all the time depending on what I'm interested in at the moment. Isn't there anything in life you used to enjoy but don't now?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 09:28 PM
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I see your point, but how would he know how I feel if I didn't tell him? You're right I meant "he knows how I feel" but the only reason he knows is cause I told him. So idk? I might be a bit depressed but I'm okay. As far as sex goes, yeah I guess I could give you reasons now that I've had so much time to think. Sorry it's long but what I thought was "for no reason" was really "for a bunch of tiny reasons that add up and tip the scale just enough but are barely worth talking about". The older I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 09:21 PM
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I never said I see it as work for starters. But you are totally right that keeping relationships going takes an effort to keep things fresh! My current partner gets the most enthusiastic sex out of any partner I've ever had (at the very least it's the most adventurous). And no I would do anything differently a second time around (in regards to sex at least) I genuinely enjoyed it back then but now it's just kinda meh for me and a little on the unpleasant side. I know it might be hard to believe …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 12:16 PM
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So again, what is wrong with someone not wanting to do that, or with telling others that doing so carries some rather extreme risks? I already said I agree, if you can't trust someone you shouldn't be with them... As far as all your questions about building trust: doing things that prove you are trustworthy. Which usually means not breaking promises, acting in ways that are consistent with your partners communicated expectations, being honest with your partner, etc. why should a man choose to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 09:42 AM
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the only base for trust is her own self-report about her feelings and boundaries That and literally every other interaction the couple has ever had with each other that would lead to more or less trust in the other person. So you want someone who will unconditionally trust you on everything regardless of what you may or may not do, without looking at your past or present behaviors? Nope! Not at all! My bf trusts me because of my actions and I do everything I can to increase his trust. Lack of tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 08:42 AM
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If you can't trust a girl enough for that I would say it's fair to avoid her. Relationships should definitely have more trust than that IMO and I wouldn't want a guy with that little trust in me to stay with me. There are a ton of things you need to trust your partner about so yeah. Also if her self worth changed again, I'm not sure how that would necessarily be a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 07:32 AM
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It could have nothing to do with how eager she is...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 05:20 AM
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Or her self worth changed and she realized that NO man is worth compromising herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 05:19 AM
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Apparently you find my comments funny :p
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 05:18 AM
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He knows I'll do it if he wants, I just don't suggest it or pursue often like I used to. And he doesn't care much either way it seems. How is it manipulative to communicate exactly I how feel? In fact there are things I've lost interest in without explanation. I used to really love league of legends but I just kinda stopped playing. I think about getting back into it but I never play anymore and it's really just inexplicable to me why I don't. I also used to read books fanatically and I just don…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 05:14 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 03:36 AM
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If she deep throated Chad and offered her back door entry without hesitation, why would she deny the man she claims to love and has made a lifetime commitment to. Maybe she felt pressured into it. Maybe she didn't like it but did it anyway because she felt like she had to. Maybe she didn't have much self respect at the time. I used to be fairly enthusiastic but as I've gotten older its jut not at pleasant or fun for me anymore. I'm not sure why that changed. I personally don't make it off limits…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 12:43 AM
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She is depriving him of something he wants and she was into, because she isn't attracted to him, and his with him solely for provisioning and resources. What if her preferences just changed? What if she isn't into it now?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 12:38 AM
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There's nothing there except the claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 09:40 PM
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I was interested in evidence or the reasoning behind your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/17 09:58 PM
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Well I've asked you to defend your original position
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/17 08:35 PM
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Same. At some point I thought you might want to actually talk about the thread though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/17 09:49 PM
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Well when you call questionable statements questions, the distinction isn't clear cause they're two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/17 08:28 PM
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What distinction?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/17 06:58 PM
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You used them interchangeably. You referred to the billeted list as "questions".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/17 11:45 AM
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And yet they're different and can't be used interchangeably.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/17 09:40 PM
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There is an enormous difference between a questionable statement and a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/17 09:22 AM
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Those aren't questions, they are assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/17 05:48 AM
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It's a CMV post so no, it doesn't really have questions. OP is presenting their belief and at best the question is "What are some opposing beliefs?" And since its a CMV it is also "What are some opposing beliefs that would change my view?". So beliefs that are compelling and contain convincing evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/17 05:56 AM
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Well, as I said there are no questions at the start of this thread. So what questions are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/17 03:37 AM
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First page? Do threads have pages? I use RES so it just scrolls on forever for me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/17 12:46 AM
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Which are?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/17 09:58 PM
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In the OP? There are two questions posed in the OP and both of them are rhetorical. What questions are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/17 02:53 AM
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If you care about answering the original post, aren't you interested in supporting your claim regarding the original post? It seems silly to say that is what matters while avoiding actually answering the original post with anything of substance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/17 01:46 AM
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"Much of what TRP thinks is gender differences are actually differences in power" For starters that is not a question. That also has nothing to do with the question I asked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/17 07:50 PM
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I asked you the question..? What question are you referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/17 07:18 AM
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"Yep, power differences that just happen to be nearly 100% correlated to gender differences." That's all I can find, it says what you believe but not why. So what is your basis for that claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/17 02:27 AM
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I noticed! Lets see if you can break the cycle with an answer to this question: What is the basis for your claim that power differences are nearly 100% correlated to gender differences?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 12:28 PM
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Okay sorry, I'm not sure how to avoid apparently talking in "stage whispers". I don't really see what you mean by that or how it relates to what I'm doing. I would like to know what you think I want people to draw conclusions about though. Is that any better?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 05:44 AM
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What? What conclusions do I want people to draw? I'm interested in your point of view, how would I be making people come to conclusions?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 05:06 AM
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Missing? Like you think I'm worried they won't be interested in this conversation? I'm sure most people aren't interested (already said I didn't think anyone would read this).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 05:03 AM
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Ah well if I'm not taking a chance of embarrassment then what am I not taking a chance of?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 04:03 AM
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I'm not embarrassed of what I have to say so I'm not "taking a chance" by posting. In fact I'm less concerned on Reddit than during a private conversation IRL. Yay for anonymity :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 03:54 AM
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That's an interesting thought, is this really a public interaction though? I imagine very few will follow this comment thread. Especially since it's mostly just you being dismissive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/17 03:09 AM
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Who else would I be talking to?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 07:36 PM
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I'm talking to you....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 09:19 AM
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I have been doing my best to get you to explain your position to me, how is that does that read solipsism to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 06:35 AM
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My demonstration of noticing your assumptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 02:41 AM
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Now who can't tell much? That was never said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 12:23 AM
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Glad we got that sorted!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 12:07 AM
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Pretty sure it's because you made a claim with no evidence, usually those are based on personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/17 12:00 AM
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I was mirroring your comment from my perspective, which opposed your experience. I was honest enough to point out that it was based on personal experience. I was hoping you would either defend your claim with evidence or we could discuss our different experiences and look for truth. Your original comment was just your alleged experience as far as I can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/17 11:52 PM
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But no topics were dreamed up... power dynamics and gender is what the OP is about! And we couldn't even have a conversation cause all you wanted to say was "whatever you say" instead of actually explaining your point better or countering mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/17 11:51 AM
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There you go again... why come to ppd if not to talk about this stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/17 08:48 AM
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When did I change the topic? I was trying to talk about your original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/17 08:47 AM
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You already said that, besides we're talking about what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 01:55 AM
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As if your original comment wasn't you just saying shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/17 08:49 PM
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In my experience power differences have not been nearly 100% correlated to gender differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/17 10:58 AM
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Can you explain why you think the explanation is convoluted? I found it pretty simple and while I don't know if it explains everything, it certainly makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/17 05:54 AM
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In my experience that has been 100% untrue. Anything new from the "sweeping generalizations" crowd?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/17 05:53 AM
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I don't think its enough to come up with these explanations and not examine why. Perhaps the why is the problem. Especially citing something like salary negotiations, to me that seems much more nurture than nature. So if the 'why' is that women grow up being told they can't or shouldn't be assertive and value their work, isn't that something to be looked at? Interestingly enough one of the solutions posed in the article is related: educate women on how to accurately assess their worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/17 01:47 AM
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You make great points and for the sake of avoiding more paragraphs I'll try to just respond to a few specific things. An interesting thing to point out is the first thing that comes up when you google natural law: "a body of unchanging moral principles regarded as a basis for all human conduct." i can tunderstand this magical "immoral" behavior that is also not "criminal". I would say in our current time, almost everything that is considered immoral is also illegal actually. And I am still convi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 04:09 AM
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I really just don't see how I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 07:31 AM
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my morality applies only to me, not to others. Only for so long as you don't let it affect how you interact with others in any way (which I guess is possible but generally doesn't happen). religion is based in commands and behaviors dictated directly by gods Having said you're not a religious person, I'm sure you don't actually believe that. I respect religion in a sense, but I believe it all came from human ideas... human ideas about morality. objective rights based laws Rights are not at all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 07:30 AM
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Well I was assuming the perpetrator used their own drink, making that irrelevant. I also assumed the drink was water. And actually it is a crime! At least in the US/my state.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:52 PM
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Throwing a drink in someone's face or spitting in their face is considered a crime but there are no financial consequences for those actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:38 PM
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So a crime which produces no monetary damage is not a crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:31 PM
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Natural rights? You mean those made up things that don't exist in nature that are based on a sense or morality? And you don't think religion also had a basis in morality? I mean I went to religious school and a ton of it focused on what was good and what was evil. Which again, is morality. I cannot show you morality, that's like saying "show me philosophy". I'll try this though, have you ever seen someone do something that you thought was wrong but it wasn't illegal? I have, and my treatment of …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:23 PM
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That ant explain rape. What is the "cost" of rape? You can't calculate it, unless you want to turn the victim into a prostitute. And murder? How do you calculate that? You really think our legal system was based on calculating the cost of what the criminal did? You don't think it had anything to do with right and wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:12 PM
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Yes but why, why is there a risk? What would they do if they were out and about that makes it risky? I think it's probably because they would do immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:04 PM
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Morality is the reason rape is illegal, yes or no? Before rape was illegal, what was it? Immoral. Morality exists above and outside the law and is a valid topic of discussion. We also decided as a society that punishing the innocent and vigilantism are immoral though so we rely on the legal system. As far as why people want to discuss it, I think it's probably just cause it's easier. Unlike you, most people are more familiar with what is right and wrong and not what is legal and illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 09:02 PM
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"We" punish people with jail, shame and disapproval, death, and on and on. You missed the point of what I was saying though. The reason we put people in jail, the reason we make (some) laws, is morality. Again, ask yourself why is rape illegal? I know you're really smart so I kinda feel like you're fucking with me. Have you actually never learned about morality?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 08:40 PM
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It is a felony, you go to jail for being convicted of it. It is an interpersonal crime of violence. It is illegal. They weren't asking about legality. I'm not religious Morality certainly does not have to be a religious thing. I don't understand what it matters "right or wrong" or "immoral". Do you mean you also go to hell for doing it? I'm 99% sure they were not asking about whether or not you go to hell for doing it, but I guess you'd have to ask them. This quote from the wiki might help with …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 10:32 AM
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morals: a person's standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do. or moral: of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior They are asking if you believe rape (and/or what occurred in the story) is moral/acceptable to do/right or immoral/not acceptable to do/wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/17 07:28 AM
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Out of curiosity, since you choose to love everyone (and almost everything) in the world, how would you choose a partner? Are you interested in marrying the person you know best (since love for you is a function of familiarity)?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 11:50 PM
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I guess I can make myself appreciate it too Is it really love if you have to force yourself to do it? Nothing is abhorrent to me no, I have no boundaries really. Does anything elicit strong emotions of any sort in you? I know you have already mentioned weakness and stupidity (then again you also said you could appreciate them so hate is probably the wrong word). Have you seen The Neon Demon? I have not seen The Neon Demon but I watched the trailer, it looks very interesting. Do you love this mov…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 03:09 AM
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I suppose it's love based on appreciating and accepting people as they are. But you appreciate everything in this world? There is nothing in this world that is abhorrent to you? You hate nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 02:31 AM
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Like recognizing the way something is and seeing the good in it or what is valuable in it. If you recognize the good or value in "who someone is" that is an emotional response/feeling as far as I can tell. Can you give me an example of how you would logically appreciate a person? I think I understand how you define love now though and I do think you are using the wrong word. I respect that you feel the way you do, but I think you are wrong in describing it as love. While love is ambiguously defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 01:43 AM
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appreciating That is a feeling. If I love PersonA but not PersonB, then I must not know PersonB well enough to form enough of a conception of them to love. So if you know someone well enough, you love them? Even if you meet a bad person or a person that is mean to you, as long as you get to know them you will love them? When I really begin to 'see' someone is when I begin to truly love them. When you really begin to see a psychopathic murderer for who they are, you begin to truly love them? I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 12:46 AM
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I'll also love them for who they are too, not just how they make me feel. Why do you love them for who they are? Lets pretend you love PersonA for who they are but you don't love PersonB for who they are. What causes you to respond differently to PersonA? If it has nothing to do with how they make you feel, then what is the difference? And we don't even need to talk about romantic love, I'd like to focus on true love actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 12:06 AM
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True love is loving something's for itself, loving its very being, and not how it makes you feel, what you get out of it. and yet you've just said that you love someone because of how they make you feel. I think you're confusing why you love someone and how you love someone. Because the person I love makes me feel good (thats why I love them - its selfish), I want to do things that make them feel good (thats how I love them - its selfless, in a way).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 11:34 PM
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I'm assuming you mean romantically, which for me most importantly is her energy, followed by her being, followed by her beauty. And you love those things because they make you feel good, correct? If not, what makes you love those things? If a woman's energy makes you love her, what about her energy makes you love her and what about other women's energy makes you not love them? Is it how they make you feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 11:00 PM
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Pfft a TRPer who doesn't worship the god of tits and wine? Get outta here with those lies, you know you're down with the tiny lion man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 10:57 PM
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I am woman, hear me roar :p
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 10:53 PM
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The arguments in this thread haven't made any sense to me in relation to the video, this is the first thing that resonates. The way a person loves a fish is completely selfish (in the context of eating it). They don't care in any way about the fish, they just love eating it. The proper statement would be: "I love eating fish". The video to me was saying: when people claim they love PersonA, they really mean they love "eating" PersonA (eating being a metaphor for all the things that PersonA does …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 10:47 PM
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You have a really interesting view on this, in your opinion what makes you love a person? If you don't love a person because of their traits, their looks, their behaviors, their personality, their "essence", why do you love them? What about the people you love makes them different from the people you don't love? What aspect differentiates them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/17 10:42 PM
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Absolutely, but almost more importantly if I get the impression that my partner is not enjoying himself that is a HUGE turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/17 06:05 AM
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If I'm into it, I'm fully focused on the physical sensations. If I'm not into it, I'm thinking about how my hair looks or if my breath smells like coffee or if hes not enjoying it or whatever self conscious shit pops into my mind. The only time I fantasize is when I masturbate and those fantasies don't usually involve anything ideal... I have weird fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/17 07:14 AM
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Like I said, don't have a lab coat
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 01:10 AM
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No no, you were the one assuming.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:53 AM
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When did I admit I wasn't smart? Seems like you're making silly assumptions again!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:43 AM
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Don't really think clothes work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:30 AM
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What use would I be if I did have those clothes?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:19 AM
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I don't have a lab coat or a nascar top of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:13 AM
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What is confusing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/17 12:00 AM
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"The common tongue" I'm still not convinced that substantiate is a fancy word lol And you're welcome to focus on whatever you like, I believe you were the one that brought all this up :p
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 11:55 PM
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I misunderstood your point I guess? Like I said though I would argue that it's too difficult to tell what the gender differences are with all the other factors influences spending.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 08:29 PM
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Definitely not an actress lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 08:25 PM
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You really know nothing about me, so you can't really know at all how intelligent I am. Sorry again for using a hard word, but in my defense I have been watching law and order lately (if you're unfamiliar with the show, the term substantiate pops up in it).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 03:44 AM
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Try reading more? What is that supposed to mean? That's an article from 2009 More importantly that's an article that was used as a reference for the article stonepimpletilists linked... how do you recon the situation has changed now? That's a tough question to answer. Especially because, as I said, there are a million confounding variables in the things that turn up on the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 03:40 AM
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Sorry I didn't think substantiate was that difficult of a word. Or are you making fun of my spelling? I didn't notice any typos in my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 02:51 AM
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That finances are a gendered thing. Even a brief search will show you a million confounding variables making your claim impossible to substantiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 02:36 AM
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Not to mention that lacking the resilience, coping skills, and perspective will lead to MORE fear after a failure. Fear is generally a learned thing and awful experiences after failure just increase that fear creating a vicious cycle for those who lack the ability to cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 02:17 AM
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Cause smilies certainly convey a buttmad tone lol relax friend no one is buttmad, you're jumping to silly conclusions (maybe as silly as the conclusions you came to about women!)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/17 01:20 AM
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People who answer questions with "k" are the wooorst :p
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/17 11:55 PM
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Well that's a pretty useless metric if you're talking about gender differences. I did some research and as I suspected a huge factor is household purchases but what I didn't know is that the vast majority of households have women responsible for furniture, cars, and other big ticket items along with groceries and stuff. I didn't even need to do research to address your other points cause you did it for me :p And if I were to count stores in a mall is it just stores that target a specific sex? Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/17 11:29 PM
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Oh no I'm not asking you to research. But I read what you linked and it mostly seems to prove that you were wrong.... I was worried I missed something cause I didn't think you'd try to disprove yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/17 11:18 PM
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Interesting, your link doesn't say that women spend more than men. And it actually talks about women doing more research before investing, making safer investments, and women not jumping on "hot tips". It talks about the fact that financial services targeted towards women is an untapped source of new business (presumably because of women's interest in money management). I think I missed the evidence for your claim =/ Btw, I don't think you're using the pink tax correctly maybe? Usually women are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/17 11:15 PM
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I'd be interested to see the data there. I imagine the discrepancy would come from women spending more money for the household (my dad never bought the laundry detergent, toilet paper, groceries, etc growing up). Women being unable to save money hasn't been my experience at all. Where are you getting this?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/17 11:00 PM
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Yeah irl I couldn't see it happening, I've seen tons of IG posts like that though. Idk the person you replied to so you're probably right :p
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 10:58 AM
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I thought all her chads were pretty great except for the long haired guy. Like I look at him and think hes hot but at the same time my brain is like no thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 10:36 AM
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Nah this certainly happens. Mostly pics people post on the internet from what I've seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 10:30 AM
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Maybe but there are a number of other reasons. Most of the time I choose not to wear makeup is to give my skin a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/17 10:29 AM
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Super hot, right? I'm not even a fan of huge tits but hers are just... man. I gave her a low score based on the pic in the OP but with those closer to an 8 or a 9. Edit: And trust me, I'm WAY more jealous of the girl in these pics but I'm willing to rate her higher. I fully believe that the ratings she got were based on how attractive other women perceived her to be and jealousy did not influence it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:57 AM
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I don't mind short guys, dating one at the moment. I don't mind lack of a good job or career. I've supported an ex in the past who was unemployed for a few years. I don't know if it counts but I prefer smaller but toned guys. I don't mind a lack of muscle (though I do miss getting picked up and carried).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:51 AM
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I'm a lady. I do not have a backup.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:46 AM
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That is why I rated 3 higher. I know what some makeup, nice clothes, and a nice pose could do for her. She's got a fantastic foundation (even with her body the way it is, she'd look great in a better pose/with clothes).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:42 AM
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Nah, I just looked her up based on the name /u/lollygagyo provided (still suspicious because she looks SO different elswhere) Definitely looks trashy and gross in this pic, the whole vibe shes got going is off putting and it looks like she working her angles and makeup SO HARD to make up for something. Really just all around unappealing. This girl is beautiful tho (if its her!) and has one of the best sets of titties I've ever seen (are they real?). If you would have used any of these pictures s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:40 AM
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Because I think women can recognize what a bad (or good) picture can do for you as well as the difference clothes and makeup make. I would bet my life that she looks better than a lot of the other girls given a nice outfit, makeup, and a better pose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:34 AM
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"they likely do not consider me an option. I have no problem with it otherwise" L2R :p
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/17 08:30 AM
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7: very cute, nice body and I love her styling/makeup 8: great body, beautiful face and her hair omg 6: gorgeous hair, nice body, cute face (probably a 7 with a more flattering photo) 6: nice face, decent hair, not a fan of the makeup or styling 8: LOVE her nose, nice makeup, beautiful hair and gorgeous body 3: I can't get past my opinion of her as a person to rate her fairly... she has a nice face I guess but I am not a fan 6: the makeup is real here, not a fan at all but objectively she looks …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 05:12 AM
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6: nice face, slightly smaller body than I'd like 8: super attractive face, his build is a tad large for my taste (would be a solid 9 with a bit less bulk) 5: very average 6: nice face (I cheated a bit and looked up other pictures to see his face better) 4: decent face, love the beard, a bit large for my taste 7: attractive face, nice build 6: not very attracted to his facial features 3: not a fan of his hair or beard and his face is not as appealing, he is also fairly large
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 05:01 AM
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White, American, 25. Would date 5+ (assuming compatible personality), less than that would be on a case by case basis. 8's are super attractive, 9's are super attractive AND fit my ideal preference, a 10 can only be achieved by combining a 7-9 with an awesome personality (personality can increase or decrease my attraction to someone). Just wanted to give a little context to my ratings. 7: I'm really not a fan of his build but his face is pretty nice (eyes, beard) 5: really not a fan of the look …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 04:52 AM
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Yup, with every guy I've ever been in a relationship with :p Which is 3.5 (the fourth guy was kind of an iffy relationship, not sure if it really counts as one).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 04:31 AM
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I don't think its strange to question the professionals, honestly. I do think its strange not to question the advice on subreddits though. I do think you put too much faith in people's ability to figure out for themselves what advice is good advice. Especially when its easier and equally effective to just hide emotions. I fear that they will see results and continue these poor practices and suffer for it in the long term. I feel like as a woman and someone who doesn't practice TRP, its not my pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 04:29 AM
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I guess my point is that mostly I think TRP teaches men how to hide emotions, not how to process them and feel them in a healthy way. If people are turned away by your emotions either they are fucking assholes (which no doubt is the case often enough) or you aren't handling the emotions in a healthy way. I do admit that when men suffer and are unable to have healthy emotions they aren't taken care of (unlike women) but the answer is not to try and rid men of their emotions. Yes hiding emotions i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/17 12:24 AM
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There is some good advice like that on TRP but the environment feeds and encourages anger. Anger is healthy when it's justified and controlled to produce a positive. The anger I see expressed and encouraged on TRP over women people have never met is somewhat crazy. TRP doesn't condone sadness or weak emotions (and if they do, only to your bros). Feeling ashamed of your emotions is never good and it's important to recognize that if an emotion is a turn off for women, you probably have a problem. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 10:02 PM
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Sorta. For example sadness is acceptable, but if it is causing suicidal thoughts then not so much. Anger is acceptable, but if someone cuts you off and you can't help but get out of your car and smash their window in anger then it's not so acceptable. It really comes down to how you deal with emotions and what is triggering the emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/17 07:20 AM
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Sorry those can't actually tell you much about your levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 06:12 PM
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Your description of neediness from a hot guy, oh he needs me cause I'm so special. That doesn't sound like anything I would normally call neediness. Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 06:10 PM
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That doesn't sound like neediness though. Maybe give a more specific example?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 11:55 AM
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How do you know your testosterone levels?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/17 11:51 AM
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You're not making sense though. I'm unconvinced this post isn't just trying to prove a point. And that dead bedroom comment is silly. I'm experiencing the opposite in my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 05:18 PM
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None of that is relevant to what I'm saying. OP is trying to prove a point not make commentary on the value of male sexuality (not that what you said is even about male sexuality).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 02:21 AM
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It is not about sexual value. It is about the fact that many men want to sleep with whoever, whenever. But less women feel the same. Just because women aren't as interested in casual meaningless sex doesn't mean men don't have sexual value to them. But a mans sexual value is all wrapped up with his personality and his value as a partner. For men is is often more straight forward. I sort of disagree with this view to be clear. But OP is implying that the sexual value of men is greater and more en…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/17 12:29 AM
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I'm fairly certain they are comparing unattractive men asking for sex to unattractive women asking for money. Men claim women receive validation from unwanted sexual advances. so this is asking if men receive validation from unwanted provider-seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 07:05 PM
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Hmm average for the US I assumed. I just looked up statistics to get a rough idea. I would never willingly chat with someone in a grocery store, disgusting. Also I don't have a family and I don't really go to the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 06:38 PM
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You've misunderstood, they aren't saying men should have to pay for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 06:36 PM
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The AVERAGE is about an hour for a grocery store. Do you know what Costco is? I stand by the possibility that it could take twice as long as a grocery store, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 11:41 AM
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Sorry this comment chain was talking about how men are less valuable because women value providers less. Your input to that conversation was that women don't need providers because they divorce raped someone. I was assuming you were continuing the conversation and with the red pill tag I assumed you are not happy that mens SMV is dropping (if that's even true). I guess those last two assumptions got me in trouble tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 09:31 AM
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You can't say "If an unattractive man offered you sex for nothing in return" is equivalent to what you're saying, because that assumes male sexuality is worth less than female sexuality, which is morally wrong, so anyone who promotes that view and makes straw man arguments to justify the status quo is a bad person. Can you explain how this is saying male sexuality is worth less than female sexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 09:17 AM
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Neither. I would say it is what it is, a physical desire. My mental health is just fine without sex, I don't see it as a great luxury. It's like a mild addiction, like wanting a cigarette. You're fine if you don't get it but often you really want it and it is quite nice when you get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 09:15 AM
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So the reason that men are less valuable is because of women who have been married and are now divorced? And you're upset that those women are taken care of by him? Because they aren't out looking to fuck you for money?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 09:10 AM
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Well the average for grocery stores is a little under an hour. Since it's Costco figure maybe a 15-20 minute drive and probably double the size of a grocery store so I'd double the time. Puts you at around 2.5-3 hours. And that's just using averages so for a large family you could spend quite a bit of extra time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/17 09:02 AM
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Actually prefer very nice looking fake jewelry. It's the prettiness and also the thought. My bfs mom gave him a really nice ring to propose to me with and I told him I'd rather he went and bought a nice cheap moissanite that he picked out himself. To me walking around with a month of rent waiting to break or fall off or get stolen is too stressful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 09:37 PM
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That's amazing, it doesn't take any time to do that? And here I've been spending time making lists and choosing products! Not to mention requiring last minute items. I'm sure your children will never require last minute supplies for school or anything like that. Anyway for real now, I'm curious to know if you actually think the effort of caring for yourself is the same as the effort required to care for a family and a significant other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 11:08 AM
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You should look up the actual diagnostic criteria for antisocial personality disorder :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:33 AM
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When is the last time a shopping trip took you 4.5 - 5 hours? Honestly do you really think taking care of yourself (and possibly your SO) is the same level of difficulty as taking care of yourself and your SO and your children?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:24 AM
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Ah man when I read that thread very few people thought it was ridiculous. All the comments were like "good job, dodged a bullet", "it can be tough swallowing the pill but I promise it will get easier" etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:19 AM
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Physically: attractive face (my definition of attractive face), appealing hair and facial hair, attractive sense of style Personality: funny/witty/clever, nerdy, super chill, sweet, driven, intelligent, someone who I can be myself around and who isn't afraid to let loose and be goofy, empathetic, and a huge turn on is him being attracted to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:16 AM
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Same! I've had similar experiences with not finding someone attractive until they're in a role that makes them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:10 AM
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Face then penis 25, white, west coast US, plurple, upper middle
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/17 10:07 AM
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Tell me what was bullshit and I will find you an example of it if you want. Women don't care? What does that have to do with me? Is that supposed to be an insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/17 07:10 PM
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Is it so hard for you to believe that I genuinely care about this? I work in the field and I work almost exclusively with young men. This is one of the things I care most about but no I guess it must just be cause I hate TRP. No way it's a widespread and pervasive issue that is visible and exacerbated in TRP, nope must be hate. I guess that just goes to show how big this problem is. People won't even believe you if you say you care...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/17 06:53 PM
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Cause it makes your feelz feel bad. Yeah I feelz so bads sir, my widdle heart can't handle it. Pwease make all the bad feelings go away! But no, it doesn't make my "feelz feel bad". I just happen to know a decent amount about mental health and as I said, men's mental health is largely ignored and misunderstood. If women suffer from lack of attention in the doctors office, men get the extremely short end of the stick when it comes to mental health. Healthy anger is expressed and expelled, turned …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/17 05:18 AM
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Based on another comment, you're advocating that men use "slut tells" to estimate an N count to judge a woman's impulsivity, risk awareness, etc. and these slut tells include things like dyed hair, piercings, and tattoos. Why teach men to look at superficial things to guess at a potentially meaningless number when you could teach them to look at the things they should actually care about? You don't need to be in the field of psychology to learn how to spot signs that indicate those traits. TRP w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/17 04:16 AM
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Mens mental health is in a sorry state and it is SO important that men learn to express emotions in a healthy way. From what I know of the TRP sub, men are certainly not expressing emotions in a healthy way over there....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/17 04:11 AM
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I think its exceptionally unlikely that anyone out there wouldn't be found attractive by more than one person (barring extreme situations like unfortunate deformities or something else that would limit attractiveness). I know plenty of nerd couples and I've yet to see one where the relationship would be happy while the guy is a typical omega. Well you did say this and then you won't give me criteria for what makes someone an omega.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 10:51 PM
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If you drink on the weekends you're an addict?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 08:06 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 12:17 PM
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I think a good portion of people go through something like what you did. And just like you, they change. It's a common thing and I doubt it really says much about who a person is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/17 12:16 PM
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How do you know a number of people are attracted to him? If getting dates is how you know you're unattractive, then yes no one else finds him attractive... cause I'm the only date. Anyway you said nerds couldn't be in happy relationships. That's the sample size.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 06:43 PM
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Well then yeah, i disagree. But anyway, we are exceptionally happy and nerdy so I think your experience is due to small sample size
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 05:19 PM
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Oh I just mean idk of anyone else finds him attractive is all. Cause I said I don't think he's attractive by general standards but I find him attractive. You were saying since I find him attractive then he is attractive right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 11:52 AM
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I'm not sure that's true, if one person finds you attractive then you're considered attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/17 11:26 AM
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I think he's attractive. People are usually surprised we're together. He isn't attractive to others. I do find him attractive though. I look back at pictures of when we first started dating though and cringe, he looked awful. Seems like it's all about attractiveness to be omega though and if you go by traditional standards for men, then no he's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 09:59 PM
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Well he's certainly not alpha, I do know that. And you ask what makes him omega or not but like I said, I don't really know how to define omega so... how am I supposed to say what makes him one? I wouldn't say hes necessarily hot, he's skinny fat, he's 5'6, he's got a patchy little beard fluff patch, he was certainly awkward looking when we got together - acne, longish stringy hair (his appearance has improved immensely since then though). I do find him attractive though, especially since he's w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 12:05 PM
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Honestly I'm not sure I have a solid definition in mind. Just vague impressions from the context I normally hear it used in. But my bf is skinny fat (used to be obese), never had a gf before me, or even really female friends, into all sorts of nerdy shit (type of guy to spend an entire day in front of a computer with a 2 liter), had a shitty grocery store job and didn't really do anything with his life, lived at home, and he was a likable dude for the most part but had no idea how to be polite. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 10:50 AM
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Well it comes down to how you define feminism. The people causing these problems in my mind are not feminists. People look at the word anti-feminism and think it's anti-women's right and anti-equality. Others look at anti-feminism and think that means anti-misandry and anti-feminazi. With something like feminism that has no good definition and doesn't fit in a neat little box it is hard to say you're against it. This is a source of a great many misunderstandings. Edit: also in that comment you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 02:09 AM
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We are talking about feminists bring down men not fighting for rights. No we aren't: "I don't see how bringing men down is a feminist thing to do and fully disagree with actively doing so." Moving the goal post huh? lol: But take away from men. A lot of feminists say the zero sum game doesn't exist nor need to exist. But it very much does exist despite their claims and its the feminists doing it. And my reply: However you seem to be saying that some of the things women have fought for inadverten…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 12:19 AM
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Chat with people on video games! What do you play? I'm down for some games during your break if we have any games in common
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/17 12:00 AM
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How do you define omega? My nerdy relationship is pretty happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 11:55 PM
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Dating a guy who is 5'6 (if you ask him he says 5'7 :p ) I'm 5'5, almost 5'6, so we're essentially the same height. It doesn't bother me and I find him attractive. I don't like some of the looks we get tho, judgy people bug me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 11:46 PM
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Well I might be misunderstanding fault and no fault divorce, but can you get a fault divorce if the reason is that you don't get along?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 10:33 PM
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Sigh still not what we're talking about. What rights were they fighting for? None, they were being crazy bitches. Show me women fighting for a right that inadvertently brings men down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 09:59 PM
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I was more interested in what would happen with the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 09:57 PM
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I think they'd be much more effective if they didn't go with "anti-feminism" there are lots of people who don't believe feminism is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 09:55 PM
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Yeah still not really an equality thing. In theory I get what you're saying but I don't see it happening in real life and I can't even think of a possible example.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 12:19 PM
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Just curious, what happens if the couple is just fighting nonstop and they cannot make it work? Would custody still be a thing? Or would we leave it to the individuals to battle it out indefinitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 09:10 AM
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Interesting I'll have to look into it. That isn't really something that has to do with women wanting equality tho. Those programs are not helping women achievey equality by bringing men down. Based purely on what you said it's thinly veiled indoctrination, which doesn't sound like it's doing anything for women's equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 08:22 AM
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Alright cause all the things you mentioned were subjective things and I was saying laws are subjective so I was just confused what you were arguing. And yeah that's a problem which is unfortunately a lot more complicated than many people make it out to be. Will take great effort and big changes to fix that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 08:20 AM
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I get what you're saying, it the vocal ones. And honestly it's on the shoulders of people like me to change that but right now I've got other things to focus on. I'm part of the problem though for allowing their voices to be heard without putting my views out there (except for on reddit where I make approximately zero difference in the world lol) Everyone like me has let this happen by being silent. Despite that I don't think I'm necessarily obligated to change it, as shitty as that sounds. I wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 08:18 AM
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I do see how it's not equal, but I don't think it's hypocritical to only fight for the equality that benefits you as long as you're not in denial of the inequalities that work for you. I also don't think it's a lie to say you want equality but you only fight for equalities that benefit you. I don't think anyone is obligated to fight for things that would hurt them, you know? I do understand that there are plenty of women (and men) who are hypocritical. I just think you're lumping them all togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/17 08:14 AM
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Did you think maybe I said objective? Either way I'll have to look into it. Definitely think laws should be written and interpreted as gender neutral. There are plenty of factors that should be subjective in the law but gender isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 11:50 PM
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I don't see how bringing men down is a feminist thing to do and fully disagree with actively doing so. However you seem to be saying that some of the things women have fought for inadvertently do bring men down. Nothing comes to mind for me but if you have examples I'd be interested in looking into it. As far as your second paragraph goes, it sounds like those people are actively bringing men down, which I've already said is stupid. Giving women better shifts just for being women is NOT equality…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 11:48 PM
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I disagree. Superiority would be fighting to be better than men. But it comes down to definitions with this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 11:44 PM
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Okay I definitely see where you're coming from. I still have a hard time believing that applies to "feminism" though. I was only able to watch some of the interview but I agree with her in that it's the fanatics and the snowflakes. In real life though I've never met someone who fits that description (and I fully admit it may be because I surround myself with reasonable women) but I've met plenty who believe in equality. The internet is full of the hypocrites you're talking about though so I can …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 11:43 PM
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You say "yes of course" but then go right back to expecting them to fight for equality in all aspects or else they won't get taken seriously. Would you take a feminist like myself seriously? I believe in equality not just in aspects that women benefit from but I don't fight for shit :P And that doesn't sound like a problem with the laws at all, sounds like a people problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 07:53 PM
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Please read my post again and sorry for the wording. I meant that your argument is about them not fighting for it not that they don't agree with it. And that it makes sense since people pick and choose their battles. I can see how that phrasing could upset you. Although maybe I have misunderstood because I don't know what you're referring to. If women are fighting to for superiority, can you give me an example? It's not something I've heard much about. As far as the law thing, read my post again…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 06:32 PM
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I guess let me illustrate: women wanted equal voting rights, they did not want their vote to be worth more than men; equal pay and not higher pay. Also there is a difference between saying "women should get paid more than they currently do" and "women should get paid as much as men". Using the word equality in reference to one thing does not mean too are obligated to fight for it across the board. It's a semantics thing, it's not a lie to say they want equality. Aren't the laws purposefully subj…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 06:21 PM
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You can want equality without wanting to make things worse for women. You can want to improve the condition of women towards equality not superiority (and not worsen the condition of women towards equality). women required to register for the draft I think most feminists agree that the draft should be eliminated (but I can't speak for them all) women required to serve longer sentences to achieve parity in law I think its important to look at why that is happening: are men getting unfairly long s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/17 09:47 AM
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Ah I see lol well I honestly made assumptions about what those places were... so my bad, figured they were closer to gay bars
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 03:38 AM
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It would be the same as a straight woman going to a lesbian bar and getting attention from women she doesn't want to hook up with. There you go. Same shit. Secondly, women do indeed benefit from the attention they get, such as the emotional validation from beta orbiters or, if she is really bad, using him for money and favours without considering him a romantic prospect. Yeah go take advantage of gay orbiters and their money and favors and don't even consider them a romantic prospect. (kind of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 03:01 AM
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Then go post on the CMV... I'm not OP
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 02:55 AM
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That its literally the point of this post. Go to a place where gay men will give you all those things and report back with how wonderful it was. Free drinks, compliments, a listening ear for whatever you want to bitch/whine/brag/drone on about, competition for your attention, etc. Go experience what its like to reap the benefits of that attention without any sexual desire and come back to changer her view.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/17 12:10 AM
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At the same time, I don't understand why this should be a problem. Why is it that I should be doing things I find boring / retarded to be considered "normal"? And where are the spergy nerdy girls that presumably exist (there is someone out there for everyone)? Just a little perspective from a nerdy girl (wouldn't say spergy, also wouldn't call you spergy), most of my friends are nerdy. Around these parts nerdy is normal. I doubt anyone is expecting you to be doing boring things to be considered …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/17 02:18 AM
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Idk how that pertains to our conversation but thanks for the invite :) unfortunately you forgot about your own rule! Also we post to the same sub so I guess we're both in club loser then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/17 02:03 AM
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Interesting, wonder how long before the cops get involved
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/17 10:41 AM
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Really depends on what you mean by "respect" If we're talking about "respecting personal space" then no that is not something people earn, that is absolutely something people deserve. And looking at the OP here, we are using respect in that sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/17 03:42 AM
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Sure, I just can't really think of a situation where being mean isn't childish or unnecessary. But like you said it's subjective so it's hard to say for sure :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/17 02:29 AM
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I do think being mean or rude is childish and uncalled for generally. Personally I try to go above and beyond when it comes to how I treat people so removing that extra effort is enough to express my anger and make it understood that whatever behavior I'm responding to is unappreciated. Though I guess I don't know what you mean exactly when you talk about being mean. "Mean" makes me think of purposefully attempting to hurt someone/make them feel bad which is usually unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 08:30 PM
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In my experience yes but maybe I just have an affinity for horny girls lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 08:21 PM
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Not with that attitude! Highest libido in the world... that's pretty unbelievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 06:09 PM
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Or you just date one with a higher libido than you and bingo, on demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 01:44 PM
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I think it's more about what you do with that anger. Yelling, name calling, violence, are usually "bad". The emotion of anger is not, expressing anger in a healthy and constructive way is tough though for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 01:05 PM
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Just curious, why not? Can't really think of a reason not to post. Other improvement subreddits have continued participation after people accept that they need to work to improve themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 01:03 PM
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These generalizations are just so lame. Don't have to be top 20% to fuck on demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/17 12:41 PM
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You're oddly aggressive in this comment chain
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/16 12:01 PM
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TRPers have shit on chubby Chris Pratt before, they didn't believe me when I said I was into him before. Glad I'm not alone!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/16 11:52 AM
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We're talking about women's preferences though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/16 12:48 AM
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Well the guy could afford his fancy car but chose not to buy it so the argument breaks down there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/16 11:52 PM
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In the context of your original comment though, do you really think her reproductive value was playing a part in her preferences? Also your reproductive value is limited by your sexual value isn't it? So wouldn't sexual value take priority? (Assuming reproductive value = baby making ability and sexual value = perceived attractiveness).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/16 02:37 AM
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If all men were disagreeable I think we'd end up with WGTOW lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/16 02:31 AM
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So you're saying that even if a woman could lock down a chad for marriage she would stick with her beta bucks?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/16 02:25 AM
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Really? Is that a thing? Guys would rather bone a fat 18 year old than a hot 35 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/16 02:24 AM
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Thats a bit of a generalization. That may be low for you but its not necessarily "low for a guy". It's also low for me, but for my boyfriend that would be the perfect amount. He would be very satisfied with that level of sex. Me on the other hand, not so much ><
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/16 02:00 AM
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Lol interesting. I went once after being invited by a friend since I had never gone before. My boyfriend enjoyed the couples lap dance. The girls were really nice and pretty fun to talk to. I was really off put by the way some of them were about money though which sorta ruined the fun of the night. I get that they're doing a job and I was more than willing to tip 99% of the time, but if I just walked out from the bathroom and didn't even watch your dance... Probably wouldn't go back to that plac…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 05:32 AM
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I think women that go to strip clubs to watch men dance is gross and off-putting. I would instantly think less of any woman I know that willingly did this, even 'just for fun.' What about a woman going to a normal strip club? Just curious :p
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 05:22 AM
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Lol I'm with /u/philomexa, I would be AMAZED if anyone I've slept with had seen a prostitute. After me though, who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 05:19 AM
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I dislike illegal prostitution and the shitty slimy things that go on in the sex industry. If we could get it all cleaned up I'm super supportive of sex work in all forms. It's just a bummer that its so ripe for exploitation. Knowing a guy visited a prostitute wouldn't change my opinion of him at all (other than perhaps wondering about what sort of shitty things he may have contributed to in doing so). I would probably insist on getting him tested though (should do that no matter what!).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/16 05:16 AM
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The reason some men catcall is because some women respond positively to it. You're really close to getting behavior science here but you're missing a few words. The reason some men catcall is because in the past they have been positively reinforced. Most likely the positive reinforcement was attention but this attention can come in many, many forms. For example, making a woman flip him off and yell at him could be considered attention. Making his friends laugh. Making people on the street look a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 07:57 AM
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A perfectly passing tranny goes home with you and gives you a blowjob. You thought she was a biological woman, are you gay because a biological man made you cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 09:54 PM
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So you put your dick through a hole in the wall. Someone gives you a blow job. You have an orgasm. Is there a chance you are now gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/16 08:39 PM
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I see, I was certainly confused. Talking about being established in academia is more than enough to convey what you're talking about. Could probably just remove the not obscure requirement entirely. Btw google scholar is "not obscure" lol, you can safely assume most people on Reddit know about it :) thanks for trying to help though. Also, can you really call it an invention? The google search engine was an invention certainly. So was the first written text, but would you call every subsequent te…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 04:41 PM
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Man, if only the bars around here had normal people (never been to a club). The last bar I went to a very large African american man came up behind me and cheerily just picked me up to say hello, terrifying. The regulars were all just like "oh don't worry about that guy, that's just how he is" @_@
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 12:22 PM
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I think you're misinterpreting that. They were saying TRP talks about SJW's as if they were [the] ISIS [of sexuality] but TRP forgets that they are the flat-earthers of sexuality. Like its ridiculous that TRP talks about SJWs as though they are a violent radical group of extremists while TRP doesn't even recognize that they are the pseudoscience weirdos of sexuality? Idk, but it certainly didn't have anything to do with whether or not you know about weird subgroups. I guess more that you don't a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 12:07 PM
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Sorry, you're just bringing that up randomly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 11:32 AM
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No one was talking about your knowledge of sub groups though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 10:15 AM
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So are there any non-obscure feminists with a significant academic base I think these woman would be obscure almost by default. Do scholars of social sciences generally become household names in modern times? We're making tiny little steps towards understanding social interaction and the human psyche, no one is out there discovering that "omg behavior is lawful?!?! wow". A lot of the big ones have been done before and new literature that is interesting gets slapped into a clickbait article that …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 03:57 AM
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I think if more RPers didn't care about the weird subgroups, they wouldn't be brought up so often. Good on you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/16 03:44 AM
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Yeah I actually don't know much about it. All I know is that is why people were upset, not "because patriarchy". Those people could be wrong, but that's still why they are upset. To me it seems more a case of widespread misinformation (if in fact there is no luxury tax) than a case of "but der paterarcherys". Perhaps somewhere near the start of this possible misinformation there was some shady purposeful misrepresentation though?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 01:28 PM
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No, that was the comment that my original comment was replying to. Then you commented on my comment and I was explaining that I was saying its not the patriarchy. To which you replied "I never mentioned patriarchy". That is why I linked the original comment that does mention patriarchy. Sorry it makes a lot more sense if you look at the comment chain, I feel like I did a terrible job explaining that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 01:24 PM
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Oh no not you, this is the comment I replied to: Because patriarchy! It's an ancient and venerable tradition within feminism that treating women like men is misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 11:39 AM
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Please see my other comment. I may not be well informed on this issue but I was explaining why they were upset. I do not know if they are correct in being upset about that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 10:02 AM
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I'll look into it when I'm on a computer. In my original comment I was just trying to explain why other people are upset about this. Not 100% sure if those people are correct but they definitely aren't upset "because patriarchy". I guess someone could have purposefully misrepresented the situation "because patriarchy". Then in a way the other people are upset about "patriarchy". That's a bit of a stretch though since it's more of a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 09:37 AM
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Despite how pop culture has decided to use the word, curvy does not necessarily mean fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 06:43 AM
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This isn't the issue here at all. That is based on statistics and is a completely different issue (should you charge certain demographics more because it is statistically relevant or should people be judged individually/is that discrimination). This is about tampons being considered a luxury item and incurring luxury tax. A good comparison would be mens razors incurring a luxury tax. IMO neither items are luxuries in this day, they're both necessities and shouldn't be taxed as luxuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 06:37 AM
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I think its actually because tampons incur a luxury tax on top of sales tax. It would be like if mens razors had a luxury tax (do they?). IMO mens razors are not a luxury, they are a necessity. Same as tampons.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/16 06:34 AM
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I had no idea that some implied minority or majority... I've never heard that and don't see it mentioned in the definition. So I think maybe you misunderstood? Losing weight is not impossible for some people, at least to my knowledge of the science behind weight-loss. Saving money may be impossible if necessary expenses meet or exceed income and for whatever reason income is maxed. Like its unlikely but I guess theoretically possible. So what? So you said "see how that works?" and I was telling …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 10:36 PM
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Change the word "some" to "most". I don't know if I would say that. Its difficult to get into percentages for something like this. Like how do you even define if someone is okay with it? If they stay with the person? What if they are still unhappy? You know, its just hard to say. My belief is sex is more important than most people like to think it is.. Sex is integral to a relationship IMO. That doesn't mean matching libidos is. Honestly all I was trying to say was that this: It's real simple.. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 10:23 PM
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That's honestly not possible for some people. It can be really hard and difficult to accept, but if the person is worth it, they're worth it. For some people matching libidos is extremely important and I wouldn't expect someone to be okay with it if they weren't happy. But you still have to understand that it doesn't work that way for everyone. Sure some people lie to get out of sex (you have to wonder why...) but some people really just can't get in the mood on demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 08:47 PM
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Ah I see. Although my experience points to the male sex drive not being very urgent at all! Hahah then I'm over here umm squirming urgently. At least I see your logic though :) thanks for explaining
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 03:41 PM
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Yeah but with the roles reversed, why do you think I wouldn't understand? You specifically said partially and I don't necessarily doubt you I just don't currently understand your logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 02:53 PM
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Why partially? What about that is any different? Not trying to be shitty I just don't understand the logic there. The trope is women aren't in the mood and men are always in the mood, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 02:33 PM
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I used to take it really hard, its so common to hear "all men think about is sex" and "guys want it all the time" etc. I never expected to be the one constantly wanting more, feeling unsatisfied, unwanted, unsexy. It blew my mind. The frustration of wanting what I couldn't have was difficult, being turned down sucked, but the worst part was thinking "what is so wrong with me that this guy doesn't want sex, guys are supposed to want sex". I had to realize that was a stupid stereotype and learn to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/16 01:20 PM
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Not sure if it counts because I'm no longer as large but other people are answering who have lost weight so meh Are you male or female? Female Where do you store fat? Everywhere, perfectly distributed across my body. Got very lucky in that regard. Are you happy the way you look? Honestly, it just kinda depends. I swear it changes based on the day. From 20 BMI to 26 BMI some days I was like "hell yeah hot stuff" and other days I was like "...gross". Logically I'm sure that was just me being silly…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/16 02:48 PM
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You really think thats the reason people don't want Trump as president? Or do you think its an easy thing to talk shit on him for? I'm gunna go with the latter. As someone who hates Hilary, Trump can go fuck himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/16 08:23 AM
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There cannot be one version of the law for men and another for women I would love to see a law that is written just for men or just for women. This comes up often enough and I've never seen one, can you show me? The law that got the boy in this situation in trouble is the one that needs changing. He should have never been in trouble IMO. Additionally, we need a safe place for pedophiles, as it stands they are just fucked.
/r/MensRights08/10/16 04:37 AM
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I understand it being fraud when that is applicable. But the last bit seems like a slippery slope.
/r/MensRights06/10/16 03:41 PM
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License pictures though, I've asked to see my friends licenses just for fun to see what their picture looks like. Could use that. "My picture is really embarrassing, I'll show you if you show me yours", idk
/r/MensRights06/10/16 02:54 PM
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She openly admitted lying about her age and acted as a witness for the guy.
/r/MensRights06/10/16 02:52 PM
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It isn't against the law to lie about your age though is it? Would we even want that to be illegal?
/r/MensRights06/10/16 02:45 PM
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Southern California. People aren't very friendly or touchy here. They aren't unfriendly either, just don't get a warm vibe from people unless you know them well. Most people kinda just want to carry on with their business and don't pay others much mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 11:40 PM
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Yeah, I don't think NiceGuys are super common IRL, I think they're over represented on the Internet. But a guy who is actually nice should never be called a NiceGuy. The chads you described wouldn't be NiceGuys either though, sounds like they're just assholes >< And maybe the hug thing is just me (or perhaps my culture/locale). If people appreciate it then keep it up :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 11:27 PM
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Well no one said he had to be normal or geeky!! Chads can be NiceGuys too, if they were nice at first or acted as thought niceness made them entitled to sex. But yeah you're pretty lucky. I've gotten horrible treatment from a guy just because I started dating a guy. I was always kind to him, he never displayed noticeable interest in me, thought we were pretty good buddies. Then poof he turned ugly. Honestly though, if a girl is a bitch about how she turns someone down and they get reasonably ann…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 10:22 PM
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Do you mean that the only reason they don't get upset is because you turn them down nicely?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 09:57 PM
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they do not seem upset about it To me, that kinda means they're not NiceGuysTM
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 01:03 PM
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Hence why they think giving back this niceness, that made them so happy, makes women happy too. Sorry I know its wasn't really your point but... The niceness does make women happy (or at least this one). Its awesome when people are nice, love it. What isn't awesome is thinking that two people being nice to each other somehow means a relationship is in order.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/16 01:00 PM
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Sounds good, I hope they appreciate your honesty. I definitely would.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/16 11:57 AM
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Got it, just sounded like you meant they do it on purpose to be bitches to guys. Seems like a lot of guys feel "used" when girls get emotional with them ><
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/16 11:43 AM
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For women that are like that its not about using men though. And its certainly not a problem of differentiating between boyfriends and guyfriends. It is literally how they interact with people they consider friends. And its odd to them that you don't so the same back. They think hmm maybe we're not friends since hes not comfortable talking about that stuff with me. Not saying they should do that or that its a good way to make guyfriends, just that they aren't "using" guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/16 11:30 AM
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What is your original point then? If you claim it hasn't been touched then clearly there is a misunderstanding Edit: you seemed to make two points "you can't know the odds" and I showed you that you can. The other was the paraplegic argument, which I said was a bad example since it was black and white. What am I missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/16 02:13 AM
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What other version of hypergamy are you referring to? The "real" definition is marrying into a higher social caste or class. It's the strategy for moving up in society through marriage and generally does not imply branch swinging or anything like that. Side question, do you know your MBTI type? INFJ/P I tested pretty strongly into INF but I was almost 50/50 with J and P, leaning towards J
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/16 11:46 PM
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But, autism doesn't have that violent side that I do think is part of male nature. Am I mistaken? Unfortunately, yes. Quite a bit of my job working with children who have autism is helping to reduce aggression. About a year ago one of my clients would attempt to hurt me in any way he could for at least the first hour of every session (biting, kicking, hair pulling, spitting, tackling and wrestling, screaming, hitting, pinching, throwing objects/furniture). Now, a year later, these outbursts only…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/16 10:31 PM
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Yeah that's kinda what OPs getting at. I think they're arguing against the people who think feminism ruined family life in general and who think that causes low birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/16 12:55 AM
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I see, I still think you got the wrong comment. We were talking about a guy stuck in a bad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 10:20 PM
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I think you may have replied to the wrong comment. I am in a very happy LTR and do plan on getting married :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 09:20 PM
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It absolutely does. For some, including me, facial attractiveness is king. I'll date an attractive shot guy but I don't date guys I find unattractive generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 09:19 PM
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Huh I had no idea anti feminists were against both control. To be honest I don't know much about that group or their standpoints. Seems like it varies a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 02:46 PM
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I think you're wrong but I don't 100% understand what you're arguing so I can't say for sure. Can you elaborate on your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 01:24 PM
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It was perfectly clear to me. Anti-feminism won't fix low birth rates, it might improve things a little, but it won't fix the problem. There are a number of reason we can't go back to high birth rates anymore * lists reasons *. The only thing that could work is removing birth control or become an agricultural society. Without sexual liberation (feminism) we probably wouldnt have higher birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 01:10 PM
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The point OP is making is that feminism is not the cause of low birth rates so anti-feminism won't help. OP then goes on to mention a few actual reasons for the low birth rate. Then brings up the fact that without birth control the birth rate might go up (but does not advocate for getting rid of birth control).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 11:36 AM
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the power of the pussy and lovey dovey feelings can warp the reality the man is living in and he starts overlooking and downplaying issues obvious to an outsider Definitely seen this, very sad to watch. Especially when they're kinda aware of the issues but think that its what they deserve/the best they can get. They aren't willing to or don't think they can give up the comfort of a relationship and the guaranteed sex to find something better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 09:03 AM
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That's fair. Gotta find the right person and it's worth it still IMO. But I'm sure a lot of guys don't have much luck finding a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 08:33 AM
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Is that what you actually believe?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 08:27 AM
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The argument I've see is that, if women were better, they would want a wife and children. But because women are not "perfect beautiful virgin housewives" and they are mostly dumb sluts, its not worth it. Also all the laws are feminist and screw married men over leaving them divorce raped with no custody over their children. So they say fuck it and try to enjoy sleeping with women as much as possible since they "can't have" a nice marriage with children. I might be misrepresenting some TRPers but…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 05:11 AM
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Haven't done any formal wingwomaning (my guy friends haven't taken me out on the prowl... but I always get "stuck" listening to their stories and answering their girl questions for hourrrrssss lolol) So I'm sorta in tune to what they're looking for and if I notice an opportunity I try to help. I'm always willing to be the brunt of a joke to help people bond. If you can laugh at yourself and be a good sport about it (so it's all good-natured and fun), it can really help with bonding. It gives him…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 05:07 AM
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I believe there are groups of TRPers that think things are going downhill because white men can't find perfect beautiful virgin housewives to pop out tons of babies for them. There are racist undertones that suggest minorities will take over because of their higher birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 04:45 AM
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OP isn't advocating for anything. And I don't know what you mean when you just say "Anti-feminism"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 04:43 AM
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That has nothing to do with the validity of the data. You don't get it. The data tells you what your chances for developing cancer are. Yes its not exact, but its a reliable number. The future doesn't change how often that gene causes cancer. You're not arguing about the validity of the data you're arguing about how people respond to that data. Are you going to just ignore all science because its not exact? Smoking contributes to some ridiculously percentage of lung cancer cases but oh that's no…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/16 12:58 AM
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He might look exactly the same or 100% different. Is it really so hard to imagine he could get a decent haircut and get his facial hair right without stylists? Cause that's all it would take, at least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 11:05 PM
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Yup. I mentioned that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 11:03 PM
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I can try but without the whole "fuck hot bitches!" aspect it's more like "do uncomfortable and difficult things so that eventually you will be healthy! Trust me its with it!". I've tried to explain how attractive healthy emotions are but they've been told emotion is unattractive so many times that it's really difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 11:02 PM
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I think they package a lot of the current psychological recommendations into something that appeals to men. In a way I am glad that this information is getting about there and men are able to utilize it. On the other hand, they package the bad information right along with it and I just can't support that. binary choice of adhering to TRP or what I was teached growing up Well yeah I'm guessing nobody taught your proper. My dad said if I cried when he got mad and smashed things in the house it mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 11:04 AM
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Sorry I misspoke, I see how I've worded other comments about this poorly. If people did not expect appropriate behavior, that would not make mental health issues go away. We can accept the screaming and the hand flapping and violence of a child with autism all we want, but the child will still have autism. Societal pressures can cause or exacerbate mental health problems, that's true. Can you give me the link or name of the study. I'm interested to see their hypothesis on what how that caused an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 03:34 AM
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I don't necessarily think you're wrong in theory, but I would argue that nurture/environment has stronger affects on people with low intelligence. I think their behavior has more to do with that than natural instincts, not that instincts have nothing to do with their behavior. This study found that intelligence did not have any effect on personality but did have an effect on what those individuals sought out. This finds a middle ground for our arguments in that low intelligence causes an increas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 03:19 AM
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Sorry I think we've had a misunderstanding. I meant that societal expectations do not affect whether or not someone is suffering from poor mental health. I didn't mean mental health has no bearing on how one is perceived in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/16 02:50 AM
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Mental health affects both the person struggling with it and those around them. It has nothing to do with societal expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 10:55 PM
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there should be There should be what? we will do good things, bad things, and all in between. Sounds like we basically agree then. TRP has definitely has some really damaging advice when it comes to mens mental health and I'm really glad you realize that. There are an unfortunate amount of people who don't and they can suffer for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 02:44 PM
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To be honest I wasn't talking about counselors or psychiatrists. If you're not interested in medicine, don't go to a psychiatrist. That being said, I've had great success with medication for a bit of anxiety. I don't take it but having it works as a fantastic placebo of sorts knowing I have an "easy fix" if I need it. They most certainly did not. I k of the extreme ptsd cases were the same. I'm sorry I don't quite understand. They most certainly did not what? the professionals weren't as effecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 01:51 PM
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From another comment I posted: Studies have been done where thousands of people were tested for the gene and had their family medical histories taken. The people who tested positive had their family histories compared to the family histories of the people who tested negative. No need to worry about the future when we have the past to learn from. These numbers were produced with real science and are not guesses. While the information is not exact, like many many studies, it is scientifically and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:45 AM
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Studies have been done where thousands of people were tested for the gene and had their family medical histories taken. The people who tested positive had their family histories compared to the family histories of the people who tested negative. No need to worry about the future when we have the past to learn from. These numbers were produced with real science and are not guesses. While the information is not exact, like many many studies, it is scientifically and statistically significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:41 AM
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I am a fan of the theory that autism shows us the extreme male brain and BPD shows us the extreme female brain. In neurotypical people the effects of their gender are overshadowed by society, even in a stupid person. It takes a disorder that pushes the brain to the extreme for us to see these differences. I'm not arguing that stupid people don't fall into the stereotypes you described. But I don't believe that stupidity shows us actual natural gender differences. I would argue that stupidity act…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:23 AM
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Can't say much about society as a whole but in the field of psychology these things are taken quite seriously. Especially: if a man acts "unmanly", and shows his emotions A male can never complain about something stereotypes, expectations of masculinity Personally I have spent way too much time arguing for mens mental health on PPD alone. Usually trying to explain to TRPers how their views and advice can be extremely harmful to mens health. I think of myself as an advocate for mens health. I'm e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:13 AM
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Meh I live in California, we have normal people here too its not all perfection. I happen to find him extremely attractive. It has nothing to do with his height, hes just a beautiful dude. That being said the height doesn't bother me, hes about the same height as my boyfriend. Edit: and before you say its because I'm unattractive, its not. I find him attractive because he is attractive to me (also I've been told I'm in the upper echelons of attractiveness, not a 10 but decent).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:07 AM
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Yeah. He. Absolutely. Definitely. Would. Most. Definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 11:01 AM
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Doesn't the video kind of line up with the opinions of TRP for some of the women though? Most of them really wanted to be better at the end, made improvements throughout, and enjoyed trying to be a better homemaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/16 12:50 AM
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A confident man who has more sex will become more confident. Absolutely A lack of sexual gratification can prevent a man from becoming more confident. I lean towards agreeing here but I personally have not seen this happening. Simply because most people have developed enough by the time the start having sex to already have or lack confidence. I do believe if someone is on the cusp, sexual rejection or acceptance can push them one way or another. Again though, you wonder why they were rejected. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 07:28 AM
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I think the relationship is the other way around, confident men have more sex. Men who are not confident are not having as much sex. Now does the confidence lead to the sex? Or do the traits that make a man confident (perhaps good looks, perhaps a fantastic sense of humor, etc) make sex easy for him? I'm not sure. But I don't think lack of sex will take a confident man and ruin his confidence. Rejection on the other hand, depending on how one is rejected, can definitely undermine confidence (man…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 06:57 AM
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BLASPHEMY ^(if you search for bitter ice cream there are actually a few recipes that come up)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 06:31 AM
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Feminism is not just what any woman who opens her mouth up and says feminism is. True but unfortunately in reality lots of people end up believing that. I grew up in a very healthy religious environment and seeing all the hate for religion blows my mind. On reddit especially you can see it, so many people here believe religion is brain washing and hate filled. Growing up it was all turn the other cheek, love your neighbor, and avoid sin. Sinners are not people to hate, they are the people you sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 12:38 AM
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What is feminism? What does it drive to accomplish? To me feminism has always had to goal of promoting equality for women. It seeks out ways in which women are unequal to men and attempts to diminish or eradicate those inequalities. Its about equality but it does not care for promoting mens equality (this does NOT meant that "feminists" don't care about mens equailty, but to me something is only feminism if it is concerned with women). If you're talking about removing all inequalities among both…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/16 12:32 AM
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How can you say that about an ice cream advocate? When have you ever heard of bitter ice cream you ridiculous person?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 11:40 PM
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I think you replied to the wrong comment. But I'm glad you're happy with your bitter life :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 10:21 PM
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Don't even act like you would be fine without ice cream. I've seen some ridiculous things on this sub but this? Really? Ice cream is great.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 01:28 PM
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Not with something like ASD. It is fantastic when our kiddos can make NT friends but most often they find closer, easier friendships with others who have ASD. Putting two people with ASD together isn't like putting two crazies together, or two emotionally unstable people together or whatever you're thinking (though it can be if they are not well adjusted! people with ASD are individuals afterall). But a well adjusted person with ASD will be able to understand the other persons sensory needs, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 11:44 AM
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BPD has various treatments/therapies and with enough motivation a person with BPD who has the tools to be successful in a relationship absolutely can be. A proper partner, who understands the illness and knows how to work through it and who values the relationship enough to be supportive definitely helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 11:38 AM
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Yes omg thank you! I'm always arguing with RPers who think suppressing emotion is attractive and emotions will get them dumped @_@
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 11:23 AM
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Probably because people who have never suffered have nothing to share other than "huh that sucks, never had a problem there!" People who never got over it sometimes chime in but mostly its "huh that sucks, I know how you feel" The people with the most motivation to share are the ones who feel like they can help (so the guys who used to have that problem but got over it).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/16 11:11 AM
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Wow thats just... insane. I mean unless the people around them are causing it. Either their coworkers are being unprofessional by bullying/stressing them out/being mean or whatever, or they are being unprofessional by crying like babies. Of course this is disregarding possible mental illness which is understandable but otherwise... dang
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/16 03:58 AM
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They cried? At work? Jesus christ have these women never heard of a bathroom? That is ridiculously unprofessional, wow. I mean I cried at work a few times when I first started but it was absolutely justified and it was done completely in private. I would be mortified if people at work knew. Can't imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/16 08:21 AM
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I definitely agree with most of your post and it absolutely is true for me. There are no features of any race that are really unattractive to me, but the proportion of individuals I find attractive differs greatly. But assuming you're talking about attractiveness in a "willing to date" sort of way and not a "willing to sleep with" sort of way, I think culture plays a really large role in attractiveness as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/16 03:30 AM
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it's always paid for in some way That doesn't really seem true? And if it is, well then basically everything that ever happens is paid for in some way down to someone passing you the salt from across the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/16 03:12 AM
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Female, I don't know if this quite counts but I find myself in male spaces quite often and feel so pressured to not be "that girl", whatever that means in the situation. I can't be an attention whore, I can't be the girl who sucks at the guys thing, I can't be dumb or make mistakes. Just the pressure to not fall into stupid stereotypes is annoying and kills a bit of the joy I have in my hobbies. I hate that if a guy is bad at the hobbies I enjoy, its because hes bad. But if I'm bad at it, its be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 06:19 PM
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Accomplish? Nothing. I say that to my bf as a lighthearted insult if I'm in a huff about doing "mommy chores" for him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 03:31 PM
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I'm sorry =/ But really keep looking for a doctor as much as you can! I'm sure you won't always be in a position where you can't get medical help.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 03:11 PM
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What about the size of your penis would make a girl want to fake an orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 03:10 PM
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Oh wow, no doctors at all? Guessing you're way out in the boonies then? Even if you can't get a doctor, I assume you have a psychiatrist to prescribe the ssris? Have you been able to talk to them about it at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:43 PM
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I think OP is a man :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:35 PM
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That is fucking ridiculous. Honestly though keep at it! I had an undiagnosed heart problem for years. I know for a fact I saw a doctor about the issue at least 6 years before I got a diagnosis. It was just awful feeling like you're going to die because your heart is broken (literally lol) and having everyone just tell you its in your head, you just need to relax, ignore it whatever. But feeling like I was going to die all the time was a really huge motivator and I just refused to believe it was …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:33 PM
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I mean girls don't just fake orgasms for fun, so unless you've done something to induce faked orgasms there isn't much you need to worry about. Unless shes faking it cause she thinks it will make you happy, in which case that's not really the worst thing in the word. If you're afraid of that though you can talk to her about it and tell her she doesn't ever have to put on a show for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/16 02:28 PM
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The things that are true about TRP can be found in other places in more constructive contexts. Gender differences and dating preferences and the like can be found in psychology literature without all the bias of TRP. Self improvement advice can be found in a myriad of places. What makes TRP, TRP is the way those truths are presented, mixed with untruths, and incorporated into a church-like doctrine. The facts behind TRP, the truths of TRP, the things TBP agrees with, are completely non exclusive…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/16 04:28 AM
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It can't be a straw man since I said "as a side note". I wasn't using it as an argument, I was just kinda pointing it out. I'm not going to argue against your statistics, I wholeheartedly agree with them. There is a reason for stereotypes after all. But stereotypes are not absolutes and not everyone falls perfectly into the stereotype that they seem to be a part of so my point stands, those groups aren't exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 04:27 AM
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Now, what this does is tells the guy in college who actually puts effort into his school work, has professional goals he aspires to in the future? It tells him that college age women who have a tendency to dress provocatively, get heavily intoxicated frequently, and who are attracted to the type of men you listed, don't value effort in school or professional aspirations. It's almost as though you've described a particular type of woman and a particular type of man who are incompatible... hmmm...…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/16 01:51 AM
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for makeup or for talking about shaming?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/16 01:27 AM
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That is hilarious... the mental image of some happy friendly dude just like "oh here just let me hop in the garbage no problem" lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/16 12:53 AM
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My boyfriend is willing to drive me around whenever I don't know how to get where we're going but he does. I can't stand his direction giving abilities. I don't know if people have ever given me things like a lot of girls on this thread (aside from random stuff in video games). BUT people are exceptionally nice to me in most situations, not sure if its cause I'm a girl or because I'm exceptionally nice as a default.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/16 12:51 AM
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It comes down to wether or not you process your emotions in a healthy way. Bottling = hiding and denying emotions (both within and without oneself). You do not need to share your emotions to deal with them in a healthy way. But bottling certainly is unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:31 PM
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What you described is not bottling emotions. I'm not saying you don't have control over your emotions or whatever, but you are not specifically bottling them up. You are dealing with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:03 PM
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You admit yourself that you do emote towards your wife in a later comment so no, it's not "DO NOT emote". Emotions that are processed in a healthy way are not unattractive, unhealthy emotions are unattractive! Just like with most things (healthy weights vs unhealthy weight, healthy skin vs unhealthy skin). What we're attracted to has a lot to do with health. You should not feel the need to "emote all over her" but working on your emotions with her support does sound healthy. Please please stop s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 05:02 PM
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I appreciate your response and I'm glad it has worked out for you. And this is perfect: "We can't just puke our emotions all over women and other men. We have to moderate them." (Don't know how to quote on mobile). Moderating emotions (I'm assuming you're going through a healthy regulation process to do this) is fantastic. You shouldn't feel the need to puke emotions (which is what is unattractive to women, and men as you pointed out) if you're handling things in a healthy way. And where you see…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 08:47 AM
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:( The answer is not to hide emotions and just not show any weakness. I get how that's the knee jerk response and I get that you want to fix your mistakes. But instead of tip toeing around the truth, TRP is sweeping the problem under the damn rug. If your emotions are a turn off its likely that either you are not properly handling your emotions or you have an unsympathetic shitty partner. It is the former that worries me. TRPs advice about emotions reminds me of fad diets. It's easier than fixin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 07:05 AM
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So I'm one of those "love me unconditionally" types and I guess really it's more "love me for everything that I am". I had a guy love me unconditionally and it felt like he had no idea who I was, he turned me into this perfect goddess in his mind (which obviously wasn't close to reality) and he didn't love anything about me. But with a guy who loves me for everything I am, it's completely different. I feel like maybe some wires got crossed between the genders and the message got screwed up but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:42 AM
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I do think TRP takes the emotion thing way overboard. While it may not be everyone over there, it's enough to have an impact of vulnerable men. I've spent way too much time arguing about the poor state of men's mental health and how TRP exacerbates it. Healthy emotions not hidden ones!!!! Please boys. NATRPersALT (lolllll) but still
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:38 AM
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Hey that's just one aspect of masculinity, you don't need them all!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:33 AM
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How do you know that? I imagine that has a ton to do with testosterone...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/16 06:29 AM
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I've actually heard some pretty ridiculous statistics about the sex lives of the elderly (of course none of them from reputable sources haha). But yeah I guess I should have said an appropriate and mutually fulfilling amount of sex? 3x a day at 90 sounds exhausting for everyone involved hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/16 06:31 AM
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I think most people would assume a lifelong loving marriage would include plenty of sex. IMO sex and romantic love go hand in hand. If all you have is love and no sex that would be a sign of a problem in my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/16 02:35 AM
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I think women do approach men, just not in a way that makes the men feel like they're being approached. For many it is clear when a woman is interested in you. For me "approaching a man" was more about manipulating scenarios so that he would be able to easily approach me. Now obviously you can say "well yeah but you didnt approach him so it doesn't count". And I can't really argue that too much. But IMO women just use different tactics to approach men and it is just not recognized as an approach…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 08:55 AM
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Honestly it feels like a contest every time I've looked at their posts. Who can be the most perfectest of womens, who can please a man the bestest. Everyone who posts is just terrible and must bow down even lower to her man, they've made such a mistake. And if they haven't done anything wrong and they've done their best? Well then they just picked a bad man and they need to find a better man to serve. I think its fantastic that they are women taking charge of their relationships in a way. I love…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 08:49 AM
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I can read thank you :)) I think you forgot about the rest of your own comment though! Silly goose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 01:35 AM
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Unless these women can see the future (which you might actually kinda be able to argue) then status didn't have a part to play in most of these relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 01:15 AM
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We obviously know his mouth works fine so I wouldn't be so quick to assume that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/16 01:14 AM
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This is ridiculous. There are WAY better ways to get out aggression than punching inappropriate things (and it is in fact inappropriate to punch holes in walls in most cases). If you end up at the "I need to hit something now" point, you already have pent up your aggression (or you have gasp anger management issues!).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/16 08:35 AM
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Such assumptions. I doubt it, he sounds like a pretty awesome guy looking at wombats other comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/16 08:28 AM
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Huh not around here. You must live in a nifty little odd place where glasses speak volumes and old-school glorifying nerds are out fighting for justice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 11:08 AM
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Guess it just depends on location. The only people around here with my glasses are hipsters, emo kids, nerds, etc. Not really the SJW demographic. But hey you know what they say about assumptions, have at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 08:18 AM
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Or you know its possible people pick glasses frames based on what looks good on their face lol. I never knew I would be put into a demographic based on my stupid glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 01:34 AM
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That's not at all the point or the question :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/16 12:03 AM
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God why does WoW have to have such a bad rep x.x Anyway, that isn't really what we're talking about here. Or rather, it is sorta what we're talking about but you're missing the point. There are guys who consciously put in work and effort to better their appearance I want to get a girl so I'll make sure I look like chad. guys who don't sit at home playing WoW I want to get a girl so I won't play an unattractive game like WoW (SIGH). who dress well and actually go out to try and meet people I want…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 01:13 AM
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abusive asshole douchebags like the guy in the above story. We're talking about abusers here so yeah, I guess it wasn't very clear that you were changing the subject to something only tangentially related.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 12:54 AM
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The guys who played by the rules and couldn't get laid are being lapped by the douchebags like the guy in the above story. The douchebags are better at playing by the rules that the "guys who played by the rules". Abusers are fantastic at playing the role and manipulating. They got the girl because they were nicer, sweeter, funnier, kinder, and all around better boyfriends than the guys you say did everything right. That is how it happens, they are "the best boyfriend" until they get to the poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 11:19 PM
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I think you're misinterpreting what I'm saying a bit possibly? We're basically in agreement. And I wasn't trying to imply that people are more prone to being mean or more prone to being nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 11:09 PM
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Because being nice, being genuinely nice, takes a fuck load of effort and is usually a natural thing. Absolutely, that is very true. But I guess my main point was "Popularity probably just intensifies their natural behavior by removing some of the social restraint." Like the genuinely nice unpopular guy isn't going to stand up for a nerd without some repercussions. The genuinely nice popular guy can just be like "Guys wow, leave him alone you're pathetic" and boom done. The unpopular asshole can…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 03:57 AM
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I'm sure the guy isn't treating you any differently than he would anyone else. Yes, but he is treating her better than other guys have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 03:29 AM
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I've seen examples of both. One of the most popular guys at my school (he ended up in the NFL!) was literally the nicest guy EVER. I think being attractive and popular just opens the gates to kinda do what you want socially (within reason) and for the "elites" there really is no downside to being nice. So why not right? But then of course there are assholes in those positions who can also get away with more because of their social status. Popularity probably just intensifies their natural behavi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 03:28 AM
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And you're wrong? Idk what else you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 08:57 PM
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Actually I've been able to see exactly how far my biggest secret spread throughout my friends. It got to their girlfriends. So one. You're right about moving though, only one dude ended up helping. I wouldn't say that makes them bad friends tho. Edit: also, it's absolutely ridiculous that you come to the conclusion that someone I can have great conversations with would be a bad friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 08:18 PM
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Clearly you did not read the post properly! We are talking about activity partners, the activity is intellectual conversation and debate silly. Granted, I would call someone I could have great convos with a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 06:37 PM
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That's what I meant when I said the doctor can say fuck 'em. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 10:00 PM
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Replying on phone so I'm just going to answer your question at the end. I guess you're right it's not really debating. Less because of the lack of facts and more cause of the lack of position. A devils advocate doesn't have a position :p. Like my super libertarian friend is against any form of government support, so next time we get into it I plan on bringing up a future where robots have taken over most jobs and it's just not feasible for the general populace to work. Will he give in and agree …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 11:46 AM
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Even with a father its tough. I've got a boyfriend and we have decent jobs. I'm working on a masters and hes working on a promotion. I'd like to have kids with him ASAP (always dreamed of starting a family around 24 like my mom). But I'm starting to fear I'll miss my absolute deadline of 30 due to financial concerns.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 03:39 AM
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Going to have to agree with the others here, that girl is much larger than 160 unless she is extremely short. If she is 5'4, shes not 160.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 03:30 AM
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At best I can ask a lot of questions, but I can't directly disagree much, tends to shut them down as they'll feel bad, and I have to keep things more light and chill instead of getting intense and serious. This is either due to the girl being sensitive or the way you engage in conversation. Personally, its not fun if I'm not being challenged. I like agreeing with people, but debating is so fun. However if I feel disrespected, patronized, or belittled obviously I'm going to react poorly. Women al…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/16 03:21 AM
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If the parents can't agree and the kid needs help the doctor can make an executive decision, yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 09:57 PM
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You realize all you had to say was "well the parents wouldn't need to agree cause the doc can say fuck 'em". I was just commenting that your long drawn out process for resolving differences between parents wouldn't work in emergency situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 11:55 AM
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Just out of intrest. Why do you think the process should be long during emergencies and time sensitive situations. I don't think it should be long, but the process you described seemed as though it would take quite a bit of time. Specifically this: If they are unable to find a mutually coopertive solution and resolve the matter like ADULTS, then mediation is to be sought. If mediation fails, one or the other parent may be legally declared unfit (if it can be PROVEN) and the other parent gets cus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 10:30 AM
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Shouldn't they all get it? Why is it 0.1%? I personally think it should be based completely on numbers. 0.1% is crazy to me, should be 100% of the lesser earning spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 09:47 AM
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"I was born rich, but I just want to offer my expert advice to the poor...." "I was born rich and want to understand the poor and why they say/do the things they say/do while offering up my perspective and the things I've noticed about the poor that don't match up with how I have been successful" or at least thats the vibe I got.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 09:17 AM
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Maybe try talking to girls who enjoy intellectual conversations! Find a girl who shares an interest with you and then go from there. Its possible you're a polisci guy who's been trying to talk to cse girls, hard to have a good intellectual convo when your areas of academia are on opposite ends of the spectrum :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 09:12 AM
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Also, how would you deal with hospital visitation, guardianship in the event of brain damage or dementia, custody of the body when someone is deceased, etc.? These things aren't exactly uncommon and with medical decisions, you wouldn't always have the time to go through a procedure like the one you described in time to make those decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 09:03 AM
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until the woman finds a job. What about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/16 08:59 AM
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I doubt that is true. Given a no strings attached opportunity if we were all single, hell I would want to fuck them. But most of us are in happy relationships. And there is a difference between "wanting to have sex with someone" and "only wanting sex". My friends do not only want sex from me. If I was a dude I think I'd be friends with these guys. I contribute a normal amount. And when I moved only 1 guy out of everyone on my Facebook offered to help. And again, he's engaged and he's just that k…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/16 07:18 PM
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I agree that I don't want to be friends with guys who only want sex from me. But if they actually want to be friends I absolutely do want to be friends with them (if we get along as friends). I've maintained good relationships with all of my exes as friends because I actually like them as people and want to be friends with them. I never really ask them for favors tho.. Don't ask anyone really except for when I move. But I buy beer and pizza for anyone who volunteers to help so it's a fairly even…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 10:25 PM
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Sigh ok. I understand evolution thank you. Getting raped =/= raising babies. Doesn't matter how many pregnancies you have, if those babies don't lead to more pregnancies your genes aren't getting passed down. If chad killed a woman's family then raped her and she threw herself off a cliff, those genes are gone. If she strangled all of her children, genes gone. If she tore off his scrotum in his vulnerability, genes gone. If she stabbed him in his sleep, if she ruined her fertility, hell maybe sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 06:09 PM
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Oh sorry, when you said "I am sure they control for all of those factors" it didn't seem like you knew. I figured if you knew they controlled you would have said "they controlled for those factors". Did they? Also I posted another comment wondering about the comparison between the 1 month - 2 years group and the till marriage group. Did you see any statistics from that? Pretty interested in how they compared.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 01:01 AM
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When you read the study it should say if they did or did not control for those factors. If they excluded morally conservative people or ensured an even spread of morally conservative and non conservative people they would have included that. Usually there is a section about the participants of the study, look there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 12:47 AM
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There are plenty of things women can do to not have chads baby. Over a LONG time, I imagine the women who submit had a higher chance of producing offspring, so the argument has a bit of credence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 12:42 AM
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Not necessarily, the men might have been more successful with the willing or yielding victims. Whereas the ones who were absolutely not okay with what was going on may have made life hard for mister chad and given him less children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/16 12:02 AM
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Delay sex until you have achieved emotional intimacy. This is exactly what I was planning on posting after reading your title. But your interpretation of it seems off. I can't imagine a man leaving you for having sex too early. What I can imagine is a man leaving you for "being a slut". When I say that I don't mean someone who has a high n-count or who jumps into bed quickly, I mean someone who is primarily interested in sex > love, someone who frequently seeks out sexual attention, etc. Obvious…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/16 11:52 PM
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Sounds so simple, but for real, this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/16 06:02 AM
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Shes not really driving it home but I'm guessing the point shes trying to make is relationships are not necessary if you're just looking to avoid being a "childless old [person] who no one loves" because you can adopt.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 01:02 AM
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While I totally get what you're saying and it happens ALOT; I have parents taking care of grandparents who are taking care of great grandparents. Everyone is really connected and supportive and we all kinda pick up slack where its needed. Certainly not "the norm" but I wouldn't say its too rare either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 12:58 AM
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I often see overweight/chubby guys with thinner/average girls in younger couples. In older couples (often married, usually with children), I see lots of average looking men (certainly not thin, but not overweight) with slightly bigger women. Usually just mildly overweight (mom bod) but sometimes more. I also tend to see very thin and tall men with chubby women. Fit people, not just thin but fit, are usually with other fit people. I think its difficult to date someone who isn't athletic if you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 01:17 AM
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Yeah well that's just like your opinion, man. Its also factually incorrect :p hahahh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 03:32 AM
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It's called autocorrect No, its called news! I told you that :p lolol Men aren't allowed to use make up, if they did they would get shamed. Not really. The purpose of some makeup is to be noticed but most skin makeup is meant to be unnoticeable. I helped my brother learn when I noticed he was sneaking some of my foundation for his acne. I taught him how to do it right and he could cover his blemishes without looking like he was wearing anything. Worked out really well for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/16 12:53 AM
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Makeup but not height and dick size. Who told you that? Your "knews" source might not be too reliable (Its called news btw).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 07:40 PM
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I know you didn't ask for advice but I'm going to give you some anyway. For my boyfriend, working on his skin, facial hair, haircut, and clothes did WONDERS for making him look more mature. Taking better care of your skin just helps in general but any hint of acne takes you down a few years. He hasn't been able to grow much facial hair but keeping it well groomed helps quite a bit (he used to have the attitude of "more = better" but it was scruffy and unkempt and made him look like a teen who di…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 07:29 AM
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Lol are you my boyfriend? He's 5'5 on a good day and people say he looked 14 (he was 21). At 24 he looks about 18 so he'll get to be a grown up soon hahah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 05:12 AM
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I'll give you that, men don't care much about a woman's height. But you're dead wrong about race, that's for sure. Ugly women easily get sex and even love and families, and if not can at least have babies if they want. Can you think of any examples of ugly men having sex, love, or families? That doesn't make sense, an ugly woman who makes herself attractive is attractive for all intents and purposes. Considering how much power attractive women wield even over attractive men and how much easier t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 04:15 AM
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I can't make myself caucasian, I can't grow 10 inches, I can't change myself from introvert to extrovert, even if I lost weight I'd still be an ugly saggy unattractive Every single one of these points is applicable to women just as much as men. I could get hair extensions, plastic surgery, botox to trick men into loving me beyond the natural wall, boob jobs Men can do all these things as well (also why can't you get plastic surgery to fix the saggy skin? Suddenly surgery is an option for women b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 04:06 AM
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But if a woman works out she becomes fit, trim, sexy, easily successful with dating and getting sex. If I were a woman I could easily make myself very attractive but as a man it's hopeless. No there is still a baseline, I can show you some pictures if you'd like? I'm just curious though, would you rather be an ugly woman or an ugly man? Cause obviously you're assuming you'd be a "fit, trim, sexy, easily successful" woman. Anyone can get fit or trim (men too!) but other than that you're deluding …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 03:51 AM
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Just curious, if you are a "below average" man, what makes you think you wouldn't be a "below average" woman? Or are all women automatically cute, wanted, and taken care of? Would you feel this way if you were an average man or an above average man?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 03:41 AM
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Same thing with feminism. Too bad all the normal people can't just meet in the middle and be equalists or something.
/r/MensRights25/06/16 12:37 PM
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exactly! :) (though I do think that is supposed to stay unwanted)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/16 06:46 AM
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Lol I'm confused, now it sounds like we're on the same page :p
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/16 05:29 AM
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Thats actually not what I was saying. Its the unwanted part thats important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/16 03:53 AM
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Not to derail your point or even disagree with you really... Just think that the way your phrasing this sort of implies that rape is rape because it's some ugly or gross dude (as opposed to a hot dude). I'm sure you mean "someone you wouldn't want to have sex with" though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/16 09:02 AM
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Like others have pointed out, the gold digger might not be deceiving them. Lots of sugar daddies know exactly what their relationship is, their is no deceit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/16 07:24 AM
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I was recently speaking to someone about false rape claims and the fact that if you can prove the claim was false (which I imagine is just as hard as proving it is true) that the accuser can get in trouble. It seems like you are knowledgeable and if you have a moment would you mind going over what can happen to someone if they make a false rape accusation and why you don't hear about these people getting in trouble? these cases truly have to be proven beyond reasonable doubt. That seems to be an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 02:19 AM
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Which is really upsetting, considering the "innocent until proven guilty" motto. I know its probably an unrealistic idea and censorship is a big deal. It's just so sad to me that people can be vilified. I honestly don't know why they aren't enforcing the laws. There are multiple things that could be used (including perjury and a few others I've forgotten since I looked into it). But I don't know enough about the legal system to begin to know why its not happening. Though I have definitely heard …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 08:28 AM
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What should happen is he should get a story about how innocent men are wrongfully accused but that doesn't happen. Personally, I think on-going cases should be completely off limits for the media instead. I know a lot of people don't want censorship but I think it interferes with the justice system. If she is rich she gets a better lawyer than you. Unfortunately that is a problem in every case where the little man takes on the big evil. Whether it be a rich person, a corporation, or whatever. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 02:38 AM
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That is the media, not the justice system. And that is with every crime. Some guy is suing a news channel for broadcasting his location and reporting where he was hiding WHILE A HOSTAGE SITUATION WAS IN PROGRESS!!! Absolutely fucking insane. The media needs to be held accountable and laws need to be put in place to protect people from journalists. And maybe a law like "don't be an idiot and report something that could get a dude killed" lol. Its a slippery slope to censorship but its just not ok…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 11:17 PM
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It's simple enough. He claims innocence and no credible evidence is presented. Convictions are fairly rare. As with any crime, they do happen though.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 10:34 PM
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We're not making comparisons here. I'm telling you that saying men don't or shouldn't care about being raped isn't a good thing. I would usually go on a rant about the poor state of men's mental health care here but I'll spare you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/16 12:19 AM
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Lets not belittle victims when you know its not just "a man who didn't want a woman to have sex with him". Violence, manipulation, blackmail, objects, drugs, restraints, men, women, larger/stronger/older perpetrators, child abuse... There is so much more to it than your definition. Have some respect. Male rape victims get ignored enough as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/16 11:01 PM
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Gotta disagree with the simultaneous orgasm thing. I for one, had no expectations of that and didn't even imagine it as a possibility. Until one day it happened and good god was it incredible. Now I can make it happen on purpose if I try and its still super amazing. For me I think the biggest surprise was how fun and necessary foreplay is. I don't know why I thought it was kinda lame and unnecessary though. I was also surprised that for a woman PIV isn't just automatically super mind blowing. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/16 02:47 AM
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tradition for the person who does the asking to pay for the date. Generally isn't that just the first date? And again, if the man insists I know women will let them pay. But the expectation is just not there in my experience (and the experience of quite a few others in this comment thread). Yeah, but the expenses women have serve a purpose for them. And a man paying for the date serves no purpose? Even just offering to pay serves a purpose. So yeah women do things for reasons and men do things f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 09:15 PM
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That is insane. I've never seen a woman expect that from a man she's dating. That goes way beyond paying for a date. It sounds like these women are just using men. Don't fall for that bullshit. It's not normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 08:10 PM
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We clearly work in different fields. I'm fine with admitting that what I've said might not be true at every company and apparently isn't true at yours. Seems like HR has been useless in your experience (what did they even do?). But on my field that isn't the case. HR did important shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 09:28 AM
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He needs to date more women who go Dutch. Problem solved. For real though do women still expect that? Where I live it's not like that, though I know some women who will let a man pay if he insists. Also women have expenses for dates as well. If she's attractive and well groomed you bet she sunk money into the appearance that got her the date. It's not a cake walk to snag a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 09:16 AM
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i.e. accounting pays you, not HR. based on what HR tells them... That would be the line managers who know what the job entails and what experience/skills staff actually have. That hasn't been true at any of my jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 08:35 AM
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Among other things :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 06:27 AM
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Bzzt nope! Accounting (I assume that is what you meant by finance) is often responsible for payroll. But that is not always the case, HR does take over payroll as well. Either way HR is responsible for preparing payroll in most of the cases while accounting does the actual cutting of the check. HR is also responsible for wage and salary decisions as well as frequently being in charge of budgeting. But just to clarify, this varies a lot by company so I totally understand why you would think that.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 06:26 AM
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Well you can test it, like they do in grad school. But since you're against that, what do you propose?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 02:11 AM
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Absolutely. But don't you think its a bit harmful to use children as guinea pigs to see if a teacher is good enough? Shouldn't we do something before we just let them become teachers? Edit: Also, these other countries, which of them has a system that you like? I'm struggling to understand what you think its the best method but if I could just look up these other countries that you think are so great I could figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 01:59 AM
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You're 100% correct. (Well I don't know anything about teacher unions, but that other stuff). But I wanted to know how you can tell if a teacher can teach things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 01:53 AM
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Test scores of the students being taught So let people be teachers to see if they are qualified to be teachers? Don't you think its a bit harmful to use children as guinea pigs to see if a teacher is good enough? plus basic proficiency exams for the teachers It is super awesome to see if teachers know things. But how do we know if they can teach things?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 12:30 AM
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Sure. What would you propose be used as a metric to decide who was qualified to teach children?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 12:22 AM
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Ah I see so you are of the opinion that we should not regulate people who teach our children? Or you just don't like that the regulations are strict? What would you propose be used as a metric to decide who was qualified to teach children?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 12:13 AM
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That is actually not true, there is a shortage of teachers right now. Especially where I live (As I explained in the original comment that I thought you misunderstood... but maybe you just didn't read it?). So with that in mind lets fix that statement: Under a normal free market situation, the salaries would drop rise due to an oversupply a shortage. Which is exactly what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 12:05 AM
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Well for one they are the people responsible for paying all the productive workers. If the productive workers didn't get money I imagine we wouldn't have any. That isn't of any value? Edit: also employee benefits are kind of a big deal in hard labor right? I mean with the increased rate of injuries I bet that is pretty important...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 11:21 PM
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Unfortunately you misunderstood my original comment.. Here is your original argument: The supply of people who are capable of teaching elementary school is infinitely higher than Calculus teachers. This is so beyond obvious its really not debatable. You were arguing that the pay for elementary teachers should not be as high as calculus teachers because the supply of elementary teachers is much larger than the supply of calculus teachers. Even when you account for the fact that more elementary te…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 11:19 PM
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Here are some examples to give you an idea of some of the responsibilities of HR personnel. Human Resources Manager Another HR Manager HR Generalist HR Assistant HR Officer
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 11:13 PM
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Care to respond to what I was talking about then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 11:05 PM
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You must have misunderstood my comment. I'm not talking about merit based pay at all...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 10:41 PM
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HR is responsible for much more than hiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 10:40 PM
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Its possible that sometimes women pick the jobs that they want to do because they are passionate about them, not because they are cushy. I got a degree in psychology, one of the "bad bet" majors in OP. I now work with children who have autism. This is not a cushy job. My coworkers have had their lives in danger working in this field and have ended up in the hospital. I am bitten, beat up, spit on, and screamed at for more time than I am not. Not a single one of my friends thinks that they could …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 08:47 PM
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Do you not think HR is a necessary role within those industries? I'm sure smaller companies don't need HR but bigger ones would be hard pressed without someone to handle those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 08:27 PM
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Capable is not really the problem. Willing and interested in doing so is the problem. Where I live there is such a "crisis" that they are changing the requirements to teach to encourage more people to become teachers. A higher salary means more people will be interested in becoming teachers. They aren't paid more for their merits, they're paid more to keep them around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/16 08:24 PM
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Ah well sorry. I guess we've been exposed to different parts of TRP. My exposure has been self improvement and sexual strategy with very little focus on babies and lots of anti-marriage sentiments. So from my experience TRP is not at all about making babies. But I'll accept that you've seen something different from myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 03:04 AM
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For them, TRP is primarily an emotional retraining center. That is not "vehemently disagreeing" with me at all. In fact in a way you're agreeing with me. Unless the emotional retraining and crisis center is focused on making babies?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 01:21 AM
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Another assumption about something I never said. Refusing to believe that 100% of men over 25 who have jobs have visited a prostitute (with 0 proof backing that claim) is not the same as thinking they aren't prevalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 01:18 AM
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Alright I'm done with the snark, you're obviously not getting my point. Sorry for being a bitch about this but man I thought it was pretty simple. I know I should have just been clear from the start, my bad. I never expected accurate studies, I never said that, and you were wrong to assume that. I've worked in psychology and I know accuracy can be hard to come by, especially with this topic. It would be silly to expect it. I have no idea why you've become fixated on that. Also in what world does…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:26 PM
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You need to go back and re-read the conversation :) Just a little tip, lots of statistics in psychology are going to be skewed, human nature and all!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:11 PM
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Still not seeing my expectations... Other than idk wanting something better than random dudes totally real anecdotal information.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 02:53 PM
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You're kidding yourself if you're expecting studies or statistics that are anywhere near accurate. Huh I don't remember posting any expectations of the sort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 02:11 PM
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Yeah I've definitely heard stories, pretty crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 09:17 AM
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they just keep having sex in hopes that maybe they'll find one that enjoys it enough to want to keep them. There you go right there. These are not your average girls, these are not girls who have casual sex. They haven't been damaged by sex... they're just sad lonely disappointed women. Its depressing to think about and has nothing to do with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 07:20 AM
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"sex has become not a big deal." But when I talk to low n-count girls they're much more "I don't have sex with just anyone, sex is something special." I think this fits with what I'm saying. The sex I had outside of a solid relationship wasn't a big deal. But the sex I have in a relationship is something special to me. I personally enjoy sex that is special so I seek it out in relationships because I enjoy the emotions tied to it. Despite that, I did not feel those emotions outside of a relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 04:57 AM
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Oh I'm sure. Which is why its just a shitty gut reaction, feel a bit guilty for that being my first reaction. It sounds so ignorant, but yeah being honest, that's what would go through my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:24 AM
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Are you saying its coincidence that no woman that displays this lack of emotion can be of low n-count? Actually yes it is a coincidence! Because what are the chances that you find a woman who is interested in casual sex with no emotional attachment before she has gone out and had casual sex? These women had to start somewhere but the chances of you being their starting point are slim. If you went back to the first time they had casual sex, I think you would find a similar lack of emotion. I'm lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:21 AM
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That is super interesting, I would love to see studies on that. Excuse me if I can't believe your random anecdotal fish story :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:06 AM
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Think about it logically. If a woman is looking for emotional connections they would not seek that out in casual sex. If a woman is looking for emotional connection she is going to form an emotional connection with a man (relationship). Logically, you are seeing the women who are uninterested in the emotional aspect of sex and are there for the physical aspect. Hence the enthusiasm from the hot dickin you give them (physical needs being satisfied, they are getting exactly what they want), but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 03:05 AM
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Going to politely disagree. Marriage and babies and whatnot are highly controversial on TRP. Doesn't seem to be the reason men seek TRP and women don't. I'm going to stick with sex as the main reason men find TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 02:59 AM
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Please re read my comment. I specifically said its not because of anything you did. Plus my comment has nothing to do with how good the sex was, but congratulations on doing the nasty like it was meant to be done, very glad you were able to figure it out :D. Anyway, part of your comment is maybe a little on target as far as what I was talking about. In my experience low n-count women are low n-count because they look for relationships not casual sex. Perhaps the low n-count women you've slept wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 01:50 AM
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I think everyone should really take pause at just how many men are seeking out TRP. And no, women aren't doing anything even remotely similar. Women are, for the most part, getting what they want out of life. But then, that is true of women throughout human history. Conversely, the male has always been disposable. Women aren't seeking out something similar to TRP because they are successful. He defines success as having lots of children. By this logic men are seeking out TRP because they are not…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 01:47 AM
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This is probably going to sound really uneducated and horrible of me, but my first thought is going to be "Oh god STDs... testing testing 1 2 3 testing time!". I know that probably sounds awful and I know there are plenty of clean and professional prostitutes out there. But I'd rather be safe than sorry. If everything tests out just fine, then meh. It would bother me just as much as hearing about any past sexual encounter. Which is a flash of insecurity or jealousy, and a strange curiosity for d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 12:53 AM
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I wonder if its just because they don't feel emotionally connected to you (not because you've done anything wrong! but it doesn't sound like this sex was in the context of an emotional relationship, but rather a casual encounter). I can't imagine feeling an emotional connection with someone after having sex if there was no emotional connection with them before the sex. But sex creates really strong emotions in the context of my relationships because it just amplifies things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 12:48 AM
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That is extremely interesting. Is that just based on your personal experience? How many men do you know that have done this? I'd love to see statistics on this one, I would have never imaged that to be the norm. I've actually never met anyone who has had sex with a prostitute (that I know of). We have spoken about sexual histories but none have ever brought up prostitution. Though there was a stripper that made her rounds within my social group, she was not paid for her time lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/16 12:45 AM
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Sorry I know I shouldn't use OP this way, but sometimes I slip up. I meant the guy who started this comment thread. Sorry for the confusion, that's my bad. Specifically I was referring to this line: "Women are, for the most part, getting what they want out of life. But then, that is true of women throughout human history. " as him talking about women being successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 09:10 PM
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You like to not say one thing, but say the other. You're okay with recommending but you "think you wouldn't push". You don't say BIG in capital letters, but you say big in small letters. Well the reason I said that is because while there is a difference between recommending and pushing, the line can get blurry. I might think I'm recommending something, but someone else might think I'm being pushy. And if one person is doing something you think it's a terrible mistake, does it justify "pushing"? …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 06:43 AM
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It seems in your world there is a BIG difference between "recommending" and "pushing". I wouldn't say BIG but I would say big lol. Just because I do think the line gets thin sometimes and what someone thinks is recommending, someone else might think is pushing, you know? If I had a buddy who never knew about it or thought of having a prenup, and I think it's a good reason for him to do so, do you think it's something to be pushed on him? No, most things shouldn't be pushed on people IMO. You sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 06:32 AM
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I personally see absolutely no reason not to get one. I plan on getting one even though neither of us will have anything of significant value. Don't see any problem with recommending them. But I'm sure people have their reasons and its not something I think should be pushed on people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 06:21 AM
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Well then it sounds like we both agree that the logic used by OP is strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 04:56 AM
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But we're talking about success in different terms. The OP claimed that women were successful and the men were not so they are seeking out TRP. If success is defined here as having offspring then how is TRP the answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/16 01:14 AM
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I got your point I just disagree. The women today with children living with abuse, poverty, and oppression kinda invalidate your argument. You might be right but the "facts" you're using to prove your point aren't super relevant. Also you're completely ignoring any amount of paternal care that may have gone into these children. You're right that the mother must provide more, bare minimum, than a father to ensure the survival of their children. But that doesn't mean that men didn't also play a ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 10:44 PM
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I'm not arguing that men had it better, my example was just to show that the way success and satisfaction were being defined was a bit silly. There are so many factors that go into happiness that dividing it by gender lines for the entirety of history seems crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 10:41 PM
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That's what counts for the species. But not for the woman. To broadly say "woman since the dawn of time were satisfied with life because babies" is ridiculous. It would make a lot more sense to say women have been far more reproductively successful than men. Or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 07:32 PM
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So in your mind if a woman has a kid she's getting what she wants out of life and is successful? Women wanted rights and men had more of those so women weren't getting what they wanted out of life and that men were more successful. Doesn't it sound silly to narrow down success like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 07:21 PM
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Plus I've never seen a totally normal, 100% platonic guy called a creep. Absolutely. Even when a guy isn't being 100% platonic the girls I know talk about the awkwardness, how they feel bad, feel guilty, how they handled it poorly or were embarrassed. It takes actually creepy things like OP mentioned ("Now, I don't mean guys that are randomly feeling up some girls leg or arm or an old guy that walks up and says hey sexy.") to get called a creep. Even in those cases I don't always hear creep sham…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 11:43 AM
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I cant say much about creep shaming because in my experience I've only seen that done behind closed doors. And its been less about shaming and more about idk seeking reassurance? Anyway, as far as the anxiety goes, I think you underestimate how much girls learn that from experience. After a few "100% platonically friendly for sure" guys end up going a little nuts on you, you start to get pretty wary. Girls fear losing friendships, they fear confrontation, they fear guys pushing them too far. In …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 10:31 AM
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Women are, for the most part, getting what they want out of life. But then, that is true of women throughout human history. Care to elaborate on this? Not for modern day women, but throughout history.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/16 08:06 AM
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I get that, but it sounds like if she disagreed with a decision that you made she wouldn't just defer to your leadership. I imagine, from your description, that you guys would talk about it. To me it sounds a lot more like respect than submission but I think I understand what you're talking about. By the way thank you for patiently answering my questions and talking with me. I think TRP has some good principles and I've been very interested in looking at your relationship as a great example of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/16 11:01 PM
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Hmm if you say so. It honestly really just sounds like you two have an amazing relationship and there is no need for someone to be in charge. Because I don't often "bark orders", the few times I do she simply jumps, which IS a good thing. If she was suddenly uncharacteristically demanding about something that didn't seem trivial wouldn't you do the same? It absolutely is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 10:07 PM
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I like what you're saying and it sounds like a pretty healthy relationship. I just don't understand what makes you call her submissive. While your description doesn't make me think shes the dominant one in the relationship, it does sound like its pretty egalitarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 08:03 AM
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Otherwise you're living your life as dictated by an Internet forum and that's not RP at all. Very true. This is a big problem I have with TRP. Lots of its members understand this and make it clear but the ones that preach TRP as law really make me sad. I can see it becoming religion to some young men. As for the rest of it, I like your take on TRP. I definitely still wouldn't call you "far red" but I would say you've cherry picked some of the best parts of TRP and made it your own. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 07:58 AM
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When I was little my favorite thing to do was build mud, stick, and rock cities. Super random. I'd get the hose to wet down the dirt and collect a bunch of decorations. Sculpt up a city, add in some moats, then gather a bunch of roly polys to live in it. In grade school l I played "recess sports". Tag, flag football, handball, tetherball, jailbreak etc. At home I loved watching my dad play video games and picked that up ASAP. In late grade school/early jr high I started reading books any chance …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 07:55 AM
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It's possible to be respectful, kind, honest, and be on the far end of the red side of things Man idk, that sounds like a lot of BP stuff. If you wanna call that RP fine, but definitely not the "far end of the red side". You've got to be picking and choosing which parts of RP you're using to have those traits. I think a lot more women fall into the "was kind by nature" category than you think. Though I'm sure there are plenty of "give an inch, take a mile" women out there and I respect that you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/16 11:40 AM
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How can you come to that conclusion when your experience was 50/50?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/16 08:05 PM
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generally speaking like will attract like And man do I wish that was enough for people. Silly numbers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 12:30 PM
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Honestly I really disagree. Especially cause hotness is so subjective to a lot of people. Hair and eye color, race, personality, style, interests, all play a role in attraction. I agree with what you started to say (the market determines SMV) but disagree with the ability of one random dude (or anyone really) to even begin to collect anything close to objective "data". Now, guesses? Sure. But if a guy is the type to inflate his own SMV I wouldn't trust him to rate girls. Why does one inflate the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 12:21 PM
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The market sets the SMV Not self-evaluation. Not your evaluation of the girls/guys you get. The market, as you said. How can you evaluate the girl you're with if you don't know how she is doing in the marketplace? How can you use the SMV of the girls you get or don't get to determine your own, if you don't know how they are doing themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 12:08 PM
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Basically its not possible to know anyone's SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 12:04 PM
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Wouldn't it be problematic trying to set an SMV for the women too? For the exact same reason: you don't know how she is faring the market? And even if you do know the guys she is pulling, you don't know what kind of girls they get so you can't rate them... and on and on. So no one can know anyone's SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/16 11:18 AM
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Yup, crazy ex girlfriends and asshole ex boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 06:42 AM
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I would be happy to use a better term. As someone in the mental health field it fucking breaks my heart that men suffer because of this. There is no good reason for it. The fact that male suicide is more often deadly just makes it even more frustrating that they are being discouraged from getting help. If the term I'm using is distracting people from the important part then I would use a different term in a heart beat. I just simply don't have a better phrase for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 01:02 AM
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We're disagreeing on the use of "masculinity" in a term that you keep using, as a description of something that harms men. Especially when some of those actions are carried out by women.. Alright I can understand that. The problem is, I didn't create the concept or coin the term. I only know what it means. I get it though, you just dislike the terminology not the heart of the matter (Trust me I get this by the way, the way I feel about the term AWALT is exactly the same!). It subconsciously tran…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:57 AM
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A rant? More of a summary, I actually read through all of our conversation trying to find anywhere we didn't agree on things. Even then it was mostly misunderstandings not actual disagreements. I'm sorry, I'm at a loss here. I don't know what we're disagreeing on =/ Feels like we're mostly on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/16 12:25 AM
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Well so far I think you've been saying I should blame the women for their actions. Which I addressed, telling you that I absolutely did blame the women. Also you've mentioned that men should not be blamed for these things (because the women were at fault in many mentioned situations). In response to that I've tried to explain that the term "toxic masculinity" does not imply that men are to blame. You've implied that viewing masculinity as toxic is a bad thing. To that I replied that healthy masc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 11:37 PM
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Hey I'm really sorry it seems like I'm not being open minded. I actually don't know what you think I'm saying that is flawed? Can you tell me what exactly you think is wrong with what I'm saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 11:17 PM
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if toxic masculinity is anyone upholding the "traditional" values of men The "traditional" values of men are only labeled as toxic masculinity when they begin to hurt men. So your definition is a bit off but close. if I tell a woman to leave the workforce and stay at home, that's toxic femininity? That is tough. Is leaving the workforce and staying at home really harmful to women? It depends honestly and I would say that is not the best example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 11:28 AM
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Ah yeah, I was lucky enough to have fun people to play with so that kinda helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 10:03 AM
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Hell yeah melee!! Maybe its because I'm in my mid 20's but back in the day melee was the shit! Even in college we frequently played in the dorms. Our "brother dorm" had a whole set-up in their common room and we'd go over there to play lol. But yeah I'm sure a lot of girls aren't into it. But out of all the games out there, melee is definitely a friendly welcoming one and it appealed to a lot of gamers and non-gamers alike, men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:45 AM
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Things that women do against men, are because they are upholding ideals that they hold men to, therefore, it's the fault of men. Toxic masculinity is not "something women do against men". Toxic masculinity is not the fault of men. It is the fault of whoever spreads those ideas. It's like if a man anyone tried to uphold the traditional values women were meant to be (ie, stay at home cooking), that became harmful to women that would be toxic femininity. You can only see masculinity as the cause He…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:42 AM
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Oh man don't talk shit on smash bros! I've never met a girl who didn't like smash bros... its like one of the most welcoming fighters out there. I guess we just have wildly different female friends lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:27 AM
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Honestly the name is descriptive. It is a form of masculinity that is toxic. I didn't come up with the name but it does do a good job of describing what it is. It does not subconsciously put the blame on men unless someone doesn't know what the term means (which admittedly is possible). It puts the blame on whoever is spreading these ideas (generally used to put blame on society as a whole for pushing the masculine agenda, often in schools and the media - but could definitely be used to blame a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:21 AM
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No its the fault of the women. But the concept of what they are spreading is called "toxic masculinity" because it is a trait of masculinity that has been perverted in such a way that it is causing harm to men. If that doesn't make sense I can try to explain it better, but trust me it is definitely the women's fault in those scenarios. Both men and women can be at fault in spreading toxic masculinity. And sorry you're being downvoted =/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 09:07 AM
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Toxic femininity would be a stereotypical feminine trait becoming harmful to women. Such as submissiveness and confrontation avoidance in the context of unwanted sex. Women feeling like they can't stand up for themselves and say no because women are supposed to be agreeable. Many of the examples you cite are actually toxic masculinity being spread by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 03:52 AM
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As with most issues like this there is no authority and few absolutes. But it's very clear that the ideas that men should "man up" and that mental health issues are "weak and unmanly" are harming men and preventing them from getting help that they need and deserve. That is toxic. If I had to say who decides what is toxic masculinity, I would say anyone who is in a position to recognize masculine traits that are harmful to men. Which sounds like a silly answer, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/16 02:23 AM
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Not everything is everyone else's fault. I certainly don't believe that. Toxic masculinity is harmful. Masculinity is NOT toxic! Super important to make that distinction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/16 09:23 PM
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But if women fail, it's because of men, and if they succeed, they're a strong independent woman, something something, feminism. This directly contradicts what I said. if they fail, it's because of men. I never said toxic masculinity was only because of men. There are definitely women who support and spread toxic masculinity. Everything else I said was clearly gender neutral (lack of knowledge and social stigma). Edit: Also where are we getting this whole "your type" thing? What type is that? The…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 09:32 PM
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Clothes/fashion. Very personal and individual. Big chunks of people share preferences, but the variety is insane. And no one person has the exact same style as anyone else. Some people, such as myself, place very little importance on clothes. Some people, such as fashion designers, place lots of importance on clothes. Even that, the amount of importance one places on clothes, is a personal/individual difference. That is how something can be personal and individual while also perhaps not importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 08:59 PM
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They said extremely personal and individual, not extremely personal and important. Huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 08:27 PM
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That isn't always the case. But for men in a lot of ways it is sink or swim in the deep end and women are stuck sitting on the steps. Great analogy from OP. Anyway, as I said earlier a lot of factors go into poor mental health for men and women. But the one that is specific to men is toxic masculinity. "Man up and get over it" bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 07:56 PM
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You can't really blame them for their beliefs. They've been instilled by others. Which is why it's super important that accurate and positive information about mental illness is spread. I mean you wouldn't believe how many parents don't get help for their children because they think it would look bad. Because they think it's just a weakness. Because it's stupid, just man up and get over it. Not to mention the super common idea that only insane people need help. Like if you aren't seeing skinned …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 10:28 AM
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Male mental illness is largely not addressed as well as it should be. Some of the blame goes to toxic masculinity, the stigma of mental illness, and a general lack of understanding. Women have their own hurdles when it comes to mental illness. But men aren't even being addressed, often because they don't want to be. The patriarchy is super fucked right? Yeah some depressing shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 10:13 AM
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Not really. Mental illness is a huge culprit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 09:57 AM
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Comes down to definition of attractive. I almost added this to the original comment but I thought it was self explanatory. Is having a job attractive? Sexually, not at all. As a perk in a man you want to have a long term relationship with? Very attractive. Two different ways to use the word attractive. I was just explaining how a woman could say "I prioritize tall but it is not attractive to me". Her definition of attractive could be focused solely on sexual attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 06:48 AM
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You really don't have to sleep with men to get money on the Internet. You don't even have to get naked. Just look at twitch. People spend tons of money for literally no reason. I'm willing to bet money and stuff is just handed to them plenty. Not saying they don't prostitute themselves out. Just that they don't necessarily need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 05:32 AM
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To me, tall men are not any more attractive than their counterparts. But admittedly I've felt uncomfortable about my short boyfriends height because of jokes made (exclusively by other men) about his height. For that reason I could prioritize a tall boyfriend while not finding the height attractive in and of itself. I don't think the commenters advice is detrimental to men since height is not something you can change. EDIT: And to be fair, I think a lot of people are terrible at judging spatial …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/16 05:11 AM
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Socially? Yup super responsible that's terrible. Legally? Tough one. Remove the meth and the jail. Mother of 9 year old leaves daughter alone for 30 minutes while running to the grocery store. How does the law differentiate between that and the case in OP? It does look like she is in trouble for the drugs and will not be getting her daughter back. But legally she shouldn't be held responsible for the rape IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 09:56 PM
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Wouldn't do anything that would last more than a day. If its not invisible, healed, and forgotten by the next day (preferably the next hour) then no thanks. I also think that if I couldn't do it myself, then I shouldn't let someone else do it. I know I could never break an innocent persons finger. But if I could definitely bring myself to slap an ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 09:35 PM
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Ah I thought the hurt would scale with the money. I see now. I'll take 1m for a sexy smack on a juicy ass please. Open hand, no bruising allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 09:03 PM
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Probably nothing. Enough money to make a difference in my life would probably hurt others too much. Something silly like a nose flick isn't going to help with rent so whats the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 08:52 PM
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Oh man somebody has never seen this episode (movie?).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 08:50 PM
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But see, you're imagining something that wasn't in the video. No I'm not... because you're right. That was not in the video. You know why? Cause he ended up buying the product. he never even comes close to needing to shut the saleslady down. If he didn't want to spend money at that kiosk, then yes he needed to shut her down the whole time. But he didn't, so bye bye money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 08:39 PM
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To be honest, I actually did think that video was as bad as I was imagining. Unlike the guy in the video I don't give in to these techniques. But it sucks being forced to be a bitch to make them stop, its just not who I am. Same thing with guys trying to push past a no for sex. They force me to be a bitch and shut them down hard when they could have just taken a no. It makes you feel helpless, cause if they don't listen to your words, what can you do? Sure they aren't forcing you to say yes.. bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 09:03 AM
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Ah I see. I guess we have different definitions of crock of shit lol :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/16 09:25 AM
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I'm guessing you disagree with the stuff I said then? Or just the part where I assumed your experiences might have affected the way that you see things?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/16 08:40 AM
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I've been prescribed anxiety medications but have not been diagnosed by a psychologist. I have been diagnosed with mitral valve prolapse syndrome though. Which can have an interesting affect on your nervous system, especially your stress response thus the anxiety meds. Don't ever really take them unless I'm going to a movie theater though lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/16 08:39 AM
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I get what you're saying, but as someone who works in a related field, psychology is not a crock of shit. But it is imperfect due to human nature. Most of the kids I work with are by no means neurotypical. Now, is it just autism? Is it something else? Is it autism and another disorder? It gets difficult to tell. Also psychology isn't just "what things can we diagnose". Psychology developed all of the therapies I implement (and many others). Scientifically proven therapies. Additionally psycholog…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/16 08:32 AM
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Social skills can be learned through hard work, especially with some help from friends and professionals. Many people don't understand how to help people with autism but it is very possible if you use the correct methods. That is literally my job :). I would agree that TRP is maybe not the best way to go, but becoming an aggressive asshole is not at all a good option. Aggression and "being an asshole" are already common in people with autism, often due to a frustrating lack of communication abil…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/16 09:47 PM
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I really enjoy debating something I feel strongly about or that I can take a strong stance on. So I browse the threads that catch my eye and comment when things are interesting to me. I love being able to find the middle ground with the people or at least come to an understanding. It is extremely satisfying to me to start out as opposites and work through a disagreement or difference in opinion. Edit: Maybe that doesn't count as accomplishing anything though? I guess to try and label it as accom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/16 12:39 PM
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I agree with you on most accounts. But there are lots of people who are not flexible with their expectations (especially when it comes to anal sex on ppd/trp). I think an honest no holds barred communication is enough to get a gist of compatibility. Absolutely. Unless they are inexperienced, which is what we're talking about here. Someone inexperienced might not have the knowledge to have a no holds barred conversation. There are things that I thought I would hate that I now love (and vice versa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 07:56 AM
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So she isn't comfortable enough in a marriage to explore her sexuality, but she will be in her pre marital hook ups? I was talking about someone who isn't interested in exploring her sexuality at all. My point is more about entering into a permanent marriage contract with someone who might not be sexually compatible. If a person can accept the possibility of never having their sexual desires satisfied and possibly having infrequent sex (low libido) then its not a problem. Can't expect someone to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 05:55 AM
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Except they were never rejected so how could they feel rejection?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/16 06:06 PM
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If you want a woman who is innocent shes probably reluctant to try new things and explore her sexuality for whatever reason (religion, fear, lack of interest whatever). In an LTR shes still going to be reluctant and take it slow and she may never get end up wanting to do the things that you desire most in the bedroom. She may decide that she doesn't even really like sex. If you can't handle the lack of certain sex acts or the lack of sex, you end up in the frustrating dead bedroom situation. Jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/16 12:43 PM
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Just curious, where do you draw the line? What magical number makes a girl disgusting for you personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/16 12:32 PM
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Maybe OP is talking about the girls who don't feel heartbroken? Isn't the CC supposed to be casual sex anyway? So shouldn't that not result in rejection or heartbreak?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/16 12:31 PM
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Fast food is what I was thinking. Not that other countries don't have it, just the emphasis in America seems pretty insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/16 12:26 AM
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Look at the american diet, the availability of shitty food, and the marketing of that shitty food. That could definitely be the cultural component.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 04:54 AM
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The shaming prevented people from becoming smokers more than it helped people quit. Yes some people probably took the shame as motivation to quit, but others just started to hate themselves. The success of the campaign against smoking was really with the younger generations who just never started in the first place. The problem with obesity is that children don't control their own diets. So instead of parents smoking and children being shamed out of picking up the habit, we will have obese paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/16 04:51 AM
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Sorry I don't understand your comment. You think i do that or?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 09:42 PM
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That is so strange to me. Your girl just sounds needy (which isn't really a bad thing, some people just need more than others). I manage to do just fine waiting to see my SO in person though. Would drive me nuts to be in a relationship like yours. Well on second thought, you might just make her paranoid about cheating if you're laying on the dread. My SO wouldn't cheat so I can rest easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 01:54 AM
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Someone who is sexist shouldn't be able to identify as a feminist. Just seems so damn backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 01:49 AM
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Right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 12:07 PM
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God do people actually do that? Txt each other all day? Once a month seems a bit extreme but i imagine having your phone blow up all day would drive you nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 11:47 AM
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Well you did say it was because of the bias against men originally... But I guess now you think it's just because of your income.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 11:39 AM
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This sounds just like me. Strange isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/16 08:10 PM
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I'm guessing you'll figure out a way to prove that what I said is awful and why you don't have to eat your shoes. Oh let me try! Suffice it to say, she didn't give a shit that I might have a higher IQ than her, and neither did I. She doesn't compare herself to men to determine her value, and neither do I, since I value women who are great at being women, not women who best emulate men. How is her comparing her IQ with yours the same as "comparing herself to men"? And what does her IQ have to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/16 11:12 AM
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Ah man that totally came across as a brag didn't it? >< More like, the only guys that ever ask me on a 'date' are long term friends who already know they like me and I already like back. And by date I mean invite me to hang out without the gang. So I've only been on like 4 dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 02:11 AM
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Yeah sorry I just find the whole commitment thing to be a bit strange because of my circumstances. I've never had a date that didn't lead to an LTR xD
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 02:01 AM
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I've never really 'gotten commitment' from a guy. I've always dated friends and acquaintances and normally it goes like this friends>dating>love. Once you hit the love part, that's when commitment is implied though I've never spoken to a bf about commitment it just kinda happens? Maybe that's just semantics. So yeah more like finding a dude who will love me who I can love back.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 01:52 AM
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You have a feeling where you know what you like and know how to get it. I know what I like: sex with someone I love and who loves me back. I know how to get it: ....search for a compatible individual and hope to god he finds me compatible too and that things work out in such a way that we enter into a LTR and eventually we both fall in love so that we can have sex. Sounds easy x.x he feels that he isn't good enough for sex. Not like girls don't ever feel like they aren't attractive enough for a …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 01:48 AM
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Yes its about the average woman I'm assuming? Sorry if you thought my original question was dumb? Don't know why it was too hard to just say that in the first place though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 01:23 AM
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I personally disagree but its obviously a preference thing. My SMV standards have always been almost nonexistant when it comes to physical and financial aspects. That doesn't mean I can always find a guy who is a good person and with a compatible personality and interests who also thinks I'm a good person with a compatible personality and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 01:21 AM
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Maybe but certainly not always. Shitty anecdotal example incoming: I sleep with people in LTRs. I have a HL and love the shit out of sex. But if I can't find an LTR, I don't get sex. And its not 100% just "well if you wanted sex you could get it but you're holding out for commitment". Sex with strangers for me is pretty unpleasant. I tried it once and it was absolutely awful despite the fact that the guy gave me "tingles". Being unhappy with sex that provides 0 pleasure and 0 enjoyment isn't the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 01:18 AM
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I know you said that, which is why I asked my question. If you hadn't said that I wouldn't be confused because I would be able to assume you were just answering OP. OP said "Construct a scenario wherein a woman could not master the situation." Then you basically said that you can't because a hypothetical woman can manage anything. But then you proceeded to provide a scenario. So I'm confused about the scenario you're describing. It seems clear that it is not "something a woman couldn't handle" b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:54 AM
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I agree with you on average. But I will say that some women do experience this. But far more often you can change sex to love and you get the exact same scenario for women. I know that is cheating but its very similar. Tangentially I would also add that you get a LOT of guys experiencing the same thing when you switch sex for love.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:37 AM
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Here is my scenario: "A fun evening with her SO and his friends, heavy banter involved" Is that your example of something a woman couldn't handle? Or just the "average woman" or?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:35 AM
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Yeah! People can criticize psych as a shit science all they want, but studying people is awesome. If only because its so fun and difficult to set up an experiment to get accurate results.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/16 02:34 AM
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Well for me its less fetishy and more just exciting (though I guess it still counts as a fetish). Sharing something I love with someone who has never tried it is already something that makes me super stoked. (Like introducing my current BF to sushi, super exciting!) I just wanna share the awesome things in life with the people I like you know? And sex is one of those things. I love being the person to explore this awesome aspect of life with them for the first time. Sorry... I could go on but I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 11:07 PM
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I've never really had sex with a guy just to make him feel better, so I'm no pussy fairy I guess. But I have been romantically involved with more than one virgin and I have to say it is a huge turn on and I love being with inexperienced guys/virgins (which for some of them meant low SMV and for others just meant odd circumstances). If I was more interested in casual sex I could totally see myself being a pussy fairy though, sounds super fun. But alas, I really only sleep with guys in LTRs. Anywa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 10:30 PM
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No that's not what I'm saying. How about another analogy. Burgers are considered fast food. Most people think of burgers as part of the core definition of fast food. But burgers are their own thing and can also be high end food. Masculinity is fast food, burgers are dominance. Masculinity makes you think of dominance but dominance doesn't always mean masculinity because dominance is its own thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 05:38 PM
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Glad you finally understand my point (at least I think you do ?)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 09:21 AM
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I didn't say anything about women. I simply said dominance =/= masculinity. But masculinity includes dominance as part of its definition (according to some).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 06:05 AM
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I never really said that, though I do think its possible. I said dominance can go without masculinity and that masculinity includes dominance (according to some) as part of its definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 04:45 AM
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Interview the women after the fact. Lie about the purpose of the experiment. Monitor their heartrate during the date. Have each woman date more than one man and complete the interview for each (preferably at least 2 controls and 2 TRPers). Drawing results by comparing differences between control and TRP for each woman would help to negate the issues with self-reporting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 02:06 AM
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Really curious as to why you define chemistry and biology as girly. What makes math/physics/engineering/comp sci not girly?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:56 AM
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I somewhat agree but I think m/f borrows from d/s. As in, dominance is its own thing that is gender neutral but masculinity has made "dominance" a part of its definition. Someone can be dominant without being masculine. But many people do not see someone as masculine without being dominant. Like a cough =/= a cold, but a cold can include a cough?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:31 AM
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Well I didn't really read any other comments lol. Yours just seemed like a whole different topic from what I read in OP, that's all. But uhh I guess you disagree with my take on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:22 AM
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As someone working the field who has had many conversations about autism, it is VERY misunderstood. I hear all sorts of definitions. Additionally there is a huuuuge spectrum. As others have said, I think the stigma works against you. The misinformation. The fact that people don't understand that people with autism fall anywhere along a huge spectrum. It all makes for a bad first impression and a bad impression of autism. That being said, people with autism who are high functioning or who have le…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:20 AM
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I think you might be confusing dominant/submissive with feminine/masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:11 AM
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Think maybe you missed the point? It's not just a preference in the sense that "oh I have a thing for redheads". It's functional wisdom to live by if you want a functional relationship. OP isn't saying your advice is a personal preference and OP isn't saying you aren't free to give that advice. You just cannot respond to criticisms of your advice with the argument: "I get to date whom I want! You can't make me date anyone!" Because, as OP pointed out: "The topic is your advice, not your personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:01 AM
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She'll get over the trauma, but not the memory of dominance. Can you explain how you came to that conclusion? Also, why would you want to be the "most dominant man in her life" by that definition? Lots of women see their rapists as inhuman monsters. It amazes me that men feel threatened by rapists. Why does it matter if she doesn't think you're as terrible and disgusting as the man who raped her?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/16 10:54 PM
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Shockingly enough women can also be anally raped. Additionally, homosexual women can be raped. Women are much more likely to get over it. What happened to them being damaged goods forever?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 01:35 PM
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Just curious, do you consider adopted children family? Aunts and uncles who married into the family?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 01:04 PM
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I just want to point out that this discussion started here: Your comment why is it his responsibility to do this after a friend tells him soemthing? is this what youd do if a friend confided something he did that was illegal? My reply In some states it is actually illegal to fail to report a crime that you are privy to. Additionally, many jobs make you a mandated reporter. This turned into a debate over whether or not hearing a confession counted as something reportable. Which I think we can bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/15 01:27 AM
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I PERSONALLY experienced someone TELLING me something, that would be a sign. If a child comes up to me and says "So and so touches me in bad places" and points. I gotta report that. If "so and so" comes up to me and says "I touch that child in bad places". Sure as shit gotta report that. Unless I believe they are a lying, in which case I better be sure about that and probably report it anyway if there is a shadow of a doubt. One does not have to be physically present or witness the abuse to iden…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/15 05:17 AM
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That is actually untrue. If you have reason to believe it happened, you gotta report it. Just because I don't witness a parent hit their child doesn't mean it can go unreported if the signs are there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 06:24 PM
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Of course you would go to the police, but would you have all the details? Kinda depends on the crime. Is it possible someone else might have some missing details? Yup. You probably want them to report those details. As far as the legality of it goes, I'm honestly not sure about the time (I imagine it's relevant for however long the statute of limitations is). But ANY reasonable suspicion is absolutely enough. If someone confessed to me and I believed them but didn't report it, I could get in tro…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 06:59 AM
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It really depends on the state and the crime. I personally am only required to report child and elder abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 06:50 AM
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How is that baffling? Hell I've read books that made me experience emotions. Is that abnormal?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 03:10 AM
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In some states it is actually illegal to fail to report a crime that you are privy to. Additionally, many jobs make you a mandated reporter. Legality aside, if I were a victim of a crime, I do hope that someone would make a report if they had details that would help. If I hope others would do that for me, I hold myself responsible to do that for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/15 03:06 AM
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I don't think the CC exists as a universal or near-universal female experience (as TRP seems to claim?). I absolutely think many young girls are more interested in casual sex than LTRs. I also think many are interested in (or in) LTRs. And I think a huge portion are more interested in school and college life. Sex and relationships in college (when I was there) were often super coincidental. So I would say maybe something like the CC exists, but not in the way I've seen it presented on TRP. Thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/15 11:32 AM
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Yeah but we're not talking about what RPW thinks, we're talking about TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 09:08 AM
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This is definitely not in line with what I've seen from TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 07:14 AM
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Do you mean that women should go for a career instead of marriage because there is a chance that her husband might leave her? I think its more that TRP thinks women who pursue serious careers are bad marriage material and are making bad decisions (at least according to some posters I've seen in the past). If TRP is right about the importance of looks and age, it is logical for women to pursue careers. Like serious/focused career vs part-time/casual/no careeer, not career vs marriage/family. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 05:47 AM
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Oh lol! Yeah the OP asked what pill you were so I just assumed >< Hahaha bummer, I was super curious about what a BP/RPW would think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 12:45 PM
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Just curious, why do you consider yourself blue pill as well as RPW? I don't think they necessarily must be exclusive, but it makes for an interesting combo and I wonder what beliefs you have from each group.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 11:05 AM
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To be fair some women do not have a uterus, humans have different sex chromosomes, and testosterone levels fluctuate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:22 PM
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Yeah so I'm kinda thinking its a little BS to say that RPW wouldn't got for an alpha. But she specifically said playa so....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 11:16 PM
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This all sounds like fantastic advice to me! It also sounds nothing like what makes TRP, TRP. Its generic advice that is 'everywhere' (its great advice though, like I said). Its like a slightly more specific version of the "just be yourself advice". TRP does bring up a few of these points but these points hardly seem to make up a large or even significant portion of what you hear from TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:21 AM
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Aside from the fact that "woman are incapable of love" it sounds like that man could be a TRPer? I don't know, I wasn't super serious in my original comment. Just imagined a RPW meeting a TRP and he would try and plate her and she would try and LTR him and whoever was better at their game would win.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 04:00 AM
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Sure yeah I didnt think you guys were going for the "pure alphas" I guess you call them (its my understanding that those guys are usually criminals or something). But you want an alpha still. The beta-est alpha you can find I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 03:44 AM
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Alpha = playa?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 01:24 AM
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I believe a blue piller/feminist would have a one night stand with a red piller (red pillers don't go around announcing they're red pillers BTW) just to be "progressive and empowered". Just one little data point but as a feminist who is in a happy relationship, no thanks :) RPW understand that the more sexual partners they have, the less value they have in regards to obtaining a high status alpha (or high beta). If you're a high status alpha wouldn't they try and get with you? Guess it would dep…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 12:12 AM
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Yeah sorry about that, really should have used a different term >< Def see how that could be confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 03:44 AM
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By "be intimate" I meant, "have sex". I guess thats more of a colloquial definition, apologies. Mind explaining why my gender would clear up confusions?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 10:48 PM
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First here: Seeing nude women shouldn't make you lose your ability to become aroused by them. I can see how it would make it less likely for you to get a boner just looking at a woman walking by. But intimacy shouldn't be any trouble. Then here: I'm not saying your troubles aren't happening, in saying you should start looking into their causes. Clothing is not biological, our genitals were meant to work regardless of how many naked people we saw. There are many medical reasons why this could be …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 09:10 PM
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Of course its less exciting. But it should still be possible to be intimate. If it is not, I would argue there are issues that need to be resolved. Seems to be the case with the commenter we are discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 08:52 PM
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Do you think that it is normal and healthy to not be able to have sex after seeing lots of attractive women? Do you think our bodies were designed to stop working after seeing lots of women? I have a feeling humans would not have been a successful species if that were true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 08:35 PM
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Seems stupid to me because anatomically I know its possible for a girl to get off from sex. This comment didn't seem to fit in with what your point is. Though I guess you meant it differently than I imagined. I took it as: "well all women have the equipment necessary, its stupid if they cant orgasm through piv". Sorry for the misunderstanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 07:50 PM
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I personally require clitoral stimulation. A decent chunk of women are unable to orgasm at all. Are you sure you know what you're talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 07:25 PM
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I'm surprised you didn't realize I acknowledged his desensitization. He should still be able to perform in intimate situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:31 PM
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Honestly, don't worry about your preference. It is a little unfortunate that nothing else does it for you, but its totally fine that you're into that look. I think you might be looking in the wrong places. As someone who used to be in the hardcore scene, I recommend you check it out. Any chance you enjoy that sort of music? Even on the lighter end of the spectrum, shows are the best place to find girls with that look. At least in my experiences, its the only place I've seen a room full of them. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:23 AM
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I need women to fit a certain look(tattoos, piercings, hot and beautiful and crazy) for me to get sexually aroused Maybe you have a preference that you feel does not meet the typical norm, which makes you feel like you have a problem? I beleive that female sexuality is so accessible today You say that and yet: Most women look like men to me. You believe most women you see are just the opposite of sexual, they look masculine. Seems psychological to me. I wouldn't worry about it unless its causing…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 11:32 PM
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I'm not saying your troubles aren't happening, in saying you should start looking into their causes. Clothing is not biological, our genitals were meant to work regardless of how many naked people we saw. There are many medical reasons why this could be happening. It could also be psychological (maybe even due to how many women you see). The point is it is "abnormal" and should not be happening. Abnormal in quotes because erectile problems are not rare and you shouldn't feel weird about it. Just…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 11:16 PM
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Seeing nude women shouldn't make you lose your ability to become aroused by them. I can see how it would make it less likely for you to get a boner just looking at a woman walking by. But intimacy shouldn't be any trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 10:41 PM
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Biologically that should not be happening. I think you've got bigger fish to fry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 10:31 PM
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Done what? This post was about a guy being rejected and not having other prospects. Other than working out it the alpha in question didn't do anything. Unless the post was ninja edited.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 08:06 AM
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My original question was directed at this guy and your answers don't seem to fit in with his beliefs. I don't know if you can speak for him appropriately since to me it seems like he does think it matters what you guys call it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 03:54 AM
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Men fucking describe it as a fucking shit test to fucking help keep the fucking focus on the fucking issue at fucking hand. Not according to this guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 01:18 AM
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Seems like it would have made a lot more sense logically to call it a fitness test. Does a much better job of getting to the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 11:30 AM
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How does calling it teasing make it harder to focus on the issue at hand? Or how does calling it shit testing make it easier to focus on the issue at hand? What is the "issue" at hand?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 04:41 AM
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No that's feminist Nice Guy (™) shaming tactic straw man. Oh come on Xemnas. This is not a feminist thing, its an internet thing. And these guys do exist, though I would argue that more often men display this thought process instead of actually acting out on it. The definition that they used is spot on for the internet usage of the term "NiceGuy".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/15 04:31 AM
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What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 10:01 PM
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Womens fashion is expensive, makeup is expensive, nails are expensive, tans, gym memberships, hair cuts, dye jobs, personal trainers, makeup artists, hair stylists, eyebrow maintenance, waxing, skin care, so. much. money. And if time is money, getting ready every day is damn expensive. Not all women do this, not even remotely close to all of them. But the ones that do look damn good (as genetics allow). Would you say men are attracted to these women for their money?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 11:22 AM
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In response to your first few paragraphs. I believe the child's contribution, the mothers contribution, the contribution of kin, and the contribution of the tribe are significant enough to account for a decrease in paternal provisioning after a certain amount of time. Additionally, with all this talk of the mother providing for multiple children, nowhere do you mention that fathers would also be providing for multiple children. On top of that you have to consider that hunting is high risk high r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 10:41 AM
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There is more involved than just oxytocin and there are many ways to simulate the chemical cocktail of pair bonding :) it is actually recommended that long term couples actively seek out ways of reintroducing the pair boding chemicals. And no, not pregnant women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/15 03:13 AM
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Its not just wait and love will happen. I think the assumption is that when you make friends you will just fall in love with one and they will fall in love with you. I don't believe that is what BP means. I thinks more that you should not go hunting for a LTR. You should looks for friendships and if you meet someone worth LTRing, immediately pursue them as such. Look for people you would want to be friends with, don't go hunting for girls that will get with you. You can still disagree, I just th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 10:36 PM
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I do mention that a bit in one of my later comments. But the important topic here is the chemical pair bonding between mother and father, which is real and scientifically documented. A tribal society would actually support the idea of a short term pair bonding arrangement. A tribe would be less likely to support someone who is 100% incapable of pulling their own weight as well as a child who is 100% incapable. So a very young child and its mother would need stronger 'altruism'. The pair bonding …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 10:30 PM
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Vocal minority...? Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 02:48 PM
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Have to disagree with you there. Always gunna have the extremists. That comment was clearly antagonistic (well I guess that's just my opinion). Focusing on those people does nothing. They're wasting your time being controversial. Making those statistics look nicer is the prime objective. Potentially converting some fringe opinions isn't going to do much for that goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 02:38 PM
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A 4 year old still needs two parents in an ancestral environment to provide for two adults food and 1 childs. I think this is where we disagree. From the moment the child is born, the job of acquiring enough food gets easier and easier. Once the mother can forage, the child can help. As the child needs more food, they are able to contribute more food. In a tribal setting, food would also be shared (this is a HUGE point that I'm basically not going to talk about anymore, but food sharing was a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 12:03 PM
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The problem is that doesn't stop when the baby is weaned Well I mean.. I never said that. The number in my head was four years (but I couldn't remember for sure so I didn't want to say it). While I did mention the chemicals being induced by lactation, I don't know if they stop after lactation ends. Guess who the stories going to visiting in approx 9m time too! Without the modern convenience of formula and baby food, women breastfed for much longer. Meaning no babies for quite some time (2-4 year…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 10:16 AM
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Why would a human pair bond end when the mother can feed herself again ? If pair bonding is sexual, then its purpose is to successfully produce offspring. Newborns require almost full time care, which the mother had to provide (presumably). During that time someone else would need to support her or she (and her baby) would die. Is that how humans experience it ? Not 100% sure what you mean by this, sorry =/ It always ends when the child is weaned ? It had more to do with how long it took for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 08:39 AM
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I think your method is the better way to find a girl who is also looking to meet someone. I think his is the better way to meet a girl who you can build a relationship with. Lots of overlap between the two of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 06:57 AM
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I don't think the idea is that you go out and make a bunch of great friendships then choose your favorite and be like "Lets be in love!" If you go out with the intentions of making friends, in places that will get you around others who share your interests, you are bound to find someone of the opposite sex that you connect with. Then you ask them out. The idea is not to stand there looking around for an attractive lady to seduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:48 AM
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Well pair bonding, biologically, is designed to be temporary. It is supposed to allow enough time for the mother to be able to feed herself again. So while that does support a system of pairing off, it doesn't necessarily lead straight to marriage. I think marriage stems a lot more from mate competition than from pair bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:34 AM
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It is actually possible to identify a person by their writing style. In fact it has been used many times on reddit to successfully weed out multiple accounts used by the same person because they did not alter their writing style enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:28 AM
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Are you supposed to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:19 AM
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Oh I agree. But realistically that is pretty impossible. Humans are fallible and judges will make the wrong call, juries will be swayed the wrong way, evidence will paint the wrong picture. To be honest, crime shouldn't happen at all. I don't think we should think of murder as odds either, we should just think its abhorrent that murder happens. But what can we do other than try to reduce it? Try to lower the numbers, the odds, the percentages? Someday hopefully we shouldn't have to worry about c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:16 AM
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they guy couldn't have sex with anyone, wanted to have sex with someone in particular, there was a misunderstanding about consent Out of those, the only one that couldn't apply here is the first. If he really wanted to have sex with Stoya and she said no that is "wanted to have sex with someone in particular". If he thought, as many commenters seem to think, that because she was willing to do this on camera she must be willing to do it with me that is "misunderstanding about consent". Also by re…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:12 AM
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I guess. Rape can have lifelong effects on someone even if they don't languish. You're entitled to look down on rape victims but I would cut them some slack. Especially considering something like 1 in 3 rape victims develop PTSD.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/15 04:05 AM
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That is true of any crime though. I wonder how these statistics compare to the rate of false convictions for other crimes. If they are similar to other false convictions, I think that supports OP even more in his claim that it isn't something to actively worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 07:33 PM
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I guess you could say I got over being sexually abused, people I know IRL would probably say that. It ruined my childhood though. And it certainly will have an effect on me for my entire life. Your phrasing is quite insensitive, rape is a very traumatic thing. I don't believe lives can be "ruined forever" by anything though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 07:29 PM
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It used to be thought that all rapes were crimes of power, not passion. Now I believe it is not so universal but it's certainly not "extremely unlikely".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 07:02 PM
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Simulated rape =/= rape. He cannot do all the things I mentioned in my last comment. He can only pretend to do them with permission. The submissive party holds 100% of the power in a simulated rape scene. The opposite is true with rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 06:49 PM
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He cannot make a porn where he restrains a woman and takes away all of her control. Where he forces her to have sex against her will. Where he hurts her beyond her limits. Where he performs acts or forces her to perform acts that she does not want to perform. Where he ignores the safe word, her comfort, her feelings, her opinions, her fear, her resistance. That would all be illegal, that would be rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/15 09:04 AM
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Maybe they are angry that the men are still alive, despite being expendable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 10:20 PM
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Perhaps his race affected the way they raised him and/or his experiences in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:27 PM
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What's your opinion on having a male best friend? Male friends are super duper awesome and some of my closest friends have been male. I imagine a male best friend would be great. Have you ever had one before? I've had a ton of male friends. But the only one I would say was a best friend was a guy that I sorta liked so I don't know if it counts. It never affected our relationship though. The reason I liked him was because he was such an awesome friend so why let the attraction kill the friendship…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:18 PM
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When you say "react negatively" I'm not 100% sure what you mean. But I'll take a guess and say that they don't think men are expendable and men being treated as expendable is upsetting to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:07 PM
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There's a difference between talking to people in your life who know you/the other person, there's quite another when you're calling someone out in public. Yes and no. Most of the people who knew the guy found out. Our "community" found out. His family found out. I imagine the impact on his life was similar to the impact on Deens. The difference though is that I wasn't trying to tell all those people, so it was in whispers and rumors. I doubt people took it as seriously as they are taking Stoya …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 09:02 PM
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That is where you are wrong. He cannot get paid to do the exact same thing, not even close. Him being a pornstar has no effect on whether or not he is a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:16 PM
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Lol! Well in the US (at least where I'm from) its almost exclusively used to refer to where you get food at school. Sometimes if your work has a kitchen (such as a hospital) those will be called cafeterias as well. Has a pretty negative connotation too, the food is not usually very good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:14 PM
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Well I never went to court. I was not prepared to prove it, I had no proof. I didn't want to go to court. Of course eventually my entire social circle knew. Luckily I'm not famous or I guess I'd be in Stoyas shoes. Anyway, the court of public opinion doesn't exist. You as an individual decide if you want to take sides. If everyone admitted that they "don't know Stoya or James Deen, and we don't know exactly what happened", this would be a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 08:13 PM
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Thank god for advertisers who use Kitchen Husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:55 PM
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Just curious, cafeteria? Like at a school? Or is that word used for something else too? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:48 PM
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This is my life (plus video games of course). Let me tell you, it is glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:46 PM
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I think toxic femininity would refer to an extreme femininity that would serve to hurt the woman, right? Edit: or is your point that extreme femininity would only hurt men and could not hurt women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:39 PM
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Seems like you're taking this way to seriously as a internet court case. It is perfectly reasonable to not assume that he is guilty and to not assume that she is a liar. I thinking assuming she is lying is just as bad as assuming he is guilty. Of course I might be biased, as a person who was not believed after making an accusation of sexual abuse. It is extremely damaging when others assume you are lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:37 PM
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She still could have changed her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:33 PM
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This is also not a legal case we're talking about. If people are going to say "innocent until proven guilty" about an accusation made on twitter because we don't know he is guilty then the same applies to her, we don't know she is lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:29 PM
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A man could literally get paid to sleep with these exact same women (fellow pornstars) and instead he'd choose to rape them, for no money. It is possible that sometimes rape is not about money or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/15 01:27 PM
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I don't know of any sources or talk on the subject. But off the top of my head I imagine toxic femininity would include becoming overly submissive. Girls are taught to be agreeable and submissive which can lead to some sticky situations. Sometimes when a girl leads a guy on or gets pressured into sex etc. it is due to her lack of assertiveness or her desire to "not make waves". I know in my life I have had to fight against that urge in order to stand up for myself. Also, heavily valuing appearan…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 04:14 AM
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This is a really dumb answer but I work with autistic kids. The vast vast majority of my company's clients are male and I work exclusively with boys. My job is to basically help them become functioning members of society. I know I get paid for it but I could be making the same amount of money in an office not getting bitten, spit on, kicked, hit, and having my hair ripped out. I stick around for them :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/15 03:30 AM
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How in gods name is this an act of defiance? The best I can come up with is that I'm defying the guys who objectify me. The guys who beg for a cam, who beg to see my face, to see my cleavage, etc. It is practical. I sit here complaining about the things guys say to me, how much I hate it. Yet refuse to be ugly and stop it (well fingers crossed that will stop it). It was stupid of me, this is what makes sense. Also, since you really would like some validation, why don't you tell me about yourself…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/15 01:41 PM
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you specifically do things with the sole purpose of getting that validation Please explain to me how you know that? want to feel special by turning it into some kind of mystery Mysteries totally make people special :DDDDDDD /s I have to say thank you though. I can't pin down why I try to look my best on stream and you're totally right, why do it if I don't like the "validation"? So screw it, I don't need makeup to stream :) Maybe it will make my stream chat better and less cluttered with whisper…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 05:21 PM
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Well it looks like you've figured out the answer all by yourself. Or at least an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 05:16 PM
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What makes you think this is a silly question?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 04:51 PM
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Agreed. This sub has a lot of problems with stuff like this. Things worded purposefully to confuse, trick, mislead, etc. Then a whole argument sparks over the wording. Idk if this was intentional though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 06:10 AM
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They clearly like you enough that you have the luxury to pick and choose which sort of validation is "good" and which is "bad" Hmm the only validation that I think is "good" is from my bf and 100% platonic non-sexual validation. Having a bf to give me validation is a luxury I guess. So you think you don't get as much as you deserve? Tough luck. I kinda sympathize, but I sure as hell can't accept that it's just as bad as not getting any validation at all. I can't think of a single time I've been …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 04:44 AM
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Oh man, you assume guys like me a lot more than they do :) I simply have different preferences for different situations. If its a hot day you want a cold drink, if its a cold day you want a hot drink. If someone can find me IRL, their attention is scary to me and it makes me nervous. But you know what, with the way the internet is now, I guess its silly to think I'm any safer online. So I guess you're right, I'd rather be called ugly there too. So I guess in the end, I don't really know why I fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 08:56 PM
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If it helps at all, I completely agree with dakru and I remember when that was much more common place around here. Seems to have settled down in the past few months. Also see less scientific studies being discussed here on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 08:16 AM
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The last thing she says is "I really can't stay" then together "Baby, it's cold outside". Not sure if there was a yes there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 08:08 AM
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It was a long time ago that I suggested taking a break from TRP, I probably couldn't even find the comment >< Have you considered working online? There are some great communities right here on reddit that help people figure out how to make money from home. It will probably never net you as much as a job would, but its just another thing that could boost self esteem. Possibly help get rid of your sisters nagging too. And its at your own pace and only the jobs you choose, giving you a ton of contr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 07:44 AM
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It really is bad in a whole different way. In real life I'd rather be called ugly. If someone has the ability to find me IRL I'd rather be called ugly. By anons who will never know me, I'd rather be called a slut.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 07:41 AM
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Why would a guy talk to his gf about going to TRP? They actively encourage you not to talk to people IRL as far as I've seen. But yeah as for why a guy a would go to TRP if the relationship didn't have problems, it could be as simple as him thinking it would make the relationship better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/15 04:43 AM
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No worries! Part of me feels like doing nothing is not the answer, but in a lot of ways education can exacerbate the problem like you said. I think there was a documentary on the subject. Really interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 04:39 PM
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Did you read my linked comment? Touched on the subject Edit: and just to highlight it again, I meant instead. If you're going to talk about not killing people in school at least do it without being sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 04:28 PM
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awareness of being exploited as a beta bux has put me off even seeking a job Don't let women prevent your life from moving forward. If you can't or won't find a job I strongly recommend getting a volunteer position. It will give you a reason to get up and out of the house, it will give you something to be proud of, it might spark a passion or involve an existing passion of yours, and it will look good on a resume when you are ready to seek employment. It might even give you the confidence to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 12:05 PM
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Hahah no worries :) I should have added an instead to my comment. Those people should have taught their kids not to kill anyone instead of teaching them not to kill women. But I kinda went on a ramble about my thoughts on the current state of educating children not to kill people in this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:25 AM
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Well yeah there is the whole be a good person thing. But I really meant instead of what they decided to do, so I think that clears it up. Honestly though, with the rise in shootings and bullying and all the bad stuff going on in schools lately, I do think some revision of how we educate children on these topics should happen. Its all just vague and fluffy rainbow and butterfly talk. The only thing I remember from school is literally just that "be a good person" and "the golden rule" ...thats it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:21 AM
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We don't do that, already? So you're surprised that we don't teach this already, as though you thought we did teach it. I must have skipped the day they taught that class. It was probably right after they taught everyone not to rape. But here you're being snarky about the fact that you didn't think we did that already and you must have missed that day in class. So which is it? Or is your comment just strangely worded and you didn't mean that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:15 AM
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I guess I should have added an instead? Like how about those people teach kids that instead of what they taught them? You didn't do this before? But uh yeah I have never had a child or taught children old enough to understand concepts like this so... Nope, I did not do this before :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:13 AM
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It seems to me that once a woman is sufficiently into a guy, his appearance becomes beautiful to her and she delights in it. This is really true. If I'm going to be in a relationship with someone, there has to be an initial attraction. But once I'm in love? They just become gods gift to me 99% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:11 AM
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I compliment women more because I can freely speak my mind about how amazingly gorgeous they are (or just cute :P) without worrying about anything sexual coming from it. Even if I just so happen to compliment a lesbian and she takes it sexually, its pretty easy to just say sorry I have a boyfriend and really like penises! With guys, unless I know them personally, I do not comment on their appearance (to their faces at least, I'll comment on the attractiveness of celebrities and whatnot). I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 11:07 AM
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Why can't we just pledge not to hurt anyone? Cause some people are really dumb :( Idk why TRP wouldn't appreciate this though. Women are children and do not take responsibility for their actions so pledges wouldn't help. They're teaching boys to stay out of trouble with the law though which is great. /s For real though, how about we teach kids that killing/hurting people, any people, is almost always a reallyreally bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:52 AM
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Generally frequency doesn't affect how wrong an action is. Frequency does affect our perception of a person/group/society/whatever who does things that are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:48 AM
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I know some dudes don't like this but for many women (not all, I recognize that Instagram whores - and very young women - the under-20s - exist) this sort of attention is meaningless. But yeah I hear ya. I'm a casual twitch streamer and I get all dolled up before I stream so I look good on cam. And... I have no idea why. I mean I want to look good. But the attention I get is terrible. Every comment about my looks sucks. If I don't put a cam up, all the comments are about why I don't have a cam u…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:44 AM
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I praise my boyfriend all the time :) He recently got a new job and every single one of his friends gave him praise and congratulations for it. He gets praise for his humor quite often as well as his skills (a good shot in BP, grilling for the group, helping to clean after a party, and a million other things). Do you think its a problem that men don't get their own validation as adults, and what do you think we can do to change that? I haven't seen it as a problem in my own life. But maybe I jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:30 AM
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To do all what shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:24 AM
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Honestly out of all the people here, I think you would most benefit from getting away from TRP. I think I've told you this before but I might have been too extreme with my suggestion. How much time do you normally spend on TRP/PPD/PUA/MRA/Manosphere stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:21 AM
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Possibly legalized and heavily regulated prostitution with enough benefits to make it worth going the legal route (might be a too good to be true fantasy). I think it would benefit both men and women to have a safe space to buy and sell sex for those who choose to. Men would never have to worry about not having access to sex if there was a safe and legal route to obtaining it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:13 AM
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You would have to ask /u/BiggerDthanYou, they were his friends. Although I'm not sure they would have told them why they wanted to change. Honestly though, my relationship is fine, more than fine. But if I found something that said couples who cook dinner together once a week have a stronger relationship, I might learn how to cook and get my SO involved. Our relationship doesn't have to be failing for me to think "hey that might make our relationship better!" and maybe that is what those guys th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 04:11 AM
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=/ guessing she didn't take it well?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 11:33 PM
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Sounds like most of them found TRP after they started dating. Can't blame their choice in men when they chose a man they loved and he decided to be a man that they couldn't be with anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 07:24 PM
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So can, like, everyone else. Not everyone. I've had to teach before. Very fun type of teaching tho :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 09:04 AM
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I mean being dominant and fit has nothing to do with physically pleasing a woman. I won't argue about whether or not it will turn a woman on. But will it actually make her cum? Most likely not because well, none of that involves physical stimulation. Sure being dominant most likely implies touching and grabbing, but that just doesn't sound like enough for the vast majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/15 09:00 AM
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You are receiving attraction and validation This whole conversation is about women who are not receiving attraction. That is a really key point and I don't know why you are missing or ignoring it. I simply cannot relate to that, because I have never been attractive to anyone for anything. Presumably, if these women are below average and generally viewed as unattractive then they have gone through the same thing. But as I said, I do believe that most people can find someone who does find them att…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 07:55 PM
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How about if someone is having sex with you because he is attracted to you due to something other than your body? Of course they are attracted to other things. I don't do one night stands so yeah, relationships should be built on more than looks. A woman won't care if the hot Chad is having sex with her because of her body or because of her intellect. Maybe "a woman" but not this one. Can't speak for all the others though. But I can't see this being a common sentiment. When attraction (whether "…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 10:10 AM
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So I guess that makes me an unhealthy woman? Yeah I'm gunna have to disagree with that one, sorry. And basically the entirety of your post. I don't even know where to start with it =/ Unless it's physically impossible or actually fatal, I think you'd be surprised. People are a good deal kinkier than they let on. Well as much as it makes my panties wet to think about my SO being with another man, I'm not 100% sure how well that would play out in real life. I'm definitely fine keeping that one in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 07:15 AM
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I guess I just disagree. Personally I would rather have nothing. Its not because it wouldn't be satisfying. Knowing that someone had sex with you despite finding you ugly or disgusting would be a terrible feeling. If someone is not attracted to me, I would not want to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/15 06:57 AM
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If all of us can find some level of satisfaction with our lives, does it really matter how we get there? I totally agree with this. I was just under the impression that it was the RPW way or no way in that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 09:19 PM
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I'm not submissive, I'm not extraordinarily feminine, I'm not delicate and I have no desire to be. And the RPW I've chatted with don't seem to mind that. When you say they don't mind, do you mean they don't shun/shame/exclude you for your lifestyle? Or do you actively fit into the RPW lifestlye? Would they advocate for others to make the same choices you have? Do they agree with your outlook? You're also assuming a very narrow definition of RPW. I'd love to see a more broad definition. The sub i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 09:01 PM
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Sorry if you're not the person to ask, but is there anything like TRP for people who want to be high betas or warm alphas specifically? Guys who want to learn how to attract high quality women and be fantastic husbands instead of learning how to fuck as many plates as possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 08:49 PM
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The majority of normal, psychologically healthy heterosexual women fantasize about, and get sexual excitement and pleasure from, being dominated by a powerful male. To be fair, this is completely confined to sexual encounters for many women. It is not extrapolated into an entire overly submissive lifestyle. A woman who isn't a little turned on by femsub BDSM has something wrong with her. I don't know about this one. I can totally see how domination could just not be someones cup of tea, despite …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 08:47 PM
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For ugly women: "They'll never be (physically) attracted to you, but they'll fuck you every now and then just so you can keep on paying for all their shit just so they can get some." Obviously this is super generalizing, but hey so was the original. I don't know if it is true, but if the argument is ugly women have it better because men will still fuck them.. I kinda doubt the women feel like they are winning in that situation. IMO both situations are really no fun. I do agree with you that stat…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 08:38 PM
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Have to disagree here. The setiment is obviously pro science. This person overcame what biology intended through the use of science! Defying the predestined blueprint of their DNA to become the person that they wanted to be by taking advantage of the medical science available to today. Biology is a type of science, but it is not synonymous with science. Because of science we do not have to be slaves to our biology and that is awesome. Sorry I went a little nuts there but I had fun. For real tho …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 10:42 AM
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The less your personality sucks the easier it will be to seem less sucky and compensate with the boosed looks and game? :P
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 10:31 AM
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Maybe because a lot of things people use AWALT to describe don't seem to be "female nature"? The majority strike me as "human nature" things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/15 10:27 AM
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Eh 50/50 imo, takes two people to get pregnant. And in the case of a birth control failure I'd say its a no fault situation. The only time I'd say its "her fault" is if she intentionally lies about being on birth control or sabotages her bc (pin through the condom for example). Either way the point still stands, a man can absolutely have more children than a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 11:21 AM
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It doesn't matter though since men can produce essentially limitless children. Obviously an extreme example but look at Genghis Khan. Biologically that is exactly why women are "the gatekeepers". Sex is muuuuuch riskier for them biologically.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 06:02 AM
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I live in an age where all women are essentially worthless sluts. Just curious, how can you be happily married and think that about your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/15 06:31 AM
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How does saying "fuck women" and putting no effort in it at all fit into RP theory? It seems like RP tells you to put quite a bit of effort into tons of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/15 06:27 AM
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Ah okay. People on this sub seem to have a tendency to feel attacked you know? I feel like a lot of silly arguments start because people assume there must be an argument going on if its a post on PPD (unless its super obviously not).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 01:16 PM
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Well for example, someone being smart/funny does not make me want to have sex with them but does increase my attraction to them (romantic). Someone having an adorable smile and piercing eyes makes me want to have sex with them (well not really but its an example) and also increases my attraction to them (sexual). With your definition, things like cooking are not considered attractive. In mine they would be since I include non sexual things. I guess the better way to phrase it is that an attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 01:11 PM
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Are you asking if my definition is the same as yours? Because I definitely see a distinctive difference. If not I don't understand your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 01:02 PM
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Ah I see, attraction is limited to sexual attraction then? Things that make you want to have sex with someone are attractive? That's cool, I just usually see it used in a more broad sense. For me it is like anything that draws me to an individual in a romantic or sexual way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 12:53 PM
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I hope you're successful in making men care about more than a woman's looks. I know there are lots of guys out there that already agree with you and think there is more to women than just tits and ass. And its not necessarily wrong to be only interested in physical attractiveness. But I do think the emphasis on it is unnecessary at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 12:39 PM
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Is attractiveness limited to physical attractiveness by your definition? Also, depending on someones priorities "being an interesting person" might be attractiveness and "being hot" might be a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 12:35 PM
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I get what your saying kinda. However I'll give an example that kinda hit home for me. My uncle worked on a case where a stupid disagreement and a shove ended up stumble backwards and fall. He hit his neck on a step and broke it. He died because of it. The other guy has now committed manslaughter. I think hearing a story like that might make someone think twice about starting a fight. Someone who gets into a drunken brawl isn't necessarily a criminal and probably isn't someone who is going to tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 08:21 AM
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It is possible they had reasons other than "dating an Asian is below my standards and I don't lower my standards". I was giving an example of another reason, a reason I can personally relate. There are plenty of others too, even if they do have ONSs. I just don't think there is enough evidence to make that claim. That is what my reasoning would be, which is why I mentioned it. Edit: To be more clear it doesn't matter that I'm a lady and that that is the way I feel. What matters is that there are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 06:11 AM
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Probably a sexist stereotype but I do think men are better at maintaining casual sexual relationships than women. And I don't think it is unhelpful to point out that there are variables not being considered?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 04:02 AM
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My first thought as a lady is that I wouldn't want to fall in love while stationed somewhere. I don't do ONSs. Possible there are variables here that have nothing to do with race and standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 10:58 AM
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You unintentionally violate the order and are punished. It's perfectly possible that you happen to accidentally visit the same store at the same time, and she could misinterpret that as intentional or stalking. Unintentional violation is actually a proper defense. Chances are the store has cameras. I absolutely see how this could be a problem though and there are lots of situations that would lack proper evidence. At least its only short term that you gotta be careful? =/ It goes on the record. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 09:06 AM
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Oh absolutely I totally agree that we shouldn't really judge this guy if he did do these stupid things. I certainly know that you don't always make the best decisions when it happens to you. Its way easier to sit behind a computer screen and call people dumb, that's for sure. As someone who has looked into getting a restraining order, I was just commenting on the fact that this probably isn't true: the woman was able to get the original order because the system is unfairly biased against men. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 08:48 AM
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Feminism blames men for female bias in education Where did you get that? I read that simply as there are less men than women in college. You might be able to say it was implied but that is a long shot as far as I can tell. sour grapes That was used to describe the women (or at least describe what they are not) not to shame the men. Yes, they just said that high testosterone would naturally lead to men being raping pillaging brutes… "Conventional wisdom would have us believe all that testosterone…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 08:45 AM
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Honestly though, is it really that bad that it isn't extremely difficult to get a restraining order? Its not super easy (at least not in my area, I looked into it once). But its accessible. That is really important to the people who need it. The last thing someone who needs protection should have to deal with is someone saying, nah thats not good enough. The only reason it would be bad is if there are consequences of having a restraining order against you that I am unaware of (admittedly I only …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 08:19 AM
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If I learned anything from years of watching court tv, its that you should keep records of so many things its not even funny. Like for real. The amount of things people can sue you over and the difference that one shred of evidence can make are insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 08:13 AM
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dude what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 07:46 PM
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How would you educate young people to help prevent murder? This one isn't quite what I was going for. Easy answer is get to safety and call the police. With murder there usually isn't a safe way to intervene (don't be a hero you know). You could argue differently for rape depending on the situation I think. What would you tell them to help them avoid being murdered? Personally I avoid being out at night and I don't frequent bad neighborhoods. To be honest idk what the best advice is, where I liv…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/15 11:44 AM
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Just curious, why the accent mark on the o? If you're from a different country then maybe that's why our view of the police is different lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 09:56 PM
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Oh I was under the impression that you call the police to get safe. If the violence isn't bad enough to warrant police intervention then yes by all means just remove yourself from the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 03:46 AM
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Some dirty terrible blasphemous TRPer tried to tell me Natalie Dormer was not a perfect angel among mortals awhile back when one of these post hot picture threads came up. Good to know you aren't all so awful! Mostly joking... but god how can you not just die for that smirk? Idk man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 12:11 AM
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Kat Dennings is really pretty but I can't decide if I LOVE her voice or absolutely HATE it. Its things like this that keep me up at night man hahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 11:58 PM
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So it's better to let her call the cops then "really teach her a lesson"? I feel like if she's on the phone first your chances of arrest are higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 11:06 PM
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Yeah this right here. Defend yourself, if all it takes is a bear hug then that's all you should do. If it takes knocking her out, then yup knock her out. If all you have to do is leave the house, there you go. Immediately call the police. You should be on the phone way before she is!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 02:50 AM
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I agree. The problem is the promotion of the extreme lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 08:02 PM
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A play button doesn't show up after it loads? Odd website isn't it? Not a fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 03:49 PM
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Let me offer a slightly different point of view. I enjoy work, I enjoy earning money. It makes me feel awesome. I do not really enjoy cooking. I will absolutely clean and do dishes and do my laundry, but again, don't really enjoy it. My SO on the other hand, loves to cook. Has no problem with chores and will happily turn on the TV and go about doing what needs to get done with a rerun in the background. When everything gets done he feels accomplished. The days he has off and I go to work are som…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 08:03 AM
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Wasn't going to comment but then I saw this: I would have thought bp would have more to say about this video. Guess they've literally been silenced. I didn't feel silenced, just didn't feel like the video inspired much discussion. But since you obviously wanted to start a dialogue and people are looking for bp to have more to say (well pp technically but w/e) here you go. Honestly what I got from this is GLO =/= her boyfriend. GLO is your internet persona and is an exaggerated caricature of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 07:36 AM
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Missed the window?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 07:25 AM
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I'm simply talking about the study of witness credibility. Literally any case with witnesses (no matter how many!) will suffer from the same problems. I'd recommend watching National Geographics Brain Games for a fun introduction to the topic of faulty memories and how the brain makes mistakes. Watched them for extra credit in college, really neat stuff. But to kind of address the points you bring up, DNA is a big one. Marks to the body can help indicate certain physical properties of the rapist…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 06:49 AM
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That's ridiculous. If a prenup causes distress I would seriously reconsider getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 10:38 PM
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Hey can you explain your comment? I'm really curious. I don't think he implied using force to get a prenup, but I understand how that could make it invalid. But just asking her to sign one could get it dismissed?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/15 08:03 PM
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Definitely! Not trying to say its bad for a pep talk. But as actual advice in a serious like "I can't figure out dating please help" kinda way, ehhhh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 01:27 AM
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Even if it is not a superfrequent occurrence, it could still seem to be a frequent thing in their eyes. Especially if they are unaccustomed to men opening up. It might seem frequent because they are comparing it to other men who may have less favorable views on opening up. This is totally not your fault of course! Just a thought. I can definitely also see what /u/Xemnas81 said to be true as well: Having said that it sounds like they're attempting to appeal to your presumably masculinised demeano…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 01:26 AM
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Ding ding ding!! Just be yourself is not actual advice that people give, its a BS answer when either they don't know or don't care enough to give you more. Like "Just keep doing your best". Edit: unless its wrapped up in other good advice or used as an answer to "should I lie and pretend I have really cool hobbies, a crazy job, and a PHD from an elite college?" etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 01:12 AM
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humans are humans Hope that clears it up for you! :p
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 11:39 AM
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I spent a semester studying the evolution of human relationships specifically. Most people do not fit the mold set up by evo psych. Many people fit some aspects, some more and some less than others. Some people seem to completely go against everything I learned. As a woman I don't really use RP, but I do use evo psych to understand some of the things I see others and myself doing. While I see examples of evo psych, I know that they are not even close to universal. Evo psych seems much more usefu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 04:12 AM
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Well honestly anything based in evolutionary psychology is subject to criticism. Quite a bit of it is "educated guesses". I really do respect evo psych and I think its awesome that people are trying to piece together our psychological history as a species. But to me its like looking at a crime scene and guessing the killers motivations. There are hints, there is evidence, but in most cases you can only make an educated guess at what he was thinking. So to answer your question, basically anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 03:52 AM
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Definitely agree. Evo psych is a fascinating subject and making hypothesis with the information we have available is a great way to gain insight into how humans may have evolved psychologically and socially. However, evo psych is difficult to test and its hard to pin down what is truth and what is just possibility. I would put more stock into the psychology of modern humans. At least that can be tested in real time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/15 03:25 AM
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Right to procreation? All you need is working junk. Let's not pretend that this something more magical than it actually is. Doesn't matter if your junk is working if the government gets to force an abortion on you. You cannot say that "we don't know so we can't act" is an excuse. When the act is forcing an unnecessary medical procedure on another person, yes we can. It doesn't matter if it can explain all cases, as long as it explains most cases, then it's good enough. I get your point of view. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/15 07:52 AM
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OH I misunderstood. I thought you meant behavioral psych itself was the lowest you could go. But I get it now. Even behavioral psych is difficult to pin down accurately and objectively so I see what you're getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/15 01:15 AM
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Bullshit in what sense? I studied biology and psychology in college and did not get that impression at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/15 01:05 AM
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Virgins are fun though :) Idk how much women normally care about partner count? In my experiences higher numbers are seen as red flags but that's just my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 08:04 PM
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If only everyone could understand this. Attraction and desire at first sight? Absolutely. You can even grow to like a person quite a bit very quickly after meeting them. But you can't throw your heart and soul at someone you don't know. I knew a guy like Jamie and he was convinced I was a person that he was in love with. Broke his heart when I wasn't the girl he made up in his head :(
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 08:02 PM
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Joining a club or a team of some sort I think would be a good start? I'm not a man so I can't really help toooo much but my brother always made his friends and found his parties through group activities like that. They definitely live the life you're talking about (though we never talked about having sex with hot girls... that one was awkward between siblings).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/15 03:04 AM
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I think you misinterpret. I wasn't pushing him in a forceful or violent way, I was not in "self defense" and I was not fighting him off. But I was certainly not playfully swatting him away. I was pushing him off and holding him at a distance as best as I could. And I guess giggle is the wrong word, that is my bad. Its more like a "heh... heh.... heheh" sounds really awkward when I do it. A bit like hyperventillating My intentions were, as far as I know, clear. I think he chose to willfully ignor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 07:45 AM
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We didn't have sex - "failed hookup". He just groped me, pinned me in my seat, pinned me against the car, and forced kisses on me. I eventually said "Hey umm if you don't stop I might have to call the cops so please?" and he eventually did. So no I don't think it was rape. Yes I do think I should have called the cops. I don't think any punishment is appropriate, I didn't even think it was appropriate to get angry with him. I just wished he had stopped when I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 07:37 AM
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If you honestly don't believe you made it clear, why didn't you? I think it would have been clear to many people. It was clear that I didn't want him to keep going. But I don't know what I should have done honestly. Should I have cried? I think I was too scared for that, the adrenaline pumping kind not the teary kind. Should I have hurt him? He didn't hurt me, I don't think that would have been appropriate. I'm not the type of person to yell at people, to get pissed off. I just nicely refused hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 03:21 AM
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I said no. I didn't say it loudly, I didn't say it forcefully, I didn't say it angrily. I may have laughed nervously. I said it like it was a joke at first... I didn't want to make it awkward by acknowledging the fact that he was essentially already molesting me. I physically pushed him away repeatedly. I got out of the car we were in. I pushed him off when he pinned me against the car. Not forcefully, just enough to get his hands off me. At no point did I ever act angry. I wasn't acting happy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 08:09 PM
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In the scenario I described the breadwinner did get custody. Also the breadwinner is not always the best parent. Money isn't everything, especially for child development.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 10:58 AM
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Personally if a guy has a lot of partners but they were LTRs it doesn't bother me much. I would only be concerned if his number of ONSs was really high. Even then there is no numbers, just like "Does this person value sex more than a partner? Are they interested in a real relationship?". Edit: And I know this was for men to answer but I saw other girls answering so I figured why not. I think if I was guy my thought process would be similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 02:56 AM
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The world may never know ^^^<sup>MUAHAHAH</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:49 PM
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I would say this definitely happens. But just like we can't ignore racism because of this, we can't ignore sexism. We just need to be careful. Have to really examine the reasoning behind an individuals actions. Did this happen because you are black/female or did it happen for x reason? Sometimes you can never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:42 PM
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I'm sure you're just exaggerating but holy shit I can't even imagine. That would put me at like 50 x.x
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:38 PM
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The average cost of childcare per month ranges from ~$300-$1000/month in the US. Maid services cost ~$200/month. Take that amount out of the alimony. Now both parties get what they want out of the arrangement. The breadwinner gets childcare services and the homemaker gets financial support. Fair is fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:11 PM
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Can a person survive and support their children in a dirty house? Yes. Can you take care of kids utilizing family, friends, daycare, and yourself? Yes. Can you acquire food without taking time to prepare it? Yes. People do not need maid services and child care services to get by during the adjustment period. Can you get a job to support yourself and children with no work history? Maybe. Can you get a job with no marketable skills? Maybe. Will these entry level jobs be enough? Maybe. This person …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 10:00 PM
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Absolutely. Learned a new term here "Jack Blacks", that certainly applies to most of them. One of them is just the most amazing and interesting person literally ever. Gained a bunch of weight but didn't change his personality an ounce. Hes still drowning in ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 08:10 PM
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Recently saw a great post explaining why that doesn't happen anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 08:00 PM
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Yeah like you're not going to look disgusting if you can't afford it. But with all of the paid-for options we have to look better, you can't be a 10 without some cash (at least comparatively). The naturally average person isn't going to look average without products/services unless they are quite good at DIY and have the time to spend on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 07:45 PM
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You would be surprised. Even as a woman myself I am often shocked at the price tag of looking good. It's possible on a budget but takes quite a bit more effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/15 09:09 AM
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I have never met him and I know nothing about him and his life so I honestly couldn't tell you why he feels the way he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 10:09 PM
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Where I grew up two income was the difference between a summer family vacation and its summer go play in the sprinklers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 10:08 PM
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You're asking why dehumanizing women is threatening? Well women are human and humans do not want to be stripped of their status as human. I read your post and I'm not sure if that is your question though. I still think it would be good for you to take a step back and focus on other things in life. But that's just my 2 cents :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 06:53 AM
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Then definitely get away from that stuff. TRP is full of those things, PPD debates about them, TBP makes fun of them, and relationships talks about a lot of the same stuff in different words. Find something else to fill your time :) Try spending a week doing things that are 100% unrelated to relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 06:24 AM
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See that is the type of thing I would work on. Talk to your therapist about not getting angry and anxious at the mention of a relationship. That is a great place to start. I would not want to bring the emotional strain and complications of a relationship into the picture when things are difficult enough without an SO to worry about. If you want close companionship and believe that getting a girlfriend is the solution to that, I would suggest exploring other routes. Also, if talk of a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 06:17 AM
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Have you recently tried working on being happy with your life alone, as a single person, before working on getting into a relationship/getting laid? It could be that he is not the best person to ask for dating advice (I doubt therapists are extremely trained for that) but could be a great resource for learning to be happy alone. I think even TRP would get behind that idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 05:54 AM
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he gave up because he said I out-witted him I could be wrong... but honestly this kinda sounds like you just disregarded what the therapist was saying. Its hard to outwit someone accidentally. If you were purposefully trying to counter everything he said to you without considering it from a perspective different from your own, this may have been his nice way of saying that. Again, I could be 100% wrong. However if this is the case, it might be worth giving therapy a try with a more open mind. Re…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/15 05:41 AM
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Huh, I have a hard time believe that is actually part of the "female empowerment shtick". Interesting though. Two income families do seem to have it better off nowadays. Wouldn't call it sexually attractive but it is an attractive option.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/15 11:18 PM
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Isn't that part of the whole female empowerment shtick? What does that have to do with whether or not women think advanced degrees makes them more arousing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/15 06:07 AM
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I wonder why that is, interesting. Either way though, I do think the bad rep that men have built up in the past has a lot to do with why this perception is prevalent. Women haven't had a chance to build their own since, as far as I know, this type of thing wasn't very common in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 02:59 AM
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Huh I wonder why male strippers are more lax about that. It's interesting. Either way, as far as why those perceptions exist, I do think it has to do with the bad rep that has been built up. Women haven't had a chance to build their own yet since as far as a I know, things like this were not very common in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 02:57 AM
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Amen sister
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/15 01:48 AM
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They definitely seek to gossip and ridicule "inferior men" more even when they aren't treated like shit. Ah you're talking about bitches, not girls lol :p
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 10:55 AM
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I just pointed out that you can be perfectly nice to other people and still treat a person you're into preferential. Which does not make you a NiceGuy IMO. why this makes a guy disingenuous. It makes him disingenuous if he is actually an asshole and knows he is an asshole and is purposefully hiding that fact to trick you. If he is actually a nice guy going out of his way to make you feel special, then I don't think its disingenuous. Even if he is actually an asshole but isn't purposefully hiding…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 10:54 AM
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no bias at work certainly. I mean, you said earlier that men just don't care enough to talk about NiceGirls. So yeah, maybe girls just seek more support when they are treated like shit? Except targeting men should be wrong too and their gender shouldn't be posted at all. Exactly then again you probably hang out in different circles. Yeah, I don't have much of an interest in laughing at innocent people. More "wow that's terrible" less "hahah look at this neckbeard".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 04:09 AM
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Hmm, but did they have different experiences in the womb? There are lots of things that affect development that could have altered them while still in the womb. Physical activity of the mother, hormone and stress levels, food intake, water intake, etc. Not trying to make any sort of argument here, its just a interesting thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 04:00 AM
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in fact why not discard NiceGuys for NicePeople in the first place? Cause the trend was first noticed in guys I believe. You underestimate your fellow women and feminists. I think you underestimate them =/ Anything which targets women is wrong. Well that's why you don't target women? If its such a concern, don't post their gender at all. But I guess the kind of folk who enjoy doing such things should take up your advice. I don't think its really an enjoyment thing. From what I've seen it's usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 03:42 AM
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I think you misunderstood. Most examples of NiceGuys I've seen are from them asking women out and then behaving badly. But girls don't often ask guys out, so there are less opportunities for NiceGirls to behave that way. At least from what I've seen. That's what happens to everything that targets a subset of women as opposed to a subset of men. Well how about NicePeople<sup>TM</sup> ? You make that a thing and no one will cry sexism. If you really want to avoid being called a misogynist you coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 02:03 AM
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The problem is that even when they are conceded, it's only done reluctantly, and the aim always remains on "Nice Guys". I wouldn't say I was reluctant. I've never heard anyone bashing Nice Girls on their own volition, without being prompted There have been posts on /r/NiceGuys Honestly though I think the disparity between NiceGuys and NiceGirls is that the girls don't often have a way to showcase their shit attitudes. I think if girls asked guys out more often, we would start seeing NiceGirls po…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 01:32 AM
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Absolutely, I mean NiceGuys don't have to be unattractive and unattractive guys aren't always NiceGuys. In fact, one of the guys I know that falls into the NiceGuy stereotype is very attractive. And I know plenty of unattractive guys that are in no way NiceGuys. People who deny that NiceGirls exist are either stupid or just haven't spent enough time on the internet to hear about them. But I can see this argument is futile, women will always just continue assailing men, often undesirable men, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/15 01:08 AM
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You can't disregard all the possible thoughts, feelings and motivation that could have led to his actions, choose the one combination that fits a convenient judgmental narrative, and then claim to care about that person I still don't understand how I disregarded all of his thoughts, feelings, and motivations. I certainly thought about them and considered them. How is assessing his behavior and coming up with the likely thoughts/feelings/motivations behind it disregarding all those things? Maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 06:07 PM
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You can't spend a lot of time thinking about a person's feelings and motivations only to reduce them to a primitive stereotype that's been invented on the internet to shame people. I can't look back on his actions and see that the patterns in his behavior match the description of NiceGuy behaviors? Because if I had thought about him and worked on our relationship for over a year I would not be able to see a pattern? Yes, that is acceptable. Seems like an odd place to draw the line. I'm sure most…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 08:00 AM
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There's also a difference between geek and nerd, just so you know. Lol you're very concerned with defining all these slang terms :) Yeah idk, he wasn't very popular or confident or anything. Just an average guy, but he probably had the best heart of anyone I have ever met. I think this term is a terrible mistake and it's been overwhelmingly proven to be a terrible mistake. The mistake is people lumping actually nice guys in with the NiceGuys. Even if it was FakeNiceGuys I think people would make…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/15 07:51 AM
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