lurkergirl Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. 1) My point is that men can avoid the circumstances here entirely. If they aren't responsible enough to do so their kids still deserve support. 2)Paternity fraud is a problem, and the fraked up laws only make it worse. But that is a problem with the legal system, not with woman's options.	/r/MensRights	14/02/10 04:55 PM
1	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. Most states in the U.S. have baby safe haven laws, allowing people to turn over their babies unharmed Note that your quote says people- not women. If the male has custody he can drop off his kids the same way. I won't go into the custody laws because that is a whole different discussion but if the father has custody the mother still has to pay child support to. This isn't a one-way street. None of this affects my argument at all. Men have all the tools they need to prevent getting their part…	/r/MensRights	13/02/10 06:41 PM
1	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. Yes, it is their decision to have sex but it is not their decision to have a child. I disagree- pregnancy is a risk of having sex. By engaging in intercourse you agree to accept the risks. I think my analogy works- life has risks. If I choose to go to the grocery store I know I could be run down by a drunk or an idiot and killed. I accept that risk every time I get in my car. Just like I accept the risk that I might get pregnant every time I have sex. How can you justify forcing a men to start, …	/r/MensRights	11/02/10 02:38 AM
2	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. I honestly can't even contemplate how any woman could even consider the possibility of keeping a child from a father she doesn't even know. I have hypothyroidism, it sucks beyond words. And if I ever had a female child she would almost certainly get it. I flat out refuse to have a girl because there is no way in hell I would voluntarily inflict that on my worst enemy- much less my own kid. Further, health issues like that are not at all obvious (I look completely normal) but would still seriousl…	/r/MensRights	11/02/10 02:16 AM
1	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. The possibility of children should be fully discussed before sex. For real reals? This is completely out of touch with reality. I honestly don't understand how someone can have sex without having that conversation and the STD one. It baffles me that this isn't universal- it is a very simple way to protect yourself. 5 minutes of minor discomfort beats the hell out of worrying "am I pregnant?!?!" when your period is a day late- and that has to be MUCH worse for guys. I would have an extremely hard…	/r/MensRights	11/02/10 01:17 AM
0	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. Yes, accidents do happen- hence why I support using multiple highly effective forms of BC. Men do have a lot of options. In addition to condoms they can get a vasectomy if they know that they don't ever want kids, they can use spermicide and choose to only have sex with women who will respect their desire to not be fathers by reliably using BC. I'm not advocating forcing anything on men- it is their choice to have sex and that decision can have consequences just like getting in my car and drivin…	/r/MensRights	10/02/10 07:37 PM
-3	People think a man should be forced to support his kids, but at the same time he cannot choose whether he wants them. Men do have a choice- condoms. If you are really worried about it- only hook up with women who use birth control and still use a condom. A lot of you will make the point that women lie- fine but if you can't trust her you shouldn't be fucking her if for no other reason than the risk of STDs. It's not hard to verify that a girl is taking the pill or has an IUD (for those of you that don't know- there will be a string that you should be able to feel) Take reasonable precautions and the risk of get…	/r/MensRights	10/02/10 06:21 PM
9	Could you imagine the uproar if there was a "men-only event" on a college campus? To play devils advocate, sexual assault is a touchy enough subject that many women would not be comfortable openly talking about it with guys around. That said, women aren't the only victims of sexual assault and the sooner we realize that and start giving guys the same kind of prevention and support women get the better.	/r/MensRights	04/02/10 05:51 PM
1	Serial rape liar who falsely accused a number of men gets 45 month sentence Admittedly comparing these two crimes is like comparing apples to oranges, but since the only widely used form of punishment is incarceration, time spent locked up is the de facto currency for measuring a crimes harm, and to me these two crimes cause roughly the same level of harm. Rape causes far more harm to the victim, but the scope of that harm is limited, false accusations aren't as harmful to the victim, but they harm society as a whole. The hard part is that there isn't a good way to meas…	/r/MensRights	29/01/10 10:56 PM
1	Serial rape liar who falsely accused a number of men gets 45 month sentence From wikipedia: the average sentence for convicted rapists was 11.8 years, while the actual time served was 5.4 years. She had her husband locked up, and accused others. Employers doing background checks on any of those men are going to see news articles that they were accused of rape and very likely will stop there instead of digging enough to learn that the reports were false. Plus, I can't imagine the strain that being accused of rape would put on your personal relationships; Hey mom! I'm in …	/r/MensRights	29/01/10 10:19 PM
0	Serial rape liar who falsely accused a number of men gets 45 month sentence This belongs in /r/WTF She should be locked up as long as the men she falsely accused would have been.	/r/MensRights	29/01/10 09:11 PM
2	Joe. My. God.: You Can't Sit There, You Might Molest As a part of the aforementioned minority, I'd like to be treated just the same as everyone else, though I do appreciate the support and agree wholeheartedly that we should be nice. :-)	/r/MensRights	21/01/10 11:07 PM
17	Joe. My. God.: You Can't Sit There, You Might Molest That is a ridiculous policy. Even if he were a child molester, he certainly isn't going to molest kids in public or have a chance to lure them away.	/r/MensRights	21/01/10 04:19 PM
2	Why do we buy dolls for our daughters to play with and toy guns for our sons? *Note: This was originally posted in /r/feminisms post, but I also wanted your POV on the matter. Yes, I am aware that there is a difference between welfare and food stamps. I can still imagine there being reasons for needing welfare- what if one of the parents needs to take care of a sick relative? It would be far cheaper for someone earning minimum wage to stay home and take care of said relative than to try to pay for care. Same goes for young children- childcare costs are astronomical. I'm impressed that you have managed to stay at home, but not everyone can pull that off. One minimum wa…	/r/MensRights	21/01/10 03:54 PM
3	Why do we buy dolls for our daughters to play with and toy guns for our sons? *Note: This was originally posted in /r/feminisms post, but I also wanted your POV on the matter. I agree that welfare should not be easier to get- we need programs to help people get jobs (and the self-respect that comes with having an honest job). However, given the we do provide welfare, I think the limits on having 2 parent households are very harmful- if a family genuinely needs help they should not have to split up to get it. The welfare system is just one of many factors that contribute to the abandonment of responsibility- I just pick on it because it is more visible than the others.…	/r/MensRights	21/01/10 04:58 AM
11	Why do we buy dolls for our daughters to play with and toy guns for our sons? *Note: This was originally posted in /r/feminisms post, but I also wanted your POV on the matter. This is a really important topic, my dad experienced a similar situation to the one you described when he was in kindergarten- and he needed all the practice nurturing he could get. Society has managed to accept that girls and women can do traditionally male things- whether that be playing with Legos or pursuing a career as a programmer without losing their femininity. Unfortunately the opposite is not true, anything remotely feminine is seen as a threat to masculinity- including being nurturing…	/r/MensRights	20/01/10 11:46 PM
5	A New Sex Crime - on the commonness of false rape charges The issue with a false accuser registry is that it would make every person on it a perfect target for rapists because they wouldn't be believed. Unless there were very stringent controls on access and data integrity, it would be just as bad as the current sex offender lists.	/r/MensRights	19/01/10 06:07 PM
10	A New Sex Crime - on the commonness of false rape charges I can anticipate that some of my female readers may misinterpret this essay as being against the interests of women. Not in the least — women who lie about sex crimes injure the credibility and standing of all women, and any charity extended to them is misplaced. Women who defend those who lie about sex crimes might as well defend rapists — indeed, in the final analysis that is exactly what they're doing. Well said.	/r/MensRights	19/01/10 06:05 PM
9	Hate Bounces: How man-hating and man-bashing harms women – the making of a misogynist Interesting read. I can certainly see how that kind of hatred would turn anyone against women. However, I find it hard to believe that women in general are truly that hateful. I simply can't imagine any women (or man for that matter) I know getting upset at someone for holding the door for them or enjoying "man hating" sessions. Have I just been very lucky with who I know? (caveat: the majority of my friends are guys.)	/r/MensRights	18/01/10 08:18 PM
-4	Women are still absent nearly twice as often as their male counterparts in the workplace. Of course women are absent more then men- pms sucks. You can go to work and be a b*tch to your coworkers who don't deserve it and kill your career, or just stay home. Cramps and bloating are treatable, but being crazy cranky for no good reason isn't. :-P	/r/MensRights	21/09/08 07:52 PM