lurkerspeaks Archive

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4	How the fuck do you flirt or notice when someone is flirting?? Sometimes rejection isn’t even anything personal. There could be a multitude of reasons a woman isn’t interested in talking to or going out with you at any given moment. sometimes all of those reasons have nothing to do with you. Sometimes they will. I guess what I’m saying is a woman’s rejection of you is not an indicator of what all women think of you. Also you miss 100% of shots you don’t take. Your pride will heal and your skin will grow back thicker. As far as some more detailed instruction…	/r/seduction	03/06/20 06:16 PM
134	How the fuck do you flirt or notice when someone is flirting?? Hey friend. That’s definitely fixable. As men we are in an interesting spot. We are expected to escalate and to initiate. While there are women that take charge themselves, it is not the standard. It’s perfectly normal to have anxiety about escalating or flirting. But the fact of the matter is you WILL be rejected. We all will be. The trick is to make yourself more outcome independent when displaying interest or escalating. If her reaction is that of disinterest. That’s okay as cliche as that so…	/r/seduction	03/06/20 12:42 PM
1	[online] Great success with direct messaging Make your intentions with them clear. I usually start with something creative and direct that gets her attention and also lets her know I wanna meet/hookup/go on a date with her. When appropriate ask for the number. I just do that because its easier to communicate and set up a time for a meetup. So no I do not necessarily ask them out on a first date immediately, however I have had success with simply saying "will you go out with me" so go figure. I guess my point is you cant lead with something…	/r/seduction	04/06/15 01:37 AM
2	[online] Great success with direct messaging I've used tinder A LOT over the past year and have had some pretty decent success from it. I wouldn't say I'm a 9 or 10 but consider myself a good looking guy. as far as numbers I've gone on probably two dozen dates over the last year and a half and f closed on 10 of them and I've never found them to be lesser quality girls then I would meet in real life. Just from personal experience I agree a lot with this post. Direct approach is the way to go. Tinder or things like it can't be for small talk…	/r/seduction	03/06/15 04:01 PM
1	Weird situation by all means let it play out if you want to make a move you should do it. Good luck friend.	/r/seduction	25/09/14 06:02 PM
1	Weird situation Well unfortunately it looks like the mods took down your post since this technically belongs in askseddit. But honestly man I'd say to not take this girl reaching out too seriously. You were friendly before and she may just be being friendly again. But my question is, what held you back from escalating with her before? Why is it that you think she only thought of you as a friend? was it a culture thing or did you not make it apparent you were interested sexually?	/r/seduction	25/09/14 05:08 PM
1	Weird situation Can you give a little more detail into how things ended with this girl that randomly messaged you? Did you make a move before?	/r/seduction	25/09/14 04:37 PM
2	Let's say a girl liked you at a party because you had a high energy and you were funny. But when you take her out you're not gonna be that guy at the party. Solution? I lol'd for a good 30 seconds at this	/r/seduction	13/05/14 10:55 PM
5	Your take on the 'blind date' style encounters that Tinder-type apps lead to. I've recently was dumped by my girlfriend of 8 months and decided to give the old tinder app another shot. And like many of you have already said yes this IS a validation app mostly used to boost confidence and work on communication with new people. BUT I will say that some of the girls on there are down to hang out with a guy after some simple text game. After a few days of chatting with an HB 7 she messaged me saying she wanted to have a glass of wine after work. I offered to meet her in a non…	/r/seduction	24/02/14 06:26 PM
1	Texting question thank him i just found it glad i could help out	/r/seduction	22/03/13 05:18 AM
4	Texting question http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1aqdzk/what_seddit_has_taught_me_and_how_it_changed_me/c8zvqha I just read this also. This guy seems to know what is up	/r/seduction	22/03/13 05:01 AM
2	How do I close a girl who is being held back by the fact that her friend likes me ? That's a difficult situation. I hate to say it but if she is adamant about keeping loyalty to her friend, then you may need to move on to other prospects...for now at least. What I don't understand is why this girl wouldn't have told her friend that she is involved with you upon discovering her friend had feelings for you. In guy world that's how it usually goes down but whatever girls can be strange. My advice keep your distance for now especially from this friend of hers and reiterate what YOU…	/r/seduction	30/12/12 03:18 AM
3	How do I close a girl who is being held back by the fact that her friend likes me ? Have you communicated to this girl that you are not and will never be in any way interested in her friend?	/r/seduction	30/12/12 02:33 AM