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Yeah I have no advice, I’m AuDHD but I’m an attractive woman so I don’t really struggle to get attention from men, although my dating life is pretty shit. I think being an ND dude would kinda suck. Most guys find my ADHD more entertaining than anything if they’re already attracted to me, although I think some do find me annoying lol. I’m just a lot more susceptible to being manipulated by trash men because I have a tendency to give everyone chances and the only couple of guys I’ve ever really ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 12:22 AM
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Attractive, funny, confident, down to earth, social, charismatic, low inhibition, good at conversation, into the party/drugs/drinking scene, large social circle
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:40 PM
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Oh yeah I’ve never done that exactly, I’ve only met up with one guy from Tinder and he was really weird and I’ve just never done it again. And to edit my original comment, I wasn’t entirely correct, most* of the ONS I’ve had were while drunk. There were a few I had while sober (or just tipsy but not trashed), however those were with guys who I’d known for quite a while (minimum of 6 months) and I had found them previously attractive anyway. They all turned into FWB arrangements
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 02:37 PM
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No, all the ONS I’ve had have been because I was extremely drunk. I’ve hooked up with some aggressively mediocre men while inebriated. Beer goggles is a real thing. Most of the time I woke up thinking ‘wtf did I do’
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 02:15 PM
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Only guy I’ve dated was full of red flags, I saw them but I’m an idiot and had never had a boyfriend (I was nearly 19) so I overlooked everything because he ‘seemed nice and truthful’ 😂😂 Former crackhead, spent ~3 years of his life in jail on and off for a laundry list of crimes, insanely religious to a crazy degree, and cheated on his previous girlfriend with me the first time we hooked up. Why did I let this happen? I don’t know and I know it was dumb but I’ll never be letting it happen again …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:25 PM
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It’s hard to find someone you wanna LTR, it’s a lot less hard to find someone you just wanna bang. Said as a woman. I usually have a FWB on the side, because I’m somewhat disinterested in relationships right now (my life is a bit of a mess, I attract deadbeats because I don’t have my shit together so I’m trying to fix that). I’m incredibly picky in what I look for in LTRs- have only really liked one guy in my life. I’ve met way more guys who I’m physically attracted to and somewhat enjoy the com…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:00 AM
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Interpersonal chemistry is super important to me, it’s why I liked the only guy I’ve been into so much. We could talk for hours about anything and never argue, very similar viewpoints and values. Enough shared interests to have similarity there but enough different that we could share new things with each other. He was very attractive and good in bed which obviously helped, but I’ve slept with other men who were also attractive and good in bed who I felt absolutely nothing for. One of my mutual …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:52 AM
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I’m 21 and generally like guys 5-10 years older than me I’ve only had one relationship though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 01:45 PM
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I read something that explains this, I think on this sub actually, a while back. Women aren’t attracted to fuckboys, they’re attracted to men who have the ability to be fuckboys. Obviously, women are attracted to attractive men (what makes a man attractive to a woman will vary), and assuming most women aren’t attracted to most men, attractive men are somewhat rare. If these men are somewhat rare, and most women agree that they’re attractive, then they obviously have a shitload of options. It’s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:44 AM
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Absolutely not. I don’t give a flying fuck about my first. The guy who I was most invested in, is the 7th guy I’ve slept with. Haven’t seen him in over a year and still think about him frequently. First bloke I shagged? Rarely think about him unless something triggers it, literally never miss him. Being the first doesn’t mean shit if you can’t back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:24 PM
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Only dated one guy so hard to say. He wasn’t overly good looking tbh, like a 6/10 I guess, most of the guys I’ve hooked up with were of similar attractiveness levels though. I’ve hooked up with a couple of extremely hot guys but mostly they have been just slightly above average. I’m not super picky about looks, if I perceive a guy to be at least a 6/10 then he has a chance. I am quite picky about chemistry though- very rarely feel it so when I do have that vibe with someone I will be quite into …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 12:21 PM
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I don’t ever get approached in public even though I’m attractive, because I have a terrible RBF and also dress like I look kinda homeless half of the time. I wouldn’t be bothered by an approach unless I was very clearly busy or otherwise signalling I didn’t want to be spoken to (like wearing headphones). I would take it as a compliment, especially if the guy was extremely attractive. Would only bother me if I wasn’t interested in the guy and he kept pushing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:11 AM
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I’ve had a lot of hookups. In general, I have slept with quite a lot of guys, pretty sure most men on here would consider me a Slut™️. Some good, some bad. The ones I regret are the ones that happened when I was so blind drunk I hardly remember anything, or the guys in question turned out to be assholes. One guy dumped me at 1:30am in a reasonably sketchy part of my city so I regret shagging him, also had to buy 2 morning after pills and he didn’t offer to cover the cost for either of them so I …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:02 AM
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I really don’t care. I lost my virginity to a guy I knew a little bit, but not well, because I was 18 and sick of being a virgin. Figured I knew him well enough that it wouldn’t be insanely awkward, but also we weren’t close enough for it to mean anything, so on the flip side if it was terrible cutting him off wouldn’t have been difficult and I wouldn’t have ruined our prior relationship. It wasn’t great, I thought it was decent at the time but realised after sleeping with other people that it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 06:34 AM
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I would actually rather have a FWB thing with a dude who I know is fucking other girls, than date a guy I feel nothing for. I’ve only ever found one guy that I really liked who was on my wavelength, I joked with my friends that I would consensually let him have side hoes if he dated me I wouldn’t actually go that far but yeah I’d rather have something casual with a man whore who I like than be exclusive with a mid-tier dude, although neither option is super appealing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 08:42 PM
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Part 3 I honestly feel like such a red pill stereotype, scored a guy out of my league that I didn’t lock down and now no one else compares because I don’t feel chemistry with anyone else lmao. I’m glad I met him because I realised what actually liking someone feels like, and that insane chemistry can really exist between people. That’s something I didn’t have with my ex, we had awful chemistry and fundamentally extremely different worldviews which led to us consistently arguing, I never argued o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:54 PM
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Part 2 He was English, and I have a thing for English guys (I like their accents and they tend to be a lot more down to earth and sincere than Australians, where I’m from and live). 8 years older than me, I was 20 and him 28, I also have a thing for guys 6-10 years older than me. We had insane chemistry in every area, and circling back to my earlier point, similar opinions on pretty much everything important- politics, tax, religion, recycling, the environment, we even had the same opinions on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:53 PM
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My post is way too long, I had to write it in my notes app lmao. I’m gonna post it in 3 parts I’ve never been in love but I really liked one guy, way more than I’ve ever liked anyone in my life, literally the only thing I would’ve changed about him would’ve been making him like me back 😂this is gonna be kinda sappy cause I honestly miss him, it’s actually an inside joke among my friends because I still talk about him sometimes despite the fact that I haven’t seen him in over a year lmao. I’ll ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 08:52 PM
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Highly doubt it. All of my female friends have had one night stands, so have I
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 09:21 AM
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Yeah I do agree with this. I’ve been having sex for nearly 3 years, guys have made me come 5 times in those 3 years. But, I’m really awkward in bed and terrible at saying what I want. I can’t even get myself off sometimes. And I feel like guys might take it as me criticising their performance (which is something I should worry less about) The best fuck I’ve ever had in my life, was a bloke I hooked up with for 4 months. Haven’t seen him in a year, easily the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 09:25 AM
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What’s GGG?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 09:15 AM
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The couple times I’ve made the first move it didn’t work in my favour at all lol I would still do it again in the right context. But I would go about it differently
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:52 AM
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Same values and life goals, some shared interests and hobbies but also some different ones for variety so we aren’t carbon copies of each other. Shared values and life goals are important for obvious reasons, I don’t feel the need to further elaborate on that. I like to have some shared interests with a partner so we can bond over stuff, but having some interests that are different enables us to stay individuals- and I like learning about other people’s hobbies and interests that differ from min…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:24 AM
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I wouldn’t date one because I’m reasonably ‘experienced’ (would likely be perceived by many people as having slept with a somewhat high number of guys for my age) and I’m also very submissive and into BDSM shit. My best hookups and flings have all been with guys who are more experienced than me, which I prefer so they can take the lead. I wouldn’t want to be the one teaching a guy the ropes personally, it just isn’t my thing. Nothing wrong with being a virgin or never having had a relationship b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:50 AM
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Yeah, agreed there. I feel like there’s 2 main lines of red pill thought- the kind I have no issue with; which is genuinely about self improving, building confidence, becoming healthier, with the end goal of being a better human and hopefully meeting a decent girl along the way but not making it your life mission. Then there’s the toxic side- AWALT, pump and dump, string girls along, treat them like crap to make them insecure etc I view men taking on RP advice as similar to myself reading about …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:14 PM
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I don’t actually have a problem with red pilled guys if they genuinely use it to self improve and don’t become misogynists. I have a male friend who’s red pilled and he’s routinely given me good advice on spotting toxic men and trying to find good ones. He’s been fucked around by a lot of chicks so tends to piss off at the first sign that a girl isn’t a very good person, but he has a gf now and they seem happy. When he is dating a girl, he spends a lot of money on her and gives her lifts and doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:38 AM
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Are you… attracted to your daughter? That’s the way this comment comes off which is just YIKES if so ETA- yes I’m retarded apparently, I read the comment wrong. I read ‘I’m surprised I’m not in jail’ as being because his daughter is attractive, not because he wants to beat up the people who are being creepy towards her. That’s my bad, Reddit has a lot of unhinged people and tbf there are two ways to read that- so apologies for assuming the worst, that went way over my head and it’s hard to read …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:26 PM
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Something about locks and keys
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:42 PM
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Using turn signals? What?! How is that unattractive? Would they rather get T-boned by a truck? Sorry that is actually one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. If anything, I find it a massive ick when guys /don’t/ use turn signals. Makes me think they have an attitude where the world should revolve around them and everyone should read their mind and know exactly where they want to go. I actually find it attractive when guys indicate because it shows uhhh… idk, responsible driving skills? Lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:32 AM
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Lmao, same. I was not attractive in school and I had crippling social anxiety so I had no friends and boys either ignored me or were actively mean to me, one time guys literally stuck gum on my seat just to be nasty. Now those same guys try to hit on me when they see me out at the clubs, rofl. I went from a weirdo to fun just cause I'm attractive now lmao my life is literally so much better
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:24 AM
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Yeah, I'm a woman and I have Asperger's and whenever I tell people they're very surprised. Literally no one has ever just guessed I'm autistic based on my behaviour. To be honest I have a great social life and a lot of friends and I have literally zero issues finding men to talk to. I think people would definitely describe me as erratic, but it's just enough to make me fun lmaoooo Probably helps that I'm objectively good looking as well
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:24 AM
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I think so. I'm Aussie and don't see the height obsession here much, although I live regionally and not in a capital city (my city has ~150k people) so maybe that makes a difference, I'm not sure as I've lived here basically my whole life. I know a couple who have been together for over 4 years, the guy is slightly shorter than the girl. My best friend dated a guy for 14 months who was at a maximum 2 inches taller than her, probably less. The guy I lost my virginity to was about 5'7 (I'm nearly …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:01 AM
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Most likely yes, although it's hard for me to say with certainty because I don't live in an upscale place lol, there's a ton of crime here. If it was a repeated behaviour I would likely just pay for it and distance myself if I felt like the person in question was taking the piss and frequently asking. If it was a once off or happened really occasionally I wouldn't be bothered. I've had people pay extra to take me home multiple times
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:15 AM
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If it was $7, yes, I don't care about $7. If it was like $15 I'd ask if he could pay me back ETA- would also depend on the time of day, the neighbourhood, whether or not we were drunk, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:34 PM
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Uhh.... Yes? Not OP but I'll still answer. I've paid for ubers multiple times for guy friends, off the top of my head I have one guy friend especially who is quite frankly useless with money and I've bought him ubers multiple times, he has never paid me back and I don't expect him to even though he said he would. I've shouted him weed and alcohol, I paid $30 for him to come to my birthday because he was broke and I wanted him there. He has shouted me shit like that as well, it's not a tit-for-ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 11:27 AM
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If a guy did this, I probably wouldn't date him. If I decided I liked him enough to try and make it work, I would break up with him quite swiftly if I realised it wasn't something I could deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:41 AM
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She's still way better looking than Jonah Hill, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:09 AM
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Bahahha this would take nearly everyone out of the dating pool instantly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:40 AM
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Agreed. 'Don't bother women' is also such a broad statement - if a girl is out walking her dog with earphones in, yeah maybe not. If she's trying to do shopping and looks busy, probably not. I honestly think a lot of men can't read signals either- even somewhere like the gym is, imo, an acceptable place to make small talk with a girl if you catch each other's eyes a few times and decide to try initiate a basic conversation. Hitting on a girl doesn't have to be overt - exchanging a few words to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 06:47 AM
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Yeah I agree, most girls don't think guys are rapists in disguise trying to hit on them. I have no problem with guys hitting on me- shoot your shot, what else can you do? I can't talk cause I don't have to do anything to be approached lmao. I've had 2 guys that I would consider loose friends both ask me in the past fortnight if I would ever hook up with them, lmao. I just said no and we all moved on and I haven't heard anything about it since 🤷🏻‍♀️ it's really not a big deal and no woman is goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:50 PM
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'supplicating' I learnt a new word today
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:44 AM
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Honestly I think it's highly dependent on the group you associate with. I'm only 20, and all of my friends have had sex and relationships, and have been experiencing things in that vein for a few years. But I hang around with a lot of party animals- people who go clubbing multiple times a week, who take recreational drugs, etc When I just sat at home with no job playing video games all day I had very little social interaction. I didn't have the first clue about how to interact with men. I'm stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:06 AM
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I think it's definitely easier for women to level up and attract people regarding neurodivergence, but easier doesn't mean easy. This is just an anecdote obviously, but as a woman who has ASD and used to have crippling social anxiety, my life kinda sucked. As soon as I entered high school, I was ditched by my friend group of 4 years, and managed to make one friend in my 2 and a half years of high school. People would mostly ignore me or otherwise just be very rude, I can't count the amount of ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 08:50 AM
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No, intelligence is vital to me. It's impossible for me to maintain long term attraction to someone who I think is stupid. I've only ever really liked one guy in my life, and a massive part of why is because he was very smart
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:54 PM
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For me, because most of them already have girlfriends or flings. Although I will readily admit, multiple of my male friends have had things for me at some point, it was just a very long time ago. One of them I've known for 5 and a half years now, when we first met he would sit really close to me all the time, buy me things, etc. Before meeting me, he also had a crush on the friend that introduced us both. He's the type of guy that crushes really quickly, and he's also the type of guy that would …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 04:00 AM
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I think there's a time and a place. Being alone is better than being in a shit or mediocre relationship, but being in a great relationship is better than being alone. You also need to be in the right headspace for a relationship to thrive. I dated a guy for 5 months quite a while ago and the relationship itself was terrible, I was actually glad when he broke up with me for the final time because I didn't have to do it myself. I spent a few months hoping I would find someone else, since that was …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:36 AM
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When a man becomes too clingy, needy and overbearing. When I feel like he's relying on my positive response to carry his mood for the day. When I feel like the only thing he has going on in his life is trying to suck up to me. When he has no other points of social contact. When he also comes across as feminine, having no backbone, or being a weak doormat or pushover. When he comes off as trying way too hard for something I don't need him to try for. Happened to me recently with a FWB, I cut it o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 09:38 AM
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Definitely the woman, no questions asked. I'm straight but I've kissed several of my female friends when out drinking, and some chicks I hardly know. Girls can be good kissers and it's just a bit of fun lol. On the other hand I would be slightly repulsed by trying to kiss an unattractive man
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:08 PM
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Oh I wasn't really arguing for anything specific, was just saying I relate to the commenter I replied to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:12 AM
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Same! Was ignored and even teased by blokes in high school, now I have them hitting on me when I run into the clubs because I'm attractive now. I find it both hilarious and a bit of an ego boost lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:56 AM
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I agree. Looks are definitely important, but once you pass the threshold, everything else comes into play. I had a FWB recently for about 6 weeks that I cut off, a pretty decent looking guy. Tall, tan, decently in shape, pretty attractive face. Trying to be objective, I'd rate him about an 8 I guess? But the dude had no game, wasn't very good at picking up girls, just came off as quite awkward and not very self assured when he went out, was always way too apologetic about hitting on women and di…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:21 PM
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Lost a lot of weight, got better style and fixed my atrocious bleached hair, took out some of my many piercings since I looked like a tackle box. I was legitimately not very good looking, probably very average, and I was invisible to men- or guys would be actively rude to me if I was getting acknowledged. It didn't help that I was definitely one of the 'weird kids,' I had crippling social anxiety which prevented me from having any meaningful conversations with people I wasn't already close to. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:59 AM
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A life partner. This sub hasn't jaded me at all really, it's made me learn some interesting things about men, women and even myself. Most of the rhetoric spewed on here is hardly even relevant to real life a good majority of the time. I just come to read debates because I find them entertaining, and occasionally give some input Also, it's generally not going to be the satisfied, happy, well-adjusted people finding these corners of the internet, it's going to attract outliers with extreme views. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:46 AM
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Nothing to be done. Especially if you didn't even meet in person, there's nothing you can do. My only advice is to try not to get too attached to outcomes when you haven't even met someone in person. Also, don't take this the wrong way, but coming off as too attached too quickly can kill attraction a bit. If I felt like a guy was way too invested in me when I'd never even met him, I think I'd feel weird and would back off
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:42 AM
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General compatibility, like having similar views on kids, travelling, money, religion etc. I feel like a lot of people (not just men but probably mostly) get into relationships just for the hell of it with people they are really not compatible with at all. I'm extremely picky, not so much on looks, but on the aforementioned traits. If a guy wants kids, is religious, a massive homebody with no desire to travel, or not very intelligent then it's gonna be a hard no from me. Not because the guy is b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:05 AM
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Haha, thank you! I've been reading RP stuff since I was like 15, actually was into anti-feminist stuff years ago, then flipped over to feminist, now I'm just more in the middle. I make a pretty large effort to maintain self awareness and view things from different angles, I've always enjoyed reading different view points, even ones I vehemently disagree with. But yeah, wouldn't be surprised if people assume I was groomed or manipulated or whatever, but I definitely wasn't. I've always tended to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:03 AM
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Haha, thank you! I've been reading RP stuff since I was like 15, actually was into anti-feminist stuff years ago, then flipped over to feminist, now I'm just more in the middle. I make a pretty large effort to maintain self awareness and view things from different angles, I've always enjoyed reading different view points, even ones I vehemently disagree with. But yeah, wouldn't be surprised if people assume I was groomed or manipulated or whatever, but I definitely wasn't. I've always tended to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:03 AM
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Agreed with all of these. On age gaps, I'm young (20) and most of the guys I've had things with are a decent bit older than me. My ex was 6 years older, a guy I had a 4 month fling with was 8 years older, a recent FWB was 7 years older, and a guy I've just started hooking up with is 7 years older. Most girls I know actually prefer older guys by quite a wide margin, myself included. I've never had anyone say anything bad about it, at most they might express a bit of surprise and then they move on…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 02:28 PM
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I don't care if a guy has RP knowledge, I agree with quite a lot of things RP says (and I'm a woman). I agree with stating that women and men are different, how they're different and how those differences affect gender dynamics. I also know dating is harder for blokes so I don't have an issue with a guy using parts of RP as genuine motivation to better himself. Hell, I'd say I've gained a better understanding of both men and women and even myself from reading a lot of RP content over the years. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:57 PM
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No, I've been childfree since I was 5 and my parents are completely supportive. They actually actively agree that I shouldn't have kids since I really don't want them. They have never given af about grandchildren, and don't give a shit about their legacy or carrying on the bloodline. My mum actually thinks it's ludicrous that people expect grandkids from their children, and considers it completely inappropriate to ask that of your child. EDIT- when I was like 16, I asked her opinion on grandchil…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 12:22 PM
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I'm so glad my parents don't want me to have grandkids because of some weird idea they have that I owe them new life
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:57 AM
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They are attractive when balanced out with masculine energy and traits. But yeah not so much sexually, more romantically. I'd want a guy to have these traits if he was also self assured, confident, and good looking. Wouldn't really care for a guy if he had these traits while also coming off as somewhat effeminate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:28 AM
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Work in progress? Sure, most of us are, I definitely am. Insecure? No. Everyone has some insecurities but if it's very constant I will just lose attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:57 AM
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Not if he's physically unattractive but it can help if he's somewhat above average already. You have to pass the looks threshold, which will vary from person to person, but once you've passed that a lot of other things will come into play. I've found guys physically attractive, like an 8/10, but if they are super quiet and lacking in confidence I won't be overly attracted to them sexually (probably also because I like dominant men). And I've met guys who I found maybe a 6/10 initially that I end…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:30 AM
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What's this story?? I wanna know
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:37 AM
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Nope, not my thing. I would be paranoid leaving the house for the rest of my life, lol I am definitely sexually liberal though EDIT- why downvote? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:51 PM
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It's usually because they're giving each other signs to be saved. Me and my friends have done this for each other heaps of times, or just started dancing and making out to make it look like we're a couple. It doesn't really have anything to do with attractiveness in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:29 AM
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Idk, I'm a woman and not overly fussed about marriage. I absolutely do not ever want kids under any circumstance, I would like to get married one day but it's not a life goal of mine. If it never happens I won't be crying on my death bed over it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:07 AM
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Wdym, the having sex before dating? Just personal preference for me, J would rather find out if I'm sexually compatible with someone before I get into a relationship with them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:44 AM
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I guess the only purpose of a relationship is to have kids, not because you love the other person or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 12:30 PM
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Tbh I would not date a virgin. I would feel very awkward. But I wouldn't break up with them since I won't date someone unless I've already had sex with them, therefore we would just never date in the first place and nothing would ever happen
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:59 AM
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Any reason is a valid reason to break up with someone, coming from someone with a relatively high count for my age. A guy who would break up with me over that isn't someone I'd be compatible with anyway, so I wouldn't care one iota. I just disagree with shaming people and acting like it's a mistake to have casual sex, it's fine to not want someone who does casual relationships but acting like they are somehow worse or damaged for it is what I don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:57 AM
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I don't really notice dick size tbh. I know my ex had a pretty small dick but that's legit it. Every other guy I've slept with is more or less the same in my head. The guy I'm seeing rn has a slightly smaller dick than the last guy I had an ongoing fling with but I don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 05:14 AM
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I don't have a problem with it. I'm quite a social person and have a lot of friends, probably quite an even split between men and women. My ex was very friendly with everyone and I had no issue with it. I'm currently in a very casual open relationship so that's obviously very different but we both have a lot of friends and are free to talk and flirt with other people. I'm also not a jealous person whatsoever and I tend to hang out with other social people
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:50 AM
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Absolutely. I could potentially become attracted to a guy who's a little bit less than what I would normally find attractive, like a point lower. I could never become attracted to someone who I don't find has any good looking attributes. I need to find you at least a 7 to even consider it, and I generally go for guys who are 8+ I had a male friend who was obsessed with me for over a year (no I didn't lead him on, I told him I wasn't interested, we only interacted like once a month in clubs in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:30 AM
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I think C for most of the girls I know. We are all pretty honest about wanting someone attractive. I have no issue admitting that I'm picky and only attracted to a small subset of men. Although I do know a couple of good looking girls with dudes who are a couple of points below them lookswise When I was a teenager and had no sex or relationship experience, I honestly thought that personality would be more important for me. After getting involved with men, I think personality and looks are both e…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:21 AM
1

Can confirm. Before losing my virginity I thought about sex so often, now I don't think about it much
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 07:54 AM
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I am not really phased by how many girls a guy I'm sleeping with has slept with previously. The guy I'm currently seeing casually has slept with 20-30 girls, I really don't care. I've slept with 10 people and I was only really into 2 of them. I'm extremely submissive so I like a guy with experience because that fits my sexual preferences, I'm also into BDSM and most guys who are into that will need experience to be good at it. I'd rather not teach and just get the end result lol I also frankly d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 07:31 AM
1

Have your own savings 100%, just don't hide that fact. I'd have no problem with a guy having savings. I'd rather keep money seperate than put it all together anyway tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 08:55 AM
2

I'm not phased at all by a guy playing video games. I used to play quite a lot, but it was never an all consuming hobby of mine. If I got super into a game or series, I could spend a couple of weeks playing it non-stop, but if there wasn't anything I was super into then I could easily go weeks or even months without playing. What is an ick is taking gaming way too seriously, like screaming and rage quitting like a 5 year old. Or shunning real life to keep yourself on a leaderboard
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:53 AM
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HAHAHAHAH I'm just being honest, if you're not into that scene you'll end up making more laidback friends. You obviously wouldn't get along with me and my friends so neither of us are exactly missing out on anything 🤷🏻‍♀️ When I was like 14 and quiet I didn't know anyone into that kind of shit Edit: also shame job asking someone a question and then acting like it's gross. If you're boring and hate doing anything out of your comfort zone, good for you! Don't act like people who do are awful. Get …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 05:16 AM
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Among my friend group, I don't know any virgins (most of my friends are 18-21, I'm 20). But me and my mates are all heavily into drinking, clubbing, partying, recreational drugs, BDSM etc, so that probably plays a part. I definitely hang out with a lot of extroverts and I don't have many friends that are quiet or not into that scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 03:02 AM
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Lmao.... Same. I can barely handle being stuck with myself 24/7 LOL let alone a tiny dependent being
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 10:28 AM
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Yeah same. Even if all the conditions were 'perfect' and there was a guarantee I would have an ideal child, I still wouldn't. Finances and other shit are extra reasons, but the biggest and only reason I need is that I just really don't want them. If I woke up tomorrow in a utopia with $10 billion I still wouldn't do it lol In fact you couldn't even pay me that much to have a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 10:19 AM
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Nope. Been adamantly childfree since I was 5 and my mum told me what sex was (I asked), as soon as I could even vaguely conceptualise anything relating to parenthood, I noped the fuck out. There is genuinely not a single aspect of being a parent, much less a mother, that I think seems enjoyable. I literally don't understand any reason for wanting to do it lol. I think life just missed me with the biological imperative to have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:57 AM
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Personally no. Im 20 and I wouldn't date a guy 30+. If your age starts with a 3, too old for me lol. My ideal age range for a guy is 25-28
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:26 AM
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No. I gave so many fucks when I was younger that I have none left to give, I used them all up lol I don't have any issue attracting men, I'm just incompatible with most people and live in a small city so I can't find anyone I would want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 04:39 AM
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This just in, it is literally women's obligation to society to pop out babies they don't want. More on Fox News at 7pm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:55 AM
1

He used to be addicted to meth. He was religious conveniently but didn't really live by it. Constantly trying to convince everyone else to become Christian though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:09 AM
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I honestly have no idea I don't really know why I read so many posts on here 😂 I've spent hours on here and I don't think I've learnt much I just find the level of delusion funny sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 05:56 AM
1

I honestly have no idea I don't really know why I read so many posts on here 😂 I've spent hours on here and I don't think I've learnt much I just find the level of delusion funny sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 05:47 AM
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1/8 imo, maybe 2... Idk what everyone's definition of Chad is though. The first guy I slept with was 5'7 and really insecure about his height and dick size which was unattractive. He was also just a bit of a wanker and I cut him off after a couple of months lol. We didn't have much in common, we would just hang out and smoke weed and play video games. He also gave me low-key misogynist vibes The second guy I had a one night stand with, he was decent looking but not a Chad. He looked half indian …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:03 AM
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I'm a woman and hell no lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:14 AM
1

Is this legal? I know there's tribes in like Africa and shit that do this... Not in the first world though to my knowledge. Wouldn't it be somewhat equivalent to like a sundown town lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:19 AM
1

What's FAANGS?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:07 AM
2

Nope. Would rather date a guy who slept with 1000 women before I'd ever date a dad. I absolutely despise being around children, I don't want my own, I don't want to help raise anyone else's, and I generally do not ever want to be around them in any capacity. You couldn't pay me all the money in the world to have or raise kids with anyone. I'd rather catch 10 STDs, at least most of them can be cured lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 01:33 PM
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Sounds great to me. My dream setup in an LTR would be owning a duplex, we each have our own side of the duplex and can spend a few hours apart here and there if there's certain activities we want to do or just need some space.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:10 AM
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If the genders were reversed and they were guys, I'd go for the second 100%. I would never ever ever date a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:06 AM
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I mean a guy who has a reasonably high IQ and can talk about a wide range of subjects like politics, black holes, theology, extinct animals, art, whatever. I don't mean a guy who has a degree or a fancy job or a certain amount of life experience, just a guy who's intelligent and verbose and has opinions and can hold his own in a conversation without asking for clarification on the meaning of words every 2 seconds. A guy who can add input to a conversation and tell me cool shit I don't already kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 04:22 AM
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I would beg to differ for myself. Haha. Intelligence is one of my top 3 traits I would list in a guy. It's super duper important to me and I will get turned off if a guy seems dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 01:14 AM
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Agreed. There's a guy who has had a massive crush on me for over a year, I met him just over a year ago while working as a door to door salesperson, I had a bf at the time, he has tried so many times over the past year to try talk me into liking him basically and I just really don't. I don't even hang out with him ever, I just run into him out clubbing every weekend briefly since he works at the club. The desperation grosses me out, I don't feel we have any compatibility despite him insisting we…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:09 PM
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I'm a woman so I can't speak for men, but I wonder why intelligence is very rarely listed as a top trait for women. I would wager it doesn't usually even make a man's top 10 traits he likes in women. Kinda frustrating since I consider my intelligence my greatest asset and select for intelligent guys but men don't really care about it overall lol Not complaining since I have other good traits but I am honestly curious, men feel free to answer EDIT- got a lot of replies so instead of responding in…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:56 PM
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Doesn't everyone have to pay towards issues that they don't agree with though? That's just how living in a tax paying society works. There's heaps of shit I have to fund with my tax dollars that I would rather not, but that's the price you pay living in a first world country
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 08:37 AM
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How TF can the ideal for any woman under 30 be zero?? If I met a woman, or man, who was 30 and had never had sex or been in a relationship, that would be a major red flag for me and I'd assume they were deficient in some area to have literally never had sex before that point. Most people lose their virginity at about 18, it literally makes no sense to want or expect a virgin in your late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:10 AM
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That's fair and I'm sure there are women like that, but tbf I think if most men could get laid more they would. All the Chads I know do not wait for relationships, they have sex when they meet a girl they're attracted to if she's willing, which is quite a lot. Good looking people in general are having a lot more sex. And no, I wouldn't see it as a red flag, just discussing compatibility. I wouldn't see it much differently than discussing whether you want kids or where you want to live, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:37 AM
1

I honestly have no idea. I have a really high libido, I could have sex 3 times a day for an hour minimum if time allowed, lol. I also have a friend who has a way higher sex drive than her boyfriend. Tbh though, the girls I know with the highest sex drives also have somewhat high partner counts... Which a lot of guys on here complain about. It would be kinda hard to find a girl who both really likes having sex and also hasn't had that much sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:43 PM
1

I've actually known about mewing and done it for a while, like a few years, not even on purpose, it's just how my mouth naturally rests now lol, my palate is also kinda wide (not super wide but it isn't narrow) I did have some v minor dental problems when I was 8 but those were resolved at that age so 12 yrs ago Tbf my mouth might even have enough room, it's just that the tooth is partially erupted so at the very least I need to get part of the gum removed I think, I'll have to go to a dentist t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:56 AM
5

I live in Australia, nearly everything here is covered by Medicare so I've never needed insurance, I literally know one person with insurance and that's my mum's bf who is a teacher. For some fucked reason dental health is not covered whatsoever even though nearly literally everything else is🤡 there are some really cheap insurance options so I'm planning on getting it to cover dental shit in the future Kinda pisses me off that we cover all these pregnancy related things, which is literally a cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:23 AM
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Lol too relatable, I have a fucked up wisdom tooth and will probs need to spend like $1k of my $2k savings on pulling that bitch out lmao 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:44 AM
1

Thank god I'm never having kids lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:38 AM
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Literally no idea. As someone who has been raped and does not care to ever see my rapist again, like the vast majority of people who have been raped, this screams mental illness to me, or made up ragebait for clicks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:19 AM
1

Very hard. Used to be easy for me if I was by myself, now I will give up and stop about half the time because it will take too long and I'll get bored lol With someone, nearly impossible. I've been having sex regularly for about 10 months, I've only cum once with a guy that I dated for 5 months, it was probably 4 months into our relationship when that happened and it hasn't happened since
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:42 AM
1

I prefer dark eyes to light, but I think eye shape is more important than colour, I like almond eyes. Facial hair is nice too since I like slightly older guys, not guys who look baby-faced, I know a lot of guys who look good with facial hair but not as good without. I'm not a huge fan of full beards though, more like a layer of facial hair. I don't like really thin lips, I find it attractive when a guy has nice lips and white teeth is obviously a plus. Clear skin, I am not attracted to acne. Rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:22 AM
1

You cared enough to respond until you were faced with something you couldn't provide an adequate response to. You're still engaging, just not with anything that threatens your position. Pro-lifers are never open to dialogue though so I'm not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 06:31 AM
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Well, yes, and don't even try to pretend otherwise. You didn't respond to my last comment to you before this which brought up real issues. Stop pretending you care when you won't have an open dialogue and just stop replying the second you can't defend your position. It's seriously pathetic. You just reply to what you feel like and then can't be fucked as soon as someone has an argument you have no response to. You don't really care about abortion, you care about yelling about abortion because it…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 05:19 AM
1

No you really don't. You ignored my last comment to you because you don't have a good response. You don't give a shit about women or people already born, you're just sitting on your moral high horse trying to crusade for the unborn, who you stop caring about as soon as they cease to be unborn 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:00 PM
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The reason I got pregnant? Because I was with a guy who told me he was infertile when he wasn't, and when I brought up getting on birth control, he brushed me off because 'I can't get you pregnant anyway' and then bam, 3 weeks after knowing him I was pregnant. My biggest crime was believing what he told me. We stayed together for all of 5 months, and now he's moving across the country for work, so I would've been stuck with a baby I never wanted with zero parenting support, aside from my mother …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:59 AM
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Something that could become a baby isn't a baby. Have whatever opinion you want but imo it is genuinely 100x more unethical to continue a pregnancy knowing you'll be an unfit parent, than is it to destroy some cells before they gain any level of awareness. Something that could become a baby will never be more important than people who are already on the earth and who have lived experiences. I've had an abortion, I don't regret it at all, having a kid would've 100% ruined mine and the child's lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:47 AM
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Could successfully become one, a large amount of pregnancies end in miscarriage. A seed could grow into a tree, given the right conditions, but there's no guarantee it will sprout, and pulling a seed out of the ground definitely isn't the same thing as chopping down a tree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:41 AM
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Neither of them is a baby 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:32 AM
3

Haha so original zygotes are babies like seeds are trees I feel bad for the millions of sperm every day who never get a chance, masturbation is genocide
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 05:27 AM
4

Lol! Good luck trying to get everyone who doesn't want kids at this moment to just stop having sex. That's just stupid, I hear people say this shit sometimes and it baffles me so much. Humans have sex drives from the age of puberty, it's obscenely dumb to suggest everyone abstain from sex until they are literally prepared to parent. I don't ever want kids, doesn't mean I'm going to stop having sex. I've had an abortion and I'll have another one if I ever find myself pregnant again. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:52 AM
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This is not an answer to the question at all, but I'm so glad I live in a country where abortion is readily and easily available nationwide (Australia). I feel bad for Americans sometimes, these laws are literally going backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 03:46 AM
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I haven't had one so this isn't directed at me but I would date someone who has. I would also be down to try it but it isn't something I would actively seek out. Maybe I'm abnormal but I don't really feel any jealousy around people's sex life or sexual history, I don't care how many people my partner has slept with before me or what shit they did (with exceptions like beastiality, incest, cheating, sexual assault etc, any of that would turn me off instantly). I don't expect people to hold back b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:14 AM
1

Hmm, I don't see the problem with it assuming you've only been on one rlor two dates and don't really know each other. A few hours is not enough to ascertain whether or not you want to be exclusive with someone, I would have no issues with a man doing the same. It just seems logical to me tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:23 AM
1

Hell yeah, I am smart and good looking and fun so I would date male version of me. But I'm also a tiny bit crazy in that I'll try literally nearly anything once so it would be chaotic I think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 03:34 AM
2

I'm 19 and the only guy I've dated was 25 🤷 some of my friends thought it was weird and that he was creepy, but some didn't think it was weird at all. I didn't find it weird imo, my friend dated a 24 year old when she was 17. I don't think I would date someone much older than that, but I don't have a problem with people who would. If I met someone who was basically perfect but older than ideal I'd still give it a go.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:49 AM
1

I broke up with my boyfriend just over a week ago, so I'm single again so this doesn't really apply to me anymore but I'll answer anyway. He was the third person I slept with, only one I dated, definitely the Chaddiest™ of the 3 but idk if he would count as a full blown Chad? He was super tall, 6'4, so maybe that alone is enough for him to be a Chad, I don't really know what the criteria is. He was kinda overweight and probably objectively a 7/10 facially with a beard, maybe a 6 without. The two…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:19 AM
2

I agree with the self improvement aspects. I agree with not placing all of your happiness on whether women like you or not and improving yourself for your own benefit. I agree with having self respect and not being a simp and treating women like ~queens~ because they're existing. I also agree that a decent amount of women display a decent amount of behaviours that are described on here, but nowhere near as many as RPers try to make out. I also don't think either gender is worse than the other, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:37 AM
1

I have an interest in watching people discuss gender issues, regardless of their opinion I find it interesting to hear different stuff from different people. I also use it so I can identify RP men in real life and next them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:47 AM
1

I'm an INTP and I think my boyfriend is INFJ We get along really well and have similar views on life and usually agree on things. Our personalities are similar enough that we have a lot in common but also enough differences to balance each other out. I'd say we're both relatively quiet, were both sociable and like hanging out with mates but will avoid conflict and also like just going home after work and hanging out with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:33 AM
1

I'm falling in love right now. But that's a recent thing, I've been on this sub/known of it for a few years, I can't even remember where I first heard of it. I used to read and watch heaps of anti-/sjw/feminist arguments online and found this sub one day, I just stayed subbed because I found it entertaining tbh. I do think some of the conversations can be pretty interesting, but I take nearly everything I see on here with a grain of salt, I don't see much of this stuff reflected in real life to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 03:42 AM
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Personally no, I'm probably a minority here but I actually usually develop a further interest in someone after I've already slept with them, not the other way around. Of the 3 guys I've slept with in my life, the first one I had known of for quite a while but only actually hung out with him a few times, the second was a one night stand (sort of, we met up once before having sex), and the third I had known for a couple of days (and now we're dating). I understand why other people like waiting, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 01:08 AM
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I need both to be in a relationship. I had a thing with a guy for a few months that never went anywhere, we were basically FWB that hung out all the time but barely actually had sex. I didn't know any better since he was my first lol and I was attracted to him and genuinely thought I liked it at the time, but since I couldn't really read his feelings about me and he wasn't open at all it made it not very enjoyable in retrospect, and now that I have something so much better I would never go back.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:23 AM
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Idk, it would depend on how old they are and whether or not they were single and how the hookups happened. You're probably gonna end up with a higher number if you're single for long periods of time than if you're consistently in relationships. I don't really have a specific number I would start to call high it would matter more with context I'm just under a month into my first ever relationship, and my partner has a pretty high body count. My body count is 3 (I'm nearly 19) and he's lost count …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:38 AM
1

I don't. I'm completely realistic about all the great aspects and shortcomings that each of my friends have, and I try to be aware of my own. I have a friend who's obese and becomes a stage 5 clinger as soon as a guy shows interest in her, I've seen it happen with that many guys now, so I would never set her up with a quality dude or anyone for that matter cause she needs to sort her own shit out first and stop subjecting poor guys to her fragile mental state 🤷 but I won't say that to her, she's…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 05:32 AM
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