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Sciencelybid8/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:53 AM
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Sperm quality deteriorates consistently and linearly. Eggs don’t deteriorate much because they are not susceptead to constant division. Any DNA damage, autism and similar abnormalities are a result of mutations in sperm. For women, what deteriorates is general hormonal health and the physical body, resulting in higher risk pregnancies (for the mother not the child).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:23 AM
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There is some truth to that but it also depends on your individual genetics/optimal body type. Working out too much or being too slim can and does affect fertility, but again that looks different on different people. I’ve actually seen more acceptance towards bigger body types in the past decade to the point that skinny is not even considered as attractive anymore as the elusive “slim thick”, which usually means the woman has to work out to look anything close to that. I’m all for working out an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:45 PM
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I think it’s fine in moderation. Research shows that mushrooms and mdma can have long lasting positive effects on the brain. For example, you can microdose on mushrooms instead of taking antidepressants and the effects are more permanent. I myself have had positive life changing experiences with the aforementioned drugs and see them more as a medicine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:58 AM
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These scrotes need to get asked how they’re gonna split a pregnancy. I sure hope he intends to pay for all her medical bills, her loss of income, and her loss of career opportunities at the very minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:48 AM
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I was reading the book No More Mr Nice Guy because initially I thought it would help me identify so called nice guys better, and it did, but it also made me realize that there’s plenty of “nice girls” out there too as you describe in your post. Good read by the way for anyone looking to understand and identify such people better. Definitely made me feel less crazy for finding certain things annoying/overbearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:07 PM
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He’s right about one thing, she is a Queen. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:16 AM
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Signs I have noticed for men who are either entirely or mostly into a specific ethnicity: * they straight up say it; * they have a history of dating primarily one specific ethnicity while living in a multicultural city; * they put a specific culture on a pedestal by OFTEN mentioning how much they love one or another thing from the specific culture + they reject their own culture (if they have one) by putting it down in various ways; * they listen to music or consume other content in that languag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:56 AM
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That’s actually hilarious, and who knows maybe men know that they’re infantile and want women to make all the decisions for them bc they know deep down women would make better decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 03:49 AM
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Not sure how this relates to the topic but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:01 AM
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I’m not sure what you’re trying to say - for you it’s better to have a partnership without emotional significance than to not have a partnership at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:03 PM
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Hahaha, very true, I’ve seen that come up quite a bit ie “sex is just sex” or “I’ll have sex with her if the only attractive thing about her is that she likes me” followed up with complaints that women don’t experience sexuality in the same way 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:51 PM
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Yeah… posts like these make me wonder if men and women as a whole just have a very different experience when it comes to sexuality/attraction, or whether it’s just the men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:36 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:07 AM
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Why tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:06 AM
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Well, duh, one of the people loses sexual interest, and based on the stories there’s a good proportion of men who lose interest too. What I’m talking about is the reason that person loses interest is in my opinion, in most cases, bc the other person isn’t working out enough or acting otherwise unsexy/unskilled in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:53 AM
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It does our society no good for people who don’t want children to be having children so go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:57 AM
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Generally speaking, obviously no. Is there someone in the world who would? Possibly. They would just be very hard to find, esp if you speak of women with no mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:39 AM
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Sorry but your opinions won’t change reality 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:46 PM
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You dumb?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:55 PM
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Even if you’re right, I don’t think the lack of desire for commitment in prospective partners would bother me very much. I try to make my life as complete as possible in every way and if I’m ever single and not finding a quality man willing to commit, that’s fine, I can still get sex if I want, and that’s more than what the average older guy has going for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:15 PM
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The expectation that women are supposed to act and look like pornstars, while men can be as unattractive and unskilled in bed as they want. I’m convinced that this is the crux behind most r/DeadBedroom stories, as in one of the people in a partnership not taking care of themselves while expecting their partner to cater to their every sexual need. Anyways, I digress, to get into specifics I’ll say that the expectation that women are hairless or even partially hairless, as well as that she is alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:12 PM
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Good, then we agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:27 PM
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So you agree that women Should be keeping their pussy on lockdown unless the man passes a long vetting process?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 06:24 PM
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Volunteering for park cleanups or other causes you actually care about. You’re building your sense of community even if you don’t meet a HVM in the process. Meetups or classes that relate to your interests, where again you’d be investing in your own value even if you don’t meet a man in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:28 PM
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My whole point is that society tries to push the idea that women are the one reaching their reproductive limit in their 30s and that they should all hurry up and get married, when the opposite is true lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:16 PM
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Wow I love seeing a red piller foam at the mouth with denial in face of actual linked articles. They looked at the number of mutations passed from the father vs the mother in the offspring, and found that the number of mutations passed from the father increases steadily with fathers age and the number of mutations passed from the mother stays about the same. Sure this doesn’t tell you what type of mutations, but the more of them the greater likelihood of a bad one happening, proven with my artic…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:12 PM
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I think dating prospects change more than they decline, at least more in my experience as a woman. As a 15 year old my dating prospects were greasy broke teenagers, as a woman in my 20s, my dating prospects are handsome well off men. If anything my dating prospects improved so far. Will they decrease in my 30s? Based on what I hear, probably not. Pussy is always going to be valuable 🤷‍♀️ dick is cheap and plentiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:08 PM
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It has been defined as a woman reaching that age where she should be more careful about having children etc
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:04 PM
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In a sense we do. Apparently our sense of smell and our ability to identify suitable partners is more develop than we consciously realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:03 PM
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Sure everyone loses attractiveness with age though. did you know that the fathers smoking and drinking habits reflect in the offspring too? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:01 PM
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You must’ve not seen heavy makeup in real life; it tends to look disturbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:47 AM
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In my circle of friends/general age group/culture I would say that men are punching up, and when they’re not, then it’s about equal. I’ve seen couples outside of my culture where the man is punching down however. But then again that’s only MY opinion and my subjective assessment of their attractiveness. I would assume the people in the actual relationship are both individually punching up as they find their partner suitably attractive/smart/wealthy whatever have you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:44 AM
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I think the main issue that people see with age gaps has to do with difference in life experience and the fact that the older person is much more able to manipulate and coerce the younger person. That’s why it’s icky. Not to mention difference in life expectancy and health if the two were to be in a long term relationship. Old man sperm also accumulates a ton of mutations by the time the man reaches his 40s and that’s just unfair to any offsprings he might want to have with the woman. I have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:19 AM
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The sense of entitlement some males seem to have when it comes to gratifying their sexual needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 12:01 AM
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Y’all claim to love agreeable women but then get married to the opinionated “crazy” ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:20 PM
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If by hypergamy you mean “dating up” then I think that is a subjective matter but that generally people try to get the best that they can get. For example you might think you’re dating up by getting a busty girl, and she might think she’s dating up by getting a rich guy (assuming you are rich for the sake of this example), so you’re both dating up 🤷‍♀️ I’m not really sure what you’re worried about though, if you’re worried that people will look at you dating a busty girl and judge you, then I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:38 PM
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That will be subjective as well son. I’ve seen all types of men next to busty women, tall, short, stylish, bum looking, anyone and everyone seriously. Even fat and skinny together is a pretty normal sight. I question a couples compatibility only when they have extremely different clothing styles or manners of speech or interests in music, more so that type of stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:29 PM
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The math you’re proposing is: if a fat and thin person together is questionable, then what does a man have to look like to not be questionable next to a busty woman? I don’t think you will get a straight answer to that question. You could be tall and muscular and that will look fine but you could also be short and not very strong and that will look fine too, I’ve seen all sorts of men with busty women. Fat and skinny people together is also pretty normal and I’ve seen that alot too, the only thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:24 PM
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Boob size preference is such an individual thing that it’s hard to really say, not to mention there is no functional advantage to big breast (does not affect milk production), if anything they would slow a woman down and cause back pain at a certain size. The question should really be how attractive do you have to be to only go for people you are attracted to, which like, again super subjective, unless you are assuming that all the women you are attracted to have the exact same type in men. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 08:17 PM
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Whatever percentage it is hahaha imagine caring about impressing a bunch of losers 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 12:04 AM
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Same scrotes who defend their right to be brutally honest, are not going around being brutally kind, brutally successful, brutally handsome etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:38 PM
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Just want to add that they also throw that at every women they like because they don't think they have a chance unless they employ negging tactics. Scrotes gonna scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:33 PM
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Is someone triggered by the fact that I’m not gonna appreciate help from y’all in a problem y’all created? If your only value is protecting me from other men, then I don’t want it, I’ll protect myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:14 PM
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I guess you and I have been looking at different types of research then. If you look really hard you can find both men and women getting fucked over in courts, the reality is that most people get treated in accordance with current laws and neither men or women win en masse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:13 PM
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Yeah not all women will be in a relationship but the point is that women don’t really care to be in a relationship bc their sexual and societal needs will be met regardless. One of the better looking guys might not date a lesser looking woman necessarily but he will still fuck her (and many other women) and that’s how she gets her sexual needs met even while being single. Not all good looking men will be promiscuous though so yes SOME percentage of women might even remain both single and sexless…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:51 PM
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I hope he spends like 50k on surgery and comes out looking completely botched to match his deranged personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:30 PM
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Yeah all of that is fake news. Family courts don’t play favourites they just follow laws for the most part. Pay gaps are bad statistics. And walking alone at night well that’s a man’s problem, be less rapey and murderey maybe and we will be less scared to walk alone at night?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:22 PM
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Yeah I’m really not gonna pat a man on the back from protecting me from another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:20 PM
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Yeah I’d like to see a woman rape and pillage that would be quite .. interesting 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:19 PM
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Yeah, irrelevant, there was a handful of female rulers while predominantly every other ruler has been male. Not enough sample size to draw any conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:18 PM
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Still, like, all that means that you can get ugly women and nothing else really. Wouldn not impress anyone except guys who can’t get anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 06:16 PM
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Yeah, look at women staring wars, murdering, pillaging, raping, polluting, always ducking shit up man. High five.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:52 AM
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Like what benefits will women have over men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:50 AM
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Who do men even protect women from anymore? Lions? Wolves? The cold weather? Last time I checked men protected women from OTHER MEN. What benefits do men have that women don’t anyway? We are pretty much equal in the eyes of the law so idk wtf you’re actually on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:49 AM
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Ok , cool flex I guess ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:45 AM
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Sure, everyone has standards. That doesn’t explain why sleeping with ugly people is a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:35 AM
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I agree, which is why I don’t understand why sleeping with multiple women is a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 01:03 AM
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I think everyone cares about n count to some degree, in the same way msot people care about your education level, taste in music, political beliefs and so on. It’s a factor in compatibility. I would generally not want to be with a man who had a prolonged community dick phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:07 AM
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All of the attractive men that I know either want a relationship but can’t find a girl that’s a good match, or are in a relationship/married. I don’t actually know anyone older than 24 who is sleeping around to get physical fulfillment. Attractive people in general I think may have a “slut” phase where they pull a number of attractive people to sleep with them just to experiment or have fun, but inevitably reach a point where they want something deeper and more meaningful. They realize that gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:54 AM
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I love it when men tell on themselves. One more reason to vet hard for any sort of porn/onlyfans/Instagram model addictions bc those men just see you as a fuck hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:48 AM
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Men out here ending relationships with allegedly perfect women; I guess not so perfect huh if you’re playing with the idea of dating a confident Queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 08:33 AM
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Ungrateful people with low self esteem and narcissistic tendencies will always have a “one that got away” as a way to devalue their existing relationship. It doesn’t actually mean he truly wants to be with his ex. He is simply using her as an excuse to be a subpar partner in his existing relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:56 PM
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How about if a woman is simply not interested in casual sex regardless of your level of attractiveness? Though overall if you don’t care about the quality of woman you attract, I’m sure you will overall get more casual sex if you are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:33 PM
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Homely looking men being nicer is such a lie, time and time again I’ve seen people who have always been attractive display higher morals and greater general kindness/selflessness. People who are or used to be ugly may appear more agreeable at first, but are generally the most judgemental, jaded, picky, and selfish group I’ve ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:50 PM
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Personally, yes. This applies to both partners and friends - my first impression of people is almost always correct. There have been multiple times where I ignored my intuition and trusted the words that were being fed to me instead, only to find out later that my initial hunch has been correct. The lesson I take away from that is to trust my intuition more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:45 PM
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Another reason why we vet before sex… I have found that asking a man “what kind of porn are you into? ;)” has been VERY telling on the kind of person they are. This question assumes they do watch porn and does so in a casual/flirty way opening the gates for them to tell on themselves. One such time the guy tells me he’s into teenage and voyeurism porn, immediately no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:27 PM
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I’ve actually been thinking of making a similar post, but from a different angle, so I’ll add to your post. More reasons you should stay away from men raised by single moms or at the very least consider it an orange flag to keep an eye on: - He doesn’t have a blueprint for how to be in a relationship so he will be more likely to look at porn and media for examples of relationships - He is more likely to be passive and have confidence/self esteem issues which he will take out either on you or on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 03:26 AM
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I think there’s definitely a market for a feminine look but the size of that market will depend on what you mean by feminine. I think of myself as being into feminine faced men, think Willy Cartier for example, but with a nice frame tall somewhat muscular non feminine body.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 06:07 AM
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Certainly, some men have more “game” than others based on my observations (as a woman). I’m not sure how much of it is intrinsic and how much of it is learned through various experiences. I also think women probably have varying levels of “game”, and so some have a much easier time tuning into what their partner is feeling/wanting/what turns them on, while others are clueless. Again, not sure how much of it is intrinsic and how much is learned from experience, but I’d say in my case it’s a combi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 06:02 AM
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Yep. High value women are gatekeepers of both sex and relationships. High value men can be gatekeepers of sex and relationships as well. So essentially if you’re either not getting the amount of sex you want or the amount of commitment you want, good chance the other person doesn’t see you as all that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:41 AM
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It may have something to do with competition for mates among males, and possibly seeing other males as more of a [sexual] enemy in a sense, which would make it harder to feel turned on by them. I would be curious to see how many men vs women are fluid, i.e. by way of a study where participants are first fed a substance that reduces inhibitions (to account for any social/cultural pressures to be 100% straight) and shown various pornographic content to measure arousal levels. Would be hard to acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:22 PM
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Because women are socialized to like those things through media, advertising, parental pressures etc. This type of social pressure does not affect everyone equally, that's why while the colour pink is still associated with girl toys/dresses, the majority of women don't actually buy into it, and if they do, not to the extent you mentioned. Likewise, men are also socialized into their on set of things/behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:10 PM
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1.Parental certainty not factor with modern technology. 2. Pursuing another person while in a relationship (active and intentional) is arguably worse than letting someone pursue you (passive). 3. Purely anecdotal. People who cheat are generally considered scum regardless of gender. 4.Imagine being a woman who is heavily pregnant or has just given birth and your husband cheats on you. Now you're stuck feeding/giving birth and risking your health/life for a cheater. You're also probably stuck with…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:04 PM
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Sure, it may show in some way that you are able to get things that you want, but it also shows that you don't value intimacy as highly as I would want for a long term partner. Multiple one night stands is a big red flag to me for the dating department.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:09 AM
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Smell alone would not be sufficient to consider hooking up with or dating someone, but it is sufficient to reject someone. For me personally smell is a HUGE turn on/off, as in there have been two instances where everything about the person was great enough to date (i.e. looks, personality, professional achievements) but something was just OFF about the smell and my vagina would dry up like the Nevada desert. The reverse has happened as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:52 AM
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I invite you to post specific examples where FDS advocates for women to just exist, while the man must pay her rent and bills, work, and cook for her. What FDS does advocate for is to not fall for the 50/50 trap, where all monetary expenses are split, but the woman is stuck with mots of the invisible labour, namely cleaning, cooking, child rearing, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:43 AM
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Yeah, OP is misunderstanding. The term does not include women who are aware of the misogyny but choose to not actively fight to ensure their own safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:11 AM
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So many things. Thinking they’re owed sex. Thinking they don’t need to work out or eat healthy. Thinking women should take Them on dates. Thinking a woman is Lucky to go through 9 months of hell to make their baby. Thinking it’s bizzare that women have physical preferences in men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:02 PM
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There will be a level of aggression and competition between the members of a harem, regardless of gender. Women are less physically aggressive but more aggressive in other ways. There are situaiton where either dynamic (harem of men OR women) could work, or could end in disaster. Men who have harems typically would provide separate accommodations for each women, not stick them all into a dirty apartment and take turns with each. This is already not so different from a woman who is dating and sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:36 PM
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Exactly what I wouldn’t marry community dick
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:18 PM
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With the right person - yes; I find this sun to be a great resource for figuring out that “right person”. Love aside, I don’t feel comfortable building wealth with a person I am not married to, so any other type of relationship will cap at a certain point for me. I would also not move in with a man I am not married to, so there’s that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:40 PM
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When I referred to competency I meant more in the sense of social skills, mental health, life achievements etc. As far as sex, there is plenty of educational material out there that could at the very least be an excellent start, even for virgins. And if you are actually a virgin, then being honest and open to feedback will get you very far.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:12 AM
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A vibrator can’t get your pregnant or isn’t awkwardly fingering you while expecting a top class blowjob. The bigger question here is why are men so incompetent a woman would rather use a vibrator than consider having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:09 AM
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You’re saying that rape and coercion doesn’t exist because “those guys” whoever those guys are, aren’t serving prison sentences? Rape, and especially coercion in romantic relationships is extremely common and severely underreported. That’s not the point though, if you feel your woman isn’t attracted to you enough or isn’t interested in the same things that you are sexually, then show yourself out. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 12:11 AM
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There is a way a trait such as “low libido” is present: Cost of reproduction for women is higher thus they need to be picky thus they cannot be as horny as the average male; Women have largely been forced or coerced into marriage and child bearing thus far thus messing with the natural course of evolution whereby very low libido humans would have been eliminated form the genetic pool; The concept of low libido is relative - too low for you? Too low for ever having kids? If it’s at least high eno…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:59 PM
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Damn, you’re really determined to have children, you must have some top quality genetic material you need to pass on haha. My prediction is you won’t actually have any, but anyways bye now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:34 PM
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Hahaha so this whole charade is a big cope with the fact that you’re older and if your child has any deficiencies it will statistically be most likely your fault. Again, DNA damage happens to both male and female reproductive cells (in addition to DNA mutations, which is higher in males). See for yourself - “Direct Effects (i) Decline in gamete quality: While it was once thought that gametes were ‘ageless’ it is now known that both eggs and sperm can show signs of deterioration with parental age…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 10:16 PM
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Sorry what? Are you trying to justify men punishing women or are you crying that no woman wants you? Just to be clear which one it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 09:39 PM
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Again, not unique to females and it has yet to be quantified how much each contributes. Proof - “Direct Effects (i) Decline in gamete quality: While it was once thought that gametes were ‘ageless’ it is now known that both eggs and sperm can show signs of deterioration with parental age. Gametes from old parents (i.e., those on the downward slope illustrated in Box 1) are more likely to have DNA mutations, impaired mitochondrial function and shorter telomeres, all of which could increase offspri…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 09:26 PM
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But also see this: https://www.pnas.org/content/117/21/11513 Now your claim holds no theoretical ground whatsoever. Men punish women because men hate the fact that women don’t need them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:10 PM
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Again I’d like to see quantitative measure of this DNA damage you speak of - how much damage do the eggs accumulate in comparison to sperm. If you are referring to the general aging mechanisms and accumulation of DNA damage throughout the body, I don’t see how the male reproductive system would be immune to this type of damage (while the female system susceptible to it).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:07 PM
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Most studies historically that have looked into advanced parental age, have looked into maternal age specifically without considering paternal age. Who are the 40 y/o women having children with? Most likely other 40 or 50 or 60 y/o men. I’ve said it before and say it again - egg mutations remain roughly constant regardless of age (around 15) and male mutations start at 25 when the male is 20 y/o and grow by two every year. Trisonomies are no different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:03 PM
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All cells are susceptible to DNA damage and so you’re not wrong per se, but there are mechanism that repair and/or prevent that damage. As seen in practice per the article I linked, after analyzing 78 couples and their children it was found that women passed on approximately 15 mutations regardless of age, and men passed on approximately 25 mutations at age 20, with on average of two extra mutations per extra year of age. I hate to break it to you (not actually) but “the wall” is a cope mechanis…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 05:03 PM
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So the burden is off the men who are looking for easier sex and instead it’s women’s fault ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:08 AM
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I don’t currently make more than him, no. If I did, I wouldn’t worry about the household being at risk because we both have family, decent savings, are both hard working and are able to find new jobs if we so wished.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:02 AM
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Making more money than your partner does not automatically result in a sugar baby dynamic. Most people regardless of age are not into that dynamic. Because I make good money myself, I primarily care that the person I'm dating is good looking, kind, respectful, and hard working (in his own way; doesn't have to be rich).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:25 AM
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I'd like to see some sources to the "background radiation" effects on eggs that you speak of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:20 AM
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Sure, except men are much more likely to cause a genetic abnormality in a child than women. Those 40 y/o women are probably having children with other 40 or 45 or 60 y/o men. “Every additional year of the father's age meant an average of two extra mutations in the child. In comparison, the number of new mutations passed on by the mother was always around 15, regardless of her age. (for reference a 20 y/o male passes on about 25 mutations) The reason that older fathers passed on more mutations wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:59 PM
4

Instead of answering your question I’ll ask you one - do you think people are allowed to let their sexuality and tastes change over time?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:40 PM
1

Being college educated is actually a non factor for me (I went to a university). I’ve dated lovely men who worked in trades and being fit came as part of the package (though they also worked out) and trades pay really well where I live so no complaints there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:05 PM
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This reality only works if you are comparing below average 30+ women to above average 30+ men, of course the women in this comparison will have fewer and worse looking options. Above average successful and mentally healthy women have no shortage of both younger and older options at any age, and I assume that the same is true for these types of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:53 PM
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Most people never find out if it’s a change in preference or a “you” thing, but if you have reason to suspect it has to do with you specifically (or she tells you that it’s you) then it definitely is a red flag in the attraction department.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:34 PM
1

With everything that followed. You’re acknowledging that it’s normal and fine for sexuality and tastes to change over time, but in the same time you’re saying that your partner will offend you if they change their preferences at any time between a past sexual partner and you. I’m really starting to think it’s true as another post has mentioned that the majority of Purple/Red pillers are actually 15 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:29 PM
1

I know you’ve convinced yourself that you really got it all figured out, and thing is you have, but only partially. Some people will refuse certain sexual acts they have previously done because they are not that into their current partner, BUT some people will refuse certain sexual acts because they have never really enjoyed them or have grown out of enjoying them. People’s sexuality and tastes can change over time and that’s fine and if ultimately someone’s current tastes don’t work for you - f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 07:41 PM
0

You understand that peoples sexuality and tastes change with time … yet, you don’t understand? Which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 07:35 PM
5

Ah, you must be American. Should I spell it out again - America has a lack of culture and tradition somewhat understandably being a young country and all, and thus it makes sense that the rates of broken households ie single moms would be higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 10:02 PM
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Oh well yeah, I can see how in a country with a lack of culture and tradition rates of single women would be higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 08:58 PM
2

That happens in all developed countries where birth control becomes more available and women’s rights are more of a thing. Idiocracy takes it to another extreme. Ultimately evolution will favour those from complete households and intelligent parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 08:37 PM
1

Yes, all the women are. You are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 07:21 PM
3

And it’s a good thing, over time women will hopefully select for more competent men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 06:09 PM
2

Be attractive and not creepy. That’s it honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:20 PM
3

Isn’t that the whole point - only meet up with attractive men who have dating potential? Yes, few women are on there to distribute free pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 05:19 PM
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Then you’re either a troll or completely lack the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 10:38 PM
5

This isn’t about blaming men. We are explaining why women are pickier - because they Have to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 10:33 PM
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Hahahahaha yeah I bet it sucks rarely getting an orgasm or bearing children risking death or permanent disability or being statistically much more likely to be killed by your intimate partner. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 09:20 PM
10

Pickiness is something that I think directly relates to risk level, which is higher for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 09:02 PM
2

Bc men have fewer inhibitors and are are sometimes excited by looks alone. This all depends on the person. Some women are like this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 04:19 PM
2

In my personal experience, as a woman, when men put more effort into a date date, it at very least signifies they are more financially and mentally stable. Responders here who “weed out” “foodie calls” and FDSers are probably not mentally or financially in the place where I’d have any romantic interest anyways, so the quality of women and relationships they’re getting likely corresponds to the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:42 AM
1

This is why having platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex and good examples of couples in family is so important.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:10 PM
1

Interesting, I appreciate hearing this perspective and I do see things change as well. At the end of the day some girls sand some guys won’t be able to find a partner they like who also desires them and that’s just nature I suppose, ain’t nothing we can (or should) do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 09:07 AM
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Hmm, that’s a pretty big general statement to make, but you may be right, on average (esp in richer countries) women probably have more leverage than men. That said, women have been socialized differently and often date down because they are taught to not focus on physical appearances or money and just go for “good” guys. Television and media doesn’t help when you see geriatric men with gorgeous women, for me as a woman at least, it makes me feel that I must be absolutely perfect to be with a st…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 08:16 AM
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Though I gotta say the pickiness for relationship is similar. Men are just as picky as women when choosing a long term partner , or u don’t agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 07:29 AM
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Ah I c I c, well, it it what it it💔
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:39 AM
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Hypergamy is wanting someone hotter than you no? Being picky doesn’t always mean hypergamous. That said, men are hypergamous af, just because they’re less picky, doesn’t mean they wouldn’t choose someone far above their level of given the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:31 AM
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Safety is a factor in the overall picture of whether to be around a person or not, of course. But yes, for a woman to actually desire sex with a man, far more physical and emotional factors have to be present, which (for me at least) means that I am genuinely attracted to very very few men. I would not equate gay men with straight women as you appear to be trying to do. Sexual orientation is not a defining factor in a persons existence and reactions to other people and their environment. Men wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:41 PM
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Your first assumption is incorrect, women don’t find most men sexually attractive (regardless of feeling of safety). Not to mention, women get far fewer benefits from casual sex if that is the type of sex you are talking about in your post. Statistically women orgasm significantly less than men in both casual and long term relationships, they are also at a higher risk of STDs, pregnancy, and being murdered (if they pick a crazy one); though of course overall longer term relationships have more b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 07:01 AM
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Friendships with the opposite sex are healthy for your psyche and will better you as a person and as a partner, whoever you end up dating. Friendships with women only end up in relationships if there’s mutual attraction plus when other factors fall into place and that’s wonderful when it happens, but should not be your motivation for befriending women. As a side note, men are hypergamous af, men will and DO date “up” given the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 06:08 AM
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Absolutely, and anyone arguing otherwise is over their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:44 PM
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And it makes the mostest sense to date someone who has been through therapy already and/or is doing it as maintenance in an ongoing mannner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:03 PM
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IMO the average well adjusted woman will be attracted to a man who is - generous, funny, driven, hard working, positive, emotionally available, is able to deal with his emotions in a healthy way, and able to understand his and her emotions/mental states.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:39 PM
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FDS generally recommends that both men and women deal with their mental health issues Prior to attempting to date. So therapy is good, Great even, Amazing, but you will be a better partner after having dealt with the issues requiring therapy. I am in therapy and from what my psychiatrist is saying I will need it for 6 month to a year, it’s been a month and I already feel like I’m making a lot of progress in my communication and conflict resolution skills, and just general worldview. I know I wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:12 PM
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I use the term scrotes to refer to scrotes, and I use the term men to refer to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 11:26 PM
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Yep, sounds like OP hasn’t actually been in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 11:15 PM
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This is a message for all men - don’t complain she won’t have sex with you when you’ve done nothing to turn her on. Women need more than a nice looking face/body to desire sex in most cases ie displays of generosity and good character.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 11:13 PM
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Problem is scrotes getting mad we don’t have sex with them when they’ve done absolutely nothing to turn us on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 11:13 PM
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Yep westerners are uncultured and the men and women hate each other, what else is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 03:09 AM
1

Finding a high quality partner that you get along with, have similar world views and ideas on kids/marriage, have compatible hobbies, are attracted to and have a happy amount of quality physical intimacy with - is challenging, for both men and women it appears.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:25 AM
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I think yeah, men have fewer and often less strong friendships And they have a much harder time finding even just casual encounters so I imagine being a single man is a much lonelier experience
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:26 AM
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Victims of abuse often do go back to their abusers, funny how the brain works, so I wouldn’t take it too personally. A good sign that a woman is ready for a long term relationship is when she has taken at least a few months and ideally maybe a year since her previous relationship. Just a little tip for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:00 AM
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Nobody actually says that 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:40 PM
1

Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:39 PM
1

So what you’re saying is that the person with lower libido should have sex when they don’t want to? 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:38 PM
1

Says who?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:52 PM
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Begging someone for sex or in any way pressuring them is such a turnoff though imo people should just leave when the physical connection is not sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:24 PM
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Hahaha for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:21 PM
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Let’s be real here, in majority of cases in heterosexual relationships, the woman has at least a somewhat lower libido than a man, different biology and all that. This is not a medical condition nor does it need treatment. If you’re going to treat it like a medical condition, why not make women’s libidos the standard, and have men take estrogen to reduce theirs? Couples should have sex only when Both of them want it, kind of like a Venn diagram of sex. If my partner feels like he’s Not getting e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 07:20 PM
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Average is dad bod plus wrinkles and hair in weird places.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:35 PM
1

Ok then explain why I’m in my 20s and not attracted to even men in their mid and late 30s? Also explain why women are not primarily dating much older men unless there’s money involved? Also have you seen the body of the average man in their mid 30s and older, yuck. The thicker skin does not make up for it in the slightest. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:08 PM
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Hahahahaha Yeah, men age like fine wine, boy will you be disillusioned when you’re not just ugly and boring but also old. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:41 PM
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No, not only for men. Women have more skin in the game by nature (pregnancy stds physical violence) so a man needs to stand out and prove he’s not out to hurt or use the woman At the Minimum by paying for dates. Bar really is in hell for men and you want to keep it there huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:14 PM
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I’ve been lurking on FDS for almost a year now and have never actually seen that be condoned. The only difference in efforts is that men is expected to pay for dates and take initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:21 AM
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Son, I never said that, FDS never said that either. Obviously both people should put in effort, not like the woman is just gonna sit there like a dead fish with glazed eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:18 AM
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Women chasing men is just never gonna happen son, we have a lot more at stake engaging with males - easier to get stds (and harder to get orgasms), pregnancy and all it’s implications, physical violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:13 AM
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FDS doesn’t bash women who are having casual sex, but does try to teach them to not be having sex for the wrong reasons. Statistically speaking, women orgasm significantly less in casual sex encounters And are the more vulnerable gender to STDs, pregnancies, being murdered by your partner etc. Women who do engage in casual sex are more often than not doing it due to social pressure, mental health issues, low self esteem etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:06 AM
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FDS does not bash young beautiful fun women where did you even get this? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:33 AM
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Just like in most other species, the men should be the one trying to impress and win over a woman, not the other way around. A woman will put in effort after the man has proven himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:45 AM
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Damn, this above my pay grade to untangle. You’re giving off some serious incel/autistic vibes and I’ll disengage at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:05 AM
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I don’t do it, and don’t know any woman who does. My time is much more valuable than to spend 2 hours getting ready, getting proper sleep the night before, actually having a text conversation with a guy, for a free meal? If you honestly can’t tell whether a woman is into you before meeting or if she is the type to spend so much energy on free food, then you’re either autistic or just really socially inept.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:50 AM
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Ok so some percentage of women go on dates solely to get some food, so what? Are you so poor you can’t afford a 25$ meal? I’d spend that amount on a homeless person asking for food. Not to mention if you took your time to get to know a woman you’d gauge her interest in you and whether it goes beyond material things. All you’re mad about is that a woman won’t give you sex in exchange for a 25$ meal. Find something better to complain about. Like how many women get killed and raped by a man close t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:39 AM
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Interesting study and I appreciate a substantiated claim for a change. That said, anyone who worries about the 20$ or 60$ that they will be out of as a result of a date, is probably not financially stable enough by my standards. I’d spend this amount on a homeless person asking me to buy them some food. I think the real problem here is that men are mad that some women won’t give them sex in return for a meal ticket. Booty calls are perfectly fine but foodie calls are the greatest sin, not like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:35 AM
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You don’t live in the real world do ya bud
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:25 AM
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Like what kind of misandrist stuff specifically? No woman is going to go on a date to get free food, you are delusional if you really think so. We are not in a famine and no woman is taking the risk and making the effort of getting ready etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:09 AM
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FDS does not advocate for putting in no effort or for being a low value woman though, despite what the manosphere seems to think based on a few isolated FDS comments/posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:07 AM
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I don’t know what kind of women you’ve met, but the main goal of FDS is to help women identify red flags of abuse and narcissism, as well as other signs of incompatibility. The sub very much encourages women to better themselves and to be honest with their desires ie being honest about not enjoying hookup culture because statistically women derive significantly less benefit and expose themselves to a lot more risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 11:49 PM
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The bare minimum is being a functional human adult who can pay bills, do chores, communicate properly etc. How is that not the bare minimum? As for planning and paying for dates, it just shows serious intentions, and if you’re not doing that, would you blame a woman for not taking you seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 11:44 PM
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Did you have a stroke in the middle of writing that response? Nobody was talking about mature bodies or having sex specifically, but ok, you’re clearly being defensive because you know it’s true so I’ll stop engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 05:20 PM
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Even the women who don’t mature are still more mature than the average man, in my experience. I have a good theory about this, 1. women are adapted for motherhood which requires greater social awareness and sensitivity, which then leads to greater self awareness, self critique, and as a result personal growth; 2. behavioural and physical expectations set on women are stricter and thus require a greater level of self critique, which as a result also leads to faster personal growth. Women also ten…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 05:13 PM
1

That’s a pretty unsubstantiated claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 04:58 PM
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Biology is a factor for both men and women - neither is attracted to unattractive people, whether that means old, bald, physically unfit, whatever your definition of unattractive. “Dating up” is also a factor for both men and women, never have I ever seen someone say “hey let me date someone uglier than me or less successful than me” unless there were other factors at play ie insecurity, fear of dying alone, or maybe other traits in the person that made up for being uglier/less successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:31 AM
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Mostly because men these days seem to take a lot longer to get their shit together. When I was 21, men my age acted like 14 year olds and so on; the reason women tend to on average go for slightly older men, in my opinion, is mostly because men their age are not on the same mental level.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:26 AM
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So your solution is to become one of them? If that suits you, do your thing, but if you find yourself old jaded and alone then you’ve got no one but yourself to blame 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:44 PM
1

Nobody on the sub advocates putting in no effort but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:28 PM
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Clearly you don’t know what low value actually means, but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 10:25 PM
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Ah, gotcha, I’m glad you’re at least self aware of being low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 06:05 PM
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She’s going to find out by you being honest. If you think you can start a healthy happy relationship with dishonesty, you’re not as high value as you think you are; so just stick to casual sex and keep patting yourself on the back. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:37 AM
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Women who are considering a long term relationship Will look into that type of information, which doesn’t take a lot of digging to get. I’ve turned down two very good looking guys for this reason alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:49 AM
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A high value woman would not be impressed by an extensive history of casual sex, can’t turn community dick into a husband 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:20 AM
1

You do you I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:13 AM
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I would highly recommend reading the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, which goes in depth on the different types of emotional abuse which is obviously trickier to spot than physical abuse. Some examples of red flags include, but are not limited to: name calling, derogatory pet names, yelling, patronizing, public embarrassment, dismissiveness, belittling your appearance/outfits/accomplishments/interests etc, threats, denying something you know is true, getting mad because you got mad a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:52 AM
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You’d be hard pressed to find any yeses
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:16 AM
1

Bro..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:19 AM
2

Same thing bro
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:59 AM
2

How’s that not an ultimatum
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:25 AM
2

I ain’t
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:25 AM
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Everyone has ultimatums whether spoken or unspoken. Your ultimatum is you’re out of no sex 5 times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 02:25 AM
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I mean, isn’t that common sense? It’s perfectly fine to walk away from a sexually unsatisfying relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 12:40 AM
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Someone actually said to you that you won’t be getting any sex until you do x? It’s weird to say out loud but we all have unspoken criteria for people we would or would t have sex with. Ie if my partner stops taking showers I won’t tell him that we won’t have sex until he starts taking showers necessarily, but I certainly won’t be in the mood for sex until he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 12:39 AM
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Nah son, the red pill is about extracting the most sex out of a woman in a quickest way possible, fds is about protecting yourself from abusive/narcissistic/low effort men that will not make great partners or fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 11:18 PM
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If she’s keeping her pussy away from you then she probably don’t want your relationship either lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 11:17 PM
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So now think about beautiful women who have their shit together, the dick around them is abundant, speaking from experience. You might be awesome enough to have a rotation of girls but how many of them are high value?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 11:16 PM
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I have no chill
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 08:38 PM
5

Holding the pussy hostage would imply that the pussy is not the woman’s to keep (?)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 08:10 PM
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Sorry to burst your bubble but dick is much more plentiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 08:05 PM
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Not what OP was asking but thank you for your insertion anyways. Also people are allowed to wait for reasons other than religion you dipsht.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 08:02 PM
1

What would constitute using sex as a weapon?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 07:59 PM
1

Good
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 08:00 AM
3

I really don’t think most people have a set physical type, but maybe general features they Tend to go for - for me it’s good hair usually dark, at least 6 in taller than me (I’m 5 8), athletic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:01 AM
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Then they’re not attracted to ya mate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:10 AM
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So men should band together so that women accept low value behaviour? That sounds so pathetic. How about bettering yourself instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 11:37 PM
8

Yeah, so it’s on both people involved
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:45 PM
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Are they being tricked or are they ignoring cues that there is no attraction though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:23 PM
8

Do what intentionally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:01 PM
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When women want to wait to have sex, they would typically engage in other acts of intimacy such as hand holding, hugging, and potentially making out as well. If she's not physically attracted to you, trust me that you will feel it unless you're intentionally blind to the cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:16 PM
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Your first premise that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of relationships is wrong/outdated/self-imposed, because really we (women) are the gatekeepers of both. Men enjoy FWB situations because they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Men will continue asking for and normalizing FWB situations because it plays in their favour. RE "how could it be changed to make it more balanced": - wait a minimum of 3 months before having sex with any of the men you are seei…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 11:00 PM
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Yes, plus it's a huge cope imo because I've seen men obsess over women far more than I've seen women obsess over men, the whole "one that got away" is such a male experience too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:03 PM
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Hahaha “you don’t get to play Carnegie Hall, if you can’t run basic scales” what a perfect analogy. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:33 PM
2

Wrong. No tattoos is good. Tasteful tattoos is good. Bad tattoos is unattractive. As a girl with tattoos I actually prefer untatted men because 99% of tatted man have tattoos that are not tasteful or artsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 10:53 PM
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You’d have to define what passionately vs moderately entails. Neediness specifically is usually rooted in insecurity and selfishness, and sometimes even the lack of respect for their partners time and space.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:55 PM
5

Yeah no, neediness is not love though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 11:41 PM
8

It would relax me more because I don’t have to worry about being pressured into sex. Being relaxed more can be conductive to feeling safe enough to explore my own sexual thoughts about this person. I’m speaking from experience by the way. The best sex has been with people who have been very in tune with me and didn’t pressure me into sex in any sort of even very minor way. I know the standard here is so low it’s in hell, but go figure, quality of men these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 07:03 PM
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This. Used to date a guy who I was Repulsed by every time he’d shave his beard off. Be smarter than me, see him without a beard before you become exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 07:07 PM
3

“Lying about cheating is justified because boys have retarded prejudices about fidelity.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 08:51 AM
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No they don’t. Women’s libidos are lower and that’s a fact. Also a woman isn’t turned on by personality or all of y’all hobit sized bald headed micropeen redditors; if you want your woman to crave sex with you, be tall, muscular, generous, smooth etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 11:06 PM
2

Because you’re a NVM probably?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:54 PM
0

Hahaha yeah I’m sure you’re getting with lots of women 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:54 PM
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Physiologically women are more likely to get them yes; they’re also the only ones who could become infertile as a result of some types of untreated STDs (ie in a situation where the infection was symptomless).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:05 PM
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Because the cost of reproduction is always gonna be higher for women y’all. Are we forgetting who’s more likely to get STDs, at risk of getting pregnant, and at risk of getting raped or killed in a dating type situation? This risk aside, we also put a lot more effort into getting ready for a date so I can Guarantee you I’m not using you for a “meal ticket” 🙄 The male shouldering the bill is a small indicator of both generosity and interest and is frankly the bare minimum. So if he asks for half …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:55 PM
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Whoa what a huge generalization. In your world men are either beautiful and abusive, or ugly and nice, which is far from the truth. If anything, in my experience, it’s always the uglier loser guys (those wronged by the world; the bullied; the virgins and porn addicts) who are actually the most abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 05:05 AM
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Gym bro is less about muscle size and more about attitude. If someone is spending 6 hours at the gym or is obsessed with drinking protein and other supplements, it’s a bit of a turnoff. On that note, any type of obsession is a turnoff. As for muscles, big muscles are unlikely to be a deal breaker even if they’re bigger than what I prefer, whereas being too skinny is easily a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:51 PM
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I think it’s a combination of multiple factors - is the woman rich/successful? how attractive/confident is the woman? does the guy have any other merits to him whatsoever aside from money? (ie musical/sport talents) does the guy have any social skills? is he passive or assertive? creepy or emotionally intelligent?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 01:04 AM
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Nobody, because it sounds like the guy doesn’t know it’s duty sex. If he knew she was having duty sex with him without actually wanting it, and continued to have sex with her, then it would be rape-y. That said, even her knowing that it’s duty sex will have negative mental health effects on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 02:44 AM
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How is having sex against your want not similar to rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 01:59 AM
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Some of those expectations are definitely self imposed. I’m not saying you came up with them out of nowhere, but it is likely a product of socialization and what we see in media etc. First of all, be honest about your libido and stop with the duty sex, that’s borderline rape imo. If he’s not ok with sex once a week he will find someone who he is more compatible with, and you will too. Being dishonest will only breed resentment and is not sustainable in the long term. Second of all, get as dolled…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 01:01 AM
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More than passive, he sounds cowardly and lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:58 PM
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