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| 1 | How to survive silver bullet divorceI feel outraged for you and your situation as you’ve described it. If you’re searching for a moral victory in this system, I’m not sure you’ll get one but I do truly hope you get justice in the end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/26 05:10 AM |
| 1 | Temporary Custody Hearing yesterdayI think for now you should accept that you were able to reach an agreement before going into court and it aligns with what is best for your daughters. That seems like a win even if it’s not perfect. Although temporary custody tends to set the baseline for permanent custody, IMO the fact that child support was fully reserved gives a little more room to revisit later. Also when the time comes to set final custody you can use whatever good or bad happens during the 57/43 split in your pleadings for… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/26 07:42 AM |
| 1 | 50/50 Custody Odds50/50 is the default in California but you are also smart not to leave anything to chance and to ensure you establish yourself as the child-centered father it sounds like you are from the outset. I also have a young son who is two now and had to deal with “winning” 50/50 custody. I voluntarily entered an alcohol treatment program because I had agreed to stay sober before we had our son and I was still drinking occasionally but wanted to stop. She asked me to leave the home when she found me drin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Thinking of exI’m in a similar spot although I didn’t file, the divorce isn’t finalized, and full no contact is impossible with a two year old son. It’s not what I wanted for our family even though I also see all the ways the relationship kept me trapped in a cycle of shame. The cruel paradox of attachment is that it is often intensified by distance and scarcity. I know for me it makes it easier to hold onto an idealized version of her that doesn’t exist. In fact, the relationship was sort of built on this pa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/26 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Aggressive lawyer in her ear, any tips?First of all, don’t take responsibility for things you are no longer responsible for and I’m talking to myself in saying this too. What you can control in this process is very little especially when your STBXW has an aggressive attorney. All you can do is act in alignment with your values and consider how you’d feel if you had to explain how you handled things to your kids when they’re older or how future you would look back at how you showed up. You need a clear parenting plan either stipulated… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/26 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Is it illegal if my spouse releases my nude pics without my consent?Not legal advice, but I wouldn’t advise putting her on notice unless you have a credible written threat of her intent to release them and even then that may be better ammo than a letter. Without a credible threat, the letter effectively serves as an implied accusation of intent and you become the party introducing the conflict to the situation rather than your STBX. It would be best to inform your attorney of the situation, the specifics of abuse in the relationship, and follow their guidance on… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/26 05:31 AM |
| 2 | Promotion feels bittersweet during divorceI don’t know what state you’re in but I got raked over the coals by my STBX’s attorney over not disclosing a similar raise soon enough even though it was literally within a month. They actually tried to bring sanctions against me raising this when we had to go back to court because they refused to adjust support as the judge had intended as time share changed over the step up period and my wages were being garnished at a 13% timeshare when it was 50/50. I ended up winning my motion to stay enfor… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/06/26 05:23 AM |
| 2 | Ex Wanting IntimacyI needed to read this tonight. Feel exactly like pureextc, but have mostly gotten my shit in order and kept my side of the street clean throughout the separation. We have a young son and I’m still stuck on this fantasy. You’re absolutely right though—she lies, doesn’t want me but does want my money, and didn’t honor her vows. She also lacks the awareness to recognize that this divorce costing way more than the lowball number her attorney first quoted her is purely a product of her own making. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 02:58 AM |
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