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Lmao too true
/r/RedPillWives11/06/24 07:11 PM
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To me it sounds like you're having some financial problems and it's putting a lot of stress on your husband and perhaps creating some resentment as a result. Do you share finances? You said that you weren't aware of him being short on money on the trip. Is your pay going into separate bank accounts? Personally I believe that as a married couple, you need to have shared finances and be on the same page with money, otherwise you won't be able to work as a team.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/24 07:10 PM
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I'm gonna be honest with you, I'm getting borderline financial abuse from this. You need to get a joint bank account that you have access to ASAP. Not a credit card that he pays off, nothing like that, a checking account. If there was ever an emergency or God forbid a domestic issue, you need to have access to money. Imo the bank notifications also need to go, it's not doing anyone any good and just causes you anxiety, and probably inflating his sense of your actual spendings.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 12:09 AM
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I think you just need to sit down and go over your finances. First of all you're married, the money is both yours money and the idea of a grown woman having an allowance is pretty icky. Figure out how much is going towards bills, how much is being spent on caring for your husband's side of the family. You should each find things that you can cut back on and things that are non negotiable spendings. Am I understanding correctly that your husband is paying for your mother in law's massages? While …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 11:43 PM
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If he's hitting things in anger, it's only a matter of time before he hits you, plain and simple. It's a vicious cycle that people fall into time and time again, he promises he'll change, you takes him back, before you know it it's going to be a domestic violence police call. The second he started calling you names you should have left. I understand that you feel a bond with him. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years and felt a strong bond with him. We broke up for a couple months because he wa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 07:02 PM
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Steak and hot wings lol nothing crazy, my man's a meat and potatoes kinda guy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 04:06 PM
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As far as I know, Jasmyne hasn't always held the views she does know, and was somewhat liberal leaning a couple years back? If she was modeling it's natural that she would have these pictures in her portfolio and as far as I'm aware, she's just making YouTube content and being a SAHM now. I don't know where she would stand on her past modeling portfolio but I certainly wouldn't hold it against her. I also got the impression that she doesn't have a super restrictive idea of modesty.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 09:24 PM
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Eh yes and no. While I morally disagree with these jobs and I don't think a masculine man, who among other things should protect his woman from exploitation and objectification, should give his significant other the green light to pursue these things, the said reality is that these jobs do exist and will continue till the end of time. Men are the ones CREATING these jobs. Men who indulge in porn, hedonism etc will continue to do so. If we shame every woman who monetizes on it, where does that pu…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 04:05 PM
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My brained finished developing by the age of 25. No but really, I quit my job when I was pregnant with my son and was just staying home. I was able to really just relax and focus solely on my home life, while also being more vulnerable and in need of accommodation than ever before and I think these factors combined made me feel really tapped into my feminine energy, I guess you could say. And it was nice to take a step back and have a capable man to rely on. I think for me it kind of snowballed …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 12:05 PM
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Once you get married, you start your own family. In my opinion, your spouse and your marriage takes priority over every other relationship in your life, including the one with your parents. I believe that as a married man you need to establish yourself as the head of your household and not submit to your parents. I have a wonderful relationship with my in laws and I believe that my husband and I should care for them together, especially when they get older, but if there ever arose a conflict bet…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 12:28 AM
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My husband and I have been married for 3 years before having kids and I worked for about a year of that, I haven't worked since I was pregnant with our son. To be completely honest with you I wish I haven't had worked for that year and just focused on our home life. I think as a woman you need to have some skills that can be monetized and I have worked on that before being married, but my end goal has always been to stay home. If you eventually want to stay home with children and your husband wa…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 12:23 AM
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I got married at 21, I've been married for 5 years. Clearly I don't have a ton of marital experience but I think just enough to share my 2 cents. For me it was the right age to get married because well, I love my husband, we share the same values and had the same vision for our future together. The one big advantage of getting married young compared to couples I've observed that waited till later in their 20s or even 30s is that we basically figured out adulthood together. Everything that we hav…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 12:17 AM
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Jamie Oliver has a series called 30 minute meals and it has helped me so much when I was first learning how to cook. I believe it's available on YouTube and he might have a book as well. It shows you how to put meals together pretty easily and quickly, which flavors go together, along with basic cooking techniques. As far as family dinners go, I always serve meat, starch and vegetable side. So I would encourage that you come up with options for each of these categories, this way you can mix and …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 11:56 PM
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Are we talking about Andrew Tate loving podcast bros who think that money Bugattis and women affirms your masculinity and makes you a HVM? Girl stop listening to that lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:21 AM
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I'm a European living in the United States. You're not going to get cat called if you're a) not wearing a very revealing outfit b) don't appear easy to intimidate. I'm an above average looking woman and dress modestly, not saying this to boast but to provide context, and while people are very nice and helpful towards me etc, I never get cat called, either in Europe or the US. Don't take not getting cat called as a jab at your looks.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:14 AM
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I would also add a man who wants to go 50/50 on everything and looks to me for a solution in a stressful or otherwise challenging situation instead of being decisive and in the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 10:54 PM
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Read (printed material and blogs or online articles), listen to podcasts, bible study, watch movies and TV shows (I consider it enriching), work on baking and cooking recipes, do my crafting hobbies, research how to further improve in different areas of my life, explore outside with my toddler, try to learn new skills.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 10:51 PM
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YES Jasmyne is my favorite!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/22 01:07 PM
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Improving your posture will change your life! I follow this routine from Ballet Beautiful and it works so well for me; improving your posture can also help with things like frequent headaches. I would also recommend you research the color theory and check out the r/coloranalysis subreddit. Figuring out what season you are makes it much easier to pick flattering outfits. And most importantly, prioritize your health. I have never felt more confident and beautiful than since I've started really tak…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 04:30 PM
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I'm a similar way. I have a currently non existent relationship with my mother and it's always been hard for me to make female friends, and I generally feel more comfortable talking to men. The only female friends I have I've known since we were children. Trying to connect with other women often gives me crippling anxiety, which I'm guessing is due to the trauma my mother caused me. I also enjoy a lot of more masculine tasks, like home improvement, fixing and building things. My sense of humor a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 04:45 PM
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The most important thing you'll want to do is create a realistic budget basing only on your husband's income. Go over bills, subscription services, groceries, gas, fun money. Figure out how much you want to save and invest each month. Come up with ways to cut back where you can. See if you can find cheaper offers for Internet and phone services, insurance etc. Not eating out and making all your meals at home is also going to save you a ton of money, and is realistic if you're staying at home. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/22 03:10 PM
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Same here. I got married at 21 and aside from dodging the hook up culture bullet, I think it made us better partners and better people. Figuring out adulthood together really cemented our relationship and made me feel like we could get through anything. I can also see a huge difference in maturity levels between my husband and other men his age. I think being put in the provider position early and taking on the responsibility of leading his own family made him a more confident and driven man. Fo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 06:12 PM
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YES. I'm a good home cook, and can make a wide variety of elaborate meals. Meanwhile my husband could happily live on hamburger helper, macaroni and cheese and steak. That's what he grew up eating and is his comfort food!
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 11:44 PM
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I think sharing your emotional baggage/past trauma would leave you feeling very vulnerable, and I wouldn't do it unless you are okay with feeling vulnerable with your partner. I'd save it for a serious relationship, and keep it to myself in the dating stage. I have a lot of trauma in my past and sharing it with my husband was very assuring and helped him understand where some of my responses come from. I think you should wait until you know your partner's character well and are sure it wouldn't …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 02:34 PM
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From my personal experience, women who are obese in their 30s have also been overweight/obese in their 20s. The wall is a dated and irrelevant concept. Women now have access to advanced health care, aestheticians, personal training programs, and most importantly, widely available knowledge on how to take care of themselves. Women in their 30s and 40s can still be sexually attractive and offer their partners wisdom and experience many 20 year olds lack. Saying that pregnancy becomes "extremely ri…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 06:49 PM
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My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have always been a very sexually active couple, however since having a baby and breastfeeding, my sex drive absolutely tanked, so I'm right here with you. I think your husband telling you that you are not looking your best is definitely a problem and I would talk to him about it. Good relationships are built on honesty, but you also need to keep your partner's feelings in mind. I cannot imagine telling my husband anything negative about his appe…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 02:27 PM
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I love being at home; I feel so much happier and more fulfilled now then when I was working, and it's the best arrangement for our family. My husband is also happier when I'm home, and gladly stepped into a provider role. That being said, going from working to being a housewife was a huge adjustment and definitely a test for our relationship! I think it's very easy to start relying on your husband to single handedly fill your social needs, and add all the excitement to your day. So a lot of the …
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 04:04 AM
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I'm assuming that you don't have children yet. I think my best advice would be to pick up one, or even several hobbies, look for ways you can get involved in your community, and try to find a friend that also stays at home. When my husband and I first got married, I went from working full time at a demanding job to being a housewife, and it was quite a shock how much spare time I had! I didn't know what to do with myself for the first few months.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 03:25 AM
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Leggings, bike shorts, maternity yoga pants, slouchy sweaters and tank tops is all I wear 99% of the time. Between trying to catch up with my son, house and yard work and long daily walks, I'm definitely more comfort concious. If I'm going out and feel fancy I'll throw on jeans lol Dresses for date nights.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 01:05 PM
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I think honesty would be the best policy here. Being a SAHP is his full time job now. I would explain that it's not sustainable for you to come home and instead of unwinding, try to catch up on chores. If he maintains the house during "business hours" while you're at work, you can spend the evenings together relaxing and enjoying the time with your children.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/22 11:28 PM
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Fertility awareness/withdrawal. Would not recommend if you're not married and happy either way lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 02:28 AM
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Don't feel weird, I think most moms with newborns are looking to make mom friends! And it's so much harder now because of covid, since in my area all lamaze classes etc are online.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 06:09 PM
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If you have kids, the playground is a great networking resource for stay at home moms. Other good options are family activities you could do with your child, such as swimming classes. I personally don't go to church, but I know that many women are able to connect with other housewives through their church and Bible study groups. Perhaps one of your husband's coworkers wife stays at home? If that's the case, invite them over for dinner or go mini golfing (I only say that because I love mini golf,…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 04:13 PM
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My husband proposed when we were on a weekend getaway in Prague. We were sightseeing and he proposed when we were on a tower balcony overlooking the city. It was just us and I had no idea it was coming. I'm actually glad I didn't know because I probably would have psyched myself out planning 10 different outfit options, picture poses etc lol Instead it was a very relaxed and intimate moment, we snapped a quick picture and got coffee and cake in a cafe close by. Later than night we went out to di…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 11:57 PM
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When my husband is under a lot of stress outside of home, I try to make sure that our home is a peaceful and relaxing environment for him. No one wants to finish a hard day at work and come home to drama. Keep the house clean, lights dimmed, light some scented candles. Have no chores waiting for him. Run him a bath and lay out a change of clothes for him. Make his favorite dinner, offer a shoulder rub. Anything that helps him recharge his batteries, physically and mentally. I try to not bring up…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 05:16 PM
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I divide my chores between ones I do daily, twice a week and weekly. Daily: - make the bed - do the dishes and sanitize the kitchen counters - pick up the living room and my kids play area - wipe down the bathroom counters - do a small load of laundry and put it away the same day Twice a week: - vacuum and mop the floors - dust frequently used surfaces (entertainment center etc) - clean the bathroom Weekly: - wash sheets and towels - reevaluate the fridge, wipe down shelves and throw away any ol…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 03:23 AM
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When my husband and I were dating, we talked about what our plans for the future are. We agreed that we're both very family oriented and I think that would be a good place to say that I want to be a stay at home mom, if my husband didn't beat me to it and express that he would be very happy to have a traditional family (dad works, mom stays home with the children).
/r/RedPillWives12/03/22 08:35 PM
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I think I've seen someone mention The Daily Connoisseur on this sub in the past, but never actually looked it up until now. It looks fantastic! I'm very ready for some binge watching when baby is in bed lol. Thank you for the recommendation. As for the MMW comparison, I'm aware of her content but I do feel like it's lacking practical advice I'm interested in, and seems to cater to her male audience a little too much lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 02:37 PM
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Oh I LOVE frugal fit mom!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 01:59 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Yes, you will absolutely be able to find a healthy and loving partnership. That being said, I really encourage you to focus on yourself for awhile before starting dating. I come from a similar background and abuse wrecks a havoc on your self esteem, which makes you very vulnerable to manipulation and being taken advantage of. Take all the means necessary to get out of this abusive environment. Get a job, move out, start therapy. Process your trauma …
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 01:36 AM
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Nothing to add to the previous commenter, it was absolutely spot on. I just wanted to pop in and recommend two subreddit you might find helpful: r/DressForYourBody and r/ModestDress
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 12:34 PM
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My incel radar is going OFF.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 06:07 PM
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Of course taking care of the house (cooking, cleaning, laundry etc) counts as supporting his needs, but things I do that are more specifically directed towards my parter would be preparing his work lunch and work clothes everyday, brewing a fancy cup of coffee when he comes home from work, making his favorite baked goods, helping him keep track of his appointments. He's a big bath person so I make sure we're stocked up on bath salts lol Just little things to help him get ready for work faster (h…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 03:02 PM
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Be mindful of red flags in the dating stage. Is he explosive, or does he control his emotions well? How does he react when he hears of cheating or abuse? How does he treat the women in his life (mother etc)? Is he able to sit down and calmly talk about problems, or does every disagreement end in a fight? I also believe that you should learn a trade or gain some work experience before marrying. Depending on where you are located, I wouldn't necessarily put a big emphasis on college. You don't wan…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/22 03:05 AM
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Same on r/Mommit. Actually r/Mommit is way worse lol I love to hate it
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 01:37 AM
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I don't think there is one, or that there would be really enough ladies to keep it going. But I'm sure a large portion of women here are moms/expecting moms and would be happy to discuss! If you're looking for an alternative to r/pregnant, you can check out r/babybumps. I spent a ton of time on there while I was pregnant and it's a positive community.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 07:51 PM
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Oh that sounds delish, saving this idea for next week's meal plan!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 07:47 PM
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You can never go wrong with a steak dinner! I like to rub mine with some crushed rosemary, salt and cracked black pepper, sear it in a cast iron pan and add a little butter when it's almost done. Add a baked potato and some corn and you've got a delish meal.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:42 AM
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It's a no for me. If a man suggested we get a prenup, I would take it as lack of commitment and trust. I also believe that once you get married, there shouldn't be any "my money, your money". It's our household and our money. And of course, if a man wants a housewife/stay at home mom, a prenup is a joke.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 06:20 AM
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Did my husband, after a long day at his physically demanding job, come home and say "man if only I could make money selling foot pics online"? Yes, yes he did.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 11:39 PM
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Is taking care of your body and staying in shape not feminine?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 06:38 PM
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He's your partner, not your child. Stop nagging a grown man about walking with his hands in his pockets.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/22 06:54 PM
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Yup, every work day. It saves us so much money. My husband is pretty picky when it comes to food, and I know he's happy to know that he has a hot, familiar lunch everyday. I usually add a dessert and a note too. My number one tip for work lunches is getting a food thermos. This way when I make dinner, I can make extra to cover next days lunch. In the morning I'll just reheat it and put it in the thermos. It can easily stay hot for 6+ hours. I generally have either a cake or cookies on hand as we…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/22 07:00 AM
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I think you should be very upfront about it. If you like each other and after the initial few dates decide to continue dating, that would be a good time to tell him. You have to be on the same level when it comes to sex, not every guy will want to wait and will expect sex in the dating stage. Nothing wrong with that, it's just a matter of compatibility.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/22 05:05 PM
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I think that embracing traditional gender roles and putting the man in the lead goes both ways. I don't know if you are a working mom or staying at home, however I consider childcare to be the woman's domain. In this particular scenario, I think the final say should be yours. Kids shouldn't be running around without gloves on in the winter and well, they are kids. They will lose things. Letting them be cold to learn a lesson, in my opinion, is not a way to go about this. Buy cheap gloves. Not ev…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 10:13 PM
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Peanut butter creme brulee sounds amazing! I've always used the NYT recipe and had good results with it. I substitute vanilla paste for the vanilla bean and and use a burning hot spoon to caramelize the sugar.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 09:09 PM
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Yup, happened to me too with an old boyfriend. Constant criticizing, comparing me to Instagram models, "why don't you look like this or wear this" etc. The man sent me elaborate emails about how depressed and sorry he is for 6 months after I was done with him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 08:44 PM
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Steak dinner, wine, creme brulee and movie night at home. If we get lucky and baby blesses us with a reasonable bedtime, I'll pull out nice lingerie lol
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 08:40 PM
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My baby is six months old, and my husband usually leaves for work around 6 in the morning. I wake up whenever the baby wakes up, typically between 9 and 10. We cuddle, I check my phone to wake up, I feed him and get him ready for the day. Afterwards, I make the bed and we're off to the kitchen. I make my coffee and we move to the bathroom, so I can get myself ready for the day. I have a little play station set up for him in there, so he plays while I shower, do my makeup etc. Until my husband ge…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 10:38 PM
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Venison cheeseburgers! I've been digging deep into the deep freezer and trying to clear it out. I tried making burger buns the other day but ended up with dinner rolls, so take two. Wish me luck!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 03:01 PM
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When you find the right partner, you won't have to worry about that. Before I met my husband, I dated a guy who followed dozens of "models" on social media, and sometimes would go as far as verbally comparing me to them. My self esteem was in the gutter at that point in my life. Later I've met my husband, and years into our marriage I have never worried about him finding another women more attractive than me. Attraction isn't just about looks, and you have so much more to offer a man who loves y…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 03:44 PM
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Youtube and Instagram is not real life. I always put my hair up for cooking because keeping it down while handling food is just unsanitary (no one wants to find a hair in their pie). I also don't have my hair down around the baby, or else he will get ahold of a nice chunk every chance he gets.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 10:34 PM
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Unfortunately, our family lives far away and I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my baby with a nanny at this age. Since we had him, we were only able to go out once, when my MIL came to visit. I'm sure that's a big part of the issue, we don't get much one on one time right now. Thank you for pointing out that I need to communicate I wish I had more energy to be intimate: I haven't considered that before!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 01:03 AM
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Thank you! I found the "I'm not in the mood but could be" approach to be really good advice; I've never really looked at it like that. I've talked to my husband about my postpartum body, and he ensured me he finds me just as attractive. However, I've always struggled with body image and striving for "perfection", so it's really just a mental barrier I need to break. He does his best to make me feel better about it, but it's still not easy for me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 12:59 AM
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I appreciate your advice so much! Thank you for taking the time to help me, I love your comment and the practical advice; I will implement it as much as I can!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 12:49 AM
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Imo the bigger issue here is that you're doing wife 'duties' in this relationship and living together without being his wife and it's really throwing off your dynamic. I would give him space to cool off first, it might be hours, it might be days. Once that happens, ask to talk to him and explain that you appreciate small gifts here and there because to you it's an expression of love, such as something else would be to him.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/21 12:57 PM
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I noticed the same thing! I've always had very thick eyebrows, and my mom never let me touch them aside from little plucking to prevent the unibrow lol It had such a hold on me I didn't take the plunge until I was like 23, married and long moved out 😩 But I look soooo much better and my features are so much more balanced and feminine now. I feel like thick eyebrows were just overpowering on my face. Of course, my mom hates it lol
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 12:18 AM
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Uggs (with bows in the back so they're not suuuuper basic lol) vast majority of the time and black Chelsea boots. No heels because I live up north and don't wanna die.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 04:11 PM
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I moved in with my husband about 2 weeks before our wedding date and it was a great decision. We had time to settle in the new house. Moving isn't easy and I'm glad we didn't have to do it directly after getting married and could just enjoy our honeymoon period in peace. I feel that moving in together right before getting married let us enjoy that newly married experience to the fullest. I personally don't agree with living together years before getting married because one, what really changes a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 08:47 AM
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I know this won't answer your question, but I also just had my baby in August and after I gave birth, I was 25 pounds heavier than when I got pregnant. I quickly lost 5 pounds while breastfeeding and not restricting calories (since I started breastfeeding I get more hungry than ever before) and since then, my weight has stayed the same. At first I was very concerned about not losing weight, as I thought I would be back to "normal" in two months. However, I grew to accept the new weight and inste…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 08:54 PM
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