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I immediately thought the worst as well. But... http://www.berkeleyfreeclinic.org/sti-hiv-testing/ They offer mens' only hours 4-7pm on Sundays. I am quite happy to find my first reaction was wrong.
/r/MensRights04/02/19 11:08 PM
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Wow...can you imagine a man receiving this kind of attention after a murder suicide attempt!
/r/MensRights08/09/18 06:39 AM
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Obviously fake.
/r/MensRights29/04/17 10:35 PM
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I definitely agree with everything you have said.
/r/MensRights26/04/17 03:34 PM
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I tried to read some of it quite some time ago. They had a member in r/FeMRADebates and I wanted to see for myself what it really was. I didn't last long. The generalizations about women and men alone made me just nope right out of there.
/r/MensRights26/04/17 06:10 AM
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Image #2.. not exactly truthful https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/fact-checker/wp/2015/03/03/the-zombie-statistic-about-womens-share-of-income-and-property/?utm_term=.68e98945d11c "There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics."
/r/MensRights16/03/17 12:31 AM
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https://www.nhh.no/en/research/research-news/article-archive/2016/september/greater-acceptance-for-men-dropping-out/ There is very real bias out there. How to create the change we would like to see... I don't really know.
/r/MensRights23/02/17 09:07 PM
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Luckily, it only took two hours for the jury to see through her story and convict her. https://thewest.com.au/news/wa/nurse-convicted-over-stabbing-ex-husband-ng-b88371076z
/r/MensRights30/01/17 04:12 PM
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I does seem likely.
/r/MensRights04/10/16 08:30 AM
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Well, I think if I had just posted the link and not made such a sweeping generalization with it would have been quite a bit clearer.
/r/MensRights04/10/16 05:56 AM
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I appreciate the articles and agree things are much better. I am not so much talking about current articles. I should not have worded it that way. I am trying to show that there was very real pushback, threats, intimidation, denials to publish etc by a very powerful vocal feminist academic community to the idea of male victimization. To deny that is silly. I also realize that an ism didn't do that, people did. I would imagine many of the DV researchers who paid this price identified as feminists…
/r/MensRights04/10/16 05:33 AM
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There has been a long history of feminists fighting to bury male victimization (incl death threats), but it is getting much better. I am sure there were feminists that cared, but they have never been really open to male victimization. https://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V71-Straus_Thirty-Years-Denying-Evidence-PV_10.pdf Edit: I hope people read this so they can see just how big a price many selfless researchers and academics paid in order to stay true to their principles. They are very much heroes in…
/r/MensRights04/10/16 04:48 AM
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I wish I knew how to help. Can he try /r/legaladvice? Maybe they can give him some advice.
/r/MensRights21/10/15 04:22 PM
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Yes, all of her writing is gynocentric. To write about suicide and ignore the heaviest victims of it is silly. I just wanted to let people know that she does know the facts and shares them when prompted. I think, in her mind, presenting women only having these problems does not negate the same problems men have. Of course, that is exactly the problem with so many gender discussions. So I do understand why it is so grating to many.
/r/MensRights11/10/15 07:07 PM
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I think this comment is a result of the author's focus on women, but if you check the author's reply to that comment (NY Times Replies tab), you will see that the author does indeed see men and boys vulnerable to those same pressures and that men and boys rates are far larger than women/girls.
/r/MensRights11/10/15 04:12 PM
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Yes her articles, including the one presented, are woman-centric and, yes, they don't cover much for men. But, in her defense, when some of the comments to the NY Times piece start veering off from suicide to how it is a "woman problem", she rightfully corrects them. Not just letting them know that men are also vulnerable to the issues raised, but also the huge difference in rates. If you go to comments/ NY Times replies, you will see them.
/r/MensRights11/10/15 04:03 PM
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Horrible story. If true, I hope charges are coming and the truth is exposed. I think once those parents shouting about football really understand the scope of what had happened, they will be singing a different tune.
/r/MensRights11/10/14 01:04 AM
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I agree completely. Also, judges still bring their own "baggage" while adjudicating and that can make it even harder for a man to overcome when pursuing alimony. That said, alimony reform is still needed due to excesses in some jurisdictions.
/r/MensRights11/10/14 12:58 AM
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I do believe sanctions are the right way to go. But I do agree with the idea of taking away lynch mob mentality and emphasizing rehabilitation.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 02:04 PM
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No her trial is upcoming. They can issue temporary restraining orders w/ no proof.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 02:01 PM
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To be honest, I think that she should be sanctioned only after being found guilty. Presumption of innocence is something I hold quite dear.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 02:58 AM
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This is just fantastic! I am so happy for you and your daughter. I recognize that feeling you described so well, it is like your world is right-side up all of a sudden. It is so important for you to share your story for all the dads who might find themselves in similar circumstances.
/r/MensRights29/08/14 08:58 PM
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No not wealthy she was getting 2k/mo child support for daughter and another 1200 for alimony. Between that and well off parents, they just chose not to work. What really threw their world in to a tizzy was a few years down the road when I went after custodial custody and they lost the child support. She had a prescription pill problem, been acting erratic, and had pretty much just left my daughter with me for long periods of time. So she knew she was s/o/l and agreed to become the noncustodial p…
/r/MensRights28/08/14 02:20 AM
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I did so as well.
/r/MensRights27/08/14 04:48 PM
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I dont think the alimony was set too high, I just found it laughable that it had to last for as long as it did- 12 years. She never wanted to transition to the work force and the alimony facilitated that. As to your initial comment, as long as remarriage affects alimony status, cohabitation should as well. But, to be honest, as long as marriage changes a persons legal status, their tax grouping, benefit eligibility, marital rights, etc, I dont know that we will see this reform pass. I assume tha…
/r/MensRights27/08/14 12:41 AM
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My ex lived with her boyfriend for 10 years and married w/in 6 mos. after my alimony payments ended. This caveat is meant to keep the system from being abused and, frankly, would have saved me a fortune. It enabled the both of them from having to find steady employment.
/r/MensRights26/08/14 07:34 PM
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LOL, no I think the whole thing was made up to have him removed from the house. "I don't see how it's illegal for her to do," Well, I guess it is a good thing you weren't the judge presiding over the two womens case.
/r/MensRights08/08/14 01:24 PM
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One of the women admitted that it was a setup, that is why she and the other woman (his wife, SO?) were sentenced to jail time.
/r/MensRights08/08/14 01:15 PM
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It was all a set up by the two women to ensnare Ibbs and get rid of him.
/r/MensRights08/08/14 01:02 PM
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Great job, Marcruise. I would love to see this discussed in /r/FeMRADebates as well. I hope you x-post it there as well.
/r/MensRights30/07/14 01:22 PM
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I wish google translate did a better job. Deciphering as best I could, the article seemed right on point and was quite brilliant.
/r/MensRights23/07/14 02:15 PM
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Chaperons are used, for the most part. in pelvic/ breast exams when the doctor is male and the patient is a female. It is rarely used at all when the patient is a man. This is done, in all honesty, to protect the doctor. It is risk-management. Many of my friends are MDs.
/r/MensRights12/07/14 10:57 PM
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"or stabbed with high heels..." That made me think of the woman who killed her partner that way. http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/apr/08/houston-woman-stiletto-convicted-murder
/r/MensRights11/07/14 05:31 PM
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Fantastic, congratulations! All the while, representing yourself... very well done.
/r/MensRights07/07/14 10:26 PM
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As an athlete, yes I have seen many fights starting from a push on the playing field. I have been involved in some (I was young and stupid). I have been hit for simply "trash talk", so yes it is the same when men (or boys) are playing with each other.
/r/MensRights05/07/14 04:17 PM
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Correct, no legal guarantees and no free stuff. Women dont have to pay co-pays or deductibles when accessing contraceptives or sterilizations, men do if their policy covers them at all.
/r/MensRights05/07/14 01:27 PM
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ACA provides that policies cover all contraceptives for women only. Requires them to be free, no deductibles.. nothing. Men, if their lucky enough to have coverage, still must pay their deductible. That means no condoms (women can get them, but men cannot), no vasectomies, nothing. Hobby Lobby only disallowed abortificants. I disagree with the ruling, but women still have free contraception and men do not... even under Hobby Lobby.
/r/MensRights05/07/14 01:49 AM
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"And that wasn't a 2014 study. It was from 2012." I'm sorry, I mistyped. It would be pretty amazing to have a 2014 study and the year not even over, LOL. My last answer may have sounded a little snarky, sorry. The truth is the gap is there for all boys and is actively widening. The lower you go socioeconomically, the wider the gap. That is true for most all industrialized nations. It will get a lot worse before we actively face it because men are at the top of the hierarchy and advocating for bo…
/r/MensRights27/06/14 12:51 PM
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2010 study by michael kimmel vs 2014 Pew (largest most respected). Hmmm....I think I will trust Pew
/r/MensRights27/06/14 04:30 AM
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"White men and white women don't have a "gender education gap"." Yes they do and have for awhile. http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/03/06/womens-college-enrollment-gains-leave-men-behind/
/r/MensRights27/06/14 03:00 AM
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Generalizing women is no different than generalizing men. I care for neither.
/r/MensRights26/06/14 11:53 PM
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When you say that some use patriarchy to their benefit, that is absolutely true. Some appeal to it and some actually promote it some weird ways. Some remove agency from girls and women without realizing it. But I stress this is SOME feminist advocacy, not all. "They think they're witty when they say "patriarchy hurts men too", and then go back to saying MRM shouldn't exist while they themselves offer no solutions... in other words, they don't want it solved." I think they do want it solved. The …
/r/MensRights26/06/14 05:58 PM
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No, those ideas come from traditional society. Some feminist advocacy can appeal to/reinforce those stereotypes, but they did not create them.
/r/MensRights26/06/14 03:53 PM
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LOL, you really should use the /s.
/r/MensRights26/06/14 03:52 PM
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I agree with him, the problem is not with feminism. It is with traditional thinking. Feminism advocacy can appeal to traditionalists ideas about men and women, demonize men and boys, and distort/obfuscate studies and statistics. But those are things feminist advocacy sometimes does, not feminism itself. The fact that he thinks it is not a mens rights issue is DEAD WRONG. If feminist advocacy does not want to illuminate the ways in which men and boys are short changed and suffering, someone has t…
/r/MensRights26/06/14 03:32 PM
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Great cartoon. I can get behind something like this, it shows a great deal of compassion for men and boys.
/r/MensRights25/06/14 03:31 AM
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Yes she is!!
/r/MensRights10/06/14 01:50 AM
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I always kind of rolled my eyes at the "always be recording" meme. LOL, I might have been wrong!!
/r/MensRights08/06/14 05:46 PM
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I agree. She essentially wants to eliminate the male gender class she sees as the oppressive ruler/slaveholder. It is the argument at the center of radical feminist patriarchy theory. "Her idea that gender categories were created solely to exploit women seems inaccurate though." Which is why "patriarchy" in other fields mean other things.
/r/MensRights01/06/14 10:12 PM
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You might be interested in this: http://www.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/comments/1voxgf/toxic_masculinity_came_from_mens_activists_not/
/r/MensRights29/05/14 05:06 PM
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I guess unreasonable was a bit strong, perhaps ineffective and, in my view, somewhat biased. I just think there is such a NEED for this kind of discussion for men and boys and feel feminists are not the right people to be making it. It must come from someone else who can deliver from a different angle that would actually garner more interest, for no other reason than it is such an important discussion to have.
/r/MensRights29/05/14 04:59 PM
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In my mind the issue is pretty easily identifiable.. Shame. Until we tackle the way men are socialized to deal with shame and fundamentally change the level of societal empathy for men (and boys), this situation will continue.
/r/MensRights29/05/14 03:14 PM
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There can be toxic aspects to masculinity, femininity, or any identity. That has never really been a question in my mind. Please see my response from another sub, I think it kind of espouses: 1. Of course there are toxic aspects to masculinity 2. The completely wrong way in which some feminists have tried to approach the problem. http://www.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/comments/26omdu/on_the_healthytoxic_masculinity_contrast/cht9yq7 I do wish we could cooperate with feminists more, but I think we w…
/r/MensRights29/05/14 12:55 PM
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LOL, what the hell was that??
/r/MensRights28/05/14 11:39 PM
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LOL, I was the OP and, no, I didn't mean that. I should have been clearer.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 04:51 PM
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It is a valid theory where women are turned into an object to be won by the actions of a man. It also feeds into the narrative of a man's sense of entitlement to a woman if he fulfills certain actions. But like most things in the world the truth is not black or white. There is a corresponding/ alternative dilemma for men. The trope that a man must prove himself worthy, must jump through the societal "hoops" to demonstrate his worthiness to be regarded as a suitable suitor. That a man is simply t…
/r/MensRights28/05/14 03:52 PM
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Thank you ... yes that is obviously what I mean.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 12:52 PM
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Creep to a feminist is not the same thing as creep to most men. Many men that ignore boundaries are labeled as creeps (as they should), but also men that transgress social hierarchies, appear awkward, are socially inarticulate can also be labeled as such (with no boundaries crossed). I believe both are valid in my experience, maybe in your experience- it is only the transgressing of boundaries. "First is the attribution that feminists assume maleness is inherently bad." You are right in that I t…
/r/MensRights28/05/14 03:57 AM
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Very good point, shame is potent. I have always thought the biggest contributor to the large disparity in successful suicide was because of shame and the ways men are socialized to deal with it. Shame is destructive and potentially deadly, without a doubt. Improving societal empathy for men can do a lot to improve this.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 02:44 AM
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Isolation, whether self-imposed or not, tends to exacerbate any mental condition. The benefits and NECESSITY of human interaction is amazing. You mention your boyfriend's age at 32, I would think his worldview was somewhat altered once he became involved romantically with another human being. We are social creatures and crave that link.
/r/MensRights27/05/14 08:26 PM
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I am horrified your son has to go through this. I don't know what to say, I went through the wringer ... but nothing like this. I was lucky in that my ex (the custodial parent) pretty much left my daughter w/ me for long periods of time, so I was able to claim abandonment. If she had not done that, I dont know how I would have been able to get her away from an addict (lawyer figured 100k in costs to go after her). There is nothing I can say except, just keep fighting. Be there for your son as mu…
/r/MensRights24/05/14 01:37 AM
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As much as I hate to say this... play the game. Do what your ex requests, SEE your daughter. Develop, maintain, nurture that relationship. Children grow up so quickly, make sure you see her as much as you can no matter what.
/r/MensRights22/05/14 04:40 PM
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Wow, very good post.
/r/MensRights11/05/14 06:20 PM
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Would you consider doing something to promote a nationwide father's putative registry? It would help a great number of men in keeping their children from being put up for adoption w/o their consent. It would also be pretty easy to get public support for such a message. U/Karissa mentioned that a national registry was quite doable. http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/24x2dv/lets_talk_about_something_more_important_than/
/r/MensRights09/05/14 02:53 PM
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People--the bystanders are protecting the guy!! Not the best wording, but I think the message is clear.
/r/MensRights09/05/14 02:46 PM
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You can still disagree with the OP's other opinions, but the fact that this is an absolutely clear cut case of men's rights being abridged and would very easily garner public support can't be ignored.
/r/MensRights07/05/14 03:50 PM
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Fantastic post and thank you. As the number of children born to a single mom increase, these kinds of cases are bound to increase as well. I am assuming there can be no national registry, since the laws are under state jurisdiction. Please guys, use these registries if you have even an inkling a pregnancy could occur.
/r/MensRights07/05/14 03:39 PM
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Uh, kind of makes perfect sense to me. If men were the one to become pregnant, carry another life within their body for nine months, men might be more for restricting abortion. I would think moms would poll quite differently than never pregnant/childless women and men. Seems quite common sense to me.
/r/MensRights07/05/14 02:32 PM
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I actually disagree. The OP went on to explain why he was putting the word feminist in quotation marks. He felt they were not real feminists according to his own definition.
/r/MensRights03/05/14 02:54 PM
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Great job!!
/r/MensRights02/05/14 12:45 PM
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Show him this articlehttp://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/04/male_rape_in_america_a_new_study_reveals_that_men_are_sexually_assaulted.html and explain this if he feels men are not also victims. http://i1.minus.com/ibdWhAGbVpHg9Z.png You can also speak to him about RAINN's position that rape culture discussions are not the best way to serve victims of rape. Rape is primarily carried out by a relatively small group of repeat offenders and linking it w/ maleness and masculinity as a …
/r/MensRights29/04/14 07:55 PM
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Yeah, I did. Eventually, it worked out ok. Admittedly, my situation didn't involve jail and restraining orders. I can only imagine the anguish some of these men are going through. If he must make a break in order to sustain his sanity and freedom, I understand. I just want him to know there are some of us who did go through some of what he is going through. That it can work out. But I am in no way judging him for whatever decision he makes.
/r/MensRights26/04/14 09:39 PM
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I know and am not being flippant, I just really want you to not give up, dont take the easy route. I have seen it before, I have experienced it before. Don't ever allow yourself to stop trying.
/r/MensRights26/04/14 06:43 PM
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It is easier to just move on, but there will come a time when your child comes into adulthood. It will make a difference to her that you made the effort to be in her life. Keep on fighting, don't ever stop fighting. I don't know you and I can only hope you are what you say you are ... a loving father. If that part is true, then there is no way in hell you should ever stop fighting to be a part of your daughter's life.
/r/MensRights26/04/14 03:58 PM
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LOL, I hadnt read that one, it must be at the bottom. That last sentence of yours pretty much encapsulates my view as well.
/r/MensRights21/04/14 12:33 PM
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I honestly dont think he/she has a clue. I translated some of the comments through google and they are indeed quite rough. They seem to have a completely misandric, generalized view of men there. The sexism seems to run deep.
/r/MensRights20/04/14 06:09 PM
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You should read her previous articles, you would see she very much has a problem with it. http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/oct/04/photograph-strangers-train-tumblr
/r/MensRights16/04/14 11:15 PM
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Actually, the author was not so crazy about the men sitting on the train site either. She is consistent. Sometimes we are so fast to jump on people, we dont really examine the situation thoroughly. http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/oct/04/photograph-strangers-train-tumblr
/r/MensRights16/04/14 11:13 PM
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A very interesting article and refreshing take on how to hold a proper conversation, be it in person or online.
/r/MensRights15/04/14 06:29 PM
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You are welcome. I would have been taken back a little myself.
/r/MensRights02/03/14 08:10 PM
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Well, thank you again, minus the snark.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 09:11 PM
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Thank you for that, AMR.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 08:53 PM
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To the OP: Thank you for posting this. I definitely agree with your reaction. We, more than most, see the abysmal plight of minority men, the barriers and discrimination they face, so there is simply no excuse but to see the White House Initiative as anything other than an absolute breakthrough. Any other reaction is, in my view, ridiculous and severely wrong-headed. With nearly every single statistic we uncover, with every situation where we find men suffering and ignored, the plight is much, m…
/r/MensRights28/02/14 08:48 PM
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I must have missed the bad reaction, could you link it for me, thanks.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 07:22 PM
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I don't know if this a troll or not, but why take a chance. Please give these people a call before making any decisions. 1-800-273-8255 http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Or perhaps reach out to these wonderful people: http://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/search?q=suicide&sort=relevance&restrict_sr=on&t=all I am sorry for all the pain you have endured and can only hope you will get the help you need.
/r/MensRights26/02/14 08:31 PM
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I have trouble talking about my problems... period. But when I do, it will be to someone female. Why? I don't really know. Maybe we are affected by stereotypes regarding empathy? I really don't like to let my guard down around anyone. Interestingly enough, it is kind of amazing to watch just how honest and open guys are with each other on Reddit. I come from an older generation (47), so maybe some of that plays in to it as well.
/r/MensRights25/02/14 04:49 PM
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I knew about this years ago, through the MHRM. It is hard to believe the majority of the UK (I live in the US) is just learning of this now.
/r/MensRights25/02/14 12:59 AM
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I definitely feel for you. It is the utterly narcissistic entitlement-complex that just infuriates me. But she kind of has you by the balls, if you make a big stink, who says she will continue to honor 50-50. I know when I got divorced and made alimony or child support payments. I felt like I was buying access to my child. I felt like it was all one big shakedown... they had something I wanted (access to my daughter) and I had something they needed ($). Jaded view I know, but it doesn't mean it …
/r/MensRights25/02/14 12:53 AM
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I also think it is a legitimate question to ask, but it doesn't have to be the primary one. The question was "What kind of legal rights do I have?", not "Help me decide whether to introduce myself to my son". To have that shoved down his throat immediately ...to essentially try and police his reaction, in my view, is somewhat insulting and infantilizing. Edit: Also, later in the thread, when he tried to give voice to his feelings that he should not immediately cow tail to what they were saying, …
/r/MensRights24/02/14 07:36 PM
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I don't think he misrepresented what happened at all. The most upvoted replies were questioning his maturity and whether his involvement would be detrimental to the child. This society has been thrashing men as deadbeat dads who run out on their kids, we should be supporting the ones who want to do the complete opposite. Of course I think he should try and get to understand the situation with his son before jumping in and shouting "Hi, I am your dad!!". The OP is not in any way advocating for th…
/r/MensRights24/02/14 06:27 PM
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If he sees that you are going to be fair then the divorce won't be so stressful for him although the children still won't like it. Very important point! In the minds of most men, the minute they hear the word divorce, that palpable terror races through their mind of losing the children. I know I was terrified of being vulnerable to my ex's whimsical feelings dictating my access to my daughter. Great point.
/r/MensRights20/02/14 04:50 PM
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I really do admire you for recognizing your limitations and being honest with yourself for the sake of your kids. But as someone who has been through this situation, please know that once you are settled and your life has some sense of order and stability, you will be in a much better place to share the custody of your children. I have been the non-custodial parent (coming from the traditional breadwinner role) and, let me tell you, every other weekend really sucks. You are left as simply an ass…
/r/MensRights20/02/14 03:42 PM
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Was that debate in r/FeMRADebates? I read a thread in there discussing the law in England and, even though no mention of "made to penetrate" is in the wording of the law, they were sure that a male raped by a woman would be covered. I had significant doubts that this was so.
/r/MensRights15/02/14 04:23 AM
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Shared parenting and better reproductive rights for men. Better male contraception, increased sex ed directed at boys, no more forced fatherhood, redesigning the child support system (the effects on poor men are disastrous). The chaos and destruction wrought on so many men (and boys) could be greatly diminished by tackling these issues. As the single father of a wonderful daughter, I saw first-hand how difficult the family courts can be for dads. How difficult it is for not just the courts, but …
/r/MensRights15/02/14 02:56 AM
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I completely agree. There are obviously many victims who cannot prove their assault. I can offer them my empathy and compassion. But, at the same time, I refuse to judge the guilt of an alleged perpetrator without proper adjudication. A perfect example of this is the Farrow/Allen case. I can feel empathy for Farrow (lets face it, she has gone through a troubled childhood whether at the hands of Allen or her mother) and still not judge Allen a molester w/o being proven so in court. There are, I w…
/r/MensRights14/02/14 03:56 PM
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Yet another horribly sexist article from the Guardian. I have no problem w/ the author's wish to have a better understanding of how we as a society could intervene and possibly prevent these people (serial killers) from doing so much destruction... if only she had not been so sexist in doing so. I was very pleasantly surprised that this sexism was plainly apparent to the many who commented, though. In fact, the "Guardian pick" comment better articulated what was so wrong with this article than I…
/r/MensRights14/02/14 04:33 AM
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I have not seen any hate coming from this sub. I hope it was downvoted heavily.
/r/MensRights13/02/14 09:14 PM
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A few of our most prominent commentators have been trans people. I really have not seen much evidence of bigoted behavior towards them.
/r/MensRights13/02/14 09:11 PM
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I think you are approaching it backwards. We, at least as far as I have seen absolutely believe women are discriminated against. We just also believe men are also the victims of prejudice. As far as I can tell, that is one of the prime differences between the two movements. In my experience, you are unique in that you are a feminist who believes as you do. As far as what event turned me on to men's rights, it was really a culmination of events, not one single thing. When I divorced I did the who…
/r/MensRights12/02/14 04:42 PM
10

But I think that sarcasm acts as a vent for anger over the unfair demonization of men. I try not to give in to this temptation, but I definitely understand that anger.
/r/MensRights10/02/14 08:06 PM
3

Of course it is. I think the real value of an info-graphic such as this is simply to counter the stereotype (men are abusers). I believe people are people. some are abusive, some are not. Getting past the misandric stereotypes, and showing that an abusers face is not automatically male, makes this important.
/r/MensRights10/02/14 08:00 PM
2

You are treating the girl as you would a child. You are assigning her no agency and "damseling" her w/ the diminished psyche routine. This very mindset, man=agent... women=acted upon is at the very root of sentencing disparities, lack of compassion for men and boys, etc. Please don't take this as attacking you because your viewpoint is the status quo for our society right now, for both men and women.
/r/MensRights01/02/14 11:50 PM
2

Honestly, I don't think so. I have no problem with reposts, as many may not have seen it before. But if it gets little attention or a few downvotes, dont let it stop you from posting more. It can be simply because they have already seen it.
/r/MensRights01/02/14 11:40 PM
1

This is a repost (it has been in here before), but yes it does show violence against men and boys perpetrated by women and girls as comedy. It is one of many I am afraid.
/r/MensRights01/02/14 11:24 PM
1

Link?
/r/MensRights01/02/14 10:41 PM
1

I think you responded the way many people would have. But it also showcases our sexism. We have to remember boys and girls should receive the same respect and the same compassion. Don't put girls on a pedestal any higher than the boys and get rid of the damseling aspect of it as well. Just tell one kid not to bully another. No special treatment for girls, no special punishment for boys. Just rules for kids in how to treat one another. If you see a girl bullying a boy, you should be able to repea…
/r/MensRights29/01/14 05:26 PM
1

Sent. Thank you so much for this post.
/r/MensRights29/01/14 05:17 PM
6

This is insane. I just don't understand people like this. They feel no personal responsibility, just a sense of narcissistic indignation. Your friend made sure he got consent throughout the act, and still she wants to characterize what she went through as rape?!! This is infantilizing and not the action of an adult. Chapelle would have a field day w/ this. http://www.comedycentral.com/video-clips/jwmvxd/chappelle-s-show-love-contract
/r/MensRights27/01/14 07:51 PM
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Which, regardless of what this person thinks, is the majority of us. Thank you for your post, it is always nice to read something like this.
/r/MensRights27/01/14 03:38 PM
2

"Please help enlighten me to your views of this a little more. I have never understood the idea of not having a biological father in a child's life always being detrimental to the kid." I admit I have a tough time sorting my out my feelings on this. I have had custody of my daughter for many years, my ex just walked away. I know I definitely feel she is better off without her mother in her life. But at the same time, I fear how not having a mom will impact her later in life. Will she have issues…
/r/MensRights26/01/14 11:26 PM
2

I agree with the message of the first comic and I also agree with this one. Both are true to some extent. That is why I like this sub so much. I have never seen any of us argue that women don't face unique disadvantages due to their sex. The difference is we believe the same for men.
/r/MensRights26/01/14 11:00 PM
5

Yes, your boyfriend is correct, any legal recourse will be in her favor. Until society recognizes forced fatherhood is just as wrong as forced motherhood, this will remain the norm. Just try and support him as best you can, it sounds like you have his back. :)
/r/MensRights26/01/14 10:29 PM
1

Exactly, chivalry is not dead!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/MensRights26/01/14 06:59 PM
4

I really have no doubt female scientists have a tougher time than their male counterparts, and that is not right. Both men and women (society) are guilty of having preconceived notions of men and women. It can be seen in industry (women may decide to leave, women will not work the 50 hr- be committed to the job), family law (dads<moms), education (boys and girls think school is for girls & teachers like girls more), men are seen as more naturally authoritative (women have to fight to be seen as …
/r/MensRights25/01/14 03:00 PM
6

I am speechless.....
/r/MensRights24/01/14 08:22 PM
7

There is nothing wrong w/ circumcision, I am cut.:) The problem comes with doing something like this to someone's body w/o their approval. It is an issue of body autonomy. Parents should, in my view, just wait to get their son's input on what to do with his body.
/r/MensRights24/01/14 04:26 PM
2

While I disagree w/ the way patriarchy has been spun in feminist discussion (ie: absolute privilege to men, I believe it is way more complicated than that- GWW). I do think something could be said for the intrinsic authority- men. intrinsic value- women idea. It does feed into several narratives we know well.
/r/MensRights22/01/14 01:22 AM
5

Very insightful reply. I admit having the same gut reaction as "Thune" at the top, but, yes, stereotypes play a huge part in how we think of those men.
/r/MensRights21/01/14 02:09 AM
4

It is interesting that you brought up family dynamics. I believe so many DV abusers (and perhaps some victims) are brought up in families that have that violent dynamic present. They think it is just a normal part of family life to have violence present. Abused acting out later in life as abusers or victims later choosing relationships with that dynamic. Having a child brought up w/ violence present in the home has got to be at the root of this kind of destructive behavior. I wonder if the girl …
/r/MensRights21/01/14 02:05 AM
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It is a shame you had to go through this. Domestic violence is a horrible thing and I don't envy the cops in having to make these kinds of calls. So many times it can be impossible to know who the aggressor is and so the cops just arrest everyone. The Duluth model came into vogue when female arrests began to skyrocket. They obviously want to stop females from being arrested, that is stupid misandry. Maybe, in the absence of a clear aggressor, it is just better for both to be arrested and let the…
/r/MensRights21/01/14 01:41 AM
4

Anyone claiming one sex is superior to the other is well.... an idiot. This woman is a little dim.
/r/MensRights20/01/14 09:45 PM
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It really does cut to the heart of the matter when advocacy of those who are in the most need of help purposefully leave the word men out of the conversation for fear they will not be provided support. This is true for just about any humanitarian effort. We see the word man and see only agency and self-determinism. Hopefully we will allow ourselves to start having the same deserved empathy and care for men we now feel for women and children.
/r/MensRights18/01/14 03:31 PM
6

Great article. Empathy and care for men is something we as a society have ignored and diminished. Hopefully, things will change.
/r/MensRights18/01/14 03:24 PM
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That is just ridiculously short sighted and frankly egotistical, not everything is a "shot" against women. Maybe at one time some of that was mixed in there, but just no. Women who exhibited masculine stereotypical behavior were ostracized and shamed in the past, some still are. Do you think society hates anything masculine? Something happened maybe 40 years ago, womens liberation. Men are just now going through this process. As this liberation continues mens roles will expand just like womens d…
/r/MensRights18/01/14 03:00 PM
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Don't talk to a lawyer, talk to your ex. Explain to her how important it is for your kids and creating a positive educational culture for them. Explain to her your concern is for the kids, not to criticize and nitpick at her. To some of the comments: I am maybe a little older than most here, but I was forced into the every other weekend father role. The object of shared custody is to give those kids as much "face-time" w/ each parent as possible, not to compete to get "more" time then the other.…
/r/MensRights18/01/14 05:54 AM
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Perfectly said. I hope your program goes well.
/r/MensRights17/01/14 08:31 PM
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One of the more publicized efforts. the AAUW study. http://content.nmsu.edu/documents/coe/ci/morehead/documents/the-myth-that-schools-shortchange-girls.pdf Edit: You seem a little pissed.
/r/MensRights17/01/14 02:32 PM
3

Kind of a microcosm of our position, isn't it.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 07:21 PM
2

The article is terrible, but Hope Jacoby is insanely good looking. You have to wonder what her psychological make-up would say. I just can't wrap my head around what is going on in their minds.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 06:57 PM
4

Please NO MAS Nomas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/MensRights16/01/14 06:54 PM
14

Nobody wants to give up an entitlement. I can understand why they wouldn't, but someone has to have enough intellectual honesty to be able to withstand the damseling and act appropriately.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 06:52 PM
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Terrific graphic. Concise and honest, no blustering or hyperbole. This is EXACTLY the kind of tool we should use in our advocacy.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 06:49 PM
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Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. So much of this is really wrapped up with notions of masculinity. We are not supposed to complain, advocate for ourselves, be seen as anything but stoic. It is seen as unmanly to do so. That is why some critics knee jerk reaction is to demean us as neckbeards, living in parents basement, not having sex or relationships with women. It is the societally-approved way to shame men and attack their masculinity.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 06:08 PM
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Feminism didn't destroy education, they lobbied and advocated for girls. Were some of their policies and advocating efforts purposefully hiding and diminishing problems for boys? Yes. That is why we need a similar effort for boys. It would shine the light on boy's problems, advocate for policies and theories designed to help boys, and keep feminists honest. Any organization designed to help only one portion of students, if not kept honest and in check, will tend to overshoot and actually obfusca…
/r/MensRights16/01/14 05:28 PM
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This is misandry.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 04:30 PM
3

Very interesting. I hope a sufficient number attend, it would help spur more inclusion into the gender equity discussion. I just hope it doesn't turn into another "patriarchy hurts men too" dismissive generalization.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 04:00 AM
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http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/dear_colleague_sexual_violence.pdf Basically, it is saying that schools must act against sexual assault complaints separate from criminal proceedings. If they do not act on those complaints they can face being cut off from federal funds.
/r/MensRights15/01/14 07:25 PM
1

Wow, the shaming is actually a fantastic example of true misogyny. Linking us with Manhood 101... this guy doesn't have a clue.
/r/MensRights14/01/14 11:28 PM
2

Exactly, they have spent a great deal of time arguing against recognizing parental alienation because they feel it is in women's interest to do so. What all this boils down to is that mainstream feminism is not a gender equality movement, it is a women's advocacy movement(http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/jan/09/not-a-feminist-move-on-men-women). There is nothing wrong with such a movement, but there must be some sort of balance. That is why there is such a need for a movement for me…
/r/MensRights14/01/14 06:59 PM
2

You mostly see it in comments on articles. But I do agree many women (whether feminist or not) are in favor of more options. What is interesting is they do have a tendency to correlate it to themselves (whether dismissive or supportive), the idea that this would give agency to the man or teen boy seems to come as a revelation. I don't really blame them for this, the whole discussion of men gaining agency to their reproductive rights kind of came as a "revelation" to myself a few years ago when t…
/r/MensRights14/01/14 05:55 PM
6

Hoff Sommers has been our society's most staunch defender and advocate for men and boys. She has been our "lone voice" for so many years and, unfortunately, still is. I admire her a great deal and she has been demonized by so many for it. She is a tiger and just won't stop... just won't let it go. I hope others will eventually join her, but right now it would be deemed politically incorrect to do so.
/r/MensRights13/01/14 04:31 PM
2

If 80/ thousand are completing the task, just imagine how many are contemplating it or have made an attempt.
/r/MensRights11/01/14 11:26 PM
3

I understand frustration, but have just a little compassion for those of us who have a legitimate gripe. I did not plan on becoming a single parent when I got married. I did not plan on being the custodial single parent when I got divorced about 10 years ago. I did the whole non-custodial dad thing because that was what I thought a good man did. A child belonged w/ her mother, except the every other weekend thing, or so I thought. I paid the child support, the alimony, private school cost, and u…
/r/MensRights10/01/14 08:11 PM
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Her post history is consistent. Maybe she doesn't have the details correct and she sounds young, but you sound extremely dismissive. It almost sounds like you have a horse in this race.
/r/MensRights10/01/14 05:35 PM
2

Fantastic movie and I see something like this exploring the very themes we see discuss here. I am so heartened with the changes in attitude the last few years or so. Between recognizing male victimization to the push-back on the stereotyping and demonization of maleness, it has been quite a change.
/r/MensRights10/01/14 02:57 PM
2

As a single father of a daughter myself, thank you for the contribution. My ex is a prescription pill addict and our situation mirrors yours so much. She is now in college and I can only hope I have done my job as well as your father has done his.
/r/MensRights10/01/14 02:49 PM
4

Wait... are you saying rape and satanic ritual abuse almost never happen, but false accusations of them happen all the time? That is insane. While being an advocate for our "innocent until proven guilty" system and extending the "rape shield law" to the accused, there is no question rape happens. In fact, believe it or not, it happens to men as well as women. Perpetrators can be men as well as women. You are not making any sense.
/r/MensRights09/01/14 08:46 PM
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One women's comment just summed up all my thoughts so much better than I could articulate: "Wow. For all you women out there who think this is about you - get over yourselves. Thinking that the concept of "be a man" has to do with women is the equivalent of the choice between butter or sour cream on a baked potato having to do with the cow. Yeah, she factored in there at one point, but really, her part is way over and she should stay out of it now. If the COMMON phrase - the one in question - wa…
/r/MensRights09/01/14 05:25 AM
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That figure really does kind of boggle the mind. I think as society sits right now, the only way to change things is through VERY CAREFUL advocacy. That is the reason for the "Women tend to be braver and tougher..." comment in my view. If you are going to advocate for men in any way, you are going to have to walk the minefield of "don't take anything away from women". It would also take men advocating for themselves and each other, and that is just not seen by many to be very manly.
/r/MensRights04/01/14 06:05 PM
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"It's about optimizing outcomes for women at the expense of men." In the past, I would have scoffed at that kind of definition. But I remember a heated exchange I had regarding the desire of some feminists to begin using Title 9 to generate quotas for STEM majors in college. No corresponding quotas for men in veterinary medicine, communications, or college participation even. I just could not wrap my head around their myopic view. I am one of those guys who does not wish to generalize feminists …
/r/MensRights04/01/14 05:42 PM
4

Wow, quite an article!
/r/MensRights03/01/14 06:16 PM
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Agree or disagree w/ him all you want, but this diatribe just shows the "high school mean girls" brand of feminism at their best. He is definitely pro-feminist and not, from what I can tell, pro-MRA. I don't agree w/ Ally a lot, but he has helped spread the word regarding male victimization and help for them. For that I am grateful. Shame to see him vilified like that.
/r/MensRights03/01/14 12:51 PM
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From what I have come to understand regarding the boys crisis in education, there are two distinct areas where boys are having problems. The first is in non-cognitive skills. I assume this to be referring to behavior, organization, and homework. If the typical boy and the typical girl receive the same test grades, the girl will receive a better grade at the end of the course because she is more amenable to the learning process. Whether this is due to biology (energy, rough-housing, etc.) or soci…
/r/MensRights03/01/14 01:57 AM
1

Thanks for that.
/r/MensRights02/01/14 05:52 PM
6

Seriously, how does this post have 3 downvotes at this time? Does someone not feel like this belongs in mens rights? or are they against men having reproductive rights at all?
/r/MensRights02/01/14 03:21 PM
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Counter-productive does not begin to describe the idiocy of the "child support industrial complex".
/r/MensRights31/12/13 08:20 PM
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She wants it to mock it. She, like many feminists, believe it does not and cannot exist. She is probably somewhat misandric to want to ridicule the idea so much as to wear a hat, LOL. Tumblerinas, you got to love 'em.
/r/MensRights31/12/13 04:32 PM
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I know how much everyone hates the idea of privilege. I think it is misused much of the time, but I also believe in the concept. In saying that, it is also obvious that when a group does have privilege in an area of life they are resistant to giving it up. This is exactly what is happening here. It will take a fight to create change, but the change will come.
/r/MensRights30/12/13 03:12 PM
9

You don't think we should feel anger with something like this?
/r/MensRights29/12/13 02:09 AM
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I think anyone who does that kind of damage to someone needs a much longer sentence than 6 months. But I know the judge gave him the max. As a serial offender, hopefully he will spend some real time away. As far as the boys dont hit girls thing, I get it. But this guy is an animal.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 09:31 PM
4

Damn it! Well too late, I fed him.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 10:36 PM
3

If you ever did something like this to someone (or think you would), I really dont have anything more to say to you.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 10:34 PM
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I despise censorship. But I also believe that sometimes it is the little things that, when added up, can belittle people's experiences. Would I have asked for the magnet to be removed... no, I could give a rat's ass. But by making the request, this person might just slightly shift that office's thinking a little bit. As far as a male dominated office, have you even been to the doctor before? There is hardly a more gender segregated industry than healthcare, LOL. As a business owner, I am quite a…
/r/MensRights23/12/13 10:13 PM
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I found nothing wrong w/ asking for a magnet portraying gender violence against men to be removed. Is it a top priority?, no. But I also wouldn't blame a women who has a similar request. That doesn't mean we can't do other things as well. I just responded to a post asking us to look for health websites to try and ask for some help so men can access health care more easily. I think that was a great post.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 09:40 PM
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It is interesting we just had a long educational discussion w/ a trans-woman feminist. My final comment to her was much the same as yours to us. "I think it was pretty brave for the OP to come in here and discuss things. But I also think her views pretty much encapsulate the problems many of us have with feminism. No matter the criteria, no matter the fact that the OP cares about men (I believe her), with every single comment she basically just reiterates the very basic assumption that no matter…
/r/MensRights23/12/13 06:21 PM
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Give her some time. In my mind, gender discourse, like many things, has been pretty much a monopoly. Think about sports, it wasn't all that long ago women had no real options. Like all monopolies, it can feel threatening discussing the other side. Just keep the discussion rational and fair, but stay firm. If your dream-self keeps beating her up.... well, then there might be a problem.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 06:01 PM
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Wait, I really hope you misspoke on this. You are telling me you would accuse someone of rape... when you were not raped. If that is true, I am afraid that is a very real problem. I can't even get my head around that.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 05:43 PM
1

The IWF has been linked to quite a few times before. They are definitely fair and balanced. But they are part of the conservative think tank world, some of our progressive members might not be crazy about that, but I think they are great.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 04:50 PM
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Great idea, I knew about the one situation you cited. I will be happy to look around!
/r/MensRights23/12/13 04:43 PM
7

Speak directly to the doctor. I own bodyshops and some of my guys weren't crazy when I made them ditch the nudie calenders, but they didn't have a choice. If you talk to whoever is in charge, I am sure they will act on your request. We are here to make money, if you can talk to the boss, that is all they will care about.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 04:33 PM
7

Hey, if a fourteen year old can see the misandry, than I sincerely doubt the adult ones can't. Kudos to her.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 04:29 PM
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Dude, if you didn't rape the girl, then get pissed about it. I don't care if there was a boyfriend or not, she deserves hatred at the very least. You have a severe damseling/ whiteknight problem in my view. I wonder if your live and let live attitude has not actually hurt you in your recovery. Righteous anger can propel you and give you strength to go right back to that school... and excel and shove it right back in their faces. But I do certainly hope the best for you.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 03:48 PM
1

Thanks for your response. I am, however, more certain now than ever there needs to be a concerted mens movement apart from feminism. There are just too many issues and they may very well conflict with institutional feminism's position. Again, thanks for the discussion.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 03:33 PM
3

They are both from Jezebel and are written by the same person.
/r/MensRights22/12/13 06:23 AM
1

Well at least you are consistent.
/r/MensRights22/12/13 06:05 AM
2

In the media, feminism constantly portrays itself as "the" gender equity movement. It is an umbrella for everyone. But, you are right, it is a womans advocacy movement, nothing more. I would appreciate it if feminism would let everyone know this, it would help everyone understand the need for a movement for men. Right now feminism has the societal monopoly on discussions of gender. But I see some progress for mens issues and hopefully that monopoly will turn in to shared power. But I do honestly…
/r/MensRights22/12/13 04:04 AM
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I am 45 and did the whole traditional breadwinner thing. I didnt really choose it, it kind of just happened, LOL. After getting bit bad after a divorce, I think it is actually in a man's interest to find a woman who has earning capability. I took so much pride in being able to support my family. It became a big part of my identity and ego. When we divorced, I automatically became the non-custodial parent, I got hit with alimony, child support and a big initial settlement. That sense of accomplis…
/r/MensRights22/12/13 02:50 AM
3

If there was ever a perfect example showcasing the need for men's rights this would be it. I signed the petition and hope for the best for the young father and his child.
/r/MensRights21/12/13 04:28 PM
1

Barbara Kay has been a staunch defender of men and we owe a great deal of appreciation to her. I put her right up there with Warren Farrell, but in this case, I disagree with her. Women do have agency and can decide for themselves what to do with their bodies. I don't necessarily think prostitution is a great thing, but there is a reason it is the world's oldest profession.
/r/MensRights21/12/13 03:06 PM
3

I think it was pretty brave for the OP to come in here and discuss things. But I also think her views pretty much encapsulate the problems many of us have with feminism. No matter the criteria, no matter the fact that the OP cares about men (I believe her), with every single comment she basically just reiterates the very basic assumption that no matter what... women have it worse. It can be employment, education, family life, custody, divorce, crime... anything, women have it worse. I think that…
/r/MensRights21/12/13 02:40 PM
1

Is your reaction the same when you see a man or woman in pain? I honestly do not have the same gutteral reaction. The only time I feel that same rush of empathy is when I hear a man expressing emotion in a situation I can really relate to. The two that struck me, that immediately come to mind, was a man admitting to collapsing on the floor sobbing as he was gathering the last of his belongings from his home after a divorce was filed. That got me bad. When he mentioned leaving his kids as he was …
/r/MensRights20/12/13 12:59 AM
2

Maybe I could have done a better job expressing myself. Of course I feel deep empathy for the mother, how could anyone not? But my first reaction was her pain, not the pain the boy must have experienced. I think the parallel to Hillary Clintons comment about victims of war was a good example of that thinking. I dont think she feels men are not victims of war, just that society's first knee jerk reaction in empathy is usually going to be women first.
/r/MensRights19/12/13 04:57 PM
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Imagine as a trans-woman, someone telling you that your insurance company will pretty much automatically pay for your transition as long as you were a woman transitioning to be a man. But if you are a man transitioning to be a woman you are going to have to pay huge amounts of money to a lawyer to fight them and there is still a good chance you will lose. Do you think there might be a chance you will be less likely to fight? Any man who has gone through a divorce with children has had that "talk…
/r/MensRights19/12/13 03:36 PM
2

It is amazing how deeply ingrained our sense of disposability is, even in this sub. Even we have to catch ourselves. We are so socialized (some bio?) to feel so much more empathy for women and girls, it feels impossible sometimes to rationalize. I had the same thoughts as the original poster, then your comment came along and snapped me out of it.
/r/MensRights18/12/13 03:44 PM
2

The narcissism and hypocrisy dripping from that blog entry made me a little nauseous.
/r/MensRights12/12/13 07:07 PM
1

Good answer, LOL.
/r/MensRights27/11/13 07:25 PM
2

Yeah... no, I dont see any positivity or neutral moral ambiguity to others being ripped off- be they men or women. There are so many damaged people in this world who seem to hate themselves so much, I can't see just shrugging off the effects of that exploitation. But I don't think this is a mens rights issue.
/r/MensRights27/11/13 02:49 PM
1

Wow, I had flashbacks of my long deceased father while I read that. That, along with the Glengarry/glenross speech is old school masculinity dialogue. The kind men had with each other. Harsh and slightly problematic, but ...true.
/r/MensRights23/11/13 03:34 AM
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I am sorry you feel attacked, I think you picked a tough time to peruse us. International Mens Day was ridiculed in one way or another by EVERY major media feminist pundit, so we are a little pissed off right now. Please remember we are constantly barraged by the negative projections of men by feminists in the media. Sometimes I think we need to stop reading them every once in a while to get some perspective. But as long as gender discussion in the media is monopolized by feminism, and they disr…
/r/MensRights21/11/13 12:13 PM
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Feminists =/= women. Women are not belittling our problems, some feminists are.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 11:56 AM
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I understand your point of view, but isn't this just indicative of the movement as a whole. I want to see feminism as that umbrella that works to free everyone from society's roles and expectations and tackles gender inequities wherever they might be. But it is not, it is (at least on some level) anti-men. It will never welcome those concerns we have in to the fold. In fact, it will fight at every instance to hide, dismiss, de-legitimize those concerns. As long as they do, I think we have no cho…
/r/MensRights21/11/13 11:41 AM
1

I agree, but I do think we will get there at some point. Very nice talking to you.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 05:01 AM
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Yes, there is the rub. I admit putting in to place a mechanism designed to achieve parental choice for fathers would be a very tricky thing. To add to that, I think it could be done, but the taxpayer's fear of getting the bill is an even bigger obstacle.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 04:21 AM
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You are experiencing a situation we are well aware of in discussions of gender. You are transphobic, I am a misogynist. It usually comes when the debate is not going well for someone, so they use the hateful label to demonize. My advice is to just move on, this person has just too much invested in playing their "role" as persecuted victim. You really can't reach them, at least not now.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 03:07 AM
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You are conflating two different things. You are preaching to the choir in talking about your future child. My daughter is 19, I have raised her alone with zero help (mom hasnt see her in years) since she was 8. She is in college now. She has been my world since the day she was born. But we are talking about the law, not feelings. Equality is essential under the law. Forced fatherhood creates debtors prisons (otherwise illegal in this country- US). Women are more likely to default on child suppo…
/r/MensRights21/11/13 02:44 AM
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No, abortion is a choice, if she does not want to terminate her pregnancy, that is her decision. I see no reason for the male to demure to the female's choice. Both have agency, both have responsibilities, but only if they are done by choice. Forced parenthood of anyone is wrong. The man should have a small window early in the pregnancy to make his choice. That would give the woman plenty of time to elect to terminate or give up for adoption if she chooses to. Anything else is unacceptable. If y…
/r/MensRights21/11/13 01:55 AM
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I paid 2000/mo for one child. After I was finally able to wrest custody away (pill problem), she paid 100/mo. The courts are a joke. Your mom sounds quite reasonable. Your father sounds like a jerk, but that doesn't take away from the fact that men need to have more control over the choice to become a dad. Parenthood needs to become opt-in (or out) for everyone, not just women. Forced fatherhood is no better than forced motherhood.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 01:06 AM
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Lets be honest, only the most fog-minded ideologues don't see a very basic inequality in this context. The real reason it will be extremely difficult to change the status quo is the fear of who will end up paying. Damseling and fear for the taxpayer are the walls to equality in this issue.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 12:51 AM
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God I love Barbara Kay.
/r/MensRights20/11/13 04:18 PM
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I would rather he not be banned as long as he is not constantly trolling. He may have been (I never saw any posts), but I would rather delete the trolling responses and see exactly what his position is on mens rights, assuming he has any at all that are not just "whaaa-whaaaa, what about the menz" ridicule.
/r/MensRights18/11/13 06:16 AM
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I really do understand what you are saying and I can somewhat agree. In my younger years, I was as stringent or more than you are. But I am starting to see there is a middle ground. I think it is important to meet halfway. I have lived the stoic, nothing can hurt me, never complain lifestyle for men for years, and it has caused very real problems for me. Too many. I dont want to contribute to the contempt and derision part of that word. I really think that annotation of the word creep would star…
/r/MensRights18/11/13 06:08 AM
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I am heartened to see it is the most up-voted comment on the thread. Now if we can get the authorities and social justice warriors to recognize the truth. It is happening, but at a snails pace. It is frustrating.
/r/MensRights17/11/13 11:35 PM
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Does anyone know if these sorts of policies are still in effect? I have seen, in just the last few years, a remarkable shift in public thought concerning men. The recognition of male victimization of DV, sexual assault, rape, etc. We have gone from a strictly "violence against women" paradigm to a much more inclusive paradigm in just a few years. The change has been startling in such a short time.
/r/MensRights17/11/13 10:38 PM
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I sometimes feel I have a blind spot because I don't have first hand experience, as I am not female. I try and recognize this and strive to see things from "both sides". Since my only child is my daughter, and I am a single parent, it is imperative that I do so. But I do think society is constantly barraged w/ their perspective. I do think most in this sub-reddit are well aware of a good portion of the problems females face. I just wish greater society would pay attention and stop casually dismi…
/r/MensRights17/11/13 10:24 PM
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No. Just start using the same word to describe the same behavior in women. So many times I have had women act creepy and my inner "chivalry" code kicks in and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Or look weak by pointing out that what she is doing is making me uncomfortable. Stoicism gets you nowhere. The large numbers of male suicides should tell you that.
/r/MensRights17/11/13 02:15 AM
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That, and the fear of the related cost to the government is the practical problem that keeps public opinion in favor of this inequity.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 07:43 PM
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The only anger I feel seeing a sign like this is just how much I hate Sidney Crosby and , frankly, Mario Lemieux as well. Seriously, yes, due to societal fear (and demonization) of male sexuality, I don't think signs from guys would be accepted quite as well.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 07:44 AM
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Boy, this is a complicated one that would require some real time invested. But developing a template, or multiple ones sounds great.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 07:22 AM
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I disagree vehemently that religion is not a choice. Religion is a freely chosen expression of faith. If you feel the need to follow the tenants of any particular religion, well you have made a choice. Equating that with the law is completely illogical. It makes no rational sense. Yes, some social safety net would be needed, especially in the starting phase of such an alteration to the current system. Also, obviously, current social aid such as WIC, food stamps, etc. should remain. But I disagre…
/r/MensRights16/11/13 07:19 AM
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Wow, she didn't receive a similar punishment? That is unbelievable and is quite a different story. I wonder if it is tied to his lying about the fling. That would be the thing to come to mind, other than outright discrimination.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 06:58 AM
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I am afraid you are probably tripping. No where is she described as a victim. He is fighting for benefits and was denied. The school is not commenting on the other party. I would assume she was also let go and, if she also fights for benefits, we will know her name and she will be denied as well. Non-issue.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 05:05 AM
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Yes and, yes, curiosity got the best of me and I viewed things that have been etched forever in my soul. My life will never be the same.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 03:14 AM
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/12/judge-orders-mother-breastfeeding-jessica-moser_n_4262206.html I have to say so many of the comments are wonderful. So many women are supportive of a fathers right to be an involved and good parent. This comes as a very pleasant surprise.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 10:12 PM
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Contact the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission - they should be able to tell you: If you have a case. Meaning whether the company is abiding by current statute. What actions you can take (or the govt can take) to force the company to cease and desist discriminatory practices. Hope this helps.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 09:49 PM
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That just simply doesn't belong here....just simply doesn't belong here. NO, no, just no.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 08:51 PM
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Do you have a link? I don't doubt you, I think it makes a lot of sense.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 08:45 PM
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God, I am so tired of making this exact point on other "mainstream" news sites whenever custody issues are brought up. People just don't understand how much a difference shared parenting would make in our society. Custody settlements do not exist in a vacuum. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to explain quantum physics to 5th graders.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 05:31 PM
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It is so great to hear they are so close to their goal. Anyone in a position to help, please do. In many ways, I believe them to be a very real example of what we can hopefully expect to start seeing on college campuses in all of Canada and the US.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 07:04 AM
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No, they are different realities. Two sides to the same coin, one side not addressed by society and only now starting to see the light of day. I have been subjected to bias in the family court to the point of insanity in trying to get my daughter out of the hands of a prescription pill addict. I paid 2000/mo child support when my ex had her, I got 100/mo (I got to take off of the alimony payment) child support only because the judge said I couldnt agree to $0 when I finally got custody. Part of …
/r/MensRights15/11/13 05:17 AM
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Raise...maybe?
/r/MensRights15/11/13 12:24 AM
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Fair enough, I really had not thought about the quality of pics angle, that does make sense.
/r/MensRights13/11/13 02:11 AM
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Is that REALLY what you gather from that survey? That OK Cupid has a bunch of ugly guys? Are you a woman by chance? If you are female, could you also have this unrealistic ideal for male attractiveness? I am not trying to attack you, I just find this absolutely fascinating stuff, LOL.
/r/MensRights13/11/13 01:36 AM
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If you want to be a father, you have to support your kid.. that is just the way it works. You can't expect to be a active father and shoulder off that responsibility. You are both young and she was hurt when you spoke of your new girl. I would let the situation calm down a bit, but stay connected as best you can. You are going to have to get legal advice on what parental rights you may have in this situation. There are usually low cost or pro bono legal services on most campuses for students. Ch…
/r/MensRights12/11/13 09:44 PM
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I agree, the fact that they were in a long term relationship w/ shared business, kid, possibly shared accounts WHEN the winning ticket was bought... it kind of makes me think he is being an ass. But it is impossible to know w/o hearing all the facts. I don't think this relates to mens rights. Maybe marriage or common law marriage rights.
/r/MensRights11/11/13 02:37 AM
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False analogy, we would both have to be contributing to the mirror breaking and, if female. we would have to want to have the mirror broken at the end of the day.
/r/MensRights10/11/13 09:18 PM
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You are absolutely ignoring two more choices a woman has. Adoption and safe-haven laws. Neither of those choices can be successfully argued under the guise of body autonomy. A man's right to opt out of fatherhood is justified simply by those options for women opting out of motherhood (leaving abortion out of the picture).
/r/MensRights10/11/13 12:23 AM
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I have to say I am really amazed to see this discussed by mainstream media and even some equity minded feminists in the last couple of years. Baby steps...
/r/MensRights09/11/13 06:57 PM
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Guys, the argument, from what I know of it, is that only a man would be charged with this because only a woman can get pregnant. That is the entire reason for the charge. It will not be seen as a gender neutral interpretation. This is blatantly misandric. Their argument is that pregnancy can be life threatening. They will never charge a woman with this.
/r/MensRights08/11/13 08:00 PM
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I didn't realize they had done this. I actually had stopped visiting the site earlier. It does make sense they would run this now.
/r/MensRights08/11/13 07:32 PM
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The comments are really quite amazing. There seems to be a very real acknowledgement (and vociferous condemnation) that the situation for dads as a norm seems to mirror the situation of this one woman.
/r/MensRights08/11/13 05:21 AM
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I agree, but there should only be a small window of time available for the man (biological father) to be able to withdraw parental rights and it has to be early in the pregnancy. That window would give the woman a reasonable time period to choose abortion if desired, once she knows the man's intentions.
/r/MensRights08/11/13 05:04 AM
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I was the non-custodial parent for 3 or 4 years and the ex and her boyfriend were similarly situated just like yours. Never worked, and prescription drug use became a problem. My lawyer said it was a herculean task to try and take custody away. My daughter was very unhappy and, frankly, in danger being over there. She was clashing w/ her mother more and more. She decided she just wanted to stay w/ me. The ex didnt mind as long as she kept getting the 2k/ mo child support. I let this situation go…
/r/MensRights07/11/13 12:28 AM
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We agree completely. I always identified as egalitarian. But there doesn't seem to be too much traction in that movement, unfortunately.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 06:44 AM
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I think so much of this is because right now feminism seems to be the only outlet deemed appropriate by society for the discussion of gender. Think about it, most all articles in pop culture talking about gender comes from feminists. Gender is a two sided coin (or more) and as long as the conversation stays on only one side, there are likely to be problems. I honestly dont know how you would fight for the rights of men and not stoke the ire of some feminists. They will eviscerate their own when …
/r/MensRights03/11/13 06:27 AM
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"You dont want to be fathers dont have sex." LOL, do you even realize you are using the same argument anti-abortion groups used against women while fighting against legalizing abortion. Again, you are a troll...and a moron.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 02:37 AM
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I think he is referring to the lack of agency men have after a pregnancy is discovered. I have never heard anyone saying they should have the right to tell the woman what to do in here. There has also been some support for giving a man a small window of time pre-birth where a father can opt out of the pregnancy. Something like this: http://www.salon.com/2013/11/02/make_fatherhood_a_mans_choice_partner/ But you can go ahead and talk shit like some kind of an idiot if you want...moron.
/r/MensRights03/11/13 02:11 AM
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You really have to wonder why they equate "postponing judgement on an alleged event until all evidence has been adjudicated" and the inherent complications of a "he-said/ she-said case" vs. approving of someone violating consent.
/r/MensRights02/11/13 08:40 PM
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Since just ten days ago you were stereotyping us as equating blinking with consent, I have to really question your honesty and sincerity.
/r/MensRights02/11/13 08:13 PM
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Wonderful picture! It is criminal, in my view, for any loving parent to be separated from their child so long. Happy Halloween to both of you!
/r/MensRights01/11/13 06:44 AM
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No, I think it comes from the ability to reproduce and, also, from their lack of agency and autonomy. Think about it, women were seen as we now see children. We have fixed, I think for the most part, the autonomy and agency part. But we still have a a gender discussion that is one sided, so we haven't really touched on the part that can be detrimental for men.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 03:11 AM
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I always wonder how much we miss in seeing the world from our respective genders. I will never know what a woman really has to go through anymore than a woman would know what I go through. I see a woman having an intrinsic value, a value that a man has to earn through actions. But I also dont see the other side, where my opinions or contributions may not be seen as having the same value if I were a woman. Fascinating stuff.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 02:52 AM
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I, personally, like being a man and can't picture myself as being anything else. But I do see that right now, in our society, being a woman is much more flexible than being a man. We have widened women's roles to encompass almost every path and have accepted that as a society. I would say men ...not so much. We are still stuck in the "women are wonderful" meme, yet women, for the most part, have full agency. Empathy and understanding for men and boys are just now starting to emerge. I see this h…
/r/MensRights31/10/13 02:31 AM
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Don't let those get you down. From what I can gather, your specialty and your level of commitment mean much more than your gender. One of the reasons those studies were so called out for flaws was that they didn't take into account specialties. I, personally, think the wage gap has much, much more to do with our cultural expectations than anything else. You would be hard pressed to find an industry where men didnt work longer hours or go for higher paying sectors ...because men are taught that a…
/r/MensRights31/10/13 02:12 AM
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Actually, if you are under thirty, I believe, your wages are higher and as long as you stay single and childless. At least that is my recollection. But I do agree with the "grass is always greener" hypothesis.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 01:38 AM
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Very good article, I agree with her completely. If most (public) feminists held this view and espoused it every so often, people's reactions to feminism would be quite different I believe.
/r/MensRights30/10/13 04:25 AM
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Actually, the proposed national service would be compulsory for all, not just men. It gives them other options to fulfill this requirement other than military service as well. I actually agree that the female student should have been able to take part, but the female producer had envisioned two guys debating it, so she was turned down.
/r/MensRights30/10/13 04:08 AM
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Amanda Marcotte, the queen of mean to all with male bits. This woman tirelessly brings misandry to new heights every time she scribbles. The one thing that people here should know about guns and men is that nearly 2/3 of all gun deaths in this country are from suicides. Obviously, we all know the vast majority of those are men. Those kinds of statistics are almost mind numbing to hear and very, very important for the public to know.
/r/MensRights30/10/13 03:42 AM
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I will be contributing. If anyone can, please help. It would give men and boys more agency to their reproductive rights... something they desperately need. I own body shops and many of my employees struggle financially because so much of their income comes out at the end of every week. I even pay one of the orders myself because it is so egregious he wouldn't be able to even feed himself. All of these orders exist because of mistakes made when they were 16-21. The more options available, the mor…
/r/MensRights26/10/13 03:36 PM
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As it should be.
/r/MensRights26/10/13 03:28 PM
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Welcome. I am not surprised you were banned. Equality Feminism great. What passes for feminism today... intolerant, totalitarian, and fascist.
/r/MensRights26/10/13 01:38 PM
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Feminism is at a real crossroads at this time in its history. They have to choose whether to remain simply a womens advocacy movement or move onto a wider gender equity movement. Gender is a 2 sided coin (or more) and if it simply continues to ignore inequities (or worse, fight recognition of those inequities) that males face, the MRM will continue to expand. I, personally, would prefer one movement, but I am unconvinced it is possible right now. Cathy Young did a great job summing up how I feel…
/r/MensRights23/10/13 10:28 PM
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Marcotte did respond.http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/10/22/jamie_leigh_jones_rape_case_the_kbr_contractor_probably_lied_but_that_doesn.html With her history, you would think even she would be getting tired of getting burned by false accusations.
/r/MensRights23/10/13 10:14 PM
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No, alimony becomes part of the wife's income and she must claim it.
/r/MensRights23/10/13 08:18 PM
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In answer to your original question...beyond the "lets discriminate against men" argument: Increased educational attainment for males, lowering the drop out rate at the high school level. This lost production and source of revenue is detrimental to the country, women and children. Fighting for and respecting the rights and importance of fathers. Statistically speaking, children with active fathers just plain do better in life. Fighting for the recognition of male victims of domestic violence. It…
/r/MensRights22/10/13 11:50 PM
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You learn something new every day- http://i1.minus.com/ibdWhAGbVpHg9Z.png Even I was startled by that revelation. Wow, you are actually defending longer prison sentences for men? Do you think the same criteria should be used for race as well? If women abuse children more than men, should they also receive harsher penalties? This must be a joke....
/r/MensRights22/10/13 10:03 PM
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Its a load of crap, I have owned body shops and have hired the few women who have applied for tech positions. They were just like the guys, some good, some bad. The idea that women are being shut out of these positions is fetishizing victimhood. Our associations spotlight female techs within the industry, we offer scholarships to encourage female participation. They just simply don't desire to work in this industry in any real numbers.
/r/MensRights14/10/13 03:33 PM
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Wow, you need to KO your attorney.
/r/MensRights11/10/13 03:29 PM
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It can be very difficult to prove and very expensive to take the litigation on. They wont force a drug test unless you have essentially proven her use to begin with. In my case, my daughter wanted to live with me, and my ex pretty much went along with it. After a number of months of her not seeing my daughter.. and her continuing to cash the 2k/ mo child support checks we were able to demonstrate she had pretty much abandoned her. I never did present the court with her prescription drug problem,…
/r/MensRights11/10/13 03:24 PM
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Yeah, alimony had nothing to do with child support. But, luckily, the alimony is finally over. The irony is now that her parents have passed away she is worth a couple million. Yet she has never put a dime to help her daughter. As more women begin to take on the provider role, they will see it is definitely not all roses.
/r/MensRights11/10/13 01:23 PM
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I paid 2,000/mo child support for 1 daughter/ plus alimony. But eventually I was able to get primary custody.. ex had a pill problem. I didn't want a dime of support but the judge said he had to award something, so he let me take $100 off alimony. She has refused to see my daughter going on 7 years.
/r/MensRights11/10/13 01:02 PM
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She sexually assaulted him, he threw her off into the mirror. She punched him, he punched her back and choked her. He then went on to bite her. In my view, he was excessive and charging him is correct. But, if she has not been charged and/or convicted for the sexual assault (biting his penis) and the further assault of punching him, than I do think an argument can obviously be made that they were treated inconsistently.
/r/MensRights04/10/13 02:58 PM
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