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No men teach men and women every day that their value is financial. You could be spending time with people (including girls) studying in libraries, picking up trash, volunteering in community gardens and pet shelters, reading and singing to the sick in hospitals, etc but you'd rather whine and complain about dinner dates. You guys shoot yourselves in the feet constantly and then complain why everyone calls you lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 07:07 AM
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It becomes more difficult to have sympathy for men when every gesture of kindness or consideration is taken as a confirmation of sexual attraction. I would be more inclined to offer a warm meal, a smile, a hug etc. if this were not the case. Animals and children are also overall less dangerous to socially engage with than grown men. I can sympathize with a starving bear or crocodile, but does that mean I am just supposed to put them up in my house and let them eat my limbs one by one?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 06:21 PM
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But no activity or human contact let alone sex is without risk. I contracted a bacterial infection resistant to most antibiotics in my elbow after touching a patient (with gloved hands that I washed afterwards BTW) with an undiagnosed skin infection at the time. Health is a resource too that men especially seem to never acknowledge until it's nearly gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:15 PM
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The imp, the pimp, the simp, the chimp, the gimp, and the whimp. The full motley crew.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:08 PM
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Dishwasher was also invented by a woman, Josephine Cochrane.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:01 PM
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What is miscarriage then? Involuntary manslaughter?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:59 AM
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With all due respect please go look in the mirror. Part of being a functional and responsible adult is "paying for another man's child." If you already resent caring for the people and the children that are already here, that's not going to magically change once you gain the power and resources you consider to be your birthright.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:25 AM
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Not everyone's primary language is English. This is of those phrases that gets to be confusing because if you consult AI, ChatGPT, etc. it will refer you to the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn stress responses. Which I don't think is what is being referred to here in this context.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:40 AM
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What does "fawning over height" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:02 AM
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I cannot speak for all women, but here are some ideas. 1. The bear doesn't catcall, yell at you for "not saying hi," offer you beer and get mad when you politely refuse, and try to act like it's your friend. 2. The bear doesn't film the assault and threaten to send the footage to your friends, employers, and family online. 3. The bear doesn't sexually violate you, insist you call it "Daddy," and tell you that you wanted the assault based on your appearance. 4. The bear doesn't berate you for you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 04:18 PM
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Respectfully I very much doubt your ability or perspective to reliably determine what is "normal" in these situations. As a health care worker, i took care of a female blue collar worker that worked on the roads who was brutally attacked by her male coworker. She had broken bones in multiple different areas and required extensive rehab.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:36 PM
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I agree. I wish I were wealthy enough to adopt, but I probably settle for dogs and cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 05:18 AM
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Thank you. I agree that many people get into relationships and procreate for all the wrong reasons. I also see way more parents having to work two - three jobs just to make ends meet while single people can focus on actually escaping poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 05:10 AM
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I was also homeschooled most of my life. I did go to some extracurricular activities and church, so I learned I basically missed out on getting bullied, lied to, being fed junk food, and, of course, getting rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:37 AM
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Most of my male relatives would pass these standards so they're not impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:02 AM
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I have both male and female relatives that "failed" to get or stay in relationships for a variety of reasons. Some of them were the nicest, most generous people I have ever met. Clearly, not everyone wants to be in whatever OP considers a "good-quality" relationship. There's a lot of subjectivity to what "good quality" is. My parents have a very stable, "good quality" relationship to most of their peers; however, I wouldn't want their relationship because I know all the lies, sacrifices, losses,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:44 AM
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I have to agree that dating coaches are the biggest gold diggers among scammers. I think singing and dancing classes would also be better for this crowd as well. Also black pill men should focus way more on dentistry and orthodontics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:26 AM
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If women are being dragged to the table at age 12 - 17, they start to care less and less what they bring to it. If men can only bring a blowtorch, a knife, and a pitchfork to the table, there is no incentive to bring anything of value.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:12 AM
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Which is my strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:44 AM
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I admit I haven't personally seen this public condemnation of men wearing makeup, outside of conservatives condemning drag performers. When men wear makeup on stage and on TV, I thought it was seen as a standard part of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:49 AM
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Why is it assumed that women can control their facial attractiveness, but men cannot control theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 01:34 AM
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What makes you think sons listen to their mothers about women?
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 12:27 AM
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"Having sex" vaguely refers to a variety of different experiences to different people. Yet, somehow, when certain men use the term, we instinctively know that one does not necessarily "have sex" as much as one gets threats of violence that seem to allude to whatever the BDSM flavor is that day. Men over the centuries have done a fantastic job of advertising that copulation and fellatio are degrading and humiliating. Consider the language used. If a woman is having sex with a man, she's "getting …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 07:00 AM
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Thank you for posting this because I also struggle to understand what exactly we are talking about here. I think the crux of the matter seems to be that you want to have casual sex, but are reluctant to get into a long-term relationship with women who are more likely to be into casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 04:21 PM
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What data?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 10:55 AM
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I agree with this take. Just like not everyone is into short or long hair or the whole height disparity. Sometimes people want to be with people they are physically similar to or that are living the lifestyle they want to live etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:36 AM
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I have never heard of a man shamed by a woman solely for being a virgin past age 30. Multiple people in my family were virgins past age 30 when they got married. Granted I have seen men shamed for factors that likely contributed to that circumstance, such as poor social skills, lack of education, poor hygiene, poor health, and addictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 07:11 AM
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I also think it's helpful to think of morality as a direction to take rather than a qualitative state of being. If having certain standards and morals allows me to live the life I actually want to live, I don't necessarily care if someone judges those standards to be "good" or "evil" in the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 01:38 PM
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Good to hear that BO problems, tattoos, and kids don't scare money away. 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 08:31 AM
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Unattractive traits such as being a whiny, entitled brat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:07 PM
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Ironically enough, neurodivergent people, including autistic men, are more likely to be overweight and obese compared to the general population. CDC Study 2014https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24488158/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:05 PM
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Ironically enough the A already exists for Asexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 01:41 PM
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I think that men would rather listen to men talk about their experiences about being rejected than listen to women's experiences about being attracted to or repulsed by men. In the wild and online, I have heard more women comment on men's teeth, overall hygiene, diet, lifestyle, and hair than height, muscle mass, and jawlines. But I agree that both genders can be annoyingly superficial, especially if we're supposed to be trying to embody the beauty standards propagated by the media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:20 AM
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Even if it means you don't get picked at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 06:12 AM
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Tits are fat not muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:33 AM
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No but can we acknowledge that it is a passing feeling and not necessarily rooted in logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:23 AM
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Ironically enough, some of us have to earn enough money to pay for the right nutrition and right medical treatments to achieve the capability to reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:20 AM
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Men define the best sex in terms of the best lay, whereas women define best sex in terms of the best prep, best communication, best foreplay, best lay, best aftercare.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:11 AM
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So maybe Tinder is not doing the average man any favors and is in fact a waste of their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 02:20 AM
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At point are we allowed to say that maybe online dating is not a universal right and that maybe it isn't even that effective in achieving its purpose(s)? I agree that men need to "take accountability" for the design and implementation of dating apps. If all men want is casual, non commital sex though, the cesspool of corruption shall continue as usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 01:32 AM
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I agree with the comments saying that it's not about having dating preferences, it's about the shaming, blaming, pointing fingers, bullying etc. For instance, I would eliminate the vast majority of modern men from my dating pool because I don't drink alcohol whatsoever. That doesn't mean I condemn alcoholics. I know many alcoholics were very successful in life. It means that I am not even in a community where alcohol is a common social practice. So there's no drinking at in-law's or grandparents…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:55 AM
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Some studies suggest that sexually abused female teenagers are more likely to engage in risky sexual behaviors that would lead to teen pregnancies and HIV diagnoses. [ Trickett PK, Noll JG, Putnam FW. The impact of sexual abuse on female development: lessons from a multigenerational, longitudinal research study. Dev Psychopathol. 2011 May;23(2):453-76. doi: 10.1017/S0954579411000174. PMID: 23786689; PMCID: PMC3693773.(https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3693773/) Other studies suggest that …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 02:20 PM
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I have noticed a similar lack of discussion about child sexual abuse and how it relates to both age gap relationships and promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 12:58 PM
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I have learned how delusional and entitled a lot of the mentally challenged, neurodivergent crowd is. They literally think that if they had a girlfriend and a biological kid, they would be magically motivated to stop drinking, get a real job with stable income, build or a buy a house etc. I don't want to never say never, but my observation is that having a child is notoriously stressful and debilitating in terms of limiting options for work. Whereas I learned early on with my sensory and mental …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:18 AM
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Age gap relationships are notorious for higher rates of divorce compared to smaller age gap relationships. If both parties are over age 25 when they legally marry, I don't personally have an issue with age gap relationships per se. Anecdotally the age gap relationships that tend to work out the best from my limited perspective is when the younger partner is unusually conscientious about being a responsible, committed partner. Otherwise, no one wants to hear about how whiny and entitled and stupi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 04:53 AM
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I know plenty of drug addicts that have partners and started families. Having regular sex and being in a long-term relationship does not cure mental illnesses or addictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:09 AM
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Exactly. There's a similarity and a difference between being attracted and being repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:49 AM
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Honestly I think that's why men often recommend other men go to the gym because it can build self-confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:39 AM
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I resonate with a lot of this explanation. I think having common core values is important. You have to surround yourself with people who want to live a similar life/lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 06:45 AM
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Thank you. If dating is a market, this little piggy will stay home and have the roast beef there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:50 AM
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But can you grasp how actively hating the job/the gym/the sweets/women might limit accessibility and availability?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:11 AM
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That's the thing though. It's not so much a pick up line as it is a crash and burn skidmark.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:54 AM
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Au contraire. It's heartwarming to see men be happy even if it's with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:34 AM
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Your experiences with eating rotten food must be different from mine. In my experience eating rotten food often leads to vomiting and diarrhea, which leads to dehydration that can potentially be fatal. No one with any kind of options eats rotten food for "survival." They eat bland, hard, tacky food that preserves well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:44 AM
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It's almost like online dating isn't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:06 AM
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Andrew Tate creates broke men and single mothers and we're expected to celebrate him for it? He has a lot in common with anyone who consistently uses, abuses, lies, and cheats everyone they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:32 AM
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Thank you. Witty, charming liar does not always = "good personality. "
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 01:39 AM
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I will never understand how men literally announce all over the internet nowadays how bad they are in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:22 AM
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Incels deserve to have food that's safe to eat, shelter that's safe to sleep in, and life-sustaining medical treatment regardless of whether or not attractive women are sexually attracted to them. If that's coddling them too much, maybe talk to them about it because you're right that they won't listen to me regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:50 AM
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I think music and dancing used to be more of a shared common interest. I didn't realize concerts and restaurants were polarizing the gender divisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:43 AM
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Exactly. I accept my role in society is to take care of my family and community which includes incels. I just ask for training, time off for myself, and benefits. Dating in this modern age is too frightening and overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:45 PM
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Have you communicated or signaled that you would stop if she asked you to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:35 PM
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Astronomically higher risk for difficult-to-treat STD's
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:34 AM
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I agree. This is the way.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/25 07:04 AM
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That part. I don't get why the fact that men have no close male friends is somehow women's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:51 AM
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Behavior is a language. And sometimes it's the only one men will listen to from women. Any verbal warning is often described as "nagging."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:10 AM
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I actually knew someone who would announce his smoke break with,"Time to go give myself cancer."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:22 PM
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Seriously though, it doesn't seem like "dating" itself has been that conducive to forming lasting relationships. It would be nice to hear from people who managed to determine that they had common values with their significant others.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:27 AM
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That's what I do not understand. It's like a horrible woman is good enough to potentially impregnate and carry your offspring but not good enough to be seen with in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:04 AM
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I agree that the terms "emotional vulnerability" and "masculinity" for that matter are very vague, especially in trying to understand what exactly is being discussed here. I think people process trauma and grief very differently and there needs to be some amount of grace for that. In my family both my parents cried and my uncle had to briefly go to the mental hospital when my maternal grandfather died because his death was somewhat sudden though of natural causes. On the other hand my paternal g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:08 PM
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Well sounds like men are finally experiencing what it's like to be a woman. Minus the guaranteed decline in one's physical health as a result of bearing children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 01:22 AM
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I am seeing a lot of Gen X/Millennials crashing out in every setting. Strokes/diabetes/obesity galore. Lay off the booze, the smoking, the bad hygiene, the sugar, the drugs, and the caffeine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 05:39 AM
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In my opinion the cold approach in a cold setting is just as likely to cost opportunities as it is to gain any prospects. I don't understand how it is considered the end all be all for something like dating. It's literally advertising one's desperation/lack of options to better spend one's time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:38 PM
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Alternatively you could "build" a Loch Ness monster together and sell tickets.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:52 PM
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Me too. I would love to have a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:48 PM
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Not necessarily. Sometimes a larger cesspool just means more assholes and more shit to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:26 PM
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Men as individuals have the right to say/feel however they want about men and gender inequalities. I happen to think too many men are raped, killed, and stolen from primarily by other men but also women and that's wrong. I guess I would like men to consider that it's difficult to know which men and women are actually trustworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:59 AM
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I'll admit I would want to know how many "safe" men want to be with a "risky choice" woman as opposed to the "safe" women. My guess is that age might change the answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:23 AM
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What does "normal experiences" mean in this context? Also I would quit seeking validation from the people you are talking to. Focus instead on creating forms of beauty that you appreciate, whether it's art, music, technology, food, furniture, tapestries, writing, philosophy whatever. There are far worse things in life than never getting laid. That belief is imprisoning you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:18 AM
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I agree 💯.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:45 AM
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The reality is if you are physically and mentally healthy, you will have an easier life than if you're not, regardless of gender biases. Factors such as material wealth unfortunately play a role here as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:40 AM
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Congrats on quitting weed. That sounds incredibly difficult to do especially without much social support. I hope you continue to reach your goals towards improving your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:19 AM
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I think recognizing the role that social activities played would be a good start. Hosting game nights and dances is probably better than speed dating events.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:37 AM
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I agree that men are punished by their adult mentors if they are perceived to be too feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:31 AM
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My grandparents grew up during the Depression and World War 2 and met at college. My parents met at church. My brother met his wife at college and my sister met her husband at church. So things haven't changed that much in this neck of the woods.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:13 AM
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This sounds like some sort of black pill thought experiment. It would be helpful to know what the budget, timeline, and available resources would be for this production. But here's a few suggestions that I have seen work in the wild. (1) Diet. If your diet is crap, your dating pool is people who like or can at least tolerate the same junk. (2) Teeth. If you venture to the female side of black pill, a lot of women comment on teeth and oral health. A lot of men could vastly improve themselves by t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:20 PM
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To the landfill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 12:45 PM
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No one is interested in developing a pair bond with someone who sees their physiological needs as irrelevant. Someone's going to have to suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:37 AM
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But there are always risks involved with needs. Plenty of starving people wind up as "food" for some other entitled predator in their quest to get the food they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:22 AM
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Quality of life is never a guarantee no matter what. Anyone of us could find ourselves living without eyes or ears or balls or whatever after getting in a car crash or being hit while crossing the street etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:42 AM
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"Having a woman is like air or food." Not really. Asphyxiation and starvation are going to kill anyone much more readily and definitively than not "having a woman" ever will.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:34 AM
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Exactly. Why should I be motivated to attract a man who just wants to ogle teenagers and twenty year olds?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 09:52 AM
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I wish there were more philosophical discussions about this. Maybe the Human Race is being lost and needs to return to something more sustainable, like a mammal crawl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:07 AM
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When women hate men, they avoid dealing with them and keep to themselves. No one is afraid of all the blue-haired feminists running around cities punching and gunning down random men. Women's hatred for men is a hard sell as a public crisis because it's extremely rare for that to manifest as mass murders the way it does for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:51 AM
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Amen to that!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:23 AM
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Lol that's when my life started to get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:14 AM
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When I was 18 - 25, I alternated between being the sickest and thinnest of my family to my sickest and fattest. In no way shape or form did that period feel like my physical prime. Now that I am entering my forties I almost never get full blown sick because I know what to eat and avoid and how to care for myself. I also cycle regularly (if you know you know). So I can't relate to everyone else's value system in this regard and am grateful that I live in an era where it doesn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:09 AM
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I would tell him it's ok to be shy as well as into gym and financing if those are his actual interests. I myself am currently more interested in permaculture, gardening, and beekeeping and would rather develop my limited knowledge and skillsets in those areas than go on weekly dinner dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:24 AM
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I think that it's not necessarily about sniffing out bad personalities per se sometimes as it is about sniffing out bad fits for lifestyle, roommates, bedfellows etc. If a potential partner is eating and drinking and partaking in activities I would never willingly choose to partake in, it doesn't really matter to me if they are conventionally attractive, have a charming personality etc. or not. I already know that they are living a life I don't want to live. It's entirely plausible that the man …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:46 AM
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No one held a gun to the 100 men's heads either. If no one showed up or watched or paid, we wouldn't be talking about this. Perhaps everyone involved should have had to take an IQ test and a psychoanalysis and then we'd have a better understanding of everyone's agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:16 AM
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But men who have not been properly socialized throughout their youth don't just accept that women are trying to be friendly and polite. Some men become very scary as they process the rejection for more intimate conversation and interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:16 PM
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As a visual learner I always found it more helpful to compare love (& sex for that matter) to a fire. Building a fire pit, a fireplace, a stove, a hearth, a chimney, a lantern etc. for the fire creates a setting where the fire can be appropriately started, monitored, maintained, and extinguished. The benefits of having a fire are much easier to access when the fire has clear boundaries and purposes. When the fire becomes hazardous, it's just as important to be able to put it out as it is to star…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:54 PM
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The only thing I got out of this discussion so far is I would rather have admiration and respect than "unconditional love." Even if it is very begrudgingly given as it very often is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:19 PM
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Well it's apparently just as lonely at the top as it is at the bottom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:05 PM
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It's rather ironic that we're not allowed to discuss how most men are indifferent to other men. It apparently takes a war zone for men to suddenly empathize with their fellow man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 10:00 PM
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Agreed. I would even hug the homeless if this were not the case. When I see a man who is kind to everyone, he is one of the few strange men I can hug without it being interpreted as me flirting with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:49 PM
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That's the sad reality. I used to smile and laugh with homosexual men because I felt I could relax around them without every move being scrutinized only to be told I was "flirting" with them. Every hug, every facial expression, every interaction is seen as an invitation or a come on. So indifference it is except if I can sometimes offer grand gesture to the whole group like food.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:23 PM
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Hope that toxic masculinity gives you the unconditional love you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 03:08 AM
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Only if the bait is masterful. Otherwise it also is shunned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:38 AM
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Women who are grown now were told time and again that we have to be rail thin supermodels that can cook and clean. All so that we can have husbands who cheat and finally have a midlife crisis to get with the 20 year old of their dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:23 AM
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Who could have foreseen that an AI would be a toxic psychopath? We have those at home for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:08 PM
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It is fascinating to me also how men will boldly announce on the internets how bad in bed they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:20 AM
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This is like saying that women have way more options to have uncooked, rotten food than men do, but men don't have any food whatsoever. At some point the hunger:barf:diarrhea ratios are going to make "having options" somewhat meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:09 AM
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One service that I have yet to see a dating app offer is an actual comprehensive background check. Such a service would be odious to the intended audience due to its authoritarian invasion of privacy, and so I can understand why it's not available.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:20 AM
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I think the only way to do it would be to get both parents tested in the name of preventing hospital baby mix ups. Also in the legal system it should be done prior to putting anyone's name on a birth certificate. The work around would be the alleged parents signing notarized waivers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 12:25 AM
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I agree that part of what makes so-called loser women attractive is that it's assumed that they are moldable into whatever domestic role the man desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:38 PM
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You mean the jokes about r*pe that men themselves posted?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:34 PM
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What "garbage online" and "same awful things" are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:29 PM
1

I agree. I have yet to see any women go on a killing spree or an assault/battery spree the way some mentally ill men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:13 PM
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If describing one's experiences with the opposite sex in less than flattering terms is "straight up sexism and bigotry," that's the vast majority of the content of this entire subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:00 PM
0

Men lie. About everything. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 07:31 PM
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I agree that men have actively framed heterosexual dating as a full-time job where the more experienced you are, the less qualified you are. The incentive is to avoid it all together for one's sanity and peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:32 AM
4

They literally call providing heirs "going into labor." Women die in childbirth too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:15 AM
11

I have to agree that most women in the US are not interested in nuisance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 01:56 AM
1

Not to the people who actually live in polygamous communities. Polygamy is not a new concept. Just like all materialistic societies, polygamous or not, the rich and powerful get more rich and powerful and the poor and defenseless get even more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 04:30 PM
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Polygamy is ripe for creating the ultimate child molester's paradise. Since the rich male leaders of such societies have to have all the prettiest youngest women, the younger men are forced to perform all the dirty work for low wages or driven out of the society completely. How about when the kids from polygamous families start f'ing and killing each other? Sounds pretty corrosive in the generations that follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:44 AM
1

If you're complaining about women 5 - 10 years younger than you are, then I am not understanding why you expect them to act like the women of previous generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:56 PM
2

At the same time, if men don't want to socialize with other men, why should women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:14 PM
1

Sex especially with men is a dynamic, transformative process for women. So having sex with women is not indicative of or congruent with "wanting things to stay the same." Human relationships will always be more complicated after sexual interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:27 PM
1

Plenty of husbands act like they don't give a flying rat fuck about anyone. Being married with kids is not some sort of panacea that cures mental illness, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:25 AM
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Spoken like someone who has never taken care of special needs kids or with rare chronic mental or physical illnesses. You never know when those deadlines are popping up. Blink once and you'll miss the deadline where the kid is literally dead on the other line.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:28 PM
2

Floot ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:16 PM
2

It's ridiculous that you assert that people in ancient times were horrified by infanticide, when in fact it was and still is common practice by many different cultures. Especially in Asia, female fetuses have continued to be killed by families that prefer sons. If you want to blame women for carrying on this tradition of infanticide, that's fine. But understand it's traditional, not "taboo" or often not even "illegal."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:35 PM
2

Probably when they rob banks and murder cops together, Bonnie and Clyde-style.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:12 PM
0

I will try to remember "female easy mode privilege" as I get sucker punched every month and clean all of my underwear. Also I am not sure that our diet does not matter if we want to have balanced hormones and be able to have healthy children. Not to mention that women naturally have less muscle than men. So if any group should focus on strength training, it's women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:06 PM
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Spicy diva is actually sullen introvert at home. Spicy diva is the mask she wears to be socially acceptable in public. 1a. Spicy diva is the preference of the man she wants to be with. She thought she could sustain the performance to the required degree. Turns out that is exhausting and thus unsustainable. 1b. Woman becomes sullen introvert as a result of pregnancy/traumatic childbirth/post partum depression/child rearing. Augment and compound this phenomenon if the child in question presents as…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 01:39 AM
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I just wish men would be more honest about how they do in fact want women to change by virtue of having sex with them. Having unprotected sex is not an indication of wanting people to stay virginal, youthful, and free of stress/diseases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 12:50 AM
1

Poor child molesters are more likely to be punished if they seek out middle class or well-off children in stable families. But if they stick to grooming low-income children with limited social resources, they can get away with their crimes for decades just like the rich do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:23 AM
1

Well lip service in the political arena does not necessarily translate into actual child protection. Especially if the child and molester are related. Far too many churches, schools, and families punish the child for reporting the abuse and then hide the molesters, leaving them free to carry on their trail of life-altering abuse. And I am willing to say that our culture glorifies female molesters. The social media forums are filled with comments like,"why wasn't I abused?" under stories of these…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:11 AM
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Why does all this feigned concern for women's virginity not translate into shaming and harsher punishments for child molesters? As long as child molesters are tax paying billionaires or the primary breadwinners in their social circles, no one cares. Also men can say they want young virgins all they want until their balls are blue. The reality is whores get the time, attention, and the money that virginal women are shamed for asking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:26 AM
1

The title of this post is triggering my inner grammar nazi, so based on that and other anecdotal experiences, I am going to say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:16 AM
1

I do not find Harry Styles attractive on any level. He's an interesting, entertaining character to be sure, but not every woman's type. I can see the others previously mentioned having a more diverse range of admirers. But yeah I also wonder how much these fandoms are genuine or are just more about fitting in with peer groups. My teenage nephews are somewhat fickle about their favorite YouTubers, so I see this as a human thing not a woman vs man thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 11:06 PM
2

And that's supposed to make someone like me go through hell to produce more parasites?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 12:18 AM
2

Joke's on you if I prove to be infertile.....or if you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 11:19 AM
2

But yet we are expected to birth, feed, clothe, and house humanity until death do us part. But yeah maybe men should run their own rat races.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:36 AM
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Men will literally say and do anything to get sex. So it's difficult to know who genuinely wants to be in a committed, monogamous long-term relationship, which is what most healthy women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 07:28 AM
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The promiscuity, the porn obsessions, the STD's, the lack of interest in LTR's except only when it establishes sexual access are not attractive to women who value themselves and want LTR's. But some promiscuous men can be physically attractive to a lot of women as well as financially stable. I don't see how this any different from men who think someone is good enough to exchange bodily fluids and potentially impregnate/catch an STD from versus good enough to date/marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:58 AM
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I do not like casual promiscuity for anyone, but as long as everyone involved are consenting adults above age 25, I do not really take issue with it. I also do not like carelessness, flagrant ignorance, or hypocrisy in anyone. I do not like it when women (or men) minimize men's traumas whether it's sexual abuse, physical abuse, or psychological abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:20 PM
1

Bitter used to be a taste, not a sound back in my day lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:05 AM
1

Yes. A major difference between the sexes would be healthy women are not attracted to children regardless of how old or big they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:46 AM
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Cons: Your mental and physical health will inevitably decline and you will wind up needing professional assistance with activities of daily living much sooner than you thought you ever would.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:58 AM
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Great. Wanna pay for my specialists' appointments so I can be whatever "normal" is supposed to mean? Didn't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 05:47 AM
1

Work with the animal you've already got. That's all any of us can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:42 PM
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Start walking 10,000 steps a day. Read books written by people that you admire and respect. Improve grooming and hygiene to enhance your overall health, but do not worry about what women or other men think about your outward appearance(s). Learn how to do cooking, cleaning, laundry, and basic house and car maintenance repairs. Figure out your own personal hobbies. Learn to play a musical instrument, crochet, paint, woodworking, write poetry or short stories, etc. Get a cat or a dog and/or a plan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:10 AM
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Exactly. You can't be have your virgin and have sex with her too. This is why it's disingenuous when men say they want women to "stay the same." Having sex and being in a committed relationship is transformative not stationary.
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 04:59 AM
2

And women don't? Yet we're the ones who are criticized for not "choosing better" and becoming single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 01:11 AM
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"When men say, "I hate my wife," they don't mean it literally." Ok? Well, I hate to be the one to point this out, but if you routinely say words you don't actually mean, the subliminal message is that you are at best an unreliable narrator and at worst, a pathological liar. Whatever you are on that spectrum, it means that people, not just women, will come to ignore you, disbelieve you, or exile you. I don't think women have trouble understanding lust. They have trouble understanding why men want…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 01:06 AM
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I think that DNA testing should be done in hospitals as a matter of policy. The child deserves to know for health reasons. Plus hospitals have mixed up babies before. So if both the mother and father were confirmed as the biological parents, it could spare a lot of trauma. Also I would support legislation stating that paternity tests would have to be completed before the biological father could sign the birth certificate and the mother could claim any child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 03:55 AM
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Men with localized testicular cancer have a 99 percent five year survival rate. Meanwhile 46% of women with localized ovarian cancer can live up to 5 years after getting treatment in earlier stages of cancer. Women are also more likely to die from strokes than men. Women also have a higher rate of UTI's than men, are twice as likely to get Alzheimer's disease as men, and are more likely to have at least one or multiple autoimmune conditions. A major difference between men and women is how one of…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:50 AM
0

Men objectively go out of their way to objectively worsen their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:26 AM
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The average man is more feared and thus avoided than the average woman. Men have a huge public relations problem because they are most likely to commit violent crimes. It's by in large men out in the streets attacking and killing other men. So the average man loses privileges such as benefit of the doubt and automatic trust because of their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:25 AM
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I agree. It's about the mindset, the attitude and the ideology, not necessarily the experiences one has had or not had. The only ones who care if men are virgins or not are incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:07 AM
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I am wondering too if incel is increasingly defined by men who aren't having the sexual experience that they were expecting because of porn, social media, etc. It's not they're technically virgins; it's that they're incapable of having a satisfactory sexual experience in person because their brains are so attuned to online screen activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:04 AM
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The only reasons I can see is that there are some pre-teens and teenagers who are more developed and taller and stronger than I will ever be at any point of my adult life while there are other women who are smaller and more frail than I am. I would only worry about the exploitation of minors and the mentally ill under the guise of labeling them as consenting adults. I think that certain establishments that provide physical and legal protection for sex workers should be legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:05 AM
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I don't understand why men think it is weakness to cry over loved ones' deaths etc. I would never want to discourage men from appropriately crying over family and friends. It shows humanity and empathy. What's interesting is men who refuse vasectomies because they're worried that they are the small percentage that would develop scar tissue from the procedure. That's how men advertise wimpiness aka weakness IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:06 PM
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I have literally met at least one person in real life who said that getting molested was the start of their food addiction and it actually makes sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:18 AM
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I don't personally have a problem with DNA paternity testing. The rub is men who want it need to be prepared to pay for it much like I think abortion should be a private decision paid by charity or the individual, not taxpayers. I think paternity testing should be mandatory before having men sign birth certificates and collecting child support. There could be an opt out option for couples who don't want to know or pay for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:17 PM
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It is interesting how being put in the "friend zone" seems to be an insult for some men and likewise being put in the "fuck zone" is apparently similar for some women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:00 AM
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I don't think men should be criticized for being minimalists in their personal lives. I too have slept on the floor with mattresses or sleeping bags surrounded by bare walls before. Not everything has to be perfectly furnished or spotlessly clean like a resort. But if men want to attract a certain class or a particular type of woman, it's reasonable to provide accommodations that would lend to their comfort. Even cat ladies understand they need to provide accommodations like litter boxes etc. fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:26 AM
2

It's not about the size of the dog in the fight; it's about the size of the fight in the dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 03:40 PM
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Since more cashiers are killed annually on the job than salespeople, this comparison may not be too far off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:08 AM
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That's assuming a lot. Not all men plan and engage in conversation this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:01 AM
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Question - are these women typically of a certain age range, say college undergrad? If so, that may be a factor to consider here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:02 AM
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I could do EMT. I would be willing to do plumbing, farming, woodworking, and construction on my own private residence or to help friends/people in need. I would be willing to work dirty jobs with the proper updated equipment, safety gear and a hardworking crew that respected my physical abilities and limitations. I would not want to work alongside people who curse, smoke, drink alcohol, lie, steal, & degrade themselves and women, whether it's a white collar or a blue collar setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:41 AM
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No worries. English is difficult even for us native speakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:53 AM
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I also am not sure what is meant by "high quality." I know bad grammar and punctuation decreases men's SMV to educated, conscientious girls. So I recommend reviewing one's text messages and written communications in that regard prior to sending them to "high quality girls."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:02 AM
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I agree 100%. Which is why I never got involved in it either. I think the whole alcoholism culture also directly influences this culture and I refuse to participate in that also.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 12:25 AM
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I thought the link from the divorce firm clarified that women were indeed more likely to file for divorce after not wanting to continue the marriage. But I didn't realize the study had been retracted, so thanks for educating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:57 AM
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There's also a study from University of Michigan that examined 20 years of data that showed that men after the age 50 were less likely to initiate providing care for sick wives, leading wives to divorce the men officially. https://time.com/83486/divorce-is-more-likely-if-the-wife-not-the-husband-gets-sick/. https://www.cmlaw1.com/14-marriages-sick-spouse-divorce/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:10 AM
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"Taking care of people is seen as 'feminine'." Glad the male medical staff still step up to take care of men in the military. Geeze. Taking care of crops, livestock, land, homesteads, and people including oneself used to be seen as survival and being a productive member of society.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:41 AM
2

It's true that it's very difficult to determine and understand who you attract versus whom you are attracted to, let alone whom you would have a good relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:40 AM
1

A very merry un-birthday to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:01 PM
3

Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:51 AM
3

I think that's a fair point that happy people can be self-sufficiently happy or lonely and miserable regardless of whether they are married or single. I think people have unrealistic expectations of what relationships involve. In other words, relationships often just multiply what's already there. Misery loves company but so does joy. An unhappy, bitter single woman might not necessarily be happier if she was married; she would just not be hen pecked for that specific reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 09:01 AM
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Not necessarily. Birthdays become a bit ridiculous anyways as one ages, but as long as you involve the community in some productive way, you don't have to be alone if you don't want to. There's plenty of social functions around Christmas. Anyone who chooses to be alone at Christmas just wants to live their best Grinch-life fantasy, which is their right to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:50 AM
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Ideally in my teens I would figure out how to optimize my hormones so that I might actually have a libido by visiting gynecologists, nutritionists, and reproductive health experts. I would then be educated by a lesbian/bisexual who is a sex surrogate of sorts how to masturbate/please women. I would continue to visit probably multiple gynecologists consistently to determine my true reproductive status. I would then ideally pursue friendships with a variety of people and have conversations about p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:42 AM
1

Complete with the suicide-by-cop shootout? I guess it does save on both cost of living and funeral expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:05 AM
1

Whiny, entitled, impulsive, and criminal intentions? Can't imagine why anyone is not eager to be enslaved as your personal service animal?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:04 PM
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We have already established that the elites, which have been historically represented by and led by men such as Vladimir Putin and George Bush etc., don't care about the people they exploit. What we have failed to establish is why it is incumbent upon women to provide more fodder for the proverbial slaughter for them to not care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:41 PM
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Men by in large are in charge of all of the technology to do with social media. Why is it therefore incumbent on women to "fix" men's social issues? Wouldn't that put women in the dominant position by expecting them to house/feed/provide for suicidal, drug-abusing, homeless criminals? Also men outnumber women in 76 countries/territories, so it will take awhile before this so-called shortage of men is registered. The shortage of men worth marrying according to women is already here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:28 PM
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There's no fool like an old fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:52 AM
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I think the main thing to recognize is that society as a whole will not be invested in supporting the relationship. So the younger woman is honestly going to have to be the one to sell the non-exploitative aspect of the relationship to the public. Which is going to require her to be somewhat headstrong, independent. And we know how much men love that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:50 AM
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Honestly I could see this being a viable exchange. Have the wealthy 40 - 50 year old women pay the 20 year olds for their eggs/surrogacy etc. and they can use some of that money for education, real estate etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:53 AM
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You could make the same argument that every slave ever throughout history had "free housing, free food" in exchange for their unpaid labor. If women have some say in terms of where they live and the food they eat then there is perhaps a leg up from the average slave life. But ultimately if one's regrets are not one's own, you are living for others not yourself. Which if that isn't your personal choice leads to resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:46 AM
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Jesus Christ and Sir Isaac Newton were pretty famous virgins with incredibly enduring legacies and heritages. I guess you could say their lives were sad but hardly uneventful. I think that the damages you cite are largely self-fulfilling prophesies that are self-inflicted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:04 PM
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How about pimps? Can they not be seen as exploitative gold diggers also?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:01 PM
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I want to see the stats on men who literally died solely because they were virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:00 PM
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Logically speaking, what kind of women on average tend to be virgins after age 25? If you said introverted, socially awkward, neurodivergent, ace/aro spectrum, religious, very thin and frail to fat and hairy, and otherwise afflicted with exotic conditions, you might be correct. If men really cared about women ages 18 -25 being virgins, they would crack down on incest and child molestation and then alcohol/drug/porn/sex trafficking industries. Bottom line - this whole slut shaming movement rings …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:25 PM
2

I wish men would talk more about why men are not socializing better with other men in our society. It seems like men are expected to bond over things like drugs, alcohol, gaming and sports; however, if you don't have those stereotypical interests or excel at performing them, it's hard to find common ground for repetitive interactions. I also don't understand why men don't seek out mental health or counseling to try to build relationship skills. Women don't come with instruction manuals on how ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:15 PM
1

Volunteering is a good way to help bridge this gap. Boys and Girls of America/Habitat for Humanity are good examples. Socializing with the elderly and disabled is also a great way to benefit the both of you because they can relate to being isolated by our superficial youth and beauty-obsessed society. But the most important advice is to develop a certain set of specialized skills and/or resources that people are desperately in need of. Even if they don't like you, they will force themselves to i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:54 PM
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Volunteering is probably the best way to help bridge this gap. Boys and Girls of America/Habitat for Humanity are good examples. Socializing with the elderly and disabled is also a great way to benefit the both of you because they can relate to being isolated by our youth, health-obsessed society. But the most important advice is to develop a certain set of specialized skills and/or resources that people are desperately in need of. Even if they don't like you, they will force themselves to inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:52 PM
1

My main goal is to participate in all the sides of the discussion and understand both perspectives better. I come across a bit harsh at times, but that's because both men and women are inconsiderate. Both come across as incredibly entitled as times, but it's hard to know what people's past traumas and experiences have been until you trigger those wounds. Bottom line is to work towards developing skills and then symbiotic relationships inside of your immediate community regardless of whether thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:26 PM
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C, D, or E. B. would literally have to be Jesus healing the sick, curing diseases and not taking a salary to make it affordable for the poor, saving rainforests or national parks, a humanitarian digging wells or fighting human trafficking, a wounded veteran with a heart of gold, a teacher who is turning troubled kids' lives around, or a public defender who is committed to the little guy etc. In other words, he cannot just be complacent/lackadaisical. If he's disabled then he needs to be contribu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:40 PM
1

I agree with you that honesty without kindness is brutality and kindness without honesty is manipulation. People have decided honesty is better than fake kindness for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 12:48 PM
0

Being kind and considerate in public and towards all women is about neutralizing the sympathetic nervous system in women, which is designed to see new average-looking men as threatening. If you can establish yourself as a non-threatening person to a lot of people (or a public defender of the desired social circle), then you can be more effective at selling your status within the community. TLDR: if you can't attract the woman you want, try not repulsing all of the other women on planet earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:23 AM
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It's kind of ironic not to mention illogical to expect a virgin to be good in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:19 AM
4

When I was twelve everyone wanted to know my hair care routine so I received a lot of attention from women and girls. When I was 14, two full grown married men told my dad in the same day that I was very attractive. I shudder to think what my life would have been like without my dad and my brothers around. So yeah good men who protect their families are awesome and bad men who sexualize women abound.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:57 AM
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What's interesting and very telling about this whole monologue is that OP assumes that "fuckboy" refers to one who is engaging in their preferred consensual sex acts and not one who is getting fucked over (e.g. prison inmate getting gang raped).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:07 PM
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I don't really disagree with any points being made. But the grammatical structure and punctuation of "Women, dont" is making me shudder and cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 12:37 AM
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I agree the most with this comment. I am more annoyed that passport bros are living proof of how ignorant, arrogant, naive, loud, and sex-obsessed Americans are as a whole than any of the other objections.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:58 AM
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It's not necessarily wrong to want someone with these particular traits. I would be honest with you though that if an actual adult displays these behaviors, they are very likely coping with traumatic childhoods and have regressed into a developmental stage they prefer. Based solely on this list, if you want to out yourself as a pedophile OP, you're doing a great job.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:38 PM
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I agree. Wealth only increases one's ability to actually demonstrate personal values. If you and your partner's values are different, it doesn't really matter if you are wealthy or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:02 AM
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Would it help if the analogy was a surgeon performing surgery that was either skilled with his hands, knew anatomy really well, and/or used proper equipment and protocols (the most important being informed consent)? As opposed to some butcher that just wants to mess around without anesthesia?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:40 AM
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The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (in USA) estimated according to data from 2010 that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men experienced severe physical violence (i e. beating, burning, strangling) from their physical partners. Thankfully that's in a lifetime, not necessarily a yearly basis. It's hard to say how many of those cases merited hospitalization, but even men are not immune from outrageous levels and degrees of domestic violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:19 PM
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If men are so disgusted by female sexual promiscuity, why do they fund sexual trafficking to the tune of $180 billion dollars annually? If men are disgusted by female sexual promiscuity, why are they not interested in determining and eradicating any contributing factors such as incest and child abuse? If men are disgusted by female sexual promiscuity, why are they actively contributing to it? Also number of sexual encounters and number of sexual partners does not necessarily indicate number of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:48 AM
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I think the Nice Guy is misunderstood in the same way that things like personal finances, parenting, friendships etc. are misconstrued because there are so many variables involved not to mention the steep learning curves. One point that I think gets constantly confused is that older women tell young men to just be nice and polite to everyone in public. Young men misinterpret this point to mean that being nice and civil will make them more physically attractive to the opposite sex. What the consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:09 AM
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Umm excuse me? Being a SAHM is THE full-time job to end all other full-time jobs. No guarantees in benefits, health care, compensation, or reasonable working hours unless your employer/spouse is wealthy. You never get to clock out for a break or get sick leave unless you actually have a support system. The children that you are expected to care for range from ages 0 - 100 and all have variable needs. You are expected to cook, organize, clean, educate, and parent everyone while being constantly t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:23 AM
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I would specify that alimony should only be for ex-spouses who are both severely disabled and who also have children with their exes. The disabled factor can mean they either have a debilitating chronic condition such as multiple sclerosis or an injury that they sustained in the course of living with ex-spouse to the point where the disabled spouse physically cannot work. Mental illness would have to be vetted individually but the situation should be such that they also require weekly to full-ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:21 AM
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"Single people have nobody to explore with and nobody to talk about their sexual desires." Really? Am I a nobody even to myself? Am I not worth self-exploring? And in this era of sex positivity there's no literature to study or sexual therapists to discuss activities with? The thing about any type of education regardless of the subject matter is ultimately no one can learn for you. I admit that women quite frankly are more physiologically and biologically complex than men, so yeah if men want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:40 AM
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I am not sure which matriarchal societies you are referring to here. I have never said anywhere that women defended and protected men in any wars. I said that primarily men wage wars against men. But yeah if guns, biological and chemical agents, and nuclear explosives are used, then yes I agree everyone dies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:10 AM
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Men are indeed exploited, devalued, oppressed, and killed. BY MEN. The random strangers that unalive them and provide dangerous workplaces for them to slave in? MEN. War is big business and the billion dollar industries surrounding male sexuality exist because men are obsessed with their egos and their male genitals. Women are "loved" on the condition that they evoke the image of being subservient, young, fertile virgins. Children are "loved" on condition that they are seen and not heard. Men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 04:12 AM
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That's a good point that sometimes being wanted and/or respected by certain groups of society could be insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:46 AM
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If you have not been approached by random homeless men demanding you have sex with them, this indirect lack of experience is a form of social respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:24 AM
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If by "it" you mean random men offering to rearrange your insides and outsides since you were born, ok. Reality is people who have good health and honest, attentive, hard-working parents have life easier than those that didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:21 AM
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Ummm no? Dowries, which are a form of inheritance in multiple cultures, were literally written in the Code of Hammurabi, the oldest law book known at this time. Also American heiresses are infamous for saving the English aristocrasy with Daddy's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:16 AM
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I agree. Successful relationships though seem to have that element where everyone thinks they won. So the trick is to find the other objectively 3 - 5 person that thinks you're a 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 08:55 AM
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So true. Another issue that I never can get Red pillers to talk about is child molestation/incest. By both genders to all genders of children. So many walking wounded souls out here that need healing. And yeah why is that that never gets brought up in the partner "count."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 07:42 AM
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I agree with this point. It can be difficult to understand your "sexual market value" as a young person though, because you will get lied to from all sides from your parents to your peers. "High value" men will lie/flatter/omit to get sex and entitled women will similarly lie/flatter/string along simps to get resources/relationship needs. And even without the looks factoring in, now people are coming forward saying they dated/married someone they weren't physically attracted to at first (average…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 06:36 AM
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"Looks-maxxing" does not have to get more complicated than "hygiene-maxxing" and "health-maxxing." Focus on cleanliness and function/skill/agility over aesthetics. One thing the red pill/black pill does not quite focus on enough for some people is "social - maxxing." When I worked in a door-to-door sales type position, I was told to approach to 18-20 people a day on the street in addition to knocking doors. So yeah I faced daily "rejection" in that sense. But you learn how to actively listen to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:54 PM
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Amen. Having mismatched values will ultimately prevent or kill any long-term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:39 PM
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Both men and women lie, to each other and themselves; both choose to proceed or disengage depending on their immediate needs and objectives. The neverending story.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:48 PM
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Underrated comment. Smart women are looking for social support network if they want to have a successful family. Plus you rely on the social network to help vet the guys/girls - verify their pedigrees so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:15 AM
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Honestly in today's climate, I would expect that they should be a standard within certain tax brackets. I would support legislation that made them mandatory in this regard. Both parties would have to have legal guidance and representation that would review and notarize everything to make the agreement stand up in court.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:01 AM
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A woman or any single long-term relationship in and of itself is hardly some panacea that magically cures depression or automatically provides meaning in a dreary world, anymore than money is. Everything in life comes with trade-offs/sacrifices. Women want money the way our human bodies want water - preferably free of amoebas and out of the lungs. I am not in your industry or company, so I am not sure how dependent your position is on your physical location. Usually people in your situation tend…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 07:33 AM
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Well I hope you attach a condom to it because otherwise you're not as clever as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 07:50 AM
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It's kind of weird that "let's have sex" is the equivalent of cab fare. I would think gas money or a typical Uber ride fare would be more fitting for that situation. I agree that women should not be entitled to have random favors performed or all their bills paid. Side note: if you're having unprotected sex, I don't think that's doing anyone any favors in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 09:34 PM
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Amen to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:06 PM
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Exactly. Simps and pimps are a major problem that keeps feeding the insatiable hedonistic machine. If you're going to pay the most attention and the most money to the hoes just being hoes, you're going to get more hoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:42 AM
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If WW3 were to ever take off, it would probably be an ode to biological warfare in which the instigators would have the perfect weapon. It's hard to speculate how successful the spread and/or containment would be. Presumably the instigators would be immunized against their biological weapon, but it would be interesting to see how effective they were at controlling and mutating the contagion. So back to the question, I would expect men to be human beings that flee, fight, freeze or fawn per the u…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:15 PM
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I admit I have always been in the dark about how the "body count" relates to things like oral and anal sex or is it solely in reference to vaginal penetration? Does female -on-female sex count? I know that these behaviors occur in purity culture as some sort of justification that "sin" technically has not occurred, in which the dreaded sin equals penis inside vagina. But clearly if men are the ones so concerned and therefore counting, it's up to them define what actually constitutes the peak mas…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:43 PM
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You forgot child-bearing hips. Adult female pelvises are larger and broader than the more compact, narrow male pelvises.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:23 PM
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Men at 35 - 45 are more attractive for relationships in terms of maturity and having their lives together. More adult women are eager to be in relationship with stable adults versus young people just starting out. Red pill does a good job differentiating between physical sexual attraction versus what women want in a long-term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:49 AM
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Denzel Washington, Nelson Mandela, Benjamin Carson, Thomas Sowell, Daryl Davis, Dave Chappelle. These men were not afraid to work harder than their peers, say the things they thought however unpopular they were at the time, and they had high standards for themselves that are difficult for anyone to achieve even in the best circumstances. These are the kinds of guys that vet their women very well though. If you literally just want to have casual sex, the red pill is good at pointing out what supe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:57 PM
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Whoever has the higher IQ. But yeah, you should have picked Ted Bundy or Richard Ramirez for this example. Jeffrey Dahmer was homosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 07:23 AM
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I honestly don't think this measure would do much of anything. It will not decrease the number of abortions, it would just make the available means of abortion more dangerous to the pregnant woman. I would think it would be easier and more important to crack down on paternity fraud, especially requiring women asking for child support to prove that the child is biologically the offspring of the designated father. If you are an adult partner that does not want to have children but wants to have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:20 AM
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"provided they have a marriage license that has been consumed?" What does this even mean? Is that what we're going to be calling wedding cake in the future?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 06:09 AM
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I agree. Far too many men worship their "magic wands" and therefore inappropriately use them to choose their dating and mating partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:31 AM
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Care to cite your sources? All of the sources I can find plus my anecdotal lying eyes seem to confirm that widowers are more likely to remarry than widows. Which makes sense if they are more likely to have severe depression and higher mortality rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:58 PM
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"It's just some theoretical ability if they would not want a family or would like that work would be able to earn." Could you rephrase this sentence? I don't necessarily disagree with the point(s) being made, but the way this sentence was written is very disjointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 07:08 AM
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If a man were gang raped as a child or in the military or in prison, that would be an entirely plausible situation to me. I do understand that a lot of women have this fantasy of their romantic partner being able to somehow protect them from rapists and murderers. In the real world, men get sexually harassed, stalked, raped, and murdered by both men and women and the statistics are not well known since hardly anyone wants to come forward except for apparently false accusers. If the man had a ven…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:52 AM
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I can see where this is a good and bad situation. Good situation if there are relatively few changes to routines and values within a new relationship. Bad situation if there are new sources of stress such unspoken expectations and significant disruptions to routines and values. The number one example of this bad situation is having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:28 AM
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I agree. I also was in a sales representative-type situation as well as worked in a call center. In terms of cold contacting, it was easier to be rejected because it was usually rather impersonal. If anything getting the "acceptances" was harder because then you had to actually follow through and prove that you/your team/your product was worth what you said it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 06:52 AM
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"women seem paranoid about men not being reliant on them" Oh just wait until that first stroke or heart attack happens. Then people will find out who they can actually rely on and which needs and desires can be satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:07 AM
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"Young men provide in peace their labor to society" Good young and old men provide labor to society during times of peace and war, other young and old men are willing to stir up war constantly. Women are not without their own faults but they have not been able to consistently engage in warfare at the political and military levels that men have. "in exchange they get to get a wife to have children." This way of thinking can only lead to disappointment and rejection for many men because of the ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:43 AM
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"What pleasure is better than great sex?" A good night's sleep uninterrupted by crying babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:07 AM
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I agree that people should be treated with respect, but no one is entitled to sex and romantic affection. Some people are into fatphilia and some are not. You cannot demand that the people you are attracted to be attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 03:33 PM
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Lifestyle/expectations regarding lifestyle are more relevant than the literal numbers per se. However, the literal numbers are much easier to quantify into terms of risks/benefits in these situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:37 AM
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"Men are angels turned into devils because of women." So who is following whom then? I thought men were supposed to be the leaders? You can't demand submission while putting women in charge of your personal morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:01 PM
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"there are way way more females than there are males" The United Nations estimated in 2017 that there were 107 boys born for every 100 girls, or that there were appr. 3,776,294,273 males and 3,710,295,643 females worldwide. Assuming these numbers are accurate, that would indicate a surplus of 65,998,630 males if literally every woman on the planet was perfectly paired bonded and faithful. So most men would not be able to sleep around anyways even if women weren't promiscuous AT ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:05 PM
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I agree. Only I phrase it, "You can't have your virgin and fuck her too."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:47 PM
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So far I have yet to do find any discussion of how incest, child molestation by caregivers, and human trafficking skew these numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:42 PM
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I think there does have to be a breaking point for either men/women somewhere. I cannot imagine going through day-to-day life constantly worrying about how attractive I am to the opposite sex, especially for factors beyond my control. I would try to meet a reasonable standard that I could consistently maintain that reflects the values and lifestyle I truly desire. I think it's wrong to say that women don't have to change to get men; women have the unenviable task of presenting how little they've…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:42 AM
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Yep. Not on board with shaming virgins of any sex or gender of Kingdom Mammalia in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:16 AM
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I don't know why fat has to be singled out. You can be stupid, thin, old, ugly, infertile or be unattractive in some other way to men without necessarily being fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:15 AM
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I have yet to see anyone mention the role of the Federal Reserve in consistently devaluing the US dollar. A US dollar today in 2022 would have been worth about 4 cents in 1913. Women were likely encouraged to join the work force to offset the erosion of the middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 07:04 AM
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One thing I wish more men would be honest about is the fact that they value youth itself more than virginity. More men will pay attention to and try to have sex with the 20 year old slut than actually try to get to know and commit to the 40 year old virgin. Even if they both look like 69 yr old Pamela Anderson.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:27 AM
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Well I hope you remember the estimated 50 million people who died in World War 2 to improve those odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 06:02 AM
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"In the past, society was structured to sublimate this will to power by assuring every man a place at the head of a stable family." Feminists might agree with you and call that evidence of "the patriarchy." Reality check: no man was assured of anything except for death and taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 05:24 AM
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I could see feminism being characterized and/or conflated as WGTOW if you will. I am not sure how feminism would necessarily be a sexual strategy other than possibly offering certain women more choices, or per the RP viewpoint, more chances to screw up sexual strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:15 AM
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Maybe "of" was supposed to be "or"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:02 AM
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I would definitely read up on how not to get finessed or killed in the specific countries you mentioned. It's all about networking with trusted locals. Go to dance clubs and churches not bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 06:28 AM
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So what are the parameters "within reason"? You can't date a virgin and fuck her too, so ya'll are going to have to come up with your own standards "within reason" here, men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 06:54 PM
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At what point does the "had sex in the past" become "promiscuous"? What's the magical number?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:45 PM
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It directly correlates to why women say "I don't want or need sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:12 PM
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Men - I wanna die b/c I have not had sex. Don't care if sex kills me or anyone else. Women - I am pregnant b/c I had sex. My baby daddy wants to kill me and unborn baby too. Also birth control and apparently incels can kill me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:47 PM
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Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs appears to vary when it comes to sex for men and women. Men with high libidos often describe their sensations as Level One, but how many men have literally died solely because they never had sex? Also I think you would be hard-pressed to find men living in extreme conditions like Sir Edward Hillary ever complain that they had a harder time climbing Mt. Everest because of lack of sex. There's maybe a case to be made for Level 2 - Safety with some correlation to long-te…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:22 PM
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I think that society deliberately does not nurture qualities that would serve both men and women in this arena. The reasons are varied from as simple as good parenting is hard to do to as controversial as perhaps the ruling classes are trying to cull the herds. An important reason is the role of fathers has in effect been erased in child development. Both boys and girls are thus relatively ignorant of what are appropriate expectations of the opposite gender. The "be nice and polite" advice is go…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:49 AM
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I think it would be more crushing to be rejected for a personality because it's so personal, whereas if you are rejected for your looks, you could always pretend you were somewhat incognito at some point in your life. But it's so true that often people reject you for who they think you are, not who you really are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 01:50 PM
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Question: if presented with a 40 year old virgin (think Lolo Jones if that helps) versus a 20 year old prostitute, what would most men choose honestly? Because in real life most men choose the 20 year old prostitute, ignoring her past because they are unable to distinguish her youth from her experiences. The problem with your whole premise is that our culture superficially associates "purity, wholesomeness,unbroken-ness" with youth. That's why even in our God forsaken culture, male child moleste…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/10/21 03:40 AM
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I would also characterize it as "stolen trauma" along the same lines as stolen valor.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/10/21 07:32 PM
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