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One way to look at organization/prioritization is from a TV interview of a family struggling to "make time" for all the activities they needed/wanted to do. Problem: Too may activities getting in the way of what they felt was important. Visualization method: They took a jar representing the amount of time in one week. The weekly schedule. They listed all activities and prioritized from most to least important. They assigned each activity to a rock with the size representing importance/priority. …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 05:45 PM
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"I need to feel like you know how I feel." I have gotten away with a simple, "I understand how you feel." with respect to whatever she was hamstering and repeat back (summarize) her drama.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 06:29 PM
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If you haven't already, suggest reading the married man sex life primer and the mindful attraction plan by athol kay and the sex god method by daniel rose.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 06:09 PM
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Apologies if it did not come across correctly, it is the fear of not finding another girl friend (being alone.) Edit, to further elaborate, the fear of not having the skills required to get another girl to like/date/mate you. Hypergamy is what it is. it is not to be feared, it is to be understood. End Edit.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 07:03 PM
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your scared you may get rejected Immunity from rejection requires massive doses (Inoculation) of rejection. Repeat as necessary.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 06:31 PM
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Are you afraid a women will cheat on you? I do not think it is fear she will cheat, but a deeper seated fear that she will find someone better than you, leave you, and not be able to replace her. Abundance Mentality.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/15 06:28 PM
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i'm going to completely stop asking for sex starting immediately. i'll initiate and play it cool if she turns me down. This is the correct approach. Initiate until you either get fucked or a hard no. Then "ok." Find something else to do. if she turns me down too often. Then build attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 01:37 PM
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. i playfully ask her if there's something physically wrong with her preventing her from having sex and somehow that pisses her off This is where you fucked up. You "talked" about it instead of keep your mouth shut and just saying, "Ok." then finding something else to do. Anything other than "Ok." she will have an excuse to get pissed at you. Learn and practice outcome independence.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 01:33 PM
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There are few things that you don't want to talk about with people, Talking is different than bragging.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 11:52 AM
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Now that she has "won" her battle, does she now feel like she is in the driver's seat? Not as long as you remain a challenge. What should I be doing early on to ensure that the leader-plate relationship stays intact Same as you were doing before that amp'd her attraction. Stay the leader, do not "relax" in how you treat her, and never except bad behavior from your chick. Suggest reading the married man sex life primer and the mindful attraction plan by athol kay for "relationship game theory and…
/r/TheRedPill17/03/15 11:42 AM
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"Let her bring it up first" This is the correct advice. If you have a chick on the line, things are going as you like, do not fuck it up, by pushing any relationship status change. You are experiencing the disastrous results first hand. Your best play is to remain a "challenge" pushing exclusivity reveals that you are willing to sacrifice your availability for her, i.e. antithesis of challenge. Suggest reading the system by doc love.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/15 06:32 PM
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My moncur has always been, "Its a lonely business being a man." What this means to me; is that in order to be a man with principles, discipline, and the ability to lead, one must make choices where others hesitate, making you stand alone in your decisions regardless of their "popularity." Make sense or am I just male hamstering?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/15 06:09 PM
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While I subscribe to both TRP and MRP subreddits, I find the TRP is a morphed version of some old PUA sites I am also a member of, mASF and the subsequent PUAzone. It seems that a lot of TRP is more about getting laid at the expense successful long term committed relationships and as quoted her, not owning your shit, stepping up as a man and dealing with relationships as having benefits other than sex. M2C
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/15 06:02 PM
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Every fucking day is some other hassle that I can tackle, but why should I? From my experience, it gets better. I still get shit/comfort tests now and then, but the day to day drama hamster bullshit directed at me, is almost gone. Whenever it does rise up, it is quickly/easily dealt with and in most cases, my SO realizes what she is doing and self corrects with apologies. Stray strong, stay vigilant, stay on course. PS, even if you swap out your old lady for a different model, you will have to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 01:36 PM
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GIRL: “I didn’t like the way you flirted with that girl at the party tonight.” YOU: “Which one?”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 02:54 PM
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Understand your logic, but to me it boils down to the sub-communication: "If you won't fuck me, there are plenty of available chicks willing to do so."
/r/TheRedPill23/02/15 02:11 PM
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Options theory If I read this correctly, a man with options does not bog himself down with worrying about any one particular chick. This frees his mind to pursue his life as he sees fit. This is otherwise known as Abundance Mentality. That you have the experience/skills to pull any chick you want, therefor if any one chick decides to move on, it is no big deal.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 07:20 PM
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I told her I really liked her and that I wanted to date her. Add this to your list of mistakes. Whether or not she is "datable," you do not bring this shit up, you keep everything as is and let her push for whatever type of relationship she is looking from you and then deal with it as it suits you from there on out.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 07:15 PM
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One Sunday night,... List of failures: I asked for sex - never ask for sex, initiate till you either get laid or a hard no. I apologized up and down - never apologize for being a man and for wanting to fuck your wife. Asked if she wanted to talk about it. - talking rarely leads to a productive settlement of the issue(s) I get upset - don't leave mad, just leave. Look up and practice outcome independence. I don't speak to her for the next 36 hours - Shut the fuck up is standard practice, but sile…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 03:39 PM
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Do you really think it will open up dialogue anywhere No, but I would bet it makes a lot of money as borefriends are either; dragged to the theaters by their SOs or they mistakenly believe that the movie will get them laid. The rest of the movie goers will be lonely women looking for a cheap thrill.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/15 07:55 PM
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What is "Chick-Logic"? Chick-Logic is a misnomer, really, in the sense that it's really reverse-logic. The inherent principle behind chick-logic is this: Women do not think logically. They make decisions based on feelings and emotions. Chick-Logic is logic after the fact. Women make decisions and take actions based on what they're feeling...then, after the fact, they construct a logic-pattern which fits the way they felt or acted.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/15 07:49 PM
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Alpha is YOUR path to become a better man. I like this. Alpha is a behavior, not an outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 04:17 PM
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he's really explaining herself. equally ineffective
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 04:11 PM
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1) I keep wondering whether his cock was bigger than mine. As long as your wife comes from being fucked by your cock, who cares. 2) Whether he was giving her more pleasure than me. Repeat answer for 1) above. 3) Whether my wife was more interested in him than me. Does she give you any reason to suspect otherwise, then repeat answer for 1) above. 4) Whether they did stuff which my wife wouldnt do with me. Do stuff to her. Experiment, lead, don't ask take. Read the sex god method by daniel rose an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:47 AM
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The great thing about TRP is that it’s not about mind games and manipulation. It’s about understanding your wife's needs, being a better person, and taking your God-given responsibilities as a man and husband seriously, so that you and your wife both can have the best life possible. This is truly what it means to me and should be embolden on the front page of this subreddit. Thanks for your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/15 12:39 AM
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Benefits of fucking a tall girl; Sucking on their tits as you fuck them Having their long legs wrapped around you as you fuck them Not having to lower yourself as you fuck them from behind longer legs means longer licks from ankles to pussy (drives them absolutely fucking crazy)
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 07:37 PM
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It makes short girls go wild as well.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 07:33 PM
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"I want you to open up to me" Translation: I want you to tell me things about yourself that will make my pussy dry up like desert. Ignore it or tell her something completely off the wall.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/15 02:36 PM
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Agree with you that if the wife can't get home at the agreed upon dinner time, put the meals in the fridge and find something more productive to do. A week of the wife dealing with feeding, bathing, and bedding the kids by herself should encourage her to be on time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/15 02:19 PM
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she begins to feel used and the hamster wheel starts to spin and before you know it, she's rationalized being taken advantage of/raped in her mind. I my day this was called "buyers remorse."
/r/TheRedPill13/01/15 05:47 PM
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Their selection of women are very limited. Disagree, there are plenty of short/fat/ugly chicks looking to get laid.
/r/seduction08/01/15 04:37 PM
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she cried after we had sex and started dumping emotions on me about how she wished we never broke up IMHO, this is being cruel to the chick and just using her for sex while she still has deep feelings for you is not a high value way to conduct your life. Best leave her alone.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 03:41 PM
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I have been banned from r/relationships 6 times now. Mabden, mabdens_soul, ghost of mabden, currently mabden_reborn. First time was for posting links to mmsl, and books online for doc loves the system and the way of the superior man, and practical female psychology for the practical man, plus other helpful sites where men can learn to be the men women crave. I read the above post from this poor soul, but did not have time to respond. I will continue to post on r/relationships since these poor gu…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/15 03:37 PM
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I had never heard of hamster in these terms until I started investigation RPT. Chick logic was/is a pick up term I have known for long time now. http://www.scribd.com/doc/28849140/Practical-Female-Psychology-for-the-Practical-Man#scribd
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 02:36 PM
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bullshitting/crazy logic Referred to as Chick Logic. The inherent principle behind chick-logic is: Women make decisions and take actions based on emotions and what they're feeling ... then, after the fact, they construct a logic-pattern which fits the way they felt or acted. EDIT: this is one of the basic tenets of pickup. Get the chick emotional, feed her feelings, provide her with the justification (you remove her guilt, it just happened, therefor it wasn't my fault,) remove panties.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/14 01:45 PM
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expecting her to squeal with glee, take her top off and rub her breasts in my face, then drag me to bed for a wild romp in the sack Add Kill Covert Contracts to your list.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 02:53 PM
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So what'd I do right, what'd I do wrong? Everything, Nothing. it's my shit, I'll clean it up, though I appreciate that you did this time. Perfect. Bottom line: If you have no reason to apologize, don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/14 01:20 PM
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You can get anything you want, at Alice's Restaurant.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/14 03:05 PM
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True story. Once knew a guy, nice guy, alpha guy, beautiful wife. They worked, different jobs, same place. They got up together, dressed together, eat breakfast together, rode to work together, held hands walking into work together, eat lunch together, went home together, eat dinner together, went to bed together. Spent the weekend together. Wash, rinse, repeat. One day his wife served him with divorce papers. He was crushed and was never the same for the rest of the time I knew him. What did I …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/14 01:30 PM
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know better then expect a 1:1 apples and oranges switcharoo here. Please clarify. Dread game is one thing, openly admitting to your wife you are going to cheat on her is another.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/14 05:40 PM
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So if you reverse the situation and your wife/girlfriend comes to you and says, "I want to fuck other guys, because you just are doing it for me any more." Would you fuck her out of fear or would you kick her to the curb for being a disloyal, disrespectful, bitch?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/14 01:24 PM
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before she had him sent to prison and killed My point, doing something out of fear results in resentment, which transforms into negative consequences. My original point still stands, telling your wife you are willing to cheat on her is a DLV. It demonstrates a lack of integrity, no respect for the vows taken or to the wife given, and no loyalty.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/14 05:35 PM
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beliefs arise out of behaviors Cognitive Dissonance is no way to go through life son. How much mundane hypocrisy do you see on a daily basis? I see hypocrisy on a daily basis, from varying sources, some of it is not so mundane, but it is all absurd.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/14 01:32 AM
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What your saying and what the Op did (essentially told his wife if she did not start meeting his sexual needs, he would seek them outside the marriage) are two different things. My comments address his situation, not yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/14 11:12 AM
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A woman fucking out of fear is indistinguishable from her fucking out of "desire." Seduction allows the woman to surrender to you completely; mind, body, soul. Big difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 10:04 PM
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I view this type of "tactic" as a DLV. In that it would demonstrate that you have no loyalty, no integrity, and no respect for the marriage vows you took willingly. Now, if you want to subcommunicate that you have options and that your wife can easily be replaced, that's a little different. Do you really want your wife fucking you out of fear, or desire? Look up The Blackdragon Blog on how to initiate an "open" relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/14 07:27 PM
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I'll just wilt and quit mid stroke. My suggestion would be to just come as quickly as possible, i.e. no regard for her finishing.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/14 07:36 PM
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If you teach her how to play guitar, she should bake you a cake. Under MMSLP rules, this is a covert contract and should be avoided. There's a controversial idea on TRP that you shouldn't be doing anything for the girls, instead you should be "doing it for you". I would not call it controversial, just because it goes against the grain of most blue pill guys, eager to please/impress their chicks, seek reciprocation (covert contract,) and find themselves continually disappointed. how does this app…
/r/TheRedPill12/11/14 03:42 PM
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Since it has gone on for three days now, I would be inclined to hold frame. Once the dust settles. maybe a compromise would be available, such as: she picks up part time work to contribute garage sale she takes out a "loan" from the savings which she pays back at interest higher than what savings would garner. she gives up some other expense to cover cost of laptop
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/14 04:18 PM
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For what its worth... When my girlfriend was playing bar league softball (big in the area) I was one of the coaches. One night, after the post game "good game" line up, she handed me a folded up piece of paper and says with a big smile, Her, "One of the other girls told me her coach likes me and gave me this." Open the note and it was a guy's name and phone number. All I could think of was, Me, "I'm impressed, what a different way to pick up chicks." Me, "Do you want this?" Her, "Nooo!" I ripped…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/14 04:09 PM
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Be that as it may, chicks are generally emotionally drive. Meaning they base decisions on how they feel. Making them feel desired, is red pill. Desiring them, is blue bill.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/14 10:52 AM
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The System by Doc Love. It can be found on scribd.com. Plus he has a column on askmen.com.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/14 10:38 AM
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It all comes down to the line "She doesn't love you, she loves the way you make her feel." If you make her feel desired, you are less likely to hear the "I love you, but I am not IN love with you," marriage death scourge.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 06:38 PM
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Read The Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. My chick told me that one of her girlfriends (about to get married) asked how do you keep from getting bored with fucking the same guy all the time? My chick told her, in essence, you have to keep changing things up. She specifically mentioned some ideas straight out of Rose's advice (she has never read SGM.) I love my chick. She still fucks just like the first time, hot, wet, enthusiastic, and willing to try just about anything.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 06:34 PM
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When you’re a married guy and can lose your kids, your house, half your shit, and a bunch of your future earnings, in the few seconds it takes your wife to say, “I’m bored,” what that particular woman thinks about you actually matters. Because what she thinks can affect your future happiness. Any time she wants, for any reason or no reason, your future happiness can take a big hit. First off if you are tying your happiness to material possessions, then your right, your wife can fuck you out of h…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 06:26 PM
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If you follow Doc Love, The measure of your chicks' interest level tells you whether to next or not. If she has a 51% or higher interest level in you, then there is a chance to fix whatever may be wrong with the relationship and/or just keep on doing what you are doing if it is in the 80's or above. However, if her interest level falls below 50%, your toast and no amount of recovery will bring that interest level back (maybe only temporary at best.) So at this point is when you take inventory an…
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 06:10 PM
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I can never seem to pull the trigger with girls Watch the TV series Kung Fu, in the beginning the Shaolin Master tells Cain that when he can snatch the pebble from his hand, then it is time for him to leave the temple, as he has achieved everything the priests can teach him.
/r/seduction06/11/14 01:51 PM
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make them feel desired From my experience, this is the number one thing that gets them hot, wet, and willing to have affairs.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/14 01:51 PM
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These are shit tests. Agree and amplify.
/r/seduction03/11/14 01:39 PM
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DeCarlo's escalation ladder
/r/seduction31/10/14 06:26 PM
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she's acting like we're having an affair. Perfect, be the guy your wife wants to have an affair with.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/14 01:08 PM
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do I let my wife drive me around? No. I do 99% of the driving regardless of which vehicle we use. In your situation with an injury, it is ok to let the first officer take the helm, but once the captain is fit, he commands the ship.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/14 01:05 PM
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if a woman is interested in you, she will drop her other plans to be available to go out with you... [she] may have a legitimate reason she cannot make the date [then] she will suggest a different time for the date This is straight out of "The System" by Doc Love. This is one of the the ways you can gauge a chicks interest level and decide if she is worth your time or not.
/r/TheRedPill22/10/14 05:16 PM
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To be blunt, one can maintain frame and earn respect without acting like an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/14 05:58 PM
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That's why I said you have to calibrate the response to your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/14 03:04 PM
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Your self worth is not based on some chick or whether you are in a relationship or not. Read "The Way of the Superior man" by David Deida.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/14 01:32 PM
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Your principles are solid, my only other comment is that I would have used something along the lines of, "I will not be treated/talked to like this." instead of "fuck off." Your choice of words worked for you, but they need to be calibrated for others' situations. Female drama is one thing, bit once it is directed at you, then you have to put your foot down.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/14 12:41 PM
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Basically, you are presenting yourself as a challenge. Read The System by Doc Love.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/14 01:32 PM
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Is this normal behavior? For someone who has no respect for you, yes. For anyone else, no. Inform her that a condition of staying married, to you, she has to: get counseling with someone specializing in anger management get a medical checkup to rule out any medical conditions that is causing her behavior, aches, and pains. she apologize for physically assaulting you Then consult a lawyer to find out your options with respect to divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/14 01:28 PM
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Yeah, what have the Romans ever done for us?
/r/TheRedPill08/10/14 12:30 PM
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Hell your missing the point about me being all disgusting and farting. Never accused or stated this? The post sounded as if you thought your encounter was a fail, I explained what I thought the fail was (still do.) However, your subsequent replies indicate otherwise. Apologies if I misconstrued the nature of your post. So the moral of your story is if it is working, don't change it up?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 09:19 PM
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http://www.drugwatch.com/mirena/
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 09:14 PM
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I had sex with a dead fish Commonly referred to as "starfish" or duty sex. In the early stages, take what you can get, and progress at a pace comfortable for you and your wife. She also complains of chronic pain and other health issues. She is grumpy all the time due to those issues. Fix the medical issues first. You will not be able to progress with marriage improvements until medical issues are resolved (or at least understood.) Read The Married Man Sex Life Primer and the Mindful Attraction P…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 08:27 PM
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No, the fail was still talking about sex. Whenever you bring up that you are going to be going for sex (it's on) you are giving your wife options/opportunities to shoot you down even before you get started. No talk, all action.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 08:15 PM
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I find that they have a lot less consequence once your wife is a full participant in the process. Agree. It goes right to attraction levels. The higher the attraction, the more "forgiving" they are of fails. This is especially prevalent during the early phases of a relationship, when the initial attraction is very high, the chicks are more willing to overlook fails/bad behavior but only for a period of time. If the bad behavior continues, attraction goes down, relationship ends.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 07:01 PM
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She is on a birth control that alters hormone levels... Rule out medical. Consult whoever prescribed the BC, make adjustments, change scripts, try other BC methods (avoid the Mirena.) Once that is ruled out (corrected) then it is an attraction thing. Being a "high value male" does not necessarily increase sexual desire. It helps, but you need to increase your attractiveness. Suggest reading The Sex God Method by Daniel Rose.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:54 PM
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she informed me that she started shark week. Your response is either: "So?" or "And?" Ignore any hamster rationalization and initiate to a hard no. If no, then Outcome Independence, like saying as pleasantly as possible; good night, rolling over and going to sleep or getting up and finding some other amusing activity.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:44 PM
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Outcome Independence. Learn, understand, practice, perfect.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:39 PM
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The fail is: talking about sex. Assume default position is yes. Drive by's, sexy whispers of innuendo, escalating touches. Edit: add in 10 sec kisses. Initiate to a hard no. Outcome independence with a no, pound town otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:36 PM
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The Women do respond positively to this change in behaviour... up to a point. I believe this depends on a few variables the most important being, how long the husband has been the beta male provider. It would be on a sliding scale for when you start to turn things around to when she starts to recognize and respond to it, positively and completely. Also depends on how you maintain frame, once you start the turn around. Setbacks happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:28 PM
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My wife wanted to get shot down in front of her friends. Who am I to deny her that? Perfect mind set. The recovering beta male would have been thinking, my wife wants to show off in front of her girlfriends (i.e. demonstrate her command over me.)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/14 06:20 PM
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I basically tell her I don't know and I need to think about it. Variation (more direct with better effect) on this: "You have given me a lot to think about."
/r/TheRedPill06/10/14 06:14 PM
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