| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1589 | Ummm. What? | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:46 PM | |
| 1399 | I blocked and deleted ... | LESSON LEARNED | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 356 | Oof. | THINGS SCROTES SAY | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:05 PM |
| 349 | I’m so glad I don’t drink 🤦♀️ | NAH, SIS | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:04 AM |
| 6 | 👏👏👏NO IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE👏👏👏 | MALE DEPRAVITY | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Someone here deserves a round of applause 👏 | SCROTES MAD | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | When Is It Okay To Place Boundaries? A Rant. | THINGS SCROTES SAY | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Truth 💣 | MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERS | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Like I’m going to accept that friend request 🙄 | MALE DEPRAVITY | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 0 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first time | QUEEN SH*T | macabrasive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:22 PM |
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| 9 | I don’t have a car and I live with my mom but if you pick me up and cook for me I’ll send you to rehab (respectfully). Found on a Facebook group I’m in and… wow I’m so glad I’m married.This isn’t even fucking English. I put up with an ‘lol’ here and there but I see nothing but red flags in men who use more Internet slang than actual English. Chances are they spend most of the days on the Internet and social media. I won’t pay any attention to somebody who can’t be bothered to properly navigate the English language. What I did manage to decipher is pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 03:50 AM |
| 27 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.Hey that’s not true. We also have a NO value men category. Who’s fact checking around here?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Think twice before you get into a long distance relationshipAgreed. My ex and I did LDR while he was out of town - we spent the first three months of our relationship on the phone after meeting once. When he came home I got to REALLY meet him but already felt SO invested in the relationship. We skipped dating and went straight to what I call “movie, burger, backseat.” His behaviour didn’t match his words. Awful. You cannot get to know somebody thoroughly through distance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 08:08 AM |
| 7 | When you find out and they gaslight you anywaysOof. Yeah. My NVM ex lied to me about giving my brother drugs, in our house. I was LIVID when I found out. Words canNOT explain how angry I was. … but it was MY fault he HAD to lie because I HATED drugs. He couldn’t tell me the truth because I’d get angry - and it was MY fault. That’s about the time I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 6 | I have 2008 can anyone beat me?2008! 🤚 my stepbrother’s best friend messaged me the other night. I literally grew up with the kid, he’s like a brother … who’s apparently had a crush on me since 2008. Blech. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:52 PM |
| 8 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Me too. I regret how I spent my early 20s. I wasn’t surprised at all to not hear from him. He was absolutely wildly attractive but if the connection isn’t there for me I just won’t, and it takes time to build that between two people. C’est la vie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 10:03 PM |
| 36 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Yuuup. Had a guy ghost me recently after he tried to sleep with me after our second date and I politely told him no. SO relieved I dodged that bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 40 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Oops! Accidentally linked subreddits. I don’t. It was on /sex or /askmen or one of those from about 2-3 weeks ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:08 AM |
| 191 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.There was the ONE guy who was like, "Do what you want, but just know that nobody marries a girl who gives head on the first date, just sayin'," and all of the comments following that were like, "Shhhh don't tell her that, bro!" Ugh. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:58 AM |
| 304 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.I can’t imagine first date sex. I saw a post awhile back where a girl was shocked her first date was shocked because she offered him a blowjob. She was like, “Isn’t this customary?” SO many guys in the comments saying they wish all first dates would do that … 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:43 PM |
| 77 | Where the lie 🤣🤣🤣Haaaahahahaha. Having a place of your own with no roommates is a firm standard for me. I had a guy ask me out once, to come over to his house to hang with him and his 6-7 roommates. He’s 35 years old. I noped so hard out of that realm of possibility. If you don’t have your shit together enough to have your own place you manage and take care of and pay for, the same way I do, I predict EASILY to be the one doing all of that in the future. No thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 06:01 AM |
| 4 | Job interviews are like datingI’ve started seeing interviews this way honestly. I just had one two days ago and my resume speaks for itself. I had more questions for them than they did for me. But at this stage in my life I’m pretty well like, “Why should I choose you?” ¯_(ツ)_/¯ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 10:20 PM |
| 44 | "Oh yeah, you want a man who brushes his teeth? I dated a guy who brushed his teeth and he kicked puppies for breakfast!"A long time ago I dated a guy who left his toothbrush at my place for a week between visits … and didn’t even know. I dumped him ASAP, that’s SO disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Yeah the way I worded that was very strange. Don’t sleep around. Won’t unless in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 9 | Another reason why we should never date men who don’t clean and proactively manage their health: this woman’s husband has poorly managed IBS and she’s getting shamed for being disgusted (“IN SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH!”) because he makes her clean up his literal shit.WOW. I have IBS and my days are NOTHING like this. Why? I don’t drink, smoke, eat spicy/deep-fried/fatty foods, lactose, raw veggies or anything that triggers it. I keep trim and eat healthy. It’s easier to take care of your body. This poor woman is not only dealing with his immediate consequences but the host of health issues down the line by not eating properly and taking care of himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:12 PM |
| 28 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Yup. Had this happen recently. I can’t say looking back that there was much chemistry, but we went on a few dates and he seemed nice enough. We kissed a bit and I firmly told him I don’t sleep around unless I’m in a relationship and said goodnight. Haven’t heard from him since 🤷♀️ I’m glad I didn’t sleep with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 6 | I think being intimidating is a good thing.I like being intimidating. It weeds out most people, they find you not worth the time or effort you take. Or it draws in the men who like to fetishize strong women but those are fairly easy to spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Reminder why it’s crucial that you do not reveal any personal information or pictures on the Reddit account you use for FDS. If writing a post looking for advice, I’d suggest lying about your age, the time the situation happened, names (obviously) etc for your own protection. Please stay safe.If they have to tell you they’re a nice guy, or they don’t put their hands on women, they’re trying to convince themselves the same narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 08:59 PM |
| 93 | Reminder why it’s crucial that you do not reveal any personal information or pictures on the Reddit account you use for FDS. If writing a post looking for advice, I’d suggest lying about your age, the time the situation happened, names (obviously) etc for your own protection. Please stay safe.I wonder how well his Tinder journey is going with an attitude like that 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:52 PM |
| 10 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?Any anchor tattoos on the face. This trend is awful. The meaning behind them is something along the lines of ‘being unsinkable’ and is really just a man trying to feel good about himself looking in the mirror. Face tattoos as a whole reflect bad decisions but the story behind the anchor to me denotes somebody who’s insecure about themselves and needs a constant reminder of their ‘strength’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:44 AM |
| 374 | Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In TherapyI did couples counselling last summer. Well. I went by myself initially and he ‘was going to come after a few sessions.’ He never did. After 5 sessions I finally ended it and my therapist applauded me. She read me her notes on him from what I’d said. She said - “Sweetie, the only thing wrong with you is that you let a man gaslight you into spending over $500 on therapy sessions. You know better.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 01:32 AM |
| 21 | Followup to yesterday's question: When do you first remember being told that a boy is mean to you when he likes you?In kindergarten I had a boy who used to follow me to the cloakroom, hide me underneath winter jackets and strangle me. Violently. You know when boys hit girls and teachers tell them they have a crush on them? My teacher told me he had a crush on me. Finally my teacher noticed I wouldn’t go for recess or lunch because I was too afraid to go into the cloakroom and still nothing happened. I told my parents and I’ll never forget my mom storming in one day mid-lesson and standing in front of that boy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 06:39 AM |
| 27 | Ummm. What?He’s estranged himself from his father though so I’m pretty sure he doesn’t support this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:23 PM |
| 282 | Ummm. What?Imagine tucking your (essentially) daughter in at night and being like, “Someday I’m going to hit that.” Or what was their relationship like as a teenager?! Did he have a crush on her? Like what the fuck??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:04 PM |
| 324 | Ummm. What?I had to read it a few times to understand it, or comprehend it really. How disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:41 PM |
| 450 | Ummm. What?His dad lusting over his stepsister? 🤢 I guess this is one of the reasons his dad is estranged, I’d hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:15 PM |
| 108 | Ummm. What?This has nothing to do with Elon whatsoever, but the depravity of this guy - who happens to be Elon’s father - grooming a girl from the age of 4, after being her father figure and raising her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Queens, how do you maintain being an HVW friend when your friends are being pick-me’s?Yeah. You are the people you associate with. I'll be a friend and lend a sympathetic ear to my friends, but it was a very one-sided friendship that never progressed on her end. I made the choice to cut her out and I'm grateful I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:59 AM |
| 2 | Queens, how do you maintain being an HVW friend when your friends are being pick-me’s?I don't anymore. It distracts me from my life and goals by taking the time out of my day to answer the phone to hear the same problems over and over again. I don't have patience. Recently my old close friend's boyfriend was all over the news. He had attempted to run over three women (yes, she was one of them), and then crushed a police car - with her truck. He has no license, no ID. There was a manhunt for him for weeks. While this was happening, she was calling our mutual friends trying to find… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 08:01 PM |
| 74 | And y’all are still using OLD?Any guy I’ve ever talked to about Tinder has said this is how they use it. Swipe yes on everything until they get a match and unmatch if she’s ugly. I’ve been done with OLD for a while, this shit is not cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:37 AM |
| 3 | And the award goes to...🤣It was the stupidest pickup line I’ve ever heard. My friends just laughed at the idiot and the next day I learned my reputation amongst our group is ‘the girl that won’t go home with you’ which was nice to find out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 24 | And the award goes to...🤣Holy shit. One of these approached me a few weeks ago and his drunken slurred pickup line was, “This shirt fucks, am I right?” “Not me.” Was my reply as I walked away 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 08:15 PM |
| 7 | Apparently having an emergency savings fund as a woman and not explicitly saying so to your male partner is “financial infidelity.” 🤨🙄Hahaha. I mentioned to my NVX once that in a previous relationship I’d saved enough to move out and be on my own. He looked at me and said, “Wow are you doing that to me right now?” I said very calmly, “No. Now I always make sure I don’t have to save up, and have enough in my bank account to leave whenever I want.” Came in handy a few months later 🙄 now I just won’t even bring it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:53 PM |
| 5 | Vent: Pick me relatives are absolutely depressing why the hell are you valuing male validation over your sexual and physical health?I had to tell my own sister I couldn’t talk to her anymore. She’s 20, her guy is 31, and a total POS loser. She would call me up 3-5x a week crying, waiting outside the bar to pick up his drunk ass after she bought him a truck and he got it impounded drunk driving. Now she wants to have a kid with him. I just told her not to call anymore and best of luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 04:22 PM |
| 5 | He asked to borrow moneyAhahahha. Oh man. My ex did this. I was such an idiot, I gave him an AU credit card on one of my lines. With a $2800 limit he racked it up to about $2500 every month. Had no fucking clue how credit worked and would refer to ‘his’ credit card as “I still have almost three grand.” The fuck you do mister. I had to time that breakup to make sure it got paid out, it was awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:44 PM |
| 29 | I am so uninterested in relationships nowThe navy blue bedding is such a turnoff for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:44 PM |
| 5 | Why do I get angry when someone says 'You need to Calm down' - Show this to your partners, doctors, and others if they say this phraseHahahahahahaha. My ex used to tell me to 'calm down' or to 'settle down' and I just turned it around on him and told him to 'calm up' or 'settle up' and it turned the tables entirely and he would turn into a child and get upset instead. I loved it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:06 PM |
| 2 | I blocked and deleted ...Thanks! I'm 31 this year, just celebrated a few weeks ago. 30 was definitely the best year of my life, until this one! I had a really good stepdad growing up, so that definitely makes up for it, but unfortunately he passed away four years ago. He was the one who was there in the emergencies growing up! So at least I had that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 3 | I blocked and deleted ...He doesn't even have social media! Which is a big red flag to me. I've always found traditionally cheaters won't have a social media presence and well ... I have an illegitimate half-sister already 🙄 his poor wife. No, instead he'll victimize himself to our family, not take accountability or responsibility, and his mom will phone me up telling me how I'm ripping apart the family and how I should just forgive him because this is who he is ... yadda yadda. Same old story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:53 PM |
| 5 | I blocked and deleted ...Thank you! 🙏 I have a really good mom who cheers me on and pep talks me who's successful as hell, runs her own company and owns her own man-free home. She's definitely goals! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:51 PM |
| 8 | I blocked and deleted ...Not this per se, but if I get into a relationship with a HVM and he asks why he hasn't met my dad yet I have no problem disclosing that I cut ties with my dad because he wasn't living up to my expectations. My NVX told me when I left him that one of the things I said to him before we started dating was the 'biggest red flag' he'd ever heard of - I told him I have no problem walking away from things that aren't good for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 5 | I blocked and deleted ...I'm so sorry. I've definitely been fairly hot and cold with him these last few years, and it's been a long time coming. There's no excuse for not taking accountability for your actions and you don't owe anybody anything, even if they are related to you. God. My dad lives twenty minutes up the road from me and he doesn't even know my address. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:49 PM |
| 5 | I blocked and deleted ...My time is so valuable to me! The next time somebody wastes my time like that I should just send them a company invoice billing them for the time I spent getting ready 😂 His behaviour growing up is definitely one of the reasons I'm always on time. I learned that, that people's time is valuable and to respect it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:47 PM |
| 7 | I blocked and deleted ...Thank you! I don't even drink 😅 I've got SO much going for me and I don't need that asshole dragging me down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 16 | I blocked and deleted ...Yeah. He was building an observatory. He can remember it's supposed to rain the next day, or that his favorite hockey team is playing, but he can't remember my birthday? Haha. I remember my 19th birthday he forgot, and to make it up to me he financed a guitar in my name to build my credit and was supposed to make the payments ... three months in and my credit score is getting ruined, my mom ended up paying off that guitar. He's never apologized or acknowledged it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 3 | I blocked and deleted ...Congratulations! Definitely. I've tried before but some stupid family emergency always comes along and he uses it as an excuse to talk to me, without ever apologizing. This was the final straw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 48 | I’m so glad I don’t drink 🤦♀️I haven’t dealt with that bullshit in 6 years. The fastest way to get a man to leave you alone at the bar is to tell him you don’t drink. They realize they have nothing to offer you. I have had most men turn and just walk away without saying anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:38 AM |
| 100 | How to cope after blocking a guy you really likeI’m going through this. My girl friend and I have a pact to just call each other - take ourselves out for a good meal, or just chat it out until that ‘urge’ subsides. You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Treat Your HVW Friends Like the Queens They AreHeck. Yes. My solid girl friend and I go do stuff together like taking each other for dinner, celebrating our wins and boundaries, vetting prospective dates for another, celebrating career wins, discussing investments, making vision boards 👑 It’s a lot more relaxing than the friends I had who had zero career or life goals, echoing out “But I love him!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:42 PM |
| 39 | Leveling Up your friend group in your 30s?I’m turning 31 this summer and it’s hard. In my 20s I spent my life with musicians and just sort of scraped by and prioritized having fun. I moved away for 2 years and came back disappointed that nobody else had really grown up, whereas I launched my business, drove a brand new car, was adamant about my own space - building a better life for myself. I stopped answering those calls slowly. A lot of my friends were Pickmes. They still are - we’re just not friends. I can’t fucking stand to hear “Bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:50 PM |
| 10 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.He would rather let her starve than swallow his bullshit ‘50/50’ beliefs and buy her some dinner? That poor poor woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 03:40 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InI recently split with my ex and had a good chat with a girl friend last night that made me feel pretty good about myself. She reminded me that I’m self-sufficient, independent, valuable, hot, and that anybody that couldn’t see and value me was a fucking idiot. She was a bit drunk but it was lovely to hear and to know I have women in my life to help build me up when I need those reminders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:02 PM |
| 6 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?I might get backlash but I don't agree with that. I certainly wouldn't want to pay for somebody else's debt - and there's that feeling of being 'owed'. I handle my debts, and expect somebody else to handle their own - no matter our financial situations. Anything that you incur before the relationship/marriage should be your responsibility. Would you pay for his $300K in loans just for him to turn around and potentially leave you someday? My ex was in bankruptcy. Well, he was supposed to be - he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 46 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?He definitely wanted to think I needed him. He needed some sort of leverage over me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 12:40 AM |
| 3 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.I remember telling my (female) doctor the story and she was like, "Woah, lucky ... " and then she did my pap and was like, "Oh listen here lady, you're going to have to find a more permanent solution because this will keep happening." Tilted uterus club. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeAwww! CONGRATULATIONS on your freedom!! I bought a lovely little kitten last month when we split up before (ugh, got suckered into taking him back because all of my stuff was at his house for a few weeks and we still had ties together). I intentionally bought a longhaired cat though as my buffer towards living with another man. There are an extraordinary amount of people with cat allergies, and Ruby's one way to vet them out and put that 'excuse' of why I wouldn't want them moving in. And she's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 31 | They always want you back, all while they did not want the whole you in the first place.Exactly. I spent long enough feeling like my needs were unworthy. I'm therapy now to discover what my needs are, and how to communicate them. Part of it is realizing that they are worthy which is difficult to do! I'm definitely still working on myself but I'm learning that asking for my basic emotional needs to be met needs to be the lowest bar to set. I'm not too much. What I want and what I deserve is not too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:05 PM |
| 237 | They always want you back, all while they did not want the whole you in the first place.Anybody who's ever told you that you were "too much" was never going to be enough for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 07:04 PM |
| 386 | Refinery29 Article: I Earn Much Less Than My Partner, But We Split Costs Evenly. How Do I Stop Resenting Him?This is so awful. I'm not interested in sharing finances with a man ever again. I was in the same situation a few years ago and earning about 1/3 of my ex's income, while paying for everything 50/50 AND paying for the groceries. I'm exceptionally good at budgeting, saving and investing and amassed a good savings account despite this. Which came in handy for leaving. I did start to earn more money towards the end, and I remember saying to him I wanted to make MORE than him, which he thought was a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 07:02 PM |
| 12 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.OKAY BUT. Physically - I have a tilted uterus and super low cervix. Big dicks HURT. I had an ex who was a monster and let me tell you, a bruised cervix ain't nothing to fuck with. It's these waves of what I imagine contractions would feel like, and it goes on endlessly. Biologically I am not built for big dick. In my experience it's men with under-average that tend to THINK they're bigger. Or lil' drips thinking they're 'porn star loads' 🤮 my ex said to me, "I'm like a solid 8 inches," I just th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeYeah I'm not waiting on a man for anything. I definitely overspent, but I also over-earn. I look down at my hand and I'm like, "I deserve this." And it's not even about the jewelry, but it's knowing that this is how I treat myself. 20 year old me probably would have rushed out to OLD after a breakup. Heck, even 25 year old me. 30 year old me was like, "Let's celebrate with jewelry." Which is pretty neat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:32 PM |
| 18 | HVM will respect your time; LVM have no worries making you wait around for them because they have no respect for you.This this this 👏 This is why I left my ex very recently. I'd been begging him to take me on a date since March. Dinner, flowers, somewhere nice. Just do something. It was supposed to be this past week and every day he kept putting it off to 'the next day, the next day'. Now my schedule is INSANE. If I make time for you, it means you're cutting into my potential work hours, and time for myself. I'll do it for somebody who matters. This last weekend was the last straw. Friday he tells me, "I'm goi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeWhere can you anonymously host images? I used to use imgur but they make you use an account now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 05:53 AM |
| 16 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeYou know ... I’m starting to wonder the same thing myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:01 AM |
| 8 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeYesss! You’re going to have be PRETTY impressive to tear me away from myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:01 AM |
| 8 | Levelling up at workThey are idiots 😂 I’ve been contracting for another agency who’s offered me a LOT more to run their marketing department. We’re working on building their new site for it but it’s a while in the future. I have 4 regular monthly clients, and I’ve got 3 one-offs lined up between now and the end of July. Our province is giving out grants to move businesses online, and the companies have 8 weeks to spend $10K on site updates, ecomm/booking implementation, and online marketing (SEO, PPC, etc). I have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:37 PM |
| 9 | Levelling up at workAbsolutely! I do everything from strategy - SEO - PPC - organic/paid social - newsletters - web design, everything. They were able to fire their SEO/PPC/web contractors and save I don’t know how much. I CAN do it all but I specialize in SEO/inbound. For sure! Thank you. Same goes to you too! Nice to meet fellow FDS marketing folks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:28 PM |
| 17 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeThank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:42 PM |
| 14 | Levelling up at workDigital marketing. I’ve run my own freelance agency for a year or so now but over the last few months things are heating up. Our province is giving away a ton of grants for businesses to move online so I’m getting inquiries daily. I also have been contracting for another marketing agency for a few months and they are so so great with so much potential to grow there (at a higher wage). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:24 PM |
| 24 | Levelling up at workI’m in Canada so it’s LESS money! It works out to $17/hr after tax. I could go work at Walmart for the same or roughly less wage, with full benefits. Seeeeeya! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:19 PM |
| 5 | Let’s normalize walking awayI don’t either. It’s been my experience in my last two relationships specifically but historically I rush in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:49 PM |
| 74 | Levelling up at workAbsolutely. Going through the exact same thing right now with my soon-to-be-ex job. They hired me at an abysmal salary, capitalized on my skills, burned bridges with their contractors and gave me the entire workload. For 40K and no benefits. So I started side hustling. I have 20K in jobs this month alone. I put in my notice and they’re freaking out. I spent the time focusing on myself and it’s paying off and I am ready to level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Meeting older HVW inspires me!!My great aunt is one of the HVM I look up to. I couldn't stand her as a kid, but in the last 5-6 years we've become pretty much best friends. She never married. She told me she never found anybody worth her time. That she's had (and has!) a ton of boyfriends, but she never wanted to share her life. She focused on her career, ran a national attraction and sat in some pretty notable social circles her entire life. Never had children. When I told her I never wanted kids she breathed a huge sigh of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Most Women’s first sexual experiences with men are traumaticI was molested by the neighbor when I was really young, 3-4ish. I didn't tell my folks until I was 7, and I remember my dad saying nothing. 3 years later that neighbor came to live with us (we'd moved about 1000km away) and that summer my mom decided I should go live with my dad. I was around him 24/7 with nowhere to go. I ended up hospitalized from severe anorexia, I was too nervous to eat. It was an experience I wouldn't wish on anybody. I have no idea how to trust men anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.This movie came out when I was 10 and I remember wondering, "How the hell does he think he can get a woman who looks like that, when he looks like that?" Even as a kid I was confused by that premise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:20 AM |
| 14 | Shame dumping and blame-shiftingHahaha. My ex used to do this. He had a king size bed and somehow I was always 'hogging' it (the idiot slept diagonally). Or that I was 'hogging the blankets'. The solution was to buy my own blankets. And eventually my own bed, after I moved out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:30 AM |
| 82 | Let’s normalize walking awayI feel the total opposite way, I feel like they try super hard in the beginning and once they feel like they've 'got' you - everything goes out the window. Romance, caring, putting any emphasis on your needs. It's like the hard part's done and they can stop pretending to be who they aren't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:19 AM |
| 2 | "My ex is crazy" is still a red flag, even if he's telling the truthI got called a psycho bitch last week actually. All because I said, “This isn’t working, I’m going to pack my things and stay at my mother’s.” (Thankfully I only subletted my apartment for this trial run and go back there at months’ end!) A psycho bitch. Please. Then it was, “I think your bipolar is acting up, you need to see your doctor, you’re crazy.” K. Cool. Trust me scrote, having this lifelong illness has taught me to be MORE introspective and aware of myself than most people. I wasn’t bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:58 AM |
| 206 | A Woman's TouchMy ex is ranting all over Facebook about how his ‘house feels like a home again’ and I can’t wait to go in Tuesday and just pack up everything I bought. All he’s got is a couch and a bed. Asked to buy one of the TVs off me and I said absolutely not. I’ll be taking the toilet paper, laundry soap, and household cleaners I purchased - not that he even ever knew how to use any of those items properly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 03:02 AM |
| 8 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreThat’s fair. I’ve no intention of staying single forever. Happy to give it a go with somebody who’s equally as independent, respects and admires my independence, has goals, drive and ambition, and a super good heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:39 PM |
| 26 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreWe never shared bank accounts. I won’t do that. I stopped frivolous purchases and bought bare bones groceries - which he got quite pissed about having to buy his own ‘special’ foods. I tucked that money away for 6 months. Covid was great timing. I started WFH and eventually got laid off and would contract so I started working 12 hours a day. I got an AirBNB for a month and told him I’d be out the next day. He cried and bitched and tried to get me to stay but I packed up and left and moved back h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 02:38 PM |
| 184 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreI made about 1/3 of his salary and we split the bills 50/50. But I bought the groceries. And did all the cleaning. I found this sub about 3 months before I left him. Now I make almost twice what he made when we dated, have a bomb savings account, and know what I am worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:46 AM |
| 405 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreMy LVM agreed to go to couples counselling but, “You’re paying, right?” Saved up my money instead of wasting it on counselling and got an apartment of my own and left that idiot behind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 01:42 AM |
| 10 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.Okay but on the flipside like three of my friends from high school either married or had kids with their high school sweethearts and it’s been disastrous for all involved. I firmly believe in reference points. I’m grateful for every bad relationship and red flag I’ve had, because it helps me avoid bullshit down the line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 12:52 AM |
| 30 | Not dating broke men isn't "mean-spirited." It's a matter of having you and your partner having your priorities in order.I saw a post on Facebook today in a group, a girl whose boyfriend couldn’t keep a job because of his anxiety blah blah blah. She’s having trouble affording their $1800/rent on her own, and he quit his job today on the second day. I couldn’t believe the amount of women encouraging her to help him find resources. You’re an adult. If you can’t hold your own, I’m not going to hold your hand. I got quite a bit of backlash for telling her to leave him but, whatever. I’ve supported two exes in the past… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 10:43 PM |
| 45 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?🙋♀️ Super low cervix club here. During ovulation 7” would be unbearable and most times it’ll end up bruised. Ouch. Have you ever experienced a bruised cervix?! My friends laugh at me when we go sex toy shopping ‘cause I always pick the smaller ones 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 01:28 AM |
| 5 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂That’s a really longwinded and interesting way to say you’re happy for someone else on Christmas but okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else have serial add-er LVM? 😂Yeah he ghosted me in 2015 and I deleted him. He re-added me about 6 months back and I accepted. He gets to see how well my life is going without him now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 09:17 PM |
| 1 | One of my old friends shared this on facebook and tagged her husband... can't imagine 1. knowing anyone this irresponsible 2. thinking that this is cute/funny or 3. that she'd actually air her problems with him publicly like this......Oh wow this is even the same dirt/concrete/sand/milk/drool/pizza/cigarette burns shitty suede couch my ex even has. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:41 AM |
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