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Sounds like your gut!
/r/askFDS26/11/20 02:56 AM
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This guy is terrible. He makes SO much more than you do. And on top of that, you do housework too? Not OK. He doesnt love you. You're only 20 so here is the truth: you're entering your prime years. You are highly desirable. Let this guy go and remember that you have your whole life ahead of you. If I could go back to 20 (I wasnt dating at 20 but still), I'd only be entertaining a relationship with guys who pay for everything, are extremely chivalrous, etc. Trust me... you have the upper hand. Do…
/r/askFDS26/11/20 02:48 AM
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He isnt your real friend. None of my guy friends speak to me like this. I cut out any guy who even gets slightly inappropriate.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 09:33 PM
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Certain races of men are more racist than others. So yes, some races are different. It doesnt make them better. But I would say that the most attractive people are universally appealing.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 08:25 PM
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Hmm good point... I do sometimes see posts here and none of it applies with my ex. He doesnt give me these issues. I'm not interested in settling either. I'll ponder this over!
/r/askFDS25/11/20 05:25 AM
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Uh.. yes, this is a red flag.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 05:17 AM
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You think he's a NVM?
/r/askFDS25/11/20 05:16 AM
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You have to accept that he was problematic.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 04:57 AM
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I've not met many HVMs in my life, is my point. It makes it harder.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 04:57 AM
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Why wouldnt an HVM want me? The only thing working against me is my age. I'm hot, I look very young, I'm very intelligent, my fertility and health are amazing, my body is amazing (naturally big boobs and naturally big butt, hourglass), I make good money and am doing well career-wise... I have it all. My ex has a lot of things on paper I wanted. His only societal advantage is he is white and I'm a woc. But I'm better looking than he is. I care more about character, because on paper, he's just as …
/r/askFDS25/11/20 03:12 AM
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Huh? Why do you feel guilty? This guy completely wronged you. You are not in the wrong here.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 02:56 AM
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To me, a quality person doesnt allude to being a partner without benefits. Also, I fully respect him not being ready to have sex (that's great!) but I do worry for you. Are you willing to date others? I suggest you do. No man is worth waiting for, not 100%. I have had to learn it the hard way. I'm one of the most loyal girls out there. I've never cheated, even in minor ways. But the truth is, most people do "cheat" in some way. You have to make sure you aren't a placeholder. Be upfront about wha…
/r/askFDS25/11/20 02:00 AM
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What does he offer you? Learn to love yourself and to cherish your own company. Meditate, exercise, eat well, journal, do therapy, invest in yourself. I'm pretty cold with men in general. I'm not avoidant, but I do happen to think most men suck. It helps. You need to remember that emotions can cloud judgment. Same with sex. Start using condoms if you arent already.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 01:54 AM
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Eh... it depends on how it is said. If he brings them up voluntarily - and in a weird way - not OK. But if you mention a celeb first; he can mention one. I personally have been hit by actual Oscar-winning celebs myself. I can hide it. But I won't bring it up in most places.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 12:26 AM
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This! My brother is abusive. I did what I could. I'm giving him a last chance to hear the truth. The rest is up to him. Men are generally shitty.
/r/askFDS24/11/20 11:42 PM
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I hear you. For YEARS, I told my mom to stop doing everything for my brother. I remember my brother being 14... I could tell my mom was coddling him. I tried to get her to stop, but she didnt. He is now 24 and he is an alcoholic, a drug addict, and my parents are desperate to get his life on track. I recently had a conversation with my mom and she thought buying him a place was the solution. She still doesnt get it. And she was asking me to talk to my brother. My parents are desperate now. I liv…
/r/askFDS24/11/20 11:39 PM
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Just ignore him. I wouldnt be friends with a 40yo dating a 26 yo. Most people I know are with people their age. The biggest age gap I know is where the girl is 8 yrs older, and even then, I question it (she's not even attractive, and he is). Age gaps are not good.
/r/askFDS24/11/20 11:33 PM
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Yeah... he's not proposing. Or he'll make her wait 2 or 3 more years. My own cousin did this and we come from a really conservative culture where NO ONE dates for YEARS without proposing. Personally, my limit is around the 1 year mark. Even my ex (who behaved like an idiot) was ready to propose at the year mark. He actually wanted it before I did. I can't imagine staying with someone who strings you along for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:05 PM
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I'm not white (persian) but have only experienced this once before with a white guy. I also live in a mostly white city. He was way below my league (even his friends urged me not to date him). Otherwise, I've experienced only guys who want a long term thing... but some are weird or fetishize non-white cultures, or they hate white girls for some weird reason. I'm the closest thing it visually gets to white without having white culture/white feminism thrown in, so that attracts a certain type of m…
/r/askFDS23/11/20 10:04 PM
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Yes, happens a lot. I was out of all of my ex's leagues. By a lot. I'm still shocked at how I allowed a couple of them to treat me (I completely up and left the rest before 3 months, as soon as I saw their BS). My emotions clouded my judgment. That's why it's important to separate emotions from logic, when it comes to dealing with men.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 09:46 PM
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Agreed. There was a big lesson there if OP can see it.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 09:38 PM
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That's true. That's actually why I asked for time apart, for me to mainly focus on rebuilding a better version of me, and for healing the trauma. I definitelllyyyyy subconsciously fear ANY man will cheat (my dad cheated on my mom). I also subconsciously fear that he's too friendly (or stupid) with girls who show interest in him. This girl in particular, she is highly toxic herself. She started asking him a lot of questions about me and my ex (while we were together), all under the guise that she…
/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:37 PM
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Yeah, so his first two exes never cheated on him, his last one (the one before me) cheated but apparently the first time she did it, she didnt tell him about it for 2 years. So he didnt even know she cheated on him (full on sex) until year 3 or 4 of their relationship, and around that time, she was doing it again emotionally with someone else. He reiterates that because it was years after, and she was showing him true remorse and was changing etc, he took a chance. Obviously he got burned hard b…
/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:19 PM
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So for his ex, he took her back after both cheating incidents. But he's told me he's since realized it's a dealbreaker for him (as in, he wont ever accept it happening to him again, and he wouldnt do it again). We both agreed that physical assault - even once - is enough to leave. You're right though, he doesnt handle life very well. That's actually my biggest concern with him. I can understand people change from cheating or they learn their lesson the hard way.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:02 PM
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Request to comment
/r/askFDS18/11/20 05:29 PM
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So your wife has cheated on you eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 05:19 PM
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My most recent ex is the only man I didnt dump right away. But I did dump him. I never called myself a ball-buster, that term itself is misogynistic. A woman who stands up for herself isn't a "ball-buster". Honestly, good luck in your marriage. Your wife needs it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 07:07 AM
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Not at all. Not all men show their true colors right away. I never said I sleep with these guys... I dont. Giving someone a chance for a short while and then leaving them once they show that? That actually is instantly showing them it's not OK. Your comments are quite misogynistic but what else is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 01:41 AM
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So I think I know why that worked for you on women with low self-esteem. Getting a lot of male attention doesnt mean you have good self-esteem... but it can mean that you want someone with a backbone. If you're simulating fake confidence, some women can buy into it. Especially if you're showing self-respect in any form. Self-respect and confidence are both attractive traits. That said, your comments wouldn't work on me personally. I look for someone who treats me like gold. A guy who doesnt give…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 01:37 AM
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He does not even compare to Penelope lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 01:33 AM
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I guess this is one thing that does bug me about a lot of women. As a woman who's dumped multiple guys over their terrible attitude, it bugs me how many women have low self-worth and reward guys who are the worst. Those guys learn from those girls, meet me, I end it, they beg and plead for another shot and realize not all girls respond to that crap... it just perpetuates a negative cycle. I always saw it as my duty not to feed into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 11:18 PM
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What kind of women were you dealing with? Someone telling me to f off is an automatic end to things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 11:15 PM
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Here is the truth: not all women are the same in terms of what they like socially-speaking or even biologically-speaking, but MOST well-adjusted women are wired in a way to desire security, stability, safety, and a bit of excitement. This is me speaking as a woman here. Feminists will hate me for saying this, but we really do want the guy who'll make us feel safe, protected, while also allowing us to be both feminine and powerful. I don't feel comfortable having a man control/lead me, but I do l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 11:11 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 11:04 PM
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That's an entire different matter. A lot of women generally hate other women. It's both sad and funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:57 PM
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I disagree. I'm a woman and I think women are stricter in general. Men tend to be more forgiving, unless they're the self-centered/delusional or TRP kinds who think they're God's gift to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:55 PM
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Hmm I'm part Spanish and in Spain, women definitely date up in looks. Except for Penelope Cruz apparently lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:51 PM
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If you need another person to meet your sexual needs, you've already lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:50 PM
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I don't believe in this personally. I don't do ONS or hookups ever though, so I'd be turned off by a guy who does. I actually dated someone when I was a virgin who I now realize probably was into TRP since he had a bunch of FWBs and was transparent with me (and told me he wanted me to be his partner, told me he was willing to drop them if I wanted exclusivity, that he wanted me to meet his mom etc). I lost interest in him pretty quickly because as much as I appreciated his frankness, that wasn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:43 PM
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It's not how it is in reality though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:15 PM
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Agreed with you. I'm not with my ex anymore despite him admitting to his faults and taking responsibility for it. I have stipulated that I need a few months apart to get perspective and he's OK with waiting, but the agreement is that even if I do want to get back together then, if he slips up like that again, I get to end it. His suggestion, not mine. It would just be up to me to decide if this is really what I'd wanna risk again and it seems to be completely my call.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 10:14 PM
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You're assuming all women are high quality. Not the case. There are plenty of trashy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 08:39 PM
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Character and personality actually do matter to me a lot. Character entails actually doing the right thing, not hurting people (especially intentionally, and trying to rectify things if done unintentionally), being loyal, being fair, being kind, being respectful etc. And wanting these things. Personality simply is your outer behavioral shell and as long as you're engaging/deep enough and pleasant and relaxed enough, and dont have anger issues, the exact details of personality are less important.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 08:19 PM
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So my ex told me he consciously chose certain actions because it was the only way he could handle things (mental health issues due to severe chronic stress and other weird things that went on in his life). He claims he never realized in the moment just how bad it hurt me... except I did tell him and we broke up a few times over his behavior. I can see how I didnt show him as much emotion as he'd expect (he's more emotional than I am), but I was clear. So that's where things got blurry. He didnt …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 08:09 PM
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Okay, I'm curious. What is the difference between toxic behaviors and emotional abuse? Relationships are not meant to make someone feel like crap. They shouldnt be draining or deteriorating. Some people unfortunately are so insecure and controlling that they do seek to control their partners via some form of control or coercion or even abuse. It's just the sweeping statement of "I am weary of women who say that" that bugs me. I guess I'm never telling any man what happened to me then lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 10:09 PM
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Huh? It happens pretty frequently. I literally just got approached by a guy via my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 10:06 PM
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So, I left my ex because he was "emotionally abusive" or what ever you wanna call it. I was prepared to marry him (he was and still is my first and only serious relationship). We actually made plans to get engaged too. He would swear at me, put me down, had really bad anger that scared the crap out of me and had me freeze in situations, he pushed my boundaries, would shut down if I didnt fully agree with his own perception of himself (so if I so much as pointed out something he did to hurt me, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:56 PM
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This made me laugh. As a young millennial, I'm almost 100% sure Gen Z girls are sleeping around way more (with both genders too). But then again, I'm very conservative so my life experience has probably been biased due to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:51 PM
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Uhh... I'm 31 and I've only ever had 2 partners before.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:49 PM
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Not true. In my culture, social class is still a thing. Some families get approached more for their daughters, partly due to looks but also partly due to social standing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 09:38 PM
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Everyone goes through youth differently. Not everyone goes through their youth as a fully formed or healthy person. Some people need more time. So it's not quite fair. If I had my current maturity at 22? Sure, all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 08:21 AM
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This! All the same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:40 AM
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Divorce rates are high among Muslims. Lol. Then again, forced-arranged marriages are against Islam. If youre talking about Indian cultures, they can last but only when they're arranged well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:31 AM
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I could marry someone I was neutral on with initial attraction, as long as there was enough emotional connection and shared goals/values/respect. Love can grow. I would find it hard to be married to someone who didnt feel very into me though. I think men need a ton of love/attraction to be respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:27 AM
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Huh? There are way more Christians. Also, Islamic society speaks only of adultery. Stoning anyone literally is a stupid approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:15 AM
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Yeah, with my recent ex, a few girls were suddenly more into him once we got together. And once we broke up, one girl (not as cute as me, she tried though) expressed interest. My ex chose trying to get me back over trying to know her more. Again, she tried. I do think some girls are drawn to guys who have an appealing wife/partner. And that's why, as a woman, you need to choose wisely (someone loyal). Because other women will want what you have. Unfortunately, I've come across a few copy-cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 11:12 PM
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So true. And guys in relationships with attractive girls? Yeah, other girls are gonna be into him for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 11:09 PM
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Haha I am kinda out there! My ex is trying, probably a colossal waste of my time though. And the other 2 guys who are most serious (havent really been talking to many guys, I screen them out quick) are surprisingly late 20s and marriage-minded, so theyre slightly younger than me but are cool with the age gap. Cant say what I am looks-wise but I'd say above average. It's semi subjective though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 10:56 PM
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I'm a minority, I grew up religious (we werent allowed to even speak to guys until my early 20s, and by then I wanted to escape my controlling/toxic home and just live my own life free of abuse), everyone around me seems either atheist or too dogmatic, I wasnt emotionally ready before (needed therapy to get through the trauma my parents put us through, their marriage was abusive), etc. I wouldnt have been a great partner before I hit 30. I'm well ahead of most people now though, in terms of stab…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 10:47 PM
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What if the girl is over 30? A lot of guys get ridiculous about age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 10:31 PM
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What made you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 08:24 PM
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Physically men peak in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 08:15 PM
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I disagree. As a woman with a career, I like men who have a stable career/purpose. It shows stability and purpose are things they have attained - both important. That said, that guy is giving terrible advice for other reasons. Being 30, you shouldnt chase early 20s and not even commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:58 PM
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This. I'm so emotionally and mentally stable now at 30. Holy crap, most women in their 20s are REALLY unstable, and I dont even blame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:56 PM
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I respect that!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:54 PM
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Just curious, why do you feel it's more abundant now vs when you were younger? Also, are you white and non religious? I'm 30 (I look max 24-25 though) and I have tooooons of "options" (not really though, most of those guys dont fit my criteria in lifestyle/health/spirituality) and it does weirdly feel more abundant in quality now than when I was younger, but I also went through phases. At 22, I had toooooons of guys approach my family for my hand, but I was too young and not formed enough mental…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:52 PM
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At 25?! Haha what? I'm 30 and I don't feel bitter despite my ex being abusive. Also, people should be resolving past issues before a new thing. Unfortunately, not enough people heal from one situation before another.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:48 PM
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Haha that's a good idea! It's so weird to even think of myself as a "career woman". I just followed in my mom's footsteps by getting educated and finding a good career. I want a family, I never said I didnt want kids. Society just rushes women to have everything done before/by 25, and that's logistically impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:42 PM
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Who has wrinkles at 32? Also, what if youre a virgin or had barely any sex and are in your 30s? I dont personally have a lot of friends who slept around
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:28 PM
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Lots of people, unfortunately. I'm on great terms with my sibling's in laws. I was great with my ex's family too. I love it. But many people dont.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:27 PM
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Yeah, I'm middle eastern and we just have different issues. Narcissistic parents, manipulative in-laws, misogyny, etc. Lol. Issues are just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:25 PM
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This is actually true! I'm surprised. Was expecting to disagree. My ex said "I'm marrying you, not your family". I used to agree 100%... except... my family is dysfunctional, but they're there for me when times are tough. I still want my SO to be able to easily hang with my family and vice versa. Families SHOULD ideally be integrated. The idea of man and wife just live an isolated life? Boring... and not socially smart. Of course, some of us have insane parent(s) and need boundaries, but if my p…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:23 PM
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5'10 is a good height too. I dont get why those guys are worried... it's a good height. Exactly! Men are SO shallow about age. Unless you look waaaaay younger than you are (which I do), then you get a lot of guys say they dont mind. But my experience probably isnt the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:04 PM
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Are you telling me men arent shallow? Haha. P.s. my ex was 6'3 and he doesnt see it as a shallow qualifier, nor do most tall guys. They actually usually get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:00 PM
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This. I actually have naturally big boobs and a big enough butt (that would be huge with enough booty workouts). I have a lot of qualifiers men want. I just dont happen to be 22-24 anymore, but when I was those ages, I wasnt even dating. Men and women both have ridiculous standards in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:00 PM
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Do you think as a woman, I can forever stay 22? Most men desire youth, right? We cant change that. Or men liking big boobs (which I actually have lol) or a nice butt (again, I have that). Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:57 PM
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He finally has, yeah. He basically chased me down the last month or two, asking for another chance. And has told me he finally sees how he was wrong and would never repeat those behaviours. But he berated me in the process, telling me I was hurtful for leaving (uh... after months of asking for better treatment). He also promised he'd be ok with doing therapy together and even individually if I asked..but I dont know. He seems unhealthy, still. I empathize with him and I still love him deep down,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:51 PM
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Lol thats fine if they do think that, but my guy cousins think I'm their age. Every time I remind them that I'm 30, they either forget/forgot or tell me I look super young, which is true.. i get asked if I'm 23-24 the most and usually people assume I'm that age because I also have a career. My girl cousins though? Different story. Theyre all Kardashian wannabes and they love to highlight the age gap as if older women are old hags. But the 2 I'm thinking of have awful personalities soooo best of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:47 PM
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Muslim
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:42 PM
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Yeah seriously. Men have way more physical definers than we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 05:02 PM
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Yeah it's something a lot of young guys dont realize. Not every woman is single because she slept around or hates all men or is not a good catch. Plenty of times, it's because men are not interested in responsibility/commitment... and even some that are, are abusive or have other poor behaviours. My ex wanted to marry me but guess what? He was abusive. And it took him until we broke up for him to realize it. I protested so much against his mistreatment and he didnt see it until I was no longer t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:39 PM
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My brother is part of that generation. So are most of my cousins. I see them all the time and they tell me all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:27 PM
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Yeah I cant speak to that. I make close to 6 figures and own a home, so I'm not reaching for my financial superior. I'm also not unattractive, I dont think I've ever been out with a guy who was better looking than I am. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:09 PM
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I was highlighting my personal experience as it actually reflects a sizeable minority of women! Sure, your basic white girl who has no religion or is mildly christian? She has no problems finding a guy. But for those of us with specific value sets or an affiliation with a minority religion, we have a way harder time. I dont think I'd be single at 30 if I was agnostic or if my family was OK with me being with your typical frat bro. It's something for you guys to keep in mind, while you make your …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:07 PM
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I don't think I've ever heard women my age (late 20s-early 30s) say this. Everyone wants someone they're physically into. The younger you go, the more this is true for women. It doesn't infuriate me but it does make me think we see gender in unrealistic ways. Women aren't that different from men when it comes to wanting someone we're physically into. Men put more focus on it because men are socialized to (and certain habits distort their reality), but women can be visual too. We just know to loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 04:00 PM
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It's not though. It depends what they want. Me not wanting a substance user (as someone who doesnt use substances) is not entitlement. It's simply wanting an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:57 PM
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That is absolutely untrue. For most of my 20s, a lot of guys I came across didnt share my values/beliefs (thus, not marriage material for me). I'm a minority in an atheist-majority area. Moreover, religious men were far too zealous and controlling. That aside, many men nowadays dont have their path figured out career wise or personally speaking. There is a major shortage of marriage-material men. Ask anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:54 PM
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I'm 30. I understand early 20s people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:53 PM
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I think it's physically easier when you're younger, but emotionally or financially maybe not. Depends. I also know people who had very easy pregnancies etc at 35+ compared to people who had kids at 29 or their 20s. Everyone's experience differs somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:51 PM
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27... are you serious? Most 27 year olds nowadays dont have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:16 PM
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I mean, my sister is your age and is having her first kid. A lot of women do it. It depends on the person. I'm 30 so I do want kids before mid 30s but you also cant have them with just anyone. Unfortunately, my life has been such that I didnt meet a ton of marriage material guys when I was really young, I didnt date or put myself out there a lot. I meet more marriage material men now (somehow) and it started at around 28 for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:15 PM
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This. Also noticed a lot of young guys are ok dating older girls... I'm 30 and tons of 20-somethings have been pursuing me for something serious. Total generational shift.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 11:22 PM
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This. Gen Z women I know are way less relationship oriented than millennial women. A lot of them are also doing sex work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 11:07 PM
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Are you really physically unattractive? Sorry, but... nothing else makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 11:06 PM
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That's fair. To each their own. Yeah, I was wondering because plenty of women in their 20s dont want relationships, even women in their 30s. But then they get older and lament about being single. Or maybe once they hit 40, they want them less. I'm not sure? I'm not in that age range for a long while so I can't know. It just seems my friends who are older than me were ok not dating for a while, now they want a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 10:45 PM
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Oh I agree with the collectivist vs individualist thing. But... also, a lot of collectivist societies fail their youth due to gender imbalances. Like I said, some cultures put more pressure on women and let men just get away with anything. That causes issues. I'm not sure if you know what feminism is. Or if we're talking about the same thing. Really, most of us want equal opportunity and equal human rights. I cant speak to feminism as a dogmatic or serious thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 10:43 PM
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No. There has to be some attraction. I've met guys who werent my type but I had some attraction, enough to get to know them. Attraction can grow if there is some there to begin with! Good character, fun to be around, and a good body combined are all attractive features, so if you have an average face, all that makes you attractive. An acquaintance of mine used to complain about her bf - he is a jacked redhead who's 5'10 instead of the tall, dark haired guys she usually went for. To me, he seemed…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:59 PM
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I disagree. I think for both genders, it shows a lack of judgment and a compulsive need for instant gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:52 PM
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I generally think it's good for everyone to strive to be what they want. It keeps you realistic and humble and also constantly growing. That said, the sad truth is that people often want what they dont have. And also, you may often attract people who either arent even close to what you offer, or they have the same amount in different categories. It's not super straight-forward all the time! For ex: I have a good job, make good money, but I "only" have a bachelors (in comp sci though). My fellow …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:40 PM
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Marriage is always beneficial for men. Always.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:35 PM
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Do you feel you'll be happy with it in the future? I don't mean to pry, and I know it's a loaded question... but I am curious when girls do this, if theyre thinking of themselves 10 or 20 years down the line. Is it just that you're not happy with emotional intimacy and prefer to keep things at a distance?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:34 PM
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Haha good luck, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:33 PM
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That's one of many. Both of my sisters married younger, so have plenty of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 08:30 PM
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It works better when the man is more into it. He does more and keeps her more satisfied. Women are usually more apt to change things when they arent satisfied, and a man who isnt trying? She will leave eventually, especially if she's white.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:52 PM
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Nope. Other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:51 PM
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Oh please. Tolerating a bad personality because theyre pretty? That's an old trope and I think only immature or stupid guys fall into that trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:48 PM
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Yeah and why would a woman want to be a widow for 25 years? I think women are better paired with men who are younger than them, actually. It makes more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:45 PM
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Low value men prefer younger women. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:43 PM
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Haha, what? My brother in law is with my sister, who's older than he is. I guarantee you he's top 1% of men. I love my sister but she's not top 1% of women. Most guys don't even come close, it's laughable. Why wouldn't he be with a 22 yo if this theory was true? Instead, he's with someone in her mid 30s and he was desperate for her to have his kids. Guess what the actual truth is? The most high value men actually prefer women their age or older and they prefer intelligent women. That's the truth…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:41 PM
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Lol the issue with why so many young men are unhappy is because they keep rejecting responsibility. That makes them unattractive to women. If the idea of providing anything to your partner is such a huge ask, please remain alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:38 PM
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I genuinely still look 15/16 if I style myself in teen clothes lol. I'm 31. My ex was recently seeing girls in their 20s and they look older than I do, and will certainly age faster than I will. If these women were better than me, he wouldnt have begged to have me back. That's the thing guys forget - ALL women age, just some at different rates than others. Going for a 26 yo doesnt guarantee she'll look young in 4 years or that she's better than someone 30+. Then what? You leave her? That is a sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 06:36 PM
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Marriage benefits men more than women. That's why it makes me laugh when people think women are desperate for marriage with just anyone. Most women only want it with someone they'd feel is good for them and vice versa. Only low self esteem women get married young to shitty men, and those women are married or are getting divorced in their 30s/40s when they learn to value themselves. The incel movement and the MGTOW movements are so huge primarily because men cannot survive alone, or it's a huge d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:47 PM
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Jennifer Aniston has the kind of life a LOT of women aspire to have. I dont even want her life, but she has a good life. There is no denying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:41 PM
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This... logically, I dont want kids. Emotionally, I want kids. Lol. Although while parenthood is a disaster in some ways, it's also a source of purpose and meaning for many people. So it does, on some level, make sense to do it or want it. It wont make you happier, but it'll give your life more meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:40 PM
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So I am all for your comment, but if you know so many good men, why arent you married to one? Just curious as a woman myself. If I came across tons of good men on the regular, I would be married right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:39 PM
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This. Unfortunately, intelligent women value motherhood less, or put it off longer. Speaking as one myself. I DID want kids in my early 20s, but I also wanted to get educated and find my career and travel and generally have something to teach my kids. I wanted to be able to be emotionally intelligent enough for them, and financially stable enough (and guess what... I'm 30 and these things came through this last year.... and for many women, they dont until their 30s or even 40s. Lots of immature/…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:33 PM
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Kind of karma for China though. Their government and culture screwed their youth over.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:30 PM
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Please stop bundling 30s with the 40-60 crowd. 30s are young. Especially if you spent your 20s on your career, or had family childhood issues that kept you from relationships, or come from a culture where dating young isnt accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:28 PM
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Yes, this. Plenty of women have settled. I have friends who complain about their husbands ALL the time. One friend of mine just told me she's "happy" with her husband but wishes she slept around?! Wtf lol. I didnt want to do that to any man and still dont. It has to be a 100% respect thing or it's not a viable relationship. I havent slept around, I'm celibate (only had 1 partner before), it's not like this is any better than being married. A lot of married women romanticize being single, as if u…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:21 PM
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I disagree. The smartest people tend to usually have fewer kids, or want fewer kids. Our society actually needs intelligent people to reproduce. My dad didnt want to have any kids (he's very smart) but my mom made it happen (she's also very smart but she's maternal over everything). As a result, my parents had a bunch of very intelligent kids. We're all productive members of society, well above-average. My oldest sister has a few kids (she pushed herself to focus on family in her 30s despite hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:14 PM
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This! That woman seems like such a good person. She's very clearly thinking of the bigger picture. Also agreed - lmao @ the idea that men arent all pro men. The problem with history and humanity is that men ALWAYS side with each other over the greater good. Top tier men are the ones willing to shit on men who behave badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:09 PM
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I think his mom was just trying to comfort him. He probably told her that he wants to be their "dad" no matter what, and finding out he wasnt their biological father hit him hard. His mom was just trying to be a mom. That said, if my future hypothetical son was in this situation, I'd support his decision to stay or leave. My son would be my priority, and this kid seems like a good guy. It's not like he wants to leave his OWN kids... he seems like he wants to stay for someone else's kids. It take…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/20 05:06 PM
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Bebe has some good music. But this song sucks. Doja Cat is just... trashy.
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