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If you think there is a chance that she will get the deductions for any children, then you should consider changing your withholding to single with no dependents right now. The IRS has online worksheets that can guide you. For me, this made my net take home pay lower, which was helpful during meditation when I could show I wouldn't continue to bring home as much as before. If you happen to get the benefit of having kids as dependents then you can change it back later. A good attorney should be a…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 08:17 PM
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Thanks for that. p.p.s Your "mission" is vague and ambiguous. My actual mission is detailed, that's more of the easy to remember tag line.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 06:33 PM
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OYS #16 Info: 37, 5'6", 145lbs, ~16%bf (navy method); 32." waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Reading "10% Happier" and "Wake Up" by Kerouac. Overall: It's now been 5 months since swallowing the pill. Themes for this week include complacency and lack of discipline. Somehow I've lost my edge in the last week or so and feel lack I'm slipping backwards. Trying to make a connection between my actions (or…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 03:37 PM
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Not sure if I should meet her for a drink and tell her, or just tell her over text and see if she's still interested in talking. Anyone dealt with this before? I've just left her on read for the moment. Seems awkward to be like" BTW I'm married" out of nowhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 12:30 PM
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Valid points. I'm a professional in a CBD in a major city and wear suits 3x/week and I guarantee you I look better than 80% of guys when I wear one of these cheap nasty suits, because they fit and I know how to wear them. If you've got the cash to get a real suit (which will cost you $$$ if you are buying quality), go for it. If you're buying shit suits at Jos Bank, then don't fool yourself - you might as well buy one of these instead. And paying more does not mean it will last any longer.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 01:44 PM
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Not sure if you mean holding your breath or actually bracing Bracing Your city is obviously very different than mine. 39 buys you two pairs of dress socks. Should have made this more clear - this is an online sale - https://alaindupetit.com/
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 07:48 PM
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OYS #15 Info: 37, 5'6", 145lbs, ~17%bf (navy method); 32.5" waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Reading "Fanatical Prospecting" (sales book) and "Wake Up" by Kerouac. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 205; BP: 130, OHP: 100; Row: 145; DL: 245). Hit all my lifts the other night for first time in awhile. Pretty sure it's because I'm eating a lot more, but also a lot more focused on form. Holding my breath a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:14 PM
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Shit, it was 39" when I started here! I'm measuring 1" below navel and most of my remaining fat is right there (15 years of beer and gummy bears?). I'm probably 29" or so around where pants sit. How do you feel at 135 and what are your lifts like? (EDIT: Read your post history about boxing and not lifting, so never mind that) I backed off having 135 as a goal, as I felt like I'd be too little. I am shooting for 30" waist at this point. I noticed more IOIs when I was around 150 than now that I've…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/18 07:28 PM
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Either you left it all as a surprise or she knew about a couple of activities. All a surprise for kids. She saw some of my pre-purchases in bank account so knew of a couple of activities. I didn't plan it for her, I planned it for kids. Have not dealt with the real issue yet. And what the fuck is that? Just don't have the insight or emotional intelligence to figure out why I give a shit about what random women think of me. I'm working on it by taking note every time I have a thought about wantin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 01:27 PM
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I really enjoyed this OYS, but this was my favorite bit: She didnt talk to me the rest of the night but sure as fuck she ate that ice cream!!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 10:00 PM
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Implicit in there is the idea that this is some kind of Big Deal. Yep, I'm with you, good call. Yeah, well, pick one. Ugh, knew this was coming. We've got another month of shirts off weather and I'm a vain motherfucker, so maybe I'll wait a few weeks to start loading up. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 07:42 PM
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Weight has been steady for about 4 weeks. I lost initial weight doing 40hr fast 1x/week and have cut back to every other week on non-workout day. Ate at a deficit until 3-4 weeks ago and now eating at slight surplus. I've also considered HIIT but just another thing I'd have to fit into schedule.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 06:45 PM
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OYS #14 Info: 37, 5'6", 145lbs, ~18%bf (navy method); 33" waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Anyone read "Fantastical Prospecting" (sales book)? Saw it recommended and thinking about picking it up. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 205; BP: 130, OHP: 95; Row: 145; DL: 245). Starting to get frustrated with my lack of progression over the last 4-5 weeks. Is this a pure caloric intake problem, or am I missi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 06:10 PM
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The solution isn't to hide from temptation out of fear or insecurity. Re: fear and insecurity - I'm not going to pretend I have this shit figured out, I'm only identifying the symptoms at this point and taking the obvious steps to get on track. Been working on identifying how many of the decisions of my life have been based on fear and writing out what the specific fear was. It's funny how stupid the reasons are once I write them out. What temptation are you referring to?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/18 12:24 PM
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Following up on my own OYS because I don't want to wait until next week and want to get this shit down for accountability sake: I spent some time yesterday working through some shit that I have not been owning. I've mentioned it in some past OYS, but have not tackled it on or really taken responsibility. I know it will take time, but I am struggling with my need for validation, as demonstrated with my obsession with seeking out strange pussy. I'm going to dump some of my thoughts from yesterday …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 07:44 PM
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OYS #13 Info: 37, 5'6", 145lbs, ~18%bf (navy method); 33" waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Overall: I consider the past week a good one because nothing really went well for me, which provides me with the opportunity to actually work on my shit. My workouts were kind of shit, I had no game, didn't fuck anyone, wasn't all that fun, and wasn't engaged in the social activities that I participated in. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 03:36 PM
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OYS #12 Info: 37, 5'6", 144lbs, ~18%bf (navy method); 33" waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 195; BP: 130, OHP: 95; Row: 145; DL: 245). Doing SL 3x week, and accessory work ~2x/week. I'm now skinny fat and working on putting on actual muscle. Have been getting lots of comments in past week or two about weight loss, but nobody commenting on muscles or pawing. Squats are h…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 09:37 PM
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Follow up [FR]: She wasn't feeling up to sex last night, so I pulled the Torero GYDO (get your dick out) and put it in her mouth. Ended well and I only paid attention to her actions, which indicated she was pleased to be useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 05:42 PM
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Noted, I appreciate the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 03:54 PM
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Maybe I've just got it down instinctively? I put "Relationship" as a category and literally only wrote "Maintain an abundance mentality." Not sure why I even added the category other than conditioning. Good catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 03:17 PM
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OYS #11 Info: 37, 5'6", 144lbs, ~18%bf (navy method); 33" waist. Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 175; BP: 130, OHP: 95; Row: 140; DL: 235) Feeling better now that I am upping my calories, but still working on poor squat form. Diet: Upped the calories in the last week in an attempt to start putting on some real muscle and am cutting back my my long fast to 2x/month. I've got …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 01:58 PM
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Unclear if another woman would change my mind, but I don't think there's a gap that needs to be filled by a woman. I see a plate as just a supplement, even if I wasn't married.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 08:49 PM
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What's your mission? Where are you aiming to get to? What value will you give and get to the people who remain with you after you arrive? Been working through this and will report back next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:59 PM
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Ouch, truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:42 PM
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Great point.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 07:24 PM
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I'll think about it. Honestly, this is where I feel like the end game of RP and MRP are contradictory. I'm early in the journey yet though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 06:59 PM
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I get what your saying and own that, but this: Don't work on the relationship, or on entertaining her; work on entertaining yourself, with her along for the ride is what I've been doing, and as I realize that I don't care whether or not she comes along for the ride is when I wonder if it's fair to stay married to her. I really don't care about her entertaining me at all, it's more like she feels like dead weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 06:26 PM
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Agree with all this. rather than challenge yourself and your wife to up your game rather than the proactive alpha path of leadership and challenge toward positive change This is what I am struggling with. She is following my lead and trying to implement positive change in her life (losing weight, looking for better employment), and I should acknowledge and encourage that behavior (which I do). I'm just so bored (for lack of a better word) with her. This is all good advice, I just don't know what…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 05:25 PM
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That sounds like every dad - at least every dad who's trying to be a good dad. I'll drill down a bit. Number 1 - For me, this means actually planning out chunks of 1-2 hours over the weekend and putting it on the calendar. I also keep a list of fun activities/adventures the kids have mentioned they want to do. Also means I go outside and play football/soccer, or box with the boys, or play guitar/ukelele. It just means I have to be deliberate, otherwise, I'm the boring dad sitting on the couch, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 01:48 PM
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OYS #10 Info: 37, 5'6", 143lbs, ~20%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 200; BP: 130, OHP: 95; Row: 130; DL: 235) This has been a disappointing week for me. Lifts have gone down and am low energy. Decided to drop the deficit diet and start eating at a surplus, as I'm more concerned at this point with progressing on my lifts. My body has changed a lot in 3.5 mon…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 12:50 PM
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Thanks for insightful response. The potential plate did come meet me (just told her I'll be at place X at time Y, come by if you'd like) and had a fun time making out with her and pushing some limits. Plans for her to make me dinner at her place upon her return.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 08:05 PM
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OYS #9 Info: 37, 5'6", 145lbs, ~21%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL6 Reading: Finished WISNIFG, NMMNG, Extreme Ownership, and RM. Re-reading WISNIFG. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 200; BP: 130, OHP: 95; Row: 125; DL: 230) Not much to report. Still working on poor squat form. Consistently maintaining 3x/week, sort of annoyed with how long the workouts are taking now that I have all the warm-ups and long rest periods. Diet: Looked back at my log, and psyched that I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 02:41 PM
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Yes on lifting and working through sidebar. Still occasionally in her frame. On the bright side, the conversation eventually ended with me telling her that if she wanted to leave, the door was right there. Honestly not sure whether I have the balls to come home with a motorcycle at this point. Doesn't help that it's outside of our stated financial goals either.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 03:45 PM
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She must have a I little, because that's where we are now
/r/askMRP30/07/18 12:38 AM
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Sort of what I've been doing, unwittingly. But tired of comforting a bitch.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 10:01 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. Re: the cell phone - I'm addicted in general, nothing to do with this girl in particular, my obsession in checking for messages from her has just made me realize how many times I look at my phone during the day. I've listened to some podcasts on deep work, and will check out the book as well. I changed my settings this morning to set my phone to monochrome as a step I've heard often in the past - need that dopamine hit from somewhere else! It also sounds like you're stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/18 04:15 PM
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Follow-up: This "potential plate" is giving me the opportunity to face some real issues: I am literally addicted to my phone - checking all the time to see if there are any messages, etc. It's pitiful. It also means I rarely engage in deep meaningful work because I am so easily distracted. I have to fix this. I have no abundance mentality. I am way too concerned with trying to "not lose" this girl. Why? It is seriously hard for me to not text her, even though she hasn't texted me in a day or so.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/18 11:51 AM
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Circling back to this...I started the conversation motivated primarily by #1, and she probably subconsciously knew. I've since steered the conversation to #2-4 and am making actual progress. Really appreciate the insight.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 10:13 PM
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OYS #8 Info: 37, 5'6", 147lbs, ~22%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. DL5ish Reading: Finished WISNIFG; slowly working on Extreme Ownership, NMMNG and RM. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 200; BP: 125, OHP: 95; Row: 125; DL: 225) Progression has really slowed, but I am still motivated. My boys finally told me how bad my form on squats is, so I have deloaded a bit to work on getting lower. Still trying to improve my mobility. My second son is absolutely crushing it on SL. He's…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/18 09:31 PM
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Pro for 3 years, Mugsy Bogues was mentor.
/r/askMRP22/07/18 02:06 PM
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Great question. The real problem is probably that my mission has changed and I am not adequately communicating it. She is still supporting my old mission, which was focused solely on her and the kids. I am admittedly still formulating my new mission, but there are parts that I can easily communicate to her that would reinforce my new mission (having money to travel and save for retirement).
/r/askMRP20/07/18 07:48 PM
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Agree. Haven't seen that formula and have not been measuring shoulders, but will start. Thanks.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 07:17 PM
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I'm a little over 3 months on SL, but with my calorie deficit I haven't really pushed my limits. Thanks for input, might be better to do another 3 months once I started adding some calories back in.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 06:42 PM
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Vega Thanks for the tip. I've been doing the greek yogurt/protein powder shake the last week and it has certainly helped. And lots of tuna. Come to think of it, I must smell terrible!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 03:24 PM
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OYS #7 Info: 37, 5'6", 150lbs, ~23%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. Reading: Finished WISNIFG; slowly working on Extreme Ownership, NMMNG and RM. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 200; BP: 120, OHP: 95; Row: 125; DL: 215) Have been focusing more on my form and practicing the third world squat - its shocking how poor my flexibility and mobility is. Had an absolutely terrible workout last week, primarily due to low energy I think. Failing on Squats, OHP and failed on first Dea…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 02:51 PM
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OYS #6 Info: 37, 5'6", 152lbs, ~24%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. Reading: Finished WISNIFG; slowly working on NMMNG and RM. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 195; BP: 110, OHP: 95; Row: 115; DL 205) Workouts have been steady but I am now pushing up against my first resistance. Failed on squats the other day for first time and am now focusing on my form. Question: If my form sucks (I'm not getting past parallel now), I should not move up on weight and instead work on form,…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:32 PM
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Thanks man
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 01:34 AM
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OYS #5 Background: Missed a few weeks due to vacation. This is about week 10 on TRP. Info: 37, 5'6", 152lbs, ~24%bf (navy method). Married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. Reading: Finished WISNIFG; slowly working on NMMNG and RM. Lifting/Exercise: SL 5x5 (SQ: 185; BP: 105, OHP: 90; Row: 110; DL 185) Loving working out now and it's one of the main things I look forward to. My boys lift with me almost every time, and wife has now been joining for the last few weeks as well. All positive, except th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 01:49 PM
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I'll be working complex carbs back in, just wanted to lose as much of the gut as possible in a short time and it's mostly been successful.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 05:31 PM
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What is ripped? Skinny guy with abs or strong and you don’t care about abs? Strong with abs is preferred.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 05:12 PM
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Edit: Nevermind, he's just an insecure asshole. All good. Thanks for all the redirection.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 04:49 AM
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Possibly the best advice yet!
/r/askMRP09/06/18 10:06 PM
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Agreed, this is the first time I will have been around him since admitting that. The really problem is dealing with my wife's reaction to him. Thanks
/r/askMRP09/06/18 03:44 PM
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Thanks. We actually just went through these same ideas and I had him write down his goals for the summer and come up with a list of things he would like to learn so we can work through it together. I created a daily checklist for him so that he can see what he has accomplished. One of my favorite quotes I've seen somewhere around here is "self-respect comes after you do something to respect yourself for - not before." Really trying to get him (and myself) to internalize this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/18 06:38 PM
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OYS #4 Info: 37yrs, 5'6", 155, married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6. Missed OYS last week while on vacation. Reading: Finished WISNIFG, will need to re-read and take better notes, but found it helpful. It's OK to be selfish. Actually, not just OK, but absolutely necessary. Reading NMMNG right now and working through the exercises. Also read Vagabonding on my vacation, which was a great read and apparently dread-inducing, as wife mentioned days later that she was upset because the book was main…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 02:45 PM
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I hear you...not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 05:20 PM
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"The essential diff between shit yes and comfort test is who is being talked about." Was sort of a mix of the two then. She was definitely giving me shit, but also clearly distressed about how she has been feeling. I did tell her that I can't be responsible for feelings, that they were her own. But really, the hugging made a huge difference. "Most definitely that was not “an event” which would be about divorce or separation" Understood. But this was the closest she has ever come to acknowledging…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:53 PM
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OYS #3 Background: Found MRP 5 weeks ago, been lifting since and focusing more on what I want for my life. Posted first OYS two weeks ago. 37yrs, 5'6", 157, married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6 Reading: Working through WISNIFG - I have the right to be my own judge of what's right for my life. Worked through most of non-book sidebar materials. Lifting: Feeling good, still working the SL5X5 plan and being patient. SQ: 140; BP: 85; ROW: 95; OHP: 80; DL: 150. Physical: I've been sort of frustrated…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:20 PM
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OYS #2 5/16/18 Info: 37yrs, 5'6", 157, married 17yrs, 4 kids, empty nest in 6 Fitness: SL 5x5 going slow and steady (SQ: 125; BP: 80; ROW: 90; OHP: 80; DL: 135). Probably about to push up against real resistance on row and OHP, otherwise I am trying to be patient as I have a tendency to injure myself but trying to progress too quickly. I do some body weight exercises and stretching on 2 rest days, and bicep and forearm curls on other 2 rest days. Think I need to work HIIT in to help burn fat. Di…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 02:34 PM
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For sure working on validating myself internally, eating right, and lifting. Working on not feeling that need to chase strange. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/18 11:56 AM
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Can't open link on #2 because of stupid work firewall, but probably a mix of 2 and 3. I don't make the sizing for pants, but also don't deny that it's completely vanity driven. I wear that size of pant in every manufacturer I've ever bought. However, my gut is at least 4" fatter than where my pants naturally fall on my waist. I don't wear them around my navel, and can't ever remember wearing them that high. Why is this important other than proving I'm fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 04:31 PM
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Ha, I suppose so, but I don't wear my pants like fuckin Steve Urkel
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 04:06 PM
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Yes, much fatter. I do like her as a friend. She's not active, so in the past our together time has been watching TV. I've been playing tennis more often lately and she has started to join in. I'll have to check waist to hip, but I know my waist (at navel) is 39" and pant size is 33/34.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:56 PM
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I don't want to fuck my wife. I like her just fine as a roommate and mother to my children. What I'm doing with my life is trying to accomplish my goals: be successful in my career, have a healthy mental state, look good, and have fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:46 PM
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If you mean an open relationship - She has not been receptive at all to that suggestion. Very jealous. If you mean divorce - she and kids would be devastated at this point. It may come to that, and I'd be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:21 PM
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OYS #1 Info: 37yrs, married 17 (been together 20), 4 kids (started right away), all at home, youngest will graduate HS in 6 years. 5'6" 157, 28% BF (Navy method). 3 weeks in. First OYS post and not sure where to start, feel like there's a lot of shit to put out but know I need to get this started. Fairly classic Mr. BB with good job, etc. Gonna need some help...(new acct for MRP purposes) Lifting: SL 5x5 (SQ: 105; BP: 70, ROW: 80, OHP: 65; DL: 115 - Used to lift 10 yrs ago, starting over fresh).…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 03:07 PM
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