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maineyack77/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 10:57 AM
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maineyack77/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 06:08 PM
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Thank you. It has been a long road. Finally sold her house so she could pocket rest of my life savings - she got 325k. Grand total of 600k. Now i can create firmer boundaries and move on. I’ll never be able to retire completely but hoping to regain my sanity one day. The less I see her the better.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 05:53 PM
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A little update. I was paying alimony and child support of 3400. I gained full custody and cut her off no more alimony. She stopped taking kids to her house and clearly is not a functioning person. The damage was done though financially. I lost most of my life savings but gained my freedom. The kicker is I was paying for her house as child support. I had to organize the sale of it - she will receive an additional 350k. I’m thinking of taking her to court for child support now since I have full c…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 10:22 AM
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I documented everything and was persistent. I get why some Folks say show no mercy, and in all honesty I’ve said the same thing on this board. I had to spend 10k in lawyer fees to get this verdict. Ultimately even though she destroyed me, I choose to move on. Destroying her will just hurt my kids. I approached her family to help and they seem to be listening.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 12:20 AM
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She is the most selfish person I’ve ever met - somehow didn’t realize it until it was too late. I’m over it - I can finally turn the page. Best of luck
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 11:01 AM
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About 18 months ago she stopped making an effort to host them and was no longer able to contribute to shared expenses. She went through about 200k in 18 months. She has no job and in my opinion not well. She finally admitted that she prefers being a ‘stop over aunt’ instead of a mother. My original deal allowed her to stay in marital home for 2 years as I made the mortgage payments - that counted towards child support. I just hired a lawyer to make the reality the new deal And get permission to …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 09:39 AM
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For me - I’m done with this shit. I’ll just take care of all 4 of my kids. Dealing with lawyers and arguing - it is too toxic for me. I need to move on because I know I can never rely on her
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 02:20 AM
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Stay in house. Took me over 2 years and thousands and thousands of dollars to fix that mistake speaking from experience
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 10:52 AM
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Be selfish , she is
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:37 PM
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First mediation next week for full custody, no child support, no alimony force sale of house. Lets just say her world is crumbling. Lets see how next week goes before I celebrate
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 08:24 PM
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It is like watching a train wreck in slow motion over here. Mine spent close to 200k in 2 years and has nothing left. Now I’m going for full custody and asking for child support as kids live with me. These women had no idea how good they had it. I enabled her and now am truly seeing what an f’d up person she is. She can’t even pay her electric bill -
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 02:24 PM
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Just to follow up too. I have to work 2 jobs to support myself, kids, and her and I don’t think that is right and has taken a mental and physical toll on me. I’d like my day in court and would love someone to tell her she needs to get her shit together. I might be naive but I have to try.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 08:18 PM
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Good luck with your pursuit. My situation is unique IMO. There are mental health concerns - I don’t think she is capable of being an adult. I think she is depressed, schizophrenic, bipolar, or just flat out lazy. I’m trying to walk a fine line though as I want to stand up for myself and the kids but not push her over the edge as I want her family To take over and can’t afford a protracted legal battle. I’m getting bled Dry having to pay 3500/month for 50/50. I have kids 90% and the times she has…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 07:56 PM
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Yes I spoiled and enabled her. My job is to instill these lessons to my kids and ensure history doesn’t repeat itself. I’m working my ass off to implement my vision - and yes I’ve given up on ‘action’ for a while until I’m ready.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 05:13 PM
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Yes I agree. Not sure what the fall out will be. So many people tell me it isn’t my problem anymore. Finally starting to realize that it isn’t my job to turn her into a functioning adult.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 12:11 PM
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I was a good husband and am an excellent dad. I don’t deserve to be an indentured servant for 10 More years
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 11:07 PM
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Thanks guys. Let’s change things.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 11:04 PM
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I get noticed the electric will be cut off
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 12:40 AM
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Sorry to hear you are another victim of unfair laws. Speaking from personal experience, don’t date right away. Try to establish some Routines and time For your kids - they are all that matters. Create a new identity - have friends over etc…. I could never have friends over when I was married. Financially, you might need to get creative. It sux but necessary - I run 2 jobs simultaneously until I feel like I can recover and get reestablished. I document everything so I can regain my freedom by dra…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 06:47 PM
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Never legally like the other poster said. You relinquish to much power when you are financially responsible and still have to raise your kids
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:29 PM
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About 600k plus on the hook for alimony for 5 more years and child support 10 but at least will gradually go down as kids get done with school. All in all it’ll be close to a million to a person who never worked and never will. It is like a slow financial death to the people who are the more responsible. I’ll drink to that
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 02:05 PM
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Yep - there is such a thing. Shaman school aka lost souls of the world meant to wonder and delegate Responsibility to others school. I guess the moral of the story here is. Somehow find a way to accept your mistakes, understand you can’t control other people’s behavior, and carve out a new plan for yourself and if you have kiddos them too. I still struggle but everyday gets a tiny bit easier.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 02:42 PM
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Gees sorry to hear that. Sux. I just want my life savings back so I can support myself and the kids - maybe help them for their future. Instead it gets waisted on shaman school, Invisalign , and gardening crap
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 09:54 AM
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I’ll Marry someone rich to take half her money
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 10:41 PM
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I got taught a tough lesson people revert back to their tribes so to speak. Asked for help from ex’s family to help me out. was ignored and eventually they stuck an attorney on me to ensure they didn’t have to step up. I asked for their very wealthy family to co-sign a refinance on marital house so I can cash out and allow ex to live nearby in same school district. They wouldn’t have had to put a cent down. They refused and watch me implode financially. I righted the ship by working 2 jobs for 4…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 08:42 PM
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Kind of similar here, my ex ended up wanting to become a shaman, very unreliable, constantly worried people were spying on her. So many crazy things I just don’t know what happened to the woman I married. Have not been successful encouraging her to get help nor does her family care so I’m still stuck with her. I believe some type of schizophrenia developed. I ended up just taking my kids full time so I know they are safe but am still working on ending child support through a lawyer. Hang in ther…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 06:23 PM
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Run!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 12:54 AM
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Maine 4 kids
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 08:59 PM
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I make about 150 she makes 0 and doesn’t want to work I pay 2400 child support 1k alimony all health insurance and ‘split’ expenses with someone who just gives my alimony money back. At least she has a job consider yourself lucky
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 06:32 PM
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Will discourage my kids at least boys to get married. SAHM are lazy and thieves. Both my parents worked and were very puzzled who I chose to marry. They ensured I had a strong work ethic and good moral compass. Then the thief showed up, stole my life savings, barely ever got out of bed to help with kids, and decided I wasn’t spiritually ‘woke’ enough. Lawyers ended up screwing me over because her lifestyle needed to be ‘maintained’ . F’n shit show - most women are entitled - and for my friends w…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:50 PM
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Really good advice. My sister helped me tremendously through everything. You’ll find that one person
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:12 AM
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Sorry you don’t get to see your kids. System is so broken. The kids is what made me allow her to kick me in the balls over and over again. That and the lawyer her family paid for to rake me over the coals.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 05:12 PM
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Not worth it. Gives her the right to rob you and not work. Marriage is legalized theft
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 05:07 PM
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