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My uncle committed suicide. This is a disgusting comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:58 AM
2

Getting there. There’s more and more women’s only places.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 03:07 AM
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It’s just statistically unlikely that one of the two statements is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 11:07 PM
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So a moderately attractive 35 year old can EASILY get with a 20 year old, but 95% of men can’t get any women at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 10:46 PM
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Outside? Concerts, bars, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:36 PM
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My brother is average - around 5’9 - 5’10, started balding at 23, a bit overweight; he’s had a few girlfriends, the last one didn’t click so he’s into meeting someone else. He’s not even on the apps, but meets women irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 06:31 AM
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Keep your paws to yourself! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:42 AM
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My neighbour is almost completely bald and shaves it all off and he’s hot af. However, there’s some guys who just can’t pull it off… 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:41 PM
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Then I must know many 10%+ men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:48 AM
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I think it’s too broad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:00 AM
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Solid - definitely has good social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:32 PM
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Actually I have no clue, I think it’s the way he speaks and how he says things.. he’s not even my type physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:29 PM
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Yes. It’s happening at the moment. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:25 PM
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And who do I get the advice from on dating men? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:30 PM
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What is “fair” dating tho? Dating is never fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:22 PM
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You likely aren’t a statistical outlier. It’s more that stats (and data interpretations) are somewhat challenging for many in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:32 PM
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The difference in definition is not related to exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 07:30 PM
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Odds and population probability are two different things..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 06:55 PM
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lol I know. what a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:56 PM
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Not really. One is single-never married. She was in a LTR with a horrible man, eventually broke up with him when she was around 30 tho. She was much happier once she was on her own. She also never entered another LTR (by choice) and seems to be doing well so far. The other one married an older guy and eventually he divorced her. They had their issues and he was a schizophrenic who refused treatment a number of times. It really started showing once he got into his 50s. She was miserable and is st…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 10:08 PM
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THIS! I grew up with a younger brother in a very dysfunctional, traditional, family with very religious and conservative grandparents. As a child and young teenager, I believed that men are legitimately the better sex: I was consistently told they’re more capable, smarter, and can achieve more than women can. I was seeing my brother being praised for just existing, while I kept being told how I need to change so that men will approve off me more (girls don’t do X, girls need to wear pretty cloth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:13 PM
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Figure skater
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 04:23 AM
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Nooooo! 😭 Sorry to hear that!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 02:10 AM
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I think you have your stats wrong. Many men enjoy ass play; but that’s not the only way to fuck your man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:49 PM
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Huh? You can fuck your guy. It’s highly enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:23 PM
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You can get on top, you know that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:21 PM
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Of course he does those things, who wants to date a guy who doesn’t groom, wear hot underwear, wants you to play with his ass… And keeping money just for yourself makes no sense. Why does it have to be about money? Money is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:19 PM
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Sounds like something you’d read on FDS. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:16 PM
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Well, Serbia and Croatia have a pretty recent history of conflicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:52 PM
1

LOL where was she from? A flight to Paris within Europe is like 50€ (and that’s not even with a budget airline).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 05:55 AM
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It’s far from porn; at least from what I remember. I think it’s mostly sex in flashbacks here and there. Perhaps I wasn’t paying enough attention… That’s fair enough tho!! It’s not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:55 AM
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Well, clearly you should watch it LOL Maybe it’s the age group? I dunno. When I was on the apps, if a guy had a woman in the photos it was an automatic swipe left. I think there’s whole threads on Bumble/Tinder subs about why men do this (as in, it’s not appealing). So clearly it attracts some and detracts others.. I don’t understand the appeal tho (but that’s me personally).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:48 AM
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Yikes!! Sounds like an episode of Euphoria lol Tho if you think about it, it’s really the ultimate “pick-me” move. I bet some do get off on their best friends man picking them and leaving their friend..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:40 AM
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Who’s best friend? Your gfs?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:36 AM
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lol correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:34 AM
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How do you confirm attraction? Are they into them or just being nice/themselves, because they think a married/taken guy won’t hit on them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:32 AM
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Occasionally sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:31 AM
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Is it really a trap tho? I feel like this is one of the less malicious lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 05:30 AM
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It’s reassurance he won’t hit on them lol He becomes non-threatening by telling them he has a gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:32 AM
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A man who is married is a part of a union/partnership. Having to care for another family/his other children IS taking away from his wife - he isn’t single to do as he pleases! It’s not only his resources, but their shared ones. Men don’t force women to raise others children, but men trick women into believing they only have one family. They lie about income, where they spend their time, meanwhile their wife is raising their children and carrying more weight because of it. This isn’t a slap, it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 12:11 AM
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Slap to a murder ..c’mon now. From resources and choice (since you brought that up) perspectives it gets close. The husband could have multiple children and the wife had no idea, so where’s the choice in that? How does the wife get anything back? She’s been faithful while he’s been living double or triple or whatever life and bleeding their resources to another family. However, if you talk about developing an emotional bond with a child that’s not his and raising someone else child, then finding…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 10:58 PM
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No, I did expect your answer; but I disagree that the wife doesn’t loses much if the husband has a child (or two) with another woman. I’d leave out trauma, and humiliation since that goes both ways (in both scenarios) and I don’t think we need to address that really. He’s taking away his time, energy, and resources from the family he created with his wife (so she does loses). She isn’t directly responsible for them (you are right), but since marriage is a union, they end up both being responsibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:49 PM
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..how does a man lose more than the wife who’s partner impregnated 100 other women he is now responsible for?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 07:58 PM
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Yupp. Spot on!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:54 PM
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I have re-read it 100 times before commenting. People are giving you a bunch of pros and you’re refusing to discuss them and expand the topic. Instead of you’re repeating the same thing over and over again. ..and what?? You’re referring to every woman who has sex outside of a relationship a “libfem ho”… at least TRP focuses on high-n counts. Imagine the world where TRP is more sane than your teaching… 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 01:20 AM
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Dude.. a relationship isn’t a business transaction. You’re not repeating any teaching in a brutal manner, you’re just being an asshole and not actually want to debate people. This should be a CMV if you’re not open to hearing others opinions. If being an asshole is a part of the “locker room talk”, then congrats you succeeded! Not a good thing tho. Who needs men, when we have FDS women to put other women down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 01:02 AM
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Why is this a “question for women” if a bunch of guys are replying and he’s arguing everyone, that has a different opinion, with “lies”? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:49 AM
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I would bet that’s not the same woman. The woman who rejected you at 18 won’t suddenly chase you at 23, because her clock is ticking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:15 PM
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I agree. The Norwegian woman was painfully naive. She kept making worse and worse choices, then was in it so deep she couldn’t see out. He’d be considered very trashy by many Europeans, prob why the Swedish woman didn’t fall for it in the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:11 PM
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The Swedish woman said there was no romantic chemistry I think. I felt like she was less impressed with the spending/luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:03 PM
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No lol ..it’s the % difference in relative terms. It does not mean women account for more searches. Do I need to do the math for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:36 PM
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It’s not double the amount, it’s a difference in percentage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 06:23 PM
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..except that there aren’t any lolz
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 04:33 PM
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US is actually only third on the innovation index.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:56 PM
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They do - but you know… “yay freedoms and everyone can be a millionaire (just not yet)” 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:51 PM
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Danish citizens are also the happiest people in the world I believe. Or was it Finnish?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:48 PM
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Yeah they do; especially with bipolar they will prescribe both in most cases, because the anti-depressant can trigger mania. There’s some newer ones that are called “atypical antipsychotics” and there’s some research undergoing whether they can help with anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:29 PM
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It’s one of the two most common illnesses treated with antipsychotics. One of the links also speaks about women experiencing higher likelihood of Bipolar2; which is more likely treated with antidepressants than antipsychotics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:16 PM
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Same link: “While men and women have similar prevalence of Schizophrenia..” Tho seems like men are a little higher than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:13 PM
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Try this: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5688947/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1636807/ https://www.statista.com/statistics/981232/schizophrenia-us-share-of-population-by-gender/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21047158/ ..and no antipsychotics do not include other types of medication. It’s dangerous to mix as they do very different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:04 PM
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Well, then read some studies and do some googling. Men and women have similar prevalence of Bipolar and Schizophrenia - which are two main conditions for which antipsychotics would be prescribed. Don’t quote me on this one, cause I read it once, but men have higher likelihood of developing Bipolar 1 and women Bipolar 2. Bipolar 1 generally comes with severe aspects of mania often accompanied by psychosis. Now, we could argue that women are prescribed antipsychotics for other conditions as I’m su…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:50 PM
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Men and women have similar prevalence of conditions that require antipsychotics; with men showing earlier onsets, more severe negative symptoms, lower social functioning, and more treatments.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:18 PM
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Ohhh possibly! Finally things opened up again! Tho, I do know of a couple that got married during the pandemic; they wanted a small thing, just them, and it was perfect to not have to explain people why they’re not invited lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:43 PM
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It’s just what the statistics are showing. But yeah, I’ve been to 3 weddings in my lifetime lol ..so definitely different demographic. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:29 PM
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It’s around 50% the last time I checked. But even with 41% wouldn’t call that “only” lol. The rates are on the decline though, but I suspect that’s because fewer are getting married too, so those who do are likely religious or traditional (hence less likely to divorce). 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:17 PM
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Eh… people got hung up on the “degrading” and “what a joke” type of comments she made, about those who think differently. I understand her perspective and her need for social status, insurance, etc. However, when you sound snarky and try to sell your opinion as the truth, people are going to poke at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:13 PM
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Where I work, most people just say they’re having a “family emergency”, without going into the details. Most of my coworkers are coupled, but don’t think it’s clear who’s married and who isn’t. They’re treated the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:06 PM
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I’m just referring to what’s statistically likely to happen. If people aren’t organized enough to deal with those little things, I doubt they’re organized enough to get a prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 03:01 PM
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Statistically, getting a divorce is likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:51 PM
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..high-school is absolutely not real world, where do you live? Cancel culture isn’t brought on to the individual by others, but it’s stemming from its own behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:02 AM
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According to this sub, men don’t outearn women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:19 AM
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What is this?? Highschool?? Who “approves” and “shuns” these days…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:18 AM
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Wording is important given the whole premise is based on it. Sex isn’t something you’re given.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:03 PM
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I like this answer!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:01 PM
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But sex isn’t “given” to someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:57 PM
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Different folks will prioritize different things I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 04:38 AM
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My mom chose it. She gave up her job to take care of us and support my father who started his own business (so he needed to put in long hours). She loves children and wanted to see us grow up, but she says she didn’t really think about what would happen when children grow up… hence the regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:27 AM
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Correct answer!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:22 AM
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My mother was SAHM and she says it’s her biggest regret in life. I wonder how many women actually regret it..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:18 AM
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Sounds rough, but each their own I guess. 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:16 AM
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..so you don’t actually have kids and you’re “stay-at-home”? How does that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:09 AM
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That sounds like his problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 04:03 PM
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That’s not the part that I was commenting on, hence the “read again”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:45 PM
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Read again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:33 PM
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lol.. actually I’ve only worked there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:31 PM
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lmao .. “5-6 promotions in span of 3 years ALL THE TIME” - where do you work? This would generate complaints faster than the speed of light.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:30 AM
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Dude you have a very narrow definition that covers ~ 1 context.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 03:55 PM
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LOL ..This! 👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 03:51 PM
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Ok, it wasn’t that clear lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:06 AM
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Finally someone 👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:00 AM
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Isn’t value almost always subjective?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:58 AM
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You GET TO earn money! You should have picked a shittier example tbh. Amazon warehouse or something. I worked in (grocery, hardware) stores for years and yes I appreciated it; learnt valuable skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:43 PM
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Whatever you do, just don’t take away her strength because some guy shows up and she becomes weak. It’s the 101 of errors.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:38 AM
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I watched the series and gave up at some point. I thought she turned awful actually.. like all that power just to lose it to a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 05:35 AM
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This is also incorrect. Radical feminists are against sex work and pornography. Liberal feminists are emphasizing choice and argue for better working conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:41 AM
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Almost every woman *gets to work now. There.. fixed it for ya. You can be SAHM all you want; even now. However your inability to find a partner isn’t feminisms fault, but your own. Many women are SAHMs even today.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 11:27 PM
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Yeah, I saw that too. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:34 AM
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I didn’t ask you to apologize?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:33 AM
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Ahh ok. Thanks for the example. I can understand that; I don’t think he should be made fun of. If it’s something you grow up with it’s hard to re-wire.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:38 PM
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Well, perhaps I don’t spend enough time on here to notice a pattern, so I won’t claim I know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:11 PM
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She’s not bringing any arguments up to counter your opinion, other than personal attacks. She thinks “people like you” should be in jail, I think people like her shouldn’t have access to a public platform… yet here we are. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:10 PM
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The two aren’t mutually exclusive. You can have agency, while acknowledging that some behavioural patterns are hard to re-wire because of upbringing. It also doesn’t mean you avoid accountability. I grew up in an environment where sex was something that women weren’t meant to enjoy, and it was something that women “gave” to men they were involved with. My brother was taught no such thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 10:05 PM
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Don’t feed the troll lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:58 PM
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women absolutely shame others for that. have you actually never heard it? 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:59 AM
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Except that poor women dating rich guys are called gold-diggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 01:57 AM
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She’d gain skills though and consequently be more employable. It would be an investment in herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 03:06 AM
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Except that men are the ones bitching about stuff they have full control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:17 PM
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lol… wasn’t even hinting at rape. How about you keep your pants up? How’s banning abortion controlling where your sperm goes (it’s no longer just sperm)… You already have full control where you’ll ejaculate/what you’re doing with your sperm. Pick better women if you’re so concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 02:53 PM
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Keep your pants up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 06:16 AM
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If only ..if only.. there was an easier and less invasive solution. 🤔 ..but as usual, poor men have no authority. 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 06:03 AM
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As usual - men acting like they can’t control where their sperm goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:56 AM
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It’s actually “mens bailouts” but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:51 AM
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It’s a pretty small percentage of people that actually have BPD. It’s considered one of the most over-diagnosed disorders and some more recent data doesn’t show the gender gap. I’d be shocked if you ran across that many, but 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 01:00 AM
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Some people one here are really underestimating the amount of good options women in their 30s have lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:16 AM
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It’s not just 75% of women, but 75% of everyone. My experience is somewhat similar; I’ve had a few good debates, but it went downhill over the last few months. Really don’t appreciate angry DMs and insults. I think everyone on here could focus on debating the point and not the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 02:46 PM
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Eh, I truly don’t know tbh. I’d worry to reduce my sons emotional trauma and experience to “just money”. As it seems like it’s ultimately about money. I think the law needs to catch up tbh. A man shouldn’t have to pay child support for his rapists child. In addition, if the daughter decides to keep her rapist child, I don’t think the rapist should keep his parental rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:13 PM
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I was referring to this particular scenario (i.e. nobody was violently dragged into a van); assuming money isn’t an issue, who do you save? Is it still the daughter?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:51 AM
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But why would you save the daughter if money wasn’t an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:12 AM
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Well, following your assumption that I would choose to save my daughter; in that case I’d pay for child support for my grandchild and let my son live free of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:57 AM
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Is my sons rapist wanting to get pregnant a part of this scenario? As Plan B isn’t really abortion. I hope I’d raise my children to be amazing people, yes. However, we are all individuals and we are able to handle different traumas differently. My brother and I have different strengths and weaknesses, so our parents treated us accordingly. This scenario is not as much of a gender thing as you are trying to make it seem (at least from a parent perspective).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:44 AM
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Honestly, I (as the mother in this situation) would have saved whoever I’d feel is less equipped to deal with the situation. It sucks either way so there’s no right/wrong, but I would feel like I have to protect the child that needs it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:09 AM
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This is why I’d only consider a threesome as a single woman. My ex really wanted one and we kept discussing and planning, but he always backed out last minute, then tried to push the “blame” on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:12 AM
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What does it have to do with what I said? It doesn’t really matter where we meet. If we go out and there’s sexual chemistry and we sleep together; I don’t really think “oh he doesn’t desire me”. Tho, to be fair, I never had casual sex with someone I met online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:03 AM
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So why should it matter who I pick? They will always be willing to sleep with anyone. Doesn’t really change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 03:55 AM
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If we are talking about casual sex and someone wants to fuck me, I feel very sexually desired. It’d literally never occur to me that someone would be out of my league or I’d be “beneath” them. Why would you ever think about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 03:15 AM
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I wouldn’t date men that don’t meet what I want long term, but I’d fuck them casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:15 PM
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Man ..they’re good at creating fictional problems for themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:55 AM
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I don’t tell that to anyone; it just something that never came up with any of my partners. I still don’t get how am I damaged tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 01:58 PM
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Eh? How am I damaged? 😳 I don’t care about who my partner slept with in the past. It’s just not something that ever enters my mind. All I’m concerned with is how he’s acting towards me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:22 PM
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I don’t care at all. Never asked, never been asked; so prob won’t ever find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:16 PM
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lmao ..yes! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 05:23 AM
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Maybe you know how to pick them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 05:21 AM
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You’re both wrong and rude about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:51 PM
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You’re rude and have nothing to contribute, so your opinion doesn’t matter to me. Luckily, I’m not in third world country like America.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:33 PM
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I never said only men should be helping. I think anyone who’s in a situation where someone needs help should do what’s in their power to help the person. The includes calling 911, and pressing the emergency button, if that’s all you can do. In fact, where I’m from, not helping and standing by, can (and has) resulted in prosecution. Not sure what “save-a-ho” is..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:03 PM
1

I watched a video do that police officer who said that on camera. I’d assume other people watched the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:59 PM
1

Well, didn’t they show up when an employee noticed something wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:12 PM
1

I don’t know West Philly, so can’t speak to that. Tho it seems like nobody even called 911 or pressed the emergency button. Which is pretty fcked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:45 PM
1

This shouldn’t be men specific. Anyone should help really, including women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:47 AM
1

I think that’s the point that’s maybe missing? I have no clue how things are there. That situation applied to where I’m living, I feel like a group of people could overpower the criminal. Going 1:1 with someone is almost always a bad idea (speaking from experience), however a group vs 1 could have helped the poor woman. I’ve stood up for others many times and tried to help in different situations, including potentially dangerous ones (which in retrospective might have been dumb) and literally no…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:45 AM
1

What would you think of it if it was the inverse? - If someone always spoke about all the things they do for their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:57 PM
1

Re-read the comments, it’s all there!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:15 AM
9

Why do you need stay-at-home-anyone? My colleagues all split parental leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:13 AM
8

They’re worried about women giving “their best” to Chad …can you imagine the anxiety coming from “omfg they have their best to Chad and Stacy” 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 05:58 AM
1

He’s wondering why people find him intimidating - it’s probably because of how he’s expressing himself. As that’s usually the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:40 AM
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Respect can’t be demanded, it’s earned. People who don’t understand “nice”, won’t understand authoritarian either. You have to figure out what they care for, and then use it to get to the end result. Sometimes that means letting them believe it was all their idea. Tho if your position is to make decisions, then it’s ultimately your call and not sure why you’d need to convince anyone to agree. Now obviously, there’s differences based on what industry your in. Tho, there’s absolutely no need to us…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:57 PM
2

That has a way softer undertone (while communicating the same thing)!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:44 PM
1

There’s many ways to expresses importance; referring to yourself as “top dog” comes across asshole-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:41 PM
1

yeah ..and?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:30 PM
5

referring to yourself as “top dog” is prob part of the reason at least lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:26 PM
2

There’s a fine line between assertive and aggressive. So maybe you’re coming across aggressive? I don’t know. That’s generally my observation with work folks. My boss is naturally very assertive; it’s just his personality, but he’s never aggressive and he’s a very well respect leader (nobody is finding him intimidating). Then there’s a woman and a guy who want to be like him, but are failing and turning aggressive. They will talk at you and listen only to hear you stop talking so they can reinfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:22 PM
3

At work - people who aren’t naturally assertive, but want to be and in the process they are actually turning aggressive. They generally have difficulties controlling their emotions. They’re intimidating, because you don’t know how they’ll react and the unknown/unpredictability is scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:13 PM
6

Plenty of people have sex after 20 and don’t obsess over it. It’s your choice to be stuck in highschool. What you’re describing simply isn’t real life though. It’s something you see in porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 03:00 PM
6

Ok, it’s starting to be time to move on from highschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:55 PM
6

The kind of highschool you’re describing only exists in porn. 😩 What is with this highschool obsession? Are you very young?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:50 PM
3

Porn isn’t real life. 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:47 PM
4

Hey, at least you’re fair/consistent and you put it on both parties!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 03:15 AM
11

never said hot and young; but too hot / too young you FOR YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:57 AM
9

LOL 🤦🏻‍♀️ ..well I have to give you points for that comeback.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:56 AM
20

The same way as women are meant to know that the guy will turn up abusive. 🤷🏻‍♀️ If she’s too hot / too young for you she’ll prob take all your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:48 AM
13

Maybe pick better women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:42 AM
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Because no men ever just leave right? Sigh. ..and then it’s women’s fault for picking wrong men, while it’s never mens fault that they pick gold-diggers lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 02:42 AM
1

Mental illness isn’t a personality disorder necessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 07:48 PM
1

Doesn’t everyone have sexual thoughts? What woman hasn’t fantasies about someone at some point (at least)…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 12:36 AM
1

😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:00 PM
1

That’s in general; there’s no evidence that says otherwise in the example we are discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:57 PM
1

Well, we also have no evidence that would suggest otherwise. So it’s a cat in a box, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 08:04 PM
1

Those men prob get divorced less.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:04 PM
2

I was just speaking about this in another thread. For me it depends. With some men I feel like immediately and with some it grows over time. Whether it’s instant or delayed, doesn’t impact the intensity though. But, in the second situation I should call out that we typically meet in a non-sexual/dating context.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:54 PM
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I’m happy to talk about it lol - I find it interesting! It has happened to me that I’d know someone for a while (not necessarily in dating context) and the attraction just kept growing. Because to me, sexual attraction isn’t purely visual/physical, but more complex. For example, I had a coworker who I didn’t find attractive and then one day in a meeting he was arguing a point that was very interesting, and I catch myself noticing his body. 😅 ..and then suddenly in my eyes he was super attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 03:17 PM
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You make some good points. I think we also have a disconnect between what each sex considers attraction (for example, sexual attraction isn’t always instant for me - it develops over time, but that doesn’t impact the intensity of it).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:51 PM
10

Underrated comment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:14 AM
2

Chad duh!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 02:38 AM
1

why are we always assuming normal distribution..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:40 PM
2

“fulfil the implication” …smh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:34 PM
2

Completely agree! Everyone wants everything, but not many actually do the work! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 09:34 PM
1

Ohhh ok! I haven’t come across either before. Thanks for explaining!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 09:09 PM
2

Yeah, I agree with that! I think too many people date without goals and focus. Generally, they also tend to lack self-awareness. People who don’t complain? They are generally very action oriented. My foster mom was an example of that. I think she was the happiest person I’ve ever known (she went for what she wanted and made her own happiness).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:35 PM
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Yeah, it’s difficult to make a connection between devotion to a purpose inspite of it making you miserable. Though, I understand people are different and value different things. Could be due to lack of exposure to it? Most people around me and who I meet, tend to bitch and complain about their lives, yet will do little or nothing to improve. So to me that’s a disconnect I can’t relate to. Maybe I am wired wrong. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:54 PM
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The reasons you gave was that women do more of the housework and chores, emotional labour, etc. Which is often stated as why men should pay more. To me that is a bad deal and would prefer 50/50 as opposed to 70/30 or whatever other split. Now, if you want to debate society and how women are treated/opportunities given, then there are valid points, but it goes down to circumstances as you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:32 PM
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…so if you take childbirth out of the picture, there’s no reason to be against 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:11 PM
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Why would you consider someone who doesn’t clean and want to do household chores? Even if he pays 70% of the things - why do you wanna clean most of the things? Your time is worth more than a $100 dinner every once in a while…. 🤦🏻‍♀️ The whole argument for not going 50/50 (outside of kids obviously), is so dumb - stop mothering them. Also, emotional labour is not emotional support; if you’re required to provide emotional labour fire the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:02 PM
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LOL ..crystal healing 😂😂 ..I had to suffer through that when my friend brought her friend on a trip. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I think it’s similar with people who never had to work hard, sweat for anything, and things just came easy. I could see that at Uni and early in my career. First little obstacle and completely falling apart, not knowing what to do. They never learnt how to navigate and deal with real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:20 PM
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No, I don’t have faith nor anything above that. I don’t value marriage so putting it before me wouldn’t make sense. I do put my partner before me tho in certain circumstances. I’m also very self aware, so I don’t go into relationships that I already know aren’t going to last. What would be the point in that? I understand what you’re getting at, but to me the world you’re describing is fantasyland - maybe, cause I haven’t seen it or experienced it. I actually apply the same logic to jobs or anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:15 PM
2

Sure? I don’t know what men experiences are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:19 AM
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What are you on about? What is NAMALT? I’ve never seen anyone here referring to men as what you listed (nor in real life), yet anytime I open Reddit there’s posts referring to women as “females”… That said, I don’t spend a ton of time on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:01 AM
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Sure! Maybe I phrased it poorly - I don’t think at any given point in time you can be certain that the person is “forever”, until you’re obviously “at the end” and made it. Hence why LTR makes more sense to me and it’s what I’m after. I don’t go into relationships thinking it won’t workout (I just don’t know). The reality is - most relationships end though. People change. The question is then, what do you want more - do you want to make it work and stay in something that doesn’t necessarily make…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:46 AM
4

Sorry, what does that have to do with what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:54 PM
1

That’s cool. It’s very rare tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:56 PM
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That’s nice! For me it tends to be the opposite. Luckily I have a nice group of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:56 PM
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That’s literally what you’re describing tho? Women won’t entertain men without personalities, so it’s time for men to do the same. If nobody dated said women, they’d need to step up their game.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:37 PM
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Yeah? I’m not saying it’s not a word. I’m saying it started being used incorrectly to make a point that “females” are less human. There’s a word for a female human - it’s a woman. Males is never used the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:34 PM
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Yeah but you need to add another word like person or something. Otherwise is female what… The issue is female is being used to make it more “degrading”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:31 PM
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I think this is true - most women I come across have shitty personalities. I don’t think it’s because it’s assumed they’re great people tho; I think it’s because men put up with it and nobody ever tells them “work on your personality”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:22 PM
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I really like relationships actually, and I veeeeery rarely engage in anything other than that. But I don’t think any person can say with certainty that this person is “forever”; that’s just foolish to me and unauthentic. To me FWB never crosses certain intimacy lines or for example, even cohabitation, going on holidays together, introducing them into your social circle as partner, and all the other stuff you’d do with a partner. I treated my previous FWB, like I treat friends (with the addition…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:02 PM
2

I meant in terms of what female vs woman means, you are correct, but woman is a noun while female is an adjective. 😅 so using them interchangeably is grammatically incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:57 PM
1

That’s grammatically incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:31 PM
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lol ..if they are that then yes; why should anyone call them anything else? It’s not even in the same realm of what the issue with “females” is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:30 PM
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Like we need more arguments not to make more humans. 😂 Sounds awful!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:10 PM
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The issue is that men don’t use “males” for other men. The word “female” is used incorrectly. They’ll often say “men” and “females” in the same sentence as a noun. I’m not even English native speaker and my ears bleed hearing that. The main problem is that when men say that, it’s more often than not used as a way to make a point that women < men (at least that’s where it originated, but I think these days possibly many don’t realize it and just have terrible grammar).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:47 PM
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We don’t really say “males” do we?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:38 PM
1

Ah, I don’t think it’s a waste of time. To me thinking “one person forever” is foolish. But LTR and FWB have different meanings to me and the women I know. I’ve been in a few great FWB situations; but wouldn’t consider them my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:10 PM
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I thought polls can’t be trusted (according to PPD). 😝 But I wasn’t even referring to marriage when I made the original comment. “Husband material” can also be LTR. Anyways, generally, don’t disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:19 PM
1

Meh. Not in my world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:13 PM
1

I donno. Most men replying to me are saying these dudes never settle down. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Which one is it? Oh yeah, I’m not disagreeing with your part; I just wouldn’t generalize it to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:12 PM
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It’s relevant cause you brought it up? Anyways, don’t disagree with what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:05 PM
1

Well, I know tons of the opposite so.. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:21 PM
1

But you can keep having sex without locking him down? Locking him down would mean he’s now got access to all your resources. Don’t really know women who’d say that, as we all tend to enjoy sex a lot, but sure some women do. They’re prob not the same women as those we’re talking about now tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:05 PM
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I don’t know what flex is? Whether or not he has offers is irrelevant. It doesn’t make him anymore relationship material. A woman locking him down this guy would be losing. And sure, it’s fine if all he wants is just sex..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:02 PM
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The women I know who are between 50-75 and childless by choice are pretty happy. There’s some that tried to have kids and it didn’t work; they’re pretty miserable. I think when it comes to kids; it’s the only time I’d say regretting to not do something it’s better than regretting to do it. I see myself partnered and don’t expect my life to change all that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:57 PM
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A guy that has nothing else other than sex is not worth “locking down”. Sex is still valued, it’s just not the only thing of value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:52 PM
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They’re not suddenly changing targets or giving up tho. They’re looking for another thing. Why should a woman consistently chase marriage only, when men don’t do that either…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:50 PM
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Eh, that’s not what I’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:46 PM
1

That’s irrelevant to the woman in question though. If some women just want sex from him, doesn’t mean some other women don’t want him for a relationship. The opposite is also true for women (some poor dude will want to wife the woman some other dudes just fuck).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:43 PM
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Sure, some women do. Not all though. If the woman has more to offer than the guy in question, then she’s just using him for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:33 AM
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Plenty of hot guys who have nothing else to offer other than they’re hot; they’re good for sex but not relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:49 AM
1

Pick women who don’t need you to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:47 AM
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lol ..that’s accurate - the men who tend to get all the women, don’t handle rejection well AT ALL! Or if you ever hook-up and reject him after it’s even worse. They always come crawling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:38 AM
1

Ok, so to start with; I was never involved with anyone selling drugs or doing anything illegal. A “bad boy” to me is someone that doesn’t respect the status quo, doesn’t care what other people think, and appears to be impulsive, living on the edge, and you never know what’s going to come up next. It’s basically your parents nightmare. I used to go for guys like that, because growing up I was always told what to do and how girls are meant to be. I wasn’t allowed to deviate much from what my paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:25 AM
1

You’re calling Stockholm Syndrome an “evasive tactic”… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 06:37 PM
4

There’s so many people in your thread who have explained to you how abuse works and provided links to research addressing the topic. You haven’t made a single worthy counter-argument other than spewing “women chase bad men and reward them for bad behaviour” which is not only false, but under-researched and irrelevant to the point you’re trying to make. What is it that you want to hear? What opinion would spike your curiosity enough to shift your focus?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 06:36 PM
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You can’t be for real? 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 05:50 PM
2

lol no - it’s not that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 05:49 PM
1

Abuse can be addictive; there’s a chemical/hormonal reaction to it. Not sure what shyness/introversion has to do with it? Generally they aren’t as appealing traits as being outgoing and extroverted. Either can be abusive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 05:48 PM
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I assumed you asked the other person. But let me answer; the intent is what makes a difference in your scenario. - if he shares that information in an attempt to communicate his emotional state and to seek professional help then it’s not abusive to share it - if he uses it in a pathetic attempt to keep the woman then it’s abusive and manipulative
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:25 PM
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My aunts boyfriend threatened he’d kill himself if she left, then he threatened he’d kill himself if she didn’t abort his child, then he threatened to kill himself if she didn’t come back to him …went on for years. It’s extremely manipulative and abusive. Go get the help!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 11:14 PM
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The day I agree with you …. What a day! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:00 PM
1

Because even people who believe they will go to some sort of heaven don’t want to die. It’s human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:50 PM
1

The opposite also hasn’t been proven - we are all talking from experiences and/or perception. I’m speaking about what men around me (and some online) have said and how they live.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 01:58 AM
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That they’d date one at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 12:07 AM
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Nope never. They have observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:55 PM
0

OLD gives you access to a wide/variety pool? It’s not coming from women’s mouth tho - successful men claim that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:55 PM
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In a reverse scenario; never seen a dude trying to de-escalate a situation. Plenty of men just walk by seeing someone struggle or being abused and do nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:44 PM
5

neither are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 11:37 PM
0

Yepp, you can be at Starbucks with a masters and yes, sure there are men who value other things. My point was simply that the vast majority of wealthy men don’t overwhelmingly date women who are broke/uneducated; while acknowledging that the reverse is also true (even more often).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:54 PM
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I couldn’t respect anyone that doesn’t help when they see someone (and animals) in danger. That includes women helping other women. Now if we are talking 20 vs 1: call the cops and hide, but don’t leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:44 PM
3

This has never been a problem for anyone I dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 08:19 PM
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lol that’s not dating.. I have yet to meet a single wealthy man who didn’t give a fuck about his partner being broke and uneducated. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 06:57 PM
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Where are they tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 01:42 PM
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That’s not what I meant. Many if not most women in high income brackets won’t date someone who makes significantly less and support them (myself included). Now, there’s also not that many 1% men dating Starbucks baristas. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:47 AM
1

I definitely felt like that before.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:17 AM
-2

LMAO 😂🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 03:46 AM
2

Saw that too …didn’t know which one address first 🤯🤯🤯🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 03:45 AM
7

Decent advice found on Reddit …🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 03:37 AM
4

But he is not supporting her lifestyle/career? The only thing that’s true is that high earning women prob won’t date someone who’s not at least the same income.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 03:35 AM
1

You’re saying you wouldn’t ever tell a girl you’re insecure about the loose skin — wouldn’t she know that anyways? It’s an obvious thing people often get insecure about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 01:17 AM
1

Wouldn’t that be an obvious insecurity that doesn’t need to be discussed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 12:34 AM
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Dude, men are the ones saying that not women. Not sure where you got that? Literally in every other thread there’s someone explaining they want a virgin with whore skills.. It’s a fantasy for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:59 PM
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Lol ..it’s cause dudes here speak as if they want a virgin who will fuck them within 30min of meeting (because otherwise it’s not real attraction) and simultaneously teach them mind-blowing sex… It’s because women who enjoy sex are viewed as impure.. “whore skills” aren’t wifey material.. tho they all seem to worship it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 11:34 PM
0

Dating with a purpose is one thing. That’s true! Everything else is garbage tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 10:16 PM
2

A lot of what you say you typically also learn on the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 08:05 AM
1

Possibly. I also never got it tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:41 PM
3

How is that “wasting” tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:39 PM
5

Nope - some are 75.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:31 PM
3

Isn’t that due to its correlation to income and status? Do you have any study at hand?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:06 PM
8

The women I know, that are childless by choice, wouldn’t sacrifice anything to have a child. Of course childless women who desire children will be different though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:03 PM
1

I wouldn’t find out about n-count either way. All I’d know is that neither have been in a LTR and maybe the 2nd dude would share they have no experience? Overall; if looks are the same then personality would be the tie breaker and I’d assume the first one is more extroverted so I’d prob end up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 03:10 PM
2

You’re making zero sense dude!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 03:38 PM
5

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:30 PM
2

Solid advice!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:29 PM
5

It sounds like you got rejected for smelling badly and you’re projecting left and right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:29 PM
2

Your bad hygiene is not your girlfriends problem to solve. A woman is not there to teach you basic hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:26 PM
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Not care about what? I just meant specifically about cheating - if someone who’s approaching 30 or over 30 told me “it just happened” or something similar I’d call bullshit on that. They might not have gone out only to cheat, but they left that door wide open. Now for someone that’s < 25 I could see how “it just happens”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 03:15 PM
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It’s not?? I asked about age because I’m trying to understand where you’re coming from and to have more insight into your POV. People in different stages in life have different views. I used to think similarly, but experience taught me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 02:40 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:22 PM
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Do you honestly think that cheating “just happens”?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 12:26 PM
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Height: don’t care Body type: athletic but not too muscular Salary range: within my own income bracket Age: -5 and +10 Dominant or submissive: neither? Religious or atheist: atheist or agnostic Conservative or modern: modern, liberal Freaky or prude: not prude… but what is freaky exactly? Additional superficial things: - needs to be good at some sport - nice teeth - nice nails and hands - dresses well - beard is nice Less superficial? - graduate degree - likes dogs - no smoking, no drugs - doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:11 PM
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THIS right here!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:03 PM
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but but ..women have to be low N-count, and also incredible in bed, and also fuck them right away… 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 03:39 AM
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I don’t know the percentage, but personally I never want to have kids and I never want to get married (engaged sure). I don’t hate kids, I just can’t relate to wanting them/wanting to be a parent and I’ve always felt this way. I’ve had some very good LTRs and we’ve always been very similar in that regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 02:12 AM
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Must be some sort of a record going without food and water for as long as without having sex….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:39 PM
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I’ve seen both tbh. I’ve seen places where women and men are treated the same, and I’ve seen places with huge “bro culture” (similar to Blizzard, Google, and certain other gaming studios making headlines). I think an extent of the issue is also different personalities and not necessarily just gender. Where there’s toxic culture, people who are more introverted and not necessarily the loudest; don’t get taken seriously (men and women) and it has nothing to do with their competence to do the job. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:20 AM
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This happens 100%! I’m in senior leadership (at a fairly young age), in a heavily male dominated industry and I observe it on a daily basis. I’m naturally very assertive, blunt, and I like to get things done, so I don’t really care much what they think about me; but I see how some other women are struggling and it can be very crushing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:59 AM
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Hahah, fair enough! Never would have guessed!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:32 AM
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This seems like a sensible approach - “take what is useful, reject what is useless, and make something your own”. I remember some of your comments in my other threads, you make solid points and I shouldn’t have said “all” in my comment (I wouldn’t count you and similar in that group).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:19 PM
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I’d say blue pill; as everything RP sounds awful and I’ve never dated anyone displaying those characteristics (some ideas aren’t terrible to be fair, but I have a sense they all low-key hate women to an extent).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:58 PM
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You sound wonderful! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:53 PM
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No, this sub is weird. My first few impressions were that I’m living in a different reality and doing life all wrong LOL. Good debates tho.. sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 02:58 AM
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High demand would be a better term as high value IMO. Value is subjective with anything; some things can be in high demand and but are trash actually. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 02:57 AM
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The guy I landed in my 30s is way waaay better than all the guys that were around me at 25. Dating was shittier when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:35 AM
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THIS!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I don’t understand how this is not clear to everyone. Man, I’m happy I don’t have to deal with the US and its education system.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 05:31 PM
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THIS!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 That’s how I view it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:55 PM
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I’d be good if people highlighted where they are from. This reads as very Western-centric. Not growing up in that world, women face quite a bit of an uphill battle to just be recognized, while male counterparts were generally paved a way to success.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 10:25 PM
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LOLOLOL …god I miss going outside! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 10:16 PM
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Eh. I don’t subscribe to that. I only meet people IRL these days.. but I’m quite chatty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 05:23 AM
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I’m saying what OP suggested is not a bad idea. It’s a win-win for both men and women. I’m not sure what problem you’re referring to, sorry?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:58 AM
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What is?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:56 AM
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There wasn’t even an issue until he stopped fucking his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 01:37 AM
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Where did I say it’s ok to play games? To me it seems like a good idea if the guy just drops you if he wants sex immediately (as opposed to pretending to want something else).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 11:15 PM
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Not a terrible idea. It would help women avoid men who are only concerned with how quickly you’re fucking them. Win-win.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 10:57 PM
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THIS! 🙌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:09 PM
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Oh the never-ending dilemma of honesty vs lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:03 PM
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101 why people ghost lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 07:00 PM
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I’m confused what is the suboptimal dating choice that women want men to make? Not to lie that they want a relationship and be upfront instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:50 PM
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It’s also not legal everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 04:38 PM
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I doubt my answer will prevent them from answering.. Tho they can’t grasp statistical concepts so maybe they shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 04:24 AM
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No, it does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:53 AM
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I think a lot of them underestimate how many choices women in their 30s actually have. As a highly educated woman in a competitive field, most men I come across go for the same type of women and not some 20 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:07 AM
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Pretty much 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:31 PM
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In my experience in my age group about 20% do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:26 PM
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Sinful? That means nothing to me as I’m not religious. Also dude, when did I say anything about my past? I was fully onboard with your preference until you called slut, which I find rich coming from someone that doesn’t hold themselves to the same standard (as I suspected). But oh well ..you do you. Was just curious what a high-n count is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:39 PM
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LOL ..that’s a bit rich. I hope your count isn’t too far off that!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 03:29 PM
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System? It’s more just a personal rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:54 PM
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So …5 men for a 20 year old is the same as 5 men for a 30 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:45 PM
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By what age?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:32 PM
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Currently watching it; haven’t finished yet. The push and pull of emotionally unavailable men (Brad) is addictive like a BP swing. This isn’t gender specific (lots of men chase women who display that behaviour); and I think what pulls people in is equating that “high” and “low” with love and familiarity, because that’s what they’re used to. I had a roommate in college that was dating this guy who was borderline abusive and when she started dating someone new that was available and secure she mis…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:22 AM
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when I was catcalled as a teen when 30+/40+/50+ dudes would hit on me at work the second I turned 18 and wouldn’t leave me alone even after telling them off multiple times 🤮🤮🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:40 AM
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What is a high n count?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:32 AM
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LOLOLOL x2
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:22 AM
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Feeling safe and cared for to me means that someone feels like home; I can be myself around them, I don’t have to walk on eggshells or tiptoe around different topics and worry they’ll run or ridicule me. It doesn’t mean like “physically safe” - I don’t need that, I can take care of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 04:42 PM
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I’m not sure if this is women’s specific, but I find a lot of people follow what “they’re supposed to do”. They grow up being told what’s the right way to live life, what they’re meant to do, and how they’re meant to behave (by age X you’re meant to have this, you’re meant to do that, etc.). Especially in North America where materialism and status are worshiped. People care what your neighbours think. So they go through life following some plan and pretty much mistake-free in eyes of their socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 04:36 PM
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You said nothing about that in your original thread! 😅 It all reads like this is some revenge plot because women your own age didn’t want you back in the days.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 03:27 AM
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Knowing them and actively being friends with them are two different things. You should cut toxic people out instead of trying to get revenge. I mean date younger all you want ultimately, but your reasoning is kinda fcked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:39 AM
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Why would you want to be friends with someone that’s “putting them against you”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 02:30 AM
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This! OP, you don’t have to date those same women who rejected you before you know? Your post reads a bit like every single 25+ woman has rejected you..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 01:03 AM
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I’d think women who are afraid of harassment/stalking is because they’ve had it happen before or they know someone it happened to. I blocked a guy on Tinder, then he found me on FB (I don’t even use my real name) and then figured out approx where I lived. All of my social media is locked and under a fake name now. My coworker also blocked someone and then he started sending her photos of her at various locations (e.g. entering a grocery store, etc.), on FB. I think social media feels safer as yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:53 PM
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Of course you have agency in your choices - hence I was not referring to the first scenario. My whole point is that you’re don’t have previous knowledge about the person lying. Sure if the person keeps lying to you and your keep making the same choice it’s your own fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:12 AM
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You can’t ever be 100% sure that someone is lying without apriori knowledge tho. It can be an assumption but there’s simply no way to know for sure. So, yeah, you could think this is the most likely what’s happening; but that is still secondary to the liar. There’s simply no scenario where the liar is less guilty than the person being lied to. The act of lying is always worse than not assuming someone is lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:06 AM
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Assuming that is true; the liar is still the shitty person and to blame (they’re in the wrong here), everything else is secondary.. sure maybe they could have assumed, but that’s irrelevant as the primary focus of where the blame is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 04:44 AM
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Meh, you’re right. If you don’t have the sexual chemistry early on then you prob won’t ever have it. I need some sort of a connection and trust established to have sex with someone new and that typically takes different amount of time with different people, but we’re not talking months here. I feel like if you’re not there after a couple of dates you’re prob not the right fit / it won’t ever happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 04:35 AM
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Meh, neither has any style and that would fix a ton of things probably. T-shirt/sweatshirts/etc have to go. Style your hair, some make-up for her. She has a nice smile, nice teeth, but hair/haircut is awful. He never actually smiles so hard to tell. They’re about the same in looks of you ask me, he’s got a bit more potential right off the bat to make small improvements whereas she could prob lose some weight (which takes time) along with the small improvements. Edit: just noticed this is your pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:53 PM
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Actually the best dating advice is probably from people who are actually successfully dating (regardless of the gender).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 08:43 PM
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Alpha and beta coefficients 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 06:09 AM
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There are tho..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:46 AM
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I sometimes wonder if people are just oblivious to how attraction works. I keep seeing too many posts that read like a freaking math equation (X looks —> Y% increase in sexual attraction).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:45 AM
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Where? US?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:03 AM
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I think the reason women do it is because you get what you pay for. Paying a guy (probably) results in him being super focused on your pleasure, whereas casual sex you can get is more often bad than good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 03:38 AM
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Yupp! All my LTRs have been amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:09 AM
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I guess we are just on the polar opposites so offering an explanation on your original question won’t be fruitful and I guess that is an explanation in itself. But I suppose we’re the same in a way ..I can get top-tier men I want without making a huge trade-off, so why should I you know..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:45 AM
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LOL ..this is comical. I don’t consider described men top tier - so I guess that’s a non-issue anyways. Tho interesting; if you would be able to get a virgin, then you wouldn’t sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:57 AM
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😂😂 it’s a veeeery slippery slope between doormat and fiction based on his comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:10 AM
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Don’t most women also prefer that the man only wants them? I hardly doubt any woman thinks “I only fuck him, but he fucks 20 other women” as “yay we both get what we want”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:02 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 ..because you’re just a normal guy, who talks to people. My brother is similar - he’s not tall, he started balding when he was 24, and never had issues dating and meeting women. My coworker is also 5’5 and so dreamy; it’s all about the style and how he’s carrying himself and the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:37 AM
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For example; HIMYM, Friends..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:03 AM
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130K in tech isn’t THAT much $$$… once you move past the higher income mark is when men do start to care in my experience. Guys making way more than that generally want a woman who is roughly at the same level. You should focus on whatever makes you happy tbh. There’s no reason you can’t do both. Work on your career and also work on your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:00 AM
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To me that kinda sounds like we’re doing the same thing? I’ve heard that IRL, online from other women, pop-culture (show/movies referencing it, magazines, etc.) hence why I was curious about any data (if there’s any). In my experience; I’ve always had partners that were kinda equal participants (from initiating dates to intimacy), so I don’t really have a strong opinion either way. I just thought it was funny you mention women never going on top vs women complaining about always having to be on …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:37 AM
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Lol ..yeah this is also my experience!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:22 AM
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But do you know most of men? Or where is this coming from? Women complain about dudes just lying there and expecting them to do all the work all the time; online and IRL (as the flipside of men mimicking what they seen in porn way too much).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:12 AM
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Isn’t it kinda the same as what you’re doing? Or did I miss any data?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:05 AM
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Maybe I missed this but where’s the data on “effort during sex”? Pretty much any female friend I have complains/complained about at least one dude that just lies there and expects the woman to do all the work..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 03:55 AM
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I think this is very true! I’ve been with guys that regardless what they did it just never clicked ..I generally communicate what works and what doesn’t; but with some guys it just never clicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:47 PM
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Aren’t most people looksmatched because most people are just average looking to most people? I think there’s a certain aspect of beauty that is generally considered standard (like symmetric face, etc.); but I think attraction and beauty aren’t necessarily the same thing. Most people are average looking, so then you get differences in what different people find more/less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 12:38 AM
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It’s completely irrelevant. I was agreeing with the poster and speaking about MY OWN experience. I’m allowed to do so. You commented saying I didn’t want ugly short men before; so I clarified that I still go for the same type of physical attributes in men (what combination of physical attributes I find attractive in men hasn’t changed at all). The fact that people treat traditionally attractive people better and that some women won’t date short men has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:33 AM
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It’s literally in my original comment that you commented on with some irrelevant BS. Have a good night!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:17 AM
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Get what wrong? What are you even talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:12 AM
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Yeah, and there’s hot water… How does that have to do with anything I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:08 AM
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This whole thread is about what men get wrong.. what the post I commented on says is precisely one of the things. “height matters to most women” is completely irrelevant to what’s being discussed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 05:05 PM
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You were specifically referring to me and my experience; I answered - for me it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 02:24 PM
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That’s a good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:56 AM
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Sexual attraction is super important; but sexual attraction isn’t purely about looks for me. Interacting with someone, seeing how they carry themselves, how the speak, is what sparks the arousal/sexual attraction for me. Obviously there are certain features that I’m never going to be attracted to (like being very overweight, poor hygiene, dirty clothes, etc.) but beyond that I don’t have many physical attributes that would be a “must”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 03:16 AM
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This was so upsetting to read. I was born in a similar place (luckily didn’t stay there too long and was fortunate that my parents moved), but I remember stories of parents telling their daughters to wear unfitting clothes and appear as ugly as possible so nobody would notice them and approach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 11:52 PM
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It has nothing to do with their looks tho?? What I find physically attractive hasn’t changed (other than now I don’t find 20-something (way younger) looking guys appealing). Also, the first guy I went out with at Uni. was 5’3 (and I’m taller)!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 11:23 PM
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😂😂 ..seems like it!!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 06:15 AM
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I had a guy try that on me.. he was appearing interested in me and kept pursuing me hard, until I finally showed the slightest interest back, then he immediately started to act super busy and uninterested. Honestly, that made me lose all interest I had… that was 3 years ago and he’s still texting me. 🤷🏻‍♀️ (and we never had sex or even went on a date)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:37 AM
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I think when people say that “you’re not entitled to sex” they’re mostly referring to the vocal group that thinks government mandated gfs should be a thing. Unfortunately, the extremist are common within the group that complains openly. The answer is not really meant for the someone is just venting to their friends etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:38 AM
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Also - their definition of HVM is different than what most well adjusted women would choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 08:52 PM
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He’s ~5’6, impeccable style, very handsome! So I guess? 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:38 PM
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Fun fact - the shortest dude on my team is the most attractive actually. But I realize that’s not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:14 PM
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THIS SO MUCH!!! What I found attractive and the traits that I wanted at 18 vs 25 vs 30 is all so different! I’ve had a few great long term relationships that ended because we grew into different people and it no longer worked. My interests, views on world, and goals have all changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:57 PM
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There’s literally soooo many at my office lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:48 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:02 PM
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Here we go: 1) I’m ~5’5 and height isn’t very high on the list of things that make a man attractive to me. I prefer men that are my height or taller, but it’s not a showstopper. 2) I guess 5’0 if I had to pick? 3) Ideally 5’6-6’0 4) 5’3 5) 6’4 6) 6’2 and 5’8; there are two that stuck in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:05 AM
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Yup, same! I need a level of connection before sleeping with someone. Doesn’t mean I’m chasing marriage or even thinking about marrying that guy..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:10 PM
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I’m in the 1% and there’s no way I’m ever signing anything. If I was religious then maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:49 AM
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Neither of those two options sound too appealing tbh, as neither has the features I’m looking for so I’d prob have to go with a secret option c).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:11 PM
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By what definition though? Single just means “not partnered”, regardless of the reason? At least that was my interpretation so I asked the question, but thanks for clarifying, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:28 PM
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What if the dad/husband passed away? Is that also “her mistake”?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:40 AM
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Yes, I worry about it. I don’t ever meet at someone’s house for the first 3-5 dates (until level of trust is established) and I always take care of my own transportation to and from the date. I’ve been assaulted as a teenager and I had a tinder guy stalk me after I rejected him. My friend also went on a tinder date and after she wouldn’t have sex with him in his car and wouldn’t give him a bj; he left her stranded in the middle of nowhere. So: public places + my own transportation = MUST HAVES!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:37 AM
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Stable job, good income is far from “wealthy men”. 🙄 Yeah, I won’t date someone that makes significantly less money than me or that’s broke. But I also wouldn’t date someone that makes significantly more. Also, I’m not in the US, so most of it doesn’t apply. Including the marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:24 PM
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I’m pretty sure they get called out constantly? Even called names? You’re allowed to have your preference certainly. But what I’m saying is if you wanna make a fair comparison that is a fair comparison (body count vs body count). Now, if you want to be with a woman that had very few sexual partners that’s fine. It goes both ways though. Plus, I don’t think anyone should lie. So I don’t agree with the advice given. If the roles were reversed (and the guy had lied about his number) my opinion woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:14 PM
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LOL ..that’s actually funny! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:04 PM
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False; they are valid if you’re comparing the same thing across both parties. Otherwise its just hypocrisy. Don’t like your partner sleeping with 20 people but yourself have 100 past partners - doesn’t really matter what gender you pick, it’s BS. “My partner slept with 20 people so I get to engage in criminal activity” - is a different story though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:41 PM
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OP evidently since they’re making this argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:38 PM
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One is legal the other one isn’t? 😅 It would make more sense if you compared woman’s high count to man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:12 PM
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The statistician in me literally screams anytime I read these threads full of studies. 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:10 AM
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What I’m gathering from all of these threads is that some women care and some men care. 😅 so I guess it depends what’s important to the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:07 AM
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So, if that’s your preference.. I’d be pretty confident it’s prob a small fraction of eligible women in your town. Not sure what else you can do other than state your preference and try to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 05:32 PM
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So the issue is not sexual experience vs inexperience, but the “ick factor”?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:59 PM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:35 PM
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Why does body count matter though? What is the source of anxiety; sexual experience vs perceived inexperience with low body count OR is a high body count somehow considered “impure” and experience doesn’t actually matter? The way I see it is people with multiple long term relationships are probably the most experienced ones as they’ve had sex with each partner 10000 times and had time to experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 04:29 PM
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Most people (men and women) also severely overestimate what they actually bring to the table. The bare minimum is suddenly clap worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 05:16 AM
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Me too! Nice to meet you fellow 3%! 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:53 AM
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It depends what those frozen meals are. You can’t eat frozen pizza every day and nothing else and expect to be healthy. If you’re able to incorporate veggies and fruits and have a versatile diet then frozen meals are indeed ok. I think the assumption is that most dudes live off sidekicks and frozen pizzas.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:36 AM
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Man, I’ve been through a lot during my teens + 20s.. enough of shit for multiple peoples lifetime, but I think it gave me a unique view on life and what matters/doesn’t. I’m 35 at the moment and last few years were incredible! I genuinely love life. I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar 1, but it’s managed, I have a great career, great relationships, but I think the most important thing is - my relationship with myself (it’s the root of all great things).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:29 AM
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I mean you also provide zero information on why exactly the problems men face are worse? Other than you’re on the side that experience them. Also, why does any side even have to have it worse - it’s not like it’s some contest? Each side has its own problems. Two people can face the exact same problem and will deal with it differently; it can be a huge problem for one and the other might not even view it as a problem. We never can have facts here because experiences are subjective and what a “pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:59 AM
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Yeah, I think that’s solid. I wouldn’t go below 30 cause I think 5 years younger is a bit too much tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 10:18 PM
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I’m in agreement with you, but purely based on my own experience (hence why a lot of the stuff on here seems foreign to me). Not sure what the actual population is like tho. I’m 35F and my dating has been growing better since my 20s. I’d even argue that a woman in her 30s has possibly decent enough amount of men in their mid-late 20s available to her (at least I get a lot of interest).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 09:55 PM
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I’m not sure how common it is, but I constantly hear women complain about it. Once I did a small experiment and swiped pretty liberally on various apps - Tinder/Bumble were the worst ...about 1/2 (if not more) of matches never responded (and it wasn’t even the best looking that didn’t respond lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:34 AM
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I feel like that’s just dating actually. There’s always going to be various types of men you want to avoid. I’m a woman and my dating life was shittiest from 20-25, then it got better and stayed better.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:26 AM
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I guess it’s the same argument as for guys who swipe right on every girl and then never reply/let the match expire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 03:58 AM
1

Hah... I didn’t know that was a thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:57 AM
4

Having kids is probably the one thing where regret doing it is worse than regret not doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:38 AM
1

But what’s stopping you to switch and go back onto traditional path; that doesn’t expire in your early 20s? You can still try and see there’s nothing to be found and move onto marriage and kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:36 AM
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Because the worst thing that can happen is to end up uneducated, unemployed, generally dissatisfied with life, and most importantly filled with regret (which is what happened to many of our grandmothers/mothers). There’s more to life than that, so why not explore what’s out there? While most things in life are temporary; once you are a parent that can never be changed and you better be damn sure about wanting it. Even if you come to a realization that you want to be a mother and get married, it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:44 PM
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I work for a large company within AI innovation; and I’m in technical leadership.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:23 PM
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woman answer Personally, I love my craft and I love developing as a human; seeing progression and impact is what’s most motivating for me. The more I get it the more I want it.. working towards goals and achievements is like a special form of high almost lol There’s also mental stimulation (I’m almost never bored) and wealth (I get to afford anything I want and I get to help others) associated with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 05:20 PM
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Honestly, I usually date men who are similar to me in some ways. I don’t really care how much money the guy makes, but I’d expect him to have a lot of drive and passion for something (more often than not that’s their job). I wouldn’t date a much younger guy though, maximum I’d go is 5 years. Recently, a good looking + intelligent 10 years younger guy asked me out and it just feels a bit gross (on my end if I pursued it).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 05:02 AM
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Good for you! I moved to North America not so long ago and this was one of my biggest cultural shocks with dating. It seems like nobody actually enjoys dating and are dreading everything about it. Whereas I’m used to it being fun, exciting, easy, enjoy the process of getting to know someone...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:22 PM
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Do you consider splitting the bill and covering your 1/2 as “spending money on a date”? Personally, I think dinner dates are such a terrible idea for a first date (with people you’ve never met IRL before). There’s few things worse as sitting through a 2-3 course meal with someone that can’t hold a conversation/only talks about themselves/etc. From my perspective time (vs $$) is the bigger investment; dinner dates take forever and if it’s a bad one that’s 2-3 hrs (commute + sitting down) of my ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:15 PM
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Personally, I don’t find him that attractive; he’s not my type. I guess I can see the appeal others would see tho... but still, not what I’d expect for a chad (I assumed the definition is every woman finds him attractive) lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:08 AM
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That’s pretty funny!! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:04 AM
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You said “some” not “many”; I was hoping to see at least one 7+ lol I guess they can’t do better if that’s who they date.. or you know, they’re happy. I dunno. Personally I’m not attracted to anyone that’s overweight/obese cause it signals poor health. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:58 AM
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Sure? I dunno. I think men rate men differently than women, but also women tend to rate women differently than men (at least this is my experience when talking to my friends). But those examples; I’d say maybe the guys are 1-2 point higher because they’re not obese/overweight. Definitely not what a “chad” would look like though; or even remotely close to it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:42 AM
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I mean you got Elon Musk to go to a party with you... your personality should fly women over the moon.. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:34 AM
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Those dudes look more like a 3/4... 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:30 AM
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I mean there’s also plenty of women who wouldn’t sleep with guys who have fucked everything with a pulse. 🤷🏻‍♀️ (at least according to Reddit lol). Personally, I think if anyone feels strongly about their partners sexual history, that’s totally fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:24 AM
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I’m originally from a Western European country (not UK) and I lived in Southern Europe as well as Scandinavia before moving to North America. I have never heard any of the mentioned items until living here; so I can’t comment directly on AF/BB, 80/20c etc. ...BUT my dating experience is vastly different; back home going on a date with another human contains expectation that you’re not dating others at the same time (I’ve never had to have a conversation about being exclusive, official or any of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:44 AM
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Yeah, I think this can be debated. From my (limited) experience/observations those who looked incredible in their 20s tend to go downhill after they hit 30.. meanwhile some other people tend to peak after 30 in terms of physical attractiveness. Personally, I also think I look better now than my younger self. I also get decent amount of interest... but maybe I’m just more confident, who knows. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 03:40 AM
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Either is good! 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:13 AM
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When I say experience match; I don’t mean the sexual one, but life experience and emotional maturity. Now, that said, obviously outliers exist (it’d be stupid to think they don’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 06:39 PM
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Hah.. ok. Whatever let’s you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 06:35 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:52 PM
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I’m aware of what parenting means. You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to. It’s fine if that’s your dealbreaker. — not sure what the issue is with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:49 PM
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Ok, so there’s nothing in particular other than coincidence? ..all good! If it works for you it works for you! Good thing to be happy! 😊 Edit: congrats on the 2nd dose btw! I’m getting vaccinated on the 25th and I can already taste the freedom! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:04 PM
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This is pretty funny! 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:53 PM
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It was a bit of a joke comment relax. So what can you offer that a 25 year old can’t (other than experience and being established) and what she offered to you that an older woman (who’s childfree) can’t? Personally, I’m/was always repulsed by older men approaching me/asking me out, so curious to hear a different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:28 PM
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LOL ..they’re acting as if older dudes are a prize for some reason other than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:54 PM
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Yeah, what I meant to say is that there’s childfree women of appropriate age who want to date childfree men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:30 AM
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Sorry ..what? Are you saying there’s ZERO women above the age of 25 who are childfree?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:44 AM
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Eh this is a stretch. I don’t think anyone has problems with 30-35 year olds dating 25+ (38 and 21 — very different story). There are women who are childfree and don’t want to date men who fathered the children of the single moms you talk about (for every single mom there’s a single dad). This seems to be a fairly discussed topic actually. You shouldn’t need to parent anyone’s kid if that’s your preference; and I don’t think anyone will have an issue with that. However, I do think you’re oversim…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:17 AM
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Except that “warming up to you” isn’t necessarily that the woman doesn’t find you physically appealing. For me that has more to do with personality; I need to feel a connection to sleep with someone new. Yeah, I can find the guy super hot and attractive, but if we don’t connect on a personality level I won’t lust after him the way you’re describing. So with men that are more introverted/closed-off it takes longer to warm-up and build up that steam.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:55 PM
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My parents never divorced, but separated and cohabitated to raise me and my brother. Literally every day of my life I was praying they’d just divorce and get on with her lives. It was such a purgatory. I think separate households vs divorce, would depend on when that divorce occurs and how it goes down. There’s stages of childhood where stability and structure is key, but there’s also stages where it can result in more resilience and being able to adapt to things (especially if the divorce is am…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:33 AM
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The same as I listed in my original comment? I don’t think they’re just for men. Date someone who has roughly the same income and relationship with money as you do (spending patterns, values, etc.). Education, career, company/org; alongside with what values she has will give you a good idea of whether you’re on the same page about money. It’s not that difficult to spot those who are irresponsible or expect others to pay for them (regardless of the income). It’s ultimately a part of dating and se…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 05:04 AM
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I think the answer is in the woman you are dating: - financially stable woman will be interested in whether or not the man is financially stable and consequently he won’t be relegated in the provider role (approach I mentioned above would be fine) - woman interested in whether or not a man is wealthy and the amount of $$$, rather than spending habits and relationship with money is more where you risk being relegated a provider role Anytime you’d need an approach to show wealth is prob the time y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 03:49 AM
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So are we assuming he wants to communicate “hey I’m financially secure” or “hey I’m wealthy”? Personally, I’m concerned with them being financially secure. I don’t really mind long-term debt; student loans, mortgage, etc. , but I’d be put-off by large credit card debts and overconsumption. It’s easy to assess vaguely how much you make based on education, profession, and where you work; so that’s the information that you should share. Additional information can then derived from how you spend mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 02:42 AM
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I think depression itself is not a turn-off; how the person deals with it can be. You can’t help people who don’t want the help or to help themselves. My mom was diagnosed with major depression for most of my childhood, yet she never bailed or forgot she has a family. She got help and got better (with ups and downs). Most of men in my life who were also struggling with depression took a different approach; completely disappeared, started drinking, and refused to acknowledge they need help. I’m a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 01:30 AM
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This is somewhat interesting point (as controversial as it may seem); especially when it comes to finances. I view my partner is equal in a lot of ways: physical appearance, personality, fitness, etc. He has emotional strengths in my weakness spots and vice versa.. blablabla all that jazz. However, he makes a lot less money than me. Should he compensate in doing more of the housework then? We both work the same hours. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 08:05 PM
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DING DING DING! 👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:48 AM
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It might, it might not - the best thing to do is put yourself out there, see what happens, and learn! You might also be positively surprised. :) all the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:30 PM
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Maybe yes, maybe not. There’s no way to know for sure and it’s also completely irrelevant at this point. Also, something to keep in mind, while some women might find it off-putting, it likely won’t be a dealbreaker for most women. Based on your comments you want to find a LTR. As a woman, I’d prefer not to be lied to. The topic might not even come up organically and the conversation might never happen. Definitely won’t be a first date topic; so why even bring it up then? After a woman is already…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:16 PM
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That’s fair. You can’t control what other people think; what’s in your control is how you deal with it. I’d focus on women who don’t have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 11:00 PM
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Personally, I don’t find it that off-putting (I’m a woman). I’d think 22 or 24/25 doesn’t make a huge difference. It’s so different with each person that every first time is a little bit like the very first time. Probably the amount of people finding it off-putting does increases with age though. That said, you can only control what you can control. I think having confidence in yourself (I mean being comfortable in your body) and observing what your partner responds to goes the longest way - the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 10:31 PM
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My friend dated a guy who was a virgin and never dated before. Tho he was 22 and she was 26 at the time. They dated for 5 years. He told her about it when they discussed sex and she didn’t mind. I wouldn’t think a few more years would make a huge difference? I vote for being honest when/if it comes to it; if they don’t like it, then is this someone you actually want to be in a relationship with?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 10:12 PM
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Most of my male friends have mixed experience (some are conventionally attractive and some aren’t); they had sex on the first date, while they also had sex on later dates. I’d be inclined to believe that’s true for the majority of people; most will have a mixed experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:28 PM
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There’s probably something to that! Though, I feel for me attraction is one thing and connection is a build-up. I can feel instantly physically attracted to someone; doesn’t mean I want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 02:51 AM
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Personally, my boundary is the same for all men - I don’t sleep with men I don’t form any connection with. That said, you don’t connect with everyone at the same rate/speed (if at all)? Each interaction is unique. Dates are also different; so with someone you can feel like you’ve known them forever from day 1 (tho this would be rare for me), while with others it takes longer to build up the same level of connection. I think there’s also a difference in how you meet. I think it’s easier to form a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:39 PM
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What are the great lengths of deceiving men? If she’s simply stating that on the first date, there’s no great lengths? Personally, I don’t make sex about transaction or about some condition to be met; I’ll sleep with someone when/if I feel like it (regardless how many dates we’ve been on), so I partially agree with some of what you said. But I don’t agree that it’s about deception. Women simply state their boundaries (which they’re allowed to have) and you are also free to either accept it or no…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:57 PM
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I think it’s more like men are hungry and women are thirsty; men can’t understand why women can’t satisfy their thirst with unlimited food items and women don’t understand why men keep talking about food.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 07:27 PM
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I think it’s more like men are hungry and women are thirsty; men can’t understand why women can’t satisfy their thirst with unlimited food items and women don’t understand why men keep talking about food.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 07:27 PM
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I mean I don’t ask random questions with 0 importance because what’s the value in that? I’ve never asked anyone what their favourite colour is either. But for this particular topic - I never thought about it so can’t be afraid to ask; but I can definitely start an experiment and see what my partner says.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 04:59 PM
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I don’t keep a track either and none of my partners ever asked me about it (and I’m in my 30s) nor I asked them. I didn’t know this conversation was even a thing. I’ve actually never come across “body count” term until I joined Reddit recently lol 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:02 PM
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Agree with this 100%!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:53 PM
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Yupp, I’ll try to remember after work and attach. But really just try to Google the opposite you normally do (without a ?); you may have to scroll a bit depending on your search patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:52 PM
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Your Google search game is weak then.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:24 PM
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This is now generalizing a lot, but - of course there’s a difference in the long run; nobody wants to be around assholes. The genuinely nice person has satisfaction and derives happiness from being nice, which makes them a lot more wholesome; people gravitate towards that. Now, if we’re talking about very specific goals (like ONS, casual sex, number of likes, number of matches, etc.) and timelines - sure there’s something to that. Can’t display those qualities online. But; IMO it’s useless to co…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:22 PM
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I mean there’s also a tons of studies showing the opposite if you search for it. You can find validation for pretty much any angle you want to look at it, that’s because human behaviour and psychology isn’t linear. Sure, some women will prefer X, but that also means some women will prefer Y; with the vast majority being on a scale somewhere in between. The topic is way too complex to boil it down to X > Y. Narcissism (and similar) is also a particular type of personality that’s highly manipulati…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:08 PM
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I think the genuinely nice people feel rewarded by being nice, hence continue to be nice. They don’t expect a return - they’re nice because that’s who they are. Yeah, they might get frustrated, but that doesn’t changes who they are. Fake nice get angry and resentful because their “niceness” doesn’t lead to fulfil their hidden motives (for which they’re nice). So while the outcome might be the same in the eyes of someone who’s fake nice, the genuinely nice person won’t be upset over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 04:48 PM
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Very well written! Also LOL ..my mind is blown that Ben Affleck is considered a “reward”. 😂 His looks went downhill significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 03:16 PM
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Yeah I got that and I provided arguments why that might not be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 08:43 PM
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Yeah, he’s not too in his head about things. He rarely overthinks and he moves on quickly from things. Sometimes I wish I had more of those skills lol 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 05:34 PM
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My brother is 5’9 and was bald by 25; he started balding around 20. He was also a bit overweight in his early 20s. Since then he started doing a bunch of sports and working out and lost a bunch of weight. He’s never had massive issues with women and has been dating quite a bit. He’s not on any of the apps and he mostly meets women through work, bars, and before it was university parties. He’s very personable, can talk a lot, and can pretty much strike up a conversation about any topic. I think w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:50 AM
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Spot on!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 11:51 PM
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The issue is casual sex for women is more often than not, not enjoyable at all. So it’s a high risk, low reward situation. Younger women are also still trying to figure out what they like and dislike, both sexually and partner qualities, so finding a suitable long term partner is more challenging (while also not being a priority). Sure, there’s women who want to experiment sexually and figure out what works and what doesn’t, etc. Generally tho, you tolerate a lot more poor behaviour due to life …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 11:43 PM
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It’s like men are hungry and women are thirsty and men can’t grasp why women can’t satisfy their thirst with the 200 food items on the menu.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 05:03 PM
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