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mama_wren/r/RedPillWives13/12/21 04:52 PM
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I believe the red pill guys would say OYS. Be the one she is content flirting with. But don't assume a blush means she's doing something wrong.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/23 06:14 PM
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I know enough of RP to know that OYS is a foundational tenet. How is holding your past against you owning his own stuff? YOU are his stuff. He needs to own it as much as his porn addiction. His laziness. His resentment. I am my hubby's stuff. He chose me. He married me. For better (me) and for worse (me). He takes that seriously. Meaning he calls me out when I do things that ARE (present tense) reminiscent of old behaviors we both agree were wrong or at the least not ideal. He also recognizes an…
/r/RedPillWives12/02/22 08:56 PM
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I'd agree with the others. Weddings are really not places for kiddos unless they are direct families or specifically requested by the bride and or groom. If some extra work would allow all of you to go, do the work. Take what you need and give the rest to whomever takes your kiddos so that they can do some special things too while you are away!
/r/RedPillWives06/02/22 07:54 PM
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The important thing to remember is that you are dealing with a culture clash, not so much a personal clash. Your acquaintances, friends and even family aren't used to your culture. They attribute it to the past as if it were a dead culture. They assume that it is more flawed than their own because clearly theirs must be best. They don't see your culture as equal to theirs, any more than they might see the social graces, moral norms and economics of a foreign country as inequal. You really can't …
/r/RedPillWives21/01/22 08:43 AM
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Dear heart, the alarm bell that rang loudest for me among all the reallllly loud alarm bells is the supposed "one night stand the was involuntarily drug induced". Seriously!? Allow me to set up a theme for you. 1 Fiancée:I have TWO types of cancer. = I'm a victim of circumstance Fiancée: I have a kid because someone made me take drugs and have sex with a girl. = I'm a victim of assault. (We'd call it that if he was a girl.) Fiancée: I made a HUGE amount of money through hard work but my family t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/22 04:07 AM
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This is brilliant and inspiring. As I read this thread, I had to smile. I know I married a HVM. My daughter is in college now and her highest aspiration is to be a wife and mother. I hope this dream exists be abuse she sees the value of both her parents and desires to emulate and improve I'm herself and her future relationship. I am making the pot of tea right now to seat down with her and read through this list. Firstly, to help her have a wonderful checklist for what to watch for. But more imp…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/21 06:01 PM
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Dear heart, if the previous comments aren't enough to convince you, let me add my two cents. This young man has NO respect for the you or his supposed faith. Here's why? He has done this before. He has had sex out of wedlock with another woman and clearly is not repentant of that behaviour because he wants to repeat it with you. 1 Cor. 7 says marry if your burn with passion. But he isn't asking you to change the date to protect both of you. He isn't devoting himself to prayer to keep himself in …
/r/RedPillWives19/12/21 02:59 PM
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Then I'm really glad I shared this!
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 07:22 PM
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Yeah...rewarded isn't quite the right term. I tried addressing that in a lower reply.
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 03:45 PM
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I always do my best to make sure things are great in our marriage, including the sex. One of the other commenters mentioned that what I meant was that I rewarded him by giving him high quality physical attention later. That's not really quite what I meant. I was trying to say that he didn't have to perform like some trained monkey for me to give him a special treat. He wouldn't have done anything wrong if he had stayed in his chair enjoying himself while I did my little project. I'd still have b…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 03:42 PM
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Why shouldn't they? I certainly do. Release is cathartic. We cry over sappy movies. Why? Because release is good. When we go out with gal pals and get fits of the giggles, that's more healthy release. With someone we trust, a quick slam from time to time is divine.
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 03:10 AM
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Just like with finances, family dynamics, scheduling, chosing where to eat out, sex should be talked about. Don't be afraid to talk about it. But I recommend you do it after fun times.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/21 03:54 PM
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I'm hearing you. Just one question. Could it be he's been pumped full of expectations by society too? For instance, "good women never want a quick slam. Make sure they get their pleasure. It takes longer for women to get what they need. It's really hard to get the moves just right. Men are always in the mood." Though he could have been being a jerk, perhaps it was simply his head hearing all the "rules" society has thrown at him as a man interfering with his libido.
/r/RedPillWives12/12/21 03:20 PM
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I don't think the woman is actually controlling them. I think they are using her. She might have selfish motives, but she is being their social coordinator and they're letting her. Bonus if she flirts with them. Her flirting with them is "safe" in their minds maybe. They can feel virile and studly but not be cheating on the women they love.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 04:02 PM
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Do this. The next time she invites the guys out, you invite all the partners INCLUDING her fiancee to a night out too. Pick a different restaurant. Maybe go so far as to have a meet up location where you can all reconnect your partners.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 03:54 PM
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Hand written notes mean a lot these days. If there's kiddos, maybe offer to get them out of her hair for an afternoon? Offer to do an errand run for her?
/r/RedPillWives09/12/21 03:13 PM
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Yes yes yes to the different touch! A husband's touch is a restorative. Don't look at sex as a duty to him but instead as a equal to a spa treatment. Let him know you welcome his touch and be articulate about which of his overtures replenish you. My hubby for years thought he HAD to get me a physical "o" or it was not good enough. I never told him this. Now he knows that his caresses sooth and arouse me. And the cradle of his arms post pleasure is most often my true satisfaction. Men want to be …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 07:33 PM
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I am equal owner in our business. I am the CFO. My hubby is the CEO. I am a SAHM. My business work is simply a piece of my life as a wife and mom.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/21 04:22 PM
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Is there a physical or religious reason you don't use a condom to minimize your chances of having a baby sooner than you feel ready for? It's at least as effective as your method if not more so. If not, maybe try it. Some guys don't like the feel, but I know your current method isn't the ideal either. So maybe that could provide a way to be mutually intimate without either missing out or feeling compelled by love to do something you find unpleasant. I don't like oral after intimacy either. And m…
/r/RedPillWives05/12/21 12:05 AM
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This right here....best advice....not only for the honeymoon but for life.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 01:00 PM
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You've got this. Being a woman is a unique and potent thing. It is amazing to see the profound effects our soft energy can have. We are after all, the life bringer! Be the best life bringer you can be!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 01:19 AM
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Precisely! Thanks for the fun and informative exchange!
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 01:16 AM
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As a believing woman, I respect this advice especially as it sets the Gospel above RP. Love to the brothers.
/r/RPChristians22/08/21 11:00 PM
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This fits my faith based understanding of RP. You sound like a great example to follow!I am finding there are so many women both in and out of RP that assume that they have to do everything single-handed. In my mind this neither fits into the true tenets of RP or my faith.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 10:13 PM
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I think here's where my faith supercedes the RP for my personal experience. Provision is not a beta trait within my faith but a mirror of God's nature. My God is not beta. To provide, to be a provider is potent and powerful. And in my faith, my husband representing that aspect of His nature is a right and duty. This is something I might need to clarify in any of my advice. That all my RP ideas are colored by faith.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 10:02 PM
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I admit I am still learning. Though I would note I said husbands, not men. I do believe when men take up husbandhood there is more to their redpillness than sex.
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 05:57 PM
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I've been married 23 years. I just sent one child to college and I have buried another at just 8 days old. My advice is going to sound different from the rest. Just know that I mean no offense and my heart is in the same place as the rest. What you do with any of our advice is up to you. I will first and foremost agree that your child's safety is a priority for you. I will also believe you that your husband is doing things that are not HV. I know you're angry. Hurt. Scared. And tired. But being …
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 02:56 AM
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The thing that intrigues me about redpill is the freedom it's tenets allude to but that seem to be overcomplicated particularly by our gender. The devil - "Did He really say you couldn't eat the fruit of that tree?" Eve - "He said we couldn't even touch it." God - As women we seem prone to complicating things and my opinion of redpill is no different. Husbands are meant to be the providers. Wives are to be the guardians of peace in the home. If a wife works, and peace reigns because her work doe…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/21 12:50 AM
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Your husband doing the tasks he is doing because the "ship" is going down? That's the only reason I can envision that doing the first mate and the crew's jobs would be morale building. Help from the captain in emergency situations is good! Captains don't just stand around looking noble as their ships go down, they help till all that's left to be responsible for is their own "stuff". If not, he's saying he would rather make himself a member of the crew under your guidance as first mate then allow…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 06:47 PM
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How about you hire someone to come in and clean for you? I'm still learning the principles of RP but I don't believe this is out of line. You're good at and make money with your job in massage therapy. Other women are good at cleaning. So have someone else do that job and pay them to do it. Then your home is clean. If your home is clean, then you might find it isn't such a struggle to cook and maintain. You might also find that the mentioned remodel, if it's a space related project, isn't as nec…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/21 05:11 PM
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Red Pill philosophy, in my opinion, takes much of its wisest concepts from the Bible, both Old and New Testament. In Proverbs 31 there is a perfectly balanced woman to model. She does specialize. She makes high quality fashion of the upper classes, handles he own money, makes her own business decisions and leads female employees. I realize that some of this might make die hard RP men twitch. This is a specializing powerhouse of a woman, yet she is still soft, loving, caring to her family and tho…
/r/RedPillWives13/08/21 03:51 AM
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I think what was meant is the testosterone functions the same. You guys are comparing oranges and avocados. In women, with lower testosterone, the benefits and side effects would be lower as well. But since we as women do indeed have testosterone, though to a lesser degree, we can use those benefits to our advantage just as men can. All that to say, I think you might BOTH be right.
/r/RedPillWives13/08/21 01:27 AM
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History of the everyday....love that!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 03:31 PM
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This is a great thread and I love the thought logic I see in it. Here's my two cents. Some years back my daughter took critical thinking/formal logic. One of the things I observed is that the girls were very very good at arranging information into the logical (word) equations in valid ways. But valid arguments aren't necessarily sound arguments. The young men were far better at recognizing the soundness of an argument. A truth MUST be both valid and sound to remain viable. I believe those amazin…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 10:47 PM
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The original question was "share". Does RP for women equal these terms? From the view that "cheat" does equate with share, I suppose the appropriate reaction in situ according to RP is to reevaluate one's own value to determine why the expressed desire to "cheat" has been voiced. I am new to RP, and though not sold on the philosophy as yet, I mean no disrespect.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 10:14 PM
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We attended the same small college, I in my final year, he in the one year program. He acted like an unnecessarily foolish jerk in regards to another girl student who I had in my charge as an RA. I called him out on it in front of mutual friends. They worked surreptitiously to get us together. It took time for us to see each other as the partners for life that our friends recognized immediately. So, I am not recommending being a jerk to weak women so a stronger woman feels the need to rise to he…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 09:39 PM
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