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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 136 | Lightbulb moment about my STBXH's mistress. Thanks, FDS! | PICKME CULTURE | manderinne | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 104 | Eartha Kitt, patron saint of FDS. | QUEEN SH*T | manderinne | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 10:43 AM |
| 75 | A cautionary tale from my failed marriage. | LESSON LEARNED | manderinne | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 11:59 PM |
| 34 | Remarrying after starter marriage. | SEEKING ADVICE | manderinne | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:23 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 25 | Once a cheater, always a cheater.Leave a cheater, gain a life. Chump Lady is the best resource for cutting through infidelity bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 11:04 AM |
| 11 | Lightbulb moment about my STBXH's mistress. Thanks, FDS!My lawyer said it’s unenforceable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:33 AM |
| 10 | Lightbulb moment about my STBXH's mistress. Thanks, FDS!He most definitely is this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:31 AM |
| 30 | Lightbulb moment about my STBXH's mistress. Thanks, FDS!Not under family law in Australia. I understand the US is different though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:49 AM |
| 7 | Female friendships are so important!!!! Don't let the current relationship you're in devalue them. Remember the ones who've had your back!Unfortunately not, I have my own place in the northern suburbs already. Love the idea though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 08:37 AM |
| 9 | Female friendships are so important!!!! Don't let the current relationship you're in devalue them. Remember the ones who've had your back!Brisbane by any chance?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 08:34 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: August 8 2020 💜I was invited to the zoo on a second date. Yea/nay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 04:25 AM |
| 14 | What qualities do you deem high value? For men or women?Being considerate. I have talked to dozens of men on various apps in the last year and their collective sense of entitlement is sickening. The one I'm most invested in is different. For example, when I told him I was into a certain trashy TV show, he replied that it wasn't his thing and hoped that wasn't a dealbreaker FOR ME. Whereas every other male, including my XH, would have said it was a dealbreaker FOR THEM if they didn't like it. Small difference that means a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 01:59 AM |
| 15 | A wholesome change of pace! Society consistently stereotypes single mothers as "lazy", while praising low value, bare minimum behavior from fathers. It's cultural misogyny in action.I'm sensing a theme here... ✔️ Early thirties ✔️ Home owner ✔️ Six figure salary ✔️ Single mum ✔️ Cheater ex There are literally dozens of us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 10:48 AM |
| 13 | Is it just me or are there barely attractive men out there?The gospel truth, amen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:51 AM |
| 13 | If he hesitates between me and another woman, I encourage him to pick her. I will not beg nor try to convince a man to pick me. The world is too big and I have too much to offer.I will never judge a woman for reacting any kind of way to abuse. Yes, it's better to enforce boundaries, go no contact, and leave the abuse - not out of fear of male judgement, but for your own emotional wellbeing and protection. And who cares how men perceive you, honestly? Fear of male judgement is just another way for them to police and control female behaviour. Anger and grief are normal and healthy reactions to abuse. Men and pickmes will try to guilt you for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 04:13 AM |
| 40 | If he hesitates between me and another woman, I encourage him to pick her. I will not beg nor try to convince a man to pick me. The world is too big and I have too much to offer.Even if you aren't crazy, they'll still portray you that way in order to push their agenda. My XH accused me of keying his car after his affair came to light. Despite the fact I didn't know where he lived, hadn't spoken to him in months, and was taking care of our two-year old full-time. Come on, son, let's hop in the car and go fuck your dad's shit up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 03:29 AM |
| 3 | I have a feeling relationships with men are simply not worth it; they are gonna betray you one way or the other. Better focus on you, queen.I blocked him soon after he left, but he has definitely been peddling that narrative in person. People see through him. There is dignity in silence. Speak your truth quietly and clearly. At the end of the day, I have to be able to live with myself. It's been a tough year but I've done my absolute best to act on principle rather than emotion. I sleep peacefully at night and have no regrets. In the grand sum of my life, this has been just a chapter. It might be the most significant, it might not. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:46 AM |
| 3 | I have a feeling relationships with men are simply not worth it; they are gonna betray you one way or the other. Better focus on you, queen.Yes. Some other choice phrases uttered by XH after he walked out to illustrate this fact: "The only thing I care about is my own happiness." "I know I'm not doing what's best for our son but I have to do what's best for me." "I feel so free and spontaneous now!" "I'll come and see him two mornings a week because that's when I have the most fun with him." When I told him the baby had a febrile seizure: "Aw, bud. Alright, I'm heading out." When I asked him for help with the baby when I was nearly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 07:54 AM |
| 10 | How to eat, sleep, and breathe FDSLundy Bancroft's book is the most illuminating thing I have read in my entire life. Highly recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 02:00 AM |
| 32 | I have a feeling relationships with men are simply not worth it; they are gonna betray you one way or the other. Better focus on you, queen.Real. My XH left me one week after I started medication for PPD/A. I had suffered for 15 months with several suicidal breakdowns. Turns out this was due in large part to his inability to empathise with my struggles and his increasingly obvious distaste for fatherhood and family life. Funny, that. He prioritised video games over everything and had an affair with a 21yo coworker. Told me I was a nice person and family-oriented but he didn't want to deal with my illness any more. Oh, and I was lazy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 09:52 PM |
| 11 | Funny (not funny) how most of these men always claim abuse to their new women when definitely not trueWould bet dollars to donuts that this girl was the OW in this situation and that's why the ex-wife wants nothing to do with her. Source: am the ex-wife in a similar situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:07 AM |
| 3 | All my ex boyfriends would get raging hard ons when I was upset and crying. Sudden realisation that this is SO FUCKED UP.My XH got a boner while he was proposing to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 11:12 AM |
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